We urge you to contact a local suicide crisis hotline if you are having suicidal thoughts. Please know that there are people who have faced the same hardships that you are facing, and can help. It gets better.
I still do sometimes. I have attempted taking my own life once before and i am sorry for what you had to go through. Its not easy at all to express how you feel or to confine to some one. I really felt your stance and i can say i know how you or your son felt but i can say that i have bottled so much over the years and it lead me to sin and suicide. Thank you for this video
@@terrysorange975 I am so sorry to you that you went through a lot. Try to focus on one little thing you did or happened to you in your life.And that thing will be be a lifesaver and mindchanger for you.Take goog care of yourself🌺🌺
Im in tears, alone and confussed. What i take from this; we all have a story and your story needs to be shared. My story IS NOT finishing now... Mr Seattle someone, your not alone mate. I hope you are well and not just fine??? Its your story mate. Own it..and share it. Bryan
I am very sorry to hear that, I am fighting with this kind of perpetrator introject, too. But I learned this: you are never alone and the way someone abuses you, even if it's your roots, it is THEIR calling card, not yours. They aren't strong enough to deal with themselves and think they need to make someone small to release frustration. All that abuse is one huge lie and we all deserve better. Your father was broken before you came into the picture, and he didn't fix himself, and neither did the adults before or around him. We can only move forward and learn from that.
As a former police officer, I didn't realize suicidal people were actually the bravest amongst all human beings! I saved many..... but one life lost is too many. I talked other people's kids out of it during calls for service! Unconditional love ❤️ is what the world needs more of and compassion ❤️ 💙
I’m on the Fire/Ems side (I was on the medic). It sucks. But you hear the same thing. “I had no idea they were hurting…”. Covid destroyed so many people. House wives, grandparents, teens. All ages. Taking their lives. A couple of years after that garbage. I went out on pension. All of that and 20 years of everything else. Finally blew my top. “Funny” thing is, the dept decided that mental health for us might be needed. We were so slammed every day/night. We were treated as robots. Drop that dying child off and get in-service in 20 minutes. F’ed up a lot of us. Long rant. Thanks for what yall did. We got to leave those scenes after 30 mins- 1 hour. You all stayed for the duration. Either way, we all gotta stick together. Went off on a tangent there. But my current state and all of the suicides we worked for the parents (as long as agonal respiration) even with no chance of survival. I could go on. But I’m rambling. Take care man. Reply if you want to holla. -Scott
@@Myholyplaylistfind a way. There will be one, just for you. Just know, If nobody does, I love you. Things will come to pass, and you may not be ok; but know… that for the time being, you have survived the worst.
I started to cry now at this comment. I feel so very lonely, sick and alone. I have been pleading God to come and fortify me because all people left me behind. (Except maybe my mum and dad, but I am already 31... they can give me momentarily help but I cannot understand why no relation of mine works on the longer. I am putting mch effort. And I have been going a year to psychoterapy, paying each time a day's earnings and accepting the faults she pointed out in me, having been working hard on them.)
It's spoken some times when it happens, but no change happens because the people don't try to change the future of it happening again. It's like the history saying, if you don't learn the leason you're doomed to repeat it.
It always depends on the lens you look through. The mind is a crazy space sometimes. The fact that you are here means you are seeking to learn, give yourself props because most peeps ignore it. I hope you find peace.❤
I lost a friend to suicide. Last time I had a chat with him I made him laugh. Edit: I’ve lost another one, didn’t really know him much but we had chats nearly everyday. Both died from bullying......
As a teen here is a pro tip. Whenever your talking to your kids don't make it end in a scolding. The kid needs help not another scolding. Nothing hurts more than being scolded by the person you are seeking help from
There's one thing that hurts more: Scolding and then saying 'I care about you.' Then repeating this sequence. Ig it depends on how one looks at it. I find it somewhat funny.
@@staircasefunction9124 Happened far too many times to me this year, it's pointless to talk to my parents for help now. I don't know what to do anymore.
I am a dad with two teenage sons.i am a strict dad but i love my sons so much n spend much time with them.but it is not easy dealing with them.there were tough arguments, cries and tears but thank God i can say that i am sure that my sons will not do any horrible things that worry can worry me because since their early ages i have been teaching them about what is right n what is wrong before God.if our children know the truths of God, we as parents will have the least worry about our kids.
With my son I could see he wasn't fine. I asked him always if he was ok. He would show me a broad smile and would say, I'm good, mama. Sometimes we spoke and he told me how hard life was for him. We tried helping him with making life nicer,easier, happier for him. And sometimes it worked, other times it didn't. After lots of tests through psychiatrist and specialists my son was diagnosed with schizophrenia in 2014. In May 2016 he lost his battle to this horrendous illness. I knew my son wasn't okay and still I couldn't stop him from jumping that day 😔
To be honest I just say "I'm fine" because I don't want my mom to start criticizing every single one of my life decisions, saying I never go out, saying how dirty my room is, pointing out how my grades has been dropping, and just killing my self esteem in general.
Overly critical parents are excruciating to live with. Does she ever show any compassion to you? I hope so. Sometimes when a parent constantly criticizes you it’s a projection of what they feel about themselves. Stay strong. Rise above it. Someday you can leave and lead your own life. You will be okay.
Tbh everything is same with me too. Although I don't have my own room , I have to sleep with my mom. You won't believe but I can't even cry out. I just cry silently :')
J-time What you have just said is what is needed for all Parents to hear. Many parents are themselves under tremendous pressure in today's society and just don't realise that they are not taking time to calm down and really Listen to the problems their children or teens are going through in the outside World as WELL as at home if no one takes time to All calm down and really talk and listen to each other. You would be a perfect spokesperson for all others as you know how it is ! I wish I had listened more to my teenager and UNDERSTOOD their anguish as you have just pointed out the mistakes I made and to which I'm deeply sorry for. Thank you for your brave and honest depiction of what it feels like when you are put under pressure by a parent or parents. God Bless You and hope all you wish for comes true. 🙏
They are so blind thinking that kids are happy and dont have problems, that dont see how do we feel LITERALLY DYING, D Y I N G inside Im 14, I shouldn't even think about killing myself, but I do
@@BiaRosy Once there was a time when I thought that I should better die. But now I'm like why to take my life just for two fools. If they don't care, I won't either. Now, all I wanna do is to leave this house and move on to somewhere far away from them and find a job and live on my own. I don't care if I'll be poor. I'll try my best and live on my own at least 🙂
Instead of asking my kids, “How was school?”. I ask “what was the best part AND worst part about your day?”. it has revolutionized our daily conversations. I also share mine.
Why didn´t I have that idea when my kids were young???? REALLY VERY SMART way to sharpen one´s awareness... AND share your own thoughts too... 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👈 ...
Nice Mam . My mom from starting , when we were young she told me and my sister that whatever happens in school , whether good or bad , you will share it to Me. And we always used to share our school experience everyday , even if we got scolding from teachers (if we did a mistake ) , we would tell her. My mother listens to them till now , Im 16+ now 😀 , it really helped me . I became really depressed during my early teen age years when I was 11 or 12 , because of bullying . My mom really helped me to overcome this 😭😭😭 I love her so much 😀❤️ My message is that asking these questions from your kids will really make a deep bond between both of you . May you stay happy always and remain healthy . You are the best mom ever ✨
I don't dare fault this man for his son's suicide. On the other hand, thinking that you are doing the right thing when you are making a mistake doesn't necessarily mean that the consequences are not your fault.
As a parent you are responsible for your child. While you may not be doing the wrong thing intentionally you still have to live with the consequences of your decisions
No, this man would disagree with you. It was his fault, at least he was a huge part of it. You can not change what you do not acknowledge. The way he lived his life was toxic. He did not demonstrate how a person manages difficulties in life. He failed to provide his son the tools he needed. That is the message here. Please reflect on what he is telling you. Be human, not superhuman. When your kids say "fine", ask them what is fine. Then ask them what is not going well and listen. Make it acceptable to be less than perfect. None of us are, so those that seem that way are just really good actors.
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help.
@@matheodaniel1364 Though I never really got the use of “ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem”, are not all problems by that same standard also temporary. Is it saying only a temporary solution is valid? If someone were to perceive being caged and tortured is that sentence any motivation to preserve? To which the hope of life seems lesser than death.
If everyone who needed help wouldnt say im fine all the time, that'd be great. Just like how women tell you "its ok" or "im fine" when they are totally not and will later call you insensitive for not recognizing that its not really ok
My son hanged himself at 21.I found him I tried CPR.I was too late.I closed his eyes and held him.His mum died of cancer 6 years before at 43.He missed his mother too much.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I struggle with suicidal thoughts myself. It took me until I was in my 30s to be able to tell my mother. At least in my case it's often hard to even talk when I'm at that point. I've been to levels where I was to screwed up to kill myself. With that being said please don't blame yourself. Depression is an illness. And his suicide was no more your fault or his then if he had a heart attack in the middle of the night and wasn't able to seek help in time. And for anyone else reading this keep this in mind. One of the most dangerous times for a depressed person is right when they start feeling better. It can take a long time to fully come out of an depressive episode. If they don't pull it together quick enough their negative emotions often turn the returning energy towards self harm.
I know this might sound dramatic but last month I tried to commit suicide by hang myself but shits doesn't go well. Today, I watched this video and look at this comment somehow I saw the image of my father as if the picture changed to his face. I wondered what if I did what I wanted to do last month? What if I am no longer exist? How my father would react? Honestly, I don't know what would happen in the future, but if I'm given with a strength, I hope I won't do the same mistakes. Thank you for sharing your story, your son was a strong person too.
My dad is the only reason im still alive. He told me about his life and i always felt like i could be honest with him. Even with the dark stuff. I still struggle a lot, but i wouldn't be here without him
@@fireyblazemaster3253 I was homeschooled my entire life and it's not all it's cracked up to be. And I have taken online classes through college and some professors dont care about their online student's so unless teachers receive special training all online classes could cause more problems than they solve.
I think school appears to be the problem because it's the first occasion you are leaving your home and face society. It's not about the school itself. Society is full of d***heads, and you need to be ready and prepared.
Childhood is sort of a molding process. It’s where are your damaged kinks develop and it’s up to you later on in life if you want to properly tackle your deep rooted trauma
My son is 15 years old. Then one day he stopped playing games with his friends and was mostly in his room. I didn’t realized that he was depressed. He was telling his cousins and friends about suicide. Luckily someone told us what happened and we talked to him. It is serious.
Teach your son how to fight. Whatever or whoever comes into our lives, we must use our brain first to think logically to make rational decision. Anger, love and affection are emotions that can easily cloud reason.
@@rayschindler7451 I can feel that, but forcing you to tell it to your parents will solve this problem for sure. You're not weak, you're strong, so don't be afraid to tell it.
@Ray Schindler in my country bullies are not a thing thats common and for that i thank god, but for you my friend i must tell you never give in to their pressure and open up with someone whoever that may be ! If not your parents than your grandparents since sometimes they listen more but never say you are worthless
My husband killed himself a year ago. He couldn’t bear letting anyone down, and he had had a crisis at work and thought he had let everyone down. He hurt many people. He had no idea how many people loved him. I miss him.
@Melinda-i9gquite frankly no, that’s not the most selfish thing . The most selfish thing is the world full of women that demand men NEVER show any god dam feelings . If we do , we’re weak and beta . While you’re chanting toxic masculinity, watch how many men die because of your ridiculous standards .
I'm 17, no friends, miserable and just feel hopeless, killing myself is a big cloud in my mind, but I know that if i do, I would cause more pain to others around me than the pain I'm feeling right now. I still have hope I'll get better soon.
im in the same but im turning 16 april 5 i have one friend 2 parents and 3 siblings and i know it would be selfish to take my life out of theirs so i wont theres always something to live for remember that
I usually do not write on social media. However just want to share something with you guys. I am father of three young man 24,22,20... also a veteran with 25 years of service as a Special Forces operator, meaning I have seeing a lot. Here is my quote " we are not depressed, we are distracted ".... do something for yourself: write 10 things that you are very grateful, after you finish, think about it and put them on order, most important first and so on. Write that list on a piece of paper and put the paper by your bed, so when you wake up that is the first thing that you see. When you wake up, read, think and be grateful.....just by starting your day like that, the perspective is different, is a positive one. That paper is a working document , you can add more, you can change the position, etc, etc. I am currently on Afghanistan but you can reach me if you want.... just by telling where I am I can talk you that your problems are minimum compared to where I see around here, think about it. Buen Camino.
@@TheRingmasteR23 I’m sorry to hear that and we are complete strangers, but every life matters. People will listen-if they don’t, I know I will. For whatever reason, don’t throw your life away, it’s a privilege and a journey. Things will get better if you keep fighting. There’s so much left to explore and discover in this world. If you can’t continue living for yourself, choose to live for others. Whatever you’re going through must be miserable, but others around you may be going through something too. After having experienced being at your lowest point, strive to pick yourself back up in slow steps. You must be hoping there will be a ray of light-a person to take your hand and guide you, but one less person will be able to fill that role for someone else if you take your life. Avoidance does nothing, but perpetuate the never ending cycle of hopelessness. Anyways, I wish you and anyone who reads this success. Keep fighting to live. Many fight to survive, don’t waste this opportunity.
Well idk how everyone is feeling but I hope EVERYONE READING THIS is feeling great, Because you are great and unique in positive ways(: Blessings to you reading this.
@LawofAttraction this man is trying to help others, he can’t turn back time but he is telling the truth. As he said please learn from the things I didn’t do right. I can tell you from my own experience my son completed Suicide 30 years ago this month, there is not a day I wish I could have saved him. I understand this mans heartache.
@LawofAttraction i can only feel sorry for you, and hope that you see the sadness inside of you dear. May you find a good path in life instead of this one filled with hatred and rage, try to stop hating your self, forgive yourself.
My parents were both distant AND didn't provide for me. I was born just to inherit family name, they didn't even want me. Imagine not being wanted but still being planned pregnancy.
I get bullied online everyday about the way i look and i had to take happy pills because of how it affected my mental health. Bullied since i was 6 years old until high school too. Its easy for people to tell me to ignore until they read what people write to me everyday
I get sick of people saying to just ignore bullies when they obviously never were bullied or they wouldn't say that EVER. Ignoring it is not fixing any problems!
hey, im sorry to hear that people bully you and have been doing so since you were 6 years old. I was bullied from elementary school until i was 22 years old. I started taking happy pills when I was a sophomore in high school until I was 23 so just about 7-8 years. im now doing a lot better and in graduate school studying to be a therapist. you dont deserve to be bullied, no one does. people can be so ruthless especially online in the comments since they can hide behind a screen. i am wishing you the best! this might sound stupid but stay strong and be genuine to yourself! 🤍
out of curiosity checked your channel. hard to believe you're bullied because of your looks. i'm not saying they don't address the way you look, just that it's not the reason they do it.
