Do All Virgins Think the Same? | Spectrum
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CHAPTERS
0:00 Intro
0:23 Oral sex counts as losing your virginity
1:17 I am afraid of having sex
3:20 I'm saving myself for marriage
5:56 I enjoy watching porn
7:35 I think about having sex a lot
8:57 Our culture focuses on women's virginity more than men's
10:31 Being a virgin is tied to my religion
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A Gay, Asian, Cowboy, Virgin
It's like he has a spinning wheel select his attributes :D
After he introduced himself, I legit paused the video and said these exact words. 😂🤷🏾♀️
lol
@@jordeminnis8580 haha he's cool though, a bit of a character
You saw Soul right?
Welp, there's you're answer.
Yep
" Women get shamed for sleeping a lot while male get shamed for not sleeping a lot " that is true and it is actually crazy how this works.
It’s because of patriarchal societal standards
Not really. It depends on your surroundings. While women sleeping around is definitely shamed, men sleeping around is also shamed. It doesn’t carry the exact same connotation, but its not celebrated outside of a high school or college locker room. In the real world people tend to prefer people who have a modest amount of partners and those who are over sexual tend to be viewed as having a problem.
@@stevenx399 no it’s not
@@Cheetahlover ok virgin
@Last Christmas I gave u my Fart Maybe try to look up simple biology before you go spreading lies and hurt people. A woman who is NOT turned on will be "tight" and dry just like a man who is NOT turned on will be "soft". If women got looser through copulation then women who've given birth to babies would have slapstick lips down there with a gaping hole the size of a baby's skull or body 🤡 And we both know that's not true lmao fkn ldiot
We need another round with virgins that ain't saving themselves for marriage
Yeah some people just don't want to/are not ready to have sex.
...or can't get unless it's with a stranger which they don't wanna do
ong
im not saving myself i just do not wanna have sex tbh its not something i desire or care for
Yessss, I was expecting to relate a bit with at a few of these people. Don’t even think I want to get married, just would like to do it with someone who I trust, but have trust issues
"I feel like men are more praised when they're virgins" this girls clearly has never been to the internet, or highschool or just close to any men at all
I think that this is more prevalent in religious circles where women are expected to be virgins before they marry and men are forgiven if they're not. But if they are, they get praised to the hilt for resisting temptation, which is seen to be harder for them.
In secular circles, then it's quite different.
She is near men... now
@@toomuchinformation Yeah, I also thought she meant that.
@@toomuchinformation in our religion punishment for men and women for not being virgin is the exact same. The reward for both of them for being virgin is equal. Islam says there is complete religious equality in case of sins and rewards, in case of worldly rights sometimes men have it more and sometimes women.
@@Misbah.404 But is that the way it's interpreted and practiced in the real world?
I really feel like so many people just don't realize how many people are virgins simply because they have just never been in a relationship. It's more common than you think - 27 year old virgin here.
I’m on the same boat I’m 28
So true. Especially in Millenial and Gen Z generation. There are some articles about us being "sexless" compared to the previous 2 generations. A lot of it has to do with technological advancements.
I’m 21 and never been in a relationship, makes me feel better hearing that it’s common haha because I feel like everybody my age has or is in a relationship. Makes me stress out and feel like I’m falling behind in life 😂
Same, and I kinda feel shame to tell my date that I’m a virgin now. 😂
27, never been in a relationship, not virgin.
Eventually, sex becomes a (big) part of a relationship, but you don't need a relationship to have sex, right ?!
I feel that drinking and partying is more of a factor :p
I can't even look myself naked in the mirror because i hate what i see, sometimes it's not because you are waiting " for the one ", you are just waiting FOR YOURSELF
Yes! How can you be comfortable with a completely different person if you aren't even comfortable with yourself?
"Waiting for yourself" that's a nice way to put it, yes, I feel the same way
All healthy bodies are perfect bodies. You're a mammal, not a mannequin. Focus on your health, not your appearance, and learn to love your body for it's ability to function. Your body is your vehicle in this crazy thing called life. Love it and take care of it.
okay, that is beautifuly said
How old are you?
asexual people are normal people.
there's nothing wrong with us.
yeah!!
Period
fr, why is it so hard to understand that some people just don't care???
Amen
@@maelenia I am a virgin because I am waiting for the right person. I am 60 years old.
Emmanuel has been building it up in his mind soooo much that it's gonna be such an incredible spiritual experience, I'm worried he's gonna be disappointed his first time
fr😭😭
Yeah, I feel like they will all be disappointed to figure out this is just ... an activity you can do, that's not really magical or sacred or anything.
No. The activity in and of itself have no objective value, It is all subjective. So if he believe that it is all spiritual and incredible, it will be. The same goes with marriage.
That's why he said it will get better with time.
yes the first time is horrible overall so i wouldn't save my v card for the wedding night yk
“she wants a 12 pro max and I just gotta 12 mini” lmfaooo 😭😭💀
The person that said that has a RUclips channel called iamLucid
@@qtaroe I know
@@qtaroe does he make lucid dream videos?
@@naylisyazwina6836 no
@Blackout ah then I might check the channel out, thanks
“she expects like an iphone pro 12 max and all i have is a 12 mini” LMAO 😭😭
hahahaha us fans have been waiting weeks for this line hes been teasing it on his youtube..
daboy dudus yep bro yep😂😂🙏🏼mane leaked a bit
@@daboydudus3912 facts
@@daboydudus3912 YEEEESSSS IVE BEEN WAITING FOREVER
@@daboydudus3912 LOL ive been waiting for so long for this video just to hear that line
Can we please talk about the outfit of the black woman? HOW IS SHE SO BEAUTIFUL OMG.
