The Honest Truth of being a Vintage Homemaker
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- Опубликовано: 29 сен 2024
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Today's topic is a little more quiet and serious, but I promise at the end of the day I am okay! Life ebbs and flows, and that's normal. I'll be back to my vintage shenanigans soon, but until then I hope you are all safe, warm, and loved
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Hi friends! Lest anyone misunderstand, I am doing fine xo. If you want to know a little more about executive dysfunction and PDA, this comment is for you
Executive dysfunction incudes: problems with starting, organizing, planning, or completing tasks + trouble listening or paying attention + short-term memory issues + inability to multitask or balance tasks. In my everyday life, this means that without a set routine I can often wander around doing little tasks all day without actually completing anything. Think "if you give a mouse a cookie" only going in a circle around the house. I need to wash the dishes - but oh, the rag needs washed! I'll go start the wash, but oh, the dryer is full and the washer is full so I need to change those over. I'll empty the dryer onto the couch, but omg there are toys all over the living room floor, I'll pick them up. I need a bin tho so I'll go get one from the kids' room. The kids' room is messy too, though, so maybe I should get that trash off their floor. But the trash can is full, I gotta empty that. But we have no more garbage bags, oh wait I never did the dishes! BUT OH.. the rag is dirty. AND SO ON FOREVER LOL.
Cleaning routines lay out the entire method for me, so that I don't have to exert the mental energy of figuring it out myself, and face a complete freeze looking at all of the things that have to be done. Did I mention another part of executive dysfunction is triggering a frozen mode when there are too many tasks to be completed? Cuz that's also a thing.
Pathological demand avoidance means if it feels like a demand or there are too MANY demands, fight/flight/freeze is triggered and I cannot do ANYTHING.
There are so many complexities surrounding my own spicy brain, but those are a few that affect my day to day life. Sharing routines is my way to get around them - because content creation is fun!
None of these things can be overcome by "trying harder" or "making habits". Are you aware that often people who are neurodivergent literally cannot form a habit? (habit = a mindless completion of a task you've repeated over and over that exerts no mental energy. Like... breathing. In ND people, any and every repeated task takes mental energy EVERY. SINGLE. TIME.)
Lastly, an interruption of set routine vastly inhibits the ability to get things done. It's as if I'm a video game being constantly reset mid-game, and having to start all over again in order to regain the focus to get things done. Imagine, then, being a spicy-brain-mom with littles. My routines are CONSTANTLY interrupted! (and that's ok!)
This is just a little peek into what daily life is like for me. I hope y'all find it interesting or helpful, especially if you've only just stumbled upon my videos and really want to know why under my table is SO MESSY
Oh also I have five kids, in case you were unaware.
And before you ask, yes they do chores. However, organizing and delegating tasks takes a massive amount of mental energy that, for me, is even more taxing than just doing some things myself. So before you suggest my kids should help, don't. They do what I need and want them to do, and I do what I want to do. End of story.
OK LOVE YOU BYEEEE
Love and support to you Kristen. I love your use of vintage clothes and items in a home you love.
Oh sweet woman! As a 67 year old mother of three children who all had learning differences and ADHD, you just do you. If your husband and your children are all happy and healthy, and nobody has had a meltdown today I consider that a win. I have no idea why people like to leave negative comments on different channels I hear it from other influencers as well and I’m always surprised. My mother always said if you don’t have anything good to say, just don’t say anything and that still true today. Hold your head up high And love on your family. You are very entertaining with the videos that you have and I love to watch you. this season with your children will fly by too soon and you’ll wish they were young again. Speaking from experience. You are a delight and never forget that
I hear you loud and clear. I have ADHD, and PTSD. The event which I believe attributed to my PTSD occurred 10 years ago.(I am a survivor of an attempted homicide involving a firea*m ) People don't understand why I am not cured. My neural pathways were permanently changed. I have found ways to manage sxs, however certain things trigger me, no matter what I do. Couple that with ADHD, and my executive functioning is affected.) I totally emphasize with your situation. I could never understand why the "organizing gene" skipped me. People used to tease me at work because my desk was always a mess. I am more of a big picture person. I'd develop large programs, write grants, get funding, and was a successful Executive Director of a large agency, I knew I was not detail oriented, so I hired great staff members who were. I gave them what they needed to succeed, then let them fly and blossom. One of the biggest perks was seeing one of my staff get promoted. You are so endearing, creative, and unique. If you decide you need a break...take one and come back refreshed. Stay blessed, and bloom where you want to bloom. 🌷🪻🌸💜🕊️
Please don't quit! You are so delightful and unique and beautiful I love your channel. I didn't even know you had ADHD. Me too. I found out in my thirties when my son was diagnosed. It explained so much about all the problems I've had. I'm 62 now and just became a "Nana" My ADHD son just had twins. I don't know how you do five!! You keep hanging in there loving your family and surrounding your self with things you love. Don't let minimalist try to convince you of their idea of beauty. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder as they say! Even messes are beautiful because they are the signs left behind by the most precious people on the planet and can fill you w ith gratitude and joy to be part of their life! Sorry I go on and on! Just don't be hard on yourself and negative people have their own problems, don't worry about how they vent!❤❤❤❤
Try not to worry about what others think. You have a beautiful home, and are also doing a great job. My children are all teenagers now, but my house was exactly like yours when they were little. And I still don’t have it together so it pretty much still is, minus the toys. We just make progress, that’s all that matters. Thank you for this video, I needed to hear it. ❤
The whole reason I subscribed is because you and your house are NOT like the perfect model show homes. There are tons of channels like that but your channel stands alone. We moved away from the city to the country and I can’t tell you how much stress was alleviated from no longer having the pressure of keeping up with the Joneses and consumerism. It takes a strong character to stand strong against the critics and hold firm to your values and beliefs. Don’t lose faith. Your love of family, home, and yourself hold more importance than the material things. All the noise of those critics in the end is empty, vacuous, and meaningless.
