As a cisgender woman, I find this so fascinating. I really admire how you're getting this information out there about the trans community. Since subscribing to your channel I've learned so much, and I am so grateful for that. I believe that you giving understanding to such a wide audience will really help to reduce the stigma around transgender men and women. Knowledge is power 💝
The Sunflower Trail. Howdy🤗 Cis woman here as well, and Stef is my RUclips #1! Her intelligence mixed with her personality makes her a perfect person to help "spread the word"! So very happy for her, she was the first person I ever helped with funding, and I now help several folks, for different reasons. So happy Go-Fund-Me even exists. I needed help a few years ago and not a single person helped...I will be darned if I am going to let anyone else I truly believe in, have that feeling! Yup, love this lady, she is such a bright light in a darkening world lately. Glad I ran across her and that she chooses to do RUclips ❣
Ad F she didn't mess up anything her surgery went great and if you watch her other videos she has a syndrome that affects her face and for lack of a better word makes her look like a "pixie" or an "alien" which she says herself. She didn't get a whole bunch of implants or fillers.
I was born a girl and have an adam's apple! I think it has something to do with my thyroid being enlarged and pushing my trachea up. Trust me doll, no one will notice. You look so amazing! I'm so happy that YOU are happy!
You can definitely see the beautiful results and differences after! Your features are definitely softer and feminine :) let's be honest though, you were already gorgeous before so this just enhanced your wonderful features :) i'm glad it turned out how you wanted.
Your skin was peeled down off your skull, your bone was scraped off in multiple places, and people have the AUDACITY to tell you it doesn't look any different. I definitely see a difference and you look fantastic! Glad u feel more like yourself Stef :)
Even though I'm not Transgender, I find Stef's confidence very inspiring to women. When I think of Stef I dont think of a man becoming a woman, all I see and think off is 100% woman.
I agree with all of the positive comments on your physical beauty, but can i just say, that having only recently just discovered you on youtube, i would also like to add that i think you are the most enigmatic, charismatic, captivating and level-headed young woman that i have come across in a very long time. I also happen to think that you are the most remarkable ambassador for the trans community and incredibly informative and inspirational. Only through learning and knowledge will we ever abolish negative stereotypes in our communities, which usually only exist in the first place as a result of fear borne out of ignorance. You my young friend are playing a pivotal part in transgender education and you should be immensely proud of yourself. Maintain your positivity it is so refreshing and makes your shows so very entertaining.
i know you probably get this all the time but you literally look like you could be some sort of fairy princess (especially after your surgery, your features are a lot softer and even sweeter than before)
I am not trans at all, just a 20-year-old guy who loves how strong and confident stef glows. i love her videos and how much she inspires and makes a little sanctuary for the little buns love you queen! :]
I love how the surgery didn't change your beautiful traits! It just enhanced them :) You're such a beautiful person inside and out, and I'm so happy that it doesn't look like you've had surgery! You still look like you, just a more feminine you! Which I suppose is just what you wanted. But please, don't get those cheek implants! You look PERFECT right now
wow its so weird to watch the side by side comparisons because when i watched you pre-surgery, I though you have feminine features, but now after the surgery, your pre-surgery features are visibly more masculine. Its awesome to see the difference!!!
I have to say I haven't seen videos here on RUclips that gives good information like yours very well put together and packed full of information I never likely comment on RUclips but great job in informing people thanks for your uploads
it's rly rly obvious how much more you're comfortable with ur face now. I mean, your makeup is so much less than in your older videos. Your eye-makeup is lighter, your contouring is less... because you're comfortable and satisfied with the way you look and that makes me happy for you ^^
You've looked so much happier and comfortable in yourself since you had your ffs and it makes me so happy to see you happy. You have an amazing family, you're very lucky.
i think the best part of your ffs procedure is you still look like you. (I always thought you looked like a woman even before, but you look absolutely stunning. I'm glad you're happy.)
It's amazing how different your face looks, especially your jaw and chin! I'm so happy it's helped your dysphoria. You definitely look so much happier now and that's so nice to see c:
I literally did not mean to watch the entire video but I was just entranced by your story and it made me feel like I had hope for living a life where I feel comfortable in my own body. Thank you.
I'm a trans woman myself, and the past few days my dysphoria has been hitting me HARD. But as I was watching this I just started crying tears of joy! I am so happy you feel so great about yourself now, you look freaking amazing, and watching your videos gives me so much hope and motivation to keep going because I know things are going to get better, and I'm not going to always feel bad about myself. I love you, Stef. You've been such a wonderful person to watch as I've been transitioning, and my other trans friends love you. Stay strong, and fabulous!
Wow, I was following your videos a few months ago and kind of lost track...last I saw you were scheduling the surgery I think. I honestly didn't think you looked that much different, there was just something about you that was more feminine, but when I see the comparison pictures, wow there truly is a difference. But it is so natural I couldn't tell. I think the dr. Did an incredible job and it seems that it is just you shining through and your personality is reflected on your outward appearance even more now. Congratulations. 🎉
I'm in nursing currently and I just wanted to say that I aspire to be as kind and understanding as your mother was to my future patients as she was towards you. That's one thing I often notice is my fellow nurses forget that we are helping real people that feel pain and need help healing. In short, I just wanted to say I look up to your mother as someone to be. :)
Your patients will love you for that, I've had many surgeries and the nurses that took that tiny bit of time to connect with me and show that they cared made everything feel 100x better. Good luck with work, you're doing an amazing job! :)
Cold Canadian Cat I can tell you a nice nurse is so important for a good recovery ! After my surgery i was lucky enough to be around such sweet nurses. They were amazing and so nice, it made it so much easier. I will be forever grateful for their kindess
I stumbled across your videos when looking at a Discovery channel video on a different syndrome. Your video on Waardenburg syndrome came up and was brilliant. You were cute, funny, charismatic, open, and honest. I loved it! Your part 2 came next and imagine my surprise when you said you were a trans person. I honestly did not have a clue watching the first one. Then I was hooked and had to see the next few. I am incredibly appreciative of you sharing your innermost thoughts, feelings, and vulnerabilities with the entire world, which I am sure can be difficult at times. Thank you for educating me! I can definitely see the transformation and am happy that it is what you wanted. By the way, your mom totally rocks! Looking forward to seeing whatever else you decide to share!
