Love this. I lost 70 pounds, and my boss expressed concern for me. He said "I know I shouldn't comment, but I wanted to make sure you were okay because you've been losing weight rapidly. Are you okay?" And I almost cried because it was just such a genuine concern. And if people showed concern like that, it would actually mean they cared ❤
I lost almost 100 pounds in 6 months due to be very sick & unable to keep anything down. My hair was falling out, my nails were constantly breaking, & my teeth felt wobbly in my jaw to the point I was scared some would fall out. My boss commented on how good my butt looked now, not to me but to a coworker standing beside me, while we were all on the salesfloor. My boss was a woman & she knew I had been sick. It was ridiculous. I’m glad your boss had actual concern.
I'm happy your boss genuinely cares about you, but you do see how your boss asked you in private, and it wasn't fueled by a comment you made in public that had nothing to do with your health . For most people, these comments have nothing to do with the person's well-being and more about them not liking that your body change wasn't what they would want. There is a strong difference and it's very hard to mix them up.
@@BlueRoseFaery I’ve had similar experiences. I lost 70 pounds in three months due to a serious disease of the enteric nervous system. I was so sick I lost the ability to walk, went blind, was vomiting up bile dozens of times a day, and developed a heart arrhythmia. When I told my doctor I was so sick I was losing a pound a day he said, “most women would kill to lose a pound a day.” I was literally on the brink of death.
No seriously. A year ago I had gained about 30 pounds in a month and a half. Turns out changes is exercise can screw up your bodies metabolism so the hormonal medication I was on for two years caused it. My mom refused to let me go to the doctors because she said it was just my bad eating. Family and friends started treating me differently but only started directly commenting on it after I got off the meds and lost the weight.
@@mary.m._rob They meant that those medications make you gain weight. Edit: Also, even if some meds make you lose weight, that doesn't mean the person is taking them in order to lose weight, it could just be a side effect.
Happened to a friend of mine. She always told her bf “I gained weight for YOU cuz you wanted me on the pill!” Like girl he’s an a$$hole anyway just leave him PLEASE
Omg yes!! I was on ADHD simulant medication and lost a ton of weight, not long after I began birth control and gained all the weight back and more. My GP got worried but it was just because of medication
I didn’t look under weight when I wasn’t healthy. I looked how people expected me to look at my heights to be considered “healthy” i started seeing my husband 4 years ago and i gained comfort weight i was no longer deathly anemic and my body actually got healthy i gained a ton of weight but i felt so much better. I had some family comment on my weight but one of my uncles made the best comment. He said i looked happy finally. That made me feel seen.
I feel u and I am so happy that you have had that happen. It is a life changing moment, and I wish you all the happiness in the world. . I struggled with an ED from 10 to 17. Finally was doing better and then at 22 started struggling bit time again. Then I met my kow husband when I was 25, and I gained about 30 lbs the first year. I went from being a size 2 to a size 8, and MY MOTHER WOULD NOT LEAVE ME ALONE. She was always an almond mom but Jesus christ, she was relentless. Finally, my husband heard her doing it to. E and he called her out, in front of the whole family at Easter dinner. I've never felt so seen and loved. He used to bring me food all the time, would make sure I ate, instead of just living on coffee. Would purposely buy ne clothes a size bigger thsn I was so I didn't stress when I gained some weight. 8 yrs later and he is still an amazing man(my mother is even worse) and you are right, I FEEL SO SEEN.
This happened to me when I was younger I was already struggling with my body image especially my weight and I had overheard my sister telling my mom in the kitchen “yeah she ate a LOT this morning she had a piece of toast hash browns ham and some eggs” keep in mind I had the toast like an hour before everything else and she OFFERED the toast to me and I didn’t even eat that much but I was broken I had spent the rest of the night silently crying I’m still pissed off about that
Hun, if you’re okay with me calling you that (to me it means respect), that is not a lot. That’s normal. Your sister probably is insecure about herself and taking it out on you. I’m sorry it got to your head like that, but you are amazing just as you are. I once heard someone say “if one can hate for no reason, then I can love for no reason” So to end this comment, I love you and take care of yourself please ❤
@@hekategoddessPeople like you are the reason heaven exists, I swear. I've had a very select few people who talk like this in my life, and I'm glad to find another one. Thank you for existing. You're freaking awesome.
I have to agree with the other comment. That's a perfectly normal amount to eat for breakfast. Even if it was just a case of you having more than you usually do it shouldn't be a big issue. Some days we need more calories than others. I would try not to take such comments to heart as it likely came out of insecurity about how much she eats.
That’s literally the bare minimum amount of food people should be eating every meal… and your family sounds very toxic to be discussing your healthy eating habits amongst each other as if something is wrong with that. It seems that the women in your family may be conditioned to believe that they have to restrict their diet a lot for the sake of looking skinny rather than prioritize mental and physical health. You should speak to a counselor or a professional outside of your family who can help offer you a more healthy mindset to look up to.
We should .not be commenting on other people's bodies. That's between them and their doctor. PERIOD* JUST TREAT OTHERS THE WAY YOU WOULD LIKE TO BE TREATED. With kindness.....
^^totally. Also doctors often just put everything on you being overweight. My mom used to be overweight and she would go to he doctor complaining about her ankles being in pain among other things, and so many bs respected well-reputed doctors would just say it's cause of her weight. (keep in mind even if it was because of weight they NEVER mention ways to help lose weight, or refer people to dieticians or anything. They just patronizingly say "don't eat fast food" which is dumb because my mom doesn't eat fast food and a lot of fat people don't either). Well it turned out that she had cysts in her ankles that were eating away at her bones, and she had to go get surgery that, since it was already too late + other shitty moves from the doctors who refused to give her physiotherapy, she's yet to recover from, years later.
Last summer I lost a lot of weight and people were always commenting this in a super positive way. Little they knew I was suffering psychologically, for work issues, and physically, because of health problems. And when I said the truth to some of them, they said: "I wish I had your kind of problems to lose weight like you did!". 🤦🏻♀️ Now I gained again the kilos I lost and even my mum is always underlying this. At first I was sad and disappointed about myself but, you know what? Now I don't care so much anymore. Because I'm healthier and happier than I was last summer, and thinking about what was behind that weight loss... No thanks, I'm good as I am. People really shouldn't judge because you never know other people life and stories.
That's completely wrong that people would cast aside your suffering, invalidating the pain you went through while sick. They should not be wishing such a thing on themselves. Shame on them. I really do hope you're feeling much better now.
