Some girls with daddy issues react differently to dating relationships. Some girls are promiscuous and some practice abstinence, some want to get married and some want to be single, some girls with daddy issues hate their fathers and some girls love their father despite him treating her badly. There's more than one category for women with daddy issues.
Nina-Rae DeLong Yes I dated a girl who loved her abusive father. It was sad man. He would never support her. And he hit her once I seen pictures of her face. It was before we were together. I really,dislike this but sad thing is I never seen him in person. Man the struggle is real. When she talks about him she always smiles and laughs but deep down he's a jerk.
My girlfriend grew up without a father too. She is a shy and lovely girl. Her father is an idiot but she loves him very much and whenever she talks about him she cries a lot. She says often that she wants to become closer to him, but he is so rude that once he didn't even recognize her :'( I know that is risky to be in a relationship with a girl who did grew up without a father, but you know what? If she keeps treating me with respect I won't let her alone. We need to give people a chance :)
@@briandawsonii4451 a buddy of mine was dating this beautiful woman she was sexually abused as a kid by her father they broke up after a couple of years, because when he would come home she would trash the apartment break everything in it bust the Furniture mirrors everything , because what her father did to her, after three times he said I have to bail... he said I tried to fix her but nothing worked, you can't fix broken.
The best girl i've ever dated in my life had really bad daddy issues. But as opposed to being promiscious, lying etc, she went the completely opposite direction. Was insanely loyal to me, I was her everything, and she was BEYOND loving and honest. She had a heart that was 10/10............. Now, 3 years later, I'm dating another girl with daddy issues.... what a fucking mess. Abusive, lies, betrayal, unapologetic. It's like i've been in hell compared to the last one.
Women learn how to be loved by their fathers and how to love from their mothers. Pay attention to both. If her mother disrespects or has a terrible relationship with the father well there you go. If the relationships are positive and healthy you’re in a much better position. Be the best man and beware of who you’re with.
The father is important because the daughter will be more interested in men like her father. So if the dad is nice, calm and a loving person then the daughter will look for men with those same qualities. If their a single child with just her mother, then they just go off what what society tells them. Which is not good. And it’s most likely that they’ll date horrible men and get pregnant before marriage.
The Women who struggled in her child hood and has learned and grown past it, shes probably gonna be much stronger and wiser than the woman who's never experienced shit.
Not necessarily. My sister and I were physically abused by our mother and our father left us before we could talk. We are the exact opposite of our mother. Her behavior was such a turn off. She was promiscuous and domineering. We are none of that. 🤷🏻♀️I guess it might not make sense….if I have any daddy issues, it’s fear of abandonment and lack of trust for men.
My situation is weird. I never met my father and have no memory of him other than a handful of short phonecalls. My mother had severe daddy issues though my grandpa was around consistently. He was not abusive as far I know and always seems like a good standup man. My mother was a narcissistic emotional mess who serial dated, never married and made it her life's mission to make me feel her pain every day of my childhood. She loved throwing my father's abandonment in my face and despite that, I never internalized it because I didn't know what it felt like to lose him. I was hurt by her actions and words towards me, not his abandonment. I never loved or hated my father, he was always just a story I was told with nothing tangible to emotionally latch onto. I felt nothing during our rare phone calls because he was always the stranger that my mom hated who barely had words to share with me. Fast forward to my adult life and I have always been dreaming of a close-knit loving family that involves a husband and kids. I know I don't have daddy issues( not attracted to men who act fatherly toward me or seeking male approval, never been self destructive or dramatic), but I do have mommy issues and they manifest as an intense maternal drive that unconsciously attracts men who have mommy issues that manifest as the intense need to be nurtured by a woman who embodies the mom they never had but desperately needed as children. I married a man who never healed from parental abandonment and has heavily relied on my emotional support and care. At first I was thinking that I could help him grow out of it and be able to be a good father for our future children. Turns out that I was very wrong and he admitted that he never wanted to be a father. He also has not done anything to heal and grow as a man. I am now seeking divorce because I realized that I have trapped myself in a unhappy/unhealthy relationship with a grown child who wants me to be his mommy forever. He sees any potential kids as competition for my mothering and wants none of that. Sorry for the book! I just had to get it all out. Talking to my husband doesn't work because he is in denial.
"Fucked" up is not the right word to use , a man is not gonna know the girl is "Fucked up" until they get a deeper connection and more open with eachother so what he gonna do run away?
All I get from this video is that I’m not worth the effort in relationships because my father has never been in my life , and with all my emotional barriers & how “fucked up “ I am , I’m scared to let anyone in sooo i guess it’s my fault that It’s hard for me to know the difference between a genuinely good guy or a bad guy because nobody has ever taught me how I deserve to be truly loved.
Who are the men you have the hardest time letting in? The ones who care about you? That's my experience. I have loved a woman for 17 years. I know she loves me back, but is unable to accept this. Our relationship has been push/pull for 17 years. Why does this happen?
Corey is right. I'm pretty emotionally unstable. I never met my father and My mother was more interested in being on welfare and dating men then being nurturing and caring for me or my siblings. My little brother almost got hit by a car and had his stomach pumped for taking pills before he finally died by accidentally choking. That bitch had the nerve to blame my 14 year old sister for not watching him properly while she went out.... I was 21 then, I'm 38 now. She is not sure who my father is but would give me names and pictures of potential men. she said she just didn't want a man in her life telling her what to do. but just yesterday she was on the phone with one of those men talking and flirting with him while I'm driving in my car, I totally lost it. She said her husband doesn't mind. I said I do... It totally triggered me. I have no respect for weak ass men like my step father or men who just care about themselves and the only thing they have to offer is sex... they are who are truly weak and unintelligent.... I never get to be a delicate flower type of woman because I'm trying way too hard to just survive. Took me ten years to get an associate degree, I'm here to see how others view people like me and so far it has not been peachy.... all this time I've been led to believe that something is wrong with me... the only thing that is wrong with me is Not removing my mother from my life sooner. She said that I need help and that she can't change the past.but when I ask for help I get told I'm just looking for sympathy.... perhaps instead of being concerned about getting a girl interested in you, make damn sure your interesting yourself!!!
@@mariade1473 4 years ago your response here would have hurt me. I consider it progress to not care. Thank you for testing my resilience. Be Glad you are smarter than me.
@@mariade1473perhaps I misunderstood your intent because you resorted to insult but nevertheless. I see what your saying. I posted this 4 years ago when I was a different person. Let Corey make his money. Let them think that they are right by generalizing. Im sorry for your own loss. Hope you can heal.
I'm a guy and fully aware of the consequences and tendencies of a fatherless daughter. But the question is, is there a way that they can appreciate men or is there a way a guy can help them? I'm looking for solutions to this. We night have a win-win situation for our society if we can help instead of giving up on them.
@@monkey-bananas2890 is this based on psychology? Daddy issues are actually just attachment issues which...this may be shocking, either gender can experience. Most people who experience it do not enjoy the feelings that come with it. If they are self aware then most people get help. But not being aware of it is the issue.
As a guy who has grown up without a father, I can agree with the general idea that you should avoid dating a girl with daddy issues. If you can understand what the phrase "women are born, men are made" means then you'll understand why.
I was phsically abused AS a child. But i worked with old people most of my life. Im difficult,reserved,shy in relationships but im emphatic. And im worthy of love even if i dont come from a peaceful family.
Facts. Nothing is black and white. Everyone reacts to trauma differently. And everyone has their flaws. I can come up with a thousand reasons not to date a certain types of women, and eventually I would cover the entire female populace and all women would be deemed unfit for partner ship because they would all fall under on flawed category or another. And honestly a woman who's been through shit and has grown beyond it, shes gonna be way stronger and wiser than the woman who's never experienced shit.
