I thank you for your wisdom and educating me to fully understanding what is going in my life. I will love to know the title of your intro song bc I am so loving that song? I will love to play this as one of my daily uplifting song
I've been ghosted and it wasn't because I slept with him. It was because he couldn't control and manipulate me into being his side chick. I have boundaries and hold firm on them. The men who ghost are overwhelmingly narcissistic. It's rude, disrespectful, manipulative and, ultimately, extremely cowardly. The reality is, it actually IS a blessing.
If “it wasn’t because you slept with him” he wouldn’t have ghosted you at all. He wanted you to be a side chick, that meant you already were whether you already knew or not. Being a side chick is sexual, so his entire goal and mission is/was sex.
@ChampagneAndCupcakes xoxo What he "wanted" and what actually happened are two completely different things. But thanks for being so all knowing and omnipotent as to explain to me what did or did not occur in my own life. Were you there? What??? Oh right, you weren't. And btw, one can "ghost" people for all sorts of reaspns. It's not strictly related to sexual relationships or encounters.
@@honeyjazz4147 The same here. And some women are ghosted just because a narcissist man (accustomed to easy chicks) knows that he won't get any sexual favours..
Straight up. The worst I’ve ever been treated was by a man that knew he had nothing to offer me, teach me or do for me. He was out-done and couldn’t handle intimacy or real life issues. Broke, inept men want to bask in the glow of an incredible woman but are quickly turned off by her outshining him or expecting the same depth she provides. Take the ghost as a compliment, he’s telling you he can’t handle you because HE is not enough. Let him find what he is comfortable with, if you watch, she will be your downgrade.
1: He runs from feelings. Proverbs 25:28 2: He gradually felt incompetent to maintain the relationship, due to his insecurities. Luke 14:18 3: He started with a false profile; embarrassed to come clean. Proverbs 11:1-2 4: He over committed before he actually was sure. Matthew 5:37 5: When something heavy has occurred. 6: Sometimes he gets the sense that her people don't like him. 1 Corinthians 13:33 7: He got offended. Proverbs 18:19 8: God made him uncomfortable
I do believe the guy who ghosted me met 7 of the 8 on this list...emotionally unavailable so I thank God for that ship that sailed him to marry someone else 6 months later.
I understand. However these are conversations that should have been discussed in person with the person whom you have ghosted and wanted real relationship with not a third party. If needed be a mentor whomever you trust your emotions with before you spill over into other places or relationships and connections. For nothing but clarification sake so the person who had the issue could freely move on in a peaceable peaceful way. Thank you again for the healing update.
It does trully hurt.. Even being kept emotionally and mentally hostige because they wont tell you what's the problem .. Which makes a person to think it's your fault..
1) They are immature. 2) They already in a relationship. 3) They just wanted sex. 4)They don't wanna hurt her. 5) They projected unto her by judging her prematurely. Either way they did you a favor!
I heard a man say this one time and my spirit caught it. "never marry or force a man to grow up." He will grow up but you will suffer. And when he grows up, he will be lookin for a Wife. I feel like most of us women force men to mature by gettin them to marry or be in a relationship with us. Leave men alone to mature and then u marry them
When men are ready to marry they are usually ran through and empty wallet and lost their looks and body ready to give out and bald and unattractive mess. This is why I don't recommend women to marry older men because you will be a young widow stuck with children and hospital bills and debt and he will leave everything to his adult children.
Very true! I am not doing that any more. I invested too much, and they just took it and ran away. Not gonna help a boy to grow up and to be left for someone else. If I sense this "needy" energy from a guy, I pull back. Proof to me that you are a man.
I think it hurts the most when you later realize it’s because they chose someone else. But a man of character wouldn’t ghost in the first place. It’s cowardly when there is a history of friendship and feelings. I believe it’s too hard for a lot of men to tell someone,so they ghost because they don’t have the courage.
As a manipulation tactic. This grooming strategy is done, routinely, to deliver a devastating blow to her psyche, making her question herself. This void makes her long for him..Soon as he returns, she is so happy that she doesn't demand an apology and it can be business as usual, with her in constant fear that it will happen again.
😢😢went through it for 3 years consistently, then boom pregnant and left for good. Anyone sees this if you do not have a connection such as a child or marriage, please run and detach from that soul tie and confusion.
Reading this is so shocking but so true. I pray to everyone who is in this position to work on yourself as much as possible so when you exit or they return you are gone for good.
That's why, one must know their worth. Don't you ladies and gentlemen know your worth in Christ? Understand how valuable and precious you are and what the good lords plans for you are. I can say personally, I would never demand an apology from a man that ghosted me. That's mistake #1, if a man like that comes back and doesn't have an apology and reason already prepared, then that's already a HELL NO. Mistake #2, for the majority of the time - entertaining or welcoming back someone in your life who would do that to you in the first place is a problem. Know your WORTH ladies and gentlemen! 🙂
This happened to me when I told someone I thought I had an emotional connection with that I am waiting for sex. He was very available, quick texter before this. Hasn’t responded since.
"Homies just running from his own lies". This one hurts the most, because not only is it traumatising the sudden leaving, but you find out this person is someone completely different to who you thought they were
Even if we aren't cheated by them, but felt aagain betrayed like we had being cheated maybe even more awful feeling for me. Because it reels hurt badly 😥
My ex boyfriend did this to me last year and I found out he was with someone new and he didnt tell me honestly very immature and disrespectful to do. But it's a blessing because I'm with a good guy who loves me and respects me I'm happy now ❤
This type of men are like Tarzan : they need always on the free hand a second person before leaving the first one. It happened to me also. But I was the other girl, he pretended being single, he wanted to leave the other girl and I said no thank you. Because I want build my luck on the bad luck from another woman and also I will be one day the other woman so never trust and respect will be served to me.
I’ve never been ghosted before but men have sporadically ended a situationship that I thought was going really well and that has hurt too. I think its helped me a lot to realize that a lot men are secretly battling internal and external issues that have absolutely nothing to do with me. You really can’t internalize what these men do to you. They are broken and have issues that you should be thankful you weren’t around to see.
@@Cwashpvu Please don’t internalize this and make it about yourself and something you did wrong. Just remember that the type of man who disappears when things are going well is not the man you want because he either 1) Is hiding something he doesn’t want you to see , 2) Is not being honest with you about something or 3) Is emotionally unavailable and can not commit. None of those things are qualities that makes a man a good partner. I’m telling you, they are doing you a favor every time this happens.
Divorce is never the way out, My wife and I have been having issues before I sort out help from a spiritual adviser,i wasnt going to let my marriage of 18years crash
This is very touching. I am in a similar situation as well. Not to go into details. My husband stepped out on our marriage, and it has been difficult for me to get over it.
Thats a man right there you fight for what you believe in mine became resentful towards after a lost of miscarriage and never touched me again and ran like a little man after 14 yrs of marriage you would think you know someone 🤬🤷🏾♀️
I've been recently ghosted by a man because I wouldn't compromise my standards and boundaries.(I feel that was the reason). I was puzzled at first and a little hurt because I thought we were getting along great. And we never had any arguments or disagreements. Thank you Pastor Blakes for speaking on on this. Blessings to you and first lady Lisa Blakes.🙏🙏🙏
@Shelia M Lightell Damn straight. I'm 61, never been married because I'd rather be on my own than marry just to be married. Ego and confidence does not mean a person has healthy self-esteem. Healthy self-esteem is the key. There are far too many broken people in the world these days.
I went through something like that as well. After about 2.5-3 months he said to me, "It's not normal that we haven't had sex by now" 😄 and he's a Christian 🤣😂 I'm soooo over it right now. I am going to hold to my standards, I am worth the wait! 👍🎁❤️ and I really do want a best friend 🙏 someone to experience the true love of God with and finish the rest of this journey called life with then move onto glory....AMEN! 🙏❤️
You did the right thing...because when you compromise het gains contro over you andl that will be detrimental to your, soul, health and life itself...I'm talking from experience....Jesus Redeemed me from a situationship and today I share it...KEEP THE FAITH....YOU'RE THE BLACK DIAMOND, to compromise would display you as a ZIRCONIA stone...stay true to you..
I was ghosted by someone I thought loved me deeply for slight misunderstanding. I later come to realize man’s rejection was God’s way of protecting me. Am happy I didn’t force things. Thanks Bishop Blakes for your teachings ❤️
This hits a nerve with me because I was genuinely ready for a relationship. And I’m left picking up the pieces and have to go through the healing and the grieving process. That’s selfishness on their part.
Tina Angelici, Ernest Hemingway said: “The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you’re special too.” Blessings . Jesus specialty is healing broken hearts.
I know how you are feeling. After my best friends, my all passed away, I didn't want to date he was a great it has been six years since his passing, and I decided to get back out there. And I did, and I told him straight up, be honest, if he had anyone he told me he didn't, and went to his apartment and he had things in his personal bathroom belongs to a woman he had been lying. So I left because he had kids, so I got up and left. We got into it, and I wasn't nothing but good to him. Tried to help him out bringing him lunch! But I told him about himself because it wasn't the stuff that was there. u said it belongs to his seven year old daughter. It was bath and bodywork, and V that adults women used. It was the lie for me !! I couldn't accept that lie, so I was able to walk away before we went to far
@@lesliebean9717 good for you. I’m so happy for you.😊I wish more women would stand up and not tolerate this bs from men. Maybe less men would be able to play these games.
