My advice guys: get in shape, focus on yourself and your career and making a lot of money. Don’t be a pushover and don’t ever worry about losing a girl or thinking you have met this extraordinary special person that you can’t live without. Hot, smart, kind, compassionate women, etc., come a dime a dozen. Remember that you’re the special one. Make sure to always be improving yourself and continue to grow. Bobby is spot on with the abundance mentality! Abundance is the only thing that separates the “nice guys” and the “players”.
Jack John : sure, but is this really a recipe for happiness or just a way to compensate a lack of self love. I mean, we’re all special and at the same time sometimes the best things in life aren’t the most shiny.
haha make a lot of money? focus on your career, what is that going to attract? the wrong person...you can be a pauper and attract women money has nothing to do with it!!!! your obviously young and no fuck all about women!
Put yourself first and NEVER make a woman the focus of your life. She should be a compliment to your lifestyle not the center of it. Be a servant or be a man. It's your choice.
@@denisewhite3902 I'm very sure you view this differently and you are welcome to your opinion but let me make this point. Now days with the swipe left or right culture. It's become a fact the more and more good honest men are becoming disillusioned maybe even discouraged by women these days. We are becoming more aware that we are just another option for you and not your priority. Believe me when I say that we all good men want to find girl can finally settle down with , raise a family and grow old together. We yearn for that life, for a LTR. But the sad reality is that not the case anymore. Please understand that with men it takes a long time to muster up the courage just to talk a girl that they like without coming out creepy or needy, hoping that we do not get shot down by you. Now the mindset is instead of me chasing you hoping that you say yes , now the mindset is , if you women want me come and get me , but now you have to earn me.
Daniel Salazar ... I understand what you are saying. However, You say if we want you. We should come and get you but I’m asking for what reason? Men only go after women because most of them are after something that we have (mostly in the hopes to get laid). Women do not do the same or even ask men out because we have no incentive to go after you.
@@denisewhite3902 if you say " We women no longer need men " ,then don't look for us. Why do you think good men now days are now hesitant some even fearful of committing into a relationship . Please understand that to this day , still men do not and probably never will understand how women think or act. I've seen too many men suffering with a bottle in hand in a bar, in tears over a woman, I myself included. Thinking over what did they do wrong and what could they have done to fix it. Thinking in their mind that She was the One they saw a future wife and a mother of his children. But unfortunately that just a fantasy , a Disney dream men are programmed since very little. Very lucky few get to have that dream but for the rest of us it's heartbreaking. We learn the accept it as human nature and hope that maybe one day we can also be in the lucky few. Again I say if you don't want me , then don't look for me and don't criticize me when I say" Ok thank for your time , we could have been beautiful together " and I walk away from you.
@@danielsalazar6211 Dude, can you not figure out what Denise White is ? she is a lesbian. she is a man hater. She said what she said because she HATES men. Plain and simple. A normal straight female will NOT say these things. A straight female will naturally want to mate and sexual relations with a man, She will want companionship, love and nurturing from a man. A lesbian has no use for you as a man. A straight male should not waste time even pursuing or even thinking about a lesbian It does NOT make sense. It also does NOT make sense to pursue a female that is not interested in you. When you first meet a woman and find out she is not receptive to your advances, STOP pursuing her, Don't waste your time on her. Spend that time approaching other women until you find one that is receptive to your advances. If a guy is crying in a bar over a woman that is not in the bar is a waste of time and really silly. Instead of crying in your beer you could be spending that time pursuing another female that is in the bar that is interested in you. You might meet someone in a bar to have a lasting relationship, but usually a bar is not the best place to find a lasting relationship. There are much better places than bars. I can tell from your comments that you are the type of nice guy beta that Bobby is talking about, You need to go back and pay more attention and learn from the video/ You are acting out from a place of scarcity not abundance.
The law of attraction - you attract where you are at. You draw towards you what you are thinking/ feeling. If I continually focus on lack (scarcity), the Universe will send me more lack. However if I focus on having enough/having more than enough (abundance), the Universe will send me abundance.
No, the law of attraction is that men are attracted to 61% of women while women are only attracted to 4.5% of men. There is no looks matching. Just getting the best you can get.
Have to agree with this. After my divorce I had to rebuild myself and my game. I became less needy and learned to enjoy the moment with women and I never dated so much and had lots of fun. When I found the one I wanted to be with she chased me as much as I chased her partly because we both realized we had options but we liked where we were together. Going on 3 years married this November.
Not just that. STOP making everything about women! They're just flesh and blood! You need to take the L if you make a woman think and feel like she's better than you and that she's some prize that you need to win. Fuck that!
I am sure that is what she said about guys. " There's a lot of guys out there, forget that one." I want these women there is a lot of them they work all in the municipal building. Did I mention their beauty oh my goodness!! They're beautiful. Aa
I was the bad boy.... I turned down so many women, I was married n still had women after me... Then i thought... I'm a bad person, I need to change. I turned myself to the nice guy n got used bruised and abused.... Even the wife left... yeah for someone that acted like the old me. Now I had to be the bad boy again... I don't give women compliments, I don't buy them drinks. I talk to everyone in the room, even the women there with a man. but I pay no exclusive attention to any one woman... I can get most any woman I want now.
Bullshit because there is only one person in a world full of 7 billion people with the exact same look, style, attributes and sense of humor in this world that’s that your not gonna find anyone else just like that person because soon you’re going to realize that you’ve never felt the same way and then you’re gonna understand that nobody likes you at all because you’re being yourself instead you got to put up a front and pretend like you’re this perfect dude just imagine it like this; either you and your crush can live forever at the same age vs getting ever lady in the world(other than your crush) would you pick option a or option b?
I never chased after a woman for years when it was over. That’s unreal! Guys, if you’re obsessed with her then you see her as being way beyond the human being that she actually is! Guys, there are millions of ladies out there! Millions! Millions! Let go of your obsession! Get over your fear of having a relationship with another! Go through the orchard and try picking out another. It may take time. So what? Life is complicated.
Never chased a girl before and it almost always works getting the girl. Until recently found myself desiring a girl I was so attracted to. So had a couple of coffee dates and got on really well but soon realized I was getting put into the friend zone. Raging with myself because I’ve never chased a girl and put them on a pedestal. So 2 weeks ago I decided to cut the contact of completely and focused on myself and met other girls. So now what’s happening is that she has contacted me asking me to come over to her place but I told her I was busy with other activities. Few days later she asked me again and I’ve told her I will see if I can fit into my schedule. She now says I will make it worth your while so I’ve gone around to hers and nailed it. Trust the process it works but you got to be patient with it
The same thing happens when they tell you after a job interview that they will contact you after a week , you probably expect them to phone you after a week but guess what your reaction will be if they phone you after a day ,excited probably ? The same thing works on women the less available you are the more she will chase you just like in David Coopers case .In David Coopers case there was probably some level of attraction so she can chase him if there was zero attraction I don't think that she would come back to him .
Unfortunately, it's hard to change your mentality when you genuinely have a "nice" personality. Some people are genuinely kind, polite and don't like hurting others and for them to learn to be more cavalier with women would be hard. But yeah I agree, it all relies upon nice guys at least dialing it back a bit, playing it cool, and realising that there's other options.
Read No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover. I’m a guy recovering from Nice Guy Syndrome (NGS). This book changed my life! And don’t judge the book by it’s cover. It’s all about being YOU, not becoming a asshole.