Also, I see codependent relationships EVERYWHERE. It's literally like +90% of relationships. The large majority of people have issues with their parents. And nobody ever wants to talk about men with mommy issues.
I find that you as a man have to constantly prove that you are a man,manhood is constantly challenged by them,they have no boundaries and when you take a stand as a man it amplifies their negative emotions about how they feel about men.
@Vision-dd8fl I grew up with very emotionally unavailable parents. Provided me with supports in regard to education and living fees but no emotional love shown and usually very critical. I have depression and anxiety from it. I'm in long term therapy working on my shit. I dated a girl for 3 years who had the replica of my experience in childhood and adolescence. Insecure, needy, low self esteem. I think you're right. But the tears when setting boundaries actually made me feel tremendous shame triggered my childhood wounds. She was threatening to break up if she didn't get enough quality time. She had lack of understanding when I was drained after a days work for example.
...low-quality? So I'm "low-quality" because I didn't have a father or an emotional male rock? I'm not worth the effort it takes to date me? So what if guy has to put in a little extra effort with girls who grew up like me, or were abused. If they put forth the effort, are consistent with it, and never give up, eventually our mental walls will break down for that person and we'll give in because all that effort just means that they are going to stay and possibly marry you. As if I wasn't insecure enough about my self image, now I have to worry about a guy wanting to date me debating on whether or not I had a father? Or a rock? I saw that some of the girls agree with this video...I just want to know...did you grow up like me or were abused? Do you know how it feels to feel like you're not worth the effort? How can you agree to this? Why can't people just want to date based on personality, regardless of whether or not we had a mother or a father? Why is everyone so judgmental? Would I really be that bad to date? All I got from this video was a man telling other men that girls like me are not worth the effort, and that they should go for the girls who grew up with the perfect life. To me, a relationship takes effort, and hard work. Yes, we might need a little extra reassurance sometimes, but having reassurance from someone tells you they care. And what if during those days they don't call they're cheating? What then? Another thing I got from this video, was that I'm not good enough for any man, and I'm not worth the effort a relationship would take. I would prefer a man who's willing to go through the trials and the hard times and break down my barriers because it means he thinks that I'm worth the effort. Thanks man, this made me feel so much better about myself... News flash, girls go through the same thing with guys.
"Why can't people just want to date based on personality regardless of whether or not we had a mother or a father" actually he's explaining in this video how an absent father has a direct impact on one's personality "If they put forth the effort, are consistent with it, and never give up, eventually our mental walls will break down for that person and we'll give in because all that effort just means that they are going to stay and possibly marry you." That's what you believe now, and that's what the white prince who tries to 'save' girls like you, believes too.. but you are lying to yourself. If you will ever marry this kind of person who has 'passed your (in)security tests' (which usually never really end, even if you're in a committed relationship), this guy will not end up as your husband. he will end up as your pet. and you'd rather have a dog than that, right? you want to find someone who will stay by you unconditionally, yet at the same time you make all the effort in pushing him away as much as you can, to prove to yourself that there is no such thing as real love (because you unfortunately never happened to recieve one) and this way your deluded insecure beliefs are confirmed, and the loop, the cycle continues. do you really think anyone will stand by this version of you which is doing its worst to sabotage the relationship? do you really think you will meet anyone who will put all his effort in the relationship, while you're sucking all his effort like a void with no bottom? even if you find such a person, it won't be about love; it will be about fear and control. and such things usually don't end pretty, you know that. don't be hopeless, there's always a chance! this guy isn't trying to insult you or bring you down. he's trying to make you conscious. and that is a path to healing. healing takes time and effort. also healing doesn't require meeting 'the right person', because you know very well that when the right person comes along, you push him away. healing starts with you and you alone.
Leila Fierce you just described your emotions just like Corey says women do. As a man I read your description and using logic and reason like a man does and what I take from your story is that you are difficult for men deal with so they should waste a lot of their precious time trying to pick you up. That's all you had to say. No man wants to deal with all that.
David Mcgrew you didn’t use logic as you said you only used selfish and limited thinking . You couldn’t put yourself in her shoes that’s the only problem. Someone like that don’t need to be picked up , just needs to learn how it looks like and feels like to be in a healthy relationship. The effort is only needed to make this change and for the patience used with that person .Not saying that you should be in a relationship with a person like that because I don’t think someone with your way of thinking would be suitable . but what she the commenter said is not emotional or illogical it’s only from her perspective.
Some men actually are attracted to women who went through hardship because those women are the most loyal. They can love like no other but can also hate like no other..
I agree with coach. Based on my experience, she grew up without father doesn't necessarily means she is emotionally fucked up, but there is higher chance. I am not saying its their fault, but some of them are missing out something important in their lives. In dating, they tend to go into dating world at much younger age and seek the love of father from her man, but sometimes their relationships are not healthy ones. Not all of them are emotionally fucked up though. Some of those who have right father figure or role model may not have this issue. You can screen out by doing right things and see how she responds.
yea you're actually right. That was the old me. I have grown out of that now. I was looking for sex and relationship back then. Now i'm focusing on my purpose, not worrying about the opposite sex. I still talk with girls but sex and relationship is the last thing in my mind. So yea.
if she grew up without a father then it's best for her to day a guy who grew up without a father. I had great parents, I believe I should only date / marry a girl who also had strong good parents, therefore we are starting on common ground.
This is a very difficult topic and putting all women under the same category because of attachment issues is not fair. I'm not fucked up, broken or need saving because of my childhood, it wasn't fair but it is my feelings are my responsability, is my responsibility to go to therapy, meditate, journal and take care of my health, to work on it and heal myself, not my boyfriend's, but humans are interdependent and healing can ocurr in s relationship, secure relationships are healing, I don't say it, science say it, just look in attachment theory, we all, and I mean, ALL of us, have something we have to work on. But we are not fucked up or messed up, neither we are something to fix.
The women commenting here express the liability clearly. If you believe girls raised without a father turn out good, there is a giant chance you will divorce me because you don't feel I have an important role. I cannot give my heart and money and children to that situation.
I like pancakes But a person’s family circumstance is out of their control though. People are literally born into their family. This doesn’t make sense to go for someone who has factors in their life that are completely out of their control and are increasingly rare given the state of families
My dad was never really there for me but I’m not toxic I still love myself, and I don’t want to use people, and I’m not promiscuous I just have trouble trusting people not everyone with daddy issues is a slut a lot of girls just want someone always there and constant and a healthy relationship
If you have male friend or a bf who truly loves you but you have trust issues towards people, it really hurts him and it feels toxic if you don't trust him for no reason.
so a fatherless girl equals fucked up? when a guy is been flakey he is not worth it. That doesnt have anything to do with a girl not having a father or not. All girls should be aware of the flakey guy. If he doesnt respond for a couple of days without any warning what kind of husband would he make? sounds like he is one of those "bad" once.
I won't call a fatherless girl fucked up. Yes they are different compared to other woman, they need constant reassurance and validation. A man can love a woman so much that even when they don't have anything to tell them how great they are, they still love them very much. But women like them would start to feel that they're unloved and would start creating dramas which is very draining. They would start a fight with their men for a silly reason and then they would go look for validations from other men. Men aren't emotionless, we also feel the unpleasant feeling when we feel that we're being wronged. And we need time to process our feelings of what actually happened. That's not being flakey. But women like them would consider men flakey when it was them who drained their men to start with. That's their inability to take accountability. I'm an empathetic man and I knew she got problems and there were plenty of red flags, but I went into relationship with her anyway because I loved her.. I tried until it became unbearable and things went beyond my threshold. You can't really blame a man not knowing how hard he tried to deal with your bullshit.
@@thechemicals sounds like a whole lot of generalization. You dated one bad woman without a dad and you are now comparing them all. Women are not all the same, regardless of a father is present or not. Also you replied to nine year comment dude.
