I am straight female that doesn't think being gay or a lesbian is a choice. Gay people know that they'll be bullied an harassed and i don't know why anyone would chose to make their life more difficult on purpose.
Ichigo Bankai And you know this HOW? Preferences are inborn. For example - I loathe eggs, while some ppl LOVE them. (Even as a baby, I spit them out in disgust). We ALL have preferences. I was born left handed - there was a time when that was seen as evil... In fact, the Latin word for left is where the term sinister comes from. (It's no accident that right means what it does - as in right and wrong). In my grandfather's day, children were punished until they learned to write with the right hand. These are cultural conventions... As we evolve as human beings, and are able to move beyond bigotry and racism, we will be able to work on the real issues that threaten our existence: poverty, violence, war, disease.
the first guy essentially defined himself as biromantic and asexual. he's not even homosexual . . . i hope he's figured it out by now and isn't repressing himself.
when I'm 40 I'm gonna grow wings and fly away to Narnia, where I will become husband to a Satyr named Cris and we will begin a book club for single moms and dads.
***** your analogy is ridiculous. Being gay is not a mental health issue. You don't just turn gay. Ask any straight man if there is anything that would have just turned him gay along the way and he will tell you that could never happen. Yes drugs and alcohol do affect everyone. I'm not sure where you get your garbage science. No one shoots heroine and says, "Well that did nothing". Are you also a creationist?
The homophobia in the comments is sickening. Really? It is wrong to be gay? I bet you still eat bacon, and the Bible says you can not eat pigs. The Bible is not a bag of trail mix, you may not just pick what you want and leave the rest out. Please stop being ignorant.
Exactly.. so many people attempt suicide because of this. It's just so sad. No way in any chance that being gay is a choice. No matter who we are all sexually attracted to, God will love ALL of his children It makes me wonder why people say "God hates Gays," when God only loves. Makes me feel so upset..
it actually is a choice though, if he where to say " i dont want to be with a guy i want to be with a girl" thats choice or decision.... just like "i dont want fish, i want chicken" its a choice
lov u You can choose to be with whoever you want to be with, that much is a choice. You can NEVER change who you are inside and what you feel. That can never change. Just like a lion who wants to be nice and not eat the gazelle, eventually his animal instincts will kick in and when he's hungry enough will eat the gazelle. Being gay is not a choice but being ignorant of that fact is.
***** well one, I know loving who you love isn't a choice, I was being a smarty ass... what I was saying was it was a choice to pick a girl or boy, didn't mean you had to love them
it's honestly so annoying when people are homophobic because it's nobody's business.. I don't care if you think being gay is wrong but just respect people and you'll get respect back.
I'm homosexual and I wish I wasn't. I see being heterosexual is a beauty and a blessing. I've tried to be heterosexual, but I just couldn't no matter how hard I tried. I couldn't get it up and I broke to many girl's heart, but they understood. So, I was born that way.
You're right, in what a pityful society we live where since 11 years not much effort was undertaken to improve understanding of causes for sexual orientation was made, not to mention ways to accept, help and support people who are unhappy with their own sexual orientation. There are hundred thousands, I'd dare to say as much as: Almost anybody out there... who would be interested being released from being defined regarding attraction by biological predispositions and would love the idea to chose for themselves whom they love and why they love some one. But rather our society dares to tell other people by which fashion they should be happy (even if this brutally collides with the individuals perspective).
Okay, I know that people are going to yell at me, but I have the "if you don't want to be gay, don't be" opinion. Now I'm not gay, so I understand why some may argue "it's not that easy" for gays. But I mean, honestly. No one said you HAD to be gay. Just because you have attractions to the same sex doesn't mean you have to date that sex. I'm in NO WAY encouraging that all gays should suppress their sexualities and I have no problem with homosexuality, but if someone really doesn't want to be gay they shouldn't have to be. And it's not "impossible" to change one's sexuality; it actually has happened before. A lot of people don't like labels but if you say that sexuality is biological that absolutely cannot be changed, you're already labeling people. And I understand why people may want to suppress homosexuality because of their fear that others won't accept them. But I'm not trying to talk about that-I'm talking about identity in general. If you really, truly don't want to be gay, I think you shouldn't have to be. No one and nothing can force you to be something you don't want to be.
Traci Rowland I don't mean like biologically. I understand that people can't choose their feelings. But they DO choose to live as a self-identified gay or straight. Now I'm absolutely not saying that this is what all gays should do, but by saying "I didn't choose to be gay, I'd do ANYTHING not to be gay," they're actually making the gay community look bad and like they hate their lives, when a lot of gays are actually really happy with their lives. I know that there may be people who feel this way because their families and friends don't accept them but I'm not talking about that because that's a legitimate problem. I just hate the mentality of "you get what you get and you're stuck for life" because that's making being gay look like a mental prison. There's actually a video on RUclips of someone ranting about this. And it was filmed and uploaded by a very liberal, non-religious lesbian.
