My Jealousy Journey || Conor
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- I used to be a VERY jealous person. I used to get angry and confrontational with anyone who even looked at my partner. I can tell you - a lot has changed. In this video I share my real and raw journey with jealousy.
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I did make it to the end and something really stuck with me: Seeing jealousy as a symptom of something that's not right. Whether that be a headache caused by dehydration or just the impulse of moving our hand when we get burnt, jealousy is like pain, our bodies and mind's way of telling the self to make something about it.
This really helped me because for so long I've been feeling guilty for being jealous, but now I understand it's ok, it's just my traumas returning to the surface, showing me I need to change something in my life and to take better care of myself and my sense of self-worth.
Thank you very much for this video
Totally agreed. Most poly relationships fail and there is a reason for it. We are not made of stone and feelings cannot be helped. I used to feel guilty for it too and then realized I had put myself voluntarily into a poly situation which is not normal or healthy - as for most people. I too decided to take care of myself by finding a man who was happy with 'just me' ..I don't know why i put myself through all that pain and stayed as long as i did. Kudos to those that can be poly if they enjoy that sort of thing. Conor has moved out btw.
Here are three things I learned from you today, that I want to mention: 1. being grateful for past experiences, and even struggles, or bad relationships, 2. look for security and all the things that you are looking for within yourself and work on that first 3. don't get mad at yourself for feeling parts of past trauma, softly allow it, and then work with it - and if you are lucky enough to have someone communicate deeply and honestly. - thank you for that, and all of the other beautiful lessons that are in that video. These are just the ones I need to work on right now. Listening to you is a spiritual experience, and I deeply thank you for that.
I only don't feel jealous when I'm with someone I'm not into, or have lost feelings for. So I would love the freedom of being jealousy-free with a person I DO like.
Red tail hawk ❤️Thank you so much. My bf and I are experimenting with a polyamorous relationship. We've been together for 5 years and are super open and honest and genuine and loving towards each other. We are the coolest relationship I've ever seen (in real life) and now we are trying to open and see what that brings. I want to heal. It's my biggest motivation in this. An md now comes my time to face these things. I am so thankful that this content is out there. Thank you all for your beautiful work x
I completely agree with this and am in the same situation. Thank you for the content ❤
Being able to really talk about things like jealousy in a self responsible and honest way is soooo healing. I love this Conor.
I could not stop watching this, you have a mesmerazing vibe, Conor. I love this video so much. Please keep doing these!
Conor I would really like to hug you - your heart is so beautiful
It’s interesting to see things from the “I’m jealous that that other guy is looking at my woman like that” vs “I’m jealous of the fact that my boyfriend might look at her and want her more than me” expression of jealousy.
Red Tail Hawk is one of my favorites. I was thinking when you said you no longer feel jealousy, but rather other emotions, how wonderful that you now, after all your work, are able to go right to the true emotion that was once masked by jealousy. What a huge shift that is! Rather than creating a divide by pointing a finger at someone's behavior as the cause, instead you are able to readily address the true issue, the insecurity within yourself. That saves a whole lot of time and conflict and makes for a much more loving world.
