liz is like a refreshing morning shower, awakening us and, guiding us towards our best versions of ourselves. sab on the other hand, is like a cozy evening bath, wrapping us up like a burrito. Both possess knowledge, intelligence, and kind souls, positively impacting lives. We're incredibly lucky to have Liz and Sab in our lives. On behalf of myself and many others, we're grateful for their presence, leading us towards our best selves. Sab, I wish you nothing but the best, and I'm thrilled that you have a new RUclips channel, I love to watch your videos and can't wait for more, I look up to you so much. ❤✨
I learned that the hard way. I wish I could go back and slap me and say to myself please don't support people who use you. I was too blind , I still don't know how to comprehend that. I'm still angry with myself for allowing that . I had so much to say , but I was to scared to speak up to them . Sabi remember it's not your fault ,as an older sibling don't go too hard on yourself healing takes time .
Hey Sabina I never comment but even I have to do that now. Your videos help me so so much, thank you so much for your words. Thank you for speaking about topics I can't find the right order of words for, but need figured out so badly. The poem at the end was really beautiful! For everyone reading this; believe me when I tell you that it gets better. Have patience and it will get so much easier and better. You don't need an answer from them, a last conversation, you don't need to burst out all your anger onto them to feel better. An answer or a last talk of explosion is not what you need. I also tried to understand them, I defended them until the very end, told everyone around me how "understandable" their behavior was, that it was a reaction to my dumbass, but no, STOP blaming yourself and start seeing reality. Start sitting with the pain, the anger, the sadness, and try to let go of it. Or: hold onto it so so hard until you can't anymore. Speak about them to your friends, to yourself, write about them, think about them, cry about them UNTIL YOU YOURSELF can't hear yourself talk about it anymore, until YOU YOURSELF realize how stupid it is to cry about them still. Think about them until YOU YOURSELF get so so tired of all of it. And then let go. You didn't deserve it if you think about it. And you don't need an answer. Their behavior, the way things ended, that is the answer, and there is no excuse, there is no reason, there is no understanding for their childhood, for their experiences, for their traumas, that's no justification for any of that. It will get better. Have a blessed day :)
I need this so much it's unreal. Like it's hard to put all my problems out there but this is EXACTLY what I am going through. And I am a great example of what can go seriously wrong by letting boundaries down over empathy and then find you are getting seriously manipulated by someone acting out of other insecurities rather than love, while you are busy self-abandoning yourself to prove your love over and over. My situation is actually crazy I am going through right now and I just don't even care but to put it out there. I pushed the man near my door and called the cops because he was yelling and sabotaging me with my apartment... as if he wanted to accuse me of abuse while he refused to leave my apartment after I told him to many times because I needed a break. Because I was so upset, I called the cops out of fear of losing my apartment (which I did anyway.) and then they came and guess what they did? Labeled me the main aggressor and actually arrested me. Me. The guy is 6ft tall and didn't leave my place, and because of my behavior which literally did nothing to hurt him, I have to go to court and could of spend a night in jail. I am telling this because it is my current reality and it CAN happen. The thing you never ever would of expected and it is the biggest lesson if you don't listen to your gut or the people in your life like she is saying. It can get bad, and then it can actually get worse. Take care of yourself girls and women out there. Not enough people talk about this we are such targets in society still and it's covered up by all the other social bullshit going around distracting everyone from true feminism from all sides that we are all suffering behind curtains and closed doors. Speak up for yourself because it can ruin you.. ❤
I'm going through the same thing right now and I can't see clearly but this video is like a wake up call to put my family & friends' advice in consideration and not stay delulu.
I totally agree. Most of the time, boundaries are just common sense (like dont say or do mean things) but common sense is not common anymore. Like what happened to following the golden rule?
Sabina you teach me that there people out there like you, who are struggling the same battle, just coping differently, my coping strategy is settling..I settle a lot, I see you, you dont seem to settle, you have your own standards and that gives me hope I can do the same and hold myself up to that standard.
thank you so much sab. I feel the same. I keep blaming myself for everything, I didn't realize it was a lack of boundaries. I am going to take off my rose colored glasses now. Thank you.
