I was married to the LOVE of my life for 42 years before she passed away. Spent the last 8 years 24 hours a day as her full time nurse as I watched her slowly pass away. At my age 65, I can't do that again. I will wait for our reunion in heaven. Good Luck to you,
I understand. And you don’t need to feel pressured to do anything. I would suggest however, when you’re ready, to again begin filling your life with things you enjoy. Absolutely nothing wrong with living alone and nothing wrong with changing your mind at some point in the future. YDYD. 🤎
@ he’s lonely and contemplating whether he could actually put himself back out there again. Just doing some recognizance. He’ll be OK he’ll figure it out. He seems nice enough and I’m sorry he lost his wife. That’s really hard.
@@CoffeewithCarey Thanks for the comment on my comment, Carey. I understand and appreciate your empathy. His comment just rubbed me wrong. I'm also a lonely, traumatized widower (69 y.o.), whose wife passed from cancer before she hit 70. I'm not online moaning about it, saying I'm throwing in the towel, not gonna even try to enjoy another woman's companionship, and waiting for that day (which will never come) when I'll meet her in Heaven. On a more positive note, I would recommend to REV.995 that he check out any widows/widowers social groups (like Meetup) in his area. I found it a great way to jump start a new social life. But, as with the rest of life, you gotta approach it with the right attitude.
Wow Carey!!! This old video came up in my feed - and I just wanted to take a moment to compliment you! Your video presentation has come such a long way - I can see the progression from this one, compared to one of your recent ones! You're truly rocking this!
I love that you used the word 'snazzy.' I think unusual adjectives can add to a flirt as long as it doesn't venture into the weird realm. You can provide an opportunity for someone to tease you about it, and then everyone can relax more. I love a clever running joke. Thanks for the video.
Wish I had found you before I spent time with 2 narcissists and a Borderline. It would have saved me 10 years of heartache after coming out of a 30 year marriage and falling prey to these types of men I didn't even know existed. They should give courses on what to expect. I am at the point where I am not going to spend my time getting physically, mentally and spiritually right with myself to have some nutbar mess me up. Of course there are good guys out there somewhere. I am attractive, intelligent, financially solvent, just not 35 anymore. Most men my age 70 are chasing 50 year olds from what I am seeing. That has been my experience and I can only speak from my vantage point. I am out there playing euchre, pickleball, going to the gym.
There is a fine line between sarcasm and teasing better not do it if you don't know somebody well And also about the touching people think and feel very different about touch, often women feel overwhelmed when a man touches them and men often do not read the signs women send or think the woman is just shy and wants to be touched (as your story illustrated)
I think the line is very clear that sarcasm and teasing are not appreciate by everybody. So I agree with you. Better to o ow them better first. Women don’t feel ‘overwhelmed’ when someone touches them without invitation, they feel threatened! Therefore they need to be making the first (very blatant) move to touch you first. 💖👍
I had a therapist tell me men will touch you to guage your intimacy level. Depending on where they touch you tells them alot. If you don't flinch they take that as a good sign. I would not be kissing anyone on a first date. Its just not me.@@CoffeewithCarey
@@CoffeewithCarey regarding sarcasm, I think this is all semantics. I've lived on sarcasm, couldn't live w/o it, w/o trying to be mean or hostile. Now THAT's a fine line. But being sarcastic (in my brain) and teasing, kidding, wittiness, facetiousness could all be interchangeable adjectives. BTW, facetiousness is defined as flippant, inappropriate humor in the New Oxford. Otherwise, I love your witty and wise videos!
Hmmm. . . I didn't get nearly as much out of this video as I had hoped. #1 It seems to be geared towards women #2 Most of those can be just friendly gestures and are not necessarily flirting. At least that's my opinion. All this is confusing to me.
If I saw Carey at the grocery store the usual scenario would happen. I'd leave completely disappointed in myself for not at least trying to converse or make a nice compliment. Again leaving the store with a cloudy mind and items other than the groceries I went for.😅
Hahah. Clear that cloudy mind, smile, focus and think of a question! Also make sure you are subscribed. I’ll make you an episode about things you could say at the grocery store!
Great video and I would think that most women will indulge or already work in this manner. I have been dating but oh my..........tall, grey, and handsome are out there, but digging a little deeper into what he is all about destroys everything. I am on hold from dating right now and enjoying the process. I am in a situation where I have the opportunity to meet many men.........I am discourged.