Omg yes!! She's beautiful
she find as he'll i won't her [ meme ] 😩🙏🏾
She needs to come here bruh
Right, i think she's gorgeous and love the outfit
Horni virgin
Can we just take a moment to commend this guy that admitted he was sexually assaulted and his bravery? No one really said or did anything. As a survivor just think it’s important & I want to give him a hug.
The “women get shamed for sleeping around and men get shamed for not” part really got me thinking where tf did that mentality come from?
Patriarchy and unregulated religion
It comes from our primitive cavemen days. Men would go out to woe woman into procreating with them in hopes of spreading their genes as much as possible - whereas woman would act as the gate keepers and pick out the best secure male to procreate with. If the woman was promiscuous and was sleeping around; she would be seen as an risky individual to get into a relationship with (less trustworthy) due to the fear that the future offsprings might not be theirs but another mans. As such, through out time (even till this day) men who sleep around a lot = “masculine/ high value”. Woman who sleep around a lot = “Slag/ low value”. Men who sleep around less “low value (viewed as someone that can’t bring much to the table as he can’t attract or secure a lot of woman)/ less masculine”. Woman who sleep around less “saint/ high value”.
because of the difficulty.
as a woman it is "easy" to sleep around. not sleeping around is "difficult", because they have to actively turn down the guys who ask them out.
on the other hand, sleeping around for men is "difficult". you have to put in effort and be proactive. not sleeping around is "easy" for men, because if you dont try, noone is gonna approach you. you just get left alone.
i realise that easy and difficult arent the best words for it but its not my native language and i cant think of better words.
i also realise that this is very generalising and there are certainly exceptions.
Biologically, males should try to put their genes into as many females as they can. Females, however, have to choose the best option, cause they can’t conceive with a bunch of people at once as males can.
@@lucyairapetian407 honestly we are so far removed from actual nature, your take i find to be not really applicable to humans. other mammals, sure.
The guy with the white shirt looks like his microphone keeps falling off and that his thumb was bleeding and that he has a 600K+ subscriber channel and would make a video on this
This video brought me over here too. Lol
yeh i know rightt
Same
I feel that
When did he pull out the cards
“so women get shamed for sleeping around and and men get shamed for not”... so true,,, its really sad
I am a virgen because I am waiting for the right person. I am 60 years old.
@@juanpedro4083 thats cool bro, im jus saying its sad how if ur a male then other males will talk down on you because you dont sleep around with girls and if ur a female that sleeps around you get talked down on when the male gets appraised for his actions.... its jus sad
Let's start shaming men who sleep around too.
@@reizayin no, i dont think you quite understand what i mean by what i said
@@Balance-OG- People SHOULD be shamed for make horrible life decisions.
"I run away because I'm scared of men..."
Same Sara, same. GIRL, you're not alone
Yep the androphobia is real
In our hyper sexualised society we should normalise speaking about virginity. Thx Jubilee
for real
True, but I think we should also learn to talk about sex and not in the way that it's happening now: girls should do it as little as possible and boys should do it as much as possible or else they're not masculine
@@iamLucid yooo you’re the dude in the video
@@aspannas what no, sex is still a taboo topic, and women get slutshamed way too much for doing the same as men
@@stefvnbrssl8601 I read your comment wrong apparently, I thought you said the opposite.
Never in my life have I seen a gay, Asian cowboy
Edit: does not mean I’m homophobic you fools
He's so xool5
COOL
very common , just different race and country
do you think he was influenced by brokeback mountain ?
@@Fatelvis2 who's that
I’m still a virgin and I’m fine with that but I just hate the fact that my mom jokes around a lot about me being a virgin and it hurts my feelings that my own mom is not supportive at all
That's totally not okay. She should be supportive.
My mom always says that it's because I didn't find the right person, and that I'm still young. I'm 20 ans I never felt the desire of having sex and never felt any attraction to someone
@@sugaga9840 And that’s perfectly fine. I can relate to you as well 😊
Sorry bro 😢
My mum jokes that she’ll never have any grandkids because me and my sister have both never been in a relationship. We’re only 19 and 16 tho
damn when he said he just wants to mean something to someone i felt that
"I think men are praised when they are virgin" What world are you living in?
Never been praised or made fun of for being a "virgin". Nobody makes a big deal out of it in real life honestly. The word virgin is kinda ugly tho just a random thought.
We get clowned on and some women want nothing to do with us. Apparently hooking up with a virgin is a lot of work
@@antoinealez12 Well the woman who doesn't want to be around you or have sex with you because your a virgin doesn't sound like a fun oerson anyway.
@@wildrain8602 "Nobody makes a big deal out of it in real life honestly" then you still haven't experienced real life I see. With girls, there are some guys crazy about getting their hands on a virgin, so they're praised for it (one chick even sold her virginity for a million; to me, going through all that to sleep with a chick who'll just be in pain the entire time is...wack). But with guys, majority of women do NOT want a virgin dude. There's already a lot you have to measure up to (penis has to be of a certain length and of a certain girth, and no matter what some say, you'll always be compared to other guys who came before) but if your stamina, endurance, and motions/stroke-game are all weak (which they will be if you're a virgin since it's literally your first time) you get ridiculed for it. Bonus points if you have no idea wtf you're supposed to be doing in foreplay.
