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Decluttering Your Emotions, Time... then Stuff
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- Опубликовано: 6 ноя 2017
- Laura’s sense of humor and rare insight brings clarity to the complex, emotionally messy world of decluttering and organizing. Before you can get to the stuff, you need to first create motivation and the time, right?
Real life stories and a fresh perspective provide a deeper understanding of how to remove your resistance and stay motivated. Laura’s original tools make it possible to transform the physical work into an enjoyable experience:
- 5 personal resources to always consider
- 4 essential criteria to trust your decluttering decisions
- 5 time management options to reduce your stress
Laura’s unique, integrated approach teaches you not just what to do, but how to think it through so you can declutter your stuff with peace of mind.
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I have watched/listened to this time and time again as a gentle companion while I putter my way from stuckness into cleaning/sorting. I love Laura’s approach, which is at once so humorous, so compassionate and so practical.
I sent this video to my grandmother, who shares with me a perennial sense of overwhelm at the way possessions accumulate in each of our homes. I love Laura’s reminders that as we grow and change, and as our interests evolve, so too does the relevance of the objects we choose to surround ourselves with. Her clarity, combined with a lack of judgment is such a gift to any who get to encounter her work! Thank you for sharing the videos of these talks, Laura! You’re stellar!
I've harbored such guilt and shame the past 10 years over my clutter. This particular video changed that!
After being hit by a car over a year ago, and having metal plates and 18 screws in one leg, my lifestyle changed. After seeing this video, I feel more emotionally ready and inspired to deal with the task!
Thank you!!!
I fell on Sept 14 and have been in hospital 3 times since then. I’m not walking yet. Broke my right ankle, 3 times, have 9 titanium bolts and a rod in my leg. It’s cold now in Colorado and painful.
I can sit and do a few things. But not for 2-4 hours. Healing comes first. My husband can’t help much. He does what he can.
The ‘mess’ is only a mess. It will get more in order.
I’m not shopping to buy more to bring into the household. This is the key for me. I can get through a drawer in 20 minutes. Can’t stand up to cook or do any house dusting or cleaning yet.
The idea of letting things go will take me time. I’m making notes as I watch these shows! I get it. But being incapacitated right now since Sept 2021 has made me ‘rethink’ where I’m going. Not where I was. I wish to share the fun things I was involved in (like coloring cards) snd giving these things to folks who will enjoy the process. I enjoy doing some art work and crafts. I read a lot snd now sending my books to friends. It’s all a process.
Moving forward slowly daily! Trying to walk. It may be all thus year before I can. There is a light at the end of this situation in many levels.
Pat in Colorado
@Pat Schneider best wishes to you Pat for a quick healing. At least u r not out still buying like I am.! Take care.x
There is nothing like going thru your mother's things to realize she kept too much that was never used or enjoyed. It has made me realize I need to get on the ball with the 18 years of accumulation in our current house.
“Your stuff becomes clutter as your life and interests change”
Yes, one of the massive misconceptions is the clutter is bad, or we're bad if we have a lot of clutter, when clutter is simply a natural outcome of an ever-changing, fast paced life. The mess we are in makes sense. Outcome of a certain pattern of thinking, a pattern of behavior... change the pattern, to bring a certain order and peace of mind to our lives. Thanks for commenting, and subscribing! New group coaching, online courses and videos coming asap. Enjoy, Laura
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The French have a saying "the appetite comes from the eating". When it's in my own best interest that I do something that I don't really want to do, I tell myself that I just have to get myself to the place where the chore resides and look at it for a minute, assess my feelings and let my mental juices flow, ask yourself some pertinent questions.
Then go have a quiet private lunch, or a nap.
The second day I tell myself all I have to do is take one step further and examine the situation more deeply and tantalize myself with more questions.
The third day I tell myself to go back with intent to see and imagine what's in it for Me, Me, Me!
If the juices are getting a bit turned on just dive in looking for the pony in the horse shit.
The whole process is like warming up to a new lover...first you visit and chat, the next date you hug, third date you kiss, forth date you get married, lol.
This sounds like the most reasonable way to approach and handle this topic, that I have ever heard in all my life. Thank you for this approach. I feel relief in my heart.