One thing not mentioned here: When I was a teen, the number one reason my peers said they couldn't go to their parents when they had a problem was because they expected their parents to react with hostility.
i thought the same too. I have had problems at school like these kids these days struggle with but it wasnt that big of a deal to me all i had to do is speak up for myself even tho i got beat speak to someone if no one takes u seriously deal with it yourself but in no world should u take your life , u r not special everybody has their problems so u deal with yours and struggle to live.
to me it was because my father was a single parent raising 3 kids while also working a 40 hours a week sometimes more and me not wanting to bother him with my problems.
@@klajdisinanaj3977 The last thing you should say to someone with depression is to "Deal with it" and "Everyone haves struggles". I see you don't know shit sadly. But still dare to comment about it.
@@TobyBanci he does have a point, if you're not sharing a bond with your parents its hard to open up, especially if they just barge in and start wsterboarding you in questions. I guess, timing is really key but taking time is probably the most important.
"You only cry for help, if you believe there's help to cry for." "You will never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have."
another quote, "when the time comes, don't go expecting someone to come save you" you've got to get stronger yourself, it`s inevitable. a quote that i always cherish and look back at
Being strong, grabbing a bible too! Believe me the devil tries to destroy you through depression. The devil tries to destroy a sound mind. Don't let him win! Ask God to help you. He will! Don't let yourself be alone. Take a walk with Jesus. Read the bible.
I'm a dad to an 8yr old and 4yr old. I watch this every now and then (maybe just twice a year) to keep this in my mind, front and centre. Thank you for this brave and powerful message.
I would correct that to "I'm not fine but I don't feel comfortable talking about it with YOU". This guy hit the nail on the head. It's so important for parents to make themselves unapproachable to kids. My parents felt unapproachable. Judgemental. Constantly made me feel like if I opened up they would just emphasize how I failed to meet the expectations they set. Even now as an adult I struggle to be open with them, and have to remind and force myself to be, mainly because I have been fairly successful in my adult life and therefore there's nothing that they could possibly make me feel inadequate about. My stepsister took her own life though after battling an extremely hard period in her life. I feel like my parents failed her the way that this guy feels he failed his son.
No, it’s ‘I’m not fine, I just don’t feel like I can talk to anyone because I don’t want to disappoint you or open up about my feelings because it will make me feel like a failure.’
@@k-isfor-kristina im going through this right now (im a teenager with parents like that)... i hope i end up successful like you in the future and not like your stepsister... may she rip. either way both of our parents failed.
Worst day of my life was my son’s failed attempt when he said after, “I didn’t think anyone would care.” It’s been over 15 years since I heard that sentence & I am crying as I write it. I had no clue.
Yea. thats how we feel. everyone so busy that we feel left out. so we think " why do anyone else care. but im happy your son still here and now you know and you guys are working on it everyday.
Stay strong man, but if you think you need help try your best to get some your own way. Don't force yourself in going with this pain all alone to keep the appearances like I do because you are too concerned about bothering others with your own personal life struggles and problems. Keep it up!
I know how you feel friend. Life is just one disappointment after another. People judge me all the time. I have a dream career in mind but I have low self-esteem. I'm plagued everyday by the thought of any bad that could happen.
Hope you're feeling better, if you're struggling, ring some helplines. Imagine how kind you would be if your friend was feeling the way you do and be kind, really kind, to yourself 💖💗
@Vikinger hey man, I know I am a stranger but if you want to talk to someone just send me a message pls! Even if its just for a view minutes (And I am serious)
I’m a teenager and I wish I could have a better relationship with my dad. I wish I could ask him for help maybe ask him how to deal with girls or sum. But I never had that relationship with my dad.
this might be weird coming from a random guy on the internet but if you ever feel down or need anything please reach out to me and I will be happy to help.
as a teenager, we say “we’re fine” because we are hiding something, it’s embarrassing, we’re scared how you will react, we’re scared what you’d do, we don’t wanna talk about it
Especially when you live surrounded by people with limited or outdated morals, awareness, knowledge, and education...Either your parents are too worried that you wouldn’t survive or they’re in denial of the fact that they don’t know exactly what to do.
My brother took his own life and from that moment on, our lives were and are never the same again. My story though is a lot different from the majority of suicide stories. Michael wasn’t depressed … on the contrary, he was always so happy go lucky , in fact his nickname was ‘smiler’ by his friends & colleagues. Michael was a policeman and absolutely loved his job , he was so proud to be part of the police force. He was the youngest of us 4 siblings and was such a good looking young man. He had a partner and 2 young children. We didn’t know it at the time, but he & his partner were going through a rough patch. She was a bit run down and hadn’t wanted sexual relations with him for the past 4 months. Things went on and he had to train a young police cadet, which meant they were together 8/10 hours a day. I’m not justifying in any way what happened next but not getting any affection at home probably caused what happened … he started to ‘think he had ‘ feelings for her … she was definitely coming onto him … She started to text him … he wasn’t one to text much anyway but one morning while he was having a shower his phone got a message and his partner heard it. She read it … it was the girl saying thanks for the dinner the day before and that she missed him. My SIL went loopy and told him to get his things & leave. She called their kids , boy of 7 & girl nearly 3, and told them daddy didn’t love them anymore. My mum called me saying Michael was at hers and was in a state. I spoke to him …. This was 4/5 hours before he committed suicide … he told me he hadn’t been unfaithful at all yet … but that he had feelings for this girl … In the meantime my SIL put it all on FB and then phoned him saying she was gonna phone his chief and tell him about the ‘story’ between him & the girl , and to ‘be ready to lose his job because when they found out it would be instant dismissal ‘ Just before he left my mum’s, he received a text from the girl saying you must ‘deny deny deny’ … that she didn’t want to lose her post with the police … and that she didn’t really have feelings for him … it was to pass her course. Shortly after, Michael was banging his head against the door and saying he had made the worst mistake ever. After some time he then left and got in his car. Mum asked him if he was ok and he said yes. That was the last she saw him alive. He shot himself in nearby woods. My brother wasn’t depressed. Drs say he had a brainstorm … 🤷♀️ All I know is we lost our baby brother. He was 37. In his right mind, he would never have done what he did. A few months beforehand, his friend took an overdose of pills. He was devastated and said “ poor bloke … he’s left 3 small children… how come?? “ I miss you Michael 🦋 So sorry to have been so long everyone … I needed to get this out of me 😢
I’m so very sorry hun 😞 I’m only 20, and been going through severe depression the last couple months… it’s truly my mom and older sister who keep me pushing and here. I know your brother loves you and your mom with all his heart, and he’ll always watch over you if it’s possible on his side ❤️ Please stay strong and surround yourself with love and joy, don’t let your traumas eat you alive like me, I haven’t experienced nearly anything as horrible, yet I cry almost daily when I’m alone because I just feel so weak mentally. But one day people like us who suffer in silence most days are gonna be rewarded greatly when we’re gone… I’m sure of it. Much love to you and your family for real ❤️❤️❤️ His children had a great father, I know that they’ll inherit his good heart. RIP to a hero 🙇♂️
@@StFigarlandShanks thank you so much for your kind words, I truly appreciate it … I wish you strength, comfort and serenity … that you can soon feel better 🍀🍀
Personally I feel the reason we don’t tell our parents these things is they won’t understand what we mean exactly if most of us were to tell our parents something was wrong or we were sad they would think it was over something childish and stupid so we never approach them about our problems
That's exactly how I feel. I remember a time I was so depressed, I didn't eat meals, I would do nothing but lay in bed from morning to night, and just silently have mental breakdowns daily, and one day I heard my mom on the phone calling me "moody"... Also my family knows I have social anxiety yet they say things like "just go out more", "talking to people isn't even that difficult", and "how hard is it to do this simple thing??" Safe to say I'm trusting no one in my family with any of my secrets.
@@naritruwireve1381 I understand your pain my friend. I cannot say I know it from experience but I suffered alot when I was younger. More than most around me ever knew. I don't know If you'll accept my words, but I struggled for 7 years. One day I decided to give my life to Jesus. He sought me first, as he does. But I made the decision to be his. Please reach out to him. Through him our wrongdoings will be forgiven, and he will mend you. Piece you back together as he did me. Things won't always be perfect, they'll possibly be quite hard, but you will be sheltered under the wings of the Lord.
Even worse, many parents will instantly assume it's their fault and react badly because they themselves are extremely insecure/broken. They may blame the child or berate them/abuse them more. I personally know of two children in this situation. Sadly here in NZ, there's little I can do about it. Unless the child shows physical evidence of severe physical abuse, they won't remove the child from parental care. So they grow up abused with zero confidence and a history of self-harm if they survive at all. All I can do is try to offset their parental abuse with encouragement and support, and when they are old enough to be allowed to separate from a parent, support them getting onto their feet with no parent.
I onced tried to open up and they didn't think I was serious. They thought it was another joke. Then I left class because I found out my best friend killed himself and I told my teacher I felt too depressed to stay. My parents come home and barged in my room and basically interrogated me and I felt so uneasy and unsafe in my own room. To all the parents that read this, please treat depressed teens with compassion.
Hey bro, stay strong out there, I know it's hard when you can't share your struggles with someone else, but try to seek out help and understanding, and remember that there are people who value you more that they appear to
Hey, I’m spreading the word about this, because it kind of changed my life and I hope it helps, because it may feel like you have no one you can trust, nobody you can talk to, nobody to open your feeling up to, but let me tell you something. I took a risk once. When I was at my lowest. I’m so glad I did. I felt like nobody I knew cared about me and that when I died I would die having no friends. But what did see, was I took a risk, I opened myself up to a discord group one time, and it was a moment I still haven’t forgotten, because at the time I felt like I had nobody left. But they actually cared about me. People, who I had barely even talked to before, actually cared about me, they didn’t know who I was, what I looked like, or whether or not anything I was saying was true, but they helped me, encouraged me, and most importantly, they acknowledged me and listened. The internet is a wonderful thing because it has made humanity so much more connected than ever. We have grown to hate more, but we can empathize more too. Someone will listen to you, and if you need I can as well if you like.
If you are a jolly person like me, who jokes all the time😶, your parents will of course think you are joking. Not considering it happens with you, but when i speak something i make fun of myself 😂, though i don't feel bad, it's within the family and love within it is more important. If they are not understanding, then it leave you with the responsibility to understand your mistakes and your family, just don't feel seperated with your family.
A generation that wasn’t listened to, is trying to listen to a generation that wants to be heard, creating a generation that will finally listen when the time comes.
I’ve always believed that a father makes his children strong but at the same time no one wants to accept how little it takes to make someone consider suicide
You won't have to "drop everything your doing" if you have regular deeper meaning conversations. Show that it is OK to share your feelings in certain circles. My mom did an awesome job at that on her own. Through multiple bad relations. Love you mom!
@@entity5x4w-official42 I don't know what you're going through but, whoever you are, you matter to me. That's why I'm commenting to you, your life is precious. You matter.♥️
I have been suicidal in my teen years. I didn’t have many friends. I was bullied. My parents would tell me that my problems were not important, I would “grow out of them”. I stopped talking to them. I fought long and hard to overcome my suicidality. I am now 57. I have a wonderful bond with my 25 year old son. I never hid my struggles from him. I can confirm what this video says: invest time and effort in your children. Don’t hide your struggles from them. It will pay off. When my son comes with his struggles I listen. He has suicidal tendencies. He knows he can always come to me. I drop everything and listen. He is stille here. I thank God for that. ❤️🇳🇱
This is why I didn't give up. I know my parents would cry so I didn't do it. Edit: Thank you so much for the 2.8k likes. I definitely don't deserve it. I'm not that brave to stay this long. For those who say that their parents are the reason why they wanted to give up, me too. My family is toxic, and pressure me into everything. I'm still alive for them because I knew it would break them up because I'm the eldest, and it is obvious that they don't know how to raise a child. It's hard to raise a child. Although I'd like to take my own life, I wouldn't want them to go through what I had to go through. If you don't have any good influences in your life, then cling to every single good influence in your life. I'm loosing all my reasons one by one, day by day. And unfortunately, my fear of pain in death is stronger than my will to die. So I'm still here after 7 months. I'm still in a low place, lower than before. In a way, I'm glad that I'm still here.
Everyone, dont do it. If you wanna have a chat i will always make time up for it, send me a dm on @yorickdz and i will always answer. Even if you are in hard times. Please talk. With anybody. Even your neighbour or somebody. Please. It will make life so much easier. Have a chat.
@@elapse______2557 Most Arab parents put a lot of pressure on their kids thinking that the pressure will push them forth but what they don't realise is the amount of pressure that they put on the kid will only bury the kid deeper into the ground. Most of the Arab parents avoid talking about certain subjects hoping the kid would never know about, which adds to the kid's hunger of curiosity in terms would lead them to seek the knowledge from unknown untrusted bad resources, the kid later on finds themselves in a trap they didn't know they had fallen in and talking to the parents seems useless and they're only afraid that the parents would yell at them scold them ..etc. so the kid stays down in the hole all hopeless and have no one to turn to, whilst the parents think that everything is fine by avoiding the subjects that include: Suicide, LGBT+, Belief, Deppression, Anxiety, PTSD and the list goes on ... I'm grateful to have parents who are open minded enough to talk to me about theses things and show me the right way to deal with Sexual harassment, blackmailing, any type of harassment in general. I've seen many people around suffer from parents pressuring them and abusing them and it just hurts to see such a thing. I hope frome the bottom of my heart that you're okay :)
One of the worst things parents say to their kids is, "Be grateful. Others have it worse" Saying that isn't going to fix the problem, it will only make it worse. Your child came to you for help for a reason, they won't understand your bills, or your problems at your job. They are a child. You need to put yourself at their age and realize that their problem is a lot bigger than you think.
I totally agree as that is the problem I've been facing the last few years that others have it worse. That it has come to the point were my relationship with my parents is almost gone the only times we speak are at the dinner table and most days we dont even do that, and the only thing that's said is from my dad about his work days. The only times we actually talk is when I have a breakdown about how Im feeling about school or lost pets I've grown up with and that i miss they almost newer get into how or family relationship is going. So the only things I've actually had a relationship with is my pets because they are always there for you no matter what, and they are one of the reasons I've been able to go on.
This annoys me. Its the truth, other kids are starving, or being sold. If youre commenting on a youtube video, you have it easy. I think my generation is just a bunch of snowflakes who cant stand up for themselves. Grow up, not everything is about you.
@@sebasthecrab1345 Yes but knowing that isn't going to stop depression. Yes, I acknowledge the fact that many kids are dealing with worse, but telling that to your kids isn't going to cure their depression. It's gonna make them feel that their feelings don't matter just because others have it worse. I think that would make you a bad parent.
@@maplemaple626 I was depressed for quite a while. I told my parents, and they explained that in the real world nobody cares. They told me to grow up and be mature. So i did. But, i guess that doesnt work on people who are sensitive.
My son attempted suicide at 14. This hit home hard. He thankfully failed his attempt and doing much better today at 16. But I never saw it, especially the night before he attempted. He was acting so happy. He even wanted us all to do a movie night together. The next morning in the hospital I asked him about it and he said something that will forever haunt me. He said, "I just wanted one last nice night together with you before I died." Please talk to your kids, even if they 'seem' okay, especially if their mood changes to positive when that's somewhat out of their normal behavior.