Not saying there aren't some understanding women out there who'll help you improve and "graduate", but the general consensus is that if he can't satisfy you, he isn't worth it. And don't even get me started with how other guys will make fun of you for it if they find out. Still a virgin myself btw (not that it matters). Not saving myself for marriage or anything...I just haven't found anyone I actually want to get *that* intimate with yet, and I'm in no rush.
@Halbinoni that's so true and it's deeply disturbing to me how no one adds religion as a reason.
i love how everyone is respectful about each other’s views, why can’t people be like this all the time
People tend to be leagues more respectful when they talk face to face with someone who holds a different view. I wish this was the case on social media.
They're infront of a camera, ofcourse they will be.
Because not all people are the same.
Because all these people have mainly the same views, obviously they won’t disagree much
Cuz these people do have IQ and especially EQ
I love how this group of people had the most willing to change their opinion based on the points others brought out. They really listened to each other to hear not to respond.
Crazy to me that people think you can have sexual chemistry with anyone just because you married them
fr cause like what if you guys just cant connect sexually (which can be discouraging in a relationship) and then you realized maybe they werent the one.
@@saraantowan2881 well I would either don’t have sex if you’re ok with it or figure out how you can enjoy it together
@@chasesnightmares yea ig but for a lot of people they have a sexual desire so not having it can be hard, plus having it is good for you. It relieves stress! So yes i agree they could maybe try to figure out how to make it work.
@INFJ 4w5 yea thats a problem too, it personally would want a love relationship and a sexual relationship as well because both play big parts in a relationship. To mr personally having a sexual relationship rn in my relationship doesnt matter to me because im still young. But yea i get that, and i dont think its ok but for some people they like that ig so who am i to judge.
@INFJ 4w5 And thats ok too.
My guy emanuel has been hyping up this marriage longer than marvel built up thanos he better not get divorced in 3 months...
No way he gets divorce
😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂
Even I’m hyped for it now lol
LMAO LITERALLY
I just dislike the fact that as a straight man who is a virgin, people either call you gay (knowing there’s gay people in relationships open or not) or an incel, I’m not a creep who hates women.
i think gay people have way more sex than heteroes, it shouldn't be an insult
@@sebastianbech2391 im 20 gay and virgin so idk about that im kinda saving myself
Incel means in-involuntary cel-celebate. Involuntary celebate means you are involuntarily not sexually active so you struggle to find someone to have sex with even though you want to have it
@@bobthebuilder6412 yeah, but as often, people change meaaning of the word - now it's about can't get laid and hate women for that (and incel community not always helping with that misconception). Just like feminism became about defeat pathriarchy more, than about equal rights.
@@Matyunkin technically defeating the patriarchy is seen as equality to them. But you are right an Incel is someone who can't get laid, yes mostly for their sexist and toxic views
definitely one of the best episodes, everyone was so respectful & looked at the different perspectives without criticizing
when i was young, i was very hyped up about the idea of saving myself for marriage but in the process of growing up i realized that virginity is only expected in women and some parts are forceful. i remembered when i learned about that i was like" why?"
and now at the end of the day if your partner truly loves you then they won't care if you are a virgin or not
@@hildab.h6112 yh
This crowd is not diverse, there are a lot of people who are virgins for other reasons not just marriage
Like what
@@iEatGophers some people have no interest in sex, some are waiting for the right person, some have medical issues like vaginismus, some are anxious and can’t deal with physical contact. There are a lot of reasons
@@ifyogbue2629 i think most virgins are still virgins because they just don't find anyone.
@@leprechaunishableit sounds really mean. Lose virginity is not the main goal for some people and that's it
Yes I agree, but maybe it's not Jubilee's fault for not finding more options but simply because the people who signed up were in this range and were available
Shoutout to the virgins who were just never in a relationship and focus on their career and or/studies before finding a partner.
Sexual transmutation
Thank you 😍
same, just focusing on grad school and self improvement overall
@@pjswag2118 yktv
I’m wondering where this idea that sex would interfere with any of that comes from
Loving someone is not always about physical contact. You can love somebody unconditionally without having to touch or see their body. that's what I firmly believe in.
This is so true
Love (particularly romantic) is so overrated.
_It's just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed._
- Rick
This goes for men and women. If anything, relationships are a major hindrance. They act as shackles when you try to make progress in your life, they cost too much money, and you're bound to get into messy drama because your partner is a shackle that you can't escape easily. Just stay single, both men and women!
Very true! There are so many ways to show love that don't involve touching someone :)
Bro every time I am just waiting for Emmanuel to speak. His voice is just so calming and has that “perfect” deepness and the way it echoes around the room, calms my soul down
My guy Emmanuel was choosing his wife right then and there
For reals
Lol
How did you guess that??
@@_sadaf_ why do you think he asked that girl if she gets asked out often? hes obviously attracted to her lol
@@Lizlemonbuthotter926 🤕🤕I didn't get that🥴🥴
I wish they would have found a more balanced group, including more people who weren't waiting till marriage
My thoughts exaclty
How would they know until they do the experiment? They probably prefer to go in blind from a data perspective of the general populous.
it’s not like they knew
They don’t know peoples answers to the question until they ask during the video. so this is the best they could do
@@colorfulcodes pretty sure they did know before hand
It's the feeling from both partners and the bond you two formed that you've never had before
I was a virgin til I got married, as was my husband. I was a month shy of 33. 14 yrs married and sooo glad I stayed true to my faith.
