an act of service ive seen my dad does that i will NEVER forget, it just made me realize my standards are high for a good reason but basically: we were on a golf cart cruising around my cottage area, it was a hot sunny day in the summer. My dad is driving, my mom in the passenger seat. my mom asks my dad to stop bc we were dropping off something to a friends cottage and while she leaves to go drop the package off my dad scoots over and sits in her seat, when she gets back he goes back to his. I asked him why and he said because the sun was shining and was gonna make her seat hot, i sat on it so it stays cool for when she gets back. LIKE WHAT, that was the sweetest and most thoughtful thing ive ever seen. will never settle for less.
An active service that I will always remember is I told my roommate (best friend now) that I had never received flowers from someone and that I’ve always bought them for myself and the next day I came home from practice she was standing at the door with a vase and flowers
i did smth similar for my best friend! she told me she never received flowers in her life so i wrote that down on my notes and on her birthday i got her a personalised bouquet :)
an act of service i’ll never forget: before i studied abroad in italy, i was telling one of my best friends how i was really nervous to be by myself in another country and i had no idea what i was going to do and how i can make my trip worthwhile, and she created an entire document of all the places in italy i can go to. she researched things like specific restaurants, beaches, and activities for each major city and sent it to me only a few days after me telling her about my anxiety surrounding studying abroad
an act of service that happened to me a couple months ago was when I was with my best friend and I got super nauseous on my birthday during a car ride to an airplane tour and i forgot my nausea medication… one week later i go into my best friend’s car and she goes into her middle console and casually pulls out nausea medication for me to take preventatively- turns out the day after my birthday, she bought nausea meds and kept it in HER car in case I ever needed it again (‘: when I tell you I felt so seen. That quote “everything I know about love, I’ve learned through my long-term friendships with women” always rings true.
on acts of service: so for me personally, acts of service is not my favourite way to RECEIVE love but it is my favourite way to SHOW love. for example, when my best friend used to work overnight shifts i would set an alarm at 6am every day (when her shift ended) and i would walk to her work with tea and croissants so she could have breakfast every day and wouldn't have to walk home alone. every time i've lived with a roommate i would take extra time to wash their dishes as well as mine, so they wouldn't have to worry about it. now that it's cold outside i always bring extra gloves or scarves with me so when i'm out with my friends i can keep them from getting cold. :) i think love is just paying attention and the best way to be a good family member or friend or partner is showing them that when they're around you they will always be taken care of.
Girl when I tell you, your vlogmas is actually so deep to me, like it sounds sooo stupid to anyone else but to me, getting to watch your videos every single day is such a priveledge!! I remember back at the start of 2021 when I was a silly little 14 year old, I didn't want to get up in the morning but knowing I had saved a Steph Bohrer video to watch as I ate my breakfast got me out of bed. I swear it has been such an insane journey and I feel like I have grown up with you. Sorry, rant over but I am genuinely so grateful to have you Steph, thank you 💋
An acts of service I will never forget: my dad, without fail, has made my birthday cakes every single year. I'm 29. It's his birthday today, so now I'm making him a cake.
Your mom starting a Girls Scout troop because you wanted to do it but there wasn't one is so sweet and literally making me cry right now to the point that I had to take off my glasses so they'd stop fogging up. That is so sweet and pure.
acts of service I’ve never forgotten: I fell asleep on my cousins shoulder when we were on a road trip. I woke up and she was holding my head because the roads we were on were bumpy, it was probably so uncomfortable for her and she was doing it for like 20 minutes
the way i cried when you were opening all the packages it was a very restoration of faith in humanity moment ahahah its so assuring that there are people out there who are so so thoughtful and creative in gift giving i just love people so much (never thought I'd say this)
5:15 i love these!! i have a running list on my phone called “the intimacy of” and then i make notes of things that are just so uniquely intimate in nonconventional ways. here are a few: - two strangers walking in the rain, awkwardly smiling at the shared inconvenience, looking up from the ground ever so briefly to catch the sight of someone who too forgot their umbrella - relishing in the soggy, silly synchronicity - holding someones hand as they face a new experience, showing them a new joy in life behind a (now previously) closely held belief - the silence between people in a subway car all headed to different places but all together for a minute or so hope you all love these, love you steph 💌
Thinking about acts of service and realizing my college roommates always did so many small things for me. One time I was talking to one of them and hair ties came up and I was like “oh I need some.” The next day she comes home from target and gives me a pack of BLONDE hair ties that she bought bc I said I needed some😭 it’s so small but I always think about it because it’s just so considerate. And my other roommate would always fold my laundry if it was in the dryer and she needed it, and she literally could have just thrown it on my bed but she didn’t. We would always make tea at night and just make it for each other without asking. It’s things like that that make me so grateful for female friendships
What a treat to watch you open those gifts!! Your subscribers are so sweet and thoughtful. Your gratitude sets you apart from many other RUclipsrs/influencers
An act of service that will always warm my heart is how my grandpa (who lives alone) will ALWAYS keep his house stocked with m&m’s and chocolate milk. He doesn’t eat or drink it himself but knows I love it so it’s on his monthly grocery list for whenever I come over
The painting of your doggie got me crying too! That's so thoughtful. Like BUYING a gift can be so easily esp with the filler sections the way they are, but to sit back and think that you want to paint someones dog and then get the correct colours and canvas and all that stuff then the likely HOURS of sitting down and not only painting A dog but painting YOUR dog with the soulful eyes etc that match your actual pet is so much work!!! I had an old friend who drew my old shepherd for me in pencil and it is still one of the nicest things I've ever received. He drew so many different things for me that were absolutely beautiful but those things weren't capturing the essence of my dog like that drawing did... You have some very awesome subscribers who thought about you. It's so nice to see that you aren't just tearing into things and treating it like a mail haul but you really take the time to enjoy and be grateful
the girl who is now my best friend is an acts of service person & so many of the things she’s done have made me feel valued in ways i have never felt before. things as simple as making playlists of songs that remind her of me or (my personal favorite) a pinterest board that i feel like perfectly represents how i see myself. she constantly takes care of me in ways i would never think to ask, and it’s first time i’ve ever considered that maybe my receiving love language is indeed acts of service.