When I was in middle school, a classmate of like was gone for a week. When he came back (thinner), my teacher commented on his weight loss. He told her it’s because he was severely ill and in the hospital. She wasn’t the teacher that day, he was the teacher for her. She never made ANY comments to ANYONE like that again, which I’m happy about cuz she doesn’t deserve backlash and the students don’t deserve the comments (I loved this teacher very much, she just didn’t know but she understands now)
I love this so much. I have been overweight or obese most of my life. Until the last couple of years I was not listening to my body. I am dropping weight slowly but I feel great and I am so my more content and comfortable with myself no matter where I’m at.
YES! I have been severely obese my entire life and I just recently found what works for ME to lose weight and feel my best. It is just as okay for people to gain weight as it is to lose! Thanks for being such an encouraging account.😊
Thank you so much for this. I lift heavy weights every day (and do cardio too - gotta keep the heart healthy) so I don't look like the stereotypical slim "gym girl" but let me tell you; I'm POSITIVE that I'm healthy.
When I was skinny I felt pretty bad. Irritable and kind of sad most of the time. Then I started gaining weight, lifting weights and biking to work. I actually feel alive now. So much energy and power. I get comments about gaining weight now and again, but don't care. I know this is better.
Thank you! Yesterday I shared some candy with my Nana from holidays, and I had a few pieces before putting it away, and I was saying I'm not a huge fan of candy which is true, and my pap said, "Good, candy goes straight to the hips." So I just sheepishly replied, "I don't like candy very much." For info, I went from 170 to 160 something, going back to the size I was before middle school, (4 years) and I hate my size and one second I think I look pretty and normal and then I feel fat.
I would say try to eat when you feel hungry and if you do feel uncomfortable with your body try and talk about it to someone you're comfortable with it might just be stress and depression making you feel down about your body so try and talk to someone you trust
i absolutely love her content. the messages she shares have helped me so much in the way i view myself and others. she’s taught me so much and really helped me regain a healthy relationship with food. just subscribed, thank you for your wonderful content
Gained 5 lbs voluntarily recently! I wasn’t underweight but was on the line. I was afraid that if I just got s big flu I would go back being underweight. So I started pushing myself a little bit more to eat. Never to the point of not feeling good but those second plate were a blessing for my health! I am now 100 lbs (very short) and it feels great! I somehow took most of it in my booty, hip and breast which makes me realize how dumb I was in the past for fearing gaining back some of my 40 lbs I had lost!
Tina could also be pregnant and choosing not to share the news. Not everyone gets a round baby bump, and sometimes people will gain weight before a baby bump appears! In any case, weight changes are nobody else's business regardless of the cause and whether or not it's on purpose
@@jacquelynbridgesoh congrats bb! I’m 29 weeks and felt that for the longes time. Don’t forget that your body will naturally get thicker as your body prepares to make milk. You’re not fat. Your body is doing it’s thing mama. 🕺
@@MacnByron thanks for your kind words I really appreciate it. I guess I've just been feeling extra preggers because I'm having twins so I'm bigger than what would be normal for a Singleton pregnancy
I lost 80 lbs when getting an Associate's in Science. I gained 10 lbs last month when I graduated because I now spend half of my week babysitting my niece and nephew. My body ached when I was 130 lbs and now I feel stronger. This is the Auntie body that cooks meals and wrangles kids through playtime. My partner has been really supportive of me and the kids say I give better hugs. I don't always love my body, but this is the first time in my life where I just radiate love.
If the person is not in the room and you don’t have anything nice to say it’s better to just not say anything at all because you never know hat someone’s going through
The way they always say "no I am not judging, I am just concerned for their health!" makes my blood boil. Because they are under the assumption that skinny equals healthy and no matter how much you try to educate them, they will die on the "if-your-bigger-there-is-no-way-you-can-be-healthy" hill
I agree with this. I was really skinny but I always felt sick and was unable to do anything. I would have to nap throughout the day since I had no energy. Too weak to do any activity even standing at work or walking up the stairs made me feel like I was going to pass out. I gained weight and am even a few pounds overweight but I am healthier then I’ve ever been. I can do sports and walk my dog and I have the energy to get through the day.
I love hearing this, I dropped to 140 due to starvation. I was on a medication that wrecked my body making me extremely weak and feel no hunger along with having restrictions on what I can eat from other medical reasons. I have gained 20 pounds back and am eating normally again, still have issues with weakness but i am much healthier than I was
I keep being commented on how I gain weight. I've been on birth control since twelve because my periods are so violent I was bedridden and would've become anorexic. But I have been gaining weight from it for almost a decade. I wasn't an underweight person, I was on the heavier side of normal. I'm now overweight and even with dieting and constant exercise, I'm always gaining. It's my medication. I was made to wait til I was 19 to make decisions about my body and how to tackle this problem. It's because of my struggles I'm heavy, not because I'm being unhealthy. I tried fasting as a kid because I was told I looked pregnant. It should not matter what body type you have, you don't judge someone until it truly becomes a problem. Then you ask them, you talk to them, you try to help them and figure out what's going on. You don't shit talk them.
I remember when Rhianna said she felt her best at 150 lbs, and the media when apeshit because how dare she feel her best at a weight society has deemed unacceptable for women to be at.
I’ve always been underweight and tried to stay that way thinking that it made me more beautiful, but it was affecting my mental health but after a while I realized how bad what I was doing was so I started to stop my eating limitations and I became so much happier with myself❤️
i absolutely love her content, i was on a prescription that had a side effect of appetite surpressant and i was never more than 90lbs(i had to really fight for that 90 too) and everyone always said how good i looked but when i got off of them and gained some weight i got alot of mixed reactions. some people said i looked so healthy and others said i was letting myself go but i honestly never felt better either way
I love how you talk about diet culture and such. Def feel like so many people would benefit from discarding of the toxic diet culture and listening to their bodies
I've met this type quite a few times. Makes a huge deal about how healthy she is, how full she feels and how much energy she has and yet she always was having energy crashes and her stomach never stopped rumbling.
Now that my disease is finally in remission, I gained 10 lbs after being stuck at 120-130 for years. I wasn't underweight before, but I was still less healthy than I am now. I have so much more energy and can actually work out and do sustained cardio and donate blood, things I was never able to do when I was closer to the "ideal body weight". Weight gain can be healthy, even for people who weren't underweight!