Same ❤
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100% THIS
Same here👍
I lived in the country and the city moved around me and I can't afford to move now
The whole reason I watch this channel is because you’re real. Please don’t ever change. We’re all here with you.
My kids are grown. I have a 30 year old with autism who lives with me. I still struggle with housework. I have found myself at home and trying to find a way to make money after losing my career. It wasn't really a loss. I have been so grateful for the opportunity spend time with my children, and my father. I was torn apart when i worked 60-70 hours a week, missing birthdays and holidays for a soulless employer. Time is something I will never have back. You hear it from older people all the time. The kids won't remember the mess as much as they remember you being there. It is also easier to keep a clean house when no one is home! Lol Love every thong you do. I just found my grandmother's home economics book from 1922!
Oh. My. Goodness. My feed just showed your video and i love it!
YOU DO YOU!
Turn a blind eye to the naysayers. BLOCK THEM. Just like you wouldn't let certain people in your house, keep them out. You are gracious enough to open your home and life, people should be gracious enough to just move on if they don't like the content.
Minimalism, my humble opinion, is lifeless and boring. I love color, energy and memories that surround me. 😊
I adore your style.
New Subscriber!
Thank you❤
I think you're so wonderful. And brave. So brave. I'm 50 and was diagnosed ADHD about 7 years ago. It's hard. I'm proud of you.
It would be a horrible world if we were all the same... embrace your uniqueness!!
Don't let any comments make you sad. Xx
I love your videos and the vintage cleaning routines! And just so you know…I excel at executive function, I have money, I have no kids, I’m not neurodivergent and I still have a huge mess that you inspired me to clean. I wish I knew how to post a picture with this comment. You’d appreciate my mess 😊❤You inspire me and you are lovely to watch!
Just here to say: that apron is LIFE :) Thanks for sharing! And what’s the point of cleaning if it’s not messy, lol.
It is from a really lovely subscriber, it belonged to her grandma and I could cry knowing that!
You go girl !!! ❤
The only people who have spotless houses are the ones who have someone else cleaning for them and don't have to do most, or all of the cleaning themselves. Mess is a side effect of having a full life. There are always nose prints on the window, dishes in the sink, and fur on the couch, but I have happy dogs and husband. You have a messy house, but you also have a happy family. No one should look down on you, because you are a good wife and mother.
Same 💯 this is the hardest time of the year for me Feb-March the official end of winter. This year was particularly hard bc spring arrived but then Winter refused to DIE 😂😂😂
Kristina I needed this❤thank you.
Oh goodness, you're doing fine! I love alone with one cat, and I struggle to maintain a tidy home. I have no clue how someone cleans up after so many people. Hey, you can still walk through the living room and cook in the kitchen, you're great!
"Mess is morally neutral and the crumbs on my floor does not mean I'm a bad mother." This video made me literally cry. I am also a neurodivergent stay at home mom with a lot of kids and I really needed to hear your video today. Thank you.❤
The crumbs on the floor means you have fed your family & have had food to do so!! 🎉🎉
When she said "mess is morally neutral and you are doing a good job" I actually paused the video and wrote that down. It's my new kitchen mantra.
@@kimberlarsen8422I think tomorrow I will write that down myself, because I really stress if everything in my house is not pristine clean, yet I never think that way about others.
It’s just a pressure I’ve put on myself.
I now have too many health issues in my old age.
I love books too. I keep mine down to just two bookcases full. If I bring a book home, I must give a book away.
I do that on anything I bring home. It helps me a lot.
Girl, I am 45, married, childless, have a house with plenty of space, make 6 figures, and have no one but me and my husband to care for and my house is still a bloody overwhelming mess at times because life is just so busy and chaotic and I have a chronic mental illness that just kind of laughs at any med we throw at it. I currently have a sinkful of dishes, no clean forks, 3 baskets of laundry to fold and put away, and I can't see my dining room table because it's covered with a bunch of mail and other miscellaneous stuff that needs to be put away. I cannot even imagine what it would be like if I had little humans to deal with. You're doing just fine :)
I have a picture on my bedroom wall, that i fell in love with after my first son was born. (He is now 37). ' Quiet down cobwebs, dust - go to sleep . I'm rocking my baby, and babies don't keep'. I had the same kind of home you do. (I still do - grandchildren now). 4 children in 5 years. Lots of laughs, some tears, Lego, Barbies, crayons, etc. Loved it. They did, too! Keep doing what you're doing, the way that you want. Try to stay strong ( and if you can't - call a friend or family member and vent - it can help a bit.). Sorry that I was so long-winded.
