How I Overcame Anxiety and Guilt | Life Advice with Justin Kan

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  • People don't talk enough about how they face their inner demons. To be completely honest with you all, I was dealing with a lot of anxiety and here is how I overcame it, one small step at a time. Watch to hear the full story.
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Комментарии • 229

  • @JustinKanTV
    @JustinKanTV  3 года назад +130

    Remember, it just takes a little step at a time over time to get out from a dark place. Keep going :)

    • @filix92
      @filix92 3 года назад +1

      Thank you friend.

    • @cuzakuru
      @cuzakuru 3 года назад

      hey justin ive got a great idea but dont even know where to start? any advice? ps love your content god bless 🙏

    • @RisaBeesa
      @RisaBeesa 3 года назад +1

      Thank you Justin. Glad to find your channel today through a GaryVee video. Your message could not have come at a better time. Thanks man. 💚🐝

    • @notJust.Daniil
      @notJust.Daniil 3 года назад +1

      Justin, your channel is exactly what I needed at the moment! Good luck with it!

    • @lokeshwarreddy8060
      @lokeshwarreddy8060 3 года назад +2

      It feels like you're directly sitting infront of me and talking to me.

  • @jensentung
    @jensentung 3 года назад +132

    When there's a new Justin Kan video, it's a good day.

  • @anushreeaggarwal7287
    @anushreeaggarwal7287 3 года назад +22

    This is so amazing and relatable. It's like Steve Harvey says, "if you're going through hell, keep going because why the hell would you want to stop in hell"

  • @jworne79
    @jworne79 3 года назад +1

    I bought a subscription to Calm and said that all I need to do now is used this everyday and I'll feel so much better. Though the answer was cutting out alcohol, cut back on caffeine, and made quality sleep a priority. I then used Calm to top it off! ❤

  • @philipman1023
    @philipman1023 3 года назад

    I wish more people would talk about the not so glamorous side of being a startup founder. Actually most of the time it's not pretty at all. It's just a lot of doubt, sacrifice and emotional swings. And hearing someone who is successful to actually say that out loud in no nonsense talk is very comforting and powerful. Thank you, Justin.

  • @oscarcifuentes17
    @oscarcifuentes17 2 года назад

    Anxiety and depression are also physical illnesses that deserve and need all the care and attention that we give to our other physical diseases. Medicine, nutrition, rest, therapy and balances (changing the messages in the Subconcious, yes! it can be done). HAPPY TO KNOW YOU ARE DOING BETTER! Yeah! for your bravery in sharing.

  • @samaysanghvi3401
    @samaysanghvi3401 3 года назад +3

    Watching your videos feels so great because you're extremely open about your downfalls and talk about stuff beyond 'hustle culture' and into emotions which I used to feel we're invalid and that I should just keep going but after finding your channel, that changed. Thank you!

  • @USMColdies
    @USMColdies 3 года назад +1

    Bro, your channel is uplifting, love the humanity in it. You remind me of Tony Hsieh with your insights on wealth and staying balanced. Wish you the best in life

  • @dannyng370
    @dannyng370 Год назад

    Thank you Justin. Meeting you on RUclips is an amazing thing that happened to me. I am going through some rough time right now and yout videos has helped me a lot. I like the fact that how you let people know all the downs that you have been through unlike only showing all the highlights in a successful person's life. This is very realistic and pratical. Thank you again.

  • @sportsguy569
    @sportsguy569 3 года назад +1

    Powerful message Justin. You shed a much needed light on depression. I'm sharing this with my close ones

  • @oscarcifuentes17
    @oscarcifuentes17 2 года назад

    I get it!!! We were rejected at an incubator because we raised $150K from our F&F!!! Seriously! Frustrating. Felt like giving up! (but then decided... nope!).

  • @em_pasin
    @em_pasin 3 года назад

    Totally agree man! Nice content, this is the story side people don't want to listen but it's the most important ingredient to run a successful life!

  • @KA-bk7fk
    @KA-bk7fk 3 года назад

    I'd love to see a video about Exec. There was German company called GoButler that tried to do the exact same thing back in 2015, and they even had a celebrity advertise and invest in it. One year later they went bankrupt, stating the reason that it was too expensive because they couldn't manage to automate as many business processes as they had hoped.

  • @kenanco.7825
    @kenanco.7825 3 года назад +1

    man i LOVE this Channel !!!!

  • @maxstatue4506
    @maxstatue4506 3 года назад

    World will get better if More people watch this

  • @kfzar908
    @kfzar908 3 года назад

    Wow, thanks so much for this - really needed it !

  • @ttn109
    @ttn109 3 года назад

    You're awesome bro!!