steph you are love personified, you deserve all the support and love from your viewers. i hope i can return the comfort and joy youve reflected upon my life someday!!! i have some acts of service moments that stuck with me so ill yap a bit. a few years ago during exam season, i would get nauseous and couldnt eat fully so my sister would cut up bell peppers and hummus for me without asking as it was my safe food. also, my bestfriends always hold my hand immediately as we enter big crowds because they know it makes me anxious. and my cousins always get me gifts specifically curated to my current fixations or interests without asking me directly
an act of service I’ll NEVER forget is when my long distance best friend from summer camp (we live across the country from each other) had been separated for months and talked and called everyday then on a random Tuesday the day before my birthday I came back from a horrible day at school only to find around 5 packages of fully wrapped gifts and a card on my bed, only to look and find that on the card cover there were the lyrics of our fav song, ribs by Lorde. Immediately started bawling, she sent the packages by somehow finding my sisters number and scheming with her to get it right on my bed the day before my birthday.
question of the day: if you were to create a dopamine menu (appetizers, entrées, sides, dessert, specials) what would you add to it! i just want to say, i really love your personality and your videos are such a treat that i cherish and i get very excited to watch when you post (hope that didn't sound weird :)) what each part of the menu means: appetizers: quick dopamine boosters. entrées: engaging, time-consuming activities. sides: activities to enhance boring tasks. desserts: quick dopamine hits. specials: rewarding, planned activities.
An act of service i always think about is when I helped my teacher carrie some tabels and chairs alone after school and the next day she literally came into my class and thanked me infront of everyone and told me she even wroted about the interaction on a paper and put it in her memorie box. And a another teacher noticed that I liked books so we formed a habit where we lent each other our fav books we wanted the other one to read.
you have single-handedly made my entire day this whole month! i hope u know how grateful we are and i appreciate u sm! the fact that u were travelling all day and was on a flight where u would hv many other things to worry abt yet still managed to edit & upload this vlog is insane and i am truly so so grateful! tysm for everything girl ilysm
An act of service I’ll never forget is when my boyfriend turned on the subtitles for me without me even asking him, I have this thing where if I can’t read the subtitles of a movie I won’t process it properly and he remembered that 😊
GIRL about the acts of service, ive been working for my boss for 3 years and he pays So much attention for example i once said that im gonna stop drinking coffee bc i was getting four coffes every day and he asked me about decaf and i said that yea ive no problem with that and THE NEXT DAY he had bought decaf capsules as well as the normal ones and that really stuck with me for some reason
act of service i’ll always remember: i was one of the older kids at summer camp but it was also my first time away from my family for more than a week. I was trying to control all of the younger girls but halfway through the week i started getting super homesick myself. I was so sad that i started crying in the middle of the night in my tent, trying to be as quiet as possible to not wake up my tentmate. when i heard her wake up i felt so bad, but after a moment she asked if I was ok and started telling me about a funny thing that had happened to her that day. I felt so much better and laughed so hard at her story. flash forward 4 years and she’s one of my close friends and one of the sweetest people i know❤
On my wedding night, I mentioned that didn't eat dinner I was so nervous that I forgot, and then my friend went to the buffet to pick food I like to give to me! I was so emotional because she was the first person who thought about me even though we were in a rush! I love her so much and I will never forget that ( English is not my first language sorry if there is a mistake)
you’ve inspired me to start a youtube channel. i haven’t done it yet but watching you has made me realize i don’t need to do extravagant things and edits to make something so special because every single one of your videos are such comfort and special to me ❤️
A acts of service moment that my boyfriend did: at the beginning of our relationship we were talking about our favourite fruit (mine are strawberry, kiwi and grapes). A few months later we were talking about the fact that i don't eat enough fruit because i always forget to buy it at the store... the next day when he came by he brought me a kiwi and some fresh grapes from his garden... i thought that was soooo wholesome
I'm breaking my silent watcher persona, and commenting for the very first time. may I just lead with the fact that your vulnerability is admirable, and highly appreciated. as an emotionally driven person, someone deemed as "too sensitive," I have never felt more seen in watching your videos. you're truly the most beautiful and remarkable person I've ever had the chance to pretend I know. Recently, I started my Harry Potter journey. I've only watched 5/8 movies so far, and I can confidently say these movies have changed my life, and I wouldn't have given them a chance if it weren't for you. QUESTION OF THE DAY: What is your ranking of the Harry Potter movies? Like you, my favourite so far is the goblet of fire!!
acts of service is just my favorite, finding the small not always standout things in people AND ACTING ON IT. my examples are small but they honestly mean so much to me. one time i said i liked the bread from cheesecake factory, and i went on about how i wish they’d sell it in stores. maybe a month or two later, she bought it for me, and just to know that she was thinking of me was so sweet, and she’s done so many things like that. also this is so basic, but my cousin offered me his gloves even though he was freezing. they all mean so much to me
A small act of service that I love, is one of the first days at uni, I didn’t have a charger for my computer and my friend didn’t have on either. But from every day since (it’s been months) she brings her charger and tells me it’s for me😭 I had only known her maybe 2 weeks at the time and she still does it❤
hii steph, i just wanted to say that i’ve been watching your videos since 2021 and you literally changed my life, because of you i became a reader and started to love being alone and not feel bad about always staying at home. And whenever i have to make a decision I say to myself “what would steph do” and then I do what i think you would do. Anyway I love your videos sooo much and you’re such a comfort person for me
since we are talking about how things you said or did inspired me lemme tell u my pov of this , i genuinely found myself because of you. I have been watching you ever since like you made that one vlogmas video? ages ago . i remember searching for people who made vlogmas back then and that one video of yours popped up. when i realized you also read . i was so extreamly excited because I LOVE VLOGS. and your content wasn’t just conten to me it was perrect !!! then u talked about reading addicted and i read it and i found one my fave books everrrrr like i know you love it more than anyone ever and u get me . and one of the best things i learned from you was that change was okay. when you moved away from brighton i remember u talked about changes and stuff and i realized how it is OKAY to change . and i LOVEEE TAYLOR TOO so everytime u speak anything about her i get so happpy.
As a girl who has always wanted to travel and move to a new state/city, you are such an inspiration. I tend to get so in my head about it and watching to tackle moving to a new place where you know not a soul, it has inspired me to do the same when I get the chance. Love the vlogs, Steph!