Thank you!!! You basically summed up what I was thinking. I fall more on the ''nice guy'' side of this video and my girlfriend appreciates me for not treating her like trash. If a female really likes you, she will ignore your negative traits and just love you for you. Being all superficial and playing all these psychological games will not help in the long run.
What I like best about this channel is the fact that you talk to the one viewer/listener. Many RUclips content creators say "Hey everyone!" or "What's up, RUclips?", while you talk directly to your listener, as a one on one conversation. Thanks for that.
Heavy Metal Don’t fake it till you make it. Faking it until you make it just means that you’re changing the outside and you’re changing for others. That’s both spineless and detrimental to your wellbeing. So don’t take it till you make it. Fake it until you BECOME it. Fully become the person you want people to see. It’s that simple.
To come over cool, you have to push away any thoughts of neediness, like nothing matters. That way you are more yourself and everything just flows. Stops your own thoughts from sabotaging you and you naturally come over far more confident.
this is going to blow your mind on desires when drake says “ nice guy’s always finish where they started” what he means by that, is the nice guy starts off with nothing with the girl and at the end of the things they have nothing so they end up where they started
I have lived an extremely blessed life. Professional athlete, law school, successful actor of 16 years, retiring real estate investor, healthy and lucky in the dating world. Bobby has excellent advice! Take it and draw confidence.
Rule number one. Don't chase anyone ever. You're the prize. Rule number 2 you're number one. Rule number 3 you're number one. Rule number 4. Remember rule number one.
To help you to remember all these sorts of things that are so helpful I strongly recommend you add them to your calendar, or reminders folder on your phone, so that you get regular alerts (like daily or weekly) briefly reminding you about them. Things like "ABUNDANCE- there's always more", "BE THE PRIZE!", "I AM ENOUGH", "Progress not perfection", "I want you but I don't need you", If you fear her reaction, she won't feel attraction", "Always look to be leading", etc.
LMAO -an alpha male doesn't need reminders it comes instinctively -only betas need reminders not to be a pussy -fuck I don't need a phone to remind me I'm the "prize" -and speaking of phones , get off those phones texting woman back and forth. Use a phone to make dates only. Talk to her in person like a man. You can't get into panties while texting
My Wife gave me the best advice I ever heard while she was suffering with cancer before she died. She told me “Im not the only good woman in the world-I want you to re marry and find a good woman to love you because you deserve all the good things in life.” She was really worried about me despite her own problems. She had one girl already picked out for me but it turns out she was already taken. It kinda sucked to find that out because it was what my Wife wanted and I kinda romanticized that in my head. I realized that I need to quickly move on from that idea and just focus on getting my life back in some sort of order so I can rediscover myself as a single father with two young kids. Sure I can get women all day long but finding one willing to do the kid thing is gonna be tough and I really dont feel like doing the damned Brady bunch thing. I may just stay a single parent and forget about women altogether.
Sorry for your loss. But I hear you. I'm in the similar boat, though my daughter lives with my ex wife. However, finding another partner in 40s has never been harder. Sure you can find women as FWB. Some even want that, no commitment at all, whatsoever. Majority are clueless and ambivalent, even when they claim 'long term'. I certainly won't give up women, but I already started minding my own business instead of chasing them. If anything I learned from Bobby, it's this scarcity mentality (been there) and games that are at place. Trust the process and be yourself. With all the quirks and shortcomings. Eventually you will catch an eye from the one who will appreciate your true personality.
@@maboleth Yeah I agree with that. Im not searching them out but it is kinda fun knowing I’m allowed to respond to women again when I just brushed them off as a happily married man. Gotta say-the young girls these days are aggressive.
I used to tell a woman, on Valentine's Day for example, how special she was. When I learned to give a woman a card on Valentine's Day that said: "Of all the women I've ever known...you're one of them.", my life changed. You and your woman need to have an unstated, perpetual understanding that it is YOU that are the special one.
Ryd Stallion but thats the key! you are maybe to needy and to quick in love with the woman you like and you are more relaxed with the woman you don’t like - that’s why they like you.
I’m not single but I listen to your content because it also applies in other fields in life. Having an abundance mindset also helps in business. Projecting to your clients that you are focused on your self, your work and taking any job out there and looking desperate is very important.
When you can get to the point when you can think of the woman of your dreams like a woman you think of as a friend and treat her as such, with a spark...........then you have it figured out. I just call it the "friends with benefits" mindset. It keeps it fun and not so emotionally connected. It makes it a challenge. Let a girl know she is the woman of your dreams and........there is no challenge with her. Focus on yourself first. She's just there to make your life a little better and nothing more. Relationships hardly ever last. If you think of every woman is just another element in your life that makes it enjoyable among many elements it eases your crazy mind. When it eventually ends.........you still have a friend and it won't sting as bad. Moral of the story? Have your own life and never ever make a woman the focus of your attention. Keep doing your own thing. That is what's sexy to a woman.
I agree with most of this, I do well with women & the abundance mindset is real. Falling for a girl you ain't slept with. Only thing i don't agree with is afraid of scarcity, I wanted an ex cause i wanted her. We broke up, gave it a month, got 5 in 5 weeks & wasn't trying. That 5 one turned out to be the one. Gonna have my baby
I met a lady, who's grieving for her deceased husband...he passed away over a year ago... I left her a Valentines card.. she says to me.. don't do that.. I moved on, better luck somewhere else!
Preach!!!! The only thing I regret is not knowing this info in my earlier day's lol.. Between this guy & coach corey wayne my dating life has changed drastically
Totally agree. Wish I'd k own this back in my 20s when I thought every girl was the one and wondered why it wasn't developing into a Disney style love story.
I’ve never heard of you until now and I must say that 10 years into your coaching profession that you’re exceptional. I know you know who Anna Jorgensen is. She’s completely excellent also. Both of you have a really strong skill for communicating and articulating the finer points of how to conduct oneself in every situation. So very nice job and my compliments to the chef.
@@BobbyRio Hi Bobby: I do everything wrong and I don’t know what I do that is the worst but it all adds up to zero dates etc. What I wonder is if you can do a video or have done one on PURPOSE which you mentioned. I literally hung my head and walked around town today with the negative voice in my head saying over and over: “I have no purpose.” Now I am struggling to think of any, even one example of a purpose I could try to have. Any ideas will help. Thanks! ❤
This dude knows exactly what he's saying, not to be cocky but I'm living this life and I tell them I'm not ready to have a relationship off top just relations right now and if it turns to something then it's fate not planned...
Yeah...I didnt have these videos ...but most of it, I was already like... and the last chick I said I didnt want a relationship/no labels...ended up tricking me into marrying her. Lmao
Hey Awesome Unicorn Saw your comment on Bobby Rio video. I live in Central Alabama and thought if you're near we could meet up and see where things might lead.
I think that everyone has a little of the "she's the only one", but it is a matter of letting it go after a few dates. We got to continue to see who this person really is.
Have to admit, I came to dating late and didn't have a clue about it so yeah I did fixate on potential partners as being "the one." I had this crazy Disney mentality that relationships were easy and natural, that two people who are destined for each other just fall in love and live happily ever after. I'm older and realise that was fantasy bullshit. The girls I thought were "the one" didn't dump me cos there was something wrong with me (though admittedly I could have done things better), they dumped me cos they were shallow nasty people and not the angels I made them out to be. I wish I'd known all this back then when it would have made a difference, but being in my 40s now all the single women are ones that come with baggage, or are single because there is something very wrong with them that has kept them single. Hard to find someone who is just hasn't found their match yet.
