1:38 Treating like she's the prize (don't put her on a pedestal) 5:50 Not breaking rapport: flirt, don't be a friend or mentor, or start friendly and then switch to flirting 8:34 Don't buy her off, don't try to impress her with money 11:08 Failing tests. Be relaxed: if she's sexual don't be too excited, keep cool, if she makes a comment about age, be cool, don't take it bad, joke about it, be always relaxed, don't defend yourself 14:50 Nice guy behavior. Your value is your ambition, maturity, you have your things together. Don't make her your priority. If there's chemistry, make a move. Don't pretend to like things you don't to be nice. Flirt flirt flirt.
@@stevespenceroz you're very welcome. Reading it again i woud narrow it down to : be her equal (don't try to be someone you're not, dont't manipulate her, or buy her off) and relax (accept any outcome, everything's ok); and maybe focus on being normal, yourself, and playful and flirt if she responds positively to it. It's all pretty good advice, whatever the age, when you think about it.
Man if I have to go through all this I’d rather just be rich and pay for it and send her on her way. I can’t ever remember dating being this complicated. All these mind games just to get the cookie is madness. Fellas, choose the woman that chooses you. It’s just that simple. If she doesn’t choose you, then you’re going to have to work harder to get her. When a woman is interested in a man you don’t have to work hard at all. Pay close attention to women and they will tell on themselves every time. If you have to go through this process it’s not going to last anyway.
Well said, I might add that genuine burning desire on her part is a must have and can't be manufactured. Otherwise a woman will eventually monkey branch when she finds a man that does create such desire in her.
Amen to that, Bobby is full of shit and I can imagine he'd get pussy whipped. If you're horny, just pay a hooker, none of this dating bullshit just to get the cookie, its cheaper than dating too! Women use sex as a weapon of power over men, take that away, they ain't got shit. When women know they don't have power over you, they become more attracted to you. Simple psychology 101, we all want what we can't get
Five mistakes 1. She is younger than you thought 2. She already has three children 3. She wants to move in after two weeks 4. You dated her mom years ago 5. Her father is the local Sheriff
Met my wife when she was 33, a war widow, and I was 50, divorced almost 25 yrs. She was taking the Liberty Landing ferry from her job in Low Manhattan and I was taking it from a day trip to 911 Memorial while I was on vacation. I'm from NC. After cpl yrs she left Jersey City for a job at a 4 letter sports broadcasting channel here in Charlotte where I lived. We're celebrating our 4th anniversary this March.
Kudos, widows can be a tough relationship. Kudos for sticking with her. Lost my fiancee' in a car accident when I was young. Always extra people in bed early on. Happy trails!
Dude is spitting truth I was sleep with women 12 years younger then me (they were legal). I was living on my own which I loved. I had a house with a pool and I always kept my place clean and smelling good. I learned being a high valued man does not me having millions of dollars. It means having your shit together. When I started doing these things women were coming to me. It started to become a juggling act because there were so many. The things I started doing are: Being able to handle your own business. Taking care of yourself and your health. I don’t mean being a gym rat. Not texting or calling her all day everyday. Having your own place and being able to keep it spotless. Having your own life and not relying on a woman for validation or happiness. Know how to handle rejection. If she is not interested just brush it off and move on. There are no shortage of women in the world. Never put her on a pedestal. If you treat her like a celebrity she will treat you like a fan. Not being afraid to tell her no and mean it. Not being afraid to walk away if she starts to make thing complicated in your life.
Yes, most women you can get with just having your own car, place, nice body shape doesn’t have to be a body builder either, a decent income coming in, and communicate well and have boundaries.. it’s very easy.
@@nickabel8279 they know that when we’re fumbling in my car. The most I get is to go down on them and they never return the favour. And this is just the hookers
My husband is 71 and 27 years older than I am. He is so confident and wise and incredibly witty and smart. He stays active and doesn’t look his age. He is the most amazing lover and I cannot imagine my life without him. We laugh together and can be ourselves. He is somewhat dominant, but that’s okay by me. I actually like it. He takes control. I am not with him for money. He is not wealthy but has his life together. He was a widower. We have been married 2 years. ❤
stay blessed. you are in a good relationship. And don't be distracted about his age as I bet some of your friends would make you think. Sometimes a lady's friends are her worst enemies. cheers.
2 years is not very long. But when he starts to dwindle & you are nursing him & you're still young enough to want a calm life you will know if you made such a smart decision for your own life when you look back as an older woman. There has to be a significant reason you chose to do this. I have seen this many times & it breaks your heart.
14.50. All these factors will ruin your frame. Once she meets you as an older guy if she is attracted to you, she'll create a positive perception of you just for being older: You are experienced You are stable You are knowledgeable To a degree, she looks up to you. From the beginning I would say some points in your favor. Now, is up to you to show through a proper frame that perception is correct. If you can't, then for her it would be a great deception and will lose interest immediately.
Everything in this video is on point. My partner and I have been together for 8 years now (woohoo) and she is 20 years younger than me. I'm 51, and she's 31. My strategy with younger women has been quite simple: Think like an older man but act like a younger man. Sounds like an oxymoron? It isn't. Apply the many years of wisdom and knowledge to the actions you take as though you are still young. Think old, act young. This does not mean you will DO things that your much younger version would do like suddenly do a cartwheel or spinning sidekick (although it would be cool if you actually still could). This means that the ordinary things you did while you were much younger can now be done with a little bit more extraordinariness. To give a concrete example of this: Recently we had to relocate to a different home. So it was necessary to do some level of planning and lots of packing. My much younger self without the insight of the older self would have done very little planning and focused more on the packing. But from many years of experience of moving (even moving from one country to another, we all know what happens when you put little planning in your packing). So we created even a roadmap for how we would do things and ended up packing with such detail that when we got to our new place, it took less than 3 days to unpack and put everything where it should be. We packed and unpacked 30+ medium-sized moving boxes. I believe that you need to have a very strong sense of self-confidence that is much stronger than that of the younger woman's self-confidence. This is not to be mistaken for egotistical and narcissistic behavior or tendencies. What I mean is that your self-confidence exudes enough that your younger woman's potential date/girlfriend/wife realizes that you are in control, have your head over your shoulder and wouldn't buckle down when she needs you the most.
Yeah, planning gets more important with more moving parts too. I cannot recall a move that included less than 150 line items. I am probably around 300 now. It is best to HIRE strong workers who FOLLOW INSTRUCTIONS & to supervise them carefully.
So, to attract a younger woman, older men should think old but act young? and a perfect example of this is when you have that young woman in a relationship and you want to move to a different residence with her, be the adult and make a detail plan? Great advice bruh, I will have to remember that when I'm in my 8th year of living with the beautiful young woman of my dreams.
when i was growing up, women always told me "we like confidence, and dont like a lack of confidence" but i never knew what they meant. but this video broke it down in detail. I appreciate that. im 41 and you have given me reason to beleive.
Dated a gal who was very conflicted. Took her out to a nightclub for our last date, but she didn't know that. We were slow dancing, I was playing it cool. She said, "We're not having sex," I replied, "Not tonight." I was dropping her off, she slides over snd gives me a tonsillectomy, then asks, " You free tomorrow night?" I replied no, but was in two nights. Relationship was a train wreck, but got lots of sex and she told me it was my confident retort that opened the door.
"Confidence" is just something guys have when they know they're really handsome and they've started making an unusually high income at an unusually young age. NO SHIT women like confidence in a guy! They like handsome wealthy guys. The thing is, arrogance/belligerence is not confidence. Young guys often try to act "confident" by being aggressive dudebro jockstrap types that get in people's faces, but it wears thin in a hurry. Relaxed, easygoing confidence isn't going to happen unless you have your financial ducks in a row at a really young age so you don't have to waste your life worrying about earning money--and also know you have the handsomeness to back it up. This is *exceedingly* rare.
I just turned 64 and I've dated them ALL. Single since 2008, I dated and banged my way through three ,going on four, presidencies.Prior to my 26 year marriage, I had no problem finding,dating,and having sex with pretty girls.For the past couple years, I have detached. I date occasionally if it falls in my lap but the chase is over. I now have my own band where I sing and play bass guitar out in the local bars and festivals. I cook great meals at home and drink wine and beer that I make myself(actually a nice bonding thing with my son). I have a few very good friends that provide laughs and a social life.I visit my daughter and son in law in NYC often I take more photos, my gardens are elaborate, I spend the proper time in the gym, I read, do projects , and enjoy still working three days a week . I do what I want..I don't have trouble with money and I'm eagerly awaiting grandchildren. HERE'S THE POINT: Once you realize that you don't need a woman to be happy(...and I mean REALLY happy), your outlook improves. Listen to me, especially you "old" guys.THEY ARE ALL CRAZY AND THE YOUNG ONES ARE THE WORST. STAY AWAY FROM ALL OF THEM. If you need sex, pay for an escort and get it over with. If you need unconditional love, get a dog. I don't know what qualifies this guy as a dating coach but I'm sure his heart is in the right place. Take it from me, the day you detach from the modern, expensive, bullshit dating world is the day you enter nirvana. The attractive girls on dating sites are only there for free meals and drinks. They usually have a rich friend with benefits taking care of their "needs". We're men. We're brothers and we're the only sane people in the country. Detach and cultivate who you are. End of sermon.
So true brother!! Modern women are simply dangerous. Don’t get seriously involved with any of them. It will be destructive to both your emotional and financial health!! Because of the current legal system, society has given the power to women, men are second class citizens today. Put yourself first, be good to yourself, keep your independence, and whatever you do, DON’T get married or put a woman’s name on your assets!!
Only thing I will take some exception with is the last one: being a gentlemen doesn't entail losing power - in fact being a gentlemen can impart power to the man. It's more about how you express it in regards to if you are doing it naturally to everyone around you or only with the specific person. If it's the latter then it's just a symptom of putting her on a pedastle. If it's the former then it becomes an attractive quality because they see the respect you have for everyone and not just a focus on them.
Exactly. 👍 Just like if you can't do anything without your mom's approval it isn't really attractive but if you treat your mom with love and respect it can be really attractive to a woman.
I'm an older guy who prefers older women. These five tips are useful for men like me, too. (And to a degree, probably for younger men going for older women.) My big takeaway from this: always consider yourself "the prize" that *she* wants, show her that you have the real power in the potential relationship while her only actual advantage is that you are interested in her -- but she is competing with every other woman you may find interesting. Make it clear that you are someone she wants to pursue and wants to be with because of what you have to offer; maybe it's money and status, maybe it's wisdom and experience, maybe it's just being a better dating choice than the last guy in her life.
