The first time I bought my now wife flowers , she cried for like 20 minutes. She had never got them before. It took her 3 years to fully understand why I didn't want her to work. I love my black wife! And I'm white AF, Or so I'm told.
I was married to a white man for 20 years until he died 5 1/2yrs ago, we had 4 well-adjusted bi-racial children and through the good and bad times he always called me his Queen 👑
Its true. I am engaged to a white man and Im not saying white men are just better men, Im saying I laugh amd smile more. More affectionate. More feminine. Less stressed. I dont have to worry about having to take care of him. He makes me feel like a Queen. No struggle love. No negativity. No bickering. No disrespect.
BW subconsciously hate BM for not being able to protect them during slavery and BM subconsciously hate BE because they seen BW use their sexuality with WM and seen their existence as ‘easier’ than theirs.
I dated an African American women many years ago and she told me that she preferred to date white men. I asked her why, she said that she finds that white men treat her with more respect and are typically are gentleman. True story
This June, my wife and I will be celebrating 24 years. I agree with a lot of this. One time my wife was on a local black panel discussing ways to up lift the black community. I was at a table to the side. A black guy asked her what man would allow her to be out here promoting local musicians and artist on her own. I stood up and said, "I do. I'm her husband". He said, "Not to sound racist, but no brother would allow that." I said, " I guess that's why she's with me. I'm secure enough, as a man, to trust her. Oh, and I don't control her. She's her own woman." He got pissed. The funny thing. The men were pissed at me while the women applauded. I guess I was supposed to be some quiet timid white male. LOL 🤣
What in tha SWIRL is going on with these beautiful comments...lol. I’m actually surprised. I had no idea. Well, I would just like to say THANK YOU to all the men in this comment section for the lovely words about black women.
Generally speaking, black women are much more loving, caring, supportive, and affectionate than white women. Not to mention that they actually APPRECIATE everything you do for them. Your efforts are not just expected and taken for granted.
Was married to a black man for 3.5 years and it was the worst time of my life. Fast forward now I’m dating a white man and I feel like I’m floating on clouds. He knew me better after s month of dating than my ex knew me our entire marriage. My current man is so loving, caring, giving and compassionate. Right off the bat he told me his intentions, gave me his word and hasn’t disappointed me. He moved me into his beautiful home after dating for about 3 months, gets me flowers every week, take me on trips, got me a ring 😉 and we’ve been together for a while now and we’ve never argued. He’s great at communicating and looks at me every day like I’m a bucket of gold. I’ve got more love, affection and attention out of my current relationship than I did with my black husband!!
I'm a 49 year old Male Divorced after 27 years of white woman hell , and currently dating an Adorable 39 year old Black woman who has been raising three great young men by herself
In my humble opinion as a white man. Ever since I laid eyes on the first black girl as a young boy..I knew in my heart i was in love at first sight! They are the most attractive, loving, jovial, down to earth women on the planet. Your skin, curves, hair, lips, voice, style and strength capture my attention more than any other. Truly the black woman is God's gift to humanity!!!
Statistics show that marriages with Black women with any race tend to last longer than other marriages. College educated Black couples also have strong long-lasting marriages. The point is that for any race a Black wife leads to a longer lasting marriage.
Been married for 30years. I've been a housewife almost all of that time. 4 kids and I'm am artist. My husband (white) has always encouraged me in my endeavors. This lady is right!
My husband is white and we've been married 14 years with two kids. Still happy and very much in love. Race has never been an issue or problem for us. Love is love.
I would like to relate a story that just happened over the weekend to illustrate some of the points Ck made in the video..I am black woman married to white man for 10 years. My cell phone was down to 5 percent. My husband always wakes up before I do and gets ready. She when i went to the living room he already had his cellphone plugged into the faster charger. The slower charger takes about half a day, but i plugged my phone into it and went to the bathroom to get myself ready (thinking when i came back i will plug my phone into the faster charger because my husband cellphone will be charged by then). However when i came back from the bathroom my husband without me saying a word had switch the phones chargers so my phone will be charged sooner than his. This is why this type of relationship work: i was willing to sacrifice for him and he was willing to sacrifice for me. There are countless stories like this. I am truly grateful for this man
As a white woman, I found your video very interesting. Here in the UK, white women seem to be wanting to take on the role of a man. I'm glad black women are comfortable with traditional roles. I am in the minority in my race, because I believe in traditional roles too. I was married to a Moroccan guy for a few years. Unfortunately it didn't last. I'm hoping to meet a man who values my feminity. Good luck to all you black women in relationships with white men and don't let anyone criticise you. Love to you all from the UK, a traditional white woman
My cousin has been married to a black woman for over 20 years now. They get along perfect, its like they were meant for each other. I dated a black girl when I was younger and we got along great but black men harassed me constantly. White men are willing to date you and share thier life with you, it's like she said most black men want to know what you have to offer them. Anyhow I agree that it's a good combo that statistically does work. Sidenote: White men aren't out to fulfill some plantation slave fantasy, most want to treat you like that African queen you claim to be or are. There is no hidden agenda, when I was getting harassed I was accused of all kinds of garbage that absolutely did not reflect reality. When you looking for love it's about connection not race
Black women speak to me, not at me, they see me, I see them, no games, attentive, considerate, passionate, Black women do not use sex as a tool. And they have no agenda other than securing a future for their children, which is what us men are concerned about too. Black women are beautiful inside and out!
I’m dating a white man and omg I love the comments and energy under this vid! I also have to agree I feel the most appreciated and valued I’ve ever felt! 💕
Articulate, educated black women are outstanding prize for any man. I'm white have a black wife with two daughters. Our families live each other. My wife is gorgeous and smart. I couldn't be happier.
I’m married to a white man and he’s the purest man God could’ve ever Bless me with! I respect my husband to the fullest! This is by far the best Marriage God could bless a couple with! I Love my White King! I know he Loves me the same! I Treat my King like a God!🙏🏻🙌🏻❤️
I'm a white guy who has been in an interracial marriage for nearly 25 years. Here is why I encourage Asian, white, and Latin guys to consider black women among their dating options: Recently my wife and I were in a group discussion (75% women; wife asked me to go), when the moderator asked if anyone could give an example of gratitude. My wife raised her hand and we were called to the front of the room. (This isn't really fun for me but hey, I'm a trooper.) My wife said she was thankful that for nearly 20 years I parked on the driveway (thus having to scrape my windshield 4 months a year before my 7am departure for work), while she parked in the garage, yet didn't go to work until 11am (by which time the sunny climate would have melted the windshield ice). This went against 'logic', but I did it anyway. Of course this was a surprise to me, something I had not planned on. Being asked to respond, I thanked my wife, then mumbled something about it being not a big deal, it was done out of love and wanting her to feel safer....so her parking in the garage was best. That last sentence must a trigger, because about 50% of white women I could see were rolling their eyes or in some disdainful pose...because this wasn't anything special, and in fact I was probably "dominating her choices". Of the Latin and Asian women, maybe 15-20% had similar reactions, but EVERY SINGLE BLACK WOMAN THERE expressed that it was a very good thing. Sure there are rachet BW out there, but there are many who just want to be part of a loyal, strong partnership in which they are treasured and appreciated.