I didnt read anybody else down below so i could be redundant. But the fact is man your brain is wired a certain way so that you fit like a puzzle piece to what you find attractive. My point is, that person will never find genuine, authentic happiness until they submit to who they really are. (For the most part in the aspect of Love) PS: If that doesnt convince you there have been several studies that support the synopsis that Homosexual men and straight women have a similar brain structure. Straight women and gay men also have a similar brain structure. Basically, individuals attracted to women most of the time have a strong connection to their motor function (Sports, trade, crafting) and individuals attracted to men most of the time have a stronger connection to their emotional intelligence and/or function. (Mentoring, Conversing with others, socializing, etc.) Coincidence? I personally dont think so.. And these structures are put into place in effort to attract what you find attractive.
I get what you all are saying, and I definitely think gays will be happier if they accept who they are. I also think it's very wrong to judge people for their sexuality. My point was, however, that I believe everyone should have a say over who they want to be. If a gay person says "I didn't choose to be gay! Who would choose to be gay?" this automatically makes being gay look awful, which is the opposite of what gays want. The same thing goes if a straight person says the same thing in defense of the gay community-they automatically imply that being straight is better, even if they didn't mean to make it sound that way. And like I said-I just hate the mentality of sexuality not being a choice and whatever you get you're stuck with because it just makes homosexuals look like they are only reluctantly living this way because they HAVE to, while in reality many of them will say what while they didn't choose their feelings, they DID choose their way of living, (of being openly gay and pursuing the same sex) and aside from dealing with judgmental people and battling for their rights, they're very happy with their decision. To me, the "being gay isn't a choice, nobody would choose to be gay" message backfires because to me that translates to "I got stuck with this sexuality and I hate my life" which I'm sure is very misleading.
He's gonna be straight when he turns thirty? That's ridiculous. He can try but won't succeed. It's not a choice. I wanted to be straight when I was 19, cause I though it would make my life easier. So I chose not to have sex. But then I turned 30 and realized I need a human touch and decided to have sex like all normal people. Sex with people that attract me, which means men. Being gay is not a choice. People need to realize that. The only choice you have is whether you're going to live according to your nature and be happy, or suppress your natural urges and be miserable.
Really? He's asexual. -_- Plus, a lot of homosexual people ARE in love with each other. Why else would they be striving towards marriage equality? I'm bisexual. I have felt EMOTIONAL feelings for both men and women. It isn't all about sex. I am against purely sexual relationships no matter what gender is involved.
I'm gay and i completely understand where this guy is coming from. It's like all of those teen insecurities that I had when closeted but magnified and never properly understood and dealt with. The worst concern about coming out is not about how someone might react to you there and then because knowing what the right thing to say to a gay person in that moment is easy (unless they're just beyond ignorant). Its about the day, the week, the month after when that person starts to unknowingly view you in a different way... even your closest friends. Such as thinking you're not as masculine or you're not as strong and 'alpha' and begins thinking 'maybe i wont invite him to that football game next weekend because its not his thing anymore' or even your boss thinking 'maybe he's not the right guy to take on this role as the competition might think he's weak'. We grow up as guys, we live the life of guys, we hang out and often have best mates who are guys.... because... well, we're guys too. It's often just the simple difference between knowing that someone is gay and being ok with it and understanding what that actually means. And I don't blame people who don't understand... they need time understanding it just like we did growing up. This guy just needs to know that in the mean time, people's false interpretations of gay guys aren't true... even if others, including your best friends, don't. Set an example.... show them they're wrong... don't be weak and let false perspectives define what you do... and definitely don't hate yourself because of them either. And then when you start to be confident in who you are and begin to love that person to, you begin to love others.... and hopefully just might start to love the male genitalia and bit more too ha.
Right, but I'm not sure what Tyra thought she was doing here. It comes off as though she's trying to make homosexuality seem like a choice. It's hard for me to watch. Hopefully they're just acting.
He knows being gay is lustful. I'm heterosexual and a christian girl but I admit that I do get attacked with homosexual thoughts, I know it's just spiritual warfare. When I pray in Jesus' name it goes away. It's just a sinful desire.
Tyra and Opra are so upfront and don't really think before they speak. The interview with a vampire, she just threw questions at the poor guy, and said that he was nervous. Let's just get out there and bypass personal boundaries.
Okay... this guy is clearly so very confused about himself and the whole idea of sexual identity/preference. I am so disgusted by this that all I can do is laugh.
***** A person has a choice to have a sex change, but it is not a choice to be attracted to a person of the same sex. U would only make a choice in laying down and having sex with the person. And why should they be deprived in sex?
***** A person has a choice to have a sex change, but it is not a choice to be attracted to a person of the same sex. U would only make a choice in laying down and having sex with the person. And why should they be deprived in sex?
I'm gay and I'm not effeminate. I'm still in the closet but I hate when someone says "you're so gay" to someone I know who isn't gay but never suspect me! I wish someone would call me out because I would definitely admit to being gay if someone accused me of it
That guys face in the croud after the guy said "get a sex change or something" was priceless! XD But to be hounist, everyone's reaction was amazing, it was all basicly "wtf is this?!" XD
Wait, so this kid hates being gay, but not enough to just choose to not be gay that moment? He's gotta wait 11 years? LOL. Terrible logic. Anyways, I still pity these gay people who want to change. The media leads them to believe they can't change when they really can, you have to have the initiative to change. They are in a self made prison and don't realize they've always had the key. These poor souls are so confused and need help.
phil muller May I ask where you live that homosexuality is a crime? Where I live, it's not technically a crime. A crime against GOD, but not to secular society. I agree that it's disgraceful and shameful, even abnormal, but I still stand by my opinion that suicide is not the answer. Just because someone makes a mistake does not mean that automatically their life is worthless. They chose this lifestyle, they can also choose to leave it as well.
tiffany marrero Well u maintain ur arguments thats a good point,I Like grils like u young beauty but lifestyle or not i cant tolerate gays,whatever only god knows what their future will be.
