The root cause: fear (and all related emotions to fear), the solution: create safety! So simple and therefore hard to believe. Don´t work on symptoms, work on fear/safety. Glad I experienced hundreds of other approaches before and arrived here in the simple (not easy!) truth. Thanks Dan!!!❤
Solution is indifference, symptoms are just your brain talking to you. You have to show your brain you're safe. Went for a 5 mile walk today, felt amazing. Thanks Dan, you've helped me in dark times.
@@namefamily1462 Gradually teaching safety is important. If going outside terrifies you, gradually expose yourself to more sounds indoors before you venture outside. Not because sound is dangerous, but the entire hyper sensitivity is driven by fear.
This is so important, doing all the things causes more overwhelm, check out the law of least effort, stop the resistance, fixing, urgency and desperation and the system will calm down, surrender believe patience trust
This was me, a million practices tools and coaches until I finally met a coach that said you must be so unbelievably bored of this. And I agreed with someone for the first time in years. There are no tools.
Maybe when we can step back, look in the mirror and really trust ourselves and believe in ourselves and accept that WE are our own healers and we are all we need to heal ourselves - then the messages of safety will stick.... ❤
Yep I did that looking everywhere 😒 didn't help. Now I promised myself to stay in the group with you Dan untill I finish this marathon. The root cause is fear 😨 nothing else. My brain 🧠 is still perceiving danger. Walked 2x in the dunes had lunch with my lovely Martin then had coffee ☕️ with a friend. And had some bloodwork done for my yearly check up with my cardiologist ❤ ty Dan for another great video 📹 love you see you tomorrow 😘 ❤️ ♥️
Who remembers that golden girls episode where Dorothy goes from doctor to doctor and tells off one doctor because she had chronic fatigue syndrom. She was all insulted for being told it was in her head. She allegedly got letters from psychiatrists it was not in her head. 30 years later there is still no medical answer to chronic fatigue.
Thirty years is not a long time in medicine. From personal experience and what I've observed in others I would say that chronic fatigue is usually/mostly TMS and that would be the best starting point. However I have also known a couple of women to get good results with oestrogen, after being tested to be deficient in it, and I've heard of a few people getting good results with antibiotics. I've also found at certain points that a change of diet has made a huge difference to my energy level, as have others. Different people have different needs, but focus on whole foods, plenty of fruit and veg and get adequate protein. CFS Health(Toby Morrison) is helpful and straightforward on this. But I do feel that the kind of stuff Dan teaches, creating a sense of safety, not focussing on symptoms, is the best tool for most people recovering from CFS, the best default position.
I came across an old video of a youtuber who is similar to Dan - but he talks about tinnitus, the video was 15 years old and he still makes videos today and he said it can be based on anxiety and fear, I thought that was so cool! ( Julian Cowan Hill )
Yes it’s the same concept! I also have Tinnitus and the methods of Julian literally saved my life. My Tinnitus levels go way down and unfortunately also my knee and back pain…it’s all fear and anxiety. Also an underrated RUclips channel is ‘The Tinnitus Coach’
Sometimes, when someone has been stressed from having pain/symptoms for so long, it is hard enough to remember your own name let alone know how to choose or make a decision, or even think. I think anyone who is asking frantically, "what did you do?" is just at the point where they can't think anymore:) Trust me. I have been there many times. You just want help, but the truth is, you are the only person who can do it.
It's a journey. Dan and many of you give me hax I use to reduce and eliminate symtoms of fear that cause physical symptoms. The main one i use is Belief and then indifference. So new at this....ty again for further clarity. Its a learning journey for me.🎉abd yeah Im not broken!!
68 here in London, beautiful day. Only had 2hrs sleep so struggling but got myself out nevertheless. Nothing wrong just the brain trying to be vocal in the only way it knows. Ssshh
That’s me--focussing too much on getting rid of my anxiety, reading , breathing, meditating, good eating habits. I need to live regardless , trusting my brain, having a good chat with BRAIN. Time to vacuum, etc.--I Got This ;-) Have a wonderful weekend everyone.