  • @LocalLialec
    @LocalLialec 3 года назад

    These videos are very nice, thank you

  • @vxcci
    @vxcci 3 года назад

    Blow this channel up!!!!

  • @sentralorigin
    @sentralorigin 3 года назад

    proper diet is underrated to assist in treating anxiety. try keto for a few months (no cheating!) and you might be surprised at your overall mental state changes over time (be patient!)

    • @njordheim.online
      @njordheim.online 3 года назад

      Pretty sure he's already on keto, think he talked about that in another video.

    • @sentralorigin
      @sentralorigin 3 года назад

      @@njordheim.online yes he is, but i was speaking to everyone else watching the video

  • @lucasmanea9770
    @lucasmanea9770 3 года назад

    Bro I love you

  • @mahi24able
    @mahi24able 3 года назад

    startup is not a easy path and not for everyone. glad i am not everyone !!!!!

  • @mattward5010
    @mattward5010 3 года назад

    Hey man could you talk about 3 books that help you in your start up? Would be cool

  • @mauricekowalski5470
    @mauricekowalski5470 3 года назад

    Thank you!

  • @niks1life
    @niks1life 3 года назад +1

    People are asking him why he’s doing videos? 😬
    Who are these people who are interfering with our free advice? Show yourselves! lol

  • @sully24najm
    @sully24najm 3 года назад +51

    This guy is worth over 500mil, and still sits on the ground, in an H&M tee. This is the hardest flex.

    • @muscl3n3rd11
      @muscl3n3rd11 3 года назад

      H&M t shirt are so good...really love them...I bought something like 20

    • @unabuenasemana
      @unabuenasemana 3 года назад

      That white speaker on the background though..

    • @pitchbuckets2860
      @pitchbuckets2860 3 года назад

      He sold to Amazon don’t mean he got all that money up from it could take years like Any other acquisition lol and he also advocates investing a majority of his money .... still a humble x minimal guy so kudos

    • @risingdagger5416
      @risingdagger5416 3 года назад +1

      @@muscl3n3rd11 same dude, everytime when they do a clearance stock, the t shirts are alway labeled like buy 1 free 1 or something. Always get them coz they cheap and good

    • @muhammadhamzasumbal5110
      @muhammadhamzasumbal5110 3 года назад

      Yeah. Just a $3500 bluetooth speaker on the side table.

  • @KevinYeePharmD
    @KevinYeePharmD 3 года назад +23

    Hey Justin - I just wanted to say I've been listening to this on repeat for the last 24 hours. I recently lost one of my biggest clients and feel like my life is spiraling. This video is helping me to continue the path, embrace my emotions, and get the help I need. Appreciate you so much for this video.

    • @philippezevenberg1332
      @philippezevenberg1332 2 года назад +1

      Holy fuck I know the feeling it absolutely sucks but yeah you are 100% doing the right thing, continue man!

    • @MA-zg2pz
      @MA-zg2pz 2 года назад +2

      ❤❤❤

  • @AhmetKaan
    @AhmetKaan 3 года назад +23

    *5 things to quit right now:*
    *1. Overthinking*
    *2. Trying to make everyone happy*
    *3. Living in the past*
    *4. Worrying*
    *5. Doubting yourself*

  • @bernardchan127
    @bernardchan127 3 года назад +25

    Hey Justin, Thank you so much for speaking openly about mental health and your experience. This video has really come at the perfect timing for myself. As a founder of a company in an industry that has been significantly affected by covid 19, it has been a really tough year. I am constantly unsure on what to do to keep going or to close the business down and return investments, and I feel extremely guilty because of it and find myself in a pretty bad mental state. If you are reading this Justin and you have 5 minutes to spare, I would really appreciate the opportunity to get some advice. Don't worry if not at all, but please continue to make such videos speaking up such topics.

    • @willdov
      @willdov 3 года назад

      Me too!

    • @andresbf830
      @andresbf830 3 года назад +3

      I wish you the best of luck, mate. Remember that tough times don't last but tough people do. Focus on what you control and have faith in your ability 🚀

  • @adamzaczek6342
    @adamzaczek6342 3 года назад +22

    This is a piece of legit life advice. This stuff works, there were numerous studies showing that not suppressing emotions is a great way to overcome them.

    • @Ash-of1yl
      @Ash-of1yl 3 года назад +2

      I have a question so is masturbation and porn a way of suppressing these emotions in depressed people and would quitting masturbation/porn use help at all with overcoming anxiety

    • @adamzaczek6342
      @adamzaczek6342 3 года назад +1

      @@Ash-of1yl It's not a well researched topic yet afaik. One of the better articles that sums up the research can be found here www.healthline.com/health/nofap-benefits#research.

