7 simple ways to be better at love

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Комментарии • 214

  • @emilys.heather5089
    @emilys.heather5089 2 года назад +395

    UR ALWAYS ON TIME WITH THE RIGHT TOPICS WHEN IM IN A CRISIS ANA!!!

  • @cosiwovyousilly
    @cosiwovyousilly 2 года назад +252

    “It is a love based on giving and receiving as well as having and sharing. And the love that they give and have is shared and received. And through this having and giving and sharing and receiving, we too can share and love and have and receive.”

    • @rodrigovillena5209
      @rodrigovillena5209 2 года назад +10

      gotta love Joey 😂😂

    • @ananyaravikumar5069
      @ananyaravikumar5069 2 года назад +5

      I came to the comments searching for this 😂 I guess Joey was on to something

    • @JayaPrithiviRaj
      @JayaPrithiviRaj 2 года назад

      Joey ftw 😂😂😂

    • @anvita_bhat_
      @anvita_bhat_ 2 года назад +4

      I immediately thought of this when Anna mentioned “take, receive, share,..” 😂😂😂

    • @juliamendonca8423
      @juliamendonca8423 2 года назад

      joey is a psychological genius

  • @a_plus_luxe3426
    @a_plus_luxe3426 2 года назад +106

    My toxic trait is forwarding Anna Akana videos to friends with no message or context.

  • @Dogo.R
    @Dogo.R 2 года назад +270

    Simple Catagorization of the Verbs:
    - How you respond to wanting something (Ask / Take)
    - How you respond to someone else wanting something (Give / Refuse / Share)
    - How you respond to Receiving something (Receive)
    - Play
    Also worth noting that:
    - "Sharing" is a form of "Giving".
    - These are all words for the process of negotiation and transaction.
    - "Play" is a shared experience you agree upon (via explicit or implicit negotiation)

  • @RoshniS
    @RoshniS 2 года назад +41

    I love that almost everything always comes down to this acceptance, kindness and awareness that you can always change. You are not permanently wired a certain way, things are always more or less flexible

  • @mukta4689
    @mukta4689 2 года назад +149

    1. To share
    2. To ask
    3. To take
    4. To receive
    5. To give
    6. To refuse
    7. To play

  • @hokshii
    @hokshii 2 года назад +15

    esther perel is so brilliant and she is just so elegant when she speaks on her research about relationships. always feels like i can learn smth from her again and again. thanks for the reminder, anna 👌

  • @wordzmyth
    @wordzmyth 2 года назад +40

    Wow I have never seen love and intimacy described in terms of these words. The doing words of love.

  • @3rdlegend445
    @3rdlegend445 2 года назад +18

    I love an Anna Akana post in the morning🧡

  • @Ocious
    @Ocious 2 года назад +153

    Whoever is reading this, i pray that whatever you’re going through gets better and whatever you’re struggling with or worrying about is going to be fine and that everyone has a fantastic day! Amen

    • @angelbless45
      @angelbless45 2 года назад +1

      Thank you.

    • @syro2412
      @syro2412 2 года назад +6

      You know it's really difficult to say whether that comment is genuine or not because bots seem to use them to promote their channel these days. If it's genuine, thanks but if it's not, eff you xD

    • @tami3456
      @tami3456 2 года назад +6

      @@syro2412 it's not genuine, I see those comments all the time, almost verbatim

    • @MultiCappie
      @MultiCappie 2 года назад

      I pray that you find your way out of religion.

  • @theaudiobookaficionado
    @theaudiobookaficionado 2 года назад +8

    The typo in the thumbnail is very funny

  • @iamgoddessoflove
    @iamgoddessoflove 2 года назад +44

    By making your mental health and personal growth a priority, you will heal much faster. I understand that this can be hard to do, especially if you have little ones to look after. However, if you do have little ones to look after, it’s even more crucial that you take care of yourself first. This is so you are fully able to take care of others.
    💙RUclipsr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships

  • @DragonGalvy
    @DragonGalvy 2 года назад +5

    interesting to have something I perhaps subconciously understood explained well. I was lucky to be raised well, and I realise that now. In those terms, I've always realised "my most difficult verb" is refuse - even in non-romantic interactions, if people need help I want to help them, but sometimes later when there's no time for the things I actually need to have done or wanted to do, I get a bit frustrated. It's OK to say "I can't help you with that right now, but maybe later" if you really have to for your own good, and that's something I have to keep reminding myself of.

  • @rachelmusicc
    @rachelmusicc 2 года назад +8

    This was so jam packed. I have to watch in .5x to digest all the wisdom

    • @Pssst.ByTheWay
      @Pssst.ByTheWay 2 года назад

      i took notes on little cards i flip through during the day.

  • @ChristinaCatFoster
    @ChristinaCatFoster 2 года назад +3

    Thanks for making these in bite size chunks. It's a lot to internalize.