Bryce Thompson Lol, nice comeback (NOT.) I'm neither confused or need help, sweetie. I definitely know I'm attracted to men, and I'm not sick like people who like the gay fetish are.
"Soon he will be 30 years old, his songs have been sold, he traveled around the world and he is still roaming... SOON HE WILL BE 30 YEARS OLD". But seriously when I'm 30 years old I will be a cattapillar and when im 35 I will finally be a butterfly
I kinda can relate to his feelings towards both the male and the female genitalia to a certain degree. But he shouldn't say he hates being gay, since, in his own words, a lot of the dislike is actually based on stereotypes. I don't think he's gay either. In my opinion, he is probably mainly asexual, with a possible emotional attachability to both genders, maybe a bit more towards male persona. And who knows, he's still quite young, and might still need some time to figure things out for himself. But whatever that identity is, he should just learn to get along with and be comfortable with it. Or, he might not need any kind of sexual identity at all, and that's fine too!
If one is born gay/lesbian he/she have to live with it entire life. Period. Nobody can control those inner sexual innuendos and start acting straight one day.
Nobody is 100% gay from birth. There is no "gay gene", which has been proven by twin studies. However, several genes influence the probability of becoming gay. So basically, it's not really a choice either (anyone believeing it's a choice is fucking dumb. Why would anyone choose that?)
no it's not. since when could a person choose which gender to like according to his or her own will? so according to ur logic, would a handsome guy showing his private part to the straight guys cause them to become gay?
Jonghak Kim Yes it is Kim jong ill LOL Kam sam ni da , ani asayo ,adaso, naga, kim chee, buygogi, bibimbap LOL They can become gay if they chose too hence why its a choice because we have free will. I am learning to speak Korean from all the korean dramas I watch. If there is one thing koreans have mastered it is the art of DRAMA, LMAO.
Words have many meanings. Language is messy, it changes all the time. Gay and straight may very well be outdated within 50 years (at least when describing someone's sexual orientation). From my limited perspective, I feel American culture places too much importance on labeling and keeping every person confined to nice, simple stereotypes. I am a man who is attracted to other men. I don't want to be labeled as "gay," it's just part of who I am. And not even the most important part. When describing myself, I don't think it would even make the top 10.
This is the effect of stereotypes. You get confused and mixed up with "who you are", "who you want to be", and "who everyone wants you to be". It's still your choice.
Musty Savage Naw, I think God and the giant flying spaghetti monster make good friends. He'll laugh at you for not believing in the giant flying spaghetti monster.
Poor guy, God can heal anyone's sexuality... It is possible that he could become completely straight... But thats only Gods help, his desires for men can be got rid of. There is hope for anyone like him.... And I feel sorry for him or anyone who desires to be straight.
He does, He's healed me. Of severe mental torment... Jesus offers salvation to you. God the Father wants you to belong to Him. He is love. Please dont believe the lie, that there's no God.
Having desires for same sex is because there's a demon causing that desire. Jesus came to earth to set us free...to deliver us from sickness, disease, and demons. He can restore our soul
I feel so sorry for him tbh. He is lost and he just built up this wall of different stereotypes and now he hates himself for it. He's gonna live with it and I just feel sorry for him. He seems kinds tbh
I learned something from this game I played called Persona 4. I learned that we all have to accept the fact that we have problems, instead of running away from them. Only then can we work on fixing them. Religious congregations will tell you to run away from your problems, and LGBT congregations will tell you that they're not even problems. Unfortunately I'm guessing this kid was caught between the two, leaving him confused and hating himself.
I'm Bisexual and its nothing to be ashamed of people like me were born this way you don't choose to be a gay,lesbian, or bisexual person .I also struggled with my sexual orientation due to my religious beliefs,and it was painful. Afterwards I just learned to accept it....
As a woman, I want to encourage these guys to be comfortable with being gay. I could never feel comfortable going out with a man who was sexually attracted to men, even if it was a long time ago. Because as a woman who is attracted to men, you KNOW how powerful it feels to feel attraction for a man... so trying to deny it would seem like a mute point, and I would NEVER believe someone could truly pull that off. I would constantly worry he was cheating on me. I would much rather encourage him to be comfortable with himself and embrace his sexuality that he was born with. It takes so much energy to go against the way you truly are. Life is way too short to not get to be who you were born to be.
I hope he’s realized by now that he’s just asexual, and there’s nothing wrong with that. As long as he’s not putting anyone else down, just because he’s not happy with himself.