red tail hawk. Thank you. You're doing something beautiful and right now: 'exceptional'. Not because it's not our most natural state to be yearning for this freedom .. but also because the norm that's portrayed everywhere is not this freedom. And so thank you because you keep showing up. For yourself. For us all. Thank you. Love you Conor McMillan, you rock. x
so much love to you
Thank you for sharing your experience. Every time I'm struggling to come back to a place of love with myself or I'm feeling overwhelmed with my being human, I watch your videos and end up feeling inspired to do healthful and loving things. I once heard the analogy that it's "planting good seeds in the mind garden and nurturing them." It helps me to hear about other folks experiences, ways they've navigated, and how they continue to grow. It shows me that the journey is chaotic, beautiful, and worth it. I'm going to learn about Red-Tailed Hawks now... :)
Your story hit me on a deep level, Conor. I can't stop crying because I feel like I'm releasing years of shame, guilt, regret, frustration, loneliness, and a longing for a better life. I feel so much relief; this huge weight is lifting off me with the realization that I can start to change right now. I don't have to wait anymore. I feel like I just hopped onto a new timeline, and now I'm in a different demension! It's gonna take me a while to process all this, but I'm just feeling a whole lot of gratitude for all that you guys put out into the world. I feel so compelled to be part of what you all have to offer on your website. I can't wait to dig in and feel deep healing. I've been running away from it for so long that running towards it didn't feel like an option. Illusions can be so convincing, but they are truly what keep us trapped---not our external reality, which constantly shifts. I see this theme time and time again with your content. I just can't thank you enough. ❤
Red tailed hawk! And thank you. And do much more, and I appreciate hearing the future telling me I can get through this. ❤️
I felt that you were transitioning to a better place and your truer self. This is why I follow you guys.
How can you not like this video. So pure, honest and open. Thanks Conor, beautiful inside and outside.
Red tailed hawk. What a great analogy. ”The hawks potential is unlimited when he is free, just like your potential and mine.” Free from jealosy........just listen to it. What an excellent approach to life.
the internal process of dismantling jealously applies to so much more than just that trauma reaction! that place you can to get to where openly expressing what you're feeling (while taking radical personal responsibility) is safe and received with love is SO HEALING. red tail hawk all the way!! this video is great and I have already shared it with someone. great tool, ty!
Red tail hawk - one of the best talks on jealousy I have heard. For growth to happen we have to test and challenge ourselves and monogamy just does not do that. Monogamy makes cruches for people to use all their life and never learn what you have on self love. Jealousy is not to be avoided, it is to be looked at to find the opportunities in it. For you, those opportunities were to become a more whole human being who loves himself more so you can love others more equally.
Red Tail Hawk here. ♥️ I did a lot of healing during this. It felt like talking with a friend through raw emotion.
Feels so great to hear this
Red tail hawk! I can listen to you talk for hours. I love all of you, but I think I identity with you the most. I've learned a lot from you. This was a great video. Thanks for sharing.
Hey, Red Tailed Hawk! Coincidentally I've seen a few Falcons lately and have seen a countless number of owls over the past year that my friend quotes Harry Potter, saying "You're a wizard, Anna." at me all the time now.
That's all beside the point, which is to say thank you, Conor. I love this. I love how it's naturally honest and raw and vulnerable. You give me hope in the human race, dude. . I feel I could philosophize with you on the topic for days! It made my night. I appreciate what soul you have.
You are so damn worthy. I don't know you but I have watched so many videos of yours and Brittany's that I feel excited like I do when I get to see a great friend when I see you post a new video. Compliments are hard for me but I really feel drawn to be totally open with this appreciation I have for your way of life. I watched the video of you and Britt sharing what you appreciate about each other after camping and it was so beautiful- I felt that in a far away humble way, I fell in love with both of your spirits. I shared it with my friend and her smile when I asked what she thought of it was so beautiful too. I hope your life continues to unfold ever beautifully for you! If it's not creepy I'll cuddle/movie watch with you in spirit. Haha. Also, I would love to hear more on your poetry.
Where can I ask you guys anonymous questions? I thought I remember hearing that existed in a recent binge. And I have a weird, funky life that comes with a lot of questions which are on a unique level that may vibe with the wisdom within you two.
Hi Anna, thanks for saying this
@@conorandbrittany Appreciate it!.. and you are welcome.
Red tailed hawk.
Thank you for this.
I have recently lost my partner because of my insane jealousy. I have been taking so much from him and not really giving much. I was so possessive and he just got tired of it. He left and now I realize how him being with others would never have impacted our love in a negative way, and even though I lost him, I finally, for the very first time in my life, have the opportunity to truly work on myself, take care of my self and start a journey of loving myself.
