Hey guys, hope this was helpful! Leave me a comment with your thoughts? Be sure to check out my brand new masterclass on the 5 Proven Steps to Rebuilding Your Relationship/Marriage. (Warning: Spots are limited) Here is the link to the MASTERCLASS! -> urlgeni.us/MCTSBRHADS Download the FREE GUIDE! -> relationshipsmastered.com/healing-partner-emotions To see how all my clients have achieved massive success through dire & hopeless circumstances, click here! ruclips.net/p/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU
How do you handle financial issues and lack of safety from that. My wife and I have Been together for 14 years and combined finances early but we have always had money arguments and i feel it’s because neither of us knew how to handle finances and it just got worst over the years. How do I rebuild trust and safety
This client success stories really help to show one key thing. No situation is too dire. Most have very similar issues and all of them require people to work on themselves. The only way to loose is to give up and be a victim. As bad as I think my situation is there is always someone who would wish they could be in my spot. I’ve noticed the more positive I am about myself and untethered from my partner regardless of outcome the more she seems to snoop my social media and find reasons to text or call me. For me I know my wife is holding off on divorce now to see if I can make it more than just a few months of consistency. The stone walling is less now. I was so discouraged because I was scared of getting rejected where I see rejection as an opportunity to approach it and act in different way. Now I find better ways and she opens up and I don’t press too hard. Thanks for the videos.
@@comradeking4427 I’m not the expert but yes. Not right now doesn’t mean never. It just means this person doesn’t have enough safety to trust you to open up at this moment. Keep working on yourself until you cannot make a mistake so these changes are as much apart of you as breathing air. My wife wouldn’t touch me a month ago. This week I’ve danced with her given messages and hugs. You have to build safety. This doesn’t happen over night. You have likely burned her so many times in the past that she doesn’t trust you. The changes have to be consistent over time.
Hey Geoffrey my ex said recently that she knows I’d be the best partner and the best husband and the best everything and if she could she would choose me but she just can’t feel that attraction towards me . I know no circumstance is unique but I was wondering whether u could determine what the meaning behind the meaning is in this situation?
Given that every single one of my clients, including myself, has heard this, (including myself back then) and this is one of the most common statements, what do you think is the answer to your own question? (I want to see how much you have learned from my videos and interviews)
@@GeoffreySetiawan I think it’s possibly a combination of two things number 1. Paradox of change . She’s seen my changes but she probably hasn’t felt them to her core there’s probably still some doubts and resistance to whether this me is actually the real me and 2. I think my changes are probably not massive enough for her . I am better than before yes but like uve mentioned to other clients I’m probably level 5 while I should reach level 50 right now I still am a low hanging fruit for her (not that worth it ) . What do you think?
Thanks for sharing Brett….. Been watching these videos for several months and have another call w Jason next week. These videos have been a huge help in dealing with my divorce. I never realized all the ways I was destroying emotional safety throughout my entire marriage. I pointed the finger at my partner for so long thinking I was helping our relationship 🤦. I know if I don’t go through this program I will bring the same toxic ways into my next relationship. Or my previous partner if she ever wants to reconcile.
The idea that you are doing because you want to have do resonates with me. You cannot do it by your will alone. Imagine doing it for god knows how many years, and when things get rough that you have to perform, you would very likely crumble. That is why you have to have internal shift first. Before working on external things that you want, you really need to have to work yourself first. You have to ask yourself, what are the things that I have to work on myself, and not what can I do to them so things will work. Another great video, Geoff!
I am currently on my 6th week of separation. Hearing about the success people have had shifting their mindset and experiencing true change is very encouraging. Ive put in my application and hoping to be accepted to get atarted on making the personal shifts and becoming a better man for myself and my family.
Me and my wife have a no contact order so we can not see each other but can talk. She is mad at me for calling the cops when she was drunk and hitting me infront of our kids. Now I wish I didn't call the cops and we handled I ourselves. She is so distant and wants the no contact order dropped so she can come home but she feels like she doesn't want me just wants space but also to come home
Not all relationships ought to be saved. And no one single person is ever responsible for the failure of a relationship. This is a perfect example of someone who shouldn’t be in this sort of program, but 100% focused on exiting the marriage and healing himself first. Best thing you could do for your kids, as well, my brother.