As a Depressed individual, this is a good thing to see everyone sharing these stories & supporting each other without being judgmental, good thing to talk about with your future kids, once you become a parent, also losing your kid this way is very Sad.
I once yelled at my dad that I didn't want to live anymore. He dropped down beside me, said "oh?" and just listened. Ever since that day we have talked about mental health, and 14 years later I am still alive. Because he was there. Listening ❤
Well done for speaking up, letting others know you’re, or you were struggling. Life is a lot harder for some than it is for others, I’ve struggled for over 30yrs to keep the dark thoughts from taking over my mind.
You're so lucky man im so sad and jealous of other people like i always cry when i see comments like this if i do this to my dad hes just gonna beat be to death man.
My dad isn't there for me, but that doesn't mean I'm lonely, I made up for the lost time with him by talking with my mother, but I never talked about my suffering, but if I do need her, I know she is there for me, she always will be, and I trust my mother to fulfill that roll 💜
When I was like 12-13 I told my dad that I was depressed and he literally said "I've never seen you sad, what do you have to be sad about" and I just sat there in silence and he kept doing what he was doing
He is probably ignorant about the topic. Explain to him what depression is and how serious it is and tell him you would like to know if you have it since you've been feeling like that. He doesn't seem like he doesn't care, he just seems ignorant as more grown people are about the topic
The worst thing about me is that, I smile while I’m sad, someone is yelling at me. I just want to live by my own way. I know it’s hard. Parents don’t understand me. I want them to understand that, maybe I don’t have good grades in my exams but I’m alive, I’m with them. And I love them
Parents can be really stupid with their children. You have to talk to them like they are 5 year Olds, we just don't want to believe our child could be experiencing that much pain. But tell them anyway.
It’s a very strange concept to me that a man who runs away from his feelings is considered more of a man than the man who is willing to face his feelings.
I think when a man is looked up to as a rock, for other people to be reassured, it makes a lot of sense that he doesn't show how scared he is. But he needs an outlet somewhere. If you're not a leader then other people are not looking to you for reassurance and you have a lot more freedom (often) to be vulnerable
If men showed such feelings early in our species history, we'd not be here, period. Human nature was this way long before you or I , or anyone, for thousands of years came along. Its foolish and naive to think can evolve overnight. Don't go on like its unnatural for us to be this way.
will 2583147 thought he explained it pretty well. It wasnt that he was running from his feeling but rather he felt it was a way to protect them. It’s a common feeling for a dad to want to protect them from all harm, but there has to be a balance. I’m opposite in that I’m super emotional without being a snowflake. But I’m an artist and I have two little girls so I’m a different animal altogether lol.
Sadly, it appears to me that this video is being watched mostly by teenagers themselves, rather than the parents. But even then, let's make it a good thing. All of you teenagers, my peers, who've watched this video, promise me you'll be good parents who will listen to their kids, be kind and gentle, vulnerable at times. Promise me that.
@@allenzhang4644I won't lie to you. I don't know what will happen in the future. I can't promise that everything will be ok. But I can say two things. My life got a lot better when I was an adult. The things I've done to improve myself and my situation were comforting in their own right, often more so than the actual thing I was working on. Take a step. And then another one. Invite your friends on the journey. Believe that it's possible to feel better, but don't criticize yourself for how you feel now.
likely they also have lost a child to suicide, so to envy them is not the correct reaction. Respect them and send them compassion . Few men would listen to such lecture unless they were suffering from the same pain, the speaker has experienced and still does. I see these men as victims who are trying to understand their loss and what went wrong.
@@linanicolia1363 I guess those fathers are the ones who don't want to lose their kids, and I too envy them because my father would never do that thinking 'my kids are alright'
@@MrIroh-hw6qq it's not being selfish. it just hurts so much you cannot live anymore. if people thought like you then it's the family who would be the most selfish, not taking care of their child enough
I’m typing this in tears right now… i thought about taking my life earlier this year… I’m trying and trying to get better, it feels like no one understands me, family and friends turning against me for no reason, i started hitting the gym and cut certain people off that was bringing negative energy towards my life. As of today I’m still depressed but I’m getting better, i don’t wanna go down that path again.. it’s very dark, thank you if you read this 🖤
if you need help go talk to your Friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help..
Leave the place and go get your separate life...don't even think about anyone.......go away from all expectations....live lonely life..goooo...I suggest you goooo ...after enlightenment if you come back you will be a better of yourself
My older brother took his own life, he did two terms in Afghanistan and he was never the same. He used to talk to us a lot, I have 3 brothers, we would all huddle up and he would talk to us. How we need to help each other grow but no one looked at him and thought he had a problem, he had PTSD. He was always the strong one, always. I miss him a lot and it still hurts. I'm the eldest now and I constantly talk to my brothers. About little things and big things, whatever it is, I get a call before my mom and dad does. I make it a point I'm there for them. RIP Vince, I got our familys back now. See you in heaven.
That's a sad story and I'm terribly sorry for your loss. Stay strong and stand firm, the torch has been passed onto you now. And then, one day, you will meet your brother again. Sooner than you think!
My son committed suicide 9 years ago and I can tell you my story is almost opposite. We talked about everything. He only left me out of that one conversation the one we needed to have the most. He overly cared about the things that were going on in the world. At 19 he would still crawl into my bed and snuggle. He still felt like a failure even though everyone liked him and always told him how smart and amazing he was. I never saw the signs because I was looking for withdrawal and loss of interest. I miss his hugs and his love everyday.
I'm 34, I have a 3 yr old and my wife's pregnant with our 2nd. I lost my mother when I was 12, my father became aggressive and abusive to the point he would yell scream, put his hands around my throat and hit me. There were a lot of times I thought about ending it. One time in particular were I had my gun out on the table while I was on my computer. I was 27 at thay time. I spent hours crying going back and forth on if I should do it or not. Obviously I didn't do it. But, that was the toughest moment of my life, and I am glad I did not go through with it! If you read this and your at a point where you believe it's all over for you, don't do it, it can get better, it won't be easy at all especially if you have no one, but it can get better I promise you!
As a teenager myself, I feel that most kids don't tell their parents anything because they don't understand. Parents always say that they were also once teenagers, and they have been through the same stuff, but your teenagers were parents decades ago, and society changes. They simply won't fully understand what it means to be a teenager in the 21st century. Edit: So it's been over a year since I wrote this comment, and I'm getting a lot of encouraging replies as well as some negative ones. I've learnt quite a bit about coping with stress and mental issues in the past few months, and I think I've reached a point where I can give advice to others, so here it is: You need to find a motive. A reason to wake up every morning. It could be something as small as a hobby or as big as your career. But you need to find something that you just enjoy doing. You could make the argument that you enjoy "watching TV" or "Playing Video-games", but those only give temporary, artificial happiness. True happiness is accumulated over longer periods of time. I hope this helped, because it definitely helped me.
I told my mother (almost) all of my worries, and it helped me a lot. Also don't be afraid of a therapy. After my experiences, you can tell your therapist literally everything that's in your mind. Thanks for reading! :)
Well I feel there is a lot of truth to what he's saying. It's like he said, it's not that they want you to fix something, sometimes it's enough to just sit and listen, maybe share your own experience so they know they're not alone. My brother is still here thank God and he was strong enough to get help himself after years of struggling but my dad still cannot see his faults and admit them which is sad, because that messed up his relationship with my brother. If he just took the time to just listen maybe he'd be able to change and mend their relationship but I'm afraid that's a long ways off. Anyway I agree with what this man is saying. And this does not just go for dad's, it goes for parents in general
You’re fully wrong bc the school decades ago was waaaaaaaaaaaay worse than now. Most of teachers were hurting them mentally and even physically. I’m teenager myself and parents life was just way worse
@@RED115 please don't ever think suicide is an option, we all have times when we lack all motivation, you might be depressed and all you can do for now is stay in bed or cry all day but believe me when I tell you IT GETS BETTER. Try to talk to a close friend, or your mother, a sibling. And even if they didn't help, don't think you're not alone , cause you're not even if you don't see it. Every parent loves their children even more than their own life so don't do something that will cause them such an immense pain. The possibilities in life are endless and you'll met someone who makes you feel loved and appreciated, fine. Even though my words may not be significant to you I'm sure as I'm alive that you'll get better, just give yourself a chance and time will do the rest
I constantly encourage my nine year old son to keep being brave and tell me when he’s struggling. He’s in counselling at the moment, because he opened up to me about to how he’s been struggling with anger lately. If I am ever busy, and he wants to talk to me because he’s sad, I will always drop everything for him. The other day, I was meant to meet my friend in town but my son wanted to talk, so I was 2 hours late to meet my friend, who was beyond annoyed at me, but who cares. Kids need to know that you will always be there for them the moment they need you.
Ya but some parents don't want to talk about the pain a kid may feel and try to understand that they aren't attacking you they just want to resolve something and they feel that is attacking them but they want to heal from it instead if you done something to them that upset them fix it resolve be honest with both you but obviously mistakes happen and you'll have to talk a put judgement and go with an approach with them not anyone else they are who matter and your fixing it and being real and viewing it from their perspective and let them speak what how why and sit and think about was said to you and be honest open real truthful with them and figure it out if it takes a few days so be it or a week
I just want you to know Jesus loves you so much. oh, how loved you are. oh how loved you are. suicide is never the answer. Jesus died for you, that you may never experience this pain or loneliness again. please, give Jesus a chance. your life will change. I love you and Jesus loves you even more.
I said "I'm fine" because my mom had enough on her plate being a single mom with two kids and because my little sister had more needs than me (or so I thought). I thought I was doing everybody a favor by being low-maintenance. I was praised for it. Plus I had good grades, friends... on the surface I was alright. Then in my early twenties it all unraveled. I lost 10 kg, stopped sleeping, spent my days self-deprecating and crying. My mother was in utter shock, she never knew what went on in my head. Teens: talk to your parents and make them listen. Parents: don't dismiss the feelings of your kids even if you don't understand them.
Same. I'm living with my mom. She is all I have and my only reason to live. I had depression for 3 years and now I can't hide it anymore. Its killing her slowly and I feel like I'm losing her.
@@terryjoevids we have to focus on what we do have and not what we don't have and the hardest thing to do is stay positive but you have to try and try and try and keep trying because your happiness matters and it should matter to you . I hope you find a new reason to wake up and smile everyday friend you maybe the reason some one else is smiling as well . I wish you the best and send you uplifting and positive energy ☺️
Critical Tweaker how would a woman say different if it takes two to make the child then two people realistically are responsible and accountable for that child
Yeah, my little 7 weeks old baby is sleeping in moms arms right now and I‘m in the living room crying my eyes out. I will not fail him and raise him well.
@Cookie, yes, think back to your own childhood and remember what it was like. I've told this a hundred times on here, but my parents drowned when I was barely 14. There was no counseling in 1960, and if it hadn't been for my mother's big family, we would have been orphans. My brother and I could have taken a very different path than we did, but somehow made it through. I look back now, not to when I was a child, but as an adult, at things I did that I'm very ashamed of and I wonder if there is a connection to losing my parents. At my age, I don't want to dredge up that horrible time in my life, so I won't go to counseling. Some people aren't as fortunate to have close family to step in and take care of you.
When I was 12 I know a lot of things around me, but my parents always never encourage me to know more, they used to say "you're too young stop putting your nose into everything, we know better", guess what? They have experiences but they don't know anything better, I cried every night and try to show it, they never say a word, they are type of ppl who thought depressing is a joke and autism could be cure. I mean, they raise me up thinking I'm still in their era so it's hard to blame them. Anyway, I'm in my late teenage now and they have accepted that I know a lot of things, and seldomly ask how did you know all of these, what I answer is I know them for a long time but you guys never give me chance to show it.
*" How they feel is how they feel. You can't fix how they feel. "* this line. I really wish my father knew that. Because to him, everything is a choice. I *chose* to feel this way I *chose* to let myself fall into Depression. I *chose* to get diagnosed. It was never like that.
No offense to anyone who has had a family member kill themselves. However, if you are seriously considering suicide, watch this video by google searching, “Son kills himself after father throws gun on table with frustration LIVELEAK”. And I want you to ask yourself, “Am I really a depressed character, OR AM I SURROUNDED BY ASSHOLES!?” I am a school teacher and I notice, the most depressed kids come from the least relational families. Don’t kill yourself just because your dad is an a work-aholic and your mom is a lazy slug. -Surround yourself with positive people that truly value you for you. -find something to look forward to at the end of every day. -Don’t let your sparkle be snuffed out by the sad fate that you were born into a family that doesn’t adequately display how STOKED THEY ARE ABOUT YOU! Finally read a book called “Ancient Paths” by an author named Mr. Hill, and you just may discover your sadness doesn’t originate with you but you are a victim of your parents sins of commission or omission. You just may realize you have been the victim of emotional neglect from the earliest ages.
"My children never saw me cry" perhaps that is the reason why they did not express their feelings. I remember that I used to see my father cry when he watched movies, or even when he saw me after a long time, and that made me understand that it is okay to express your feelings and show yourself vulnerable with the people who love you, that's what we makes humans and is something beautiful
It's okay to cry, it's not a sign of weakness. I returned from a tour of duty in a war zone and my wife and 4 year old son met me at the airport. As soon as my son saw me he screamed out "it's my daddy" and ran towards me at full pelt. I ditched my kit bags and dropped to one knee just in time to catch him as he launched himself at me. I knelt there hugging him, crying my eyes out while the people in the concourse clapped. A special moment to be sure.
Grumpy wasn't fine, is there a way to figure it out, have a talk about it, find time to know how your feeling, Ryan said goodbye, prevention is the cure,is the parent responsible for that tragedy, suicide note found, did you fail as a father, do you regret it, listen to how they feel, dad couldn't fix it, blame resilience is a cop-out, he didn't have the time to share with the kid, he is sorry,his attitude is changing🆘🚩⛔✅💲
I did hide my problems from my sons but it got to a stage where I started to open up to them and visa versa. Kids aren't stupid and knew I was struggling. We have a very open relationship and I think that helped when my oldest through a trauma has PTSD, social phobia etc and he was at times not wanted to live but we talked and talked and I listened.
@Gomes if a man is not told to man up, he will never change. To be able to lead u need small harshment because men after all their leaders and leaders need to man up.
and what about yourself? You’re worth it, worth of love, patience and understanding Mal! Stay Strong and don’t be scared to speak up, there’s so many of us, you’re not alone🤎
As a child I suffered from depression and anxiety. My father was the absolute best, he did express a little bit about his life and how hard it was and I think that was the only reason I was able to open up a bit to him and still be here. I never told him I suffered from depression and anxiety because I saw how hard working and exhausted he was all the time. I’m 34, married, in therapy and on medication and I couldn’t be happier. I have been open with my child about questions they have about my mental health and why I have medication and a therapist, I make it appropriate for their age of course. I hope it helps them with knowing they can come talk to me and be vulnerable. I will tell my story. Sending you good vibes.🌻
As a teenager I tried to commit suicide. I acted out, no one noticed my sunny behaviour change. Back then it wasn't discussed. I'm now heading towards 70. All I needed was someone to hear me & help. Thankyou for all you do. Condolences for your Son.
