I saw that comment too, I even think I replied. Even though it wasn’t directed towards me it also hurt me. It reminded me of all the times I was told I was straight or turning straight because I was dating a guy. Or that I was a lesbian for having a crush on a girl and being told that I have to be a lesbian because obviously bi people are fictional creatures. Your response to them is perfect and sums up the feelings of everyone who’s experienced this before I’m sure :) 💖💜💙
i was a biphobic bisexual for so long... I've had feelings for women but I was in denial (I thought I was just curious), and I was skeptical of anyone who claimed that they were bi, because of performative bisexuals (rampant in the media but also attention seekers in general). in clubs I saw too many girls making out with each other just to get a reaction out of other men. it was gross and while I shouldn't have let that develop biphobia in me, from then on I couldn't fully trust anyone who said that they were bi unless they had actually been in a same sex relationship, lol. now I'm finally at peace with who I am, and I am learning to be less doubtful when people tell me what they are.
Such a journey! I’m so glad that you’re at the more peaceful end of it now. But I totally get it. I treated guessing people’s sexuality like a game because I was too afraid to face my own. So this topic is as much for me as anyone else 💜
A younger person told me a couple years ago she was pansexual. The first thought in my mind was that she was just imagining it. I was horrified at this because I was in a relationship with another man for almost 30 years and we were active in the gay rights movement. You'd think I'd know better! Luckily I kept quiet but support her and know that she is quite able to make up her own mind about her sexuality...just like I am able to make up my mind about mine! Great video here, thank you.
Thank you so much for sharing this example. I think we’re all probably guilty of judging others and wanting to label them! No matter how much we know better! It was a great reminder for me to talk about it too. 💜
I flipped between the bi and pan labels for a long time. In the end, I decided that bi worked best for me with the disclaimer that *of course* my bisexuality is trans inclusive (both binary and nonbinary). The distinction and label matters to some people and that's great, but I feel that both are a very accurate way to describe me.
I'm sorry you get comments like that, it can be so hurtful. It does remind me of a friend who kept pushing me on my sexuality when I was a teen, claiming I was supposed to be a lesbian. This was very upsetting, but in hindsight, I can see that she was just trying to protect me from the pain of not realising my sexuality because of compulsory heterosexuality. We were both young and she didn't understand what her comments could do to a person so I can't be angry at her anymore. I wish I would've had your video back then so I knew better why I was feeling so upset about it.
It can be confusing why it’s hurtful, and I do understand why people think they’re helping! Thanks for sharing. It took me a bit of time to realize why I was hurt too.
This is so freaking important!! THANK YOU!! 🙏❤️ For years, I was told that “transgender” doesn’t exist, or that I just “need to find the right guy.” Oh my lord.... It’s sooo important to not let our own egos and insecurities get in the way of what people are telling us. The way we identify as humans have nothing to do with how other people THINK we should identify. Awesome video!! 🙏👏👏👏
Thank you for this Cole!!! I realized too how much I would make assumptions about people before I really knew how it felt. Turns out I was probably projecting. I’m still learning so much, and I appreciate you for being part of that journey. ❤️❤️❤️
@@jennicahill I’m so happy to be with you and likewise, so happy you’re on this journey with me too. I have definitely projected. I have definitely been on the opposite side of my current perspective. I’m very thankful to at we’re here NOW, with open minds and open hearts.
You were talking about you as a child, that's a very vulnerable thing. So those types of comments probably hit even harder when you're opening up like that. Gotta say a lot of us are grateful that you did as it validated more than a few people's own experiences from what I saw. Keep doing what you're doing. :-)
Thank you, friend. This means a lot to me! I wanted to address it, bc I realized I was guilty of the same thing before I really knew what it felt like. And you’re right - it probably felt even more vulnerable talking about childhood than how I feel now. 💜💜
One thing I have been thinking and talking about is when we talk about "I knew since they were a kid that they were/are bi/lesbian/gay" and something someone said, I can't remember who, was that you don't know if someone is bi/lesbian/gay until THEY tell you and I have to remind myself when I even talk to myself.
Not to mention that comphet can also affect bi+ people, not just lesbians! I really liked Verilybitchie's video series about how comphet specifically affects bi women & femmes differently than lesbians.