Listening you kind of got me to the thought that maybe it is good to go through these types of experiences and do the mistake because it is another thing to listen others advices and went through it by yourself
I love how you girls complete each other. Liz helps me (or us) with the reality checks and you help with emotional intelligence and being gentle to our feelings, analyzing them and moving on. It’s like whatever Liz is lacking you bring it to the table, and whatever you lack Liz is also there to do the job.
Wauw.. your words reflect the exact same things I am struggling with the past few days. Even the part about thinking how other people try to sabotage but they are right in the end. It's making me look in the mirror and face my own patterns. Thank you for being so honest and open. You seeing the good in people, only shows how good of a heart you truly have.
As the oldest daughter, I feel what you feel. Thank you so much for sharing the kindest perspective like this! Hope you are getting better and stronger. Have a great day!🤗
Thank you go this video Sabine. I have been struggling to set boundaries with a friend who doesn’t act or speak in a disrespectful way but my gut just cannot be at ease with her. I think anger is actually the fuel for us to begin a new life. It is this one emotion which clearly says « NO ». The poem at the end is beautiful❤
I was terrified setting boundaries...worried that i wouldn't be liked anymore. There was a meditation book I liked called 30 Days to Overcome Guilt by Harper Daniels.
I really needed this I just talked with my toxic ex after 3 months of no contact I still need helping and kept trying to see the good in him I really needed this thank you for posting keep it going love the bg btw
I'm the older sibling in my family and I've been through hell so many times to the point that I've been mentally tired for 3 years straight now and I'm not kidding, living with toxic family has made me too comfortable arnd toxicity but I promised myself 3 years ago to never get adapted to toxicness like the ppl arnd me. I just want peace for now and will acheive it soon. I've been surviving in this hell for so many years, now god has given me an opportunity to get out of here, I'll happily grab it. I'd hv no regrets for getting out and leaving this hellish place and never coming back again. Never. Only I know what pain I've been through only I know how much of traumas and torture I've been carrying through, only I know how I've survived this far on my own and still am struggling. After 2 months I'll get out of here and will update how I feel. Thank you sab for this peaceful wonderful vdo I relate to u a lot as an older sister who's fighting to get out of her toxic family and surely I will. I love how peacefully you talk it gave me relief a kind of inner peace because my family members never talk to me in this way which is the reason I crave for peace more. Thank you sab, I hope to be the highest version of me and be the richest and wealthiest 💕
Update: I'm so happy since I finally don't hv to be in my toxic household anymore and no more toxic fights with family but the hostel I'm living in right now isn't filled with good ppl but I'm slowly adjusting to the environment and being grateful to at least get out of my toxic household and live alone, I'm learning a lot of things and hope to move out to an apartment very soon ❤ it just feels very struggling to get out of a Hella toxic place to a less toxic place and I'm getting a lots of anxiety attacks too but I know I'll be fine if I get my life together and focus on myself only ❤ love you sab and love you Liz, you guys are my biggest inspirers that I always needed in my life since childhood love u guys sm, may God bless u both and keep making videos like this so that I can be the best version of myself ❤❤❤
this video is so helpful for me to better understand my older sister, she's so much like how you explained and she can be sooo reluctant and never take a word of advice and I never really understood why does she behave this way
I have the same issue Sabina. I never listen to what people around me about a person until it's too late. The people who aren't in the relationship can see things that we don't. The poem at the end was beautiful and so relatable! I really needed to hear it. Thanks for sharing ❤
I needed this video. Setting boundaries and being scared of people not looking you after setting them is what I’m going through. But I to be honest … I rather they get mad at me than me hurting myself over and over.