God bless you and the fact you made it to see 70. I am 39 and have suffered with severe depression off and on sincerity my teens but it's mostly been minor. Right mow I'm majorly depressed and it's sad because you don't have to be a teenager for your family not to listen and to feel as if no one cares which is due to the fact we always need family an friendship (I sadly don't have) but I'm wiser and older enough now to lay EVERYTHING down and tell my family what it is and is going to be.
I’m a teenager, and tried to commit suicide several times in several places. I’ve faced a lot of things, but I’ve never faced love of my parents. My parents never told me “I love you, I’m proud of you,”. They’ve never had a deep conversation with me that would’ve helped me to trust them. I’m not talking to them. Everyday I come home I go into my room directly. I lock myself in and don’t leave for hours, and when I leave it’s just for eating something. Every time they’re having a family time with my brother I don’t join them. Cause I don’t feel safe near them. I get anxious, I get stressed when I’m with them. I don’t feel ok or good with them. I don’t think this is the way a child should feel near their parents. I really tried to talk to them, but because I don’t feel safe and listened I just can’t. They’ve never let me to go alone somewhere and be with my friends alone. They never let me to go to parties or change something in my life if I want to. They never let me do anything that would help me feel better, cause they don’t like it (Color my hair, do rearrangement, buy new things for room and other stuff). Every time I hear other other people telling me that “ oh, I told everything that happened to my parents” or “I trust and love my parents so much they’re so good” I want to cry. Cause I know that I’m not able to say those words by heart, or just say them as a real thing. That what makes me feel sad. In my every birthday when I blow the candles I make a wish. And that wish is “ I wish my parents will understand me and be very good with me, I wish I’ll have a good relationship with them”. Writing it in tears.
@@firuzaaliyeva1023 firstly Big Hugs. I do understand how you feel. I urge you to call a helpline or speak to a counsellor. No child need go through this alone. 1 day you'll be old enough to leave, always bear that in mind. Maybe find an online support group? Your words moved me to tears as it closely resembles my own experiences. Never had we are proud of you, or we love you. A teacher took my acting out & gave me knowledge on Human Rights. To this day I remember the difference that made to my life. I started to write in a journal. It helped. Life will get better. You will feel better. Many blessings
I hope that didn’t happen to you. My best friend lost a son to teen suicide. It was heart wrenching and ever so permanent. He was a year younger than my youngest son and only 16 at the time. He would be 25 today if he had lived.
This Dad never intentionally set out to hurt his son. He was acting out of love and a strong sense to protect his family. He should not be blamed. There’s no perfect parent out there. This Dad is doing everything he can to make a difference. Be kind to him.
My son so different today than he was in Middle School when he was bullied. He was lucky enough to get involved in endurance sports with caring coaches and teachers. He learned to put his pain into that, to challenge himself, to know his inner strength. I'm sure there are other ways, but that's where his resilience started, and I thank God he got into that instead of drugs or other destructive things.
@@notmyfirstdaycooton7040 Well good for him. I don't do drugs never had, I've been depressed since I was 11 I am recieving help, but my family puts me down I've also always been stressed so it's hard for me. I try but I don't want to try anymore I just want to leave this place.
When I talked to my dad about having a plan to end my life he said, “ok just let me know before you do it” and it’s stuck with me for so long. Please, parents just show your kids that you care.
I am not a father and just hearing about this made my heart shatter I'm so sorry that your father only said that to you reading your comment really hit me I'm glad you are here and still going on just remember you at least have two people who do care about you at all times
Klya only thing I can say to why he said what he said was due to the fact of your Dad hurting just like you were at the time of your comment cuz there's no way happy individual would say what he said to you unless they're truly hurting inside, I'm sorry you were treated that way stay strong you are very a special individual ❤️🙏
I think your dad is joking. My mom did that too. She’s blaming me for other people’s problems. It was stuck on me for so long until I cried and told her. She said she wasn’t really serious when she said that. Fortunately, she apologized. We took things to seriously. Maybe be shouldn’t. Tell your dad.
So much grace in this dad ... we all knew it wasn't his fault his son fell in a moment of weakness ... there's no handbook or guidebook as to how you should teach your kids. As men we just learn to be tough, protect ourselves, and one day protect our families. Look at the problem the other way. How many of us, would have died for (sorry, bad pun) having a dad like Jason Reid? Instead we have POS dads that are physically abusive, verbally abusive, unfaithful, addicted to cigarettes or alcohol or gambling, or just a dead beat ... and we are still here, wanting a better life for our kids, working so much harder to not be that POS dad / mom / home we came from ... I don't disavow, and I don't know what problem Ryan had, but man, if only this kid knew what pain he'd have left his family behind. There's no winners here. What happened made everyone a loser. And I thank you Jason Reid for sharing your story. Please don't be too harsh on yourself.
I feel so bad for him. So many parents don't realize that some of the things they do affect their child. Some parents say and do things that hurt their kids so badly but dont realize untill its to late. Alot of parents think that young kids cant be depressed or that they are begging for attention. Its not the case. Any parents just because we are not adults, just because we dont pay tax, just because we dont have kids. Dosint mean that we cant be depressed.
I'm a father of 5 kids, and I've never cried so hard for someone I didnt know. I love my kids with all my heart. I'm not sure I could be as strong as this father.
The amount of courage it takes to admit that you neglected your suicidal child is truly one of the most brave and incredible things I’ve seen. I can’t imagine the amount of therapy recovery has taken but I am thankful for your story.
We urge you to contact a local suicide crisis hotline if you are having suicidal thoughts. Please know that there are people who have faced the same hardships that you are facing, and can help. It gets better.
I still do sometimes. I have attempted taking my own life once before and i am sorry for what you had to go through. Its not easy at all to express how you feel or to confine to some one. I really felt your stance and i can say i know how you or your son felt but i can say that i have bottled so much over the years and it lead me to sin and suicide. Thank you for this video
The fact that 3.2k ppl thumbed down this is astonishing. Wow.
@@AmericanGal_69 Say's alot about the mindset of today's society lacking the morals ,compassion caring,and kindness for all people.
@@terrysorange975 I am so sorry to you that you went through a lot. Try to focus on one little thing you did or happened to you in your life.And that thing will be be a lifesaver and mindchanger for you.Take goog care of yourself🌺🌺
@@safinasliving day by day i try to stay strong and have more empathy and compassion live more of a balanced life. Thank you for your comment
No one takes suicide seriously until it’s too late
That's just modern society these days. You dont see femenists talking about Male suicide rates
@@suhcheuy268 agreed
Very true
Fax
@@suhcheuy268 i mean you do, you just don't see the most vocal ones talking about it. Sadly, its the vocal minority that attracts the most attention
No one searched this, but we’re all glad we watched it
Unfortunately, I did
Yes!
Im in tears, alone and confussed. What i take from this; we all have a story and your story needs to be shared.
My story IS NOT finishing now...
Mr Seattle someone, your not alone mate.
I hope you are well and not just fine???
Its your story mate.
Own it..and share it.
Bryan
Alexander Ball I searched for this.
The Seattle Someone same
"People don't fake depression, they fake being okay. Remember that. Be kind" - Robin Williams
Must've been a cry for help no one picked up on
Well said my friend, well said.
You can’t fake depression because if you were to do that then you must be scarred deeply in some fundamental way so then you are depressed
@Unknown550 right? It can be faked, cry for help maybe but not necessarily depressed.
Na nowadays teens fake depressed a whole lot more than before
The fact that Ryan’s final thought was to help others suffering like him is so beautiful
He was kind
Keep spreading love and awareness! You are beautiful as well ❤️
😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@DeeLee-p8c😂😂😂
@@DeeLee-p8cYou know what, you're a jackass
He couldn't save his son's life. But that kid definitely saved his.
Yeah !
@i'm happy. wait what?? Calm down bro....are you suicidal? What happened?
@i'm happy. Are you here 😌
@i'm happy. hey you okay?
i'm happy. Hey man, you alright? You know everyone here cares about you.
My father was verbally abusive. It’s a miracle I didn’t kill myself .I still hate myself at times . I’m now 67
Stay strong, that's what you did and not everyone has that power
Mr Paul Grimm me too. i’m 17. how did you move on.
Lionel Sanchez this is really disappointing to hear someone say.
You're probably married and have your own family now, I hear that heals things so why do u still think that way?
I am very sorry to hear that, I am fighting with this kind of perpetrator introject, too.
But I learned this: you are never alone and the way someone abuses you, even if it's your roots, it is THEIR calling card, not yours. They aren't strong enough to deal with themselves and think they need to make someone small to release frustration. All that abuse is one huge lie and we all deserve better.
Your father was broken before you came into the picture, and he didn't fix himself, and neither did the adults before or around him. We can only move forward and learn from that.
The worst part is most of the people watching this video are the teens
Yeah😭😢true
For real
True
You caught me
it means that we have to be a better parent someday
As a former police officer, I didn't realize suicidal people were actually the bravest amongst all human beings! I saved many..... but one life lost is too many. I talked other people's kids out of it during calls for service! Unconditional love ❤️ is what the world needs more of and compassion ❤️ 💙
I’m on the Fire/Ems side (I was on the medic). It sucks. But you hear the same thing. “I had no idea they were hurting…”. Covid destroyed so many people. House wives, grandparents, teens. All ages. Taking their lives. A couple of years after that garbage. I went out on pension. All of that and 20 years of everything else. Finally blew my top. “Funny” thing is, the dept decided that mental health for us might be needed. We were so slammed every day/night. We were treated as robots. Drop that dying child off and get in-service in 20 minutes. F’ed up a lot of us. Long rant. Thanks for what yall did. We got to leave those scenes after 30 mins- 1 hour. You all stayed for the duration. Either way, we all gotta stick together. Went off on a tangent there. But my current state and all of the suicides we worked for the parents (as long as agonal respiration) even with no chance of survival. I could go on. But I’m rambling. Take care man. Reply if you want to holla. -Scott
They are brave enough to leave their pain behind and end it.
I’m tired of living. People are so mean to me
@@Myholyplaylistfind a way. There will be one, just for you.
Just know, If nobody does, I love you. Things will come to pass, and you may not be ok; but know… that for the time being, you have survived the worst.
@@AsaErickson-xw3dz but u don’t know me
*Hey stranger,*
*If today all you did was just hold yourself together, I'm proud of you.*
Nice one,thank You all the way from faraway Norway 🤗
I’m almost a year clean from self harm :)
@@kittycatdays8719 Celebrations!! :)) Soo happy for you!
I started to cry now at this comment. I feel so very lonely, sick and alone. I have been pleading God to come and fortify me because all people left me behind. (Except maybe my mum and dad, but I am already 31... they can give me momentarily help but I cannot understand why no relation of mine works on the longer. I am putting mch effort. And I have been going a year to psychoterapy, paying each time a day's earnings and accepting the faults she pointed out in me, having been working hard on them.)
@@irentoth8107 I feel your pain girl😘-all the way from faraway Norway 🤗
suicide is such a big killer and its only spoken about until a life is lost.
not really, it is spoken and can be any time someone want's for no reason :v
harry bradley life has the biggest kill count, yeah what about that?
No your mind is the killer
Sooooo true! 😢
It's spoken some times when it happens, but no change happens because the people don't try to change the future of it happening again. It's like the history saying, if you don't learn the leason you're doomed to repeat it.
" Dead people receive more flowers than the living ones because regret is stronger than gratitude " Anne Frank.
can't believe a teenage girl wrote something that deep. Marvellous
Such a deep and true quote
sounds like something out of an old wise man who already knows the world
@@basicbeing7086 it was a teenage girl
@@basicbeing7086 yeah, but I guess it's her, the Germany situation taught her such stuff that we may never understand.
Sooner or later everyone finds out that life is just pure torture sometimes
Sometimes? 😂
@@Weezyfan0306 it was never meant to be easy but yeah that's why it's called life ..... We overcome hardships to feel little joy ..
Sometimes? I would sum it up as first 20 years are manageable… but after that unless your a trust fund kid it’s an absolute grind shiteshow
It always depends on the lens you look through. The mind is a crazy space sometimes. The fact that you are here means you are seeking to learn, give yourself props because most peeps ignore it. I hope you find peace.❤
I lost a friend to suicide. Last time I had a chat with him I made him laugh.
Edit: I’ve lost another one, didn’t really know him much but we had chats nearly everyday. Both died from bullying......
May he rest in peace🙏💜 I know he was happy to have you as a friend 🤧
Rest in peace
❤
OOOF
@@dodo-ch9bx that is really rude you know.
As a teen here is a pro tip.
Whenever your talking to your kids don't make it end in a scolding. The kid needs help not another scolding. Nothing hurts more than being scolded by the person you are seeking help from
There's one thing that hurts more:
Scolding and then saying 'I care about you.' Then repeating this sequence.
Ig it depends on how one looks at it. I find it somewhat funny.
@@staircasefunction9124 Happened far too many times to me this year, it's pointless to talk to my parents for help now. I don't know what to do anymore.
and dont get mad at them when they refuse to tell you anything, or hide emotions, it’s only going to make it worse
my dad in general
@@calm1tbh I can relate. Try to acknowledge yourself. It may help.
“I'm just a guy who lost his kid.”that hit me.
straight up. Said he wasn't a psychologist or an expert he was just a dude who lost his kid😭
It's so heartbreaking... suicide is such a horrific thing ;(
I am so sorry. Hope you find peace and strength to move on. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
💔😭
I am a dad with two teenage sons.i am a strict dad but i love my sons so much n spend much time with them.but it is not easy dealing with them.there were tough arguments, cries and tears but thank God i can say that i am sure that my sons will not do any horrible things that worry can worry me because since their early ages i have been teaching them about what is right n what is wrong before God.if our children know the truths of God, we as parents will have the least worry about our kids.
With my son I could see he wasn't fine. I asked him always if he was ok. He would show me a broad smile and would say, I'm good, mama. Sometimes we spoke and he told me how hard life was for him. We tried helping him with making life nicer,easier, happier for him. And sometimes it worked, other times it didn't. After lots of tests through psychiatrist and specialists my son was diagnosed with schizophrenia in 2014. In May 2016 he lost his battle to this horrendous illness. I knew my son wasn't okay and still I couldn't stop him from jumping that day 😔
I feel you
❤️
I'm so sorry for your lost. You guys were good parents to your son. I hope you and your husband are doing fine.
I’m so so so sorry you are going through this. 🫂
Many commenting most viewers aren't parents. But most viewers who aren't parents today, will be good ones in the future
Lets hope
Fax
Good point
Im a grandmother
Hopefully better parents ❤
To be honest I just say "I'm fine" because I don't want my mom to start criticizing every single one of my life decisions, saying I never go out, saying how dirty my room is, pointing out how my grades has been dropping, and just killing my self esteem in general.