@@jbulanier it's 4 years later. Did you really found someone without issues and now you are having a happy relationship because you just stayed away from woman with daddy issues?
Help me understand: Does he mean it for ALL fatherless women? Is he generalizating? Does it mean that we are doomed to unhappiness? And you guys, do you believe that ALL the fatherless are (and always will be) "low-quality" not useful material for happy healthy relationship? Please explain me this.
You’re not messed up, you’ll just have to heal your wounds before getting into a relationship, otherwise you’ll endure pain from expecting a guy to meet your daddy needs when in reality he can’t...and a guy that can will be just as fucked up as your dad so to say and most likely leave you.
Hey man, took me a while to get my shit together, but the second I met my soulmate I knew it cause a switch flipped on me; I became the epitome of confidence and began exuding this charm like never before. What you say is absolutely true, life is BEYOND easy, we just insist on making it difficult 😂 This girl and I have amazing chemistry and I’m applying everything I knoe about human psychology and the evolutionary basis of attraction to solidify thar bond. I’ve had a moment or two of weakness but that shit ain’t gonna happen again. We’ll see you at our wedding, mate 👍
This video does not take into account that every woman is to start with, a human being, has differed circumstances and her own mindset regarding men. I never met my father. He died so never knew him. My mother also died when I was a child. I am very choosy and prefer to stay celibate for years in between relationships until I find a more compatible life partner. I went to University, pay my own bills, own a home, work full time. Please get your facts right Corey Wayne. I liked some of your work but now I have seen your incompetence on facts on this matter, you are no longer a Coach, you are disrespectful, generalising and should not be practicing spreading these biased opinions. Especially as you are a man whose mother had severe mental health issues as a paranoid schizophrenic. I am shocked. How would you feel if you were generalised and put down as a man not worth dating, having children with due to his genes??
@Hosh I am an independent woman who expresses her feelings. Sorry you can't handle that. You obviously lack the ability to understand this is 2018, society is extremely diverse. The world does not evolve around perfect families containing a mother father and children. Before criticising others and harassing women whose lives have been 100% more challenging , is your own life so perfect? If so what the fuck are you doing on an online dating advice channel.
@@serenaslattery3631 Yea Agree to disagree yu might be that 1 percent girl who's not fuck up from that 100 percent daddy issue but Yu don't have to brag bout it..mSpread leg not hate
Okay Coach.. although. Ive been screening out a lot of girls and seem to cant find one that fits that!! Help guys.. its been a year and ive been working in myself but can’t find a girl that is good mentally
This whole conversation is proof of how this video creates tension between men and women. Do we really need to behave like enemies? (but I understand stuffofme because this video was really offensive for me too)
One of the most interesting videos you put up Coach Corey, thank u... So in essence, using the tools you teach you can "screen out" the women that respond emotionally "bad" to you're "good" behavior. Interesting videos man, keep them coming!
My father was never home when i was a child and insted of being a normal kid i grew up every day asking my mom when is dad coming back, it messed me up. I soon was also took from my mother and i figured out bc they were both drug addicts. Soo i dont know how to flirt, i react to it as if someone is being rude to me bc my parents also abused me mentaly . Soo i live with my grandma now. U know everybodys problem with there parents was " how do i get them to say yes to anything" but mine was just simplely how to get up and find the courage to ask them a question. My depresion and anxiety hurts me and i dont want to live anymore.
I think you can give same advice without calling, woman with unstable emotions BAD QUALITY. Understanding human, where they come from and taking the right approach….. may it be friendship or lover, is the right thing to do, instead of having the mentally to catch only the ones that come from good family.
So you think that a girl who is damaged by the lack of a father is a low quality person? I guess she was discarded by her father, so she is not worthy of anyone else?
lol! your hilarious! people who go around giving advice are usually people that are frustrated and set themselves up for a hard lesson.....so good luck with that!
I once dated a girl with daddy issues and it was the worst relationship ever! First of all her father left her and the mom when she was pretty young, so she grew up upset, angry, and depressed that she doesn't have The Father's Love. She was pretty and was a very devoted christian so she used to avoid relationships or guys that hit on her, until we met talked a couple of times and fell in love. I had a bad childhood too I was the black sheep and the last born in a family of 6, so I also didn't know what love is. So the first time I fell in love was just amazing, the first and last text I wanted to see was from her I just loved her BUT she really was just not there! First of all she believed in sex after marriage, no touching or kissing either. Then she used to listen to the opinions of friends and haters and used to disclose them to me confidently, the worse thing was the fact that she always sought her friends approval and made decisions out of it. It Was Unbelievable! I used to be told to clean up my social media which eventually I did, that we should go to fancy restaurants her friends told her about but I never wanted to do any of that but just did because I was in love! Finally I got fed up and started ghosting her! She was so nice, and a bit apologetic because she saw I was not like before then she said I should meet up with her mom which I refused and she asked me to go back again but I said Enough Is Enough!
If she really liked you she would have said something like, "Hey, I checked out your profile and you seemed pretty cool. Nice to meet you." and accepted your friend request.
i have daddy issues but the thing is im that very happy caring person but immediately uou leave im over i dont even cry like i was expecting it or something,the only emotion im cpable of is happy and pity,i never date for love ,ive never loved someone or asked someone out ,they just come and because of my pity its hard to let them down ,i just hate myself but when people insult me it doesnt affect me,but like i kill myself
An that’s coming from someone with a absent father the issues I have are trusting I didn’t have the other issues but I can tell you girls who do have the issues once they are loved correctly are some of the loyalist women so it’s not always bad
what about all the messed up men? There are a lot of teachings for men on how to trick her into staying around but what about teaching him to listen to her, hear her, get to know her, understand her, respect her, protect her, love her, to interact with her in an emotionally healthy way, to be accountable for his own actions, how to communicate, etc? Is there any dating advice for men on how to stop being toxic to women just like there is in the reverse? (I guess the bigger question is do men care enough about women to seek such growth within themselves?) Instead of just trying to capture the women and letting the capture be the only valuable part of the interaction. YES, I understand women aren't perfect and need some help with growth as well. But i see most of the "fixing" is aimed at women. Not men. It's the "his actions are your fault" bullshit belief too many accept subconsciously that allows men to get away with almost everything. Can we not teach men to stop being emotionally and even physically reckless with women? I'm sure if you can teach women to stop being needy and co-dependent, we can teach men to stop being emotionally manipulative and inauthentic with their intentions. If there is information doing this please send me the link. I would love to see a video of someone teaching a man how to really love himself and women in a healthy way. I'm sure this comment has typos but let that not be too much of a distraction that the obvious point is missed.
You should read his book..its all about understanding woman to become and stay the right man for a woman...dont judge this man on one video you maybe dont like that much.
My woman of 24 years just left me and my 9 year old son a week ago. She says she’s not happy and doesn’t have feelings for me anymore. We meet when we were 15 years old and have been together ever since. Unfortunately her father was an abusive drunk wife beater and would even make her and her sisters get out of bed at 3am belittle them and make them clean the house scrub the floors the guy was a complete piece of shit. Her mother finally divorced his ass and 2 years after he moved out of the house he died from cancer. The first year he was out of the house he used my girl for information on her mom constantly he would take her out and buy her stuff to get info on what her mom had been up to her 3 other sisters were never around him after he moved out. He was diagnosed with terminal cancer after a year after her mom and dad’s divorce and she took care of him until he passed in this 2 year span I barely seen her and stayed with her though it because I felt bad. Now some information about my fiancé she’s always been an alcoholic since we were kids it was only weekends for many years and as of 6 months ago she has turned into somebody that I don’t even know she drinks 4 days a week at least 15 beers a night and texts on the phone to her drunk sister and friends from 8pm till the sun comes up. What really blows my mind is the pedestal she puts her father on makes me furious the guy was a complete asshole and in her eyes he was her best friend. I honestly don’t even know what to do anymore with this woman but I have her jealous family and friends against me her sisters are poor and they are great at using people she has even bought them liquor on my dime. I’ll admit I’ve been fighting with her a lot the last 6 months about the drinking and being detached from my son and I she doesn’t want to do anything but sit on the couch drinking texting and listening to her music on headphones. After watching this video I realize she has some serious daddy issues and will not let this guy go it’s been 19 years since he passed. I can’t help but think my relationship is doomed
Old post but i think this is really clear case. You are making yourself a victim. When you heal yourself, ur gonna be strong. Before that, the video is accurate.