Let me add to what I've already said. I was in my late 60s when I met a very attractive woman in her early 70s. several years a widow. My looks are just average, I don't have lots of money, and I had just gotten out of a relationship with another woman a few years younger than myself (and several years younger than her). I told her her interesting things about my life (previous work and travel, current hobbies and interests), and did it all without being boastful or arrogant. I showed that I respected her and she needed to earn my respect as well. I became the "prize" SHE wanted, and I became the dominant partner in a beautiful long-term relationship. No fakery, just presenting my real self in a way she couldn't resist.
I'm a senior single widow of means who needed someone skilled in home renovation, and decided to hire a man whom I'd known from some 25 years earlier. He was as kind as ever and still attracted to me as he'd been, long ago. As I watched him work for two weeks to perfect my rooms, I was filled with admiration and we shortly after began a relationship. I'd never take advantage as he must make a living, and did insist upon paying him what he'd normally charge a customer. It's been lovely!
I had an 18 yo gf when I was in my mid 30s. I'm not the kind of guy who would actively go out and find a younger girl but when I was single at that time and she and I met I saw a lot of promise so I went for it. We spent 7 years together and the whole thing fell apart when she started hanging out with her friends and decided that this older guy was not worth her time. My best advice is when it comes to younger women have fun with the sex but for God's sake don't try and make a relationship out of it. You've been warned.
heh... that's obvious! It's YEARS between you and her, she were grown in another "cloud", has different culture. And finally, difference between 20 and 30 is not the same as difference between 30 and 40! Math is not enough here. :)
7 years was a successful relationship. I do t think you should avoid one based on it ending. Things come to an end. You got her best years and now you can move to another.
@@daitedve1984 Math DOES explain it! 20 to 30 is a 50% jump, but 30 to 40 is only 33%. The smaller the jump, the less issues there will be. Another option is to compare "years of adulthood" (YA). A 20yo may have 5 YA, while a 30yo will have 15YA, or 3x the life experience.
Re: Tests: ALL relationships have qualifiers. Not every person who applies for a job, has the qualities to fulfill that job. You are being sized up wherever you go in all situations for compatibility reasons. it's an inescapable human trait. Even if we don't like it. The response to qualifiers(tests) is the answer, whether you answer the question or not.
The most entitled women I have been with are in the 45-50 range who work out a lot and still look young in low light. They can attract top-tier Tinder predators in their 30s for one-nighters. It warps their minds. They think that hot young guys are their actual level.
They are their level, FOR SEX. They keep it up because they want sex, but they still want more. That is where you do, or don't, come in. It is not a warped mind to recognize that they are objects of sexual desire. The way you get past that, is you don't. If that is what they want, one night stands with younger men, either you are that or you aren't and there is no point wasting a second on a woman that isn't interested in the same type of relationship you want. If on the other hand, you want the one night stands with these women, then hit the gym and become a top tier tinder predator. You can't tell someone they should want you. Either they do or don't.
@@co36women between 18-22 is the perfect age.. they have way less baggage, more energy, more open minded and flexible.. it’s easier to be the leader.. the issues can be she’s younger so more patience is needed like most of us when in our 20s we’re all over the place.. but if you and her click and she respects you- she will stay attached and you two can have an amazing relationship.
And you're deluded. In two years time, do you think she'll be telling her friends she be dating a 50 year old ? Make the most of these 2 years is all I say. I'm guessing you have a decent salary
You are spot on with all of these points. I’ve been married 27 yrs and my husband has never put me on a pedestal. Grateful for that during dating, grateful for that now.
@@maitreychahataray3535 I think it’s true for lots of women. I think women think they want to be put on a pedestal, but when they get it, they soon lose respect for him. Women need to have respect for the man they are with. I should add, that when a man caters to a woman she will likely lose attraction for him. Not necessarily respect, though that may happen as well.
@@kristinrichmond8185 Although I know you're correct, why is it we teach boys as a society and through entertainment the exact opposite of what works and then they have to stumble their way to how things actually work. Seems nefarious to me lol.
thank you for your honest perception. Like you said, I think a lot of women "think" they want to be put on a pedestal... but when they are, they find themselves losing attraction.
First, thank you Bobby for helping the older men here who have no idea how to be an attractive man. Now then, men; You don't have to stop the rapport. Just maintain an air of 'I don't NEED you'. Feel free to appreciate her, but never, never chase. NEVER. I invite younger women to come along with me when I'm going somewhere interesting, I never ask for dates. NEVER. I'm a single, interesting, fun man who knows interesting, fun people and places. If they turn down the offer to come with me, I never change my plans just to accommodate her; she has to learn that I don't depend on her, nor do I plan my life around her, that's the kiss of death in attraction. I go where I planned to go, anyway. If I see her at a later time, I will tell her about all the fun things that I did, and the interesting things I did. If I met an interesting woman, I will get a pic with myself and her. If I didn't, I will get a pic of myself and some other woman, might be a server, bartender, whatever, just as long as there's nothing which indicates that she is just a worker there. It has to be a pic which shows that other women find me attractive. This is the magic; it's called 'social proof'; proof that other women are attracted to me, which will naturally inspire a woman to wonder, 'What does she see in him that I missed?'. And that will get her to come with you next time. All this information is out there in books about relationships and dating, if you haven't learned all the social skills, well it's never too late. Put in the work to learn how to be successful in dating no matter who you are, or what your financial situation. You won't regret it.
Really good stuff. I’m 70 and seen lots of good and bad in relationships. Women hold a lot of power in relationships, but they want genuine love and emotion from a secure, strong place. Men have a lot of love to give, very little power except for what they can do with money=power, and get burned a lot by trying to love the wrong woman. They key is to find a woman who can see what a loving guy you are, meets you halfway and loves you for it. You’ve struck gold when you’ve found that.
Great advice! I'm in my late 40's dating girls in their early/mid 20's for the last few years and it blows my mind of how easy it has become. You just have to have your shit together, fit and good looking for your age.
Sir big fan from India. I have a question. There is a girl in my dance class , she is shy and beautiful. I kinda like her.we both have small talks in class. But I am not sure whether to approach her or not. Actually she is 6 years younger then me. But I can feel that she is also attracted towards me but I am not sure. I tried to ask for her number. But I could not. Now she is absent from last 4 classes. We are in a common. WhatsApp group. Can I took her number and directly text and ask why is she not coming. Or i should wait so that when we again meet in person i can directly ask for her number?
I guess disciplined fitness routine/nutrition was omitted either by mistake or assumption, but that's top of the list from my experience. There's no cheat code, you cannot skip straight to game while looking like an undisciplined basic
@@myscorpions Best place imo are meetups (as in meetup app) events. Other than that if you've got some game, seeking arrangement can be a food option also
I agree completely with all of this. But at the same time underscores all the reasons why I am not at all interested in dating. And I am a successful, stable great looking guy that has a lot to offer, but I am just done with the games. You really have to be able to read between the lines and infer a LOT from a woman, and I am way too literal of a person to tolerate all that.
I hear that. Dating now is all about reverse psychology and strategy. I’m 58, retired early, I need for nothing. I like his content, I’ll try it all, being the prize, no pedestal for her
I’ve definitely made the mistake of not knowing I’m the prize when I am the prize. I definitely have my shit together and have lots going for me. This is a huge lift for me and reminder. Thank you.
This video is pure gold, thanks Bobby. Those 5 mistakes are universal truths that older men must pay attention to. Know a guy who is 40, ripped and good looking but makes all these mistakes. Nice guy who pedestalizes women, sees them as the prize, tries to impress with expensive dates and allows himself to be friend zoned because he is to timid to make a move. However, women care a great deal about money, this is a test you must pass to move forward with younger women. As has been said elsewhere, women don't care about your struggles, they wait at the finish line and choose the winners.
I had a situation that was opposite in a way,, but still dealing with low self-esteem. I had a date when I was 23 with a very beautiful model and dancer who was 36 or so. We got to her house and we were just kind of hanging out and talking and I said something about why someone of her caliber, would be going out with someone like me who didn't have anything (I was fresh out of college and living with my parents) and wasn't some big muscular stud. She did not address me directly but told me a little sorry about another man she had dated, who was big and muscular, but still had a complex about being inferior to her. And she told him, he should stop denigrating herself or she might start actually believing him! Obviously a little lesson for me, and I took it!
@@africkinamerican "Cougar" is the slang term used to describe your model date. She was no doubt seeking validation that she was still attractive and desirable to much younger men as a motive for going out with you. You did not need to be a " big muscular stud" to get her attention, just young, attractive and available. Confidence and game were obviously not a factor.
it's good to see that this is not part of the fastseduction/PUA movement, it's just honest advice of how to be cool with yourself and be cool with others.
12:55 THAT is a mistake I made in 2019: I had a consensual fling with a then cute 24 Latina/French Canadian woman. She herself is very sensitive (about her looks). At one point, she said, "And, how old are you?" I pretended I didn't understand or hear the question. I SHOULD have just said, "I'm 46," and NOT done my usual, "I know, I look young for my age." Just say 46, and say it with confidence. She needs to just take me or leave me, for being 50 in 2023, right? So, I just need to tell them I'm 50, and if she immediately bolts, maybe she's doing us BOTH a favor.
great damn point! Im 71 I tell them they don't mind! Some don;t ask I don;t offer I look extremely young I take care of myself Im an alt health care dr so I look better than most 20 yrs younger
I’d love to hear you define “ having your shit together.” Try to convince me that she doesn’t care about my money. Few women will get serious with someone who makes less, or has less, than she does.
A mature man has it together. My dad had an old sailboat and twenty bucks in his pocket. His last girlfriend was a phd 20 years younger and way wealthier. Find your place in the world. Be a king and a kingmaker. Build your sons and your friends up.
my 44 year old college buddy... who is broker there anyone I know... is dating a cute, 34 year old dentist who pays for everything. Trust me, it happens.
I’m 64 and meet all my women online. I always put them through the money test before meeting in person. Most women my age are better off thandivorced men. Why? They are divorced or widowed ( among other reasons) and did mot lose in either financially. I have to make sure they do not care about my money. Many don’t, but many stillsubconsciouslyseek a man for resources they do not need, even though they are not hot anymore
Great general primer Bobby. I'm an older guy in the Philippines, happily involved with a lady 24 years younger than me. I am a Psychotherapist, so I have been cognizant of most of your advice, and they all make sense. I plan to do a Matching service and will make your videos a prerequsitie for my new clients.
