*Instead of chasing, focusing on your own goals and passions makes you more attractive naturally. When you put yourself first, you send the message that you’re confident and secure, and that’s what draws people in!*
The choice section is FACTS. Met a girl through friends recently. Gorgeous. A bit cold at first, but I was always warm to her. Try to not let that stuff impact the way I treat people. Never tried to get with her or “pick her up”. I was just living life, having fun, including her & her friends in that fun. She started warming up to me & I noticed some light flirting here and there but didn’t think too much of it. One day we’re at a concert together & one of the girls we’re with pulls me aside to introduce me to another girl at the show that was apparently into me. I chatted the girl up, wasn’t super into her to be honest so I wasn’t pressing the issue. All of the sudden I get a tap on the shoulder. It’s that same gorgeous girl from the beginning of the story. Asks me if I would come with her to get a drink. Now we’re together. She later told me that seeing me talk to that other girl made her make her move because she realized she didn’t want that opportunity to slip away. Just have fun, work hard, keep a good attitude. Don’t let all this bullshit on the internet sour you (I once did & my dating life was terrible). As soon as I turned my attitude towards life/women around, doors started opening for me everywhere.
and then 52:03.. "...every time it comes to an end... at some point you are a mismatch...and then its messy" man will spend money in single or in relationship you decide ...if sex is all you want then any guy for 100$ a day can have sex with a different girl everyday its never ending supply a new girl is born everyday to practice on
that's such BS. we have too many women who lack a proper upbringing that's it. nice guys will neutralize a threat, actually care, and be better providers than lazy men, it has nothing to do with biology telling females that they need lazy, rude, and poorly brought up males. it's about what these poorly educated women learn from their environment, movies, poorly brought up females in her family, school, and more. Misery loves company.
@@dontreadmyname4396 it's because a large proportion of women are disrespectful. They disrespect others, they disrespect conversation, they even disrespect themselves by choosing negative emotions over positive. The problem isn't being a nice guy. The problem is a nice guy that doesn't call out disrespect when he sees it. You do that, you can have it your way. Never be afraid to ditch a woman that won't even let you get to the end of a sentence without interrupting or dismissing you. Disrespect at early stages of romance, no matter what type of person you think you are, is a deal breaker.
that's because real love is intentional acts towards other things, and NOT an uncontrollable feeling of excitement, as so many unfortunately believe...
Actually, I met Dr. Glover several years ago waiting in the lobby of a movie theater in Bellevue, WA. I was reading a self help book and he approached me to talk about my book and gave me his business card. I ended up attending one of his seminars.
My ex approached me, she chose me. I then folded cuz she was fine (in my eyes). I entered her world and became too nice. Realized after losing her she had lost attraction. And catching me hiding things and lying just made it super easy for her to let go. I’m 27 sounds kind of late to realize this but not happening again. Def a lot to learn about myself and women.
@@tmBabyloveLol this. So many contradictions in this guy's logic. Also goes on to say he married a lady who propositioned him for a massage while walking down the street in Mexico 😂 He is outdated and has zero clue on intersexual dynamics and the modern dating market. It's insane how many "dating coaches" there are in 2024. Unreal
This resonated with me more than any of the red pill hard dude playing mind games. Admittedly I am attractive, but when I’m too try hard things fall apart. When I am genuinely myself girl come to me. You don’t have to act disinterested, because you shouldn’t be acting.
There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
It depends. My Instagram is on private, but I'll give that out instead of my phone #. I don't want them to add me on there...just use it as a messenger system, because so much information can be found from a phone number these days
Why do you care if they think you're a pervert? If you're not literally being a pervert, then it sounds like you're worried about a woman's approval by worrying about what they think about you.
Wonderful and honest ending part! It's a duty for men not to prolong something and deceive the woman if we don't Feel like doing the long term relationship! Otherwise it just gets more diffiicult
Chris you are spot on with women needing to reciprocate more. I've heard you bring this up before and it warrants constant repeating. Ladies if you like a guy and have vetted him YOU NEED TO CONTRIBUTE MORE AND NOT RELY ON SIGNALS NO MATTER HOW OBVIOUS THEY MAY SEEM TO YOU. The vast majority of men DO NOT HAVE the dating experience women have where reasonable abundance makes such things easier to interpret just through exposure. You HAVE to understand most men's dating experiences are different. If there was more reciprocation and if the guy is interested in you I guarantee you will then get the response you are looking for. Eliminate the idea that you are spoon feeding him in this scenario and understand it is due to a lack of opportunity and learned responses, not a lack of confidence. Just initiate and give back a bit more and it will quickly move forward.
This is the way I've been rejected though. I've told guys I was interested after they were very flirty with me, but then they say they aren't interested 🤷♀️
I understand that women prefer men with initiative. That being said, I do totally agree that the man MUST be the woman's choice. Dr. Taraban said it best, in my opinion: in every relationship there is the one that is the ADORER, and the other is the ADORED. These things don't match perfectly. The person that is ADORING another experiences awesome emotions - and his view is that since women are highly emotional, they should get the luxury of adoring someone else (the man). This honestly leaves a man being adored but always sorta wanting to get crazy with some hot chick. It's probably the exactly correct balance of power in a male-female relationship that lasts over time. ruclips.net/video/nqniU2JH_k4/видео.html
@@Cash4Stk that is so true. I’ve had cute girls in the past act over eager to get with me and for whatever reason, it is a turnoff .. I’m not sure why it is but it is - it’s just something instinctual that switches off the desire when girls are too interested. Human nature is odd at times
Lol I graduated one weekend and got married the next weekend. I was 23 and she was 33 and an executive. Married 35 years. Lost her to Alzheimer's. Was the luckiest person ever. I just met with another female executive(never married )and she gave me her phone number after a meeting. I did not even ask. Found that she is hit or miss as her schedule is packed. God knows I do not want to be the creepy guy. You are so right ... I just need to live my life and see if I can tolerate a date once a quarter. Thank you.
@@wesrr4036 Good for you. As a Alpha male that turned around businesses, in my past career. I at first, took the same drive to try to learn everything about her. I found out with in a week, that it would not work for me. So I am on the slow phase of just having fun on our outings. If that is our last outing I am perfectly OKAY with that. No planning longterm, no thinking everything possible scenario, no check list, just being in the moment with her. I am still looking to developing my conversation skills with other women, but I have a overall flexibility plan.
@@EriPages Seems pretty straight forward to me. Graduates, a week later married to a women 10yrs his senior, an executive/career woman. Married 35yrs and she succumbs to disease. He, now and unexpectedly, is pursued by another career woman. His dilemma, and the overall context, is an acknowledgment of the general conversation taking place in this video. 🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️
when u seek someone else’s validation you give away your power to the person from whom your seeking validation. When you stop caring what others think and you live life how you want to live the validation from others will come to you.
The man who are teaching that you should not show a single emotion and be perma stoic and don't give women any compliments or validation are quite delusional. Women wanna laugh, even the ones who are uptight, they just forgot it's possible.