I was ghosted before. I just assumed he had someone else that he was more interested in. I just stopped calling him and moved on. I thought of him often but I realized that he was not pursuing me. How ever I later discover new information that made him less attractive to me anyway. Knowing that I didn't deserve what he dished out to me. Peace of mind is better than being right.
God really moves in mysterious ways. I just finished trying to explain to my girlfriend why a man would walk away from her to someone else. I told her God removed that man from her life because he sees that she deserves better. I go on RUclips to send her a song and saw this. Thank you Lord, thank you R.C. Blake's for your looking out for us.
He left because He just was not the one for her. When the one that is yours " by Divine right" arrives, he will stay. There will be no drama, no games. Just Peace of mind. So our prayers should be for the one that is ours by Divine rt, to cross paths with us.
@@evelynnjiiri517 sorry dear. He was there just for d sex. Reason y it is alwz wise to hold off d physical part for a while, to allow things to unfold. Like John legend says: take it slow.... Also wise to practice Detached dating. U will be OK. He is not ur oxygen dear. D best is around d corner.
Dating and relationships can be so DANGEROUS these days! Women have to find a way to seek God's purpose for their singleness. Being in the palm of of the Lord's hand will always keep us safe from the wolves in sheep's clothing. Getting ghosted for NOT compromising hurts only for a short period of time, but getting ghosted AFTER forming a physical/sexual soul tie is far more devastating to the soul and spirit. Thank you Man of God for this video. 🙌🏽💯
Exactly, the feeling of being used is the worst, am going through the same now that’s why i am here😢it really sucks but i will soon overcome coz i ve blocked that evil son of a bch
You’re not alone. I was ghosted after 2 years of speaking everyday vacations and planning for future. Told me every day for 2 years that he loved me and how he couldn’t wait to marry me. He never missed a day. Then one day I just never heard from him again. There was no argument no disagreement nothing. It’s been 3 months now. I thought he would eventuality become my husband 😢I feel so stupid
So that's always meant to trigger what part of the inner child that was wounded and emotionally neglected from a parent so that we can focus on that inner work, to re parent ourselves in healthier ways and do that shadow work as well, what we weren't seeing, what's hidden from us in our own subconscious, that is creating a vibrational frequency that is bringing to us things that we do not want. We are all energetic beings, and those with nefarious intentions read that energy, and when we become more conscious of our own energy, we will be more conscious of our own vibration, because like can only attract like. And if we are attracting things we do not want, it's because we have some sort of unhealthy belief system about ourselves, something we were meant to provide for ourselves instead of looking for in another... that we would never have been able to start the healing work on if we weren't triggered. So any interactions with another are always the blessing and an opportunity that guides us towards what needs healing within us❤
To whoever is reading this: Happy Valentine’s Day! Though you may be single like I am, remember that Jesus loves you and so do I! Buy your own chocolates or flowers, you deserve it beautiful!❤
I have never understood the ghosting thing, no matter who is doing it. It is awful and soul crushing. Leaves the other insecure and w trust issues. Communication is super easy. Just say, thanks for the experience of you and for crossing my path but I need to move on in another direction. Were not compatible or whatever. Date w intention. Dont awaken people's souls and then run. So gross
I have ghosted someone in my early twenties. There was absolutely nothing wrong with the guy. He was kind, caring, responsible. There was everything wrong with me. I was a runner cos I was not comfortable in my own skin and not capable to admit it whether to them nor myself. I had lots healing to do. Today I would never do that to someone, nor bother much if it's done to me cos I know the reason. There is no proper justification for ghosting. It's just emotional immaturity. And they're nowhere near ready for a healthy relationship.
It's great that you've grown, but you owe it to that person to go back, apologize, and explain yourself. Even if you have to look him up on social media and shoot him a DM. Ghosting causes a never-ending lack of closure. The person who is ghosted learns to live with the hole in their life but they never really get past it. That closure can make all the difference.
@@TomikaKelly oh I did back then. I returned to apologize. I don't believe it creates a never ending hole in someone's life tho. I was ghosted last year. Someone I was dating for 6 months just split on me one night, and disappeared. I recognized it's his immature reaction not mine. I don't need to judge it. He emotionally couldn't handle a mature conversation/ closure. And I respect that. But I don't need to own it and make it mean that here's something wrong with me because of it. Rejection is not pleasant but if you're grounded, a whole person and emotionally stable, you won't feel dispair. We're all responsible for our feelings also.
LOL I was just looking for flights to Norfolk as my dad lives in Virginia Beach and saw your comment... but it is amazing isn't it? how the Divine always has our back.. there's nothing we have to do as long as we don't get in our own way and toxicity can flow out without much effort on our part, leaving space for abundance
My ex boyfriend ghosted me 4 years ago because he asked me for money and I said no. This man had two jobs, and I had one. I called and texted him and he didn’t answer. Then last year he contacted me out of the blue. He stated he wanted to fix things. After I asked him questions about our relationship the answers I received from him was unacceptable therefore I declined his offer to revisit the relationship
30 years ago, I started asking GOD to reveal EVERYTHING about people... especially reveal a man who has shown interest in dating me AND if I was also interested. I wait on the revelations and as a result, I am not easily invested or disappointed. I have struggled to be obedient to what GOD shows me but have NEVER regretted when I accept the revelation and moved on away from the inevitable deal breakers, non-negotiables, heartaches. Alone but not lonely and not heartbroken. Obedience is better than sacrifice... I have learned to appreciate my values and maintain my boundaries. Stand firm, don't pursue... so much more to share...
I was recently ghosted for the first time in my life. It hurts when you're really enjoying the other person and there's no plausible explanation. I sent him one message and moved on. Really stings when we had future plans & I so enjoyed him and adored him. He said it was mutual...
Most of the time man tell u and talk about good and fancy stuffs,future planning but they are actually not serious.. its just manipulative tactic/ego boost day dreaming.... Why ppl fall for only words but not patterns.... Wake up. 🕉️
Right on time message! I definitely learned the lesson of staying "behind him in feelings." When you dive in a shallow pool, you are bound to get hurt! Observe and guard your heart ❤️
Married 32 years a culture arrangement and DTN ghosted me many many times, was just mean and beyond unkind, finally I said no more on November 2022 I told this Dark Triad Narc to "Go Away" and my Joy and Peace is HERE🙏 Each male is different no two brains think alike as a Forensic Neuro Physician there are similarly traits but this Thing is on a different level of a useless baseless male. I'm thankful I got to choose me and with what little sanity 😌 I have I know God has been taken care of me.🙏
@amandamaria481 Thank you, Beautiful sister, 🙏 the purging is so deep. For years and years, I ignored, pretended, and never spoke up, I never protected myself, and I never gave anything to myself. Please if anybody out there is listening to me, don't make this mistake ever 🙏 Don't ever put a man before God! Don't ever put anything before God! This so-called arrangement was doomed from the start, I spoke with my mum, and my great mum both told me to be patient as long as he is not hitting me or calling me horrible names then ignore him.....go find other things to do. The more I prayed for healing, for "IT" to love me, care for me, and just be kind to me, the worst IT" became. I did more to prove myself, and IT" found more ways to complain. IT" never made any real money, very good at making it look like he did, IT" was a hard worker but that was for show. IT" allowed every single living thing to disregard and disrespect me. At this very moment, as I type, I'm fighting for my mental health !!!!!!! If you believe something is wrong then believe it and do something about it RIGHT NOW! You make the time to take care of your spirit. This is God talking to you Beautiful, that IT" is not what God sent me, I stayed because I believed the second coming of evil. TRUST GOD, NO MATTER WHAT IS GOING ON IN YOUR LIFE, and how do you know it's God? There will be an overwhelming relief of JOY that will hug you, 🫂 🙏
I just got ghosted by someone that I loved and cared for. I was wondering why because I believe everything was going well . So then this video came up on my feed out of nowhere 🙌🏾. This was God’s divine intervention and it has opened my eyes not to wallow in the “what did I do?” Thank you Pastor Blake for this message!
It gives you the space to now evolve yourself furtherin the meantime because energetically, you will attract better If people do not rise up to meet you where you are, they have to fall away. We never have to do anything but keep leveling up and keep the focus on ourselves . It's amazing isn't it that we have a perception that things are going well and yet that's not actually what's happening. So we have to ask ourselves what part of our inner child needed it to go well and how much cognitive dissonance we were exhibiting, and why, etc for us to not see things as they are❤
The only ghost I'm concerned about is the holy ghost. Lol!! If a man is ghosting me I consider it a dodged bullet, thank God for removing him and keep it moving. It may hurt, but it just means there's someone better in the future. Holding steadfast to my morals and standards is way more important.
I ghosted a man that I was involved with because he kept saying he didn’t want a relationship so I walked away. I didn’t really think leaving would hurt him, but I saw him recently after many years and could see the pain in his eyes.