Definitely me right now 1:05:39 I got so much MM debt, I put so much off the entire time & now I’m sitting here not really progressing, because I have to spend my time fixing my MM due to my victim mindset voices “I don’t need to do it, I’m unique!”🤦♂️🤬 I FEEL THE DEBT! I could be tackling so much right now Synth; Organize everything going forward & use my MM for everything (which was already told for me to do in the first module)🤦♂️ I think a great analogy for this is running a bank & try to be memorizing 100% of every single transaction or you have to shut down your bank… yeah… it’s gonna fail! Guaranteed
Thank you for this. So many examples that resonate with me. Trying to create safety the wrong way, doing things to get something rather than doing them because I want to… I’ve just signed up for the Masterclass tonight.
My separated ( since 6 months) wife filed for divorce a week ago, refuses to meet me and to call me. Whenever i tell her about my changes, process and immense regret i feel over how i hurt her, she says stuff like "good that you are changing for your future relationship" or "new partner" when she knows clearly i have no intentions of ever getting another woman. I know i am needy and tethered, even up to panicking levels even though i know the real victim is 100% her over what i did. Of course she also says she does not love me, that is because i destroyed safety. Really struggling over here.
I’m in the same boat. I moved out of the place we were renting. Before I left she said “you can take all these lessons and be good to your next partner”. Said, that “i need to move on because there is something better for me out there”.
Hey, I really like your programme, but I hope you can accept some criticism. I dont think my partner is gonna come back. I am blocked, in no contact for 6 weeks by now. I do think that my partner will return. However, my partner wants it to be over and blocked me so my feelings fade away for my partner before we resume contact again. There is nothing that can be done here. The girl just wants me to stop trying and will run away if I even show the slightest romantic interest. I will commit to improving myself for the sake of myself and relationships with others, however, you should recognize that at some point your programme just doesnt work in some cases. Perhaps I am wrong, Id love suggestions from you. But I think its over. Thank you for all the changes you helped me make.
I cannot imagine someone who is actually enrolled in my program & DOING THE WORK saying this. Are you actually enrolled in my program or just consuming free content? Don't give me a heart attack...If you are actually enrolled in the paid program, either you're not doing the work, or we did not vet you properly and enrolled the wrong person.😅 If you are actually enrolled, please tell us the date you enrolled + the first letter of your first name & first letter of your last name so we can look you up. We need to do some serious rescuing from your victim mindset. We literally published so many success interviews with ppl in worse situations than you, doubting the program can work is like doubting that Usain Bolt can break the world record... IT'S ALREADY BEEN DONE BRO! IT IS NOT UP FOR DEBATE! Lol. 😂😂
@@GeoffreySetiawan I can not enroll into the programme due to financial issues. I have worked on my victim mindset. I can make my partner change her mind about me However, here is the problem. My partner will not have contact with me if I show romantic interest. You have not replied to my question. What should I do in this case? My partner literally said she wants me to stop trying and will not contact me until my feelings will have faded away. There is simply nothing that can be done here except let her win. What do you think can be done? How can I convince her when she comes back to have contact with me despite me still having feelings? Your programme fails here
@@comradeking4427 Thank you for setting the record straight that you have not enrolled in our program. We have utmost confident in our ability to give life changing results from our program, and we will stand up for ourselves when someone makes misleading claims about it. On a side note - please send us an email indicating this thread. If you want, we can discuss some financial aid to help you with your financial situation. We rarely do so, but have made several exceptions for special cases and clients with whom we would absolutely love to help and work with.