Everyone: "I am a virgin cause I am waiting for my marriage"
Me: *not waiting and still a virgin*
Ssame
im virgin because i choose to be ........thats a lie, no one wants me
Same, just don't want to lose it to the wrong person.
Yes i mean wtf is this video not a representation of average virgin at all. Average virgin is a dude who was either very unlucky or didn't have confidence to approach girls.
I can relate
“Women are shamed for not being a virgin while men are shamed for not.”
That is 100% true
You just said the same thing
“ Women are shamed for being sexually active opposed to men being shamed for being a virgin.”
are shamed for being so"*
@@Showmaann You ODing
@@naylisyazwina6836 nah It’s the opposite, I think they just messed up and added not at them end by mistake
I feel like the sample here was too like-minded, i highly HIGHLY doubt that the majority of virgins are waiting for marriage or abstaining for religious reasons
I'm 23 and i lost my virginity last year, not because I chose to stay a virgin, it just never happened before that
35, I'm an atheist, don't much care whether I'm married or not it if happens, and partially refuse to now because I don't want children.
@@JoshuaRWorkman Joshua, look up vasectomy.
I'm 19 years old and the reason I haven't lost it is because it hasn't happened yet, pretty much. Same thing w like first kiss and stuff
Imagine how society could be if we accepted virginity as something like if you've gone swimming at the beach or the like. We need to shut down the idea of pure/impure that's associated with these type of things.
In part this is due to religion considering the act to be sacred. It's very damaging.
As somebody who's still a virgin at 21, I honestly feel no pressure to have sex. It's my life, it's my body, and I'll do it when I feel comfortable. If someone wants to shame me for that, I think that says more about them than it does about me.
Preachhhh
Let me guess, you're a woman? Because women get to choose when and how they have sex. Men don't really have the same options.
Yeah it sounds like you're a woman. A lot of guys unfortunately have much more pressure to have sex.
@@lawrencelim9331 yeah as a girl I can understand the guys perspective. I remember seeing some ppl talk about how many girls do they have sex a day & they put a huge number when in reality they never did lose it
@@IamMortui I'm a dude actually, but I am trans so it's not the same experience as someone who's born male, I'll give you that.
The problem is people and society in general making such a big deal out of SEX
Well it is a big deal
@@amandadarkwood535 why? or like,,, how, could you explain this alittle bit more
@@anot3468 um you could literally create life with it and you can also spread a lot of fatal diseases through it. It’s also about morals. Are you the kind of person who wants to sleep around devoid of any real feelings or have meaningful relationships
@@amandadarkwood535 He means big deal as in the more social aspect.
Being a virgin is seen as a sign of someone being socially inept or someone who is not mature or secure with them selves, but sex doesn't matter because it *does not mean* that you are any of those things.
It could very well mean the opposite, someone could also just be so secure with them selves they don't feel like they have to reach a social milestone to be respected by themselves or others, or neither of those things or tons of other things. Having sex is having sex.
Mostly in American rap culture
24 year old woman..Never been in a relationship and virgin.. then all of a sudden parents wanting you to get married..them asking random people to look for a groom for u, even after u said u don't want to get married.. that's what I am going through right now..
I hate arrange marriage now .. I'm an Indian.. people expect you to find a partner in less than one month,get married and then expects you to get pregnant within a year (definitely not everyone)
Yes, I’ve learned about girls being forced to get married with a man.
I’m so sorry for you, feel better.
You weren't mishandled dude...you were molested. Stop protecting the perpetrator.
yes!!
Maybe he feels uncomfortable saying molested?? Makes it more real?
@Waldel Martell of course it's easier but that's the problem. It's borderline denial that protects the perpetrator.
@@BigEvan96 maybe he’s still not ready to fully acknowledge it. Let’s respect his time
@@elenacornejo2577 I already came to terms with it. I said it because I thought it was more appropriate in my case to say it since it wasn't like violent or blunt or whatnot.
It happened during jr. high when I was struggling with coming into terms with my sexual orientation, not to mention being bullied real bad for being "gay" along with growing up in a homophobic family. I was struggling real hard I had no one to confide to.
It was done against my consent so I knew something was really wrong back then but I then relented because I thought the bullying and stuff would go away but of course it didn't help whatsoever.
Don't worry about me y'all. I'm doing a-okay. It happened a long time ago so there isn't much I can do right now.
Bold of Jubilee to think that Im a virgin, kpop fan, marvel fan, and asmrist
Ikr
You lost me at kpop
I mean it's what she likes
@@niceasf7038 then i dont think u are this nice, but anyways take care of urself hooman-
@@AridetothemuseumFtknj Stan black men/people instead.😅😅😅
imagine saving yourself for marriage and never getting married
It can happen of course
Yes there are lifelong virgins by choice. And there are asexual people who never have sex either...
In my country its a thing and over 11 millions of women die single
@@ninayasmine6074 where are you from ??
I don't understand this way of thinking because dude its an act on 2-5min or whatever and they kinda talk if it its an act of 7 days and in my opinion they think way too much about having sex with the "chosen" person fr.
Can we just give a special shout out to Mathew?
I feel he felt extremely vulnerable being here, and the fact he came out and did this was really courageous.
A lot of respect to Alex and his 1000 days, that can be difficult
I'm not saving myself for marriage or a "special" someone; just never had the chance with anyone
Male or female? Or other?
