I love getting out of the house with my little one because I find I can be much more present with her that way. If I’m at home, I feel myself being pulled towards ‘being productive’ by keeping house, etc. When we’re out and about, it’s just me & her. No dishes. No laundry. No phone. No distractions. I feel more relaxed, and find pockets of rest. The days we stay at home all day are always the hardest!
@heyshayla You’re an amazing mom, don’t be too hard on yourself. Chatting with moms while spending time together is important for your children to see. You’re modeling what being a friend is, so many people our age are lonely and isolated. Your kids will benefit from learning social skills from watching you be a friend to others!!! It’s very important, you spend PLENTY of time talking to your little ones, relax and ENJOY adult conversation. I love your quirky grin zoom in haha!!
My saving grace for motherhood and pregnancy is going into my backyard, or just getting outside in general. My backyard is totally baby proofed, so I can just let my toddler run around and pick up leaves, dig, etc. Meanwhile I get to work on crafts, network for my job, or chat on the phone with friends. I am not an outdoorsy person, I suffer from all the allergies, but my son loves being outside and I know if he's in his element I can relax and not have to entertain him so much. And if the mess stays outside, I can just give my child a bath, and then the rest of the house stays pretty clean.
@granesperanza6478 we had to come up with a temporary solution on a very little budget, so we ended up getting a doggy play yard enclosure off Amazon we could just stake into the ground. We paid less than $200 and set it up in 15 minutes. It isn't a long term thing, but it will keep our toddler happy for another year or so without me chasing to keep him out of the street while I am in my 3rd trimester now and soon postpartum
Getting out and about literally saved me with my first born. It took a while to build up the confidence to do it, because I'm a planner and need to know things like, is there parking, do they have AC, is there a bathroom, are there high chairs etc what I discovered was that I am a cafe coffee person. Now my son asks if we are going to a cafe most weekend and enjoys the experience with me. It's wonderful!
Yes! I always bring pjs and toothbrushes and bedtime books with me for afternoon activities or going out to dinner. We change them at the restaurant, at friends’ houses, family, outdoor places, etc. I can’t tell you how many times parents say to me, omg that is such a good idea, wow. 😊
Bringing the pjs, pull ups etc with us to dinner at the grandparents has been a game changer! I’m with you Shayla, I’m an experience person too and need to get out of the house with the kids 😅 and it’s a plus that we make less of a mess in the house that way 😂
My husband wants to do a staycation this winter break. I’m already miserable 😆. Something about not being in my own house, but in an Airbnb is FREEING. If I don’t see the to do list, it doesn’t exist. He promises we will still get out every single day. I will report back 🙃
I totally get that! For me personally, when we did a staycation last week it felt way more like a vacation than an actual vacation because my kids' routine wasn't thrown off and I had help all day long. I could get to bedtime and not feel completely exhausted.
I love getting out of the house when it’s warmer to go do stuff. We live in northern Michigan where winter hurts your face, so most of the winter season I try to stay close to home and let them play in the yard. But I do agree, going out and meeting and chatting with other moms recharges me. Being pregnant with twins this winter is going to be tough but I’m so excited for spring and summer. I also have stashes of extras in the car and just bring full bags of snacks when we go out. It’s way easier to not have to shuffle things back and forth all the time.
Yes! Getting out of the house is how I survived motherhood with my first 3 babies. I don't go out much anymore because my kids are older, we have added more kids and we are homeschooling but getting out of the house was wonderful in the beginning of motherhood.
Oh tooootally. With my newborn and one and half year old, we were out of the house every day. Park, splash pad, YMCA so I could work out. Now that my baby is 6 months and on a solid nap schedule we almost never leave the house lol. And I once again enjoy it. Have had to learn there’s seasons for everything!
I love getting out of the house!! Those are our best days. I feel so trapped in the house. I relate to only talking to the moms at the mom play dates. But also having that commiseration/friendship is so nice.