I think many men get defensive with a woman's testing questions because it puts them on the spot like they are being evaluated which does not create a relaxed atmosphere.
Its simple. Disciplined fitness routine/nutrition, waking up early, continuing a path of personal success, a well-fitting and simple wardrobe, spending your leisure time doing interesting/socially active things, charisma derived from your happy life, activities, and fit appearance. Enjoy the company of conventionally attractive feminine women who'd like to join your interesting story, live with options and of course commitment optional.
Bob, a 65-year-old, extremely wealthy widower, shows up at the Country Club with a breathtakingly beautiful 25-year-old blonde: she proceeds to knock everyone's socks off with her youthful appeal and charm. She also hangs on Bob's arm and listens intently to his every word. His buddies at the club are all aghast. They corner him and ask. "Bob, how'd you get the trophy girlfriend?" Bob replies. "Girlfriend? She's my wife!" They're knocked over, but continue to ask. "So, how'd you persuade her to marry you?" Bob says: "I lied about my age." His friends respond: "What, did you tell her you were only 50?" Bob smiles and says: "No, I told her I was 90." 😅
There are so many videos out there and it's pretty exhausting to realize how to behave and act to get from point A to be point B with modern women. Never felt the need to abide by such rules. Being at peace is most important: whether single or in a relationship. If you can't be yourself and constantly have to be on guard on how to act, that ain't peaceful. But I understand some people may need it to get to the next level.
Cool video - I am older & by accident I behaved the way you suggested & it worked 100%, the key is like you said being flirty without being creepy. From the very beginning they have to know that you think of them in a romantic/sexual way. I take good care of myself with regular exercise, a good diet, keep my teeth nice & I am always groomed & clean with 2 showers/day. I'm in my early 60's & my barber is a cute 30 year old woman younger than my oldest son & we have been having a blast together.
I've seen your videos before. At a time of my life where I needed reinsurance of my thoughts. That was about 3yrs ago now. An I haven't really watched another one of your videos till now. Had a gf recently want to put us on hold. (Her 57, me 45) Well, I told her I'm not putting my life on hold. So it was a couple days later. This other woman contacted me about needing help with some equipment and insight with her business. Which I own myself the same type of business. She knew about me from a mutual friend and she out of the blue contacts me. ( her 31, me still 45) Now at a different fork in my life. I come across another video of yours. An it had the older guy title. So me paying attention to what my spirits present for me. I decided to give this one a watch. I'm glad I did because it's just adds to what my beliefs already were. An doing the things you mentioned. It's exactly what I have been doing. An I can tell she has interest in me too. An now I know for sure I'm going down the right path. Because without a reference point, how would we know if we are going in the right direction. I thank you for the life path you have chosen. An it intersection with mine. An the help it brings to others. Keep up the good work. 👍
I'm 66, yes different, gardening, fruit, veggies and orchids! Age test? Just look them square in the eyes and tell them your "Compass Pointer still Points North", a little naughty, but she will definitely take the bait!
Wouldn't have worked in high school A kid that age acting confident and like he has his schitt together, appears delusional and born with a silver spoon if not a sociopath. In other words, quacking like a duck, doesn't make you a duck. At the same time if you are a duck and don't quack, she'll think something is wrong with you.
#1: sure, same for young vs. young. Whenever a woman was/is attracted to me, its only when I don’t show any interest. #2: I think such rapport should be “broken” immediately. The longer you wait, the more difficult. #4: never lie, unless you are just into a transactional relationship #5. women are not attracted to nice guys. Btw I am always making the same mistakes. Thanks for the reminder.
The problem with “Women aren’t attracted to nice guys” while very true is I’m not naturally an ass hole. So now I’m dealing with nice guy syndrome, or always feeling uncomfortable and stressed by trying not to be myself and trying to be more of an ass hole.
Same. But one thing I've noticed is that when I'm really happy I tend to be an A hole. Not in a bad way. Just teasing people and making jokes. Then when I'm feeling down I'm very sensitive to criticism and insecure. I'm seeing a therapist and I'd rather work on these core issues of trauma than fake it. But I'm still out here dating and learning.
Aggressively righteous is not always nice. Theres a way to be nice that wont turn her off, let her know that you are nice hut their sre things that make you will fight against.
@@kdub3288 The opposite of the term "nice guy" isn't asshole but rather "a pushover". Women like men who are genuinely kind but "nice guys" aren't kind, they put on an act to try to secure sex from a woman while being overly needy, insecure and pushy
32m w/ 19w. 12 year age gap. Money changes nothing after a certain point. Never pay for anything, get them to invest in you and only reward them for good behaviors with attention and affection.
Avoid the nice guy - Woman love being chased! Make a move, it is way better for you to make a move and her get to tell you “we can’t it’s too soon” and show your desire for her then to not make a move at all. Woman NEED validation making a move and showing your desire for her validates her and makes her feel good.
The thing that turns me off about older women is they almost always have kids. This adds an element of complication to the relationship and of course there’s going to be an ex in the picture as well. Obviously, nothing is more important to a woman than her children, so coming into a relationship with a woman that has kids you are automatically number two. You come into the relationship at number two, and you’ll never be number one. This is the beauty of young love. Before kids come along and you meet that girl and you fall hopelessly in love with each other and are joined at the hip, sadly, that comes to an end once a woman has children
I never wanted to have children but after working with kids and sharing experiences w my niece and nephew I realized that kids are a blessing and can bring you joy that you can't get otherwise. Also, being a loving dad or stepdad is a very attractive trait.
Wow, I really got a lot out of that. Women my age, late 50s, are dead set in their ways. They are looking for a particular type and needs to be a perfect fit. I've killed my romance life ever since high school because of the gentleman, nice guy (actually shy) behavior. Glad to see you put a lot of time to study and analyze this. Looking forward to more. Sonny
glad you found helpful. I agree with women over 40. While I find women in their 40s very attractive, they are usually harder to get then younger women, because most of the time a 40-50 year old woman will have children that are her priority.
Shy is a euphemism for cowardly. That's not attractive to anyone of either sex, nor should it be. I suffered that condition into my early 20's, terrified of the girls I was most attracted too, beyond just casual interactions. After becoming seriously angry at self for blowing several fantastic opportunities, I arrived at the solution. Hate to be crude but I simply hooked up with any half way attractive single girl of legal age that was attentive and blatantly wanting me, they sort of line up to take turns with me. A few were nothing to be proud of but most were good to great experiences. I became promiscuous for a few yrs not just for fun, tho it was, but for the *experience and confidence* I lacked. I had plenty of daring and confidence in my business and general life but I needed to crush my fear of intimacy with girls. Worked wonders, never been shy or awkward since, but outgoing and extroverted instead. Also crucial to never be Politically Correct, to self censor, another form of timid and just plain dishonest. It's obvious I say what I think regardless of reactions around me, surprisingly few are turned off by it and those are ones I'm not interested in anyway.
Nowadays this is a trait in woman starting at 40 (in many cases, just before 40). They are beyond confused! They are completely neurotic from their past relationship(s), the opinions they hear from friends, family, media, magazines, YT videos, etc, and they are not level-headed anymore. They think every comment, every word, every expression, has an ulterior motive. They are sub-consciously over-fearful and ready to be emotional at the drop of a hat. It never used to be like that with most woman - only the rare few! But now it's rampant!! Woman should spend more time showing they care, show that they're man's back mentally, emotionally, and physically, instead of all their time spent being judgmental about every move, every day, every week, every month.
If she asks your age, it’s not a “test”. She really wants to know that (and other things about you) before entering what may be a long term relationship. Just ANSWER THE QUESTION. Don’t get defensive; don’t avoid giving a straight answer; don’t make a joke out of it-AND DON’T LIE.
Nope. Bad advice. Age is the worst question to have asked. The instant you do you get put into a box. This box does not consider any other trait you bring to the relationship. Never answer this question initially, never answer this question after a while. Once you are well on your way in a growing relationship with this woman and it's time to get serious and make real life long decision of marriage then and only then does the woman have any right to know your actual age. For tips and tricks to avoid/sidestep laugh off the question with a joke that is why you watch videos like this. It's none of her damn business. Keep intimate questions for intimate moments. Men have no obligation to answer any "check list" questions a woman asks.
Bro I met a young lady who is 23 years my junior. I swear her character and presence is so mature and quality. She could’ve easily pushed me away after finding out I’m 42 but her maturity is why we are friends. She knows I’m interested in her despite us talking about it and she doesn’t feel like it’s presentable due to the age gap. But she brings me so much peace and joy and i could be myself don’t have to act like something else.
I go to nice restaurants because I like them. I can make my own good food and that actually works better to get a woman in bed than fine dining. This all boils down to a story I heard. I used to walk into a room and wonder if they’re going to like me Now I walk into a room and wonder if I’m going to like them. Keep that mind set and it’ll work well
@@KpxUrz5745 ~ nope! Skilled chef is not necessary Infact, my lack of kitchen ability actually caused friction in my marriage. I went onto Pinterest and typed easy recipes. One day a week I cook my meals and just eat the same thing through the week But women find it sexy when a man knows the kitchen. Not like a chef (that’s too much, I agree) You get to feed yourself, save money, and earn an easy flex 💪 I promise. I’m like you, too damn busy to learn to cook. Doing the easy stuff, you’ll be surprised the effect
@@izzojoseph2 Really, thanks for the positive reply. But I do have a real block when it comes to cooking or food prep, even buying groceries. I am highly or extremely skilled in quite a number of things, but I simply cannot add cooking to the list. Let's put it this way: it just about drives me up the wall to find the patience to even make a sandwich. I seriously dread buying groceries. Cooking, like ballet, is just "not my field". Speaking of those two topics reminds me of a little joke I like: "We had tickets to the ballet but my wife forgot the sandwiches".
I agree with a lot of this, but some of the nice guy/gentleman stuff is not necessarily off limits. For instance, traditional courting acts have gone so far by the wayside, that I've had good success with small things like opening doors or bringing a single rose to a date. No one does these things anymore and you can stand out as a gentlemen without seeming like a groveling nice guy.
yes, but there has to be perception on your side. meaning, you come across independent, non-needy, ect. you can get away with these things, but if you have a desperate, 'try hard' attitude... these things will ampify the wrong impression.
