The Ultimatum: Queer Love Cast Clears The Air | Netflix
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- Catch up with The Ultimatum: Queer Love cast as they 'Clear The Air' on all of your burning questions. Why did Lexi and Rae call off their wedding? What does Sam really think of Tiff's dog, Shiloh? Where do Vanessa and Xander stand now? Why did Tiff walk out of the reunion? Find out the answers to all of these questions and more.
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Tie the knot or call it quits? Five long-term couples are put under pressure to get married or move on in this queer-centric spin-off of "The Ultimatum."
Sam, is just wow. Her mindset is so healthy. Literally wow.
So is Mal’s mindset. Both of them were a pleasure to watch. I wish there were more people like them in the queer community (or in the world).
Nah. She's doing everyone's therapy. It won't be healthy for her own mental state in the long run.
@@Cheers.- Right!?? Who is holding space for Sam as she is doing for other people?
Its not healthy mindset to keep unhealthy relationship the way she did
@@milenanogueira5488my point !!!!
Honestly the way Netflix is still platforming Mildred after what she's done in the past is wild. She physically abused Tiff, and then was allowed to verbally and mentally abuse her in the reunion. This is disgusting.
^^^this.
I couldn't agree more, it was so uncomfortable to watch her at the reunion verbally attacking Tiff, if wish someone would have intervened. Having been in an abusive relationship before, I feel like I could relate to Tiff in many ways and I honestly wish them all the best in their life!
Heavyyyy on this!!!
Do you think they were platforming Mildred or exposing her? Tiff has flaws too (who doesn't) but regardless there's never an excuse for abuse of any kind!
Omg Mildred at the reunion was gawd awful
Netflix still allowing Mildred to tell her side of the story or even be on our screens knowing she was arrested for DV is actually sickening. We can't gloss past that. She's clearly a monster & Yoly is her sidekick.
Thank you!
Mildred is toxic asf thank goodness Tiff got out
True but also remember that that’s just her. Not everyone who has been arrested for DV has actually committed DV - I speak from my own experience with my very toxic father and older sister; sometimes the narcissist calls or lies to the police and due to the severity of DV the police HAS to remove 1 party from the property and into custody. Being arrested is very traumatic and I hope they both learned from that experience.
Couldn't agree more she couldn't be more toxic tiff didn't deserve half of what she went through
She’s such a weirdo. She said “That’s someone I want to spend the rest of my life with.” Not wanted, want. If she could she’d put Tiff through the shit again.
Race has nothing to do with bad behavior, and that girl Mildred is super sick to think she can use her culture as an excuse to be abusive. Tiff seems like such a fun loving gal. She just needs someone who brings out all those great qualities and appreciates them.
Best of luck to her.
Sam would have brought out the great qualities but they don't have feelings at all for each other.
Exactly! My ex was a yeller, narcissist and gas-lighter and would say, "That's just how I am." Such gross behavior.
Just a friendly reminder that Tiff uses They/Them pronouns 😊 (also 100% agree with everything you said) 🫶
her constantly calling herself a crazy latina pissed me off so bad.. reminded me off this girl from love is blind s1 who used the same “excuse” to account for her similarly disrespectful tendencies.. it’s crazy
@@checheezy i loved their friendship tho! seeing her go to check on Tiff and say all the right things was such a nice moment
It was kind of crazy watching Yoly do exactly what caused Mal's hesitation to marry her. How you fall in love with a person in 21 days so deeply that you completely throw away a 4-year relationship with someone _everyone_ thinks you are compatible with was so hard to watch. I wish Mal, Tiff, Lexi, Rae and Sam the best!
Facts! Mal called it episode 1.
Mas a MAL também foi tóxica com a Yoli e a Xander quando tentou impor na primeiro contato delas quando voltaram os casais iniciais, ela tentou constranger as duas e forçar uma situação com a Yoli pra escolher ela. Tava na cara que a Yoli já não amava mais.
Just shows intuition is such a strong thing. I've had that in the past, where I've been insecure about someone, and later my niggling feelings were validated. Morale is, instinct is a powerful thing. Mal having those doubts were completely warranted.
EXACTLY
I read that Mal cheated on Yoli before AND after the show though???
Who knew Tiff and Sam would have the most healthy bond after!! Love them both. Still side-eyeing Aussie. They better do right by Sam.
I realize Aussie says all the right things when shes supposed to but oin actually she is emotionally immature at the age of 42 .Sam needs to put herself first people like her need to get a back bone as nice as she is
@@TheJtoben Exactly! I was shocked seeing the two of them get engaged, Aussie doesn't seem emotionally prepared and Sam was finally able to confront her on it by the end! Seeing Aussie shut out Sam the same way she did Mildred was horrific.
Aussie is nice, I love how she called out Mildred s...
@@Cinemasensation she might be a good person and she might be abusive. I hope they do better because my heart broke for Sam
Aussie has STRONG narcissistic traits in not being able to take any form of criticism, accountability, emotional manipulation, bread crumbing..... I hope Sam can take of herself
Mal continues to be a class act
@@Cinemasensation big facts!
Nah she's whack AF
Mal made a better partner to Lexie and Lexie wasn’t controlling and manipulative to Mal because they were equals and respected one another.
@@californiadreaming567 agree! different partners truly bring out/trigger different parts of us
ABSOLUTELY I freaking adore her so much!!!
it’s so frustrating to see mildred continually avoid taking any accountability for her actions. not even being arrested for domestic violence can get it through her head that she was the main aggressor
She hypercritical. Calling Aussie out on walking out on her when in reality she walked out on tiff fro at least 50 times a year .
i feel like the whole Yoly saying that her love for Xander was stronger than that for her fiancée was simply not talked about enough. like what???????? my jaw was dropped during that entire sequence and i feel like it was barely mentioned. also… what’s with Mildred causally mentioning that she threw things at Tiff??? and then Mildred continued to have the audacity to berate Tiff?? like you literally confessed to literal crimes. idk, but that was insane
Mildred needs help fr like the way she gaslights Tiff in the reunion is so bad, she should take accountability for what she did instead of blaming it all on Tiff
Mildred it is horrible she said to Tiff on Tv.