Right up my alley! But I have a full-time job, I'm also studying, and it's not my partner's preference. He's fine with only meeting people anywhere (at home, outside). I'm into doing new things, going to new places, travelling, outdoors. It's a lot of work, but I enjoy it a lot. Even before my daughter was born. Find all the weird stuff available to do - I've probably done it. Sometimes, I manage to convince friends to come along so my hubby gets happy, but I wish I had more chances to do these things.
definitely im the same - need to get out the house even if ive had a couple of hours sleep- and my baby (9month old) is def more chill but also more stimulated when we’re out and about .. BUUUUT I am so disorganised so our days are super haphazard and sometimes I end up doing the same thing lots of times cos I didnt make a plan eg I spur of moment tried taking bub to the museum but it was shut so we end up falling back on going to the same playpark again! So im def gonna do what you do and write down a list of stuff I can do with her! Thank you for this, this is the kick up the ass I needed! 🙏
Suburbia has so many playgrounds where we are. We could go to a different playground every day for a month. We’ve tried so many of them. And different kinds of playgrounds serve different purposes. I realized in the past couple months that going to the gym satisfies part of my big feeling of I want to go do something. I have never been a gym person but closing in on 4 years of being a mom and I definitely want to be a gym mom.
I love getting put of the house in the morning, but I'm exhausted when we get home (pregnant with out second). So we'll usually go out just a few mornings a week instead of every day. That way I can get some housework done the days we are home and not feel overwhelmed 😅
I love getting out of the house and balancing it with time at home! I love working out so for the first two years with my son I took him to the gym probably 6 days a week in the morning so he got to play with other kids/ socialize and I could prioritize my “me time” and then after his nap we always got out for a walk in the afternoon! I loved that rhythm for us!
We go to parks all the time! Moved up to brainerd lakes area to get out of the cities and have slower, quieter, safer life. Still trying to cope with far fewer amenities but I do love it. Realizing I dont need everything available to live a joyful life. And my kids have a great life!
I just appreciate you so much. ❤ Thank you for being honest and then always putting it back in the realm of: “know your kids; know yourself; do what’s best for you and your family”. I could probably talk a lot more about that, but that’ll do for now. ❤
Yes, very much an “experience” mom, and so is my kid. Always sleeps so much better after an outing, gets the energy out, learns new experience. We even did it while I was pregnant with #2, which was not easy at all, but definitely helped. Had my list of “easier” activities to do with him during that time. A couple videos back, you were rating difficulty on transitions between kids, saying 2-3 was hardest, would you still agree now that you are 3 months in? I have met many moms that say 1-2 is hardest but after that it’s easier, and I always wonder how, because I know more kids=busier life!
I do love getting out. It helps my mental health, makes me not feel like trapped inside, exploring is so fun. Some of the obstacles to that is for sure food (I’m pregnant and starving all the time while also having dietary restrictions makes this soooo hard). The first year of life changes ALL THE TIME!! I just realized we can’t go to the lake for a while till my 9mo gets out of the crawling/ put everything in his mouth phase bc it’s just not fun at all. Even though my 4 year old could play with the sand and water for hours. It does feel like I’m missing out on a break if he naps in the car/ in the stroller while we’re out. And it also can be mentally exhausting to be watching your kids in the wild so intensely (running away, other people, environmental dangers etc). Other than that I love it 😅 One video I’d love to see from you is motherhood and invisibility. What about motherhood suddenly makes us (feel) invisible?? I understand inside the home yes much the work goes unnoticed. But outside the home too
Hmmm interesting, this one got me thinking. I would say you’re more focused with what you have in front of you than what other ppl are seeeing/thinking of you so you feel like they don’t notice you? Idk I love this wuestion
I totally identify with you 😆especially after reading the child whisperer that I’m you recommended! I feel like it’s so much easier to get out of the house with kids even though I may be more physically exhausted after. So it sounds weird to my husband, but I can’t explain it to him where it makes sense. But I’m that go-go-go type as well.