I hope one day I get to experience this. I don't think I've completely come to terms with the fact that I am transgender. Watching people on RUclips for years like you and Gigi and truly inspired me and I hope to come out to my family soon and begin my journey. I know my family is supportive because I came out as gay as a teen and got nothing but love and support. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing your story and being such an inspiration. You are everything I aspire to be.
This is actually the sweetest. There were a couple parts where I was tearing up thinking about how great it would be to feel this way. To feel that victory after 20+ years of being judged, bullied, hurt, etc. It's like having a new chance. A new experience in your own life. I don't even feel that now!
You made me cry, I always watch your videos and I felt bad for not sending money but I am a single mom. The thought that I helped you through being a consistent subscriber really brings me joy
I think I just spent the last 2 hours watching your videos. Somehow I stumbled upon you explaining Waardenburg Syndrome (thank you for teaching me something new. If I saw you walking down the street, I would have thought your unique eyes just made you more beautiful) I just wanted to say thank you for being such a strong and bright icon for others to follow and know that there is nothing "wrong" with them and to love themselves. Im a new(ish) mom and even when I was pregnant I promised my baby boy that I would love him and support him no matter who he was. Its people like you who make me feel confident that no matter who he is and what his gender identity or sexual orientation may be, he will be able to find his way. He will know I will always love him no matter what and having this openness and honesty that you give is a blessing to help us teach our children, as they grow, that love comes in all shapes, sizes, and colors and love is love. And its beautiful.
Thank you! He's my little buddy and I might be the cooler than even dinosaurs now in his eyes, I can only hope that as he grows, I can maintain a trusting relationship with him so he will feel safe coming to me about anything, whether it has to do with him, or someone else that needs help.
the changes are so amazing and so subtle (at least to me??) i never notice the changes until you put videos from before your surgery and in my head it's like you've always looked like this 💖 you look so great breadmom
I can't explain how thankful I am that there's someone like you here to explain things that need explaining but can be difficult to do so. I'm not trans, though I have thought I was before, and your videos are not only entertaining, but enriching and informative to anyone who may need a bit more in depth info on transitioning. I have a friend who is transitioning to female and she's having such a rough time with it, and doesn't have too many people she can trust and confide in. I show her your videos and it helps her relax a bit, helps her get her head straight and focus on her next goal and I don't think many other people/RUclipsrs have the stuff to help her like you have . I can't thank you enough , just for you being you, and I'm so happy you're able to be yourself. Be the best you that you can be, breadmom, I love you all the way ❤
The changes are so subtle yet incredible!!! I honestly feel that insurance should cover these surgeries, especially if you have been diagnosed with dysphoria. I'm just glad you were able to get it done. You're an amazing person. I'm so happy for you. I think it's awesome that the doctor sent flowers to your hotel. It sucks that you didn't get them due to the name mess up. :)
Windy Burns conpleatly agree. But then they won't even help someone like me with something as simple as removing excess skin from loosing almost 200 Lbs. It's angering. Dysmorphia is a huge problem for people and it's debilitating. If it's this bad for someone like me... I can't even imagine how bad it is for someone like Stef... I wish there was something we could do to fix that.
Windy Burns what insurance should cover this though? My good friend got into a car accident and was almost paralyzed but the dr that did her surgery saved her...
I think that this type of surgery COULD save lives. Here's an article that gives some of the stats for gender dysphoria in the trans community. (Note, this article focuses on teens, and I am not suggesting that surgery is right for every case but should at least be considered) www.slate.com/blogs/outward/2016/05/19/gender_dysphoria_is_killing_transgender_teens.html
I really resonated with what you said about having a stronger connection with your family after surgery. I had double incision top surgery three weeks ago, and my mom took care of me for the first five days. My mom isn't fully supportive of my transition, but she tries really hard to be there for me. I know it was really hard for her when I had surgery, but having her take care of me when I was so vulnerable repaired our relationship in ways I don't know how to explain. I think she has a better understanding of me, and I feel a lot more connected to her after that experience. You look absolutely beautiful, Stef! I'm so happy you were able to have this done. You look noticeably happier. Much love ❤
I remember coming across your channel when you first explain waardernburgs syndrome and then I left. I came back about 3 months ago, and I don't regret it. I saw the change you went through and I was captivated by your story. You blew away the social stigma that I saw. You are beautiful and I can't believe how much you changed since I first came across your channel. Slay, Goddess! 💕
I'm so glad to see people like you who are open and talking about all of this and your mother! It makes me so happy that you have a mother who is so supportive.
Ad F she doesn't have an illness dumbass. Maybe your mother should have done something so you didn't end up being the monster you are you intolerant troll.
Ad F masterbating used to be a mental illness, they thought it was self abuse, but you can see science caught up. it will catch up with being Transgender.
My brother is going to undergo a similar procedure, similar in the way that they're going to work on his jaw. I never really understood why he wanted to undergo such a heavy procedure for something 'merely cosmetic'. But thanks to your videos I GET IT. He's not trans so maybe it's a little different, but he experiences a similar feeling of dysphoria and only now do I kind of grasp what he's feeling and why it's so important to him. He looked so relieved when I told him this (I explained gender dysphoria and he was like YES that's what I'm feeling, just without the gender issues). Thank you for teaching me Stef, it's made me a more understanding and supportive person.
i watched all your surgery videos and i have to say your mum made me cry because she was so caring and lovely and your dad too. i wish i had such beautiful parents. my mum basically makes me feel like a piece of shit if i only have a bad grade, imagine what she would do to me if i was lgbt 😐
OMG... BEAUTIFUL, BEAUTIFUL, BEAUTIFUL video! What a family, the process, the journey, the generosity of the crowd funding, etc etc etc. I was in TEARS watching. Great video. I enjoyed the whoooooooo retelling. So detailed. I probably felt all of the emotions, happy, sad, nervousness, THE PAIN, the shock of the swelling, um.... ALL OF IT. Thank you soooooo much. Soooooo happy for you.