  • @CherryBomb
    @CherryBomb 2 года назад +10

    🙌🙌Hey Anna or whoever uploads for Anna! Just a Heads-up, There is a Spelling mistake in the Thumbnail Text, it says "SIMPE" instead of "SIMPLE", incase this was not intentional, which it doesn't seem like it is, I thought I'd point it out since you are always in my recommended since I started watching last week and I love your videos, already changing my everyday habits!

  • @Rawrandstuff107
    @Rawrandstuff107 2 года назад +1

    I hope one day she decides to make a podcast, she has the perfect voice for it

  • @Chaosbarbie
    @Chaosbarbie 2 года назад +3

    Anna, as an avid Iranian fan, I would REALLY appereciate it if you also talk about this issue. Please be our voice...

  • @H3110NU
    @H3110NU 2 года назад +33

    Btw The thumbnail has a “simple” spelling error…

  • @ThePillowGrabber
    @ThePillowGrabber Год назад +1

    My issue with asking is that, often times, if I have to ask for something, then I won't enjoy getting it anymore. I'd rather the person gives it to me on their own and not because I asked. So it's a dead end that I don't know how to counter.

  • @Wawuseq
    @Wawuseq 2 года назад +1

    And now for something completely different: Why am I JUST finding out you did a role in "Corporate"?! 12/10 and watching again

  • @fulltimeweeb
    @fulltimeweeb 2 года назад +4

    I have very few needs so I'm more of a giver than anything. I just like making people happy and I really don't lose anything of value

  • @FuzzyStripetail
    @FuzzyStripetail 2 года назад +5

    The most intimate part of Peter Pan was when Captain Hook fought with giant shrimp costumed Anna.

  • @seanlin2535
    @seanlin2535 Год назад

    my mental concentration thanks you for how short but right to the point your videos are

  • @mayario
    @mayario 2 года назад

    Love this “crossover” post!

  • @ianlu8001
    @ianlu8001 2 года назад +1

    This is gold

  • @randomcartoonfan8993
    @randomcartoonfan8993 2 года назад +6

    whats funny about me being bi is, im always bi-myself
    (ik thats an overused joke but thats how i feel-)

  • @NewtracksVideos
    @NewtracksVideos 2 года назад +1

    Thanks for reading another article to us.

  • @onikarutherford7021
    @onikarutherford7021 2 года назад

    Gonna take notes - this is helpful for my self-improvement journey, thanks!

  • @James-fc4rx
    @James-fc4rx 2 года назад +3

    Did anyone else notice it says 'simpe' ways to love in the thumbnail 😂

    • @MrBahki
      @MrBahki 2 года назад +2

      I noticed cause it looks like she’s looking at the mistake.

  • @willyct207
    @willyct207 2 года назад

    Great to see you princess!!!

  • @pluto810
    @pluto810 2 года назад

    okay, so this was perfect timing. the universe knows.

  • @marcello7781
    @marcello7781 2 года назад +1

    Thank you very much for having canalized the main parts in 7 key points.

  • @brians9016
    @brians9016 2 года назад

    Good to pause these videos after each part, so I can sit with it for a bit
    Especially appreciate the note on "change" cos we can if we want/need to.

  • @sejalpoddar1850
    @sejalpoddar1850 2 года назад

    I can't believe I am so early!
    Thank you for being my therapist 💖
    Love you 💓

  • @walterthorne5782
    @walterthorne5782 2 года назад

    Thank you , we really needed to hear this today. to accept it... will be another story.

  • @WhereDidIndiGo
    @WhereDidIndiGo 2 года назад

    I love all your videos Anna! they're all just so interesting, educational and funny...I genuinely enjoy every single one no matter what it is!

  • @koushalyag3608
    @koushalyag3608 2 года назад

    Ooooooooh been learning these past few months!

  • @karolinapajaczkowska5057
    @karolinapajaczkowska5057 2 года назад +1

    Anna: Which verbs are you currently acing?
    me: ehhh...

  • @attention_shopping
    @attention_shopping 2 года назад

    THANK YOU!

  • @macrochipped
    @macrochipped 2 года назад +2

    I can definitely improve in the ask area.(I'm inept at asking for things.)

  • @johntothejackson
    @johntothejackson 2 года назад

    Thank you for sharing, wording & editing this so beautifully and intelligently. #TeamAnna for me.

  • @anna-maymoon1001
    @anna-maymoon1001 2 года назад +6

    If I had a jar full of all the pennies you've dropped, it would be a very big jar ❤️ thanks Anna ❤️

  • @awesomeadamfrom2099
    @awesomeadamfrom2099 2 года назад +1

    Awesome job anna

  • @NormanKonstantin
    @NormanKonstantin 2 года назад +1

    Don't even ask me how I got here when I was just browsing youtube for some fitness ideas. Nevermind, I stay for a while :D

  • @quietwulf
    @quietwulf 2 года назад

    Thank you so much for this. Very interesting and eye opening when I took a minute to reflect.

