💥What u said about Psychotherapy I agree with...bcuz control of ejaculation/orgasm is 75% in the mind. I've never had that prob of premature ejaculation...always the opposite. I trained myself from adolescence to enjoy long stimulation without ejacultion. Possibley Too Well, as I've had partners (usually younger ones & To My Shock🤯) say I take Too Long to ejaculate...when have orgasmed a few times already. But still I thought most if not All woman wanted a man to Last Long... but after some research & asking around found that this younger generation are used 2 guys who ejaculate fast...take a break...then do it again. While woman closer 2 my age preferred the long lasting I was doing!😎 But even some of them would wear out of Orgasms if I took an hour or more to Orgasm/Ejaculate on purpose (Though I do get much pleasure from holding it back & watching them orgasm & getting mini orgasm myself without ehaculate!😄 It made my Final Orgasm/Ejaculation Sooo Much Pleasurable & Intense & Fluid Filled). 😉💜🤙 BTW...Is there Something Made to Speed Up Orgasm/Ejaculation?? Or is that All in the Mind to Force it Faster? Thnx!😎👍
I never lasted more than 1 minute but I saw a video by a Brazilian here on RUclips called cristiano kenedy. In the video he reported that he had managed to overcome premature ejaculation, I translated the material he indicated and started applying it and recently I am lasting more than 10 minutes.
Hey, Doc. Long time viewer, first time caller. Can’t say I’ve been on board with *every* video you’ve ever released, but I wanted to communicate my heartfelt gratitude for the work that you do. Often it’s assumed that men have great privilege and support, but the truth is we are severely lacking in guidance and love. I’m shedding a tear right now, one of appreciation, because when I see your videos I feel like I am being seen, I’m important, and deserving of help. Thank you.
Wow I have taken tramadol in the past and noticed that it took forever to finish ... To the point that the other person taps out ... When I was watching this video I thought about commenting about it and then you said it. I am glad there is a scientific reason. Tramadol seems to affect everyone differently though. I have heard bad stories but when I take it I am alert and full of energy. Keep up the great videos.
I am surprise she recommended tramadol. It is an opioid and she mention 20-100mg, which is not a small dose. I had really bad back pain and my family doctor is really cautious to give me tramadol. Because he don't want me to become an addict.
In my experience you can LEARN how to last longer by paying close attention to the sensations you are feeling and changing positions, slowing or stopping your stroking, or changing how you are stimulating yourself when you feel you are getting close and you feel that you are getting close to that point of no return. It took me years but I learned how to last as long as I wanted to. It also helps to start out slow and build up to your rhythm.
Good advice. I add a fail-safe method by doing math equation in my head. This trick my brain to lower it excitement and I have total control on the edging part. My math equation is the Times table. The harder your equation, the longer you last 🤪
Like Dr. Rena said, the key is how your brain process the sensation. If you are too excited and so focused on that sensation, you gonna blow your load. But if you distract yourself, you can last longer.
@@pedroorozco6024or work the next day. For me is that and focus on breathing. It’s so annoying though…because I’m enjoying getting oral, but I can’t even last 60 seconds! So embarrassing
Wow, I had no idea about the spinal ejaculatory center. I tried some Promescent Delay Spray just to spice things up with the Wife - and SHE LOVED IT!! I was shocked because I could still feel everything but I had way more control. :D Thanks a lot!
They should do sit-ups where the upper part of the abdomen is worked, with the legs raised and trying to touch the feet with the hands and its variants that work the upper part of the abdomen, they will see improvements quickly. That upper abdominal exercise will take away your depression and anxiety, it will also heal your mind.
Not gonna lie, I have struggled in this department bad! My whole life I’ve struggled in this department. For awhile I’d use alcohol and other substances to help. Well a year and a half ago I went on testosterone replacement therapy because I have low T and I’m only 32. 3 months ago I started HCG therapy to help my body prepare for having a baby. The HCG fixed EVERYTHING! It’s insane. I don’t know if anyone else has had these results but I have heard HCG can help. I can confirm it changed me from lasting less than 3 minutes to 10-20 minutes every-time unless the goal is to be fast, then we had to try a different approach. Kind of hard for just anyone to go one but if you are on HRT talk with the doc about it
Dr. Malik I can't thank you enough for pointing out a great solution - the desensitizing spray!! I have suffered from PE for years and its such an embarrassment. I feel on top of the world, my partner actually asks if I can stop as I can go on for more than 30 minutes with the spray!! Thank you
@@RIVALSGOOBERSI heard you have to apply ahead of time, let it dry for like 10-15 min, and wipe it off - this way it doesn’t desensitize her but the chemicals have penetrated into you.
I've used edging ever since I became active. I've lasted 10-45 minutes depending on when she gets hers or your ready to end it. Heck with squeezing, sprays, and meds.
@UCDfgsl2moV5_C0oa_FTiIBQ edging is when you feel like you're getting close, pull out or almost all the way out, take a deep breath or change position, let that feeling subside, then get back in there. If the peach is feeling really good I might do it 5-7 times before popping off. Plus edging makes your nut that much better. The climax can be really intense after edging multiple times. I'll edge until she gets hers then I'll go. Usually that's around 10-20 minutes.
that doesn't necessary work everytime , since a woman also has to cum or finish, so when she's near, she pushes you to go faster and hence end up ejacuting too.
I've been on Prozac and Cymbalta and couple others I can't remember for anxiety for the past 20 years. None of them caused delayed ejaculation for me. I've been on both Tramadol and Tylenol3 with codeine (not at the same time) since I injured my back 20 years ago. Both of these fixed my premature ejaculation problem. I couldn't last over 60 seconds before that. Too me it fixed a problem that was embarrassing and soul crushing during sex. I also didn't have any luck with lidocaine creams that most places sell though have never tried the spray. Stronger pain meds like Lortab or Percocet made me last too long though.