I'm currently in a weight loss program through my local medical system and am steadily losing at a rate that feels good for me. But even at my heaviest, I was, overall, considered healthy. Cholesterol, sugar, blood pressure, organs etc were all "normal". My only health issue was "fat". And don't get me wrong, having that much extra weight isn't "healthy" in and of itself, but my body wasn't dying. It was my choice to begin the weight loss for my own personal reasons. So it's important to remember that not every "fat" person is two steps to the grave.
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i really love your channel and i relate to it a lot especially since i struggle with eating enough, my family makes comments about when i’m too big or too small and im glad i’m not the only one with eating problems
Literally feel so seen by this video. I lost 80 lbs due to health issues ( I was overweight before due to other health issues) and everyone just kept commenting on it. Saying “Good job”, “that must make you happy” and shit like that. My own GP said “well, you must be proud” to my face knowing I was sick. Diet culture can be really toxic sometimes
I really wish I had seen thissooner because last week I was put in a similar situation where my grandfather was commenting on my brother's weight and saying he was concerned for his health I didn't know what to do so I just changed the conversation thank you for educating people
I lost 100 pounds due to Ozempic, which I was taking for an insulin issue, and the amount of people who commented on my weight frustrated me. Any time I talk about my weight it’s alway led with “whatever weight you are happiest and healthiest with is your proper weight”
Seriously say this to the toxic influencers at the back. Some people just don’t know how to not judge. Being a bigger weight is ten times more healthier than being dangerously thin.
I def could have an ED if I had worse mental health and your channel helps me keep a semi healthy relationship with food, after starting medication and a huge change in my life I gained weight and I really struggle with body image, thanks for helping keep me fueling my body
My entire family is so toxic and obsessed with weight. I have severe body Dysmorphia because of them AND ballet. I’ve gained 50 pounds since the pandemic, but my medication is literally keeping me alive that caused it. You never know
my aunt is like that and it bothers me so bad because i’m plus size and she always wants to comment on it when she knows damn well i can’t control it due to my pcos
Thank you! This is one of my favorite posts of yours! I love your channel! Say this in an Asian household, insecure people, etc. I hate it when people make body comments like that.
There’s always a limit, there’s a point where you might be concerned (if they’re a friend) I feel like that point should be “has to pay for two seats” but some people might disagree, that’s ok too!
This!! I lost a ton of weight, borderline starving myself and having binging episodes. At my lowest I was like 150 and everyone around me was so proud of me, meanwhile I felt like shit all the time. Recently I’ve let myself eat more food, and when I’m hungry, I don’t count carbs, I just make a meal that has some energy in it (not a handful of peanuts). I have gained about 20 pounds but I’m stable at 170 and it’s the weight my body is comfortable at. I feel happier and don’t get headaches and feel sick all the time. ❤
I started gaining weight after i moved in with my now ex 2 years ago now, and he made comments constantly about how I looked better before i moved in. This is the first time in my life where i haven't been able to see my ribs, and im so happy that im no longer bruising my bones any time i bump into anything.
I’m at my heaviest I’ve ever been right now and have never been a diet person. People used to comment on how fit i looked, but the reality was i was over worked, under paid and yes, under fed. I went to bed so hungry most nights and just thought that’s what was normal. For the last few years I’ve finally had enough food, a consistent sleep schedule and a healthier work environment. I think i also gained a few pounds because my body wants to protect me from endometriosis and fibroids. I’m really glad I found this channel because intuitive eating has been what I’ve learned towards. I don’t want to keep gaining weight because I feel good where I am now, but am dealt by afraid of diet culture.
I grew up relatively thin, and I ate whatever I wanted to. I was around 130 pounds and 5’6” my junior year of college. I developed debilitating anxiety so bad I had no appetite. I ended up losing 15 pounds and was able to see clearly defined ribs poking out. My sister’s friend commented that I looked good. I thought, “thanks, I’m miserable.” Fast foreword 4 years, I had gained back the weight lost in college. I was married and had a one year old daughter. I had been able to lose the pregnancy weight as well, but I PPD and began to take anti-depressants, which can cause weight gain to manage it. I was also breastfeeding, which made me ravenously hungry constantly. I ended up reaching 152 pounds, which isn’t a lot, but it made me feel very self conscious where I hadn’t been before. I went to visit my sisters and that same friend who had commented on my weight when I was stick thin was there. She didn’t say anything, but I saw her looking me up and down, and I know she was thinking that I had gained a lot of weight. It made me feel even more self-conscious and hate my body. I ended up losing a lot of the weight, but the way she looked at me made me feel so ugly and hideous it ruined my confidence for quite a while.
I’m so sorry. You’re not alone. I’ve gained some weight in the last 2-3 years, and while I’m pretty confident and it usually doesn’t bother me, I am more aware of what other people might think/see. It shouldn’t matter,but sometimes it does. I hope you’re happy, and enjoying your little one, and can show her that while we may sometimes not be confident, it’s okay to love our bodies! (And yours Grew a HUMAN! That’s amazing!!) ❤
I used to have horrible GI and stomach issues. There were days it was too painful to eat anything, even water. So i naturally lost weight. But then i got better! And i could eat regularly meaning... I gained weight. Gaining weight meant i was healthier. But I couldn't enjoy it at first because it's been ingrained in our society "weight gain = bad". I freaked and tried so hard to lose weight and couldn't figure out why I couldn't go back to the weight i was before. It was because 135 WAS my matinence weight, it was what i was supposed to weigh to begin with, not barely hanging onto 115 and below. My squishy belly and thighs, and strong legs were all signs I recovered from my medical issues. Now I celebrate and turn any body hate towards myself into spite from toxic beauty standards, the that spite turns into self love. Its recycling
i remember i would hardly eat and exercises everyday. i lost weight but was so tired and could never focus. now i’m eating three meals a day and yeah, when i started to recover i had my binge moments, but now i’m having consistent meals and if i want a snack, i’ll have a snack. like yeah i gained weight, but i’m actually EATING something.
one of my school friends recently gained weight and ngl she looks way happier and healthier than her school self now. but literally everyone around her, her family, friends etc. just won't stop commenting on how she's gotten "fat" and should "take care of herself" which makes me so sad. but honestly, i'm so happy for her.