Love how raw and honest and reflective you were here. I’m completely inspired. Thank you. 💓
My girlfriend is polyamory and I’m having a hard time being comfortable with it. I think it’s because of my jealously. It’s a lot like how yours was. Thank you for posting this. I hope I can get better with these tips, because I really love her and want things to work out.
Please don't castrate yourself. Your obviously uncomfortable with polyamory. Stand up for yourself.
No, dude, trust your gut.
Jealousy is not always a bad thing. It is healthy to feel some level of it. It is healthy to be monogamous and polyamory be one of your limits.
This reflection feels like a gift, Conor. Red Tailed Hawk. I am amazed by your journey and your progress and also you have made me realize I still have so much trauma to process.... Thank you for sharing!
Red tailed hawk! Thank you so much for this video Conor. I had to pause a bunch of times (like with most of y'all's videos) because it made me ponder so many things in my own experiences on a deep level. I laughed, I cried, I processed. I've had a bunch of false starts and bad experiences with polyamory in the past, but I'm trying again, and one of the reasons I feel good about it is because of going to therapy and getting in touch with myself and my emotions, and also watching and learning from y'all - which has given me the confidence to become the person (and partner) I want to be. Much love!
Red Tail Hawk.What a powerful place to be! Wow. Thank you for sharing your reflections of healing jealousy. It's been 4 years of being single and I am still learning how to deepen and expand the love within myself for myself so that I may share all of this love with others. I have been observing both your journeys for a couple of years now and I am in awe at your growth. Thank you for your honesty and light! Wholeness.
I see you, Red Tailed Hawk. Thanks for always keeping it real and speaking your truth. You're an inspiration to many.
A radically mature video... thank you so much for sharing your journey!
Listening to your story, I felt a lot of your feelings in myself when I was younger too. I used to deal with a lot of anger and jealousy issues, still do sometimes. I think I just got to this point where I've learned how to deal with it, but the path to get to this point was sure not easy, but I'm happy and proud of myself for getting to this point. I still do have work to do (I think we all are a work in progress), but for right now where I'm at is good compared to where I've been.
Red tail hawk....thank you sooo much Conor for doing this. It's really beneficial to see consciousness in males especially even though my preference is females. I like to see explore and actually see what consciousness and healing looks like in modern relationships.
Also it brings a lot of clarity to me in a healthy way as to what I want a relationship look like for me. Thank you again!
Red tail hawk. I loved this video, Connor. I’ve been following you and Brit for a long time and to see your journey is absolutely amazing. I know your living situations are different now but your connection to each other is SO strong that I know you guys will make it. I too have felt jealousy and I always knew that it came down to me, not the other person. Knowing that gives me so much more power and autonomy over my own feelings, and puts things into perspective. The hard part is recognizing that it’s internal rather than external in the heat of the moment.
Red tailed hawk!! 💕 soooo amazingly helpful! You are so real and open and vulnerable and make me feel like I can do this! God has me in a place of healing, too - and what I am learning is to share my man and encourage him to be HIM - not just ask him to cater to me. This is soooo powerful, but also sometimes soooo difficult (because of my own past trauma). I love watching you and Brittney share, because you demonstrate how to love non-exclusively. And even for those who don’t choose a poly lifestyle, there are always more people to love than just our partner - I think real love is way too huge to keep between yourself and only one person. But this isn’t possible when a person struggles with their own insecurities that lead to jealousy. So thank you, so much, Conor, for sharing this. I will revisit this video often - so encouraging! You are a real person with real problems that you are really showing us how they can be overcome! I really resonated with your “this is your future self talking to you” comment - I know I am destined to share the same type of success in the future. Thanks again, from the bottom of my heart! Love you guys and your demonstration of love 💕❤️🥰
I saw a red tail hawk in my yard today! 🦅 Now I know why it was here. My therapist calls what you talked about here "state-dependent learning." The past emotional feeling state of abandonment, for example, has to actually be recreated and felt again in order for true healing to occur. It is not an easy thing to go through. Yes, it is painful to re-experience those black-hole emotional states. But, through that, comes healing and the peace you speak of. I love your videos Conor. I hope you will do more of them. Thank you so much. 💛
Red Tail Hawk.
