Interesting to learn that if a man wants things 50/50 he is basically asking for a woman to be in her masculine and to also lead in the relationship. Thanks for this perspective Fareen, helpful 🥰 I personally want a grounded down to earth man to lead from his heart and not arrongance, so true I want to feel safe, just by the thought of it I feel happy and attracted to this type of man! Thanks again for this video Fareen 🥰🥰🥰
I love this video!! You put everything so perfectly into words, the feeling when being with a feminine man who doesn’t know how to lead. It feels so unsafe and unstable, and is the opposite of what I want!
It's never a good idea for a masculine man to give in to his fears of rejection and to hold back and wait to be asked out by a woman he fancies. If that woman operates from her feminine core and sticks to it, what's gonna happen is: nothing. Things will stall, because he didn't ask her out and she didn't ask him out - as doing otherwise would not feel good to her as a feminine woman. If, however, that woman decides she would operate from her masculine core to make things happen, she will ask him out, she will initiate communication between them, she will organize dates, she will be moving things forward... And by doing this, she will totally ruin the initial attraction between them - by destroying the feminine-masculine polarity - by doing what the man should have been doing. The man may go along with her lead, of course, and enjoy the ride, but at some point he may realise it doesn't feel good to him, because it actually emasculates him, and because she is more into him than he is into her, and he will realise he is confused and wants some space, and he will pull away just to realize that he doesn't want to be with her because HE DID NOT CHOSE HER but she chose him ('asked him out'!) and a masculine man likes to feel he is the one IN CONTROL. So masculine men, you have to rise to the challenge and if you like a woman, you should make the first move, otherwise 1. you will turn that woman off and lose her 2. you will push her into her masculine energy and eventually lose her by breaking up with her at the end. There is a safe way to ask a woman out. It doesn't have to be an invitation for a drink straightaway. Just say: 'Here is my phone number if you need to talk or need help with anything.' (give her your business card or write your name and number down on a piece of paper). And then if she texts you, you can start initiating conversations with her and test the waters to see if she is interested and if at some point you can go out for a drink/lunch/dinner). And if she doesn't text you, that's tough, at least you tried and found out you're not her type.
I also lose attraction for men who seeks attention from women just for their ego, you cant see it at first because it looks like they are showing interest but it's because of their ego, I find that very unattractive and not very masculine, it makes me feel unsafe immediately, just by their energy and nothing seems to be moving forward, even if I'm not even in a relationship with them. Thank fareen, you're wisdom is key ❤❤
It's also important to show and reciprocate interest in a man. I've had the experience with women that I am learning about her and looking for signs with the intention of asking her out but when a woman doesn't try to learn anything about me it's like there's no signal for me to move ahead. Sometimes I've found out that they wanted me to ask them out but I didn't know because she showed no curiosity about me - possibly she had already decided "Yes" to me and was just waiting for me to move things forward. The truth is I usually don't know what they are thinking, but there are definitely women that have been waiting for me to ask them out but they don't ask me ANYTHING about myself, and I am really waiting for them to show some curiosity towards me. If she isn't curious about me then I really doubt she is interested in me (because when I am interested in anything I want to learn more about it). On the other hand, women that have shown curiosity about me it is super easy to ask them out. So, I'm just saying that I agree with your comment AS LONG as the women clearly shows her interest in a guy, and you do that by asking him questions about himself. If you don't do that it looks like no, or only superficial, interest. And many women don't seem to realise that
@@thecurrentmoment yes that is very true that's why I always show interest back but if he still can't approach me after a while, I mive on and that's when I notice it's more ego than actually moving it forward or they are in a relationship but I agree with everything you said
@@Didi-fr5ic well you're right - even if you do everything right, at some point somebody has to do something to take it forward and it should usually be a guy. Unfortunately inexperienced guys can be very very slow to pick up the subtle signals that most women send out, which are often hard to distinguish from simply being friendly and in my experience often come from women already in relationships (I guess they feel confident so they are quite open with their femininity), so I know for myself and probably a lot of guys, I am very slow to jump to conclusions about a woman's interest because the signs are subtle and I have often been wrong. I also think if a woman is really interested in me she will be patient so I can take my time and get to know/observe her over time to see if she's interested,single, etc. I kind of need to know someone's normal behaviour before you know if they are doing something different with me . I just bring that up because I don't think I've actually met a woman who really understands how guys perceive things - nearly everything that women do to show interest is not obvious to most guys. ONLY to guys who have learnt what to look for. So if a guy has any doubt in his mind he will probably act as you have described but it looks the same as getting a woman's attention to satisfy his ego. I'm bringing this up because although I'm sure some men do what you described for ego reasons, I am sure it is such a small minority that is quite uncommon whereas a man being unsure of your interest is going to be extremely common (and so probably the majority of what you described). But maybe I'm not clear on what you're describing and I'm not clear how often you have that experience, but I suspect that it is often enough for you to see a pattern and that's why I'm a little sceptical that it's to feed a guy's ego, because I just think that is a very uncommon reason for guys to do that. I'm not in the USA or North America so maybe guys are different there, but I think a guy acting the way you described to boost his ego is pretty rare, so my first thought is it would usually be something else. But I am not in your shoes, so tell me, how do you tell the difference in the intention of guys?
