WHY DO MEN GHOST GREAT WOMEN? by RC Blakes

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  • Опубликовано: 24 дек 2024

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  • @RCBlakesJr.
    @RCBlakesJr.  Год назад +336

    PLEASE LIKE AND SHARE FAMILY

    • @rachelc9455
      @rachelc9455 Год назад +13

      God Bless You
      RC & Lisa
      Your wisdom is appreciated and taken to heart.

    • @laurenkidd205
      @laurenkidd205 Год назад +3

      Thank You ❤️

    • @sonjapompey1543
      @sonjapompey1543 Год назад +5

      Good day. Can you please, the name of the song that is always playing for your intro. I tried finding it but, no luck.

    • @pamelarichards464
      @pamelarichards464 Год назад

      I got one for your books!!!

    • @corinthiapeeples816
      @corinthiapeeples816 Год назад +2

      I thank you for your wisdom and educating me to fully understanding what is going in my life. I will love to know the title of your intro song bc I am so loving that song? I will love to play this as one of my daily uplifting song

  • @LaPinturaBella
    @LaPinturaBella Год назад +2128

    I've been ghosted and it wasn't because I slept with him. It was because he couldn't control and manipulate me into being his side chick. I have boundaries and hold firm on them. The men who ghost are overwhelmingly narcissistic. It's rude, disrespectful, manipulative and, ultimately, extremely cowardly. The reality is, it actually IS a blessing.

    • @honeyjazz4147
      @honeyjazz4147 Год назад +52

      Totally agree

    • @champagneandcupcakesxoxo7139
      @champagneandcupcakesxoxo7139 Год назад +64

      If “it wasn’t because you slept with him” he wouldn’t have ghosted you at all. He wanted you to be a side chick, that meant you already were whether you already knew or not. Being a side chick is sexual, so his entire goal and mission is/was sex.

    • @LaPinturaBella
      @LaPinturaBella Год назад +126

      @ChampagneAndCupcakes xoxo What he "wanted" and what actually happened are two completely different things. But thanks for being so all knowing and omnipotent as to explain to me what did or did not occur in my own life. Were you there? What??? Oh right, you weren't. And btw, one can "ghost" people for all sorts of reaspns. It's not strictly related to sexual relationships or encounters.

    • @honeyjazz4147
      @honeyjazz4147 Год назад +110

      @@LaPinturaBella True, I been ghosted by men before any sexual encounter occurred.

    • @Albertino596
      @Albertino596 Год назад +98

      @@honeyjazz4147 The same here. And some women are ghosted just because a narcissist man (accustomed to easy chicks) knows that he won't get any sexual favours..

  • @divinetruthmessages
    @divinetruthmessages Год назад +85

    1) They are immature.
    2) They already in a relationship.
    3) They just wanted sex.
    4)They don't wanna hurt her.
    5) They projected unto her by judging her prematurely.
    Either way they did you a favor!

  • @blonde789
    @blonde789 Год назад +1479

    Wasn’t rejection….was protection ….God kicked him out….totally love it …right on 💯

    • @Mags765
      @Mags765 Год назад +24

      God's love and protection 🙏🏼 ♥️

    • @truthlightandlife357
      @truthlightandlife357 Год назад +16

      Good morning happy Tuesday,@ God is Always spelled with a capital God!

    • @mememarcia329
      @mememarcia329 Год назад +9

      Yes!!!

    • @blonde789
      @blonde789 Год назад +2

      @@truthlightandlife357 sorry was a typo but I’m aware ❤️

    • @dtanner70
      @dtanner70 Год назад +8

      Amen God knows inner heart

  • @terriekurney6548
    @terriekurney6548 Год назад +90

    Some ghost a woman because she has standards and won't let him use her.

    • @tabi-kat1313
      @tabi-kat1313 Год назад +4

      This happened to me when I told someone I thought I had an emotional connection with that I am waiting for sex. He was very available, quick texter before this. Hasn’t responded since.

    • @debrastewart6275
      @debrastewart6275 Месяц назад

      Absolutely

  • @missminti
    @missminti Год назад +939

    Straight up. The worst I’ve ever been treated was by a man that knew he had nothing to offer me, teach me or do for me. He was out-done and couldn’t handle intimacy or real life issues. Broke, inept men want to bask in the glow of an incredible woman but are quickly turned off by her outshining him or expecting the same depth she provides. Take the ghost as a compliment, he’s telling you he can’t handle you because HE is not enough. Let him find what he is comfortable with, if you watch, she will be your downgrade.

  • @sunshinesunflowerz1647
    @sunshinesunflowerz1647 Год назад +932

    1: He runs from feelings.
    Proverbs 25:28
    2: He gradually felt incompetent to maintain the relationship, due to his insecurities.
    Luke 14:18
    3: He started with a false profile; embarrassed to come clean.
    Proverbs 11:1-2
    4: He over committed before he actually was sure. Matthew 5:37
    5: When something heavy has occurred.
    6: Sometimes he gets the sense that her people don't like him.
    1 Corinthians 13:33
    7: He got offended.
    Proverbs 18:19
    8: God made him uncomfortable

    • @naomikinyanjui2728
      @naomikinyanjui2728 Год назад +56

      That last one though, daaaaymn its never crossed my mind, deep 👌🏽

    • @Peacealways247
      @Peacealways247 Год назад +41

      I do believe the guy who ghosted me met 7 of the 8 on this list...emotionally unavailable so I thank God for that ship that sailed him to marry someone else 6 months later.

    • @cmariebarnes8228
      @cmariebarnes8228 Год назад +6

      @@Peacealways247 NIIIIICE

    • @juliannaokike3359
      @juliannaokike3359 Год назад +9

      I understand. However these are conversations that should have been discussed in person with the person whom you have ghosted and wanted real relationship with not a third party. If needed be a mentor whomever you trust your emotions with before you spill over into other places or relationships and connections. For nothing but clarification sake so the person who had the issue could freely move on in a peaceable peaceful way. Thank you again for the healing update.

    • @itsRudeGal
      @itsRudeGal Год назад +4

      Number 1 😢😊

  • @coreoflife
    @coreoflife Год назад +211

    Even though you know it isn't you, it still hurts just as much.

    • @carmenkamberos1156
      @carmenkamberos1156 Год назад +44

      “When you care for someone more than they deserve, you get hurt more than you deserve.”

    • @danyellg3079
      @danyellg3079 Год назад +12

      YES it does

    • @nhlanhlanzimande4001
      @nhlanhlanzimande4001 Год назад +15

      It does trully hurt..
      Even being kept emotionally and mentally hostige because they wont tell you what's the problem ..
      Which makes a person to think it's your fault..

    • @annjones6543
      @annjones6543 Год назад +1

      @@carmenkamberos1156luv it

    • @Softsoul.
      @Softsoul. Год назад +9

      Sometimes it’s just the ego that is hurt and not true feelings. Especially in the early stages of dating

  • @kelseydunn745
    @kelseydunn745 Год назад +450

    I think it hurts the most when you later realize it’s because they chose someone else. But a man of character wouldn’t ghost in the first place. It’s cowardly when there is a history of friendship and feelings. I believe it’s too hard for a lot of men to tell someone,so they ghost because they don’t have the courage.