regardless of your beliefs, you have to give Stef's mother credit - as a mother, or a parent in general - you just want your child to be happy, loved and comfortable in their skin. . . hell if Stef wanted to be a unicorn i'm sure her mom would be a okay with it ;)
Watching this just warms my heart, your mom is truly so special. There's something so nice about seeing such unconditional love and I'm so happy to see someone happy with themselves. It's amazing that you were able to experience this and find a way to feel more comfortable! You're gorgeous, inside and out 💕
awwwwww Stef, we are SO SO SOOOOOO happy to see that you are doing well, are in a good place and your dysphoria has improved ! Lots of love, -Philip & Shawn
Stef you are so beautiful in every way! I've enjoyed your channel over the past year+💜 I'm a mom to daughters your age and I have been so educated by you which I thank you for your time and great effort doing what you do. I adore you and your parents and happy you have the parents you do. Now even though my daughter told us she was gay whis is not exactly your situation, you have still helped my husband and I become educated on these differences our children can have and whenever they choose to confide in us, having info etc is invaluable so we can avoid being ignorant and hurtful to them, but instead continue to love and support them as they deserve and meet their needs. I recall the only thing that upset me when she spoke to us was her safety, just as your mom said in the video you did in the past couple weeks you three did together. Your parents are wonderful and I hope I am enough support and help and love to guide my daughter for as long as she is so young until she is flying away from the nest even further lol. Okay I've rambled quite enuf now sorry hun, I m just so happy you are happy and my daughter is happy and the beginning difficult adjustment period. Something I explained about my being so emotional with her was, she had had several years knowing this about herself and we have had five minutes lol I hope that makes sense😊 but we are closer than ever being able to be open about things with each other. And the love in our whole family is better than ever and I'm so thankful. So I really wanted to just thank you for the very dynamically beautiful strong wise intelligent young woman you are and sharing yourself with us all!💜thank you to your momma also she is thee sweetest most understanding and loving it's phenomenal😊
Kimberly Tv well thank you so much,now I am crying,lol. This is exactly what Stef hopes to accomplish with her channel.I am so glad that you commented.
This is a wonderful resource! Thank you! It’s bittersweet for me. I know my mom would help me with my transition, but she passed in January. I’m glad she supported me. I hope she’s still supporting me still. I’m crying now. Thank you, Stef! Your mom is wonderful!
I'm a cis female, but am considering FFS due to the effects of acromegaly + low E on my features and facial structure. This type of video is /so/ helpful. ♥️
I've always thought that you were so stunning. I definitely see the difference. Your face just has a softer look. Still stunning as always. I hope you come back to Boston sometime to visit!
Yes I hope she does too. We could all hang out and possibly go to karaoke and have some fun. Stef u are such an amazingly strong and courageous woman. So proud of u
You were stunning before and you're even more stunning now because you glow with happiness! I love how you always give people hope and try to get the best out of everyone. You're the sweetest!
You look absolutely beautiful, I'm getting my HRT soon and I'm so happy. Watching your transition made mine seem exciting and less of a scary process, your like an older sister to me and I'm so grateful to have someone like you to educate and guide me and everyone else going through this ❤️
And I finally understood your dysphoria that meant a lot I am a better person and more understanding even though I worked in a clinic for trans women in London, medical files do not tell you how they feel! You shared that, thank you!
im watching this to calm down because tomorrow morning i have an ultrasound for my breasts to determine what the lump they found was... can i get any good luck wishes im freaking out..
Omg thank you so much also my ex gf its mtf and she absolutely idolizes you we think ur amazing and so beautiful so happy ull have me in ur thoughts i hope its just a cyst
I love your comment about being vulnerable around your family, I'm so happy you have that and that level of trust is there. I'm also super glad that you're so happy with the procedures. The fact you feel so satisfied, comfortable, and content warms my heart.
I've made a similar comment to this on another of your videos, but I feel like it bears repeating. You are very beautiful, physically. But what I just love about you is your sweet, joyful, spirit. Your kindness and humor makes you absolutely glow. I'm so glad this surgery brought you happiness, and I hope and pray your life is full of even more!
Love the fact that you don't look completely different but just more feminine it's weird when people seem like two different persons before and after like kylie jenner, you did it the right way
Stef, you look absolutely stunning. I can't relate to your situation at all, but the way you talk and act... with such poise! It's really evident that this has been an amazing journey for you. Keep on shining, you crazy (amazing) diamond!
Was on the verge of tears seeing the tender interaction of you and your mom while taking off bandages. Then she said "you're so strong," and i was done.
I love you Stef, you're so inspiring. I'm a cis, white, heterosexual girl, so of course, you aren't changing my life that way, but I do struggle with mental illness and poverty. It's just so amazing to see someone like me, who is unhappy with something in their life, craft that life into something so beautiful. You inspire me to keep fighting my own fights everyday. I'm so sorry I missed my chance to help you, but I'll be praying for you and your dreams, I hope I can help that way at least. Again, love you Stef
I've stumbled across your videos here and there. That was over a year ago. You look so different. You also look happier and more comfortable and I am really happy for you! Good luck with the rest of your transition! You are so brave!
First, it is incredible how different your face looks! You look beautiful.That surgeon is amazing. Hi Stef. I'm a bit of a lurker on your channel. I'm not subbed, but I've watched several of your videos. Watching them has been eye-opening for me. Although I am really liberal and have always believed in equality and body-sovereignty for everybody, before i started watching your videos I always had a secret transphobic streak. I knew intellectually that my transphobia was wrong but I could not shake the feeling of unfamiliarity the disconnect in human experience that I felt when I encountered a trans person. A big part of the problem was that I didn't know any trans people. Watching you has really felt like I have gotten to know you and you have helped me to feel emotionally what I knew intellectually. I feel an empathy that i did not before. I'm sorry for my thoughts and I thank you for lifting my blindfold.
mrpandabites It is really amazing that her videos have had an impact on your life in that manner and have given you that ability to connect unlike before. That's truly wonderful :) i'm happy that you have that empathy and human connection on this now.
awww i love how u have this inner glow, this light that shines so bright now. of course you was always beautiful but know you from the inside is shinning through. you lool so happy. love this video
Stef, it was so obvious that it meant the world to your mom to be there for you and be such a huge part of your care. Sure you could have done some more but I think it was a great experience for both of you having watched all the updates. I know my mom loves to be able to care for her kids in whatever way they need as well and would never feel taken advantage of in a situation like this.
this made me SO EMOTIONAL! I am so happy to watch you grow more and more... it really makes me so happy. I have surgery I want to get myself, and you are such an inspiration, as you know. Thank you, thank you! And you're so beautiful. You are.
