@@SouthernGospelSinger777 People will show you various ways to dealing with a narc (so much on online and on RUclips) but only if you want to.. It's basically abandoning old or original ideals about your relationship and adopting the new concepts of dealing with a narc- only if you want to. Other option (in your case): divorce.
@@ricvaa Thanks for messaging me. I'm a traveling preacher and gospel singer and my wife refuses to join me on the road. And I don't deserve to do this alone. The Bible says that a wife should be a helper to her husband and that she should submit to him as well. It also says that the husband is the head of his wife, just like Jesus is the head of his church. I don't mind submitting to my wife. But in my case, I'm always submitting to her and my words and needs are always ignored or belittled by her. To me, that seems like abandonment. Abandonment can happen, even if you live under the same roof 😕. How so. It's called being ignored and dishonored, while living like a roommate, so that she can avoid splitting everything up in two 😕.
@@whipchick90 I’m so sorry. I’m in the same situation and sometimes the pain is unbearable. I don’t know how I got here but I pray it ends soon. God bless you !!
I'm in the same soup and not even my family would believe me because he's good at making me the bad person. I want to leave the marriage though I'm trusting God! I've got to a state where I can't trust anyone again even good people😢
@@Godslittlegirl1990-k2c I am in the same boat ... I have learnt to love myself and not depend on anyone for support cause they would just turn around and remind you where your place is as a women ..the man is the head and so forth ...I have learnt love yourself , do what makes you happy enjoy every moment of your me time...trust God with all your heart cause he is mindful of his daughters ..I am a living testimony of this! it is a hard and sore journey but stay in the Lord...he wants what's best for you and he wants you to enjoy the life he has given you dnt wait on a man to make you happy...
Romans 12:19 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.
@@eleanorpitt8190And Trust His timing. It's so hard to endure through the agony of waiting for some kind of absolution. Sometimes we want to see vindication now, and it rarely works that way.
AND I TRULY BELIEVE THE TRUTH OF THE WORD OF GOD BUT I SHALL SAY BYE BYE AND LIVE PEACEFUL AND ALONE/WHILE GOD DOES HIS THING/AND IF THAT MATE REMARRIED THAT WILL BE GREAT AS WELL
Many narcissists die having suffered no consequences. Walk away, detach, stop investing in their good or bad. God will deal with them. Focus on your healing and autonomy in God.
Oh they suffer consequences but we may never see it. One consequence is having to live a miserable life. Thats a kind of hell. They know they’re frauds and there’s a part of them that secretly hates themselves. That’s misery, that’s just one consequence for choosing a life that harms others
@@BecomingCrazyHorse If that is the kind of thinking that brings you personal comfort, you are welcome to it. We all find a way.I don’t have it left in me to feel sorry for the suffering of the narcissist. If their lives are painful, why must they spread misery to others? Why are others required by God to endure the meanness of the narcissist. They are such cunning creatures. Before marriage all is fine, then comes the constant drama.
@@sharondoan1447 valid questions…here’s what I’ve learned…I have to take RESPONSIBILITY for both ENTERING & REMAINING in that relationship/marriage (20 years). Nightmare doesn’t even cover it but I chose to stay for my kids’s sake. However, once I became wise to the reality and the game I began to break free. Eventually, she couldn’t handle me being wise to the game and refusing to play it and then left…on Thanksgiving Day and took my teenage kids. I carried the anger and bitterness for a long time but at some point I decided to lay it down because I simply wanted to be free of it. Now, God has taken all my pain and suffering and used it all to forge me into the man I always aspired to be AND now, I get to help countless others. In fact, I made a documentary that’s on my RUclips channel called Becoming Crazy Horse and also wrote a book with the same title (available on Amazon). Those might be helpful tools for you if you feel so inclined. My life now is the best it’s ever been IN SPITE OF that person and how they tried to destroy my life. Narcissists are miserable and they can’t stand to be miserable alone so they make everyone else suffer just so they won’t be alone in their misery. I don’t pity or feel sorry for, there’s no good feelings or bad feelings toward her, there are simply NO feelings
Amen 🙏🧡💯✌️ ♥️💎🙌 to that! I've been burning energy up foolishly by focusing on what they (the narcissist) did *this time* ..which isn't much different than other time, still dangerous & gross & I'm still not for fit this fight. They will pull me down to their level & beat me with their experience as they always have. My only hope, is gray rock & doing the next right thing. Thanks for the reminder guys. ❤
I don't think we're ever fit for the fight because we're mixing with hardened types who'll see emotions as vulnerability/ weakness. To me, it felt like playing poker, but I don't have such skills at all. You can be forced into a corner & feel there's no way out. You see your prime slipping by, knowing they'd done everything under the sun before turning into a type of jailer 🔐 & your sanity starts to ebb away. You may be told that you should feel lucky to be with them or that you are being selfish by wanting them to notice you.. It's extremely tough. Others will also be judgemental. They'll take advantage, gaslight you & make you believe you're too sensitive. As time goes by, my smile becomes more & more of a contrast to how I feel inside, but have come this far & by keeping life simple & slow, am better able to keep faith & hope 🙏🏼
I came back to the Lord Jesus in 1972, ten years into my 56 years narc "marriage." I lived a different life, growing in the Lord Jesus and staying in it for the children. I left it all to the Lord to handle. A long story short, he was removed from our flat by the Court and I have had wonderful peace for 6 years. Been getting to know the Lord Jesus more and more too. Leaving everything to our Heavenly Father is the only Way. 🙌🙌
You already have given your pain to God and He’s got it now. Stop trying to take it back, you’ve already given it to Him 😊 Don’t look back……. look ahead 😊
@@angeldee7287When you live with the source of the negative energy, the reality is that God doesn’t automatically pull the plug or reverse the current.
I appreciate the safe pastures and inherit the land which is literally what I hope for. I am separated from my abusive husband of 45 years, one of the threats he used to try to coerce me to stay was selling the small farm where we raised our ten children. So far that threat has not been made good. My daughters and I feel a strong connection to the land, and I think that was how the Lord originally intended it to be, tending what He blessed us with.
You have no idea how much I needed this today!!! The last few days I have been praying so hard to let go of the hurt. This morning I asked God to give my husband what he needs to be a better person, and me as well. (separated for 18 months and can never go back) Then I went out with some friends and spent the morning in our Bible education work. I had so much joy, you can't imagine. Then your video topped my day. Thank you.
I learned that the only way to win the Narcs game is to refuse to play it. Get out of the way, get out of God’s way and trust Him to fight the battles FOR you. Growth for me has been to close the door to others who want to bring you the latest gossip or talk about the Narcs downfall. And yes, trust that the Lord will bring justice. It took me four years for me to get to the point where I could pray for my Narc ex’s salvation and ask God to bless them. When I did, I noticed more of His peace covering me.