I find it interesting that you mentioned being an older sibling I am an older sibling and was always labeled the smart or mature one so I held a lot of unnecessary responsibilities too and I’ve never thought of how that may have effected me until now. I always ask myself why I find it so hard to stand up for myself out of fear of being punished by a higher power. I created excuses for the way people treated me because I always felt intense need to always protect them and I think you helped me see that I am not responsible for people anymore. I feel the exact same way as you. thank you for the advice you can’t imagine the day I’ve had I LOVE YOU SAB❤️
I know how to create boundaries but what pisses me off is when they don’t listen to it and continuously overstep my boundaries and then that leads me to become anxious, especially if it’s family or people you have to work with… That’s the prob with me I have too much empathy! I’m like “that’s why they immature cuz they grew up w/o dad” etc. That’s why it’s hard for me to stop liking someone even after so much disrespect.
I didn't feel anger to anyone and I was so proud. And then I realised that my friends and family were doing things that I didn't actually like and I started being depressed and sad cause I didn't know how to react. I started to take offense at every little thing and I felt even worse behaving like this to people that i love. But the thing that helped me to set my boundaries to each relationship and do not allow people cross them. Wherever i felt anger first of all put this emotion (actually a was crying alone and listening to musicbut it really helped) and then I tried to understand by writing which border or trigger a person touched. Hope it helped someone 🤍
Thank u for video 🦋 i am struggling with my boundries and also with post anger. And latly also have similiar period of being anger or even furious in my own head and being overshadow with all of images from my past relationship . So video was just perfect to keep me remind how to manage a little better . Wish u powers and strong !!! ❤
I love your sensitivity Seb. I think for us who come from traumatic childhoods a lot of times we doubt everything to the point we isolate or we want to see the good in everyone as if we're blind. I think it's important to find a middle ground. Not everything is black and white - people have issues, we have issues, everyone has issues. I think what matters is being friends with conscious people but we also need to allow time to get to know them. I think this all or nothing is probably to protect yourself... but everybody deserves to have time to open up to you and that is some sort of boundary, right? Cause why would I tell everything to someone I don't even fully trust yet? They need to deserve your story and vice versa. Well, at least that's what I think.
as a older sibling I can relate to that and my mom gets mad at me for not setting boundaries but she doesn't realize she played a part in making me like this "because I'm the oldest" and "she's your younger sister" who I love but sometimes my boundaries are crossed and it hurts me. I'm trying and learning to set boundaries recently and it feels so hard because it doesn't feel like I deserve it.
I can totally relate as a former people pleaser. I held in a lot of resentment and anger towards myself and other people. I actually talk about this on my channel and how I’m overcoming it if anyone is interested ❤
That’s something that I really needed to watch. I really appreciate the moment that I meet you both Sab and Liz 💕 I feel so much related about your mindset ✨ Love
Notes: 1.Anger (at a person or yourself, for not doing anything) will show you were your boundaries have been crossed *Why did I accept this? * If I set all these boundaries, nobody's gonna be with me. *We always end up accepting everything, we said we will never accept (because for example: you don't want to lose somebody) *Then they keep doing it over and over again, and it becomes a habit for you. * You always try to make the situation more beautiful (It wasn't like that, they didn't mean it, they had a bad day, they have alot of trauma,I said something that made them upset....), just look at the facts. * We lie to ourselves so much (because for example: you want them in your life and then you end up getting hurt, because you lied to yourself) * If this happened to my friend or someone I care about, would I think this is normal? So why don't we apply the same rules to ourself. * another boundary: Don't tell everyone if you have a fight or a problem with someone for a while,because the relationship can get better, but the people that you told can still have that