Overly critical parents are excruciating to live with. Does she ever show any compassion to you? I hope so. Sometimes when a parent constantly criticizes you it’s a projection of what they feel about themselves.
Stay strong. Rise above it. Someday you can leave and lead your own life.
You will be okay.
Tbh everything is same with me too. Although I don't have my own room , I have to sleep with my mom. You won't believe but I can't even cry out. I just cry silently :')
J-time
What you have just said is what is needed for all Parents to hear.
Many parents are themselves under tremendous pressure in today's society and just don't realise that they are not taking time to calm down and really Listen to the problems their children or teens are going through in the outside World as WELL as at home if no one takes time to All calm down and really talk and listen to each other.
You would be a perfect spokesperson for all others as you know how it is !
I wish I had listened more to my teenager and UNDERSTOOD their anguish as you have just pointed out the mistakes I made and to which I'm deeply sorry for.
Thank you for your brave and honest depiction of what it feels like when you are put under pressure by a parent or parents.
God Bless You and hope all you wish for comes true. 🙏
They are so blind thinking that kids are happy and dont have problems, that dont see how do we feel LITERALLY DYING, D Y I N G inside
Im 14, I shouldn't even think about killing myself, but I do
@@BiaRosy Once there was a time when I thought that I should better die. But now I'm like why to take my life just for two fools. If they don't care, I won't either. Now, all I wanna do is to leave this house and move on to somewhere far away from them and find a job and live on my own. I don't care if I'll be poor. I'll try my best and live on my own at least 🙂
Instead of asking my kids, “How was school?”. I ask “what was the best part AND worst part about your day?”. it has revolutionized our daily conversations. I also share mine.
very good idea, thanks for sharing
Thank you!
Why didn´t I have that idea when my kids were young???? REALLY VERY SMART way to sharpen one´s awareness... AND share your own thoughts too... 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👈 ...
so true. thanks for sharing
Nice Mam . My mom from starting , when we were young she told me and my sister that whatever happens in school , whether good or bad , you will share it to Me. And we always used to share our school experience everyday , even if we got scolding from teachers (if we did a mistake ) , we would tell her. My mother listens to them till now , Im 16+ now 😀 , it really helped me . I became really depressed during my early teen age years when I was 11 or 12 , because of bullying . My mom really helped me to overcome this 😭😭😭 I love her so much 😀❤️
My message is that asking these questions from your kids will really make a deep bond between both of you . May you stay happy always and remain healthy . You are the best mom ever ✨
It's not this dads fault. He thought he was doing the right thing. And now he is making a huge difference. Thanks.
I don't dare fault this man for his son's suicide. On the other hand, thinking that you are doing the right thing when you are making a mistake doesn't necessarily mean that the consequences are not your fault.
As a parent you are responsible for your child. While you may not be doing the wrong thing intentionally you still have to live with the consequences of your decisions
No, this man would disagree with you. It was his fault, at least he was a huge part of it. You can not change what you do not acknowledge. The way he lived his life was toxic. He did not demonstrate how a person manages difficulties in life. He failed to provide his son the tools he needed. That is the message here. Please reflect on what he is telling you. Be human, not superhuman. When your kids say "fine", ask them what is fine. Then ask them what is not going well and listen. Make it acceptable to be less than perfect. None of us are, so those that seem that way are just really good actors.
@@LeahcimKennelthanks for making me more depressed
Finally someone gets it that "I'm fine" doesn't really mean "I'm fine"
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help.
@@matheodaniel1364 Though I never really got the use of “ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem”, are not all problems by that same standard also temporary. Is it saying only a temporary solution is valid? If someone were to perceive being caged and tortured is that sentence any motivation to preserve? To which the hope of life seems lesser than death.
If everyone who needed help wouldnt say im fine all the time, that'd be great. Just like how women tell you "its ok" or "im fine" when they are totally not and will later call you insensitive for not recognizing that its not really ok
@@matheodaniel1364 most of the people choose suicidal main intentions is not ending their life but to end their pain.
So why would you say fine if your not?? It makes no sense
My son hanged himself at 21.I found him I tried CPR.I was too late.I closed his eyes and held him.His mum died of cancer 6 years before at 43.He missed his mother too much.
I hope u find peace on life💙
That's tragic I'm so sorry.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I struggle with suicidal thoughts myself. It took me until I was in my 30s to be able to tell my mother. At least in my case it's often hard to even talk when I'm at that point. I've been to levels where I was to screwed up to kill myself. With that being said please don't blame yourself. Depression is an illness. And his suicide was no more your fault or his then if he had a heart attack in the middle of the night and wasn't able to seek help in time. And for anyone else reading this keep this in mind. One of the most dangerous times for a depressed person is right when they start feeling better. It can take a long time to fully come out of an depressive episode. If they don't pull it together quick enough their negative emotions often turn the returning energy towards self harm.
I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope you will find your peace
I know this might sound dramatic but last month I tried to commit suicide by hang myself but shits doesn't go well. Today, I watched this video and look at this comment somehow I saw the image of my father as if the picture changed to his face. I wondered what if I did what I wanted to do last month? What if I am no longer exist? How my father would react? Honestly, I don't know what would happen in the future, but if I'm given with a strength, I hope I won't do the same mistakes.
Thank you for sharing your story, your son was a strong person too.
I'm just a 16 years old boy
If i ever become a father
I'll surely talk openly with my future children ...
:)
Brother , besides this you make them feel that there is life is important too. 🙂
Me too!
me too
Me too!
Pray your future children want to listen to u and not d internet
My dad is the only reason im still alive. He told me about his life and i always felt like i could be honest with him. Even with the dark stuff. I still struggle a lot, but i wouldn't be here without him
Your father gave you life, not once, but twice. Be grateful.
“People cry at funerals, because regret is stronger than gratitude”.
And because someone's dead...
So true
Too real ;-;
Dude give Anne Frank a credit mn .......
r/Im14andthisdeep
It seems like school is a massive catalyst for childhood issues.
Sphynx Mumma Which is why I think there should be no school but online!
@@fireyblazemaster3253 I was homeschooled my entire life and it's not all it's cracked up to be. And I have taken online classes through college and some professors dont care about their online student's so unless teachers receive special training all online classes could cause more problems than they solve.
I think school appears to be the problem because it's the first occasion you are leaving your home and face society. It's not about the school itself. Society is full of d***heads, and you need to be ready and prepared.
Childhood is sort of a molding process. It’s where are your damaged kinks develop and it’s up to you later on in life if you want to properly tackle your deep rooted trauma
if there was no school it would be something else. It just happens that every kid goes to school (in our society at least..)
My son is 15 years old. Then one day he stopped playing games with his friends and was mostly in his room. I didn’t realized that he was depressed. He was telling his cousins and friends about suicide. Luckily someone told us what happened and we talked to him. It is serious.
Teach your son how to fight. Whatever or whoever comes into our lives, we must use our brain first to think logically to make rational decision. Anger, love and affection are emotions that can easily cloud reason.
I'm 16 and it's very tough to say how we feel at getting bullied at school etc
@@rayschindler7451 I can feel that, but forcing you to tell it to your parents will solve this problem for sure. You're not weak, you're strong, so don't be afraid to tell it.
@No Out!et that's true friendship
@Ray Schindler in my country bullies are not a thing thats common and for that i thank god, but for you my friend i must tell you never give in to their pressure and open up with someone whoever that may be ! If not your parents than your grandparents since sometimes they listen more but never say you are worthless
My husband killed himself a year ago. He couldn’t bear letting anyone down, and he had had a crisis at work and thought he had let everyone down. He hurt many people. He had no idea how many people loved him. I miss him.
I am so sorry for you lost. God bless you
That is my situation now am hopeless and confused
@Melinda-i9gquite frankly no, that’s not the most selfish thing . The most selfish thing is the world full of women that demand men NEVER show any god dam feelings . If we do , we’re weak and beta . While you’re chanting toxic masculinity, watch how many men die because of your ridiculous standards .
I'm 17, no friends, miserable and just feel hopeless, killing myself is a big cloud in my mind, but I know that if i do, I would cause more pain to others around me than the pain I'm feeling right now. I still have hope I'll get better soon.
If you feel the need to talk to anyone you can contact me.
im in the same but im turning 16 april 5 i have one friend 2 parents and 3 siblings and i know it would be selfish to take my life out of theirs so i wont theres always something to live for remember that
Feel free to contact me at any time my dude.
My insta is @aliwestboasty I’m always here for u. Feel free
I usually do not write on social media. However just want to share something with you guys.
I am father of three young man 24,22,20... also a veteran with 25 years of service as a Special Forces operator, meaning I have seeing a lot. Here is my quote " we are not depressed, we are distracted ".... do something for yourself: write 10 things that you are very grateful, after you finish, think about it and put them on order, most important first and so on. Write that list on a piece of paper and put the paper by your bed, so when you wake up that is the first thing that you see. When you wake up, read, think and be grateful.....just by starting your day like that, the perspective is different, is a positive one.
That paper is a working document , you can add more, you can change the position, etc, etc.
I am currently on Afghanistan but you can reach me if you want.... just by telling where I am I can talk you that your problems are minimum compared to where I see around here, think about it.
Buen Camino.
Burying a child is one of the worst pains a parents will ever have to suffer
The smaller the coffin, the heavier it gets
I buried my father who died last year April😭😭😭
I'm 21 now
Left with my grandpa mom n 13 y/o brother
Dying daily is the worst pain the child has to suffer , knowing that no one will listen
one of my classmates passed away a few days ago. i feel bad for his parents..
@@rajab4187 💖be strong my guy. Hold on the rope of allah.
"I don't want you to fix me, I just want you to listen"
... can't even remember the last time I was heard
Dear friend Jesus loves you
I want my life to end
@@TheRingmasteR23 I’m sorry to hear that and we are complete strangers, but every life matters. People will listen-if they don’t, I know I will. For whatever reason, don’t throw your life away, it’s a privilege and a journey. Things will get better if you keep fighting. There’s so much left to explore and discover in this world. If you can’t continue living for yourself, choose to live for others. Whatever you’re going through must be miserable, but others around you may be going through something too. After having experienced being at your lowest point, strive to pick yourself back up in slow steps. You must be hoping there will be a ray of light-a person to take your hand and guide you, but one less person will be able to fill that role for someone else if you take your life. Avoidance does nothing, but perpetuate the never ending cycle of hopelessness. Anyways, I wish you and anyone who reads this success. Keep fighting to live. Many fight to survive, don’t waste this opportunity.
We hear you
Bless you Jayme....I think I know how you feel
No one left this video without tears 💔😭😭
"how they feel is how they feel, you can't fix how they feel." THANK YOU
yes.
Well idk how everyone is feeling but I hope EVERYONE READING THIS is feeling great, Because you are great and unique in positive ways(: Blessings to you reading this.
Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity.
Simone Weil
@Krazy WhiteBoy He can't fix how we feel. It's us ourselves who need to find a way to fix it, with support from others and outside help.
@Krazy WhiteBoy ah yea ok, sorry i misunderstood 😅
He wasn’t the best dad, and he couldn’t save his son. But he has already saved many more.
I don't think he would have, if there wasn't the note his son left.
@LawofAttraction What?
@LawofAttraction this man is trying to help others, he can’t turn back time but he is telling the truth. As he said please learn from the things I didn’t do right.
I can tell you from my own experience my son completed Suicide 30 years ago this month, there is not a day I wish I could have saved him. I understand this mans heartache.
@LawofAttraction How?
@LawofAttraction i can only feel sorry for you, and hope that you see the sadness inside of you dear. May you find a good path in life instead of this one filled with hatred and rage, try to stop hating your self, forgive yourself.
I really wish that my dad had realized this. He did so much to provide for me in material ways, but was so distant from me on an emotional level.
Same . I can relate to this 100%
My parents were both distant AND didn't provide for me. I was born just to inherit family name, they didn't even want me. Imagine not being wanted but still being planned pregnancy.
@@phoenixangel5073 That sucks man
Yeahh
More power to Sean. We all fighting silent battles.
I get bullied online everyday about the way i look and i had to take happy pills because of how it affected my mental health. Bullied since i was 6 years old until high school too. Its easy for people to tell me to ignore until they read what people write to me everyday
I get sick of people saying to just ignore bullies when they obviously never were bullied or they wouldn't say that EVER. Ignoring it is not fixing any problems!
hey, im sorry to hear that people bully you and have been doing so since you were 6 years old. I was bullied from elementary school until i was 22 years old. I started taking happy pills when I was a sophomore in high school until I was 23 so just about 7-8 years. im now doing a lot better and in graduate school studying to be a therapist. you dont deserve to be bullied, no one does. people can be so ruthless especially online in the comments since they can hide behind a screen. i am wishing you the best! this might sound stupid but stay strong and be genuine to yourself! 🤍
Your profile picture shows that you are beautiful young lady. Hard to believe that you are not fighting the men away.
@@KC-Cyaneyed and phone
out of curiosity checked your channel. hard to believe you're bullied because of your looks.
i'm not saying they don't address the way you look, just that it's not the reason they do it.
One thing not mentioned here: When I was a teen, the number one reason my peers said they couldn't go to their parents when they had a problem was because they expected their parents to react with hostility.
i thought the same too. I have had problems at school like these kids these days struggle with but it wasnt that big of a deal to me all i had to do is speak up for myself even tho i got beat speak to someone if no one takes u seriously deal with it yourself but in no world should u take your life , u r not special everybody has their problems so u deal with yours and struggle to live.
...And they weren't wrong. A lot of parents DO react with a ton of hostility to stuff like this.
to me it was because my father was a single parent raising 3 kids while also working a 40 hours a week sometimes more and me not wanting to bother him with my problems.
@@klajdisinanaj3977 The last thing you should say to someone with depression is to "Deal with it" and "Everyone haves struggles". I see you don't know shit sadly. But still dare to comment about it.
Thank you for this mention.
He’s right about that “right time to talk”
nah, that's just an issue with bonding
knocking is a thing, connecting with your children is a thing
plumbean it isn’t
Trust me
@@TobyBanci he does have a point, if you're not sharing a bond with your parents its hard to open up, especially if they just barge in and start wsterboarding you in questions.
I guess, timing is really key but taking time is probably the most important.
Yea he nailed it, some teens like me just prefer dont talk when we're like watching some videos since it kinda just relaxes your mind
But this is just my prospective, some doesn't have the same concept probably.
"You only cry for help, if you believe there's help to cry for."
"You will never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have."
Very True!!!!!!!!
thats beautiful
another quote, "when the time comes, don't go expecting someone to come save you"
you've got to get stronger yourself, it`s inevitable.
a quote that i always cherish and look back at
Being strong, grabbing a bible too! Believe me the devil tries to destroy you through depression. The devil tries to destroy a sound mind. Don't let him win! Ask God to help you. He will! Don't let yourself be alone. Take a walk with Jesus. Read the bible.
@@maryj560 very true ♥️
I'm a dad to an 8yr old and 4yr old. I watch this every now and then (maybe just twice a year) to keep this in my mind, front and centre. Thank you for this brave and powerful message.