Yes. It's an outdated strategy and mindset for so many reasons. This guy has no clue how the modern dating market works. The story about how he met his wife (chased him down the street for a massage in Mexico) tells you quite about his credibility
@@Xzs64hhif nothing else the story about meeting his wife seems to show he was blissfully unaware of the scheme many women have when they meet a man from a more prosperous nation, to marry him and get her citizenship in his country. at least he liked her from the start i guess
@@Xzs64hh how so? He's not saying act like him, he's encouraging authenticity which you can't deny works. Is it a magic bullet, no. But I promise you women appericate it.
Welcome back on the dating scene! I know how scary may feel (I had to listen for advice on RUclips after 20 years of marriage)but it’s also interesting and challenging. I hope you will find your soulmate!
The term comes from an anecdote involving Benjamin Franklin. He wanted to win over a rival legislator, so he asked to borrow a rare book from the man's library. After the man lent him the book, their relationship improved significantly. Franklin concluded that a person who has done someone a favor is more likely to do another favor for that person than if they had received a favor from that person. Benjamin Franklin Effect: Doing a favor for someone leads you to like them more. 4:28
7:30 A lot of podcasts I listen to are just something I listen to for entertainment when walking, muttling around the house, etc…what STOPPED ME in my tracks. DO SOMETHING, that’s what gets noticed but what’s better is you’re LIVING LIFE!
When you stop seeking women's attention, that's when they want you... that's when shit happens... learn how to handle it. Never commit to anyone long term, dread game, where she believes she could lose you if she puts a foot wrong or says something really stupid..is very effective.
Yes when I learned that indifference works pretty well at attracting women along with other behaviors - I started losing interest in dating and relationships. I’m not completely ruling it out but I just find the entire rodeo to be tedious at this point
I’m 25 and I did network marketing for 3 years allowing me to be public a lot and social . And I feel the perks of just living in my own world and then it’s true I see women leave their sections or the others guys section to float to me . I see women switch harder and they honestly approach me ❤. Older and younger sometimes it’s tricky cause you need to know who really wants you and not just money and looks .
@matthewnorris203 Research life. Figure out what u want in life. Be selfish. Explore. From reading, to google to walking around your neighborhood. Talk to anyone who will talk to you. This will develop your personality. Never be fully trusting, and have restrictions. Shyt test new people in your life. Work on finances; retirement, saving, investing. Dont collect material things until you're stable. And women, treat conversantionally as equals.
4:30...It's the Benjamin Franklin effect. There was a guy who disliked Franklin, so he asked to borrow a certain book from the guy, and afterward, they become friendly.
The "completely unrelated to high status" effect because Benjamin Franklin was a nobody and we all know people liked him only because he asked them for small favors lol
glad you guys had this conversation, i was falsely accused on “are we dating the same man” facebook group and it has ruined my reputation permanently, i’m afraid of social media and i’m basically afraid of women now
You shouldn’t care about this at all. It’s a non-issue and is actually an insecurity of yours being concerned over being perceived as dating multiple women. There’s nothing wrong with dating multiple women either, you shouldn’t have a problem with it even if it’s just being wrongly mistaken for doing it. I don’t see a problem here other than how you are perceiving it. The best way to not play the games of this nonsense is to be totally nonchalant about it
@@andymholtit’s a little deeper than that bc all it takes is one woman to falsely accuse you and get you banned on hinge and you lose your reputation entirely like i’ve been blocked by like 100 girls on instagram bc she also doxxed me
I heard of this happening to someone else. As @andy pointed out, how you respond is key. We can't change what happened in what seems to be an (ignorant or malicious?) status game, but we can respond with nonchalance. You know what you're doing is morally okay, so there's no need to be afraid. We can always do better with managing expectations by for example saying "I'm casually dating for now", but how others respond is on them.
I’m always chasing women and I’ll never change. It’s motivated me to success so far. If I was trying to make myself proud, I’d be living in my dads basement
make up and the improvements on quality of make up along with normalization of heavy make up usage, has surely contributed to a major shift in the power dynamic between men and women. There are now many more "beautiful" women then there are handsome men
Seems like a nice but theres alot of contradictions in his logic. You need to chase women a little, at least until you sleep with them and the dynamics shift. This guy goes on to say he married a lady who propositioned him for a massage while walking down the street in Mexico 😂. He is outdated and has zero clue on intersexual dynamics and the modern dating market. It's insane how many "dating coaches" there are in 2024. Unreal
Totally agree. He makes some good points but women want to feel validated just as much as men. Men still have to put in some type of pursuit, which I think he fairly addresses by recommending to be a “social animal”. His provided example about meeting his current wife is admittedly not the best example and I think he knows that too, because he goes on to say how you can’t just wait around for women to offer you a massage. Be curious and be present. My biggest piece of advice that’s helped me would be to eliminate cell phone usage as much as possible. I use it as a social crutch. Just sitting at a bar I used to pull up my phone and act preoccupied. Now I make an effort to keep it in my pocket and it’s helped me to be more present. I instantly find myself becoming curious about the people around me and it naturally lends myself to engage with people. I’m replacing engagement with my phone with engagement with real people. CRAZY I know!
I was reported to HR for asking for a coworkers IG and liking her photos. She followed me back and viewed all of my stories. Honestly I don't know what to do, feeling powerless for doing nothing. This culture sucks.
Did you only like her sexy photos and not talk to her, because that would be pretty creepy, no wonder she reported you. Never like a woman's photos on any social media. They assume it is sexual.
Yeah that shit doesnt work these days grandpa. If you try-out to salsa dance a strange girl at the bus stop its going to be cops involved and some jailtime
I agree with him saying “choose the women that choose you” but what if the ones that choose me are always not my type and i’m not attracted to them no matter how hard i try, and the ones that don’t choose me are mostly my type now what?
Good question and it’s one that many men and women struggle with. The last two women I met that I found attractive and we connected well socially - one had 5 kids(that would never work for me!) and the other is much too weighed down with baggage and trauma . Plus she has 2 kids and I don’t want them. So yeah I get it but what do you think about dropping your standards? I think we might have to but then I struggle seeing it last long term.
Nobody is perfect and rarely finds “the one” on the first go. I’d take someone who’s real and been through hardships over someone who pretends to be happy or stays in a miserable marriage for the sake of “only being married once.”
@@Bbronson All of my financial advice comes from the homeless guy who sleeps in the vacant house next door. He's real and has been through hardships, so I trust him.
14:45 My ex girlfriend asked me to trim my nose hair in the nicest way. She said she loves it when we kiss, but my nose hair tickles her. Been trimming my nose hair ever since!
There was this girl I'd talk to from time to time, and for whatever reason I touched her arm, and she immediately screeched "Don't touch me!" I ofc dropped her right then and there and told her "No problem!" Refusing to walk on egg shells, however, I kept talking platonically to her. Until this one day when I was kinda tipsy. She started talking to me and kinda flirting. And I just told her, "But honey, you're way too young for me." She was caught red handed her entire head turned into a tomato. She did like me after all, but she just wanted it on her own terms.