I would love to see a day in the life if you're open to doing that!! You make me feel not alone and like I don't have to have my ish together all the time 🤗
It’s really whenever I can fit it in. I’m not an every day journaler but usually when I need to solve a problem for myself or make a change. I made a guide for it actually! Heyshayla.com/guide
I'm definitely a go out mum. Struggling with my second as my oldest is in school so we have a deadline to be hoke for which puts the pressure on. Much easier firstbtime round when time didn't matter. 😊
This is my first time here and I love her!! I too believe being out and about is better than staying home … you are interacting with people vs dishes lol
I love your advice. It has helped me so much settling into motherhood. And now only 15 months into it I have found my groove 🎉 I am extremely grateful to your channel amongst other things for that ❤ Might even get the guide to further that transition
Amazing!!!👏👏👏it took me about three same, closer to two years. I remembered thinking after a couple of months that I shouldn’t feel the way I did, like I should have had it figured out by then 😅
I feel like you are me. I hate being in the house, I get out every day with my toddler and baby. It is hard getting out but 100% easier once we're out. I try to prep as much food snacks, bags etc the bight before. When you said about going to a different neighbourhood, I rotate all the parks in my city so I have something different to look at and then often go to a cafe nearby, kills a good few hours!
So interesting thanks Shayla. I realized that I try to take my kids out and about when I have them at home, to give them a variety of experiences. But, I realized that somehow my toddler doesn't recognize this as time doesn't with me. For that, she needs cuddles and imaginative play
I think having my third changed my personality 😂 I'm such a homebody. Usually, I would say "things feel crazy, so we need to stay home" but with three, if things feel crazy, we all need a change of scenery. I will always choose playing outside on our own property or having friends over instead of going out, but I'm more eager to go out places now that I have three under three 😂
I was JUST thinking of you last night when I was struggling to put both kids (3y; 9m) to bed by myself 🙃 I can relate to a lot of the husband FOMO because of the shift work. I’d LOVE a video about solo bedtimes. It’s my least favorite right now.
I prefer to stay home most of the time but going outside or walking to the park is something we do on most days as well! However, going to the zoo or all the things you mentioned does sound exhausting to me! 😅 But I do like to plan activities at home to keep my toddler entertained. So some days we do crafts, other days it’s science experiments etc. I made a list ahead of time kind of like what you do for outings except mine is for activity ideas!
I feel both: trapped in my house and crazy outside. I am personally book reader, artsy, journaling, slow gardening person. My 2 yo is active gymnast, who is in throwing phase right now and have a tendency to run away. 😂
Hey! Did you know that LMNT was recently found to have maltodextrin in their electrolytes? Which unfortunately means it does have sugar, and not just stevia in it.
@@Arnirien it’s not so much what maltodextrin is, but rather it is a cheap sugar additive and this company claims that it has no sugar added to their products.
And also those of us who choose to avoid highly processed ingredients, maltodextrin is not great. 😬 Wheat, potatoes and corn especially are highly processed with added gums, preservatives…etc which are overall not great for your health. Hope this helps!
I'm a home-body and I personally hate the go go go. Like you said, I am the person that that would just drain me. Im still trying to figure out what makes me more happy while mom-ing. I'm also exclusively pumping for my 2nd baby which it's a whole other job and takes up lots of my day. Going out is more difficult because of this too.
@heyshayla yes winter is so much harder to get out! Bundling everyone up takes so long especially if we're spending time outside, I almost always regret my decision after 30 minutes of trying to get out the door
I am currently 29 weeks pregnant with my second and before becoming a mom I worked outside the home, enjoyed being out and about. However since becoming a mom I want to go outside with my toolset but I don’t have the same desire as I did before especially since becoming pregnant again.
Thoughts on baby proofing?? Going a little crazy just with one. Amazing curious toddler gal… my instinct is to close up and secure everything but also want her to explore. We have a yes zone in the basement but the whole house feels overwhelming to baby proof so it’s not a constant battle
I have days out and days in because I get overwhelmed and tired easily but I do mother better out of the house but I need to be home to care for my home and not have laundry and dishes piled sooo 😅😭
I've loved your bangs by the way. They really suit you! I've been debating getting them myself. Every new video of yours I re think it and then eventually talk myself out of it 😅 do you use any specific styling tool or something to make it low maintenance?
