Love the list and will keep these in mind. However, here's where my "debbie downer" comes in. I have listened to men talk on and on about what they want only to observe them dating and marrying the exact opposite. As long as that woman looks "hot" to them, all else goes out the window. Btw I was raised the only girl with 5 brothers and 4 male cousins. I worked among men in very male orientated jobs. I've seen it all so I listen to what men say with a grain of salt and only as a secondary to their behavior.
I totally agree that the lists are not set in stone. I have had clients tell me they only date petite buxom blondes, and then send photos of their fiancé who is a tall, athletic brunette. She only wants to marry a guy with a great career and ends up with a starving artist, etc. People are very often willing to compromise on most of that list, which is why I have limited must haves to three top prioritizes. Chemistry is a list killer!
Not as you get older it only gets you so far and then its empty and depressing. If its a quick hookup then definitely but if its a long term thing then you gotta date for a while to know who your really getting with. Alot of people dont want to admit their problems and open up to their partner so if theres all kinds of secrets dishonesty and tension thats a red flag. Should be open and honest and if the person cant accept you for your flaws and tries to change you into someone your not thats a red flag. Gotta validate eachother and put the other first thats a must you gotta put them first.
Thank you Carey for the opportunity to share! Priorities 1. Positive and kind personality 2. Confident in themselves 3. A willingness and desire for honest communication Red Flags 1. Highly critical 2. Contemptuous 3. Overly defensive. Here's to the good times. Cheers everyone!!! 🙂☕
this is all nice but when they don't like your appearance they are gone. just start with the most important one: do they like how you look? do they feel attracted? if not you are just not their type
1. Someone who has known me for 10 years or more and still likes me. 2. Honest 3. Willing to go for a walk 4. Not a chain smoker 5. Doesn't pester me all day while I am working 5. Someone who actually cares. 6. Likes hugs and hand holding 7. Doesn't say "relationship " all the time. 8. Someone who knows how to do things. It doesn't really matter what. It could be anything. If she knows how to do things and can figure things out, that's great. 9. Be a mom with respectful children. I came up with 9.
@@alexanderlapp5048 you’re supposed to be cutting your list down to the bare minimum of must have qualities not trying to grow it so that it includes no one! 🤦🏻♀️
@CoffeewithCarey , A very short list of candidates works for me. I don't like to have too many choices. I used to have almost no requirements at all. I fell in love with someone who heated me up some raviolies from a can. 17 years later, I was divorced. She got the car, the van, the kids, and Alimony for live, while I got some scrap metal. I have been single for years. A few more years won't hurt. I have spent 14 years getting to know someone. She got divorced 4years ago. Yesterday I found out she has a BF. I can deal with being single the last few years of my life.
Love your channel and subscribed from first video 🥰I need your guidance . I m just turn 50 and left my abusive long term partner ( can do it any longer) but I been in relation for all my life. I m kind start to feel insecure to even think I will not find any one who will like to share my life with me. Scared and afraid . Do you have any idea of should I start to explore new dates or hold on to it until my soul to recover ? I m scared to loose my time
What’s the rush? Enjoy your time with you. You’re enough. When the time is right, you’ll know that you are in such a great place that it would be a joy to include another person in your happiness. Alone can be a really beautiful and enjoyable place. Definitely no reason to stress about it. 🤎
That was great and very on point! I especially enjoyed #9 😄 But in actuality - this is also what I think most women genuinely want. So why is it so difficult to turn these hypothetical wants + needs into actual reality? I'm thinking the "get real" level of your clients [sorry couldn't think of a better terminology] must be very different from what's running around out here in the real world, because I have yet to even see secondhand via my close girlfriends that are my age group and dating that this is what men want, never mind in my, admittedly limited, firsthand experience... I guess as with everything in life, it comes down to the numbers.
I love that you caught yourself and didn’t make a generalization. ☺️ Of course it’s a number game the more people you meet the more likely you are to meet somebody you connect with. My clients (the correct word,) are encouraged to date once a week. My matchmaking clients get one match a month from me and I ask them to fill in the rest of the weeks from meeting people on their own… If they’re serious about finding somebody.
subscribepage.io/meeting-people subscribepage.io/bi3u2n I just tested both these links and they are working. Is the guide email going to your spam folder? I would check there maybe? Just type the word “Carey” into the search bar at the top of your spam folder.
The one trait women always omit is attractiveness. They want all these other traits, but only with someone they're attracted to. It goes without saying to women, but men often don't realize this. You can have all the money and sensitivity and humor in the world, but if she's not attracted to him, it's a no-go.
Although it's interesting to know what men and women want in a partner, I wonder if you've ever covered what men and women have to offer the other person in a relationship. One of my favorite stories is a friend of mine, a woman in her mid-thirties, 35 pounds overweight, with acne scars and little education, who told me: "All I want is a man who's handsome, successful, has a nice car, a nice house, dresses well, who loves me for myself alone."