You mean (alot of) women your age have baggage. But theres nothing stopping you dating girls 20+ years younger..........why not...........most prefer older guys anyway, and you most likely prefer younger women, so it works in both your favor!
There is nothing as bad as knowing that you were wrong about a woman. There is nothing as bad as being once a nice guy who didnt know his lesson. I feel so sad remembering this. Even today, years are passing by and I`m still depressed when I`m thinking of her and how stupid I was letting her made fun of me. Every other bad things happened in life are (or could) be tough: conflicts with dangerous people, fighting other guys, losing a job, betrayed by others, losing a home, a car, you name it. But when you are broke at heart, your entire soul is about to collapse. I never thought to be so weak. Its ok, I survived living wiht my shame inside. Its all about not being honest, just fake and thinking nothing but sex. If isnt sex, is nothing. And then cheat, dont give a shit.
When you speak of abundance, it’s not only about the women. It’s about whether or not one has abundance of life and are up to big things. It could be grinding on side hustles, children, hobbies, etc. A woman isn’t the most important thing in life. Would a woman who adds to my experiences fit in my life well? Yes so long as she does not take away from what I am up to accomplishing.
I'm in a relationship with money, i looooove money...money wont cheat on me, money makes me happy and money can buy things that also make me happy, money leaves me but it also comes back.
My wife had affair and when i panicked and chased her to stay it turned her into a devil- pure hate for me said the wisest things to me must of killed attraction but she would say grow some balls , meanwhile she lived in my house free I paid all took us on vacations , I take care of myself work out and look above average so it’s a shock I’m a way - we married 20 years have a daughter she fell for the “true love “ story I guess wonder if she will regret her choice Reading all the comments on this thread gives me so much encouragement thank you
Iv had more luck cold approaching women in public places also at dance clubs than dating apps, yes they are somewhat useful . Abundance mindset is key.
There was nobody to tell me all this in the 1960s when I was a beta-boy in South London and without anybody or anything female; even the family budgerigar was male and he and I did not get on well. Youngsters today have all this and therefore they are well-informed. :)
I literally can't imagine how lost and how much more ignorant I would be without the ease of access to the wide range of information that the invention of the internet has brought to us. It's unfathomable.
i couldnt imagine how much id struggle with women without the internet... i struggle a lot (tbh i dont even try to talk to women) but holy shit id never even potentially grow
It's incredibly hard to get a one night stand, even if you're attractive, and that's why guys are worried about Losing a woman they are attracted too once they have her.
How do you get out of that scared city mindset if you continuously get rejected if you get rejected 100% of the time like myself you want to keep that 1 that you do find and you always do what you can do to try to keep that 1 that's not a good mindset to have so how do you get out of that and how do you solve that problem
Bobby you hit the nail on the head. I found myself seperated due to complacency. I was clueless the first few times I went out and had forgotten who I was. Thanks for helping this combat vet tighten up his shot group I’ve been hitting the ten ring lately Bobby!
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no, he's literally not. the fact that he does THIS for a living just tells pretty much everyone how sad and pathetic his miserable life actually is. giving me the creeps. i bet he's the kind of a man who will grab a woman's waist to pass by her : )
The super popular guys I new in high school all ended up knocking up someone in there teens and most ended up really regretting it. Took them selves out of the game.
after being relationship with a girl who gets cold for no good reasons now i found what really is true love its finding happiness in some others its loving yourself nd doing things you want
6:48 Very interesting distinction. Here I am thinking she's special, but the unconscious belief is that she's the only one who finds me special. Something to think about!
How to get abundance? I did this around the turn of the century ( I love phrasing it like that makes me feel old beyond my years ) trip to Thailand. Even if your not picking up bar girls, everyone is so polite and approachable, age isn't really an issue. Your confidence will go through the roof. When you come home you will have a different attitude.
yes around 20 years i spent a lot of time in Brazil where there were an abundance of girls who would openly pursue guys (especially if you were from America)... and coming back from that definitely added an element of abundance.
In UK it's much harder to date, however that was brilliant talk , I understand where I was going wrong I was the needy guy , I wanted girls to like me due to my tough childhood, basically feel sorry for me. I was giving out the wrong messages and becoming so upset when thing were not going right, I had lost confidence in myself. I will change
Abundance mindset comes from experience..You get smarter with every women bad or good...You learn what you like and don't like and how women act and react..when u see a man that is good with women experience has allowed him to form his personality that works towards women in any situation. So many small things to know but only get through ur own experience..Like confidence, masculine,funny, win sum lose sum so what theres always another, hold good conversation..etc. this all has to be rolled up in one like breathing..once you learn and these qualities become u life with women becomes alot easier for u..This is where your scarcity mindset goes away..I tried to explain this like I was talking to a 3rd graders hope it helps..
If both men and women have the mindset of abundance. How does anyone ever have a successful relationship when there could always be someone better for you? No wonder why hookup culture exist.
I agree. There's a lot of great advice in this video, but there's also a lot that is just not accurate. As far as him referring to resources for finding women online, the men outnumber the women at least 8 to 1 on most dating sites, if not more. I've seen some demographics where it's as bad as 20 to 1. And it can be absolutely devastating to a man's self-esteem when they message woman after woman to no avail if they don't know those statistics. Hell, even if someone DOES know those statistics, the rejection can still be painful. So yes, there are resources online, but as much as it sucks, the women have their pick of the men, NOT the other way around. For the men to have the same they either need to be extremely attractive or be VERY good at the psychology behind dating. To say it is easy is not even remotely true, unless someone is shallow and will settle for just looks.
whoami 2020 Think about it for second have you never experience treating a girl so good you always make sure that she’s happy you were there for her when she was going through her bad times you motivated her to do better you stick right beside her but at the end of the day she took all of the kindness all of the effort and time you put into helping her for granted. When it come on to this advice about having abundance it’s actually a good idea to have a mindset like this because women naturally have this unless they are insecure about themselves for a woman is deserving for a man it is earning. This video will not help everyone to me this is for those who are willing to make that change and stop beating themself up for wasting time on somebody that does not care about them.
I'm not into any girls and just go on dates to see if I can force feelings..I want more than a physical connection because actually living with another human can be exhausting if there not a match. I haven't been into anyone for years..8 yrs thinking there's something wrong with me until I met a girl I really liked..cute & awesome personality. Problem is when us guys are into someone we get very excited a spell is put on us and our abundance mentality goes out the window. I hope I don't mess this one up. Anyway, to say there's many fish in the sea is a true statement but for me.. & I can't be the only man experiencing this but there really aren't many that fit me.
We all do it. We sometimes have to in order to build ourselves up to get motivated to ask her out. I say other than when you're being romantic, treat her like you would treat your mother or sister or co-worker. Talk to her, if you disagree say something, don't rush around or change your day for her, unless it's an emergency. Keep the emotion and neediness and clinginess to a minimum.
ON switch, OFF switch. When I first meet a girl I chase hard af, 100% max effort to meet a girl. Then when she goes cold. I switch to OFF, 0% effort, no replying back , don’t let her have a glimpse of me what so ever. This OFF switch tho, has to be initiated at the perfect time. That time is when she goes cold. You should know exactly what it means. If she goes cold on you, and you turn off and never contact her at all for around 4 weeks. Her anxiety will explode and will look for you to see why you left . When she texts you much later, hit her up like nothing happened. She’ll hit you with the “heyy”. And you hit her with the “Hey what’s up ? You want to meet up soon? Let’s catch up “
What I would say in regards to all of this is: be your most authentic self. If you have to fake it then you will be found out and lose the game. Be you with a mentality that wherever you are at in your life, it will become better. Think it, Speak it with affirmations and action it with targets. If you become a better you to yourself then you will become a better you to everyone else. Confidence is espoused in being proud of yourself in every aspect and so you inadvertently become the prize or the person that everyone wants to be like. Focus on you first and everything else will be added unto you. You might not believe it but this is how the universe works.