"I'm not judging you im just concerned for your health" the amount of times I've heard this from my mom as a 20 year old, 5'4, 135 pound woman whenever I go to get a snack
I agree 100% I struggled with weight gain and COVID is actually the reason I got to a comfortable and healthy body weight....and I didn't realize I was hurting myself until sophomore year in college and I developed habits that were helping me be more healthy...food isnt bad and society can stop with the body conformity stuff
I'm 5'5, my thinnest was 140, but I'm very broad in my chest, shoulders, and hips. Looking at old pictures, I looked sick, and I felt it at the time. Everyone said how good I looked, what a good job I did losing weight, etc. I had lost 80 pounds in 2 months because I was anorexic, there were times I didn't eat for 3 days just because. I was so unhealthy. Now I've gained quite a bit of weight because I've damaged my relationship with food. I definitely need to lose some weigh for my health, but what is "over weight/obese" according to BMI charts is actually a healthy weight for me (170-180). A healthy weight isn't just how thin you are. Your healthiest weight is when you are giving your body the right fuel and exercise in a safe amount, not when you don't eat and constantly work out. I can eat pretty crappy at times, but my eating isn't horrific anymore and I'm pretty active now. I would argue that I'm just as healthy as when I was struggling with my ED as I am rn at 220 😅
Medication, change in environment, changes in eating habits, changes in exercise routines, hormone fluctuations, and illnesses, can ALL contribute to weight loss or weight gain, and that is barely scratching the surface of the contributors to weight fluctuation.
I agree we shouldn’t comment on other people’s bodies even if someone looks skinny or bigger. But to say it doesn’t impact your health if you gain weight is not accurate. It does impact you health in a negative way unless you were under weight before. Both things can be true at the same time.
I love this so much cause as a former underweight person people were like omg you’re so skinny! And when I expressed I wanted to gain weight they were like why omg Naur but like I was not healthy and now I’ve gained some weight and I’m so much happier and healthier!
I care about my health, and that means I need to eat more, my entire life I've been underweight, Im 14, 5'7ft, and under 100 lbs. And I want be at a healthy weight that isnt barely above the underweight line.
So we got pregnant two months before our wedding. Didn’t tell my mom immediately to allow for a wedding shower surprise. I gained a little weight from suddenly eating more and not working hour 2 hours a day, 6 days a week (oh the fatigue). My mother starts telling me how I need to watch out or my dress won’t fit (we planned to be pregnant before the wedding so that was handled) and trying to keep me from eating?? So many comments. So much anxiety around my already changing body. Now that she knows she keeps telling me how she weighed 98lbs the entire time she was pregnant with my older sister. 😮
people gaining weight doesnt mean they r eating unhealthy. for all you know, there on bulking season, so that they have enough protein/good fats in there body so that they can gain muscle without over exertion.
im a curvy girl who always had extra meat on me, even as a child. my mom talks like the first lady. obsessed with peoples weight and for a while i would often skip meals because i wanted her validation that i was losing weight. but now as an adult i eat healthy & exercise regularly & i still have cushion for the pushin. im happy with it but i feel like my family thinks i “let myself go” i do everything right i just wasn’t meant to be super thin. and that’s okay!!
:(( i always hear "im just concerned for her" as an excuse for the comments my family make on me. sometimes i dont even know if what im feeling is right because they say im just pitying myself.
Thank you so much for this video... I had an ED for 14 years, but i was only underweight for a short time and i just wanned to have my ED and did feel comfortable being underweight, i was still really skinny... I had to recover and i gained all the weight back, i started my ED hella overweight... i lost half of the weight again, not Intentionally, i was depressed and had phisical issues, i lost my appetite, but it was never about weight loss.. My appetite did come back but people have told me that ive gained weight, i have kidney issues so my whole body was blooded, i wasnt able to take my ring off in the morning and had to see those people after i finally removed my ring.. I was told "you were doing so good, i thought you would lose the rest of the weight too and not start turning into the pig that you were haha" and these people know about my ED and the fact that the weightloss wasnt intentional, that i was in recovery... Im so lost, i don't want to die, but im so fucking stressed out from being observed...
When a girl gains weight she is considered letting herself go but when she loses weight, she needs to eat more. So dear society, MAKE UP YOUR DANG MIND!
for people who are trying to build muscle, they strive to be heavier. muscle can look pretty fatty and it is much denser than fat so gaining more weight is the best in that scenario :) in other words, dont feel bad about gaining weight
The “she got so fat” to “I’m not judging her” turn is always so sharp
😂❤ facts that like WTH!!! 😂❤
Even though she didn’t necessarily say she got so fat that’s kind of what she was implying. I think I’m not gonna make assumptions.!!! 😂❤
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She has to test the waters before she really rips into a mutual friend.
Yeh like please elaborate on what you meant on “letting herself go??” Normally ppl don’t say that as a way to be kind
Love this. I lost 70 pounds, and my boss expressed concern for me. He said "I know I shouldn't comment, but I wanted to make sure you were okay because you've been losing weight rapidly. Are you okay?"
And I almost cried because it was just such a genuine concern. And if people showed concern like that, it would actually mean they cared ❤
I lost almost 100 pounds in 6 months due to be very sick & unable to keep anything down. My hair was falling out, my nails were constantly breaking, & my teeth felt wobbly in my jaw to the point I was scared some would fall out. My boss commented on how good my butt looked now, not to me but to a coworker standing beside me, while we were all on the salesfloor. My boss was a woman & she knew I had been sick. It was ridiculous. I’m glad your boss had actual concern.
I'm happy your boss genuinely cares about you, but you do see how your boss asked you in private, and it wasn't fueled by a comment you made in public that had nothing to do with your health . For most people, these comments have nothing to do with the person's well-being and more about them not liking that your body change wasn't what they would want. There is a strong difference and it's very hard to mix them up.
@@BlueRoseFaery I’ve had similar experiences. I lost 70 pounds in three months due to a serious disease of the enteric nervous system. I was so sick I lost the ability to walk, went blind, was vomiting up bile dozens of times a day, and developed a heart arrhythmia. When I told my doctor I was so sick I was losing a pound a day he said, “most women would kill to lose a pound a day.” I was literally on the brink of death.
@@Abbabcdefghijklmono I hope you are better now!
@@Abbabcdefghijklmono I am so sorry that happened, that sounds awful!
Also medicine, antidepressants, hormone replacement therapy may change your weight without changing your eating habits or amount activity.
No seriously. A year ago I had gained about 30 pounds in a month and a half. Turns out changes is exercise can screw up your bodies metabolism so the hormonal medication I was on for two years caused it.
My mom refused to let me go to the doctors because she said it was just my bad eating. Family and friends started treating me differently but only started directly commenting on it after I got off the meds and lost the weight.
@@mary.m._rob They meant that those medications make you gain weight. Edit: Also, even if some meds make you lose weight, that doesn't mean the person is taking them in order to lose weight, it could just be a side effect.
Happened to a friend of mine.