I think it’s because it would force them to level up and most men are mediocre and unable to to that so they find women on a lower vibration who think mediocre is awesome
Thank you for lifting my spirit. I was recently ghosted by a man who I thought had long-term potential. He was kind, we spent a lot of time together. He was not narcissistic or abusive. He told me that he put me on a pedestal and that he could see a future with me, that he has never felt so comfortable with someone as he does with me. We had ONE disagreement/date that ended “badly”, he said he ‘needed space’ and then I never heard from him again. It hurt my heart because I was so confused as to why he would disappear after saying all those things to me. This video really helped me
He could be a covert narcissist. Look into that and what these creatures do. This sounds like lovebombing and future faking. Sounds familiar. They do not like disagreements. They want their victims to comply with everything! 👈
I relate to you so much, he also put me on a pedestal, said nobody made him feel this way and promised to wife me(over committed). A month later he broke up w me saying he cannot provide enough. I cried in front of him and obviously was mad at him for saying things he couldn't mean, he played victim card and made me the bad guy that i made HIM feel undeserving of love and "guilt tripped" him and that he realised he was never at fault, i did not even say mean words to him, i even tried to reach out many times, i apologised even when it wasn't my fault but since then he has ghosted me by putting all blame onto me Guess he's someone who just can't take accountability for mistakes they make, and put others in bad light to make them feel better about themselves
I can't lie that's why I get so upset every time I see a black man married to women of another race bc their own black queens need them and I'm already married. My heart just hurts for you guys bc it feels like our black men have turned their backs on our black women.
I am grateful that God kicked him out. A few years back I would of resented the fact that I was rejected by that particular individual, today I am grateful that he walked away and chose someone else over me. His rejection was God’s protection. Today I can finally experience God’s peace.
This is kind of sad to think. That they chose someone they don’t have “feelings” for and be all toxic to them. How is that positive thinking? So we say, “thanks for putting up with his BS, sis, so I have my peace” it just doesn’t sit right with me.
No one deserves to be mistreated. Yes, thankful for the rejection but its also unfortunate that there are people out there that will accept the behavior just to say they have someone in their life. The narc in my case did marry someone else 6 mos later, someone from his past I do believe and if that's what she wants for herself so be it. He is STILL the same person, still wearing the mask but that too shall fall again and that woman too has a choice of staying or leaving, its just a matter of time. He's just not my business anymore.
I hope Heavenly Father brings healing and peace into your heart. May he give you back all that the enemy tried to steal from you through that individual. I pray you experience joy again. I understand you sister. To All of us that have experience such darkness, We are Roses that have grown in Concrete. Survivors. And to me? It’s a Beautiful thing.
It’s extremely sad there’s so many single, black women let me emphasize “good women”not women whom try to present themselves as men but we have to stand up and do for ourselves. You can be slightly submissive, cook dinner be very inviting watch your words that you’re saying, make sure that it’s not too aggressive. Very clean home ,hygiene, good lover, excellent cook and you still will get played. That’s some of these men. They will have excellent lovemaking with you. Have a great evening sometime even go out of town and then the next day you don’t hear anything from them and if you do. They act like the evening before didn’t exist. I’m talking about men over 50 not young boys why do that to us.
@@RealLadi228 Exactly!!! Don't go into overdrive from d 1st day. Don't have d "desperation sign" allover ur forehead. Let ur energy be" I am about to acquire another " FRIEND", not a LOVER/HUSBAND. if it works out, good. If not, another great one is by d corner. In summary,....just RELAX. and pray dat d one that is yours by "Divine right", shows up.
This instantly cured my "is it me" syndrome. I will never offer my kingdom up to someone who cant even tell me how it is from the get go! Im taking all those years "wasted" and turning them into lessons and blessings!🙏
In islam when we meet someone i always ask dear god if this person is not good for my soul please keep this person away from me and if this is supposed to be a good person in my life give me a sign ,give me guidance . It always helps and some people mysteriously got out of my life or never saw again without a fight or whatever. Even if your are christian or jewish never forget to ask god he is the all seen ❤
But GOD will not take him/her out your life. But I believe he will give red flaring flags. And it is our choice to walk away. Sometimes, he will allow someone to hurt you because ur being hardheaded and it’s the only way you would walk away.
I've learned to call ghosting, God's protection and a blessing. I think in many instances He was shielding me from harmful and potentially toxic and detrimental relationships. So I am grateful and so very thankful.
Why should we give power to these men by analyzing them? Clearly, if they ghosted, they ain't ish. Sorry pastor. If the woman is that great, she shouldn't put her self-esteem in a man's hands.
@@keyshapitts3515 I will agree with the comment above. I think it's not about men's lack of confidence, but women make it too easy for men nowadays to get what they want from them, with no emotional investment, so they just disappear when they took what they wanted. It's a jungle out there and people will take advantage if you let them, anytime. In the case that a woman indeed knows her worth and makes the man work for her, if he's not the one, he will not want to put in the work and will disappear. So the trash takes itself out. Why would a woman of worth worry about trash? That's my question.
The treasure of having a man's perspective and how men really think is mind-blowing!!!. I suddenly understood why my husband withdraw from the relationship. Thank you!
No one knows the feeling until they experience it themselves. My favourite part in life now is when I'm in bed from a long day there is no one demanding me to give myself to him when I know he is giving me nothing.
Sonic, someone said: “Sometimes love hurts so badly that you don’t care if you fall in love again.” Oh, but you will! Jesus specializes in healing broken hearts! Blessings
Why pursue ghosted men? Just the word is evil. Ladies, just let him go. He has nothing to offer you. Don't call him, unfollow him, block him or just don't respond to his text. Just live your best life. Ignore him.
Man! I been thinking the past couple weeks why I keep getting ghosted by the guy I actually might like 😂 I’m like I’m being intentional, I’m making time for the person, I’m not talking/acting crazy, I’m putting in energy. The vibe seems great & then they just stop talking to me one day after a good conversation. And i let them go. I don’t say anything bc in my head I’m thinking sure i have a daughter but she’s well taken care of, zero drama, career, own everything, clean, self aware, in school and beautiful down to earth so I’m looking at this as protection for my husband. But I’m not going to lie it does make me feel insecure at times, as if something is wrong with me..
Ghosting is so low. If you don’t like someone or you just don’t think it’s right for you then just tell them! It’s simple and it’s respectable. It’s the least they can do. But no. Being a coward instead.
Thank you Pastor zI figured this out about 3 years ago a man can’t Love a woman until he learns to Love himself and confronts his pass starting with his childhood
This testament resonates so deeply with me and what I’ve been through. In two of the major involvements I’ve had with men, I was ghosted by them. It took me a long time to understand that it was never about me, it was about their own lack of consciousness and security within themselves. I have always maintained a strong sense of self, and it was way more than what they were used to in a woman. Thank you for this!
THANK YOU!!! OMG! I have wondered for years. All it would take is a conversation. I don't have it together all the time either. I'm looking to work together with my man. I get so sick of lies and games.
Rejection is Gods protection i found myself in this situation when i was ghosted, i was hurt had my mind was racing what did i do wrong? Was it something I've said or was it me? but then i stopped to realize it wasn't me it was my partner,thank you pastor for being so inspirational, for your knowledge🙏
Thank you for this specific subject! I was ghosted by my boyfriend this past December and have been struggling with the "why". I feel like I've gotten my questions answered!
My ex broke up with me when I was seven months pregnant. He still contacted me until my 9th month and silenced himself for two weeks and doesn’t check on me or the baby. He did a complete 180. This video definitely put things in perspective.
I'm sorry your going thru this. Please sis, don't allow a man to sleep with you if he's not your spouse. God warns us for a reason. He doesn't want you heartbroken, alone and disgraced. Listen to RC videos on soul ties.
The lord is with you mama. He has not left you or abandoned you! The lord always comes through for his children❤ I pray the lords protection and healing over you 💜✝️
They play it till they can't pretend anymore and then disappear. We need to thank them not sticking for years with us. The sooner it happens the better
This has made me feel so much better. Thank you. I can't stop being sad over someone who could not communicate ever and I kept being sad about it. I ended it, but I honestly feel like he ghosted me by not wanting to work on anything...ever. He would just run. He'd do immature things to reach out weeks later though and I was fed up. Liking a post on FB or whatever...No. Stop. This has made me feel so much better.
You are blessed with the vision to see bro. You are truly special. Very few men can put themselves in a place to feel women. Because what men have made up is, that masculinity is built on is controlling women. But you speak the truth. Few men can do that. You are chosen.
That's it what you said at 27:21. Men need to maintain and control women to feel good in his ego. But you know what this comes from. ENVY. People want to control what they cant compete with. Because they feel inadequate. It is also the what racism is about. The answers to life you speak . Thank you.
This is something Im going through; Its been a year already and I still think about him after we had a good friendship and feelings but this video really helps give me the strength I need to continue moving forward; Thank you RC Blakes! ❤
My husband got on drugs and he said he didn't need any help that he was just fine but he wasn't fine, i had to tell him to leave and he did i loved him he just wouldn't get help because he loved the drug more, after he left he ghosted me and never ever contacted me!!!! His brother says he's with another women!!! I always felt that i didn't have the patience to deal with the drug seen In closing i thought our marriage was going to be to death do us part The LORD has blessed me and i thank my FATHER he never leaves me HALLELUJAH!!!