I can only speak from my personal experience . Was married to a black man for 22 yrs and have known my current husband for 8yrs. My white husband knows me better and therefore knows how to love me better. No one has ever made me feel, as beautiful , attractive , valued and appreciated as my husband does. I can be in a room full of drop dead gorgeous women, my husband always makes me feel that I am the best thing since slice bread . My husband is not afraid to be vulnerable and to express to me daily how much he loves and values our love and life together. To me the major difference between white and black men is that the white man does not take his woman for granted.
I'm white, and I have only dated white girls... she is spot on about the passive aggressiveness. After this I think I might start looking at black women.
Dut work I hear that from white men all the time. I’m very blunt and it shocks some of them. White women will beat around the bush when you’ve done something that upsets them. I’ll just come out and ask “why did you just do that”? 🤣
That’s why black men flock to them. Majority of them don’t want a woman to voice her opinion or speak her mind. Even in a “feminine” approach I got negative responses every time when dealing with a black man. I am beyond tired of feeling like my feelings/experiences do not matter and should be quiet
@@desdior1207 My wife had similar experience to you. She was with an abusive BM that would hit her, yet members of her family said nothing, because he was 'One of them', and his family and hers went 'Way back' or some other BS. When I first met her she was so traumatised, she was afraid of her own shadow. It has taken a long time, but she is finally starting to love herself again. I try and let her do it in her own time. Her family disowned her, only her sister is involved in our lives. Yet my wife is now finally able to be free to be herself. She smiles and laughs now, she likes poetry and gardening. I think some things happen for a reason. Fate can surprise you. You will meet someone who is right for you and it will happen where you least expect it.
As a white guy, I feel like I have to keep it secret that I favor black girls and would prefer wifing one over a white girl, the way they tend to look and behave is what attracts me. Being 19 I really hopes it changes in the future before it's too late to marry.. Why tf are white girls and black guys fine or even encouraged in our society but vice versa is shunned upon?? Disclaimer: English is my 3rd language
I love this video. I’m a white man who was married to a white woman for 25 years. When I started dating I met a beautiful woman who happened to be black. I didn’t have any expectations. We have now been dating for two years. I’m madly in love with her and she says she loves me more. I’m not sure why it works but she is a beautiful person inside and out. We haven’t had one argument! I never thought that would be possible. She is thoughtful, kind, sweet and very loving. When we go out I do notice looks and it really doesn’t bother me at all. If they knew how we both felt they would be jealous.
This is what I have observed: Most BW do not play head games, you always know what that want and how they’re feeling; they appreciate being treated well and for being accepted for who they are as a person; they are loyal when treated with love and respect.
Really well said. Black girls have to be some of the most grateful, genuine and loyal people you can meet. When I first met my gf I thought dating a black girl was gonna be like walking on eggshells and I thought she’d be all sassy and junk, but it turned out to be the exact opposite in every way. We can tell eachother just about anything and we almost never argue, we’ve been together for almost two years and I love her more than ever. Not too mention before I met her I had some major self esteem issues and had practically given up on love cuz many of the white girls I liked pretty much got offended when I showed any interest in them. And there she was telling me that I was the only guy who ever made her feel valuable when she’s 10x hotter than me. I was always insecure about my looks my dick etc. but absolutely none of that matters to her, I couldn’t believe it. I love her so much, I probably would have offed myself by now if I never met her.
Speaking as a white guy I have to say that black women are beautiful, gorgeous & attractive. They also have good hearts & should be cherished. Many I know of are loving & faithful they have good qualities that make them very desirable for marriage. I would love to marry a black Princess. God bless all black ladies you are a very Beautiful creation.
The temperament of black women always suited me. I saw less tendency towards pretentious behaviour, more directness, sincerity, not too much to "read between the lines". Oh, yeah, the lovely brown skin is nice too. Just looks healthier. I'm as white as snow, hahaha.
I'm a white guy who's courting my first black girl friend. She's the most passionate and sensual woman I've ever met. Her strength and occasional edge make me so hot... At the same time she is intensely feminine and caring towards me. She stands up for others. Smart and so stimulating to talk to.
I'm a white English man..been married to a lovely black jamaican lady for 14 years and we have 2 daughters..the second point you made a about "entitlement" was the strongest point for me..I fill the wife's car up with diesel when I can remember to do it and she is always so grateful. .I've even said to her in the past.."calm down bab..all I've done is put £40 in the car"...seriously though I love my black wife...x
You are so right my wife is black and we have been together for 13 years and married for 12 , we have 3 son's and we still love each other deeply. And just to let people know we have never fought and never called each other a bitch or any other derogatory names, and we never have cheated on each other. Thank you for putting this up.
I Have been married to an African woman now for 19 years and I’m white 👍💕 I just thought she was a hot chick❤️. She never once said anything to me while I fought in Iraq 🇮🇶 and Afghanistan 🇦🇫 and Kosovo 🇽🇰 etc. etc. then when I left the marines she said she wanted a child👀. We were older then and she cried to me. I loved this woman with all my heart ❤️, so I went to Uganda 🇺🇬 and adopted an 8 year old Karamojong girl out of love 💕. Now I’m surrounded by beautiful brown women now!!! I never win any arguments 😖now.
Wow so true, it’s hard to get black women to date us cause the black men in their families will beat them down. I enjoy being around and talking to black women. Such a breath of fresh air
My fiance is a white man. And I've never been more happier. I mean he has been the first man to truly love and honor me. I mean he adores me!! Ive never been treated with so much love and adoration. And he's a provider truly. The first man that I have been able to be truly feminine with. Before him I had a lot of masculine energy but when he came that all changed honey. I'm blessed
I agree with her point that both the black woman and the white male are the fighters in their respective cultures and there can be a natural affinity with each other once a dialogue is started....
White man here. I have got to say that I am amazed at how well you were able to understand and voice the pains of being a white man. Somehow I just assumed that you wouldn't have any clue about some of the struggles that I face. When you said passive aggressive communication style, when you said the we both are the ones pulling our other gender, but most of all when you said that black women are happy to be in a traditional feminine gender role. All that really hit home for me. There is one thing that I have to admit that has kept me from attempting to date black women though. Well partly I live in Rural Canada and there are not nearly as many black women around but the black girls in my high school were absolutely gorgeous and even though we used to hang out, I never thought I was nearly cool enough or man enough to askLaila on a date. She was an amazing dancer and I loved to dance with her but my negative self talk kept me from going any further. I wish I had come across your video 15 years ago!
You are exactly right. I give pda's to my bwife and she loves it. Other BW tell her they wish their men would do it too. BW glow when they receive sincere affection from their man in a committed relationship. Three years in and I can't keep my hands off her!
I hope to see more black women and white men marriages in future. (Including myself in future). The two groups that are constantly unappreciated by their societies.
Black women are easier to talk to and open up to. They also stand by their men. Also they can laugh and don't have dull personalities. Thats why more white men and black women are more common now.
funny thing is we italians have been doing this since the days of ancient rome over 3000yrs ago and still doing non stop , robert deniro and myself and millions others
I'm not prejudice...i just have a preference and it is white men. Wasn't always that way. However I do enjoy my relationships more in this day and age.💕💕💕
I’m a mixed afro latina and I got racist remarks in downtown Seattle so I definitely understand getting stared at and sneered at ...the guy actually stopped us (my mom, hubby and myself) and lectured me on what I was doing with him instead of being with a brother. Such distasteful behavior. Precisely the reason I chose an interracial relationship other than being in love lol my hubby doesn’t see a difference in us based on my skin tone. He’s just a goofy guy who fell in love with someone else. It’s always about race and light skin and light kids to black men and it’s such a huge turn off. I got sick of being fetishized because of my skin tone and my culture. 🤷🏽♀️
I can say it's refreshing to see a swirl page that doesn't carry hate responses but rather positive messages. Good to see black women being married and having a healthy relationship.