bad image of the person you had a fight or problem with. They're not gonna like them. * I don't wanna accept disrespect * When you don't have boundaries and you let someone walk all over you, how far will they go? * You feel bad for the person, but did that person actually feel bad for you? Have they done the say for you? *we keep making excuses to ourself, no. They did something wrong. *If someone is crossing your boundaries, disrespecting you, is that really a loss? *They can leave your life, but you have to sit with yourself everyday and you have to keep thinking 'I accepted this, I let them cross my boundaries,...' *Stand on your boundaries and don't let anyone cross them. *If you don't deal with reality, reality will deal with you. POEM: 22:58
but sab when you keep some stuff of the relationship from the people who care about you and when you don't have boundaries is so dangerous, yes couples do fight, sometimes big sometimes small but i think it's important to have an outside perspective nonetheless (ofc not about everything but just when it becomes dramatic) , but it matters whose perspective it is, like a therapist, your parents, siblings who are wise enough, or maybe even friends but not those who be like "leave him" right away because that doesn't help and was never a useful advice an outside perspective can either save your relationship or save you from it because we can be so blindsided when we're in it. great video thank you so much🫂❤️
i agree, i’m happy my gfs shared some stories with me cuz we were able to recognize crazy play with her and even guy trying to scam her but she was really touched by his words etc
First time I watch your video and I feel so calm and reassured, I left this video feeling very gentle in doing things such a good job I’ll watch every video much love for you💛
Whole video made me a victim of the situation. I mean, I have been through something in my past which really eats me up till today . I don't have that much of money to go to therapy. I know I have childhood trauma, I still react at every situation, I still overthink.. but you know what? My toxic parents . I don't wanna explain this .but anyway .love you from India 🇮🇳
Liz is a cold shower in the morning. Sabina is a warm bath in the evening.
sooo true
Both are good for our souls ❤
im both
couldn't be described better
FACTSSS
“Anger will really show where your boundaries have been crossed” 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
yup
5:54 anger is better than feeling numb! i’m glad you’re feeling that emotion so you can let it go
liz is like a refreshing morning shower, awakening us and, guiding us towards our best versions of ourselves. sab on the other hand, is like a cozy evening bath, wrapping us up like a burrito. Both possess knowledge, intelligence, and kind souls, positively impacting lives. We're incredibly lucky to have Liz and Sab in our lives. On behalf of myself and many others, we're grateful for their presence, leading us towards our best selves. Sab, I wish you nothing but the best, and I'm thrilled that you have a new RUclips channel, I love to watch your videos and can't wait for more, I look up to you so much. ❤✨
Yeah of Course whom i mistaken for liz
how can she know i really needed this right now😭😭
SAME 😭
Abundanceeeee❤❤❤❤ Same this video is also hitting in the right moment for me
USSSS
Same 😭😭
She speaks so calmly and lovingly...💜🎀
Can we talk about how amazing she looks 😭🩷
she’s so mesmerising like a fairy 😍
Yess i love that she also takes less filler now! Natural beauty fr ❤@@zainabali1795
I love how comfortable and warm her videos are 💗💗
I can feel your warm and magic energy through the screen 💕take care of yourself Sabina, you deserve the best
“If you don’t deal with reality. Reality will deal with you”🎤
The background really enhances your skin and your eyes simultaneously 😍🥰
I learned that the hard way. I wish I could go back and slap me and say to myself please don't support people who use you. I was too blind , I still don't know how to comprehend that. I'm still angry with myself for allowing that . I had so much to say , but I was to scared to speak up to them .
Sabi remember it's not your fault ,as an older sibling don't go too hard on yourself healing takes time .
I love how balanced this dialogue is.
RIGHT!!! I was thinking the same. She really not categorical or authoritative in her speech and it's so refreshing
Hey Sabina I never comment but even I have to do that now. Your videos help me so so much, thank you so much for your words. Thank you for speaking about topics I can't find the right order of words for, but need figured out so badly. The poem at the end was really beautiful!