Why does the rock have to be a man? My mother was my rock, she taught me to be strong, never cry, never give up. On the contrary I have always seen my father bow down my successive stepmothers, which led me to think than men in general have weaker willpower. "Low quality female", how funny. I wonder what kind of scale he is using to measure the value of a woman. Or what kind of studies he is basing himself on, must be solid ones considering how sure about himself he seems.
Vic M its obvious why his tools are good considering your arrogant high opinion of yourself the message was for woman like you..who will never respect a man and be loving and respectfull carefree and loving with compassion to others. Corey is someone who dated hundreds of woman he is a self made man. And the reason why it hit you is because deep inside you know he is right..you feel it but your conscious mind tried to counter his message for al the wrong reasons.
Saby Personal attack. From a logical point of view I don't see how my "personality" (you really think you can judge somebody based on a few lines? How "arrogant") can confirm or not his arguments. Moreover your message is out of subject since you avoid the main idea in the first message: the kind of scale that man uses to "rank" women. Finally, I don't see how the fact that he dated hundreds of women is relevant here: this could also simply highlight the fact that the dude can't keep a stable partner.
From reading your op, Vic M, I can tell you have a hard time respecting men because you grew up around a weak dad. It's a form of a daddy issue. Guys are repelled by chicks they sense have no respect for them. You'll find only weak guys are drawn to you, guys that also grew up around a weak dad or with a controlling mother.
My father died when i was 11 and my mother never remarried. They are/were both Christians raising my brother and I together. I miss him and i wished that my mother would remarry and give me a father but that never happened. I am searching for a husband because il neber have a father and i need a real man in my life. Ive never dated before and i have no idea what to do.
What if she grew up without a mother, wemon teachin wemon is the worst pile of bs I've ever seen in my life, even the Democrats cant top this, give an alpha good guy a daughter n c how fuckin awesome she turns out to b
I had a daddy issues girfriend...years... Its not worth it...she was very insecure...you could not trust her...nothing was enough...and she didnt accept my leadership properly...she became more anoying with time.. basically she had some sort of hate for men
Galen Casstevens they don't have to be permanently damaged because if their is a good guy out there who can love her with all that he's got then she will not be damaged anymore, she will start to heal. This is coming from a girl who lost her father at 8, there is nothing I fear more then giving a man my heart to only have it crumbling even more then it already is. I know most girls who I grew up with who didn't have a father we're afraid to fall in love because the guy that they fall in love with makes them feel loved like a father would. They just want to be loved and protected by a male figure, because they never had that before.
Craziipassion _05070507 yes hes true im dating a girl who don't have a father and she fucked up, we r in a relationship and she sometimes don't contact me for like 5/6 days, not even single messages, we r in a long distance relationship, i don't know if shes cheating on me or shes fucked up
You always have your true and perfect father, GOD. Don't EVER listen to someone who calls others bad words like "fucked." You won't hear scholars and prophets using this language because it is a fact that only insecure people risk hurting other's feelings. I know on my end I think it was almost God's will, for ugly reasons which I shall not mention here. Be the very best you can be that is all you need to focus on at 11.
The mother of my children never knew or met her real father he only lived 100 miles tho her mom had at least 3 stepdads none she was super close 2 never a good father figure in her life. Pffff you are right my ex is trash she's the biggest liar cheater devious no loyalty when it comes to knowledge and relationships I've never seen somebody so raise you I bet both balls on anything you say
I can't believe that any any guy who knows he has a kid out there and doesn't bother with them what just because years ago he didn't get on with the mother I didn't get on with my kid's mother but I was still in my kids life every week And they turned out great they have both got good paid jobs
Bro im not a bitch but if a guy hits me up and then waits days to text me he isnt really interested is what im going to think it takes seconds to text im busy if he cant do that im moving on.
Why is there never anything about what it's like growing up without a mother, a cruel or absent mother who may be narcissistic? I feel for these people but there seem to be many videos and much written information. Anyway, keep up the great work and please consider covering that topic.
that's because the vast majority of people grow up with a mother and it tends to be the father that leaves, works long hours, is emotionally unavailable for the kid
Because there aren't enough examples to know the effects. Women almost always win children in custody battles and single motherhood is encourage through media and laws in our society.
Because most often the men remarry and the new wife does not want to share attention and financial resources with children from another spouse. You can't really criticize the parent who is there full time making the effort, doing it all, because they are under terrible stresses.
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Some girls with daddy issues react differently to dating relationships. Some girls are promiscuous and some practice abstinence, some want to get married and some want to be single, some girls with daddy issues hate their fathers and some girls love their father despite him treating her badly. There's more than one category for women with daddy issues.
Nina-Rae DeLong Yes I dated a girl who loved her abusive father. It was sad man. He would never support her. And he hit her once I seen pictures of her face. It was before we were together. I really,dislike this but sad thing is I never seen him in person. Man the struggle is real. When she talks about him she always smiles and laughs but deep down he's a jerk.
My girlfriend grew up without a father too. She is a shy and lovely girl. Her father is an idiot but she loves him very much and whenever she talks about him she cries a lot. She says often that she wants to become closer to him, but he is so rude that once he didn't even recognize her :'( I know that is risky to be in a relationship with a girl who did grew up without a father, but you know what? If she keeps treating me with respect I won't let her alone. We need to give people a chance :)
@@IgorLeiteSL How's the relationship going 7 months later?
@@briandawsonii4451 a buddy of mine was dating this beautiful woman she was sexually abused as a kid by her father they broke up after a couple of years, because when he would come home she would trash the apartment break everything in it bust the Furniture mirrors everything , because what her father did to her, after three times he said I have to bail... he said I tried to fix her but nothing worked, you can't fix broken.
The best girl i've ever dated in my life had really bad daddy issues. But as opposed to being promiscious, lying etc, she went the completely opposite direction. Was insanely loyal to me, I was her everything, and she was BEYOND loving and honest. She had a heart that was 10/10............. Now, 3 years later, I'm dating another girl with daddy issues.... what a fucking mess. Abusive, lies, betrayal, unapologetic. It's like i've been in hell compared to the last one.
Women learn how to be loved by their fathers and how to love from their mothers. Pay attention to both. If her mother disrespects or has a terrible relationship with the father well there you go. If the relationships are positive and healthy you’re in a much better position. Be the best man and beware of who you’re with.
People don't understand the huge importance of it...
The father is important because the daughter will be more interested in men like her father. So if the dad is nice, calm and a loving person then the daughter will look for men with those same qualities. If their a single child with just her mother, then they just go off what what society tells them. Which is not good. And it’s most likely that they’ll date horrible men and get pregnant before marriage.
The Women who struggled in her child hood and has learned and grown past it, shes probably gonna be much stronger and wiser than the woman who's never experienced shit.
Not necessarily. My sister and I were physically abused by our mother and our father left us before we could talk. We are the exact opposite of our mother. Her behavior was such a turn off. She was promiscuous and domineering. We are none of that. 🤷🏻♀️I guess it might not make sense….if I have any daddy issues, it’s fear of abandonment and lack of trust for men.