@@comradeking4427 sorry i just want to share my input here, i don;t think Geoffrey program have failed just because your partner refuse to speak to you atm. You also mentioned you have not enrolled into his program, what Geoffrey post in youtube is not even 1% of his program. I have use some of his free content and make it work despite not knowing the frameworks, and the practices. My partner show lot of resistances at first, but i am not letting it affect me because i believe in the 'process'. Geoffrey also mentioned falling in love is falling outcome, when it happen it will happens and i witness my partner is leaning towards to me. She told i don't have to wait for her and she told me i don't have to change. I still believe i can be better despite seeing positive changes, i do really want to be better. One thing i remembered what Geoffrey said was " you can always move on and give on the relationship, but you will never learn how to grow and the problem will most likely resurface in the next relationship Right now i am saving as much as i could so i could sign up for the program, i am doing part time uni and working full time atm. I believe i will be 10x better if i do enroll in his program.
Remember guys - the quality of the questions you ask will determine the quality of the answer you get. :) No matter who we are, we have 24 hours in a day, and a limited amount of energy. We need to be smart about how we expend this energy. After observing 5,000+ clients (and people like Brett), there one big commonality - they are curious and ask questions on the more important, consequential matters whose answers gives them the most insight to help their lives massively. There are tons of amazing takeaways here - make sure we focus on the most important, consequential ones that gives you the most insight!
A partner can be at work, can be a lot of things non specific, so the question is good... I think in the last decades perhaps it's been used more to not use the word wife/husband and relief the intimate importance of it... It's not a stupid question, Answer can also be stupid when the question is misinterpreted or disregarded. Call it what it is. It's like saying: "i told the human that i was in a hurry" instead of saying "i told HER or HIM that i was in a hurry...".... and yes you can argue that; "well HER and HIM are humans... so it's right to say humans".... but we all agree that's silly
Hey guys, hope this was helpful! Leave me a comment with your thoughts?
Be sure to check out my brand new masterclass on the 5 Proven Steps to Rebuilding Your Relationship/Marriage. (Warning: Spots are limited)
Here is the link to the MASTERCLASS! -> urlgeni.us/MCTSBRHADS
Download the FREE GUIDE! -> relationshipsmastered.com/healing-partner-emotions
To see how all my clients have achieved massive success through dire & hopeless circumstances, click here! ruclips.net/p/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU
How do you handle financial issues and lack of safety from that. My wife and I have Been together for 14 years and combined finances early but we have always had money arguments and i feel it’s because neither of us knew how to handle finances and it just got worst over the years. How do I rebuild trust and safety
@@Scruz1955
watch it again... The first 5mins
This client success stories really help to show one key thing. No situation is too dire. Most have very similar issues and all of them require people to work on themselves. The only way to loose is to give up and be a victim.
As bad as I think my situation is there is always someone who would wish they could be in my spot.
I’ve noticed the more positive I am about myself and untethered from my partner regardless of outcome the more she seems to snoop my social media and find reasons to text or call me.
For me I know my wife is holding off on divorce now to see if I can make it more than just a few months of consistency.
The stone walling is less now. I was so discouraged because I was scared of getting rejected where I see rejection as an opportunity to approach it and act in different way. Now I find better ways and she opens up and I don’t press too hard.
Thanks for the videos.
Awesome share!
How do you approach rejection? I approach it by looking at it as a chance to improve myself and as an opportunity to build safety
@@comradeking4427 I’m not the expert but yes. Not right now doesn’t mean never. It just means this person doesn’t have enough safety to trust you to open up at this moment. Keep working on yourself until you cannot make a mistake so these changes are as much apart of you as breathing air.
My wife wouldn’t touch me a month ago. This week I’ve danced with her given messages and hugs.
You have to build safety. This doesn’t happen over night. You have likely burned her so many times in the past that she doesn’t trust you. The changes have to be consistent over time.
Hey Geoffrey my ex said recently that she knows I’d be the best partner and the best husband and the best everything and if she could she would choose me but she just can’t feel that attraction towards me . I know no circumstance is unique but I was wondering whether u could determine what the meaning behind the meaning is in this situation?
Given that every single one of my clients, including myself, has heard this, (including myself back then) and this is one of the most common statements, what do you think is the answer to your own question? (I want to see how much you have learned from my videos and interviews)
@@GeoffreySetiawan I think it’s possibly a combination of two things number 1. Paradox of change . She’s seen my changes but she probably hasn’t felt them to her core there’s probably still some doubts and resistance to whether this me is actually the real me and 2. I think my changes are probably not massive enough for her . I am better than before yes but like uve mentioned to other clients I’m probably level 5 while I should reach level 50 right now I still am a low hanging fruit for her (not that worth it ) . What do you think?