@@Didi-fr5ic my comment above may have come across as disbelieving of you but I don't know the details of your experience so I'm curious what makes you think a guy is seeking attention from women for their ego
Thanks, Fareen! Basically, the way I see it is: if a feminine woman meets a man who comes across as masculine (for example at work), and there is a spark and flirting between them but that man is too reserved, shy or afraid of rejection or his ego being hurt to the point that is showing interest, time passes, but NOT asking the woman out, it turns a feminine woman off. Why? Because the very moment the feminine woman realizes that the man is leading at work but not leading in romance, she stops perceiving him as masculine, she sees him as insecure, which feels unsafe and unreliable to her and she will lose interest. She will not step up or pursue him because that's the masculine role and she knows that the very minute she did that, it would destroy the feminine-masculine polarity which would turn him off and cause him to lose interest. A feminine woman does NOT want to be put in a position when she feels he holds back and waits for her to make it easy for him to ask her out or for her to ask him out! A feminine woman wants this man to take a risk and ask her out. Most likely, if there has been spark and flirting between them, she is likely to say: YES. And if a man, despite his fear or rejection, asks her out, for a woman it means he is REALLY INTO HER, he's brave, he's strong, he can take anything on the chin, he is masculine and that he is the actual leader through and through.
Exactly. I actually asked him, What do they pay you that executive salary for ? What skills do you have that they truly value and make a difference in your job ? If you say you’ve got communication & leadership skills on your resume, why don’t/cant/wont you use them in here with us ? He didn’t like me talking to him that way. And after I had perceived two-faced behaviour in him, I started to check out.
Fear of rejection is the main reason that is holding men back from approaching women they like. But the reality is: nobody is everybody's cup of tea... A man doesn't fancy every woman he encounters. Likewise a woman doesn't fancy every man that she encounters. A man may be her cup of tea, he may not. That's it. If he feels there is chemistry between them, that means that the odds are in his favour. If she says 'Yes' - he's a lucky man! If, however, she is not interested, then at least he gained knowledge and clarity, he will no longer waste his time thinking about her and he will move on. If she says 'No', that does not mean he is an unattractive man, it will simply mean he is not HER cup of tea. But if he never approaches her - he will never find out and miss the opportunity.