    • @LindaJBurgos
      @LindaJBurgos Год назад +76

      Agreed that a person of character living with integrity does not and will not ghost

    • @melc_91
      @melc_91 Год назад +26

      This is the reason most times tho

    • @staejaye1910
      @staejaye1910 Год назад +33

      Aka cowards

    • @tghamilton1079
      @tghamilton1079 Год назад

      If you keep your legs closed, you are going to get ghosted...and that's OK.

    • @opallight8069
      @opallight8069 Год назад +50

      I think some lack communication skills.

  • @fakouabynum2385
    @fakouabynum2385 Год назад +301

    I heard a man say this one time and my spirit caught it. "never marry or force a man to grow up." He will grow up but you will suffer. And when he grows up, he will be lookin for a Wife. I feel like most of us women force men to mature by gettin them to marry or be in a relationship with us. Leave men alone to mature and then u marry them

    • @dollyjohnson5848
      @dollyjohnson5848 Год назад +10

      Still they married boys not real men

    • @f1dassia
      @f1dassia Год назад +43

      After he's made 3/4 women baby mamas, is in atrocious debt, has health issues... Now he wants to get married? 🙄😒Please...

    • @TonisScene
      @TonisScene Год назад +7

      And that wife ain't gon be u fasho Dat 🤣 you'll probably lose interest any who by the time they actually mature so

    • @winning3329
      @winning3329 Год назад +15

      When men are ready to marry they are usually ran through and empty wallet and lost their looks and body ready to give out and bald and unattractive mess.
      This is why I don't recommend women to marry older men because you will be a young widow stuck with children and hospital bills and debt and he will leave everything to his adult children.

    • @billyje4726
      @billyje4726 Год назад +5

      Very true! I am not doing that any more. I invested too much, and they just took it and ran away. Not gonna help a boy to grow up and to be left for someone else. If I sense this "needy" energy from a guy, I pull back. Proof to me that you are a man.

  • @erinurlahs8902
    @erinurlahs8902 Год назад +55

    Ghosting is CRUEL.

  • @ButterCookie1984
    @ButterCookie1984 Год назад +194

    As a manipulation tactic.
    This grooming strategy is done, routinely, to deliver a devastating blow to her psyche, making her question herself. This void makes her long for him..Soon as he returns, she is so happy that she doesn't demand an apology and it can be business as usual, with her in constant fear that it will happen again.

    • @flooremeagan
      @flooremeagan Год назад +50

      😢😢went through it for 3 years consistently, then boom pregnant and left for good. Anyone sees this if you do not have a connection such as a child or marriage, please run and detach from that soul tie and confusion.

    • @farindolly
      @farindolly Год назад +17

      Reading this is so shocking but so true.
      I pray to everyone who is in this position to work on yourself as much as possible so when you exit or they return you are gone for good.

    • @noellanchou3142
      @noellanchou3142 Год назад +18

      I used to fall into this grooming trap. Fortunately, I realised what it was and put up boundaries.

    • @Arlene_DOTK
      @Arlene_DOTK Год назад +34

      That's why, one must know their worth. Don't you ladies and gentlemen know your worth in Christ? Understand how valuable and precious you are and what the good lords plans for you are.
      I can say personally, I would never demand an apology from a man that ghosted me. That's mistake #1, if a man like that comes back and doesn't have an apology and reason already prepared, then that's already a HELL NO. Mistake #2, for the majority of the time - entertaining or welcoming back someone in your life who would do that to you in the first place is a problem. Know your WORTH ladies and gentlemen! 🙂

    • @marilynnorth4281
      @marilynnorth4281 Год назад +2

      Great insight.

  • @debral9651
    @debral9651 Год назад +115

    "Homies just running from his own lies". This one hurts the most, because not only is it traumatising the sudden leaving, but you find out this person is someone completely different to who you thought they were

    • @dianthiasimon3346
      @dianthiasimon3346 Год назад

      It is "the mask" they wear.

    • @mischum2915
      @mischum2915 Год назад +3

      Oh yes, you’re so damn right😮

    • @ass4and8am
      @ass4and8am Год назад +4

      Even if we aren't cheated by them, but felt aagain betrayed like we had being cheated maybe even more awful feeling for me. Because it reels hurt badly 😥

  • @MrsTruthTeller
    @MrsTruthTeller Год назад +374

    I’ve never been ghosted before but men have sporadically ended a situationship that I thought was going really well and that has hurt too. I think its helped me a lot to realize that a lot men are secretly battling internal and external issues that have absolutely nothing to do with me. You really can’t internalize what these men do to you. They are broken and have issues that you should be thankful you weren’t around to see.

    • @flower_7890
      @flower_7890 Год назад +8

      Exactly, be grateful that they are out of your life😊

    • @Cwashpvu
      @Cwashpvu Год назад +10

      That really helped. I just had this same situation and I’m so confused.

    • @MrsTruthTeller
      @MrsTruthTeller Год назад +25

      @@Cwashpvu Please don’t internalize this and make it about yourself and something you did wrong. Just remember that the type of man who disappears when things are going well is not the man you want because he either 1) Is hiding something he doesn’t want you to see , 2) Is not being honest with you about something or 3) Is emotionally unavailable and can not commit. None of those things are qualities that makes a man a good partner. I’m telling you, they are doing you a favor every time this happens.

    • @Cwashpvu
      @Cwashpvu Год назад +3

      @@MrsTruthTeller 🥹 thank you!

    • @phyllmeez
      @phyllmeez Год назад +5

      That’s still a form of ghosting

  • @108Isabel
    @108Isabel Год назад +104

    My ex boyfriend did this to me last year and I found out he was with someone new and he didnt tell me honestly very immature and disrespectful to do. But it's a blessing because I'm with a good guy who loves me and respects me I'm happy now ❤

    • @sunkstropica5358
      @sunkstropica5358 Год назад +9

      I am happy to read this. I pray for this for me too.

    • @meli7315
      @meli7315 Год назад +1

      This type of men are like Tarzan : they need always on the free hand a second person before leaving the first one. It happened to me also. But I was the other girl, he pretended being single, he wanted to leave the other girl and I said no thank you. Because I want build my luck on the bad luck from another woman and also I will be one day the other woman so never trust and respect will be served to me.

    • @ashajeremiahqw8775
      @ashajeremiahqw8775 Год назад

      Happen to me to be put his phone on DND all weekend and once he got to work he took his phone off DND and texts back no he was with someone else

  • @atboptimistic-6853
    @atboptimistic-6853 Год назад +24

    I’m not doing laundry, running errands, not cooking dinners, or spending money. I refuse to act like a wife, when I am not… period.

  • @cynthiacynthia5952
    @cynthiacynthia5952 Год назад +324

    Not rejection, but protection! That wraps it up for me! 💯 Thank you Jesus for your protection! You know my worth.....
    Thanks Pastor.

  • @tynaangelici3023
    @tynaangelici3023 Год назад +38

    It’s their loss. They play themselves.

