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  • Опубликовано: 12 ноя 2024

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  • @lgbtqarchives
    @lgbtqarchives  6 месяцев назад +8

    More from 𝐒𝐭𝐞𝐩𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐦𝐛𝐞𝐫𝐬:
    𝐃𝐞𝐬𝐢𝐫𝐞 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐓𝐫𝐮𝐞 𝐈𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐚𝐜𝐲: ruclips.net/video/eOgAVVyEfUM/видео.html
    www.youtube.com/@SWExplore

  • @pmavrod
    @pmavrod 6 месяцев назад +9

    Three siblings being gay is pure DNA inside the family

    • @lgbtqarchives
      @lgbtqarchives  6 месяцев назад +2

      Yes, there's almost a 10 years difference between the youngest and oldest. All 3 have a drastically different personality to a point where they don't really share much in common ... and yet they're gay. There are so many cases like that. Many of us are born this way.

    • @Denidrakes69
      @Denidrakes69 2 месяца назад

      I have five kids. The eldest and one of the youngest of the twins are trans - the youngest had been telling me since he was two (and has mentally struggled the most with it), the eldest is asexual and felt better without breasts - there's an 11 year gap. My aunt on my mum's side is gay. My uncle on my dad's side is gay. My dad is asexual. My husband's brother is gay. My cousin is gay. Her brother is asexual. And then we get into second cousins and it's the same story as ours repeated
      No one can tell me it's not genetics...

  • @lanamuir9352
    @lanamuir9352 Месяц назад +2

    Your life story is wonderful. Stephen, thank you for sharing. We are the same age and I have made many new friends as a single woman by giving dinner parties. I live in Mexico and my friendship list has exploded over great food. wine and conversations that can go on well into the middle of the night. You are at the perfect place in life right now to do this. I love being in the kitchen all day preparing for the evening's event! And you will too!

    • @lgbtqarchives
      @lgbtqarchives  Месяц назад

      So happy to hear that you've been able to develop real connections. Steve in one of these interviews was talking about the same idea. The hookup culture gets in the way sometimes.

  • @Dimi374
    @Dimi374 6 месяцев назад +21

    Stephen Chambers is a very handsome man.😍

    • @SWExplore
      @SWExplore 6 месяцев назад +2

      Wow!! Dimi, thank you for that compliment. I am just a simple man who has made a lot of mistakes along the path of my life, but who is coming around the bend still in tact.

    • @Dimi374
      @Dimi374 6 месяцев назад +3

      @@SWExplore A large percentage of us I believe make mistakes along the path of life.
      It’s wonderful to see those mistakes made a beautiful person.
      I wish you all the best!❤️
      If you drove up to my door on a motorcycle with a bag of Rubio’s we’d have to get married.😉
      Really enjoyed listening to your interview and you are very handsome.😍

    • @LoneAries77
      @LoneAries77 6 месяцев назад +3

      Agree very handsome man

    • @cmacmenow
      @cmacmenow 6 месяцев назад +2

      Inside and out.

    • @SWExplore
      @SWExplore 6 месяцев назад

      @@cmacmenow Thank you, Dimi, so very much! I'm just Steve.

  • @davidoran123
    @davidoran123 6 месяцев назад +5

    The hidden treasure of being gay is having to totally examine your life and put it back together consciously.

  • @bugleboy4527
    @bugleboy4527 6 месяцев назад +18

    Great video Steve, It always amazes me how much damage parents can do to their children's psyche. Sounds like you have had some love in your life with your relationships over the years. Your struggles have helped pave the way for the younger generations to accept themselves and find some inner peace about who they are. Some of the younger generation have it a lot easier these days. Who knows whats in store for you moving forward, be happy.

    • @SWExplore
      @SWExplore 6 месяцев назад +6

      Thank you, BugleBoy! I feel good about having done the video because it may help another gay man with his own coming out effort.