Great video , would you consider doing feminine energy wife content for those in a committed relationship and what that should look and feel like for those unfamiliar . Thank you ❤
@@fareenashofficialPlease keep sharing your knowledge especially on the early stages of a relationship. I struggle with the first stages. Please guide me
My perspective on things as a feminine woman: I personally get a lot of attention from men and I know it's because I draw their attention with my looks, even though I am much more than just a pretty face. I noticed one big mistake that a lot of men make which makes them fall into the trap of 'rejection'. It is that they immediately assume that just because THEY like me, I must like them too, and based on that they come on too strong as if it was guaranteed I will like them back, which is assumptive which honestly puts me off. The way I like being approached by a man who likes me is when he comes up to me relaxed, confident but humble and without expectations, and asks me how I am, how has my day been, if I want a cup of tea / coffee or water, makes a funny observation and has a general conversation with me. We spontaneously begin to joke and laugh. That puts my mind at ease. I don't feel tense. I feel relaxed because I know he doesn't want anything from me at this stage when we BARELY KNOW each other. When I feel that a man is genuinely interested in GETTING TO KNOW me, that is when I open up to have a meaningful conversation. And when I smile and laugh, that is my subtle signal to the man, that HE CAN GIVE ME HIS NUMBER, in case I need something from him, OF COURSE... ;-). And I will either text him, or not... But potential rejection will not be that embarassing or hurtful. :-)
I love how raw and frank you are ❤ so helpful to hear it as it is. Definitely helps me understand one of my previous relationships better. Thank you 🙏🏻
This hit on what I believe I'm dealing with but not as in just stepping in for her with disrespect from family. A different line. But I watched. I'll see if I can find it in one of your other RUclips videos. Thank you
Welcome to my ex-marriage. My ex-husband did nothing to protect me from his mother and brother who had control over him. I ended up having to set boundaries. Killed out sex life and ultimately this kind of theme killed our marriage.
The masculine role was illustrated for me when i was living on the family farm with mum and dad when i was between jobs and some sheep were getting through the fence every morning to mow our lawn because the fence needed attention. We'd chase them back out and they'd come back the following morning. We'd tell my dad (who wasn't there during the day at that time because he was working in town full time) and he would say "oh, they shouldn't be" and then ignored the issue, as though he just didn't believe us. So we'd spend a couple of hours every morning chasing them out and my dad acted like it wasn't happening, and it really showed me the importance of maintaining secure boundaries - which i saw as my dad's role, but i took responsibility for that role myself and realised it was a masculine thing, and hiw inportant it was to make the family and home feel safe.
This is a great example. I have an ex husband who would constantly dismiss my concerns too. He wouldn't even lock the door behind him when his wife was sleeping (he had a 4 am shift) so much was dismissed and it felt so wrong. I didn't know how to get my needs met without ensuring my own safety
@@fareenashofficial on the outline section of the book on your website there is error: the Preface and Chapter 17: Love have the same text in textboxes
You said that feminine women want to be with a man that contributes more financially. I think that I'm into women on the more feminine side, especially with emotionality, probably less feminine with aggressiveness/passiveness. Do you think it makes things a lot more challenging or difficult when comes to dating, or being in a relationship (with the kind of polarity I want), if a woman makes around the same amount of money I do?
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! And absolutely not! As long as you are strong in your masculine presence and you desire to lead/do more financially. In dating, as long as you show and demonstrate to a woman that you are happy to lead financially, and you do not want things to be 50/50 she’ll be very attracted to you! Down the line, you can split the mortgage and if you’re able to, you can take care of the household bills, groceries. It doesn’t have to be this way, just a suggestion. Not everyone can afford to take care of things 💯 financially. Especially if you’re in Canada 🙈
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Interesting to learn that if a man wants things 50/50 he is basically asking for a woman to be in her masculine and to also lead in the relationship. Thanks for this perspective Fareen, helpful 🥰
I personally want a grounded down to earth man to lead from his heart and not arrongance, so true I want to feel safe, just by the thought of it I feel happy and attracted to this type of man!
Thanks again for this video Fareen 🥰🥰🥰
Yess! Love your shares!
I love this video!! You put everything so perfectly into words, the feeling when being with a feminine man who doesn’t know how to lead. It feels so unsafe and unstable, and is the opposite of what I want!
I love that it was so helpful for you! Thank you for sharing! 🤍🤍
When we feel safe emotionally, spiritually, mentally and physically it changes the game ❤
Yes!!