For everyone reading this; believe me when I tell you that it gets better. Have patience and it will get so much easier and better. You don't need an answer from them, a last conversation, you don't need to burst out all your anger onto them to feel better. An answer or a last talk of explosion is not what you need. I also tried to understand them, I defended them until the very end, told everyone around me how "understandable" their behavior was, that it was a reaction to my dumbass, but no, STOP blaming yourself and start seeing reality. Start sitting with the pain, the anger, the sadness, and try to let go of it. Or: hold onto it so so hard until you can't anymore. Speak about them to your friends, to yourself, write about them, think about them, cry about them UNTIL YOU YOURSELF can't hear yourself talk about it anymore, until YOU YOURSELF realize how stupid it is to cry about them still. Think about them until YOU YOURSELF get so so tired of all of it. And then let go. You didn't deserve it if you think about it. And you don't need an answer. Their behavior, the way things ended, that is the answer, and there is no excuse, there is no reason, there is no understanding for their childhood, for their experiences, for their traumas, that's no justification for any of that. It will get better. Have a blessed day :)
Thank you so much for your words❤I need this so much right now you don’t even realize it (going through a breakup). Sending love
I need this so much it's unreal. Like it's hard to put all my problems out there but this is EXACTLY what I am going through. And I am a great example of what can go seriously wrong by letting boundaries down over empathy and then find you are getting seriously manipulated by someone acting out of other insecurities rather than love, while you are busy self-abandoning yourself to prove your love over and over. My situation is actually crazy I am going through right now and I just don't even care but to put it out there. I pushed the man near my door and called the cops because he was yelling and sabotaging me with my apartment... as if he wanted to accuse me of abuse while he refused to leave my apartment after I told him to many times because I needed a break. Because I was so upset, I called the cops out of fear of losing my apartment (which I did anyway.) and then they came and guess what they did? Labeled me the main aggressor and actually arrested me. Me. The guy is 6ft tall and didn't leave my place, and because of my behavior which literally did nothing to hurt him, I have to go to court and could of spend a night in jail. I am telling this because it is my current reality and it CAN happen. The thing you never ever would of expected and it is the biggest lesson if you don't listen to your gut or the people in your life like she is saying. It can get bad, and then it can actually get worse. Take care of yourself girls and women out there. Not enough people talk about this we are such targets in society still and it's covered up by all the other social bullshit going around distracting everyone from true feminism from all sides that we are all suffering behind curtains and closed doors. Speak up for yourself because it can ruin you.. ❤
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Thank you, I was so happy somebody was talking about boundaries finally. I needed this
LOVE THIS BACKROUND.
I'm going through the same thing right now and I can't see clearly but this video is like a wake up call to put my family & friends' advice in consideration and not stay delulu.
This perspective is talked about very less. Thankyou for making this video and keep making more videos. Currently binge watching your content.
I totally agree. Most of the time, boundaries are just common sense (like dont say or do mean things) but common sense is not common anymore. Like what happened to following the golden rule?
Sabina you teach me that there people out there like you, who are struggling the same battle, just coping differently, my coping strategy is settling..I settle a lot, I see you, you dont seem to settle, you have your own standards and that gives me hope I can do the same and hold myself up to that standard.
thank you so much sab. I feel the same. I keep blaming myself for everything, I didn't realize it was a lack of boundaries. I am going to take off my rose colored glasses now. Thank you.
Listening you kind of got me to the thought that maybe it is good to go through these types of experiences and do the mistake because it is another thing to listen others advices and went through it by yourself
I love how you girls complete each other. Liz helps me (or us) with the reality checks and you help with emotional intelligence and being gentle to our feelings, analyzing them and moving on. It’s like whatever Liz is lacking you bring it to the table, and whatever you lack Liz is also there to do the job.
Your heart is so pure!
Wauw.. your words reflect the exact same things I am struggling with the past few days. Even the part about thinking how other people try to sabotage but they are right in the end. It's making me look in the mirror and face my own patterns. Thank you for being so honest and open. You seeing the good in people, only shows how good of a heart you truly have.
As the oldest daughter, I feel what you feel.
Thank you so much for sharing the kindest perspective like this! Hope you are getting better and stronger. Have a great day!🤗
Thank you go this video Sabine. I have been struggling to set boundaries with a friend who doesn’t act or speak in a disrespectful way but my gut just cannot be at ease with her. I think anger is actually the fuel for us to begin a new life. It is this one emotion which clearly says « NO ». The poem at the end is beautiful❤
I was terrified setting boundaries...worried that i wouldn't be liked anymore. There was a meditation book I liked called 30 Days to Overcome Guilt by Harper Daniels.