I have a take on this, but I'm not saying that I'm right. Black man/White woman is the only interracial couple that is being heavily promoted in the media. As a result, these couples mostly consist of fetishization. Black women have to deal with many negative prejudices. And if a white men goes for a black women he has to fight with many prejudices because many people (sadly) see black woman as "loud" and "ugly". These relationships are based on much more love. (Sorry for my english this isn't my first language)
I have a theory on why this is so. Could be completely wrong. I'm a black woman in an interracial relationship with a Hispanic man (not white but nearly passing) and we talked about this together. I think white couples are likely to get divorced because from what I understand, the reason for getting married in white American culture is very different than blacks (this has been my understanding that I gathered while regarding my white friends). White women tend to make it a mission to find someone who will take care of them financially and this process starts very early (ie: high school). I'm not saying this is a bad thing but this is what I have noticed and I don't think it's entirely their fault if you regard history. Historically white women's futures and value were pretty much determined by who they married. I know many white women who attend college JUST to find a man who will take care of them. I also find that money is also a way larger factor in finding a mate for white women than it is for Black women, who are much more willing to marry on potential. Again, not saying either method is inferior. I've gone to many bachelorette events and the general consensus I've gotten is that they still very much live by this idea that their value is determined by their husband. What the husband does, how much her ring cost, how much the house cost (that he bought her), etc. They end up becoming house mom's and although I don't have statistics on it, I'm willing to wager white women are more likely to be stay at home mom's than black women (which makes sense economically, because historically black women had to work to maintain a double income household). Many of my white friends also believe it's the man's responsibility to take care of them, despite considering themselves feminists. I just think black women have had a different history which has required us to be more independent, compatibly flexible and self sustaining. White women have had a history that has kept them economically beholden to men, and many of them for whatever reason are not ready to let go of that legacy. It's just a cultural difference. I can see how that financial pressure can be daunting on a man, or how he might lose respect for a woman that isn't self sustaining. Looks tend to be a major factor for men when seeking a mate (as is for women, but many women are willing to "marry down" for a wealthy man) but I think after being married for a few years and perhaps after a fee pregnancies, looks becomes less important. Looks wear off, either literally or it's relevancy does. And looks and money are never a solid foundation for a lasting relationship. Not saying looks or money isn't a factor for others (it very much is) but it seems to play a different game within white couples. It's also worth noting white couples get married WAY sooner which is also due to economics. White couples are more likely economically stable and their parents typically have the wealth to chime into a wedding, buying a house, etc. I don't think think is the reality for most African Americans, so we tend to get married later, which has a lot of benefits. There's a world of factors that seem out to keep black couples' relationships failing. With all the economic hardships aside (and money is the BIGGEST cause of all divorces) black couples are struggling socially. Black women are having to deal with white women (or anything resembling it) being pushed as the standard of beauty. Our own men are disrespecting. Black women have also tried to subscribe to the European standard of beauty just to be regarded as desirable (Tamar Braxton is a great example who recently admitted she wore blonde wigs all the time to appease Vince. Tina Turner went through the same with Ike). When the narrative is that you're "fundamentally unattractive", then it's no wonder a man will cheat. Many black men regard having a white woman as an achievement, which is why many black men who become successful marry white women. We know this to be true because it's one thing to marry interracially but it's another thing to verbally bash your own race. There's literally no reason for it, but they do it because they believe white womanhood is the superior form of femininity and beauty. This has a lot to do with the black economic struggle. Since slavery, black people have regarded themselves as poor, struggling, down trotten, etc. If you've grown up in a poor neighborhood and every example of a black person is poor, you begin to form a bias about people of your own race. This is especially damaging for lower class Black women, who have to work day and night, and perhaps taking care of themselves or going to the salon isn't a regular luxury they can afford. I think unfortunately, black mothers end up raising black men who regard their mothers as "non feminine" because they have to work hard to take care of them with the worst of circumstances. And when black women are also trying to live up to white beauty standards and their sons see it, they internalize it, and gather that white beauty is better. When they are in white neighborhoods or white schools they gather that white people are just better, because they see the LACK of economic struggle, crime, etc. It's unfortunate but I believe this cycle contributes to black couples not having respect for one another. I think black women get tired of being mistreated despite a lot being expected of them and black men want white women as a token of success so black marriages fall apart. This brings it to black men and white women marriages. Given the motivators I just pointed out, its basically a recipe for disaster. They are both getting married for the most superficial of reasons. White women typically marry men for the financial stability (notice, they typically marry the successful black men, not the ones with "potential") and black men marry to obtain whiteness (notice, oftentimes it seems they "marry down" just for the opportunity to be with a white woman). And what you get are 2 victims of historical circumstances marrying one another. Once black men realize Eurocentric beauty isn't all it was cracked up to be, and once white women realize the money isn't enough , it falls apart. I also think the cultural difference of black men and white women fairs a larger gap. Black men typically believe White women are "easier" because they let more slide. Even if this is true, that is a red flag as to why they're getting divorced in record numbers. Wanting a woman you can walk all over is hardly companionship. White women tend to believe black men are more "manly". That puts a lot of pressure on a man to maintain hyper masculinity and any sign of vulnerability is regarded as a weakness. Lastly, a major factor is also children. I think in some cases when white women and black men have children, the biracial child ends up having identity issues, ESPECIALLY the girls, because their father (and likely also their mother) regard white womanhood as superior (hence why many biracial girls reject their blackness compared to biracial men who embrace it because being black = being manly, unless you're a girl where being black = being "undesirable" and everything your father avoided). Also, their mother is white, and what little girl doesn't want to be like her mother? Black genes are pretty dominant so I think there's a disconnect when a biracial girl can't achieve the same beauty standards as her mother. Biracial sons are more likely to achieve the same brand of masculinity as their black fathers and they often reject their whiteness in order to do so (for those of you that don't know, in the black community light skinned women are worshipped and light skinned men are ridiculed) Last but not least, black women and white men. Imo, it's happenstance that thing combination tends to work out. Couple reasons: - The white man isn't marrying the black woman because society propped her up as the standard. He wasn't "brainwashed" to want her by propaganda or old stereotypes. He chose to be with her DESPITE society telling him otherwise. He made a choice. - Black women did not grow up with AS strong of an emphasis on finding a man to "take care of you". Black women historically have always needed to be independent and self sufficient. Take slavery for example. Due to this horrific reality, we never experienced (at least not in the western world, nor on a grand scale) the process of marrying for wealth because any wealth we had prior to slavery was stripped from us. We HAD to have dual income households because the legacy of slavery and discrimination meant black men and women got paid less, if they were lucky enough to be employed at all. This practice of economic independence is likely something unique to black women as compared to white women, who by no fault of their own, were forced to marry for financial reasons due to their own history. - Black women are not beholden to "white beauty standards" when with white men. White men tend to find black beauty unique and exotic. They've been around white women their whole lives so it's nothing special. Notably, there's a difference between "fetishizing" black women and appreciating their natural beauty. So long as she's not being fetishized (like black men do to white women), this is a very healthy experience for Black women, an experience sadly not experienced enough. - Black women do not frown upon vulnerability. Since black women aren't with white men with this expectation of hyper masculinity, it's also a healthy thing. The expectation for him to be "tough" or to "take care of her" isn't as toxic as it is with black men and white women.