I truly appreciate your vulnerability and how you always came from a place of truth within you. Thank you for sharing, and for making us go through the fears forward and grow from there!
Red tailed hawk. Conor, I love you so much and it is always a gift listening to you, raw, looking at the camera and speaking your truth. Thank-you so much. I send you much love!
Red tail hawk. Thank you for sharing so openly with us Conor, I am so grateful to witness you.
Red tail hawk! Ms. Lauda here. Thank you Connor for going through all of that. The beauty is you did it just for you and are now realizing that it was really for all the rest of the world too. Emotions have always been really intense for me and i see alot of myself in you and am going through exactly the feeling to heal.it journey you were talking about. Seeing your health and wellness now makes me believe i could make it there too. You are part of why i am still on this earth and thats not an exaggeration. I was ready to end my life in an abusive relationship and seeing your story almost 3 years ago now made me realize that the kind of love and belonging and confidence and contentment and peace and level of being seen and known and experienced that you have been continually growing towards and obtaining is actually something that is possible on this planet. I honestly didnt even know the world could be that safe and meaningful and full and you showed it could be. Ive been meaning to say and true thank you for quite some time now and thia felt like the perfect video to do so. My partner and I are exploring in a committed way with a new partner at this time and this week and i just realized, that i can be scared and continue to feel residual guilt from abuse over my self love and freedom and ability to express my needs and be seen or i can actually jump in through the fear and grow. Im picking the latter with you Connor. Your an absolutely beautiful amazing and inspiring person and it would mean a great deal to me if our paths were ever to cross
Thank you Lauda. This is so special to read this message from you
Red tail hawk. This message was so beautiful. I love when y'all open up and tell your stories to help others. Y'all truly have beautiful souls
I did see all 30 minutes of your video and I have more than red tail hawk to say. Thank you for sharing, most of all.
Your story resonates with mine. Your video may serve as an inspiration to set down in writing the story of how I grew into relationship anarchy/solo polyamory after, like you, doing lots of emotional labor alone, sobbing, and feeling, and healing.
Your genuine self shines through in this video and it is beautiful. Hope you keep up the good work.
Red tail hawk :) thank you for being with me in my process and loneliness ...
So good to hear people sharing around all if these topics, replay helps me to not feel alone or lost on my journey..
Red-tailed Hawk. Beautiful sharing, as always. Personal growth is a painful process, but so rewarding and inspiring. It's been amazing watching both of you and your journeys these past years. Thank you for sharing your beautiful heart.
I loved this, I found it resonates so much with me, and while I'm not where you are, it gives me hope and encouragement to keep moving forward despite the fear and discomfort (in a safe way of course).
I watched this till the end and it truly inspired me. I am going through some changes right now when it comes to my relationships schemes and seeing that other people were feeling the same things I am experiencing in the present really helps me to think about some things and to heal. Thanks a lot for making those videos
Watching this outside. What a gift to the world, thank you Conor
Also... Redtail hawk!
Red-tailed Hawk: Loved the last 10 minutes. Insights and inspiration came one after another.
Thank you for showing what is possible with open and heart felt communication.
Your eyes and the picture behind... perfect match. Thank you so much for your honesty.
Red tail hawk. This is beautiful. You’re so wise and I feel so fulfilled and enlightened whenever I learn from you. Forever grateful for your words.
Thank you for this Conor! You don't know how relevant this is for me right now, and how strange it feels to hear these words from you. You have a wonderful and caring energy around you -- I hope to meet you soon.