I think it’s important to step away when you feel you are discouraged or coming at it from a place of negativity rather than optimism… so good on you. You can start again when you feel excited about the process of coupling.💖👍
Flirting is a feminine expression, a smile .... We have to be very careful, they are judging if we are a lady or a hooker ..... touching is a no! no! in the first date from both sides Be nice, kind and genuine go with the flow.....good luck !
No, thank you. I’m not going to be careful because I don’t care what other people are assuming. That’s part of being genuine. I’m free to be my authentic self and I don’t worry about what others think or who is judging me!
@@CoffeewithCarey Not confident to speak to a man because cannot find enough vocab or pronounce them not 100 percent correctly. And also culture is another issue because something that may sound funny may not be funny to a man from different culture (let say American men). I have been alone for 14 years because I am shy and what I stated prevents me from meeting a man.
Your idea of teasing is rude and insulting. That's sort of sassy attitude will drive men away. It may be fun for you but it's not fun for the man unless he's used to getting treated badly.
Did you miss this episode?
Should You Kiss on a First Date? ruclips.net/video/hrFxDAZshzE/видео.html
I was married to the LOVE of my life for 42 years before she passed away. Spent the last 8 years 24 hours a day as her full time nurse as I watched her slowly pass away. At my age 65, I can't do that again. I will wait for our reunion in heaven. Good Luck to you,
I understand. And you don’t need to feel pressured to do anything. I would suggest however, when you’re ready, to again begin filling your life with things you enjoy.
Absolutely nothing wrong with living alone and nothing wrong with changing your mind at some point in the future. YDYD. 🤎
@@CoffeewithCarey Kind and good advice, Carey. I'm wondering why REV.995 is watching a dating video, much less making a totally useless comment.
@ he’s lonely and contemplating whether he could actually put himself back out there again. Just doing some recognizance. He’ll be OK he’ll figure it out. He seems nice enough and I’m sorry he lost his wife. That’s really hard.
@@CoffeewithCarey Thanks for the comment on my comment, Carey. I understand and appreciate your empathy. His comment just rubbed me wrong.
I'm also a lonely, traumatized widower (69 y.o.), whose wife passed from cancer before she hit 70. I'm not online moaning about it, saying I'm throwing in the towel, not gonna even try to enjoy another woman's companionship, and waiting for that day (which will never come) when I'll meet her in Heaven.
On a more positive note, I would recommend to REV.995 that he check out any widows/widowers social groups (like Meetup) in his area. I found it a great way to jump start a new social life. But, as with the rest of life, you gotta approach it with the right attitude.
Wow Carey!!! This old video came up in my feed - and I just wanted to take a moment to compliment you! Your video presentation has come such a long way - I can see the progression from this one, compared to one of your recent ones! You're truly rocking this!
Practice makes better. And I’m certainly no exception to that phenomenon. Lol.
Thanks for the compliment! 🤎
I love that you used the word 'snazzy.' I think unusual adjectives can add to a flirt as long as it doesn't venture into the weird realm. You can provide an opportunity for someone to tease you about it, and then everyone can relax more. I love a clever running joke. Thanks for the video.
Never analyzed that, Monica, but 100% true!
Wish I had found you before I spent time with 2 narcissists and a Borderline. It would have saved me 10 years of heartache after coming out of a 30 year marriage and falling prey to these types of men I didn't even know existed. They should give courses on what to expect. I am at the point where I am not going to spend my time getting physically, mentally and spiritually right with myself to have some nutbar mess me up. Of course there are good guys out there somewhere. I am attractive, intelligent, financially solvent, just not 35 anymore. Most men my age 70 are chasing 50 year olds from what I am seeing. That has been my experience and I can only speak from my vantage point. I am out there playing euchre, pickleball, going to the gym.
I think your plan is excellent and while you execute it, just be open to meeting people who come across your path. 🤎👍
You had chosen those "narcisist" (in your opinion).
There is a fine line between sarcasm and teasing better not do it if you don't know somebody well
And also about the touching people think and feel very different about touch, often women feel overwhelmed when a man touches them and men often do not read the signs women send or think the woman is just shy and wants to be touched (as your story illustrated)
I think the line is very clear that sarcasm and teasing are not appreciate by everybody. So I agree with you. Better to o ow them better first.