She always told her bf “I gained weight for YOU cuz you wanted me on the pill!”
Like girl he’s an a$$hole anyway just leave him PLEASE
Was going to say certain meds can make you gain or lose weight.
Omg yes!! I was on ADHD simulant medication and lost a ton of weight, not long after I began birth control and gained all the weight back and more. My GP got worried but it was just because of medication
as someone who’s had anorexia for some time over three years and gained weight since my lowest this really makes me feel better.
Same
girl i’m so proud of you 🥹
As a person named Tina who's recently been struggling with weight.
Thank you for this video
Also a person named Tina and I agree
As someone who isn't named Tina, I can't think of much to say other than I'm happy that you were able to find these videos and that they help you!
I didn’t look under weight when I wasn’t healthy. I looked how people expected me to look at my heights to be considered “healthy” i started seeing my husband 4 years ago and i gained comfort weight i was no longer deathly anemic and my body actually got healthy i gained a ton of weight but i felt so much better. I had some family comment on my weight but one of my uncles made the best comment. He said i looked happy finally. That made me feel seen.
I feel u and I am so happy that you have had that happen. It is a life changing moment, and I wish you all the happiness in the world.
. I struggled with an ED from 10 to 17. Finally was doing better and then at 22 started struggling bit time again. Then I met my kow husband when I was 25, and I gained about 30 lbs the first year. I went from being a size 2 to a size 8, and MY MOTHER WOULD NOT LEAVE ME ALONE. She was always an almond mom but Jesus christ, she was relentless. Finally, my husband heard her doing it to. E and he called her out, in front of the whole family at Easter dinner. I've never felt so seen and loved. He used to bring me food all the time, would make sure I ate, instead of just living on coffee. Would purposely buy ne clothes a size bigger thsn I was so I didn't stress when I gained some weight. 8 yrs later and he is still an amazing man(my mother is even worse) and you are right, I FEEL SO SEEN.
This happened to me when I was younger I was already struggling with my body image especially my weight and I had overheard my sister telling my mom in the kitchen “yeah she ate a LOT this morning she had a piece of toast hash browns ham and some eggs” keep in mind I had the toast like an hour before everything else and she OFFERED the toast to me and I didn’t even eat that much but I was broken I had spent the rest of the night silently crying I’m still pissed off about that
Hun, if you’re okay with me calling you that (to me it means respect), that is not a lot. That’s normal. Your sister probably is insecure about herself and taking it out on you. I’m sorry it got to your head like that, but you are amazing just as you are.
I once heard someone say “if one can hate for no reason, then I can love for no reason”
So to end this comment, I love you and take care of yourself please ❤
@@hekategoddessPeople like you are the reason heaven exists, I swear. I've had a very select few people who talk like this in my life, and I'm glad to find another one. Thank you for existing. You're freaking awesome.
I have to agree with the other comment. That's a perfectly normal amount to eat for breakfast. Even if it was just a case of you having more than you usually do it shouldn't be a big issue. Some days we need more calories than others. I would try not to take such comments to heart as it likely came out of insecurity about how much she eats.
That’s literally the bare minimum amount of food people should be eating every meal… and your family sounds very toxic to be discussing your healthy eating habits amongst each other as if something is wrong with that. It seems that the women in your family may be conditioned to believe that they have to restrict their diet a lot for the sake of looking skinny rather than prioritize mental and physical health. You should speak to a counselor or a professional outside of your family who can help offer you a more healthy mindset to look up to.
That’s a reasonable amount of food for a growing body though???
We should .not be commenting on other people's bodies. That's between them and their doctor.
PERIOD*
JUST TREAT OTHERS THE WAY YOU WOULD LIKE TO BE TREATED. With kindness.....
That’s between them and themselves as long as they’re not unhealthy it’s not even the drs business.
^^totally. Also doctors often just put everything on you being overweight. My mom used to be overweight and she would go to he doctor complaining about her ankles being in pain among other things, and so many bs respected well-reputed doctors would just say it's cause of her weight. (keep in mind even if it was because of weight they NEVER mention ways to help lose weight, or refer people to dieticians or anything. They just patronizingly say "don't eat fast food" which is dumb because my mom doesn't eat fast food and a lot of fat people don't either). Well it turned out that she had cysts in her ankles that were eating away at her bones, and she had to go get surgery that, since it was already too late + other shitty moves from the doctors who refused to give her physiotherapy, she's yet to recover from, years later.
@@Chirp-chirp damn, I hope things get better for you
Yes, but, it is always okay to express concern just make sure to do so in private and tell the person themselves and not anybody else.
@@Chirp-chirp in a lot of cases, pain in weight-bearing joints is because of excess weight. they were right to be concerned about it.
Last summer I lost a lot of weight and people were always commenting this in a super positive way.
Little they knew I was suffering psychologically, for work issues, and physically, because of health problems. And when I said the truth to some of them, they said: "I wish I had your kind of problems to lose weight like you did!". 🤦🏻♀️
Now I gained again the kilos I lost and even my mum is always underlying this. At first I was sad and disappointed about myself but, you know what? Now I don't care so much anymore. Because I'm healthier and happier than I was last summer, and thinking about what was behind that weight loss... No thanks, I'm good as I am.
People really shouldn't judge because you never know other people life and stories.
That's completely wrong that people would cast aside your suffering, invalidating the pain you went through while sick. They should not be wishing such a thing on themselves. Shame on them.
I really do hope you're feeling much better now.
@@audreydoyle5268 yes, I'm feeling a lot better now, thank you 😊. And thank you for your kind words.
When I was in middle school, a classmate of like was gone for a week.
When he came back (thinner), my teacher commented on his weight loss.
He told her it’s because he was severely ill and in the hospital.
She wasn’t the teacher that day, he was the teacher for her. She never made ANY comments to ANYONE like that again, which I’m happy about cuz she doesn’t deserve backlash and the students don’t deserve the comments (I loved this teacher very much, she just didn’t know but she understands now)
"im not judging her" she said judgmentally 😂
It's giving " 'HARRY, DID YOU PUT YOUR NAME IN THE GOBLET OF FIRE?!' Dumbledore asked calmly"
I love this so much. I have been overweight or obese most of my life. Until the last couple of years I was not listening to my body. I am dropping weight slowly but I feel great and I am so my more content and comfortable with myself no matter where I’m at.
YES! I have been severely obese my entire life and I just recently found what works for ME to lose weight and feel my best. It is just as okay for people to gain weight as it is to lose! Thanks for being such an encouraging account.😊
please share what worked for you❤
Concern trolling is the fucking worst.