I dont have tms but the techniques you outline, creating a holistic multi pronged approach by using: mindfulness, meditation, journaling, acceptance, taking away the emotional sting from the pain by reframing it, demonstrating that I'm safe to dispel learned helplessness, have really helped me not suffer more than I have to. Yeah i still might be in pain some days but I have way more quality of life because I'm living. Thanks for your videos they help alot.
@@PainFreeYou It was about 3 years ago now. I've also found philosophy from: Victor Frankel, Seneca, Montaigne and Epictetus to be really helpful in finding acceptance, there's an excellent book by Ward Farnsworth called the "The Practising Stoic" that is a very practical handbook I go back to a fair bit. Additionally, "The will to meaning" by Victor Frankel is a goldmine of appliable tools as well.
@@cookingwithnectar5533 3 years? Why has the injury not healed. Most injuries heal within 2-4 months? Pain from an old injury can become learned and fall into the TMS category. Have you taken the assessments to see how your pain is behaving? IsThisTMS.com
Dan, thanks for all you do, it really helps. Would you,please consider addressing the phenomena of “coming back to the land of the living”? By this I mean, after years of pain and limited activity how do we learn what is “normal”. I’ve had chronic pain for decades and the last ten years was really rough. I am doing so much better now and am so grateful……but, I don’t know how to be ten years older and active again. I find it hard to monitor what is normal tiredness and what could be PDP fatigue. I haven’t gradually aged into this place but rather have “popped into it” within a matter of months. I find navigating a decade-older age while learning to re-enter the world challenging. Any insight would be so appreciated. Perhaps, I am not the only Rip Van Winkle out there!!!
Dan it sounds like a bird sanctuary in the beginning of your video it’s lovely I’m still questioning why some days I wake up in way more pain than others it’s so weird all I do is wake up and BAM 💥 yet other days it’s lower level. I’m a big dream rememberer and it definitely seems when I have stress or fear filled dreams I wake up in more pain. Hmm. Working on safety messages all the time I even tell myself “I have only good dreams” step by step, day by day…. ❤
Thanks Dan. I love how you simplify everything. As you know from my comments I have dizziness and anxiety. My mum had a stroke three days ago which has left her unable to walk properly and no feeling in her hand. I am struggling to not get stressed and anxious ❤️
You are supposed to get stressed and anxious when a parent is in a health emergency. My mom had a stroke 18 months ago and it was VERY stressful for me. I even got some back pain for a week. But the key is not to conclude that stress must mean symptoms. That may be the pattern so far, but does not need to always be that way. ruclips.net/video/twNl7iv4K0Y/видео.html
Primal Trust is helping me immensely. It’s the only program I’ve done and I think I’ve chosen the right one. I have a lot of pent up emotions that need to be released and nothing did that for me except the rounds in primal trust. I love feeling these emotions even if they are difficult.
So very right Dan. Works for me. Don’t journal etc. BUT the migraines in the night. Every night. Waking me 3/5 am. I’m tired. Hurting. No progress at all. Hardly any in awake time any more. But I’m asleep 😴. Suggestions anyone. Appreciate it. Ty
Personally, my tinnitus is directly connected to stress. When my stress levels rise suddenly (say when someone says something disrespectful to me) the tinnitus starts that very second. It also shows up when I am experiencing a general flare-up of symptoms from my CFS. When I am not in a flare up and not stressed, I have zero tinnitus. So I know there is not actually anything wrong with my ears.
@@Laura_B__ I am very happy for you...Unfortunately, I have constant loud, changing noise in my ears, at very high frequencies. I can't leave the house because it's reactive. It’s very difficult for me, doctors don’t know how to treat this.
You have my recommendations. DECIDE it is curable and driven by fear. Begin TEACHING your terrified brain that you are not broken and that this will settle down when you do. None of it is dangerous and there is nothing wrong with your body. You are not sick. Go gradually. All of these concepts are covered in my fast start playlist. Change your story, begin to be a little less terrified each day. You cannot shut off your fear in a day. It takes consistent messages of safety.