I really don't think you should get cheek implants, your cheeks are fine as they are now and they stand out a lot when you smile, if you get them done in a future, your cheeks will look fine when you're not smiling but if you smile you'll look really weird, a friend had them done and she actually had to get them removed cause they looked way to big when she smiled, that's what happens when you get cheek implants when you don't need them.
ive been loosly following your transition and i have to say YOU LOOK GREAT! Not just physically... you look happier :) Im so glad you can finally be comfortable in your body.
SO SO happy for you! I am a sis gender woman, but you have really done so much to help me and others understand what transgender people deal with, and I'm grateful for that! But beyond the transgender aspect, you just really are an amazing, beautiful, intelligent person and I love watching your videos! ♡♡♡
I remember watching the vlogs day by day and the relationship between you and your amazing mum is sooo beautiful. You were beautiful before but now you shine from the inside out x
I'm aware that the only opinion that matter is yours, but my mom told me to never hold back on compliments so I'm gonna say it: I think your cheeks are adorable and your cheekbones are ON FLEEK, without cheek implants. Love you! x
Thank you, Stef for sharing your journey with the youtube community. It's been incredible to watch your transformation over just the one year that I have been subscribed. Keep it up girl!
I really appreciate you making this video and showing the comparison. I honestly didn't notice right away because I feel like you look exactly how you should have looked, it seems so natural. You look amazing!
Did u ever consider that the surgery could make u look worse or ruin your face? Ive always wanted to get my nose done but I'm scared of the possibility that it could look terrible so idk if I should or not
Kevin Andrews I agree with everyone else a good doctor makes a world of a difference kalel had recently got hers done and it looks great because the doc knew not to completely change the whole nose
If you decide to do it make sure that you do your research, ask as many people as possible about their experience and remember that swelling doesn't go down for at least a year it takes a while for your skin to become less swollen, to relax down again and become what it's actually going to look like.
It is definitely something to consider. A good doctor is incredibly important, but even if you have the best doctor in the world something could still go wrong. Even something that's not on the doctor's behalf. If having plastic surgery would not significantly improve your quality of life, you probably shouldn't get it done.
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As a cisgender woman, I find this so fascinating. I really admire how you're getting this information out there about the trans community. Since subscribing to your channel I've learned so much, and I am so grateful for that. I believe that you giving understanding to such a wide audience will really help to reduce the stigma around transgender men and women. Knowledge is power 💝
Preach!!
The Sunflower Trail. Howdy🤗 Cis woman here as well, and Stef is my RUclips #1! Her intelligence mixed with her personality makes her a perfect person to help "spread the word"! So very happy for her, she was the first person I ever helped with funding, and I now help several folks, for different reasons. So happy Go-Fund-Me even exists. I needed help a few years ago and not a single person helped...I will be darned if I am going to let anyone else I truly believe in, have that feeling! Yup, love this lady, she is such a bright light in a darkening world lately. Glad I ran across her and that she chooses to do RUclips ❣
The Sunflower Trail This is exactly how I feel but didn't have the words to express it 👍🏻💗😀
I am in the same boat. this has helped me be able to support and give advice to my trans friends looking to further their transition with surgery.
I feel the exact same :)
Your facial reconstruction looks very natural. Your doctor did a beautiful job, very talented. So feminine and pretty.
glogirl7099 Yes! Natural and normal and so pretty! Very happy for her ☺💖
i liked too, because she keep her fairy face, only changed some small things
natural my asss
Holy fuuck you messed youur face up!
Ad F she didn't mess up anything her surgery went great and if you watch her other videos she has a syndrome that affects her face and for lack of a better word makes her look like a "pixie" or an "alien" which she says herself. She didn't get a whole bunch of implants or fillers.
glogirl7099 yeah but she is so beautiful anyway!!
I was born a girl and have an adam's apple! I think it has something to do with my thyroid being enlarged and pushing my trachea up. Trust me doll, no one will notice. You look so amazing! I'm so happy that YOU are happy!
In fact girls also have an adam’s apple it’s just less prominent than the one boys have
Duchess Andromeda same but I’m SO self conscious
Have you been checked for a goiter?
I approve this message 🇺🇸
Duchess Andromeda I was trans luckily I hvnt that huge Adams apple😅
Nothing's quite so beautiful as seeing someone happy in their own skin.
Jesse AAA I SO AGREE! She's sooo happy and that makes me happy :)
You can definitely see the beautiful results and differences after! Your features are definitely softer and feminine :) let's be honest though, you were already gorgeous before so this just enhanced your wonderful features :) i'm glad it turned out how you wanted.
jackie wright yes yes yes
jackie wright Yes!
I agree with you exactly!
Holey shirt. Absolutely stunning results. Stef, you turned into a goddess. So happy 4 U.
You've put into words exactly what I was thinking! Great comment!
Your skin was peeled down off your skull, your bone was scraped off in multiple places, and people have the AUDACITY to tell you it doesn't look any different. I definitely see a difference and you look fantastic! Glad u feel more like yourself Stef :)
Huge difference
Even though I'm not Transgender, I find Stef's confidence very inspiring to women. When I think of Stef I dont think of a man becoming a woman, all I see and think off is 100% woman.
DON'T get cheek implants! Your face shape is so pretty. Implants could make you look artificial. Don't fall into the addiction pit.
I W yesss I totally agree. She looks amazing, cheek implants would look too much on her face
I W seriously she looks perfect! cheek implants would just ruin what she has :-( don't do!
I W , yes. exactly. that would be too much. now it's a perfect shape and size.
I agree with all of the positive comments on your physical beauty, but can i just say, that having only recently just discovered you on youtube, i would also like to add that i think you are the most enigmatic, charismatic, captivating and level-headed young woman that i have come across in a very long time. I also happen to think that you are the most remarkable ambassador for the trans community and incredibly informative and inspirational. Only through learning and knowledge will we ever abolish negative stereotypes in our communities, which usually only exist in the first place as a result of fear borne out of ignorance. You my young friend are playing a pivotal part in transgender education and you should be immensely proud of yourself. Maintain your positivity it is so refreshing and makes your shows so very entertaining.
Seriouslyyyyy... she's way too young and beautiful to go the Kris Jenner route
i know you probably get this all the time but you literally look like you could be some sort of fairy princess (especially after your surgery, your features are a lot softer and even sweeter than before)
Yeah I second that 100%
thats what i was gonna say.