@Tessitura9 Well thought out response, I agree with 99% of it with one exception. Issues between BM and BW predate the Trans Atlantic Slave Trade. It's actually what helped to give birth to it. And to the Arab slave trade before that. Hell, BW are still working like dogs in African countries. And BM bred themselves right out of power in Europe because of their lust for WW. So no, it's not slavery. The disrespect and disloyalty is much, much older.
All the white girls I dated in the past were always so finicky, unpredictable and unloyal. They think they are owed everything... atleast to my experience, not speaking for all. I'm marrying my black fiance soon, going on 3 years together, and we greatly appreciate eachother 😊
Growing up I never thought of dating white men I was trapped in the 'black love' mindset until I went to University and met my boyfriend (who happens to be white) not to bash black men but there is a difference in the way he treats me compared to previous relationships with black men there is a lot more respect and appreciation.
You are right on the money. As a white man I studied black women. I grew up in the south near a black college. And to this day. Black women is all that I dated.
I’m a young white guy and I agree with the woman in this video. 100%. A LOT of white women regularly talk trash about white men. It’s super bizarre and off-putting. Makes you want to check out. Honestly, this video makes me want to find a black girl to marry. If that marriage stat is true...very interesting.
I’m with a black woman, and I’ve never been happier. There’s no power plays, or manipulation. The best aspect is she is appreciative of what I do for her. Previously with WW, nothing was good enough. Everything was a fight etc,. I feel extremely loved, and respected. Im extremely happy.
All good points. My relationship with my girlfriend, who is black, shows every indication of having what it takes to go the distance. She loves me, and I love her. We're tight. We both work hard. We're honest and faithful to each other. We almost never argue, and even then we don't fight. I notice more and more mixed couples where the man is white and the woman black. Looks like the word is out. Race is a tricky issue. Most of us have experienced and engaged in racial bias at some time in our lives. I know this is true about me. How fitting it is that I've found happiness with a black woman.
So true ! Thank you for this posting ! I discovered this over 40 years ago. I was called a freak back then. Black women have a level of honesty and straightforwardness that white women will never understand.
I am a white Argentine man I was married to a white Argentine woman for 18 years and it was a toxic relationship now I’ve been dating a black princess from Ethiopia and I have never been happier I will marry her one day she is just so beautiful and amazing. Black women rock they make great wives
I have dated all races at one time or another, but i have to say i never, absolutely never knew what true love was till the first time i held a beautiful black woman in my arms. I felt like i was holding my equal, my other half. In so many ways. Did a lot of it have to do with the "person", the personality of the woman? Sure. Of course. Obviously she is an individual and not a skin color. In fact, skin color didn't even play into it. What i am trying to say is she knew how to love me. And further more knew how to accept "my" love. I agree with pretty much everything you're saying. I think black women and white men were made for each other.
I have been in love with my high school sweetheart for the past 43 years. She is my queen. yeah we have our differences now and again, but our love has held true for a long time. We came together when interracial relationships between white guys and black girls was kind of dangerous especially when it came to our families.
My wife is a beautiful black woman. We’ve been married for 17 years and have 3 of the cutest kids you’ll ever see. I live in Texas and really never have any people who are disrespect towards us. There should be more mixed couples in my opinion.
Very very true. I'm dating a white guy, he's Irish, and I dont feel the pressures to do this, do that, instead he does things for me without thinking anything about it,.. laundry, cooking, spending money for day out at the shops, ...though I didn't quickly get used to it as I will rush to try to take over from him, (as I see most black guys lording over their women, I see the stress my sisters go through tending to their men)... but my Irish just says it's okay. So I studied his routine and knew when such things needed to be done so I usually take the first step to get it done before he starts with it. At first I thought he was kind of trying to set me up or test me but it wasn't so. He was happy to take care of me. I felt a bit uncomfortable at first, but I'm growing into it though I am also proactive and I don't take him or that for granted. Additionally, I try to help him with some garage work with anything I can handle, like drilling holes into metal, lol, he taught me that, and making sure his tea and snack is piping hot as the garage can get quite chilly.
Every black woman I know with a white husband or boyfriend smiles a lot and is usually in a good mood. Hmmmmmmmmmmmm......
I am a white man married to a black women, and I have never been happier.
As a black woman who is attracted to white men, I love everything about your comment.
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The first time I bought my now wife flowers , she cried for like 20 minutes. She had never got them before. It took her 3 years to fully understand why I didn't want her to work. I love my black wife! And I'm white AF, Or so I'm told.
I was married to a white man for 20 years until he died 5 1/2yrs ago, we had 4 well-adjusted bi-racial children and through the good and bad times he always called me his Queen 👑
Sorry for your loss...🙏
Its true. I am engaged to a white man and Im not saying white men are just better men, Im saying I laugh amd smile more. More affectionate. More feminine. Less stressed. I dont have to worry about having to take care of him. He makes me feel like a Queen. No struggle love. No negativity. No bickering. No disrespect.
It’s a real issue within the black community 😅, as a black man I agree a lot of black women are heavily under appreciated by black men.
Sherrece Duncan of course queen, I've been calling out brothers for years
BW subconsciously hate BM for not being able to protect them during slavery and BM subconsciously hate BE because they seen BW use their sexuality with WM and seen their existence as ‘easier’ than theirs.
I dated an African American women many years ago and she told me that she preferred to date white men. I asked her why, she said that she finds that white men treat her with more respect and are typically are gentleman. True story
Facts!
This June, my wife and I will be celebrating 24 years. I agree with a lot of this. One time my wife was on a local black panel discussing ways to up lift the black community. I was at a table to the side. A black guy asked her what man would allow her to be out here promoting local musicians and artist on her own. I stood up and said, "I do. I'm her husband". He said, "Not to sound racist, but no brother would allow that." I said, " I guess that's why she's with me. I'm secure enough, as a man, to trust her. Oh, and I don't control her. She's her own woman." He got pissed. The funny thing. The men were pissed at me while the women applauded. I guess I was supposed to be some quiet timid white male. LOL 🤣
My experience has always been that white men or other races seem more attracted to me than black men. I’m okay with that.
My wife and I have been married for 21yrs and still in love. I'm blond and green eyed and she is dark skinned with gorgeous brown eyes
What in tha SWIRL is going on with these beautiful comments...lol. I’m actually surprised. I had no idea. Well, I would just like to say THANK YOU to all the men in this comment section for the lovely words about black women.
Black women are gorgeous!!! Beauty like nothing else!!