Tramadol is actually used for that reason, although it's not good to stay on ig. Can be addictive for many. Opioid. I had Tramadol for two broken wrists, but it actually caused a kidney stone because it slowed my system down. Make sure you drink plenty.
Start lifting weights and hit the bike as cardio and you won’t need those pills brother, work your ab muscles too that helps soooo much! And you won’t have that numbed feeling from drugs ,
Thank you so much Dr Rena. it’s so nice hearing a different perspective specially one that is coming from a lady doctor. Would you also recommend yoga for PE ? Thanks
In my experience how long I last with intercourse is mostly determined by how much actual sex I'm getting. If all I've had for awhile is masturbation, then the sensations of being with a woman are hyperstimulating, and I might come quickly. The good part is I usually get hard again relatively quickly. Once in a rare while I've had premature ejaculation and then inability to get hard again. Very rarely. I'd like to have sex at least daily, but if I'm getting it once or twice a week, then I'm not as hyperstimulated, and I can last much longer. If I'm in a regular relationship, then I get used to her, in a sense. Although she might be very arousing, I get to where I can last a long time and she can come as much as she wants, then when I decide to give myself the green light, I can come. Use it or lose it, y'all.
@@samuelcarlos5210 Opposite. If I'm uncomfortable, new relationship (haven't had many) I've found it difficult to reach orgasm. Once I'm comfortable with her, I become much more sensitive to the point, I have to ensure she always comes first before penetration. Alcohol can numb me to the point where orgasm isn't even possible or takes all night - that can be fun but exhaustive and I've recently given it up anyhow, but I may use it for this purpose in the future. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ My current GF always seems to get in the mood if we have a couple. Oddly, I don't find that particularly sexy. Maybe I'm over complicated. lol
When we first started dating it was every weekend but now she's working so much that she always tired and it effecting us when she in the mood her time of the month starts and I have to wait even longer so when we actually have sex it's already over 🤬
@@terencejones4528 I would definitely discuss this. Explain your side. Given it takes a long time for a woman to get started she may start to bore and start putting off sex more, instinctively, not consciously. Generally speaking, Women break off relationships. My marriage went down the tubes and sex and lack of talking were 2 of many reasons. One day she just wanted a separation and she was someone else. It’s been years and we’ve both moved on, but I still feel like a failure. So talk.
@@terencejones4528 Ignore her she don’t like you anymore , because you always looking for it , ! She felt you but she can’t jump to another hold , so she play i like you but 😢 !! Do you believe her 😂…. Listen someone else love you go find her ❤
I just had to change my focus. I started focusing on pleasing the women more than really worrying about my own pleasure. Everything still feels good obviously lol but since my focus is mainly elsewhere, I last longer. Idk, it works for me lol.
Thinking about baseball for a moment calms the nerves. Thinking about baseball for two moments puts me right to sleep. It's a fine line that works for me personally.
Ive been doing hand exercises for about a month so i can have a better grip ..so going from lasting a average of 10mins down to one min now i have more time to do more important things 😊
Hi Rena! I'm a long time follower & first time communicating. I really appreciate what you are doing to help us in life. Ttis is not a matter for saying leave alone in public even to ourselves & you are our eye oponer thank you for that. I have one thing here on the matter of staying longer in bed. Erection is not bad but it tends to release so erlier. I try to follow your presentations as much as possible but l fail to last longer. What more would you say on this? By the way I'm in the esrly 60s & recently have a mild BPH. Thank you &l appreciate your response.
I never had this problem at all. No even my first time. I lasted well over 40 minutes straight. Now at 45, I can barely go a few thrusts and I’m there. It’s really embarrassing especially when with a new woman.
Similar here, I used to have a LOT more action even in long term monogamous relationships when I was younger than now in marriage though, so my balls weren’t nearly as full. For me breathing techniques help, also I retract a bit and go slow for some time, make sure to get her fired up really good before I start so she has a head start. Generally I feel I just need a lot more action though.
A Urologist gave give you a pill to take, it's actually a pill for depression. But in a very small dose it can make you last a lot longer. I used it and yes it works.
In my experience, a circumcised penis is not suitable for sex from behind, which causes pain and anal fissures due to its large head. It is suitable only from the front and between the breasts. It is not permissible for one who is circumcised to marry a Christian girl, because Because that turns the Christian girl into a Muslim immediately. Immediately I do not recommend it to Christian girls. Thank you RUclipsr for this helpful tip.
Treatment, you spray it on about 10 minutes before sex and if you are going to receive oral as part of foreplay, just wipe your stuff with a moist wash rag 10 after you spray it because then it’s been absorbed and your just clearing anything from the surface so there is not taste
In all honesty the part I like the most in all her videos is when she is explaining how 5 min is normal or 6 inches is normal or 5 ml is normal and so on. If that is true then - I really am gifted. In any case a huge boost to my confidence
It's actually really easy to improve upon. Do it more often. Really. An old friend told me many years ago "never go on a hot date with a loaded gun" Ejaculate more often. Daily at least. Sometimes twice a day. Here's your prescription: Ejaculated one time to two times daily or as need until the desired effect is achieved. Do this first for a time. Consider all these other recommendations much later. You may then one day experience the following. "If you are going to have sex with me for 6 hours, you have got to feed me" Personal experience. Truly hope this works for everyone.
I find that as soon as I start enjoying the sensation with my wife, the process has already started and can't it without interrupting the flow. She's been very understanding of this and helped me to stop worrying about how long I last. There are other ways to be intimate if I do go too early so we just focus on enjoying it and I've been a lot more relaxed about it. This has helped me to notice that the length varies all the time and that's okay.
How in heaven I fall on this page ?!!! I was watching your kidney stone video , now how to stay in bed ,? I have pain with these stones I can last days now
What worked for me was just having more sex, eventually you just develop more stamina. Also try separating the mental part of it from the physical part of it. I know, easier said than done, but possible with training.