30 years in this marriage. I started legal separation twice to protect my kids then young. He came to church repented of his behavior only to start over later on. I did not know about narcissism then. Only found out that this was his issue 4 years ago. So many peoples have been fooled by him at church cause he is so charismatic . God did help me see justice on the past. I need to still trust Him regardless of how he gets away with so much. Thxs for the biblical advices .
Amen, Amen! The fretting is because we want to feel in control when we cannot be in control. When I realized I could not do anything to make things better with the narcissists I walked away and felt the freedom of God to carry on without that worry.
Money holds me back from walking away right now. Dated a nacissist for 7 years too, just devistating. I wanted to have children and start a family, both happy I did not with him, but sad im 40 now
Narcissim seems to be rampant and they go about collecting supply. I just want to find healthy people, so I want to focus on healthy relationships. So I can recognize it when I find it. Thank you
Your channel confirms that I am on a Scriptural path. (As a survivor self doubt is common. Having someone like you to confirm what God has taught me is such a blessing). I set my boundaries and was a victim of a smear campaign, I did nothing to defend myself but I let go and let God. As others tried to show me the error of my ways, one by one they saw the truth about my "victim". I do believe it happened faster because I didn't do anything to try to vindicate myself, but trusted God with it.
Just today the Lord impressed upon my heart that I need to heal from co-dependency and I prayed to the Lord to help me be strong. Please say a prayer for R.Y. Thank You. This message is very confirming and I am going to start to learn about co-dependency and hopefully heal this and become free from this. I am in my late 60's and I probably needed to heal from this earlier in my life but probably I was not able to really take the step but now I hear what the Lord has impressed upon my heart just today.
ABSOLUTELY AGREE!! That's exactly what I've been doing. Walk away. Never allowed them to upset yourself. Jesus walks beside me every day as I walk through my journey ❣️ Amen-Amen
I came across your video at 4 a.m., and praise the Lord-I needed this message so much. I’m a 55-year-old Army veteran with 23 years of service, yet I feel completely helpless in the very situation you described. There’s someone who is tearing my daughter’s life apart and hurting our family little by little. I’ve thought about every scenario you’ve mentioned-feeling anger, hatred, even wanting to see him held accountable in every way. I’ve felt that deep desire to protect my family and help them, but it’s hard to carry this helplessness. As someone who has always protected and cared for his loved ones, it’s one of the hardest things to bear. But I know I love the Lord, and I believe He’s with me and my family, guiding us through this. Watching your video felt like a true gift from God this morning. Thank you for what you do, and praise God!”
God bless you with wisdom, to find all the answers you need and strength to do what’s right always. That sounds painfully difficult. I’m sorry you have to bear it. May Jesus Christ strengthen you with all you need. Amen. 🙏🏻
@@mrsqueakthecat.8061 That's exactly where the trust comes in, def not easy but it's all about seeing the bigger picture and trusting the process. Something that seems like the problem may be something good for you in the long run, while something that seems good may be horrible for you. For example, narcissistic relationships.
@@mrsqueakthecat.8061 I hear you and can relate. Unfortunately that keeps happening until we trust the wrong people and learn our lesson. When you put your hope in people and are attached to them you will be betrayed, when you put your hope in God and attach to Him, that is where you attain peace. At the end of the day this life is really short and no one is worth losing your peace over. Free yourself from the stress & leave it to Him to take care of you and handle anyone who has betrayed you.
I am guilty of taking the bait... My husband has stage four prostate cancer and alzheimers we adopted his three grandchildren and he is also a narcissistic abuser...thank you for sharing biblical wisdom and truth
I am so sorry you are living this way. My husband of 27 years is also a narcissistic abuser. I finally realized it. I am so guilty of taking the bait trying to figure out how to stay calm in those moments.
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient...
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things.
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white...
I needed this today! I just spent the weekend with my narcissist MIL & her new narcissist boyfriend at her house. I was fretting over going & going over what to say to them in my mind & it was not nice. I knew it & gave it to God because it made me feel gross & not good & i knew i shouldn't borrow tomorrow's trouble. So we went, I held my tongue & we did good. It was only for 24 hours & we left. She is scheming against us to keep us hooked to her & I know God sees it & He can handle it. What I didn't know was the fullness of the matter that you so wonderfully & clearly described. Thank you so much! This video was a blessing to me & I hope you are blessed richly for sharing God's words that I needed to hear today. Thank you!
Your husband may want to remain “ hooked “ to her; do you feel obligated to do the same? Sounds possible you would have preferred to decline the invitation, but your husband wouldn’t . Makes me wonder why your husband would insist on you accompanying him on the visit, knowing your anxiety about doing so. Perhaps something to think about for future invitations.
Kris, you are a GEM. If other Christian women speakers were truly godly and wise as you certainly are, I'd be going to women's studies and women's retreats. 😊
Both my Mother and brother are narcassists, my Dad has memory loss and I have been looking after him every day for nearly 4 years after I finish work.they have both made it so impossible for me to look after my Dad.I have told them so many times if they didn't stop slandering my name and abusing me I would stop looking after my Dad and his 4 cats, I finally had the courage to stop going to the house, but my God I feel so guilty I'm so worried about my Dad , they don't have the coping skills to look after him cause they are so self absorbed with their own lives.I pray my Dad is OK and the cats , my Dads solictor is going to organise mediation and it can't come quick enough so I can return to look after my Dad. Its so desperately sad that these type of people do everything in their power to make other peoples life a misery, not alone do they take away your peace, but they are incredibly unhappy themselves .I hope I have done the right thing, the whole situation has taken its toll on me mentally. I have put on so much weight, started smoking again and have lost intrest in looking after my self.I pray that God will have mercy on me and guide me to get back on track.
I love your honesty , yes I do want revenge sometimes because some of these narcissist’s are neighbours work colleagues etc, I’m not wicked just sick and tired of these people they are everywhere and I’m always targeted! Thank you 🙏🏽
I really do trust but hear what you are saying about Co-dependency. Got the worst kind of news today, the narc in my life is trying to squeeze the life out of me financially. I did vent and told him to right his actions ir he'll regret it. I felt so bad after sending that message but I was heartbroken and distraught. I have offered up my problem and then this happened. I mean no disrespect and wish no harm but I felt absolutely blindsided - yet again. It's real life horror
I married a year ago in another country. The abuse started the day after the wedding. It continued for the duration of the 4 months I was there until I returned home because my visa was over. I was in a state of shock when I got home. The abuse continued long distance. Then out of the blue someone mentioned the term narcissism to me a couple of months ago. I landed on your channel shortly thereafter. Your videos have been incredibly helpful. Thank you very much! God bless.