Hiya jennica i wrote too you recently and thanks for getting back to me 2 appreciate it i forgot to mention that both my wife and i come from church upbringing's as well which my sexuality more difficult too cope with hugs 💕 iam loving your hairstyle fabulous x
I’m sorry that someone would say that, you’re much more capable of identifying yourself (or not) than a stranger and I hope that people can learn that from your video 💛
Hiya mine is involved story of sexuality nude massage ( no sex ) and a wife gone through menopause in her late 40s ( big issues) , iam now 61 and married 34 and struggling crossdressing , transgender, but i believe iam bisexual in short ..hugs 💕
Your awesome and beautiful jennica all bisexuals are valid you are so very valid love you jennica sexuality is such a small part of usii i ate people that deny bisexuality saying it's just a phase why do they have to be so closed minded love you jennica
I've been binging through your videos on bisexuality today and have been loving them. However, I noticed a pattern across a number of videos where you refer to "(wo)men or people who identify as (wo)men." This is redundant and can come across as insulting or dismissive of trans folks since someone who identifies as a man is a man (cis or trans, it doesn't matter). Just wanted to bring that to your attention since I get the sense from your videos that you're very well meaning and I know I would want something like that pointed out if it were me. :-)
Ah that’s very good to know! I actually was saying that to try to be inclusive of trans folks and didn’t know that’s how it comes off! I really appreciate it and would never want to be dismissive of someone’s identity 💜💜💜 appreciate you a lot!
@@jennicahill That's what I figured. :-) Just wanted to bring it to your attention. Life is one big opportunity for learning. Loving your videos. Glad we could help educate each other. 💓💜💙
I saw that comment too, I even think I replied. Even though it wasn’t directed towards me it also hurt me. It reminded me of all the times I was told I was straight or turning straight because I was dating a guy. Or that I was a lesbian for having a crush on a girl and being told that I have to be a lesbian because obviously bi people are fictional creatures. Your response to them is perfect and sums up the feelings of everyone who’s experienced this before I’m sure :) 💖💜💙
Oh thank you so much for this 💜 it means a lot to hear, and I’m sorry the comment hurt you too! We are VALID! 💗💜💙
i was a biphobic bisexual for so long... I've had feelings for women but I was in denial (I thought I was just curious), and I was skeptical of anyone who claimed that they were bi, because of performative bisexuals (rampant in the media but also attention seekers in general). in clubs I saw too many girls making out with each other just to get a reaction out of other men. it was gross and while I shouldn't have let that develop biphobia in me, from then on I couldn't fully trust anyone who said that they were bi unless they had actually been in a same sex relationship, lol. now I'm finally at peace with who I am, and I am learning to be less doubtful when people tell me what they are.
Such a journey! I’m so glad that you’re at the more peaceful end of it now. But I totally get it. I treated guessing people’s sexuality like a game because I was too afraid to face my own. So this topic is as much for me as anyone else 💜
A younger person told me a couple years ago she was pansexual. The first thought in my mind was that she was just imagining it. I was horrified at this because I was in a relationship with another man for almost 30 years and we were active in the gay rights movement. You'd think I'd know better! Luckily I kept quiet but support her and know that she is quite able to make up her own mind about her sexuality...just like I am able to make up my mind about mine! Great video here, thank you.
Thank you so much for sharing this example. I think we’re all probably guilty of judging others and wanting to label them! No matter how much we know better! It was a great reminder for me to talk about it too. 💜
Also, thank you for your work fighting for gay rights!
I flipped between the bi and pan labels for a long time. In the end, I decided that bi worked best for me with the disclaimer that *of course* my bisexuality is trans inclusive (both binary and nonbinary). The distinction and label matters to some people and that's great, but I feel that both are a very accurate way to describe me.
Thanks for sharing that. It’s kind of reassuring to hear because I feel similarly.
I'm sorry you get comments like that, it can be so hurtful. It does remind me of a friend who kept pushing me on my sexuality when I was a teen, claiming I was supposed to be a lesbian. This was very upsetting, but in hindsight, I can see that she was just trying to protect me from the pain of not realising my sexuality because of compulsory heterosexuality. We were both young and she didn't understand what her comments could do to a person so I can't be angry at her anymore. I wish I would've had your video back then so I knew better why I was feeling so upset about it.