My main issue with thoses idea is that they talk like we were some individualist specie. I mean, of course I look for a women approval, not because I need to be validated as a personn but because I need to share love with someone who loves me back. As soon as you enter in the "I dont need it, I live only for myself" room, there is no real point anymore to date. You says that women get attractes to independant men but being partner is precisly being dependant of the other one. IF i am in a place where I dont need her, why would I want her at all ? For the game ? For fun ? When is it logical to talk about obtaining something that you dont want anymore ? If I m not getting her out of need to loved and be loved but just as a kind of bonus in life, why would I do it at all ? I get that you r seen as strong and leader and confident and whatever you want and that it triggers womens imaginary but if I become that man, I ll then be the man who dont actually care for them. I dont want some toy, I want an actual partner. Not because it is useful dans practical but for the very purpose of loving. If I dont need them, what s the point of living at all ? To create things ? To build ? Why would I care if its not to provide for my familly ? Why should I care for men approval ? I wont build a family with them. All I need is ONE women, not the approval of all of them. Why should I care for anyone else than the women I love ?
They talk about ending sexual relationships like they happen constantly and there’s no end of willing available women. I got divorced well over a year ago and haven’t been with any women yet…just a handful of one time dates that end with me happy I don’t have to see them again.
The women out here are in a state of moral decay. Every woman I have spoke with with a view to dating has said something which shows how loose their morals are. If I played along and pretend to overlook their 304 ways I could get myself some 5ex but It just doesn’t seem a good enough deal to suffer them. I’m quite judgemental but that’s how I choose to be, I can’t settle for less than what I believe to be a benchmark.
@@dontreadmyname4396 I have not had that opportunity yet. However, I was dating a girl that was playing games and I really didn’t care and pursued her anyway. She was slow to respond and when I showed no interest she started showing more interest and calling.
its called the "theory of least interest" it;s about managing the energy or interest in her. If shew feels your interest is greater than her's is, she will become less attracted,.
bro, u still need to give reassurance every now and then. show some interest, when she needed it. not too much, not too less. but a bit less than them.
When you say "choose a women who s choosing you" THEN I consider its giving women the power. Not when YOU decide to go talk to her because you find her hot. You r giving her the opportunity to go with it or not but you are the one giving her that, you choose who you give that power to. If I just go with a women who chooses me first then I depend of women going for me. I am not in power, I m literally waiting for a women approval to be happy one I didnt choose decided SHE wanted me and that I m lucky she even looked at me. How is that being in power ?
You're taking it too literally. It's not that she approaches you. Sometimes she'll give you choosing signals and green light you to come over. Or you make the approach and it's obvious she likes you. Either way she's choosing you.
@@wayofthekodiak3118 it is exactly the same. If she is the one choosing, she is the only one who decide. I wont go with whoever just look at me. I am not that desesperate. The very purpose is to find someone you want and who does want you too. Its a game who has to be played by two players. You are together init and hopefully for life. Dont settle for less than love going both way.
You don't seem to understand what's being said. You don't decide anything when you walk across a crowded room to talk to someone who doesn't notice you, based PURELY on their looks. You give her the deciding power on whether or not she wants to be with you. You're chasing her approval, and that's not attractive to a woman who's worth her salt. Dr. Glover never said you should approach ALL the women who sends you signals of interest. He's NOT saying you should settle or date down. But to take your focus off of some superficial things and actively look for other kinds of desirable traits that'll make your life better. When you scope out all the women who notice you, you CHOOSE the one you want to approach (first). You're not concerned about chasing her approval, because you already have it. And if you conduct yourself confidently, you won't have to worry about seeking it or losing it. I don't know about you, but I'd rather have a slightly less attractive girl who's a great girlfriend and great in bed over a hottie who's a lousy partner and horrible in bed.
@@aleksamrkela831 chasing a women approval and being the one who engage are two totally different things. You do control who ever you want to talk to you just dont control if they want to answer but you also have the ability to leave if they are not open to a discussion. You certainly dont have more control waiting for a women to show her interest to you and you are not more in control when you have to deal when what s avaible when you just sit there and wait for it to happen. it wont anyway. I never said neither you should approach ALL the women, its just stupid to rely on any signal, people are a bit more complex than that and you can fall for the way to act, to talk, to be, for the person itself for who he is and that is something that can happen only AFTER an interraction. If you wait for a women to show interest in you it's purely superficial and she is the one making the move so SHE is in power. Not you. Being able to answer positivly or negativly is not power, power is being able to create the opportunity yourself. Not wait for them. As soon as you wait for it to happen you literally depend of it, it decide, not you. Even if "you choose the one you want to approach" AFTER they all gave you an idea they were interested, its still not power and you still have to deal with women who decided by themselves to pre validate you. And its not said at all you will have more than one. What a choice ! What you seem to miss is that you dont need a women approval. It's not that you r not concerned with chasing the women approval as you already have it, it's about stop trying to care about their approval and chasing it at all. THAT s the main issue man face, they all think they have to act in a way that meet the women expectation when the women expectation is just that you should act naturaly. You should not have to care about what is the "good answer". The good answer is to not care about what is the good answer, not reducing your possibility by going to talk solely to women you already think all you say is wonderful. It is not real anyway. You can't build anything solid on illusion. less attractive girl in bed ? what a sad life, no thanks, I dont care about her bed skills, she is a person not a sex toy, I rather prefer her to be beautiful and a great person. What you call a hottie only belongs to you, it's called taste and what I think is attractive may be horrible to you, so of course I want her to be pretty in my eyes, saying the opposite is hypocrit. If you can't say to your gf that she is the most beautiful woman on earth without lying, there is something you cleary did wrong.
Seems like, in a marriage, it should be desirable to seek attention from the spouse, both husband and wife. If this were the case, both would actively seek to attract the other
It's ingrained because if you ignore a woman she will simply find someone else. Her phone and socials are blowing up every time she puts a new picture up. Pulling yourself from her field of vision doesn't make her pine for you. It just makes her forget you behind the clamour of a hundred other guys vying for her attention.
Naw, I don’t need the acceptance no one. Maybe it’s because I am happy with who I am and I know I know I am not perfect but work at it for my own personal satisfaction.
"one of the particular things women can cultivate is receptiveness, you'd have to treat men like slow, mentally disabled golden retrievers" So true and so funny😂
he didn’t have to chase the wife, he is a doctor in USA making six figures she a therapist from mexico making some pesos they don’t earn much, she chose the perfect client for husband 😂 she always going to chase the gold goose
😂😂😂 People need stop platforming these "dating/life coaches". Especially the ones that have no idea how the dating market and attraction actually works
He didn’t say don’t approach. He said get out in public as much as possible and just talk to people and put yourself in a place to be approached. And if you approach a woman just because she’s attractive then you give her all the power. Approach anyone you want.
@@liamwalton6991 That sounds like what he says in the first part of the interview. He contradicts himself later in the interview and straight up says that it’s annoying to hot girls to be approached all the time so don’t do it. If you are approaching or messaging first on an app or signaling interest of any kind… you are “giving her the power.” Please explain how a man can initiate and NOT give her the power? By nature of a man moving first … he’s signaling interest. I don’t see a way around that.
Woman here 🙋🏼♀️🙋🏼♀️ I’m surrounded by beautiful women 18-60 for 27 years, approach us as a gentleman, it’s only the creepy dudes who say something sexual right from jump, and all they talk about… it’s inappropriate, a turn off, some men scare us. If you only want sex from us we will know so please find a pro. Leave us alone for men who are healed, financially stable and looking for a committed relationship leading to marriage just be yourself. This old man is lying lying and lying he’s so trying to impress other men. He’s nasty and giving bad advice.