As a former teenager "Im fine" is usually slang for "I'm not fine, but its nothing I want to talk about right now"
Im alright is one too one of mine infact...
I would correct that to "I'm not fine but I don't feel comfortable talking about it with YOU". This guy hit the nail on the head. It's so important for parents to make themselves unapproachable to kids. My parents felt unapproachable. Judgemental. Constantly made me feel like if I opened up they would just emphasize how I failed to meet the expectations they set. Even now as an adult I struggle to be open with them, and have to remind and force myself to be, mainly because I have been fairly successful in my adult life and therefore there's nothing that they could possibly make me feel inadequate about. My stepsister took her own life though after battling an extremely hard period in her life. I feel like my parents failed her the way that this guy feels he failed his son.
@@k-isfor-kristina I’m in my late forties and can totally relate!
No, it’s ‘I’m not fine, I just don’t feel like I can talk to anyone because I don’t want to disappoint you or open up about my feelings because it will make me feel like a failure.’
@@k-isfor-kristina im going through this right now (im a teenager with parents like that)... i hope i end up successful like you in the future and not like your stepsister... may she rip. either way both of our parents failed.
Worst day of my life was my son’s failed attempt when he said after, “I didn’t think anyone would care.”
It’s been over 15 years since I heard that sentence & I am crying as I write it. I had no clue.
is he ok now?
Hope he's OK now...
I'm sorry 😞
Yea. thats how we feel. everyone so busy that we feel left out. so we think " why do anyone else care. but im happy your son still here and now you know and you guys are working on it everyday.
@@Sis_Izzie pls dont hurt you self i care about you :)
This man needs to host a TED Talk session as well.
what i was thinking
He has two TED talks. They are definitely worth a watch
@@sumitsaini1601 its deleted
I lost my father 5 years ago to suicide. As a son, it hurts just as much
As someone that is struggling myself, this video hurt on another level.
Stay strong man, but if you think you need help try your best to get some your own way. Don't force yourself in going with this pain all alone to keep the appearances like I do because you are too concerned about bothering others with your own personal life struggles and problems. Keep it up!
I know how you feel friend. Life is just one disappointment after another. People judge me all the time. I have a dream career in mind but I have low self-esteem. I'm plagued everyday by the thought of any bad that could happen.
Same. I started bawling my eyes out when I thought I was going to watch just one more video before trying to sleep
Hope you're feeling better, if you're struggling, ring some helplines. Imagine how kind you would be if your friend was feeling the way you do and be kind, really kind, to yourself 💖💗
@Vikinger hey man, I know I am a stranger but if you want to talk to someone just send me a message pls! Even if its just for a view minutes (And I am serious)
I’m a teenager and I wish I could have a better relationship with my dad. I wish I could ask him for help maybe ask him how to deal with girls or sum. But I never had that relationship with my dad.
this might be weird coming from a random guy on the internet but if you ever feel down or need anything please reach out to me and I will be happy to help.
brelnd it’s not. We need people like you to help those who can’t get it elsewhere
show him this video
Not sure he'll change his ways but at least you can try
Yeah, it's hard to talk to dad about it
@@velcture7643 Especially if you don't have a dad.
as a teenager, we say “we’re fine” because we are hiding something, it’s embarrassing, we’re scared how you will react, we’re scared what you’d do, we don’t wanna talk about it
That doesn't change because you become an adult either.
Especially when you live surrounded by people with limited or outdated morals, awareness, knowledge, and education...Either your parents are too worried that you wouldn’t survive or they’re in denial of the fact that they don’t know exactly what to do.
No it isn't lol i say I'm fine so i don't have to make small talk with my parents
@@hiyesiambanana2310 And because of that too
I mean,I also say I'm fine when I'm actually fine.
My brother took his own life and from that moment on, our lives were and are never the same again.
My story though is a lot different from the majority of suicide stories. Michael wasn’t depressed … on the contrary, he was always so happy go lucky , in fact his nickname was ‘smiler’ by his friends & colleagues. Michael was a policeman and absolutely loved his job , he was so proud to be part of the police force. He was the youngest of us 4 siblings and was such a good looking young man. He had a partner and 2 young children. We didn’t know it at the time, but he & his partner were going through a rough patch. She was a bit run down and hadn’t wanted sexual relations with him for the past 4 months. Things went on and he had to train a young police cadet, which meant they were together 8/10 hours a day. I’m not justifying in any way what happened next but not getting any affection at home probably caused what happened … he started to ‘think he had ‘ feelings for her … she was definitely coming onto him …
She started to text him … he wasn’t one to text much anyway but one morning while he was having a shower his phone got a message and his partner heard it. She read it … it was the girl saying thanks for the dinner the day before and that she missed him.
My SIL went loopy and told him to get his things & leave. She called their kids , boy of 7 & girl nearly 3, and told them daddy didn’t love them anymore.
My mum called me saying Michael was at hers and was in a state.
I spoke to him …. This was 4/5 hours before he committed suicide … he told me he hadn’t been unfaithful at all yet … but that he had feelings for this girl …
In the meantime my SIL put it all on FB and then phoned him saying she was gonna phone his chief and tell him about the ‘story’ between him & the girl , and to ‘be ready to lose his job because when they found out it would be instant dismissal ‘
Just before he left my mum’s, he received a text from the girl saying you must ‘deny deny deny’ … that she didn’t want to lose her post with the police … and that she didn’t really have feelings for him … it was to pass her course.
Shortly after, Michael was banging his head against the door and saying he had made the worst mistake ever. After some time he then left and got in his car. Mum asked him if he was ok and he said yes. That was the last she saw him alive. He shot himself in nearby woods.
My brother wasn’t depressed. Drs say he had a brainstorm … 🤷♀️
All I know is we lost our baby brother. He was 37.
In his right mind, he would never have done what he did. A few months beforehand, his friend took an overdose of pills. He was devastated and said “ poor bloke … he’s left 3 small children… how come?? “
I miss you Michael
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So sorry to have been so long everyone … I needed to get this out of me 😢
I’m so very sorry hun 😞 I’m only 20, and been going through severe depression the last couple months… it’s truly my mom and older sister who keep me pushing and here. I know your brother loves you and your mom with all his heart, and he’ll always watch over you if it’s possible on his side ❤️
Please stay strong and surround yourself with love and joy, don’t let your traumas eat you alive like me, I haven’t experienced nearly anything as horrible, yet I cry almost daily when I’m alone because I just feel so weak mentally. But one day people like us who suffer in silence most days are gonna be rewarded greatly when we’re gone… I’m sure of it.
Much love to you and your family for real ❤️❤️❤️ His children had a great father, I know that they’ll inherit his good heart. RIP to a hero 🙇♂️
@@StFigarlandShanks thank you so much for your kind words, I truly appreciate it … I wish you strength, comfort and serenity … that you can soon feel better 🍀🍀
@@sallygard63 thank you very much, you as well ❤️ you got this :)
I'm very sorry for your loss.
@@yoni532s9M5w thank you ☺️ 🙏
Personally I feel the reason we don’t tell our parents these things is they won’t understand what we mean exactly if most of us were to tell our parents something was wrong or we were sad they would think it was over something childish and stupid so we never approach them about our problems
That's exactly how I feel. I remember a time I was so depressed, I didn't eat meals, I would do nothing but lay in bed from morning to night, and just silently have mental breakdowns daily, and one day I heard my mom on the phone calling me "moody"... Also my family knows I have social anxiety yet they say things like "just go out more", "talking to people isn't even that difficult", and "how hard is it to do this simple thing??" Safe to say I'm trusting no one in my family with any of my secrets.
@@naritruwireve1381 Please hold on, things will get better for you.
Exactly right. Many never take it seriously.
@@naritruwireve1381 I understand your pain my friend. I cannot say I know it from experience but I suffered alot when I was younger. More than most around me ever knew. I don't know If you'll accept my words, but I struggled for 7 years. One day I decided to give my life to Jesus. He sought me first, as he does. But I made the decision to be his. Please reach out to him. Through him our wrongdoings will be forgiven, and he will mend you. Piece you back together as he did me. Things won't always be perfect, they'll possibly be quite hard, but you will be sheltered under the wings of the Lord.
Even worse, many parents will instantly assume it's their fault and react badly because they themselves are extremely insecure/broken. They may blame the child or berate them/abuse them more. I personally know of two children in this situation. Sadly here in NZ, there's little I can do about it. Unless the child shows physical evidence of severe physical abuse, they won't remove the child from parental care. So they grow up abused with zero confidence and a history of self-harm if they survive at all. All I can do is try to offset their parental abuse with encouragement and support, and when they are old enough to be allowed to separate from a parent, support them getting onto their feet with no parent.
I onced tried to open up and they didn't think I was serious. They thought it was another joke. Then I left class because I found out my best friend killed himself and I told my teacher I felt too depressed to stay. My parents come home and barged in my room and basically interrogated me and I felt so uneasy and unsafe in my own room. To all the parents that read this, please treat depressed teens with compassion.
Im so sorry for your loss!
Wish u the best..
Hey bro, stay strong out there, I know it's hard when you can't share your struggles with someone else, but try to seek out help and understanding, and remember that there are people who value you more that they appear to
Hey, I’m spreading the word about this, because it kind of changed my life and I hope it helps, because it may feel like you have no one you can trust, nobody you can talk to, nobody to open your feeling up to, but let me tell you something. I took a risk once. When I was at my lowest. I’m so glad I did. I felt like nobody I knew cared about me and that when I died I would die having no friends. But what did see, was I took a risk, I opened myself up to a discord group one time, and it was a moment I still haven’t forgotten, because at the time I felt like I had nobody left. But they actually cared about me. People, who I had barely even talked to before, actually cared about me, they didn’t know who I was, what I looked like, or whether or not anything I was saying was true, but they helped me, encouraged me, and most importantly, they acknowledged me and listened. The internet is a wonderful thing because it has made humanity so much more connected than ever. We have grown to hate more, but we can empathize more too. Someone will listen to you, and if you need I can as well if you like.
If you are a jolly person like me, who jokes all the time😶, your parents will of course think you are joking. Not considering it happens with you, but when i speak something i make fun of myself 😂, though i don't feel bad, it's within the family and love within it is more important. If they are not understanding, then it leave you with the responsibility to understand your mistakes and your family, just don't feel seperated with your family.
Determinism is Freedom 🤙🤙
I love that these men cared enough to show up to this session. To help them be a better parent.
I'm sorry for your loss.
Thank you for this positive comment through Our Lord Jesus Christ Amen.
who's lost?
@@jcups14yodoll62the guys son
@@gabrielcarlobato3565 Im not christian but amen
They are actors… y’all are dumb lol
I’m 56 and feel just like your son. I’m so sorry this happened to you. I’m sorry your son was in so much pain…it is hard.
Stay strong
A generation that wasn’t listened to, is trying to listen to a generation that wants to be heard, creating a generation that will finally listen when the time comes.
I don't see that happening...
right! i hope i become a mom and can teach my own dad how he should love his kids :/
I’ve always believed that a father makes his children strong but at the same time no one wants to accept how little it takes to make someone consider suicide
@@lonedemonofdeath666 True words. Its the reason why they're attacked and families get separated so easily this day in age.
I have tried to kill my self..
Take note: when your child ask if you can talk, drop what you're doing and shift your focus on your child.
yeah, because maybe they won't ask you next time
My parents would never do this
@soham aychitte what do you mean by that?
You won't have to "drop everything your doing" if you have regular deeper meaning conversations. Show that it is OK to share your feelings in certain circles. My mom did an awesome job at that on her own. Through multiple bad relations. Love you mom!
@soham aychitte shut up
“Some people don’t fully appreciate what they have, until it gets taken from them”
-My Father
What a great father your dad is.
@@mylife4113 Is it sarcasm?
Good for you. Mine is what making me chose suicide.
@@entity5x4w-official42 Are you okay. there are people who care about you
@@entity5x4w-official42 I don't know what you're going through but, whoever you are, you matter to me. That's why I'm commenting to you, your life is precious. You matter.♥️
I have been suicidal in my teen years. I didn’t have many friends. I was bullied. My parents would tell me that my problems were not important, I would “grow out of them”. I stopped talking to them. I fought long and hard to overcome my suicidality. I am now 57. I have a wonderful bond with my 25 year old son. I never hid my struggles from him. I can confirm what this video says: invest time and effort in your children. Don’t hide your struggles from them. It will pay off. When my son comes with his struggles I listen. He has suicidal tendencies. He knows he can always come to me. I drop everything and listen. He is stille here. I thank God for that.
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This is why I didn't give up. I know my parents would cry so I didn't do it.
Edit: Thank you so much for the 2.8k likes. I definitely don't deserve it. I'm not that brave to stay this long. For those who say that their parents are the reason why they wanted to give up, me too.
My family is toxic, and pressure me into everything. I'm still alive for them because I knew it would break them up because I'm the eldest, and it is obvious that they don't know how to raise a child. It's hard to raise a child. Although I'd like to take my own life, I wouldn't want them to go through what I had to go through. If you don't have any good influences in your life, then cling to every single good influence in your life.
I'm loosing all my reasons one by one, day by day. And unfortunately, my fear of pain in death is stronger than my will to die. So I'm still here after 7 months. I'm still in a low place, lower than before. In a way, I'm glad that I'm still here.
I would have taken my life ten times over now but i couldn't do that to my mom i get it..
Morgen Brady same only thing that stopped me was my mom
Everyone, dont do it. If you wanna have a chat i will always make time up for it, send me a dm on @yorickdz and i will always answer. Even if you are in hard times. Please talk. With anybody. Even your neighbour or somebody. Please. It will make life so much easier. Have a chat.
Me too bro my parents expect a lot from me I got Arab parents and my parents are also very old I don’t think they could take it
@@elapse______2557 Most Arab parents put a lot of pressure on their kids thinking that the pressure will push them forth but what they don't realise is the amount of pressure that they put on the kid will only bury the kid deeper into the ground.
Most of the Arab parents avoid talking about certain subjects hoping the kid would never know about, which adds to the kid's hunger of curiosity in terms would lead them to seek the knowledge from unknown untrusted bad resources, the kid later on finds themselves in a trap they didn't know they had fallen in and talking to the parents seems useless and they're only afraid that the parents would yell at them scold them ..etc. so the kid stays down in the hole all hopeless and have no one to turn to, whilst the parents think that everything is fine by avoiding the subjects that include: Suicide, LGBT+, Belief, Deppression, Anxiety, PTSD and the list goes on ...
I'm grateful to have parents who are open minded enough to talk to me about theses things and show me the right way to deal with Sexual harassment, blackmailing, any type of harassment in general. I've seen many people around suffer from parents pressuring them and abusing them and it just hurts to see such a thing.
I hope frome the bottom of my heart that you're okay :)
One of the worst things parents say to their kids is, "Be grateful. Others have it worse"
Saying that isn't going to fix the problem, it will only make it worse. Your child came to you for help for a reason, they won't understand your bills, or your problems at your job. They are a child. You need to put yourself at their age and realize that their problem is a lot bigger than you think.