It can be confusing why it’s hurtful, and I do understand why people think they’re helping! Thanks for sharing. It took me a bit of time to realize why I was hurt too.
You are awesome. Thank you for being you!
Back at ya!!!
This is so freaking important!!
THANK YOU!! 🙏❤️
For years, I was told that “transgender” doesn’t exist, or that I just “need to find the right guy.” Oh my lord....
It’s sooo important to not let our own egos and insecurities get in the way of what people are telling us.
The way we identify as humans have nothing to do with how other people THINK we should identify.
Awesome video!! 🙏👏👏👏
Thank you for this Cole!!! I realized too how much I would make assumptions about people before I really knew how it felt. Turns out I was probably projecting. I’m still learning so much, and I appreciate you for being part of that journey. ❤️❤️❤️
@@jennicahill I’m so happy to be with you and likewise, so happy you’re on this journey with me too.
I have definitely projected.
I have definitely been on the opposite side of my current perspective.
I’m very thankful to at we’re here NOW, with open minds and open hearts.
@@transspiritindigo27 ❤️❤️❤️ me too 🥲
You were talking about you as a child, that's a very vulnerable thing. So those types of comments probably hit even harder when you're opening up like that. Gotta say a lot of us are grateful that you did as it validated more than a few people's own experiences from what I saw. Keep doing what you're doing. :-)
Thank you, friend. This means a lot to me! I wanted to address it, bc I realized I was guilty of the same thing before I really knew what it felt like. And you’re right - it probably felt even more vulnerable talking about childhood than how I feel now. 💜💜
One thing I have been thinking and talking about is when we talk about "I knew since they were a kid that they were/are bi/lesbian/gay" and something someone said, I can't remember who, was that you don't know if someone is bi/lesbian/gay until THEY tell you and I have to remind myself when I even talk to myself.
Yes!!!! Michelle - somehow RUclips kept this comment from me for a while... not sure how. I love you!
Not to mention that comphet can also affect bi+ people, not just lesbians! I really liked Verilybitchie's video series about how comphet specifically affects bi women & femmes differently than lesbians.
i’ll have to check that out - thank you!
Yes!!👏👏🏳️🌈💚💫
Hiya jennica i wrote too you recently and thanks for getting back to me 2 appreciate it i forgot to mention that both my wife and i come from church upbringing's as well which my sexuality more difficult too cope with hugs 💕 iam loving your hairstyle fabulous x
thank you! you did tell me that and that does add a difficult layer. it’s a lot to unpack!
I’m sorry that someone would say that, you’re much more capable of identifying yourself (or not) than a stranger and I hope that people can learn that from your video 💛
Thank you! I think it's an important topic. I have been guilty of it myself in the past, you know? So I hope it's a good reminder.
Hiya mine is involved story of sexuality nude massage ( no sex ) and a wife gone through menopause in her late 40s ( big issues) , iam now 61 and married 34 and struggling crossdressing , transgender, but i believe iam bisexual in short ..hugs 💕
Your awesome and beautiful jennica all bisexuals are valid you are so very valid love you jennica sexuality is such a small part of usii i ate people that deny bisexuality saying it's just a phase why do they have to be so closed minded love you jennica
Thanks Liam! I agree!
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I understand the warning to not launch an attack was for this lil pitbull and I’m complying but I’m not happy about it.
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I've been binging through your videos on bisexuality today and have been loving them.
However, I noticed a pattern across a number of videos where you refer to "(wo)men or people who identify as (wo)men." This is redundant and can come across as insulting or dismissive of trans folks since someone who identifies as a man is a man (cis or trans, it doesn't matter).
Just wanted to bring that to your attention since I get the sense from your videos that you're very well meaning and I know I would want something like that pointed out if it were me. :-)
Ah that’s very good to know! I actually was saying that to try to be inclusive of trans folks and didn’t know that’s how it comes off! I really appreciate it and would never want to be dismissive of someone’s identity 💜💜💜 appreciate you a lot!
@@jennicahill That's what I figured. :-)
Just wanted to bring it to your attention. Life is one big opportunity for learning. Loving your videos. Glad we could help educate each other. 💓💜💙
@@MelonKnees Absolutely! I really appreciate it.
Do you believe in 12 personality types?
Dude I have no idea 😆💗