I'm 4 months into a separation and this really was pertinent. Appreciate all your videos.
Glad to hear. Which part was most pertinent?
Man.. sometimes there isn’t anything you can do and once you “get them back” it’s only because they’ve settled.
Thanks for sharing Brett….. Been watching these videos for several months and have another call w Jason next week. These videos have been a huge help in dealing with my divorce. I never realized all the ways I was destroying emotional safety throughout my entire marriage. I pointed the finger at my partner for so long thinking I was helping our relationship 🤦. I know if I don’t go through this program I will bring the same toxic ways into my next relationship. Or my previous partner if she ever wants to reconcile.
Damn Geoffrey I love your work brother! Do you have any videos of the process of planting seeds with little contact after seperation?
The idea that you are doing because you want to have do resonates with me. You cannot do it by your will alone. Imagine doing it for god knows how many years, and when things get rough that you have to perform, you would very likely crumble. That is why you have to have internal shift first. Before working on external things that you want, you really need to have to work yourself first. You have to ask yourself, what are the things that I have to work on myself, and not what can I do to them so things will work. Another great video, Geoff!
I am currently on my 6th week of separation. Hearing about the success people have had shifting their mindset and experiencing true change is very encouraging. Ive put in my application and hoping to be accepted to get atarted on making the personal shifts and becoming a better man for myself and my family.
Me and my wife have a no contact order so we can not see each other but can talk. She is mad at me for calling the cops when she was drunk and hitting me infront of our kids. Now I wish I didn't call the cops and we handled I ourselves. She is so distant and wants the no contact order dropped so she can come home but she feels like she doesn't want me just wants space but also to come home
Not all relationships ought to be saved. And no one single person is ever responsible for the failure of a relationship. This is a perfect example of someone who shouldn’t be in this sort of program, but 100% focused on exiting the marriage and healing himself first. Best thing you could do for your kids, as well, my brother.
Well done Brett! 👏🎉
Definitely me right now 1:05:39 I got so much MM debt, I put so much off the entire time & now I’m sitting here not really progressing, because I have to spend my time fixing my MM due to my victim mindset voices “I don’t need to do it, I’m unique!”🤦♂️🤬
I FEEL THE DEBT! I could be tackling so much right now
Synth; Organize everything going forward & use my MM for everything (which was already told for me to do in the first module)🤦♂️
I think a great analogy for this is running a bank & try to be memorizing 100% of every single transaction or you have to shut down your bank… yeah… it’s gonna fail! Guaranteed
1:20:00 -> the sequence
1:33:40 -> so true
Thank you for this. So many examples that resonate with me. Trying to create safety the wrong way, doing things to get something rather than doing them because I want to… I’ve just signed up for the Masterclass tonight.
Another great one. And I even learned more about the importance of untethering and what it is.
stop being a victim and taking responsibilty. Also the breaking of security was a big area I never really looked at.
My separated ( since 6 months) wife filed for divorce a week ago, refuses to meet me and to call me.
Whenever i tell her about my changes, process and immense regret i feel over how i hurt her, she says stuff like "good that you are changing for your future relationship" or "new partner" when she knows clearly i have no intentions of ever getting another woman. I know i am needy and tethered, even up to panicking levels even though i know the real victim is 100% her over what i did. Of course she also says she does not love me, that is because i destroyed safety. Really struggling over here.
I’m in the same boat. I moved out of the place we were renting. Before I left she said “you can take all these lessons and be good to your next partner”. Said, that “i need to move on because there is something better for me out there”.
Does anyone know how much this program cost? Even if it's a ball park figure? I really just want to know if I have enough money or I need to save.
It's around 4000$
@@RohanDas-z3t Thank you!