Water + blow dryer to get them into place, I started using something to protect them from the heat. And then if I want some curl either a straighter to curl them or the curling iron! And sometimes a baseball hat haha you don’t have to everyday
Also to add to the car, picnic blanket and travel high chair (for when your youngest can sit up) I always have snacks but turning snack time into an activity aka picnic is always exciting for the kids
My spouse needs to get out when he's with our child.. I dont absolutely need to, but she seems to be better after her needs for stimulation is met so we go..
Random question, but you don’t seem to have the top lip melasma you had with the other babies. Did you do any treatment for it or just didn’t show up this time? I still have mine after 10 months and really want it gone! Thanks!
Can you make a video on how to deal with tantrums? My 2year old is really starting tantrums & refuses to apologize or pick up what she threw. And im lost 😅
Yes! The best advice I can give is connect and sympathize with whatever she’s throwing. Good inside is a GREAT book for this phase. If you google heyshayla tantrums you’ll see a video I made a while back. Sending you so much patience is sooooooo hard and frustrating
Ok moms, in this cold weather what do you do if your toddler REFUSES to wear shoes?? I want out and about but I can’t let him be cold like that. Help plz 😬
Pssst about LMNT. :( I just learned that they are hiding maltodextrin in their "natural flavors." Such a disappointment. Thought you should know since you're hippy granola like me. I can't support them anymore and I'm so sad about it.
9:55 also I realized that for me this stage isn’t “hard” because of the lack of independence but rather the “playful defiance” I guess? Like the 3 yo thinks it’s funny to actively fight getting clothes on. My entire day is spent getting her to do stuff she “doesn’t want to do,” ie get in the car, get out of the car, get dressed, shoes on, getting to the fun place, leaving the fun place, etc etc etc. this is why I’m exhausted.
I love your content! ❤ but sometimes it seems as though you speak in such a way as to convey you are really stressed. Which it totally understandable with three littles! But maybe something to consider when putting out content on YT? Just a thought, I love your channel! 😊
We live out in the country so going out isnt easy, BUT we get invited to go out twice a week to a preschool near us and they let my girls play who are not old enough to be there full time and I get my community there 🩷
I was JUST thinking of you last night when I was struggling to put both kids (3y; 9m) to bed by myself 🙃 I can relate to a lot of the husband FOMO because of the shift work. I’d LOVE a video about solo bedtimes. It’s my least favorite right now.
I love getting out of the house with my little one because I find I can be much more present with her that way. If I’m at home, I feel myself being pulled towards ‘being productive’ by keeping house, etc. When we’re out and about, it’s just me & her. No dishes. No laundry. No phone. No distractions. I feel more relaxed, and find pockets of rest. The days we stay at home all day are always the hardest!
I relate to that too
"I don't even know what I like anymore" is such a relatable mom feeling
@heyshayla You’re an amazing mom, don’t be too hard on yourself. Chatting with moms while spending time together is important for your children to see. You’re modeling what being a friend is, so many people our age are lonely and isolated. Your kids will benefit from learning social skills from watching you be a friend to others!!! It’s very important, you spend PLENTY of time talking to your little ones, relax and ENJOY adult conversation. I love your quirky grin zoom in haha!!
Okay this is the mindset shift I needed!!!! THANK YOU
My saving grace for motherhood and pregnancy is going into my backyard, or just getting outside in general. My backyard is totally baby proofed, so I can just let my toddler run around and pick up leaves, dig, etc. Meanwhile I get to work on crafts, network for my job, or chat on the phone with friends. I am not an outdoorsy person, I suffer from all the allergies, but my son loves being outside and I know if he's in his element I can relax and not have to entertain him so much. And if the mess stays outside, I can just give my child a bath, and then the rest of the house stays pretty clean.
We're working towards this. Thanks for the inspiration. A lack of fence and half a yard of poison ivy is all that stands in our way 😂
@granesperanza6478 we had to come up with a temporary solution on a very little budget, so we ended up getting a doggy play yard enclosure off Amazon we could just stake into the ground. We paid less than $200 and set it up in 15 minutes. It isn't a long term thing, but it will keep our toddler happy for another year or so without me chasing to keep him out of the street while I am in my 3rd trimester now and soon postpartum
I am a combination of “I need/want to be home, in my space.” & “If I don’t leave this house I will lose my mind.” lol!