Thanks again Dan really needed this today. I’m having a symptom flair huge one with what seems to be hives or rosacea on my face and it’s awful and anxiety like you would t believe- I was telling myself I was allergic to something or had eaten too much dairy and stopped myself and went, aha I know what’s going on here. I’m a work in progrsss and really wish you had a success story for skin conditions but in the meantime I’ll keep practicing safety
It's funny that just today my psychotherapist mentioned that my smoke alarm went of without there being a fire. She also said that it's not necessary to know why and to try to find out what the triggers are. Just realise that it's the smoke alarm and tell yourself it's not dangerous. I thought: where did I hear this before? I did a lot of things to get rid of my symptoms but never found any physical cause except maybe hormonal issues. But that actually is the same thing as perceived danger in my opinion. Hormones that shift can cause a feeling of unsafety (perceived danger) whilst in fact nothing serious is going on. So I quit all the doctors, therapists, blood work, psychosomatic therapy, self help books. Just this one therapist I have now that is actually teaching me about this stuff I also learn here.
Just live your life, accept the discomfort, dont react to symtomps with fear...never engage with negative thoughts...overtime your mind will understand life, symtomps and thoughts are not dangerous...your mind will turn off fight and flight mode..your body will start healing..give enough time to your body to heal ..and then no symtomps......put all the symtomps under the umbrella of anxiety...all the symtomps are because of fight and flight mode
Oh boy I just got out of a flare when 6 very close people have passed in the last 4 months and my husband dx with colon cancer. Boom my body has shut down. How does grief factor in healing.
I seem to remember (as grief is a BIG factor in my journey as I lost a child to alienation, a family who are unsupportive unless I am better, my friends all in the last 2 years of illness, my business, house, and my health) ..that Dan suggests reframing grief gently into gratitude - seeing the positives of the experiences you had with the person/events/etc..and reflect with gratitude. It’s tough to do as there is a lot of push back from the brain/body… but feeling the grief and then appreciating if only 1% at a time the gratitude, as you feel the grief over time the gratitude comes along. Wishing you well with everything.
Do you have any advice for tinnitus? I hear it constantly and it’s driving me mad. I’ve seen an ENT doctor before and had an ear test but says nothing is wrong
Dan I need your advice. I had symptoms multiple places and started dealing with the fear and now I’ve got a stiff neck and have done for over a week, thought I had slept funny. Does this mean I’m either doing something too much or not doing something enough like rest, hydration?
im noticing that when there is an increase in my symptoms (neural circuit dizziness and tinnitus) I get scared that the new increase in symptom is due to something dangerous and not my normal TMS dizziness. I can work with my fear when it comes to my normal symptoms, but man when the symptoms change and my dizziness goes to another level thats where I struggle... neural circuit dizziness seems like such a different ball game because it feels like youre out of your body, literally....any tips on how to help us find safety when you cant even connect to your body in moments of high intense dizziness symptoms?? How do we ride that wave?? thanks!
Hey dan what do U tell yourself if your sxs are all U can think about cause it's in your head pain ears stuffy full 🎉 consistent all the time with loud ringing brain on fire so your stuck
The root cause: fear (and all related emotions to fear), the solution: create safety! So simple and therefore hard to believe. Don´t work on symptoms, work on fear/safety. Glad I experienced hundreds of other approaches before and arrived here in the simple (not easy!) truth.
Thanks Dan!!!❤
Solution is indifference, symptoms are just your brain talking to you. You have to show your brain you're safe. Went for a 5 mile walk today, felt amazing. Thanks Dan, you've helped me in dark times.
Love to hear it!!! Congrats on implementing these concepts.
But what about those people who have problems with their ears, and for whom any sounds WORSE their ears? Should they go outside too?
@@namefamily1462 Gradually teaching safety is important. If going outside terrifies you, gradually expose yourself to more sounds indoors before you venture outside. Not because sound is dangerous, but the entire hyper sensitivity is driven by fear.