23:18 i love the poem reading at the end it is a very good idea💞 thank you Sabina, sending you lots of love
I really needed this I just talked with my toxic ex after 3 months of no contact I still need helping and kept trying to see the good in him I really needed this thank you for posting keep it going love the bg btw
I'm the older sibling in my family and I've been through hell so many times to the point that I've been mentally tired for 3 years straight now and I'm not kidding, living with toxic family has made me too comfortable arnd toxicity but I promised myself 3 years ago to never get adapted to toxicness like the ppl arnd me. I just want peace for now and will acheive it soon. I've been surviving in this hell for so many years, now god has given me an opportunity to get out of here, I'll happily grab it. I'd hv no regrets for getting out and leaving this hellish place and never coming back again. Never. Only I know what pain I've been through only I know how much of traumas and torture I've been carrying through, only I know how I've survived this far on my own and still am struggling. After 2 months I'll get out of here and will update how I feel. Thank you sab for this peaceful wonderful vdo I relate to u a lot as an older sister who's fighting to get out of her toxic family and surely I will. I love how peacefully you talk it gave me relief a kind of inner peace because my family members never talk to me in this way which is the reason I crave for peace more. Thank you sab, I hope to be the highest version of me and be the richest and wealthiest 💕
Update: I'm so happy since I finally don't hv to be in my toxic household anymore and no more toxic fights with family but the hostel I'm living in right now isn't filled with good ppl but I'm slowly adjusting to the environment and being grateful to at least get out of my toxic household and live alone, I'm learning a lot of things and hope to move out to an apartment very soon ❤ it just feels very struggling to get out of a Hella toxic place to a less toxic place and I'm getting a lots of anxiety attacks too but I know I'll be fine if I get my life together and focus on myself only ❤ love you sab and love you Liz, you guys are my biggest inspirers that I always needed in my life since childhood love u guys sm, may God bless u both and keep making videos like this so that I can be the best version of myself ❤❤❤
Every word, every emotion, your energy...just YES. OMG the way I called out is CRAZY. Thank you!❤
I love ur calmness ❤❤ the way u speak resonates with me deeply girl❤❤❤ lots of love from Bangladesh 🇧🇩🇧🇩
❤I'm from bangladesh too
Wait are you from Italy too? 😂
so relatable!!! I get angry at people who don’t respect my boundaries even though it’s just me who isn’t good at setting them
this video is so helpful for me to better understand my older sister, she's so much like how you explained and she can be sooo reluctant and never take a word of advice and I never really understood why does she behave this way
So grateful for you . Ur timing is always PERFECT
I have the same issue Sabina. I never listen to what people around me about a person until it's too late. The people who aren't in the relationship can see things that we don't.
The poem at the end was beautiful and so relatable! I really needed to hear it. Thanks for sharing ❤
Having trouble about boundaries around my inner circle. This video is a sign 😭🫶🏻💞
I needed this video. Setting boundaries and being scared of people not looking you after setting them is what I’m going through. But I to be honest … I rather they get mad at me than me hurting myself over and over.
We love you mother❤
I find it interesting that you mentioned being an older sibling I am an older sibling and was always labeled the smart or mature one so I held a lot of unnecessary responsibilities too and I’ve never thought of how that may have effected me until now. I always ask myself why I find it so hard to stand up for myself out of fear of being punished by a higher power. I created excuses for the way people treated me because I always felt intense need to always protect them and I think you helped me see that I am not responsible for people anymore. I feel the exact same way as you. thank you for the advice you can’t imagine the day I’ve had I LOVE YOU SAB❤️
your EYES!!! they are mesmerizing
righhtt they're sooo cool
THE POEM IS SOO BEAUTIFUL WOWWWW
the poem part was absolutely beautiful and I wish you did it in every video 🥰🥰
I know how to create boundaries but what pisses me off is when they don’t listen to it and continuously overstep my boundaries and then that leads me to become anxious, especially if it’s family or people you have to work with…
That’s the prob with me I have too much empathy! I’m like “that’s why they immature cuz they grew up w/o dad” etc. That’s why it’s hard for me to stop liking someone even after so much disrespect.