Red tailed hawk. Wow Connor thank you for openly showing your learning and unlearning and healing process. I feel inspired and empowered and encouraged and safe and supported through your message! Thank you! And i felt strongly when you pointed out that KNOWING these possible was of addressing feelings is a lot different from also IMPLEMENTING them. I felt called to action there, by myself. Simply - thank you. And so much love and support right back to you for your continued journey
❤️
Red Tail Hawk.
I absolutely loved this video. To be so in touch with how you are feeling is something I try and practise everyday. Jealously is a massive part of life and you have broken it down and helped me understand it further.
The journey can only start from within ❤
Thank you so much for sharing, Conor. I am inspired by your journey and so appreciate your sharing of this self-reflection! How beautiful.
Red tailed hawk. Awesome and amazing! I love the part where you talk about her capacity to love others is her ability to love you so well.
Red Tail Hawk. Thank you so, so, so much Conor. It really hit me so hard your experience and messege. I feel so greatful for you to be alive, all your journy and that a came across this channel.
Red tail hawk! Connor thanks so much for sharing this video. It's so good to hear this from someone who has been through that intense jealousy, for a long time, and got through it. It gives me hope that I can do this too. Thank you ❤
Really great video. Your topic resonated with me, not just jealousy but the feelings of worthlessness and rejection and how we project that onto other people. The message of being able to heal that is so powerful and great.
Thank you for this video, it was exactly what I needed to help me process some difficult emotions early in my poly journey. I'm the happiest I've been in a long time and I truly feel poly is for me, there's just a lot of growing pains to get through to make it work. Red Tail Hawk.
Red tail Hawk. Thank you for sharing authentically, it feels really special and helpful. I'm really grateful that you and britanny are putting the time and effort to share your insights and experiences. Much Love.
i really love the full circle from "don't look at what is not yours" to the owning of what is MINE to look at + heal through
YES
brought me to tears. thank you for continuing to be a big part of my healing journey, you guys are making such a beautiful impact in people's lives by sharing your journeys
oh.. grateful for your courage and willingness to share what you shared with everyone.. what i have noticed with my journey is that once you realize what is hidden underneath the jealousy it will be much easer to deal with, for example if you realized that you are jealous because whoever is not giving you much attention so you felt unworthy then you will be dealing with your unworthiness and not the external trigger although it is great also to have someone to share with.
love to you all
*red tailed hawk*
Red tail hawk! Just went through a difficult breakup where jealousy plaid a key role in the disintegration of the relationship. I have been watching your videos for a while and this one came at the perfect time. Feeling more hopeful that I can do some serious shadow work, heal my pain, trauma and my jealousy, and one day find a partner (or partners) that will be on the journey of doing the same and support each-other in that. Thank you for symbolizing a light at the end of the tunnel! Sending so much love to you and your beautiful family ♥️
Red tailed hawk!😁 I appreciate so much you putting out this video. Yall navigate relationships with so much love and compassion and understanding. Blessings and love!
Red Tailed Hawk
I am really inspired by your story. Unfortunately I can Identify with your 28 year old self well enough that it makes me uncomfortable but unlike yourself then, I have you now. I really appreciate you opening up to all of us and I hope to do right with this knowledge. You are radiant.
Red tail hawk! Conor thank you so much for this video. I’m just starting out on a non-monogamous relationship and it’s bringing up so much fear for me. This video gave me courage and reminded me why I want to do this. 💛 to you!
It's very refreshing to hear people talking from their heart about their feelings. I've been following you and Brittany for years, and always appreciate your insights. Go Red-tailed hawks!
Red tailed hawks are such powerful, elegant and graceful creatures! And I feel like your words here added such power, elegance and grace to all of my uncomfortable experiences that I (or someone else) has called jealousy. This really did expand my heart about 8 billion times. Thank you so much for putting all this into words.
I love your realness. Thank you for sharing so openly and clearly.