  • @jaykaye7025
    @jaykaye7025 6 месяцев назад +9

    It's very unusual all three brothers been gay

  • @michaelrg3836
    @michaelrg3836 6 месяцев назад +6

    Two thumbs up! Now go interview his two gay brothers. 😘

    • @lgbtqarchives
      @lgbtqarchives  6 месяцев назад +3

      Actually, I would've loved to interview the parents who ended up with 3 gay sons. They really scored! Would've been nice to hear what they had to say. They passed away long time ago.

  • @billTO
    @billTO 6 месяцев назад +9

    What an interesting life youve been having, Steve . I was born in Ottawa in 1943. Poonly came out at 33, told parents at 35.
    Partner's 1 left me but 4 decades later we are best friends. Meanwhile Partner 2 after 11 yrs dIed of AIDS. Partner 3 wouldnt sign a cohabitation document, and one day just vanished.
    At age 74 I met my current love, a married man who loves only older men. His wife is fine with it. We meet weekly. There is real love between us and he encourages me to see my now best friend.
    Your's is such an adventurous life, and you've rolled with the punches admirably! BTW, you've only improved with age in every way. Love the beard! 🧑‍🎄

    • @SWExplore
      @SWExplore 6 месяцев назад +1

      Thank you so much, Bill. It has been quite the ride through the many chapters of my life. And though I am older now at age 69, I've learned much about myself along the way, especially that I am now sober. I am no longer running from deep-seated fears that have controlled my life in the past, and on some days still does. It's been a survival course. All the best to you, Bill! 🤎

  • @若月裕二-e1j
    @若月裕二-e1j 6 месяцев назад +7

    He was explaining his life. It was beautiful story to hear.

    • @SWExplore
      @SWExplore 6 месяцев назад +1

      Thank you!

  • @maxbear215
    @maxbear215 6 месяцев назад +4

    Lovely story and such a lovely man. Very relatable in so many ways. Time waits for no one and it sure creeps on you fast.

  • @Mcfreddo
    @Mcfreddo 6 месяцев назад +10

    Friendships are so important!

    • @SWExplore
      @SWExplore 6 месяцев назад +2

      Absolutely agree! I had been isolated for so many years that I didn't know what I would do (I didn't share that in the video). Thankfully, and over time, I am beginning to develop friendships through my attendance of AA meetings and a couple of friends that I've know for many decades. William is my closest confidant of all my friendships.

    • @Mcfreddo
      @Mcfreddo 6 месяцев назад +2

      @@SWExplore I know your feelings and conditions you have spoken about very well. The isolation.

    • @samadams219
      @samadams219 6 месяцев назад +2

      It is . Wish I had a gay friend.

    • @garryc.1645
      @garryc.1645 6 месяцев назад +1

      @@samadams219 Having gay friends are important because both CAN relate.

    • @samadams219
      @samadams219 6 месяцев назад

      @garryc.1645 yeah I don't have any.

  • @garssympa500
    @garssympa500 6 месяцев назад +9

    Montreal, La Rose Rouge, Central Station, McGill University and even, hepatitis B and being sobre... I've lived all of that and I'm still a Montrealer and living a quiet life in my mid-60s. I have also given up on the hook-up culture and would love a couple of close friends who have the same values as I do. Very difficult to find. It's a lonely life. Loved this video!

  • @stevec404
    @stevec404 6 месяцев назад +9

    "...still a lot more living to do...a lot more!". My thoughts exactly. Thanks.

  • @raymondwolken7975
    @raymondwolken7975 6 месяцев назад +4

    It took me 64 years to come to the same conclusions. Although I’ve come to enjoy being single I miss the intimacy and companionship I shared with my partner until his death in 2021 of ALZ. I’m pleased to hear your story and wish you the very best.😊

  • @christophertaylor9826
    @christophertaylor9826 6 месяцев назад +5

    I totally agree.

  • @derrickharkless
    @derrickharkless 6 месяцев назад +6

    It would be great to have one other gay brother, then have 2 more, this would have been the best thing ever for me.

  • @billligon4005
    @billligon4005 6 месяцев назад +4

    Good luck to - live your life. Your beautiful.