I am not trans at all, just a 20-year-old guy who loves how strong and confident stef glows. i love her videos and how much she inspires and makes a little sanctuary for the little buns love you queen! :]
Fa1ry wtf is wrong with y'all?
Jonah Huapaya LOL
shisui uchiha You're such a sweet person!
yessss she's amazing
same
I love how the surgery didn't change your beautiful traits! It just enhanced them :) You're such a beautiful person inside and out, and I'm so happy that it doesn't look like you've had surgery! You still look like you, just a more feminine you! Which I suppose is just what you wanted. But please, don't get those cheek implants! You look PERFECT right now
"I feel like I belong in this body now." Whoa, now those are some powerful words. I really hope I'll feel the same some day.
I hope you feel a bit more like this 3 years later 💕
@@carstennn holy shit that's so sweet! I do indeed 😊💕
@@avosthyric what about now ? :)
Stef's videos are the only videos that I can sit there for a half hour and just watch. They're so informative! Love you Stef, so happy for you. ❤️
Sarah Bean Same. Only Jenna and Julian's vids come close.
Gah I'm so glad to have such a lovely person representing Trans people in the RUclips community. Thank you!
wow its so weird to watch the side by side comparisons because when i watched you pre-surgery, I though you have feminine features, but now after the surgery, your pre-surgery features are visibly more masculine. Its awesome to see the difference!!!
I have to say I haven't seen videos here on RUclips that gives good information like yours very well put together and packed full of information I never likely comment on RUclips but great job in informing people thanks for your uploads
Stef I've seen you grow over the years and I'm so proud of how you've come into yourself. Love you girl, keep up the positivity and informative videos
awe your mom is such a good mom ❤️❤️ so heart warming to see her taking care of you with so much love. I'm happy for you!! you look extremely happy.
Why was your right eye so swollen???
Amy Pool what? lol
it's rly rly obvious how much more you're comfortable with ur face now. I mean, your makeup is so much less than in your older videos. Your eye-makeup is lighter, your contouring is less... because you're comfortable and satisfied with the way you look and that makes me happy for you ^^
You've looked so much happier and comfortable in yourself since you had your ffs and it makes me so happy to see you happy.
You have an amazing family, you're very lucky.
i think the best part of your ffs procedure is you still look like you. (I always thought you looked like a woman even before, but you look absolutely stunning. I'm glad you're happy.)
Dude your jawline makes you look like some kinda fairy or pixie it's so cute ☺️
Kat Smith very true! so cute and so fitting for her personality ^-^
Indeed, though she's not really a Dude anymore.
Everyone's a dude lol
WebVMan
as a Californian, everything is indeed dude. even objects xD ie: when my car don't start. "dude, what's wrong with you?" lol
I'm a dude, she's a dude, he's a dude, we're all dudes.
It's amazing how different your face looks, especially your jaw and chin! I'm so happy it's helped your dysphoria. You definitely look so much happier now and that's so nice to see c:
I literally did not mean to watch the entire video but I was just entranced by your story and it made me feel like I had hope for living a life where I feel comfortable in my own body. Thank you.
i hope you’re feeling better four years later friend
I'm a trans woman myself, and the past few days my dysphoria has been hitting me HARD. But as I was watching this I just started crying tears of joy! I am so happy you feel so great about yourself now, you look freaking amazing, and watching your videos gives me so much hope and motivation to keep going because I know things are going to get better, and I'm not going to always feel bad about myself. I love you, Stef. You've been such a wonderful person to watch as I've been transitioning, and my other trans friends love you. Stay strong, and fabulous!
HaruMaho88 sending you hugs sweetie
I don't think anything will ever top the "My face can peel off" and her mom's wheezing laugh. gets me every time.
Cas FreeWill lol I do have a wheezy laugh and I haven't smoked in seventeen years
Wow, I was following your videos a few months ago and kind of lost track...last I saw you were scheduling the surgery I think. I honestly didn't think you looked that much different, there was just something about you that was more feminine, but when I see the comparison pictures, wow there truly is a difference. But it is so natural I couldn't tell. I think the dr. Did an incredible job and it seems that it is just you shining through and your personality is reflected on your outward appearance even more now. Congratulations. 🎉
Stef's mom is goals
Mckinlee Watson thanks sweetie
I see Hetalia.
I'm in nursing currently and I just wanted to say that I aspire to be as kind and understanding as your mother was to my future patients as she was towards you. That's one thing I often notice is my fellow nurses forget that we are helping real people that feel pain and need help healing. In short, I just wanted to say I look up to your mother as someone to be. :)
Cold Canadian Cat Wow thank you sweetheart. You are going to be a wonderful nurse because you have compassion!
Your patients will love you for that, I've had many surgeries and the nurses that took that tiny bit of time to connect with me and show that they cared made everything feel 100x better. Good luck with work, you're doing an amazing job! :)
Cold Canadian Cat Nurses are angels. I have so much respect for anyone who dedicates their lives to helping others who are sick or healing.
Cold Canadian Cat I can tell you a nice nurse is so important for a good recovery ! After my surgery i was lucky enough to be around such sweet nurses. They were amazing and so nice, it made it so much easier. I will be forever grateful for their kindess
I stumbled across your videos when looking at a Discovery channel video on a different syndrome. Your video on Waardenburg syndrome came up and was brilliant. You were cute, funny, charismatic, open, and honest. I loved it! Your part 2 came next and imagine my surprise when you said you were a trans person. I honestly did not have a clue watching the first one. Then I was hooked and had to see the next few. I am incredibly appreciative of you sharing your innermost thoughts, feelings, and vulnerabilities with the entire world, which I am sure can be difficult at times. Thank you for educating me! I can definitely see the transformation and am happy that it is what you wanted. By the way, your mom totally rocks! Looking forward to seeing whatever else you decide to share!
I hope one day I get to experience this. I don't think I've completely come to terms with the fact that I am transgender. Watching people on RUclips for years like you and Gigi and truly inspired me and I hope to come out to my family soon and begin my journey. I know my family is supportive because I came out as gay as a teen and got nothing but love and support. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing your story and being such an inspiration. You are everything I aspire to be.
Joe Williamson so sad!!!
Good luck to you with everything you do in the future! We're all rooting for you :)
a supportive family can go so far, as can a good group of friends. breadsquad is here for you! you're gonna go far, kid!