@@Nikkithedoll incorrect, not all women want marriage or dating with intent, even though they say that, it's not true, they say they dislike f*ck boys but they make them and they select specifically who gets to become one.. women don't want a gentleman, they want someone that makes them feel, that's why they love jerks, jerks make them feel the most, and women become territorial when they feel another woman gets the feel the same way for the man they love, what men have to let women know is that our existence is worth more than what's between their legs. Women love a man with ambition, ambition that transcends the woman herself. Approach women but don't seek validation, seek spontaneous fun that might turn to a connection, do it for yourself, not for her.
@@DPMusicStudio You misunderstand the core of the advice. There's no contradiction. He's trying to say that you would have much more success and less hard work and grief by paying attention to women who actually notice YOU and show YOU signs of interest (open doors) and approach THOSE women as opposed to chasing the validation of some hottie who doesn't even know you exist (closed door).
So don't do pickup, however for picking up he recommends starting small talk conversations and gauging for interest? Aren't these both a form of trying to pickup women? I Highly recommend the No More Mr. Nice Guy book, but if you go start boring small talk conversations looking for interest you are in for a TON of rejection. Pickup knowledge, Dominance Struggling knowledge, and conversational knowledge only increase your chances of getting interest from women when you start conversations. The part he's looking to dodge that he can't quite describe is the unintentional telegraphing of interest. This is where she gets the idea you're hitting on her and she could have you if she wants you. For a pickup to really work well, she has to NOT know if she could get you. If you find yourself in a scenario where in your estimation she thinks she could have you if she wants you, then it's time to create doubt.
I hate being married and im only 37 but my wife makes me feel 80 and less of a man all the time because she makes more money than me She is a retail store manager makes 60k salary i build homes only make 20 hr its bullshyte
She wonders why he doesn’t come over and talk to her when she looks at him.. it’s because he’s married and already has five other girlfriends but still likes to look at other women. Just slip him your number maybe you’ll move up the line.
weird this guy, he talks about “you decide which girl” kinda vibe, yet going to women that already chose you. About the yes mentality… hmmm well I guess… if you want to. Everything is ok if you want to I do resonate with being comfortable in your own skin, that I think is (almost) on point.
If love is something that you emit all good. But is there nomething important about love beingman iterative long term process? If so going to a retreat for man love is bs and finding a woman who is loyal and intelligent is paramount.
Part 2 of the interview is here! ruclips.net/video/7M2q6m79odc/видео.html
*Instead of chasing, focusing on your own goals and passions makes you more attractive naturally. When you put yourself first, you send the message that you’re confident and secure, and that’s what draws people in!*
The choice section is FACTS.
Met a girl through friends recently. Gorgeous. A bit cold at first, but I was always warm to her. Try to not let that stuff impact the way I treat people. Never tried to get with her or “pick her up”. I was just living life, having fun, including her & her friends in that fun. She started warming up to me & I noticed some light flirting here and there but didn’t think too much of it. One day we’re at a concert together & one of the girls we’re with pulls me aside to introduce me to another girl at the show that was apparently into me. I chatted the girl up, wasn’t super into her to be honest so I wasn’t pressing the issue. All of the sudden I get a tap on the shoulder. It’s that same gorgeous girl from the beginning of the story. Asks me if I would come with her to get a drink. Now we’re together. She later told me that seeing me talk to that other girl made her make her move because she realized she didn’t want that opportunity to slip away.
Just have fun, work hard, keep a good attitude. Don’t let all this bullshit on the internet sour you (I once did & my dating life was terrible). As soon as I turned my attitude towards life/women around, doors started opening for me everywhere.
Awesome. Keep at it!
Don’t let her steal your power mate!! You have the leverage.
Thank you for this honest comment. Glad to see you're doing well!
“A woman may want to be attracted to a niceguy but biology won’t allow it.”
Gold.
and then 52:03.. "...every time it comes to an end... at some point you are a mismatch...and then its messy"
man will spend money in single or in relationship you decide ...if sex is all you want then any guy for 100$ a day can have sex with a different girl everyday its never ending supply a new girl is born everyday to practice on
Lots of obese men here at the shipyard who don't even take care of themselves but have a ring on that left hand....it's the strangest thing...
that's such BS. we have too many women who lack a proper upbringing that's it. nice guys will neutralize a threat, actually care, and be better providers than lazy men, it has nothing to do with biology telling females that they need lazy, rude, and poorly brought up males. it's about what these poorly educated women learn from their environment, movies, poorly brought up females in her family, school, and more. Misery loves company.
story of my life
@@dontreadmyname4396 it's because a large proportion of women are disrespectful.
They disrespect others, they disrespect conversation, they even disrespect themselves by choosing negative emotions over positive.
The problem isn't being a nice guy.
The problem is a nice guy that doesn't call out disrespect when he sees it.
You do that, you can have it your way.
Never be afraid to ditch a woman that won't even let you get to the end of a sentence without interrupting or dismissing you. Disrespect at early stages of romance, no matter what type of person you think you are, is a deal breaker.
The love of a straight man for a straight man is awesome and sadly far too rare. We as Brothers need to look out for our fellow Brothers.
Then you do it wrong.. do it right and you get it right
@@Stefanburakovby not providing a solution you’re comment just makes you look like a dick.
Great take
It’s quite special. Especially when you can grow together
that's because real love is intentional acts towards other things, and NOT an uncontrollable feeling of excitement, as so many unfortunately believe...
Actually, I met Dr. Glover several years ago waiting in the lobby of a movie theater in Bellevue, WA. I was reading a self help book and he approached me to talk about my book and gave me his business card. I ended up attending one of his seminars.
My ex approached me, she chose me. I then folded cuz she was fine (in my eyes). I entered her world and became too nice. Realized after losing her she had lost attraction. And catching me hiding things and lying just made it super easy for her to let go. I’m 27 sounds kind of late to realize this but not happening again. Def a lot to learn about myself and women.
"A man does not mature until he quits seeking the approval of a woman" what a great quote. Anyone know which book it's from?
“Sipping fear pissing confidence”
He then goes on to explain how he changed HIS ENTIRE EXISTENCE to be more appealing to women...
@@tmBabyloveLol this. So many contradictions in this guy's logic.
Also goes on to say he married a lady who propositioned him for a massage while walking down the street in Mexico 😂
He is outdated and has zero clue on intersexual dynamics and the modern dating market.
It's insane how many "dating coaches" there are in 2024. Unreal
@@tmBabyloveThat is incorrect. He started living for himself and consequently became more attractive to women.
Not sure but sounds like “The Way of the Superior Man” by David Deida
This resonated with me more than any of the red pill hard dude playing mind games. Admittedly I am attractive, but when I’m too try hard things fall apart. When I am genuinely myself girl come to me. You don’t have to act disinterested, because you shouldn’t be acting.
That’s the most amazing and inspiring quote “every amazing thing in my life has come from saying yes”
There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
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BS... dont waist your time people. This is just a bot tryna sell a crappy E-Book
booooo
Only ldiots would believe this
Women who offer their social media as a point of contact is looking for fans; not a partner.