My best friend always makes sure that everybody who visits her drinks enough water ❤ she always refills our glasses without asking and reminds us to drink 😊 I don't know if others have noticed, but I noticed and I am very thankful for that❤
My boyfriend does these things every day 😭 Makes my bedtime drink every night Makes me a coffee before he leaves for work Gives me the last of everything ❤️ Makes my favourite food every time he cooks Shares the chores Always tells me he’s leaving for home Become a step dad to my 4 kids 13 years ago. Reads me books ❤️ I could go on ❤
Your acts of service discussion was so sweet. This year I received some of the most thoughtful gifts/acts of service I had in awhile. My husband got me journaling and reading journal type stuff, including stickers and other ephemera more my journals, for my birthday and my coworkers (people who all work for me), got me a bag of Christmas goodies that were all specific to hobbies or things that they know I love. I received fuzzy winter socks, a gift certificate to our independent bookstore, a Stanley cup, and a gift certificate to my nail salon that I go to. I was completely surprised and so touched that they had put so much thought into it. ❤ Have a merry Christmas and a safe and fun trip! Oh and btw, when you started tearing up about the painting of your dog, we were all crying with you!
Steph what u said about how watching someone's videos changes ur life is so true for me with u. I just wrote an unnecessarily long comment abt it on ur day 18 video so I won't go into it in too much detail again XD but ur self confidence and determination to go after ur dreams is so inspiring. You also make youtube look like the funnest job ever and make me wanna start my own channel once I'm old enough to do things on my own and go places and travel like you! You truly inspire me to share my thoughts, opinions and passions more freely than I used to. It's almost as if u have such a positive impact all around the world solely because u so seamlessly teach and show ppl how to enhance their own lives in small ways, rather than showcasing an unnatural and high-maintenance too-good-to-be-true life for others to compare their to. If I'm romanticising my life having the time of my life doing it, it's only cuz u inspired me to :))
I love Steph, because like she said, I don’t have any friends in real life that like Taylor Swift, One direction, reading, romance, etc. So seeing her videos makes me feel less alone ❤️
I guess this technically falls under gift giving but I'm sharing it as an act of service I'll never forget. My great-grandmother had a library ladder that I always thought was so cool (I called it the Beauty and the Beast ladder as a kid) and my grandfather one day was at a consignment store and saw one. He bought it for me and said it's for my future home. He passed away this year and I know that will be the first thing I do when I have my own place. This video was so wholesome and sweet, thank you Steph!!!
an act of service that my boyfriend repeatedly does for me is fill up my water bottle and put it in the fridge (and it is especially nice because he likes room temp water and does this specifically because he knows i like cold water). sending you so much love steph, particularly after seeing your plane drama - everything will work out
Acts of Service is my LL, my husband makes me a tea every now and then and leaves the spoon in it, little things like that he notices. My daughter is 14, and will do the same, will also put the ‘mood’ lights how I like it, lamps instead of overhead lights. They are the best and this is everyday with them 😢❤
I think this has been my favorite vlogmas vlog this year (and the harry potter vids ofc). seeing you get emotional about your supporters literally choked me up. just such a sweet, heartfelt, and sincere video
my dad is honestly the best with acts of services, for example one time he told me not to forget to clean my cars windows to then clean them later that day without telling me
I got so busy and now I’m behind on vlogmas but I’m also an acts of service girl and one of my best friends is a huge Kanye fan and never had an interest in taylor swift but he knew I was a HUGE fan. We became long distance friends after the first year of our friendship and when he came back to visit he told me that he had a gift for me. He had listened to 2 hours of taylor swift until he found a song he liked. It just meant so much to me and was truly the best gift a friend could give me.
Silent watcher here, I’ve been following you since 2021 and you’ve changed my life by making me a swiftie! It may seem like a really small thing but being a swiftie has literally taken up a huge part of my life and I was able to go to the eras tour in Madrid this year, so I have you to thank for that
Silent viewer here, I just got the biggest rush of Joy, love and admiration over someone I have never met. I have been watching your videos since 2020 and literally view you as my internet best friend
you created the biggest impact in my life, and the only sentence to justify this is saying YOU ARE MY IDEAL, i wanna be like you. your nature and personalities inspire me. on some days when i am not doing good or upset, i watch you and somehow it gets me happy. love from INDIA.💓💟
Hi Steph! I'm a french teenager who lives in London, and i just wanted to let you know that every night after school, at 6 ,i drink the exact same english breakfast tea (same brand!) then watch your vlogmas. Ilysm you're such a sweet person who gives me so much inspiration and hope (you are a breath of fresh air for a teen amongst mean teens) anyways hope you have a great christmas. Also I'm a silent viewer xx
hi steph! my name is hayley and i've been watching your videos since maybe 2021 or whenever you started posting book videos, my first video was maybe the brothers best friend book recommendations video. i wanted to tell you that YOU have changed my life in so many little ways and i think the only reason why i could've remained slightly positive all year was because of you and how you always say you romanticise your life, so i romanticised my life. and i'm really proud of how far you've come since starting youtube, and your asu days, and now you're living in charleston and you're so happy and i'm so happy for you.
i applied to university of sc for grad school because i love how you talk about where you live. watching your videos has (hopefully) led to me going to school in a different state. i love you and the impact you have on all of us 🫶🏼
hi Steph, I am usually more of a silent viewer since i don't comment much, but i want you to know how special vlogmas has been for me. I have had a recent falling out with a bunch of members of my cohort leaving me all alone. I have not been able to keep stable friendships throughout my childhood and I am 20 years old without a bestfriend to have in my life. Vlogmas has given me so much comfort as I feel like we're the best friends (and while our music tastes aren't exactly the same, I still find so much joy in hanging out with you). I could literally sit here for HOURS listening to whatever you have to say. I love you so much Steph!