Getting out and about literally saved me with my first born. It took a while to build up the confidence to do it, because I'm a planner and need to know things like, is there parking, do they have AC, is there a bathroom, are there high chairs etc what I discovered was that I am a cafe coffee person. Now my son asks if we are going to a cafe most weekend and enjoys the experience with me. It's wonderful!
I looooove this!!
Yes! I always bring pjs and toothbrushes and bedtime books with me for afternoon activities or going out to dinner. We change them at the restaurant, at friends’ houses, family, outdoor places, etc. I can’t tell you how many times parents say to me, omg that is such a good idea, wow. 😊
Bringing the pjs, pull ups etc with us to dinner at the grandparents has been a game changer! I’m with you Shayla, I’m an experience person too and need to get out of the house with the kids 😅 and it’s a plus that we make less of a mess in the house that way 😂
This was a “yeah I can do that” video for me lol. I’m 9 months into being a mom of 3 & I swear going outside daily helps so much 😅
My husband wants to do a staycation this winter break. I’m already miserable 😆. Something about not being in my own house, but in an Airbnb is FREEING. If I don’t see the to do list, it doesn’t exist. He promises we will still get out every single day. I will report back 🙃
I totally get that! For me personally, when we did a staycation last week it felt way more like a vacation than an actual vacation because my kids' routine wasn't thrown off and I had help all day long. I could get to bedtime and not feel completely exhausted.
@ that’s great! I can see that being a benefit for sure.
I love getting out of the house when it’s warmer to go do stuff. We live in northern Michigan where winter hurts your face, so most of the winter season I try to stay close to home and let them play in the yard. But I do agree, going out and meeting and chatting with other moms recharges me. Being pregnant with twins this winter is going to be tough but I’m so excited for spring and summer.
I also have stashes of extras in the car and just bring full bags of snacks when we go out. It’s way easier to not have to shuffle things back and forth all the time.
Yes! Getting out of the house is how I survived motherhood with my first 3 babies. I don't go out much anymore because my kids are older, we have added more kids and we are homeschooling but getting out of the house was wonderful in the beginning of motherhood.
Oh tooootally. With my newborn and one and half year old, we were out of the house every day. Park, splash pad, YMCA so I could work out. Now that my baby is 6 months and on a solid nap schedule we almost never leave the house lol. And I once again enjoy it. Have had to learn there’s seasons for everything!
I love getting out of the house!! Those are our best days. I feel so trapped in the house.
I relate to only talking to the moms at the mom play dates. But also having that commiseration/friendship is so nice.
Right up my alley! But I have a full-time job, I'm also studying, and it's not my partner's preference. He's fine with only meeting people anywhere (at home, outside). I'm into doing new things, going to new places, travelling, outdoors. It's a lot of work, but I enjoy it a lot. Even before my daughter was born. Find all the weird stuff available to do - I've probably done it. Sometimes, I manage to convince friends to come along so my hubby gets happy, but I wish I had more chances to do these things.
definitely im the same - need to get out the house even if ive had a couple of hours sleep- and my baby (9month old) is def more chill but also more stimulated when we’re out and about .. BUUUUT I am so disorganised so our days are super haphazard and sometimes I end up doing the same thing lots of times cos I didnt make a plan eg I spur of moment tried taking bub to the museum but it was shut so we end up falling back on going to the same playpark again! So im def gonna do what you do and write down a list of stuff I can do with her! Thank you for this, this is the kick up the ass I needed! 🙏
Suburbia has so many playgrounds where we are. We could go to a different playground every day for a month. We’ve tried so many of them. And different kinds of playgrounds serve different purposes. I realized in the past couple months that going to the gym satisfies part of my big feeling of I want to go do something. I have never been a gym person but closing in on 4 years of being a mom and I definitely want to be a gym mom.
I love getting put of the house in the morning, but I'm exhausted when we get home (pregnant with out second). So we'll usually go out just a few mornings a week instead of every day. That way I can get some housework done the days we are home and not feel overwhelmed 😅
I LOVE your videos! Such good and honest advice ❤
I love getting out of the house and balancing it with time at home! I love working out so for the first two years with my son I took him to the gym probably 6 days a week in the morning so he got to play with other kids/ socialize and I could prioritize my “me time” and then after his nap we always got out for a walk in the afternoon! I loved that rhythm for us!