It comes down to (2) things younger woman are attracted to... 1) Confidence... 2) Passion Confidence and conviction in what you say and do... and the passion to achieve in the fulfillment of ones dreams. Being apathetic and having disregard for your woman helps in times she attempts to emotionally play you. So stay in control and never concede or surrender your masculinity and male leadership. Walk away and she will be running after you like a puppy dog. Women LOVE mystery and power in character and personality. In other words. Women are gravitated towards masculinity... masculinity n attitude and in persona. Younger women want men, not daffodil boys. So forget everything else in this video. Younger women look for security, wealth and achievement. Not frills, emotions, idealization, a fat wallet or being a chivalrous gentleman. That comes at the back end of the first 2.
I don't have these older guy issues. I'm 39 but I see 23-year-old women as the women I belong with. I think as if I'm 25. I still feel 25. It' not technique. It's really just how I feel. I still watch coaching videos though. No one can ever know too much.
These are all great/ truthful comments. But it all depends on what you want : casual dating / never living together a little money is OK . If you’re NOT giving her any money , there is an EXPECTATION in the future , that you will commit. Think of small amounts of money as an insurance policy. Now this can change …….if you do fall for her , but frequently there are children involved. Even marriages are transactional unless both spouses are equal income earners.
Bobby you’re a genius. Not for this video but for the “never explain yourself” strategy. It’s absolutely genius because explaining is logical. Women want emotion not logic. I did this perfectly today. Thank you.
FELLAS: Whether you are older or younger, NEVER put her on a pedestal -- YOU are the prize. That's not to say be a total cold-hearted conceited jerk, but never forget that YOU hold the power.
@@tonycrouse6544 If a man is in divorce court, he deserves everything that happens to him. Any guy foolish enough to get married. It's called "Darwinism." A three way contract between you, an emotionally unstable and unpredictable person (female) and the State; only an absolute fool would sign on.
This old guy isn't interested in dating. Having said that, I believe that being a gentleman in the modern society is harder than ever. Because the younger generations have no clue as to what that means. They disceve themselves into thinking that kindness equals weakness. They are so polarized that most of them can't function in society, so they try to change society. In other words, they're still kids.
*Confidence and authenticity go a long way, no matter the age gap. Has anyone tried the tips here and noticed a big difference in how younger women respond?*
Bobby Rio... thank you. I thought all of these points were well presented, and really gives some perspective on things I have been doing that are NOT helpful in the longrun. I am currently dating a woman 8 years younger than me - not a huge age gap - and am pleasantly surprised every day - Surprised that she's interested in me, surprised it's going so well so far, and surprised that she's complimenting me, flirting with me, and making an effort for me. And don't get me wrong! I'm doing the same, but after a few failed relationships, nice-guy behaviour, chasing the 'prize', insecurity... It's been a learning experience, and hopefully the maturity and experience - and your advice - can put me on the right track.
I would like to add to number 1 and 5 - men who deal with "cold" women in their lives, an ex-wife, a mother, grandmother, sister, longtime boss, and because there's never feelings shared, exchange of kind/loving words, support...matter of fact it goes beyond into shutting out, avoiding, annoyed when you are close, a man can urge for "warmth" badly and it shows. Men who have had to deal with this behavior from a women, tend to want to over compensate when they meet a person of romantic interest. Giving, throwing at them too much flattery, too many compliments, "putting them on pedestal" (as mentioned in the film), because it is what the man has longed to hear. Also because, they have been desperately wanting to show love and have love reciprocated in return, they run at the first sight of opportunity.
Pass basically any test by looking at this behaviour as something CUTE and dumb, laugh at it, at her. It comes from a position of insecurity and lack of knowledge of you. It's not something to become defensive over, it's something endearing. She's trying to understand you more, this means she wants you. Don't worry about what it is she said, or says, women are always desperate to increase their security with a man.
This dude is so spot on. Maybe the best dating coach content on RUclips. I just got back into the dating game at 48 and made every mistake he's talking about. Too bad I didn't see this five months ago lol. I had to learn all this the hard way.
What I discovered about myself is when I have chemistry with a girl I do everything right, and when I don’t have that chemistry I start down the rabbit hole of setting her up as the prize as you say.
Also, if you are an established d00d, you know shit about money, credit ratings, shares, taxes, car payments, mortgages, rent, etc. A lot of young women do not have their shit together in this regard, as they have no control over their spending and they are close to bankruptcy. If they are not willing to take your advice and change their profligate ways, they are going to be an albatross and you are always going t be bailing them out.
Coming out of a long term relationship I definitely fell into the being too nice and willing to help financially category... Thought was i can afford it so why not but kinda gone too far and ruined the chemistry we had. We're still dating but dont think theres any saving this one, shes just pushing the limits on how much Im willing to spend on her now. Oh well, my bad for wanting to help and letting it get to this point...
Noooooo.... Its never too late to start setting boundaries and enforcing them. Just don't blindside her by doing a 180 degree about face; Just start saying no the most extravagant/frivolous things, and be prepared to give a justification ("Thats frivolous, Thats ugly, You dont need it, You already dont use/appreciate the other one we have at home, We already spend X on [expense] last month, we need to reign in our [expense] budget, Im not comfortable with spending that much, I feel like youre taking advantage"). Saying no is a powerful thing. Yes there is some non-zero chance that she will just break up with over it, but if thats the case, it wasnt going to last much longer anyways. If there is any salvaging the relationship, you need to stop acting like a doormat immediately. Thats very unattractive to a woman.
Wish I’d watched this a week ago. Kinda blew a “test” text by putting her on a pedestal and being too quick to jump. But, with this new direction, I might just get it back. Thx!
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Older men go for younger women because inexperienced younger women are easily manipulated and accept crumbs and crap.
1:38 Treating like she's the prize (don't put her on a pedestal)
5:50 Not breaking rapport: flirt, don't be a friend or mentor, or start friendly and then switch to flirting
8:34 Don't buy her off, don't try to impress her with money
11:08 Failing tests. Be relaxed: if she's sexual don't be too excited, keep cool, if she makes a comment about age, be cool, don't take it bad, joke about it, be always relaxed, don't defend yourself
14:50 Nice guy behavior. Your value is your ambition, maturity, you have your things together. Don't make her your priority. If there's chemistry, make a move. Don't pretend to like things you don't to be nice. Flirt flirt flirt.
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@@seanmartin681 great summary, thanks
@@stevespenceroz you're very welcome. Reading it again i woud narrow it down to : be her equal (don't try to be someone you're not, dont't manipulate her, or buy her off) and relax (accept any outcome, everything's ok); and maybe focus on being normal, yourself, and playful and flirt if she responds positively to it. It's all pretty good advice, whatever the age, when you think about it.
Great points and breakdown steps!
Man if I have to go through all this I’d rather just be rich and pay for it and send her on her way. I can’t ever remember dating being this complicated. All these mind games just to get the cookie is madness. Fellas, choose the woman that chooses you. It’s just that simple. If she doesn’t choose you, then you’re going to have to work harder to get her. When a woman is interested in a man you don’t have to work hard at all. Pay close attention to women and they will tell on themselves every time. If you have to go through this process it’s not going to last anyway.
Well said, I might add that genuine burning desire on her part is a must have and can't be manufactured. Otherwise a woman will eventually monkey branch when she finds a man that does create such desire in her.
Couldn’t agree more! Never chase, let them come to you and let nature take its course.
Amen to that, Bobby is full of shit and I can imagine he'd get pussy whipped. If you're horny, just pay a hooker, none of this dating bullshit just to get the cookie, its cheaper than dating too! Women use sex as a weapon of power over men, take that away, they ain't got shit. When women know they don't have power over you, they become more attracted to you. Simple psychology 101, we all want what we can't get
Here here! Jump through all of these hoops? No
Right on
The power in every relationship belongs to the person who cares the least.
He who cares the least, wins.
Mostly true. But loving relationships shouldn't be seen as a *_power play,_* where the _loser_ is the first to catch feelings.
@@charlee_hotel Every human interaction is a power play, even one realize it or not.
Specially in loving relationships, power play is wild
True, the worse u treat someone the better they'll treat u. As long as u don't take it too far because it will collapse quickly.
@@wilfredv1930 wrong
Five mistakes
1. She is younger than you thought
2. She already has three children
3. She wants to move in after two weeks
4. You dated her mom years ago
5. Her father is the local Sheriff
LOL
#4 is a pissing riot :) hehehehehehehe
Also, the three kids that she has in #2 are actually your own grandkids. That'll fuck with a dude's mind
Lmao😂
6. All of the above
hahahaha My last one was definitely a 3. She was 32 and I am 65. And her mom was 8 years younger than I, so I could have dated her, but I didn't.
Met my wife when she was 33, a war widow, and I was 50, divorced almost 25 yrs. She was taking the Liberty Landing ferry from her job in Low Manhattan and I was taking it from a day trip to 911 Memorial while I was on vacation. I'm from NC.
After cpl yrs she left Jersey City for a job at a 4 letter sports broadcasting channel here in Charlotte where I lived.
We're celebrating our 4th anniversary this March.
... and watching this video.... lol Re-confirmation? I'll give you the benefit of the doubt. Hope you hit 30 years together.
Kudos, widows can be a tough relationship. Kudos for sticking with her. Lost my fiancee' in a car accident when I was young. Always extra people in bed early on. Happy trails!
Dude is spitting truth
I was sleep with women 12 years younger then me (they were legal). I was living on my own which I loved. I had a house with a pool and I always kept my place clean and smelling good.
I learned being a high valued man does not me having millions of dollars. It means having your shit together. When I started doing these things women were coming to me. It started to become a juggling act because there were so many. The things I started doing are:
Being able to handle your own business.
Taking care of yourself and your health. I don’t mean being a gym rat.
Not texting or calling her all day everyday.
Having your own place and being able to keep it spotless.
Having your own life and not relying on a woman for validation or happiness.
Know how to handle rejection. If she is not interested just brush it off and move on. There are no shortage of women in the world.
Never put her on a pedestal. If you treat her like a celebrity she will treat you like a fan.
Not being afraid to tell her no and mean it.
Not being afraid to walk away if she starts to make thing complicated in your life.
The last 2 are everything
Yes, most women you can get with just having your own car, place, nice body shape doesn’t have to be a body builder either, a decent income coming in, and communicate well and have boundaries.. it’s very easy.
@@renebleu8711 I have those things, but my peen is like a pencil
@@immers2410 they don't know that until you're already getting in there
@@nickabel8279 they know that when we’re fumbling in my car. The most I get is to go down on them and they never return the favour. And this is just the hookers
My husband is 71 and 27 years older than I am. He is so confident and wise and incredibly witty and smart. He stays active and doesn’t look his age.