Genius fing comment m8
in my experience girls without fathers want a man that's even more of her rock.
all women want a man who is a rock.
Faustt Dagon slippery slope
Very true.
True
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My situation is weird. I never met my father and have no memory of him other than a handful of short phonecalls. My mother had severe daddy issues though my grandpa was around consistently. He was not abusive as far I know and always seems like a good standup man. My mother was a narcissistic emotional mess who serial dated, never married and made it her life's mission to make me feel her pain every day of my childhood. She loved throwing my father's abandonment in my face and despite that, I never internalized it because I didn't know what it felt like to lose him. I was hurt by her actions and words towards me, not his abandonment. I never loved or hated my father, he was always just a story I was told with nothing tangible to emotionally latch onto. I felt nothing during our rare phone calls because he was always the stranger that my mom hated who barely had words to share with me. Fast forward to my adult life and I have always been dreaming of a close-knit loving family that involves a husband and kids. I know I don't have daddy issues( not attracted to men who act fatherly toward me or seeking male approval, never been self destructive or dramatic), but I do have mommy issues and they manifest as an intense maternal drive that unconsciously attracts men who have mommy issues that manifest as the intense need to be nurtured by a woman who embodies the mom they never had but desperately needed as children. I married a man who never healed from parental abandonment and has heavily relied on my emotional support and care. At first I was thinking that I could help him grow out of it and be able to be a good father for our future children. Turns out that I was very wrong and he admitted that he never wanted to be a father. He also has not done anything to heal and grow as a man. I am now seeking divorce because I realized that I have trapped myself in a unhappy/unhealthy relationship with a grown child who wants me to be his mommy forever. He sees any potential kids as competition for my mothering and wants none of that. Sorry for the book! I just had to get it all out. Talking to my husband doesn't work because he is in denial.
"Fucked" up is not the right word to use , a man is not gonna know the girl is "Fucked up" until they get a deeper connection and more open with eachother so what he gonna do run away?
All I get from this video is that I’m not worth the effort in relationships because my father has never been in my life , and with all my emotional barriers & how “fucked up “ I am , I’m scared to let anyone in sooo i guess it’s my fault that It’s hard for me to know the difference between a genuinely good guy or a bad guy because nobody has ever taught me how I deserve to be truly loved.
So what are the steps in learning how to be truly loved. Canyone teach themselves how to be truly loved? Isn't it the duty of the father?.
You sound crazy
Bruh basically you reject all nice guys and you’re attracted to guys that don’t even like you
@Kamiel Hayward can’t men also have daddy issues?
Like men born without a father figure in their lives
Who are the men you have the hardest time letting in? The ones who care about you? That's my experience. I have loved a woman for 17 years. I know she loves me back, but is unable to accept this. Our relationship has been push/pull for 17 years. Why does this happen?
Corey is right. I'm pretty emotionally unstable. I never met my father and My mother was more interested in being on welfare and dating men then being nurturing and caring for me or my siblings. My little brother almost got hit by a car and had his stomach pumped for taking pills before he finally died by accidentally choking. That bitch had the nerve to blame my 14 year old sister for not watching him properly while she went out.... I was 21 then, I'm 38 now. She is not sure who my father is but would give me names and pictures of potential men. she said she just didn't want a man in her life telling her what to do. but just yesterday she was on the phone with one of those men talking and flirting with him while I'm driving in my car, I totally lost it. She said her husband doesn't mind. I said I do... It totally triggered me. I have no respect for weak ass men like my step father or men who just care about themselves and the only thing they have to offer is sex... they are who are truly weak and unintelligent.... I never get to be a delicate flower type of woman because I'm trying way too hard to just survive. Took me ten years to get an associate degree, I'm here to see how others view people like me and so far it has not been peachy.... all this time I've been led to believe that something is wrong with me... the only thing that is wrong with me is Not removing my mother from my life sooner. She said that I need help and that she can't change the past.but when I ask for help I get told I'm just looking for sympathy.... perhaps instead of being concerned about getting a girl interested in you, make damn sure your interesting yourself!!!
Are you very premiscuous? Ppl are saying Girls w daddy Issue are
life ducks for a lot of girls of all ages dear get used to it..born to suffer bts
@@mariade1473 4 years ago your response here would have hurt me. I consider it progress to not care. Thank you for testing my resilience. Be Glad you are smarter than me.
@@mariade1473perhaps I misunderstood your intent because you resorted to insult but nevertheless. I see what your saying. I posted this 4 years ago when I was a different person. Let Corey make his money. Let them think that they are right by generalizing. Im sorry for your own loss. Hope you can heal.
@@Nobody-uz7wd bruh salty can u answer the question though, see u guys with no fathers can’t take anything men say directly you always double think
I'm a guy and fully aware of the consequences and tendencies of a fatherless daughter. But the question is, is there a way that they can appreciate men or is there a way a guy can help them? I'm looking for solutions to this. We night have a win-win situation for our society if we can help instead of giving up on them.
Only if they want to be helped themselves, but more often than not they don't
@@monkey-bananas2890 is this based on psychology? Daddy issues are actually just attachment issues which...this may be shocking, either gender can experience. Most people who experience it do not enjoy the feelings that come with it. If they are self aware then most people get help. But not being aware of it is the issue.
My gf grew up without a father the nights when shes with me she feels safe now she calls me daddy
How is it now bro
As a guy who has grown up without a father, I can agree with the general idea that you should avoid dating a girl with daddy issues. If you can understand what the phrase "women are born, men are made" means then you'll understand why.
I am in the same boat, could you elaborate on this?
I was phsically abused AS a child. But i worked with old people most of my life. Im difficult,reserved,shy in relationships but im emphatic. And im worthy of love even if i dont come from a peaceful family.
Facts. Nothing is black and white. Everyone reacts to trauma differently.
And everyone has their flaws. I can come up with a thousand reasons not to date a certain types of women, and eventually I would cover the entire female populace and all women would be deemed unfit for partner ship because they would all fall under on flawed category or another.
And honestly a woman who's been through shit and has grown beyond it, shes gonna be way stronger and wiser than the woman who's never experienced shit.
Also, I see codependent relationships EVERYWHERE. It's literally like +90% of relationships. The large majority of people have issues with their parents. And nobody ever wants to talk about men with mommy issues.
Self-certified, I see…
I find that you as a man have to constantly prove that you are a man,manhood is constantly challenged by them,they have no boundaries and when you take a stand as a man it amplifies their negative emotions about how they feel about men.
exactly what I went through
@Vision-dd8fl I grew up with very emotionally unavailable parents. Provided me with supports in regard to education and living fees but no emotional love shown and usually very critical. I have depression and anxiety from it. I'm in long term therapy working on my shit.
I dated a girl for 3 years who had the replica of my experience in childhood and adolescence.
Insecure, needy, low self esteem.
I think you're right.
But the tears when setting boundaries actually made me feel tremendous shame triggered my childhood wounds. She was threatening to break up if she didn't get enough quality time. She had lack of understanding when I was drained after a days work for example.