Agreed, I really felt for tiff in that last scene
She is as fake as her cheap lashes
Not to mention that she literally admits to domestic violence and some how at the end tryies to paint herself as the victim
I knew Lexi wouldn’t be able to let go of what happened between Rae and Vanessa. I was hoping when they said they had a good year together that maybe they put it to rest and focused on their connection instead of the third party past.
This show was so f good. Netflix, this is your sign to do more lesbian shows!!!
NO
Next time gay men please
@@Sunny-pg3ek it's homophobic to think it has to be one or the other.
@Debbie Parnell I don't think they're saying it has to be one or the other, but queer women have been represented and queer men may want something to relate to, too.
Agree Ivana 😉
seriously!! i’m so glad i took a chance on this show cuz wow.. what a trip
IMO Mal & Sam are heaven sent. Xander is a good person deep-down that deserves genuine love. Aussie, Tiff & Rae need more than anyone to feel secure and heal. IDC Vanessa is not the "most problematic" person of the show; but for some reason she is stuck in that antagonistic role like let her grow daaaamn 😭
Yoly & Mildred are literal red flags; the most dangerous kind on top of that because they both have this heavy self-righteous personality about them. Lastly, I appreciate Lexi but to be honest Lexi - she is a red flag too when it comes to Vanessa/Rae… Anyway, that was a great show loved every episode of it ! I’ll give them that people emotional intelligence regardless of their temper or negative traits was through the roof!!!
Totally agree with all of the above!! Sam and Mal especially have the sweetest souls.
Exactly! I feel like the show was trying to make Vanessa the villain, but it's obvious that Lexi was the true villain.
I think Vanessa was able to have redemption because the show was like HER intervention. But the other red flags are still red flags because they didn’t have to take accountability for it all at once. They were hidden with their issues unlike Vanessa. So probably what made Vanessa so easily the villain was what saved her in the end.
The fact that Yoly joins in with Mildred gaslighting Tiff. Truly horrific.
Vanessa showed SUCH GROWTH throughout the process and beyond. Like a literal poster child for what this show can do. I’m genuinely so proud of her and I think the majority of viewers are as well. In my book she’s nowhere near a villain. Maybe at the beginning but since the halfway point I’ve been rooting for her soooo hard
Soooo disappointed in the reunion. They did not ask the right questions. I felt like Yoly should've been put on blast for her behavior, stringing Mal and Xander along the entire time, so manipulative, wanting to have her cake and eat it too, Yoly disgusts me and she still plays the victim, so happy Mal left her, also Mildred is disgusting, she physically assaulted Tiff and still tries to act like the victim, so toxic and complete gaslighter, also at first I didn't like Vanessa but now I do she has shown growth, and i hated that Lexie and Yoly were ganging up on her. Like get off your self righteous pedestals, Lexie you brought your partner into this show knowing the rules knowing you guys would break up and that they might hook up, if you didn't want that you shouldn't have brought her to the show, take accountability, grow up!!!! And Yoly should keep her mouth shut. Hypocrite.
P.s. love Sam.
the host from ‘The circle’ (michelle buteau) always asks the right questions, she calls everyone out at the reunions. Idk i feel like maybe JoAnna is more on the sweet side and doesn’t feel too comfortable in calling things out for what they are
felt
Periodt !!!
Nah. Yoly and Mildred are great women. Tiff a bitch for saying Mildred is trash mom. And Mal got scared and desperate wanting to NOW propose because she now saw yoly had fallen in love and was just telling her all the things yoly wanted to hear. I knew it mal was gonna go back to her selfish cold shit ways and tiff was gonna go back doing the same shit. Mal and Tiff are SHITTY. I call it like it is
Well said!! Can’t stand Yoly or Lexi. And I hated the way everyone attacked Vanessa. She might not be perfect but she didn’t seem to be a bad person . At least she was honest. I couldn’t believe the way everyone kept attacking Vannesa for what happened with Rae but no one ver mentioned anything about Yoly.
Sam should host the next Queer Love season
I want Sam’s friend to host it ! That friend she brought on was great!
Hell yeah
Or mal plsss
Who tf is asking what mildred wanted to say, if anything we heard too much. Netflix is horrible for ignoring her abuse
fr they must’ve messed up the names because that’s a question for tiff NOT mildred
Holy smokes .. Milfred is toxic af, i hope whoever dates her in the future thinks twice about it. Her and Yoli. I feel really bad for Mal, she really tried everything she could to make it work
Lexi still being sore about Rae and Vanessa is too much tbh. Lexi was the one who brought her gf to this show that was obviously risky in that sense. Lol
especially bc they were broken up, thats part of the show and rae obviously felt horrible
Lexi hated Vanessa so much that she ruined her own relationship. Talk about living rent free in someone else's head.
Nah but tbh her and Rae weren’t meant to be like it could be for the best
this fr. like only until Lexi and Rae got back together I was like, ma'am why are you still on this? okay they had sex, you're hurt because in your mind Rae promised not to buy like clearly Rae has extreme self esteem issues she's talking about how much she hates herself and you're just like I hate Vanessa. like after the cocktail party being like, actually no you can't look at her, like Lexi I was rooting for you but that was unhinged
@@remytherat2175finally someone who agrees 😂. Vanessa definitely got in Lexi’s head but if it wasn’t that then the cheating alone would put me off. It doesn’t matter that Rae has self esteem issues how is that an excuse for infidelity?