Sharon Beckmon yes, Well said
💕👏 Thank you for your kind words. Subscribe if you would like more videos. Take good care of yourself along the way, Laura
I decluttered and gave the majority of furniture, purses, to her and her family…the rest went to goodwill. While listening to this I decluttered my bathroom cabinets and drawers. .. it felt good to throw out all those things I’m just not using.
Love it, I feel understood and healed by your words. You are so beautiful, gentle and funny! I have subscribed to your channel :D keep up the good work!
You are so very calming to me and my my very gentle personality. Enjoying these videos as I work on decluttering.
Laura, you are so kind. Your compassion shines through, and I am so grateful for your videos. Thank you for sharing your unique approach. Love from Canada!
Hi Canada! Thanks so much for your kind words. So glad my holistic approach is helping. Thanks, too, for subscribing and sharing your the videos with loved ones! Enjoy and take care, Laura
This is the most practical, respectful, actionable advice on clutter I've ever heard. Bravo!
"Stay engaged"!??!??! WHAT? Do you mean I can't get married? (Giggle!)
I'm in my 9th decade!
I love you, Laura! In fact, I love you SO MUCH that I'd rather sit here, crochet and watch/listen to you than declutter! ;)
Can you imagine the stuff I'm facing? Wish you were here, but I can't let you into my house until I get it straightened up.
Always be you! You're so adorable, kind, hilarious, helpful, understanding, etc., etc., etc.! I'd come up with thousands of adjectives but my Thesaurus is in another room and I can't get to it due to the clutter between here and there.
You have truly helped me get to know me.
Thank you SO much for allowing me to be me and giving me time to do just that. It certainly helps with the decluttering process, both with stuff AND with the emotions that go along with this process.
God bless you, dear one!
By the way ~ I have NO intentions to marry; plus I don't/won't have time/energy to!
This decluttering thing is something I intend to enjoy till I go HOME to be with Jesus.
Thank you Annie for your kind words! At 90 I suggest you enjoy your life, and if you do any decluttering, please get help to at least get help with the physical work. We're not meant to do this work alone! Thanks for subscribing! Take good care :-) Laura
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Just MUST tell you! I read the l e n g t h y comment above and thought, "That sounds just like ME!" I then looked to see who had written it ~ guess what!?!!!
It was ME!
WOW! Do I need H E L P !!!!!!
@@annieb7919 You made me giggle!
I love how you are saving your grandfather's plaid jacket. I have a pr of plaid bell-bottoms that I loved wearing during the 60s/70s and I keep them to look at and remember when I actually had a small waist and optimism for a long future when all of Life was going to go soooo easily and I was going to fulfill so many dreams, unlike the "old" adults who never went anywhere with theirs! LOL
Sounds great! We all get to keep some memorabilia with loving memories. Thanks for subscribing! Enjoy
Alexa has really helped me with cooking and cleaning - for setting timers, yes, but also she's a wish genie with Amazon Music and plays anything i ask her to play. She also reads to me from Audible, so I get a lot more done now. I wish I had found you before we moved. We basically left our house with most of the contents in it. We lost thousands of dollars doing it that way, ironically, but I still feel 100% better.
I have felt so down from not having my home declutted; I don't invite family and friends into my home like I used to. I go to there home or I meet them somewhere. I feel like a fraud, I want to host gathering again.
Same here. The thought of cleaning my house for Christmas was just too much for me. Needless to say, we had Christmas over my sisters.
@@snowbunny1285’m right there with you. I no longer do things with friends or grandchildren because thing get so out of hand that I feel like I need to clean before I do. But of course, I feel so overwhelmed I shut down and think…… next weekend. 😩
Don't be hard on yourself. Be Kind to yourself, like you wouid a friend. Small managed tasks I love it when I sell something or when a rubbish and. I get hoarding when I'm depressed
I love that you explained the difference between an excessive accumulator and a hoarder....I'm in the excessive accumulator and in process of decluttering. I don't like mess and my home is 95% functional....I have 3 closets and a small trailer to go through, sell items, and or donate. Excess is annoying for me and I want things to have a place to land...a home of their own within my home. I love your videos!!
Thank you for being so clear and non judgmental.