Both of you have been such a HUGE influence on me and my own journey with jealousy! I have learned SO much from the way you share your experiences, and your expression of love within that. I used to feel so skeptical of people who said that they felt love toward moments of compersion rather than jealousy, but I've really spent a significant amount of time reflecting on your videos and your expressions and it's very real here. I appreciate you so much, Conor! I am really proud of you and the growth you've experienced, and furthermore sharing it with us here!
Aw thanks love!
Never seen a red tail hawk but it must be beautiful. Thanks for your words. I am in a brand new relationship after being single for 5years and a lot of fears are coming up, but this was very soothing.
Thank you for your descriptions of your experience.
Red tail hawk. Thank you for sharing. You're such a beautiful being. You encourage and inspire me to work towards being able to emit as much love through my communication with myself, and others.
Thank you for your support. Crying today.
Wow🙏that was super powerful. Exactly the talk I needed right now. I’m right there at the verge of starting to experience this and just needed a bit of encouragement. So much love❤️
PREACH!!!! I'm here shouting YES YES YES CONOR! Around 20 min thats what I've been experiencing this last week and its SO helpfull to hear someone talk about it!♡ Thank you.
Red tailed hawk. First video of your channel I’ve ever, ever, ever come across. And I cannot thank you enough! This was incredibly insightful and inspiring. Much love to you!
Welcome Sanne!
Red tailed hawk. Your so inspirational, and such a genuine beautiful soul. Thank you, truly
Redtail Hawk my brother, thank you so much, I am excited to learn more from you all. This is the first video I've seen of your alls and I needed to hear this so much. Thank you.
Hey Red Tail Hawk here! Just wanted to say thank you so much for this honest conversation about looking inward for jealousy. I'm currently going through this as my wife is feeling the high of her connection she's made recently whereas I have been striking out more often than I would like haha I'm not jealous of the person she's matched with but more jealous of the feeling she's getting from it. I want to feel like that too because we're finally opening ourselves up to new experiences. Yet when I had these opportunities in the past, they were either pushed aside due to being monogamous or sad to admit, not being loyal to her at the time.
We've done a lot of growing together throughout the years and I'm so happy she's feeling what I've been hoping to show her. I just gotta remember it's not a race but a marathon and be supportive for her in this happy connection. I know we're meant to be together and allow each other to make connections whatever form they may take as long as we're able to bring that happiness back into our relationship. Thanks again Connor 🙏
Red-tailed hawk! This gave me a lot of comfort and really helped soothe my anxieties so thankyou so much❤
Dude I love this so much. Its one of my favorite videos of yours!
Also, red tail hawk.
Red-Tailed Hawk: So LOVED this video. You are amazing and I so appreciate what you have offered here. It totally resonates. Thank you Conor!!!!
Red tail hawk ❤️ These videos are such a gift. You and Brittany are both so incredibly inspiring. I can’t imagine anyone walking away from your channel without feeling uplifted and empowered. ❤️
Red Tailed Hawk!! Great share Connor! Thank You... Always been curious about conscious non-monogamy/polyamory/panfidelity, etc ... Jealousy has always been the clincher... Only recently in last 3-4 years have I gone beyond the "ideation" of compression and have at moments had a brief experience of the emotion in a way that is undeniable and unforgettable.. it's almost like remembering what we learned to forget... Learning how to turn off that perpetual brake society taught us to employ, from being locked onto the flywheel of love
Gorgeous video offering for the universe. This resonates with my journey so deeply, and I appreciate you sharing this with us. Red tailed hawk!!
Red-tailed hawk. This was a very inspiring video to watch and listen to. I think it touches down on some of the most fundamental aspects of human existence.. Very cool of you to share your personal journey with such openness and honesty. Thank you for your generosity in doing so.
Red Tail Hawk ❤️ I will be signing up to the program this coming pay day! Thank you so much, I feel supported by you to make the changes I need to make.
Hope you enjoy it love!!