Thank you
Thank you you’re so sweet ❤
Generally speaking, black women are much more loving, caring, supportive, and affectionate than white women. Not to mention that they actually APPRECIATE everything you do for them. Your efforts are not just expected and taken for granted.
true thanks
Was married to a black man for 3.5 years and it was the worst time of my life. Fast forward now I’m dating a white man and I feel like I’m floating on clouds. He knew me better after s month of dating than my ex knew me our entire marriage. My current man is so loving, caring, giving and compassionate. Right off the bat he told me his intentions, gave me his word and hasn’t disappointed me. He moved me into his beautiful home after dating for about 3 months, gets me flowers every week, take me on trips, got me a ring 😉 and we’ve been together for a while now and we’ve never argued. He’s great at communicating and looks at me every day like I’m a bucket of gold. I’ve got more love, affection and attention out of my current relationship than I did with my black husband!!
Absolutely Amazing, I love this. Thank you for sharing. I’m so happy for you, and you deserve all the happiness in this world. ❤
Been married to my Queen for 16 year's. We have been together 17 almost 18 year's....Yes I am a Caucasian and she's my "QUEEN" black woman
I've been asked why i mainly date black women. Now I have something to point to, and not have to explain it.
I'm a 49 year old Male Divorced after 27 years of white woman hell , and currently dating an Adorable 39 year old Black woman who has been raising three great young men by herself
In my humble opinion as a white man. Ever since I laid eyes on the first black girl as a young boy..I knew in my heart i was in love at first sight!
They are the most attractive, loving, jovial, down to earth women on the planet. Your skin, curves, hair, lips, voice, style and strength capture my attention more than any other. Truly the black woman is God's gift to humanity!!!
yeszirrrrrrr dang you put tears in my eye
yeszirrrrrrr Wow; thank you very much.
I'm a black woman. You're lovely to say this.
I'm an American white guy from suburbia who's married to a Caribbean black woman. We have two daughters and a good marriage.
I am Asian, I don't really care about race but I love black women they are so gorgeous!
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Statistics show that marriages with Black women with any race tend to last longer than other marriages.
College educated Black couples also have strong long-lasting marriages.
The point is that for any race a Black wife leads to a longer lasting marriage.
Been married for 30years. I've been a housewife almost all of that time. 4 kids and I'm am artist. My husband (white) has always encouraged me in my endeavors. This lady is right!
My husband is white and we've been married 14 years with two kids. Still happy and very much in love. Race has never been an issue or problem for us. Love is love.
I would like to relate a story that just happened over the weekend to illustrate some of the points Ck made in the video..I am black woman married to white man for 10 years. My cell phone was down to 5 percent. My husband always wakes up before I do and gets ready. She when i went to the living room he already had his cellphone plugged into the faster charger. The slower charger takes about half a day, but i plugged my phone into it and went to the bathroom to get myself ready (thinking when i came back i will plug my phone into the faster charger because my husband cellphone will be charged by then). However when i came back from the bathroom my husband without me saying a word had switch the phones chargers so my phone will be charged sooner than his. This is why this type of relationship work: i was willing to sacrifice for him and he was willing to sacrifice for me. There are countless stories like this. I am truly grateful for this man
As a white woman, I found your video very interesting. Here in the UK, white women seem to be wanting to take on the role of a man. I'm glad black women are comfortable with traditional roles. I am in the minority in my race, because I believe in traditional roles too. I was married to a Moroccan guy for a few years. Unfortunately it didn't last. I'm hoping to meet a man who values my feminity. Good luck to all you black women in relationships with white men and don't let anyone criticise you. Love to you all from the UK, a traditional white woman
My cousin has been married to a black woman for over 20 years now. They get along perfect, its like they were meant for each other. I dated a black girl when I was younger and we got along great but black men harassed me constantly. White men are willing to date you and share thier life with you, it's like she said most black men want to know what you have to offer them. Anyhow I agree that it's a good combo that statistically does work. Sidenote: White men aren't out to fulfill some plantation slave fantasy, most want to treat you like that African queen you claim to be or are. There is no hidden agenda, when I was getting harassed I was accused of all kinds of garbage that absolutely did not reflect reality. When you looking for love it's about connection not race
My Uncle (white)has been married To the love of his life and such a beautiful Black woman inside and out For over 14 years I'm so happy for them
Black women speak to me, not at me, they see me, I see them, no games, attentive, considerate, passionate, Black women do not use sex as a tool. And they have no agenda other than securing a future for their children, which is what us men are concerned about too. Black women are beautiful inside and out!
We are humbled🙏
R. Weaver All women are pink on the inside
You are right R. Weaver. Black women want a man that treats them right and in return she will be loyal, respectful and loving to such a man
Black women are beautiful, passionate, sensual, sexy, and fun. I love being with a black woman.
Can we take a moment to appreciate how so many white men are showing appreciation to black women in the comment section, this is so beautiful
White men, don't be shy. Ask us out on a date. It's okay! We won't bite. 😂👏🏾
I wnat to find a black girlfriend can you help me
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A video where white guys are not labeled as racists, sexists etc. How refreshing :).
I have always gotten more respect from "black" women, than I have from any other group of women.
Something I'm not used too :(
I’m dating a white man and omg I love the comments and energy under this vid! I also have to agree I feel the most appreciated and valued I’ve ever felt! 💕
Articulate, educated black women are outstanding prize for any man. I'm white have a black wife with two daughters. Our families live each other. My wife is gorgeous and smart. I couldn't be happier.
I’m married to a white man and he’s the purest man God could’ve ever Bless me with! I respect my husband to the fullest! This is by far the best Marriage God could bless a couple with! I Love my White King! I know he Loves me the same! I Treat my King like a God!🙏🏻🙌🏻❤️
Get me a black girl whose nerdy and can cook and they will have a ring on their finger 😌
that's me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sasuke Uchiha sounds like my dream guy!
She should've been wayyy too easy to find, its been plenty of black girl nerds over looked
I'm a white guy who has been in an interracial marriage for nearly 25 years. Here is why I encourage Asian, white, and Latin guys to consider black women among their dating options:
Recently my wife and I were in a group discussion (75% women; wife asked me to go), when the moderator asked if anyone could give an example of gratitude. My wife raised her hand and we were called to the front of the room. (This isn't really fun for me but hey, I'm a trooper.) My wife said she was thankful that for nearly 20 years I parked on the driveway (thus having to scrape my windshield 4 months a year before my 7am departure for work), while she parked in the garage, yet didn't go to work until 11am (by which time the sunny climate would have melted the windshield ice). This went against 'logic', but I did it anyway.
Of course this was a surprise to me, something I had not planned on. Being asked to respond, I thanked my wife, then mumbled something about it being not a big deal, it was done out of love and wanting her to feel safer....so her parking in the garage was best.
That last sentence must a trigger, because about 50% of white women I could see were rolling their eyes or in some disdainful pose...because this wasn't anything special, and in fact I was probably "dominating her choices". Of the Latin and Asian women, maybe 15-20% had similar reactions, but EVERY SINGLE BLACK WOMAN THERE expressed that it was a very good thing.
Sure there are rachet BW out there, but there are many who just want to be part of a loyal, strong partnership in which they are treasured and appreciated.
i almost ended up a nun until i discovered about white tender guys..married for over 10yrs..😊
I can only speak from my personal experience . Was married to a black man for 22 yrs and have known my current husband for 8yrs. My white husband knows me better and therefore knows how to love me better. No one has ever made me feel, as beautiful , attractive , valued and appreciated as my husband does. I can be in a room full of drop dead gorgeous women, my husband always makes me feel that I am the best thing since slice bread . My husband is not afraid to be vulnerable and to express to me daily how much he loves and values our love and life together. To me the major difference between white and black men is that the white man does not take his woman for granted.
