I can very much relate. I always spoke to the adults rather than the children my age. I was also deemed mature enough to babysit from the age of 11. My eldest daughter while not diagnosed with ASD spoke her first sentence when she was 6 months old. She actually helped an older child learn to speak when she was 2. He had a speech delay and was in therapy and struggling. She turned round (Miss Bossy) and told him "If you're not going to speak properly, I'm not going to be your friend." (a bit harsh) but she proceeded to coach him and his speech was at a normal level in 3 months!
Thanks for the interview. I can relate. When alone I'm happy. When I have to do something I don't want to do I get stressed, anxious and eventually depressed if ongoing.
I have this speech issue. My mother let me basically live at the public library all summer and on weekends during the rest of the year when I was a kid. I taught myself how to read at 4yrs old, and quickly found the kids' book section dumb. So I started reading in the adult nonfiction section when I was around 7 or 8. As a result, I learned college level words at the same time as any others. Now even as an adult I frequently get looks like I'm being a bratty show off using large words when talking with others I don't know well, and when I try to find lower reading level words to use instead, the words take forever to come to me, if they ever do at all. So now I try to stick to texting and online typed communication to connect with others because this gives me the time to look for more well known or used words.
Nice interview. I discovered your channel few years back when I was diagnosed. I bet everyone on the spectrum have interesting experiences to share and be nice to hear. That's a lot of untold experiences and stories just waiting to be told and heard. And we can learn from them and each other. Thanks for sharing.
Hey Sarah! Little book tip for when you two have finished the Harry Potter series. Read her Matilda by Roald Dahl (if you haven't already). I think she'll love it :)
We call her our little Matilda as she loves workbooks at the moment. She has seen the film, and we have a Roald Dahl anthology we are reading at the moment. Her favourite is The Enormous Crocodile at the moment :)
I can relate to her way of speaking... It seems like she has trouble expanding on the subject, which is something I do too... I answer the specific question I was asked, no more hahah
I have trouble with speaking because I don’t have the basic vocabulary, words to form including sentences. I speak like a kid so my English is very basic and it doesn’t make sense so I would look like an ESL speaker to u if you were to listen to me talk. I don’t understand certain questions and ask the person to repeat it or repeat it in different ways to help me understand it. I don’t understand basic banking questions because it’s hard to process and interpret what the person means. I’m embarrassed I’m still trying to learn to speak in English even though I was born in Canada. My general doctor made fun of me and even laughed at me because he asked me “why don’t u understand properly? These are basic questions everyone should know.” And laughed as my mother just sat with me. At the moment I didn’t understand why he laughed. He kept smiling the whole time and kept saying the words “basic,” “common sense,” etc. It’s so frustrating!!!! I also gave him the wrong answers and kept looking at my mother for help but then the doctor jumped in and told us both that I don’t need any help. :/ I didn’t understand the social situation but then my mother explained it to me how he actually belittled me and then it made me realize. I hate when others treat you like a child or put you down for not understanding things.
@@sta_rlight5564 that's very unprofessional of the doctor though... get a new one. "Common sense" is not actually common... people forget that sometimes smh
@@anascarlet Finally, someone who understands what I'm trying to say. I actually didn't know about the common sense part, thanks for clearing it up for me
I can get where being advanced verbal would be a hindrance socially (I experienced myself not being able to relate to my peers but relating well to adults because I was advance linguistically and academically) but it is kind of dismissive to make it sound like "it's all the same" or "just as bad" because a non-verbal child cannot tell you when they are experiencing symptoms of physical problems that aren't externally visible. They can't communicate with anyone, not just their peers. It is NOT minimizing the difficulties of those with advanced linguistic abilities to say that recognize the additional ways that no speech, no language (not even sign language) effects those with no linguistic abilities. It's like when people say "Emotional abuse is just as bad as physical abuse". Well, yes, BUT it is impossible to physically abuse someone without emotionally abuse someone but it is possible to abuse someone emotionally without abusing them physically. So there are intrinsically more aspects to physical abuse than to emotional abuse, even if the emotional abuse is the "worst" part of it.