Conor thank you this video, i definitely needed. i am going through a bit jealousy with my partner now and this video listening, was definitely reassuring. So thank you! ❤️✌🏾✨
I would love more videos like this from both of you! So much elaboration, yet so easy to follow your train of thought. You are a gifted communicator. Much love ❤️
Thanks for the feedbak, Em! xoxo
Red tail hawk! This video autoplayed for me after one of your more recent ones, and I'm glad it did because I found this so nourishing to listen to. I've been feeling the tugs of jealousy when anticipating the post-vax world where my partner & I will probably start dating other people again, and I'm getting a lot of cues to look at my jealousy.
"voice of your future self". Nice.
I echo your journey. Details are a little different, but so much of the core work sounds familiar.
I was 25 when I first saw and felt deeply how I'd been rejected in my childhood and early adulthood, and how me not being happy with myself for feeling miserable was continuing that pattern of rejection, and how seeing that, seeing that abandoned part of myself absolutely broke me heart. It was terrifying, going into that pain. It was difficult, allowing myself to feel that pain, to cry, and not to immediately clam up, or start to feel shitty even because I COULDN'T feel it, couldn't get down into it. It took time. A bit at a time. Sometimes a flood, sometimes a trickle. Sometimes a clear memory of a trauma, sometimes something that was beyond words, but which nevertheless covered me like a blanket.
Going through that trauma work with myself was exactly what needed to happen, even though I felt so broken going through that, I ended up finding out how to take care of myself, to be there for myself, to feel something difficult but not to immediately start beating up on myself, but the opposite, to be supportive, validating and nurturing. I'm 52 now and I can honestly say that I am a loving human being, and that loving other people in a secure way is possible because I first learned to love myself.
I'm not saying it's a done deal...every day, the echoes are still there. But you see through your trauma...and seeing through it gives space, time, and options, positive options too. And that in the end, makes a huge difference.
A huge thank you for sharing Conor. I'm sure you know how much this stuff helps, but you have such a wonderful clarity about these things, and you see and explain so clearly the frames inside which these experiences can live and breathe in a way that nourishes us and teaches us. Namaste brother!
Red-tailed hawk ❤️ you had me intrigued in the story the entire time, the 30min flew by and I’m feeling inspired. Thank you
I so greatly appreciate this channel and all the beautiful things you share. This video was exactly what I needed. The way you expressed yourself at 17:45-18:43 had me full on bawling. It is so encouraging to know that what I want is attainable even if right now it feels impossible. Thank you so much for owning your truth so fully and sharing it with the world, and thus, with me. I am so grateful for your beautiful heart and the ways you share it
Red tailed hawk. Your videos have been sooo helpful. Thank you both for being you. Keep up the great work.
Red tail hawk ~ I appreciate you sharing this. My grandmother always said “You must always carry your own purse.” She meant (in a nutshell) to own and take care of yourself first. Once that foundation is there, sharing is easier. And, if something happens your purse holds the “tools” to fix. R. I. P. Dear grandma ❤️. She was a wise lady. Sincerely, Sun Flys West
Red tailed hawk ❤
Thank you! I look forward to being past my jealousy journey. Amazing video ❤
Redtail Hawk. Loved the video. So good to hear your reflections as I've also been going through this process. Thanks Conor ❤🙏
Red tail hawk! Thanks for that Connor, there's a lot here that speaks to me. I plan on revisiting this video at some point down the line of my emotional and personal development. Cheers!
Red tail hawk. RUclips suggested this video to me, so I came to watch it again 3 months later. Your sharing so honestly and fully and eloquently from your heart moves me so much, and helps me with my own inner awareness and struggles. Someday I really hope to do IFS with you and/or Brit, all kinds of coaching really. I am so grateful to have been following along with you all for all these years. I'm so touched and lifted and inspirited but your true, unconditional love for yourselves and each other, and all partners, all the time. Thank you.