Hi Sheila, what makes the work hard is judging yourself while doing it. Compassion is key. Don't need to make you or the stuff wrong to make it better. Persevere with patience! Thanks for subscribing - Laura
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Thank you Laura! You speak such down to earth common sense. I think you are the only person I have found who covers all the issues I have. Mine began after 3 deaths close together plus children with such different views who have no idea what my life is like now I am disabled and my hobbies have to be limited to table-top activities not the long rambles in the countryside as before, so I need a hobby cupboard for all the craft items which they see as clutter. It was so good to hear the distinction between mess and clutter! Thank you! I am trying to deal with both. I think I have good ideas for organising the "stuff" I use regularly. I am held up by essential repairs to the house needing doing which are not finished yet.
Such wisdom: The biggest mistake is to do :Too much too fast too hard in too little time. Result=exhaustion. Your brain will resist doing it again.
And - Regular tidy and declutter of each area, like cleaning your teeth. Lovely. Then do it in a comfortable way like the Opera lady. I too shall listen to music. Thank you!
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Same issue with family. Lack or loss of relationship drives the hoarding. And they blame the hoarding for the lack of relationship regardless of the facts.
Hi Elly, Thanks for writing. There are a lot of common misconceptions about this work that only make things harder. When thinking more clearly, it's easier to clear clutter. Build a routine, and perhaps get some help from someone who can be in your home. Thanks for subscribing@ Good luck and enjoy.
Do not Rush! Putter through using Your particular 1 Time, 2 Energy, 3 Money, 4 Space and 5 Skills, thinking through./ # 1 do I Love it, #2. Use It ? 3. Have Space, ? or does it #4. fit my current Lifestyle? and schedule regular Declutter,. by Time management Do, Delegate, Drop, Diminish, and Defer think through it give yourself time. Eventually turning your worry to wonder and your concerns to Clarity.
Hope the summary helps you, but a bit out of context. Good to watch to understand more. Thanks for subscribing, more videos to come soon. Laura
this is brilliant imho - never came across such a sensible, creative and yet totally realistic and thorough approach! thank you for sharing!
oh my word you are like a loving big sister not a drill sergeant!
@Piper Mccoy Awh so true I have 2 big sisters.....boy do they both like to control....know....organize!!!
Thanks for taking the pain out of the THOUGHT of declutterIng😦🙂
Such a healthy and refreshing approach to stuff ❤. I have been a fairly tidy person for most of my life. I am a shopper and my husband is a pack rat. I recognize we need to purge and get a handle on things. However, I've had 3 surgeries and a bad case of covid in recent years. 3 hospital stays in the past year. My health has taken a toll. Having the strength and energy to get started has been a hurdle. I am hopeful and looking forward to better days. I enjoyed your video very much.
Hello - Thank you for your kind words. With your health concerns I encourage you to hire a professional organizer to work with you, masks or no masks, trying to do it yourself will be too difficult. Worth every penny to lift the burden. Take care, and thanks for subscribing. More videos to come soon! Laura
I was able to listen and organize my declutter sent it to my friends that we talk about this all the time. I finally can walk to the back of my walkin closet. 👍
That's so great Lena! Lots of people talking about this. It's a hot, emotional, messy business we are all involved in as we age. Glad my videos helped you get to the back of your closet! Feel free to subscribe so you (and your friends) get notice of new videos coming asap. Working on them now 😊Take care, laura
👏💕 Please subscribe if you want more. Enjoy that closet! Thanks, Laura
Wow - That's great Lena! Persevere with patience, and glad that you have a friendship circle around you. We're not meant to do this complex work alone. Thanks for subscribing, and take good care, Laura
I am sooo glad I made the decision to look for help & finally turned to RUclips, cuz I found you!!! Thank you for finally making sense as to why and how this happened to me & a way to actually help...after 15+ years of trying & failing. You are an Angel 😇!!