  • @monocyte2210
    @monocyte2210 3 года назад +8

    im currently experiencing a lot of anxiety again because of work. I would cry almost everyday because of the pressure. I admire you guys because you have nerves of steel

  • @LabibYasir
    @LabibYasir 3 года назад +11

    I needed this

    • @illini81
      @illini81 3 года назад +1

      Stay strong man and try to not take anything too seriously.

  • @joernies
    @joernies 3 года назад +5

    I really appreciate vulnerability in your content - it helps us as the audience be able to relate our own experiences
    I also have a habit of pushing away negative emotions and watching your videos further motivates me to take action in resolving them. Therapy is my first step!
    Thanks for sharing

  • @RustyWrenches
    @RustyWrenches 3 года назад +10

    Back in 2013, I was working on a startup idea with a guy I went to college with. We needed some coding help, so I reached out to Kyle on a whim to see if he was interested (we went to the same high school and his dad was my banker at the time for context). I felt that this was a huge gift to have someone like this on the team to really help launch the project. Unfortunately, the other guys involved with the project had other plans, and ultimately ran it in to the ground. I felt massive guilt for the time and money that Kyle gracious provided as this project was sinking. I really stuck my neck out for these guys. It ate at me for years. Finally, I came to grips that I did everything in my power. Sometimes, as much as we want things to work out, it's just out of our hands...

    • @hanhai8515
      @hanhai8515 3 года назад

      lol was that kyle from web dev simplified

  • @SteashEdits
    @SteashEdits 3 года назад +11

    I love these videos to share “how close to a normal human being you are” with the same emotions as us despite your massive successes.
    I would sometimes feel bad about myself not being good enough compared to other successful people, but you help me realize that I don’t need to be this perfect robot that never breaks down and has bad moments.

  • @Varguitas10
    @Varguitas10 3 года назад +1

    I didn't know Justin was a member of Floor gang

  • @jancruth
    @jancruth 3 года назад +1

    Why do you say that service is the worst business to be in Justin?

  • @aaronhall9383
    @aaronhall9383 2 года назад

    Hi justin, I've sent you an email searching for advice, and on your "about me" I see that is one of the reasons you started the RUclips Channel. Would LOVE to hear back from you

  • @Girrrrrebow
    @Girrrrrebow 3 года назад +4

    Love these videos! So interesting to see the other 99%. Inspiring to see how relatable so many of your experiences are. So grounded! blesss

  • @refreshreload
    @refreshreload 3 года назад

    Extremely curious why you say service businesses are terrible companies. Can you make a video explaining why they're so bad? And maybe why they can be good? Really like your videos man!

  • @PhuShizzle
    @PhuShizzle 3 года назад +1

    Justin, I just saw your video with Joma Tech, about Twitch, and the Q & A. For a guy who has accomplished so much, you are amazingly down to earth. Just reflecting on good human quality, because that can sometimes go unnoticed. Rock on man🤘

  • @senorpaulbeanis1502
    @senorpaulbeanis1502 3 года назад

    Justin, thank you.
    Your words are a shining beacon in a sea of shit on this soul-sucking platform. Keep doing you Justin.

  • @yawillykwily7179
    @yawillykwily7179 3 года назад

    Thanks for this message, I am currently going through time. I am seeking counselling ATM, taking one day at a time.

  • @kabilbenamor9183
    @kabilbenamor9183 2 года назад

    I've been stuck for a while in loop where i need to choose between start my own startup or go get a job as i am freshly graduated as a software engineer.
    I think that im that kind of person who will turn off a job offer at a faang to pursue his entrepreneurial dream. I'm aware that I'm not improving and i couldn't even if i force myself. Im in that dark place u are talking about and i really relate to your experience and what you have been through. So, thank you for sharing. This helped me release at least some pain out of my chest.

  • @cubitme
    @cubitme 3 года назад

    Justin, are you able to give some pointers for someone like me with no coding skill/knowledge or network, but who believes in a digital product/service. Age is not on my side either. Please advise

  • @theconsciousbizdadproject3458
    @theconsciousbizdadproject3458 3 года назад +2

    That was the smoothest, fastest and most enriching 12:13 minute video I've everrrrr watched! Thanks, dude!

  • @Koato
    @Koato 3 года назад

    my outcomes are sort of fucked right now , but I'm trying to get the negative reaction part sorted and push onwards. Thanks for the video!

  • @mojoway9379
    @mojoway9379 3 года назад +1

    Great video, same boat here about therapy, just started. Always drink too much socially. Sadly there are many more vices and reality escape mechanisms I’ve developed 🤠. Currently working on them all.