...low-quality? So I'm "low-quality" because I didn't have a father or an emotional male rock? I'm not worth the effort it takes to date me? So what if guy has to put in a little extra effort with girls who grew up like me, or were abused. If they put forth the effort, are consistent with it, and never give up, eventually our mental walls will break down for that person and we'll give in because all that effort just means that they are going to stay and possibly marry you. As if I wasn't insecure enough about my self image, now I have to worry about a guy wanting to date me debating on whether or not I had a father? Or a rock? I saw that some of the girls agree with this video...I just want to know...did you grow up like me or were abused? Do you know how it feels to feel like you're not worth the effort? How can you agree to this? Why can't people just want to date based on personality, regardless of whether or not we had a mother or a father? Why is everyone so judgmental? Would I really be that bad to date? All I got from this video was a man telling other men that girls like me are not worth the effort, and that they should go for the girls who grew up with the perfect life. To me, a relationship takes effort, and hard work. Yes, we might need a little extra reassurance sometimes, but having reassurance from someone tells you they care. And what if during those days they don't call they're cheating? What then? Another thing I got from this video, was that I'm not good enough for any man, and I'm not worth the effort a relationship would take. I would prefer a man who's willing to go through the trials and the hard times and break down my barriers because it means he thinks that I'm worth the effort. Thanks man, this made me feel so much better about myself... News flash, girls go through the same thing with guys.
"Why can't people just want to date based on personality regardless of whether or not we had a mother or a father"
actually he's explaining in this video how an absent father has a direct impact on one's personality
"If they put forth the effort, are consistent with it, and never give up, eventually our mental walls will break down for that person and we'll give in because all that effort just means that they are going to stay and possibly marry you."
That's what you believe now, and that's what the white prince who tries to 'save' girls like you, believes too.. but you are lying to yourself. If you will ever marry this kind of person who has 'passed your (in)security tests' (which usually never really end, even if you're in a committed relationship), this guy will not end up as your husband. he will end up as your pet. and you'd rather have a dog than that, right?
you want to find someone who will stay by you unconditionally, yet at the same time you make all the effort in pushing him away as much as you can, to prove to yourself that there is no such thing as real love (because you unfortunately never happened to recieve one) and this way your deluded insecure beliefs are confirmed, and the loop, the cycle continues.
do you really think anyone will stand by this version of you which is doing its worst to sabotage the relationship? do you really think you will meet anyone who will put all his effort in the relationship, while you're sucking all his effort like a void with no bottom? even if you find such a person, it won't be about love; it will be about fear and control. and such things usually don't end pretty, you know that.
don't be hopeless, there's always a chance! this guy isn't trying to insult you or bring you down. he's trying to make you conscious. and that is a path to healing.
healing takes time and effort. also healing doesn't require meeting 'the right person', because you know very well that when the right person comes along, you push him away.
healing starts with you and you alone.
Leila Fierce you just described your emotions just like Corey says women do. As a man I read your description and using logic and reason like a man does and what I take from your story is that you are difficult for men deal with so they should waste a lot of their precious time trying to pick you up. That's all you had to say. No man wants to deal with all that.
David Mcgrew Are you perfect yourself mr.david ? That you don’t require any effort to establish a relationship with you ?
David Mcgrew you didn’t use logic as you said you only used selfish and limited thinking . You couldn’t put yourself in her shoes that’s the only problem. Someone like that don’t need to be picked up , just needs to learn how it looks like and feels like to be in a healthy relationship. The effort is only needed to make this change and for the patience used with that person .Not saying that you should be in a relationship with a person like that because I don’t think someone with your way of thinking would be suitable . but what she the commenter said is not emotional or illogical it’s only from her perspective.
Some men actually are attracted to women who went through hardship because those women are the most loyal. They can love like no other but can also hate like no other..
I agree with coach. Based on my experience, she grew up without father doesn't necessarily means she is emotionally fucked up, but there is higher chance. I am not saying its their fault, but some of them are missing out something important in their lives. In dating, they tend to go into dating world at much younger age and seek the love of father from her man, but sometimes their relationships are not healthy ones. Not all of them are emotionally fucked up though. Some of those who have right father figure or role model may not have this issue. You can screen out by doing right things and see how she responds.
yea you're actually right. That was the old me. I have grown out of that now. I was looking for sex and relationship back then. Now i'm focusing on my purpose, not worrying about the opposite sex. I still talk with girls but sex and relationship is the last thing in my mind. So yea.
if she grew up without a father then it's best for her to day a guy who grew up without a father. I had great parents, I believe I should only date / marry a girl who also had strong good parents, therefore we are starting on common ground.
This is a very difficult topic and putting all women under the same category because of attachment issues is not fair. I'm not fucked up, broken or need saving because of my childhood, it wasn't fair but it is my feelings are my responsability, is my responsibility to go to therapy, meditate, journal and take care of my health, to work on it and heal myself, not my boyfriend's, but humans are interdependent and healing can ocurr in s relationship, secure relationships are healing, I don't say it, science say it, just look in attachment theory, we all, and I mean, ALL of us, have something we have to work on. But we are not fucked up or messed up, neither we are something to fix.
The women commenting here express the liability clearly. If you believe girls raised without a father turn out good, there is a giant chance you will divorce me because you don't feel I have an important role. I cannot give my heart and money and children to that situation.
But you cannot say that ALL girls raised without a father will be like you described. Generalizations like this don't work.
I like pancakes But a person’s family circumstance is out of their control though. People are literally born into their family. This doesn’t make sense to go for someone who has factors in their life that are completely out of their control and are increasingly rare given the state of families
My dad was never really there for me but I’m not toxic I still love myself, and I don’t want to use people, and I’m not promiscuous I just have trouble trusting people not everyone with daddy issues is a slut a lot of girls just want someone always there and constant and a healthy relationship
Daddy issues AF. “Always” there good luck🤣
If you have male friend or a bf who truly loves you but you have trust issues towards people, it really hurts him and it feels toxic if you don't trust him for no reason.
Three years later amd ur still chronically single....daddy issues!!!
so a fatherless girl equals fucked up? when a guy is been flakey he is not worth it. That doesnt have anything to do with a girl not having a father or not. All girls should be aware of the flakey guy. If he doesnt respond for a couple of days without any warning what kind of husband would he make? sounds like he is one of those "bad" once.
Women without fathers are like birds with one wing trying to fly
I won't call a fatherless girl fucked up. Yes they are different compared to other woman, they need constant reassurance and validation. A man can love a woman so much that even when they don't have anything to tell them how great they are, they still love them very much. But women like them would start to feel that they're unloved and would start creating dramas which is very draining. They would start a fight with their men for a silly reason and then they would go look for validations from other men. Men aren't emotionless, we also feel the unpleasant feeling when we feel that we're being wronged. And we need time to process our feelings of what actually happened. That's not being flakey. But women like them would consider men flakey when it was them who drained their men to start with. That's their inability to take accountability. I'm an empathetic man and I knew she got problems and there were plenty of red flags, but I went into relationship with her anyway because I loved her.. I tried until it became unbearable and things went beyond my threshold. You can't really blame a man not knowing how hard he tried to deal with your bullshit.
@@thechemicals sounds like a whole lot of generalization. You dated one bad woman without a dad and you are now comparing them all. Women are not all the same, regardless of a father is present or not. Also you replied to nine year comment dude.
Walk away and move on. Trust me it doesn't end well.
She maybe great at first but the emotional trauma will come out eventually and it will drag you and your family down.
@@jbulanier it's 4 years later.
Did you really found someone without issues and now you are having a happy relationship because you just stayed away from woman with daddy issues?
@@Andromeda14167 I’m happily in a relationship with a woman with less drama issues.
I'm scared of dating men without a father, even in divorced homes I'm scared to date a guy who's parents divorced.....
Help me understand: Does he mean it for ALL fatherless women? Is he generalizating? Does it mean that we are doomed to unhappiness? And you guys, do you believe that ALL the fatherless are (and always will be) "low-quality" not useful material for happy healthy relationship? Please explain me this.
I actually Want this Kind of woman ill take care of her as long as shes faithful
You’re not messed up, you’ll just have to heal your wounds before getting into a relationship, otherwise you’ll endure pain from expecting a guy to meet your daddy needs when in reality he can’t...and a guy that can will be just as fucked up as your dad so to say and most likely leave you.