  • @FF2Guy
    @FF2Guy 2 года назад

    I am all give and no take

  • @Jackseyez
    @Jackseyez 2 года назад

    Thanks Anna

  • @Jackseyez
    @Jackseyez 2 года назад

    I love your hair

  • @zephyrbat
    @zephyrbat 2 года назад +1

    50 words?
    I learned well over 100 words to visit Japan and still found myself is quite a few pickles.

  • @duskshadow25
    @duskshadow25 2 года назад

    Number 8 needs to be "to stop talking" 🤣
    I like quiet and peace, but them people be talking non-stop and driving me crazy

  • @laugh6581
    @laugh6581 2 года назад

    Thanks a ton!

  • @frazzle557
    @frazzle557 Год назад

    I'm dead that she straight up called SquareSpace her daddy 😂

  • @sststr
    @sststr 2 года назад +2

    What, nobody can read minds? Well that explains a lot!!

  • @roBLINDhood
    @roBLINDhood 2 года назад

    Thank you!!!

  • @hatdawg6648
    @hatdawg6648 2 года назад

    petition for square space to change their name to DADDY SQUARE SPACE

  • @traveler-a113
    @traveler-a113 2 года назад +2

    Damn, after two weeks, this is such a great lesson to come back with. Also, so weird to see the Macedos so casual after what happened.

    • @JuJuGarlin
      @JuJuGarlin 2 года назад

      Wait, what happened?

    • @traveler-a113
      @traveler-a113 2 года назад

      @@JuJuGarlin they’re not friends with Anna anymore

    • @LiteratiMuffin
      @LiteratiMuffin 2 года назад

      @@traveler-a113 What?! What happened, how do you know?

    • @traveler-a113
      @traveler-a113 2 года назад

      @@LiteratiMuffin Anna said it in a livestream

    • @Teetoe
      @Teetoe 2 года назад

      @@traveler-a113 no way, that's so sad. is this livestream still available?

  • @LouisLuzuka
    @LouisLuzuka 2 года назад

    Patreon gang checking in ❤😊🎉

  • @Arkos42
    @Arkos42 2 года назад +1

    Everyone: Talking about love.
    Me: What does "Simpe" mean?
    (First time writing a comment like that)

  • @mjkcomposer
    @mjkcomposer 2 года назад

    i think i equally struggle with all of these.

  • @sinheyele
    @sinheyele 2 года назад +2

    Your thumbnail says SIMPE not sure how many people have said this

  • @AmityPost
    @AmityPost 2 года назад

    Dam, so what you're saying is my f'ed up childhood and relationship with my parents has made me bad at everything that is required to be in a happy and fulfilling relationship?
    Least now I know what the problem is and can give up in peace.

    • @aj_says_hello
      @aj_says_hello 2 года назад

      When you find a problem you can give up or fix it. Generally you end up happier if you fix it.
      I hope you’ve had a nice day (:

  • @KevinBReynolds
    @KevinBReynolds Год назад

    All important questions, however, you missed the big one: how to love. That question answers all the others.

  • @taya4818
    @taya4818 2 года назад +1

    first time seeing an error in a thumbnail 👹

  • @inachu
    @inachu 2 года назад +1

    The worst way to show love... I saw a guy who threw flowers on a girls lap on the passenger side and then he laughed it off.

  • @thisisdk7859
    @thisisdk7859 2 года назад

    Anna!!!

  • @mykittenisagrandmaster4381
    @mykittenisagrandmaster4381 2 года назад

    Hola Miss Akana and everyone ❤

  • @stuff5709
    @stuff5709 2 года назад

    THANK U SO MUCH FOR THESE ADVICE I WILL USE THEM…once i get a girlfriend

  • @aon02b
    @aon02b 2 года назад

    Wow, I have issues with almost all of these. I suppose that explains why I have such a strained relationship with my mother lol

  • @alexdamaceno
    @alexdamaceno 2 года назад

    Hey, Anna. It’s written SIMPE (instead of SIMPLE) on the thumbnail!

  • @cinema_simio2727
    @cinema_simio2727 2 года назад +1

    RUclips be like: who is your daddy?😉
    Anna: square space😏
    RUclips: 🤯😑😐

  • @erikeric8707
    @erikeric8707 2 года назад +1

    7 SIMPE WAYS

  • @rain_b
    @rain_b 2 года назад +2

    I'm confused about the difference between taking and receiving in this context. Can someone please help me understand?

    • @Dianah8er
      @Dianah8er 2 года назад +3

      To take is to allow yourself to go after what you want (allow yourself to go forward). To receive is to allow others to give to you (allow others to go towards you).