"I'm gonna go before this ends up being literally half an hour"... video is 29:04.
NAILED IT 👌🏻
This is actually the sweetest. There were a couple parts where I was tearing up thinking about how great it would be to feel this way. To feel that victory after 20+ years of being judged, bullied, hurt, etc. It's like having a new chance. A new experience in your own life. I don't even feel that now!
You made me cry, I always watch your videos and I felt bad for not sending money but I am a single mom. The thought that I helped you through being a consistent subscriber really brings me joy
I think I just spent the last 2 hours watching your videos. Somehow I stumbled upon you explaining Waardenburg Syndrome (thank you for teaching me something new. If I saw you walking down the street, I would have thought your unique eyes just made you more beautiful) I just wanted to say thank you for being such a strong and bright icon for others to follow and know that there is nothing "wrong" with them and to love themselves. Im a new(ish) mom and even when I was pregnant I promised my baby boy that I would love him and support him no matter who he was. Its people like you who make me feel confident that no matter who he is and what his gender identity or sexual orientation may be, he will be able to find his way. He will know I will always love him no matter what and having this openness and honesty that you give is a blessing to help us teach our children, as they grow, that love comes in all shapes, sizes, and colors and love is love. And its beautiful.
Amanda Sousa You are a terrific parent!
Thank you! He's my little buddy and I might be the cooler than even dinosaurs now in his eyes, I can only hope that as he grows, I can maintain a trusting relationship with him so he will feel safe coming to me about anything, whether it has to do with him, or someone else that needs help.
Please tell us what you're wearing for eyeshadow and highlighter! You're like a shimmering pixie!
maggiebouchard do you think she reads these comments?
Because I also want to know what eyeshadow and highlighter she's using
the changes are so amazing and so subtle (at least to me??) i never notice the changes until you put videos from before your surgery and in my head it's like you've always looked like this 💖 you look so great breadmom
I can't explain how thankful I am that there's someone like you here to explain things that need explaining but can be difficult to do so. I'm not trans, though I have thought I was before, and your videos are not only entertaining, but enriching and informative to anyone who may need a bit more in depth info on transitioning. I have a friend who is transitioning to female and she's having such a rough time with it, and doesn't have too many people she can trust and confide in. I show her your videos and it helps her relax a bit, helps her get her head straight and focus on her next goal and I don't think many other people/RUclipsrs have the stuff to help her like you have . I can't thank you enough , just for you being you, and I'm so happy you're able to be yourself. Be the best you that you can be, breadmom, I love you all the way ❤
Sierra Jayasinghe give your friend hugs from me please
THIS MADE ME FEEL SO WARM INSIDE im so happy your family is supportive, i died three times watching your mom taking care of you. My heart.
1: ya skin looks gorgeous
2: ya skin looks gorgeous
maggie 13088 I could hear that comment in Stef's voice xD amazing.
The changes are so subtle yet incredible!!! I honestly feel that insurance should cover these surgeries, especially if you have been diagnosed with dysphoria.
I'm just glad you were able to get it done. You're an amazing person. I'm so happy for you.
I think it's awesome that the doctor sent flowers to your hotel. It sucks that you didn't get them due to the name mess up. :)
Windy Burns conpleatly agree. But then they won't even help someone like me with something as simple as removing excess skin from loosing almost 200 Lbs. It's angering. Dysmorphia is a huge problem for people and it's debilitating. If it's this bad for someone like me... I can't even imagine how bad it is for someone like Stef... I wish there was something we could do to fix that.
+dark9raven it's not dysmorphia, it's dysphoria!!
Windy Burns what insurance should cover this though? My good friend got into a car accident and was almost paralyzed but the dr that did her surgery saved her...
I think that this type of surgery COULD save lives. Here's an article that gives some of the stats for gender dysphoria in the trans community. (Note, this article focuses on teens, and I am not suggesting that surgery is right for every case but should at least be considered) www.slate.com/blogs/outward/2016/05/19/gender_dysphoria_is_killing_transgender_teens.html
KpopManiac4Life I'd think medical or health insurance?
you look so much like your mom! you both are gorgeous! she was so caring and supportive. it was amazing to watch you guys! :) I'm so happy for you
I really resonated with what you said about having a stronger connection with your family after surgery. I had double incision top surgery three weeks ago, and my mom took care of me for the first five days. My mom isn't fully supportive of my transition, but she tries really hard to be there for me. I know it was really hard for her when I had surgery, but having her take care of me when I was so vulnerable repaired our relationship in ways I don't know how to explain. I think she has a better understanding of me, and I feel a lot more connected to her after that experience.
You look absolutely beautiful, Stef! I'm so happy you were able to have this done. You look noticeably happier. Much love ❤
I remember coming across your channel when you first explain waardernburgs syndrome and then I left. I came back about 3 months ago, and I don't regret it. I saw the change you went through and I was captivated by your story. You blew away the social stigma that I saw. You are beautiful and I can't believe how much you changed since I first came across your channel. Slay, Goddess! 💕
I'm so glad to see people like you who are open and talking about all of this and your mother! It makes me so happy that you have a mother who is so supportive.
I LOVE YOUR MOM
Elle Bradford Thanks! Sending you hugs,sweetie.
Ad F she doesn't have an illness dumbass. Maybe your mother should have done something so you didn't end up being the monster you are you intolerant troll.
Ad F masterbating used to be a mental illness, they thought it was self abuse, but you can see science caught up. it will catch up with being Transgender.
Elle Bradford
💓💓💓ELLE!!!!!!💓💓💓
Ad F *Her *She *Her *She *Her *Daughter *Her
My brother is going to undergo a similar procedure, similar in the way that they're going to work on his jaw. I never really understood why he wanted to undergo such a heavy procedure for something 'merely cosmetic'. But thanks to your videos I GET IT. He's not trans so maybe it's a little different, but he experiences a similar feeling of dysphoria and only now do I kind of grasp what he's feeling and why it's so important to him. He looked so relieved when I told him this (I explained gender dysphoria and he was like YES that's what I'm feeling, just without the gender issues). Thank you for teaching me Stef, it's made me a more understanding and supportive person.
That's called body dysmorphia, FYI :^) Not the same as gender dysphoria, but very very similar.