I love that poem! Thank you for sharing❤
My grandmother calligraphied this for my mother when she had me (I'm the oldest), and now I have it on my wall!
That is beautiful@@emilyperea
This was a such an important video to make! I am so sorry people are so rude, mean, and thoughtless! Your channel is EXACTLY what mothers need (especially if they love a vintage lifestyle). I wish your videos had been around when my son was little. I felt so bad about the job I was doing, but just couldn’t manage to accomplish anymore. Your channel takes reality and offers some inspiration and tricks to improve it. Thank you for putting your reality on RUclips. Please don’t stop. We need you.
Most important thing is spending time with your little ones , the house work will always be there . Little ones grow up so fast .❤
Now that I'm on my last baby, I feel this even more
that is so true they grow up fast enjoy the time you have, dont worry about what others think and dont let the mess overwhelm you.
My house is also not like the ones shown online. It’s small, needs work, and is messy with kids and pets. But someone once said that in a few quick years, you’ll miss the mess. And it’s true. When kids are grown and gone, you’ll look back at these times lovingly. I love your videos!! ❤️❤️thanks for the encouragement!!
I subscribed because you are REAL. You are honest and vulnerable and it's so refreshing. Thank you for sharing your struggles with us! I am neurodivergent too and your channel helps me to feel less alone. ❤
I don't know where to begin. First, of all, I LOVE your channel BECAUSE you are honest and real about what is going on in your life. I sure wish I had been able to find some souce of encouragement such as yourself to help me get through my days as a young mother. I felt such a failure because I could not keep my house clean, stay on top of the laundry, etc. Besides that, you're fun! Second, I just cannot understand how people can leave mean, rude or negative remarks. Henry James - Three things in human life are important: the first is to be kind; the second is to be kind; and the third is to be kind.❤
so agree with all you wrote: and my dear father's last words were: be kind to each other... all mothers and homemakers can benefit from your honest and wise words. thanks for sharing kristina!
I am a 51 year old minimalist/library assistant/grandma and I have to say your mess doesnt bother me at all. I was the exact same person about 25 years ago! Seasons come and seasons go, as you get older you learn to let go of a lot of those comforts. I come here to your channel often because I love the vintage flair and I also love seeing the sweet connection you have with your little ones! Keep keeping it real, I promise you are doing a great job as long as you keep picking up those babies and giving those great big nurturing hugs❤️
Thumbs up for the hugs and thumbs up to the library assistant 👋
I came to your channel because RUclips showed me one of your cleaning videos where I saw a house like mine. It was real, with more than a couple crumbs and some dishes out of place. With cupboards that aren’t brand new or drab chic, but have character and some scuffs. It was the first time EVER viewing a cleaning video that seemed real, not overly staged or the kind that make me feel worse about my house. I’ve been here ever since and I am so thankful to you for making this content. There are plenty of us out here who want something real and like us. I’m so sorry that people are such jerks. Please keep being you (and, selfishly, I also want you to keep making the content you make). ✨
I love your channel even more after this. The main thing I admire so much about you is how real you keep it. Being a mother is hard. Homemaking is real, demanding work. All the while still trying to be your own person and show your children that life doesn’t stop after you have kids. You do such a wonderful job at all of it. Homes inevitably get messy when you’re living in them lol. I feel like that is a give in. Being someone who also struggles with depression and very bad anxiety, I understand how much your mind can get in your own way when trying so hard to do every day things.
I love your home, style and attitude. You are lovely and so is your channel. If people can’t relate, perhaps they should make room for those of us who do and who appreciate you. 💕
the fact that you're showing the cleaning tips in real time is what i love most - the vintage routines are just added interest. 🥰 and it's also nice to see how someone works through "the grind" that has the same ADD issues...❤️❤️❤️
I'm really glad you're here for it!
@@WithLoveKristinaI ❤❤ all ur video's: Kleanin Thriftin Sewin Kookin food Makin Desserts Etc.Etc. I have read sum of the komments an they made me kry. There R alot of US that kare bout U , ur family an ur Well being. I hope U don't QUIT. I wood miss watchin U B kuz Ur soo down 2 Earth Sweet Karin an have an awesome Laugh. PLZ PLZ DON'T LET THOSE TROLLS WIN. Wat doesn't kill U "ONLY " MAKES U STRONGER. MAY GOD BLESS U AN UR FAMILY.❤❤❤😊😊😊
@@WithLoveKristina me, too!! it really does help to know that we don't struggle alone...🥰🥰
I love watching your channel precisely because I so relate to your neurodivergence and how it affects your day to day. What you share is so helpful. And I love your house just the way it is. Can’t imagine why people are so critical or why they think everyone has to be a minimalist!