It depends. My Instagram is on private, but I'll give that out instead of my phone #. I don't want them to add me on there...just use it as a messenger system, because so much information can be found from a phone number these days
Facts
Depends? It is 2024 lol
And doesn’t know the difference between attention & affection.
Attention chasers. Deep red flag.
Every man should read No More Mr. Nice Guy, especially those who claim that they are "nice."
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Finally someone said it. Me too movement made men more careful and approaching women and we don’t want to feel like we are accused of being a pervert.
Why do you care if they think you're a pervert? If you're not literally being a pervert, then it sounds like you're worried about a woman's approval by worrying about what they think about you.
@@dattajack Because 1 false accusation = guilty in the court of opinion. Especially in the work place.
Then what?? Your sensitive ego against their physical safety!!
@@dreamchaser7603-.- just approaching in a way they don’t like is now… treading bad waters. I mean like saying hi.
@dreamchaser7603 you get sacked
Wonderful and honest ending part! It's a duty for men not to prolong something and deceive the woman if we don't Feel like doing the long term relationship! Otherwise it just gets more diffiicult
Chris you are spot on with women needing to reciprocate more. I've heard you bring this up before and it warrants constant repeating. Ladies if you like a guy and have vetted him YOU NEED TO CONTRIBUTE MORE AND NOT RELY ON SIGNALS NO MATTER HOW OBVIOUS THEY MAY SEEM TO YOU. The vast majority of men DO NOT HAVE the dating experience women have where reasonable abundance makes such things easier to interpret just through exposure. You HAVE to understand most men's dating experiences are different. If there was more reciprocation and if the guy is interested in you I guarantee you will then get the response you are looking for. Eliminate the idea that you are spoon feeding him in this scenario and understand it is due to a lack of opportunity and learned responses, not a lack of confidence. Just initiate and give back a bit more and it will quickly move forward.
This is the way I've been rejected though. I've told guys I was interested after they were very flirty with me, but then they say they aren't interested 🤷♀️
I understand that women prefer men with initiative. That being said, I do totally agree that the man MUST be the woman's choice. Dr. Taraban said it best, in my opinion: in every relationship there is the one that is the ADORER, and the other is the ADORED. These things don't match perfectly. The person that is ADORING another experiences awesome emotions - and his view is that since women are highly emotional, they should get the luxury of adoring someone else (the man). This honestly leaves a man being adored but always sorta wanting to get crazy with some hot chick. It's probably the exactly correct balance of power in a male-female relationship that lasts over time.
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And that is fine, men get rejected all day long until they gave up or become immune to it.
@@js77z yes, pull back. men want something that is hard to get. sorry, I can't explain it more than that.
@@Cash4Stk that is so true. I’ve had cute girls in the past act over eager to get with me and for whatever reason, it is a turnoff .. I’m not sure why it is but it is - it’s just something instinctual that switches off the desire when girls are too interested. Human nature is odd at times
Lol I graduated one weekend and got married the next weekend. I was 23 and she was 33 and an executive. Married 35 years. Lost her to Alzheimer's. Was the luckiest person ever. I just met with another female executive(never married )and she gave me her phone number after a meeting. I did not even ask. Found that she is hit or miss as her schedule is packed. God knows I do not want to be the creepy guy. You are so right ... I just need to live my life and see if I can tolerate a date once a quarter. Thank you.
LOL. I am dating a career woman with a busy schedule as well. We will see what happens.
@@wesrr4036 Good for you. As a Alpha male that turned around businesses, in my past career. I at first, took the same drive to try to learn everything about her. I found out with in a week, that it would not work for me. So I am on the slow phase of just having fun on our outings. If that is our last outing I am perfectly OKAY with that. No planning longterm, no thinking everything possible scenario, no check list, just being in the moment with her. I am still looking to developing my conversation skills with other women, but I have a overall flexibility plan.
Your comment is all over the place. No coherence brother
@@EriPages
Seems pretty straight forward to me.
Graduates, a week later married to a women 10yrs his senior, an executive/career woman. Married 35yrs and she succumbs to disease. He, now and unexpectedly, is pursued by another career woman. His dilemma, and the overall context, is an acknowledgment of the general conversation taking place in this video.
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What is alzheimer ?
Boys, this world is getting soft and it affects us much more than women. We are expected to be strong. Don't disappoint
i don’t want any girl who judges me if my shoes aren’t shiny enough
when u seek someone else’s validation you give away your power to the person from whom your seeking validation. When you stop caring what others think and you live life how you want to live the validation from others will come to you.
It does not come.
The man who are teaching that you should not show a single emotion and be perma stoic and don't give women any compliments or validation are quite delusional. Women wanna laugh, even the ones who are uptight, they just forgot it's possible.
Yes. It's an outdated strategy and mindset for so many reasons.
This guy has no clue how the modern dating market works.
The story about how he met his wife (chased him down the street for a massage in Mexico) tells you quite about his credibility
@@Xzs64hh I was not talking about Robert actually, I was talking about other content creators who teach stoicism, Robert teaches authenticity.
@@NifflerTV he is textbook example imo of all the dating/life coaches who don't actually understand intersexual dynamics
@@Xzs64hhif nothing else the story about meeting his wife seems to show he was blissfully unaware of the scheme many women have when they meet a man from a more prosperous nation, to marry him and get her citizenship in his country. at least he liked her from the start i guess
@@Xzs64hh how so? He's not saying act like him, he's encouraging authenticity which you can't deny works. Is it a magic bullet, no. But I promise you women appericate it.
Welcome back on the dating scene! I know how scary may feel (I had to listen for advice on RUclips after 20 years of marriage)but it’s also interesting and challenging.
I hope you will find your soulmate!
I do date woman that likes me, when in talk to them i can see inmediatly if they like me or not, once they start smiling is good to go.
So foreign
You will never lose women chasing money. But you will lose money chasing women
Wrong.
I make 4 times what the cook that has her attention makes. They are whores
And if you lose a woman chasing,money, who cares ? Lol
Not sure where the hell to even find the women at this point.
I just copied that quote
Seeking approval..self approval, family, a woman ....is simply one of many ways we operate.
The term comes from an anecdote involving Benjamin Franklin. He wanted to win over a rival legislator, so he asked to borrow a rare book from the man's library. After the man lent him the book, their relationship improved significantly. Franklin concluded that a person who has done someone a favor is more likely to do another favor for that person than if they had received a favor from that person. Benjamin Franklin Effect: Doing a favor for someone leads you to like them more. 4:28
I have been saying this to my friends for awhile now. I just couldn’t articulate it well enough for them, thanks for giving me the tools.
7:30 A lot of podcasts I listen to are just something I listen to for entertainment when walking, muttling around the house, etc…what STOPPED ME in my tracks. DO SOMETHING, that’s what gets noticed but what’s better is you’re LIVING LIFE!
Simply put: social media become an antisocial weapon disassembling social interactions.
When you stop seeking women's attention, that's when they want you... that's when shit happens... learn how to handle it. Never commit to anyone long term, dread game, where she believes she could lose you if she puts a foot wrong or says something really stupid..is very effective.