@@ShadowPhoenix82 it's a little difficult to explain, but I'll do my best. When you're doing it and you're into it both mentally and physically at the same time, you'll finish faster because you're invested in it in more than one way, so it's more stimulating. (physical and mental stimulation simultaneously feels better). But if you can take the mental part out of it, you can concentrate on the physical aspect of it, this might sound mechanical but thats not necessarily the case. This can also be done the other way around. Basically, you're trying to limit or minimize the number of stimulators you're experiencing so you can last longer. Example: a pitcher of water fills faster with two or three sources as opposed to just one. The filling of the pitcher is you finishing, the less sources of stimulation the longer you'll last. Hope that helps.
Ur advice is correct, but it's impossible to separate mental part from physical part...except for the times u have sex with some prostitute u don't care about maybe..
@@G2Chanakya I somewhat agree with you. Though it can be difficult, it's not impossible. I do agree with your opinion on the prostitute thing, that's completely true.
If you don't want to put a cream on there there are also penile sleeves that have holes in them so that you still get some stimuli but not as much as you normally would and you can get different ones to fit your individual needs.
Can you please do a video on anorgasmia? I have had OCD all of my life and been on and tried SSRI's/SNRI's, Tricylics (like Clomimpramine that you mentioned better known as Anafranil), MAOI's, etc. All of them have caused inability to climax or in the case of Anafranil lost my libido completely. Many people (like myself) depend upon these medications to live a normal life (at the expense of there sex life) so a video on what can be done to rectify this would be grateful. Taking Viagra, etc to get hard and not ejaculate is not an answer. Thanks for sharing!
From an evolutionary biology perspective, it would seem that having a quick release would be a positive. The faster your swimmers get in the pool, the better your odds of them winning the race.
if that happens enough times then you gain a reputation as a bad s3xual partner meaning your chances of having s3x are reduced...meaning your chances of procreation are reduced. just because you c@me in her once doesnt mean that conception will happen
Sex could have evolved so men don't squirt their semen too easily. Semen takes a lot of energy and material to make, so needlessly squirting is a waste of energy and material, so sex could have evolved to ensure the male only squirted in the reproductive tract of a female, rather than at times where the semen would not end up there and would therefore be a waste of energy and material.
that too but most important factor is environmental uncertainty, you dont want to be attacked by a predator during intercouse :) you'd prefer to do it quickly
But you really wanna satisfy your lady as well and if your just sticking it in and coming then you've seriously gotta probably like myself smh🤷🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️
I think this extreme premature ejaculation is not easy to cure. One stroke and I am done. From this point I decided to stay celibate and everyone is happy
You can go to your doctor and get a antidepressant, then it’s actually hard to ejaculate you have to really concentrate. I didn’t take it for premature but that was the effect of taking the pill. Anyway just a thought.
@@jjs646 Yup, I was prescribed Fluoxetine and then citalopram for very bad depression and didn't realize it that this effect. It was actually very strange at the start, I thought something was wrong with me. Girlfriend didn't complain though.
I would love to hear your ideas about masturbation practices, that can help to lengthen the duration in bed. Are there practices that help to reduce stimuli, physically or psychologically when masturbating? What would be your take on this? Thank you :)
I had the opposite problem. My girlfriend and I would get exhausted trying to get my to finish. 2 hours and lots of pleasure for her but frustrating for me and embarrassing. I worked out the problem was over the years I had trained myself to not orgasm or ejaculate. Also 4 years no sex after a bad marriage had a psychological impact. We worked through it and now it is around an hour. We are happy though find it funny this is what a quicky means for us 😆
me too.........i wish there are videos out there like "how to eyaculate as a normal human being -_-" ... it only happens to me after 40 min MINIMUM, which is less fun than most of the guys would think...........
If you start first , you end first , learn control your mind by controlling your breath, do exercise for that , also bring your self to end right before release and stop your breath , after practice you achieve that goal in the beginning it’s hard , one you practice then. Practice with partner, you can also release your self during fore play , then relax and do another round with penetration that help many to control quick ejaculation and increase timing.
I've basically had the opposite "problem" my whole life. And the craziest was when i was 16 and started having sex, my girlfriend and i would regularly go on 2-3 hour sex sessions lol where i would ejaculate once or twice. I can attest to the whole anti depressant thing as I've been on them for several years and it certainly does delay ejaculation and I've also experienced a significant loss in libido. Even to the point that if i accidentally miss a dose, i wake up feeling like I'm 16 again because you wake up horny and stay horny all day. One thing worth mentioning for guys that might have this issue is they can also try wearing a condom. In my experience, a condom definitely slows down ejaculation time but it also has a bit of a negative effect on sensation, so it's a compromise but that's probably the reason it helps.
@@jabbariscottent.775 I hear ya bro i was on effexor too for years and the tiredness and sex drive loss was terrible. I've been on lexapro for the last 6 months and the tiredness isn't as bad but the sex drive loss is just as bad.
@@dieseltech7_358 i didn't even see your comment until now 😳 my bad. I was on effexor for the last 6 years and switched to lexapro 6 months ago because effexor made me tired like a zombie, i had zero energy. It also killed my sex drive really bad but so does lexapro unfortunately... It sucks..
So happy whenever you said decrease in libido and then you said it just weird after a couple weeks so I'm right back to looking for something else to take the edge off
real pro tip is just not losing an erection after "finishing". Doesnt matter how long you last in bed. Just so long as you maintain the erection anyway.