  • @salenasheppherd2834
    @salenasheppherd2834 Год назад +30

    Dating and relationships can be so DANGEROUS these days! Women have to find a way to seek God's purpose for their singleness. Being in the palm of of the Lord's hand will always keep us safe from the wolves in sheep's clothing. Getting ghosted for NOT compromising hurts only for a short period of time, but getting ghosted AFTER forming a physical/sexual soul tie is far more devastating to the soul and spirit. Thank you Man of God for this video. 🙌🏽💯

    • @mmommo-hx4dx
      @mmommo-hx4dx Год назад

      His friends had me roofied for not sleeping with him.

  • @TheAttractionTriggers
    @TheAttractionTriggers Год назад +10

    *Ghosting is a hurtful experience for anyone. Let's prioritize clear communication and treat each other with kindness and respect.*

  • @juliannaokike3359
    @juliannaokike3359 Год назад +44

    I was ghosted before. I just assumed he had someone else that he was more interested in. I just stopped calling him and moved on. I thought of him often but I realized that he was not pursuing me. How ever I later discover new information that made him less attractive to me anyway. Knowing that I didn't deserve what he dished out to me. Peace of mind is better than being right.

    • @3arhodes
      @3arhodes 5 месяцев назад +4

      What was it???

    • @vernita0216
      @vernita0216 3 месяца назад

      Peace of mind is better than being right.

  • @1racethehumanrace946
    @1racethehumanrace946 Год назад +534

    I've been recently ghosted by a man because I wouldn't compromise my standards and boundaries.(I feel that was the reason). I was puzzled at first and a little hurt because I thought we were getting along great. And we never had any arguments or disagreements. Thank you Pastor Blakes for speaking on on this. Blessings to you and first lady Lisa Blakes.🙏🙏🙏

    • @Nikita_848
      @Nikita_848 Год назад +61

      Happened to me too recently. But I'm not budging from what I think is my value. This is why vetting a man is important. Good riddance!

    • @sheliamlightell4559
      @sheliamlightell4559 Год назад +57

      Me too, because I wouldn’t settle for flaky and inconsistent….I’m used to being treated better than that and I’m not going backwards.

    • @LaPinturaBella
      @LaPinturaBella Год назад +31

      @Shelia M Lightell Damn straight. I'm 61, never been married because I'd rather be on my own than marry just to be married. Ego and confidence does not mean a person has healthy self-esteem. Healthy self-esteem is the key. There are far too many broken people in the world these days.

    • @lynnettemartos6699
      @lynnettemartos6699 Год назад +43

      I went through something like that as well. After about 2.5-3 months he said to me, "It's not normal that we haven't had sex by now" 😄 and he's a Christian 🤣😂 I'm soooo over it right now. I am going to hold to my standards, I am worth the wait! 👍🎁❤️ and I really do want a best friend 🙏 someone to experience the true love of God with and finish the rest of this journey called life with then move onto glory....AMEN! 🙏❤️

    • @queenld4477
      @queenld4477 Год назад +23

      You did the right thing...because when you compromise het gains contro over you andl that will be detrimental to your, soul, health and life itself...I'm talking from experience....Jesus Redeemed me from a situationship and today I share it...KEEP THE FAITH....YOU'RE THE BLACK DIAMOND, to compromise would display you as a ZIRCONIA stone...stay true to you..

  • @Laoriginal718
    @Laoriginal718 Год назад +31

    Ghosting doesn’t necessarily make someone a narcissist but it does mean they aren’t interested. 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @jayladunlap7736
      @jayladunlap7736 8 месяцев назад +6

      And too immature to say so. At least speak your peace! 😂

    • @AbianahTheGemini
      @AbianahTheGemini 4 месяца назад +5

      If they keep ghosting then coming back that can be a sign they are a narc.

    • @7485jmurray
      @7485jmurray 3 месяца назад +2

      Toxic way to deal with people

  • @Empress_powei
    @Empress_powei Год назад +200

    I was ghosted by someone I thought loved me deeply for slight misunderstanding. I later come to realize man’s rejection was God’s way of protecting me. Am happy I didn’t force things.
    Thanks Bishop Blakes for your teachings ❤️

    • @nmc1859
      @nmc1859 Год назад +3

      I was just ghosted and y I'm not sure either

    • @prettysuretv2910
      @prettysuretv2910 Год назад +7

      Powel Powei. I was ghosted by someone. I feel like God is protecting me also. It's a reason he closed that door

    • @thehapagirl92
      @thehapagirl92 Год назад

      Men do this a lot. They’re shit

  • @nomzamojele7100
    @nomzamojele7100 Год назад +55

    I was once Ghosted and it broke me so badly because i really love him, i felt used.

    • @vanessalaizer4363
      @vanessalaizer4363 Год назад +10

      Exactly, the feeling of being used is the worst, am going through the same now that’s why i am here😢it really sucks but i will soon overcome coz i ve blocked that evil son of a bch

    • @TomikaKelly
      @TomikaKelly Год назад +2

      It hurts, but it's better to be ghosted than to be strung along...💔

    • @lorainetomocik5257
      @lorainetomocik5257 Год назад +1

      Yes. Me too

    • @hm-ly3rv
      @hm-ly3rv Год назад +3

      You’re not alone. I was ghosted after 2 years of speaking everyday vacations and planning for future. Told me every day for 2 years that he loved me and how he couldn’t wait to marry me. He never missed a day. Then one day I just never heard from him again. There was no argument no disagreement nothing. It’s been 3 months now. I thought he would eventuality become my husband 😢I feel so stupid

    • @jenifernadeau
      @jenifernadeau Год назад +1

      So that's always meant to trigger what part of the inner child that was wounded and emotionally neglected from a parent so that we can focus on that inner work, to re parent ourselves in healthier ways and do that shadow work as well, what we weren't seeing, what's hidden from us in our own subconscious, that is creating a vibrational frequency that is bringing to us things that we do not want. We are all energetic beings, and those with nefarious intentions read that energy, and when we become more conscious of our own energy, we will be more conscious of our own vibration, because like can only attract like. And if we are attracting things we do not want, it's because we have some sort of unhealthy belief system about ourselves, something we were meant to provide for ourselves instead of looking for in another... that we would never have been able to start the healing work on if we weren't triggered. So any interactions with another are always the blessing and an opportunity that guides us towards what needs healing within us❤

  • @Raissa_Artista
    @Raissa_Artista Год назад +71

    It’s been 4 months now and when I say I NEEDED to hear this!!!! Amen!!!

    • @saleslounge
      @saleslounge Год назад +5

      Going on 4 months as well. Wow, it's so painful. This was video was so helpful.

    • @winning3329
      @winning3329 Год назад +4

      Hope there are better days to come

    • @arissaowens7556
      @arissaowens7556 Год назад +1

      Our names are similar how cool! Hopefully things get better for you.

  • @dainjahbrown4840
    @dainjahbrown4840 Год назад +129

    God really moves in mysterious ways. I just finished trying to explain to my girlfriend why a man would walk away from her to someone else. I told her God removed that man from her life because he sees that she deserves better. I go on RUclips to send her a song and saw this. Thank you Lord, thank you R.C. Blake's for your looking out for us.