  • @aleksmegas5
    @aleksmegas5 6 месяцев назад +6

    What a great story and a handsome man. 😊

  • @Mcfreddo
    @Mcfreddo 6 месяцев назад +6

    Yes, deep fear is crippling. Some fear of the rational type can keep you safe.

  • @EnronnSierra
    @EnronnSierra 6 месяцев назад +5

    Very beautiful story, its amazing how our community all share the same threads, both young and old.

  • @Mario-xr3jo
    @Mario-xr3jo 6 месяцев назад +4

    What an interesting testimony, Steve.
    Thanks for sharing!
    Best wishes and take care. Hugs.

    • @SWExplore
      @SWExplore 6 месяцев назад +1

      Thank you, Mario.

  • @tomsparks6099
    @tomsparks6099 6 месяцев назад +6

    Congrats on your sobriety. I too embraced it after years of self oppression (and I was just recently in Toronto seeking a fellowship meeting!). It stinks that sex is such a narrow focus with gay men and they are non-committal. Many our age now suffer from terminal loneliness because they never worked at what a true marriage is where sex is a minimal expression. You've inspired me with confidence, Stephen -- now widowed after a 15 year devoted marriage, I realize I can go on solo if that is my fate.

    • @SWExplore
      @SWExplore 6 месяцев назад +2

      Thank you, Tom. I am genuinely glad that I have provided you with inspiration.

  • @firouz256
    @firouz256 6 месяцев назад +3

    What a prime example of a man that had to learn to love himself and hurt people along the way.
    I hope he cares enough about himself, so he can find someone that cares about him.
    This is what I am working on.

    • @SWExplore
      @SWExplore 6 месяцев назад +1

      Thanks for your feedback, Fi Rouz. I am the man who is trying to love himself in this video. I must say that I did not intentionally hurt people along the way. Life hurts, and hind sight is always 20/20 vision. It was difficult for me to express my coming out story and to pull up photos of the many chapters in my life. I send you positive energies toward your own goal of loving yourself completely.

    • @firouz256
      @firouz256 6 месяцев назад +1

      @@SWExplore
      I didn't mean to judge you! Life is a process and I was often one of those gay men that have been used and abused by other gay men who were afraid of intimacy.
      We all learn and now. At least you did!
      I send you love and hugs!

  • @MichaelYoder1961
    @MichaelYoder1961 6 месяцев назад +2

    Thanks for sharing your story, Steve. Wee need more voices (old and young) telling out stories.

  • @agentofficerthomasa.porter107
    @agentofficerthomasa.porter107 6 месяцев назад +2

    Stephen everyone has the journey they have been living! Nothing can be better than great comradery with another loving bud. Take Care. always Tommy🤠

    • @lgbtqarchives
      @lgbtqarchives  6 месяцев назад +1

      Everyone has the journey they have been living?

  • @Sungawakan
    @Sungawakan 6 месяцев назад +5

    Handsome guy

  • @samiam3291
    @samiam3291 6 месяцев назад +4

    What a great story and thank you for sharing. And as long as you keep coming back, I can guarantee you from my own experience, that there’s a ton of friends in the rooms that you just haven’t met yet.

  • @robertfoerster6922
    @robertfoerster6922 6 месяцев назад +2

    Stephn,you have a calm and peaceful demeanor which is my desire for a person to be friends with, im now 74 lost my partner of 36 years now going on 14 years ago. I agree the time is fast but our difference in age was 19 years and that had a coming, and genuine love I hope you find someone.
    We both were previously marred to woman, he had siblings (3), I never had children but helped raise his grandchildren till the ages of 14 years, and their parent remarried.

    • @lgbtqarchives
      @lgbtqarchives  6 месяцев назад

      Amazing story that SHOULD be documented!

  • @lucianodarosa5707
    @lucianodarosa5707 6 месяцев назад +4

    Love it! That is the type of man, I’m looking for to spend the rest of my life with! ❤

    • @SWExplore
      @SWExplore 6 месяцев назад +2

      Thank you, Luciano! That means a lot to me that I may have helped another man with his own coming out effort.

  • @tonycollazorappo
    @tonycollazorappo 6 месяцев назад +3

    Wonderful story from a very handsome gent, wink.