I LOVE Vlogmas ❤! I’m a silent watcher but i just wanted you to know that I have been watching your videos since 2021 and you have changed my perspective on life specifically romanticizing life. So thank you❤
I am a silent watcher but had to comment when you started opening the painting. I came across your channel this vlogmas and honestly love you already. I love how thankful and honest you are and your vlogs are just the best. I hope to see many more videos of yours and so grateful to the RUclips algorithm haha. Much love from Spain❤️❤️❤️❤️
The holiday season can be tough sometimes, but your videos always bring so much light into our lives ✨Thank you for making 2024 brighter with your amazing content! Sending lots of love and appreciation your way ❤Happy Holidays and Happy 2025! Here’s to a year full of good things for all of us 🎊
steph i just wanted to say i've watched you for years, i've seen you grow and i feel like you've also seen me grow in a way, your vidoes are a safety blanket for me when i've had a bad day and in case you ever feel like you need a pick me up just know that you have all of us the same way we have you ❤
CHRISTINA WILCOX IS MY FRIEND and I always get so excited when you open her books on your channel and get so excited about them!! She deserves the hype 💜💚
Loving this vlogmas sm! My question isn’t really a question but can u talk a little bit about your family since your going on holiday, like ur mum and dad, and brothers what do they do for work/study. I’d love to know xx
hi steph! silent viewer here (i literally never commented on a yt video before 😭 im scared) but honestly if someone deserves it, it’s you! i watch your videos since 2020 maybe and you truly inspire me every single video to be a better version of myself! one of my goals to 2025 is to start journaling bc i see you do it and i think it’s going to be so good for my mental health and about not forgetting thoughts and moments that happen through the years! just like in todays video u got me thinking about acts of service and things people have made for me that i appreciate so much and forget all the time! you really are my comfort yt channel, having a new video from u brightens up my day so much, literally everyone in my life knows you are my fav youtuber and im so proud of it honestly! seeing your days, your little dates with yourself, your friendships evolving and the love and care that you put in every single video! omg just please never stop, my life would be 1000x sadder. recently i adquired a absolute love for reading and i still go and watch you trope recommendation videos! love u and hope u have a very happy christmas and new year! (also my first language isn’t english, im portuguese! but i hope u can understand anyway😅)
Steph please. We need need need a video that talks all about how you edit and what camera you use and how you vlog. Like an in detail work with me video 💗 I never want vlogmas to end
Awe Steph I’m so sorry about your flight! Question of the day: does your family have any holiday traditions? Are there any traditions you want to carry on with your future family or that you want to start with your family in the future?
acts of service my best friend has done for me, for my 16th birthday she got me the good girl's guide to murder trilogy and she made matching bookmarks, like the bookmarks matched the covers and all and she did it probably while we had exams, and just made me feel so seen and loved. ❤
I’m a silent watcher(I have never missed a video and never will eheh) but acts of service is my top love language and my best friend/roommate made me breakfast once before work because she knew how stressed I had been for a few weeks and i immediately cried!!
In general, I've always been sad about my bday. In hs, my friend Aubriegh would always get me gifts&candy and put it in my locker. One year she even did a painting for me (hanging in my office) 🥰 Always made my bday a little special
I just ADORE YOU STEPH so grateful for you and everything you do for us, u don't understand YOU LITERALLY ARE MY ONLY PEACEFULL MMT in my chaotic world idk how to make it make sense but i know you'll get it bestie as u always do without even know that you're actually healing a person in their worst period of time... so just know that all your efforts and dedication to give us these vlogs on time are all appreciated💜 again I REALLY LOVE YOU BESTIE SO MUCH and PLEASE always be with us never retire from youtube like ever✨🤍
I've been writing my finals and moving countries at the same time (I'm moving from Germany to boston to study abroad) and your vlogmas has been a welcome source of calm in this stressful chaos💓
steph your videos make me happy, love you so much, I know you work so hard to record every day and post it in the next day all this days, just know that it’s worth it you make our days better🩷🥹
i genuinely look forward to your vlogmas videos every day! they make me so happy! my question: who is the most influential person in your life and why?
So glad you decided to do vlogmas again this year🫶🏽 When I was in secondary school I went to my (non-muslim) friend’s house and she asked her mum to make us a pescetarian meal so we could eat it together (I’m muslim, so I can only eat halal meat). To her it probably wasn’t that big of a deal but to me it was. It made me feel so loved and warm inside. I still think of that moment ‘till this day.
An act of service my friend did for me once was make a Minecraft scavenger hunt for me with a chest full of goodies at the end. It was right after my first ever breakup so I was heartbroken. She probably doesn’t remember it but I think about my friend’s act of kindness in this moment all the time.
So happy we have vlogmas!!! Thank you for your dedication and hard work Steph we all truly notice!!! Question of the day: since you have inspired many of your viewers to get outside their comfort zone and explore moving out of a place that doesn’t feel like home what financial and budgeting advice do you have for people that will be living on their own?
i was almost crying watching u cry while opening ur gifts!! a talent i wish i had was to be like rlly good at basketball. i just think it’s such a cool sport but i’m so bad at it (i’m a volleyball player) have fun on ur trip!!
Hi Steph!! I’m so glad you liked my first book and are excited about the second one. Let us know what you and Kyleigh’s types are whenever you figure it out, I’d love to know 👀 My bestie Ashley and I love your videos so much! Thank you for your hard work and dedication this vlogmas and know ur community here are cheering you on always 🫡🥺❤️🧸
An act of service that I experience almost everyday it's that my best friend knows that I love coffee, so she brings coffee to me when im working, and I don't even ask. The other day I was mad because I didn't have my coffee of the day, and I was complaining. My best friend ordered DoorDash from dunking just so I could get my coffee. I love her sooo much.
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an act of service ive seen my dad does that i will NEVER forget, it just made me realize my standards are high for a good reason but basically: we were on a golf cart cruising around my cottage area, it was a hot sunny day in the summer. My dad is driving, my mom in the passenger seat. my mom asks my dad to stop bc we were dropping off something to a friends cottage and while she leaves to go drop the package off my dad scoots over and sits in her seat, when she gets back he goes back to his. I asked him why and he said because the sun was shining and was gonna make her seat hot, i sat on it so it stays cool for when she gets back. LIKE WHAT, that was the sweetest and most thoughtful thing ive ever seen. will never settle for less.
Wow lol
An active service that I will always remember is I told my roommate (best friend now) that I had never received flowers from someone and that I’ve always bought them for myself and the next day I came home from practice she was standing at the door with a vase and flowers
Oh this made me cry
@@StephBohrerMe too😢
i did smth similar for my best friend! she told me she never received flowers in her life so i wrote that down on my notes and on her birthday i got her a personalised bouquet :)
tell me why I'm crying hearing all of the acts of service you have received. it's so heartwarming!