@@Lisatwade I do not accept the Big Bang explanation which might suggest that God liked the glob of matter hanging in space and sort of decided he would work it over like a mound of clay. The Bible says, “ In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth. And the earth was without form and void; and darkness was upon the face of the deep.” Genesis 1:1-2. I believe in that God. The God of all creation. And you might also note John 1: 1-5 which reads in part “ … All things were made through him and without him was not anything made that has been made…..” If anyone prefers a modern scientific theory rather than an intentional God theory, they are free to do so, of course. Some Christians see the Big Bang as the human explanation for a divine occurrence.
@@sharondoan1447 first off, I don’t even know where this subject came from. Also, I never said God didn’t create the universe or the Earth. All I said is he did not create the earth in six days. He reformed what was already there in six days. I do believe he created the Earth as well as everything else, but I do not believe that he created the earth itself in six days. The creation story lends the thought that the Earth was already created at that point.
My mother is a narcissist, and for years, I let her get away with mistreating both me and my husband. I kept quiet because I didn’t want people to think I was being unloving or unchristian. Eventually, I tried setting boundaries, but she constantly disrespected them, trying to assert control over every area of my life-even over my husband. After I distanced myself, my mother shifted her focus to my sister, who recently moved back to town after being away for five years. It's been eight years since I last spoke to my mother, and I had considered the possibility of reconciliation. But my sister started calling every other day, venting about the exact same behaviors that drove me to walk away in the first place. I finally had to ask her to stop coming to me with these complaints. Listening to her frustrations dragged me back into a dark place filled with resentment and bitterness, feelings I’ve worked hard to overcome. It felt like reliving my own pain all over again, and I even started feeling angry on my sister’s behalf. If my sister hadn’t returned, I might have believed my mother had changed. But seeing her treat my sister the same way has shown me that nothing has improved; in fact, it seems worse. She simply moved on to someone else to manipulate and control. Despite it all, I continue to give it to God, trusting Him to handle what I can’t.
So true. Listen to her she’s telling you the truth and the Lord It took 23 years of a narcissist. God brought me out faithfully. The Lord got me divorced and I am free. Hang in there. God‘s got you covered.🙏❤️. He truly got his vengeance. Thank you Yeshua. 👏👏🙌
Kris I’ve never seen a video and one only psalm that describes exactly what I’m going through and it happened just now couldn’t stop crying !!!! I came home picked up the phone and there you are…all I needed to hear! Thanks Kris Reece thank you Lord you’re an amazing God
Hi And Thank You For Sharing This I Needed To Hear This After Yrs Of Emotional And Psychological Abuse. I Began Praying Asking God To Help Me Walk Away Going No Contact. I Became Sick With Severe Stomach Issues. I'm Feeling Relief After Letting Go God Thank You For Saving Me..
Thank you God, Universe, and Angels for watching over me, guiding me, and protecting me, I am Blessed. Please expose them, make them be caught and arrested. Amen. ❣️🙏🙏❣️
Thanks for this! 🤍✨ a lot of clarity! I know I'm doing the right thing. Cuz I feel remoseful for blocking and staying away from narcissist people, they've caused so much damage in all aspects I couldn't unsee their evil practices. I believe holy Spirit will convict them. God keeps his covenant. 🙏🙏 May God bless me with his righteousness. I'm forgiving and hoping the Lord will increase his favor and do not let this narcissists damage somebody else or to be spread may they be brought low. So they can see God's justice and salvation at the same time. The pure in hearts are still bless and will recover in Jesus mighty name. 🌟
I have stop fretting a for a long time but was getting impatient for my deliverance but thank you for reminding me to continue to trust God. So timely.THANK YOU KRIS, you've been a tremendous blessing to myself and daughters
I cannot even tell you how thankful I am for you, your content and this video in particular. You are truly God's angel to provide such meaningful advice. It woke me up. It is everything. I may need to play it several times a day for what I am going through. God Bless you my sister and thank you from my whole heart ❤🙏💞
The washing machine does the work while you tend the garden… Thank you for this perefect visual clarity. My petty resentments and beggy prayers don’t compare to Divine Timing. I’ve been eating a lot of Halloween candy lately, feeling bratty and catty. “That’s Evil. Stop It.” Amen. 🙏🏽 ❤
This is for all relationships, not just intimate ones . So much of this relates to all humanity , family, friends, strangers doesn't matter the passages fit all situations . God is great amen
I've just found your channel only a few days ago. This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank You Jesus. Isn't it funny how God will put something in your feed that you didn't even know existed but is exactly what you need. Thank You Jesus. I trust You. I will wait on Your justice. Not in my timing but in Yours. Thank You Jesus.
Also: Psa 1 "How blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked, Nor stand in the path of sinners, Nor sit in the seat of scoffers!" Be careful who you associate with. Often you need to leave. Not always possible, but no . . .
Yes the one lady that said take away the negative energy away from her it's your enemies because you are living right for God now and they try to bring up your past it's like a dark cloud that's trying to not allow you to show your light but please show your light through God he loves you palms 37 is a powerful trust God with all of your heart Provbes 3-5-6 Trust God he is right there for you Amen 🙏🙏🙏
Good message Kris. God always gives us an out in His Word. One of my verses for comfort is Corinthians 7:29. I'm 76, lived with a narcissist for 36 years and have peace because of the scriptures you have quoted. Silence can truly be priceless. Love your ministry 🙏 prayers your way.
I had to walk away from my own Narcissistic Mother after decades of abuse. Especially when she began to abuse my grandchildren. I told her that I loved her, I gave her money all the time. And, I told her that I'd always pray for her. BUT, I underlined the part of the speech that I said about how I would never stay around anymore for her to abuse me. SO, now I stop at her house to check up on her but when she starts belittling me and verbally abusing me I just say, "OK Mom, you must not want company, I'll come back around later." However, it depends on how much money she wants. If she has her Social Security check on the 3rd (& up til the middle of the month) she's abusive, BUT toward the end of the month she has less money SO she's not so abusive since she wants money. Therefore, I've found timing is so important with many of the Narcissists. 🙄🤔😂😂😂
I just want to be happy and blessed too, for at least for what short time is left for me. Let them be happy too but I want to be happy too, Lord. Or at least at peace and far from them, I want to forget about all of them forever.
The first 2 minutes 40 seconds is icing, the rest is the cake. Thanks for this because I am smack in the middle of this type of situation at the moment 😳
I’ve been listening to you for hours (until the sun came up and the birds started chirping). I have tried to find someone to provide a little guidance, leaving me feeling like nothing was adequate for my situation. I feel like a weight has been lifted with your caring helpful knowledge and experience. With Gods wisdom into your aide it makes a great balance and feels right. I’m dealing with a mother. I hope to share more eventually but please know I feel better equipped than ever and look forward to being a consistent listener. I cannot thank you enough. May you and all who need to hear it have a blessed day. Thank You 🙏🏼
Thank you ma'am. I needed to hear this. Reflect, again, from a different perspective, on the things I need to work on. My emotions have definitely gotten the best of me out of reaction. I love you Kris!!! May our Father bless you so!!!!!!❤
Good morning Ms.Reece, I can't thank you enough for covering this topic and scripture. I have been struggling immensely with this situation, and have prayed for guidance, of which you have provided to me this morning...thank you 🙏
TRUST means to rest in God. You need only to be still for the Lord will fight for you. EX.14:14 In psalm 37 the key is to be still and rest in God despite all the crap that life can throw at you. So in Hebrews 4:11 We labour(feeling prayer in our heart like giving birth) to enter that rest.
Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.
It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.
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I was literally grieving and praying last night for righteous judgement on this Narcissist life. I was thinking how could he get away for too long with everything with no consequences, literally zero consequences for so long and so many years. 7 years of my youth and life stolen completely due to deception and lies.
I watch often. You have a lovely way about you, and I have been helped by you as a Christian person who has encountered many narcissists from an early age. You are doing a great job. Praise Jesus 🙌
Kris, I’ve been paying evil for evil. This video is helping me get back on track mentally. I’ve taken the bait and grew resentment, I’ve reacted like a person whom was violent and aggressive (which I’ve never been before) I’ve felt guilty and shameful. Thank you so much for your channel and the work you do, in churches when I’ve mentioned the abuse to several pastors and their wives they’ve done therapy with us, once my husband said what they needed to hear they thought it was a regular marriage. No one understands, I’m so thankful to God he has a soldier on this front that most ignore. Narcissist is the psychological term for demon. I’m convinced.
As a self-aware diagnosed narcissist, I am very torn on this, I know that I had a horrible nightmare of a childhood and that leads to disorders like NPD Etc. So for me, I at least have an obvious explanation. But what about the people that come from good families and healthy families and they grow up to gaslight, cheat, rage lie, stonewall ....So all these tactics ,where did they come from? So maybe there is something to be said for demonic possession, I still don't know though.
I have been learning that, when my soul is in a state of unrest after an abusive situation, I NEED THAT UNREST TO DRIVE ME TO LEARN MORE ABOUT MY RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD &/OR MY VALUES, NEEDS, (thus boundaries), &/OR I NEED TO VISIT WITH GOD TO DISCERN HOW TO ADJUST MY VALUES, PERCEIVED VALUES, WHICH ISSUES ARE ACTUALLY AT THE HEART OF MY "CARES" (so I can cast those on Him), &/OR HOW TO EXPRESS THOSE VALUES &/OR CONSEQUENCES....in love....
@bomackin I resonate with your points exactly; I need to overcome codependency (hard with financial constraints etc), also not allow myself to be triggered. It's hard when you want to be authentic but don't feel its reciprocated. Casting my cares on The Lord is my balm. Blessings.
People don’t feel the way you want them to feel. When you want them to feel that way. Patience and long suffering are two fruits of the spirit. Stay Awesome my fellow bond servants in Christ Jesus.
Side note sis - the colour of that top totally makes your eye colour shine! :) And thank you so much for the visual of walking away from the washing machine instead of checking it every 3 mins lol I really needed to hear that. God bless you Kris.
Kris you are so anointed. Thank you for testifying of Jesus’ ways and letting God use your difficult past to help others. I pray myself and the other people listening here can really walk in God’s peace and promises. God bless you, Kris!
I stayed and endured too long. My body can't take 1 second more. 22 years of marriage to 1. My dad was 1. Fibromyalgia, brain fog, ibs.... If you are abused. Leave.
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I don't understand, are you telling us to not divorce a narcissist?
Isn't narcissism, a form of abandonment?
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@@Kris_Reece Got it! Thanks Kris. 💜
@@SouthernGospelSinger777 People will show you various ways to dealing with a narc (so much on online and on RUclips) but only if you want to.. It's basically abandoning old or original ideals about your relationship and adopting the new concepts of dealing with a narc- only if you want to. Other option (in your case): divorce.
@@ricvaa Thanks for messaging me.
I'm a traveling preacher and gospel singer and my wife refuses to join me on the road.
And I don't deserve to do this alone.
The Bible says that a wife should be a helper to her husband and that she should submit to him as well.
It also says that the husband is the head of his wife, just like Jesus is the head of his church.
I don't mind submitting to my wife. But in my case, I'm always submitting to her and my words and needs are always ignored or belittled by her.
To me, that seems like abandonment.
Abandonment can happen, even if you live under the same roof 😕.
How so.
It's called being ignored and dishonored, while living like a roommate, so that she can avoid splitting everything up in two 😕.
I'm married to a narcissist. It's hard but I will shut my mouth in response. I cannot even tell you the evil I see. I'm hurting so much.
@@whipchick90 I’m so sorry. I’m in the same situation and sometimes the pain is unbearable. I don’t know how I got here but I pray it ends soon. God bless you !!
I'm in the same soup and not even my family would believe me because he's good at making me the bad person. I want to leave the marriage though I'm trusting God!
I've got to a state where I can't trust anyone again even good people😢
@@Godslittlegirl1990-k2c I am in the same boat ... I have learnt to love myself and not depend on anyone for support cause they would just turn around and remind you where your place is as a women ..the man is the head and so forth ...I have learnt love yourself , do what makes you happy enjoy every moment of your me time...trust God with all your heart cause he is mindful of his daughters ..I am a living testimony of this! it is a hard and sore journey but stay in the Lord...he wants what's best for you and he wants you to enjoy the life he has given you dnt wait on a man to make you happy...
@shantal1430 thank you so much
@@whipchick90 I’ll pray for you. Trust in God! He has a plan for you trust me! Love you very much! ❤️
Romans 12:19 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.
The Lord spoke that to me many many years ago. We have to be trust God
@@eleanorpitt8190And Trust His timing. It's so hard to endure through the agony of waiting for some kind of absolution.
Sometimes we want to see vindication now, and it rarely works that way.
Yes!! Amen!! KJV❤❤❤❤
@@AFI2100 AMEN 🙏 THANKS FOR THE REMINDER MY DEAR BROTHER/SISTER ❤️🙏.
AND I TRULY BELIEVE THE TRUTH OF THE WORD OF GOD
BUT I SHALL
SAY BYE BYE AND LIVE PEACEFUL AND ALONE/WHILE GOD DOES HIS THING/AND IF THAT MATE REMARRIED
THAT WILL BE GREAT AS WELL
Many narcissists die having suffered no consequences. Walk away, detach, stop investing in their good or bad. God will deal with them. Focus on your healing and autonomy in God.