OMG 😂😂😂😂
@@A2daM2daZit wasn't infidelity, they were broken up in a whole separate trial relationship. Lexi wanted to experiment, but mal just wasn't that into her sexually. Vanessa didn't force Rae to do anything and vice versa. 2 grown women did what they wanted to do. Simple. Lexi just couldn't believe Rae did it bc Rae is/was so codependent on her. Lexi is gross 🤢
Mal is a great human. She exudes a great example to any being whether straight or not.
Crazy part that Yoli, Mildred and Lexi were so judgmental towards Vanessa and tables turned really fast
Legit. They dragged Vanessa for being indecisive and “fake” - then Lexi pretends at the reunion all was great with Rae; Yoli lies incessantly to Mal, and Mildred gets arrested for DV. Vanessa got vindicated. Good for her. She stayed classy and let the bullies fall.
@@computasaysnoo1 So true, Vanessa is a class act. She was my favorite all the way through. Honest and open and a beautiful heart.
@@computasaysnoo1 Classy? How was anything she did to Xander classy? Gaslighted her to death and told Lexi how she didn’t have feelings for Xander anymore yet cries and acts dramatic when Xander was interested in Yoli after seeing Vanessa throw herself at everyone? That girl was lost. Hopefully she truly sees how her flippant actions hurt people and grows from it.
I definitely think that I hated Vanessa during the show, but I think we saw real growth in the final episodes and the reunion. I wish her the best and hope that she's doing well. Same with Xander, I hope she's well too.
Mal and Xander all the way💕💕💕💕💕🔥🔥❤️🔥
Sam is legit everything ❤
I'm not lesbian and this is like one of the best reality shows I've seen on Netflix. Netflix please do more queer dating shows!
Same. I'm straight but was invested af ngl 😂
Watch Are you the One? Bisexual Edition
Same! It was so beautiful, probably the most genuine raw emotion I’ve ever seen.
It’s funny how Yoli thinks waiting a week before having sex is a long time. It’s really fast. Also, it actually looked like they waited 10 days in the show so we just learned that it was even shorter than that.
Right she tried so hard to make it sound better😂 girl bye
Ugh Sam is the best 🥺 She deserves someone better than Aussie !! She deserves the world
Yeah "i just wanted a reaction out of sam" by proposing with a rock. Yikes. Aussie is 100% just stringing Sam along with no meaningful changes
Sam even mentioned in the reunion that they had to get married now and Aussie freaked according to Sam. I totally believe Aussie is manipulating Sam into staying by giving into small improvements at first and slipping back. No intention to actually meet the family or get married. It switched from I'm telling them after we get married to I want them to meet Sam before. 😩
Aussie needs to grow up.
Spoilt brat syndrome was enoying,her constantly walking out if she didn't get her way.sam deserves better.👍😁🇦🇺
@@Bobsbugur8140 I also thought that. Something like that may have been funny if they were teens/young adults, but Aussie is literally 42. Like.
Ok Netflix please continue to create more gay or lesbian content! I also am surprised that Netflix didn’t add any ones pronouns (feels like a HUGE MISS) AND they most absolutely need to have a queer host next time. I also was sad that they didn’t add a call out for mental health services for folk who have suffered abuse or any other information like domestic violence help.
Absolutely!!! That was so irresponsible of Netflix to not have that on deck.
ALL of this
yes yes yes yes yes yes YESSSS
ALL OF THIS
Everyone bashing Mildred because of this ant that but no on is seeing how mentally and emotionally abusive Tiff is?!? TF outta here with that. She had AUDACITY to call Mildred "Trash Mother"?!?! Nah Tiff is PURE TRASH
I feel like Vanessa is just a super quirky, expressive girl that everyone misunderstood. She didn’t know what would become of any of this (that’s why she was the one that was GIVEN the ultimatum.) She wasn’t treating the experience as seriously as everyone else, BUT who can blame her for that when she wasn’t ready to commit to marriage in the 1st place…. Lexi was JEALOUS, that’s why she villainized her. Point blank period. Same with Yoly concerning Mal, but they knew the risks of signing up! Vanessa did have a single moment with Xander which wasn’t ok, but Xander kept a secret from her + she’s human and I don’t believe she deserved all the mean girl behavior she got whatsoever.
Vanessa was a manipulative, vindictive control freak who lied and said Xander was asexual in order to diminish their ability to pair with folks in the trial marriage. She tried to control what Xander did and didn’t say every time the cast was back together. Vanessa chose Rae and then manipulated her into intimacy in order to injure Lexi. Then she said she want interested in Rae anyway. She’s not quirky, she’s a self important narcissist
@@thisaccount765 Half of what you said is heavily based on pure speculation. Who’s to say Xander didn’t claim she was asexual before exploring intimacy with Vanessa prior to the show? That could’ve given her that confidence that Xander was going to just do the show to strengthen her surety in Vanessa. If anyone was acting controlling and possessive throughout the ENTIRE show it was LEXI with Rae. Rae is a grown ass adult who made her own decision to do what she did. Let’s not forget SHE led Vanessa’s hand to do the act. Not vice versa. - and TBH, she had free reign to do so without being heavily guilted to the verge of flat out emotional abuse by Lexi. They were technically on a break based on the shows parameters! RAE is the one who couldn’t say or blink an eye without Lexi’s approval. That was pretty evident even BEFORE the Vanessa scandal with Rae seeming practically crippled with anxiety about even participating in the show with Lexi hawking her down. Neither Rae or Vanessa wanted to be serious for the trial marriage, so they both were equally not into one another in a committed way - so your point is not justified. O and Rae CHOSE Vanessa first in the choice episode. Vanessa was interested in dating Rae and even dabbled with her BEFORE the Lexi drama. You can’t say she was being vindictive when she already was considering Rae for the experiment before shit hit the fan. After Lexi popped off, Vanessa’s behavior simply became trivial entertainment for the show. Nothing more.