Hi Jennifer, I feel Laura is an Angel too! Her approach is so calming and logical. I've gathered bits and pieces of helpful guides over the years, but Laura takes the cake! One challenge I really enjoyed was to just go around the house every day and gather 21 things to donate. If it was 21 pens or 21 old Christmas cards ( for crafting) I counted each and every item. Or maybe one belt or one plate etc. I kept track on a paper with hash marks. I remember one night there were like 45 items and I remember thinking, man this is fun lol. I had great success with it, donating 2 large boxes and a big handled shopping bag in a few months time. I've also had success with the box label sorting, Keep, Sell, Donate. Anyway, I loved what you said and wanted to encourage. God bless and keep on puttering. Reena 😻👍❤
You are an angel! There are so, so, so many gems here. I'm only a few minutes in and will watch again and take notes! (I would be taking notes now, but I'm at work doing stuff with my hands and just paused to type this out while I listen). I could listen to you and watch you forever
Clutter is a symptom of much more than just “excessive accumulation”.
Laura ... you my dear ... ARE AWESOME!!! Thank you so much.
Thanks James! Glad you found the video helpful. Take good care and thanks for subscribing! My best, Laura
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I think she is the best! Really!!!!She finally decluttered the scarves!
You gotta poop a little more often... lol I just love Laura s sense of humor and gentleness:):) I am de cluttering at 1 AM because my mom will visit me at 7 AM LOL and who better than Clutter Clarity to calm and motivate me??! Thanks:):)
So lovely to join you in the middle of the night! Try to pace yourself though after your mother leaves by building a weekly routine during day light hours :-) Take care and thanks for subscribing, and sharing the videos with loved ones! Grateful, Laura
My daughter and I moved in to take care of Dad after Mum died. I didn't have the luxury of time and so had to move a whole house of stuff to a house already full of stuff.
No room to move yet now I have to sort through it all. No idea where to start. That's why I'm here.
Hi Justine...Sometimes a renting a storage unit really is essential so your home doesn't become a storage unit! Perhaps move stuff out so at least you are comfortable enough to do the decluttering in little bits through time. UGH. It does sound like too much on your own. You need to get ready properly to do the work at all. NAPO or email me. Too much to go into here. Our expectations cause the stress! Most of my work is on zoom now if you want help, and new videos and an online course coming soon, too. Thanks for subscribing here, and if you want to learn about future options, on Facebook ClutterClarity by Laura Moore. Hugs, Laura
What a lovely daughter he has to do that and look after him so that his life is not uprooted too much in the time he has left in this world 😍
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Thank you for saying that. He is still going strong and will be 85 this June. 😀
I loved the jacket before I knew the backstory. - I would have it altered to fit and put a plain dress under it. Maybe matching red? Love love love
Presentation was excellent and appreciated. Thank you
You are so inspiring! And wise. Can't wait for your podcasts.
"Putter" is a word that calms me down.
...can you patent it?
...thank you for years of inspiration.
This is Awesome 👏🏻 Thank you for sharing 👍🏻👍🏻. Stay safe healthy and happy 😃
I've started calmly cleaning my desk near the computer as I watch the video.
So glad this video calms your decluttering and organizing! Great. Putter through Your Clutter and enjoy. Thanks so much for subscribing! Take care, Laura
You are so wonderful! Thank you!!!🌅🌈🌊🐋💝💕🌌
Laurey, Thank you so much for your kind words! Makes my day :-) Producing online courses as fast as we can to keep up with the demand, hope more videos soon. Stay in touch, if you like, sign up for newsletter to learn more. Thanks for subscribing, and take good care! Laura
So glad I came across your videos… just when I have to empty a storage units I can’t afford nor a place to put them in. Thank you for your intelligent, compassionate understanding of what’s involved. ❤️
This is amazing! 👏👏👏 I really appreciate your peaceful, kind, accepting, understanding, and being present and beautiful presentation! Thank you so very much! Much love and blessings ❤️🙏❤️
Hi Joy, Thank you for your comment, and glad you got something of value out of my presentation. Stay well, and thanks for subscribing, more videos to come soon! Laura
If you don’t declutter for yourself do it for whoever will have to go through it when you die.
Laura, I sooo love your content - particularly on the foundational first and FOREMOST step: EMOTIONAL!
I also looove that you provide definitions and decision-making guidelines that contribute to one's clarity and confidence that outlasts your coaching relationship!!
My question about loving an item and a criterion for keeping an item: what do you do with (an) item(s) that you love love (!) looking at (high aesthetic value - it cheers you up just looking at it on a daily basis), but you rarely use it and when you do, you not only enjoy the experience fully, but everyone else appreciates its beauty as well (I guess you can say it serves two purposes - 1) adds aesthetic value to the room even when you rarely use it and 2) when you DO use its full util value, it is fun, even if you rarely use it...?