I feel this in my bones!
Soon after my husband and I moved into this house (smaller than what we had, but a much bigger yard and shop area) we started to remodel, and then the world stopped because he was diagnosed with cancer. Everything is in a state of mess that I find hard to cope with, but am far to physically and mentally exhausted from caring for him to deal with at the end of the day.
Cabinets in various stage of being replaced, boxes of our things still unpacked, the furniture all moved to one side of the house so we could paint and replace appliances.
Dishes stack up constantly, and my poor husband is weak as a kitten from the radiation and chemo, and I'm exhausted from driving 3 hours, to get him there and back.
I love your channel, it keeps me from going crazy
🙏hope hubs gets thru his treatment soon. 🙏
@@cland1232 thank you!!!!
Your husband is your priority right now and sounds to me you are prioritising correctly so please rememeber that and that even though you may not feel like it you are doing an amazing job! .i wish him ever success with his treatment and that you can both tackle all that needs tackling soon, together with renewed zest! Many blessings to you! 🤗
@@efects7429 Thank you !
Father God please help this lovely woman and her husband. I ask You to eradicate that cancer, heal the effects of chemo, and strengthen and bless both of them. Please fill them both with Your love and energy. I ask this in the name of Jesus, amen.
No need to explain to people who will never understand bc they have never been in your shoes. Your videos are real and you have purpose. Don't give up because your values are higher than theirs. XOXO 💋
You are doing just fine. You are loved and valued. I so appreciate your honesty and vulnerability. AND, you have an adorable family and home. 🌻🍄
Don't let those people mess with you. I admire your dedication to creating and posting your content and I've found the cleaning routines very helpful for me and I'm in my 7th decade! Your home is full of love and joy, that cones from You. You lead your children and husband to find joy and comfort in the home. You are doing a great job.
This is why I love your channel. Its real. I also have ADHD and love in CHAOS. However, I am a good person. I would much rather be me than someone who is tidy but cruel to others who are not. Please don't ever stop these videos, it's so helpful for do many of us. It takes us feel seen. Pristine, I hope that you are feeling loved, because you are x
You're doing great! Your house has character and your vintage routines are a good reminder that we needn't reinvent this wheel, we can add in the conveniences that electricity brings to hometending, but those old routines and approaches work. You're an inspiration to so many other people, especially others of us who are neurodivergent. Thank you for being you and for sharing yourself and your life. Your videos never fail to bring light and joy to my life.
It's so hard to be vulnerable, and I can't imagine how hard it is to be vulnerable again and again to an audience - thank you for sharing with us the parts of your life that you do, and always proud of the progress that you've made, and shared along the way.
This is exactly what i love most about your channel! I’m a Homeschooling mom of five, a homesteader, part time tutor and music teacher, and I have an autoimmune disease. I LOVE vintage/antiques, sewing, fashion, reading, gardening, and history. Your channel, more than any other that has those topics, encourages me and I can actually relate to your content. There is beauty and something good in the little things, even if they seem not good enough to others or ourselves. Keep going, the world, and women need to see and hear this message.
Well said, Kristina. You can only be yourself. And in reality, it is hard for most of us in your phase of life to keep a clean and orderly home. Unfortunately, there are always going to be the haters, the unkind comments from people who just have nothing better to do. I love that your channel is growing, and the fact that it is should tell you a lot. People enjoy you and your content. Most people!😊
I love your channel and how real you are!! I struggle with depression and anxiety and this has been such an inspiration and comfort for me too as our home is far from perfect. Thank you for all that you do. 💛🙏
My mother gave me the best advice when I had my own babies. ‘Don’t spend your life worrying about the housework.’ It’s so true. We really need to just live and not set such high expectations on ourselves.
Thank you for sharing this, and please keep doing You. I will never understand people who insist making horrible comments on videos that are obviously not for them. There is an immeasurable amount of content on RUclips alone: move along and find the channels that are for you, no need to pass rude, useless judgement!!
Every time I see your videos, I think: "I wish I could stop by and visit here. It looks like such a fun, loving place with great parents and great kids and so many interesting items to see and things to do!" (But I'm in Detroit, so it would be a bit of a trip...) You're doing a wonderful job, Kristina!
Omgoodness ❤me too. I love how you actually see a real home and a loving mother taking care of her children ❤. 😊
Keep on trucking GF! You are doing fine . Don't let a few thoughtless people get you down. Some don't intend to be mean, others it is fully intentional. You will triumph in the end.
I enjoy your channel, I love watching you clean and organize and make things. I even think your voice is awesome lol it’s not annoying I enjoy listening to it. Please do not let these trolls who say negative things stop you from filming. I’m sure it’s only 5% of the viewers maybe 10% and remember you can never please everyone and they can always choose to Unfollow you. You have 45K who follow you for a reason so, keep your head up!❤
You are a voice of reason in a sea of unattainable standards. Being present for ourselves and our families is the most important thing. Thank you for your content! ❤
Thank you for posting your cleaning routines and being open with your struggles. I grew up in a small and very-lived in home, and never quite learned how to clean or keep up with chores. Watching your videos - your lifestyle that resembles my childhood - has helped me figure out how to tackle my own house
I love your kitchen! It brings back some cherished memories of my grandma's kitchen. Any esthetic that doesn't allow for individualism is just a fad. I love minimizing my possessions to make life simpler for me. It should not be for the purpose of copying a trendy style of big houses painted white, (unless someone loves that style.) I enjoy your channel and your style of decorating. I envy your sewing talent too.