  • @devinjo2318
    @devinjo2318 2 года назад

    Oink Oink.. I am so Proud of YOU.. making it to the Majors.. Well.. YOU are in the Majors.. a True Top Tier Successor.. If Netflix is asking YOU.. and YOU are In.. YOU are already the best.. and of Course.. You are so Beautiful.. Look at YOU.. I want to show YOU a Mirror of YOU and I will say again.. Look at YOU.. WHO do you see.. the Mirror will only show YOU.. and I will tell YOU.. YOU are so Beautiful.. but also.. YOU are the best.. Number One Anna YAAHH.. Number ONE.. means the best..

  • @ashleyleonatindoc4463
    @ashleyleonatindoc4463 2 года назад

    Can you please try educational contents? 'cause you're really good at explaining things please 🥺🥺

  • @90MysteriumFascinans
    @90MysteriumFascinans 2 года назад

    FYI, typo in the thumbnail says “simpe”

  • @austongreen9883
    @austongreen9883 2 года назад

    nice!

  • @养猫的m
    @养猫的m 2 года назад +4

    I can’t be the only one who is dying to know where Anna got the boo job done because that looks amazing even after this many years!

  • @tobiasschobitz7220
    @tobiasschobitz7220 2 года назад

    You have a typo in your thumbnail, might need to have a talk with your QC team.

  • @TaylorandSaid
    @TaylorandSaid 2 года назад

    Oh god, I am not doing great at these. I have to talk to Esther in one of these 9 languages.

  • @AlFasGD
    @AlFasGD 2 года назад

    Your thumbnail is spelled wrong, which made me click only to point that mistake out
    I hope you did not intend this

  • @zainabambia2148
    @zainabambia2148 2 года назад

    Anna YOU LITERALLY CALLED ME OUT 💀😭
    I LEGIT RAN AND HID ON MY ROOM AFTER THROWING MY PHONE ON THE COUCH as you talked abt each verbs.

  • @TheCoolChrisShow
    @TheCoolChrisShow 2 года назад

    the thumbnail has a typo

  • @supamatta9207
    @supamatta9207 2 года назад

    People that still haven't evolved there relationship after 20 year s have not learned being realistic, centered, perspective, having a sexual engagement. Etc. Maybe empathy i don r exactly but something

  • @orkunakman1541
    @orkunakman1541 2 года назад

    0:56 Wtf, I thought they were the same person in your other videos lmao

  • @elcaballo69
    @elcaballo69 2 года назад

    There is a typo in the thumbnail

  • @enolamo526
    @enolamo526 2 года назад

    The thumbnail says SIMPE instead of SIMPLE

  • @americanswan
    @americanswan 2 года назад

    Timothy Jennings physiologist books 📚

  • @aishwaryachauhan349
    @aishwaryachauhan349 2 года назад +1

    I have a question Anna… since you said sitting in silence with each other’ does it also include using your phone while sitting together and not particularly for some work just for scrolling… my boyfriend do that and always find it annoying…! So just want to know me nagging him to use his phone while we are together is actually bad??? Should I stop doing that.?

    • @ToothlessSnakeable
      @ToothlessSnakeable 2 года назад +2

      You're there to spend time together not just stare at a phone.

  • @ari-athbadminton0301
    @ari-athbadminton0301 2 года назад

    Anna can you please avoid being 'overly distractive' I have hard time focusing on the topic this time.. 😅

  • @rameezsuleman5543
    @rameezsuleman5543 2 года назад

    Please update your thumbnail with the correct spelling, if it was a mistake.

  • @nyleblue2070
    @nyleblue2070 2 года назад

    There's a typo in your cover art 🥰

  • @___ambn
    @___ambn 2 года назад

    Ana we missed the “L” in simple on the thumbnail 😨

  • @peporo5996
    @peporo5996 2 года назад

    I’m not sure if this is an easy fix but there’s a typo on your thumbnail!

  • @brad-fe6vm
    @brad-fe6vm 2 года назад

    how do you work on take, receive, and give? im good at the rest

  • @robertpierce6436
    @robertpierce6436 2 года назад

    Am I missing something, in the thumbnail, the word “simple” is missing the L. And Anna is looking right at the word “Simpe” like it was intentional.

  • @edwardnguyen9249
    @edwardnguyen9249 2 года назад +1

    Anna Akana is a good example of someone knowing so much about love in theory but has no idea practically. Reading can only bring us so far.

  • @kinleylyons6291
    @kinleylyons6291 2 года назад

    Typo in the thumbnail

  • @zubaerchaudhari8267
    @zubaerchaudhari8267 2 года назад

    Hello

  • @seansarto
    @seansarto 2 года назад

    Looks like I’m an expert at love…guess that’s why I’m single…😂