It's never a good idea for a masculine man to give in to his fears of rejection and to hold back and wait to be asked out by a woman he fancies. If that woman operates from her feminine core and sticks to it, what's gonna happen is: nothing. Things will stall, because he didn't ask her out and she didn't ask him out - as doing otherwise would not feel good to her as a feminine woman. If, however, that woman decides she would operate from her masculine core to make things happen, she will ask him out, she will initiate communication between them, she will organize dates, she will be moving things forward... And by doing this, she will totally ruin the initial attraction between them - by destroying the feminine-masculine polarity - by doing what the man should have been doing. The man may go along with her lead, of course, and enjoy the ride, but at some point he may realise it doesn't feel good to him, because it actually emasculates him, and because she is more into him than he is into her, and he will realise he is confused and wants some space, and he will pull away just to realize that he doesn't want to be with her because HE DID NOT CHOSE HER but she chose him ('asked him out'!) and a masculine man likes to feel he is the one IN CONTROL. So masculine men, you have to rise to the challenge and if you like a woman, you should make the first move, otherwise 1. you will turn that woman off and lose her 2. you will push her into her masculine energy and eventually lose her by breaking up with her at the end. There is a safe way to ask a woman out. It doesn't have to be an invitation for a drink straightaway. Just say: 'Here is my phone number if you need to talk or need help with anything.' (give her your business card or write your name and number down on a piece of paper). And then if she texts you, you can start initiating conversations with her and test the waters to see if she is interested and if at some point you can go out for a drink/lunch/dinner). And if she doesn't text you, that's tough, at least you tried and found out you're not her type.
Thanks for sharing 🤍🤍
I agree with that. I don't take rejection very well, but I still believe that I should be the one to ask for a date.
This is exactly the status quo I’ve experienced with a guy forever… because he wants to be chased and I can’t do it 😢
I also lose attraction for men who seeks attention from women just for their ego, you cant see it at first because it looks like they are showing interest but it's because of their ego, I find that very unattractive and not very masculine, it makes me feel unsafe immediately, just by their energy and nothing seems to be moving forward,
even if I'm not even in a relationship with them.
Thank fareen, you're wisdom is key ❤❤
Thank you so much! 😊
It's also important to show and reciprocate interest in a man. I've had the experience with women that I am learning about her and looking for signs with the intention of asking her out but when a woman doesn't try to learn anything about me it's like there's no signal for me to move ahead. Sometimes I've found out that they wanted me to ask them out but I didn't know because she showed no curiosity about me - possibly she had already decided "Yes" to me and was just waiting for me to move things forward.
The truth is I usually don't know what they are thinking, but there are definitely women that have been waiting for me to ask them out but they don't ask me ANYTHING about myself, and I am really waiting for them to show some curiosity towards me. If she isn't curious about me then I really doubt she is interested in me (because when I am interested in anything I want to learn more about it).
On the other hand, women that have shown curiosity about me it is super easy to ask them out.
So, I'm just saying that I agree with your comment AS LONG as the women clearly shows her interest in a guy, and you do that by asking him questions about himself. If you don't do that it looks like no, or only superficial, interest. And many women don't seem to realise that
@@thecurrentmoment yes that is very true that's why I always show interest back but if he still can't approach me after a while, I mive on and that's when I notice it's more ego than actually moving it forward or they are in a relationship but I agree with everything you said
@@Didi-fr5ic well you're right - even if you do everything right, at some point somebody has to do something to take it forward and it should usually be a guy.
Unfortunately inexperienced guys can be very very slow to pick up the subtle signals that most women send out, which are often hard to distinguish from simply being friendly and in my experience often come from women already in relationships (I guess they feel confident so they are quite open with their femininity), so I know for myself and probably a lot of guys, I am very slow to jump to conclusions about a woman's interest because the signs are subtle and I have often been wrong. I also think if a woman is really interested in me she will be patient so I can take my time and get to know/observe her over time to see if she's interested,single, etc. I kind of need to know someone's normal behaviour before you know if they are doing something different with me .
I just bring that up because I don't think I've actually met a woman who really understands how guys perceive things - nearly everything that women do to show interest is not obvious to most guys. ONLY to guys who have learnt what to look for. So if a guy has any doubt in his mind he will probably act as you have described but it looks the same as getting a woman's attention to satisfy his ego. I'm bringing this up because although I'm sure some men do what you described for ego reasons, I am sure it is such a small minority that is quite uncommon whereas a man being unsure of your interest is going to be extremely common (and so probably the majority of what you described).