Yes when I learned that indifference works pretty well at attracting women along with other behaviors - I started losing interest in dating and relationships. I’m not completely ruling it out but I just find the entire rodeo to be tedious at this point
what about a woman that friendzoned u and u chased quite hard for some time?
I’m 25 and I did network marketing for 3 years allowing me to be public a lot and social . And I feel the perks of just living in my own world and then it’s true I see women leave their sections or the others guys section to float to me . I see women switch harder and they honestly approach me ❤. Older and younger sometimes it’s tricky cause you need to know who really wants you and not just money and looks .
As a late 40s man, its safe to say Im done dating. Ive experienced alot of women and Im good. I retire my jersey. Tired of the hassle and drama.
Weak
@S54VR6 Whats weak?
I get that. What advice would you offer us other men?
@matthewnorris203 Research life. Figure out what u want in life. Be selfish. Explore. From reading, to google to walking around your neighborhood. Talk to anyone who will talk to you. This will develop your personality. Never be fully trusting, and have restrictions. Shyt test new people in your life. Work on finances; retirement, saving, investing. Dont collect material things until you're stable. And women, treat conversantionally as equals.
Thank you for playing! We will cheer you brother ✊🏼
Low key snipers dropping gems right here, i need to incorporate this
Unrealistic gems for a different world to the one that they live in.
Not being attached to outcome is Lord Krishnas teaching in the Bhagavad Geeta. Buddha obviously took that wonderful lesson and taught it
Be desireless.
4:30...It's the Benjamin Franklin effect. There was a guy who disliked Franklin, so he asked to borrow a certain book from the guy, and afterward, they become friendly.
The "completely unrelated to high status" effect because Benjamin Franklin was a nobody and we all know people liked him only because he asked them for small favors lol
You saved me some keystrokes. I was in a hurry to be the smart guy in the thread…. Oh wait… I’m seeking approval! 😮
glad you guys had this conversation, i was falsely accused on “are we dating the same man” facebook group and it has ruined my reputation permanently, i’m afraid of social media and i’m basically afraid of women now
You shouldn’t care about this at all. It’s a non-issue and is actually an insecurity of yours being concerned over being perceived as dating multiple women. There’s nothing wrong with dating multiple women either, you shouldn’t have a problem with it even if it’s just being wrongly mistaken for doing it. I don’t see a problem here other than how you are perceiving it.
The best way to not play the games of this nonsense is to be totally nonchalant about it
@@andymholtit’s a little deeper than that bc all it takes is one woman to falsely accuse you and get you banned on hinge and you lose your reputation entirely like i’ve been blocked by like 100 girls on instagram bc she also doxxed me
I heard of this happening to someone else. As @andy pointed out, how you respond is key. We can't change what happened in what seems to be an (ignorant or malicious?) status game, but we can respond with nonchalance. You know what you're doing is morally okay, so there's no need to be afraid. We can always do better with managing expectations by for example saying "I'm casually dating for now", but how others respond is on them.
There nothing to be faithful to when dating. Nothing wrong with dating multiple women. Those women are crazy. You can go enjoy real life.
Chris looks American asf in this video and I’m here for it. Sco brother
He looks like a frat boy.
I’m always chasing women and I’ll never change. It’s motivated me to success so far. If I was trying to make myself proud, I’d be living in my dads basement
make up and the improvements on quality of make up along with normalization of heavy make up usage, has surely contributed to a major shift in the power dynamic between men and women. There are now many more "beautiful" women then there are handsome men
Man's line-up is immaculate 🪒
Seems like a nice but theres alot of contradictions in his logic.
You need to chase women a little, at least until you sleep with them and the dynamics shift.
This guy goes on to say he married a lady who propositioned him for a massage while walking down the street in Mexico 😂.
He is outdated and has zero clue on intersexual dynamics and the modern dating market.
It's insane how many "dating coaches" there are in 2024. Unreal
Totally agree. He makes some good points but women want to feel validated just as much as men.
Men still have to put in some type of pursuit, which I think he fairly addresses by recommending to be a “social animal”. His provided example about meeting his current wife is admittedly not the best example and I think he knows that too, because he goes on to say how you can’t just wait around for women to offer you a massage.
Be curious and be present. My biggest piece of advice that’s helped me would be to eliminate cell phone usage as much as possible. I use it as a social crutch. Just sitting at a bar I used to pull up my phone and act preoccupied. Now I make an effort to keep it in my pocket and it’s helped me to be more present. I instantly find myself becoming curious about the people around me and it naturally lends myself to engage with people. I’m replacing engagement with my phone with engagement with real people. CRAZY I know!
@@Tubastank1This is 💯 true.
This guy is a lame.
@@ablemedia8763 oh look Roberts alt account 😂
@@Xzs64hh😂😂😂
Wife hit him with the inaugural happy ending. 🤣
Bro, she was out hunting for papers 😂😂😂😂
@@MrAbner09so true haha . Sounds like my uncle in Thailand . I’m not sure how reliable this I do is because of that
I was thinking the same thing!
I was reported to HR for asking for a coworkers IG and liking her photos.
She followed me back and viewed all of my stories.
Honestly I don't know what to do, feeling powerless for doing nothing. This culture sucks.
Block her
Did you only like her sexy photos and not talk to her, because that would be pretty creepy, no wonder she reported you. Never like a woman's photos on any social media. They assume it is sexual.
@@chrismoore9997creepy? U’re creepy with such mindset
NEVER hit on coworkers, man. Too many things can go wrong, from creating a messy work environment to you losing your job. It's not worth it.
Why you asking for her IG mate; you wanna date her or be her creepy fan 🤣
Yeah that shit doesnt work these days grandpa. If you try-out to salsa dance a strange girl at the bus stop its going to be cops involved and some jailtime
I agree with him saying “choose the women that choose you” but what if the ones that choose me are always not my type and i’m not attracted to them no matter how hard i try, and the ones that don’t choose me are mostly my type now what?
Good question and it’s one that many men and women struggle with. The last two women I met that I found attractive and we connected well socially - one had 5 kids(that would never work for me!) and the other is much too weighed down with baggage and trauma . Plus she has 2 kids and I don’t want them. So yeah I get it but what do you think about dropping your standards? I think we might have to but then I struggle seeing it last long term.
Good question 😂😂
Good question 😂😂
then u die alone like me and many other men out there, i will never be with a woman that chooses me unless im also interested
its up to the man to create attraction
I've been married a few times is not what I want to hear from my marriage counselor.
lol. Ok guru
I came here to say this!
“I’ve kicked a cocaine habit 20 times” doesn’t make you an expert in sobriety!
@@schenksteven1 It does if you stayed sober for the rest of your life after that 20th time...
Nobody is perfect and rarely finds “the one” on the first go. I’d take someone who’s real and been through hardships over someone who pretends to be happy or stays in a miserable marriage for the sake of “only being married once.”
@@Bbronson All of my financial advice comes from the homeless guy who sleeps in the vacant house next door. He's real and has been through hardships, so I trust him.