I forgot about another factor: 3) I made it. It is a masterpiece. Oh, another one: 4) that it is a masterpiece now, is an enhancement to its original value - an heirloom.
I look forward to your input. Thanks so much! 💕
Hi Joy of Living, Thank you for your comments. What you're describing isn't clutter. It's a keeper. You don't have to answer yes or no to all the criteria, they act as a filter. Which way are you leaning once you consider them all to make a decision that is right for you. Treasure your keeper :-) Thanks for subscribing, and enjoy your progress! Take good care, Laura
Hi, if you like looking at it and it gives you joy - it is an asset. Not too many things can give you joy over an extended period of time - so it that item does that for you - definitely a keeper.
Such a great resource!
Thank you, yes, the emotion part is tough; especially, when there is a strong attachment and the people are passing away and there is no room.
First time I found/watched you. Spent hours watching others to avoid actually DOING anything! Your /this vid took me FIVE yes 5 hrs to watch--and that’s a compliment!! Maybe other things too in my life influencing me but your so calmmmmm approach gave me incentive to pause vid n say OK let’s just do this but ( which lead to a bit bigger but-in good way; my let’s just this led to other things to do...and I DID THEM TOO!) Further had whiteboard still wrapped; unwrapped to write your quote! Plus added list of tomorrow’s tasks. Feeling clearer than in years!! Love the 5 D’s-like more (D)iscussion of that...but,: Worry to Wonder; Concern to Curiosity--that, my friend, is your book title!!!!Xoxo.
So glad my videos have motivated you. A fresh perspective really does make a difference. You don't need to know all the answers to start, but you need to start to find the answers. We all need help along the way, and not meant to do everything alone. Keep on going!
So glad you're doing some deep learning! Motivated again. Lovely. Persevere and enjoy. Thanks for subscribing. Take care, Laura
Hi Lerycka Lee - thanks for your comment! Think of your "tasks" as "your intentions." They're yours, and the work does not need to be task orienting, but freeing. Build a routine and do what you can day to day. Practice non-force and simply show up and see how it goes. I wonder how it's going to work out - Voila. Drudgery to discovery :-) Thanks for subscribing, and ENJOY your progress. Laura
I understand. I'm just saying the stuff doesn't disappear. It still needs to be dealt with in the aftermath. Of course, people let go and move on. Hard to rebuild, yet grateful to be alive.
No it doesn't - we're getting rid of less, less trash, and passing it on. Thanks for watching, please subscribe to get more. Take care, Laura
You're right. Absolutely. You build a new life with gratitude. Doesn't have to be hard if you learn how to truly let go, without regret, and grow into who you are now. Take care, Laura
You’re an amazing unique person 🥰
I love the bag! It would be perfect for me!
You are not the only one who said that after the event! Thanks for subscribing and ENJOY! Laura
Very helpful! Thanks so much.
I give things away easily. The problem I have is that when people see my stuff out on display they want it. I tend to offer it to them when they say they really like it. I hide my favorite things so I do not give away what I really want to keep. The other day I put out an item I really love and ended up giving it away. What is going on with me?👀
14:00 Clutter is what does not add value (anymore) to your life..... You have 5 resources: Time, money, energy, space and skills. (I would add help from relatives incl. them allowing you to store stuff).
Thanks for your comment. Good point. In my mind, store stuff is in the space resource, helpers are in the energy (physical and emotional) resource. Enjoy and thanks for subscribing!
Overeating and not pooping enough lol loved this analogy!! I am binge watching your videos mrs Clarity and getting ready for a thanksgiving decluttering marathon lol.How can I schedule the 30 min call with you? Thanks/Priscila from Waltham MA
Hi Priscila, Glad you like that analogy! I hope you had a clutter-clear Thanksgiving!I have a bit of a waiting list, but you can contact me through my website ClutterClarity.com. Hope you are still enjoying the videos as we roll into Christmas, end of the year... Thanks for subscribing, Enjoy! Laura
One of my son's stuff is cluttering up my space, it's cluttering up my life. I've told him many times to get it.