Good luck with that. Especially as you get older. Chemicals are released after you finish to work against maintaining an erection. A 20 something year old might be able to overcome that. A 40 something year old won't and a 60 year old is lucky if he can get an erection at all without the use of viagra,
@@ellyomondi6613 "How to Make Love All Night" by barabara keesling. Is the book that i recommend. It goes through several exercises especially for pelvic floor and stuff to have semi conscious control of a persons erection. This is to allow multiple male orgasms. So even a man ejaculates, no real problem since they can continue with an erect penis. Worked for even 40+ year olds men, so age isnt really a factor. Maybe if its 60 years old or something but by then i doubt its a problem since sex drive tanks in general at those ages.
I really believe diet plays a roll in overall performance including PE. Also, I noticed a massive change in my own experience after I began practicing za zen meditation on a regular basis. My .02
I believe that would be to do with stress and muscle tension. Theoretical it's much more difficult to finish if your body is relaxed. Body scanning for tension and stress was recommended by another popular coach. Body scanning can be useful to help with sleep issues as well.
What has worked for me is counting up from one and only think about your counting. Practice this without your partner. Also there is a fight or flight response to sex. Try using reaffirming messages to yourself that you want to stay in the fight (so to speak 😁 absolutely no fighting during sex, that won't work).
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💥What u said about Psychotherapy I agree with...bcuz control of ejaculation/orgasm is 75% in the mind. I've never had that prob of premature ejaculation...always the opposite. I trained myself from adolescence to enjoy long stimulation without ejacultion. Possibley Too Well, as I've had partners (usually younger ones & To My Shock🤯) say I take Too Long to ejaculate...when have orgasmed a few times already. But still I thought most if not All woman wanted a man to Last Long... but after some research & asking around found that this younger generation are used 2 guys who ejaculate fast...take a break...then do it again. While woman closer 2 my age preferred the long lasting I was doing!😎 But even some of them would wear out of Orgasms if I took an hour or more to Orgasm/Ejaculate on purpose (Though I do get much pleasure from holding it back & watching them orgasm & getting mini orgasm myself without ehaculate!😄 It made my Final Orgasm/Ejaculation Sooo Much Pleasurable & Intense & Fluid Filled). 😉💜🤙
BTW...Is there Something Made to Speed Up Orgasm/Ejaculation?? Or is that All in the Mind to Force it Faster? Thnx!😎👍
LOL! I'm with ya brother.
Is promescent your favorite or are you paid to say it is, have you even used this product or any product
@rena malik md I have the opposite problem. Can you do the video on this? And i fall sleep during
Pls do a video on peyronies disease
Hey! I last a long time in bed, I sleep up to 9 hours a night.
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Yeah I too because i am seperated
I never lasted more than 1 minute but I saw a video by a Brazilian here on RUclips called cristiano kenedy. In the video he reported that he had managed to overcome premature ejaculation, I translated the material he indicated and started applying it and recently I am lasting more than 10 minutes.
I am interested. How do I find it?
@caiolucca9099 Here on RUclips, his channel is called Cristiano Kennedy
@cristianokenedy
@@caiolucca9099 o nome é Cristiano Kenedy mesmo.
@@ttchula I thank.
Hey, Doc. Long time viewer, first time caller. Can’t say I’ve been on board with *every* video you’ve ever released, but I wanted to communicate my heartfelt gratitude for the work that you do. Often it’s assumed that men have great privilege and support, but the truth is we are severely lacking in guidance and love. I’m shedding a tear right now, one of appreciation, because when I see your videos I feel like I am being seen, I’m important, and deserving of help. Thank you.
My pleasure
Really good comment thank you she does a really good job with her advice and I agree with you 100 💯 percent
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Wow I have taken tramadol in the past and noticed that it took forever to finish ... To the point that the other person taps out ... When I was watching this video I thought about commenting about it and then you said it. I am glad there is a scientific reason. Tramadol seems to affect everyone differently though. I have heard bad stories but when I take it I am alert and full of energy. Keep up the great videos.
I have this problem just with a bit of alcohol. 30-40 minutes easy.
What is tamadol.Please more info.
@@ishaks8152 it is a opioid pain killer all opioid pain killers make you last long without affecting erection
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I am surprise she recommended tramadol. It is an opioid and she mention 20-100mg, which is not a small dose. I had really bad back pain and my family doctor is really cautious to give me tramadol. Because he don't want me to become an addict.
In my experience you can LEARN how to last longer by paying close attention to the sensations you are feeling and changing positions, slowing or stopping your stroking, or changing how you are stimulating yourself when you feel you are getting close and you feel that you are getting close to that point of no return. It took me years but I learned how to last as long as I wanted to. It also helps to start out slow and build up to your rhythm.
Love your comment and I will try this method 👌🏾
Good advice.
I add a fail-safe method by doing math equation in my head. This trick my brain to lower it excitement and I have total control on the edging part.
My math equation is the Times table. The harder your equation, the longer you last 🤪
@@condorX2 I’m going to try this!
@@Hanglowballs 😁👍
very true, same here
Control your breathing (easiest and most effective) , take your time, don't over think ( I know easy said than done), exercise
Agreed. I like start and stop method along with breathing control.
I'll say when I excersized regularly I didn't have any issues. I also didn't have Peyronie's then.
You just nailed it.
yup 100 percent agree! breathing works! Dont need those products
Most importantly.. Eat Watermelon each day. It will hold on hard and the longest.
I once lasted an hour and thirty seconds then I realized it was daylight saving time.
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Like Dr. Rena said, the key is how your brain process the sensation. If you are too excited and so focused on that sensation, you gonna blow your load. But if you distract yourself, you can last longer.
Soooo.... think of baseball. Got it! 😄
@@pedroorozco6024or work the next day. For me is that and focus on breathing. It’s so annoying though…because I’m enjoying getting oral, but I can’t even last 60 seconds! So embarrassing
True. Just don't get TOO distracted 👍
@BNV_STUDIO I share your pain bro very embarrassing
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Wow, I had no idea about the spinal ejaculatory center. I tried some Promescent Delay Spray just to spice things up with the Wife - and SHE LOVED IT!! I was shocked because I could still feel everything but I had way more control. :D Thanks a lot!