I totally agree as that is the problem I've been facing the last few years that others have it worse. That it has come to the point were my relationship with my parents is almost gone the only times we speak are at the dinner table and most days we dont even do that, and the only thing that's said is from my dad about his work days. The only times we actually talk is when I have a breakdown about how Im feeling about school or lost pets I've grown up with and that i miss they almost newer get into how or family relationship is going.
So the only things I've actually had a relationship with is my pets because they are always there for you no matter what, and they are one of the reasons I've been able to go on.
@@Ghost-Tales So sorry you have to go through that. I too have had a few of those moments with my parents.
This annoys me. Its the truth, other kids are starving, or being sold. If youre commenting on a youtube video, you have it easy. I think my generation is just a bunch of snowflakes who cant stand up for themselves. Grow up, not everything is about you.
@@sebasthecrab1345 Yes but knowing that isn't going to stop depression. Yes, I acknowledge the fact that many kids are dealing with worse, but telling that to your kids isn't going to cure their depression. It's gonna make them feel that their feelings don't matter just because others have it worse. I think that would make you a bad parent.
@@maplemaple626 I was depressed for quite a while. I told my parents, and they explained that in the real world nobody cares. They told me to grow up and be mature. So i did. But, i guess that doesnt work on people who are sensitive.
My son attempted suicide at 14. This hit home hard. He thankfully failed his attempt and doing much better today at 16. But I never saw it, especially the night before he attempted. He was acting so happy. He even wanted us all to do a movie night together. The next morning in the hospital I asked him about it and he said something that will forever haunt me. He said, "I just wanted one last nice night together with you before I died." Please talk to your kids, even if they 'seem' okay, especially if their mood changes to positive when that's somewhat out of their normal behavior.
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That made me sad but i kinda understand him. Glad to know that he is doing much better now. God bless your family.
You can be a great dad. You can learn from your mistakes. Send you lots of hugs and wish your son loads of happiness.
Wow ! That is very powerful!
That may have been the saddest thing ive ever read
Tears are now going down my face
Omfg
As a Depressed individual, this is a good thing to see everyone sharing these stories & supporting each other without being judgmental, good thing to talk about with your future kids, once you become a parent, also losing your kid this way is very Sad.
I once yelled at my dad that I didn't want to live anymore. He dropped down beside me, said "oh?" and just listened. Ever since that day we have talked about mental health, and 14 years later I am still alive. Because he was there. Listening ❤
Sounds like he really appreciated you and I think you're lucky young woman to have a father so humble and patient.
Well done for speaking up, letting others know you’re, or you were struggling. Life is a lot harder for some than it is for others, I’ve struggled for over 30yrs to keep the dark thoughts from taking over my mind.
You're so lucky man im so sad and jealous of other people like i always cry when i see comments like this if i do this to my dad hes just gonna beat be to death man.
My dad isn't there for me, but that doesn't mean I'm lonely, I made up for the lost time with him by talking with my mother, but I never talked about my suffering, but if I do need her, I know she is there for me, she always will be, and I trust my mother to fulfill that roll 💜
That’s beautiful.
Dead people receive more flowers as regret is more powerful than gratitude.
- Anne Frank
@@edwardblake1407 bruh what
@@edwardblake1407 You do realize, who Anne Frank was, right? There's literally pictures of her and her entire life is documented, how is she not real?
@@edwardblake1407 Average american citizen
@@edwardblake1407 anne Frank is rean come on man dont u remember history
@@edwardblake1407 I’m losing brain cells from this comment there are literally pictures of her and her dairy to prove she was real
When I was like 12-13 I told my dad that I was depressed and he literally said "I've never seen you sad, what do you have to be sad about" and I just sat there in silence and he kept doing what he was doing
That's a fast way to cure depressed people
my mom thinks she decides what she finds problematic and she's the end all say all to everything.
@Lilymoon I mean we moved a couple times, but not really
@@kevinmay9151 same man. i feel ya😔
He is probably ignorant about the topic. Explain to him what depression is and how serious it is and tell him you would like to know if you have it since you've been feeling like that. He doesn't seem like he doesn't care, he just seems ignorant as more grown people are about the topic
The worst thing about me is that, I smile while I’m sad, someone is yelling at me. I just want to live by my own way. I know it’s hard. Parents don’t understand me. I want them to understand that, maybe I don’t have good grades in my exams but I’m alive, I’m with them. And I love them
And they love you, they just don't know how to show it, maybe their own parents were also like this. I have parents like this. Life will get better ❤️
Same
Parents can be really stupid with their children. You have to talk to them like they are 5 year Olds, we just don't want to believe our child could be experiencing that much pain. But tell them anyway.
It’s a very strange concept to me that a man who runs away from his feelings is considered more of a man than the man who is willing to face his feelings.
I think when a man is looked up to as a rock, for other people to be reassured, it makes a lot of sense that he doesn't show how scared he is. But he needs an outlet somewhere. If you're not a leader then other people are not looking to you for reassurance and you have a lot more freedom (often) to be vulnerable
will 2583147 I say this all of the time !
If men showed such feelings early in our species history, we'd not be here, period. Human nature was this way long before you or I , or anyone, for thousands of years came along. Its foolish and naive to think can evolve overnight. Don't go on like its unnatural for us to be this way.
will 2583147 thought he explained it pretty well. It wasnt that he was running from his feeling but rather he felt it was a way to protect them. It’s a common feeling for a dad to want to protect them from all harm, but there has to be a balance. I’m opposite in that I’m super emotional without being a snowflake. But I’m an artist and I have two little girls so I’m a different animal altogether lol.
Because it's based on perception.
Sadly, it appears to me that this video is being watched mostly by teenagers themselves, rather than the parents. But even then, let's make it a good thing. All of you teenagers, my peers, who've watched this video, promise me you'll be good parents who will listen to their kids, be kind and gentle, vulnerable at times. Promise me that.
You're right
I promise.
I don’t even know if I’m ever gonna have kids. Have been going through a tough time and a promising future seems as far away as possible.
@@allenzhang4644I won't lie to you. I don't know what will happen in the future. I can't promise that everything will be ok. But I can say two things. My life got a lot better when I was an adult. The things I've done to improve myself and my situation were comforting in their own right, often more so than the actual thing I was working on. Take a step. And then another one. Invite your friends on the journey. Believe that it's possible to feel better, but don't criticize yourself for how you feel now.
I promise you on that one
I truly envy all those fathers kids. They are sitting for their own kids
likely they also have lost a child to suicide, so to envy them is not the correct reaction. Respect them and send them compassion . Few men would listen to such lecture unless they were suffering from the same pain, the speaker has experienced and still does. I see these men as victims who are trying to understand their loss and what went wrong.
@@linanicolia1363 I guess those fathers are the ones who don't want to lose their kids, and I too envy them because my father would never do that thinking 'my kids are alright'
Imagine being so selfish, taking ur own life? Think about ur fam man
@@MrIroh-hw6qq Its not selfish , its not being able to standup anymore , he’s already been feeling abondened
@@MrIroh-hw6qq it's not being selfish. it just hurts so much you cannot live anymore. if people thought like you then it's the family who would be the most selfish, not taking care of their child enough
"Tell my story" gave me chills and brought tears to my eyes.. That poor baby, I'm so sorry for the pain that he felt. RIP Ryan 🫶🏾💐
I’m typing this in tears right now… i thought about taking my life earlier this year… I’m trying and trying to get better, it feels like no one understands me, family and friends turning against me for no reason, i started hitting the gym and cut certain people off that was bringing negative energy towards my life. As of today I’m still depressed but I’m getting better, i don’t wanna go down that path again.. it’s very dark, thank you if you read this 🖤
if you need help go talk to your Friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help..
More power to you ❤️
Leave the place and go get your separate life...don't even think about anyone.......go away from all expectations....live lonely life..goooo...I suggest you goooo ...after enlightenment if you come back you will be a better of yourself
how you are doing now Tom?
I get you.
My older brother took his own life, he did two terms in Afghanistan and he was never the same. He used to talk to us a lot, I have 3 brothers, we would all huddle up and he would talk to us. How we need to help each other grow but no one looked at him and thought he had a problem, he had PTSD. He was always the strong one, always. I miss him a lot and it still hurts. I'm the eldest now and I constantly talk to my brothers. About little things and big things, whatever it is, I get a call before my mom and dad does. I make it a point I'm there for them. RIP Vince, I got our familys back now. See you in heaven.
Stay strong bro. You’re a great brother.
So sorry for your loss. He's always with you. He'pm never leave you.
That's a sad story and I'm terribly sorry for your loss. Stay strong and stand firm, the torch has been passed onto you now. And then, one day, you will meet your brother again. Sooner than you think!
Really sorry bro my Deepest condolences to you and your family
This is heavy, you are doing a great job. Take care of yourself as well.
My son committed suicide 9 years ago and I can tell you my story is almost opposite. We talked about everything. He only left me out of that one conversation the one we needed to have the most. He overly cared about the things that were going on in the world. At 19 he would still crawl into my bed and snuggle. He still felt like a failure even though everyone liked him and always told him how smart and amazing he was. I never saw the signs because I was looking for withdrawal and loss of interest. I miss his hugs and his love everyday.
I am so very sorry for your incredible loss. My heart is hurting for you
Maybe he was hiding the sadness from you so you wouldnt worry.
He was probably too ugly. Girls didn't want him.
@@lukebruce5234 dude, can you like please keep this to yourself? If you got nothing nice to say don't say anything.
@@lukebruce5234 get a life and get off the internet
I'm 34, I have a 3 yr old and my wife's pregnant with our 2nd.
I lost my mother when I was 12, my father became aggressive and abusive to the point he would yell scream, put his hands around my throat and hit me.
There were a lot of times I thought about ending it.
One time in particular were I had my gun out on the table while I was on my computer. I was 27 at thay time. I spent hours crying going back and forth on if I should do it or not.
Obviously I didn't do it. But, that was the toughest moment of my life, and I am glad I did not go through with it!
If you read this and your at a point where you believe it's all over for you, don't do it, it can get better, it won't be easy at all especially if you have no one, but it can get better I promise you!
Yeh, that's why I sometimes glad I don't own a gun. Too easy to make an impulsive decision.
I'm 23 and I've been thinking of unaliving myself. Your story is very inspiring. Thank you and take care!
As a teenager myself, I feel that most kids don't tell their parents anything because they don't understand. Parents always say that they were also once teenagers, and they have been through the same stuff, but your teenagers were parents decades ago, and society changes. They simply won't fully understand what it means to be a teenager in the 21st century.
Edit: So it's been over a year since I wrote this comment, and I'm getting a lot of encouraging replies as well as some negative ones. I've learnt quite a bit about coping with stress and mental issues in the past few months, and I think I've reached a point where I can give advice to others, so here it is: You need to find a motive. A reason to wake up every morning. It could be something as small as a hobby or as big as your career. But you need to find something that you just enjoy doing. You could make the argument that you enjoy "watching TV" or "Playing Video-games", but those only give temporary, artificial happiness. True happiness is accumulated over longer periods of time. I hope this helped, because it definitely helped me.
I told my mother (almost) all of my worries, and it helped me a lot. Also don't be afraid of a therapy. After my experiences, you can tell your therapist literally everything that's in your mind. Thanks for reading! :)
Everyone is depressed... it is nothing special..
Especially true when your parents are immigrants
Well I feel there is a lot of truth to what he's saying. It's like he said, it's not that they want you to fix something, sometimes it's enough to just sit and listen, maybe share your own experience so they know they're not alone. My brother is still here thank God and he was strong enough to get help himself after years of struggling but my dad still cannot see his faults and admit them which is sad, because that messed up his relationship with my brother. If he just took the time to just listen maybe he'd be able to change and mend their relationship but I'm afraid that's a long ways off. Anyway I agree with what this man is saying. And this does not just go for dad's, it goes for parents in general
You’re fully wrong bc the school decades ago was waaaaaaaaaaaay worse than now. Most of teachers were hurting them mentally and even physically. I’m teenager myself and parents life was just way worse
Didn't think I'd be crying today. That was moving.
You know what is sad i know i would cry today i cry everyday but when i was going to cry there were no tears left and instead i screamed
Indeed
I just woke up and I'm crying
@@RED115 please don't ever think suicide is an option, we all have times when we lack all motivation, you might be depressed and all you can do for now is stay in bed or cry all day but believe me when I tell you IT GETS BETTER. Try to talk to a close friend, or your mother, a sibling. And even if they didn't help, don't think you're not alone , cause you're not even if you don't see it. Every parent loves their children even more than their own life so don't do something that will cause them such an immense pain.
The possibilities in life are endless and you'll met someone who makes you feel loved and appreciated, fine. Even though my words may not be significant to you I'm sure as I'm alive that you'll get better, just give yourself a chance and time will do the rest
@@victoriamuratore8368 I know that feeling better than I should.
As a depressed teenager, this really felt like what I needed.
I like Emeralds. . Peace from England UK
Pls reach out to any1. It could be a nurse or sm1 if not ur family 1st☹️
same dude
Im here if you ever feel like talking to someone
@@alizaidi8846 i wish problems can be addressed on a blog or smth, 2 express thm
I constantly encourage my nine year old son to keep being brave and tell me when he’s struggling. He’s in counselling at the moment, because he opened up to me about to how he’s been struggling with anger lately.
If I am ever busy, and he wants to talk to me because he’s sad, I will always drop everything for him. The other day, I was meant to meet my friend in town but my son wanted to talk, so I was 2 hours late to meet my friend, who was beyond annoyed at me, but who cares. Kids need to know that you will always be there for them the moment they need you.
You are doing a good job as a parents. God bless, and keep going. I pray for you and family
"It's easier to build stronger children then fixing broken men"
Ya but some parents don't want to talk about the pain a kid may feel and try to understand that they aren't attacking you they just want to resolve something and they feel that is attacking them but they want to heal from it instead if you done something to them that upset them fix it resolve be honest with both you but obviously mistakes happen and you'll have to talk a put judgement and go with an approach with them not anyone else they are who matter and your fixing it and being real and viewing it from their perspective and let them speak what how why and sit and think about was said to you and be honest open real truthful with them and figure it out if it takes a few days so be it or a week
I just want you to know Jesus loves you so much. oh, how loved you are. oh how loved you are. suicide is never the answer. Jesus died for you, that you may never experience this pain or loneliness again. please, give Jesus a chance. your life will change. I love you and Jesus loves you even more.
@alpha chad I would say Jesus is a tool used by scam artists. A very effective one in America.
@@jesussavedme6260 😭😭😭😭🙏Thank you.
That's should be the other way around, carl jung would scream of disagreement
I said "I'm fine" because my mom had enough on her plate being a single mom with two kids and because my little sister had more needs than me (or so I thought). I thought I was doing everybody a favor by being low-maintenance. I was praised for it. Plus I had good grades, friends... on the surface I was alright. Then in my early twenties it all unraveled. I lost 10 kg, stopped sleeping, spent my days self-deprecating and crying. My mother was in utter shock, she never knew what went on in my head. Teens: talk to your parents and make them listen. Parents: don't dismiss the feelings of your kids even if you don't understand them.