Well it is.not only white who also love black women; asian men do love you ladies
I'm white, and I have only dated white girls... she is spot on about the passive aggressiveness. After this I think I might start looking at black women.
Dut work I hear that from white men all the time. I’m very blunt and it shocks some of them. White women will beat around the bush when you’ve done something that upsets them. I’ll just come out and ask “why did you just do that”? 🤣
That’s why black men flock to them. Majority of them don’t want a woman to voice her opinion or speak her mind. Even in a “feminine” approach I got negative responses every time when dealing with a black man. I am beyond tired of feeling like my feelings/experiences do not matter and should be quiet
@@desdior1207 My wife had similar experience to you. She was with an abusive BM that would hit her, yet members of her family said nothing, because he was 'One of them', and his family and hers went 'Way back' or some other BS. When I first met her she was so traumatised, she was afraid of her own shadow. It has taken a long time, but she is finally starting to love herself again. I try and let her do it in her own time. Her family disowned her, only her sister is involved in our lives. Yet my wife is now finally able to be free to be herself. She smiles and laughs now, she likes poetry and gardening. I think some things happen for a reason. Fate can surprise you. You will meet someone who is right for you and it will happen where you least expect it.
As a white dude who only dates black women, she right on everything.
White man here . I have been married to my wife for 35 years and she is black . I love her to this day more than life itself .
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Can I just say that I adore black women. There’s just something about them.
As a white guy, I feel like I have to keep it secret that I favor black girls and would prefer wifing one over a white girl, the way they tend to look and behave is what attracts me.
Being 19 I really hopes it changes in the future before it's too late to marry..
Why tf are white girls and black guys fine or even encouraged in our society but vice versa is shunned upon??
Disclaimer: English is my 3rd language
SmileBombMedia Do what makes YOU happy. If you don’t you’ll regret it.
I love this video. I’m a white man who was married to a white woman for 25 years. When I started dating I met a beautiful woman who happened to be black. I didn’t have any expectations. We have now been dating for two years. I’m madly in love with her and she says she loves me more. I’m not sure why it works but she is a beautiful person inside and out. We haven’t had one argument! I never thought that would be possible. She is thoughtful, kind, sweet and very loving. When we go out I do notice looks and it really doesn’t bother me at all. If they knew how we both felt they would be jealous.
This is what I have observed: Most BW do not play head games, you always know what that want and how they’re feeling; they appreciate being treated well and for being accepted for who they are as a person; they are loyal when treated with love and respect.
Really well said. Black girls have to be some of the most grateful, genuine and loyal people you can meet. When I first met my gf I thought dating a black girl was gonna be like walking on eggshells and I thought she’d be all sassy and junk, but it turned out to be the exact opposite in every way. We can tell eachother just about anything and we almost never argue, we’ve been together for almost two years and I love her more than ever. Not too mention before I met her I had some major self esteem issues and had practically given up on love cuz many of the white girls I liked pretty much got offended when I showed any interest in them. And there she was telling me that I was the only guy who ever made her feel valuable when she’s 10x hotter than me. I was always insecure about my looks my dick etc. but absolutely none of that matters to her, I couldn’t believe it. I love her so much, I probably would have offed myself by now if I never met her.
Speaking as a white guy I have to say that black women are beautiful, gorgeous & attractive. They also have good hearts & should be cherished. Many I know of are loving & faithful they have good qualities that make them very desirable for marriage. I would love to marry a black Princess. God bless all black ladies you are a very Beautiful creation.
Leigh Miles thank you for the kind words. It's good to know that we are appreciated! Thank you
Moonlit Balcony you are welcome I want every black woman to see themselves for the beautiful creation they are for you are all truly beautiful.
If anyone is offended by this, then I guess it’s true when they say, “The truth hurts”.
My beautiful brown princess and I have been together for 18 years...no regrets!!!
The temperament of black women always suited me. I saw less tendency towards pretentious behaviour, more directness, sincerity, not too much to "read between the lines". Oh, yeah, the lovely brown skin is nice too. Just looks healthier. I'm as white as snow, hahaha.
I'm a white guy who's courting my first black girl friend. She's the most passionate and sensual woman I've ever met. Her strength and occasional edge make me so hot... At the same time she is intensely feminine and caring towards me. She stands up for others. Smart and so stimulating to talk to.
So true. White man here married to a gorgeous black women going on 8 years now and still feels new. 5 kids later still in love.
The Technician that's great! Happy for you two!!
The Technician me and my husband are on 19 years of marriage and one grandchild and still in love
That is Awesome!!
👏👏👏👏👍👍👍👍
I'm a white English man..been married to a lovely black jamaican lady for 14 years and we have 2 daughters..the second point you made a about "entitlement" was the strongest point for me..I fill the wife's car up with diesel when I can remember to do it and she is always so grateful. .I've even said to her in the past.."calm down bab..all I've done is put £40 in the car"...seriously though I love my black wife...x
You are so right my wife is black and we have been together for 13 years and married for 12 , we have 3 son's and we still love each other deeply. And just to let people know we have never fought and never called each other a bitch or any other derogatory names, and we never have cheated on each other. Thank you for putting this up.
Amen! My father is white and mom is Black and they are truly the happiest people I know. Been together damn near 30 years
Black women are gorgeous and act like ladies instead of spoiled brats.
I think black women and white men are cute together!
I Have been married to an African woman now for 19 years and I’m white 👍💕 I just thought she was a hot chick❤️. She never once said anything to me while I fought in Iraq 🇮🇶 and Afghanistan 🇦🇫 and Kosovo 🇽🇰 etc. etc. then when I left the marines she said she wanted a child👀. We were older then and she cried to me. I loved this woman with all my heart ❤️, so I went to Uganda 🇺🇬 and adopted an 8 year old Karamojong girl out of love 💕. Now I’m surrounded by beautiful brown women now!!! I never win any arguments 😖now.
Wow so true, it’s hard to get black women to date us cause the black men in their families will beat them down. I enjoy being around and talking to black women. Such a breath of fresh air
also, if I would have known that a lot of black women are actually interested in white men, I would have started trying to date them a long time ago.
Black women are beautiful. I'm a white man. You make my heart race
I'm a black woman. So sweet of you to say.
I need to be accepted for my absolute self. My white husband happens to get me and love me. Married 21 years.
White guy, black fiance here. We have 3 beautiful children and are planning our wedding and honeymoon. I couldnt be happier. Thank you for this video!
My fiance is a white man. And I've never been more happier. I mean he has been the first man to truly love and honor me. I mean he adores me!! Ive never been treated with so much love and adoration. And he's a provider truly. The first man that I have been able to be truly feminine with. Before him I had a lot of masculine energy but when he came that all changed honey. I'm blessed
I agree with her point that both the black woman and the white male are the fighters in their respective cultures and there can be a natural affinity with each other once a dialogue is started....
White man here. I have got to say that I am amazed at how well you were able to understand and voice the pains of being a white man. Somehow I just assumed that you wouldn't have any clue about some of the struggles that I face.
When you said passive aggressive communication style, when you said the we both are the ones pulling our other gender, but most of all when you said that black women are happy to be in a traditional feminine gender role.
All that really hit home for me.