@@wh1000 Xander did an interview saying she was upset about it… so Xander said
She'd not quirky. I'm seeing that a lot of ppl have an issue with discernment
I'm a Hispanic, black, cis male over 50, married 25 yrs, 4 adult kids. This show was BOMB. Excellent social experiment, absolutely exposing the very real challenges of communication and self-awareness. Observations: 1. Mildred is damaged beyond repair. She's in so much emotional pain that she deflects everything and hurts everyone around her with ZERO personal accountability. I HATED that no one really countered her amazing ability to accuse, deflect, and straw man her way out of everything. Unacceptable use of her culture as an excuse, even if it IS a factor. 2. Aussie is also WAY damaged, although she retreats instead of lash out like Mildred. Her hints at her upbringing means she was SERIOUSLY abused. She is NOT really out. In my opinion, she is a powder keg of repression that when her coping mechanism of retreat fails, it will be DEVASTATING to anyone around her. She needs therapy, for real. 3. Both Sam and Tiff deserve better, even if they themselves were incompatible (I also see culture as a factor there). 4. Yoly and Xander could've made it, I think. They seemed to encompass the PURPOSE of the experiment. Chemistry and values were in sync from the get go... given time they could've grown together. And the fact they were both Ultimatum givers cemented this. But then again, Yoly had to choose to LEAVE the BEST person in television. I felt it accurately human that she chose her mind over her heart. Mal wasn't right for her. All of Mal's views on Holy were spot on: she was ALWAYS going to gravitate towards Xander: Yoly's type. Yoly handled the situation poorly though. 5. Lexie and Rae: I KNEW from the get go it wouldn't work. Textbook case why ultimatums DON'T work. Real love is selfless, and Rae just didn't love Lexie the same way Lexie loved Rae. Lexie was trying to CONVINCE Rae, but Rae was more afraid of losing an opportunity down the road than to lose Lexie. She'd already chosen coming into the show, like all the ultimatum receivers except... 6. Vanessa: Ironically the ONLY person in the show that actually changed, albeit too late. I feel Vanessa was the most misunderstood person in the show. Her bubbly façade hid a host of insecurities, and it rubbed everyone the wrong way except Rae, who envied Vanessa's (fake) freedom. Lexie saw through the façade quick, and because Lexie seems like a highly logical and intelligent person, coupled with the fact that Rae was at stake, she lost all empathy with Vanessa and wrote her off completely. Vanessa bore the brunt of Lexie's rage at the fact that Rae didn't choose her...she KNEW this deep inside. Vanessa on the other hand, treated Xander like crap because I think for the first time ever she saw that her coping mechanisms FAILED MISERABLY, and began to realize that Xander WAS the one that got away before the show was over. She was FAKE, but it was intriguing to see WHY she was so fake. Insecure, narcissistic, attention-grabbing.... All a front for a deeply insecure person. ---Conclusion: In the end, I wanted Mal and Lexie to end up together (and still do and think they eventually will). Their relationship was instantly built upon mutual respect and decency, there was the physical attraction, but oodles of maturity and self-restraint without self-denial. Lexie is a ridiculously attractive woman, her giant boobs being WAY DOWN in the totem pole of WHY she is as far as I'm concerned. Brilliant, driven, funny, charming, self-assured, kind AND aggressive when appropriate, and GORGEOUS to boot (I admit, I have a bit of a platonic crush; I would NOT leave my baby for ANYONE). But man, how is Rae gonna do better than that super trophy wife?! Mal, keep hacking at it. She seems worth it. Xander deserves better, and I'm sure she'll find it now that she knows herself better. Maybe Yoly will fill that void, but Yoly is somewhat of a wildcard given Mal's highly accurate observations and predictions. Everyone else needs to go their separate ways and get help. For real.
Lexi is just a bully… I felt bad for Vanessa all she was trying to do was make the journey enjoyable for everyone :(
@@BlueberrySummertime Lexi fixated on Vanessa in her attempt to protect Rae and honestly let that be her downfall. Vanessa made a comment that “it was probably much easier to hate a stranger than to put the blame on her ex (Rae).” Lexi is very intelligent, much like Mal- BOTH of them being skilled articulate wordsmiths. They are definitely wonderful individuals but they have a TV personality that is golden, woke, and with it. They also knew what they were doing.
Back to Rae- I lowkey feel like she was pressured into doing something she didn’t wanna do. Forced to make a decision. She decided, she tried it, it didn’t work. Good for her.
Also, I appreciate Vanessa’s growth and wish for good things for her. I couldn’t stand her at first but I like the direction she’s headed in.
All very well put!!! I agree with everything you said!!
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You are spot on!!! Can we be friends lol?. What a brilliant and observations.. You really broke things down to the nucleus. Feel like the show needs a few tweaks, however the overall idea of the show is still brilliant. And I absolutely adore Sam , she is such a beautiful women inside and out and deserves so much better.
They filmed the show in 2021 and the reunion this past January, so yes a lot has happened. I honestly thought Xander and Yoly would be together.
I thought so too. They had such a great connection
Maybe they will plan that trip to Hawaii
@@netty5170 lol the one yoly just couldn’t remember for the life of her? 😭
Nah I doubt there will be a trip. They went their separate ways. Their connection faded . I'm guessing Xander will get close to Vanessa
@bloodwine for sure
I just want more queer dating shows now this is way better than love is blind or the first season. ❤
Nothing and I means Nothing is better than season one love is blind ! Please stop
@@Thebiggest7303 In YOUR opinion that is the case
@@Thebiggest7303 yup! I stopped watching after that season.
@@Thebiggest7303 love island season 8 is goooooood!