Very good information!! As a woman I can tell you why I have ghosted people… men and woman. I ghosted a man who deceived me and disrespected me. If a person disrespects me and shows me that they are a sick human being I will eliminate them from my life with no explanation. I also ghosted a woman who I thought was a friend, but clearly showed me that she was a narcissist. You can never win with a narcissist and she disrespected me in our last interaction. I don’t waste time talking, or explaining my actions when I identify that what I am dealing with is a rattlesnake. I walk. I also think that some men ghost women because they don’t want to deal with confrontation and all the drama. Women can be very emotional (in general) and hard to talk to when it’s a stressful situation regarding problems in the relationship. I personally hate dealing with irrational, emotional people, so I just won’t have the conversation. I know it’s probably not healthy to do that, but I just shut down when someone gets in my face and starts yelling, or bitching at me. I get why guys don’t want to deal with it, so they avoid it.
@Natural Nope, one doesn't have to do anything to be ghosted, even the ghosters admit to this. It's usually a them problem with some exceptions ofcourse.
If a good woman loves a man , she loves that man for the man that he is, not for the materialistic things that he has. Because you two can come together & build that life together ☺️
Same here- He ran off as l will not compromise on my standards. Very right pastor. He was scared and was emotionally available. Thanks, for clarification.
Thank you again Pastor RC for your words of encouragement. This week would have been me and my ex’s 2 year anniversary. We had a wonderful relationship, we planned on marrying and having kids. I loved his family. And one day he said he couldn’t “do it anymore.” He left for no apparent reason. Now he is with another girl and makes my heart break. A month before he broke up with me, I had written in my journal how thankful I was to God for sending a respectful and kind man into my life. I still don’t understand what happened. But your videos always help me get through my pain. I listened to your videos when I was recovering from an abusive relationship with my son’s father and I believe your videos are what got me through it. I know I will make it through this as well, with God’s help and the help of pastor RC
I’m so saddened by all of this for you. Please continue to hold to God’s unchanging hand. As this too shall pass. See your self, visualize yourself, in a loving relationship with a God fearing man🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Reading this made me sad & I related when you spoke of writing in your journal. I know the feeling to be thankful & writing about it only to look up & it’s no more. It’s very hard to understand but I’m realizing more & more & more it’s God’s will. I will pray for you as I continue to pray for myself that God continues to bless us & give us strength🤗🗣
Great video! You touched all the points. Me personally, I never asked myself if there was something wrong with me. I know my value, but it hurt because i had feelings of love. Like you said, i felt like it had nothing to do with me, but with his own broken/damaged self. A man who is mature, in the right mind frame and clear in his head, a man who knows how to own a backbone would never act in such a way to jeopardize losing a great woman.
It stopped hurting when God spoke to it, and he said God has a great way of tacking the trash out for you 🙂it changed the game completely, and I realised I had work to Do on my self esteem,it was never about me. I've been online dating, and it happens weekly!!! Honestly, men are embarrassing themselves absolutely and completely currently, and I've zero tollarance for emotionally unevolved knuckle dragging mentality 👌keep running stay out of my way I've got chores to do.
Pastor R.C. Blakes, I have learned this from you several years ago: "Rejection is God's Protection." ❣ I love this and I continue to live by this quote, because for me, it applies to every encounter I have with people in a variety of relationships. I apply this with just about every aspect of my life... Men, friends, family, a job, a car, a home, a contract, requests, etc. It makes moving forward Easier...and the proof that there is something better, always comes to fruition. 🙏🙏🙏🙏 I pray that God will continue to clearly communicate all truths and discernment for me to see this way.
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God Bless You
RC & Lisa
Your wisdom is appreciated and taken to heart.
Thank You ❤️
Good day. Can you please, the name of the song that is always playing for your intro. I tried finding it but, no luck.
I got one for your books!!!
I thank you for your wisdom and educating me to fully understanding what is going in my life. I will love to know the title of your intro song bc I am so loving that song? I will love to play this as one of my daily uplifting song
I've been ghosted and it wasn't because I slept with him. It was because he couldn't control and manipulate me into being his side chick. I have boundaries and hold firm on them. The men who ghost are overwhelmingly narcissistic. It's rude, disrespectful, manipulative and, ultimately, extremely cowardly. The reality is, it actually IS a blessing.
Totally agree
If “it wasn’t because you slept with him” he wouldn’t have ghosted you at all. He wanted you to be a side chick, that meant you already were whether you already knew or not. Being a side chick is sexual, so his entire goal and mission is/was sex.
@ChampagneAndCupcakes xoxo What he "wanted" and what actually happened are two completely different things. But thanks for being so all knowing and omnipotent as to explain to me what did or did not occur in my own life. Were you there? What??? Oh right, you weren't. And btw, one can "ghost" people for all sorts of reaspns. It's not strictly related to sexual relationships or encounters.
@@LaPinturaBella True, I been ghosted by men before any sexual encounter occurred.
@@honeyjazz4147 The same here. And some women are ghosted just because a narcissist man (accustomed to easy chicks) knows that he won't get any sexual favours..
Wasn’t rejection….was protection ….God kicked him out….totally love it …right on 💯
God's love and protection 🙏🏼 ♥️
Good morning happy Tuesday,@ God is Always spelled with a capital God!
Yes!!!
@@truthlightandlife357 sorry was a typo but I’m aware ❤️
Amen God knows inner heart
Straight up. The worst I’ve ever been treated was by a man that knew he had nothing to offer me, teach me or do for me. He was out-done and couldn’t handle intimacy or real life issues. Broke, inept men want to bask in the glow of an incredible woman but are quickly turned off by her outshining him or expecting the same depth she provides. Take the ghost as a compliment, he’s telling you he can’t handle you because HE is not enough. Let him find what he is comfortable with, if you watch, she will be your downgrade.
Amen 💯 🙏🏼
Wow! I understand this completely
WHEW‼️‼️ Amen!!! This is the one!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾
So true!
Girl! That is 🔥🔥🔥
1: He runs from feelings.
Proverbs 25:28
2: He gradually felt incompetent to maintain the relationship, due to his insecurities.
Luke 14:18
3: He started with a false profile; embarrassed to come clean.
Proverbs 11:1-2
4: He over committed before he actually was sure. Matthew 5:37
5: When something heavy has occurred.
6: Sometimes he gets the sense that her people don't like him.
1 Corinthians 13:33
7: He got offended.
Proverbs 18:19
8: God made him uncomfortable
That last one though, daaaaymn its never crossed my mind, deep 👌🏽
I do believe the guy who ghosted me met 7 of the 8 on this list...emotionally unavailable so I thank God for that ship that sailed him to marry someone else 6 months later.
@@Peacealways247 NIIIIICE
I understand. However these are conversations that should have been discussed in person with the person whom you have ghosted and wanted real relationship with not a third party. If needed be a mentor whomever you trust your emotions with before you spill over into other places or relationships and connections. For nothing but clarification sake so the person who had the issue could freely move on in a peaceable peaceful way. Thank you again for the healing update.
Number 1 😢😊
Even though you know it isn't you, it still hurts just as much.
“When you care for someone more than they deserve, you get hurt more than you deserve.”
YES it does
It does trully hurt..
Even being kept emotionally and mentally hostige because they wont tell you what's the problem ..
Which makes a person to think it's your fault..
@@carmenkamberos1156luv it
Sometimes it’s just the ego that is hurt and not true feelings. Especially in the early stages of dating
1) They are immature.
2) They already in a relationship.
3) They just wanted sex.
4)They don't wanna hurt her.
5) They projected unto her by judging her prematurely.
Either way they did you a favor!
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I heard a man say this one time and my spirit caught it. "never marry or force a man to grow up." He will grow up but you will suffer. And when he grows up, he will be lookin for a Wife. I feel like most of us women force men to mature by gettin them to marry or be in a relationship with us. Leave men alone to mature and then u marry them
Still they married boys not real men
After he's made 3/4 women baby mamas, is in atrocious debt, has health issues... Now he wants to get married? 🙄😒Please...
And that wife ain't gon be u fasho Dat 🤣 you'll probably lose interest any who by the time they actually mature so
When men are ready to marry they are usually ran through and empty wallet and lost their looks and body ready to give out and bald and unattractive mess.
This is why I don't recommend women to marry older men because you will be a young widow stuck with children and hospital bills and debt and he will leave everything to his adult children.
Very true! I am not doing that any more. I invested too much, and they just took it and ran away. Not gonna help a boy to grow up and to be left for someone else. If I sense this "needy" energy from a guy, I pull back. Proof to me that you are a man.
I think it hurts the most when you later realize it’s because they chose someone else. But a man of character wouldn’t ghost in the first place. It’s cowardly when there is a history of friendship and feelings. I believe it’s too hard for a lot of men to tell someone,so they ghost because they don’t have the courage.