Hey, I really like your programme, but I hope you can accept some criticism. I dont think my partner is gonna come back. I am blocked, in no contact for 6 weeks by now. I do think that my partner will return. However, my partner wants it to be over and blocked me so my feelings fade away for my partner before we resume contact again. There is nothing that can be done here. The girl just wants me to stop trying and will run away if I even show the slightest romantic interest. I will commit to improving myself for the sake of myself and relationships with others, however, you should recognize that at some point your programme just doesnt work in some cases. Perhaps I am wrong, Id love suggestions from you. But I think its over. Thank you for all the changes you helped me make.
I cannot imagine someone who is actually enrolled in my program & DOING THE WORK saying this. Are you actually enrolled in my program or just consuming free content?
Don't give me a heart attack...If you are actually enrolled in the paid program, either you're not doing the work, or we did not vet you properly and enrolled the wrong person.😅
If you are actually enrolled, please tell us the date you enrolled + the first letter of your first name & first letter of your last name so we can look you up.
We need to do some serious rescuing from your victim mindset.
We literally published so many success interviews with ppl in worse situations than you, doubting the program can work is like doubting that Usain Bolt can break the world record...
IT'S ALREADY BEEN DONE BRO! IT IS NOT UP FOR DEBATE! Lol. 😂😂
@@GeoffreySetiawan I can not enroll into the programme due to financial issues. I have worked on my victim mindset. I can make my partner change her mind about me
However, here is the problem. My partner will not have contact with me if I show romantic interest. You have not replied to my question. What should I do in this case? My partner literally said she wants me to stop trying and will not contact me until my feelings will have faded away. There is simply nothing that can be done here except let her win. What do you think can be done? How can I convince her when she comes back to have contact with me despite me still having feelings? Your programme fails here
@@GeoffreySetiawan tldr I can not show my changes if my partner doesnt want to see them as long as I still have feelings
@@comradeking4427 Thank you for setting the record straight that you have not enrolled in our program.
We have utmost confident in our ability to give life changing results from our program, and we will stand up for ourselves when someone makes misleading claims about it.
On a side note - please send us an email indicating this thread.
If you want, we can discuss some financial aid to help you with your financial situation.
We rarely do so, but have made several exceptions for special cases and clients with whom we would absolutely love to help and work with.
@@comradeking4427 sorry i just want to share my input here, i don;t think Geoffrey program have failed just because your partner refuse to speak to you atm. You also mentioned you have not enrolled into his program, what Geoffrey post in youtube is not even 1% of his program. I have use some of his free content and make it work despite not knowing the frameworks, and the practices.
My partner show lot of resistances at first, but i am not letting it affect me because i believe in the 'process'. Geoffrey also mentioned falling in love is falling outcome, when it happen it will happens and i witness my partner is leaning towards to me. She told i don't have to wait for her and she told me i don't have to change. I still believe i can be better despite seeing positive changes, i do really want to be better. One thing i remembered what Geoffrey said was " you can always move on and give on the relationship, but you will never learn how to grow and the problem will most likely resurface in the next relationship
Right now i am saving as much as i could so i could sign up for the program, i am doing part time uni and working full time atm. I believe i will be 10x better if i do enroll in his program.
What’s this ‘my partner’ stuff? You’re married… she’s your wife. You’re her husband….
your wife/husband is your partner.
Remember guys - the quality of the questions you ask will determine the quality of the answer you get. :)
No matter who we are, we have 24 hours in a day, and a limited amount of energy. We need to be smart about how we expend this energy.
After observing 5,000+ clients (and people like Brett), there one big commonality - they are curious and ask questions on the more important, consequential matters whose answers gives them the most insight to help their lives massively.
There are tons of amazing takeaways here - make sure we focus on the most important, consequential ones that gives you the most insight!
A partner can be at work, can be a lot of things non specific, so the question is good... I think in the last decades perhaps it's been used more to not use the word wife/husband and relief the intimate importance of it... It's not a stupid question, Answer can also be stupid when the question is misinterpreted or disregarded. Call it what it is.
It's like saying: "i told the human that i was in a hurry"
instead of saying "i told HER or HIM that i was in a hurry...".... and yes you can argue that; "well HER and HIM are humans... so it's right to say humans".... but we all agree that's silly
Whocares what he calls her ?? It's his wife