    • @SWExplore
      @SWExplore 6 месяцев назад

      Thank you again, Tony. I am absolutely flattered!

  • @tonycollazorappo
    @tonycollazorappo 6 месяцев назад +3

    I subscribed to his RUclips channel. :)

    • @SWExplore
      @SWExplore 6 месяцев назад

      Thank you so much, Tony! Much appreciated.

  • @edwardwilliams2438
    @edwardwilliams2438 5 месяцев назад +2

    This channel is just Amazing...thank you for the format. Refreshing to hear these stories and observe these lads as they reconcile their feelings. As a mature gay man..I see a bit of myself in everyone of the profilers. Sexuality is such a fluid concept...be it hetro..or homo (because that is all we had to measure by..back in the day). I was extremely fortunate to have parents that suspected ( I was first born male..artistic, but tall and athletic) Consequently..I had the luxury of dating girls and just flying under the radar. But..Mr. Chambers scenario was faintly similar...but without the numbing religious shame. He is much braver than I. I have a Canadian partner and I always admired their grit and tenacious friendliness...which also I see flickers of, in Stephen. All I can say is...please continue these little vignettes...they are so well received in the gay community. And to Stephen...Kudos on your resolve and smooth tantric demeanor. Stay well and count your blessings.

    • @SWExplore
      @SWExplore 5 месяцев назад +1

      Thanks, Edward, for your kind words of support and encouragement. I do count my blessings every single day!

  • @SpuktasticAudio
    @SpuktasticAudio 6 месяцев назад +4

    Another lovely, tender tale of personal experience. ❤

  • @bittersweetmusic6532
    @bittersweetmusic6532 6 месяцев назад +4

    Thank goodness for you, Steve. What a great video. You keep living all of that lots of living left to do. I am inspired to do the same ❤😊.

  • @lawrence2087
    @lawrence2087 6 месяцев назад +4

    As usual, a most interesting self portrait. Thanks for sharing.

  • @l.g.8028
    @l.g.8028 6 месяцев назад +3

    What a nice story, you seem to be a wonderful, caring and warm man. What you wish, is what most of us wish, but it seems difficult to get. I’m so sorry that you had to cope with your parents coldness, but it seems you have forgiven them, hope that later you had a good relationship with your siblings. Being gay is difficult, easier for some, and very hard for others. It is very refreshing to see that you see life with kindness and hope. Wishing you the very best ❤

  • @ronjohnson4566
    @ronjohnson4566 6 месяцев назад +3

    great video! My life echoes yours in so many ways. i was even a graphic designer/painter. missed out on the HEP but not the hemp. and I'm a better man for it. i see you visited Joshua Tree, I must have just missed you. let me see... you came out, had a job you enjoyed, traveled widely, were open to many possibilities, and know how to wear a bear outfit. so kudos to you. keep it up. be happy. My guess is there are at least 1 million guys who will relate to your story.

    • @SWExplore
      @SWExplore 6 месяцев назад

      Thank you, Ron, for your kind words of support.

  • @lukashasselNY
    @lukashasselNY 6 месяцев назад +3

    Lovely interview. Lovely man. Thank you for sharing. If you were in NY, I'm sure we could be friends.

    • @SWExplore
      @SWExplore 6 месяцев назад +3

      Thank you, Lukashassel! I very much appreciate your feedback.

  • @cmacmenow
    @cmacmenow 6 месяцев назад +2

    Deeply engaging, meaningful chat.
    Cheers Stephen. Namaste. ODAAT.

  • @willsmom93
    @willsmom93 6 месяцев назад +4

    Good for you Stephen!

  • @theoriginalskinsey
    @theoriginalskinsey 6 месяцев назад +2

    It's like someone told my life story. Thank you for sharing!

  • @timural3421
    @timural3421 6 месяцев назад +5

    Luckily you came out early , I'm fifty and still hiding my sexuality

    • @SWExplore
      @SWExplore 6 месяцев назад +2

      Tim, you are such a young man at 50, and though it may have taken you time to come out to yourself, it certainly must feel liberating to feel free enough to be yourself, even if it is in hiding. I support you and commend you on working toward accepting yourself fully.