    • @4thdimensionallivn51
      @4thdimensionallivn51 Год назад +18

      He left because He just was not the one for her. When the one that is yours " by Divine right" arrives, he will stay. There will be no drama, no games. Just Peace of mind. So our prayers should be for the one that is ours by Divine rt, to cross paths with us.

    • @evelynnjiiri517
      @evelynnjiiri517 Год назад +6

      I have been ghosted for a month it hurts like hell I really loved him .I had sex with him but he went mute on me

    • @4thdimensionallivn51
      @4thdimensionallivn51 Год назад +10

      @@evelynnjiiri517 sorry dear. He was there just for d sex. Reason y it is alwz wise to hold off d physical part for a while, to allow things to unfold. Like John legend says: take it slow....
      Also wise to practice Detached dating. U will be OK. He is not ur oxygen dear. D best is around d corner.

    • @winning3329
      @winning3329 Год назад +4

      ​@@evelynnjiiri517I'm sorry that happened to you, this is why women need to take s3x off the table when looking for a relationship.
      Guard your body.

    • @winfredkavesa6914
      @winfredkavesa6914 Год назад

      0ppps it's right

  • @tynaangelici3023
    @tynaangelici3023 Год назад +154

    This hits a nerve with me because I was genuinely ready for a relationship. And I’m left picking up the pieces and have to go through the healing and the grieving process. That’s selfishness on their part.

    • @carmenkamberos1156
      @carmenkamberos1156 Год назад +26

      Tina Angelici, Ernest Hemingway said: “The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you’re special too.” Blessings . Jesus specialty is healing broken hearts.

    • @tynaangelici3023
      @tynaangelici3023 Год назад +12

      @@carmenkamberos1156 he absolutely is. I know he will heal mine as well. I asked Jesus to help me with forgiving this person.

    • @danyellg3079
      @danyellg3079 Год назад +14

      Exactly. I was genuinely ready and showed it. Was told he never had a woman as I am in his life before. He never was shown love as I give? smh

    • @lesliebean9717
      @lesliebean9717 Год назад +3

      I know how you are feeling. After my best friends, my all passed away, I didn't want to date he was a great it has been six years since his passing, and I decided to get back out there. And I did, and I told him straight up, be honest, if he had anyone he told me he didn't, and went to his apartment and he had things in his personal bathroom belongs to a woman he had been lying. So I left because he had kids, so I got up and left. We got into it, and I wasn't nothing but good to him. Tried to help him out bringing him lunch! But I told him about himself because it wasn't the stuff that was there. u said it belongs to his seven year old daughter. It was bath and bodywork, and V that adults women used. It was the lie for me !! I couldn't accept that lie, so I was able to walk away before we went to far

    • @tynaangelici3023
      @tynaangelici3023 Год назад +3

      @@lesliebean9717 good for you. I’m so happy for you.😊I wish more women would stand up and not tolerate this bs from men. Maybe less men would be able to play these games.

  • @knowyourkismat
    @knowyourkismat Год назад +111

    It wasn’t rejection, it was protection 🙌🏽🙏🏽 amen

  • @peterwilliams6361
    @peterwilliams6361 Год назад +521

    Divorce is never the way out, My wife and I have been having issues before I sort out help from a spiritual adviser,i wasnt going to let my marriage of 18years crash

    • @peterwilliams6361
      @peterwilliams6361 Год назад

      @Johnson Llobet well not the orthodox way but i was referred by a friend to a spiritual adviser and healer

    • @peterwilliams6361
      @peterwilliams6361 Год назад

      @Johnson Llobet her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE,and she is a great spiritual adviser as well as caster

    • @peterwilliams6361
      @peterwilliams6361 Год назад

      you can look her name up online and you will find all you need.

    • @c.l.9263
      @c.l.9263 Год назад +1

      This is very touching. I am in a similar situation as well. Not to go into details. My husband stepped out on our marriage, and it has been difficult for me to get over it.

    • @secreteobsession3584
      @secreteobsession3584 Год назад +1

      Thats a man right there you fight for what you believe in mine became resentful towards after a lost of miscarriage and never touched me again and ran like a little man after 14 yrs of marriage you would think you know someone 🤬🤷🏾‍♀️

  • @MarlenePWalker
    @MarlenePWalker Год назад +18

    Once a guy ghosted me and I played music and danced to it because I was having a gut feeling about him.

  • @ritaharris7120
    @ritaharris7120 Год назад +141

    “Never be in front of a man.” Good teaching Bishop Blakes!

  • @twannageorge1032
    @twannageorge1032 Год назад +68

    This truly helped me understand the man I was dating. Thank you so much. Ghosting is PAINFUL

    • @sunkstropica5358
      @sunkstropica5358 Год назад +3

      It really is one of the most painful thing I've ever been through.

    • @doglover5519
      @doglover5519 2 месяца назад

      ​@@sunkstropica5358 Me Too!!!

  • @chevyway77
    @chevyway77 Год назад +75

    God knows I don't understand why. Hello everyone I pray this video gives us all understanding & closure for some of us. Be blessed!!

  • @natureme4429
    @natureme4429 Год назад +66

    Why should we give power to these men by analyzing them? Clearly, if they ghosted, they ain't ish. Sorry pastor.
    If the woman is that great, she shouldn't put her self-esteem in a man's hands.

    • @bhilaire1bj
      @bhilaire1bj Год назад +3

      Men ghost women because they make it too easy for him. Men get bored with the same old stuff.

    • @keyshapitts3515
      @keyshapitts3515 Год назад +20

      Because he feels he's not on her level.

    • @keyshapitts3515
      @keyshapitts3515 Год назад +12

      Lack of self-confidence 😪

    • @natureme4429
      @natureme4429 Год назад +11

      @@bhilaire1bj "great" women shouldn't make it easy for him. Know your value ladies

    • @natureme4429
      @natureme4429 Год назад +21

      @@keyshapitts3515 I will agree with the comment above. I think it's not about men's lack of confidence, but women make it too easy for men nowadays to get what they want from them, with no emotional investment, so they just disappear when they took what they wanted. It's a jungle out there and people will take advantage if you let them, anytime. In the case that a woman indeed knows her worth and makes the man work for her, if he's not the one, he will not want to put in the work and will disappear. So the trash takes itself out. Why would a woman of worth worry about trash? That's my question.

  • @sljwilson3861
    @sljwilson3861 Год назад +21

    30 years ago, I started asking GOD to reveal EVERYTHING about people... especially reveal a man who has shown interest in dating me AND if I was also interested. I wait on the revelations and as a result, I am not easily invested or disappointed. I have struggled to be obedient to what GOD shows me but have NEVER regretted when I accept the revelation and moved on away from the inevitable deal breakers, non-negotiables, heartaches. Alone but not lonely and not heartbroken. Obedience is better than sacrifice... I have learned to appreciate my values and maintain my boundaries. Stand firm, don't pursue... so much more to share...

  • @brittaneymcknight3615
    @brittaneymcknight3615 Год назад +6

    It wasn’t rejection. God was protecting you from a bad experience. Be grateful. God has better things for you ladies😊

  • @eb3644
    @eb3644 Год назад +10

    I ghosted a man that I was involved with because he kept saying he didn’t want a relationship so I walked away. I didn’t really think leaving would hurt him, but I saw him recently after many years and could see the pain in his eyes.