Agreed that a person of character living with integrity does not and will not ghost
This is the reason most times tho
Aka cowards
If you keep your legs closed, you are going to get ghosted...and that's OK.
I think some lack communication skills.
As a manipulation tactic.
This grooming strategy is done, routinely, to deliver a devastating blow to her psyche, making her question herself. This void makes her long for him..Soon as he returns, she is so happy that she doesn't demand an apology and it can be business as usual, with her in constant fear that it will happen again.
😢😢went through it for 3 years consistently, then boom pregnant and left for good. Anyone sees this if you do not have a connection such as a child or marriage, please run and detach from that soul tie and confusion.
Reading this is so shocking but so true.
I pray to everyone who is in this position to work on yourself as much as possible so when you exit or they return you are gone for good.
I used to fall into this grooming trap. Fortunately, I realised what it was and put up boundaries.
That's why, one must know their worth. Don't you ladies and gentlemen know your worth in Christ? Understand how valuable and precious you are and what the good lords plans for you are.
I can say personally, I would never demand an apology from a man that ghosted me. That's mistake #1, if a man like that comes back and doesn't have an apology and reason already prepared, then that's already a HELL NO. Mistake #2, for the majority of the time - entertaining or welcoming back someone in your life who would do that to you in the first place is a problem. Know your WORTH ladies and gentlemen! 🙂
Great insight.
Some ghost a woman because she has standards and won't let him use her.
This happened to me when I told someone I thought I had an emotional connection with that I am waiting for sex. He was very available, quick texter before this. Hasn’t responded since.
Ghosting is CRUEL.
"Homies just running from his own lies". This one hurts the most, because not only is it traumatising the sudden leaving, but you find out this person is someone completely different to who you thought they were
It is "the mask" they wear.
Oh yes, you’re so damn right😮
Even if we aren't cheated by them, but felt aagain betrayed like we had being cheated maybe even more awful feeling for me. Because it reels hurt badly 😥
My ex boyfriend did this to me last year and I found out he was with someone new and he didnt tell me honestly very immature and disrespectful to do. But it's a blessing because I'm with a good guy who loves me and respects me I'm happy now ❤
I am happy to read this. I pray for this for me too.
This type of men are like Tarzan : they need always on the free hand a second person before leaving the first one. It happened to me also. But I was the other girl, he pretended being single, he wanted to leave the other girl and I said no thank you. Because I want build my luck on the bad luck from another woman and also I will be one day the other woman so never trust and respect will be served to me.
Happen to me to be put his phone on DND all weekend and once he got to work he took his phone off DND and texts back no he was with someone else
I’ve never been ghosted before but men have sporadically ended a situationship that I thought was going really well and that has hurt too. I think its helped me a lot to realize that a lot men are secretly battling internal and external issues that have absolutely nothing to do with me. You really can’t internalize what these men do to you. They are broken and have issues that you should be thankful you weren’t around to see.
Exactly, be grateful that they are out of your life😊
That really helped. I just had this same situation and I’m so confused.
@@Cwashpvu Please don’t internalize this and make it about yourself and something you did wrong. Just remember that the type of man who disappears when things are going well is not the man you want because he either 1) Is hiding something he doesn’t want you to see , 2) Is not being honest with you about something or 3) Is emotionally unavailable and can not commit. None of those things are qualities that makes a man a good partner. I’m telling you, they are doing you a favor every time this happens.
@@MrsTruthTeller 🥹 thank you!
That’s still a form of ghosting
Divorce is never the way out, My wife and I have been having issues before I sort out help from a spiritual adviser,i wasnt going to let my marriage of 18years crash
@Johnson Llobet well not the orthodox way but i was referred by a friend to a spiritual adviser and healer
@Johnson Llobet her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE,and she is a great spiritual adviser as well as caster
you can look her name up online and you will find all you need.
This is very touching. I am in a similar situation as well. Not to go into details. My husband stepped out on our marriage, and it has been difficult for me to get over it.
Thats a man right there you fight for what you believe in mine became resentful towards after a lost of miscarriage and never touched me again and ran like a little man after 14 yrs of marriage you would think you know someone 🤬🤷🏾♀️
Not rejection, but protection! That wraps it up for me! 💯 Thank you Jesus for your protection! You know my worth.....
Thanks Pastor.
True facts 💯 Amen to that!
Amen! My heavenly Father wants the best for me🙌🤗✌️
I've been recently ghosted by a man because I wouldn't compromise my standards and boundaries.(I feel that was the reason). I was puzzled at first and a little hurt because I thought we were getting along great. And we never had any arguments or disagreements. Thank you Pastor Blakes for speaking on on this. Blessings to you and first lady Lisa Blakes.🙏🙏🙏
Happened to me too recently. But I'm not budging from what I think is my value. This is why vetting a man is important. Good riddance!
Me too, because I wouldn’t settle for flaky and inconsistent….I’m used to being treated better than that and I’m not going backwards.
@Shelia M Lightell Damn straight. I'm 61, never been married because I'd rather be on my own than marry just to be married. Ego and confidence does not mean a person has healthy self-esteem. Healthy self-esteem is the key. There are far too many broken people in the world these days.
I went through something like that as well. After about 2.5-3 months he said to me, "It's not normal that we haven't had sex by now" 😄 and he's a Christian 🤣😂 I'm soooo over it right now. I am going to hold to my standards, I am worth the wait! 👍🎁❤️ and I really do want a best friend 🙏 someone to experience the true love of God with and finish the rest of this journey called life with then move onto glory....AMEN! 🙏❤️
You did the right thing...because when you compromise het gains contro over you andl that will be detrimental to your, soul, health and life itself...I'm talking from experience....Jesus Redeemed me from a situationship and today I share it...KEEP THE FAITH....YOU'RE THE BLACK DIAMOND, to compromise would display you as a ZIRCONIA stone...stay true to you..
I was ghosted by someone I thought loved me deeply for slight misunderstanding. I later come to realize man’s rejection was God’s way of protecting me. Am happy I didn’t force things.
Thanks Bishop Blakes for your teachings ❤️
I was just ghosted and y I'm not sure either
Powel Powei. I was ghosted by someone. I feel like God is protecting me also. It's a reason he closed that door
Men do this a lot. They’re shit
This hits a nerve with me because I was genuinely ready for a relationship. And I’m left picking up the pieces and have to go through the healing and the grieving process. That’s selfishness on their part.
Tina Angelici, Ernest Hemingway said: “The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you’re special too.” Blessings . Jesus specialty is healing broken hearts.
@@carmenkamberos1156 he absolutely is. I know he will heal mine as well. I asked Jesus to help me with forgiving this person.
Exactly. I was genuinely ready and showed it. Was told he never had a woman as I am in his life before. He never was shown love as I give? smh
I know how you are feeling. After my best friends, my all passed away, I didn't want to date he was a great it has been six years since his passing, and I decided to get back out there. And I did, and I told him straight up, be honest, if he had anyone he told me he didn't, and went to his apartment and he had things in his personal bathroom belongs to a woman he had been lying. So I left because he had kids, so I got up and left. We got into it, and I wasn't nothing but good to him. Tried to help him out bringing him lunch! But I told him about himself because it wasn't the stuff that was there. u said it belongs to his seven year old daughter. It was bath and bodywork, and V that adults women used. It was the lie for me !! I couldn't accept that lie, so I was able to walk away before we went to far
@@lesliebean9717 good for you. I’m so happy for you.😊I wish more women would stand up and not tolerate this bs from men. Maybe less men would be able to play these games.
It wasn’t rejection, it was protection 🙌🏽🙏🏽 amen
It’s their loss. They play themselves.
I was ghosted before. I just assumed he had someone else that he was more interested in. I just stopped calling him and moved on. I thought of him often but I realized that he was not pursuing me. How ever I later discover new information that made him less attractive to me anyway. Knowing that I didn't deserve what he dished out to me. Peace of mind is better than being right.
What was it???
Peace of mind is better than being right.
God really moves in mysterious ways. I just finished trying to explain to my girlfriend why a man would walk away from her to someone else. I told her God removed that man from her life because he sees that she deserves better. I go on RUclips to send her a song and saw this. Thank you Lord, thank you R.C. Blake's for your looking out for us.
He left because He just was not the one for her. When the one that is yours " by Divine right" arrives, he will stay. There will be no drama, no games. Just Peace of mind. So our prayers should be for the one that is ours by Divine rt, to cross paths with us.
I have been ghosted for a month it hurts like hell I really loved him .I had sex with him but he went mute on me
@@evelynnjiiri517 sorry dear. He was there just for d sex. Reason y it is alwz wise to hold off d physical part for a while, to allow things to unfold. Like John legend says: take it slow....
Also wise to practice Detached dating. U will be OK. He is not ur oxygen dear. D best is around d corner.
@@evelynnjiiri517I'm sorry that happened to you, this is why women need to take s3x off the table when looking for a relationship.
Guard your body.