HECK IM CRYING MORE AFTER SEEING THE PAINTING OF YOUR DOG
@@bruh3290 lmfao I teared up when she cried over the ornaments
an act of service i’ll never forget: before i studied abroad in italy, i was telling one of my best friends how i was really nervous to be by myself in another country and i had no idea what i was going to do and how i can make my trip worthwhile, and she created an entire document of all the places in italy i can go to. she researched things like specific restaurants, beaches, and activities for each major city and sent it to me only a few days after me telling her about my anxiety surrounding studying abroad
thats so thoughtful of her omg this made my day!! how was your experience studying in italyy
omg it was truly one of the BEST experiences of my entire life, especially because of the document my friend made :)
an act of service that happened to me a couple months ago was when I was with my best friend and I got super nauseous on my birthday during a car ride to an airplane tour and i forgot my nausea medication… one week later i go into my best friend’s car and she goes into her middle console and casually pulls out nausea medication for me to take preventatively- turns out the day after my birthday, she bought nausea meds and kept it in HER car in case I ever needed it again (‘: when I tell you I felt so seen. That quote “everything I know about love, I’ve learned through my long-term friendships with women” always rings true.
on acts of service: so for me personally, acts of service is not my favourite way to RECEIVE love but it is my favourite way to SHOW love. for example, when my best friend used to work overnight shifts i would set an alarm at 6am every day (when her shift ended) and i would walk to her work with tea and croissants so she could have breakfast every day and wouldn't have to walk home alone. every time i've lived with a roommate i would take extra time to wash their dishes as well as mine, so they wouldn't have to worry about it. now that it's cold outside i always bring extra gloves or scarves with me so when i'm out with my friends i can keep them from getting cold. :) i think love is just paying attention and the best way to be a good family member or friend or partner is showing them that when they're around you they will always be taken care of.
Girl when I tell you, your vlogmas is actually so deep to me, like it sounds sooo stupid to anyone else but to me, getting to watch your videos every single day is such a priveledge!! I remember back at the start of 2021 when I was a silly little 14 year old, I didn't want to get up in the morning but knowing I had saved a Steph Bohrer video to watch as I ate my breakfast got me out of bed. I swear it has been such an insane journey and I feel like I have grown up with you. Sorry, rant over but I am genuinely so grateful to have you Steph, thank you 💋
An acts of service I will never forget: my dad, without fail, has made my birthday cakes every single year. I'm 29. It's his birthday today, so now I'm making him a cake.
Happy Birthday to your dad! ❤
Your mom starting a Girls Scout troop because you wanted to do it but there wasn't one is so sweet and literally making me cry right now to the point that I had to take off my glasses so they'd stop fogging up. That is so sweet and pure.
She made it trough a flying plane that’s what I call dedication THANK YOU❤
acts of service I’ve never forgotten: I fell asleep on my cousins shoulder when we were on a road trip. I woke up and she was holding my head because the roads we were on were bumpy, it was probably so uncomfortable for her and she was doing it for like 20 minutes
the way i cried when you were opening all the packages it was a very restoration of faith in humanity moment ahahah its so assuring that there are people out there who are so so thoughtful and creative in gift giving i just love people so much (never thought I'd say this)
5:15 i love these!! i have a running list on my phone called “the intimacy of” and then i make notes of things that are just so uniquely intimate in nonconventional ways. here are a few:
- two strangers walking in the rain, awkwardly smiling at the shared inconvenience, looking up from the ground ever so briefly to catch the sight of someone who too forgot their umbrella - relishing in the soggy, silly synchronicity
- holding someones hand as they face a new experience, showing them a new joy in life behind a (now previously) closely held belief
- the silence between people in a subway car all headed to different places but all together for a minute or so
hope you all love these, love you steph 💌
Thinking about acts of service and realizing my college roommates always did so many small things for me. One time I was talking to one of them and hair ties came up and I was like “oh I need some.” The next day she comes home from target and gives me a pack of BLONDE hair ties that she bought bc I said I needed some😭 it’s so small but I always think about it because it’s just so considerate. And my other roommate would always fold my laundry if it was in the dryer and she needed it, and she literally could have just thrown it on my bed but she didn’t. We would always make tea at night and just make it for each other without asking. It’s things like that that make me so grateful for female friendships
What a treat to watch you open those gifts!! Your subscribers are so sweet and thoughtful. Your gratitude sets you apart from many other RUclipsrs/influencers
An act of service that will always warm my heart is how my grandpa (who lives alone) will ALWAYS keep his house stocked with m&m’s and chocolate milk. He doesn’t eat or drink it himself but knows I love it so it’s on his monthly grocery list for whenever I come over
The painting of your doggie got me crying too! That's so thoughtful. Like BUYING a gift can be so easily esp with the filler sections the way they are, but to sit back and think that you want to paint someones dog and then get the correct colours and canvas and all that stuff then the likely HOURS of sitting down and not only painting A dog but painting YOUR dog with the soulful eyes etc that match your actual pet is so much work!!! I had an old friend who drew my old shepherd for me in pencil and it is still one of the nicest things I've ever received. He drew so many different things for me that were absolutely beautiful but those things weren't capturing the essence of my dog like that drawing did...
You have some very awesome subscribers who thought about you. It's so nice to see that you aren't just tearing into things and treating it like a mail haul but you really take the time to enjoy and be grateful
the girl who is now my best friend is an acts of service person & so many of the things she’s done have made me feel valued in ways i have never felt before. things as simple as making playlists of songs that remind her of me or (my personal favorite) a pinterest board that i feel like perfectly represents how i see myself. she constantly takes care of me in ways i would never think to ask, and it’s first time i’ve ever considered that maybe my receiving love language is indeed acts of service.
steph you are love personified, you deserve all the support and love from your viewers.
i hope i can return the comfort and joy youve reflected upon my life someday!!!
i have some acts of service moments that stuck with me so ill yap a bit. a few years ago during exam season, i would get nauseous and couldnt eat fully so my sister would cut up bell peppers and hummus for me without asking as it was my safe food. also, my bestfriends always hold my hand immediately as we enter big crowds because they know it makes me anxious. and my cousins always get me gifts specifically curated to my current fixations or interests without asking me directly
an act of service I’ll NEVER forget is when my long distance best friend from summer camp (we live across the country from each other) had been separated for months and talked and called everyday then on a random Tuesday the day before my birthday I came back from a horrible day at school only to find around 5 packages of fully wrapped gifts and a card on my bed, only to look and find that on the card cover there were the lyrics of our fav song, ribs by Lorde. Immediately started bawling, she sent the packages by somehow finding my sisters number and scheming with her to get it right on my bed the day before my birthday.