But maybe I'm not clear on what you're describing and I'm not clear how often you have that experience, but I suspect that it is often enough for you to see a pattern and that's why I'm a little sceptical that it's to feed a guy's ego, because I just think that is a very uncommon reason for guys to do that.
I'm not in the USA or North America so maybe guys are different there, but I think a guy acting the way you described to boost his ego is pretty rare, so my first thought is it would usually be something else.
But I am not in your shoes, so tell me, how do you tell the difference in the intention of guys?
@@Didi-fr5ic my comment above may have come across as disbelieving of you but I don't know the details of your experience so I'm curious what makes you think a guy is seeking attention from women for their ego
Thanks, Fareen! Basically, the way I see it is: if a feminine woman meets a man who comes across as masculine (for example at work), and there is a spark and flirting between them but that man is too reserved, shy or afraid of rejection or his ego being hurt to the point that is showing interest, time passes, but NOT asking the woman out, it turns a feminine woman off. Why? Because the very moment the feminine woman realizes that the man is leading at work but not leading in romance, she stops perceiving him as masculine, she sees him as insecure, which feels unsafe and unreliable to her and she will lose interest. She will not step up or pursue him because that's the masculine role and she knows that the very minute she did that, it would destroy the feminine-masculine polarity which would turn him off and cause him to lose interest. A feminine woman does NOT want to be put in a position when she feels he holds back and waits for her to make it easy for him to ask her out or for her to ask him out! A feminine woman wants this man to take a risk and ask her out. Most likely, if there has been spark and flirting between them, she is likely to say: YES. And if a man, despite his fear or rejection, asks her out, for a woman it means he is REALLY INTO HER, he's brave, he's strong, he can take anything on the chin, he is masculine and that he is the actual leader through and through.
Thank you for sharing 🤍
Exactly. I actually asked him, What do they pay you that executive salary for ? What skills do you have that they truly value and make a difference in your job ? If you say you’ve got communication & leadership skills on your resume, why don’t/cant/wont you use them in here with us ?
He didn’t like me talking to him that way. And after I had perceived two-faced behaviour in him, I started to check out.
Fear of rejection is the main reason that is holding men back from approaching women they like. But the reality is: nobody is everybody's cup of tea... A man doesn't fancy every woman he encounters. Likewise a woman doesn't fancy every man that she encounters. A man may be her cup of tea, he may not. That's it. If he feels there is chemistry between them, that means that the odds are in his favour. If she says 'Yes' - he's a lucky man! If, however, she is not interested, then at least he gained knowledge and clarity, he will no longer waste his time thinking about her and he will move on. If she says 'No', that does not mean he is an unattractive man, it will simply mean he is not HER cup of tea. But if he never approaches her - he will never find out and miss the opportunity.
Yes, this
Yup. I've had such feminine men.. and they've cost me so much energy and heartache 😢
Now you know and never again! 🤍
What a good feeling to be in the healthy feminine. So free and flowing!!! xoxox love you
I heart you so much! Your energy is 😍🙏
Love ya more!
Great video , would you consider doing feminine energy wife content for those in a committed relationship and what that should look and feel like for those unfamiliar . Thank you ❤
Yes absolutely and thank you 😊
Oh! This would make me very happy too! ❤🙏
More of these please!!
Haha ok!
Thanks, Fareen
for spreading your wisdom the way you do
Blessings
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Your very welcome 🤍
Thanks for sharing your knowledge! I enjoy your videos !
Thank you !! I’m so glad
@@fareenashofficialPlease keep sharing your knowledge especially on the early stages of a relationship. I struggle with the first stages. Please guide me
My perspective on things as a feminine woman: I personally get a lot of attention from men and I know it's because I draw their attention with my looks, even though I am much more than just a pretty face. I noticed one big mistake that a lot of men make which makes them fall into the trap of 'rejection'. It is that they immediately assume that just because THEY like me, I must like them too, and based on that they come on too strong as if it was guaranteed I will like them back, which is assumptive which honestly puts me off. The way I like being approached by a man who likes me is when he comes up to me relaxed, confident but humble and without expectations, and asks me how I am, how has my day been, if I want a cup of tea / coffee or water, makes a funny observation and has a general conversation with me. We spontaneously begin to joke and laugh. That puts my mind at ease. I don't feel tense. I feel relaxed because I know he doesn't want anything from me at this stage when we BARELY KNOW each other. When I feel that a man is genuinely interested in GETTING TO KNOW me, that is when I open up to have a meaningful conversation. And when I smile and laugh, that is my subtle signal to the man, that HE CAN GIVE ME HIS NUMBER, in case I need something from him, OF COURSE... ;-). And I will either text him, or not... But potential rejection will not be that embarassing or hurtful. :-)
I love how raw and frank you are ❤ so helpful to hear it as it is.