I love when they show some faces in the public like ''What?!'' or ''You know what...?'' or ''WTF'' or ''Whateva''' or ''Whateva, I do what I want''... or ''Yeah, that's my gurl!'' or ''Hell no'' or ''YES!'' etc
i think that sexuality is made up of a lot of different spectrums, for instance someone can be physically attracted to men while being emotionally attracted to women. and any other combination can apply here. not everyone can be stricly labeled as 100% straight or 100% gay. it's a flexibel thing :)
I love Shane, he was so adorable! I completely get where he comes from saying he's not a fan of the male - female parts. It sounds so weird but I'm the same way. It just freaks me out. I love Shane though, he had me laughing so hard!
I am straight female that doesn't think being gay or a lesbian is a choice. Gay people know that they'll be bullied an harassed and i don't know why anyone would chose to make their life more difficult on purpose.
Love and Peace bitch no bye
Its true its not a choise
kai ledner it is a choice.
Ichigo Bankai And you know this HOW? Preferences are inborn. For example - I loathe eggs, while some ppl LOVE them. (Even as a baby, I spit them out in disgust). We ALL have preferences. I was born left handed - there was a time when that was seen as evil... In fact, the Latin word for left is where the term sinister comes from. (It's no accident that right means what it does - as in right and wrong). In my grandfather's day, children were punished until they learned to write with the right hand. These are cultural conventions... As we evolve as human beings, and are able to move beyond bigotry and racism, we will be able to work on the real issues that threaten our existence: poverty, violence, war, disease.
Xena Zon I simply know it that is how....Like with any situation in life PREFERENCES can be CHANGED hence why its a CHOICE.
"older guys trying to get some younger butt" killed me😂
It's true
THERE ARE MORE SEXUALITIES THAN JUST GAY OR STRAIGHT. GEZZUS. Maybe he's bisexual, or pansexual, or asexual. Like. Seriously.
Exactly what I was thinking.
I don't think they even know what bisexuality is.
Yeah they definitely seem very confused.
He's an idiot. that's all.
He seemed more asexual than anything. Not attracted to the dick? Check. Not attracted to the pussy? Check.
Lanie R. Yes and we get a lot of hate by many communities but I have to say, it's hard to even be "out of the closet" with all the hate out there.
i went through this phase, i'm so glad i accepted myself.
I'm glad you did
So youre straight?
NewOrleanCeltics21 no he’s gay
NewOrleanCeltics21 you can’t change sexualities
NewOrleanCeltics21 I’m gay but thanks for blowing up my phone over a 6 year old comment you fucking clown
Wow I can't believe Phil Lester was on the Tyra show
Omg 😂
logan4231 OMFG LMAO
iCANT UnSee It
Dan was there too
logan4231 I fucking choked
the first guy essentially defined himself as biromantic and asexual. he's not even homosexual . . . i hope he's figured it out by now and isn't repressing himself.
If hes had sex with a male. Hes a homosexual.
marikie marie correction: If he’s solely attracted to men, he’s homosexual
When I'm 30 I'm going to be black
haahahahahahah
Fantastic.
and im gonna be white, we are gonna get it hahahahha
😂😂
This comment is gold
when I'm 40 I'm gonna grow wings and fly away to Narnia, where I will become husband to a Satyr named Cris and we will begin a book club for single moms and dads.
Jonathon Lastname so brave
It's not a choice or a disorder or something to be ashamed of. You are born the way you are.
I have yet to meet a depressed newborn.
***** your analogy is ridiculous. Being gay is not a mental health issue. You don't just turn gay. Ask any straight man if there is anything that would have just turned him gay along the way and he will tell you that could never happen. Yes drugs and alcohol do affect everyone. I'm not sure where you get your garbage science. No one shoots heroine and says, "Well that did nothing". Are you also a creationist?
12345soccerguy You sound so stupid drugs don't affect everyone? You dumb af.
Mario Sanchez yes you are. It's already been proven. How are you not aware of this?
Pain Tide what's been proven...you don't have a gay gene...u don't come out of your mom saying...hey I'm going to be gay my whole life...that's stupid
The homophobia in the comments is sickening. Really? It is wrong to be gay? I bet you still eat bacon, and the Bible says you can not eat pigs. The Bible is not a bag of trail mix, you may not just pick what you want and leave the rest out. Please stop being ignorant.
Proof that being gay is not a choice.
Exactly.. so many people attempt suicide because of this. It's just so sad. No way in any chance that being gay is a choice.
No matter who we are all sexually attracted to, God will love ALL of his children
It makes me wonder why people say "God hates Gays," when God only loves.
Makes me feel so upset..
it actually is a choice though, if he where to say " i dont want to be with a guy i want to be with a girl" thats choice or decision.... just like "i dont want fish, i want chicken" its a choice
lov u You can choose to be with whoever you want to be with, that much is a choice. You can NEVER change who you are inside and what you feel. That can never change. Just like a lion who wants to be nice and not eat the gazelle, eventually his animal instincts will kick in and when he's hungry enough will eat the gazelle. Being gay is not a choice but being ignorant of that fact is.
Have you ever choose to be straight? I think it's as simple as make an effort and think if you have chosen your sexual orientation (whatever that is).