Yay I’m so glad you got my package!!! I’m the girl from Australia who sent you Intermezzo, enjoy ♥️♥️♥️
question of the day: if you were to create a dopamine menu (appetizers, entrées, sides, dessert, specials) what would you add to it! i just want to say, i really love your personality and your videos are such a treat that i cherish and i get very excited to watch when you post (hope that didn't sound weird :))
what each part of the menu means:
appetizers: quick dopamine boosters.
entrées: engaging, time-consuming activities.
sides: activities to enhance boring tasks.
desserts: quick dopamine hits.
specials: rewarding, planned activities.
An act of service i always think about is when I helped my teacher carrie some tabels and chairs alone after school and the next day she literally came into my class and thanked me infront of everyone and told me she even wroted about the interaction on a paper and put it in her memorie box.
And a another teacher noticed that I liked books so we formed a habit where we lent each other our fav books we wanted the other one to read.
you have single-handedly made my entire day this whole month! i hope u know how grateful we are and i appreciate u sm! the fact that u were travelling all day and was on a flight where u would hv many other things to worry abt yet still managed to edit & upload this vlog is insane and i am truly so so grateful! tysm for everything girl ilysm
hope you had/are having a safe flight steph! tysm for still getting this video out, we appreciate you sm! 😭🫶🏼
your channel is such a happy & comforting side of the internet that never fails to make me smile!!
An act of service I’ll never forget is when my boyfriend turned on the subtitles for me without me even asking him, I have this thing where if I can’t read the subtitles of a movie I won’t process it properly and he remembered that 😊
GIRL about the acts of service, ive been working for my boss for 3 years and he pays So much attention for example i once said that im gonna stop drinking coffee bc i was getting four coffes every day and he asked me about decaf and i said that yea ive no problem with that and THE NEXT DAY he had bought decaf capsules as well as the normal ones and that really stuck with me for some reason
my coffee ban didn't last long but still
I cried with you. The gifts are so beautiful.
I’m literally crying while you open your PO Box packages ❤ acts of service hits so deep
act of service i’ll always remember: i was one of the older kids at summer camp but it was also my first time away from my family for more than a week. I was trying to control all of the younger girls but halfway through the week i started getting super homesick myself. I was so sad that i started crying in the middle of the night in my tent, trying to be as quiet as possible to not wake up my tentmate. when i heard her wake up i felt so bad, but after a moment she asked if I was ok and started telling me about a funny thing that had happened to her that day. I felt so much better and laughed so hard at her story. flash forward 4 years and she’s one of my close friends and one of the sweetest people i know❤
On my wedding night, I mentioned that didn't eat dinner I was so nervous that I forgot, and then my friend went to the buffet to pick food I like to give to me! I was so emotional because she was the first person who thought about me even though we were in a rush! I love her so much and I will never forget that
( English is not my first language sorry if there is a mistake)
WHY DID I START CRYING WHEN TOU WERE OPENING THE GIFTS I CANT.
you’ve inspired me to start a youtube channel. i haven’t done it yet but watching you has made me realize i don’t need to do extravagant things and edits to make something so special because every single one of your videos are such comfort and special to me ❤️
A acts of service moment that my boyfriend did: at the beginning of our relationship we were talking about our favourite fruit (mine are strawberry, kiwi and grapes). A few months later we were talking about the fact that i don't eat enough fruit because i always forget to buy it at the store... the next day when he came by he brought me a kiwi and some fresh grapes from his garden... i thought that was soooo wholesome
I'm breaking my silent watcher persona, and commenting for the very first time. may I just lead with the fact that your vulnerability is admirable, and highly appreciated. as an emotionally driven person, someone deemed as "too sensitive," I have never felt more seen in watching your videos. you're truly the most beautiful and remarkable person I've ever had the chance to pretend I know.
Recently, I started my Harry Potter journey. I've only watched 5/8 movies so far, and I can confidently say these movies have changed my life, and I wouldn't have given them a chance if it weren't for you.
QUESTION OF THE DAY: What is your ranking of the Harry Potter movies?
Like you, my favourite so far is the goblet of fire!!
acts of service is just my favorite, finding the small not always standout things in people AND ACTING ON IT. my examples are small but they honestly mean so much to me.
one time i said i liked the bread from cheesecake factory, and i went on about how i wish they’d sell it in stores. maybe a month or two later, she bought it for me, and just to know that she was thinking of me was so sweet, and she’s done so many things like that.
also this is so basic, but my cousin offered me his gloves even though he was freezing. they all mean so much to me
A small act of service that I love, is one of the first days at uni, I didn’t have a charger for my computer and my friend didn’t have on either. But from every day since (it’s been months) she brings her charger and tells me it’s for me😭 I had only known her maybe 2 weeks at the time and she still does it❤
hii steph, i just wanted to say that i’ve been watching your videos since 2021 and you literally changed my life, because of you i became a reader and started to love being alone and not feel bad about always staying at home. And whenever i have to make a decision I say to myself “what would steph do” and then I do what i think you would do. Anyway I love your videos sooo much and you’re such a comfort person for me
girrrl im crying with all those po box gifts 😭, i love this community
since we are talking about how things you said or did inspired me lemme tell u my pov of this , i genuinely found myself because of you. I have been watching you ever since like you made that one vlogmas video? ages ago . i remember searching for people who made vlogmas back then and that one video of yours popped up. when i realized you also read . i was so extreamly excited because I LOVE VLOGS. and your content wasn’t just conten to me it was perrect !!! then u talked about reading addicted and i read it and i found one my fave books everrrrr like i know you love it more than anyone ever and u get me . and one of the best things i learned from you was that change was okay. when you moved away from brighton i remember
u talked about changes and stuff and i realized how it is OKAY to change . and i LOVEEE TAYLOR TOO so everytime u speak anything about her i get so happpy.
As a girl who has always wanted to travel and move to a new state/city, you are such an inspiration. I tend to get so in my head about it and watching to tackle moving to a new place where you know not a soul, it has inspired me to do the same when I get the chance. Love the vlogs, Steph!
My best friend always makes sure that everybody who visits her drinks enough water ❤ she always refills our glasses without asking and reminds us to drink 😊 I don't know if others have noticed, but I noticed and I am very thankful for that❤
My boyfriend does these things every day 😭
Makes my bedtime drink every night
Makes me a coffee before he leaves for work
Gives me the last of everything ❤️
Makes my favourite food every time he cooks
Shares the chores
Always tells me he’s leaving for home
Become a step dad to my 4 kids 13 years ago.