There is one thing that I have to admit that has kept me from attempting to date black women though. Well partly I live in Rural Canada and there are not nearly as many black women around but the black girls in my high school were absolutely gorgeous and even though we used to hang out, I never thought I was nearly cool enough or man enough to askLaila on a date. She was an amazing dancer and I loved to dance with her but my negative self talk kept me from going any further.
I wish I had come across your video 15 years ago!
Black women are devoted to their man , if treated well.
you forced True shit 💯💯
No matter the color
My husband is white and am black. We have married for 10 years now and we have 3 beautiful kids together 💏
Black women are loyal to the end, and they make love with every cell in their body
White guy here, only dated one white woman early on and won't do it again. Love the darker skinned women, so hot!
I love black women. To me they are so beautiful.
I'm a black woman. I appreciate that sentiment!
Black women flourish when we're WATERED.
PrincessLeah187 xx So true
Chris is clearly a well watered woman : )
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Girl, put this on a T-shirt so I can buy it
You are exactly right. I give pda's to my bwife and she loves it. Other BW tell her they wish their men would do it too. BW glow when they receive sincere affection from their man in a committed relationship. Three years in and I can't keep my hands off her!
I hope to see more black women and white men marriages in future. (Including myself in future). The two groups that are constantly unappreciated by their societies.
Nice to hear something positive about white men for a change....refreshing
@Tripleblade 82 well many women of color do. White men have proven time and again they're the better man than the black man.
Black women are easier to talk to and open up to. They also stand by their men. Also they can laugh and don't have dull personalities. Thats why more white men and black women are more common now.
funny thing is we italians have been doing this since the days of ancient rome over 3000yrs ago and still doing non stop , robert deniro and myself and millions others
Oh yes, Italian men are known to have a thing for the swirl.
I just want to be respected regardless of race.
My beautiful wife and I married in 1989 and are still going strong almost 30 years later.
I'm not prejudice...i just have a preference and it is white men. Wasn't always that way. However I do enjoy my relationships more in this day and age.💕💕💕
I’m a mixed afro latina and I got racist remarks in downtown Seattle so I definitely understand getting stared at and sneered at ...the guy actually stopped us (my mom, hubby and myself) and lectured me on what I was doing with him instead of being with a brother. Such distasteful behavior. Precisely the reason I chose an interracial relationship other than being in love lol my hubby doesn’t see a difference in us based on my skin tone. He’s just a goofy guy who fell in love with someone else. It’s always about race and light skin and light kids to black men and it’s such a huge turn off. I got sick of being fetishized because of my skin tone and my culture. 🤷🏽♀️
I can say it's refreshing to see a swirl page that doesn't carry hate responses but rather positive messages. Good to see black women being married and having a healthy relationship.
I have a take on this, but I'm not saying that I'm right. Black man/White woman is the only interracial couple that is being heavily promoted in the media. As a result, these couples mostly consist of fetishization. Black women have to deal with many negative prejudices. And if a white men goes for a black women he has to fight with many prejudices because many people (sadly) see black woman as "loud" and "ugly". These relationships are based on much more love. (Sorry for my english this isn't my first language)
I have a theory on why this is so. Could be completely wrong. I'm a black woman in an interracial relationship with a Hispanic man (not white but nearly passing) and we talked about this together.
I think white couples are likely to get divorced because from what I understand, the reason for getting married in white American culture is very different than blacks (this has been my understanding that I gathered while regarding my white friends). White women tend to make it a mission to find someone who will take care of them financially and this process starts very early (ie: high school). I'm not saying this is a bad thing but this is what I have noticed and I don't think it's entirely their fault if you regard history. Historically white women's futures and value were pretty much determined by who they married. I know many white women who attend college JUST to find a man who will take care of them. I also find that money is also a way larger factor in finding a mate for white women than it is for Black women, who are much more willing to marry on potential. Again, not saying either method is inferior. I've gone to many bachelorette events and the general consensus I've gotten is that they still very much live by this idea that their value is determined by their husband. What the husband does, how much her ring cost, how much the house cost (that he bought her), etc. They end up becoming house mom's and although I don't have statistics on it, I'm willing to wager white women are more likely to be stay at home mom's than black women (which makes sense economically, because historically black women had to work to maintain a double income household). Many of my white friends also believe it's the man's responsibility to take care of them, despite considering themselves feminists. I just think black women have had a different history which has required us to be more independent, compatibly flexible and self sustaining. White women have had a history that has kept them economically beholden to men, and many of them for whatever reason are not ready to let go of that legacy. It's just a cultural difference. I can see how that financial pressure can be daunting on a man, or how he might lose respect for a woman that isn't self sustaining. Looks tend to be a major factor for men when seeking a mate (as is for women, but many women are willing to "marry down" for a wealthy man) but I think after being married for a few years and perhaps after a fee pregnancies, looks becomes less important. Looks wear off, either literally or it's relevancy does. And looks and money are never a solid foundation for a lasting relationship. Not saying looks or money isn't a factor for others (it very much is) but it seems to play a different game within white couples. It's also worth noting white couples get married WAY sooner which is also due to economics. White couples are more likely economically stable and their parents typically have the wealth to chime into a wedding, buying a house, etc. I don't think think is the reality for most African Americans, so we tend to get married later, which has a lot of benefits.
There's a world of factors that seem out to keep black couples' relationships failing. With all the economic hardships aside (and money is the BIGGEST cause of all divorces) black couples are struggling socially. Black women are having to deal with white women (or anything resembling it) being pushed as the standard of beauty. Our own men are disrespecting. Black women have also tried to subscribe to the European standard of beauty just to be regarded as desirable (Tamar Braxton is a great example who recently admitted she wore blonde wigs all the time to appease Vince. Tina Turner went through the same with Ike). When the narrative is that you're "fundamentally unattractive", then it's no wonder a man will cheat. Many black men regard having a white woman as an achievement, which is why many black men who become successful marry white women. We know this to be true because it's one thing to marry interracially but it's another thing to verbally bash your own race. There's literally no reason for it, but they do it because they believe white womanhood is the superior form of femininity and beauty. This has a lot to do with the black economic struggle. Since slavery, black people have regarded themselves as poor, struggling, down trotten, etc. If you've grown up in a poor neighborhood and every example of a black person is poor, you begin to form a bias about people of your own race. This is especially damaging for lower class Black women, who have to work day and night, and perhaps taking care of themselves or going to the salon isn't a regular luxury they can afford. I think unfortunately, black mothers end up raising black men who regard their mothers as "non feminine" because they have to work hard to take care of them with the worst of circumstances. And when black women are also trying to live up to white beauty standards and their sons see it, they internalize it, and gather that white beauty is better. When they are in white neighborhoods or white schools they gather that white people are just better, because they see the LACK of economic struggle, crime, etc. It's unfortunate but I believe this cycle contributes to black couples not having respect for one another. I think black women get tired of being mistreated despite a lot being expected of them and black men want white women as a token of success so black marriages fall apart.