Not saying his message is wrong, but the way he causally threw out that he’s been married a few times 😮
You learn more from failures than success brother. 🙂↕️
@@devinosborn9917 True but I’ve only been happily married to one woman for 17 years. 🤷🏻♂️
@@toddNothingClever that’s amazing brother, extremely happy for you! Hope you guys make it a life time. 🙌🏽
@@devinosborn9917 I appreciate you! Thank you so much and good luck in the future!
@@toddNothingClever likewise! God bless my friend. 🙏🏽
14:45 My ex girlfriend asked me to trim my nose hair in the nicest way. She said she loves it when we kiss, but my nose hair tickles her. Been trimming my nose hair ever since!
I remember reading his book no more mr nice guy, absolutely brilliant!
I think I may just relisten to this weekly until it becomes my mentality lol
There was this girl I'd talk to from time to time, and for whatever reason I touched her arm, and she immediately screeched "Don't touch me!" I ofc dropped her right then and there and told her "No problem!" Refusing to walk on egg shells, however, I kept talking platonically to her. Until this one day when I was kinda tipsy. She started talking to me and kinda flirting. And I just told her, "But honey, you're way too young for me." She was caught red handed her entire head turned into a tomato. She did like me after all, but she just wanted it on her own terms.
I’m watching this in greyscale 🔥
being uninhibited is contradictory to post metoo era,
it will get you in trouble
maybe he has good "nice"thoughts in general
I wonder how long it will be until i forget what ive learnt.
I mean he has some good stuff but has gone through multiple wives so how good can he be?
@@AnthonyA-t8fhaha yea
go practice bro
My main issue with thoses idea is that they talk like we were some individualist specie. I mean, of course I look for a women approval, not because I need to be validated as a personn but because I need to share love with someone who loves me back. As soon as you enter in the "I dont need it, I live only for myself" room, there is no real point anymore to date. You says that women get attractes to independant men but being partner is precisly being dependant of the other one. IF i am in a place where I dont need her, why would I want her at all ? For the game ? For fun ? When is it logical to talk about obtaining something that you dont want anymore ? If I m not getting her out of need to loved and be loved but just as a kind of bonus in life, why would I do it at all ? I get that you r seen as strong and leader and confident and whatever you want and that it triggers womens imaginary but if I become that man, I ll then be the man who dont actually care for them. I dont want some toy, I want an actual partner. Not because it is useful dans practical but for the very purpose of loving. If I dont need them, what s the point of living at all ? To create things ? To build ? Why would I care if its not to provide for my familly ?
Why should I care for men approval ? I wont build a family with them. All I need is ONE women, not the approval of all of them. Why should I care for anyone else than the women I love ?
"one women" ? Wtf can you type " woman"?
@@dtoad5576 oh no he misswrote woman 😱 we all gonna die !
Can't agree more 👍
They talk about ending sexual relationships like they happen constantly and there’s no end of willing available women. I got divorced well over a year ago and haven’t been with any women yet…just a handful of one time dates that end with me happy I don’t have to see them again.
The women out here are in a state of moral decay. Every woman I have spoke with with a view to dating has said something which shows how loose their morals are. If I played along and pretend to overlook their 304 ways I could get myself some 5ex but It just doesn’t seem a good enough deal to suffer them.
I’m quite judgemental but that’s how I choose to be, I can’t settle for less than what I believe to be a benchmark.
I was a nice guy and did okay. When I stopped caring women chased me and complain about no commitment. Can’t win.
have u ever got the interest of a woman who initially rejected/friendzoned you?
@@dontreadmyname4396 I have not had that opportunity yet. However, I was dating a girl that was playing games and I really didn’t care and pursued her anyway. She was slow to respond and when I showed no interest she started showing more interest and calling.
its called the "theory of least interest" it;s about managing the energy or interest in her. If shew feels your interest is greater than her's is, she will become less attracted,.
bro, u still need to give reassurance every now and then. show some interest, when she needed it. not too much, not too less. but a bit less than them.
@@adhyung good reply it’s about balance and understanding “theory of least interest” and incorporating that into the energy you give a woman
When you say "choose a women who s choosing you" THEN I consider its giving women the power. Not when YOU decide to go talk to her because you find her hot. You r giving her the opportunity to go with it or not but you are the one giving her that, you choose who you give that power to. If I just go with a women who chooses me first then I depend of women going for me. I am not in power, I m literally waiting for a women approval to be happy one I didnt choose decided SHE wanted me and that I m lucky she even looked at me. How is that being in power ?
Yes and these tend to be more masculine/alpha/dominant women.
You're taking it too literally. It's not that she approaches you. Sometimes she'll give you choosing signals and green light you to come over. Or you make the approach and it's obvious she likes you. Either way she's choosing you.
@@wayofthekodiak3118 it is exactly the same. If she is the one choosing, she is the only one who decide. I wont go with whoever just look at me. I am not that desesperate. The very purpose is to find someone you want and who does want you too. Its a game who has to be played by two players. You are together init and hopefully for life. Dont settle for less than love going both way.
You don't seem to understand what's being said. You don't decide anything when you walk across a crowded room to talk to someone who doesn't notice you, based PURELY on their looks. You give her the deciding power on whether or not she wants to be with you. You're chasing her approval, and that's not attractive to a woman who's worth her salt.
Dr. Glover never said you should approach ALL the women who sends you signals of interest. He's NOT saying you should settle or date down. But to take your focus off of some superficial things and actively look for other kinds of desirable traits that'll make your life better. When you scope out all the women who notice you, you CHOOSE the one you want to approach (first). You're not concerned about chasing her approval, because you already have it. And if you conduct yourself confidently, you won't have to worry about seeking it or losing it. I don't know about you, but I'd rather have a slightly less attractive girl who's a great girlfriend and great in bed over a hottie who's a lousy partner and horrible in bed.
@@aleksamrkela831 chasing a women approval and being the one who engage are two totally different things.
You do control who ever you want to talk to you just dont control if they want to answer but you also have the ability to leave if they are not open to a discussion. You certainly dont have more control waiting for a women to show her interest to you and you are not more in control when you have to deal when what s avaible when you just sit there and wait for it to happen. it wont anyway.
I never said neither you should approach ALL the women, its just stupid to rely on any signal, people are a bit more complex than that and you can fall for the way to act, to talk, to be, for the person itself for who he is and that is something that can happen only AFTER an interraction. If you wait for a women to show interest in you it's purely superficial and she is the one making the move so SHE is in power. Not you. Being able to answer positivly or negativly is not power, power is being able to create the opportunity yourself. Not wait for them. As soon as you wait for it to happen you literally depend of it, it decide, not you.
Even if "you choose the one you want to approach" AFTER they all gave you an idea they were interested, its still not power and you still have to deal with women who decided by themselves to pre validate you. And its not said at all you will have more than one. What a choice ! What you seem to miss is that you dont need a women approval. It's not that you r not concerned with chasing the women approval as you already have it, it's about stop trying to care about their approval and chasing it at all. THAT s the main issue man face, they all think they have to act in a way that meet the women expectation when the women expectation is just that you should act naturaly. You should not have to care about what is the "good answer". The good answer is to not care about what is the good answer, not reducing your possibility by going to talk solely to women you already think all you say is wonderful. It is not real anyway. You can't build anything solid on illusion.
less attractive girl in bed ? what a sad life, no thanks, I dont care about her bed skills, she is a person not a sex toy, I rather prefer her to be beautiful and a great person. What you call a hottie only belongs to you, it's called taste and what I think is attractive may be horrible to you, so of course I want her to be pretty in my eyes, saying the opposite is hypocrit. If you can't say to your gf that she is the most beautiful woman on earth without lying, there is something you cleary did wrong.