0ppps it's right
Dating and relationships can be so DANGEROUS these days! Women have to find a way to seek God's purpose for their singleness. Being in the palm of of the Lord's hand will always keep us safe from the wolves in sheep's clothing. Getting ghosted for NOT compromising hurts only for a short period of time, but getting ghosted AFTER forming a physical/sexual soul tie is far more devastating to the soul and spirit. Thank you Man of God for this video. 🙌🏽💯
His friends had me roofied for not sleeping with him.
*Ghosting is a hurtful experience for anyone. Let's prioritize clear communication and treat each other with kindness and respect.*
I’m not doing laundry, running errands, not cooking dinners, or spending money. I refuse to act like a wife, when I am not… period.
God knows I don't understand why. Hello everyone I pray this video gives us all understanding & closure for some of us. Be blessed!!
Hello
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Ghosting doesn’t necessarily make someone a narcissist but it does mean they aren’t interested. 🤷🏽♀️
And too immature to say so. At least speak your peace! 😂
If they keep ghosting then coming back that can be a sign they are a narc.
Toxic way to deal with people
I was once Ghosted and it broke me so badly because i really love him, i felt used.
Exactly, the feeling of being used is the worst, am going through the same now that’s why i am here😢it really sucks but i will soon overcome coz i ve blocked that evil son of a bch
It hurts, but it's better to be ghosted than to be strung along...💔
Yes. Me too
You’re not alone. I was ghosted after 2 years of speaking everyday vacations and planning for future. Told me every day for 2 years that he loved me and how he couldn’t wait to marry me. He never missed a day. Then one day I just never heard from him again. There was no argument no disagreement nothing. It’s been 3 months now. I thought he would eventuality become my husband 😢I feel so stupid
So that's always meant to trigger what part of the inner child that was wounded and emotionally neglected from a parent so that we can focus on that inner work, to re parent ourselves in healthier ways and do that shadow work as well, what we weren't seeing, what's hidden from us in our own subconscious, that is creating a vibrational frequency that is bringing to us things that we do not want. We are all energetic beings, and those with nefarious intentions read that energy, and when we become more conscious of our own energy, we will be more conscious of our own vibration, because like can only attract like. And if we are attracting things we do not want, it's because we have some sort of unhealthy belief system about ourselves, something we were meant to provide for ourselves instead of looking for in another... that we would never have been able to start the healing work on if we weren't triggered. So any interactions with another are always the blessing and an opportunity that guides us towards what needs healing within us❤
To whoever is reading this: Happy Valentine’s Day! Though you may be single like I am, remember that Jesus loves you and so do I! Buy your own chocolates or flowers, you deserve it beautiful!❤
Well said!!
Exactly 💯💯💯 love on yourself this valentine day and every other valentine day and beyond.
Happy valentine day everyone!!
Happy Valentine’s Day to you as well. God bless! 💘
Thanks and same to you.
A solo trip to Malaga for 3 nights having breakfast while reading your message.
I have never understood the ghosting thing, no matter who is doing it. It is awful and soul crushing. Leaves the other insecure and w trust issues. Communication is super easy. Just say, thanks for the experience of you and for crossing my path but I need to move on in another direction. Were not compatible or whatever. Date w intention. Dont awaken people's souls and then run. So gross
I have ghosted someone in my early twenties. There was absolutely nothing wrong with the guy. He was kind, caring, responsible. There was everything wrong with me. I was a runner cos I was not comfortable in my own skin and not capable to admit it whether to them nor myself. I had lots healing to do.
Today I would never do that to someone, nor bother much if it's done to me cos I know the reason. There is no proper justification for ghosting. It's just emotional immaturity. And they're nowhere near ready for a healthy relationship.
It's great that you've grown, but you owe it to that person to go back, apologize, and explain yourself. Even if you have to look him up on social media and shoot him a DM.
Ghosting causes a never-ending lack of closure. The person who is ghosted learns to live with the hole in their life but they never really get past it. That closure can make all the difference.
@@TomikaKelly oh I did back then. I returned to apologize. I don't believe it creates a never ending hole in someone's life tho. I was ghosted last year. Someone I was dating for 6 months just split on me one night, and disappeared. I recognized it's his immature reaction not mine. I don't need to judge it. He emotionally couldn't handle a mature conversation/ closure. And I respect that. But I don't need to own it and make it mean that here's something wrong with me because of it. Rejection is not pleasant but if you're grounded, a whole person and emotionally stable, you won't feel dispair. We're all responsible for our feelings also.
GOD MADE HIM UNCOMFORTABLE AND KICKED HIM OUT ‼️‼️GOD DID FOR ME WHAT I COULDN'T DO FOR MYSELF 🤦🏾♀️❤️ FROM NORFOLK, VA 🤗 THIS MESSAGE WAS 🔥🔥🔥🔥
LOL I was just looking for flights to Norfolk as my dad lives in Virginia Beach and saw your comment... but it is amazing isn't it? how the Divine always has our back.. there's nothing we have to do as long as we don't get in our own way and toxicity can flow out without much effort on our part, leaving space for abundance
I get ghosted as soon as they find out I'm saving sex and intimacy for marriage. Sad but true.
Same
Same here same reason
Unfortunately true☹️
You will die single dear
@@matthewpatterson1838 if it’s Gods will, then so be it. Eternal life is much longer than this very short one.
“Never be in front of a man.” Good teaching Bishop Blakes!
That was good!!! 👏👍👏
that was EVERYTHING!
It’s been 4 months now and when I say I NEEDED to hear this!!!! Amen!!!
Going on 4 months as well. Wow, it's so painful. This was video was so helpful.
Hope there are better days to come
Our names are similar how cool! Hopefully things get better for you.
Ghosted is the sanitized word for abandoned.
My ex boyfriend ghosted me 4 years ago because he asked me for money and I said no. This man had two jobs, and I had one. I called and texted him and he didn’t answer. Then last year he contacted me out of the blue. He stated he wanted to fix things. After I asked him questions about our relationship the answers I received from him was unacceptable therefore I declined his offer to revisit the relationship
Once a guy ghosted me and I played music and danced to it because I was having a gut feeling about him.
30 years ago, I started asking GOD to reveal EVERYTHING about people... especially reveal a man who has shown interest in dating me AND if I was also interested. I wait on the revelations and as a result, I am not easily invested or disappointed. I have struggled to be obedient to what GOD shows me but have NEVER regretted when I accept the revelation and moved on away from the inevitable deal breakers, non-negotiables, heartaches. Alone but not lonely and not heartbroken. Obedience is better than sacrifice... I have learned to appreciate my values and maintain my boundaries. Stand firm, don't pursue... so much more to share...
This truly helped me understand the man I was dating. Thank you so much. Ghosting is PAINFUL
It really is one of the most painful thing I've ever been through.
@@sunkstropica5358 Me Too!!!
I was recently ghosted for the first time in my life. It hurts when you're really enjoying the other person and there's no plausible explanation. I sent him one message and moved on. Really stings when we had future plans & I so enjoyed him and adored him. He said it was mutual...
I love the way you spell your name😊
Aww.. Grieve him. Grieve the lost of him and let him. The most important part is never look back.
Same here recently. It was weird for sure.
😢 same
Most of the time man tell u and talk about good and fancy stuffs,future planning but they are actually not serious.. its just manipulative tactic/ego boost day dreaming.... Why ppl fall for only words but not patterns.... Wake up. 🕉️
Right on time message! I definitely learned the lesson of staying "behind him in feelings." When you dive in a shallow pool, you are bound to get hurt! Observe and guard your heart ❤️
I like that.
Married 32 years a culture arrangement and DTN ghosted me many many times, was just mean and beyond unkind, finally I said no more on November 2022 I told this Dark Triad Narc to "Go Away" and my Joy and Peace is HERE🙏 Each male is different no two brains think alike as a Forensic Neuro Physician there are similarly traits but this Thing is on a different level of a useless baseless male. I'm thankful I got to choose me and with what little sanity 😌 I have I know God has been taken care of me.🙏
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May God bless you, sister! Thank you for sharing your experience. So very proud of you :)
@amandamaria481 Thank you, Beautiful sister, 🙏 the purging is so deep. For years and years, I ignored, pretended, and never spoke up, I never protected myself, and I never gave anything to myself. Please if anybody out there is listening to me, don't make this mistake ever 🙏 Don't ever put a man before God! Don't ever put anything before God! This so-called arrangement was doomed from the start, I spoke with my mum, and my great mum both told me to be patient as long as he is not hitting me or calling me horrible names then ignore him.....go find other things to do. The more I prayed for healing, for "IT" to love me, care for me, and just be kind to me, the worst IT" became. I did more to prove myself, and IT" found more ways to complain. IT" never made any real money, very good at making it look like he did, IT" was a hard worker but that was for show. IT" allowed every single living thing to disregard and disrespect me. At this very moment, as I type, I'm fighting for my mental health !!!!!!! If you believe something is wrong then believe it and do something about it RIGHT NOW! You make the time to take care of your spirit. This is God talking to you Beautiful, that IT" is not what God sent me, I stayed because I believed the second coming of evil. TRUST GOD, NO MATTER WHAT IS GOING ON IN YOUR LIFE, and how do you know it's God? There will be an overwhelming relief of JOY that will hug you, 🫂 🙏
I just lived this! Ladies, if you work on get pass this, you will heal and you will be ok. Don't give up!