    • @piotrusmail4
      @piotrusmail4 6 месяцев назад

      Maybe it was not such a bad option. Coming out and fighting for years with parents isn't good either...

  • @johanneshendrikslabbert8185
    @johanneshendrikslabbert8185 6 месяцев назад +2

    Bear hug Steve: thanks for sharing your live path, I am learning through others experiences. Keep doing your clips, I believe it encourages others. Would have loved to have a friendship with you.

  • @jrivest
    @jrivest 6 месяцев назад +3

    Stephen - Wonderful video. Thank you. You seem like a very sweet man.

    • @SWExplore
      @SWExplore 6 месяцев назад

      Thank you so much! Much appreciated.

  • @blakeaaron5698
    @blakeaaron5698 6 месяцев назад +3

    Thank you for sharing your story, I appreciate these candid interviews so much.

  • @russwes7778
    @russwes7778 6 месяцев назад +5

    very handsome

  • @joevasquez3434
    @joevasquez3434 6 месяцев назад +2

    Joe here. 59, single, moving back home to S. Cali. I'd like very much to meet Stephen.

  • @LoneAries77
    @LoneAries77 6 месяцев назад +3

    Thank you for your authentic story sir. Amazing man

    • @SWExplore
      @SWExplore 6 месяцев назад +2

      Thank you, LoneAries! I did my best to share openly and with respect for all of the persons I have known throughout my life.

    • @LoneAries77
      @LoneAries77 6 месяцев назад +2

      ​@@SWExplore congrats on your recovery. 11 years sober here. Woof

    • @SWExplore
      @SWExplore 6 месяцев назад

      @@LoneAries77 That's great that you have 11 years sober!! Congratulations to you!

  • @ronsmith2241
    @ronsmith2241 6 месяцев назад +2

    Thanks for sharing. Very interesting. Every persons story is different.

  • @rajr1032
    @rajr1032 6 месяцев назад +3

    Great life as lived.

  • @Pisti846
    @Pisti846 6 месяцев назад +3

    You sound like you were always mature, sane and sensible, if gay life were easier 50 years ago I bet you would not have had any substance problems.

    • @lgbtqarchives
      @lgbtqarchives  6 месяцев назад +2

      Maybe even that pregnancy wouldn’t have happened. People need to understand this. If a minority group suffers, everyone will eventually suffer directly or indirectly.

  • @samantha_proust
    @samantha_proust 2 месяца назад +2

    Wow ❤ it’s surprising three whole brothers turned out to be gay 😻 may I ask if you link it to your father’s role in upbringing? Was he like… too strict? Too homophobe? I know there’s such awful fathers (like mine) who never even hug their sons bc they consider it gay

    • @lgbtqarchives
      @lgbtqarchives  2 месяца назад +1

      It's definitely genetics. The father treated the three sons completely differently, yet all of them turned out gay anyway.

  • @Mister-Reno
    @Mister-Reno 6 месяцев назад +3

    Steve you're sweet and sixty nine years old wow you are beautiful❤ Hope to look as good in fourteen years.😊

    • @SWExplore
      @SWExplore 5 месяцев назад +2

      Thank you so much, Ronald! Such a lovely compliment.

  • @weijs57
    @weijs57 6 месяцев назад +3

    Stephen is a very attractive man. 😘

  • @shireenbegum9166
    @shireenbegum9166 6 месяцев назад +3

    Wow lucky all three gay brothers what fun to be talk and share experinces

    • @lgbtqarchives
      @lgbtqarchives  6 месяцев назад +2

      Yeah, what are the odds of that, right?

    • @billrichardson6866
      @billrichardson6866 6 месяцев назад +3

      I have an older gay brother and we do not get along at all. We are essentially no contact.