@@nefsartdigital9317 Male
I am a woman but me too!
You're still choosing to not have that chance (in a way), though. We all should be able to choose when and how to practice our sexuality.
Yeah me too, weird feeling huh
Too many virgins saving themselves for marriage in this video. I'd like to see more spectrum, like ace people, people who haven't had the opportunity, people who actually want to but didn't, etc.
You won't
Many of them just didn’t want to admit that they hadn’t a relationship or the opportunity to do it so they said they’ll wait until marriage. That’s my impression.
@@AbuAnonymous They could have just said that they're waiting for the right person idk why it has to be marriage
I follow the category of someone who haven’t had the opportunity yet
That was me! I was in two long term relationships (6 1/2 years and 2 years) where I wanted to obviously but didn’t just because I wasn’t mentally ready and I was lucky to be with partners who respected that
This is the best episode of spectrum I’ve seen. Everyone is so respectful and sweet 🥺
Thinking of the woman who said she was afraid she'd be awkward when having sex, sex can definitely be the most gloriously amusing and awkward thing. I've certainly giggled my fair share of times and sometimes an amusing situation just makes it more fun :D
quite disappointed almost everyone’s saving themselves for the only one ‘special’ who you’ll marry. cause I wanted to see the side where you’re just afraid of intimacy, you’re insecure or you never happened to be in s3x relationships (but all your friends did tho)
Exactly
Yeah, the casts are always like this, very homogeneous. They need more diversity when they cast.
Same. I'm a virgin, but I am definitely not saving myself for marriage.
Everyone’s in love with an idea of love that will never come.
Keep in mind that only the most confident ones would want to join in on the discussion and get filmed. The rest probably wouldn't even apply.
I’m 22 and I’m not afraid or saving myself or anything, I think I just haven’t found a person who makes me feel the want to have this moment yet.
This is exactly how I feel I just couldn’t find the words to describe it.
So... You're saving yourself
@@pedrosousa720 “saving yourself” is usually a religious thing
@@starberrysweetee1495 ohh, gotchu my bad
Same, I’ve not felt comfortable with anyone to do it yet. I’m 21💕
my boy lucid making a point up there lets gooo
For me, I get the why it can be scary. not just the act but the risk that comes with it. Like I'm 21 and only learning about what HPV is this year, and like 80% of the population has it, it isn't curable, and can cause cancer. On top of that, things like child-bearing and child birth are scary and there's risks to that, and yeah you can wear condoms but apparently condoms actually CANT protect you from everything, and they can break, or some people will literally try to slip it off during sex (according to stories and shared experiences from women who have had sex) like the entire concept of intimacy is just terrifying when you think about all the risks that potentially come with it.
Would've liked to see more than just virgins waiting until marriage. Like people who are asexual or afraid of intimacy, etc.
Yess! I thought a couple of em would be asexual or atleast on that spectrum ya know?
Yeah I couldn't relate to them :(
as an asexual i agree! personally i apply to both, i am and asexual who happened to be afraid of any form of intimacy even if its kissing, hugging, or even holding hands. i remember in 9th grade a boy in one of my classes asked me out and i wasnt too comfortable but wasnt able to say no due to the small social anxiety i had. he kept "teasing me" many times after i told him i wasnt comfortable and at one point he wanted to have sex with me (take note that i was 14 at the time) i barely knew the guy and kept telling him no. i started avoiding him at school and ignored his messages but he still pressure me into sending nudes and sadly i wasnt in the right mental state and complied. i repeatedly told him I didn't want to send the pictures or have sex (when he clearly knew the fact that im asexual) and luckily my parents are strict enough to not let me out whenever i want to. he eventually got bored of me and i was able to actually say no to him when he wanted my attention again but that totally fucked up my mental state, confience, and ability to commit. i have to admit that i was always drunk with the idea of love that i was so focused on the idea of someone and not the actual person. this was an eye opener that took months to process and im still not over it but now im completely afraid to be with anyone, especially men. luckily im queer so i dont have closed options with romance but they are limited knowing that a lot of people wouldnt want to date an asexual afraid of physical affection.
@@lali9946 asexual spectrum!
@@lali9946 danggg i feel really bad for you :( you’re a really strong person and you deserve love just as anybody else -another ace
Male and female virgins certainly don’t think alike.
Definitely not
Most were pretty similar in the questions asked tho
Ok I like talking about this:
Males and females are different biologcially.
Not only physically but also mentally, and both can be linked to evolutionary biology.
We have evolved to be very conscious creatures, so conscious we are able to suppress our biological nature, not all of it because that's impossible, but we can.
And we have evolved to such an extend where producing progeny isn't a question any more about survival but voluntariness/willingness.
@@tibodeclercq2131 Um, are you forgetting there are more than just 2 genders?
@@aus-li He's talking about sex, not gender
I agree with Emmanuel about the not being scared part. I lost my V when i was 24 and up until then the very thought gave me anxiety, and as time passed by it just got harder to give in (even when I was in love or i thought i was) then i met my first. He was my best friend. The moment we slept together for the first time-i tell you no fear whatsoever. It felt right, it felt natural, safe. So don’t you ever think that you are paranoid if something deep done is sending you signals or you think that something is wrong with you. When you know-you know trust me. All in its own time. 💛
This is actually interesting, normally when I fit in with the group in the spectrum videos I feel like my opinion is usually represented pretty well, but I honestly feel completely different than a lot of the people here...