Hey man, took me a while to get my shit together, but the second I met my soulmate I knew it cause a switch flipped on me; I became the epitome of confidence and began exuding this charm like never before. What you say is absolutely true, life is BEYOND easy, we just insist on making it difficult 😂
This girl and I have amazing chemistry and I’m applying everything I knoe about human psychology and the evolutionary basis of attraction to solidify thar bond. I’ve had a moment or two of weakness but that shit ain’t gonna happen again. We’ll see you at our wedding, mate 👍
You guys still together?
How is it going now
This video does not take into account that every woman is to start with, a human being, has differed circumstances and her own mindset regarding men.
I never met my father.
He died so never knew him.
My mother also died when I was a child.
I am very choosy and prefer to stay celibate for years in between relationships until I find a more compatible life partner.
I went to University, pay my own bills, own a home, work full time.
Please get your facts right Corey Wayne. I liked some of your work but now I have seen your incompetence on facts on this matter, you are no longer a Coach, you are disrespectful, generalising and should not be practicing spreading these biased opinions.
Especially as you are a man whose mother had severe mental health issues as a paranoid schizophrenic. I am shocked.
How would you feel if you were generalised and put down as a man not worth dating, having children with due to his genes??
@Hosh
I am an independent woman who expresses her feelings.
Sorry you can't handle that.
You obviously lack the ability to understand this is 2018, society is extremely diverse.
The world does not evolve around perfect families containing a mother father and children.
Before criticising others and harassing women whose lives have been 100% more challenging , is your own life so perfect?
If so what the fuck are you doing on an online dating advice channel.
Thanks for proving Corey's point lmao
@@serenaslattery3631 Yea Agree to disagree yu might be that 1 percent girl who's not fuck up from that 100 percent daddy issue but Yu don't have to brag bout it..mSpread leg not hate
I met one and she was a narcissistic sociopath and was fucking nuts.
Okay Coach.. although. Ive been screening out a lot of girls and seem to cant find one that fits that!! Help guys.. its been a year and ive been working in myself but can’t find a girl that is good mentally
And we women shall show the same consideration to you men.
PREACH
....and we men would expect nothing less from you women.
Yeticus Rex we know that.
This whole conversation is proof of how this video creates tension between men and women. Do we really need to behave like enemies? (but I understand stuffofme because this video was really offensive for me too)
Thanks for the video Corey! Can you do a video about why men abandon their own children?
One of the most interesting videos you put up Coach Corey, thank u...
So in essence, using the tools you teach you can "screen out" the women that respond emotionally "bad" to you're "good" behavior.
Interesting videos man, keep them coming!
now seriously. all woman have some kind of daddy issues in terms of seeking her man approval and validation right? thats the core
I don’t have a father and I’m fucked up.
Another great video. I really connected with this one. Thanks!
What if she grew up with a single father?
If she grew up without a Father, sorry, I don’t want her especially as a Wife. Women must have Fathers. The only exception is that they are deceased.
I just want someone to accept me for me.
My father was never home when i was a child and insted of being a normal kid i grew up every day asking my mom when is dad coming back, it messed me up. I soon was also took from my mother and i figured out bc they were both drug addicts. Soo i dont know how to flirt, i react to it as if someone is being rude to me bc my parents also abused me mentaly . Soo i live with my grandma now. U know everybodys problem with there parents was " how do i get them to say yes to anything" but mine was just simplely how to get up and find the courage to ask them a question. My depresion and anxiety hurts me and i dont want to live anymore.
You are loved
beepmeep stay alive, there will be bright days
I like this message and I agree with it.
I think you can give same advice without calling, woman with unstable emotions BAD QUALITY. Understanding human, where they come from and taking the right approach….. may it be friendship or lover, is the right thing to do, instead of having the mentally to catch only the ones that come from good family.
So you think that a girl who is damaged by the lack of a father is a low quality person? I guess she was discarded by her father, so she is not worthy of anyone else?
IF she hasn’t worked on herself… it IS a problem
lol! your hilarious! people who go around giving advice are usually people that are frustrated and set themselves up for a hard lesson.....so good luck with that!
M Brontë go look at the ratings in his book....almost everyone rates it 5 stars....
Luck is not needed when it is about skill. Two years later, Coach is still here giving good advice, and you, M Bronte are nowhere to be found.
You don't like what he's saying doesn't mean what he's saying is wrong.
You make valid points but your choice of words is not the best “fucked up “ ... come on dude not cool
I once dated a girl with daddy issues and it was the worst relationship ever! First of all her father left her and the mom when she was pretty young, so she grew up upset, angry, and depressed that she doesn't have The Father's Love. She was pretty and was a very devoted christian so she used to avoid relationships or guys that hit on her, until we met talked a couple of times and fell in love. I had a bad childhood too I was the black sheep and the last born in a family of 6, so I also didn't know what love is. So the first time I fell in love was just amazing, the first and last text I wanted to see was from her I just loved her BUT she really was just not there! First of all she believed in sex after marriage, no touching or kissing either. Then she used to listen to the opinions of friends and haters and used to disclose them to me confidently, the worse thing was the fact that she always sought her friends approval and made decisions out of it. It Was Unbelievable! I used to be told to clean up my social media which eventually I did, that we should go to fancy restaurants her friends told her about but I never wanted to do any of that but just did because I was in love! Finally I got fed up and started ghosting her! She was so nice, and a bit apologetic because she saw I was not like before then she said I should meet up with her mom which I refused and she asked me to go back again but I said Enough Is Enough!
Eddie Mitch what’s your take on it ?
I'll answer the question very simply: YOU WILL BECOME HER DE FACTO FATHER.
(You're welcome)
If she really liked you she would have said something like, "Hey, I checked out your profile and you seemed pretty cool. Nice to meet you." and accepted your friend request.
Only a shallow person would respond like that 😂😂
i have daddy issues but the thing is im that very happy caring person but immediately uou leave im over i dont even cry like i was expecting it or something,the only emotion im cpable of is happy and pity,i never date for love ,ive never loved someone or asked someone out ,they just come and because of my pity its hard to let them down ,i just hate myself but when people insult me it doesnt affect me,but like i kill myself
"but the thing is im that very happy"
You don't sound like one. I hope you get your life on track
An that’s coming from someone with a absent father the issues I have are trusting I didn’t have the other issues but I can tell you girls who do have the issues once they are loved correctly are some of the loyalist women so it’s not always bad
what about all the messed up men?
There are a lot of teachings for men on how to trick her into staying around but what about teaching him to listen to her, hear her, get to know her, understand her, respect her, protect her, love her, to interact with her in an emotionally healthy way, to be accountable for his own actions, how to communicate, etc? Is there any dating advice for men on how to stop being toxic to women just like there is in the reverse? (I guess the bigger question is do men care enough about women to seek such growth within themselves?) Instead of just trying to capture the women and letting the capture be the only valuable part of the interaction.
YES, I understand women aren't perfect and need some help with growth as well. But i see most of the "fixing" is aimed at women. Not men. It's the "his actions are your fault" bullshit belief too many accept subconsciously that allows men to get away with almost everything. Can we not teach men to stop being emotionally and even physically reckless with women? I'm sure if you can teach women to stop being needy and co-dependent, we can teach men to stop being emotionally manipulative and inauthentic with their intentions.
If there is information doing this please send me the link. I would love to see a video of someone teaching a man how to really love himself and women in a healthy way. I'm sure this comment has typos but let that not be too much of a distraction that the obvious point is missed.
You should read his book..its all about understanding woman to become and stay the right man for a woman...dont judge this man on one video you maybe dont like that much.
Ty that was awesome!
BUTTHURRRRRT!!!!!!