    • @shireenbegum9166
      @shireenbegum9166 6 месяцев назад +2

      @@billrichardson6866 why

    • @billrichardson6866
      @billrichardson6866 6 месяцев назад +4

      @shireenbegum9166 I am the youngest sibling of 5. All my older siblings get along, sort of. There are 6 years between me and my next oldest sibling. I was always the burden my siblings had to take care of. Gay brother has never liked how I accepted my sexuality so easily. I have never heard him say the word gay. I have been judged by him as "that kind of gay." He has treated me poorly every time we have found ourselves at the same event. All of my siblings have treated me poorly so, for my sanity, it's best if I don't see them again. I know it's hard for some people to understand, especially if they are close to their siblings. I was never close to any of mine.

    • @SWExplore
      @SWExplore 6 месяцев назад +3

      @@billrichardson6866 Bill, that must have been difficult to be the youngest and shunned by your older brother who is also gay. I feel for you and what you had to endure growing up. At this point in my life, both my parents are dead and I am not in contact with either of my two younger gay brothers. The family kind of imploded on itself after my parents died. Sibling rivalries and each brother experiencing life through their own lens has left me out of the loop. With the exception of William in my life, there is no blood family left for me today, and I'm all right with that.

  • @joyoftraveling2020
    @joyoftraveling2020 4 месяца назад +1

    Love your story

  • @victorcohen4890
    @victorcohen4890 6 месяцев назад +4

    👍👍👍

  • @neufyork9
    @neufyork9 Месяц назад +1

    You are a real sweetheart

  • @randywatts6969
    @randywatts6969 2 месяца назад +2

    Well, you were a New Years baby…I was born three months later than you. Catholic guilt for some of us can be a real impediment to being who you are.

  • @phillipleboa5251
    @phillipleboa5251 6 месяцев назад +4

    GOOD QUESTION. HOW DO A PERSON MEET SOMEONE WHO REALLY WANTS TO GET TO KNOW YOU? IT IS ALWAYS A SLAP, BAM AND THANK YOU - AND OFF THEY GO. AT 62, HOW DO I JUST ACCEPT THAT I WILL ALWAYS BE SINGLE - AND EVEN DIE ALONE. LIFE IS A JOKE...

    • @lgbtqarchives
      @lgbtqarchives  6 месяцев назад +2

      Come on Philip! 62 is not even that old! It may be hard but you can't give up just like that.

    • @SWExplore
      @SWExplore 6 месяцев назад +2

      Phillip, 62 is certainly not old. You have so much life ahead of you with good times...if you let them happen. Life can be difficult, that I will admit. There are hills and valleys along the way that can be hurtful but then there are the better times that also come along. I am trying to be positive in my life that I can meet a simple man who is willing to put up with my varying issues just as I will be willing to accept his. And I will do just that, and so can you. (If you want to trade your 62 years with my 69, it's a deal 😃)

  • @RT3319
    @RT3319 6 месяцев назад

    I’m sorry, but I’m just seething…! I was feeling a great deal of compassion for Mr. Chambers (so sorry for the family situation, his father, etc - so sad) until he reached the point where he walked out of the life of a renown physician, and most of all, a man who loved him. Quite possibly when the man needed him most - for love and support during what very well may have been an incredibly stressful part of his professional life - the pressure in the medical field, etc… . And now Mr. Chambers verbalizes lamentations in hypocritical, self-righteous and self-flagellative regret…. Spare me!!!
    “Mr. Chambers, do you realize how many good, gay men on this earth would give their very soul to have such a worthwhile individual (as in the man you selfishly walked out on) in their life - and one who loves them beyond measure?”
    One word: Karma.

    • @LoneAries77
      @LoneAries77 6 месяцев назад +2

      You are one evil person.

    • @lgbtqarchives
      @lgbtqarchives  6 месяцев назад +5

      @RT3319 You’re judging someone based on a 30 seconds commentary without having any personal knowledge. Life is complicated. This may come as a shock to you but there are a ton of men …. even heterosexual doctors and people who hold key positions who get divorced every day. There’s more to long term relationships. Be mindful of that before posting such comments.

    • @waaguina
      @waaguina 6 месяцев назад +1

      @@LoneAries77 Hear Hear!