@@namefamily1462 I had severe noise and light sensitivity at my worst, it's 100% fear. Start small and work your way up.
This is so important, doing all the things causes more overwhelm, check out the law of least effort, stop the resistance, fixing, urgency and desperation and the system will calm down, surrender believe patience trust
This was me, a million practices tools and coaches until I finally met a coach that said you must be so unbelievably bored of this. And I agreed with someone for the first time in years. There are no tools.
So true! Bored of the symptoms .....I can see the purpose at first (distraction) but not needed anymore! Thank you for sharing that😊
@davidheer1471 your comment was eye opening to me as well! I literally just read it and said WOW that’s me! Thank you for sharing it!
Once you understand what its protecting you from and its not needed anymore, it changes.
Maybe when we can step back, look in the mirror and really trust ourselves and believe in ourselves and accept that WE are our own healers and we are all we need to heal ourselves - then the messages of safety will stick.... ❤
There's no ABRACADABRA, but you are your own magician
Yep I did that looking everywhere 😒 didn't help. Now I promised myself to stay in the group with you Dan untill I finish this marathon. The root cause is fear 😨 nothing else. My brain 🧠 is still perceiving danger. Walked 2x in the dunes had lunch with my lovely Martin then had coffee ☕️ with a friend. And had some bloodwork done for my yearly check up with my cardiologist ❤ ty Dan for another great video 📹 love you see you tomorrow 😘 ❤️ ♥️
Who remembers that golden girls episode where Dorothy goes from doctor to doctor and tells off one doctor because she had chronic fatigue syndrom. She was all insulted for being told it was in her head. She allegedly got letters from psychiatrists it was not in her head. 30 years later there is still no medical answer to chronic fatigue.
Thirty years is not a long time in medicine. From personal experience and what I've observed in others I would say that chronic fatigue is usually/mostly TMS and that would be the best starting point. However I have also known a couple of women to get good results with oestrogen, after being tested to be deficient in it, and I've heard of a few people getting good results with antibiotics. I've also found at certain points that a change of diet has made a huge difference to my energy level, as have others. Different people have different needs, but focus on whole foods, plenty of fruit and veg and get adequate protein. CFS Health(Toby Morrison) is helpful and straightforward on this.
But I do feel that the kind of stuff Dan teaches, creating a sense of safety, not focussing on symptoms, is the best tool for most people recovering from CFS, the best default position.
I came across an old video of a youtuber who is similar to Dan - but he talks about tinnitus, the video was 15 years old and he still makes videos today and he said it can be based on anxiety and fear, I thought that was so cool! ( Julian Cowan Hill )
Yes it’s the same concept! I also have Tinnitus and the methods of Julian literally saved my life. My Tinnitus levels go way down and unfortunately also my knee and back pain…it’s all fear and anxiety. Also an underrated RUclips channel is ‘The Tinnitus Coach’
Thank you. Thank you. Your insights are amazing and always right on. Your generosity with your time certainly makes people feel like someone cares ❤❤❤
There is a whole community of people who care about you. We are all different, yet the same.
These videos are so powerful, man! God bless
Sometimes, when someone has been stressed from having pain/symptoms for so long, it is hard enough to remember your own name let alone know how to choose or make a decision, or even think. I think anyone who is asking frantically, "what did you do?" is just at the point where they can't think anymore:) Trust me. I have been there many times. You just want help, but the truth is, you are the only person who can do it.
It's a journey. Dan and many of you give me hax I use to reduce and eliminate symtoms of fear that cause physical symptoms. The main one i use is Belief and then indifference. So new at this....ty again for further clarity. Its a learning journey for me.🎉abd yeah Im not broken!!
68 here in London, beautiful day. Only had 2hrs sleep so struggling but got myself out nevertheless. Nothing wrong just the brain trying to be vocal in the only way it knows. Ssshh
same
@@elizabethtara7658UK hear to
That’s me--focussing too much on getting rid of my anxiety, reading , breathing, meditating, good eating habits. I need to live regardless , trusting my brain, having a good chat with BRAIN. Time to vacuum, etc.--I Got This ;-)
Have a wonderful weekend everyone.