Definitely helps me understand one of my previous relationships better.
Thank you 🙏🏻
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I loved this video! Very validating 💜
Love hearing that!
Fareen, you are such a treasure ❤❤❤
Thank you so much for making this video!! ☺️🙏🙏🔥
I loved it!
All the best and a big hug and kiss back 💋💕
You are such a treasure!!!
Thank You so much for your clarity 💙
I luv all ur stuff... i just want to see more lol.
Awwwww well I love hearing that! 😍😍😍😍
Another great video - thanks Fareen!
You’re late to the game! To busy partying in Miami haha
@@fareenashofficial yep lol! 😆Catching up on videos today!
We love you! Amazing video ❤
I love you all!!
This hit on what I believe I'm dealing with but not as in just stepping in for her with disrespect from family. A different line. But I watched. I'll see if I can find it in one of your other RUclips videos.
Thank you
You can ask me here if you like …
Welcome to my ex-marriage. My ex-husband did nothing to protect me from his mother and brother who had control over him. I ended up having to set boundaries. Killed out sex life and ultimately this kind of theme killed our marriage.
I hear and see this so often! Ugh. I’m sorry you went through this and I hope the video validated your feelings 🤍
I get it 🤍
Can you please do a follow up on the relationship breakdown because of a man allowing people in his life to tear down his woman and disrespect her? ❤❤
What do you mean exactly … can you be more specific…
True
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very true
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The masculine role was illustrated for me when i was living on the family farm with mum and dad when i was between jobs and some sheep were getting through the fence every morning to mow our lawn because the fence needed attention. We'd chase them back out and they'd come back the following morning.
We'd tell my dad (who wasn't there during the day at that time because he was working in town full time) and he would say "oh, they shouldn't be" and then ignored the issue, as though he just didn't believe us.
So we'd spend a couple of hours every morning chasing them out and my dad acted like it wasn't happening, and it really showed me the importance of maintaining secure boundaries - which i saw as my dad's role, but i took responsibility for that role myself and realised it was a masculine thing, and hiw inportant it was to make the family and home feel safe.
I love this comment! Yes yes yes !
@@fareenashofficial thanks!
This is a great example. I have an ex husband who would constantly dismiss my concerns too. He wouldn't even lock the door behind him when his wife was sleeping (he had a 4 am shift) so much was dismissed and it felt so wrong. I didn't know how to get my needs met without ensuring my own safety
Fareen, how to show affection and appreciation to my partner without seeming like I am chasing him?
Have you read my e-books??
@@fareenashofficial not yet, which one will cover these informations? And in which one you talk about roles in relationship?
@WorstDruidEU what men want will cover dating and masculine men 🤍
You can download the free chapter on the website and go through the testimonials.
@@fareenashofficial on the outline section of the book on your website there is error: the Preface and Chapter 17: Love have the same text in textboxes
You said that feminine women want to be with a man that contributes more financially. I think that I'm into women on the more feminine side, especially with emotionality, probably less feminine with aggressiveness/passiveness. Do you think it makes things a lot more challenging or difficult when comes to dating, or being in a relationship (with the kind of polarity I want), if a woman makes around the same amount of money I do?
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! And absolutely not! As long as you are strong in your masculine presence and you desire to lead/do more financially. In dating, as long as you show and demonstrate to a woman that you are happy to lead financially, and you do not want things to be 50/50 she’ll be very attracted to you! Down the line, you can split the mortgage and if you’re able to, you can take care of the household bills, groceries. It doesn’t have to be this way, just a suggestion. Not everyone can afford to take care of things 💯 financially. Especially if you’re in Canada 🙈
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