We partner with people who are very similar to ourselves; that includes level of attractiveness, ambition, education and level of success. You probably had the urge to send her this episode. 😬
1. Dont ALWAYS be first in line to criticize my ideas, leadership, to tell me i cant do something. 2. at least take a break from twenty years of incessantly biting the hand that feeds you, unironically name calling me in public in front of aquaintances, friends, employees, strangers, our children. 3. Loud, angry, confident self actualized women. This is the generation that proclaimed, "youre going to hear me roar." I have had my fill of roaring.
@@36handy I think my point was that this isn’t MY list. I’m just reporting what men have told me and it’s hasn’t been number one, two or three in top 3 priorities.
Я хочу поговорить со своим лучшим другом. У меня сейчас нет человека, которому можно доверять, чтобы поделиться своими чувствами. Друзья мои, сейчас только ты и я я доверяю тебе Я решительный человек, я знаю, что для меня лучше.
заводить друзей всегда сложно, но мы должны проявить себя. Я хотел напомнить вам, что существует множество онлайн-сервисов, терапии и консультирования, благодаря которым возможность поговорить с кем-то доступна большинству людей. Если это важно для вас, оно доступно, и я хотел, чтобы вы это знали!
1. Trustworthy
2. Positivity
3. Supportive / Reliable
4. Appreciative
5. Sex (with a connection)
6. Competency
7. Communication
8. Fun
9. Common Values
10. Confidence
Haha. Sorry, nobody gets 10. Everybody gets 3 top priorities and 3 deal breakers. I was combining the TOP THREE of dozens of men to create a top 10.
@@CoffeewithCarey- all of these are already on my list for my special gentleman. 😉❤
These are absolutely my wishes as a woman also!
🤎
I love the photo of Johnny Carson as Carnac the Magnificent! Thanks for another grand gem of a video, Carey!
Glad you enjoyed that little tidbit! ;-)
Love the list and will keep these in mind. However, here's where my "debbie downer" comes in. I have listened to men talk on and on about what they want only to observe them dating and marrying the exact opposite. As long as that woman looks "hot" to them, all else goes out the window. Btw I was raised the only girl with 5 brothers and 4 male cousins. I worked among men in very male orientated jobs. I've seen it all so I listen to what men say with a grain of salt and only as a secondary to their behavior.
I totally agree that the lists are not set in stone. I have had clients tell me they only date petite buxom blondes, and then send photos of their fiancé who is a tall, athletic brunette. She only wants to marry a guy with a great career and ends up with a starving artist, etc. People are very often willing to compromise on most of that list, which is why I have limited must haves to three top prioritizes. Chemistry is a list killer!
@@CoffeewithCarey Chemistry is a list killer - truer words were never spoken...
Not as you get older it only gets you so far and then its empty and depressing. If its a quick hookup then definitely but if its a long term thing then you gotta date for a while to know who your really getting with. Alot of people dont want to admit their problems and open up to their partner so if theres all kinds of secrets dishonesty and tension thats a red flag. Should be open and honest and if the person cant accept you for your flaws and tries to change you into someone your not thats a red flag. Gotta validate eachother and put the other first thats a must you gotta put them first.
@@kevinfernandes1882 Agreed.
Thank you Carey for the opportunity to share!
Priorities
1. Positive and kind personality
2. Confident in themselves
3. A willingness and desire for honest communication
Red Flags
1. Highly critical
2. Contemptuous
3. Overly defensive.
Here's to the good times. Cheers everyone!!! 🙂☕
Thank you, Ed!
this is all nice but when they don't like your appearance they are gone. just start with the most important one: do they like how you look? do they feel attracted? if not you are just not their type
Well, this sort of goes without saying. Nobody continues dating people they find unattractive. Would you?
These all resonate with me. Thanks!
Thank you back! 👍
Great video!
Gracias señor
1. Someone who has known me for 10 years or more and still likes me.
2. Honest
3. Willing to go for a walk
4. Not a chain smoker
5. Doesn't pester me all day while I am working
5. Someone who actually cares.
6. Likes hugs and hand holding
7. Doesn't say "relationship " all the time.
8. Someone who knows how to do things. It doesn't really matter what. It could be anything. If she knows how to do things and can figure things out, that's great.
9. Be a mom with respectful children.
I came up with 9.
You’re only allowed three priorities and three deal breakers. This was just me combining dozens of men’s answers. Lol.
@CoffeewithCarey ,
I could have saved some typing. 😆 I was trying to do my own 10 and it was getting hard to come up with that many.
@@alexanderlapp5048 you’re supposed to be cutting your list down to the bare minimum of must have qualities not trying to grow it so that it includes no one! 🤦🏻♀️
@CoffeewithCarey ,
A very short list of candidates works for me. I don't like to have too many choices.
I used to have almost no requirements at all. I fell in love with someone who heated me up some raviolies from a can. 17 years later, I was divorced. She got the car, the van, the kids, and Alimony for live, while I got some scrap metal. I have been single for years. A few more years won't hurt.