There is a lot of misunderstanding here and many assumptions that are not necessarily true. I do not talk to many woman, because I do not want to. I also do not talk to many people in general, because that is just my personality. Empty talk, especially the one devoid of any meaning, makes me tired. Am I shy - NO. Am I "low value man", whatever that means - NO. Am I "jerk" - NO. However, it makes perfect sense that you do not want to lose something precious, when you get it, be it a "woman" or a "friend" or a job or a car or anything else in life. It seems to me that all of this advice is based on assumption that you are dealing with certain type of "woman". I do not believe it is true in general.
Just learn to be comfortable in the silence my guy. They may talk about you being weird at first but sooner or later they'll realise you're the most comfortable person in the room...very powerful realisation indeed!
Ok so the abundant mentality might get you short term attention but it doesn’t seem he values relationships...basically you can just throw people away and find another
#mgtow is the best mindset. the fact that you have to play all these mental games just to keep a girl around in this day in age. It's not worth the stress and headaches to have to play these games. I'm much happier and healthier now that I don't care about having women in my life.
When you understand women really just want a man to pay their bills and love is secondary or worse.... It becomes easier to do what you need to do, which is to avoid commitment altogether.. Because marriage makes sense for women, but for men... Not so much
Woman don't really want men for that and most men don't know this. They just want you as their convenience. Just notice how as they breakup with you they take all you got?
You can't chase girls. You meet them with confidence and then make yourself scarce. A rookie starts following them like a puppy dog. Scares them off. I went into a strip club and girl was you here to see me. I said nope. I came into town for bass pro shop and came here as I passed by. That attitude and she was I want to fish with you. I said well we will have to see how well you convince me. So I came in a few weeks later and said I went fishing without you and that got her more. She said I want to be your fishing buddy. Now we are fishing and fu@@Ing buddies.
I found one of my high school yearbooks a couple of mounths ago and i realised that although i was a thinking of my self as an outcast supernerd, i was actualy one of the best looking guys in class. If i had taken better care of my self i could have been realy popular! It's all aboout the mindset!! :)
As a man that have experienced and learnt the hard way some of the things you talk about, i can tell you, you are a genius and each word and each minute of your videos are gold. thank you man in the most honest and respectfull way possible this kind of good work you share is tremendosly underrated and can improve lives of a lot of good men, and also lives of person arounds us, since to be honest a lot of what we do as men is totally related to important women in our lives.
Brass tacks: What your doing is setting up these guys to potentially marry a woman only to have a 50% chance she'll divorce him for half his pay the rest of his life.
Sometimes it's NOT about scarcity. I've been pursued by multiple women at once but the one I shared the connection with was the one I wanted. I didn't care about the minutae of life with any of the others.
Awesome advice it’s a lot to think about when I’m only a teenager… I’m going through some heartbreak related to a girl, so this video really helps… Thank you
These advices works if you have low or average standards for a woman. If you have high standards, if you just dont want to date anyone, then it times harder to find the really special woman you want to love and live with. I have high standards now. Old days, when I did not have any expectations at all, then it wa simple to find some. But now, it is really hard and complicated.
Thank God for guys n people like this fella..they make our lives so much better...they have been through these circumstances and have suffered so they know what they are talking about...
If a woman wants you to make her the absolute most important thing in your life, then she cares more about herself and her validation than she does about you and what makes you who you are.
I am great full, a "trick" that has always helped me with really good looking girls, is been your self, do not give her all the attention, give her some attention but not 100% of them be busy.
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The moment you put a women above your goals is the moment you lose them both.
Yes....They all dream this and when hapend you are dead
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Idiotic, ignorant, foolish and you NEED to STOP SMOKING CRACK
Yeah bro yes
My advice guys: get in shape, focus on yourself and your career and making a lot of money. Don’t be a pushover and don’t ever worry about losing a girl or thinking you have met this extraordinary special person that you can’t live without. Hot, smart, kind, compassionate women, etc., come a dime a dozen. Remember that you’re the special one. Make sure to always be improving yourself and continue to grow. Bobby is spot on with the abundance mentality! Abundance is the only thing that separates the “nice guys” and the “players”.
Great advice! Needed it, thanks!
Boom! Thx dude
So be rich, cool, and good looking, then you will get more women? Got it.
Jack John : sure, but is this really a recipe for happiness or just a way to compensate a lack of self love. I mean, we’re all special and at the same time sometimes the best things in life aren’t the most shiny.
haha make a lot of money? focus on your career, what is that going to attract? the wrong person...you can be a pauper and attract women money has nothing to do with it!!!! your obviously young and no fuck all about women!
Put yourself first and NEVER make a woman the focus of your life. She should be a compliment to your lifestyle not the center of it. Be a servant or be a man. It's your choice.
So true
Richard Cooper LOL
Woman ❤️ other woman they treat gorgeous looking woman like they are nothing;
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You are right that’s my mindset from this moment moving forward
Guys stop thinking that she was the one that got away and start thinking that you are the one that she lost.
Remember you are the prize.
Daniel Salazar .. of what? Women are the ones who have what you want. Men aren’t.
@@denisewhite3902 I'm very sure you view this differently and you are welcome to your opinion but let me make this point. Now days with the swipe left or right culture. It's become a fact the more and more good honest men are becoming disillusioned maybe even discouraged by women these days. We are becoming more aware that we are just another option for you and not your priority. Believe me when I say that we all good men want to find girl can finally settle down with , raise a family and grow old together. We yearn for that life, for a LTR. But the sad reality is that not the case anymore. Please understand that with men it takes a long time to muster up the courage just to talk a girl that they like without coming out creepy or needy, hoping that we do not get shot down by you. Now the mindset is instead of me chasing you hoping that you say yes , now the mindset is , if you women want me come and get me , but now you have to earn me.
Daniel Salazar ... I understand what you are saying. However, You say if we want you. We should come and get you but I’m asking for what reason? Men only go after women because most of them are after something that we have (mostly in the hopes to get laid). Women do not do the same or even ask men out because we have no incentive to go after you.
@@denisewhite3902 if you say " We women no longer need men " ,then don't look for us. Why do you think good men now days are now hesitant some even fearful of committing into a relationship . Please understand that to this day , still men do not and probably never will understand how women think or act. I've seen too many men suffering with a bottle in hand in a bar, in tears over a woman, I myself included. Thinking over what did they do wrong and what could they have done to fix it. Thinking in their mind that She was the One they saw a future wife and a mother of his children.
But unfortunately that just a fantasy , a Disney dream men are programmed since very little. Very lucky few get to have that dream but for the rest of us it's heartbreaking. We learn the accept it as human nature and hope that maybe one day we can also be in the lucky few.
Again I say if you don't want me , then don't look for me and don't criticize me when I say" Ok thank for your time , we could have been beautiful together " and I walk away from you.