I didn't feel anger to anyone and I was so proud. And then I realised that my friends and family were doing things that I didn't actually like and I started being depressed and sad cause I didn't know how to react. I started to take offense at every little thing and I felt even worse behaving like this to people that i love.
But the thing that helped me to set my boundaries to each relationship and do not allow people cross them. Wherever i felt anger first of all put this emotion (actually a was crying alone and listening to musicbut it really helped) and then I tried to understand by writing which border or trigger a person touched.
Hope it helped someone 🤍
Thank u for video 🦋 i am struggling with my boundries and also with post anger. And latly also have similiar period of being anger or even furious in my own head and being overshadow with all of images from my past relationship . So video was just perfect to keep me remind how to manage a little better . Wish u powers and strong !!! ❤
love everything about this, thank you for this meaningful reminder
Pink looks stunning on you. You look like an angel
Needed this so much! Thank you!❤ Much love from Amsterdam!
You look like an angel ❤
Girl you look so beautiful I’m literally so excited for this 😍😍 We appreciate you 🩷💐
This is so true, what you are saying ❤ thank you
she is so me I like her so much I hope she get everything she wants I want to see her smile and wining in life she have such a beautiful soul ❤
i really admire your strength and wisdom❤❤ thank you for posting agiann:)
I love your sensitivity Seb. I think for us who come from traumatic childhoods a lot of times we doubt everything to the point we isolate or we want to see the good in everyone as if we're blind. I think it's important to find a middle ground. Not everything is black and white - people have issues, we have issues, everyone has issues. I think what matters is being friends with conscious people but we also need to allow time to get to know them. I think this all or nothing is probably to protect yourself... but everybody deserves to have time to open up to you and that is some sort of boundary, right? Cause why would I tell everything to someone I don't even fully trust yet? They need to deserve your story and vice versa. Well, at least that's what I think.
as a older sibling I can relate to that and my mom gets mad at me for not setting boundaries but she doesn't realize she played a part in making me like this "because I'm the oldest" and "she's your younger sister" who I love but sometimes my boundaries are crossed and it hurts me. I'm trying and learning to set boundaries recently and it feels so hard because it doesn't feel like I deserve it.
The plants are so cute Sabin ! 🤍
I can totally relate as a former people pleaser. I held in a lot of resentment and anger towards myself and other people. I actually talk about this on my channel and how I’m overcoming it if anyone is interested ❤
That’s something that I really needed to watch. I really appreciate the moment that I meet you both Sab and Liz 💕 I feel so much related about your mindset ✨
Love
It was so good thank you I needed it, LOVE FROM TURKEY
That poem was beautiful!! Love the idea of ending a video like this
You gave me a very much needed reality check. Thankyou so so much!!!! U and ur sister both are such an amazing person. Lots of blessings.🤗🥰
Sab can I just take a moment to say that your aura is so magnetic and calm, I love your energy and vibe! your so mesmerising Mash’Allah💞💞💞💞
Yayyy!! We love you Sabrina!!❤❤
u're so pretty and the background is so so great!! thank u Sab! ly
Notes:
1.Anger (at a person or yourself, for not doing anything) will show you were your boundaries have been crossed
*Why did I accept this?
* If I set all these boundaries, nobody's gonna be with me.
*We always end up accepting everything, we said we will never accept (because for example: you don't want to lose somebody)
*Then they keep doing it over and over again, and it becomes a habit for you.
* You always try to make the situation more beautiful (It wasn't like that, they didn't mean it, they had a bad day, they have alot of trauma,I said something that made them upset....), just look at the facts.