Good info here Dr. Malik. As always, it's a pleasure.
Having an ugly partner helps.
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Beauty is just a light switch away .....
"I can only please women that I find unnatractive" It's like a wish gone wrong.
*She is my all-time most favorite doctor, may peace be upon her* 💞
She dead ?
I've read from woman that wrote that we as men train ourselves to ejaculate quickly as youngsters so we won't get caught by our parents.
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That's true
I didn't know premature ejaculation was a problem. I assumed it meant things went really REALLY well.
I fire off like QuickDraw McGraw and it’s cuz I’m really attracted to my wife. I was done in less than 30 seconds a few times lol
@Jester_KillzEm Sounds like everything is working just fine. Keep up the good work.
They should do sit-ups where the upper part of the abdomen is worked, with the legs raised and trying to touch the feet with the hands and its variants that work the upper part of the abdomen, they will see improvements quickly. That upper abdominal exercise will take away your depression and anxiety, it will also heal your mind.
Your way of giving advice 👏👍
Brilliant stuff mate🎉
Thanks!
Not gonna lie, I have struggled in this department bad! My whole life I’ve struggled in this department. For awhile I’d use alcohol and other substances to help. Well a year and a half ago I went on testosterone replacement therapy because I have low T and I’m only 32. 3 months ago I started HCG therapy to help my body prepare for having a baby. The HCG fixed EVERYTHING! It’s insane. I don’t know if anyone else has had these results but I have heard HCG can help. I can confirm it changed me from lasting less than 3 minutes to 10-20 minutes every-time unless the goal is to be fast, then we had to try a different approach. Kind of hard for just anyone to go one but if you are on HRT talk with the doc about it
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HCG?
This definitely explains women. All these beautiful women mostly are only getting five minutes. Wow
Its always pleasure to watch your clip Rena
Sleep , exercise, diet and communication is how u last, four play is the catalyst
And not being selfish...but seriously
Isn't five play always better than four play?
Praise be to God for making us male and female to satisfy our selves.
Dr. Malik I can't thank you enough for pointing out a great solution - the desensitizing spray!! I have suffered from PE for years and its such an embarrassment. I feel on top of the world, my partner actually asks if I can stop as I can go on for more than 30 minutes with the spray!! Thank you
Which one do you use?
Which one name the brand
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Problem is it can also desantisize her and she won’t feel a thing
@@RIVALSGOOBERSI heard you have to apply ahead of time, let it dry for like 10-15 min, and wipe it off - this way it doesn’t desensitize her but the chemicals have penetrated into you.
I just roll over and turn the clock ahead about 30 minutes, but your way works too.
@@fireops7898 wtf bro
I m 58 ys old I have diabetes may I use Cialis is it safe
I've used edging ever since I became active. I've lasted 10-45 minutes depending on when she gets hers or your ready to end it. Heck with squeezing, sprays, and meds.
Same here
Yes, to the point of no return!
@UCDfgsl2moV5_C0oa_FTiIBQ edging is when you feel like you're getting close, pull out or almost all the way out, take a deep breath or change position, let that feeling subside, then get back in there. If the peach is feeling really good I might do it 5-7 times before popping off. Plus edging makes your nut that much better. The climax can be really intense after edging multiple times. I'll edge until she gets hers then I'll go. Usually that's around 10-20 minutes.
How did you go about the edging
What’s edging? (Language issue here)
I can go 20 minutes, no problem. The key is, go nice ad slow, when you want to finish, speed up.
How slow are you going?
that doesn't necessary work everytime , since a woman also has to cum or finish, so when she's near, she pushes you to go faster and hence end up ejacuting too.
I asked my wife once… how long do you want me to last, and she said.. just until I find a guy with more money.
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I've been on Prozac and Cymbalta and couple others I can't remember for anxiety for the past 20 years. None of them caused delayed ejaculation for me. I've been on both Tramadol and Tylenol3 with codeine (not at the same time) since I injured my back 20 years ago. Both of these fixed my premature ejaculation problem. I couldn't last over 60 seconds before that. Too me it fixed a problem that was embarrassing and soul crushing during sex. I also didn't have any luck with lidocaine creams that most places sell though have never tried the spray. Stronger pain meds like Lortab or Percocet made me last too long though.
Try non-synthetic GABA supplements. You might be able to reduce or come off of the other anxiety meds. Works great for me and my son.
Did you take Prozac and cymbalta together?
Tramadol is actually used for that reason, although it's not good to stay on ig. Can be addictive for many. Opioid. I had Tramadol for two broken wrists, but it actually caused a kidney stone because it slowed my system down. Make sure you drink plenty.
Start lifting weights and hit the bike as cardio and you won’t need those pills brother, work your ab muscles too that helps soooo much! And you won’t have that numbed feeling from drugs ,
All of these meds give me ED. So its a non starter
Thank you so much Dr Rena. it’s so nice hearing a different perspective specially one that is coming from a lady doctor. Would you also recommend yoga for PE ? Thanks
Thanks for the video. Very good points.
Hi doctor, can I spray it 1 hour before having intercorse?
Just started watching your videos well i am beyond impressed very helpful thank you 😊
Wish you a lot of success and happiness in life Dr Malik❤❤❤
In my experience how long I last with intercourse is mostly determined by how much actual sex I'm getting. If all I've had for awhile is masturbation, then the sensations of being with a woman are hyperstimulating, and I might come quickly. The good part is I usually get hard again relatively quickly. Once in a rare while I've had premature ejaculation and then inability to get hard again. Very rarely. I'd like to have sex at least daily, but if I'm getting it once or twice a week, then I'm not as hyperstimulated, and I can last much longer. If I'm in a regular relationship, then I get used to her, in a sense. Although she might be very arousing, I get to where I can last a long time and she can come as much as she wants, then when I decide to give myself the green light, I can come. Use it or lose it, y'all.