I dont have tms but the techniques you outline, creating a holistic multi pronged approach by using: mindfulness, meditation, journaling, acceptance, taking away the emotional sting from the pain by reframing it, demonstrating that I'm safe to dispel learned helplessness, have really helped me not suffer more than I have to. Yeah i still might be in pain some days but I have way more quality of life because I'm living. Thanks for your videos they help alot.
What condition do you have?
@@jackiejovanoska7362Physical tissue damage from a accident.
Excellent really glad my suggestions are helping. How long ago was this accident?
@@PainFreeYou It was about 3 years ago now. I've also found philosophy from: Victor Frankel, Seneca, Montaigne and Epictetus to be really helpful in finding acceptance, there's an excellent book by Ward Farnsworth called the "The Practising Stoic" that is a very practical handbook I go back to a fair bit. Additionally, "The will to meaning" by Victor Frankel is a goldmine of appliable tools as well.
@@cookingwithnectar5533 3 years? Why has the injury not healed. Most injuries heal within 2-4 months? Pain from an old injury can become learned and fall into the TMS category. Have you taken the assessments to see how your pain is behaving?
IsThisTMS.com
Dan, thanks for all you do, it really helps. Would you,please consider addressing the phenomena of “coming back to the land of the living”? By this I mean, after years of pain and limited activity how do we learn what is “normal”. I’ve had chronic pain for decades and the last ten years was really rough. I am doing so much better now and am so grateful……but, I don’t know how to be ten years older and active again. I find it hard to monitor what is normal tiredness and what could be PDP fatigue. I haven’t gradually aged into this place but rather have “popped into it” within a matter of months. I find navigating a decade-older age while learning to re-enter the world challenging. Any insight would be so appreciated. Perhaps, I am not the only Rip Van Winkle out there!!!
Dan it sounds like a bird sanctuary in the beginning of your video it’s lovely I’m still questioning why some days I wake up in way more pain than others it’s so weird all I do is wake up and BAM 💥 yet other days it’s lower level. I’m a big dream rememberer and it definitely seems when I have stress or fear filled dreams I wake up in more pain. Hmm. Working on safety messages all the time I even tell myself “I have only good dreams” step by step, day by day…. ❤
Thanks Dan. I love how you simplify everything. As you know from my comments I have dizziness and anxiety. My mum had a stroke three days ago which has left her unable to walk properly and no feeling in her hand. I am struggling to not get stressed and anxious ❤️
You are supposed to get stressed and anxious when a parent is in a health emergency. My mom had a stroke 18 months ago and it was VERY stressful for me. I even got some back pain for a week. But the key is not to conclude that stress must mean symptoms. That may be the pattern so far, but does not need to always be that way.
ruclips.net/video/twNl7iv4K0Y/видео.html
Thank you so much I will be looking at the link. You are just awesome x
So very grateful for these videos, I’ve been watching every morning with my coffee lol. Thanks Dan
Primal Trust is helping me immensely. It’s the only program I’ve done and I think I’ve chosen the right one. I have a lot of pent up emotions that need to be released and nothing did that for me except the rounds in primal trust. I love feeling these emotions even if they are difficult.
Has that resolved your pain or symptoms yet?
So very right Dan. Works for me. Don’t journal etc. BUT the migraines in the night. Every night. Waking me 3/5 am. I’m tired. Hurting. No progress at all. Hardly any in awake time any more. But I’m asleep 😴. Suggestions anyone. Appreciate it. Ty
Another powerful video Dan. Thank you so, so much. 💕💕
Thnku for reminder
Can you link the video you did on the ways to keep your brain safe! Consistent video of safety 24 examples!
ruclips.net/video/5SsKnAgAvnY/видео.html
@@PainFreeYou thank you 😍
Dan, i respect you. Tell us about reactive tinnitus, please
Personally, my tinnitus is directly connected to stress. When my stress levels rise suddenly (say when someone says something disrespectful to me) the tinnitus starts that very second. It also shows up when I am experiencing a general flare-up of symptoms from my CFS. When I am not in a flare up and not stressed, I have zero tinnitus. So I know there is not actually anything wrong with my ears.