@@nicolebenson4517 right on sister, take your power back
Oh they suffer consequences but we may never see it. One consequence is having to live a miserable life. Thats a kind of hell. They know they’re frauds and there’s a part of them that secretly hates themselves. That’s misery, that’s just one consequence for choosing a life that harms others
@@BecomingCrazyHorse If that is the kind of thinking that brings you personal comfort, you are welcome to it. We all find a way.I don’t have it left in me to feel sorry for the suffering of the narcissist. If their lives are painful, why must they spread misery to others? Why are others required by God to endure the meanness of the narcissist. They are such cunning creatures. Before marriage all is fine, then comes the constant drama.
@@sharondoan1447 valid questions…here’s what I’ve learned…I have to take RESPONSIBILITY for both ENTERING & REMAINING in that relationship/marriage (20 years). Nightmare doesn’t even cover it but I chose to stay for my kids’s sake. However, once I became wise to the reality and the game I began to break free. Eventually, she couldn’t handle me being wise to the game and refusing to play it and then left…on Thanksgiving Day and took my teenage kids. I carried the anger and bitterness for a long time but at some point I decided to lay it down because I simply wanted to be free of it.
Now, God has taken all my pain and suffering and used it all to forge me into the man I always aspired to be AND now, I get to help countless others. In fact, I made a documentary that’s on my RUclips channel called Becoming Crazy Horse and also wrote a book with the same title (available on Amazon). Those might be helpful tools for you if you feel so inclined. My life now is the best it’s ever been IN SPITE OF that person and how they tried to destroy my life.
Narcissists are miserable and they can’t stand to be miserable alone so they make everyone else suffer just so they won’t be alone in their misery. I don’t pity or feel sorry for, there’s no good feelings or bad feelings toward her, there are simply NO feelings
I agree. It'll take another life or lives to catch them up socially.
Yes. Justice, please. I've no interest in revenge, only for things to get better for me.
God, I trust you. No matter what 🙏🏽 Thank you, Kris
Even me I want a permanent solution from Almighty God 🙏😭
Amen.
Amen 🙏🧡💯✌️ ♥️💎🙌 to that!
I've been burning energy up foolishly by focusing on what they (the narcissist) did *this time* ..which isn't much different than other time, still dangerous & gross & I'm still not for fit this fight.
They will pull me down to their level & beat me with their experience as they always have. My only hope, is gray rock & doing the next right thing.
Thanks for the reminder guys. ❤
I don't think we're ever fit for the fight because we're mixing with hardened types who'll see emotions as vulnerability/ weakness. To me, it felt like playing poker, but I don't have such skills at all. You can be forced into a corner & feel there's no way out. You see your prime slipping by, knowing they'd done everything under the sun before turning into a type of jailer 🔐 & your sanity starts to ebb away. You may be told that you should feel lucky to be with them or that you are being selfish by wanting them to notice you..
It's extremely tough. Others will also be judgemental. They'll take advantage, gaslight you & make you believe you're too sensitive.
As time goes by, my smile becomes more & more of a contrast to how I feel inside, but have come this far
& by keeping life simple & slow, am better able to keep faith & hope 🙏🏼
@ this is a perfect synopsis.
I came back to the Lord Jesus in 1972, ten years into my 56 years narc "marriage." I lived a different life, growing in the Lord Jesus and staying in it for the children. I left it all to the Lord to handle. A long story short, he was removed from our flat by the Court and I have had wonderful peace for 6 years. Been getting to know the Lord Jesus more and more too. Leaving everything to our Heavenly Father is the only Way. 🙌🙌
I pray every day that God takes away the negative energy and help me focus on healing. My son and all the things i wanted to do all of the past years
It's hard when the neg energy is demons. All manner of hate and passive aggressive fu, in every minor way.
You already have given your pain to God and He’s got it now. Stop trying to take it back, you’ve already given it to Him 😊
Don’t look back……. look ahead 😊
🙏🏻 Help us that are struggling, Jesus❤
@@angeldee7287When you live with the source of the negative energy, the reality is that God doesn’t automatically pull the plug or reverse the current.
@@mishaanton5436🥺🤗
Everything you said. Best thing I I've done so far is removed them from my life
I appreciate the safe pastures and inherit the land which is literally what I hope for. I am separated from my abusive husband of 45 years, one of the threats he used to try to coerce me to stay was selling the small farm where we raised our ten children. So far that threat has not been made good. My daughters and I feel a strong connection to the land, and I think that was how the Lord originally intended it to be, tending what He blessed us with.
You have no idea how much I needed this today!!! The last few days I have been praying so hard to let go of the hurt. This morning I asked God to give my husband what he needs to be a better person, and me as well. (separated for 18 months and can never go back) Then I went out with some friends and spent the morning in our Bible education work. I had so much joy, you can't imagine. Then your video topped my day. Thank you.
❤❤❤ me too
Praying for your healing! 🙏🏼
I learned that the only way to win the Narcs game is to refuse to play it. Get out of the way, get out of God’s way and trust Him to fight the battles FOR you.
Growth for me has been to close the door to others who want to bring you the latest gossip or talk about the Narcs downfall.
And yes, trust that the Lord will bring justice. It took me four years for me to get to the point where I could pray for my Narc ex’s salvation and ask God to bless them. When I did, I noticed more of His peace covering me.
I believe I surrender everthing to God. Amen
Is that one of the “ name it and claim it” false teachings?
30 years in this marriage. I started legal separation twice to protect my kids then young. He came to church repented of his behavior only to start over later on. I did not know about narcissism then. Only found out that this was his issue 4 years ago. So many peoples have been fooled by him at church cause he is so charismatic . God did help me see justice on the past. I need to still trust Him regardless of how he gets away with so much. Thxs for the biblical advices .
GOD BLESS YOU SISTER . ❤
Amen, Amen! The fretting is because we want to feel in control when we cannot be in control. When I realized I could not do anything to make things better with the narcissists I walked away and felt the freedom of God to carry on without that worry.
Money holds me back from walking away right now. Dated a nacissist for 7 years too, just devistating. I wanted to have children and start a family, both happy I did not with him, but sad im 40 now
😊😊😊
@@MLP8044
Narcissim seems to be rampant and they go about collecting supply.
I just want to find healthy people, so I want to focus on healthy relationships.
So I can recognize it when I find it.
Thank you
Your channel confirms that I am on a Scriptural path. (As a survivor self doubt is common. Having someone like you to confirm what God has taught me is such a blessing). I set my boundaries and was a victim of a smear campaign, I did nothing to defend myself but I let go and let God. As others tried to show me the error of my ways, one by one they saw the truth about my "victim". I do believe it happened faster because I didn't do anything to try to vindicate myself, but trusted God with it.
Just today the Lord impressed upon my heart that I need to heal from co-dependency and I prayed to the Lord to help me be strong. Please say a prayer for R.Y. Thank You. This message is very confirming and I am going to start to learn about co-dependency and hopefully heal this and become free from this. I am in my late 60's and I probably needed to heal from this earlier in my life but probably I was not able to really take the step but now I hear what the Lord has impressed upon my heart just today.