Love is Blind Japan is a literal work of art ❤
Lexi still blaming Rae for everything LMAOOO
THIS😂😂😂😂
Lol she forget she was also playing lovey dovey with Mal WTF
About Rae and Lexi, we noticed how Rae was pressured to accept what Lexi said, I felt bad when Lexi wanted to "create" a Rae that only existed in her head, and the worst thing was that Rae was always silent when Lexi said that she had no autonomy, it was like Rae was a little child who doesn't know what is right and wrong, and while Rae was silent I just thought, "Whoever is silent, consents". I was a little uncomfortable with how the girls treated Vanessa, cornering her, and they didn't look in the mirror to realize that they had also made "mistakes", but it's easy to point the finger at someone else. About Mildred, wow, me as a woman from South America, "Latina" I felt offended when she said that it's a cultural thing to interrupt someone, the way in which she was doing it, it's not culture, it's bad manners, it's a wrong attitude, and whenever she wanted to force a conversation just because she wanted to talk, terrible, she's a toxic woman, of course we all have some toxic traits but you identify it's wrong, it's the first step, but she didn't do it at any moment. Sam and Aussie, My God, Sam is such a patient woman, I hope Aussie is really evolving, fighting during the program that she had an internal problem, I hope she is recovering in this regard, for Sam I wish only good things , she is a good person. About Xander, Vanessa, Mal and Yoly, they faced that Xander and Yoly needed this, because both gave themselves too much to their partners, Mal and Vanessa are good people, but they didn't really want to, they didn't have security about their relationships, I think that's why being with someone who is responsible made them feel free to be the "calm" person "at ease with life" "no pressure", but it's good that everyone chose their path. Anyway, that everyone is really living good moments in life.
But that's the issue Rae is so indecisive and maybe Lexi liked that she had someone she could intentionally or unintentionally domineer over and project her wants and feeling on. Even with her better qualities Lexi does seem to be a bit of a control freak. Rae needs to find out what she truly wants without anyone in her life trying to dictate that for her.
quería mata*la cuando dijo lo de ser latina, for real
@@jabyerackonstanza Yo digo lo mismo
@@jabyerackonstanza Simplemente creo que muchas latinas estadounidenses no saben qué es la cultura real, no es ofender, pero ella dijo eso, volví para verificar lo que escuché.
Pero ella ni siquiera sabe el significado de la cultura
Mal really said “drinking my water, minding my bizz “ 5:31
Mal is my favorite
“Monday I’m overrated Tuesday on my d***” 😂😂
I just KNEW they'd put Vanessa on the spot and try to attack her about that whole fingering situation!🤦🏾♀️
Is irritating af how lexi just acts out of jealousy and bully's Vanessa and Vanessa is the one who ends apologising! When she never did anything wrong to lexi!
There're two consenting adults that had sex, there's no crime in that! Other people had sex but no one gave them sh*t for it!!!
DAMN, they act like Vanessa r@ped somebody or something!🙄
And Mal just jumped on the Vanessa hate train out of nowhere when Vanessa's been nothing but nice to her!
Same with that dumb@ss Mildred!
@@Victori.A1 yup!
I'm disappointed in Yoly, I thought her relationship with Xander would have been amazing but she clearly has her issues to work out as well. What was sad for me is that she lied so easily and also hurt two persons in the process.
LEXI STILL REFRERINF TO VANESSA AND RAE LIKE GIRL LET IT GOOOOOO
I feel that Vanessa is a very good person but difficult to understand. Sam, you are adorable and deserve all the best the world has to offer.
At the end, she showed more heart and growth than toxic Mildred and gaslighting Yoly.
She IS a good person. People on that show just come for her out of jealousy and other reasons that make absolutely no sense!
@@Victori.A1 not rly she seemed rly manipulative and extremely annoying 😭 she also crosses sexual boundaries w people and if she were a man would seem like a creep
@@aryanni
OK what show did you watch!? Cuz I know we can't be taking about the same person!🙄
WTF ARE U ON ABOUT, "sexual boundaries"!? Pls don't tell me it's about the fingering thing with Rae!🤦🏾♀️
You people don't even hear how ridiculous you sound! She getting all this hate just cuz she "SEEMS" manipulative!? And you just find her annoying!?
Just because you find someone annoying for whatever stupid reason is not a good enough excuse to start hating on them!
MILDRED LITERALLY GOT ARRESTED FOR DV AND ITS VANESSA YOU DUMB*SSES CHOOSE TO TROLL!?🙄
@@aryanni yet those weren’t the reasons they attacked her. They literally nitpicked every little thing she did. Most of it was hypocritical
This season felt soo relatable and realistic compared to other seasons/shows produced by them. The diversity was incredible and I liked that everyone seemed to invest in themselves as they progressed into the experiment.
PS - Mal was a gem.
from the beginning i knew that the same reason i didnt like vanessa, was the reason i liked her lol she kept it real from day one, but decided to learn amd grow from it!
Its really wild to me that we just moved right on past the domestic abuse admission in the reunion like it was normal. I turned it off after Tiff left. And she was given a question right after with MORE time to tell her side after we just watched her emotionally abuse Tiff? That was so hard to watch.
Yall should be ashamed.
Netflix: you really dropped the ball in so many seemingly negligent and unintentionally harmful ways
1) Not including pronouns under each cast member's name (which contributed to members like Aussie & Tiff being constantly misgendered by viewers & commentators)
2) Not having a sapphic or queer host who would've understood certain nuances in the community and been able to properly mediate the reunion conversations
3) Not taking the DV that happened to Tiff seriously. They shouldn't of had to be in the same room as Mildred. Mildred shouldn't have been able to interrupt and verbally attack them the way she did (which I hear lasted much longer than what we saw) and the producers should've put a Trigger Warning in the beginning and LGBTQ+ specific DV resources at the end of the reunion episode.