  • @kreeves7819
    @kreeves7819 Год назад +100

    Right on time message! I definitely learned the lesson of staying "behind him in feelings." When you dive in a shallow pool, you are bound to get hurt! Observe and guard your heart ❤️

  • @sunbeam9222
    @sunbeam9222 Год назад +48

    I have ghosted someone in my early twenties. There was absolutely nothing wrong with the guy. He was kind, caring, responsible. There was everything wrong with me. I was a runner cos I was not comfortable in my own skin and not capable to admit it whether to them nor myself. I had lots healing to do.
    Today I would never do that to someone, nor bother much if it's done to me cos I know the reason. There is no proper justification for ghosting. It's just emotional immaturity. And they're nowhere near ready for a healthy relationship.

    • @TomikaKelly
      @TomikaKelly Год назад +2

      It's great that you've grown, but you owe it to that person to go back, apologize, and explain yourself. Even if you have to look him up on social media and shoot him a DM.
      Ghosting causes a never-ending lack of closure. The person who is ghosted learns to live with the hole in their life but they never really get past it. That closure can make all the difference.

    • @sunbeam9222
      @sunbeam9222 Год назад +3

      @@TomikaKelly oh I did back then. I returned to apologize. I don't believe it creates a never ending hole in someone's life tho. I was ghosted last year. Someone I was dating for 6 months just split on me one night, and disappeared. I recognized it's his immature reaction not mine. I don't need to judge it. He emotionally couldn't handle a mature conversation/ closure. And I respect that. But I don't need to own it and make it mean that here's something wrong with me because of it. Rejection is not pleasant but if you're grounded, a whole person and emotionally stable, you won't feel dispair. We're all responsible for our feelings also.

  • @cynthiadickerson5403
    @cynthiadickerson5403 Год назад +20

    Ghosted is the sanitized word for abandoned.

  • @MysticMimi712
    @MysticMimi712 Год назад +18

    Ghosting is so low. If you don’t like someone or you just don’t think it’s right for you then just tell them! It’s simple and it’s respectable. It’s the least they can do. But no. Being a coward instead.

  • @proper.role.model.819
    @proper.role.model.819 Год назад +13

    This is why working on communication is so important.

  • @akferren1
    @akferren1 Год назад +21

    I think it’s because it would force them to level up and most men are mediocre and unable to to that so they find women on a lower vibration who think mediocre is awesome

  • @normaespinoza1228
    @normaespinoza1228 Год назад +17

    I have never understood the ghosting thing, no matter who is doing it. It is awful and soul crushing. Leaves the other insecure and w trust issues. Communication is super easy. Just say, thanks for the experience of you and for crossing my path but I need to move on in another direction. Were not compatible or whatever. Date w intention. Dont awaken people's souls and then run. So gross

  • @jessicadavis4949
    @jessicadavis4949 Год назад +27

    I just lived this! Ladies, if you work on get pass this, you will heal and you will be ok. Don't give up!

  • @tonjamanigo
    @tonjamanigo Год назад +21

    The only ghost I'm concerned about is the holy ghost. Lol!! If a man is ghosting me I consider it a dodged bullet, thank God for removing him and keep it moving. It may hurt, but it just means there's someone better in the future. Holding steadfast to my morals and standards is way more important.

  • @dianawilde417
    @dianawilde417 Год назад +157

    I get ghosted as soon as they find out I'm saving sex and intimacy for marriage. Sad but true.

  • @jessf3495
    @jessf3495 Год назад +8

    I've learned to call ghosting, God's protection and a blessing. I think in many instances He was shielding me from harmful and potentially toxic and detrimental relationships. So I am grateful and so very thankful.

  • @eileenwatt8283
    @eileenwatt8283 Год назад +22

    Why pursue ghosted men? Just the word is evil.
    Ladies, just let him go. He has nothing to offer you. Don't call him, unfollow him, block him or just don't respond to his text. Just live your best life. Ignore him.

    • @MotherofWeePigs
      @MotherofWeePigs Год назад +1

      Yep

    • @SL-xf5re
      @SL-xf5re 3 месяца назад +1

      What text!? they ghosted us lol, laughing to keep from crying AGAIN

  • @sabrinaeverton6256
    @sabrinaeverton6256 Год назад +11

    This instantly cured my "is it me" syndrome. I will never offer my kingdom up to someone who cant even tell me how it is from the get go! Im taking all those years "wasted" and turning them into lessons and blessings!🙏

  • @realtalk675
    @realtalk675 Год назад +25

    In islam when we meet someone i always ask dear god if this person is not good for my soul please keep this person away from me and if this is supposed to be a good person in my life give me a sign ,give me guidance . It always helps and some people mysteriously got out of my life or never saw again without a fight or whatever. Even if your are christian or jewish never forget to ask god he is the all seen ❤

    • @prettyloubey8411
      @prettyloubey8411 9 месяцев назад

      Istikarah

    • @3arhodes
      @3arhodes 5 месяцев назад

      But GOD will not take him/her out your life. But I believe he will give red flaring flags. And it is our choice to walk away. Sometimes, he will allow someone to hurt you because ur being hardheaded and it’s the only way you would walk away.

  • @Pandas0918
    @Pandas0918 Год назад +481

    To whoever is reading this: Happy Valentine’s Day! Though you may be single like I am, remember that Jesus loves you and so do I! Buy your own chocolates or flowers, you deserve it beautiful!❤

    • @angelachambers5503
      @angelachambers5503 Год назад +15

      Well said!!

    • @chevyway77
      @chevyway77 Год назад +22

      Exactly 💯💯💯 love on yourself this valentine day and every other valentine day and beyond.

    • @chevyway77
      @chevyway77 Год назад +16

      Happy valentine day everyone!!

    • @CherishEachDay2023
      @CherishEachDay2023 Год назад +16

      Happy Valentine’s Day to you as well. God bless! 💘

    • @farindolly
      @farindolly Год назад +25

      Thanks and same to you.
      A solo trip to Malaga for 3 nights having breakfast while reading your message.

  • @77saywhatnow
    @77saywhatnow Год назад +64

    I just got ghosted by someone that I loved and cared for. I was wondering why because I believe everything was going well . So then this video came up on my feed out of nowhere 🙌🏾. This was God’s divine intervention and it has opened my eyes not to wallow in the “what did I do?” Thank you Pastor Blake for this message!

    • @yolandaspivey2961
      @yolandaspivey2961 Год назад +4

      Same happened to me too Sis. And this video popped up.