Your transition is truly amazing! You are just a beautiful person inside and out. So glad you are happy with yourself.
i watched all your surgery videos and i have to say your mum made me cry because she was so caring and lovely and your dad too. i wish i had such beautiful parents. my mum basically makes me feel like a piece of shit if i only have a bad grade, imagine what she would do to me if i was lgbt 😐
i wanted to say i'm very happy to see you happy 😙
Aycan Dilan Bilget sending you hugs sweetie,stay strong
thank you :)
You are the most delicate pixie
OMG... BEAUTIFUL, BEAUTIFUL, BEAUTIFUL video! What a family, the process, the journey, the generosity of the crowd funding, etc etc etc. I was in TEARS watching. Great video. I enjoyed the whoooooooo retelling. So detailed. I probably felt all of the emotions, happy, sad, nervousness, THE PAIN, the shock of the swelling, um.... ALL OF IT. Thank you soooooo much. Soooooo happy for you.
I'm starting HRT in April. Your journey is so inspiring, I can't wait to begin mine.
cay adams awesome enjoy the journey!
I start tonight!
regardless of your beliefs, you have to give Stef's mother credit - as a mother, or a parent in general - you just want your child to be happy, loved and comfortable in their skin. . .
hell if Stef wanted to be a unicorn i'm sure her mom would be a okay with it ;)
Call Me Witcher Lol I sure would
Watching this just warms my heart, your mom is truly so special. There's something so nice about seeing such unconditional love and I'm so happy to see someone happy with themselves. It's amazing that you were able to experience this and find a way to feel more comfortable! You're gorgeous, inside and out 💕
awwwwww Stef, we are SO SO SOOOOOO happy to see that you are doing well, are in a good place and your dysphoria has improved !
Lots of love,
-Philip & Shawn
Stef you are so beautiful in every way! I've enjoyed your channel over the past year+💜
I'm a mom to daughters your age and I have been so educated by you which I thank you for your time and great effort doing what you do. I adore you and your parents and happy you have the parents you do. Now even though my daughter told us she was gay whis is not exactly your situation, you have still helped my husband and I become educated on these differences our children can have and whenever they choose to confide in us, having info etc is invaluable so we can avoid being ignorant and hurtful to them, but instead continue to love and support them as they deserve and meet their needs.
I recall the only thing that upset me when she spoke to us was her safety, just as your mom said in the video you did in the past couple weeks you three did together. Your parents are wonderful and I hope I am enough support and help and love to guide my daughter for as long as she is so young until she is flying away from the nest even further lol. Okay I've rambled quite enuf now sorry hun, I m just so happy you are happy and my daughter is happy and the beginning difficult adjustment period. Something I explained about my being so emotional with her was, she had had several years knowing this about herself and we have had five minutes lol I hope that makes sense😊 but we are closer than ever being able to be open about things with each other. And the love in our whole family is better than ever and I'm so thankful.
So I really wanted to just thank you for the very dynamically beautiful strong wise intelligent young woman you are and sharing yourself with us all!💜thank you to your momma also she is thee sweetest most understanding and loving it's phenomenal😊
Kimberly Tv well thank you so much,now I am crying,lol. This is exactly what Stef hopes to accomplish with her channel.I am so glad that you commented.
This is a wonderful resource! Thank you!
It’s bittersweet for me. I know my mom would help me with my transition, but she passed in January. I’m glad she supported me. I hope she’s still supporting me still. I’m crying now.
Thank you, Stef! Your mom is wonderful!
I'm a cis female, but am considering FFS due to the effects of acromegaly + low E on my features and facial structure. This type of video is /so/ helpful. ♥️
I've always thought that you were so stunning. I definitely see the difference. Your face just has a softer look. Still stunning as always. I hope you come back to Boston sometime to visit!
MakeupByRae We would love to come back to Boston! The people were all so warm and welcoming. Such a beautiful place!
Yes I hope she does too. We could all hang out and possibly go to karaoke and have some fun. Stef u are such an amazingly strong and courageous woman. So proud of u
You were stunning before and you're even more stunning now because you glow with happiness!
I love how you always give people hope and try to get the best out of everyone. You're the sweetest!
You look absolutely beautiful, I'm getting my HRT soon and I'm so happy. Watching your transition made mine seem exciting and less of a scary process, your like an older sister to me and I'm so grateful to have someone like you to educate and guide me and everyone else going through this ❤️
And I finally understood your dysphoria that meant a lot I am a better person and more understanding even though I worked in a clinic for trans women in London, medical files do not tell you how they feel! You shared that, thank you!
It is touching how happy you are. You are beautiful inside and out.
im watching this to calm down because tomorrow morning i have an ultrasound for my breasts to determine what the lump they found was... can i get any good luck wishes im freaking out..
Caity Stepleton good luck 💓
Omg thank you so much also my ex gf its mtf and she absolutely idolizes you we think ur amazing and so beautiful so happy ull have me in ur thoughts i hope its just a cyst
Caity Stepleton Sending you positive thoughts and hugs
I have an ultrasound today too to see if I have endometriosis
Thinking of you
slylover123 My sister had that and it was treatable,sending positive thoughts and hugs to you!
I love your comment about being vulnerable around your family, I'm so happy you have that and that level of trust is there. I'm also super glad that you're so happy with the procedures. The fact you feel so satisfied, comfortable, and content warms my heart.
I've made a similar comment to this on another of your videos, but I feel like it bears repeating. You are very beautiful, physically. But what I just love about you is your sweet, joyful, spirit. Your kindness and humor makes you absolutely glow. I'm so glad this surgery brought you happiness, and I hope and pray your life is full of even more!
Love the fact that you don't look completely different but just more feminine
it's weird when people seem like two different persons before and after like kylie jenner, you did it the right way
OMG a fairy human 😍😍
Stef, you look absolutely stunning. I can't relate to your situation at all, but the way you talk and act... with such poise! It's really evident that this has been an amazing journey for you. Keep on shining, you crazy (amazing) diamond!
Was on the verge of tears seeing the tender interaction of you and your mom while taking off bandages. Then she said "you're so strong," and i was done.
Elizabeth aww thanks sweetie
+Catherine peloza Fuck off. You're not Stef.