Omg that sounds like a dream!!
We go to parks all the time! Moved up to brainerd lakes area to get out of the cities and have slower, quieter, safer life. Still trying to cope with far fewer amenities but I do love it. Realizing I dont need everything available to live a joyful life. And my kids have a great life!
Omg what a dream!!!
I just appreciate you so much. ❤
Thank you for being honest and then always putting it back in the realm of: “know your kids; know yourself; do what’s best for you and your family”. I could probably talk a lot more about that, but that’ll do for now. ❤
Yes, very much an “experience” mom, and so is my kid. Always sleeps so much better after an outing, gets the energy out, learns new experience. We even did it while I was pregnant with #2, which was not easy at all, but definitely helped. Had my list of “easier” activities to do with him during that time.
A couple videos back, you were rating difficulty on transitions between kids, saying 2-3 was hardest, would you still agree now that you are 3 months in? I have met many moms that say 1-2 is hardest but after that it’s easier, and I always wonder how, because I know more kids=busier life!
0-1 was my hardest but this is harder for me than 1-2 but it’s because my kids are very still dependent on me and I’m so intense as a mom lol
I do love getting out. It helps my mental health, makes me not feel like trapped inside, exploring is so fun. Some of the obstacles to that is for sure food (I’m pregnant and starving all the time while also having dietary restrictions makes this soooo hard). The first year of life changes ALL THE TIME!! I just realized we can’t go to the lake for a while till my 9mo gets out of the crawling/ put everything in his mouth phase bc it’s just not fun at all. Even though my 4 year old could play with the sand and water for hours.
It does feel like I’m missing out on a break if he naps in the car/ in the stroller while we’re out. And it also can be mentally exhausting to be watching your kids in the wild so intensely (running away, other people, environmental dangers etc). Other than that I love it 😅
One video I’d love to see from you is motherhood and invisibility. What about motherhood suddenly makes us (feel) invisible?? I understand inside the home yes much the work goes unnoticed. But outside the home too
Hmmm interesting, this one got me thinking. I would say you’re more focused with what you have in front of you than what other ppl are seeeing/thinking of you so you feel like they don’t notice you? Idk I love this wuestion
I totally identify with you 😆especially after reading the child whisperer that I’m you recommended! I feel like it’s so much easier to get out of the house with kids even though I may be more physically exhausted after. So it sounds weird to my husband, but I can’t explain it to him where it makes sense. But I’m that go-go-go type as well.
I would love to see a day in the life if you're open to doing that!! You make me feel not alone and like I don't have to have my ish together all the time 🤗
Heyshayla will you post a video on how you journal? Like when do you do it during your day, how do you do it? What do you use. That kind of thing!
It’s really whenever I can fit it in. I’m not an every day journaler but usually when I need to solve a problem for myself or make a change. I made a guide for it actually! Heyshayla.com/guide
I'm definitely a go out mum. Struggling with my second as my oldest is in school so we have a deadline to be hoke for which puts the pressure on. Much easier firstbtime round when time didn't matter. 😊
However I prefer to not meet others. Just me and the kids is just fine 🙂
This is my first time here and I love her!! I too believe being out and about is better than staying home … you are interacting with people vs dishes lol
She's hilariously relatable. Welcome! I hope you stick around. I highly recommend watching her other stuff.
Everytime I watch you you give me a whole vibe 😂😂😂 ofc our names are the sammme 😊 so it makes since 😂 thanks for the tips
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I love your advice. It has helped me so much settling into motherhood. And now only 15 months into it I have found my groove 🎉 I am extremely grateful to your channel amongst other things for that ❤ Might even get the guide to further that transition
Amazing!!!👏👏👏it took me about three same, closer to two years. I remembered thinking after a couple of months that I shouldn’t feel the way I did, like I should have had it figured out by then 😅
I feel like you are me. I hate being in the house, I get out every day with my toddler and baby. It is hard getting out but 100% easier once we're out. I try to prep as much food snacks, bags etc the bight before.