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I feel you, it feels like you're demanding from someone who's out of resources already
Same. I'm living with my mom. She is all I have and my only reason to live.
I had depression for 3 years and now I can't hide it anymore. Its killing her slowly and I feel like I'm losing her.
@@terryjoevids sending you good thoughts, be strong and get some help if you can
@@terryjoevids we have to focus on what we do have and not what we don't have and the hardest thing to do is stay positive but you have to try and try and try and keep trying because your happiness matters and it should matter to you . I hope you find a new reason to wake up and smile everyday friend you maybe the reason some one else is smiling as well . I wish you the best and send you uplifting and positive energy ☺️
Takes a MAN to say, I AM RESPONSIBLE, I AM ACCOUNTABLE.
Yep, a woman would have said the reverse
Critical Tweaker how would a woman say different if it takes two to make the child then two people realistically are responsible and accountable for that child
Critical Tweaker what are you on about
@@garystevens1044 it takes a "MAN"
@Grace Holm i know plenty of women and men who blame others. i know very few who take responsibility, but most of them are men
Yeah, my little 7 weeks old baby is sleeping in moms arms right now and I‘m in the living room crying my eyes out. I will not fail him and raise him well.
Listen to your children. Theyre human too, not "just kids"
@Cookie, yes, think back to your own childhood and remember what it was like. I've told this a hundred times on here, but my parents drowned when I was barely 14. There was no counseling in 1960, and if it hadn't been for my mother's big family, we would have been orphans. My brother and I could have taken a very different path than we did, but somehow made it through. I look back now, not to when I was a child, but as an adult, at things I did that I'm very ashamed of and I wonder if there is a connection to losing my parents. At my age, I don't want to dredge up that horrible time in my life, so I won't go to counseling. Some people aren't as fortunate to have close family to step in and take care of you.
When I was 12 I know a lot of things around me, but my parents always never encourage me to know more, they used to say "you're too young stop putting your nose into everything, we know better", guess what? They have experiences but they don't know anything better, I cried every night and try to show it, they never say a word, they are type of ppl who thought depressing is a joke and autism could be cure. I mean, they raise me up thinking I'm still in their era so it's hard to blame them. Anyway, I'm in my late teenage now and they have accepted that I know a lot of things, and seldomly ask how did you know all of these, what I answer is I know them for a long time but you guys never give me chance to show it.
@Ø Parkrr lol my mum will probably use a belt instead xd
*" How they feel is how they feel. You can't fix how they feel. "*
this line.
I really wish my father knew that. Because to him, everything is a choice. I *chose* to feel this way I *chose* to let myself fall into Depression. I *chose* to get diagnosed.
It was never like that.
I'm in the same boat as you.
My whole family believes this. Even after rehab and counseling, they still think I choose this.
It always starts somewhere, but once you're in it it's hard to get out.
No offense to anyone who has had a family member kill themselves. However, if you are seriously considering suicide, watch this video by google searching, “Son kills himself after father throws gun on table with frustration LIVELEAK”.
And I want you to ask yourself, “Am I really a depressed character, OR AM I SURROUNDED BY ASSHOLES!?”
I am a school teacher and I notice, the most depressed kids come from the least relational families. Don’t kill yourself just because your dad is an a work-aholic and your mom is a lazy slug.
-Surround yourself with positive people that truly value you for you.
-find something to look forward to at the end of every day.
-Don’t let your sparkle be snuffed out by the sad fate that you were born into a family that doesn’t adequately display how STOKED THEY ARE ABOUT YOU!
Finally read a book called “Ancient Paths” by an author named Mr. Hill, and you just may discover your sadness doesn’t originate with you but you are a victim of your parents sins of commission or omission. You just may realize you have been the victim of emotional neglect from the earliest ages.
Gospel Hand my family is mainly sensitive and my parents always bring up religion for every discussion. They may be narcissists
"My children never saw me cry" perhaps that is the reason why they did not express their feelings. I remember that I used to see my father cry when he watched movies, or even when he saw me after a long time, and that made me understand that it is okay to express your feelings and show yourself vulnerable with the people who love you, that's what we makes humans and is something beautiful
I think that was his point
It's okay to cry, it's not a sign of weakness. I returned from a tour of duty in a war zone and my wife and 4 year old son met me at the airport. As soon as my son saw me he screamed out "it's my daddy" and ran towards me at full pelt. I ditched my kit bags and dropped to one knee just in time to catch him as he launched himself at me. I knelt there hugging him, crying my eyes out while the people in the concourse clapped. A special moment to be sure.
I dont know who to trust tho,if I knew who I could trust i would be so open.
Grumpy wasn't fine, is there a way to figure it out, have a talk about it, find time to know how your feeling, Ryan said goodbye, prevention is the cure,is the parent responsible for that tragedy, suicide note found, did you fail as a father, do you regret it, listen to how they feel, dad couldn't fix it, blame resilience is a cop-out, he didn't have the time to share with the kid, he is sorry,his attitude is changing🆘🚩⛔✅💲
Kids take example from their parents, that's how I learnt, no expression, ignore my signs to feel sick
I did hide my problems from my sons but it got to a stage where I started to open up to them and visa versa. Kids aren't stupid and knew I was struggling. We have a very open relationship and I think that helped when my oldest through a trauma has PTSD, social phobia etc and he was at times not wanted to live but we talked and talked and I listened.
I’m surprised that the guy didn’t break out in tears and start crying so hard I would but he held it together. Pray for this family
You funny
@@matthewsarmstrongs3773 🤫 gtfo bot
@@matthewsarmstrongs3773 That’s not funny!
@@matthewsarmstrongs3773 it's not funny! 😠😠
Yeah 😭😭😭❤❤❤
The most beautifull thing RUclips ever recommended to me. Now I am sitting here, 24, male, crying. And its beautifull.
"Man up"
Jesus Loves you
@Gomes if a man is not told to man up, he will never change.
To be able to lead u need small harshment because men after all their leaders and leaders need to man up.
let's cry together dude 💕
Im with you brother. I love you. I know what you feeling. Keep up$
This is probably reason why I've never went through with suicide. I hate seeing my parents hurt.
and what about yourself? You’re worth it, worth of love, patience and understanding Mal! Stay Strong and don’t be scared to speak up, there’s so many of us, you’re not alone🤎
@@daledoe-baggins like the postivity ,less so the direction
@@daledoe-baggins its a good effort, but ya got the wrong idea bud
@@daledoe-baggins i wish would kill me
@@daledoe-baggins you have big devil mentality...
As a child I suffered from depression and anxiety. My father was the absolute best, he did express a little bit about his life and how hard it was and I think that was the only reason I was able to open up a bit to him and still be here. I never told him I suffered from depression and anxiety because I saw how hard working and exhausted he was all the time. I’m 34, married, in therapy and on medication and I couldn’t be happier. I have been open with my child about questions they have about my mental health and why I have medication and a therapist, I make it appropriate for their age of course. I hope it helps them with knowing they can come talk to me and be vulnerable. I will tell my story. Sending you good vibes.🌻
As a teenager I tried to commit suicide. I acted out, no one noticed my sunny behaviour change. Back then it wasn't discussed. I'm now heading towards 70. All I needed was someone to hear me & help. Thankyou for all you do. Condolences for your Son.
God bless you and the fact you made it to see 70. I am 39 and have suffered with severe depression off and on sincerity my teens but it's mostly been minor. Right mow I'm majorly depressed and it's sad because you don't have to be a teenager for your family not to listen and to feel as if no one cares which is due to the fact we always need family an friendship (I sadly don't have) but I'm wiser and older enough now to lay EVERYTHING down and tell my family what it is and is going to be.
the only thing/being/deity that can save you , is Jesus Christ.
Bless you my dear, I wanted to when 16. I cried because I know it wasn’t me, it was the environment.
I’m a teenager, and tried to commit suicide several times in several places. I’ve faced a lot of things, but I’ve never faced love of my parents. My parents never told me “I love you, I’m proud of you,”. They’ve never had a deep conversation with me that would’ve helped me to trust them. I’m not talking to them. Everyday I come home I go into my room directly. I lock myself in and don’t leave for hours, and when I leave it’s just for eating something. Every time they’re having a family time with my brother I don’t join them. Cause I don’t feel safe near them. I get anxious, I get stressed when I’m with them. I don’t feel ok or good with them. I don’t think this is the way a child should feel near their parents. I really tried to talk to them, but because I don’t feel safe and listened I just can’t. They’ve never let me to go alone somewhere and be with my friends alone. They never let me to go to parties or change something in my life if I want to. They never let me do anything that would help me feel better, cause they don’t like it (Color my hair, do rearrangement, buy new things for room and other stuff). Every time I hear other other people telling me that “ oh, I told everything that happened to my parents” or “I trust and love my parents so much they’re so good” I want to cry. Cause I know that I’m not able to say those words by heart, or just say them as a real thing. That what makes me feel sad. In my every birthday when I blow the candles I make a wish. And that wish is “ I wish my parents will understand me and be very good with me, I wish I’ll have a good relationship with them”. Writing it in tears.
@@firuzaaliyeva1023 firstly Big Hugs. I do understand how you feel. I urge you to call a helpline or speak to a counsellor. No child need go through this alone. 1 day you'll be old enough to leave, always bear that in mind. Maybe find an online support group? Your words moved me to tears as it closely resembles my own experiences. Never had we are proud of you, or we love you. A teacher took my acting out & gave me knowledge on Human Rights. To this day I remember the difference that made to my life. I started to write in a journal. It helped. Life will get better. You will feel better. Many blessings
The thing is whenever teens or anyone really tries to show this video to their parents, they are always either turned down or called ungrateful.
Jesus Loves you, don't give up
I hope that didn’t happen to you. My best friend lost a son to teen suicide. It was heart wrenching and ever so permanent. He was a year younger than my youngest son and only 16 at the time. He would be 25 today if he had lived.
Yep but hopefully more parents can keep an open mind before it gets to late
I am scared to share this to my parents. I am afraid that I am ended up being ignored, like usual.
I was shown this video and today my son will here my story
This Dad never intentionally set out to hurt his son. He was acting out of love and a strong sense to protect his family. He should not be blamed. There’s no perfect parent out there. This Dad is doing everything he can to make a difference. Be kind to him.
Now whos being mean?
Parents and children always blame the parents. I dont recommend having children
@@deejeff8846 weirdo
@@deejeff8846 me too
@@deejeff8846 I think I found my soulmate.
I’m so sorry. Lost my son the same way.
I’m 5 months in.
It’s so painful. It’s so surreal !
I love you Timmy, forever and a day
are you better Now ?
"we create kids that do not have any resilience in their lives"
Sad but true😣
My son so different today than he was in Middle School when he was bullied. He was lucky enough to get involved in endurance sports with caring coaches and teachers. He learned to put his pain into that, to challenge himself, to know his inner strength. I'm sure there are other ways, but that's where his resilience started, and I thank God he got into that instead of drugs or other destructive things.
i was scroling thro coments and read this as he said it lol
@@notmyfirstdaycooton7040 Well good for him. I don't do drugs never had, I've been depressed since I was 11 I am recieving help, but my family puts me down I've also always been stressed so it's hard for me. I try but I don't want to try anymore I just want to leave this place.
@@maria-melek Exercise may help. The key is starting small, but being *consistent*
Wishing you the best man🖤
Yes so weak dats the problem with this world
When I talked to my dad about having a plan to end my life he said, “ok just let me know before you do it” and it’s stuck with me for so long. Please, parents just show your kids that you care.
I am not a father and just hearing about this made my heart shatter I'm so sorry that your father only said that to you reading your comment really hit me I'm glad you are here and still going on just remember you at least have two people who do care about you at all times
I am so sorry. Even tho im a stanger i do care. I hope you are better, anything you feel stay strong please
Klya only thing I can say to why he said what he said was due to the fact of your Dad hurting just like you were at the time of your comment cuz there's no way happy individual would say what he said to you unless they're truly hurting inside, I'm sorry you were treated that way stay strong you are very a special individual ❤️🙏
you don't deserve that harsh treatment, not because you are somewhat special, but merely because you are human
I think your dad is joking. My mom did that too. She’s blaming me for other people’s problems. It was stuck on me for so long until I cried and told her. She said she wasn’t really serious when she said that. Fortunately, she apologized. We took things to seriously. Maybe be shouldn’t. Tell your dad.
What would you say to Ryan?
"I'm sorry"
*hit me like a bus*
I knew it was coming and it still sliced me.
what hits most is "im sorry i failed you as a dad"
Same here
I'm sorry too
So much grace in this dad ... we all knew it wasn't his fault his son fell in a moment of weakness ... there's no handbook or guidebook as to how you should teach your kids. As men we just learn to be tough, protect ourselves, and one day protect our families.
Look at the problem the other way. How many of us, would have died for (sorry, bad pun) having a dad like Jason Reid? Instead we have POS dads that are physically abusive, verbally abusive, unfaithful, addicted to cigarettes or alcohol or gambling, or just a dead beat ... and we are still here, wanting a better life for our kids, working so much harder to not be that POS dad / mom / home we came from ... I don't disavow, and I don't know what problem Ryan had, but man, if only this kid knew what pain he'd have left his family behind. There's no winners here. What happened made everyone a loser. And I thank you Jason Reid for sharing your story. Please don't be too harsh on yourself.
May your son rest in peace
I feel so bad for him. So many parents don't realize that some of the things they do affect their child. Some parents say and do things that hurt their kids so badly but dont realize untill its to late. Alot of parents think that young kids cant be depressed or that they are begging for attention. Its not the case. Any parents just because we are not adults, just because we dont pay tax, just because we dont have kids. Dosint mean that we cant be depressed.
WOW...! Your comment feels as if your talking about how I feel. You are absolutely correct.
Farzana Nadeem same, the comment makes a lot of sense.
Preach.
last night i was thinking about what what happen if i jumped of a bridge i think i want to but I'm not quite sure im only 13
Vallery Bilo , very well said . So correct
I'm a father of 5 kids, and I've never cried so hard for someone I didnt know. I love my kids with all my heart. I'm not sure I could be as strong as this father.
You ok?
Hey. I don’t have any kids and I’m crying too!
tj I have 5 kids too and this made me the same way
I'm not sad. Sadly, "sad" videos won't make me cry. I knew it. I have a stone heart.
Father of 5? Hmmm...mmm
The amount of courage it takes to admit that you neglected your suicidal child is truly one of the most brave and incredible things I’ve seen. I can’t imagine the amount of therapy recovery has taken but I am thankful for your story.
His father didn't change a bit. Transformed his son suicide on a business model, lol. And with corporative speech. Awful.
@@macdealer7936could be his way of coping tbh.
@@macdealer7936at least it a positive business model. That could actually save a life. Much better than planned parenthood.
@macdealer7936 when you choose capitalism over your own child's welfare, you're going to embrace capitalism even harder after they're gone.
@@macdealer7936look at this edge lord 😂