1) Enough with the nonsense. The genders are two and in the show the were all biological women. ''Misgenderism'' is a pushed propaganda that deeply insults humans rendering them into objects, and gays in particular who have fought for centuries to preserve their recognition of their gender despite their sexual preference.
2) I dont see a great difference from what i saw between these couples and any other straight couple
3) I agree , Tiff was not protected as a DV victim.
I agree but let’s stop using the word sapphic it can get kind of confusing IMO, I think queer is just fine.
They were all women. Period! Stop the erasure of women.
@Md.r-jy7ij the genders aren't two, what you're referring to is sex (and even then, intersex people exist). this is literally something u can read in textbooks idk why this is still such a common belief. also, in the show some people were being referred to as "they" so yes, pronouns would be appropriate, especially in a show about queer love like seriously? non-binary people are a thing. in addition, there is definitely a difference in dynamic between queer couples idk why u think there isn't. queer people experience life differently due to the way society views them and the way they're socialized so why wouldn't there be a difference in relationship dynamics? read up a bit on sociology dude
@@elyazaaa Im. a psychiatrist dude, and you should read some B I O L O G Y. And I don't care about this propaganda that's sole purpose is to promote pedophilia and male preying on women. Oups sorry MAP's I mean. I consciously NOT gonna be a part of this dystopia. If you wish to be so, because otherwise you find no meaning in your life and you crave attention, be my guest.
I can not believe Mildred! She was awful at the reunion! I was truly shocked! Why is lexi in a bra? lol I didnt think Vanessa was as bad as Lexi and Yoly made her out to be. Mal is amazing! Talk about emotional intelligence! She is so kind and smart and mature. She called it with Yoly . She said Yoly falls in love with everyone! Yoly is a liar! The way she was sneaky was gross!
Lexi in a bra trying to promote her spicy website if you know what i mean
"why is Lexi in a bra?" 🤣
@@debbie995 lol I meant bra only lol haaaa
Her boobies needed air 😆
This!! ❤
sam is very emotionally intelligent and was deffo a light that was needed on the show ❤️ also love lex and mal
i need so much more information about lexi and rae
I heard that by lifestyle change she wa referring to Lexi starting only fans
Rae needs to leave Lexi's toxic ass alone
sounds like they had a fight because of lexi's career change to OF and lexi not getting over fingergate
@@leilanilopez5693yeah I feel like that’s it. I mean, watching lexi in a bra feels really different from how she came across on the show. I don’t mean it’s bad, but it’s not how she seemed to think of herself or portray herself to others. I also thought it was really interesting that she specifically talked to Mal about feeling uncomfortable revealing more of her body and is now on onlyfans/shows a lot on Instagram. Whether or not this is a healthy change it is a big change.
@@greenguitar731😂
Xander was my favorite and the most genuine. I really liked Lexi in the beginning but as the show progressed her hateful obsession with Vanessa made me dislike her. Rae wouldn’t even bring her up and Lexi couldn’t stop talking about her.
Sam such a Patient beautiful soul
I think I rooted the hardest for Mal, Aussie & Xander because their energy was so calming at times throughout the show and when they cried, I cried. I’m hoping that everyone in the cast finds everlasting love and companionship. This was my first queer show to watch and I can’t wait to see Netflix produce more works like this in the future.
Vanessa was authentic to herself and Lexi couldn’t handle it so she turned it into Vanessa being an actress. At least Vanessa evolved and spoke about her recognized personality flaws. The way she handled Xander breakup was so mature and made me like her.
Lexi is still so childish, she took absolutely no responsibility for the break up. She forced Rae onto the show and then got pissed off when she participated. I said at the time that if they stayed together, she would never let it go and use it as a stick to beat Rae with for their entire time together and clearly that’s what happened.
She doesn’t seem to realise but her and Vanessa are the same, neither expected their partner to do anything and though they’d use the opportunity to get their way. I pray Mal is silly enough to enter a relationship with her, she has soooo much growing up to do, but she’s 25 so that’s normal!
The person I'm most concerned about is Assie.,.. I feel like some counseling will do her well. How she's made it this far (42yo) is a miracle. She's carrying a lot of past trauma .... That's all I'll say bc I don't know her personally but I do recognize some of her personality traits
Sam deserves Better.😍
Aussie is the oldest, but needs to mature the most. She has big trauma to heal, and Sam needs to move on to a more balanced and equal and mature relationship.
You know it was filmed 2 years ago so it’s hard to know where she’s at now.
@@sarahwilsonuk Hope they're all doing well. I'm not on socials and haven't kept up with Sam. The show was interesting
@@GloryDaze73 Yeah it really was. I hope they make more series.
i feel so bad for Rea. She really didnt do anything wrong and having Lexi constantly harp on things she did when they were broken up ,must have been so hard. i felt hopeful for them in the ruinion and thought that Lexi had gotten over it and focused on their relationship but obviously she didnt. very disappointing, but stil best of luck to them both for the future.
Lol Lexie will forever hold the grudge for the so called “fingergate”
Yep, that Mildred girl seems toxic as F, it was obvious Tiff was really fed up with her, although I think Tiff also have some anger management issues of some sort, maybe that's the Mildred effect? Sad to know Lexi and Rae had broken-up, I thought they would get to the altar. They were so happy during the reunion. Mal has a lot of swag but that blouse during reunion was too much grl, come on hahaha! Sam, if you're not married yet by the end of the year maybe its time to give anther ultimatum. Sam seems genuinely nice, but Aussie doesn't seem to want to get married at all. That's the vibes I am feeling. She's probably scared of commitment brought about marriage, and plus she has family issues too. Vanessa, at first was annoying but I think she matured because of the show, maybe trying to be funny, Yand the YOLO attitude is a mask to hide her true feelings. She seemed to care for Xander so much. Wishing everyone the best.