He is the most amazing lover and I cannot imagine my life without him. We laugh together and can be ourselves. He is somewhat dominant, but that’s okay by me. I actually like it. He takes control. I am not with him for money. He is not wealthy but has his life together. He was a widower. We have been married 2 years. ❤
stay blessed. you are in a good relationship. And don't be distracted about his age as I bet some of your friends would make you think. Sometimes a lady's friends are her worst enemies. cheers.
If that's true, how did he seduce you ?
I am 56. And my wife rocks.
Thats beautiful😊
2 years is not very long. But when he starts to dwindle & you are nursing him & you're still young enough to want a calm life you will know if you made such a smart decision for your own life when you look back as an older woman. There has to be a significant reason you chose to do this. I have seen this many times & it breaks your heart.
"Old enough to know better, young enough not to care" This line has been GOLD for me. Feel free to use.
Or if they ask, just say "don't worry, I'm legal"
My old reliable is "I'll tell after you pull my finger".
@@africkinamerican I'm stealing this.
@@africkinamerican 😂 that's awesome 😎
Definitely using that 😅
I use almost the opposite: I am too old to care about what people (any woman) think about me😅but young enough to give you the run for the money
Really good video. 1. who is the prize 2. not breaking rapport 3. buying affection 4. failing tests 5. nice guy behavior
14.50. All these factors will ruin your frame.
Once she meets you as an older guy if she is attracted to you, she'll create a positive perception of you just for being older:
You are experienced
You are stable
You are knowledgeable
To a degree, she looks up to you. From the beginning I would say some points in your favor.
Now, is up to you to show through a proper frame that perception is correct. If you can't, then for her it would be a great deception and will lose interest immediately.
Everything in this video is on point. My partner and I have been together for 8 years now (woohoo) and she is 20 years younger than me. I'm 51, and she's 31. My strategy with younger women has been quite simple: Think like an older man but act like a younger man. Sounds like an oxymoron? It isn't. Apply the many years of wisdom and knowledge to the actions you take as though you are still young. Think old, act young. This does not mean you will DO things that your much younger version would do like suddenly do a cartwheel or spinning sidekick (although it would be cool if you actually still could). This means that the ordinary things you did while you were much younger can now be done with a little bit more extraordinariness.
To give a concrete example of this: Recently we had to relocate to a different home. So it was necessary to do some level of planning and lots of packing. My much younger self without the insight of the older self would have done very little planning and focused more on the packing. But from many years of experience of moving (even moving from one country to another, we all know what happens when you put little planning in your packing). So we created even a roadmap for how we would do things and ended up packing with such detail that when we got to our new place, it took less than 3 days to unpack and put everything where it should be. We packed and unpacked 30+ medium-sized moving boxes.
I believe that you need to have a very strong sense of self-confidence that is much stronger than that of the younger woman's self-confidence.
This is not to be mistaken for egotistical and narcissistic behavior or tendencies. What I mean is that your self-confidence exudes enough that your younger woman's potential date/girlfriend/wife realizes that you are in control, have your head over your shoulder and wouldn't buckle down when she needs you the most.
thanks for sharing, great stuff
Good wisdom 😊
Yeah, planning gets more important with more moving parts too. I cannot recall a move that included less than 150 line items. I am probably around 300 now. It is best to HIRE strong workers who FOLLOW INSTRUCTIONS & to supervise them carefully.
Nice comment.
So, to attract a younger woman, older men should think old but act young? and a perfect example of this is when you have that young woman in a relationship and you want to move to a different residence with her, be the adult and make a detail plan? Great advice bruh, I will have to remember that when I'm in my 8th year of living with the beautiful young woman of my dreams.
when i was growing up, women always told me "we like confidence, and dont like a lack of confidence" but i never knew what they meant. but this video broke it down in detail. I appreciate that. im 41 and you have given me reason to beleive.
When i was younger, I would just get drunk, and let the woman do whatever she wanted.
Dated a gal who was very conflicted. Took her out to a nightclub for our last date, but she didn't know that. We were slow dancing, I was playing it cool. She said, "We're not having sex," I replied, "Not tonight." I was dropping her off, she slides over snd gives me a tonsillectomy, then asks, " You free tomorrow night?" I replied no, but was in two nights. Relationship was a train wreck, but got lots of sex and she told me it was my confident retort that opened the door.
@@specag31 "relationship was a train wreck" haha
"Confidence" is just something guys have when they know they're really handsome and they've started making an unusually high income at an unusually young age. NO SHIT women like confidence in a guy! They like handsome wealthy guys.
The thing is, arrogance/belligerence is not confidence. Young guys often try to act "confident" by being aggressive dudebro jockstrap types that get in people's faces, but it wears thin in a hurry. Relaxed, easygoing confidence isn't going to happen unless you have your financial ducks in a row at a really young age so you don't have to waste your life worrying about earning money--and also know you have the handsomeness to back it up. This is *exceedingly* rare.
@@specag31o7
Not worth the aggravation. Dated beautiful girls in LA for many years, some were kind, all eventually turned crazy.
Age 18 to 80, blind, crippled and lazy, they're all crazy.
I just turned 64 and I've dated them ALL. Single since 2008, I dated and banged my way through three ,going on four, presidencies.Prior to my 26 year marriage, I had no problem finding,dating,and having sex with pretty girls.For the past couple years, I have detached. I date occasionally if it falls in my lap but the chase is over. I now have my own band where I sing and play bass guitar out in the local bars and festivals. I cook great meals at home and drink wine and beer that I make myself(actually a nice bonding thing with my son). I have a few very good friends that provide laughs and a social life.I visit my daughter and son in law in NYC often I take more photos, my gardens are elaborate, I spend the proper time in the gym, I read, do projects , and enjoy still working three days a week . I do what I want..I don't have trouble with money and I'm eagerly awaiting grandchildren.
HERE'S THE POINT: Once you realize that you don't need a woman to be happy(...and I mean REALLY happy), your outlook improves. Listen to me, especially you "old" guys.THEY ARE ALL CRAZY AND THE YOUNG ONES ARE THE WORST. STAY AWAY FROM ALL OF THEM. If you need sex, pay for an escort and get it over with. If you need unconditional love, get a dog.
I don't know what qualifies this guy as a dating coach but I'm sure his heart is in the right place. Take it from me, the day you detach from the modern, expensive, bullshit dating world is the day you enter nirvana. The attractive girls on dating sites are only there for free meals and drinks. They usually have a rich friend with benefits taking care of their "needs". We're men. We're brothers and we're the only sane people in the country. Detach and cultivate who you are. End of sermon.
Amen Amen Amen!!!
As a lady, this is right on!!!
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I agree with everything you're pointing
I agree 100%.
So true brother!! Modern women are simply dangerous. Don’t get seriously involved with any of them. It will be destructive to both your emotional and financial health!! Because of the current legal system, society has given the power to women, men are second class citizens today. Put yourself first, be good to yourself, keep your independence, and whatever you do, DON’T get married or put a woman’s name on your assets!!
Never allow anything a woman says rattle you. Indifference is the key.
How? I'm a seering hothead at times.
Indifference is totally boring. Sorry bruh
Truth
Only thing I will take some exception with is the last one: being a gentlemen doesn't entail losing power - in fact being a gentlemen can impart power to the man. It's more about how you express it in regards to if you are doing it naturally to everyone around you or only with the specific person. If it's the latter then it's just a symptom of putting her on a pedastle. If it's the former then it becomes an attractive quality because they see the respect you have for everyone and not just a focus on them.
Exactly. 👍 Just like if you can't do anything without your mom's approval it isn't really attractive but if you treat your mom with love and respect it can be really attractive to a woman.
You must have missed the part where the elaboration was to not let being a gentleman be a substitute for the other interactions.
I'm an older guy who prefers older women. These five tips are useful for men like me, too. (And to a degree, probably for younger men going for older women.) My big takeaway from this: always consider yourself "the prize" that *she* wants, show her that you have the real power in the potential relationship while her only actual advantage is that you are interested in her -- but she is competing with every other woman you may find interesting. Make it clear that you are someone she wants to pursue and wants to be with because of what you have to offer; maybe it's money and status, maybe it's wisdom and experience, maybe it's just being a better dating choice than the last guy in her life.
Let me add to what I've already said. I was in my late 60s when I met a very attractive woman in her early 70s. several years a widow. My looks are just average, I don't have lots of money, and I had just gotten out of a relationship with another woman a few years younger than myself (and several years younger than her). I told her her interesting things about my life (previous work and travel, current hobbies and interests), and did it all without being boastful or arrogant. I showed that I respected her and she needed to earn my respect as well. I became the "prize" SHE wanted, and I became the dominant partner in a beautiful long-term relationship. No fakery, just presenting my real self in a way she couldn't resist.
Our hearts go out to you.
I'm a senior single widow of means who needed someone skilled in home renovation, and decided to hire a man whom I'd known from some 25 years earlier. He was as kind as ever and still attracted to me as he'd been, long ago. As I watched him work for two weeks to perfect my rooms, I was filled with admiration and we shortly after began a relationship. I'd never take advantage as he must make a living, and did insist upon paying him what he'd normally charge a customer. It's been lovely!
I have no problem attracting women but I had to work on it
Niceee. Get that divorce money from those milfs brother
I had an 18 yo gf when I was in my mid 30s. I'm not the kind of guy who would actively go out and find a younger girl but when I was single at that time and she and I met I saw a lot of promise so I went for it. We spent 7 years together and the whole thing fell apart when she started hanging out with her friends and decided that this older guy was not worth her time. My best advice is when it comes to younger women have fun with the sex but for God's sake don't try and make a relationship out of it. You've been warned.
heh... that's obvious! It's YEARS between you and her, she were grown in another "cloud", has different culture. And finally, difference between 20 and 30 is not the same as difference between 30 and 40! Math is not enough here. :)
7 years was a successful relationship. I do t think you should avoid one based on it ending. Things come to an end.
You got her best years and now you can move to another.
@@daitedve1984 Math DOES explain it! 20 to 30 is a 50% jump, but 30 to 40 is only 33%. The smaller the jump, the less issues there will be.
Another option is to compare "years of adulthood" (YA). A 20yo may have 5 YA, while a 30yo will have 15YA, or 3x the life experience.
Older women are just as messed up, dawg.
I tell my friend that all the time. Just have fun but stop trying to have a relationship with them. They will leave you on a whim
Re: Tests: ALL relationships have qualifiers. Not every person who applies for a job, has the qualities to fulfill that job. You are being sized up wherever you go in all situations for compatibility reasons. it's an inescapable human trait. Even if we don't like it. The response to qualifiers(tests) is the answer, whether you answer the question or not.