When you said about going to a different neighbourhood, I rotate all the parks in my city so I have something different to look at and then often go to a cafe nearby, kills a good few hours!
So interesting thanks Shayla. I realized that I try to take my kids out and about when I have them at home, to give them a variety of experiences. But, I realized that somehow my toddler doesn't recognize this as time doesn't with me. For that, she needs cuddles and imaginative play
Way to be so in tune!!!
I think having my third changed my personality 😂 I'm such a homebody. Usually, I would say "things feel crazy, so we need to stay home" but with three, if things feel crazy, we all need a change of scenery. I will always choose playing outside on our own property or having friends over instead of going out, but I'm more eager to go out places now that I have three under three 😂
I was JUST thinking of you last night when I was struggling to put both kids (3y; 9m) to bed by myself 🙃
I can relate to a lot of the husband FOMO because of the shift work.
I’d LOVE a video about solo bedtimes. It’s my least favorite right now.
I have one!! RUclips “heyshayla solo bed time” patience is the name of the game
Yes, I am that mom that keeps a calendar of events & list of annual passes and "want to go" places saved in Google Maps to go places every day.
Lol the snack bag 😂 I used to do little bento boxes too and now it's put it all into one bag 😅
Kk I purchased my spirit animal’s guide! 😂 I’m excited to have been in the first 100! Thank you Shayla for your time and effort in this!
Yayyy!!!!!!! I would LOVE to hear what you think and your take aways!!
I prefer to stay home most of the time but going outside or walking to the park is something we do on most days as well! However, going to the zoo or all the things you mentioned does sound exhausting to me! 😅 But I do like to plan activities at home to keep my toddler entertained. So some days we do crafts, other days it’s science experiments etc. I made a list ahead of time kind of like what you do for outings except mine is for activity ideas!
Omg this might be my saving grace for the winter!! A list for INSIDE! So simple yet I hadn’t thought about it haha thank you!!
I feel both: trapped in my house and crazy outside. I am personally book reader, artsy, journaling, slow gardening person. My 2 yo is active gymnast, who is in throwing phase right now and have a tendency to run away. 😂
Love it! Have to at least go outside for a walk every day. These kids need to breathe fresh air haha
Yeeeeeeeah thanks for some of the tips.
Hey! Did you know that LMNT was recently found to have maltodextrin in their electrolytes? Which unfortunately means it does have sugar, and not just stevia in it.
Hmm no, thanks for the heads up! Im going to look into it!
Wait what's wrong with maltodextrine? Starch from wheat/corn/potato doesn't sound so bad? Curious to learn!
@@Arnirien it’s not so much what maltodextrin is, but rather it is a cheap sugar additive and this company claims that it has no sugar added to their products.
And also those of us who choose to avoid highly processed ingredients, maltodextrin is not great. 😬 Wheat, potatoes and corn especially are highly processed with added gums, preservatives…etc which are overall not great for your health. Hope this helps!
I'm a home-body and I personally hate the go go go. Like you said, I am the person that that would just drain me. Im still trying to figure out what makes me more happy while mom-ing. I'm also exclusively pumping for my 2nd baby which it's a whole other job and takes up lots of my day. Going out is more difficult because of this too.
Totally and now that my baby is 6 months and it’s winter getting outside is way harder
@heyshayla yes winter is so much harder to get out! Bundling everyone up takes so long especially if we're spending time outside, I almost always regret my decision after 30 minutes of trying to get out the door
I am currently 29 weeks pregnant with my second and before becoming a mom I worked outside the home, enjoyed being out and about. However since becoming a mom I want to go outside with my toolset but I don’t have the same desire as I did before especially since becoming pregnant again.
Thoughts on baby proofing?? Going a little crazy just with one. Amazing curious toddler gal… my instinct is to close up and secure everything but also want her to explore. We have a yes zone in the basement but the whole house feels overwhelming to baby proof so it’s not a constant battle
I don’t baby proof everything. Only things that are truly unsafe
I have days out and days in because I get overwhelmed and tired easily but I do mother better out of the house but I need to be home to care for my home and not have laundry and dishes piled sooo 😅😭
I was temporarily off the idea of three but somehow you’ve caused it to stir up again 😂
Oh no!! 😂😂😂
Have you considered releasing these recordings on your podcast? Would love to listen to these on the go
The RUclips videos?