I actually liked Mal’s blouse. Softened her up in a sweet way. Aussie is a clown. Lexi die not let Raw speak, hardly. She always speaks for others.
@@pearlosibu Yeah, Lexi kinda have that sprinkle of toxic behavior
How i wish to meet someone like Mal or Xander❤❤❤❤ True love being with the right person
WHY DID YOU GIVE MILDRED ANY TIME IN THIS? She doesn’t need any more screen time. She’s done enough damage!
I absolutely hate the way a lot of DV is treated in wlw relationships is so sick to me. If Mildred was a man or even just a masculine presenting lesbian I doubt she would be getting to tell her "side" of the story. She would've been shunned like she ought to be now. Domestic abuse is not a joke.
The difference between this and the straight version is insane (but expected, not gonna lie). Even Whit all the messy things and dramas the level of maturity, especially emotional maturity is amazing.
Mal, Sam and Xander were my favorite! Mildred needs therapy, needs to focus her energy on her kid.
I love, love, love, LOVE Mal, Sam, and Xander. They're and will continue to be my favorites. That said, however: Netflix, PLEASE make more LGBTQ+ content!!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
❤
Same I love them!!
FAT crush on Xander. An absolute precious angel. I wish Yoly fought for her the way Xander seemed to :(
Same
Yoly is too selfish… Xander can do better!
You can see how family function form humanbeing so differently by examining Sam and Aussie. Sam being amazing person from wonderful family. Aussie is so traumatised with her past. Hope Aussie heals fast for herself and Sam as well!
Mildred is such a Mildred 😂😂😂
I'm sorry for judging Vanessa too harshly in the beginning. As chaotic as she is, I realized that at least she was always honest and forthcoming, ESPECIALLY compared to the likes of Yoly and Mildred. Those two were incredibly toxic and need to find therapists rather than future partners. Honestly Vanessa just sounds like she needs to be in an open relationship
alright Netflix, can we FINALLY get a queer version of Love is Blind??? PLEASE?????
Lexi, Mildred and Yoly are problematic for me.
No wonder they issued the ultimatums
Mildred is a narcissist. She can talk but Tif is not allowed to. Thankfully Tif got out. I’m glad Xander didn’t end up with Vanessa or a Yoly. She deserves more. As for Lexi and Rae’s break up…. Rae was never going to flourish in that relationship. I predicted at the beginning that Sam and Aussie were the only ones I saw actually together. I hope they get married.
the last 2 eps.... disappointed me except Xander. I wish they could have been more genuine that they're not ready to the engage stage
Yea, it still felt very pressured
There should have been 3 episodes to the reunion. We had sooooo many more questions.
I really liked Lexi in the first few episodes because she seemed so genuine and loving but seeing the way she speaks to Rae was hard to watch. Anything that Rae would say it seemed like she would just shut her down. Nothing seemed good enough for Lexi. It feels like Lexi created a different version of Rae and would be really upset when Rae couldn't be that person.
Lexi and Mal carrying on about “forever” comes across as it coming from a place of stubbornness. Almost too stubborn to NOT be “forever friends.” The motive feels off…
I'm IN LOVE with this show! I mean, the straight version was terrible, but this one was EVERYTHING ❤ It had drama, understanding, personal growth, mistakes... and the reuinion was also GREAT! Like someone already said: "The reunion was handled so well. We got the tee and the host was respectful too"
im so happy for rae 😭
Why
SAme😂
@@angb1672 Lexi bulldozes over everyone in her life and only cares about what she wants.
This show was ABSOLUTELY AMAZING!! ❤🔥❤️🔥❤️ More of this please Netflix!!!
Thanks to all the cast for sharing their experiences with us on tv! It’s very enlightening and entertaining to watch. I can see myself in so many of them, see my exes in so many of them and see my own experiences in their experiences
Netflix, you let an abuse victim get verbally attacked by their abuser on your show, let everything play out, and did not protect Tiff at all. Mildred was talking over her, gaslighting her in front of everyone, and Mildred admitted on camera about lying in a DV police report. And still you give her a platform. None of this was framed correctly, none of it was handled correctly. This is unacceptable and disgusting.
this show was such an amazing surprise!! definitely exceeded my expectations and ran laps around these other netflix dating shows even though this is only its first season! i’m gonna need more asap, drama aside it was also cool to see queer relationships being explored and talked about in this way.🙏
The reunion was handled so well. We got the tee and the host was respectful too❤❤❤❤❤❤ even compassionate
Exactly!!! ❤
The host, Joanna, is such a sweet soul 😍
Ive never watched a reality TV show that could create so many discussions. Me and my GF binged this in a day. So good and give so much room for reflection for those in the show and those watching it.
MAL ❤️❤️❤️ “staying hydrated and minding my business” looool amazing - yeah - deserved SO much more from yoly, from the show - really deserves all the good things in life - including love!!
just commenting here to let netflix know we NEED more sapphic shows, series and movies. This show was so damn good and it helps lesbian, bi and pan women to be represented and reflect on our relationships.
Current relationship status = Staying hydrated
Favorite show of all the love reality shows. So much to be learned from the different relationships and communication styles. Would love to see something develop between Mal and Lexi.
Mildred is absolutely insane and it showed from Day 1. A chronic victim complex. I’m glad Vanessa was vindicated in the end by the lies peddled by Yoly too.