The most entitled women I have been with are in the 45-50 range who work out a lot and still look young in low light. They can attract top-tier Tinder predators in their 30s for one-nighters. It warps their minds. They think that hot young guys are their actual level.
great comment They are delusional!
They are their level, FOR SEX. They keep it up because they want sex, but they still want more. That is where you do, or don't, come in. It is not a warped mind to recognize that they are objects of sexual desire. The way you get past that, is you don't. If that is what they want, one night stands with younger men, either you are that or you aren't and there is no point wasting a second on a woman that isn't interested in the same type of relationship you want.
If on the other hand, you want the one night stands with these women, then hit the gym and become a top tier tinder predator. You can't tell someone they should want you. Either they do or don't.
48 with 23. Been with her since 19. No baggage, no bullshit, no issues.
I’m happily married but if I wasn’t, that’s the age I’d be looking at. What do you like about the age difference. What can be difficult about it
@@co36women between 18-22 is the perfect age.. they have way less baggage, more energy, more open minded and flexible.. it’s easier to be the leader.. the issues can be she’s younger so more patience is needed like most of us when in our 20s we’re all over the place.. but if you and her click and she respects you- she will stay attached and you two can have an amazing relationship.
@@renebleu8711 well said
"No baggage, no bullshit, no issues". And I would confidently add "so far".
And you're deluded. In two years time, do you think she'll be telling her friends she be dating a 50 year old ? Make the most of these 2 years is all I say. I'm guessing you have a decent salary
You are spot on with all of these points. I’ve been married 27 yrs and my husband has never put me on a pedestal. Grateful for that during dating, grateful for that now.
Is that all true for a womans attraction?
@@maitreychahataray3535 I think it’s true for lots of women. I think women think they want to be put on a pedestal, but when they get it, they soon lose respect for him. Women need to have respect for the man they are with. I should add, that when a man caters to a woman she will likely lose attraction for him. Not necessarily respect, though that may happen as well.
@@kristinrichmond8185 Although I know you're correct, why is it we teach boys as a society and through entertainment the exact opposite of what works and then they have to stumble their way to how things actually work. Seems nefarious to me lol.
It's the old phrase " treat em mean keep em Kean ". If you kiss a woman's ass she will not respect you, she wants a man, not a boy
thank you for your honest perception. Like you said, I think a lot of women "think" they want to be put on a pedestal... but when they are, they find themselves losing attraction.
First, thank you Bobby for helping the older men here who have no idea how to be an attractive man. Now then, men;
You don't have to stop the rapport. Just maintain an air of 'I don't NEED you'. Feel free to appreciate her, but never, never chase. NEVER. I invite younger women to come along with me when I'm going somewhere interesting, I never ask for dates. NEVER. I'm a single, interesting, fun man who knows interesting, fun people and places. If they turn down the offer to come with me, I never change my plans just to accommodate her; she has to learn that I don't depend on her, nor do I plan my life around her, that's the kiss of death in attraction. I go where I planned to go, anyway. If I see her at a later time, I will tell her about all the fun things that I did, and the interesting things I did. If I met an interesting woman, I will get a pic with myself and her. If I didn't, I will get a pic of myself and some other woman, might be a server, bartender, whatever, just as long as there's nothing which indicates that she is just a worker there. It has to be a pic which shows that other women find me attractive. This is the magic; it's called 'social proof'; proof that other women are attracted to me, which will naturally inspire a woman to wonder, 'What does she see in him that I missed?'. And that will get her to come with you next time. All this information is out there in books about relationships and dating, if you haven't learned all the social skills, well it's never too late. Put in the work to learn how to be successful in dating no matter who you are, or what your financial situation. You won't regret it.
That Luka chan profile pic pairs with your comment in a funny way though. Steins Gate ftw!
its always about the money dont kid yourself
Really good stuff. I’m 70 and seen lots of good and bad in relationships. Women hold a lot of power in relationships, but they want genuine love and emotion from a secure, strong place. Men have a lot of love to give, very little power except for what they can do with money=power, and get burned a lot by trying to love the wrong woman. They key is to find a woman who can see what a loving guy you are, meets you halfway and loves you for it. You’ve struck gold when you’ve found that.
Like your comment but men hold half the power too. Wield it!
Best comment here.
Great advice! I'm in my late 40's dating girls in their early/mid 20's for the last few years and it blows my mind of how easy it has become. You just have to have your shit together, fit and good looking for your age.
Sir big fan from India.
I have a question.
There is a girl in my dance class , she is shy and beautiful.
I kinda like her.we both have small talks in class.
But I am not sure whether to approach her or not.
Actually she is 6 years younger then me.
But I can feel that she is also attracted towards me but I am not sure.
I tried to ask for her number.
But I could not.
Now she is absent from last 4 classes.
We are in a common. WhatsApp group.
Can I took her number and directly text and ask why is she not coming.
Or i should wait so that when we again meet in person i can directly ask for her number?
awesome!
I guess disciplined fitness routine/nutrition was omitted either by mistake or assumption, but that's top of the list from my experience. There's no cheat code, you cannot skip straight to game while looking like an undisciplined basic
Where do you meet these girls? Online?
@@myscorpions Best place imo are meetups (as in meetup app) events. Other than that if you've got some game, seeking arrangement can be a food option also
I agree completely with all of this. But at the same time underscores all the reasons why I am not at all interested in dating. And I am a successful, stable great looking guy that has a lot to offer, but I am just done with the games. You really have to be able to read between the lines and infer a LOT from a woman, and I am way too literal of a person to tolerate all that.
I hear that. Dating now is all about reverse psychology and strategy. I’m 58, retired early, I need for nothing. I like his content, I’ll try it all, being the prize, no pedestal for her
MGTOW BROTHER
Older guy here, Solid advice .
the one thing i can totally relate to is... not giving away our power.. just learning how to put that into practice is the trick for me..
I’ve definitely made the mistake of not knowing I’m the prize when I am the prize. I definitely have my shit together and have lots going for me. This is a huge lift for me and reminder. Thank you.
This video is pure gold, thanks Bobby. Those 5 mistakes are universal truths that older men must pay attention to. Know a guy who is 40, ripped and good looking but makes all these mistakes. Nice guy who pedestalizes women, sees them as the prize, tries to impress with expensive dates and allows himself to be friend zoned because he is to timid to make a move. However, women care a great deal about money, this is a test you must pass to move forward with younger women. As has been said elsewhere, women don't care about your struggles, they wait at the finish line and choose the winners.
thanks for the feedback and note.
I had a situation that was opposite in a way,, but still dealing with low self-esteem. I had a date when I was 23 with a very beautiful model and dancer who was 36 or so. We got to her house and we were just kind of hanging out and talking and I said something about why someone of her caliber,
would be going out with someone like me who didn't have anything (I was fresh out of college and living with my parents) and wasn't some big muscular stud. She did not address me directly but told me a little sorry about another man she had dated, who was big and muscular, but still had a complex about being inferior to her. And she told him, he should stop denigrating herself or she might start actually believing him!
Obviously a little lesson for me, and I took it!
@@africkinamerican "Cougar" is the slang term used to describe your model date. She was no doubt seeking validation that she was still attractive and desirable to much younger men as a motive for going out with you. You did not need to be a " big muscular stud" to get her attention, just young, attractive and available. Confidence and game were obviously not a factor.
it's good to see that this is not part of the fastseduction/PUA movement, it's just honest advice of how to be cool with yourself and be cool with others.
12:55 THAT is a mistake I made in 2019: I had a consensual fling with a then cute 24 Latina/French Canadian woman. She herself is very sensitive (about her looks). At one point, she said, "And, how old are you?" I pretended I didn't understand or hear the question. I SHOULD have just said, "I'm 46," and NOT done my usual, "I know, I look young for my age." Just say 46, and say it with confidence. She needs to just take me or leave me, for being 50 in 2023, right? So, I just need to tell them I'm 50, and if she immediately bolts, maybe she's doing us BOTH a favor.
great damn point! Im 71 I tell them they don't mind! Some don;t ask I don;t offer I look extremely young I take care of myself Im an alt health care dr so I look better than most 20 yrs younger
Hell yeah, once she experiences the dad rod the age question disappears rather quickly 😂😂
I think I speak for most of us when I say, "we don't care to waste our lives raising someone elses kids".,
I wouldn't even want to waste mine raising my own :)
I won't be raising them for someone like you. That's for sure. @@devilsoffspring5519
@@devilsoffspring5519the funniest comment I have read today😂
@@mahamadoutraore1077 Thank you, I try :)
@@mahamadoutraore1077 Thank you, I try my best 😁
I’d love to hear you define “ having your shit together.” Try to convince me that she doesn’t care about my money. Few women will get serious with someone who makes less, or has less, than she does.
Preaching the truth brother. A woman will never date a guy that is below her in status
A mature man has it together. My dad had an old sailboat and twenty bucks in his pocket. His last girlfriend was a phd 20 years younger and way wealthier. Find your place in the world. Be a king and a kingmaker. Build your sons and your friends up.
my 44 year old college buddy... who is broker there anyone I know... is dating a cute, 34 year old dentist who pays for everything. Trust me, it happens.
I've done it several times. It probably helped that I was extremely fit though. I also never thought or acted as if there was any wealth disparity.
I’m 64 and meet all my women online. I always put them through the money test before meeting in person. Most women my age are better off thandivorced men. Why? They are divorced or widowed ( among other reasons) and did mot lose in either financially. I have to make sure they do not care about my money. Many don’t, but many stillsubconsciouslyseek a man for resources they do not need, even though they are not hot anymore
Quality video. Thanks.
Great general primer Bobby. I'm an older guy in the Philippines, happily involved with a lady 24 years younger than me. I am a Psychotherapist, so I have been cognizant of most of your advice, and they all make sense. I plan to do a Matching service and will make your videos a prerequsitie for my new clients.
I think many men get defensive with a woman's testing questions because it puts them on the spot like they are being evaluated which does not create a relaxed atmosphere.
Its simple. Disciplined fitness routine/nutrition, waking up early, continuing a path of personal success, a well-fitting and simple wardrobe, spending your leisure time doing interesting/socially active things, charisma derived from your happy life, activities, and fit appearance. Enjoy the company of conventionally attractive feminine women who'd like to join your interesting story, live with options and of course commitment optional.