Like, I’m a teenager, bisexual, and atheist, so my virginity is seemingly completely different than any of the people in the video... it’s just that I have such bad anxiety that I can’t get in a relationship with someone else without fixing myself first. I mean, even then though, casual sex or FWBs seems fun outside of a romantic relationship... I just haven’t had the opportunity yet.
Just don't it's harmful
I would have liked to have more different mindsets, the fact that most of them are waiting for marriage doesn't allow the video to show other perspectives that I think are very important to consider and would have been interesting to hear about
You should checkout Alex’s (the No Fap guy) channel - iamLucid
That might give you what you’re looking for
Agreed
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Some people don't feel comfortable with themselves or their situation in life, and I feel one perspective that was left out was some just don't feel ready and would rather wait for a time when they're looking or find something more serious.
Definitely. This group is romanticizing sex and that’s the only perspective.
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Ayyy v card gang also at 7:40 look how lucid walks that little stroll that's cute bro poor lucid my man waked the wrong direction 12:30
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10:00 wow the amount of comprehension it went into that was amazing. Thanks Jubilee for spreading the word about what needs to change in our minds
Emmanuel knows exactly why he asked Sara that 😂
I don't feel like this has a good representation of the "virgin-spectrum". Most of these people didn't have sex because they are waiting for marriage. I'm 25 and a virgin. I wouldn't mind having sex, but I feel like there hasn't been a good opportunity. I have commitment issues, so I need to have trust with someone before I do anything. Most boys I've encountered where like 'let's meet up and go straight to bed'. And I don't work like that... I may need to go for a coffee or sth before, so I can get to know the other person and gain trust (like a few of dates, not a full relationship nor anything like that). Furthermore, I went to a school with the same people from the 3 years old 'till 18, so I didn't get to meet a lot of boys. And in college, 95% of my class were girls. So... cue to today, with zero experience with boys.
90% of what you said is my life lol
Yeah I need to trust someone before feeling comfortable having anal sex. It's not even about having a relationship with them, but I just need to know that they're emotionally mature about sex. I have done oral though, because it felt less intimidating to me.
Omg! I'm 25 too and its crazy how my situation is quite similar to yours. Happy to know that there's nothing wrong with me 🙏🤣
I get what you mean😔
I’m a 24 year old grown woman and though I was the only one who had this situation. I feel so glad to actually read ur post and not be weird about it :)
I don't like how virginity is talked about like something "lost". Why not think about sex as a new experience you've gained?
Because many people equate it to a 'loss of innocence' since it's an 'adult' activity. Not saying that's right or wrong, but that's just the impression I get.
@@ed-nd3lw yeah but you also don't say 'I have lost sex'
@@aprilsummers6447 I think he meant "I lost my virginity"
Losing something isn’t necessarily bad. It’s like losing weight, it depends on the context and whether the person wants to “lose” it or not.
@@ed-nd3lw People call it a sexual debut. I really like the term.
Emmanuel is the most based person ive seen on this show. He a definition of a real one. Hope a finds a great wife and family.
Agreed! 😊
Not the Expedia ad before this video playing a parody of All By Myself by Celine Dion with the lyrics “ALL BY YOUR SELF” going across the screen in CAPS💀😂
Anyone else that wants another version but only with people not saving themselves for 'the one'?
Same. I was a virgin not by choice for a very long time and was disappointed I didn’t see someone like me on here
Would be cool as well. But there’s a difference between “the one” and “a right person”(just someone who you feel comfortable with and can trust), and we had a couple of those in this vid
yeeeeeeeees
Those are called incels
@@skyeshelton2886 Nah man there are normal people that just haven't had sex in this world.
Pov: you're from iamlucid's vid
Edit: thanks for all the likes
yep
I don’t understand why he was so embarrassed😂 He didn’t really do anything wrong
yeppp me
Few minutes ago lol
you got that right
This one was definitely the best episode ever I would definitely watch this again
THIS HELPED ME A LOT
What the black girl said about having a fear of men because she grew up with a lot of young mothers who lost their way in life is sooo real. I didn't realize so many other women especially black women had the same experience. Growing up poor, a lot of my family and peers either got pregnant early or had their future destroyed by a dude and I'm just too ambitious to end up as a statistic so it made me pretty much fear men. I wonder if this is a real trauma in communities, I didn't question it until now whether other young women went through this.
Shame, I hope you realize there are many amazing men out there as well but I suppose this fear is not really a choice 😢 I hope you find happiness
Just because you’re a young mother doesn’t mean your future is ruined…
@@AmalSaidi123 True, but it can be considered a major setback if you aren’t ready to be a mother, whether it’s mentally or economically.
@@AmalSaidi123 I understand that, but that is the perception and usually what black families tell their kids to keep them from having sex. Its basically indoctrinated into you. Also, for low income families having children at a young age sets you back decades from your goals compared to those more privileged. A child can be a blessing, but if you don't have the funds to take care of it, it can build a lot of resentment and abuse from the parents towards the child, which a lot of black families have issues with.
@@acemarshals3211 Thank you, now that I'm older I realize that so I'm trying to date and feel comfortable around guys, but it's hard when you lived your whole life feeling like you would be a failure if you don't get out of the ghetto and as a woman you know getting pregnant or having someone try to control you makes it even harder.
am i the only one who is just afraid of being naked😂😂😂
Same even if I am alone
@@Kiara-zo5vv lmao😂😂😂i feel u
Bruh that’s me as well! Except it also includes being afraid of performing terribly and also because I haven’t met a dude that I’m into yet.