Reads me books ❤️
I could go on ❤
Your sensitivity and sweetness is such an inspiration 🥺
Your acts of service discussion was so sweet. This year I received some of the most thoughtful gifts/acts of service I had in awhile. My husband got me journaling and reading journal type stuff, including stickers and other ephemera more my journals, for my birthday and my coworkers (people who all work for me), got me a bag of Christmas goodies that were all specific to hobbies or things that they know I love. I received fuzzy winter socks, a gift certificate to our independent bookstore, a Stanley cup, and a gift certificate to my nail salon that I go to. I was completely surprised and so touched that they had put so much thought into it. ❤ Have a merry Christmas and a safe and fun trip!
Oh and btw, when you started tearing up about the painting of your dog, we were all crying with you!
Posting on RUclips even though you’re in mid air right now! You’re amazing Steph keep doing what you’re doing, we love you so much 🫶🏼
2:43 this part is so accurate because no joke, I started watching your videos back in 2021 and your recommendations got me back into reading☺
Steph what u said about how watching someone's videos changes ur life is so true for me with u. I just wrote an unnecessarily long comment abt it on ur day 18 video so I won't go into it in too much detail again XD but ur self confidence and determination to go after ur dreams is so inspiring. You also make youtube look like the funnest job ever and make me wanna start my own channel once I'm old enough to do things on my own and go places and travel like you! You truly inspire me to share my thoughts, opinions and passions more freely than I used to. It's almost as if u have such a positive impact all around the world solely because u so seamlessly teach and show ppl how to enhance their own lives in small ways, rather than showcasing an unnatural and high-maintenance too-good-to-be-true life for others to compare their to. If I'm romanticising my life having the time of my life doing it, it's only cuz u inspired me to :))
I love Steph, because like she said, I don’t have any friends in real life that like Taylor Swift, One direction, reading, romance, etc. So seeing her videos makes me feel less alone ❤️
My dad and husband are both acts of service guys. Always thinking of others and never expecting gratitude.
I guess this technically falls under gift giving but I'm sharing it as an act of service I'll never forget. My great-grandmother had a library ladder that I always thought was so cool (I called it the Beauty and the Beast ladder as a kid) and my grandfather one day was at a consignment store and saw one. He bought it for me and said it's for my future home. He passed away this year and I know that will be the first thing I do when I have my own place. This video was so wholesome and sweet, thank you Steph!!!
an act of service that my boyfriend repeatedly does for me is fill up my water bottle and put it in the fridge (and it is especially nice because he likes room temp water and does this specifically because he knows i like cold water). sending you so much love steph, particularly after seeing your plane drama - everything will work out
i’ve been watching you for a couple of years and your videos are just so comforting
Acts of Service is my LL, my husband makes me a tea every now and then and leaves the spoon in it, little things like that he notices. My daughter is 14, and will do the same, will also put the ‘mood’ lights how I like it, lamps instead of overhead lights. They are the best and this is everyday with them 😢❤
I think this has been my favorite vlogmas vlog this year (and the harry potter vids ofc). seeing you get emotional about your supporters literally choked me up. just such a sweet, heartfelt, and sincere video
In my head we’re literally best friends and you’re videos make my day
If you’re gonna try a black tea variation, EARL GREY or French Earl Grey is arguably the best tea out there!!
my dad is honestly the best with acts of services, for example one time he told me not to forget to clean my cars windows to then clean them later that day without telling me
I got so busy and now I’m behind on vlogmas but I’m also an acts of service girl and one of my best friends is a huge Kanye fan and never had an interest in taylor swift but he knew I was a HUGE fan. We became long distance friends after the first year of our friendship and when he came back to visit he told me that he had a gift for me. He had listened to 2 hours of taylor swift until he found a song he liked. It just meant so much to me and was truly the best gift a friend could give me.
Silent watcher here, I’ve been following you since 2021 and you’ve changed my life by making me a swiftie! It may seem like a really small thing but being a swiftie has literally taken up a huge part of my life and I was able to go to the eras tour in Madrid this year, so I have you to thank for that
Silent viewer here, I just got the biggest rush of Joy, love and admiration over someone I have never met. I have been watching your videos since 2020 and literally view you as my internet best friend
you created the biggest impact in my life, and the only sentence to justify this is saying YOU ARE MY IDEAL, i wanna be like you. your nature and personalities inspire me. on some days when i am not doing good or upset, i watch you and somehow it gets me happy. love from INDIA.💓💟
Hi Steph! I'm a french teenager who lives in London, and i just wanted to let you know that every night after school, at 6 ,i drink the exact same english breakfast tea (same brand!) then watch your vlogmas. Ilysm you're such a sweet person who gives me so much inspiration and hope (you are a breath of fresh air for a teen amongst mean teens) anyways hope you have a great christmas. Also I'm a silent viewer xx
hi steph! my name is hayley and i've been watching your videos since maybe 2021 or whenever you started posting book videos, my first video was maybe the brothers best friend book recommendations video. i wanted to tell you that YOU have changed my life in so many little ways and i think the only reason why i could've remained slightly positive all year was because of you and how you always say you romanticise your life, so i romanticised my life. and i'm really proud of how far you've come since starting youtube, and your asu days, and now you're living in charleston and you're so happy and i'm so happy for you.
i applied to university of sc for grad school because i love how you talk about where you live. watching your videos has (hopefully) led to me going to school in a different state. i love you and the impact you have on all of us 🫶🏼
I found your channel last month and have been watching since. You have inspired me to start journaling. Also love how sentimental you are ❤
hi Steph, I am usually more of a silent viewer since i don't comment much, but i want you to know how special vlogmas has been for me. I have had a recent falling out with a bunch of members of my cohort leaving me all alone. I have not been able to keep stable friendships throughout my childhood and I am 20 years old without a bestfriend to have in my life. Vlogmas has given me so much comfort as I feel like we're the best friends (and while our music tastes aren't exactly the same, I still find so much joy in hanging out with you). I could literally sit here for HOURS listening to whatever you have to say. I love you so much Steph!