I’m sorry but Harry Potter isn’t appropriate for a three-year-old. The books and movies are quite dark and get darker. No way a child that young has had the chance to develop emotionally to handle that well. Just because a child is advanced verbally doesn’t mean she’s ready for material appropriate for an older child. Documentaries are one thing; stories can be much more emotionally impactful. The child may want to read them, but she’s incapable of properly judging for herself at that age. That’s the parent’s responsibility.
Elise only watches the first Harry Potter, and the first book is fine for her. We discuss everything that we read. I am a responsible parent and I know what my daughter can and cannot handle. My daughter understands that the characters are not real, and that it is fantasy, just like watching other things on television. We literally read a few pages and then discuss everything that has gone on with the characters. It's fun for us to read and we don't take things seriously. I was reading all sorts by the time I was 4/5. Just to add another thing that you would probably not agree with...one of her favourite films is Jurassic Park. She understands about the different dinosaurs and she understands it is a film and it isn't real. I'm sure lots of 3 year olds can't tell what is fantasy and what is real, but my daughter will tell you that things are real or not.
@@AMundaneLife Super cool that you go over everything with your daughter. It strengthens the bond and understanding between the both of you and teaches her to develop an opinion and to think about the content of the story the books tell. As long as she has someone else to communicate to about what it makes her think and feel I think it's fine. Wish my parents had done that with me when I was a kid (or maybe I don't remember anymore?) Hope she will enjoy the other books once the time is there for her to experience them!
I can very much relate. I always spoke to the adults rather than the children my age. I was also deemed mature enough to babysit from the age of 11. My eldest daughter while not diagnosed with ASD spoke her first sentence when she was 6 months old. She actually helped an older child learn to speak when she was 2. He had a speech delay and was in therapy and struggling. She turned round (Miss Bossy) and told him "If you're not going to speak properly, I'm not going to be your friend." (a bit harsh) but she proceeded to coach him and his speech was at a normal level in 3 months!
What a great person and sounds so authentic about her experience!
Thanks for the interview. I can relate. When alone I'm happy. When I have to do something I don't want to do I get stressed, anxious and eventually depressed if ongoing.
This was a great interview! It was very interesting to hear about her story and about her daughter :)
I have this speech issue. My mother let me basically live at the public library all summer and on weekends during the rest of the year when I was a kid. I taught myself how to read at 4yrs old, and quickly found the kids' book section dumb. So I started reading in the adult nonfiction section when I was around 7 or 8. As a result, I learned college level words at the same time as any others. Now even as an adult I frequently get looks like I'm being a bratty show off using large words when talking with others I don't know well, and when I try to find lower reading level words to use instead, the words take forever to come to me, if they ever do at all. So now I try to stick to texting and online typed communication to connect with others because this gives me the time to look for more well known or used words.
Thanks for the interview was very interesting and it helped me a lot!
Always happy to answer any questions you have :)
Nice interview. I discovered your channel few years back when I was diagnosed. I bet everyone on the spectrum have interesting experiences to share and be nice to hear. That's a lot of untold experiences and stories just waiting to be told and heard. And we can learn from them and each other. Thanks for sharing.
Hey Sarah! Little book tip for when you two have finished the Harry Potter series. Read her Matilda by Roald Dahl (if you haven't already). I think she'll love it :)
We call her our little Matilda as she loves workbooks at the moment. She has seen the film, and we have a Roald Dahl anthology we are reading at the moment. Her favourite is The Enormous Crocodile at the moment :)
@@AMundaneLife : That's so sweet!