* We lie to ourselves so much (because for example: you want them in your life and then you end up getting hurt, because you lied to yourself)
* If this happened to my friend or someone I care about, would I think this is normal? So why don't we apply the same rules to ourself.
* another boundary: Don't tell everyone if you have a fight or a problem with someone for a while,because the relationship can get better, but the people that you told can still have that bad image of the person you had a fight or problem with. They're not gonna like them.
* I don't wanna accept disrespect
* When you don't have boundaries and you let someone walk all over you, how far will they go?
* You feel bad for the person, but did that person actually feel bad for you? Have they done the say for you?
*we keep making excuses to ourself, no. They did something wrong.
*If someone is crossing your boundaries, disrespecting you, is that really a loss?
*They can leave your life, but you have to sit with yourself everyday and you have to keep thinking 'I accepted this, I let them cross my boundaries,...'
*Stand on your boundaries and don't let anyone cross them.
*If you don't deal with reality, reality will deal with you.
POEM: 22:58
but sab when you keep some stuff of the relationship from the people who care about you and when you don't have boundaries is so dangerous, yes couples do fight, sometimes big sometimes small but i think it's important to have an outside perspective nonetheless (ofc not about everything but just when it becomes dramatic) , but it matters whose perspective it is, like a therapist, your parents, siblings who are wise enough, or maybe even friends but not those who be like "leave him" right away because that doesn't help and was never a useful advice
an outside perspective can either save your relationship or save you from it because we can be so blindsided when we're in it.
great video thank you so much🫂❤️
i agree, i’m happy my gfs shared some stories with me cuz we were able to recognize crazy play with her and even guy trying to scam her but she was really touched by his words etc
The background is everything 😍 So pleasant to look at 🌸🌿
You are the big sister that I never had💓
Right timing because i just went to uni and i needed this sb
your sound was very calm i just wanted to hear it. thanks that you are working on yourself till you heal and your full moon is shining 🌑🌘🌗🌖🌕
Love you Sabina ❤ I needed you so much today 🥹
Love that poetry and the way you read it dear !
🤍🤍🤍 I love Your calm vibe 🤍🤍🤍
And Your background is pretty 💚🤍
Sabina, thank you so much for being on RUclips. I deeply appreciate your videos 🤍 thank you 🤍 plz continue!:))
I needed this, thank you ❤
Love love love ❤ Your calm vibe is everything 🤌🏻✨
You are talking to us but you are mostly talking to yourself, hope you heard it loud and clear sabina, you deserve better. Forgive yourself.❤
Loved the new background decor sabina so calming. as well as the poem at the end 🫶
beautiful background 😍😍😍
she's sooo pretty
Sab I really needed this thank you I am also like you. Love the background it’s very pretty btw 💗
the queen is back
I hope you make more videos, I deeply appreciate them, thankyou
drop dead gorgeous
Sabina is mesmerizing💗
when sabina says 'but when you love somebody' i just know that i am in a trouble a serious and real one
First time I watch your video and I feel so calm and reassured, I left this video feeling very gentle in doing things such a good job I’ll watch every video much love for you💛
She has the most beautiful blue eyes ❤❤ and beautiful lips❤
You're like a fairy 😍🧚♀️✨
Whole video made me a victim of the situation. I mean, I have been through something in my past which really eats me up till today . I don't have that much of money to go to therapy. I know I have childhood trauma, I still react at every situation, I still overthink.. but you know what? My toxic parents . I don't wanna explain this .but anyway .love you from India 🇮🇳
Thank You needed this 🥹❤️& adding poetry On end of vdo made me smile At the end of vdo Coz Im a fan🫶❤️
Hey Sabina, we love your videos please don’t delete them we rewatch the videos!!!
Sending love 💞💞
I really like your energy ❤ and background 🌟🤩🤩🤩
sometimes I find you very similar to me in the way to express, I was needing to talk ‘bout it, thanks❤
I love how she made research and everything to make the best video, she's so cute 😭🫶🏼
Thank you, I needed this right now.