@@danielsalazar6211 Dude, can you not figure out what Denise White is ? she is a lesbian. she is a man hater. She said what she said because she HATES men. Plain and simple. A normal straight female will NOT say these things. A straight female will naturally want to mate and sexual relations with a man, She will want companionship, love and nurturing from a man. A lesbian has no use for you as a man. A straight male should not waste time even pursuing or even thinking about a lesbian It does NOT make sense. It also does NOT make sense to pursue a female that is not interested in you. When you first meet a woman and find out she is not receptive to your advances, STOP pursuing her, Don't waste your time on her. Spend that time approaching other women until you find one that is receptive to your advances. If a guy is crying in a bar over a woman that is not in the bar is a waste of time and really silly. Instead of crying in your beer you could be spending that time pursuing another female that is in the bar that is interested in you. You might meet someone in a bar to have a lasting relationship, but usually a bar is not the best place to find a lasting relationship. There are much better places than bars. I can tell from your comments that you are the type of nice guy beta that Bobby is talking about, You need to go back and pay more attention and learn from the video/ You are acting out from a place of scarcity not abundance.
Number 1 rule of women: Never let a woman get the best of you.
The law of attraction - you attract where you are at. You draw towards you what you are thinking/ feeling. If I continually focus on lack (scarcity), the Universe will send me more lack. However if I focus on having enough/having more than enough (abundance), the Universe will send me abundance.
Good point- good start.
Yah, riiiiight.
It's manifesting,.. what one desires.. a positive attitude!
No, the law of attraction is that men are attracted to 61% of women while women are only attracted to 4.5% of men. There is no looks matching. Just getting the best you can get.
Facts! 👊😎
Have to agree with this. After my divorce I had to rebuild myself and my game. I became less needy and learned to enjoy the moment with women and I never dated so much and had lots of fun. When I found the one I wanted to be with she chased me as much as I chased her partly because we both realized we had options but we liked where we were together. Going on 3 years married this November.
Words of wisdom well said 😇👍
How old were you when you got back into the dating scene and what method did you use to meet woman?
What are you doing here then ?
@@catrashoo just thought I'd hear what was being said
@@devintaylor8702 y
never get stuck on one woman. if she doesn't see the good in you, your value, move on. plenty of women out there. #MGTOW
And all's done
Not just that. STOP making everything about women! They're just flesh and blood!
You need to take the L if you make a woman think and feel like she's better than you and that she's some prize that you need to win. Fuck that!
I am sure that is what she said about guys. " There's a lot of guys out there, forget that one."
I want these women there is a lot of them they work all in the municipal building.
Did I mention their beauty oh my goodness!! They're beautiful.
Aa
I was the bad boy.... I turned down so many women, I was married n still had women after me... Then i thought... I'm a bad person, I need to change. I turned myself to the nice guy n got used bruised and abused.... Even the wife left... yeah for someone that acted like the old me. Now I had to be the bad boy again... I don't give women compliments, I don't buy them drinks. I talk to everyone in the room, even the women there with a man. but I pay no exclusive attention to any one woman... I can get most any woman I want now.
Bullshit because there is only one person in a world full of 7 billion people with the exact same look, style, attributes and sense of humor in this world that’s that your not gonna find anyone else just like that person because soon you’re going to realize that you’ve never felt the same way and then you’re gonna understand that nobody likes you at all because you’re being yourself instead you got to put up a front and pretend like you’re this perfect dude just imagine it like this; either you and your crush can live forever at the same age vs getting ever lady in the world(other than your crush) would you pick option a or option b?
I never chased after a woman for years when it was over. That’s unreal!
Guys, if you’re obsessed with her then you see her as being way beyond the human being that she actually is!
Guys, there are millions of ladies out there! Millions! Millions! Let go of your obsession! Get over your fear of having a relationship with another! Go through the orchard and try picking out another. It may take time. So what? Life is complicated.
All i see are single moms, fats, unhealthy
BS
Never chased a girl before and it almost always works getting the girl. Until recently found myself desiring a girl I was so attracted to. So had a couple of coffee dates and got on really well but soon realized I was getting put into the friend zone. Raging with myself because I’ve never chased a girl and put them on a pedestal. So 2 weeks ago I decided to cut the contact of completely and focused on myself and met other girls. So now what’s happening is that she has contacted me asking me to come over to her place but I told her I was busy with other activities. Few days later she asked me again and I’ve told her I will see if I can fit into my schedule. She now says I will make it worth your while so I’ve gone around to hers and nailed it. Trust the process it works but you got to be patient with it
Oh and she’s a 10 and I’m like a 7 but never let them know that
what did you say to her when you cut the contact off? you just did it silently?
Did you block her or unfriend her?
The same thing happens when they tell you after a job interview that they will contact you after a week , you probably expect them to phone you after a week but guess what your reaction will be if they phone you after a day ,excited probably ? The same thing works on women the less available you are the more she will chase you just like in David Coopers case .In David Coopers case there was probably some level of attraction so she can chase him if there was zero attraction I don't think that she would come back to him .
Yeah. I played cool and calm with a woman I was in love (actually) and she just moved on. I lost her. Nice. Now I am lonely and unhappy.
Unfortunately, it's hard to change your mentality when you genuinely have a "nice" personality. Some people are genuinely kind, polite and don't like hurting others and for them to learn to be more cavalier with women would be hard. But yeah I agree, it all relies upon nice guys at least dialing it back a bit, playing it cool, and realising that there's other options.
I agree
Agreeee👍
Be "nice" and be nice to yourself and don't let women walk on you. Nice is fine, understand the bigger picture.
Read No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover. I’m a guy recovering from Nice Guy Syndrome (NGS). This book changed my life!
And don’t judge the book by it’s cover. It’s all about being YOU, not becoming a asshole.
Thank you!!! You basically summed up what I was thinking. I fall more on the ''nice guy'' side of this video and my girlfriend appreciates me for not treating her like trash. If a female really likes you, she will ignore your negative traits and just love you for you. Being all superficial and playing all these psychological games will not help in the long run.
What I like best about this channel is the fact that you talk to the one viewer/listener. Many RUclips content creators say "Hey everyone!" or "What's up, RUclips?", while you talk directly to your listener, as a one on one conversation. Thanks for that.
Excellent observation.
But if you’re putting on a facade you’re acting and actors get found out. Just live your life without fear and you’ll be fine.
Fake it too ya make it. Depends what kinda actor you are. Best actors are convincing, win Oscars and bring in the big $$$ LOL
@@SKRooU2 Yeah but everybody knows they're actors they aren't hiding it.
@@belland_dog8235 nah
Heavy Metal
Don’t fake it till you make it. Faking it until you make it just means that you’re changing the outside and you’re changing for others. That’s both spineless and detrimental to your wellbeing.
So don’t take it till you make it. Fake it until you BECOME it. Fully become the person you want people to see. It’s that simple.
just live your life without fear . simple as that
I used to be horrible about having the "scarcity" mindset...thank god I overcame that because it's crippling
To come over cool, you have to push away any thoughts of neediness, like nothing matters. That way you are more yourself and everything just flows. Stops your own thoughts from sabotaging you and you naturally come over far more confident.
It does not help actually. Confidence is not sexy for the women actually. They look for the weak men.
This is why the women you ignore or aren't bothered about chase you or show interest.
this is going to blow your mind on desires when drake says “ nice guy’s always finish where they started” what he means by that, is the nice guy starts off with nothing with the girl and at the end of the things they have nothing so they end up where they started
I have lived an extremely blessed life. Professional athlete, law school, successful actor of 16 years, retiring real estate investor, healthy and lucky in the dating world. Bobby has excellent advice! Take it and draw confidence.
Lol
Rule number one. Don't chase anyone ever. You're the prize. Rule number 2 you're number one. Rule number 3 you're number one. Rule number 4. Remember rule number one.