I just got ghosted by someone that I loved and cared for. I was wondering why because I believe everything was going well . So then this video came up on my feed out of nowhere 🙌🏾. This was God’s divine intervention and it has opened my eyes not to wallow in the “what did I do?” Thank you Pastor Blake for this message!
Same happened to me too Sis. And this video popped up.
It gives you the space to now evolve yourself furtherin the meantime because energetically, you will attract better
If people do not rise up to meet you where you are, they have to fall away. We never have to do anything but keep leveling up and keep the focus on ourselves . It's amazing isn't it that we have a perception that things are going well and yet that's not actually what's happening. So we have to ask ourselves what part of our inner child needed it to go well and how much cognitive dissonance we were exhibiting, and why, etc for us to not see things as they are❤
This is why working on communication is so important.
The only ghost I'm concerned about is the holy ghost. Lol!! If a man is ghosting me I consider it a dodged bullet, thank God for removing him and keep it moving. It may hurt, but it just means there's someone better in the future. Holding steadfast to my morals and standards is way more important.
I ghosted a man that I was involved with because he kept saying he didn’t want a relationship so I walked away. I didn’t really think leaving would hurt him, but I saw him recently after many years and could see the pain in his eyes.
I think it’s because it would force them to level up and most men are mediocre and unable to to that so they find women on a lower vibration who think mediocre is awesome
It's the trend at the moment give it time
Thank you for lifting my spirit.
I was recently ghosted by a man who I thought had long-term potential. He was kind, we spent a lot of time together. He was not narcissistic or abusive. He told me that he put me on a pedestal and that he could see a future with me, that he has never felt so comfortable with someone as he does with me. We had ONE disagreement/date that ended “badly”, he said he ‘needed space’ and then I never heard from him again. It hurt my heart because I was so confused as to why he would disappear after saying all those things to me. This video really helped me
Same! After one disagreement the energy was never the same. Two months later gone!
He probably created the argument.
He could be a covert narcissist. Look into that and what these creatures do. This sounds like lovebombing and future faking. Sounds familiar. They do not like disagreements. They want their victims to comply with everything! 👈
I relate to you so much, he also put me on a pedestal, said nobody made him feel this way and promised to wife me(over committed). A month later he broke up w me saying he cannot provide enough. I cried in front of him and obviously was mad at him for saying things he couldn't mean, he played victim card and made me the bad guy that i made HIM feel undeserving of love and "guilt tripped" him and that he realised he was never at fault, i did not even say mean words to him, i even tried to reach out many times, i apologised even when it wasn't my fault but since then he has ghosted me by putting all blame onto me
Guess he's someone who just can't take accountability for mistakes they make, and put others in bad light to make them feel better about themselves
@@plata3032 I am so sorry it happened to you 😞 I hope we both know better for next time…
Black single women is a pandemic! It’s so many of us 😢😢
Sooo many of us!!
Very true and it's sad
I think its spiritual warfare that Men of this generation are not Healthy Men to Wed Us!!!!
I can't lie that's why I get so upset every time I see a black man married to women of another race bc their own black queens need them and I'm already married. My heart just hurts for you guys bc it feels like our black men have turned their backs on our black women.
@@gapeach7814 Such an unhealthy mindset and thought process.
I am grateful that God kicked him out. A few years back I would of resented the fact that I was rejected by that particular individual, today I am grateful that he walked away and chose someone else over me. His rejection was God’s protection. Today I can finally experience God’s peace.
This is kind of sad to think. That they chose someone they don’t have “feelings” for and be all toxic to them. How is that positive thinking? So we say, “thanks for putting up with his BS, sis, so I have my peace” it just doesn’t sit right with me.
No one deserves to be mistreated. Yes, thankful for the rejection but its also unfortunate that there are people out there that will accept the behavior just to say they have someone in their life. The narc in my case did marry someone else 6 mos later, someone from his past I do believe and if that's what she wants for herself so be it. He is STILL the same person, still wearing the mask but that too shall fall again and that woman too has a choice of staying or leaving, its just a matter of time. He's just not my business anymore.
I hope Heavenly Father brings healing and peace into your heart. May he give you back all that the enemy tried to steal from you through that individual. I pray you experience joy again. I understand you sister. To All of us that have experience such darkness,
We are Roses that have grown in Concrete. Survivors. And to me? It’s a Beautiful thing.
I pray that Jesus Christ gives you peace that passes all understanding 💗
It’s extremely sad there’s so many single, black women let me emphasize “good women”not women whom try to present themselves as men but we have to stand up and do for ourselves. You can be slightly submissive, cook dinner be very inviting watch your words that you’re saying, make sure that it’s not too aggressive. Very clean home ,hygiene, good lover, excellent cook and you still will get played. That’s some of these men. They will have excellent lovemaking with you. Have a great evening sometime even go out of town and then the next day you don’t hear anything from them and if you do. They act like the evening before didn’t exist. I’m talking about men over 50 not young boys why do that to us.
Read my comment above dawn
Please someone answer this I would love to know also
Keep your cookies in the jar
I was told to never take a man more seriously than he takes you....
@@RealLadi228
Exactly!!! Don't go into overdrive from d 1st day. Don't have d "desperation sign" allover ur forehead. Let ur energy be" I am about to acquire another " FRIEND", not a LOVER/HUSBAND. if it works out, good. If not, another great one is by d corner. In summary,....just RELAX. and pray dat d one that is yours by "Divine right", shows up.
This instantly cured my "is it me" syndrome. I will never offer my kingdom up to someone who cant even tell me how it is from the get go! Im taking all those years "wasted" and turning them into lessons and blessings!🙏
In islam when we meet someone i always ask dear god if this person is not good for my soul please keep this person away from me and if this is supposed to be a good person in my life give me a sign ,give me guidance . It always helps and some people mysteriously got out of my life or never saw again without a fight or whatever. Even if your are christian or jewish never forget to ask god he is the all seen ❤
Istikarah
But GOD will not take him/her out your life. But I believe he will give red flaring flags. And it is our choice to walk away. Sometimes, he will allow someone to hurt you because ur being hardheaded and it’s the only way you would walk away.
I've learned to call ghosting, God's protection and a blessing. I think in many instances He was shielding me from harmful and potentially toxic and detrimental relationships. So I am grateful and so very thankful.
Why should we give power to these men by analyzing them? Clearly, if they ghosted, they ain't ish. Sorry pastor.
If the woman is that great, she shouldn't put her self-esteem in a man's hands.
Men ghost women because they make it too easy for him. Men get bored with the same old stuff.
Because he feels he's not on her level.
Lack of self-confidence 😪
@@bhilaire1bj "great" women shouldn't make it easy for him. Know your value ladies
@@keyshapitts3515 I will agree with the comment above. I think it's not about men's lack of confidence, but women make it too easy for men nowadays to get what they want from them, with no emotional investment, so they just disappear when they took what they wanted. It's a jungle out there and people will take advantage if you let them, anytime. In the case that a woman indeed knows her worth and makes the man work for her, if he's not the one, he will not want to put in the work and will disappear. So the trash takes itself out. Why would a woman of worth worry about trash? That's my question.
The treasure of having a man's perspective and how men really think is mind-blowing!!!. I suddenly understood why my husband withdraw from the relationship. Thank you!
Trust me, this is NOT men's perspective. This is a PANDERER'S perspective. No difference between this guy and Derick Jackson
@kojoboateng6755 Can you give a man's perspective?Or recommend a content presenter who does.
I’m Greatful for all my experiences in life it’s made me the woman I’m today💯. I’m so confident in myself and being by myself it’s been refreshing
No one knows the feeling until they experience it themselves. My favourite part in life now is when I'm in bed from a long day there is no one demanding me to give myself to him when I know he is giving me nothing.
Sonic, someone said: “Sometimes love hurts so badly that you don’t care if you fall in love again.” Oh, but you will! Jesus specializes in healing broken hearts! Blessings
Why pursue ghosted men? Just the word is evil.
Ladies, just let him go. He has nothing to offer you. Don't call him, unfollow him, block him or just don't respond to his text. Just live your best life. Ignore him.
Yep
What text!? they ghosted us lol, laughing to keep from crying AGAIN
Man! I been thinking the past couple weeks why I keep getting ghosted by the guy I actually might like 😂 I’m like I’m being intentional, I’m making time for the person, I’m not talking/acting crazy, I’m putting in energy. The vibe seems great & then they just stop talking to me one day after a good conversation. And i let them go. I don’t say anything bc in my head I’m thinking sure i have a daughter but she’s well taken care of, zero drama, career, own everything, clean, self aware, in school and beautiful down to earth so I’m looking at this as protection for my husband. But I’m not going to lie it does make me feel insecure at times, as if something is wrong with me..
Shalom all, I still love this intro music. 🎶🎵 Uplifting music and spot on messages! Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Yes! Beautiful! By any chance do you know the artist?