Thank you so much for this.
I lift heavy weights every day (and do cardio too - gotta keep the heart healthy) so I don't look like the stereotypical slim "gym girl" but let me tell you; I'm POSITIVE that I'm healthy.
When I was skinny I felt pretty bad. Irritable and kind of sad most of the time.
Then I started gaining weight, lifting weights and biking to work.
I actually feel alive now. So much energy and power.
I get comments about gaining weight now and again, but don't care. I know this is better.
Thank you! Yesterday I shared some candy with my Nana from holidays, and I had a few pieces before putting it away, and I was saying I'm not a huge fan of candy which is true, and my pap said, "Good, candy goes straight to the hips." So I just sheepishly replied, "I don't like candy very much." For info, I went from 170 to 160 something, going back to the size I was before middle school, (4 years) and I hate my size and one second I think I look pretty and normal and then I feel fat.
I would say try to eat when you feel hungry and if you do feel uncomfortable with your body try and talk about it to someone you're comfortable with it might just be stress and depression making you feel down about your body so try and talk to someone you trust
i absolutely love her content. the messages she shares have helped me so much in the way i view myself and others. she’s taught me so much and really helped me regain a healthy relationship with food. just subscribed, thank you for your wonderful content
It’s actually amazing how she manages to portray a character archetype so well you actually want to punch that character through the screen
Gained 5 lbs voluntarily recently! I wasn’t underweight but was on the line. I was afraid that if I just got s big flu I would go back being underweight. So I started pushing myself a little bit more to eat. Never to the point of not feeling good but those second plate were a blessing for my health! I am now 100 lbs (very short) and it feels great! I somehow took most of it in my booty, hip and breast which makes me realize how dumb I was in the past for fearing gaining back some of my 40 lbs I had lost!
Tina could also be pregnant and choosing not to share the news. Not everyone gets a round baby bump, and sometimes people will gain weight before a baby bump appears! In any case, weight changes are nobody else's business regardless of the cause and whether or not it's on purpose
I'm 14 weeks pregnant and I feel this right now... My bump is definitely not a cute round bump and I feel fat more than I feel pregnant
@@jacquelynbridgesoh congrats bb! I’m 29 weeks and felt that for the longes time. Don’t forget that your body will naturally get thicker as your body prepares to make milk. You’re not fat. Your body is doing it’s thing mama. 🕺
@@MacnByron thanks for your kind words I really appreciate it. I guess I've just been feeling extra preggers because I'm having twins so I'm bigger than what would be normal for a Singleton pregnancy
@@jacquelynbridges Best of luck to you and your little ones.
I lost 80 lbs when getting an Associate's in Science. I gained 10 lbs last month when I graduated because I now spend half of my week babysitting my niece and nephew. My body ached when I was 130 lbs and now I feel stronger. This is the Auntie body that cooks meals and wrangles kids through playtime. My partner has been really supportive of me and the kids say I give better hugs. I don't always love my body, but this is the first time in my life where I just radiate love.
If the person is not in the room and you don’t have anything nice to say it’s better to just not say anything at all because you never know hat someone’s going through
The way they always say "no I am not judging, I am just concerned for their health!" makes my blood boil. Because they are under the assumption that skinny equals healthy and no matter how much you try to educate them, they will die on the "if-your-bigger-there-is-no-way-you-can-be-healthy" hill
I agree with this. I was really skinny but I always felt sick and was unable to do anything. I would have to nap throughout the day since I had no energy. Too weak to do any activity even standing at work or walking up the stairs made me feel like I was going to pass out. I gained weight and am even a few pounds overweight but I am healthier then I’ve ever been. I can do sports and walk my dog and I have the energy to get through the day.
I love hearing this, I dropped to 140 due to starvation. I was on a medication that wrecked my body making me extremely weak and feel no hunger along with having restrictions on what I can eat from other medical reasons. I have gained 20 pounds back and am eating normally again, still have issues with weakness but i am much healthier than I was
You are incredibly talented at making the most slapable characters
Lol😂😂😂
I needed to hear this so badly. Thank u❤
God bless you for promoting HEALTH!
I keep being commented on how I gain weight. I've been on birth control since twelve because my periods are so violent I was bedridden and would've become anorexic. But I have been gaining weight from it for almost a decade. I wasn't an underweight person, I was on the heavier side of normal. I'm now overweight and even with dieting and constant exercise, I'm always gaining. It's my medication. I was made to wait til I was 19 to make decisions about my body and how to tackle this problem. It's because of my struggles I'm heavy, not because I'm being unhealthy. I tried fasting as a kid because I was told I looked pregnant. It should not matter what body type you have, you don't judge someone until it truly becomes a problem. Then you ask them, you talk to them, you try to help them and figure out what's going on. You don't shit talk them.
Not the chomping on a head of lettuce 😂😂😂
I remember when Rhianna said she felt her best at 150 lbs, and the media when apeshit because how dare she feel her best at a weight society has deemed unacceptable for women to be at.
Could you share the link to the vid or article? :)
I’ve always been underweight and tried to stay that way thinking that it made me more beautiful, but it was affecting my mental health but after a while I realized how bad what I was doing was so I started to stop my eating limitations and I became so much happier with myself❤️
you make me feel so much more confortable in my body and i am starting to stop bothering on what other people think about me thank you❤
i absolutely love her content, i was on a prescription that had a side effect of appetite surpressant and i was never more than 90lbs(i had to really fight for that 90 too) and everyone always said how good i looked but when i got off of them and gained some weight i got alot of mixed reactions. some people said i looked so healthy and others said i was letting myself go but i honestly never felt better either way
I love how you talk about diet culture and such. Def feel like so many people would benefit from discarding of the toxic diet culture and listening to their bodies
I've met this type quite a few times. Makes a huge deal about how healthy she is, how full she feels and how much energy she has and yet she always was having energy crashes and her stomach never stopped rumbling.
i love these kind of people on social media
You make my relationship with food so much more comfortable ❤
I love her! She makes me feel so much better about myself!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I love the awareness you bring to all body situations. Even people gaining weight can be healthy. It's not always about losing weight.
Now that my disease is finally in remission, I gained 10 lbs after being stuck at 120-130 for years. I wasn't underweight before, but I was still less healthy than I am now. I have so much more energy and can actually work out and do sustained cardio and donate blood, things I was never able to do when I was closer to the "ideal body weight". Weight gain can be healthy, even for people who weren't underweight!
your videos have genuienly helped me so much, thank you
Woww it's uncanny how many of these videos sound like my mom. This is so healing and knowing what's right!