I can relate to her way of speaking... It seems like she has trouble expanding on the subject, which is something I do too... I answer the specific question I was asked, no more hahah
Ana Scarlet I didn‘t recognize it but I have this trait too :D
I have trouble with speaking because I don’t have the basic vocabulary, words to form including sentences. I speak like a kid so my English is very basic and it doesn’t make sense so I would look like an ESL speaker to u if you were to listen to me talk. I don’t understand certain questions and ask the person to repeat it or repeat it in different ways to help me understand it. I don’t understand basic banking questions because it’s hard to process and interpret what the person means. I’m embarrassed
I’m still trying to learn to speak in English even though I was born in Canada. My general doctor made fun of me and even laughed at me because he asked me “why don’t u understand properly? These are basic questions everyone should know.” And laughed as my mother just sat with me. At the moment I didn’t understand why he laughed. He kept smiling the whole time and kept saying the words “basic,” “common sense,” etc. It’s so frustrating!!!! I also gave him the wrong answers and kept looking at my mother for help but then the doctor jumped in and told us both that I don’t need any help. :/ I didn’t understand the social situation but then my mother explained it to me how he actually belittled me and then it made me realize. I hate when others treat you like a child or put you down for not understanding things.
@@sta_rlight5564 that's very unprofessional of the doctor though... get a new one. "Common sense" is not actually common... people forget that sometimes smh
@@anascarlet Finally, someone who understands what I'm trying to say. I actually didn't know about the common sense part, thanks for clearing it up for me
Wow, really good interview!
Really good to hear from grown people ESPECIALLY women. She has a new follower!
Thank you @@asljones1478
She seems proud
edit: I really liked this interview with Sarah. thank you for that
I'm very proud of her, she makes me so proud every single day :D
I can get where being advanced verbal would be a hindrance socially (I experienced myself not being able to relate to my peers but relating well to adults because I was advance linguistically and academically) but it is kind of dismissive to make it sound like "it's all the same" or "just as bad" because a non-verbal child cannot tell you when they are experiencing symptoms of physical problems that aren't externally visible. They can't communicate with anyone, not just their peers. It is NOT minimizing the difficulties of those with advanced linguistic abilities to say that recognize the additional ways that no speech, no language (not even sign language) effects those with no linguistic abilities.
It's like when people say "Emotional abuse is just as bad as physical abuse". Well, yes, BUT it is impossible to physically abuse someone without emotionally abuse someone but it is possible to abuse someone emotionally without abusing them physically. So there are intrinsically more aspects to physical abuse than to emotional abuse, even if the emotional abuse is the "worst" part of it.
Same with my daughter
Hi Sarah
Hello :)
I’m sorry but Harry Potter isn’t appropriate for a three-year-old. The books and movies are quite dark and get darker. No way a child that young has had the chance to develop emotionally to handle that well. Just because a child is advanced verbally doesn’t mean she’s ready for material appropriate for an older child. Documentaries are one thing; stories can be much more emotionally impactful. The child may want to read them, but she’s incapable of properly judging for herself at that age. That’s the parent’s responsibility.
Elise only watches the first Harry Potter, and the first book is fine for her. We discuss everything that we read. I am a responsible parent and I know what my daughter can and cannot handle. My daughter understands that the characters are not real, and that it is fantasy, just like watching other things on television. We literally read a few pages and then discuss everything that has gone on with the characters. It's fun for us to read and we don't take things seriously. I was reading all sorts by the time I was 4/5.
Just to add another thing that you would probably not agree with...one of her favourite films is Jurassic Park. She understands about the different dinosaurs and she understands it is a film and it isn't real. I'm sure lots of 3 year olds can't tell what is fantasy and what is real, but my daughter will tell you that things are real or not.
@@AMundaneLife Super cool that you go over everything with your daughter. It strengthens the bond and understanding between the both of you and teaches her to develop an opinion and to think about the content of the story the books tell. As long as she has someone else to communicate to about what it makes her think and feel I think it's fine. Wish my parents had done that with me when I was a kid (or maybe I don't remember anymore?)
Hope she will enjoy the other books once the time is there for her to experience them!