Facts
women don't want to be an option, so no, they won't be clamoring for that
Bob, a 65-year-old, extremely wealthy widower, shows up at the Country Club with a breathtakingly beautiful 25-year-old blonde: she proceeds to knock everyone's socks off with her youthful appeal and charm. She also hangs on Bob's arm and listens intently to his every word.
His buddies at the club are all aghast.
They corner him and ask. "Bob, how'd you get the trophy girlfriend?"
Bob replies. "Girlfriend? She's my wife!"
They're knocked over, but continue to ask.
"So, how'd you persuade her to marry you?"
Bob says: "I lied about my age."
His friends respond:
"What, did you tell her you were only 50?"
Bob smiles and says:
"No, I told her I was 90." 😅
😂😂😂
I wish I could listen, the audio is grating. Might try out some diferent microphones.
There are so many videos out there and it's pretty exhausting to realize how to behave and act to get from point A to be point B with modern women. Never felt the need to abide by such rules. Being at peace is most important: whether single or in a relationship. If you can't be yourself and constantly have to be on guard on how to act, that ain't peaceful. But I understand some people may need it to get to the next level.
Good point, but I almost think you have to fake it a bit to get a woman attached. After that, you can relax somewhat.
@@GUITARTIME2024no not really. If you have to fake it to get her, you’ll have to keep faking it to keep her.
Cool video - I am older & by accident I behaved the way you suggested & it worked 100%, the key is like you said being flirty without being creepy. From the very beginning they have to know that you think of them in a romantic/sexual way. I take good care of myself with regular exercise, a good diet, keep my teeth nice & I am always groomed & clean with 2 showers/day. I'm in my early 60's & my barber is a cute 30 year old woman younger than my oldest son & we have been having a blast together.
Did you blast inside her to?
Having a laugh whilst getting your hair cut is not called dating good sir, it's called customer service
@@ScoreGuru123 Yeah i was thinking the same thing
awesome!
They can easily view you as being polite while you consider it being flirty
I've seen your videos before. At a time of my life where I needed reinsurance of my thoughts.
That was about 3yrs ago now.
An I haven't really watched another one of your videos till now.
Had a gf recently want to put us on hold. (Her 57, me 45)
Well, I told her I'm not putting my life on hold.
So it was a couple days later. This other woman contacted me about needing help with some equipment and insight with her business. Which I own myself the same type of business.
She knew about me from a mutual friend and she out of the blue contacts me. ( her 31, me still 45)
Now at a different fork in my life. I come across another video of yours.
An it had the older guy title.
So me paying attention to what my spirits present for me.
I decided to give this one a watch. I'm glad I did because it's just adds to what my beliefs already were.
An doing the things you mentioned.
It's exactly what I have been doing. An I can tell she has interest in me too.
An now I know for sure I'm going down the right path.
Because without a reference point, how would we know if we are going in the right direction.
I thank you for the life path you have chosen. An it intersection with mine.
An the help it brings to others.
Keep up the good work. 👍
so, it doesn`t depend on your age. It`s about your confidence and your goals
Have your shit together... That's huge!
it is impossibile in a small rural farm town the good ones got married outa high school
That’s why the volleyball coach has big grin😂
Move!
I am not old (76) because I don’t act old or think old. I am sometimes guilty of over mentoring. Good advice from Bobby.
glad you enjoyed thanks
I'm 66, yes different, gardening, fruit, veggies and orchids! Age test? Just look them square in the eyes and tell them your "Compass Pointer still Points North", a little naughty, but she will definitely take the bait!
This absolutely hits the nail on the head. Some men are naturally that way. Others better listen and take notes, or this will be you forever.
What ever happened to, "Do you like me? I like you...let's boogie." All these techniques, games and plotting. I'd rather just buy a dog.
@wingrider1004 - Guess I'm showing my age if I say - Hey, ya wanna ball?
I don't know. Reverse cowgirl with a dog isn't great.
Unfortunately, dating isn’t DoorDash. Human dynamics are much more complex
I agree with you 100%
Wish I had this pep talk when I was in high school. These points are actually universal
Wouldn't have worked in high school A kid that age acting confident and like he has his schitt together, appears delusional and born with a silver spoon if not a sociopath. In other words, quacking like a duck, doesn't make you a duck. At the same time if you are a duck and don't quack, she'll think something is wrong with you.
Excellent work man. You put a lot of effort in making the videos.
#1: sure, same for young vs. young. Whenever a woman was/is attracted to me, its only when I don’t show any interest. #2: I think such rapport should be “broken” immediately. The longer you wait, the more difficult. #4: never lie, unless you are just into a transactional relationship #5. women are not attracted to nice guys. Btw I am always making the same mistakes. Thanks for the reminder.
The problem with “Women aren’t attracted to nice guys” while very true is I’m not naturally an ass hole. So now I’m dealing with nice guy syndrome, or always feeling uncomfortable and stressed by trying not to be myself and trying to be more of an ass hole.
Same. But one thing I've noticed is that when I'm really happy I tend to be an A hole. Not in a bad way. Just teasing people and making jokes. Then when I'm feeling down I'm very sensitive to criticism and insecure. I'm seeing a therapist and I'd rather work on these core issues of trauma than fake it. But I'm still out here dating and learning.
No, PLEASE don’t try to be “an asshole”. That ain’t it!
Aggressively righteous is not always nice. Theres a way to be nice that wont turn her off, let her know that you are nice hut their sre things that make you will fight against.
@@kdub3288 The opposite of the term "nice guy" isn't asshole but rather "a pushover". Women like men who are genuinely kind but "nice guys" aren't kind, they put on an act to try to secure sex from a woman while being overly needy, insecure and pushy
Status, money, fitness are key.
Great episode. I don't know if I should share this, or let the competition continue being idiots. lol
I'm an older man. Kind of killing it. You're exactly right with your advice. Show strength, kindness, respect, leed, and protect her.
32m w/ 19w. 12 year age gap. Money changes nothing after a certain point. Never pay for anything, get them to invest in you and only reward them for good behaviors with attention and affection.
Avoid the nice guy - Woman love being chased! Make a move, it is way better for you to make a move and her get to tell you “we can’t it’s too soon” and show your desire for her then to not make a move at all. Woman NEED validation making a move and showing your desire for her validates her and makes her feel good.
The thing that turns me off about older women is they almost always have kids. This adds an element of complication to the relationship and of course there’s going to be an ex in the picture as well.
Obviously, nothing is more important to a woman than her children, so coming into a relationship with a woman that has kids you are automatically number two. You come into the relationship at number two, and you’ll never be number one. This is the beauty of young love. Before kids come along and you meet that girl and you fall hopelessly in love with each other and are joined at the hip, sadly, that comes to an end once a woman has children
I never wanted to have children but after working with kids and sharing experiences w my niece and nephew I realized that kids are a blessing and can bring you joy that you can't get otherwise. Also, being a loving dad or stepdad is a very attractive trait.
We are not the center of the universe - of course kids come first.
They should consider their mindset. If you believe you can or believe you can't, you're right.
I had forgotten all this. Being a guy hasn't changed. Thanks
Wow, I really got a lot out of that. Women my age, late 50s, are dead set in their ways. They are looking for a particular type and needs to be a perfect fit. I've killed my romance life ever since high school because of the gentleman, nice guy (actually shy) behavior. Glad to see you put a lot of time to study and analyze this. Looking forward to more. Sonny
glad you found helpful. I agree with women over 40. While I find women in their 40s very attractive, they are usually harder to get then younger women, because most of the time a 40-50 year old woman will have children that are her priority.
Shy is a euphemism for cowardly. That's not attractive to anyone of either sex, nor should it be.
I suffered that condition into my early 20's, terrified of the girls I was most attracted too, beyond just casual interactions. After becoming seriously angry at self for blowing several fantastic opportunities, I arrived at the solution.
Hate to be crude but I simply hooked up with any half way attractive single girl of legal age that was attentive and blatantly wanting me, they sort of line up to take turns with me. A few were nothing to be proud of but most were good to great experiences. I became promiscuous for a few yrs not just for fun, tho it was, but for the *experience and confidence* I lacked. I had plenty of daring and confidence in my business and general life but I needed to crush my fear of intimacy with girls.
Worked wonders, never been shy or awkward since, but outgoing and extroverted instead. Also crucial to never be Politically Correct, to self censor, another form of timid and just plain dishonest. It's obvious I say what I think regardless of reactions around me, surprisingly few are turned off by it and those are ones I'm not interested in anyway.
Nowadays this is a trait in woman starting at 40 (in many cases, just before 40). They are beyond confused! They are completely neurotic from their past relationship(s), the opinions they hear from friends, family, media, magazines, YT videos, etc, and they are not level-headed anymore. They think every comment, every word, every expression, has an ulterior motive. They are sub-consciously over-fearful and ready to be emotional at the drop of a hat. It never used to be like that with most woman - only the rare few! But now it's rampant!! Woman should spend more time showing they care, show that they're man's back mentally, emotionally, and physically, instead of all their time spent being judgmental about every move, every day, every week, every month.
@@Mrbfgray
Shyness is a nice quality in a human being. Cowardly or maybe anxiousness can be overcome.
I think you are confused.
SOLID video and super helpful. Thank you for sharing this!
If she asks your age, it’s not a “test”. She really wants to know that (and other things about you) before entering what may be a long term relationship. Just ANSWER THE QUESTION. Don’t get defensive; don’t avoid giving a straight answer; don’t make a joke out of it-AND DON’T LIE.
Nope. Bad advice. Age is the worst question to have asked. The instant you do you get put into a box. This box does not consider any other trait you bring to the relationship. Never answer this question initially, never answer this question after a while. Once you are well on your way in a growing relationship with this woman and it's time to get serious and make real life long decision of marriage then and only then does the woman have any right to know your actual age.
For tips and tricks to avoid/sidestep laugh off the question with a joke that is why you watch videos like this. It's none of her damn business. Keep intimate questions for intimate moments. Men have no obligation to answer any "check list" questions a woman asks.
I'm married to the woman I have precisely because she IS NOT THIS COMPLICATED.
A man settles where he finds peace.
Good for you 😊
And she's probably screwing your best friend behind your back.
Bro I met a young lady who is 23 years my junior. I swear her character and presence is so mature and quality. She could’ve easily pushed me away after finding out I’m 42 but her maturity is why we are friends. She knows I’m interested in her despite us talking about it and she doesn’t feel like it’s presentable due to the age gap. But she brings me so much peace and joy and i could be myself don’t have to act like something else.
@@highaltitude787 more power to you...I'm 50, my gf is 26.
Everything you said was grounded, well reasoned, cogent, frank, and understandable. Thank you.