  • @shannyoripova4383
    @shannyoripova4383 3 года назад

    Tell please me more about Exact. Why it was the problem? and how did you decide to shotdown?

  • @ironmonk7593
    @ironmonk7593 3 года назад +5

    Justin love the content you have been making. I wanted to say that it is so refreshing to see someone like yourself with all people dream about having the money you do, and still be humble and down to earth.

  • @Anonj316
    @Anonj316 3 года назад

    What does he mean by “don’t start service business” ? examples?

  • @周大猫-h3d
    @周大猫-h3d 3 года назад +2

    Those emotions are there always.... you can not overcome, but just cheat your brain...

  • @emilj.4766
    @emilj.4766 3 года назад +1

    You can see it in the persons eyes. Some people have eyes that feel "funny" and wrong but some have a genuine good feeling when you look at them. You have these second eyes that I have described, the way you talk with your eyes compell me to listen what you have to say. But the eyes are the first thing that attracted me to even start listening to you. Very cool and true video tho, I'm 19 and have learned this throughout my teen years. Some people live their life too fast without looking back and analyzing the acquired data. My disease taught me that everything has to have a balance. Not too much or too little of anything. Wish I learned some of these things sooner becuase it would of saved some pleasant ex relationships.

  • @HermanAtl
    @HermanAtl 3 года назад +2

    Crossover with Dr. K from healthygamergg would be amazing. keep up the great work

  • @alexanderhermes6408
    @alexanderhermes6408 Год назад

    I admire you! I like to believe you're a great human being.

  • @2010zac1
    @2010zac1 3 года назад

    Keep trying while supporting the apartheid state! you might wait for a while tho

  • @TokyoL-l6o
    @TokyoL-l6o 3 года назад +1

    Thanks Justin you’re the man, hope to work together one day.

  • @sdk3976
    @sdk3976 3 года назад

    It seems to me that making a service startup is a much better idea than a product startup why am I wrong?

  • @bc2647
    @bc2647 3 года назад

    YOU ARE THE BOMB...love you man

  • @Wildin44
    @Wildin44 3 года назад +1

    very great message. keep up the awesome content and we'll make you famous

  • @uberdrives4541
    @uberdrives4541 3 года назад +2

    I needed this today, just met my co founders for the first time and they left the same week. Pushing our product back, thank you Justin!

  • @fraqib83
    @fraqib83 3 года назад +2

    Thank you for such quality content and I really appreciate it because it makes me wanna be a better person and make a change from my current situation which is quite hard at the moment

  • @acko741
    @acko741 3 года назад

    my man lookin like Damo Suzuki in 1972

  • @dominik--
    @dominik-- 3 года назад

    needed that as buisness owner/student living in dorm :D

  • @Johnny-tz2dx
    @Johnny-tz2dx 3 года назад +1

    this is awesome validation of my own conclusions! My turning point was when i woke up one mornjng extremely anxious and, like you, instead of trying to drown it out, I simply felt it. Now i apply that same skill to other situations

  • @simarkapoor4119
    @simarkapoor4119 2 года назад

    My inner self wants to believe that you're being honest here

  • @DearestMina
    @DearestMina 3 года назад +1

    Thanks Justin for your videos! You're always so insightful

  • @miola2083
    @miola2083 2 года назад

    This was good. And helpful.

  • @oldirtyronin
    @oldirtyronin 3 года назад +2

    You're a good guy. watching some of your stuff on daily basis the last time.

  • @yellowbear6485
    @yellowbear6485 3 года назад

    hey man whos your psychologist

  • @aahsv
    @aahsv 2 года назад

    Thx JK - keep doing what you do

  • @captainjackrana
    @captainjackrana 3 года назад +2

    ​ @Justin Kàn Can you elaborate more (at 2:58) on why you have such strong views against service businesses?

    • @rovli816
      @rovli816 3 года назад

      Agree

    • @seanji
      @seanji 3 года назад

      i would guess there are just too many factors involved, making it very difficult to run the business. maybe the same reason why uber/lyft can't turn a profit.

  • @temisegun8631
    @temisegun8631 3 года назад +1

    Woow thank you Justin for this video this was so helpful

  • @vincecastillo4962
    @vincecastillo4962 3 года назад +1

    I went through some similar emotions as well. Could t get out of bed and my anxiety made me want to die. Luckily I had great help. I really wonder why services start ups are a bad idea? I’d definitely be interested in finding out and learning from the troubles you had. Great content btw, looking forward to see everything you got.

  • @00076Paint
    @00076Paint 3 года назад

    The universe is the creation not the creator.