Thank you for this video. I relate to you in almost every way. I also have adhd, have lots of kids, have a house with no storage, and have lots of stuff in a tiny house. I have people tell me all the time I need to get rid of things or I need to clean more. I do struggle to keep things clean but the thing is I do clean it just don't stay clean. I clean almost everyday and I have children and a husband who comes right behind me and gets it dirty. Yes my mental health does go down hill because of it sometimes. So thank you for your video. Thank for letting me know I am not a bad mom for not always picking everything up as soon as it gets on the floor. Thank you for making me not feeling like a bad mom for not always doing the dishes. Thank you for not making me not feeling like a bad mom for not always getting all the laundry done. Being a stay at home mom is not easy. I wish you all the blessings in the world. ❤
Kristina, There is a huge difference between a house and a home. You have created a home. I have only commented a few times over the years. I watch you silently and love what a beautiful person that you are. You are authentic and that means so much. My brain understands yours. If someone isn’t neurodivergent they have no concept of what it’s like. Your commentary in this video made me want to stand up and applaud!!! The people that matter watch and support you. We understand and appreciate your realness. Thank you. Continued Blessings and Support. ~Love&Light♥️Carli
Your content resonates with the adhd moms in the thick of it. What a beautiful message of hope. We are here, cheering you on because there is space for you on this platform representing the women who are doing their best with the circumstances they have been given ❤
You are such a unique lady! I really enjoy seeing you live what you love, thank you for sharing. You are also a great storyteller with such a gentle voice!💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐
Oh sweetie, you have your hands full and you are doing great. When I was a kid our house was usually a mess but we had fun. My home had kids and fun. I tried too hard to keep it perfect and regret every moment I didn’t play with my kids. I am 76 and my house is not perfect but I enjoy my life. Don’t worry so much. I love your house and your family.
When I get frustrated with my less than perfect vintage kitchen, I remind myself that it is a "Working Kitchen". It holds all the things I need to cook and budget and that working kitchen allows me to stay home and care for my family. It works hard right alongside me.
Thank you for saying what I needed to hear 25 years ago. The feelings of inadequacy are still there, and I've been an empty nester of 3 for 5 years. And there are still crumbs on my floor. Thank you for showing real life and not the illusion of the perfectly curated life. There is no way I could live with that kind of pressure, and honestly, I don't want to.
Your approach to homemaking is so refreshing! It can get tiring and discouraging to constantly see perfect homes, perfectly dressed (in perfect vintage or reproduction clothing) and groomed (perfect makeup and hair) homeowners, with their perfect children talk about how to keep a house and make a home. On one hand, it can be inspirational, but on the other hand, it's not realistic. I live alone, and my apartment has never looked perfect since I moved in; I still have a bookcase in the corner waiting to be put together (to be fair, when it arrived, all the pre-drilled holes for the pegs and screws were the wrong size, and I don't have the tools to fix it and build the darn thing!), piles of books and half-done sewing projects all over, etc. And I don't have kids who live here with me! You are doing just fine, paying attention to the most important thing: your own health and your family!
It is realistic for some. I actually had someone tell me once that if your house is too clean and orderly then I must be messing up in some other part of my family life. Umm... no. It goes both ways. I do homeschool and I have 4 little kids. I am very blessed for both. But I also work hard to make things nice for my family with the time I have. Messiness is NOT always morally neutral when sloth or intentional over-busy-ness is at the heart. We all have a different capacity, yes finances, yes family sizes, home ages, styles, etc.
I absolutely loooove your videos!! You are a real mom and a real person! You are so right on this! Thank you for sharing with us! I really enjoy your videos! And as a housewife myself with 3 children I relate to you so much! And I rather see the real than the fake!🥰
You are amazing! Five kids, neurodivergent, add, and still producing wonderful videos etc. You run your home like a HOME. Love is first and foremost. I hear you when you say it’s hard and mentally it takes a toll. I don’t know what you deal with emotionally and mentally….but from someone who looks so forward to your videos and watches them on repeat at times…..I (and many others) see and feel your love for your family and your gift of creating. Thank you for showing REAL life. You are doing so good!!!! (And I LOVE your house. Everything in it is loved and wanted, and no one should judge you for that!) ❤
You are looking good i have struggled all my life to keep a house and I find you inspiring
I think you are wonderful and I love everything about your channel. Thank you for doing what you do.