I go to nice restaurants because I like them.
I can make my own good food and that actually works better to get a woman in bed than fine dining.
This all boils down to a story I heard.
I used to walk into a room and wonder if they’re going to like me
Now I walk into a room and wonder if I’m going to like them.
Keep that mind set and it’ll work well
Great advice. Too bad our fathers never told us that in our teens.
Oh man, now I have to become a skilled chef?? No thanks, I have better things to do with my time.
@@KpxUrz5745 ~ nope!
Skilled chef is not necessary
Infact, my lack of kitchen ability actually caused friction in my marriage.
I went onto Pinterest and typed easy recipes.
One day a week I cook my meals and just eat the same thing through the week
But women find it sexy when a man knows the kitchen. Not like a chef (that’s too much, I agree)
You get to feed yourself, save money, and earn an easy flex 💪
I promise. I’m like you, too damn busy to learn to cook. Doing the easy stuff, you’ll be surprised the effect
@@izzojoseph2 Really, thanks for the positive reply. But I do have a real block when it comes to cooking or food prep, even buying groceries. I am highly or extremely skilled in quite a number of things, but I simply cannot add cooking to the list. Let's put it this way: it just about drives me up the wall to find the patience to even make a sandwich. I seriously dread buying groceries. Cooking, like ballet, is just "not my field". Speaking of those two topics reminds me of a little joke I like: "We had tickets to the ballet but my wife forgot the sandwiches".
@@KpxUrz5745 😂
I wish you all the luck in what you choose!
I agree with a lot of this, but some of the nice guy/gentleman stuff is not necessarily off limits. For instance, traditional courting acts have gone so far by the wayside, that I've had good success with small things like opening doors or bringing a single rose to a date. No one does these things anymore and you can stand out as a gentlemen without seeming like a groveling nice guy.
yes, but there has to be perception on your side. meaning, you come across independent, non-needy, ect. you can get away with these things, but if you have a desperate, 'try hard' attitude... these things will ampify the wrong impression.
@@BobbyRio thank you river
Really easy to mess up with the gentlemen stuff. I've done it several times. I think it's best avoided until later in the relationship.
damn straight!
It comes down to (2) things younger woman are attracted to...
1) Confidence... 2) Passion
Confidence and conviction in what you say and do... and the passion to achieve in the fulfillment of ones dreams.
Being apathetic and having disregard for your woman helps in times she attempts to emotionally play you. So stay in control and never concede or surrender your masculinity and male leadership. Walk away and she will be running after you like a puppy dog. Women LOVE mystery and power in character and personality.
In other words. Women are gravitated towards masculinity... masculinity n attitude and in persona. Younger women want men, not daffodil boys.
So forget everything else in this video. Younger women look for security, wealth and achievement. Not frills, emotions, idealization, a fat wallet or being a chivalrous gentleman. That comes at the back end of the first 2.
Exactly what I needed to hear. I was guilty of breaking every rule on this list and had no idea. Thank you.
Me too, I've been going at this all wrong
Solid. Emotional stability and a compelling vision too.
I don't have these older guy issues. I'm 39 but I see 23-year-old women as the women I belong with. I think as if I'm 25. I still feel 25. It' not technique. It's really just how I feel. I still watch coaching videos though. No one can ever know too much.
yea you have the right mindset, a lot of guys need to be reminded of it.
Im71 I still feel 25 I can run a 5k in 27/28 min look/feel/act YOUNG!
Surprise - even a 80 year old feels 25 if the body is healthy! Time is an illusion.
On-point analysis and advice. WE ARE THE PRICE!!!!👍👍👍👍👍
It’s money. “Shit together” means owning a home with a decent pay stable income. Many of us millennials just call that “rich.”
By the time youre in your 40s you better have your shit together you get it? Yeah def own your own home by your 40s. If not youre a loser.
Thank you for reminding us of who we are!
These are all great/ truthful comments.
But it all depends on what you want : casual dating / never living together a little money is OK . If you’re NOT giving her any money , there is an EXPECTATION in the future , that you will commit. Think of small amounts of money as an insurance policy. Now this can change …….if you do fall for her , but frequently there are children involved. Even marriages are transactional unless both spouses are equal income earners.
Great advice for an inexperienced 64 year old through lifelong constant rejection ending up with user type women
Bobby you’re a genius. Not for this video but for the “never explain yourself” strategy. It’s absolutely genius because explaining is logical. Women want emotion not logic. I did this perfectly today. Thank you.
glad you are finding that strategy useful. Its key not to try to suck a woman into a logical conversaiton. never works.
Yes instead focus on how she feels. Thanks Bobby
@@BobbyRio lol very smart. Thank you Bobby.
FELLAS: Whether you are older or younger, NEVER put her on a pedestal -- YOU are the prize. That's not to say be a total cold-hearted conceited jerk, but never forget that YOU hold the power.
I agree with you.... at 59 I feel I am the prize as I have worked on myself over the years. It pays to be a Sigma male
Until you're in court.
@@tonycrouse6544 ?? Why in court?
@@rickyking1790 Divorce court.
@@tonycrouse6544 If a man is in divorce court, he deserves everything that happens to him. Any guy foolish enough to get married. It's called "Darwinism." A three way contract between you, an emotionally unstable and unpredictable person (female) and the State; only an absolute fool would sign on.
This old guy isn't interested in dating. Having said that, I believe that being a gentleman in the modern society is harder than ever. Because the younger generations have no clue as to what that means. They disceve themselves into thinking that kindness equals weakness. They are so polarized that most of them can't function in society, so they try to change society. In other words, they're still kids.
*Confidence and authenticity go a long way, no matter the age gap. Has anyone tried the tips here and noticed a big difference in how younger women respond?*
Bobby Rio... thank you. I thought all of these points were well presented, and really gives some perspective on things I have been doing that are NOT helpful in the longrun.
I am currently dating a woman 8 years younger than me - not a huge age gap - and am pleasantly surprised every day - Surprised that she's interested in me, surprised it's going so well so far, and surprised that she's complimenting me, flirting with me, and making an effort for me. And don't get me wrong! I'm doing the same, but after a few failed relationships, nice-guy behaviour, chasing the 'prize', insecurity... It's been a learning experience, and hopefully the maturity and experience - and your advice - can put me on the right track.
great to hear! Good luck with the relationship!
I would like to add to number 1 and 5 - men who deal with "cold" women in their lives, an ex-wife, a mother, grandmother, sister, longtime boss, and because there's never feelings shared, exchange of kind/loving words, support...matter of fact it goes beyond into shutting out, avoiding, annoyed when you are close, a man can urge for "warmth" badly and it shows. Men who have had to deal with this behavior from a women, tend to want to over compensate when they meet a person of romantic interest. Giving, throwing at them too much flattery, too many compliments, "putting them on pedestal" (as mentioned in the film), because it is what the man has longed to hear. Also because, they have been desperately wanting to show love and have love reciprocated in return, they run at the first sight of opportunity.
Thank you for your advice, because that is my current situation and probably what I would have done
@@heretic789 yes sir - yw. Hope it helps
Pass basically any test by looking at this behaviour as something CUTE and dumb, laugh at it, at her. It comes from a position of insecurity and lack of knowledge of you. It's not something to become defensive over, it's something endearing. She's trying to understand you more, this means she wants you. Don't worry about what it is she said, or says, women are always desperate to increase their security with a man.
I like the summary at the end. It really makes things memorable.
glad it was helpful.
Why the hell would I want a younger woman what a pain in the ass
Especially if she’s woke !
I've found that the older they are, the more drama there is
@@Dad_of_War maybe I compare that to my 14 yr old step daughter she's a damn psychopath
why would you want an older woman with baggage,,,,,no dude wants an old woman smh
@@robertswift6101 have you seen today's basket cases
Great advice ,inspiring and helpful information,
Thanks a bunch
Sounds like really good advice. Thanks!
glad you enjoyed thanks
This dude is so spot on. Maybe the best dating coach content on RUclips.
I just got back into the dating game at 48 and made every mistake he's talking about. Too bad I didn't see this five months ago lol. I had to learn all this the hard way.
If I had to do it again, I would hire a call girl to come by on a set schedule, and the hell with the bulls**t.
What I discovered about myself is when I have chemistry with a girl I do everything right, and when I don’t have that chemistry I start down the rabbit hole of setting her up as the prize as you say.
Also, if you are an established d00d, you know shit about money, credit ratings, shares, taxes, car payments, mortgages, rent, etc. A lot of young women do not have their shit together in this regard, as they have no control over their spending and they are close to bankruptcy. If they are not willing to take your advice and change their profligate ways, they are going to be an albatross and you are always going t be bailing them out.
Very thorough and supremely comprehensive. Thanks so much Bobby!
Glad it was helpful!
Coming out of a long term relationship I definitely fell into the being too nice and willing to help financially category... Thought was i can afford it so why not but kinda gone too far and ruined the chemistry we had. We're still dating but dont think theres any saving this one, shes just pushing the limits on how much Im willing to spend on her now. Oh well, my bad for wanting to help and letting it get to this point...
Noooooo.... Its never too late to start setting boundaries and enforcing them. Just don't blindside her by doing a 180 degree about face; Just start saying no the most extravagant/frivolous things, and be prepared to give a justification ("Thats frivolous, Thats ugly, You dont need it, You already dont use/appreciate the other one we have at home, We already spend X on [expense] last month, we need to reign in our [expense] budget, Im not comfortable with spending that much, I feel like youre taking advantage").
Saying no is a powerful thing. Yes there is some non-zero chance that she will just break up with over it, but if thats the case, it wasnt going to last much longer anyways.
If there is any salvaging the relationship, you need to stop acting like a doormat immediately. Thats very unattractive to a woman.
"treat her like a queen, & she'll treat you like a peasant"
Na that ain't Gunna last. No queens and royalty in relationships , it doesn't work
@@paulharrisonadventuregearm5457 i meant that if you treat her like a queen, she gonna treat you like one of her servants -- i changed up my comment
@@paulharrisonadventuregearm5457 Basically, don't put on a pedestal.
@@TarantulisimoYour statement went straight over his head.
@@SydneyGreenstreet1227 i know -- that's why i changed it from "royal subject" to "peasant"
This guy's voice and the subject matter are incongruous.
Really glad I found you Bobby.
thanks for watching!
I'm over 40 and all that sounds like a job. No thanks, I have a job.
Wish I’d watched this a week ago. Kinda blew a “test” text by putting her on a pedestal and being too quick to jump. But, with this new direction, I might just get it back. Thx!