I feel like I still need another reunion
Rae Tiff and Mal deserve more and better relationships keep my fingers crossed! Big Kudo to Sam you’re the best, Xander I’m so happy you found new you, good luck Vanessa you’re my fav girl😂 no comment for Lexi Mildred and Yoly they’re monster to me sorry
Totally agree✨️😂
Lexi isn't perfect, but she was pretty cool. She has flaws and didn't take enough responsibility for her treatment of Rae sometimes, but she's definitely not like Mildred and Yoly. I don't know if Yoly just has a lying problem, but Mildred is so problematic and Lexi is for sure a lot more decent than her and a lot more likeable than Yoly. Of course Yoly sided with Mildred, because they are both horrible liars. I was annoyed that nobody said anything or did anything except for Sam, about Mildred. You would hope the crew or the host would intervene, but both the host as well as the crew just wanted drama to use for their show.
Sam too !! Especially Sam
@@nowey2251 Do you mean that she was problematic or likeable?
So Xander basically admitted to stringing Vanessa along for most of the show
to be fair, Vanessa agreed to come on a show where engagement was on the line with statements like "I never want to get married"/"I'm not getting married"/"I want to have fun with people without getting tied down" etc. Honestly, neither of them should have been there
"My current relationship status is staying hydrated and minding my own business." - Mal. ☠LOL.
The ultimatum: Queer love gave us everything we were wanting! It had the drama, it had the passion, I was throughly entertained. 🙏🏽 And thank you ladies for sharing your lives with us ❤
I love Xander personality. She is very educated and mature. Soft and sweet.
but she was such a simp and easily manipulated by both Vanessa and Yoly...at least in video Xander is realizing how she was love blind.
Team Vanessa from day one. I think her an Xander are just friends, but loved her realness. Happy some of the others true colors showed.
They said she was fake while they played in their partners faces. Smh
Crying. Sam is a beautiful person. I aspire to be more like her.
Mildred is good for nobody! Tiff is glowing
I feel like Sam and Rae both should've ultimately decided to choose themselves. Sam has clearly done the work to become a better version of herself. I can tell she's done a lot of shadow work and possibly therapy. Aussie, on the other hand *really* needs therapy to work out her childhood trauma. It's bleeding into her relationship with Sam. As far as my views on Rae, she's such a sweet person. But she really has to work on her self esteem. It really stood out to me when Vanessa asked her to name three things she loved about herself and she couldn't do it. She's very soft spoken and I feel like Lexi's Type-A personality makes walks all over Rae. Leaving someone you love is hard, but you've got to love yourself more.
I couldn’t believe that Aussie is in her forties behaving the way she does. Very emotionally stunted & needs a therapist. Mildred is very confrontational & aggressive, so negative. It was alarming to watch. Lexi is controlling, beating Rae over the head about getting married, the girl wasn’t ready, stop trying to force it. Rae, Vanessa & Xander needed to find security within themselves without being in any relationship. Sam is very sweet, glad she started sticking up for herself. Mal is very attractive & charming. Yoli seems inauthentic, very wishy-washy.
To any of you who just can’t figure out why people don’t like Vanessa, here is one of many reasons, but I think one of the more important:
Vanessa told other contestants that Xander is asexual without Xander’s permission, and perhaps worse, without Xander even identifying as such. This is a monstrous act. I’m concerned that this detail got glossed over by all of Vanessa’s histrionics and all of the weird Vanessa apologists out there. Aside from all the other controlling, manipulative, vindictive things she did, what she did to Xander was inexcusable.
There is an episode where Vanessa told another contestant that Xander is asexual in order to presumably manipulate the outcome of the trial marriage proceedings. Perhaps this was Vanessa’s passive aggressive punishment to Xander for not being as sexually active as she’d prefer. Perhaps she was hoping to diminish the interest of anyone who had found them attractive, but what was worse is it clearly appeared to be a lie. Vanessa was so busy thinking of herself and how to domineer all of the contestants, she committed a really dangerous act of aggression toward her partner. Vanessa clearly thought so little of Xander, she decided that her potential net gain outweighed any of Xander’s agency in that moment. Vanessa did a lot of disgusting things on this show, but this was one of the most calculated and ill intended. It’s up to each individual to decide what and to whom details of their sexuality are shared no matter what dating show they are on.
yep the asexual thing was upsetting
I am convinced Vanessa said this based on things Xander had told her. Perhaps Vanessa wanted to open up their relationship because she as we saw enjoys dating other people and js probably polyamorous. Xander might have just said something along the lines of only being into her/sexually monogamous in response to keep Vanessa close (trapped), which showed itself to be untrue when Xander started hooking up with Joly. This one comment was no excuse for the bullying Vanessa experienced that clearly was just deflection from the jealousy of (control freak) Lexi and (liar) Joly.
Why are we not talking more about the fact that Vanessa literally said Xander is asexual and Xander herself said she's a very sexual person.. wtf
We need a season 2!😊
She was great but let’s get another host for season 2. (I lied… she wasn’t great)
Her and the crew annoyed me. They didn't have respect for the feelings of the contestants. Of course it's a show and part of the show was filming those emotional moments and their authentic reactions when things went down, but they didn't draw the line at any point. The crew and host of the show just wanted their drama to use it for entertainment and make money off of it. They didn't give the contestants their space when they clearly needed it, or even when they specifically asked for it. What happened to human decency? Does any person still respect boundaries these days?
@@writerwannabe8778 Yup like when Xander was double rejected and told the crew they had enough content, or when any of them walked off crying away from ear shot. Just no respect
@@laynicorns she want double rejected, she rejected Vanessa and then got rejected by yoly
We needed a gay host.
Someone who could be more relateable.
@@writerwannabe8778 I agree that that would be the right thing to do, but reality tv is the last thing you sign up for if you want space or boundaries lol like it’s notorious for being invasive
Netflix highlighted how couples sometimes need therapy and not to just move on and get married and have a baby.
Everyone seemed to need a reality check and lots of therapy, individual and couple therapy.
Hopefully this experience will make them better for the future. Some couples seemed really mismatched and manipulative. Thank good no babies were brought into these unhappy relationships