You do make me feel less alone. I’m only a minute in but had to pause to comment. As a fellow neurospicy stay at home mamma with a slightly battered (saying that with immense love) vintage home (1930s semi detached brick in northern England) I FEEL YOU. I also feel immensely seen by this channel, comforted by a friend and like I have a partner in my general mess. Your vintage cleaning routine videos with their structure, honesty and grace are why I subscribed and why I’m here. I appreciate you, your beautiful home, the sweetness of your family and all that you do. THANK YOU 💖 *edit: I meant to say, we’re also low income and your budget makeover videos helped me so much and inspired me to make small changes, that we could manage and afford, and to not wait until we could do everything before loving, appreciating and decorating our home. 🥰
I really enjoy your channel and I think a lived in home is more welcoming than a museum. By the way, I love your kitchen! It’s so pretty ❤
Wow!! That is all I can say to this video. It’s raw, it’s real & it’s the reason I watch your channel. Keep being YOU!! You are unique & perfect just as you are 🤗🤗🤗🤗
As the mother of 6 children, on the other side of it all. My youngest will be 22 in May, oldest 40 (yikes) in April. I am here to tell you that the MOST important thing, is to love those children and keep them alive. Everything else is details. NO ONE will remember the mess in the kitchen or the crumbs on the floor. Children are young once and the most important part is to make them feel loved and cared for. A clean house is next to impossible with multiple small children around. As they get older it does get easier (but even with a couple of 20 something year olds there are still messes!) My house is now cleaner and less cluttered, I still have some messy closets and a ridiculous garage but I am slowly catching up on life and the absolute overwhelm, being out numbered and nonstop "fight or flight" mode I was in for years on end. Take each day, one at a time and enjoy the little things. A clean house is nice, but terribly overrated some days!
I like your honesty and I love all of your cool vintage things , it's a realistic house with kids and humans who live in it
I’m not neurodivergent but I always appreciate real life and all that comes with it. I often find myself in a real life situation where we clean up the house because that’s where we live, love and be.
Yes! I often feel like the houses that are perfect must not be very lived in!
I watch this channel SPECIFICALLY because it is not excessively curated. It’s how busy people live.
I come from a long line of poverty (my ancestors came from coal mining camps on my maternal side and sharecropping on my paternal side), and I personally grew up in a very poverty-stricken urban neighborhood made up primarily of first-generation immigrants. I guess maybe because of that, I absolutely love seeing people scrape together and create a full, expressive, personality-rich life for themselves despite assorted challenges. My favorite aesthetic ever is old photographs from the Great Depression of poor people who have decorated their shacks and made themselves pretty clothes, quilts, etc. It makes them so human and relatable.
My partner grew up in an upper class community overseas, and when we first started dating, I was so nervous to introduce him to my family and upbringing (despite being fiercely proud of them) because I knew it would be so much more rough and low-class than anything he was used to. But he was undeterred, and over the years we’ve been together (coming up on our 14th anniversary now) and the years he’s spent mingling in my neck of the woods, he has told me that he strictly prefers the sorts of communities I hail from to the sorts of communities he hails from. He enjoys the authenticity, empathy, resourcefulness, and artistry of people who struggle and who are not ashamed of that struggle. It has made him more adventurous himself and made him feel safe prioritizing self-fulfillment and human connection, rather than status like so many of his peers (who are now starting to hit mid-life crises and wondering why they are still miserable and lonely despite doing everything “right”).
I certainly don’t mean to say that you live like you’re scraping through the Great Depression (a couple decades off!), but the honesty of your content gives me fuzzy, childlike feelings and makes me cozy-peaceful-safe, like my grandma’s warm bear hug and a hot chocolate in a strawberry jam jar on a snowy day.
We all have those times. Sometimes things go haywire. Other people don't live in your shoes so don't let others make you feel bad
Some of the comments are hard to ignore because they strike that deep set sense of shame I carried for a LONG time - before I knew I was neurodivergent. Doing my best to leave them be, though!
You are original, authentic, honest, kind, creative, and I find it a joy to watch your channel. Your treasures are lovely and you have exactly as many as is correct for yiu. Sending hugs and metta. ❤️
I value your channel for all of the reasons you have listed and more. I am 41 and was diagnosed neurodivergent last year. I now have four children, with a 10 year gap between the baby and the child that used to be my youngest and after parenting for almost 16 years, I can say that your channel would have saved me many hours of tears and self-loathing. What you do is beautiful. Please keep doing it if it is not detrimental to you.
❤❤❤ if anyone has anything negative to say to you they just need to keep it to themselves! You help far more people than they ever will by spreading positivity in this big mess of a world we are trying to live in.
I’m with you Kristina! ❤ I’ve never been diagnosed with neurodivergence, but I’m definitely an anxious person, who also struggles with depression who was raised to do things perfectly (or it’s not good enough) and I really struggle with “homemaking” and keeping up and up to the standards expected of me by my parents (which is ridiculous because I’m a mum of 3 and will be 41 in June)! I have been decluttering my house for over 10 years 😂 I definitely need to declutter for my sanity but I always re-accumulate which is something I’m trying to change. We are all different and I love your vintage style! ❤ Thank you for being real and vulnerable with us xx
🙋♀️❤️. I think YOU are doing a great job! Your home and your family are awesome! Be of good cheer. Spring will light up our days again!