  • @jonyeazel
    @jonyeazel 3 года назад

    Really needed this. Thanks J.

  • @andy_ppp
    @andy_ppp Год назад

    Love the honesty Justin 🙏🏻

  • @kair7406
    @kair7406 3 года назад +1

    Thank you for this, as a startup founder I'm at a stage of that same journey you went through. Hard to get up and get going in the mornings, overhanging sense of dread, but it's getting a bit better. At least this video showed that it's not uncommon to go through this as part of the journey.

  • @heyimsurge
    @heyimsurge 3 года назад

    Dam, I am where you were.

  • @erlichbachman663
    @erlichbachman663 3 года назад

    fuck me stop with the NFTs

  • @AlexanderLouizosLouizos
    @AlexanderLouizosLouizos 2 года назад

    Thanks for sharing Justin

  • @josipbolanca3424
    @josipbolanca3424 3 года назад +2

    Nice story Justin, great to see other side of the coin.

  • @LeeDaHitman
    @LeeDaHitman 3 года назад

    Dude this is a great channel

  • @MehdiGuizani
    @MehdiGuizani 3 года назад

    Yeah he is awesome. But timide

  • @Unholyspirit
    @Unholyspirit 3 года назад +1

    Overcome anxiety by selling something for 970 million $$$$. Now that's what frees one's mind, truly 😂

    • @Unholyspirit
      @Unholyspirit 3 года назад

      @Justin Kàn Holy shit you replied to me :00000000

    • @Unholyspirit
      @Unholyspirit 3 года назад

      @Justin Kàn I was making a joke btw didn't think you'd see it! You're a legend bro ty for the reply

  • @lukecronquist6003
    @lukecronquist6003 3 года назад +1

    I dread what I have to do (work, etc.) not my emotions. Working on a factory line just sucks.

  • @7kevo
    @7kevo 3 года назад +1

    Justin, my man. Thank you for sharing these stories, for telling us that we are not alone and for leveling with us. You've got a friend for life.

  • @Tapehead1
    @Tapehead1 3 года назад

    Thank you for this

  • @saraeissa4954
    @saraeissa4954 2 года назад

    I remember exec I think

  • @dipitmill
    @dipitmill 3 года назад

    This video made my day.

  • @AhmetKaan
    @AhmetKaan 3 года назад +8

    *“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending...”*
    *―C. S. Lewis*

  • @jamesgraham8414
    @jamesgraham8414 2 года назад

    this is beautiful

  • @hermanstaro9832
    @hermanstaro9832 3 года назад +1

    Whenever I see a new video, I watch it

  • @derhans2619
    @derhans2619 3 года назад

    Thanks

  • @TheLambo123254
    @TheLambo123254 3 года назад

    👍

  • @randomrandy3059
    @randomrandy3059 3 года назад

    100

  • @Freediver_72
    @Freediver_72 Год назад

    I went through a major depression in the past. I got my life back together, I got back into web development, I finally got a job. I really liked where I was working. A few weeks ago, I got laid off. I worked hard at trying to scramble to another job. No one is looking at me. A lot of the words you say in this video, I feel. I don’t drink, but if I did I imagine I would be as you described your situation. With me the anxiety is so bad I start to shut down. I want to physically hurt myself to distract from the internal pain. I don’t do it, I just want to. I start looking to study to be better so the next place I apply will love me and want me. Then I think…. They won’t see how hard I’m studying, they will only see what I haven’t done for work. I don’t have a degree, I do t do well with assessments, they won’t see what I know I can do. This is when the anxiety ramps up and I feel like I’ve already lost. I don’t want to loose my house, I don’t want to disappoint my wife. I’m scared and it’s self defeating at times.
    Thanks for the video. I know I can come back from this again, but at my age, I’m scared. I feel stupid and even more so with every rejection. I feel like I’m running out of time. I’m trying to change my mindset, but it’s hard while in this moment.

  • @noamay
    @noamay 3 года назад

    What are the problems with a service based company?... And what do you think of just keeping a company smaller in stead of becoming a big scale up company. Staying true to what align with you VALUES (maybe have a good work/life balance, which seems Impossible with a company that constant needs to grow?) is more important than showing people you can build this big corporate right? ✌️

  • @patriot7713
    @patriot7713 3 года назад

    I've been following Justin for a while. Dude seems depressed. Often after people commit suicide, friends and family say they wished they had known and offered help. Well, this is your PSA - you should check in with this guy frequently in my professional opinion.

  • @brandantang9154
    @brandantang9154 2 года назад

    Thanks Justin for sharing your experiences and covering this important topic. I truly relate to a lot of what you shared. Thank you.