To help you to remember all these sorts of things that are so helpful I strongly recommend you add them to your calendar, or reminders folder on your phone, so that you get regular alerts (like daily or weekly) briefly reminding you about them.
Things like "ABUNDANCE- there's always more", "BE THE PRIZE!", "I AM ENOUGH", "Progress not perfection", "I want you but I don't need you", If you fear her reaction, she won't feel attraction", "Always look to be leading", etc.
LMAO -an alpha male doesn't need reminders it comes instinctively -only betas need reminders not to be a pussy -fuck I don't need a phone to remind me I'm the "prize" -and speaking of phones , get off those phones texting woman back and forth. Use a phone to make dates only. Talk to her in person like a man. You can't get into panties while texting
This video is basic 101-"Dating for Dummies" material but it's the first basic step and foundation for everything that leads to success
My Wife gave me the best advice I ever heard while she was suffering with cancer before she died.
She told me “Im not the only good woman in the world-I want you to re marry and find a good woman to love you because you deserve all the good things in life.”
She was really worried about me despite her own problems.
She had one girl already picked out for me but it turns out she was already taken.
It kinda sucked to find that out because it was what my Wife wanted and I kinda romanticized that in my head.
I realized that I need to quickly move on from that idea and just focus on getting my life back in some sort of order so I can rediscover myself as a single father with two young kids.
Sure I can get women all day long but finding one willing to do the kid thing is gonna be tough and I really dont feel like doing the damned Brady bunch thing.
I may just stay a single parent and forget about women altogether.
Sorry for your loss. But I hear you. I'm in the similar boat, though my daughter lives with my ex wife. However, finding another partner in 40s has never been harder. Sure you can find women as FWB. Some even want that, no commitment at all, whatsoever. Majority are clueless and ambivalent, even when they claim 'long term'. I certainly won't give up women, but I already started minding my own business instead of chasing them. If anything I learned from Bobby, it's this scarcity mentality (been there) and games that are at place. Trust the process and be yourself. With all the quirks and shortcomings. Eventually you will catch an eye from the one who will appreciate your true personality.
@@maboleth
Yeah I agree with that.
Im not searching them out but it is kinda fun knowing I’m allowed to respond to women again when I just brushed them off as a happily married man.
Gotta say-the young girls these days are aggressive.
I used to tell a woman, on Valentine's Day for example, how special she was. When I learned to give a woman a card on Valentine's Day that said: "Of all the women I've ever known...you're one of them.", my life changed. You and your woman need to have an unstated, perpetual understanding that it is YOU that are the special one.
Best advice I ever got on getting women from my uncle: The type of women you go for are women that already like you.
"Choose the woman who chooses you." -- David Deida
And if you do, then she is one who chases you.
@@johndavis3026 Im reading Superior Man right now.
noice
No disrespect, but I've always found the type of women you aren't interested in, are the only ones that like you.
Ryd Stallion but thats the key! you are maybe to needy and to quick in love with the woman you like and you are more relaxed with the woman you don’t like - that’s why they like you.
" She's the only one who FINDS ME SPECIAL" hits the spot!
I’m not single but I listen to your content because it also applies in other fields in life.
Having an abundance mindset also helps in business.
Projecting to your clients that you are focused on your self, your work and taking any job out there and looking desperate is very important.
Yeah, stay cool and no women bore you. You stay alone.
When you can get to the point when you can think of the woman of your dreams like a woman you think of as a friend and treat her as such, with a spark...........then you have it figured out. I just call it the "friends with benefits" mindset. It keeps it fun and not so emotionally connected. It makes it a challenge. Let a girl know she is the woman of your dreams and........there is no challenge with her. Focus on yourself first. She's just there to make your life a little better and nothing more. Relationships hardly ever last. If you think of every woman is just another element in your life that makes it enjoyable among many elements it eases your crazy mind. When it eventually ends.........you still have a friend and it won't sting as bad. Moral of the story? Have your own life and never ever make a woman the focus of your attention. Keep doing your own thing. That is what's sexy to a woman.
I agree with most of this, I do well with women & the abundance mindset is real. Falling for a girl you ain't slept with. Only thing i don't agree with is afraid of scarcity, I wanted an ex cause i wanted her. We broke up, gave it a month, got 5 in 5 weeks & wasn't trying. That 5 one turned out to be the one. Gonna have my baby
I love how you actually teach it like a class. That's exactly how this information should be spread among people. Thank You Proffesor.😎🙌
I met a lady, who's grieving for her deceased husband...he passed away over a year ago... I left her a Valentines card.. she says to me.. don't do that.. I moved on, better luck somewhere else!
Great move ! She's a loser
That's awkward
Preach!!!!
The only thing I regret is not knowing this info in my earlier day's lol.. Between this guy & coach corey wayne my dating life has changed drastically
Check Dan Bacon, too.
Totally agree. Wish I'd k own this back in my 20s when I thought every girl was the one and wondered why it wasn't developing into a Disney style love story.
@@garym6315 I'm 17 now.... Learning. Nd I wanna know more
I’ve never heard of you until now and I must say that 10 years into your coaching profession that you’re exceptional. I know you know who Anna Jorgensen is. She’s completely excellent also. Both of you have a really strong skill for communicating and articulating the finer points of how to conduct oneself in every situation. So very nice job and my compliments to the chef.
I appreciate that
Wow
@@BobbyRio
Hi Bobby: I do everything wrong and I don’t know what I do that is the worst but it all adds up to zero dates etc. What I wonder is if you can do a video or have done one on PURPOSE which you mentioned. I literally hung my head and walked around town today with the negative voice in my head saying over and over: “I have no purpose.” Now I am struggling to think of any, even one example of a purpose I could try to have. Any ideas will help. Thanks! ❤
This is only things thats is most important for attracting girls, friends and bing happy in life... no game need to be played
This dude knows exactly what he's saying, not to be cocky but I'm living this life and I tell them I'm not ready to have a relationship off top just relations right now and if it turns to something then it's fate not planned...
Yeah...I didnt have these videos ...but most of it, I was already like... and the last chick I said I didnt want a relationship/no labels...ended up tricking me into marrying her. Lmao
I’m a girl and this guys advice is def the best 💯
Good luck guys!
Hey Awesome Unicorn
Saw your comment on Bobby Rio video. I live in Central Alabama and thought if you're near we could meet up and see where things might lead.
Bro making full use of the atmosphere
I think that everyone has a little of the "she's the only one", but it is a matter of letting it go after a few dates. We got to continue to see who this person really is.
Have to admit, I came to dating late and didn't have a clue about it so yeah I did fixate on potential partners as being "the one." I had this crazy Disney mentality that relationships were easy and natural, that two people who are destined for each other just fall in love and live happily ever after. I'm older and realise that was fantasy bullshit. The girls I thought were "the one" didn't dump me cos there was something wrong with me (though admittedly I could have done things better), they dumped me cos they were shallow nasty people and not the angels I made them out to be. I wish I'd known all this back then when it would have made a difference, but being in my 40s now all the single women are ones that come with baggage, or are single because there is something very wrong with them that has kept them single. Hard to find someone who is just hasn't found their match yet.
You mean (alot of) women your age have baggage. But theres nothing stopping you dating girls 20+ years younger..........why not...........most prefer older guys anyway, and you most likely prefer younger women, so it works in both your favor!
Wow you guys are geniuses lol
This guy is truly eye opening. This should be taught to every guy. Total respect.