It wasn’t rejection. God was protecting you from a bad experience. Be grateful. God has better things for you ladies😊
Ghosting doesn’t hurt me it’s actually a blessing
Ghosting is due to a lack of real substance...this is the word God gave to me..."Substance"
Great lesson Pastor Blake's🙏
Ghosting is so low. If you don’t like someone or you just don’t think it’s right for you then just tell them! It’s simple and it’s respectable. It’s the least they can do. But no. Being a coward instead.
Exactly!!!
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We need to Pray in all relationships!
Truth
Thank you Pastor zI figured this out about 3 years ago a man can’t Love a woman until he learns to Love himself and confronts his pass starting with his childhood
As soon I have put boundaries men ghosted me in the past, so grateful for spiritual protection 🤍🕯️
Destructive patterns: she is out of my league so am going to bring her down or abandon her
This testament resonates so deeply with me and what I’ve been through. In two of the major involvements I’ve had with men, I was ghosted by them. It took me a long time to understand that it was never about me, it was about their own lack of consciousness and security within themselves. I have always maintained a strong sense of self, and it was way more than what they were used to in a woman. Thank you for this!
THANK YOU!!! OMG! I have wondered for years. All it would take is a conversation. I don't have it together all the time either. I'm looking to work together with my man. I get so sick of lies and games.
Rejection is Gods protection i found myself in this situation when i was ghosted, i was hurt had my mind was racing what did i do wrong? Was it something I've said or was it me? but then i stopped to realize it wasn't me it was my partner,thank you pastor for being so inspirational, for your knowledge🙏
Thank you for this specific subject! I was ghosted by my boyfriend this past December and have been struggling with the "why". I feel like I've gotten my questions answered!
My ex broke up with me when I was seven months pregnant. He still contacted me until my 9th month and silenced himself for two weeks and doesn’t check on me or the baby. He did a complete 180.
This video definitely put things in perspective.
You and your baby will be blessed by God. He will direct your steps, just listen to Him.
I'm sorry your going thru this. Please sis, don't allow a man to sleep with you if he's not your spouse. God warns us for a reason. He doesn't want you heartbroken, alone and disgraced. Listen to RC videos on soul ties.
Peace and Blessings to you Sis. I’m praying for you 🙏🏾
@@danilaroche1156 Amen!!!
The lord is with you mama. He has not left you or abandoned you! The lord always comes through for his children❤ I pray the lords protection and healing over you 💜✝️
Can't wait for this one??? Number one burning question??? 😩😩😩❤️🩹🥲
Giiiiiiiiiirl!!!!!!!!!!!! Me too I'm just over it
Right!!! Crazy times we live in and dating oh my goodness...for that reason for now I'm out. Looking forward to tonight
I love that song!
I would love to know!!!
They play it till they can't pretend anymore and then disappear. We need to thank them not sticking for years with us. The sooner it happens the better
"Game is very emotional and very convincing." RC Blakes
This has made me feel so much better. Thank you. I can't stop being sad over someone who could not communicate ever and I kept being sad about it. I ended it, but I honestly feel like he ghosted me by not wanting to work on anything...ever. He would just run. He'd do immature things to reach out weeks later though and I was fed up. Liking a post on FB or whatever...No. Stop. This has made me feel so much better.
You are blessed with the vision to see bro. You are truly special. Very few men can put themselves in a place to feel women. Because what men have made up is, that masculinity is built on is controlling women. But you speak the truth. Few men can do that. You are chosen.
That's it what you said at 27:21. Men need to maintain and control women to feel good in his ego. But you know what this comes from. ENVY. People want to control what they cant compete with. Because they feel inadequate. It is also the what racism is about. The answers to life you speak . Thank you.
My simple assumption is there’s something in particular they wanted from you that they realized they won’t get.
This is something Im going through; Its been a year already and I still think about him after we had a good friendship and feelings but this video really helps give me the strength I need to continue moving forward; Thank you RC Blakes! ❤
My husband got on drugs and he said he didn't need any help that he was just fine but he wasn't fine, i had to tell him to leave and he did i loved him he just wouldn't get help because he loved the drug more, after he left he ghosted me and never ever contacted me!!!!
His brother says he's with another women!!!
I always felt that i didn't have the patience to deal with the drug seen
In closing i thought our marriage was going to be to death do us part
The LORD has blessed me
and i thank my FATHER he never leaves me
HALLELUJAH!!!
You have helped me so much and I am so grateful! Thank you for everything you do bishop 🙏
Being ghosted by a narcissist and/ or anyone, is a blessing in disguise.
Very good information!! As a woman I can tell you why I have ghosted people… men and woman. I ghosted a man who deceived me and disrespected me. If a person disrespects me and shows me that they are a sick human being I will eliminate them from my life with no explanation. I also ghosted a woman who I thought was a friend, but clearly showed me that she was a narcissist. You can never win with a narcissist and she disrespected me in our last interaction. I don’t waste time talking, or explaining my actions when I identify that what I am dealing with is a rattlesnake. I walk. I also think that some men ghost women because they don’t want to deal with confrontation and all the drama. Women can be very emotional (in general) and hard to talk to when it’s a stressful situation regarding problems in the relationship. I personally hate dealing with irrational, emotional people, so I just won’t have the conversation. I know it’s probably not healthy to do that, but I just shut down when someone gets in my face and starts yelling, or bitching at me. I get why guys don’t want to deal with it, so they avoid it.
One can't assume that every woman will cause a scene and act emotionally when broken up with. People should be decent enough to communicate.
Same with me.. I’m not wasting energy or time chatting about stuff.. have a nice life and keep it moving onward and upward, it’s not personal
@@LA-wv7gf Yeah those are exceptions. I was talking about ghosting someone who did nothing wrong. Its what the video is about.
@@tshegofatsoapplegreen5757 ghosting was always about something wrong. It's just that we don't know our wrong doings
@Natural Nope, one doesn't have to do anything to be ghosted, even the ghosters admit to this. It's usually a them problem with some exceptions ofcourse.
If a good woman loves a man , she loves that man for the man that he is, not for the materialistic things that he has. Because you two can come together & build that life together ☺️
Same here- He ran off as l will not compromise on my standards. Very right pastor. He was scared and was emotionally available. Thanks, for clarification.
Thank you again Pastor RC for your words of encouragement. This week would have been me and my ex’s 2 year anniversary. We had a wonderful relationship, we planned on marrying and having kids. I loved his family. And one day he said he couldn’t “do it anymore.” He left for no apparent reason. Now he is with another girl and makes my heart break. A month before he broke up with me, I had written in my journal how thankful I was to God for sending a respectful and kind man into my life. I still don’t understand what happened. But your videos always help me get through my pain. I listened to your videos when I was recovering from an abusive relationship with my son’s father and I believe your videos are what got me through it. I know I will make it through this as well, with God’s help and the help of pastor RC
“Love doesn’t hurt, loving the wrong person does.”
“ It hurts when you have someone in your heart, but you can’t have them in your arms.”
Blessings
Maybe God knew he wasn’t a respectful and kind man so he had to remove him.
I’m so saddened by all of this for you. Please continue to hold to God’s unchanging hand. As this too shall pass. See your self, visualize yourself, in a loving relationship with a God fearing man🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Reading this made me sad & I related when you spoke of writing in your journal. I know the feeling to be thankful & writing about it only to look up & it’s no more. It’s very hard to understand but I’m realizing more & more & more it’s God’s will. I will pray for you as I continue to pray for myself that God continues to bless us & give us strength🤗🗣
You were with a covert narcissist.
that's good Pastor...a man is not thinking about 'your' money he's thinking about 'his' money to maintain the relationship 💪
It happened to me I was so hurt but GOD had other plans I’m so whole now ❤
This was my best Valentine's day gift. Tunning in from The Netherlands 💝
Thank you for this message, you're truly an inspiration and full of knowledge. God bless you 🙏
Great video! You touched all the points. Me personally, I never asked myself if there was something wrong with me. I know my value, but it hurt because i had feelings of love.
Like you said, i felt like it had nothing to do with me, but with his own broken/damaged self. A man who is mature, in the right mind frame and clear in his head, a man who knows how to own a backbone would never act in such a way to jeopardize losing a great woman.
It stopped hurting when God spoke to it, and he said God has a great way of tacking the trash out for you 🙂it changed the game completely, and I realised I had work to Do on my self esteem,it was never about me. I've been online dating, and it happens weekly!!! Honestly, men are embarrassing themselves absolutely and completely currently, and I've zero tollarance for emotionally unevolved knuckle dragging mentality 👌keep running stay out of my way I've got chores to do.
“Be far enough behind him that you can see him backing up”…come on, sir! 🙌🏾🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾
So many jewels, nuggets and insight into the heart and mind of a man, excellent episode Mr. Blakes 🙌🏾
Pastor R.C. Blakes, I have learned this from you several years ago: "Rejection is God's Protection." ❣
I love this and I continue to live by this quote, because for me, it applies to every encounter I have with people in a variety of relationships. I apply this with just about every aspect of my life... Men, friends, family, a job, a car, a home, a contract, requests, etc. It makes moving forward Easier...and the proof that there is something better, always comes to fruition. 🙏🙏🙏🙏 I pray that God will continue to clearly communicate all truths and discernment for me to see this way.