This brings it to black men and white women marriages. Given the motivators I just pointed out, its basically a recipe for disaster. They are both getting married for the most superficial of reasons. White women typically marry men for the financial stability (notice, they typically marry the successful black men, not the ones with "potential") and black men marry to obtain whiteness (notice, oftentimes it seems they "marry down" just for the opportunity to be with a white woman). And what you get are 2 victims of historical circumstances marrying one another. Once black men realize Eurocentric beauty isn't all it was cracked up to be, and once white women realize the money isn't enough , it falls apart. I also think the cultural difference of black men and white women fairs a larger gap. Black men typically believe White women are "easier" because they let more slide. Even if this is true, that is a red flag as to why they're getting divorced in record numbers. Wanting a woman you can walk all over is hardly companionship. White women tend to believe black men are more "manly". That puts a lot of pressure on a man to maintain hyper masculinity and any sign of vulnerability is regarded as a weakness. Lastly, a major factor is also children. I think in some cases when white women and black men have children, the biracial child ends up having identity issues, ESPECIALLY the girls, because their father (and likely also their mother) regard white womanhood as superior (hence why many biracial girls reject their blackness compared to biracial men who embrace it because being black = being manly, unless you're a girl where being black = being "undesirable" and everything your father avoided). Also, their mother is white, and what little girl doesn't want to be like her mother? Black genes are pretty dominant so I think there's a disconnect when a biracial girl can't achieve the same beauty standards as her mother. Biracial sons are more likely to achieve the same brand of masculinity as their black fathers and they often reject their whiteness in order to do so (for those of you that don't know, in the black community light skinned women are worshipped and light skinned men are ridiculed)
Last but not least, black women and white men. Imo, it's happenstance that thing combination tends to work out. Couple reasons:
- The white man isn't marrying the black woman because society propped her up as the standard. He wasn't "brainwashed" to want her by propaganda or old stereotypes. He chose to be with her DESPITE society telling him otherwise. He made a choice.
- Black women did not grow up with AS strong of an emphasis on finding a man to "take care of you". Black women historically have always needed to be independent and self sufficient. Take slavery for example. Due to this horrific reality, we never experienced (at least not in the western world, nor on a grand scale) the process of marrying for wealth because any wealth we had prior to slavery was stripped from us. We HAD to have dual income households because the legacy of slavery and discrimination meant black men and women got paid less, if they were lucky enough to be employed at all. This practice of economic independence is likely something unique to black women as compared to white women, who by no fault of their own, were forced to marry for financial reasons due to their own history.
- Black women are not beholden to "white beauty standards" when with white men. White men tend to find black beauty unique and exotic. They've been around white women their whole lives so it's nothing special. Notably, there's a difference between "fetishizing" black women and appreciating their natural beauty. So long as she's not being fetishized (like black men do to white women), this is a very healthy experience for Black women, an experience sadly not experienced enough.
- Black women do not frown upon vulnerability. Since black women aren't with white men with this expectation of hyper masculinity, it's also a healthy thing. The expectation for him to be "tough" or to "take care of her" isn't as toxic as it is with black men and white women.
@Tessitura9 Well thought out response, I agree with 99% of it with one exception. Issues between BM and BW predate the Trans Atlantic Slave Trade. It's actually what helped to give birth to it. And to the Arab slave trade before that. Hell, BW are still working like dogs in African countries. And BM bred themselves right out of power in Europe because of their lust for WW. So no, it's not slavery. The disrespect and disloyalty is much, much older.
This is a very great and interesting piece.
All the white girls I dated in the past were always so finicky, unpredictable and unloyal. They think they are owed everything... atleast to my experience, not speaking for all. I'm marrying my black fiance soon, going on 3 years together, and we greatly appreciate eachother 😊
Growing up I never thought of dating white men I was trapped in the 'black love' mindset until I went to University and met my boyfriend (who happens to be white) not to bash black men but there is a difference in the way he treats me compared to previous relationships with black men there is a lot more respect and appreciation.
You are right on the money. As a white man I studied black women. I grew up in the south near a black college. And to this day. Black women is all that I dated.
I’m a young white guy and I agree with the woman in this video. 100%. A LOT of white women regularly talk trash about white men. It’s super bizarre and off-putting. Makes you want to check out. Honestly, this video makes me want to find a black girl to marry. If that marriage stat is true...very interesting.
The stats are true and well documented so it’s easy to google
I'm going to marry a black women one day😘😍🇬🇧
Good luck Jonny
Jonny Bravo when?
I’m with a black woman, and I’ve never been happier. There’s no power plays, or manipulation. The best aspect is she is appreciative of what I do for her. Previously with WW, nothing was good enough. Everything was a fight etc,. I feel extremely loved, and respected. Im extremely happy.
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All good points. My relationship with my girlfriend, who is black, shows every indication of having what it takes to go the distance. She loves me, and I love her. We're tight. We both work hard. We're honest and faithful to each other. We almost never argue, and even then we don't fight.
I notice more and more mixed couples where the man is white and the woman black. Looks like the word is out.
Race is a tricky issue. Most of us have experienced and engaged in racial bias at some time in our lives. I know this is true about me. How fitting it is that I've found happiness with a black woman.
Carlton Wilson congratulations 🎉. I like hearing that people are happy in their lives.
So true ! Thank you for this posting !
I discovered this over 40 years ago. I was called a freak back then.
Black women have a level of honesty and straightforwardness that white women will never understand.
I am a white Argentine man I was married to a white Argentine woman for 18 years and it was a toxic relationship now I’ve been dating a black princess from Ethiopia and I have never been happier I will marry her one day she is just so beautiful and amazing. Black women rock they make great wives
My wife spoils me and I try to spoil her! Been down with the swirl since 1984!
I have dated all races at one time or another, but i have to say i never, absolutely never knew what true love was till the first time i held a beautiful black woman in my arms. I felt like i was holding my equal, my other half. In so many ways. Did a lot of it have to do with the "person", the personality of the woman? Sure. Of course. Obviously she is an individual and not a skin color. In fact, skin color didn't even play into it. What i am trying to say is she knew how to love me. And further more knew how to accept "my" love. I agree with pretty much everything you're saying. I think black women and white men were made for each other.
Beautiful comment!
That's what I looking for!
You ain't never lied.
I have been in love with my high school sweetheart for the past 43 years. She is my queen. yeah we have our differences now and again, but our love has held true for a long time. We came together when interracial relationships between white guys and black girls was kind of dangerous especially when it came to our families.
So happy for you, your resilience and hard work, the love and respect you have for each other.
Been loving black women since I was six yrs old...first crush was Donna Summers, first date, and lover Thelma Clark, married to a Nigerian woman.
My wife is a beautiful black woman. We’ve been married for 17 years and have 3 of the cutest kids you’ll ever see. I live in Texas and really never have any people who are disrespect towards us. There should be more mixed couples in my opinion.
Very very true. I'm dating a white guy, he's Irish, and I dont feel the pressures to do this, do that, instead he does things for me without thinking anything about it,.. laundry, cooking, spending money for day out at the shops, ...though I didn't quickly get used to it as I will rush to try to take over from him, (as I see most black guys lording over their women, I see the stress my sisters go through tending to their men)... but my Irish just says it's okay. So I studied his routine and knew when such things needed to be done so I usually take the first step to get it done before he starts with it. At first I thought he was kind of trying to set me up or test me but it wasn't so. He was happy to take care of me. I felt a bit uncomfortable at first, but I'm growing into it though I am also proactive and I don't take him or that for granted. Additionally, I try to help him with some garage work with anything I can handle, like drilling holes into metal, lol, he taught me that, and making sure his tea and snack is piping hot as the garage can get quite chilly.
Sheena Alba what a cute story 😀
This is sweet...it's those little gestures that can count for so much.