There is nothing as bad as knowing that you were wrong about a woman. There is nothing as bad as being once a nice guy who didnt know his lesson. I feel so sad remembering this. Even today, years are passing by and I`m still depressed when I`m thinking of her and how stupid I was letting her made fun of me. Every other bad things happened in life are (or could) be tough: conflicts with dangerous people, fighting other guys, losing a job, betrayed by others, losing a home, a car, you name it. But when you are broke at heart, your entire soul is about to collapse. I never thought to be so weak. Its ok, I survived living wiht my shame inside. Its all about not being honest, just fake and thinking nothing but sex. If isnt sex, is nothing. And then cheat, dont give a shit.
When you speak of abundance, it’s not only about the women. It’s about whether or not one has abundance of life and are up to big things. It could be grinding on side hustles, children, hobbies, etc. A woman isn’t the most important thing in life. Would a woman who adds to my experiences fit in my life well? Yes so long as she does not take away from what I am up to accomplishing.
A lot men have a scarcity mindset because most women are either taken or just have way too much baggage to deal with e.g drug use, kids, or just crazy
mostly crazy I reckon
Shapiro Shekelberg ... of course it’s rare these days. You guys created them 😴
The fact is, women don't like nice guys, if you want to be in the friend zone, then be nice, if you don't then stop being nice.
That's not a fact
Belland I guess that depends on how you define a “fact.” LMAO
depends how you define to be nice. Can't be the thing that you can't be nice and compassionate with the woman you share your life with
In other words, live your life and don't mess with nothing and nobody. You'll get ahead. Be yourself.
I started to get attached to a girl and now I’m trying to detach myself by focusing on me and giving her less attention
I'm in a relationship with money, i looooove money...money wont cheat on me, money makes me happy and money can buy things that also make me happy, money leaves me but it also comes back.
Good for you 👍
This is a slap from the face and head. I will definitely change this mentality. I am just tired of it.
Its crazy how these videos always have the most attractive people in them.
whoami 2020. Sort of like TV shows isn't it. The entire tv police team is full of hot looking female cops.
*Confidence and scarcity create the perfect balance, making women gravitate toward you naturally. It’s all about self-respect and high standards!*
This man is brilliant. So logical. Success is inevitable,if one applies his philosophy.
He is teaching you how to loose good women, remember we the women are also watching!
My wife had affair and when i panicked and chased her to stay it turned her into a devil- pure hate for me said the wisest things to me must of killed attraction but she would say grow some balls , meanwhile she lived in my house free I paid all took us on vacations , I take care of myself work out and look above average so it’s a shock I’m a way - we married 20 years have a daughter she fell for the “true love “ story I guess wonder if she will regret her choice
Reading all the comments on this thread gives me so much encouragement thank you
Hang in there… your Ex lost & you won your freedom… it’s all about you, your Daughter & your future
I don’t even chase my liquor
Iv had more luck cold approaching women in public places also at dance clubs than dating apps, yes they are somewhat useful . Abundance mindset is key.
There was nobody to tell me all this in the 1960s when I was a beta-boy in South London and without anybody or anything female; even the family budgerigar was male and he and I did not get on well. Youngsters today have all this and therefore they are well-informed. :)
So true. The scams are well known and avoided now. I lucked out before the information hyway.
I literally can't imagine how lost and how much more ignorant I would be without the ease of access to the wide range of information that the invention of the internet has brought to us. It's unfathomable.
i couldnt imagine how much id struggle with women without the internet... i struggle a lot (tbh i dont even try to talk to women) but holy shit id never even potentially grow
Neediness comes from scarcity. So true. Need to start increasing my abundance level. Great video.
It's incredibly hard to get a one night stand, even if you're attractive, and that's why guys are worried about Losing a woman they are attracted too once they have her.
How do you get out of that scared city mindset if you continuously get rejected if you get rejected 100% of the time like myself you want to keep that 1 that you do find and you always do what you can do to try to keep that 1 that's not a good mindset to have so how do you get out of that and how do you solve that problem
Be careful what you wish for . And remember when you see a hot chick . Some where there's somebody who hates her 😂🤣🤣.
🤣🤣 you got the point
😅😅😂😆😍😜
1 mans trash
Another man's treasure
You think your having a bad day? Somewhere out there some guy thinks you ex is the newfound love of his life.
Cause she screwed his best friend 😂🤣😂
Bobby you hit the nail on the head. I found myself seperated due to complacency. I was clueless the first few times I went out and had forgotten who I was. Thanks for helping this combat vet tighten up his shot group I’ve been hitting the ten ring lately Bobby!
You're always some womens type.. that's a gem
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I love this for really divice
Well, it seems I am the unattractive women's type
no, he's literally not. the fact that he does THIS for a living just tells pretty much everyone how sad and pathetic his miserable life actually is. giving me the creeps. i bet he's the kind of a man who will grab a woman's waist to pass by her : )
@@caIyps0 he is spot on. It is your problem to work with it or not
The super popular guys I new in high school all ended up knocking up someone in there teens and most ended up really regretting it. Took them selves out of the game.
She either the one that got away or the one that will go away.
after being relationship with a girl who gets cold for no good reasons now i found what really is true love its finding happiness in some others its loving yourself nd doing things you want
Bobby , your analysis here is just pure gold👏🏽
6:48 Very interesting distinction. Here I am thinking she's special, but the unconscious belief is that she's the only one who finds me special. Something to think about!
Good advice. The only thing that if you are in the one that got dumped. It still hurts..especially after 17 years together.
How to get abundance? I did this around the turn of the century ( I love phrasing it like that makes me feel old beyond my years ) trip to Thailand. Even if your not picking up bar girls, everyone is so polite and approachable, age isn't really an issue. Your confidence will go through the roof. When you come home you will have a different attitude.
yes around 20 years i spent a lot of time in Brazil where there were an abundance of girls who would openly pursue guys (especially if you were from America)... and coming back from that definitely added an element of abundance.
In UK it's much harder to date, however that was brilliant talk , I understand where I was going wrong I was the needy guy , I wanted girls to like me due to my tough childhood, basically feel sorry for me. I was giving out the wrong messages and becoming so upset when thing were not going right, I had lost confidence in myself. I will change
When u start realizing what you’re watching and question yourself wtf are u doing
Abundance mindset comes from experience..You get smarter with every women bad or good...You learn what you like and don't like and how women act and react..when u see a man that is good with women experience has allowed him to form his personality that works towards women in any situation. So many small things to know but only get through ur own experience..Like confidence, masculine,funny, win sum lose sum so what theres always another, hold good conversation..etc. this all has to be rolled up in one like breathing..once you learn and these qualities become u life with women becomes alot easier for u..This is where your scarcity mindset goes away..I tried to explain this like I was talking to a 3rd graders hope it helps..
If both men and women have the mindset of abundance. How does anyone ever have a successful relationship when there could always be someone better for you? No wonder why hookup culture exist.
I agree. There's a lot of great advice in this video, but there's also a lot that is just not accurate. As far as him referring to resources for finding women online, the men outnumber the women at least 8 to 1 on most dating sites, if not more. I've seen some demographics where it's as bad as 20 to 1. And it can be absolutely devastating to a man's self-esteem when they message woman after woman to no avail if they don't know those statistics. Hell, even if someone DOES know those statistics, the rejection can still be painful. So yes, there are resources online, but as much as it sucks, the women have their pick of the men, NOT the other way around. For the men to have the same they either need to be extremely attractive or be VERY good at the psychology behind dating. To say it is easy is not even remotely true, unless someone is shallow and will settle for just looks.