ABSOLUTELY AGREE!! That's exactly what I've been doing. Walk away. Never allowed them to upset yourself. Jesus walks beside me every day as I walk through my journey ❣️ Amen-Amen
I came across your video at 4 a.m., and praise the Lord-I needed this message so much. I’m a 55-year-old Army veteran with 23 years of service, yet I feel completely helpless in the very situation you described. There’s someone who is tearing my daughter’s life apart and hurting our family little by little.
I’ve thought about every scenario you’ve mentioned-feeling anger, hatred, even wanting to see him held accountable in every way. I’ve felt that deep desire to protect my family and help them, but it’s hard to carry this helplessness. As someone who has always protected and cared for his loved ones, it’s one of the hardest things to bear.
But I know I love the Lord, and I believe He’s with me and my family, guiding us through this. Watching your video felt like a true gift from God this morning.
Thank you for what you do, and praise God!”
God bless you with wisdom, to find all the answers you need and strength to do what’s right always. That sounds painfully difficult. I’m sorry you have to bear it. May Jesus Christ strengthen you with all you need. Amen. 🙏🏻
Thank you for doing God's work by helping others! God Bless you and your ministry my friend! 🙂🙏
Trusting God is what brings peace to the believers. Beautiful how religion unites us all 🤍
Yet, it doesn't actually fix any of the problems in the here and now.
@@mrsqueakthecat.8061 That's exactly where the trust comes in, def not easy but it's all about seeing the bigger picture and trusting the process. Something that seems like the problem may be something good for you in the long run, while something that seems good may be horrible for you. For example, narcissistic relationships.
@@TheMuslimThriver And too many times the trust has been betrayed.
@@kawaiimombear Ues, thats called false hope. We all know how that works too.
@@mrsqueakthecat.8061 I hear you and can relate. Unfortunately that keeps happening until we trust the wrong people and learn our lesson. When you put your hope in people and are attached to them you will be betrayed, when you put your hope in God and attach to Him, that is where you attain peace. At the end of the day this life is really short and no one is worth losing your peace over. Free yourself from the stress & leave it to Him to take care of you and handle anyone who has betrayed you.
i've made that mistake , forgive me Lord! Help me to just be patient and wait and To Trust You 💯!! ❤🙏🏼
Pray God will give you pause and faith. 🕊
I am guilty of taking the bait...
My husband has stage four prostate cancer and alzheimers we adopted his three grandchildren and he is also a narcissistic abuser...thank you for sharing biblical wisdom and truth
I am so sorry you are living this way. My husband of 27 years is also a narcissistic abuser. I finally realized it. I am so guilty of taking the bait trying to figure out how to stay calm in those moments.
Let God be God!!!🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽❤️
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient...
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things.
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white...
This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks..
You wont regret it.
Many to most lack the skills and wisdom to get there.
Lord I trust you in all I do...I will never doubt your love ,I'll wait patiently for you to fight my enermies ,I look up to you...🙏
I needed this today! I just spent the weekend with my narcissist MIL & her new narcissist boyfriend at her house. I was fretting over going & going over what to say to them in my mind & it was not nice. I knew it & gave it to God because it made me feel gross & not good & i knew i shouldn't borrow tomorrow's trouble. So we went, I held my tongue & we did good. It was only for 24 hours & we left. She is scheming against us to keep us hooked to her & I know God sees it & He can handle it. What I didn't know was the fullness of the matter that you so wonderfully & clearly described. Thank you so much! This video was a blessing to me & I hope you are blessed richly for sharing God's words that I needed to hear today. Thank you!
Your husband may want to remain “ hooked “ to her; do you feel obligated to do the same? Sounds possible you would have preferred to decline the invitation, but your husband wouldn’t . Makes me wonder why your husband would insist on you accompanying him on the visit, knowing your anxiety about doing so. Perhaps something to think about for future invitations.
How lovely are the feet of those who proclaim the gospel of good, who proclaim the gospel of peace.
Thank you Kris, you are a peacemaker.
Kris, you are a GEM. If other Christian women speakers were truly godly and wise as you certainly are, I'd be going to women's studies and women's retreats. 😊
Kris, you just told my life story, but God is teaching me to trust Him no matter what 🙏🙏🙏
Both my Mother and brother are narcassists, my Dad has memory loss and I have been looking after him every day for nearly 4 years after I finish work.they have both made it so impossible for me to look after my Dad.I have told them so many times if they didn't stop slandering my name and abusing me I would stop looking after my Dad and his 4 cats, I finally had the courage to stop going to the house, but my God I feel so guilty I'm so worried about my Dad , they don't have the coping skills to look after him cause they are so self absorbed with their own lives.I pray my Dad is OK and the cats , my Dads solictor is going to organise mediation and it can't come quick enough so I can return to look after my Dad. Its so desperately sad that these type of people do everything in their power to make other peoples life a misery, not alone do they take away your peace, but they are incredibly unhappy themselves .I hope I have done the right thing, the whole situation has taken its toll on me mentally. I have put on so much weight, started smoking again and have lost intrest in looking after my self.I pray that God will have mercy on me and guide me to get back on track.
@@maritaallen5148 Repeat after me, "WE can do it. WE can get there. We WILL get there." Although it feels so, remember... you never walk alone 💜🙏💜🙏💜🙏💜
Praying that your dad and cats are ok. I get the lack of self care as well as I've recently Gray rocked my family.
No good deed goes unpunished!
The more you help the more grief they give you.
@@Lee-em1lb Thank you
Praying for your dad and his cats and you! Take care of you for when you go back in! 🙏💫
Thank you. I feel like God himself sent that message directly to me 🙏
Amen 🙏
I love your honesty , yes I do want revenge sometimes because some of these narcissist’s are neighbours work colleagues etc, I’m not wicked just sick and tired of these people they are everywhere and I’m always targeted! Thank you 🙏🏽
I really do trust but hear what you are saying about Co-dependency. Got the worst kind of news today, the narc in my life is trying to squeeze the life out of me financially. I did vent and told him to right his actions ir he'll regret it. I felt so bad after sending that message but I was heartbroken and distraught. I have offered up my problem and then this happened. I mean no disrespect and wish no harm but I felt absolutely blindsided - yet again. It's real life horror
I married a year ago in another country. The abuse started the day after the wedding. It continued for the duration of the 4 months I was there until I returned home because my visa was over. I was in a state of shock when I got home. The abuse continued long distance. Then out of the blue someone mentioned the term narcissism to me a couple of months ago. I landed on your channel shortly thereafter. Your videos have been incredibly helpful. Thank you very much! God bless.
Please just leave! Staying is not worth it
Please Do Not Go Back!!
Thank you God loves us he led me to this i see God everyday in my life
I am glad, the Lord sees and hears and knows the heart of them , it is hard not to fret, yet I know the Lord knows.