@@Laura_B__ I am very happy for you...Unfortunately, I have constant loud, changing noise in my ears, at very high frequencies. I can't leave the house because it's reactive. It’s very difficult for me, doctors don’t know how to treat this.
You have my recommendations. DECIDE it is curable and driven by fear. Begin TEACHING your terrified brain that you are not broken and that this will settle down when you do. None of it is dangerous and there is nothing wrong with your body. You are not sick. Go gradually. All of these concepts are covered in my fast start playlist. Change your story, begin to be a little less terrified each day. You cannot shut off your fear in a day. It takes consistent messages of safety.
Thanks again Dan really needed this today. I’m having a symptom flair huge one with what seems to be hives or rosacea on my face and it’s awful and anxiety like you would t believe- I was telling myself I was allergic to something or had eaten too much dairy and stopped myself and went, aha I know what’s going on here. I’m a work in progrsss and really wish you had a success story for skin conditions but in the meantime I’ll keep practicing safety
It's funny that just today my psychotherapist mentioned that my smoke alarm went of without there being a fire. She also said that it's not necessary to know why and to try to find out what the triggers are. Just realise that it's the smoke alarm and tell yourself it's not dangerous. I thought: where did I hear this before? I did a lot of things to get rid of my symptoms but never found any physical cause except maybe hormonal issues. But that actually is the same thing as perceived danger in my opinion. Hormones that shift can cause a feeling of unsafety (perceived danger) whilst in fact nothing serious is going on. So I quit all the doctors, therapists, blood work, psychosomatic therapy, self help books. Just this one therapist I have now that is actually teaching me about this stuff I also learn here.
Just live your life, accept the discomfort, dont react to symtomps with fear...never engage with negative thoughts...overtime your mind will understand life, symtomps and thoughts are not dangerous...your mind will turn off fight and flight mode..your body will
start healing..give enough time to your body to heal ..and then no symtomps......put all the symtomps under the umbrella of anxiety...all the symtomps are because of fight and flight mode
my flare is high today help 😢😢😢😢
The best way to handle a flare: ruclips.net/video/HPkd_Hzw6WE/видео.html
Oh boy I just got out of a flare when 6 very close people have passed in the last 4 months and my husband dx with colon cancer. Boom my body has shut down. How does grief factor in healing.
I seem to remember (as grief is a BIG factor in my journey as I lost a child to alienation, a family who are unsupportive unless I am better, my friends all in the last 2 years of illness, my business, house, and my health) ..that Dan suggests reframing grief gently into gratitude - seeing the positives of the experiences you had with the person/events/etc..and reflect with gratitude. It’s tough to do as there is a lot of push back from the brain/body… but feeling the grief and then appreciating if only 1% at a time the gratitude, as you feel the grief over time the gratitude comes along.
Wishing you well with everything.
Do you have any advice for tinnitus? I hear it constantly and it’s driving me mad. I’ve seen an ENT doctor before and had an ear test but says nothing is wrong
Dan I need your advice. I had symptoms multiple places and started dealing with the fear and now I’ve got a stiff neck and have done for over a week, thought I had slept funny. Does this mean I’m either doing something too much or not doing something enough like rest, hydration?
im noticing that when there is an increase in my symptoms (neural circuit dizziness and tinnitus) I get scared that the new increase in symptom is due to something dangerous and not my normal TMS dizziness. I can work with my fear when it comes to my normal symptoms, but man when the symptoms change and my dizziness goes to another level thats where I struggle... neural circuit dizziness seems like such a different ball game because it feels like youre out of your body, literally....any tips on how to help us find safety when you cant even connect to your body in moments of high intense dizziness symptoms?? How do we ride that wave?? thanks!
Hey dan what do U tell yourself if your sxs are all U can think about cause it's in your head pain ears stuffy full 🎉 consistent all the time with loud ringing brain on fire so your stuck
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