***** well one, I know loving who you love isn't a choice, I was being a smarty ass... what I was saying was it was a choice to pick a girl or boy, didn't mean you had to love them
Guy with a metro hair-cut and hardly "alpha", yet says men should be "alpha". Ok then.
"I never wantnated to be gay" I CANT BREATHE THIS IS SO FUNNY
it's honestly so annoying when people are homophobic because it's nobody's business.. I don't care if you think being gay is wrong but just respect people and you'll get respect back.
I'm homosexual and I wish I wasn't. I see being heterosexual is a beauty and a blessing. I've tried to be heterosexual, but I just couldn't no matter how hard I tried. I couldn't get it up and I broke to many girl's heart, but they understood. So, I was born that way.
11 years have passed since this was filmed. I wonder how these guys are doing.
You're right, in what a pityful society we live where since 11 years not much effort was undertaken to improve understanding of causes for sexual orientation was made, not to mention ways to accept, help and support people who are unhappy with their own sexual orientation. There are hundred thousands, I'd dare to say as much as: Almost anybody out there... who would be interested being released from being defined regarding attraction by biological predispositions and would love the idea to chose for themselves whom they love and why they love some one. But rather our society dares to tell other people by which fashion they should be happy (even if this brutally collides with the individuals perspective).
Okay, I know that people are going to yell at me, but I have the "if you don't want to be gay, don't be" opinion. Now I'm not gay, so I understand why some may argue "it's not that easy" for gays. But I mean, honestly. No one said you HAD to be gay. Just because you have attractions to the same sex doesn't mean you have to date that sex. I'm in NO WAY encouraging that all gays should suppress their sexualities and I have no problem with homosexuality, but if someone really doesn't want to be gay they shouldn't have to be. And it's not "impossible" to change one's sexuality; it actually has happened before. A lot of people don't like labels but if you say that sexuality is biological that absolutely cannot be changed, you're already labeling people. And I understand why people may want to suppress homosexuality because of their fear that others won't accept them. But I'm not trying to talk about that-I'm talking about identity in general. If you really, truly don't want to be gay, I think you shouldn't have to be. No one and nothing can force you to be something you don't want to be.
Such well said. Just wow. Do you mind if I ever quote you?
xNightHawkVidsx
Thanks man. I would be honored if you did.
Traci Rowland I don't mean like biologically. I understand that people can't choose their feelings. But they DO choose to live as a self-identified gay or straight. Now I'm absolutely not saying that this is what all gays should do, but by saying "I didn't choose to be gay, I'd do ANYTHING not to be gay," they're actually making the gay community look bad and like they hate their lives, when a lot of gays are actually really happy with their lives. I know that there may be people who feel this way because their families and friends don't accept them but I'm not talking about that because that's a legitimate problem. I just hate the mentality of "you get what you get and you're stuck for life" because that's making being gay look like a mental prison. There's actually a video on RUclips of someone ranting about this. And it was filmed and uploaded by a very liberal, non-religious lesbian.
I didnt read anybody else down below so i could be redundant. But the fact is man your brain is wired a certain way so that you fit like a puzzle piece to what you find attractive. My point is, that person will never find genuine, authentic happiness until they submit to who they really are. (For the most part in the aspect of Love) PS: If that doesnt convince you there have been several studies that support the synopsis that Homosexual men and straight women have a similar brain structure. Straight women and gay men also have a similar brain structure. Basically, individuals attracted to women most of the time have a strong connection to their motor function (Sports, trade, crafting) and individuals attracted to men most of the time have a stronger connection to their emotional intelligence and/or function. (Mentoring, Conversing with others, socializing, etc.) Coincidence? I personally dont think so.. And these structures are put into place in effort to attract what you find attractive.
I get what you all are saying, and I definitely think gays will be happier if they accept who they are. I also think it's very wrong to judge people for their sexuality. My point was, however, that I believe everyone should have a say over who they want to be. If a gay person says "I didn't choose to be gay! Who would choose to be gay?" this automatically makes being gay look awful, which is the opposite of what gays want. The same thing goes if a straight person says the same thing in defense of the gay community-they automatically imply that being straight is better, even if they didn't mean to make it sound that way. And like I said-I just hate the mentality of sexuality not being a choice and whatever you get you're stuck with because it just makes homosexuals look like they are only reluctantly living this way because they HAVE to, while in reality many of them will say what while they didn't choose their feelings, they DID choose their way of living, (of being openly gay and pursuing the same sex) and aside from dealing with judgmental people and battling for their rights, they're very happy with their decision. To me, the "being gay isn't a choice, nobody would choose to be gay" message backfires because to me that translates to "I got stuck with this sexuality and I hate my life" which I'm sure is very misleading.
"HIIIIIIII TYRAAAAAA" Yeah work on that before turning straight.
Jeff Madill omg
He's gonna be straight when he turns thirty? That's ridiculous. He can try but won't succeed. It's not a choice. I wanted to be straight when I was 19, cause I though it would make my life easier. So I chose not to have sex. But then I turned 30 and realized I need a human touch and decided to have sex like all normal people. Sex with people that attract me, which means men. Being gay is not a choice. People need to realize that. The only choice you have is whether you're going to live according to your nature and be happy, or suppress your natural urges and be miserable.