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@@samuelcarlos5210 Opposite. If I'm uncomfortable, new relationship (haven't had many) I've found it difficult to reach orgasm. Once I'm comfortable with her, I become much more sensitive to the point, I have to ensure she always comes first before penetration. Alcohol can numb me to the point where orgasm isn't even possible or takes all night - that can be fun but exhaustive and I've recently given it up anyhow, but I may use it for this purpose in the future. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ My current GF always seems to get in the mood if we have a couple. Oddly, I don't find that particularly sexy. Maybe I'm over complicated. lol
When we first started dating it was every weekend but now she's working so much that she always tired and it effecting us when she in the mood her time of the month starts and I have to wait even longer so when we actually have sex it's already over 🤬
@@terencejones4528 I would definitely discuss this. Explain your side. Given it takes a long time for a woman to get started she may start to bore and start putting off sex more, instinctively, not consciously. Generally speaking, Women break off relationships. My marriage went down the tubes and sex and lack of talking were 2 of many reasons. One day she just wanted a separation and she was someone else. It’s been years and we’ve both moved on, but I still feel like a failure.
So talk.
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Ignore her she don’t like you anymore , because you always looking for it , ! She felt you but she can’t jump to another hold , so she play i like you but 😢 !! Do you believe her 😂….
Listen someone else love you go find her ❤
Thanks for doing these Doc!👍👍👌👌
I just had to change my focus. I started focusing on pleasing the women more than really worrying about my own pleasure. Everything still feels good obviously lol but since my focus is mainly elsewhere, I last longer. Idk, it works for me lol.
Tried Promescent spray few times, it barely helped for additional 30 seconds tops. Did not order again after finishing the bottle.
Thinking about baseball for a moment calms the nerves.
Thinking about baseball for two moments puts me right to sleep.
It's a fine line that works for me personally.
I hear that often. My brain doesn't work that way, but it must be effective.
Strike 1,....Strike 2,.......Strike 3......your out of there.,....game over.
@@mslice0760 😂😂
It's just better when the act last longer :) Nice video :)
Ive been doing hand exercises for about a month so i can have a better grip ..so going from lasting a average of 10mins down to one min now i have more time to do more important things 😊
hell yeah, king
Based af
lel bruh
Which type of exercise did you do?
When it feels good its hard not to hold on.
Thank you, Dr. Malik! This is quite an education for this 'old boy'!❤
Thanks doc. You are so helpful, I am grateful for your professional advise.
Hi Rena! I'm a long time follower & first time communicating. I really appreciate what you are doing to help us in life. Ttis is not a matter for saying leave alone in public even to ourselves & you are our eye oponer thank you for that. I have one thing here on the matter of staying longer in bed. Erection is not bad but it tends to release so erlier. I try to follow your presentations as much as possible but l fail to last longer. What more would you say on this? By the way I'm in the esrly 60s & recently have a mild BPH. Thank you &l appreciate your response.
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I never had this problem at all. No even my first time. I lasted well over 40 minutes straight. Now at 45, I can barely go a few thrusts and I’m there. It’s really embarrassing especially when with a new woman.
Similar here, I used to have a LOT more action even in long term monogamous relationships when I was younger than now in marriage though, so my balls weren’t nearly as full. For me breathing techniques help, also I retract a bit and go slow for some time, make sure to get her fired up really good before I start so she has a head start. Generally I feel I just need a lot more action though.
A Urologist gave give you a pill to take, it's actually a pill for depression. But in a very small dose it can make you last a lot longer. I used it and yes it works.
Hi Dr@RenaMalikMD. About Silidosin, should it be taken daily or is it on demand few hours before intercouse? Thank you so much.
Good way to last longer. Slow down for a few moments and think of very unpleasant things such as dead animals or rotting foods.
In my experience, a circumcised penis is not suitable for sex from behind, which causes pain and anal fissures due to its large head. It is suitable only from the front and between the breasts. It is not permissible for one who is circumcised to marry a Christian girl, because Because that turns the Christian girl into a Muslim immediately. Immediately I do not recommend it to Christian girls. Thank you RUclipsr for this helpful tip.
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Thank you
Your work is extremely helpful
Thank you, you're extremely helpful!👌👌🙂🙂
Thank you so much for all the great information. I certainly learned a lot here!
I had premature ejaculation for more than 4 years.
I can tell you it’s all psychological. You just need a proper plan and the right tools.
Could you give more details?
is the Promescent spray a treatment or a one time use/solution?
Treatment, you spray it on about 10 minutes before sex and if you are going to receive oral as part of foreplay, just wipe your stuff with a moist wash rag 10 after you spray it because then it’s been absorbed and your just clearing anything from the surface so there is not taste
I doubt it’s a solution but might help to train yourself to delay ejaculation
In all honesty the part I like the most in all her videos is when she is explaining how 5 min is normal or 6 inches is normal or 5 ml is normal and so on. If that is true then - I really am gifted. In any case a huge boost to my confidence
It's actually really easy to improve upon.
Do it more often. Really.
An old friend told me many years ago "never go on a hot date with a loaded gun" Ejaculate more often. Daily at least. Sometimes twice a day.
Here's your prescription:
Ejaculated one time to two times daily or as need until the desired effect is achieved.
Do this first for a time. Consider all these other recommendations much later.
You may then one day experience the following.
"If you are going to have sex with me for 6 hours, you have got to feed me"
Personal experience. Truly hope this works for everyone.
2:48 So is that why SSRI medications delay it?
I find that as soon as I start enjoying the sensation with my wife, the process has already started and can't it without interrupting the flow. She's been very understanding of this and helped me to stop worrying about how long I last. There are other ways to be intimate if I do go too early so we just focus on enjoying it and I've been a lot more relaxed about it. This has helped me to notice that the length varies all the time and that's okay.