This is 100% true and I know this from how God has acted in my life. But sometimes it takes a looooonnng time! God doesn't move fast.
He is merciful and I want the Narcissist radically saved but now realize that I can't lead them to the Lord.
God created the world in six days.
@@sharondoan1447 re-formed it. It was already formed
@@Lisatwade I do not accept the Big Bang explanation which might suggest that God liked the glob of matter hanging in space and sort of decided he would work it over like a mound of clay. The Bible says, “ In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth. And the earth was without form and void; and darkness was upon the face of the deep.” Genesis 1:1-2. I believe in that God. The God of all creation. And you might also note John 1: 1-5 which reads in part “ … All things were made through him and without him was not anything made that has been made…..” If anyone prefers a modern scientific theory rather than an intentional God theory, they are free to do so, of course. Some Christians see the Big Bang as the human explanation for a divine occurrence.
@@sharondoan1447 first off, I don’t even know where this subject came from. Also, I never said God didn’t create the universe or the Earth. All I said is he did not create the earth in six days. He reformed what was already there in six days. I do believe he created the Earth as well as everything else, but I do not believe that he created the earth itself in six days. The creation story lends the thought that the Earth was already created at that point.
Wow!!! Thank you so much for your invaluable service!!! With perfect clarity and Christ centered council. Lady, you're saving lives!
My mother is a narcissist, and for years, I let her get away with mistreating both me and my husband. I kept quiet because I didn’t want people to think I was being unloving or unchristian. Eventually, I tried setting boundaries, but she constantly disrespected them, trying to assert control over every area of my life-even over my husband.
After I distanced myself, my mother shifted her focus to my sister, who recently moved back to town after being away for five years. It's been eight years since I last spoke to my mother, and I had considered the possibility of reconciliation. But my sister started calling every other day, venting about the exact same behaviors that drove me to walk away in the first place.
I finally had to ask her to stop coming to me with these complaints. Listening to her frustrations dragged me back into a dark place filled with resentment and bitterness, feelings I’ve worked hard to overcome. It felt like reliving my own pain all over again, and I even started feeling angry on my sister’s behalf.
If my sister hadn’t returned, I might have believed my mother had changed. But seeing her treat my sister the same way has shown me that nothing has improved; in fact, it seems worse. She simply moved on to someone else to manipulate and control.
Despite it all, I continue to give it to God, trusting Him to handle what I can’t.
I trust you, Lord!
I refuse to judge anyone especially the narcissist but let you be God over my life and relationships.
I have peace.
Just what I need, exactly when I need it. Thank you, Lord. Thank you, Kris.
Really GOD* is Talking To Millions Through You 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
So true. Listen to her she’s telling you the truth and the Lord It took 23 years of a narcissist. God brought me out faithfully. The Lord got me divorced and I am free. Hang in there. God‘s got you covered.🙏❤️. He truly got his vengeance. Thank you Yeshua. 👏👏🙌
I finally got rid of my narcissist.
What a living hell .
Kris I’ve never seen a video and one only psalm that describes exactly what I’m going through and it happened just now couldn’t stop crying !!!! I came home picked up the phone and there you are…all I needed to hear!
Thanks Kris Reece thank you Lord you’re an amazing God
Hi And Thank You For Sharing This I Needed To Hear This After Yrs Of Emotional And Psychological Abuse. I Began Praying Asking God To Help Me Walk Away Going No Contact. I Became Sick With Severe Stomach Issues. I'm Feeling Relief After Letting Go God Thank You For Saving Me..
Thank you God, Universe, and Angels for watching over me, guiding me, and protecting me, I am Blessed. Please expose them, make them be caught and arrested. Amen. ❣️🙏🙏❣️
Sister I'm always blessed by you. Delight yourself in God...... This verse picked me up. God bless you my dear sister.
Thank you again for your words of "Wisdom" faithfully applied! Amen!!
My narcissistic mom has caused so much damage in my life it is hard to have faith on justice with her.
@@nicolecato634 dear Nicole, be patient and keep your heart right for God. God will work it out
This is so good, thank you for this.
Thanks for this! 🤍✨ a lot of clarity! I know I'm doing the right thing. Cuz I feel remoseful for blocking and staying away from narcissist people, they've caused so much damage in all aspects I couldn't unsee their evil practices. I believe holy Spirit will convict them. God keeps his covenant. 🙏🙏 May God bless me with his righteousness. I'm forgiving and hoping the Lord will increase his favor and do not let this narcissists damage somebody else or to be spread may they be brought low. So they can see God's justice and salvation at the same time. The pure in hearts are still bless and will recover in Jesus mighty name. 🌟
I'm so glad you're walking in forgiveness
I have stop fretting a for a long time but was getting impatient for my deliverance but thank you for reminding me to continue to trust God. So timely.THANK YOU KRIS, you've been a tremendous blessing to myself and daughters
I cannot even tell you how thankful I am for you, your content and this video in particular. You are truly God's angel to provide such meaningful advice. It woke me up. It is everything. I may need to play it several times a day for what I am going through. God Bless you my sister and thank you from my whole heart ❤🙏💞
The washing machine does the work while you tend the garden…
Thank you for this perefect visual clarity.
My petty resentments and beggy prayers don’t compare to Divine Timing.
I’ve been eating a lot of Halloween candy lately, feeling bratty and catty.
“That’s Evil. Stop It.”
Amen. 🙏🏽 ❤
This is for all relationships, not just intimate ones . So much of this relates to all humanity , family, friends, strangers doesn't matter the passages fit all situations . God is great amen
Needed to hear this TODAY!!! This video is a divine answer to my prayers and how to move forward with my marriage. Thank you, Kris.
@stayblessed5105 … Thank you so much!🥰Prayers up 🙏🏽 for you as well. [Numbers 6:24-26]
Thank you, I pray everyday for God to protect me from my narcissistic partner, she abuses me everyday.
Move far far away go no contact. You don't need this stuff
Thank you Beautiful lady blessings.!!
This is exactly what I needed to hear right at this moment.
Let go and let God ✨️ Amen 🙏
I've just found your channel only a few days ago. This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank You Jesus. Isn't it funny how God will put something in your feed that you didn't even know existed but is exactly what you need. Thank You Jesus. I trust You. I will wait on Your justice. Not in my timing but in Yours. Thank You Jesus.
Thank you, Ms Lady. Oh, and no generic begging to "likeify, commentate, subscribble"? Unheard of and incredibly refreshing! Class act all around.
Also: Psa 1 "How blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked, Nor stand in the path of sinners, Nor sit in the seat of scoffers!" Be careful who you associate with. Often you need to leave. Not always possible, but no . . .
Amen 🙏
Vengeance is mine.
I will repay saith the Lord.