That face after she said “Tina wasn’t ” was the same face I pulled lol
I'm 5'2 and 130 lbs. I was so skinny and so frail a couple years ago, I got excited when I reached 97 lbs. I'm stronger, happier, and healthier now.
THANK YOU. I’m overweight like very overweight but actually am very healthy, and I have the medical and blood tests results to prove that!
I'm currently in a weight loss program through my local medical system and am steadily losing at a rate that feels good for me. But even at my heaviest, I was, overall, considered healthy. Cholesterol, sugar, blood pressure, organs etc were all "normal". My only health issue was "fat". And don't get me wrong, having that much extra weight isn't "healthy" in and of itself, but my body wasn't dying. It was my choice to begin the weight loss for my own personal reasons. So it's important to remember that not every "fat" person is two steps to the grave.
❤ I watch these to help me when I’m feeling like relapsing again. Just got out of my honeymoon stage
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i really love your channel and i relate to it a lot especially since i struggle with eating enough, my family makes comments about when i’m too big or too small and im glad i’m not the only one with eating problems
Literally feel so seen by this video. I lost 80 lbs due to health issues ( I was overweight before due to other health issues) and everyone just kept commenting on it. Saying “Good job”, “that must make you happy” and shit like that. My own GP said “well, you must be proud” to my face knowing I was sick. Diet culture can be really toxic sometimes
Your videos are so needed
I really wish I had seen thissooner because last week I was put in a similar situation where my grandfather was commenting on my brother's weight and saying he was concerned for his health
I didn't know what to do so I just changed the conversation
thank you for educating people
Yes! It happens all the time, especially from adults or elders. It's difficult to snap back at them without causing conflict.
I lost 100 pounds due to Ozempic, which I was taking for an insulin issue, and the amount of people who commented on my weight frustrated me. Any time I talk about my weight it’s alway led with “whatever weight you are happiest and healthiest with is your proper weight”
What is that carrot dip it looks rlly good
Seriously say this to the toxic influencers at the back. Some people just don’t know how to not judge. Being a bigger weight is ten times more healthier than being dangerously thin.
I def could have an ED if I had worse mental health and your channel helps me keep a semi healthy relationship with food, after starting medication and a huge change in my life I gained weight and I really struggle with body image, thanks for helping keep me fueling my body
My entire family is so toxic and obsessed with weight. I have severe body Dysmorphia because of them AND ballet. I’ve gained 50 pounds since the pandemic, but my medication is literally keeping me alive that caused it. You never know
my aunt is like that and it bothers me so bad because i’m plus size and she always wants to comment on it when she knows damn well i can’t control it due to my pcos
If it’s like 10 pounds, no biggie. If it’s like 30-50 there may be a problem. (All depending on where you’re starting ofc)
At 30-50 pounds weight gain, no one needs to be told they have gained weight. Unless they bring up wanting help, mind your own business
Doesn’t mean you can’t be there as a friend and asking if they are ok, but please don’t pile on by starting with or bringing up weight.
Thank you! This is one of my favorite posts of yours! I love your channel! Say this in an Asian household, insecure people, etc. I hate it when people make body comments like that.
There’s always a limit, there’s a point where you might be concerned (if they’re a friend)
I feel like that point should be “has to pay for two seats” but some people might disagree, that’s ok too!
Luv this also , it just makes total sense thanks for ur pure honesty much luv
Thank you! I got sober and gained weight. But am infact healther than i was on druga
This!! I lost a ton of weight, borderline starving myself and having binging episodes. At my lowest I was like 150 and everyone around me was so proud of me, meanwhile I felt like shit all the time. Recently I’ve let myself eat more food, and when I’m hungry, I don’t count carbs, I just make a meal that has some energy in it (not a handful of peanuts). I have gained about 20 pounds but I’m stable at 170 and it’s the weight my body is comfortable at. I feel happier and don’t get headaches and feel sick all the time. ❤
I'm glad you are finding your way to food freedom and feeling good in your body!! Way to go, you rock!❤
Love the messages that you share in your videos
This is so healing for me
I started gaining weight after i moved in with my now ex 2 years ago now, and he made comments constantly about how I looked better before i moved in. This is the first time in my life where i haven't been able to see my ribs, and im so happy that im no longer bruising my bones any time i bump into anything.
The fact that people judge the health of an ENTIRE BODY based on the outside is INSANE to me
I’m at my heaviest I’ve ever been right now and have never been a diet person. People used to comment on how fit i looked, but the reality was i was over worked, under paid and yes, under fed. I went to bed so hungry most nights and just thought that’s what was normal.
For the last few years I’ve finally had enough food, a consistent sleep schedule and a healthier work environment.
I think i also gained a few pounds because my body wants to protect me from endometriosis and fibroids. I’m really glad I found this channel because intuitive eating has been what I’ve learned towards. I don’t want to keep gaining weight because I feel good where I am now, but am dealt by afraid of diet culture.
I think weight equals health if you are neither skinny nor fat that's the best thing you can do to your body
We need more people like her the one who is better
I grew up relatively thin, and I ate whatever I wanted to. I was around 130 pounds and 5’6” my junior year of college. I developed debilitating anxiety so bad I had no appetite. I ended up losing 15 pounds and was able to see clearly defined ribs poking out. My sister’s friend commented that I looked good. I thought, “thanks, I’m miserable.”
Fast foreword 4 years, I had gained back the weight lost in college. I was married and had a one year old daughter. I had been able to lose the pregnancy weight as well, but I PPD and began to take anti-depressants, which can cause weight gain to manage it. I was also breastfeeding, which made me ravenously hungry constantly. I ended up reaching 152 pounds, which isn’t a lot, but it made me feel very self conscious where I hadn’t been before.
I went to visit my sisters and that same friend who had commented on my weight when I was stick thin was there.
She didn’t say anything, but I saw her looking me up and down, and I know she was thinking that I had gained a lot of weight.
It made me feel even more self-conscious and hate my body. I ended up losing a lot of the weight, but the way she looked at me made me feel so ugly and hideous it ruined my confidence for quite a while.