Delay spray is the best !!! Going strong for 20mins
Are can you get it to buy
@@jamesbamboo5007 Yhh I got it from Amazon
@@9shazad thanks bro.
@@9shazad please what product should I go for?
@@jamesbamboo5007 check the reviews first and the one with the best reviews buy it and delay spray says 5 sprays no only use 2 or 3 that’s all u need
In practice, 60% of the video is purely commercial and has no medical explanation. Very professional for an MD.
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Girl's got to earn too man
I'm happy with my 2 minutes, If I lasted any longer, I might wake up my wife!
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😂😅😂😅 HILARIOUS!!!😂😅
Who you fucking then? her pet?😅😅
Are you raping your own wife ????😮
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How in heaven I fall on this page ?!!! I was watching your kidney stone video , now how to stay in bed ,? I have pain with these stones I can last days now
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How much time is good enough for u ?
No thx, the ladies call me fast Freddy for a reason !
As always Doc quality information 👍👍👍
Is there any side effects of using the mentioned spray on either men or women?
thank you Dr Rena for making me blush!!! especially the milk and kellogs part!!
thanks for the informative video.
What worked for me was just having more sex, eventually you just develop more stamina. Also try separating the mental part of it from the physical part of it. I know, easier said than done, but possible with training.
What does that mean, separate the mental from the physical?
@@ShadowPhoenix82 it's a little difficult to explain, but I'll do my best. When you're doing it and you're into it both mentally and physically at the same time, you'll finish faster because you're invested in it in more than one way, so it's more stimulating. (physical and mental stimulation simultaneously feels better). But if you can take the mental part out of it, you can concentrate on the physical aspect of it, this might sound mechanical but thats not necessarily the case. This can also be done the other way around. Basically, you're trying to limit or minimize the number of stimulators you're experiencing so you can last longer. Example: a pitcher of water fills faster with two or three sources as opposed to just one. The filling of the pitcher is you finishing, the less sources of stimulation the longer you'll last. Hope that helps.
Ur advice is correct, but it's impossible to separate mental part from physical part...except for the times u have sex with some prostitute u don't care about maybe..
@@nileshghadge5016 it means you have to think of your grandma.... then you will last hours! 🤗
(except if you're into old women)
@@G2Chanakya I somewhat agree with you. Though it can be difficult, it's not impossible. I do agree with your opinion on the prostitute thing, that's completely true.
If you don't want to put a cream on there there are also penile sleeves that have holes in them so that you still get some stimuli but not as much as you normally would and you can get different ones to fit your individual needs.
Thank you for discussing this subject very insightful. Appreciate Dr Malik
Heartiest Thanks doctor, this is useful to keep her satisfied Regards
Can you please do a video on anorgasmia? I have had OCD all of my life and been on and tried SSRI's/SNRI's, Tricylics (like Clomimpramine that you mentioned better known as Anafranil), MAOI's, etc. All of them have caused inability to climax or in the case of Anafranil lost my libido completely. Many people (like myself) depend upon these medications to live a normal life (at the expense of there sex life) so a video on what can be done to rectify this would be grateful. Taking Viagra, etc to get hard and not ejaculate is not an answer. Thanks for sharing!
@@stephendekoning802 My wife was the same. I solved the problem by means of divorcing her. Now I have a healthy and good libido lol.
Yeah lets have one on amphetamines too
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From an evolutionary biology perspective, it would seem that having a quick release would be a positive. The faster your swimmers get in the pool, the better your odds of them winning the race.
if that happens enough times then you gain a reputation as a bad s3xual partner meaning your chances of having s3x are reduced...meaning your chances of procreation are reduced. just because you c@me in her once doesnt mean that conception will happen
Sex could have evolved so men don't squirt their semen too easily. Semen takes a lot of energy and material to make, so needlessly squirting is a waste of energy and material, so sex could have evolved to ensure the male only squirted in the reproductive tract of a female, rather than at times where the semen would not end up there and would therefore be a waste of energy and material.
except that you can't guarantee pregnancy with one shot, and you want to make the "pool" satisfied so that you can swim in it repeatedly
that too but most important factor is environmental uncertainty, you dont want to be attacked by a predator during intercouse :) you'd prefer to do it quickly
But you really wanna satisfy your lady as well and if your just sticking it in and coming then you've seriously gotta probably like myself smh🤷🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️
I think this extreme premature ejaculation is not easy to cure. One stroke and I am done. From this point I decided to stay celibate and everyone is happy
You can go to your doctor and get a antidepressant, then it’s actually hard to ejaculate you have to really concentrate. I didn’t take it for premature but that was the effect of taking the pill. Anyway just a thought.
@@jjs646 Yup, I was prescribed Fluoxetine and then citalopram for very bad depression and didn't realize it that this effect. It was actually very strange at the start, I thought something was wrong with me. Girlfriend didn't complain though.
This doctor is the best tho
I just went a saw the price of the product mentioned...I think I'll just hold my breath.
I would love to hear your ideas about masturbation practices, that can help to lengthen the duration in bed.
Are there practices that help to reduce stimuli, physically or psychologically when masturbating? What would be your take on this?
Thank you :)
I had the opposite problem.
My girlfriend and I would get exhausted trying to get my to finish.
2 hours and lots of pleasure for her but frustrating for me and embarrassing.
I worked out the problem was over the years I had trained myself to not orgasm or ejaculate.
Also 4 years no sex after a bad marriage had a psychological impact.
We worked through it and now it is around an hour. We are happy though find it funny this is what a quicky means for us 😆
Same sometimes 3
I need this training my good sir..tell me your secrets🙏😂
That first load must’ve drowned her
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me too.........i wish there are videos out there like "how to eyaculate as a normal human being -_-" ... it only happens to me after 40 min MINIMUM, which is less fun than most of the guys would think...........