I have spent 14 years getting to know someone. She got divorced 4years ago. Yesterday I found out she has a BF. I can deal with being single the last few years of my life.
@@alexanderlapp5048 the last few? WOW, are you in your 90s?
Love your channel and subscribed from first video 🥰I need your guidance . I m just turn 50 and left my abusive long term partner ( can do it any longer) but I been in relation for all my life. I m kind start to feel insecure to even think I will not find any one who will like to share my life with me. Scared and afraid . Do you have any idea of should I start to explore new dates or hold on to it until my soul to recover ? I m scared to loose my time
What’s the rush? Enjoy your time with you. You’re enough.
When the time is right, you’ll know that you are in such a great place that it would be a joy to include another person in your happiness.
Alone can be a really beautiful and enjoyable place. Definitely no reason to stress about it. 🤎
Heal yourself first! This will make you beautiful from the inside out.
www.coffeewithcarey.com/scheduling
That was great and very on point! I especially enjoyed #9 😄
But in actuality - this is also what I think most women genuinely want. So why is it so difficult to turn these hypothetical wants + needs into actual reality? I'm thinking the "get real" level of your clients [sorry couldn't think of a better terminology] must be very different from what's running around out here in the real world, because I have yet to even see secondhand via my close girlfriends that are my age group and dating that this is what men want, never mind in my, admittedly limited, firsthand experience...
I guess as with everything in life, it comes down to the numbers.
I love that you caught yourself and didn’t make a generalization. ☺️
Of course it’s a number game the more people you meet the more likely you are to meet somebody you connect with. My clients (the correct word,) are encouraged to date once a week. My matchmaking clients get one match a month from me and I ask them to fill in the rest of the weeks from meeting people on their own… If they’re serious about finding somebody.
I have requested your guide at least three times and never received it.
Hmmm. I’m so sorry!
Which one are you trying to have sent to you? You are able to enter your email address but nothing shows up in your email?
subscribepage.io/meeting-people
subscribepage.io/bi3u2n
I just tested both these links and they are working. Is the guide email going to your spam folder? I would check there maybe?
Just type the word “Carey” into the search bar at the top of your spam folder.
10/10
Oh, well 🤣
I'm 47 and spent time working on it.
The work is still in progress
👍
I really liked this video… fun, fit, feminine, friendly is my criteria….
🤙
The one trait women always omit is attractiveness. They want all these other traits, but only with someone they're attracted to. It goes without saying to women, but men often don't realize this. You can have all the money and sensitivity and humor in the world, but if she's not attracted to him, it's a no-go.
100
Although it's interesting to know what men and women want in a partner, I wonder if you've ever covered what men and women have to offer the other person in a relationship. One of my favorite stories is a friend of mine, a woman in her mid-thirties, 35 pounds overweight, with acne scars and little education, who told me: "All I want is a man who's handsome, successful, has a nice car, a nice house, dresses well, who loves me for myself alone."
We partner with people who are very similar to ourselves; that includes level of attractiveness, ambition, education and level of success.
You probably had the urge to send her this episode. 😬
1. Dont ALWAYS be first in line to criticize my ideas, leadership, to tell me i cant do something.
2. at least take a break from twenty years of incessantly biting the hand that feeds you, unironically name calling me in public in front of aquaintances, friends, employees, strangers, our children.
3. Loud, angry, confident self actualized women. This is the generation that proclaimed, "youre going to hear me roar."
I have had my fill of roaring.
She sounds very controlling and disrespectful.
@CoffeewithCarey thank you ❤️
Agreeably.
Communication
Sex. This should be high up on your list.
It’s already on most everyone’s list, just not number one.
@@CoffeewithCarey - most men it’s no 2 or 3. Not 5. I didn’t say no 1 BTW, you did.
@@36handy I think my point was that this isn’t MY list. I’m just reporting what men have told me and it’s hasn’t been number one, two or three in top 3 priorities.
@@CoffeewithCarey - they must have lower testosterone. It’s basically the no 1 complaint in relationships wrt men. Married and LTRs. Just saying.
I could give you my list for over 50 and I could give you my Dads list from his second marriage.
I think it’s most important that you know your own list? Personally, I have talked to more than 1000 men over recent years -many over 50. 🤎
None of them.
Well, that’s not funny. Lol.
Я хочу поговорить со своим лучшим другом.
У меня сейчас нет человека, которому можно доверять, чтобы поделиться своими чувствами.
Друзья мои, сейчас только ты и я
я доверяю тебе
Я решительный человек, я знаю, что для меня лучше.
заводить друзей всегда сложно, но мы должны проявить себя. Я хотел напомнить вам, что существует множество онлайн-сервисов, терапии и консультирования, благодаря которым возможность поговорить с кем-то доступна большинству людей. Если это важно для вас, оно доступно, и я хотел, чтобы вы это знали!
@@CoffeewithCarey Это доступно, и я хочу это
отправьте меня
Спасибо