    • @jenifernadeau
      @jenifernadeau Год назад

      It gives you the space to now evolve yourself furtherin the meantime because energetically, you will attract better
      If people do not rise up to meet you where you are, they have to fall away. We never have to do anything but keep leveling up and keep the focus on ourselves . It's amazing isn't it that we have a perception that things are going well and yet that's not actually what's happening. So we have to ask ourselves what part of our inner child needed it to go well and how much cognitive dissonance we were exhibiting, and why, etc for us to not see things as they are❤

  • @cupcakely997
    @cupcakely997 Год назад +6

    Man! I been thinking the past couple weeks why I keep getting ghosted by the guy I actually might like 😂 I’m like I’m being intentional, I’m making time for the person, I’m not talking/acting crazy, I’m putting in energy. The vibe seems great & then they just stop talking to me one day after a good conversation. And i let them go. I don’t say anything bc in my head I’m thinking sure i have a daughter but she’s well taken care of, zero drama, career, own everything, clean, self aware, in school and beautiful down to earth so I’m looking at this as protection for my husband. But I’m not going to lie it does make me feel insecure at times, as if something is wrong with me..

  • @vickiebloodworth8327
    @vickiebloodworth8327 Год назад +4

    My husband got on drugs and he said he didn't need any help that he was just fine but he wasn't fine, i had to tell him to leave and he did i loved him he just wouldn't get help because he loved the drug more, after he left he ghosted me and never ever contacted me!!!!
    His brother says he's with another women!!!
    I always felt that i didn't have the patience to deal with the drug seen
    In closing i thought our marriage was going to be to death do us part
    The LORD has blessed me
    and i thank my FATHER he never leaves me
    HALLELUJAH!!!

  • @Dr.Mahadrasjethwani_MD
    @Dr.Mahadrasjethwani_MD Год назад +50

    Married 32 years a culture arrangement and DTN ghosted me many many times, was just mean and beyond unkind, finally I said no more on November 2022 I told this Dark Triad Narc to "Go Away" and my Joy and Peace is HERE🙏 Each male is different no two brains think alike as a Forensic Neuro Physician there are similarly traits but this Thing is on a different level of a useless baseless male. I'm thankful I got to choose me and with what little sanity 😌 I have I know God has been taken care of me.🙏

    • @staejaye1910
      @staejaye1910 Год назад

      🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

    • @amandamaria0607
      @amandamaria0607 Год назад +1

      May God bless you, sister! Thank you for sharing your experience. So very proud of you :)

    • @Dr.Mahadrasjethwani_MD
      @Dr.Mahadrasjethwani_MD Год назад

      @amandamaria481 Thank you, Beautiful sister, 🙏 the purging is so deep. For years and years, I ignored, pretended, and never spoke up, I never protected myself, and I never gave anything to myself. Please if anybody out there is listening to me, don't make this mistake ever 🙏 Don't ever put a man before God! Don't ever put anything before God! This so-called arrangement was doomed from the start, I spoke with my mum, and my great mum both told me to be patient as long as he is not hitting me or calling me horrible names then ignore him.....go find other things to do. The more I prayed for healing, for "IT" to love me, care for me, and just be kind to me, the worst IT" became. I did more to prove myself, and IT" found more ways to complain. IT" never made any real money, very good at making it look like he did, IT" was a hard worker but that was for show. IT" allowed every single living thing to disregard and disrespect me. At this very moment, as I type, I'm fighting for my mental health !!!!!!! If you believe something is wrong then believe it and do something about it RIGHT NOW! You make the time to take care of your spirit. This is God talking to you Beautiful, that IT" is not what God sent me, I stayed because I believed the second coming of evil. TRUST GOD, NO MATTER WHAT IS GOING ON IN YOUR LIFE, and how do you know it's God? There will be an overwhelming relief of JOY that will hug you, 🫂 🙏

  • @lawanna9815
    @lawanna9815 Год назад +25

    My ex boyfriend ghosted me 4 years ago because he asked me for money and I said no. This man had two jobs, and I had one. I called and texted him and he didn’t answer. Then last year he contacted me out of the blue. He stated he wanted to fix things. After I asked him questions about our relationship the answers I received from him was unacceptable therefore I declined his offer to revisit the relationship

  • @knowyourkismat
    @knowyourkismat Год назад +49

    Thank you for lifting my spirit.
    I was recently ghosted by a man who I thought had long-term potential. He was kind, we spent a lot of time together. He was not narcissistic or abusive. He told me that he put me on a pedestal and that he could see a future with me, that he has never felt so comfortable with someone as he does with me. We had ONE disagreement/date that ended “badly”, he said he ‘needed space’ and then I never heard from him again. It hurt my heart because I was so confused as to why he would disappear after saying all those things to me. This video really helped me

    • @daphnepilchard5203
      @daphnepilchard5203 Год назад +14

      Same! After one disagreement the energy was never the same. Two months later gone!

    • @cococ9102
      @cococ9102 Год назад +14

      He probably created the argument.

    • @billyje4726
      @billyje4726 Год назад +13

      He could be a covert narcissist. Look into that and what these creatures do. This sounds like lovebombing and future faking. Sounds familiar. They do not like disagreements. They want their victims to comply with everything! 👈

    • @plata3032
      @plata3032 Год назад +2

      I relate to you so much, he also put me on a pedestal, said nobody made him feel this way and promised to wife me(over committed). A month later he broke up w me saying he cannot provide enough. I cried in front of him and obviously was mad at him for saying things he couldn't mean, he played victim card and made me the bad guy that i made HIM feel undeserving of love and "guilt tripped" him and that he realised he was never at fault, i did not even say mean words to him, i even tried to reach out many times, i apologised even when it wasn't my fault but since then he has ghosted me by putting all blame onto me
      Guess he's someone who just can't take accountability for mistakes they make, and put others in bad light to make them feel better about themselves

    • @knowyourkismat
      @knowyourkismat Год назад +1

      @@plata3032 I am so sorry it happened to you 😞 I hope we both know better for next time…

  • @belovedinthebuilding
    @belovedinthebuilding Год назад +29

    I am grateful that God kicked him out. A few years back I would of resented the fact that I was rejected by that particular individual, today I am grateful that he walked away and chose someone else over me. His rejection was God’s protection. Today I can finally experience God’s peace.

    • @tripleairgoddess
      @tripleairgoddess Год назад +2

      This is kind of sad to think. That they chose someone they don’t have “feelings” for and be all toxic to them. How is that positive thinking? So we say, “thanks for putting up with his BS, sis, so I have my peace” it just doesn’t sit right with me.

    • @Peacealways247
      @Peacealways247 Год назад +1

      No one deserves to be mistreated. Yes, thankful for the rejection but its also unfortunate that there are people out there that will accept the behavior just to say they have someone in their life. The narc in my case did marry someone else 6 mos later, someone from his past I do believe and if that's what she wants for herself so be it. He is STILL the same person, still wearing the mask but that too shall fall again and that woman too has a choice of staying or leaving, its just a matter of time. He's just not my business anymore.

    • @belovedinthebuilding
      @belovedinthebuilding Год назад

      I hope Heavenly Father brings healing and peace into your heart. May he give you back all that the enemy tried to steal from you through that individual. I pray you experience joy again. I understand you sister. To All of us that have experience such darkness,
      We are Roses that have grown in Concrete. Survivors. And to me? It’s a Beautiful thing.