My secret is always remaining in a state of shame and pain. Does wonders!
hey doc..really appreciate your work & grateful to u.. How can I get it in Bangladesh???
Once again, great info! Thank you!
Here in Zimbabwe we have our natural roots that have no side effects. They really work and u can have as much as u want
what is the root
What root
ashwagandha?
How can we get those roots? Please tell us the name if we were to buy online
tongkat ali?
Last longer by not getting married!
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I used to think that too, but the 2ndx is the charm
If you start first , you end first , learn control your mind by controlling your breath, do exercise for that , also bring your self to end right before release and stop your breath , after practice you achieve that goal in the beginning it’s hard , one you practice then. Practice with partner, you can also release your self during fore play , then relax and do another round with penetration that help many to control quick ejaculation and increase timing.
Can we use this spray while woman is ovulating, for getting pregnant
Me as a 21 year old adolescent virgin watching so I don't slip up my first try👀
Same but 27
You will slip up. Thats normal. Happens to almost everyone. The second time will be better. Just communicate that its your first time.
same here and im 31 with baby face syndrome smhhh 😮💨🤦♂🤦♂🤦♂🤦♂😩😞😭
@@kannibal8850 Big Big Facts 💯💯💯💯 agree with you all the way
Are you still adolescent at 21? it's usually 15/17
I've basically had the opposite "problem" my whole life. And the craziest was when i was 16 and started having sex, my girlfriend and i would regularly go on 2-3 hour sex sessions lol where i would ejaculate once or twice.
I can attest to the whole anti depressant thing as I've been on them for several years and it certainly does delay ejaculation and I've also experienced a significant loss in libido. Even to the point that if i accidentally miss a dose, i wake up feeling like I'm 16 again because you wake up horny and stay horny all day.
One thing worth mentioning for guys that might have this issue is they can also try wearing a condom. In my experience, a condom definitely slows down ejaculation time but it also has a bit of a negative effect on sensation, so it's a compromise but that's probably the reason it helps.
What kind of anti depressant did they have you on?
@@dieseltech7_358 it must be paroxetine
If i had anaorgasm prob it would be so. lovely(no prob) ive used 300mg + Effexor for delayed Orgasm but i hate the after effects of sleepyness
@@jabbariscottent.775 I hear ya bro i was on effexor too for years and the tiredness and sex drive loss was terrible. I've been on lexapro for the last 6 months and the tiredness isn't as bad but the sex drive loss is just as bad.
@@dieseltech7_358 i didn't even see your comment until now 😳 my bad.
I was on effexor for the last 6 years and switched to lexapro 6 months ago because effexor made me tired like a zombie, i had zero energy. It also killed my sex drive really bad but so does lexapro unfortunately... It sucks..
Lovely message. Thank you
So happy whenever you said decrease in libido and then you said it just weird after a couple weeks so I'm right back to looking for something else to take the edge off
You know I find I last a lot longer when I start inadvertently watching an infomercial.
I'm pretty good in bed....I last about 8 to 10 hour's almost every night 😇..sleeping
can you share the secret
@@norbertbajgyik1607 Well it's not hard...Well it's always hard.........hard liquor that is🤪
@@youcanknowit9374 well at least something is hard
Rofl!!!
Well well well 😂😂I gat the sarcasm there
real pro tip is just not losing an erection after "finishing". Doesnt matter how long you last in bed. Just so long as you maintain the erection anyway.
Good luck with that. Especially as you get older. Chemicals are released after you finish to work against maintaining an erection. A 20 something year old might be able to overcome that. A 40 something year old won't and a 60 year old is lucky if he can get an erection at all without the use of viagra,
@@delawarehistory1675 there are certain foods that help this
Viagra
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@@ellyomondi6613 "How to Make Love All Night" by barabara keesling.
Is the book that i recommend. It goes through several exercises especially for pelvic floor and stuff to have semi conscious control of a persons erection.
This is to allow multiple male orgasms.
So even a man ejaculates, no real problem since they can continue with an erect penis.
Worked for even 40+ year olds men, so age isnt really a factor.
Maybe if its 60 years old or something but by then i doubt its a problem since sex drive tanks in general at those ages.
I really believe diet plays a roll in overall performance including PE. Also, I noticed a massive change in my own experience after I began practicing za zen meditation on a regular basis. My .02
I believe that would be to do with stress and muscle tension.
Theoretical it's much more difficult to finish if your body is relaxed.
Body scanning for tension and stress was recommended by another popular coach.
Body scanning can be useful to help with sleep issues as well.
Perhaps ... but breath work impacts nitric oxide uptake BIG TIME. Might be something to that as well.
Please teach me what you did. I am interested
It is about to break my marriage
So many factors,how excited are you going in...how mentally are you involved , how you feel the sensations , are you intuned to her needs
I tried the much revered stop and go method and since then I've been suffering with chronic prostatitis for years
Yoga, meditation, and practice keeping the muscles involved in ejaculation relaxed during masturbation and sex. 👍🏼
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my ex partner had tried to drink a little first and try the pinch technique but it didn't help much
@@ValVal-healthyfitguru will you not fear Allah
@@ibrahimghibihisab8913 allah mere laude pe 😞
I have a question that might be offtopic but in case of PE, is masturbation and getting off too fast also falls down the same category?
What has worked for me is counting up from one and only think about your counting. Practice this without your partner. Also there is a fight or flight response to sex. Try using reaffirming messages to yourself that you want to stay in the fight (so to speak 😁 absolutely no fighting during sex, that won't work).
Count backwards......100, 99, 98 and so on....works better.
@@MenonRaghuraj ,thanks
Thining about numbers is going to kill the satisfaction for me. I can't enjoy pleasure if im not tuned in to the woman
Interesting