Oh my gosh SAME looool
I just keep my shirt on ngl 😂
I was a virgin until 22 and had my first time with my current boyfriend (been dating almost 3 years now) and I don‘t regret waiting (which wasn‘t really a choice, i just never felt the desire to sleep with anyone before my current boyfriend), neither do I regret not being a virgin anymore. I think the most important part is that you do what feels right and don‘t let yourself pressure into anything, but also don‘t let yourself pressure into NOT doing something.
1:38 MY GUY‼️✊🏾
I love this dude’s energy 😂
The "save yourself for someone special" virgins are not indicative of all virgins. I'm a virgin because I don't put myself in situations where I will lose my virginity. At the age of 23, I've only been on dates with 3 different girls in my life, but I've never bothered to commit long enough to get anywhere near sex. I've never been bothered with dating, relationships and sex because I'm more concerned finishing my postgraduate degree. Being in a relationship seems more like a distraction than a benefit for me since I don't really need other people to keep me entertained.
I think the same but the difference is that I'm not studying 😂😂😂
I'm the same way. I didn't date in high school, and when I got to university I tried to, cause I thought that was what I was supposed to be doing. I didn't really care for it and the "relationships" never got past the second or third dates. I would just stop cause I had other things I wanted to focus on more. Now that I am out of school and working, I still don't really have the desire to date. I would rather focus on making lasting friendships. And I know that you don't need to be in a relationship to have sex with someone, but I'm personally not interested in that type of dynamic.
Just admit that no girl wanted to sleep with you instead of justifying yourself in front of random people that didn't asked for it lmao
@@nirash8018 lmaoooo fr. some people think they are so superior because they are studying instead of having sex. Sex takes like 2 minutes sometimes ..it’s not like you can’t have sex and study ??? 😭😭😭
@@nirash8018 Nah, my guy. I know who I am. The point is I haven't tried because I never really cared. Keep in mind that, in my original comment, I'm excluding the girls I haven't actually dated who liked me, but it never amounted to anything because I never bothered to follow it up. So, saying no one wants to sleep with me holds no weight.
Now, I'm going to assume that you are intellectually impaired and can't see past the "hurr durr virgin is ugly and can't have sex" argument, so I will not engage you further because I have made my point. Thanks for playing!
I'm not afraid of having sex ...its just that the lack of self confidence is not there to be infront of someone....
Same Here!
Honestly
Relatable
This, I feel like if I had a bit more confidence it would be far less of an issue.
Same
The heart beats😭😭😭
7:40 lmfaooooo Lucid’s walk.Ii love this guy he’s so honest
I don’t believe having sex is the “rawest form” of oneself. You can connect with someone on a mental and emotional level way deeper than sex ever could.
@@Jordan_Dossou everyones experiences are different. its just interesting to hear a virgin's take on sex. Most of them have the wrong idea of what it really is.
@@Jordan_Dossou "I don’t believe having sex is the “rawest form” of oneself. You can connect with someone on a mental and emotional level way deeper than sex ever could"
yes but connect ALL of that WITH sex. That's what he means. You are connected in every possible way. Which is what he meant.
@@kva5751 Just because you have sex with somone does not mean you connect mentally and emotionally.
@@Grinchthanksgiving did I say that? Point me to where I said that. I said , when you connect ALL of it (key word there, "all" ) that is the rawest form which is what he meant.
I thought there’s be someone who is asexual on here, not just one person being offended by the idea of asexuality...
I think it's just that they thought the only reason to be virgin is being asexual therefore since they aren't, something is wrong with them.
@Precious Pomerleau Wait how can you enjoy sex and be asexual ?
@@mukundachaudhary1923 asexual is the lack of sexual attraction, which is looking at someone and thinking “i would like to have sex with them” you may not want to specifically have sex with them but you can still enjoy it
Literally why can’t they have a little bit of representation I swear they’ve had people on who were ace before
Yea same I’ve had so much chances to do it, but sex doesn’t really interest me it feels dirty. Like germ wise like. Who knows where people’s things have been
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This was a wholesome and productive discussion. Nice to see virginity in a positive and healthy light for once. Feels like the culture demonizes it needlessly nowadays
Where are my virgins who aren't saving themselves for marriage at??
I'm not religious at all (an atheist actually) and don't care who I lose it to but no one has ever asked me out so I've never had a chance LOL
Edit: I didn't mean to start any discussion about religion, I just stated my lack of religious beliefs to show that there are virgins of many kinds. Please be respectful when replying to others.
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kinda looked forward to this but was disappointed seeing most of these people are virgins by choice, specifically because they're saving themselves. Like the comments show, there's also many people who are virgins because sex scares them or maybe they're not even interested in it at all (asexuals). Personally I am because I just haven't had the chance to. I'd say I'm a rather sexual person and don't fear sex but I'm scared of social interaction and that makes getting to know people well enough for anything to happen rather difficult. I wish, especially cause virgins are often shamed for not having had sex yet, that these conversations didn't just center around people who are virgins by choice and proud of it, but include people who just haven't gotten to it and might feel insecure about it too. Women are definitely often shamed for sleeping around but from personal experience there's also judgement if you haven't at all. Maybe it's because I'm surrounded by friends in relationships, but I constantly get questions about if I've finally lost mine - and especially since I'm bothered by that fact I haven't myself, those questions frustrate me even more. These type of discussions lowkey make me feel more abnormal because they make it seem like all virgins are virgins cause they chose too. Honestly it's no stress, I'm only 19 and I know many people who've lost theirs much later, but well insecurities
I agree with you 100%, I'm in the exact same position. I'm 21 and still haven't gotten around to it. It is not at all uncommon for people our age to be not-by-choice-virgins and we should definitely normalize it.
