Completely disagree with this. A child is far more likely to tantrum in a shop than anywhere else because of the high sensory input from a shop - bright lights, buzzing lights, muzak, announcements, people walking all over the place, lots of bright colours, boredom. And if they are neurodivergent you can be a strict as you want, sometimes they aren't always able to hear the instruction 'come here' depending on what else is going on in their heads - some kids have audio-processing issues that means that they simply don't process verbal instructions easily/quickly. We can assume it is willful, but I've seen it in adults ,z they genuinely don't process it - they can be two for away and not hear that you have said something. It isn't deafness - they physically hear it, but their brains don't process it. So if you're going to pour water over such a cold, I how yours also pouring water over a kid with a broken leg because they don't run to you, or a kid with cerebral palsy who can't shake your hand, because durability is disability, and the water on someone with audio processing issues, or sensory issues is the same as punishing someone who is wheelchairc bound for not going upstairs - they already suffer, and you just add to it deliberately.
I see what you mean and I'm with you but I think she took in consideration only children that haven't displayed any neurosensory ( or other kind) issues. And not very young children either. As under 4 or 5 or something
HI @angelastradling8487, thank you for sharing your perspective. I believe Barbara was expressing that the tone of the home will be seen outside of the home. A home with boundaries and safe guidelines will be replicated outside of the home. If the children get used to being obedient in the home they will most likely be obedient outside the home too.
Completely disagree with this. A child is far more likely to tantrum in a shop than anywhere else because of the high sensory input from a shop - bright lights, buzzing lights, muzak, announcements, people walking all over the place, lots of bright colours, boredom. And if they are neurodivergent you can be a strict as you want, sometimes they aren't always able to hear the instruction 'come here' depending on what else is going on in their heads - some kids have audio-processing issues that means that they simply don't process verbal instructions easily/quickly. We can assume it is willful, but I've seen it in adults ,z they genuinely don't process it - they can be two for away and not hear that you have said something. It isn't deafness - they physically hear it, but their brains don't process it. So if you're going to pour water over such a cold, I how yours also pouring water over a kid with a broken leg because they don't run to you, or a kid with cerebral palsy who can't shake your hand, because durability is disability, and the water on someone with audio processing issues, or sensory issues is the same as punishing someone who is wheelchairc bound for not going upstairs - they already suffer, and you just add to it deliberately.
I see what you mean and I'm with you but I think she took in consideration only children that haven't displayed any neurosensory ( or other kind) issues. And not very young children either. As under 4 or 5 or something
HI @angelastradling8487, thank you for sharing your perspective. I believe Barbara was expressing that the tone of the home will be seen outside of the home. A home with boundaries and safe guidelines will be replicated outside of the home. If the children get used to being obedient in the home they will most likely be obedient outside the home too.