I’m so sorry. You’re not alone. I’ve gained some weight in the last 2-3 years, and while I’m pretty confident and it usually doesn’t bother me, I am more aware of what other people might think/see. It shouldn’t matter,but sometimes it does. I hope you’re happy, and enjoying your little one, and can show her that while we may sometimes not be confident, it’s okay to love our bodies! (And yours Grew a HUMAN! That’s amazing!!) ❤
@@jenel4282 Thank you!!! ❤️❤️❤️
I love you so much. Thank you
The most interesting this is people make comments about people’s weight and say “I’m worried about their health”, but they literally aren’t.
the "doesnt she think about her health?" while eating a single leave of lettuce is so funny to me JSJDJDJDJSJ
Letting yourself go, is not the same as letting yourself grow 🌻
I used to have horrible GI and stomach issues. There were days it was too painful to eat anything, even water. So i naturally lost weight. But then i got better! And i could eat regularly meaning... I gained weight. Gaining weight meant i was healthier. But I couldn't enjoy it at first because it's been ingrained in our society "weight gain = bad". I freaked and tried so hard to lose weight and couldn't figure out why I couldn't go back to the weight i was before. It was because 135 WAS my matinence weight, it was what i was supposed to weigh to begin with, not barely hanging onto 115 and below. My squishy belly and thighs, and strong legs were all signs I recovered from my medical issues. Now I celebrate and turn any body hate towards myself into spite from toxic beauty standards, the that spite turns into self love. Its recycling
i remember i would hardly eat and exercises everyday. i lost weight but was so tired and could never focus. now i’m eating three meals a day and yeah, when i started to recover i had my binge moments, but now i’m having consistent meals and if i want a snack, i’ll have a snack. like yeah i gained weight, but i’m actually EATING something.
one of my school friends recently gained weight and ngl she looks way happier and healthier than her school self now. but literally everyone around her, her family, friends etc. just won't stop commenting on how she's gotten "fat" and should "take care of herself" which makes me so sad. but honestly, i'm so happy for her.
"I'm not judging you im just concerned for your health" the amount of times I've heard this from my mom as a 20 year old, 5'4, 135 pound woman whenever I go to get a snack
I agree 100% I struggled with weight gain and COVID is actually the reason I got to a comfortable and healthy body weight....and I didn't realize I was hurting myself until sophomore year in college and I developed habits that were helping me be more healthy...food isnt bad and society can stop with the body conformity stuff
I'm 5'5, my thinnest was 140, but I'm very broad in my chest, shoulders, and hips. Looking at old pictures, I looked sick, and I felt it at the time. Everyone said how good I looked, what a good job I did losing weight, etc. I had lost 80 pounds in 2 months because I was anorexic, there were times I didn't eat for 3 days just because. I was so unhealthy. Now I've gained quite a bit of weight because I've damaged my relationship with food. I definitely need to lose some weigh for my health, but what is "over weight/obese" according to BMI charts is actually a healthy weight for me (170-180). A healthy weight isn't just how thin you are. Your healthiest weight is when you are giving your body the right fuel and exercise in a safe amount, not when you don't eat and constantly work out. I can eat pretty crappy at times, but my eating isn't horrific anymore and I'm pretty active now. I would argue that I'm just as healthy as when I was struggling with my ED as I am rn at 220 😅
Medication, change in environment, changes in eating habits, changes in exercise routines, hormone fluctuations, and illnesses, can ALL contribute to weight loss or weight gain, and that is barely scratching the surface of the contributors to weight fluctuation.
I agree we shouldn’t comment on other people’s bodies even if someone looks skinny or bigger. But to say it doesn’t impact your health if you gain weight is not accurate. It does impact you health in a negative way unless you were under weight before. Both things can be true at the same time.
I love this so much cause as a former underweight person people were like omg you’re so skinny! And when I expressed I wanted to gain weight they were like why omg Naur but like I was not healthy and now I’ve gained some weight and I’m so much happier and healthier!
I care about my health, and that means I need to eat more, my entire life I've been underweight, Im 14, 5'7ft, and under 100 lbs. And I want be at a healthy weight that isnt barely above the underweight line.
Whenever I’m watching your videos I always get myself some pretzels and hummus ❤
such a yummy snack!
My friend gained weight I'm so proud she was saviarly under weight I so happy 😢😊
Random thing, I really love romaine lettuce. I don't get to have it very often, but I treasure the times I do. Very satisfying texture-wise.
So we got pregnant two months before our wedding. Didn’t tell my mom immediately to allow for a wedding shower surprise. I gained a little weight from suddenly eating more and not working hour 2 hours a day, 6 days a week (oh the fatigue). My mother starts telling me how I need to watch out or my dress won’t fit (we planned to be pregnant before the wedding so that was handled) and trying to keep me from eating?? So many comments. So much anxiety around my already changing body.
Now that she knows she keeps telling me how she weighed 98lbs the entire time she was pregnant with my older sister. 😮
people gaining weight doesnt mean they r eating unhealthy. for all you know, there on bulking season, so that they have enough protein/good fats in there body so that they can gain muscle without over exertion.
thank you for all your videos❤
im a curvy girl who always had extra meat on me, even as a child. my mom talks like the first lady. obsessed with peoples weight and for a while i would often skip meals because i wanted her validation that i was losing weight. but now as an adult i eat healthy & exercise regularly & i still have cushion for the pushin. im happy with it but i feel like my family thinks i “let myself go” i do everything right i just wasn’t meant to be super thin. and that’s okay!!
doing the lord's work out here colleen thank you
:(( i always hear "im just concerned for her" as an excuse for the comments my family make on me. sometimes i dont even know if what im feeling is right because they say im just pitying myself.
Thank you so much for this video... I had an ED for 14 years, but i was only underweight for a short time and i just wanned to have my ED and did feel comfortable being underweight, i was still really skinny... I had to recover and i gained all the weight back, i started my ED hella overweight... i lost half of the weight again, not Intentionally, i was depressed and had phisical issues, i lost my appetite, but it was never about weight loss.. My appetite did come back but people have told me that ive gained weight, i have kidney issues so my whole body was blooded, i wasnt able to take my ring off in the morning and had to see those people after i finally removed my ring.. I was told "you were doing so good, i thought you would lose the rest of the weight too and not start turning into the pig that you were haha" and these people know about my ED and the fact that the weightloss wasnt intentional, that i was in recovery... Im so lost, i don't want to die, but im so fucking stressed out from being observed...
I really needed that ❤
Just had a nurse at my doctors appointment comment on my weight loss and how good I look NOW. Diet culture is so persistent!
When a girl gains weight she is considered letting herself go but when she loses weight, she needs to eat more.
So dear society, MAKE UP YOUR DANG MIND!
for people who are trying to build muscle, they strive to be heavier. muscle can look pretty fatty and it is much denser than fat so gaining more weight is the best in that scenario :)
in other words, dont feel bad about gaining weight