+bracerist Everything you just said was gold!
Gosh it doesn't matter if the person is gay or not, his sexual acts have NOTHING to do with you --'
Really? He's asexual. -_- Plus, a lot of homosexual people ARE in love with each other. Why else would they be striving towards marriage equality? I'm bisexual. I have felt EMOTIONAL feelings for both men and women. It isn't all about sex. I am against purely sexual relationships no matter what gender is involved.
This makes me think of a scene from one of the x-men films, where Storm tells Rouge there is nothing wrong with you, you don't need to be cured.
"I think of it as a cave that will swallow & never let it come back."
I died laughing! :D
I'm gay and i completely understand where this guy is coming from. It's like all of those teen insecurities that I had when closeted but magnified and never properly understood and dealt with. The worst concern about coming out is not about how someone might react to you there and then because knowing what the right thing to say to a gay person in that moment is easy (unless they're just beyond ignorant). Its about the day, the week, the month after when that person starts to unknowingly view you in a different way... even your closest friends. Such as thinking you're not as masculine or you're not as strong and 'alpha' and begins thinking 'maybe i wont invite him to that football game next weekend because its not his thing anymore' or even your boss thinking 'maybe he's not the right guy to take on this role as the competition might think he's weak'. We grow up as guys, we live the life of guys, we hang out and often have best mates who are guys.... because... well, we're guys too. It's often just the simple difference between knowing that someone is gay and being ok with it and understanding what that actually means. And I don't blame people who don't understand... they need time understanding it just like we did growing up. This guy just needs to know that in the mean time, people's false interpretations of gay guys aren't true... even if others, including your best friends, don't. Set an example.... show them they're wrong... don't be weak and let false perspectives define what you do... and definitely don't hate yourself because of them either. And then when you start to be confident in who you are and begin to love that person to, you begin to love others.... and hopefully just might start to love the male genitalia and bit more too ha.
Right, but I'm not sure what Tyra thought she was doing here. It comes off as though she's trying to make homosexuality seem like a choice. It's hard for me to watch. Hopefully they're just acting.
An update on Shane
I can grow a full beard now.
+LaLaLoofah so are u gay, straight, or a sexual???
ur such a cutie when u were young!!
+Dana Martin Im gay. I just have a really low libido.
+LaLaLoofah I think u may fall under the asexuality spectrum, anyway as long as ur happy. If you still talk to Tia tell her she's adorable
+LaLaLoofah Are you okay with being gay now?
+Aliyah R Yeah, I'm chillin in bed with my boyfriend rn playing pokemon
He knows being gay is lustful. I'm heterosexual and a christian girl but I admit that I do get attacked with homosexual thoughts, I know it's just spiritual warfare. When I pray in Jesus' name it goes away. It's just a sinful desire.
Bitch please
Fuck off bitch.
It's not sinful
I like how this is all based in sexuality, and not commitment to a person.
He won't be straight at 30 -he'll be embarrassed thinking "why did I make a clown of myself on that TV show 11 years ago".
I love the guy's face @2:58!! 😮 Lol!!! 😄
Also the guy's face@3:26 is pretty great, too hahaha 😄
Tyra and Opra are so upfront and don't really think before they speak. The interview with a vampire, she just threw questions at the poor guy, and said that he was nervous. Let's just get out there and bypass personal boundaries.
He said “i already look at you like that” like when I say “YASS QUEEN WORK THAG DRESS MS TYRA”
this is the best thing i've ever seen
He's 19. Being sexually confused is pretty standard. He's also really boring, which is unforgivable.
he look like Phil oh my god when I first saw the thumbnail I screamed phaaaaan 😂😂
Okay... this guy is clearly so very confused about himself and the whole idea of sexual identity/preference. I am so disgusted by this that all I can do is laugh.
By the way, you're hot in the photo. 😉
gusy629 Haha thanks *blushing*
***** A person has a choice to have a sex change, but it is not a choice to be attracted to a person of the same sex. U would only make a choice in laying down and having sex with the person. And why should they be deprived in sex?
***** A person has a choice to have a sex change, but it is not a choice to be attracted to a person of the same sex. U would only make a choice in laying down and having sex with the person. And why should they be deprived in sex?
Shane looks like a less attractive Phil Lester
Most people do xD
I THOUGHT THE SAME THING
That's what I was thinking 😂😂😂
i know right
I'm gay and I'm not effeminate. I'm still in the closet but I hate when someone says "you're so gay" to someone I know who isn't gay but never suspect me! I wish someone would call me out because I would definitely admit to being gay if someone accused me of it
Guest: Tyra I think you're hot.
Tyra: OK time for a commercial break.
IM GAY AND PROUD!!!!
I'm bisexual and proud of it!
Lol..."I think it's like a cave down there"!!
2:54 cause everybody has money for a sex change
+jackson chase Plus they won't give you a sex change unless you are under all the conditions.
That guys face in the croud after the guy said "get a sex change or something" was priceless! XD
But to be hounist, everyone's reaction was amazing, it was all basicly "wtf is this?!" XD
LOL the reaction at 2:58 says it all.
5:17 it got better . . .
it's been 11 years, i wonder what's happened to him?
I would like to know it too. I hope he's happy now.