I've loved your bangs by the way. They really suit you! I've been debating getting them myself. Every new video of yours I re think it and then eventually talk myself out of it 😅 do you use any specific styling tool or something to make it low maintenance?
Water + blow dryer to get them into place, I started using something to protect them from the heat. And then if I want some curl either a straighter to curl them or the curling iron! And sometimes a baseball hat haha you don’t have to everyday
Same, same, same!
Also to add to the car, picnic blanket and travel high chair (for when your youngest can sit up) I always have snacks but turning snack time into an activity aka picnic is always exciting for the kids
Genius!!!
I like to get out of the house but idk how you get all the chores done besides that. After i leave and come back im beat
My spouse needs to get out when he's with our child.. I dont absolutely need to, but she seems to be better after her needs for stimulation is met so we go..
Random question, but you don’t seem to have the top lip melasma you had with the other babies. Did you do any treatment for it or just didn’t show up this time? I still have mine after 10 months and really want it gone! Thanks!
Nope it just didn’t happen this time! I’ve heard vitamin c serum can help. I was using it so maybe that?
Can you make a video on how to deal with tantrums? My 2year old is really starting tantrums & refuses to apologize or pick up what she threw. And im lost 😅
Yes! The best advice I can give is connect and sympathize with whatever she’s throwing. Good inside is a GREAT book for this phase. If you google heyshayla tantrums you’ll see a video I made a while back. Sending you so much patience is sooooooo hard and frustrating
Advice on the planning your days and week with kids? What time are you waking up?
Whenever they wake up 😅
Ok moms, in this cold weather what do you do if your toddler REFUSES to wear shoes?? I want out and about but I can’t let him be cold like that. Help plz 😬
Try boots? Or tell him he can go outside on the steps with no shoes but if we want to walk we have to put on shoes ❤️
Where did you get your glider chair behind you?
Marketplace
Can I just subscribe to your channel again and again 😅❤ Love u
I need to know the name of the person you followed who walked 2 miles to a sauna! Haha ❤🎉
Haha @foxmeetsbear instagram.com/foxmeetsbear?igsh=MWttaWZ0eXRkdDdhdw==
Pssst about LMNT. :( I just learned that they are hiding maltodextrin in their "natural flavors." Such a disappointment. Thought you should know since you're hippy granola like me. I can't support them anymore and I'm so sad about it.
Ugh!! I’m going to have to look into this. I have a few more collabs with them this year, but I will look into this grrrrr
@@heyshaylaI know! It's so upsetting:( It's a full time job trying to find foods with clean ingredients!
No kidding!!
You’re right! And they tried to lie about the mg amount that was in it too. Super shady company now to me!!
@@Molls784 They sure did!
9:55 also I realized that for me this stage isn’t “hard” because of the lack of independence but rather the “playful defiance” I guess? Like the 3 yo thinks it’s funny to actively fight getting clothes on. My entire day is spent getting her to do stuff she “doesn’t want to do,” ie get in the car, get out of the car, get dressed, shoes on, getting to the fun place, leaving the fun place, etc etc etc. this is why I’m exhausted.
Omg I feel this in my bones. The book how to talk so little kids listen is so helpful for this phase
I relate to this coment oh so so much
Why do almost all of these electrolyte products have Stevia. Yuck. I
I love your content! ❤ but sometimes it seems as though you speak in such a way as to convey you are really stressed. Which it totally understandable with three littles! But maybe something to consider when putting out content on YT? Just a thought, I love your channel! 😊
Like I’m contradicting? I don’t totally get it lol
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We live out in the country so going out isnt easy, BUT we get invited to go out twice a week to a preschool near us and they let my girls play who are not old enough to be there full time and I get my community there 🩷
I was JUST thinking of you last night when I was struggling to put both kids (3y; 9m) to bed by myself 🙃
I can relate to a lot of the husband FOMO because of the shift work.
I’d LOVE a video about solo bedtimes. It’s my least favorite right now.
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