Bee Love Sorry sweetie I am Stef's Mom
I love you Stef, you're so inspiring. I'm a cis, white, heterosexual girl, so of course, you aren't changing my life that way, but I do struggle with mental illness and poverty. It's just so amazing to see someone like me, who is unhappy with something in their life, craft that life into something so beautiful. You inspire me to keep fighting my own fights everyday. I'm so sorry I missed my chance to help you, but I'll be praying for you and your dreams, I hope I can help that way at least. Again, love you Stef
I've stumbled across your videos here and there. That was over a year ago. You look so different. You also look happier and more comfortable and I am really happy for you! Good luck with the rest of your transition! You are so brave!
First, it is incredible how different your face looks! You look beautiful.That surgeon is amazing. Hi Stef. I'm a bit of a lurker on your channel. I'm not subbed, but I've watched several of your videos. Watching them has been eye-opening for me. Although I am really liberal and have always believed in equality and body-sovereignty for everybody, before i started watching your videos I always had a secret transphobic streak. I knew intellectually that my transphobia was wrong but I could not shake the feeling of unfamiliarity the disconnect in human experience that I felt when I encountered a trans person. A big part of the problem was that I didn't know any trans people. Watching you has really felt like I have gotten to know you and you have helped me to feel emotionally what I knew intellectually. I feel an empathy that i did not before. I'm sorry for my thoughts and I thank you for lifting my blindfold.
mrpandabites It is really amazing that her videos have had an impact on your life in that manner and have given you that ability to connect unlike before. That's truly wonderful :) i'm happy that you have that empathy and human connection on this now.
mrpandabites do not apologize. What a wonderful comment to read and how brave of you to put it out there
That's great to hear! You should watch The Danish Girl, it's a great film with message, and also really eye-opening. :)
Will do! :)
You look ethereal!
awww i love how u have this inner glow, this light that shines so bright now. of course you was always beautiful but know you from the inside is shinning through. you lool so happy. love this video
my personal opinion that was not asked for whatsoever is not to get cheek fillers :-)
Your cheeks look natural, I would leave them like they are : )
i love you
ive been transitioning for a year now and its so comforting to be talked through this
You actually legit look like a fairy I love your face...you'll look young forever
Stef, it was so obvious that it meant the world to your mom to be there for you and be such a huge part of your care. Sure you could have done some more but I think it was a great experience for both of you having watched all the updates. I know my mom loves to be able to care for her kids in whatever way they need as well and would never feel taken advantage of in a situation like this.
An S This was such a wonderful bonding time that we shared.
Moms never stop being moms!
this made me SO EMOTIONAL! I am so happy to watch you grow more and more... it really makes me so happy. I have surgery I want to get myself, and you are such an inspiration, as you know. Thank you, thank you! And you're so beautiful. You are.
Girl. Can't stop looking at your makeup. Tutorial pleasee 😘😘😍
Oh no, you made me cry tears of happy. I can feel you're joy through the tubes!
You are one bright happy individual. Enjoy every second of it and help others as much as possible. I'm happy for you
I'm a transguy, but nontheless you inspire me so much
Nate Jacobs Transguys need love, too! Hi!!! :~)
Same for me as well!
Nate Jacobs same here!
You should check out Jeydon Wale's channel! he's a trans guy who just started going through his transition, he's pretty awesome
bird i will, thanks! :)
I really don't think you should get cheek implants, your cheeks are fine as they are now and they stand out a lot when you smile, if you get them done in a future, your cheeks will look fine when you're not smiling but if you smile you'll look really weird, a friend had them done and she actually had to get them removed cause they looked way to big when she smiled, that's what happens when you get cheek implants when you don't need them.
Poké a lot of people get it done and it looks natural. They don't have to be big.
ive been loosly following your transition and i have to say YOU LOOK GREAT! Not just physically... you look happier :) Im so glad you can finally be comfortable in your body.
SO SO happy for you! I am a sis gender woman, but you have really done so much to help me and others understand what transgender people deal with, and I'm grateful for that! But beyond the transgender aspect, you just really are an amazing, beautiful, intelligent person and I love watching your videos! ♡♡♡
Stacey Marie Kimbrell it's actually *cis gendered, just so you know.
Calum Just gender not "gendered".
noted, thank you.
Calum....oh lol thank you! :) I wasn't sure how that was spelled, so I appreciate the info :)
i'm definitely not crying
GAH I'M SO HAPPY FOR YOU I'M SO GLAD YOU'RE HAPPY
I remember watching the vlogs day by day and the relationship between you and your amazing mum is sooo beautiful. You were beautiful before but now you shine from the inside out x
I'm aware that the only opinion that matter is yours, but my mom told me to never hold back on compliments so I'm gonna say it: I think your cheeks are adorable and your cheekbones are ON FLEEK, without cheek implants. Love you! x
Thank you, Stef for sharing your journey with the youtube community. It's been incredible to watch your transformation over just the one year that I have been subscribed. Keep it up girl!
I was about to go to sleep. Guess that's not happening
You're amazing stef I'm so happy you're happy!
I really appreciate you making this video and showing the comparison. I honestly didn't notice right away because I feel like you look exactly how you should have looked, it seems so natural. You look amazing!
Your makeup looks so cute in this video! You are like a cute little star!
Did u ever consider that the surgery could make u look worse or ruin your face? Ive always wanted to get my nose done but I'm scared of the possibility that it could look terrible so idk if I should or not
Kevin Andrews I never considered that because I was very, very careful about what doctor I went to.
Ye that's why it's really important to do research and look at their previous operations before and after, reviews, etc
Kevin Andrews I agree with everyone else a good doctor makes a world of a difference kalel had recently got hers done and it looks great because the doc knew not to completely change the whole nose
If you decide to do it make sure that you do your research, ask as many people as possible about their experience and remember that swelling doesn't go down for at least a year it takes a while for your skin to become less swollen, to relax down again and become what it's actually going to look like.
It is definitely something to consider. A good doctor is incredibly important, but even if you have the best doctor in the world something could still go wrong. Even something that's not on the doctor's behalf. If having plastic surgery would not significantly improve your quality of life, you probably shouldn't get it done.
You have the nicest mom.
Why was this uploaded at 3am??? Love you bread mom!
Because that's when I got it done! There's no schedule like a RUclipsr schedule.
Stef Sanjati It was good timing for me because it was there for me as soon as I woke up because it was 8 am here
Good timing for me, I'm in France :)
oh boy 3am! :D
I have a visual Adams apple and I'm a cis woman (or whatever label you want to put on me) so I don't think you should put so much thought into that.