Most of the show was exaggerated and I didn't "turn straight". Very gay in Seattle with my boyfriend
Message to gay people : just start liking girls. You'll stop being bullied. Done. Simple.
See if you can decide to start liking guys and we will talk, sweetiepie.
Ew, you gay? I was talking about guys liking girls dumbass. The world was made adam and eve not adam and steve.
Fuck you
No. You're wrong. It was Bob and Weave.
what time
That went from zero to Jerry Springer real quick.
Wait, so this kid hates being gay, but not enough to just choose to not be gay that moment? He's gotta wait 11 years? LOL. Terrible logic. Anyways, I still pity these gay people who want to change. The media leads them to believe they can't change when they really can, you have to have the initiative to change. They are in a self made prison and don't realize they've always had the key. These poor souls are so confused and need help.
Wonderfully said. Kinda poetic in my opinion.
Thebossminer0615 Thank you. :)
phil muller May I ask where you live that homosexuality is a crime? Where I live, it's not technically a crime. A crime against GOD, but not to secular society. I agree that it's disgraceful and shameful, even abnormal, but I still stand by my opinion that suicide is not the answer. Just because someone makes a mistake does not mean that automatically their life is worthless. They chose this lifestyle, they can also choose to leave it as well.
tiffany marrero Well u maintain ur arguments thats a good point,I Like grils like u young beauty but lifestyle or not i cant tolerate gays,whatever only god knows what their future will be.
Bryce Thompson Lol, nice comeback (NOT.) I'm neither confused or need help, sweetie. I definitely know I'm attracted to men, and I'm not sick like people who like the gay fetish are.
first guy seems kinda asexual, or sexually interested in guys but emotionally interested in women....
@Brooke or just denying the emotionally interested in guys side
Am I on a farm? Cuz I smell bull shit
I'm stealing that line too funny lol
Tyra's interview is so calculated. She wants you to say what she wants to hear.
This kid isn't gay! He's an actor. It's all show business.
Ummmm, ways wrong w/ being gay/bi/lesbian watevah!? Like I'm not gay buh ways so wrong with it, its not nasty. Most of the time it looks hella cute.
no it fucking nasty
and its fine that you think that but I think its cute
Why do straight people think gay people are cute?????
If your gay does not mean they are girls
"Soon he will be 30 years old, his songs have been sold, he traveled around the world and he is still roaming... SOON HE WILL BE 30 YEARS OLD". But seriously when I'm 30 years old I will be a cattapillar and when im 35 I will finally be a butterfly
There's no such thing as "physical love" its called love. Love isn't just about feelings and physical.
I kinda can relate to his feelings towards both the male and the female genitalia to a certain degree. But he shouldn't say he hates being gay, since, in his own words, a lot of the dislike is actually based on stereotypes. I don't think he's gay either. In my opinion, he is probably mainly asexual, with a possible emotional attachability to both genders, maybe a bit more towards male persona. And who knows, he's still quite young, and might still need some time to figure things out for himself. But whatever that identity is, he should just learn to get along with and be comfortable with it. Or, he might not need any kind of sexual identity at all, and that's fine too!
So he couldn't get a boyfriend and now that's everyone else's problem? Grow up.
The Tyra Show vids on youtube are the breeding grounds for the best trolls. lol
And I'm going go be a bird
Well I'm lesbian and proud!
i'm gay and i'm proud of it
My condolescences for you being trapped by such a lie.
If one is born gay/lesbian he/she have to live with it entire life. Period. Nobody can control those inner sexual innuendos and start acting straight one day.
Nobody is 100% gay from birth. There is no "gay gene", which has been proven by twin studies. However, several genes influence the probability of becoming gay. So basically, it's not really a choice either (anyone believeing it's a choice is fucking dumb. Why would anyone choose that?)
Being GAY IS A CHOICE.
Tyra should show all them 3 boys her pussy that will set them STRAIGHT , LMAO.
no its not
atheistsrnumber1
Yes it is.
no it's not. since when could a person choose which gender to like according to his or her own will? so according to ur logic, would a handsome guy showing his private part to the straight guys cause them to become gay?
Jonghak Kim
Yes it is Kim jong ill LOL Kam sam ni da , ani asayo ,adaso, naga, kim chee, buygogi, bibimbap LOL
They can become gay if they chose too hence why its a choice because we have free will.
I am learning to speak Korean from all the korean dramas I watch. If there is one thing koreans have mastered it is the art of DRAMA, LMAO.
Gay means "happy" not homosexual.
And what does Straight mean?
GroovyGadget
Straight (adjective): not having curves, bends, or angles, vertical or level
scifiakiraguy Thank you
scifiakiraguy Are you sure it doesn't also mean heterosexual?
Words have many meanings. Language is messy, it changes all the time. Gay and straight may very well be outdated within 50 years (at least when describing someone's sexual orientation). From my limited perspective, I feel American culture places too much importance on labeling and keeping every person confined to nice, simple stereotypes. I am a man who is attracted to other men. I don't want to be labeled as "gay," it's just part of who I am. And not even the most important part. When describing myself, I don't think it would even make the top 10.
People is sooo confused....