I love watching ur cleaning videos bcs I am of a certain age (old enough to b ur mom 😊). Watching u motivates me during my retirement age. I have 2 kids (in their 20s now) & I had a constant mess I worked full time & barely made the rent in my tiny place. I wish u were around then it would had been so nice to see someone like me. Tho it's just my hubby & me I still struggle with mess bcs life is messy & fun & stressful. Just wanted to tell u I ❤ u & if no one can handle this turn it off.
You have made me feel like a real wife and mother. I have always felt like I’m on the outside looking in and invisible. Wow, the knowledge that it’s okay and NORMAL to not live in a museum is astounding.
Kristina, you are doing a GREAT job! I love your channel because you are Real.😊
Thank you so much!
I watch your videos because your house isn't "Pinterest Perfect*. I want to see real life - a real person who faces many of the struggles I face. Please don't ever change. Please don't let those who are negative take your sunshine away. Being real and showing the world all your soft, vulnerable spots takes courage. Please don't ever change.
By the way - I've been meaning to ask; Do you have a mailing address/ p.o. box? Thanks!
Dear Kristina,
Sorry about the insensitive people - sometimes I think they're really talking to themselves, or just spouting out the last bit of advice that helped them, without thinking it through. Anyway, taking them with huge grains of salt helps.
So let me tell you what I love about your videos:
I love how you often make yourself beautiful, even though there may be no other adults around to appreciate it. I've taken to doing that when I think of it - it's a nice boost to really like what I see when I look in the mirror; it makes me feel good.
I love your "crowded" look, especially those full bookshelves. You are an excellent organizer. I have always prided myself on being able to fit many things efficiently in a small space (why waste space?). And I hate when people tell me to throw things out. They are telling me to throw out my history, things that I love, things that are useful (maybe not right now, but I refuse to waste an item that I know I will need in future because of someone else's idea of "order".
I love your voice. It's a joy to listen to.
I love how you repond to your children - the way you pick them up, and how they respond to you. It tells me your love is strong.
I love your calmness. We might not be calm all the time, but it is a crime to kick oneself for inconstant perfection. It's taken me many decades (I'm 67) to recognize perfection as simply not a thing, to be able to laugh at my mistakes, to smile, say, "Oops", and go about fixing things if they need to be fixed. In the meantime, I get a mug of coffee, put my feet up, and breathe.
I love your gorgeous colors, I love your unique style, I could go on, but this note is getting super long.
My point is that you are bringing sense and order and companionship to me (and considering how many subscribers you have) to many others.
So far as your own household, I think it's marvelous. I think that those who want to change it, want to make things better for you - despite that good intention, we all have to find our own way, and that's just how it is - a lot of people don't realize that.
So, thanks Kristina. I'm loving your videos.
With Love,
Cathy
I am in my 50s, 7 years ago I finally moved into the first house I consider my final home (untill I need to scale down becourse of age😅). All other homes has been "temporary" and usualy I have had to much stuff. Now that I have room for most of it I am gratefull I lived with the disadvanteges and still have everything that means something to me. And now after 7 years ALLMOST everything has found their place and I am slowly getting sorted what I prioritize to have in my life. I could not have done that before, and I am glad I did not try.
No one can deside how much stuff an other person needs or wants.
Still watching your content for YOU!❤
I think people say stuff about getting rid of your stuff. Because they see you struggling and home with less to manage, mean less stress. It doesn't mean to be minimal. I think that it can look like just finding a happy medium .
More stuff is silent tasks, adding stress on you when you don't realize.
I am like you. I thought minimalism was sterile , very clean house. It's not , it's your own happy medium, and easier to manage for you.
I have gotten rid of over 100 bags of stuff. So far , I'm living better. I still have more stuff I need to get rid of. Decluttering is like peeling back layers of onions.
Take what I said with a grain of salt.
I raised three children with a hair salon business in my home. Because of financial reasons, we never ever ate out. I cooked all the meals and basically did all of the household duties with the exception of vacuuming. I also homeschooled for three years. You just do the best you can. I think the important thing is that your children feel loved. When they grow up they’re not going think about how perfect your house looked. They’ll remember how you made them feel. You’re a very good mother and you’re a good housekeeper too! Don’t worry about the naysayers. What counts is what your family thinks about you and no one else. There were many days I cry all day. I never felt like I was doing enough. But now, many many years later, I’m proud of the mother that I was. Now my house is clean most of the time and I miss the mess of having children. Sending you a hug Christina.
As a 44 year old and a late diagnosis of ADHD as well I completely understand every single word you talked about. One of the biggest reasons why i subscribed to you was because i relate to you so much. I adore everything about you and what you share on your channel. You are encouraging, and you are doing a great job. Thank You so much.
You’re doing a great job friend! We women all go thru similar circumstances and need to encourage and lift one another up. We got this!
I love ur channel and I appreciate how real you are with ur content 😊
I am ND aswell and have two ND children, I live in a very small one and half bedroom house on a low income, and although I am fairly minimalist my house still gets messy every day haha because I will never be a person who thinks to put things away as I go, IV just accepted this haha.