Yes the one lady that said take away the negative energy away from her it's your enemies because you are living right for God now and they try to bring up your past it's like a dark cloud that's trying to not allow you to show your light but please show your light through God he loves you palms 37 is a powerful trust God with all of your heart Provbes 3-5-6 Trust God he is right there for you Amen 🙏🙏🙏
Good message Kris. God always gives us an out in His Word. One of my verses for comfort is Corinthians 7:29. I'm 76, lived with a narcissist for 36 years and have peace because of the scriptures you have quoted.
Silence can truly be priceless. Love your ministry 🙏 prayers your way.
I had to walk away from my own Narcissistic Mother after decades of abuse. Especially when she began to abuse my grandchildren. I told her that I loved her, I gave her money all the time. And, I told her that I'd always pray for her.
BUT, I underlined the part of the speech that I said about how I would never stay around anymore for her to abuse me.
SO, now I stop at her house to check up on her but when she starts belittling me and verbally abusing me I just say, "OK Mom, you must not want company, I'll come back around later." However, it depends on how much money she wants. If she has her Social Security check on the 3rd (& up til the middle of the month) she's abusive, BUT toward the end of the month she has less money SO she's not so abusive since she wants money.
Therefore, I've found timing is so important with many of the Narcissists. 🙄🤔😂😂😂
Love how you use the Bible to show us the correct way to walk this out👍
Thank you, sister, for sharing biblical truth. Praise Christ.
I just want to be happy and blessed too, for at least for what short time is left for me. Let them be happy too but I want to be happy too, Lord. Or at least at peace and far from them, I want to forget about all of them forever.
@@yuu_miran me too
The first 2 minutes 40 seconds is icing, the rest is the cake. Thanks for this because I am smack in the middle of this type of situation at the moment 😳
I’ve been listening to you for hours (until the sun came up and the birds started chirping). I have tried to find someone to provide a little guidance, leaving me feeling like nothing was adequate for my situation. I feel like a weight has been lifted with your caring helpful knowledge and experience. With Gods wisdom into your aide it makes a great balance and feels right. I’m dealing with a mother. I hope to share more eventually but please know I feel better equipped than ever and look forward to being a consistent listener. I cannot thank you enough. May you and all who need to hear it have a blessed day. Thank You 🙏🏼
You are fantastic! Your perspectives ❤ Keep glorifying Him, you really are a true blessing! Trust in the Lord 🤍 Blessings to you!
Thank you ma'am. I needed to hear this. Reflect, again, from a different perspective, on the things I need to work on. My emotions have definitely gotten the best of me out of reaction.
I love you Kris!!! May our Father bless you so!!!!!!❤
Great information for healing ! Thank you Kris 🤗❤️🙏🏻‼️🙌🏻
Thank you sooo much for this video!!! I Needed to hear this! God bless you and this ministry!!!
I've been praying for God to give them a heart of flesh and not of stone
Good morning Ms.Reece, I can't thank you enough for covering this topic and scripture. I have been struggling immensely with this situation, and have prayed for guidance, of which you have provided to me this morning...thank you 🙏
God bless you for this video! Very helpful. Such a godly way to respond to hard times with others ❤️
TRUST means to rest in God. You need only to be still for the Lord will fight for you. EX.14:14 In psalm 37 the key is to be still and rest in God despite all the crap that life can throw at you. So in Hebrews 4:11 We labour(feeling prayer in our heart like giving birth) to enter that rest.
God thankyou. Thankyou Jesus. Welcome Holy Spirit. ❤ 🙌🙏
Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.
It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
I was literally grieving and praying last night for righteous judgement on this Narcissist life. I was thinking how could he get away for too long with everything with no consequences, literally zero consequences for so long and so many years. 7 years of my youth and life stolen completely due to deception and lies.
I watch often. You have a lovely way about you, and I have been helped by you as a Christian person who has encountered many narcissists from an early age. You are doing a great job. Praise Jesus 🙌
Kris, I’ve been paying evil for evil. This video is helping me get back on track mentally. I’ve taken the bait and grew resentment, I’ve reacted like a person whom was violent and aggressive (which I’ve never been before) I’ve felt guilty and shameful. Thank you so much for your channel and the work you do, in churches when I’ve mentioned the abuse to several pastors and their wives they’ve done therapy with us, once my husband said what they needed to hear they thought it was a regular marriage. No one understands, I’m so thankful to God he has a soldier on this front that most ignore. Narcissist is the psychological term for demon. I’m convinced.
As a self-aware diagnosed narcissist, I am very torn on this, I know that I had a horrible nightmare of a childhood and that leads to disorders like NPD Etc. So for me, I at least have an obvious explanation. But what about the people that come from good families and healthy families and they grow up to gaslight, cheat, rage lie, stonewall ....So all these tactics ,where did they come from? So maybe there is something to be said for demonic possession, I still don't know though.
I have been learning that, when my soul is in a state of unrest after an abusive situation, I NEED THAT UNREST TO DRIVE ME TO LEARN MORE ABOUT MY RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD &/OR MY VALUES, NEEDS, (thus boundaries), &/OR I NEED TO VISIT WITH GOD TO DISCERN HOW TO ADJUST MY VALUES, PERCEIVED VALUES, WHICH ISSUES ARE ACTUALLY AT THE HEART OF MY "CARES" (so I can cast those on Him), &/OR HOW TO EXPRESS THOSE VALUES &/OR CONSEQUENCES....in love....
@bomackin I resonate with your points exactly; I need to overcome codependency (hard with financial constraints etc), also not allow myself to be triggered. It's hard when you want to be authentic but don't feel its reciprocated. Casting my cares on The Lord is my balm. Blessings.
Thank you sister in Christ Jesus for this video ❤
People don’t feel the way you want them to feel. When you want them to feel that way. Patience and long suffering are two fruits of the spirit. Stay Awesome my fellow bond servants in Christ Jesus.
1 Peter 4:12-13.
To help you consider it pure joy.
I trust in you lord
Side note sis - the colour of that top totally makes your eye colour shine! :)
And thank you so much for the visual of walking away from the washing machine instead of checking it every 3 mins lol I really needed to hear that. God bless you Kris.
Thank you. I'm so glad it blessed you 🤗
Worth watching again!
Kris you are so anointed. Thank you for testifying of Jesus’ ways and letting God use your difficult past to help others. I pray myself and the other people listening here can really walk in God’s peace and promises. God bless you, Kris!
I love hearing success stories I know God is the only way. And love
I believe. Thank you God! He does prevail when he knows when the right time is no matter how long you've been waiting ❤
I stayed and endured too long. My body can't take 1 second more. 22 years of marriage to 1. My dad was 1. Fibromyalgia, brain fog, ibs.... If you are abused. Leave.
Amen and Amen Thank You Jesus Christ 🙏
I continued loving him and treating him great even though he treated me awful