Women don’t feel ‘overwhelmed’ when someone touches them without invitation, they feel threatened! Therefore they need to be making the first (very blatant) move to touch you first. 💖👍
I had a therapist tell me men will touch you to guage your intimacy level. Depending on where they touch you tells them alot. If you don't flinch they take that as a good sign. I would not be kissing anyone on a first date. Its just not me.@@CoffeewithCarey
@@CoffeewithCarey regarding sarcasm, I think this is all semantics. I've lived on sarcasm, couldn't live w/o it, w/o trying to be mean or hostile. Now THAT's a fine line. But being sarcastic (in my brain) and teasing, kidding, wittiness, facetiousness could all be interchangeable adjectives. BTW, facetiousness is defined as flippant, inappropriate humor in the New Oxford.
Otherwise, I love your witty and wise videos!
@@dekdav8037 yeah I think semantics comes in to play here. But I’m always going to pick clever over teasing. ;)
Thank goodness for your videos ❤ 66 year old woman here
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Teasing is so important, and so much fun ;)
That is for sure one flirting technique!
As I was listening to this great advice, this thought came to me. You would never hear this kind of conversation if they were married. Kinda sad....
Kenny, did you mean that it’s sad that married people don’t flirt with each other?
@@CoffeewithCarey Not so much flirting as facing them, eye contact, touching, etc.
Yeah, it definitely takes maintenance to keep a relationship like that alive.
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To mi je líto. podívám se na to!
@@CoffeewithCarey To by jste byla moc hodná...🙂
I think dating older women more my own age is so much better. No time for games.
You’re not alone.
Hmmm. . . I didn't get nearly as much out of this video as I had hoped.
#1 It seems to be geared towards women
#2 Most of those can be just friendly gestures and are not necessarily flirting. At least that's my opinion. All this is confusing to me.
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Older women should never think it's over. I think they have so much more to offer, if they were NOT heavy players when younger.
I don’t really understand your disclaimer at the end, but it’s never over.
If I saw Carey at the grocery store the usual scenario would happen. I'd leave completely disappointed in myself for not at least trying to converse or make a nice compliment. Again leaving the store with a cloudy mind and items other than the groceries I went for.😅
Hahah. Clear that cloudy mind, smile, focus and think of a question!
Also make sure you are subscribed. I’ll make you an episode about things you could say at the grocery store!
Same , grocery store scenario .
@@bethsewer5463 so he works there?
@@CoffeewithCarey Yes . However I think he's retired ? Clerk .
As a man be witty but not too forward. Flirting can go horribly wrong if she is bat nuts crazy which can happen.
Just be yourself. If somebody’s weird, then you move on.
Great video and I would think that most women will indulge or already work in this manner. I have been dating but oh my..........tall, grey, and handsome are out there, but digging a little deeper into what he is all about destroys everything. I am on hold from dating right now and enjoying the process. I am in a situation where I have the opportunity to meet many men.........I am discourged.
I think it’s important to step away when you feel you are discouraged or coming at it from a place of negativity rather than optimism… so good on you. You can start again when you feel excited about the process of coupling.💖👍
Would a 50 - 60 year old woman be interested in a 44 year old Latino man?
I think it would depend on the man, don’t you?
@CoffeewithCarey if the man would want to? I'm 43 going on 44. Just wondering.
Flirting is a feminine expression, a smile ....
We have to be very careful, they are judging if we are a lady or a hooker ..... touching is a no! no! in the first date from both sides
Be nice, kind and genuine go with the flow.....good luck !
No, thank you. I’m not going to be careful because I don’t care what other people are assuming. That’s part of being genuine. I’m free to be my authentic self and I don’t worry about what others think or who is judging me!
To summarise, approach your romantic interest as if you are joining a nervous horse. 🙃
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what about a woman that English is not her first language?
What about her?
@@CoffeewithCarey Not confident to speak to a man because cannot find enough vocab or pronounce them not 100 percent correctly. And also culture is another issue because something that may sound funny may not be funny to a man from different culture (let say American men). I have been alone for 14 years because I am shy and what I stated prevents me from meeting a man.
But the smile is a universal language
@@nm9412 😁
Your idea of teasing is rude and insulting. That's sort of sassy attitude will drive men away. It may be fun for you but it's not fun for the man unless he's used to getting treated badly.
I apologize. The advice was only in regard to people who have a sense of humor and are not painfully sensitive.
That’s not true, man like women teasing them. I know I tease men and they love it. I know my cues when a man who doesn’t have a sense of humor.