Thank you for sharing your perspectives
I agree with you too. I’m 27. I get along with guys great but when I feel things starting to become more serious, I tend to shy away from them because I’m trying to protect myself from getting hurt emotionally. Because of that, I’ve never had sex.
And I basically want to have sex with someone I love. I’ve never been in love yet because I’m too protective of myself, but once I fall in love I will have sex. I’m not waiting till marriage though.
Feeling the same. I'm already 22 almost 23 and the current situation in the world is making it even more difficult for me. I'm just a very shy person in general which on the bright side is getting better as I age.
Well I’m also 19 and I’m not asexual or anything but I don’t want to have sex ever... I’m weird I guess
everytime Niki talks, you can hear her heartbeats
Love the honesty & self respect
Was Emmanuel low key hitting on the beautiful black girl or is it just me 😅
I thought so too 😭😭
Well who would not hit on that :)
@@BBRAIN1977 her*
She looks mixed
Cause we tryna figure out how she single, she a baddie 😭
came after the video of the guy talking about him messing up a scene
Put some respect on that boi lucid
Same, Lucids vids are great
he largely exaggerated tbh
@@ashroberts1549 that’s what you do for a check, gotta make things interesting!
Emmanuel was the coolest dude. The kind of homie that would always be down to help you.
Whenever niki speaks you can hear her heartbeat
"Someone suggested I might be asexual and I took offence, it made me feel like something was wrong with me." "Everyone feels sexual desire." Jubilee, it might be the right time to do a vid on asexuality.
Glad someone said it. That really hurt to hear as an ace. They thought they were broken when thinking they could be ace? I am in no way broken as I am, but I am now empowered and comfortable in my skins
@@0ExpectTheUnexpected 👏
yeah them talking about feeling offended when someone asked if they might be asexual and making it sound like asexuals are broken made me annoyed
Yesss! They need a video on asexuality, I've recently realized that I am one.
@@0ExpectTheUnexpected Did you get hurt by someone else's experience? Jeez
I’m not waiting for “the one”, I’m just terrified of intimacy. I was bullied and sexually harassed by one of my male classmates, and throughout my childhood my dad was always very aggressive towards me. I just developed this instinctive fear of men, so the thought of having to be vulnerable enough to have sex just makes me flinch
😫😫 I’m so sorry that happened to you.
Same!
I’m so sorry to hear that. I hope you are able to find the healing you need to move forward and find healthy intimacy and connection. ♥️ Love from an internet stranger.
@@tyreebrownart @Libby Thomas
Thank you
I'm sorry to hear that. My mother went though a similar thing. What helps her is to talk about it to someone she really trusts, whoever that may be, whenever she needs to. Ultimately she was able to work through vulnerability and trust and found my dad. You can too! God bless you :)
I'm eligible for this conversation and it's frustrating to see a conversation happening where you're totally eligible to take part in but just couldn't
We need more conversations like this
everybody is waiting for "the one" or for marriage but i wish someone would talk about how they're insecure to take that step. I'm only 20 but every single relationship I've been in, I've been pressured to have sex to the point where the thought of having sex makes me uncomfortable and insecure. When I tell my boyfriends I'm not ready or I want it to be more romantic, they get annoyed and we eventually break up. Everytime a guy starts talking to me, I immediately get nervous and close myself off because I'm worried they will leave me once I give them sex. So it's not that I'm necessarily waiting for "the one," it's that I feel like once I give it up, I'll just continue to be used. Anyone else? ):
oh sweetie, im so sorry to hear that you went through that... i hope that you recover from that and learn to become more comfortable. Remember NO ONE should pressure you into doing something you don't wanna do! You do you hun
Don't be depressed. You are doing the right thing. If a guy really loves you he will wait till marriage. Don't allow yourself to be used by others sexually or otherwise. Best of luck.
@@lilgypsy3764 aw thank you ):
Omg. You read my mind. I'm not gonna say that I did not give in. But you said is sooo true to the point I can't talk to boys without thinking that they only want this thing. It's emotionally tiring... 😂😂😅
You're completely valid! What those people did to you is not OK and you deserve so much better than them! :)
25 year old virgin here i thought i was alone😭also this virgin crowd needs to be more diverse cuz not all virgins are virgins JUST cuz of religous reasons.
same. im 18 and virgin, not cuz im religious but because ive never had the chance
What are you about 3/7 people said we're Virgins because of their religion. You talk as if like it was 7/7
Only 3 out of the group were waiting for religious reasons tho. The majority werent
same Iam almost 24 atheist amd I just havent been that close with someone.
Agreed
8:18 Literally blew my mind, this guy is walking further along the same life path as me 🤯 Thanks, channelling addictive energy into beneficial energy is so valuable! 🙏
thats lucid aka Alex from the RUclips channel IamLucid
His name is iamLucid on RUclips, he makes incredible videos about NoFap and self-improvement. I'd truly recommend his channel if you enjoy that type of content.
This made me feel less alone. Thanks jubilee.