Even though I am minimalist most of my things are thrifted and I enjoy the style of more vintage things, and enjoy the aesthetic of ur channel
I'm sorry that some people are rude and don't know how to just stop watching or keep scrolling. I love your messy house, it's a little like mine-imperfect.
Thank you for this beautiful and supportive video. It makes me so sad that anyone would watch your content expecting you to be anyone but who you are in your gorgeous, cozy, creative home that is full of love. Our family of five lives in a two bedroom apartment. You can bet that even at its cleanest our home is bursting at the seams!Not all homes work the same way or look the same way and thank goodness for that! Thanks for the variety you offer! ❤
I absolutely love your channel! I am a mom of five boys and I struggle with anxiety and depression too. Thank you for being real. Your channel is such a source encouragement to me. I get excited when I see you have posted a new video because I enjoy watching them so much😊
Wow, holy transference of insecurities Batman! Those people need to take a breath, let their kids be kids and stop worrying that the world will end because there's a Barbie doll and a fugitive dust bunny under the couch😂
I don't have any suggestions for you Kristina. I watch because I enjoy it. I am 85 and have lived through the decades that are now called vintage, the decades of my mother and grandmother and even great grandmothers routines. We are a long lived family. Shame on those who attempt to tell you how to live, it ain't easy however you do it.
You are charming and I love your content. Don't listen to the jerks, they just seem to be more vocal a lot of time. ❤ You are appreciated.
Thank you so very very much you have no idea how much I needed to hear this today. Much love from Australia 🇦🇺🐨
Same here. Sending YOU a hug from California ❤
Bravo! Thank you, thank you, thank you for your channel! I have ADD, 3 kids, lots of animals, and my house will not stay clean. And that's not failure, that's life! And it's a beautiful life. The kids are happy and fed and have a cozy bed to sleep in every night. Thank you for keeping it real and giving us a platform so we feel less alone on this journey.
My kids are grown and I am so much worse at cleaning my house than when they were all here. I have been diagnosed with ADHD and the more we learn about it the more I realize that having someone else around helps me do better with chores. Now that I am widowed there really isn't anyone here to inspire me so I go where my friends are. I volunteer at a museum, help at my church, am involved with a theater group and we are currently in a performance cycle. I also hold offices with my local, district, and state American Legion Auxiliary. I get a lot done in a week, but dishes, laundry, and cleaning the toilet are about it for the cleaning I do. At home I find something to watch (RUclips) while I knit, sew, or do other crafts. I make a lot of Christmas gifts and birthday gifts (4 daughters, lots of sons-in-law, 10 grandkids, friends) and I have done lots of hand-sewing on costumes, oh, and there is a craft fair coming up! My grandma was born with "make do and mend" skills - or so it seemed - so I was taught to look for the potential in everything so my house is crammed full of things with potential to become something creatively useful if I would just take the time....
Like you, people have long told me that I have too much stuff. Odd they never say that to store owners or libraries. I am changing. I am releasing things of my husband's that I don't know how to use especially if it makes me sad to see it and remember what all he would be fixing were he still here. But this is not the instant process people seem to think it should be.
God gave me lots of talents and helped me gain many skills and I am glad He taught you to say that "mess is morally neutral" because that helps me with the parts of life where I have so few skills.
Your channel means so much to me. What ever you choose to do at the end of the day, I am so glad to have this corner of the internet to come to for as long as it's here.
You are amazing! I just love your style. My husband always said that when our kids were small that we could have a messy and full house, and when the kids grew up, and they did, then we would have a clean house. Homes are made for comfort and love.
Don’t quit. You’re doing a great job. ❤
This was a very honest video that was a blessing to see. I’ve been there many times and you represent so many of us who just aren’t “perfect” and who are genuinely happy not being “perfect”. Thank you for everything you have said in this video I really appreciate and respect you greatly for being open and real!
Hi Kristina, I'm a relatively new subscriber. I watch you because I find you relatable - I get shamed for untidy house too (I block them straight away) and I'm sick to death that a spotless white minimalistic house is meant to be a norm while a realistic one is a reason to shame someone.
I have followed you since you were single and just a blogger. You are different and I'm here for it. The generic don't like it and it's on them. blessings and keep thriving because you are an inspiration to those of us hoping to have an entire brood one day!!!
You're doin' it, babe❤️. Love from CO
Lovely video! As a creator myself I often wonder why some viewers feel the need to judge, criticise and offer unsolicited, unwelcome and extremely unhelpful advice. I tend to believe it's people who are deeply unhappy with their own lives and feel powerless to do anything about it. So instead of working on themselves, they try and fix other people's lives, even if they don't need fixing. I hope you stay true to who you are as a creator. And don't let them get you down! ❤
Please don’t quit. You have the most awesome important job. Being a mom and housewife. Our society tries to put that down. Sending a prayer to you and your beautiful family.
Oh my goodness!! I needed this video!!THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOOOUUU!!🥹❤🥹❤🥹❤