The five resources explanation and the question “What adds value to my present life?” were as helpful as the four criteria you explained in detailed. FYI I thought at first the “joy book” you mentioned was “The Joy of Less” about minimalism.
Thanks for the heads up about this minimalism book. So glad you're finding my videos helpful. Enjoy, and please subscribe, if you like! Take care, Laura
I subscribed. Looking forward to working through your videos.
God Bless You!! Wonderful work! 💕
Give him a deadline and stick with it... if you cant fo that ,, you dont really want it gone.
Excellent video !
Very helpful thanks 😀👍
I have a question about the free phone session you advertise at the end of this video - I assume that is only for people who live in your area.Correct? I live in the Dallas area and am concerned about my elderly mother's situation.
People call me from around the world... or email is better to make arrangements.
do you have a video on getting family to help?
Is there a book available? Thanks for your videos, they are uniquely helpful in their approach.
Hi Julie, A book is in the making. Podcasts are coming soon. Thank you for your comment! Thanks, too for subscribing, and enjoy. My best, Laura
Dear parents!
When Your kids are very good behaviour all the time and always taking good care of their things, keeping their rooms very clean, loving their favorite things and want to make nice childhood collections of their things: books, clothes, toys, video games, clothes, DVDs and etc, then donataing is very wrong thing to do. If You have few space then storage boxes and shelves will help You out and Your kids will be very happy and thankful then, if they can keep their favourite things. Childhood things are very valuable and it is very sad, if they won’t see them anymore in their life. Every child should have the right to keep their things, if they can take good care of them all the time!!!
Respectfully,
Astra Viil
How do you help someone that is very defensive of their clutter..every surface is covered with stuff..nicknacks from thrift stores or fb marketplace..so many it's tedious to dust which really never gets done..picture frames sitting every where..a room full of old clothes and shoes..carpet from the 80's that literally stinks and she refuses to get knew flooring..ugh...I wouldn't care except she has a7 month old grand baby living there and he's recently gotten his first sinus infection and it's not going away..😓
Continuing.. this is a pretty small house with 5 people living there, 3 dogs and very little space to move around.. she's not a cleaner by any means and she openly admits this..the dogs are her source of love and thrifting brings her some sort of contenment.. the house looks like a thrift store now.. how do you break through to someone like this?
Thank you.
What do you mean by “I stay vertical”? English is my second language:):)
Hi - LOL I remain standing! Thanks for subscribing, and sharing the videos with family and friends - Grateful, Laura
Also, if I am the "high priestess" of the house; if I am the one paying the bills and the mortgage, then I have the right to decide whether or not the rooms of children or adult children are allowed to become "ground zero" pits. I have the right to decide what can and cannot be stored in my garage.
Patty Amato; I like that Patty! I like too that mess is not necessarily clutter. I've had builders here and am waiting on more to do repairs. It's very trying. My children would just throw everything away but it's packed in boxes for when the builders finish. After all, I shall still need plates and clothes!
Yes, but respectfully. Learning negotiation skills help. Good luck, Laura
Enjoyable voice
Thank you Lucy Belle. Nice to hear now as I am entering into the world of Podcasting soon. Thank you for subscribing! Wishing you well, Laura
Good info...have you written a book?
Glad you like the information. Thanks for asking about the book, Kimberly. Yes. Putting it together now. Storyboarding. 2019! Looking for an agent. Enjoy, and thanks for subscribing! Laura
Paper Clarity: What to Keep, Where and When to Shred is available (PDF), and Prepare to Care - family conversations to have to prepare for illness in January.
can order from website ClutterClarity.com
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I just found you on RUclips I would like to speak with you.
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Can I be this woman's friend too?
Deferential need a meeting on phone costing USA?
You need to be a little bit more loving to your mother a little more understanding what does it matter if she's cluttered you're not living there you're not cleaning it out. You can dump it all out after she dies. If she's not having to leave her home just help her clean don't help her get rid of anything. She doesn't have long to live letter enjoy the last years of her life😢 (your turn is coming you feel a lot different about it then)
It’s good, but lol people are trying to declutter and you’re giving them stuff 😅. You know every single person loves things, it’s kind of not a good idea
too much talk talk talk must get to the point
you're brilliant, even if you are a snob