This is the effect of stereotypes. You get confused and mixed up with "who you are", "who you want to be", and "who everyone wants you to be". It's still your choice.
God, I would've been disgusted with her Cave too! She would make me turn gay as well!
because it is against gods word should have been his main answer
but its not against the flying spaghetti monsters word
and hes more powerful than your god
That would be called blasphemy friend. Very serious and unforgivable sin. And its OUR god
Musty Savage no its your god
the flying spaghetti monster says gay marriage is ok, so its ok
atheistsrnumber1 well on judgement day you can tell god that but i dont think he will find it very funny...(or mature).
Musty Savage Naw, I think God and the giant flying spaghetti monster make good friends. He'll laugh at you for not believing in the giant flying spaghetti monster.
Poor guy, God can heal anyone's sexuality... It is possible that he could become completely straight... But thats only Gods help, his desires for men can be got rid of. There is hope for anyone like him.... And I feel sorry for him or anyone who desires to be straight.
kathy maxted Poor Kathy - reason and rationality and heal anyone's religious delusions.
kathy maxted god cant heal anything, since god does not exist
He does, He's healed me. Of severe mental torment... Jesus offers salvation to you. God the Father wants you to belong to Him. He is love. Please dont believe the lie, that there's no God.
Having desires for same sex is because there's a demon causing that desire. Jesus came to earth to set us free...to deliver us from sickness, disease, and demons. He can restore our soul
kathy maxted
prove it
Shane is the physical embodiment of Lumpy Space Princess.
I feel so sorry for him tbh. He is lost and he just built up this wall of different stereotypes and now he hates himself for it. He's gonna live with it and I just feel sorry for him. He seems kinds tbh
I learned something from this game I played called Persona 4. I learned that we all have to accept the fact that we have problems, instead of running away from them. Only then can we work on fixing them. Religious congregations will tell you to run away from your problems, and LGBT congregations will tell you that they're not even problems. Unfortunately I'm guessing this kid was caught between the two, leaving him confused and hating himself.
wow Shane's face kind of reminds me of amazingphil.
I think the first kid tyra talked to is just tryna find himself. I hope he finds what he truly wants and happiness. : )
Our minds tells us who we are, not our bodies, our minds tells us yes, eventhough our bodies tells us no
I'm Bisexual and its nothing to be ashamed of people like me were born this way you don't choose to be a gay,lesbian, or bisexual person .I also struggled with my sexual orientation due to my religious beliefs,and it was painful. Afterwards I just learned to accept it....
As a woman, I want to encourage these guys to be comfortable with being gay. I could never feel comfortable going out with a man who was sexually attracted to men, even if it was a long time ago. Because as a woman who is attracted to men, you KNOW how powerful it feels to feel attraction for a man... so trying to deny it would seem like a mute point, and I would NEVER believe someone could truly pull that off. I would constantly worry he was cheating on me. I would much rather encourage him to be comfortable with himself and embrace his sexuality that he was born with. It takes so much energy to go against the way you truly are. Life is way too short to not get to be who you were born to be.
I love this guy
to people that say gay is a choice. I challenge these accusers to turn gay for a year.
TYRA IS AMAZING
I hope he’s realized by now that he’s just asexual, and there’s nothing wrong with that. As long as he’s not putting anyone else down, just because he’s not happy with himself.
11 years have passed. Is there any update? :)
"I'm a fan of my own" --sounds like literally every straight man I know.
I really thought Shane was a young Trixie for a second 😂
Oh god.... Love whoever makes you feel like you could never stop stop loving this person. It doesn't matter who you love. It is so simple.
tyra looks stunning here
I love when they show some faces in the public like ''What?!'' or ''You know what...?'' or ''WTF'' or ''Whateva''' or ''Whateva, I do what I want''... or ''Yeah, that's my gurl!'' or ''Hell no'' or ''YES!'' etc
"what do you think of gay guys over 30?"
"i think of them as creepy"
the guy in the audience after this is said... his face... oh my god.
ON THE THUMBNAIL I THOUGHT HE WAS A LESBIAN IM LAUGHING SO HARD
Shane is cute and charming in a way, i don't think he'd have any problems making girls (or guys!) fall for him.
Well he doesn't like any sex so why would he... I don't get it.
awww the first guy wants to have a family... he should go for it.
i think that sexuality is made up of a lot of different spectrums,
for instance someone can be physically attracted to men while being emotionally attracted to women. and any other combination can apply here.
not everyone can be stricly labeled as 100% straight or 100% gay.
it's a flexibel thing :)
What he said about the older guys was pretty accurate
I’ve thought of the cave analogy every day since I saw this clip 10+ years ago 😂
I love Shane, he was so adorable! I completely get where he comes from saying he's not a fan of the male - female parts. It sounds so weird but I'm the same way. It just freaks me out.
I love Shane though, he had me laughing so hard!
I thought that kid was adorable... gay as gay can be but just confused... sooo cute
I didn't know i could find people that hate being gay, lucky me i'm not the only one.
Considering the amount of bullying in school that goes on for being gay, I can sort of understand why they get self-conscious about it.
Its 8 years since then, the guy is left with 3 years now.
Damn tia is one lucky lady..both those dudes are stupid cute