Such a great encouragement. I am in a seasons of waiting. Sometime I feel intimated because of my failure in previous courtship experience. But I should learn to move on and speak truth boldly . You are absolutely right . Delay is not denial, ln retrospect , definitely there are characters that I need to build , I , too need to practice spiritual sanctification over lust , foolish thinking. Brother , keep the good work and keep me in prayer that in this season , I can equip positively and prepare myself to be a good christian man and a future husband. Lots of love from Jie , UK
I think I captured a small essence of a man’s dilemma in the dating process. There is so much: - insecurity - fear of rejection - unknown - uncertainty Then pair that with the lady’s dilemma’s and dating can be hard!
What’s your opinion on switching churches to find a wife? I haven’t done that because i know if i date one woman and it doesn’t work then i can’t ask another woman out because everyone looks at me like a creep. I’ve seen this happen IRL. It’s kinda bizarre that Christians hamstring young people from dating within the same church.
That’s a tough question! I’d first pray about it and also get counsel. Not that you said this, but I wouldn’t start church hoping in hopes of finding a wife, because an established community is the biggest need in the dating process. I actually did switch churches to hopefully find a wife. The church I was going to at the time only had 50 people and no prospects. In the end, I didn’t find my wife through switching churches. I agree that communities and/or churches will often vilify one of the parties involved in dating. I think this risk is reduced if we date with honor, in community, and don’t draw things out if not interested. Often, the church uses the verbiage of “God told me to break up with them” which could be the case. However, it is often generically used and slanders one side. I hope this is helpful - D
@@dustin_and_megan Yeah it helps. I also came to the same conclusion that church hopping is not better than staying with people (community) i know even if they are all married or elderly. I've also seen first hand the "vilifying" one person because "he doesn't deserve her" or "she can do alot better than him".
Ideally, we can create a church culture that is helpful for singles and doesn’t hinder finding a spouse. I felt left behind when all my friends got married and like the only one who didn’t know how to navigate dating. I’ll be praying for you! - D
You got this!
Such a great encouragement. I am in a seasons of waiting. Sometime I feel intimated because of my failure in previous courtship experience. But I should learn to move on and speak truth boldly . You are absolutely right . Delay is not denial, ln retrospect , definitely there are characters that I need to build , I , too need to practice spiritual sanctification over lust , foolish thinking. Brother , keep the good work and keep me in prayer that in this season , I can equip positively and prepare myself to be a good christian man and a future husband. Lots of love from Jie , UK
Amen, good stuff!
Thanks for the encouragement. I’ll be praying for you! 🙏
Wow 🤯
I didn’t know guys feel like that at all
I think I captured a small essence of a man’s dilemma in the dating process.
There is so much:
- insecurity
- fear of rejection
- unknown
- uncertainty
Then pair that with the lady’s dilemma’s and dating can be hard!
What’s your opinion on switching churches to find a wife?
I haven’t done that because i know if i date one woman and it doesn’t work then i can’t ask another woman out because everyone looks at me like a creep. I’ve seen this happen IRL. It’s kinda bizarre that Christians hamstring young people from dating within the same church.
That’s a tough question! I’d first pray about it and also get counsel.
Not that you said this, but I wouldn’t start church hoping in hopes of finding a wife, because an established community is the biggest need in the dating process.
I actually did switch churches to hopefully find a wife. The church I was going to at the time only had 50 people and no prospects.
In the end, I didn’t find my wife through switching churches.
I agree that communities and/or churches will often vilify one of the parties involved in dating. I think this risk is reduced if we date with honor, in community, and don’t draw things out if not interested.
Often, the church uses the verbiage of “God told me to break up with them” which could be the case. However, it is often generically used and slanders one side.
I hope this is helpful - D
@@dustin_and_megan Yeah it helps. I also came to the same conclusion that church hopping is not better than staying with people (community) i know even if they are all married or elderly.
I've also seen first hand the "vilifying" one person because "he doesn't deserve her" or "she can do alot better than him".
Ideally, we can create a church culture that is helpful for singles and doesn’t hinder finding a spouse.
I felt left behind when all my friends got married and like the only one who didn’t know how to navigate dating.
I’ll be praying for you! - D
Hey bro have you got an email I can send you a question to ?
If you go to our channel page, there should be an email available there.