    • @belovedinthebuilding
      @belovedinthebuilding Год назад

      I pray that Jesus Christ gives you peace that passes all understanding 💗

  • @LUVTHYSELFQUEENNATALIE2024
    @LUVTHYSELFQUEENNATALIE2024 Год назад +53

    GOD MADE HIM UNCOMFORTABLE AND KICKED HIM OUT ‼️‼️GOD DID FOR ME WHAT I COULDN'T DO FOR MYSELF 🤦🏾‍♀️❤️ FROM NORFOLK, VA 🤗 THIS MESSAGE WAS 🔥🔥🔥🔥

    • @jenifernadeau
      @jenifernadeau Год назад +1

      LOL I was just looking for flights to Norfolk as my dad lives in Virginia Beach and saw your comment... but it is amazing isn't it? how the Divine always has our back.. there's nothing we have to do as long as we don't get in our own way and toxicity can flow out without much effort on our part, leaving space for abundance

  • @jewellfairweather5411
    @jewellfairweather5411 Год назад +4

    Ghosting is immature!!! Period!!! Grown mature men do not ghost, they communicate.

  • @OliaKonJo
    @OliaKonJo Год назад +7

    They play it till they can't pretend anymore and then disappear. We need to thank them not sticking for years with us. The sooner it happens the better

  • @Jakilyn
    @Jakilyn Год назад +120

    I was recently ghosted for the first time in my life. It hurts when you're really enjoying the other person and there's no plausible explanation. I sent him one message and moved on. Really stings when we had future plans & I so enjoyed him and adored him. He said it was mutual...

    • @tahileebrown5161
      @tahileebrown5161 Год назад +4

      I love the way you spell your name😊

    • @natural3362
      @natural3362 Год назад +19

      Aww.. Grieve him. Grieve the lost of him and let him. The most important part is never look back.

    • @baquegood1ify
      @baquegood1ify Год назад +8

      Same here recently. It was weird for sure.

    • @jahryd6108
      @jahryd6108 Год назад +2

      😢 same

    • @dr.tapasyadiwakar1246
      @dr.tapasyadiwakar1246 Год назад

      Most of the time man tell u and talk about good and fancy stuffs,future planning but they are actually not serious.. its just manipulative tactic/ego boost day dreaming.... Why ppl fall for only words but not patterns.... Wake up. 🕉️

  • @carterthegamernoob6128
    @carterthegamernoob6128 Год назад +57

    I’m Greatful for all my experiences in life it’s made me the woman I’m today💯. I’m so confident in myself and being by myself it’s been refreshing

    • @farindolly
      @farindolly Год назад +8

      No one knows the feeling until they experience it themselves. My favourite part in life now is when I'm in bed from a long day there is no one demanding me to give myself to him when I know he is giving me nothing.

    • @carmenkamberos1156
      @carmenkamberos1156 Год назад +3

      Sonic, someone said: “Sometimes love hurts so badly that you don’t care if you fall in love again.” Oh, but you will! Jesus specializes in healing broken hearts! Blessings

  • @magaliealbert4486
    @magaliealbert4486 Год назад +254

    Black single women is a pandemic! It’s so many of us 😢😢

    • @erikacain5707
      @erikacain5707 Год назад +29

      Sooo many of us!!

    • @piekennedy
      @piekennedy Год назад +25

      Very true and it's sad

    • @eunicebediako4986
      @eunicebediako4986 Год назад +1

      I think its spiritual warfare that Men of this generation are not Healthy Men to Wed Us!!!!

    • @gapeach7814
      @gapeach7814 Год назад +63

      I can't lie that's why I get so upset every time I see a black man married to women of another race bc their own black queens need them and I'm already married. My heart just hurts for you guys bc it feels like our black men have turned their backs on our black women.

    • @Arlene_DOTK
      @Arlene_DOTK Год назад +42

      @@gapeach7814 Such an unhealthy mindset and thought process.

  • @blacqperl1
    @blacqperl1 Год назад +16

    Thank you Pastor zI figured this out about 3 years ago a man can’t Love a woman until he learns to Love himself and confronts his pass starting with his childhood

  • @LolitaStClair
    @LolitaStClair Год назад +28

    We need to Pray in all relationships!

  • @mmbb5362
    @mmbb5362 4 месяца назад +1

    Thanks! Thank you! Thank you 🙏🏾

  • @Micha63857
    @Micha63857 Год назад +19

    The treasure of having a man's perspective and how men really think is mind-blowing!!!. I suddenly understood why my husband withdraw from the relationship. Thank you!

    • @kojoboateng6755
      @kojoboateng6755 Год назад

      Trust me, this is NOT men's perspective. This is a PANDERER'S perspective. No difference between this guy and Derick Jackson

    • @shieldoffaith7099
      @shieldoffaith7099 Год назад +2

      ​@kojoboateng6755 Can you give a man's perspective?Or recommend a content presenter who does.

  • @hipsmeow
    @hipsmeow Год назад +65

    It’s extremely sad there’s so many single, black women let me emphasize “good women”not women whom try to present themselves as men but we have to stand up and do for ourselves. You can be slightly submissive, cook dinner be very inviting watch your words that you’re saying, make sure that it’s not too aggressive. Very clean home ,hygiene, good lover, excellent cook and you still will get played. That’s some of these men. They will have excellent lovemaking with you. Have a great evening sometime even go out of town and then the next day you don’t hear anything from them and if you do. They act like the evening before didn’t exist. I’m talking about men over 50 not young boys why do that to us.

    • @yai837
      @yai837 Год назад +1

      Read my comment above dawn

    • @Positivevibes1979
      @Positivevibes1979 Год назад +4

      Please someone answer this I would love to know also

    • @shalalala868
      @shalalala868 Год назад +9

      Keep your cookies in the jar

    • @RealLadi228
      @RealLadi228 Год назад +8

      I was told to never take a man more seriously than he takes you....

    • @4thdimensionallivn51
      @4thdimensionallivn51 Год назад +4

      ​@@RealLadi228
      Exactly!!! Don't go into overdrive from d 1st day. Don't have d "desperation sign" allover ur forehead. Let ur energy be" I am about to acquire another " FRIEND", not a LOVER/HUSBAND. if it works out, good. If not, another great one is by d corner. In summary,....just RELAX. and pray dat d one that is yours by "Divine right", shows up.

  • @mrscalvin9349
    @mrscalvin9349 Год назад +6

    If a good woman loves a man , she loves that man for the man that he is, not for the materialistic things that he has. Because you two can come together & build that life together ☺️

  • @empresssoundz3981
    @empresssoundz3981 Год назад +17

    THANK YOU!!! OMG! I have wondered for years. All it would take is a conversation. I don't have it together all the time either. I'm looking to work together with my man. I get so sick of lies and games.

  • @glowupjess
    @glowupjess Год назад +5

    Ghosting doesn’t hurt me it’s actually a blessing

  • @uptownelectronix2278
    @uptownelectronix2278 Год назад +4

    You are blessed with the vision to see bro. You are truly special. Very few men can put themselves in a place to feel women. Because what men have made up is, that masculinity is built on is controlling women. But you speak the truth. Few men can do that. You are chosen.

    • @uptownelectronix2278
      @uptownelectronix2278 Год назад

      That's it what you said at 27:21. Men need to maintain and control women to feel good in his ego. But you know what this comes from. ENVY. People want to control what they cant compete with. Because they feel inadequate. It is also the what racism is about. The answers to life you speak . Thank you.