My woman of 24 years just left me and my 9 year old son a week ago. She says she’s not happy and doesn’t have feelings for me anymore. We meet when we were 15 years old and have been together ever since. Unfortunately her father was an abusive drunk wife beater and would even make her and her sisters get out of bed at 3am belittle them and make them clean the house scrub the floors the guy was a complete piece of shit. Her mother finally divorced his ass and 2 years after he moved out of the house he died from cancer. The first year he was out of the house he used my girl for information on her mom constantly he would take her out and buy her stuff to get info on what her mom had been up to her 3 other sisters were never around him after he moved out. He was diagnosed with terminal cancer after a year after her mom and dad’s divorce and she took care of him until he passed in this 2 year span I barely seen her and stayed with her though it because I felt bad. Now some information about my fiancé she’s always been an alcoholic since we were kids it was only weekends for many years and as of 6 months ago she has turned into somebody that I don’t even know she drinks 4 days a week at least 15 beers a night and texts on the phone to her drunk sister and friends from 8pm till the sun comes up. What really blows my mind is the pedestal she puts her father on makes me furious the guy was a complete asshole and in her eyes he was her best friend. I honestly don’t even know what to do anymore with this woman but I have her jealous family and friends against me her sisters are poor and they are great at using people she has even bought them liquor on my dime. I’ll admit I’ve been fighting with her a lot the last 6 months about the drinking and being detached from my son and I she doesn’t want to do anything but sit on the couch drinking texting and listening to her music on headphones. After watching this video I realize she has some serious daddy issues and will not let this guy go it’s been 19 years since he passed. I can’t help but think my relationship is doomed
does it me an that unprotected girls from fatherless background have no change for a good relationship??? they don't deserve to be loved ??
Don't be fucking ridiculous
Old post but i think this is really clear case. You are making yourself a victim. When you heal yourself, ur gonna be strong. Before that, the video is accurate.
Why does the rock have to be a man? My mother was my rock, she taught me to be strong, never cry, never give up. On the contrary I have always seen my father bow down my successive stepmothers, which led me to think than men in general have weaker willpower. "Low quality female", how funny. I wonder what kind of scale he is using to measure the value of a woman. Or what kind of studies he is basing himself on, must be solid ones considering how sure about himself he seems.
Vic M its obvious why his tools are good considering your arrogant high opinion of yourself the message was for woman like you..who will never respect a man and be loving and respectfull carefree and loving with compassion to others. Corey is someone who dated hundreds of woman he is a self made man. And the reason why it hit you is because deep inside you know he is right..you feel it but your conscious mind tried to counter his message for al the wrong reasons.
Saby Personal attack. From a logical point of view I don't see how my "personality" (you really think you can judge somebody based on a few lines? How "arrogant") can confirm or not his arguments. Moreover your message is out of subject since you avoid the main idea in the first message: the kind of scale that man uses to "rank" women. Finally, I don't see how the fact that he dated hundreds of women is relevant here: this could also simply highlight the fact that the dude can't keep a stable partner.
You already made Corey and my point thank you to show this onhere ))))
Saby You're welcome my dear.
From reading your op, Vic M, I can tell you have a hard time respecting men because you grew up around a weak dad. It's a form of a daddy issue. Guys are repelled by chicks they sense have no respect for them. You'll find only weak guys are drawn to you, guys that also grew up around a weak dad or with a controlling mother.
My father died when i was 11 and my mother never remarried. They are/were both Christians raising my brother and I together. I miss him and i wished that my mother would remarry and give me a father but that never happened. I am searching for a husband because il neber have a father and i need a real man in my life. Ive never dated before and i have no idea what to do.
What if she grew up without a mother, wemon teachin wemon is the worst pile of bs I've ever seen in my life, even the Democrats cant top this, give an alpha good guy a daughter n c how fuckin awesome she turns out to b
Spoken like someone who has never actually met a woman raised by a man.
I had a daddy issues girfriend...years...
Its not worth it...she was very insecure...you could not trust her...nothing was enough...and she didnt accept my leadership properly...she became more anoying with time.. basically she had some sort of hate for men
I experienced the same thing, very combative and hates leadership from a man
What if you married her? O - Sh*t
I'm 11...I don't have a dad....he left....I'm fucked up? yea well thx.... just another thing too remember......from a *man*
Craziipassion _05070507 youre not messed up! dont listen to this joker.
Galen Casstevens they don't have to be permanently damaged because if their is a good guy out there who can love her with all that he's got then she will not be damaged anymore, she will start to heal. This is coming from a girl who lost her father at 8, there is nothing I fear more then giving a man my heart to only have it crumbling even more then it already is. I know most girls who I grew up with who didn't have a father we're afraid to fall in love because the guy that they fall in love with makes them feel loved like a father would. They just want to be loved and protected by a male figure, because they never had that before.
Craziipassion _05070507 yes hes true im dating a girl who don't have a father and she fucked up, we r in a relationship and she sometimes don't contact me for like 5/6 days, not even single messages, we r in a long distance relationship, i don't know if shes cheating on me or shes fucked up
You are 11, you have plenty of time to show people you aren't fucked up....or you will prove everyone right.
You always have your true and perfect father, GOD. Don't EVER listen to someone who calls others bad words like "fucked." You won't hear scholars and prophets using this language because it is a fact that only insecure people risk hurting other's feelings. I know on my end I think it was almost God's will, for ugly reasons which I shall not mention here. Be the very best you can be that is all you need to focus on at 11.
Fucked up?
lol poor choice of words
never have a relationship with a woman with daddy issues. it rearly works out well.
I love my dad 😍
I'm in this predicament right now it's like pulling fucking teeth with my gf she's a emotionless pit smh like wtf
The mother of my children never knew or met her real father he only lived 100 miles tho her mom had at least 3 stepdads none she was super close 2 never a good father figure in her life. Pffff you are right my ex is trash she's the biggest liar cheater devious no loyalty when it comes to knowledge and relationships I've never seen somebody so raise you I bet both balls on anything you say
Did he answer the question yet lol
This "self help guru" comes off as ethically challenged to me. He has dead looking eyes too.
That's because he murdered his ex wife
@@TRUYORK718 Yikes!
I can't believe that any any guy who knows he has a kid out there and doesn't bother with them
what just because years ago he didn't get on with the mother I didn't get on with my kid's mother but I was still in my kids life every week
And they turned out great they have both got good paid jobs
Awesome!
thanks :)
This video was made only to be a bridge to his other content and his channel.
Yes it's relates to what he's always talking about, dumb ass
Bro im not a bitch but if a guy hits me up and then waits days to text me he isnt really interested is what im going to think it takes seconds to text im busy if he cant do that im moving on.
Bad Bunny thats because you are to needy yourself and you will atttact needy weak man who bitch maybe even more then woman can do lol))
Saby im in a relationship with a dom so sorry but you're wrong 😊
How many Days?
I'll do my best :)
+Coach Corey Wayne looks like this dingus missed the reply button😂😂
when all you hear is whatever?
COREY IS GOD
Run
I love girls with Daddy Issues... mmmmm... Especially the crazy ones.
"Not totally f*cked up"..
Saadiya not totally, but so close it hurts.
Why is there never anything about what it's like growing up without a mother, a cruel or absent mother who may be narcissistic? I feel for these people but there seem to be many videos and much written information. Anyway, keep up the great work and please consider covering that topic.
that's because the vast majority of people grow up with a mother and it tends to be the father that leaves, works long hours, is emotionally unavailable for the kid
Search up narcissistic mother there are a bunch of vids
Because there aren't enough examples to know the effects. Women almost always win children in custody battles and single motherhood is encourage through media and laws in our society.
Not enough fathers and single mothers are like poison especially to a boy
Because most often the men remarry and the new wife does not want to share attention and financial resources with children from another spouse. You can't really criticize the parent who is there full time making the effort, doing it all, because they are under terrible stresses.