Women is designed to chance one particular guy... When a guy chases woman it come across as feminine...
whoami 2020 Think about it for second have you never experience treating a girl so good you always make sure that she’s happy you were there for her when she was going through her bad times you motivated her to do better you stick right beside her but at the end of the day she took all of the kindness all of the effort and time you put into helping her for granted.
When it come on to this advice about having abundance it’s actually a good idea to have a mindset like this because women naturally have this unless they are insecure about themselves for a woman is deserving for a man it is earning.
This video will not help everyone to me this is for those who are willing to make that change and stop beating themself up for wasting time on somebody that does not care about them.
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You’re incredibly spot on! I’m 61 but look much younger. Everything you are communicating rings true ! Thank you for your advice 👍🏽
You have to think you can get any woman you want
Lol don’t think that
I'm not into any girls and just go on dates to see if I can force feelings..I want more than a physical connection because actually living with another human can be exhausting if there not a match. I haven't been into anyone for years..8 yrs thinking there's something wrong with me until I met a girl I really liked..cute & awesome personality. Problem is when us guys are into someone we get very excited a spell is put on us and our abundance mentality goes out the window. I hope I don't mess this one up. Anyway, to say there's many fish in the sea is a true statement but for me.. & I can't be the only man experiencing this but there really aren't many that fit me.
We all do it. We sometimes have to in order to build ourselves up to get motivated to ask her out. I say other than when you're being romantic, treat her like you would treat your mother or sister or co-worker. Talk to her, if you disagree say something, don't rush around or change your day for her, unless it's an emergency. Keep the emotion and neediness and clinginess to a minimum.
This is true, be a man and have abundance mentality and let the girls chase you
ON switch, OFF switch. When I first meet a girl I chase hard af, 100% max effort to meet a girl. Then when she goes cold. I switch to OFF, 0% effort, no replying back , don’t let her have a glimpse of me what so ever. This OFF switch tho, has to be initiated at the perfect time. That time is when she goes cold. You should know exactly what it means. If she goes cold on you, and you turn off and never contact her at all for around 4 weeks. Her anxiety will explode and will look for you to see why you left . When she texts you much later, hit her up like nothing happened. She’ll hit you with the “heyy”. And you hit her with the “Hey what’s up ? You want to meet up soon? Let’s catch up “
Lol man lets just hope she just doesn't fucking moved on
Sounds very robotic and passive aggressive to me. I couldn't do that. I don't have such a switch when I really like a person.
What I would say in regards to all of this is: be your most authentic self. If you have to fake it then you will be found out and lose the game. Be you with a mentality that wherever you are at in your life, it will become better. Think it, Speak it with affirmations and action it with targets. If you become a better you to yourself then you will become a better you to everyone else. Confidence is espoused in being proud of yourself in every aspect and so you inadvertently become the prize or the person that everyone wants to be like. Focus on you first and everything else will be added unto you. You might not believe it but this is how the universe works.
There is a lot of misunderstanding here and many assumptions that are not necessarily true.
I do not talk to many woman, because I do not want to.
I also do not talk to many people in general, because that is just my personality.
Empty talk, especially the one devoid of any meaning, makes me tired.
Am I shy - NO. Am I "low value man", whatever that means - NO. Am I "jerk" - NO.
However, it makes perfect sense that you do not want to lose something precious, when you get it, be it a "woman" or a "friend" or a job or a car or anything else in life.
It seems to me that all of this advice is based on assumption that you are dealing with certain type of "woman".
I do not believe it is true in general.
Just learn to be comfortable in the silence my guy. They may talk about you being weird at first but sooner or later they'll realise you're the most comfortable person in the room...very powerful realisation indeed!
Ok so the abundant mentality might get you short term attention but it doesn’t seem he values relationships...basically you can just throw people away and find another
#mgtow is the best mindset. the fact that you have to play all these mental games just to keep a girl around in this day in age. It's not worth the stress and headaches to have to play these games. I'm much happier and healthier now that I don't care about having women in my life.
They are so not worth the bullshit.
When you understand women really just want a man to pay their bills and love is secondary or worse.... It becomes easier to do what you need to do, which is to avoid commitment altogether.. Because marriage makes sense for women, but for men... Not so much
Best comment on the fucking thread Bruh!
Woman don't really want men for that and most men don't know this. They just want you as their convenience. Just notice how as they breakup with you they take all you got?
The only thing I need is a-bun-dance and I'm sold.
Lol lol lol I like your play on words 👍
And when you get your bun dance make sure you take her home give her the best orgasm she's ever had or she will go bun dance with somebody else
No u don't bro, just confidence....
Simple minds, simple things.
Be the best version of yourself to attract women.
Success is a state of mind
So true!
Listening to this guy helps me clear my mind of rabbit holes
You can't chase girls. You meet them with confidence and then make yourself scarce. A rookie starts following them like a puppy dog. Scares them off. I went into a strip club and girl was you here to see me. I said nope. I came into town for bass pro shop and came here as I passed by. That attitude and she was I want to fish with you. I said well we will have to see how well you convince me. So I came in a few weeks later and said I went fishing without you and that got her more. She said I want to be your fishing buddy. Now we are fishing and fu@@Ing buddies.
I found one of my high school yearbooks a couple of mounths ago and i realised that although i was a thinking of my self as an outcast supernerd, i was actualy one of the best looking guys in class. If i had taken better care of my self i could have been realy popular! It's all aboout the mindset!! :)
As a man that have experienced and learnt the hard way some of the things you talk about, i can tell you, you are a genius and each word and each minute of your videos are gold. thank you man in the most honest and respectfull way possible this kind of good work you share is tremendosly underrated and can improve lives of a lot of good men, and also lives of person arounds us, since to be honest a lot of what we do as men is totally related to important women in our lives.
Your theory applies with everything in life not just women. Kudos
Brass tacks: What your doing is setting up these guys to potentially marry a woman only to have a 50% chance she'll divorce him for half his pay the rest of his life.
actually the D rate is closer to 60% nowadays, smartest thing to do is make her sign a pre-nup where she can't take half
Sometimes it's NOT about scarcity. I've been pursued by multiple women at once but the one I shared the connection with was the one I wanted. I didn't care about the minutae of life with any of the others.
And you wanted her because she didn't want you as much
Awesome advice it’s a lot to think about when I’m only a teenager…
I’m going through some heartbreak related to a girl, so this video really helps…
Thank you
These advices works if you have low or average standards for a woman. If you have high standards, if you just dont want to date anyone, then it times harder to find the really special woman you want to love and live with. I have high standards now. Old days, when I did not have any expectations at all, then it wa simple to find some. But now, it is really hard and complicated.
True talk Bobby, you have to manage that mind set or everything will fall apart.
Thank God for guys n people like this fella..they make our lives so much better...they have been through these circumstances and have suffered so they know what they are talking about...
Magnificent wisdom and compassion. Thankyou for sharing
Glad you enjoyed it!
Very true Bobby .I am 47 now I feel easy to talk to girls than I was at 27 yrs of age
This one thing explained in twenty seven minutes 😲
If a woman wants you to make her the absolute most important thing in your life, then she cares more about herself and her validation than she does about you and what makes you who you are.
Be a king, be an alpha, you are a prize, a female is milk going bad day by day.
mate youre past your expiration date. no wonder youre stuck watching these videos
@@malia6162 your expiration date is way earlier. hard to accept that. so continue to deny it.
I fuckin love this answer.
What a bitter loser.
I am great full, a "trick" that has always helped me with really good looking girls, is been your self, do not give her all the attention, give her some attention but not 100% of them be busy.