  • @barbarawaddell-steele3603
    @barbarawaddell-steele3603 Год назад +4

    Being ghosted by a narcissist and/ or anyone, is a blessing in disguise.

  • @karynn.7050
    @karynn.7050 Год назад +35

    This testament resonates so deeply with me and what I’ve been through. In two of the major involvements I’ve had with men, I was ghosted by them. It took me a long time to understand that it was never about me, it was about their own lack of consciousness and security within themselves. I have always maintained a strong sense of self, and it was way more than what they were used to in a woman. Thank you for this!

  • @Kjmummy06
    @Kjmummy06 Год назад +31

    Can't wait for this one??? Number one burning question??? 😩😩😩❤️‍🩹🥲

    • @Skinobsession_by_nikita
      @Skinobsession_by_nikita Год назад +2

      Giiiiiiiiiirl!!!!!!!!!!!! Me too I'm just over it

    • @kellynorman8042
      @kellynorman8042 Год назад +1

      Right!!! Crazy times we live in and dating oh my goodness...for that reason for now I'm out. Looking forward to tonight

    • @cynthiacynthia5952
      @cynthiacynthia5952 Год назад +3

      I love that song!

    • @erikacain5707
      @erikacain5707 Год назад

      I would love to know!!!

  • @singlesmeetinternational
    @singlesmeetinternational Год назад +4

    Same here- He ran off as l will not compromise on my standards. Very right pastor. He was scared and was emotionally available. Thanks, for clarification.

  • @RealLadi228
    @RealLadi228 Год назад +18

    Ghosting is due to a lack of real substance...this is the word God gave to me..."Substance"
    Great lesson Pastor Blake's🙏

  • @KEIHFR
    @KEIHFR Год назад +3

    I didn't feel bad for being ghosted. It was blessing in disguise. If anything it made him look bad and less like a functioning adult that is capable of communicating wants, desires,and expectations.

  • @justjameka7961
    @justjameka7961 Год назад +27

    Thank you for this specific subject! I was ghosted by my boyfriend this past December and have been struggling with the "why". I feel like I've gotten my questions answered!

  • @naomijulve5918
    @naomijulve5918 Год назад +6

    This has made me feel so much better. Thank you. I can't stop being sad over someone who could not communicate ever and I kept being sad about it. I ended it, but I honestly feel like he ghosted me by not wanting to work on anything...ever. He would just run. He'd do immature things to reach out weeks later though and I was fed up. Liking a post on FB or whatever...No. Stop. This has made me feel so much better.

  • @meli7315
    @meli7315 Год назад +3

    As soon I have put boundaries men ghosted me in the past, so grateful for spiritual protection 🤍🕯️

  • @dominiquerivero6611
    @dominiquerivero6611 Год назад +15

    Destructive patterns: she is out of my league so am going to bring her down or abandon her

  • @annamillan2903
    @annamillan2903 Год назад +3

    Rejection is protection. He wanted me to be his side chick and I ghosted him too. I grew to dislike the same person I was completely on love with.

  • @lolachlih3136
    @lolachlih3136 Год назад +25

    Rejection is Gods protection i found myself in this situation when i was ghosted, i was hurt had my mind was racing what did i do wrong? Was it something I've said or was it me? but then i stopped to realize it wasn't me it was my partner,thank you pastor for being so inspirational, for your knowledge🙏

  • @tiffanyfisher3844
    @tiffanyfisher3844 Год назад +4

    that's good Pastor...a man is not thinking about 'your' money he's thinking about 'his' money to maintain the relationship 💪

  • @jennifergarcia1430
    @jennifergarcia1430 Год назад +37

    This is something Im going through; Its been a year already and I still think about him after we had a good friendship and feelings but this video really helps give me the strength I need to continue moving forward; Thank you RC Blakes! ❤

  • @kimlong6567
    @kimlong6567 4 месяца назад +2

    Someone I was in a relationship did this after a argument it really dimish your self esteem later I recognized he was a narcissist

  • @gayecosmicchic9755
    @gayecosmicchic9755 Год назад +6

    It stopped hurting when God spoke to it, and he said God has a great way of tacking the trash out for you 🙂it changed the game completely, and I realised I had work to Do on my self esteem,it was never about me. I've been online dating, and it happens weekly!!! Honestly, men are embarrassing themselves absolutely and completely currently, and I've zero tollarance for emotionally unevolved knuckle dragging mentality 👌keep running stay out of my way I've got chores to do.

  • @yvonnetaylor-bennett5658
    @yvonnetaylor-bennett5658 Год назад +2

    It wasn't rejection, it was protection. Prrrreeeeccchhh!!! This is rich. Another good lesson.

  • @aliciahollies1029
    @aliciahollies1029 Год назад +22

    It happened to me I was so hurt but GOD had other plans I’m so whole now ❤

  • @StephanieMunce
    @StephanieMunce 3 месяца назад

    I love how you said we would feel ghosted if you and Lisa didn't show up for a show. I laughed out loud because I would be devastated if my Papa and Mama Blake's ghosted me. You've been so consistent and say things that agree with my soul 💖

  • @Positivevibes3808
    @Positivevibes3808 Год назад +24

    My ex broke up with me when I was seven months pregnant. He still contacted me until my 9th month and silenced himself for two weeks and doesn’t check on me or the baby. He did a complete 180.
    This video definitely put things in perspective.

    • @cynthiadickerson5403
      @cynthiadickerson5403 Год назад +15

      You and your baby will be blessed by God. He will direct your steps, just listen to Him.

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 Год назад +8

      I'm sorry your going thru this. Please sis, don't allow a man to sleep with you if he's not your spouse. God warns us for a reason. He doesn't want you heartbroken, alone and disgraced. Listen to RC videos on soul ties.

    • @djladylovequeenofhearts
      @djladylovequeenofhearts Год назад +2

      Peace and Blessings to you Sis. I’m praying for you 🙏🏾

    • @salenasheppherd2834
      @salenasheppherd2834 Год назад +1

      @@danilaroche1156 Amen!!!

    • @walkingministries5803
      @walkingministries5803 Год назад +7

      The lord is with you mama. He has not left you or abandoned you! The lord always comes through for his children❤ I pray the lords protection and healing over you 💜✝️

  • @victoriarossetti999
    @victoriarossetti999 Год назад +61

    You have helped me so much and I am so grateful! Thank you for everything you do bishop 🙏

  • @tubegen11
    @tubegen11 Год назад +5

    I look forward to the day when I can look back on these comments and with tears of joy rejoice because God gave me a second chance at love ❤. Until then thank you God and thank you RC Blakes!

  • @vitareid
    @vitareid Год назад +7

    "Game is very emotional and very convincing." RC Blakes

  • @marionwallsten7507
    @marionwallsten7507 Год назад +10

    Absolutely beautiful music in the beginning!

  • @hienienguyen6766
    @hienienguyen6766 Год назад +1

    i don't understand why men ghost women. I am very glad that I am learning boundaries myself pastor. I always love hearing your value