Just ask them "how much" works everytime
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That, and "IdgaF" attitude to match it.
Realest comment ever by today's standards 😂
Seems like, in a marriage, it should be desirable to seek attention from the spouse, both husband and wife. If this were the case, both would actively seek to attract the other
Like listening to an Eagles album. You know it was clever once, but that was a lifetime ago.
Rofl man that’s cold
Even if you know this, men are ingrained with the approval seeking behavior. Gotta get this back in your mind time and time again.
It's ingrained because if you ignore a woman she will simply find someone else. Her phone and socials are blowing up every time she puts a new picture up. Pulling yourself from her field of vision doesn't make her pine for you. It just makes her forget you behind the clamour of a hundred other guys vying for her attention.
Wow.. this conversation was helpful to me.
Naw, I don’t need the acceptance no one. Maybe it’s because I am happy with who I am and I know I know I am not perfect but work at it for my own personal satisfaction.
"one of the particular things women can cultivate is receptiveness, you'd have to treat men like slow, mentally disabled golden retrievers"
So true and so funny😂
He met a woman on the streets offering massages. WTF!!!! Of course he didnt have to chase her
he didn’t have to chase the wife, he is a doctor in USA making six figures she a therapist from mexico making some pesos they don’t earn much, she chose the perfect client for husband 😂 she always going to chase the gold goose
😂😂😂
People need stop platforming these "dating/life coaches". Especially the ones that have no idea how the dating market and attraction actually works
at least he was honest
Some laws call that "groping."
The handkerchief idea is something Orion Taraban talks about on his channel content.
It's the Benjamin Franklin affect
If my 'open doors' were also 'Hey Mr, would you like a massage', I'm sure I wouldn't have any problems with not chasing.
😂.
defenitely makes sense to take dating advice from a guy who married a woman who hollered at him for a massage in Mexico LOL
Could you use the “where we go on tropical trip” even to a girl i already know? Or just on tinder and platforms?
The Dave Ramsey of dating
This whole conversation was a lot of fun to listen to!
I don’t like the idea of not approaching.
Who are you going to ask out now?
Dating apps are garbage for men.
I’m going to keep approaching.
He didn’t say don’t approach. He said get out in public as much as possible and just talk to people and put yourself in a place to be approached. And if you approach a woman just because she’s attractive then you give her all the power. Approach anyone you want.
@@liamwalton6991 That sounds like what he says in the first part of the interview. He contradicts himself later in the interview and straight up says that it’s annoying to hot girls to be approached all the time so don’t do it.
If you are approaching or messaging first on an app or signaling interest of any kind… you are “giving her the power.”
Please explain how a man can initiate and NOT give her the power? By nature of a man moving first … he’s signaling interest.
I don’t see a way around that.
Woman here 🙋🏼♀️🙋🏼♀️ I’m surrounded by beautiful women 18-60 for 27 years, approach us as a gentleman, it’s only the creepy dudes who say something sexual right from jump, and all they talk about… it’s inappropriate, a turn off, some men scare us. If you only want sex from us we will know so please find a pro. Leave us alone for men who are healed, financially stable and looking for a committed relationship leading to marriage just be yourself. This old man is lying lying and lying he’s so trying to impress other men. He’s nasty and giving bad advice.
@@Nikkithedoll incorrect, not all women want marriage or dating with intent, even though they say that, it's not true, they say they dislike f*ck boys but they make them and they select specifically who gets to become one.. women don't want a gentleman, they want someone that makes them feel, that's why they love jerks, jerks make them feel the most, and women become territorial when they feel another woman gets the feel the same way for the man they love, what men have to let women know is that our existence is worth more than what's between their legs. Women love a man with ambition, ambition that transcends the woman herself. Approach women but don't seek validation, seek spontaneous fun that might turn to a connection, do it for yourself, not for her.
@@DPMusicStudio You misunderstand the core of the advice. There's no contradiction. He's trying to say that you would have much more success and less hard work and grief by paying attention to women who actually notice YOU and show YOU signs of interest (open doors) and approach THOSE women as opposed to chasing the validation of some hottie who doesn't even know you exist (closed door).
great advice!
Ok. I am a bit passive in my approach. I am going to fix that.
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I am a bit shy. And I dont know what I want ...
So don't do pickup, however for picking up he recommends starting small talk conversations and gauging for interest? Aren't these both a form of trying to pickup women? I Highly recommend the No More Mr. Nice Guy book, but if you go start boring small talk conversations looking for interest you are in for a TON of rejection. Pickup knowledge, Dominance Struggling knowledge, and conversational knowledge only increase your chances of getting interest from women when you start conversations. The part he's looking to dodge that he can't quite describe is the unintentional telegraphing of interest. This is where she gets the idea you're hitting on her and she could have you if she wants you. For a pickup to really work well, she has to NOT know if she could get you. If you find yourself in a scenario where in your estimation she thinks she could have you if she wants you, then it's time to create doubt.
All things are temporary anyway…why self suffer?
I hate being married and im only 37 but my wife makes me feel 80 and less of a man all the time because she makes more money than me She is a retail store manager makes 60k salary i build homes only make 20 hr its bullshyte
At around 4:20 i think it's called the Abraham Lincoln effect, but i have to look it up
No point in getting laid bc 18 years of child support. Women have a choice after conception. Men don't.
Nice guys do not finish last. Boring guys finish last.
Pô Gerassu... por que vc não tenta entrar em numa universidade?
Of course the massage therapist chose you Dr. from USA you everything she dream of e wealthy husband doctor 😂😂😂😂
I dont chase young women either ... I would never ...
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Stopped at "I've been married a few times"
She wonders why he doesn’t come over and talk to her when she looks at him.. it’s because he’s married and already has five other girlfriends but still likes to look at other women. Just slip him your number maybe you’ll move up the line.
OMG, narcissistic overload! Mother was never a caregiver, she told me I was on my own & couldn't rely on her before I was 5yrs old!
Its not a conversation its Glover talking.
This is super gay and I'm here for it.
How do you speak to a woman if you don’t approach? Im lost
weird this guy, he talks about “you decide which girl” kinda vibe, yet going to women that already chose you.
About the yes mentality… hmmm well I guess… if you want to. Everything is ok if you want to
I do resonate with being comfortable in your own skin, that I think is (almost) on point.
If love is something that you emit all good. But is there nomething important about love beingman iterative long term process? If so going to a retreat for man love is bs and finding a woman who is loyal and intelligent is paramount.
Stop with the “Nice Guy” be kind, honest, respectful, like attracts like 😉😊
Can i get RUclips without the comments section?
Started losing my hair at 18 ha I’m screwed
Great video
i dont understand, how does say yes constantly not make you a nice guy? This mentality seems to just accept everything and be just ok with everything.
Can you play, we built this city 😄
Touch, Tease, Tell