I LOVE Vlogmas ❤! I’m a silent watcher but i just wanted you to know that I have been watching your videos since 2021 and you have changed my perspective on life specifically romanticizing life. So thank you❤
enjoy your vacation steph
I am a silent watcher but had to comment when you started opening the painting. I came across your channel this vlogmas and honestly love you already. I love how thankful and honest you are and your vlogs are just the best. I hope to see many more videos of yours and so grateful to the RUclips algorithm haha. Much love from Spain❤️❤️❤️❤️
You are absolutely who I inspire to be one day and I hope everything goes well for you love🫶🏼
The holiday season can be tough sometimes, but your videos always bring so much light into our lives ✨Thank you for making 2024 brighter with your amazing content! Sending lots of love and appreciation your way ❤Happy Holidays and Happy 2025! Here’s to a year full of good things for all of us 🎊
steph i just wanted to say i've watched you for years, i've seen you grow and i feel like you've also seen me grow in a way, your vidoes are a safety blanket for me when i've had a bad day and in case you ever feel like you need a pick me up just know that you have all of us the same way we have you ❤
CHRISTINA WILCOX IS MY FRIEND and I always get so excited when you open her books on your channel and get so excited about them!! She deserves the hype 💜💚
Also she has a cozy book RUclips channel!! 🍂🐻🍄🟫🥐🤎🍁🤠📚📖
youtube.com/@christinaswilcox?si=ddqVE3hWFyCvhVP1
ILY foreverrrrre ❤
Loving this vlogmas sm! My question isn’t really a question but can u talk a little bit about your family since your going on holiday, like ur mum and dad, and brothers what do they do for work/study. I’d love to know xx
the tea tutorial is already perfect to me as a brit girl since you used yorkshire tea, the only perfect cup of tea to me
hi steph! silent viewer here (i literally never commented on a yt video before 😭 im scared) but honestly if someone deserves it, it’s you!
i watch your videos since 2020 maybe and you truly inspire me every single video to be a better version of myself! one of my goals to 2025 is to start journaling bc i see you do it and i think it’s going to be so good for my mental health and about not forgetting thoughts and moments that happen through the years! just like in todays video u got me thinking about acts of service and things people have made for me that i appreciate so much and forget all the time!
you really are my comfort yt channel, having a new video from u brightens up my day so much, literally everyone in my life knows you are my fav youtuber and im so proud of it honestly! seeing your days, your little dates with yourself, your friendships evolving and the love and care that you put in every single video! omg just please never stop, my life would be 1000x sadder.
recently i adquired a absolute love for reading and i still go and watch you trope recommendation videos! love u and hope u have a very happy christmas and new year!
(also my first language isn’t english, im portuguese! but i hope u can understand anyway😅)
Steph please. We need need need a video that talks all about how you edit and what camera you use and how you vlog. Like an in detail work with me video 💗 I never want vlogmas to end
Awe Steph I’m so sorry about your flight! Question of the day: does your family have any holiday traditions? Are there any traditions you want to carry on with your future family or that you want to start with your family in the future?
acts of service my best friend has done for me, for my 16th birthday she got me the good girl's guide to murder trilogy and she made matching bookmarks, like the bookmarks matched the covers and all and she did it probably while we had exams, and just made me feel so seen and loved. ❤
I’m a silent watcher(I have never missed a video and never will eheh) but acts of service is my top love language and my best friend/roommate made me breakfast once before work because she knew how stressed I had been for a few weeks and i immediately cried!!
In general, I've always been sad about my bday. In hs, my friend Aubriegh would always get me gifts&candy and put it in my locker. One year she even did a painting for me (hanging in my office) 🥰 Always made my bday a little special
this vlogmas is so sweet and cozy Steph, only you can give me this kind of comfort i love youuu 🩷
I just ADORE YOU STEPH so grateful for you and everything you do for us, u don't understand YOU LITERALLY ARE MY ONLY PEACEFULL MMT in my chaotic world idk how to make it make sense but i know you'll get it bestie as u always do without even know that you're actually healing a person in their worst period of time... so just know that all your efforts and dedication to give us these vlogs on time are all appreciated💜 again I REALLY LOVE YOU BESTIE SO MUCH and PLEASE always be with us never retire from youtube like ever✨🤍
I've been writing my finals and moving countries at the same time (I'm moving from Germany to boston to study abroad) and your vlogmas has been a welcome source of calm in this stressful chaos💓
steph your videos make me happy, love you so much, I know you work so hard to record every day and post it in the next day all this days, just know that it’s worth it you make our days better🩷🥹
i genuinely look forward to your vlogmas videos every day! they make me so happy! my question: who is the most influential person in your life and why?
So glad you decided to do vlogmas again this year🫶🏽 When I was in secondary school I went to my (non-muslim) friend’s house and she asked her mum to make us a pescetarian meal so we could eat it together (I’m muslim, so I can only eat halal meat). To her it probably wasn’t that big of a deal but to me it was. It made me feel so loved and warm inside. I still think of that moment ‘till this day.
As an English girl, who has made tea twice a day every day since I was twelve, I loved your tea tutorial.
I started watching you when you did a video recommending the after series and that made me fall in love with reading!
An act of service my friend did for me once was make a Minecraft scavenger hunt for me with a chest full of goodies at the end. It was right after my first ever breakup so I was heartbroken. She probably doesn’t remember it but I think about my friend’s act of kindness in this moment all the time.
So happy we have vlogmas!!! Thank you for your dedication and hard work Steph we all truly notice!!! Question of the day: since you have inspired many of your viewers to get outside their comfort zone and explore moving out of a place that doesn’t feel like home what financial and budgeting advice do you have for people that will be living on their own?
i was almost crying watching u cry while opening ur gifts!! a talent i wish i had was to be like rlly good at basketball. i just think it’s such a cool sport but i’m so bad at it (i’m a volleyball player) have fun on ur trip!!
Im not ready for vlogmas to be over💔
Hi Steph!! I’m so glad you liked my first book and are excited about the second one. Let us know what you and Kyleigh’s types are whenever you figure it out, I’d love to know 👀 My bestie Ashley and I love your videos so much! Thank you for your hard work and dedication this vlogmas and know ur community here are cheering you on always 🫡🥺❤️🧸
An act of service that I experience almost everyday it's that my best friend knows that I love coffee, so she brings coffee to me when im working, and I don't even ask. The other day I was mad because I didn't have my coffee of the day, and I was complaining. My best friend ordered DoorDash from dunking just so I could get my coffee. I love her sooo much.
As a girl from West Yorkshire, I felt so proud when you started drinking Yorkshire Tea 🥰 xx
Hope you have an amazing trip!! You deserve it. We love you Steph🤍