It is happy to see how men are also accepting and listening to this topic and supporting it. When I am opening comments section I expected and criticisms from men. But the reality is upside down . Very happy to see 🎈
There is no bravery needed except to speak of rights men being emasculated legally daily. Just think, it is not a crime to commit adultery, but sex within marriege, husband is at the mercy of his wife. This is kali Yuga. women are empowered like Kali, legally.
I appreciate your courageous effort to talk about this topic which is often categorized as taboo. I feel, today's men should talk about such topics more because when a woman speaks for herself, they are labeled as Feminist which itself is not acceptable for many men. They feel intimidating by seeing an independent woman. Breaking the barriers and speaking against the social evils such as rape, needs a real gut. 👏 👏 You have brought this book to our knowledge, hopefully this would give different perspective to understand different dark sides of people. Few men have no idea, they are narcissists, and most of the victims are their lover, girlfriend, sister, or close circle who are their loved ones. Could you please talk about that as well in the upcoming days with some book reference. It saddened my heart much about the attitude of such man who does rape, just to prove their physical strength and power. I wish educating people on their humanities and behaviour with their opposite gender would decrease the rate of rape. Respect to the author and you Anandhi.❤
true... but oru visayam enna na independent ana women ah pathu real men bayapadavo padharavo matanga...women epd irundhalum rape nadakudhu bcoz adhu pshcho thanam....kadumayana thandanai m awareness m valakura vidhamum maranum varanum adhu vandhale podhum...pengal pblms pathi pesa thana feminism iruku...pengal pblms pathi pesuranala aangalku pblm illa pengal inga avanga pblms pesurenu sollitu aangaluku entha pblm m illa aanai irupadhu easy nu soldra toxic feminist ah patha tha kadupagudhu...
read this also tamil konngass Since the Nirbhaya Rape case happened in the year 2012 an alarming increase in the false rape cases being filed is recorded. Many innocents have been convicted guilty for their life. In 2014, Commission for Women submitted a report stating that 53.2% of rape cases registered between April 2013-July 2014 were false
@@muthusiva4824 bro men created toxic feminism see most of tamil songs and movies show disrespect to women . any one girl doing wrong they labelled every girl as bad .if one man done wrong not every men. Any women told every men wrong just like men told every women wrong . women labelled as toxic feminist men labelled as hero . single women is catlady but single men is successfull men
@@SweatDevil-nf6fp bro Ella men m bad nu soldra women toxix feminist.. Ella women m bad nu soldravana yaru inga hero nu soldra... See men ah pathi bad ah songs varudhu women pathi proud songs m varudhu... Nenga one side matum pakra mari iruku... 5 women onna ukandhu debate ndra per la aangala pathi kevalama pesa mudium... Men apd pesuna bayangara edhirppu kilambidum... Na sola varadhu.. Pengal problems pathi pesum podhu aanoda life easy ah iruku nu sola venam nu tha kekren..
I am an undergraduate, now after listening to this show I got some clarity on how I should be in future as a men , because every thing's around me were so dam confusing I can't process anything, but thank you for making the show which is or which made impact on me on my future .
Men who talk about false rape for anything and everything need to understand the fact that there are more rape cases went unreported than the false ones
Just because they count less in number, doesn't mean they have to be ignored. Both should be given justice. Before 50 years people who spoke about our (women's) sufferings were less in number, what if they were ignored? Think.
@@Sri-vx9st Exactly! that's what I wanna say to law systems, police and finally social media "Don't accuse anybody until proved". But, when it comes to women who is accusing against men, it is pre-judged.
They only talk about false accusation when rape is talked about, just to demean or neutralize rape, false accusation it is not a real issue for them. It is just a tool
read this also tamil konngass Since the Nirbhaya Rape case happened in the year 2012 an alarming increase in the false rape cases being filed is recorded. Many innocents have been convicted guilty for their life. In 2014, Commission for Women submitted a report stating that 53.2% of rape cases registered between April 2013-July 2014 were false
It's not only in the rape issue Ananthi... I'm going to marry a girl now recently i was getting advice from everyone about how to treat her and how to act as a man on controlling her..ect. I'm so much confused with them.., I want to be a normal person with her and I want to have conversation and relationship as a human nothing else.. but why in our society there is lots of conversation with this in a wrong way ... I don't know., Please make a video on this
Hello! I am glad that you don't want to control her... Rather than getting advice from other people, just let that girl know what kind of man you are and ask her what she expects...
I am living outside India for some years now. Women here wear WHATEVER they want without being judged or disturbed. On the contrary, back home, I had well educated friends who debate that women who wear improper dress are inviting trouble. I always had a notion that the country with change with my generation as many are educated than a generation before. I think it is high time, we change what we teach at schools.. Rather than by-heart and vomit stuff and be competitive in exams. Schools should aim at building more responsible citizens. Which actually is happening where I live. Probably we need to start from the basics to grow responsible citizens.
Yes in western countries women wear whatever they want and never being judged or disturbed, because of their culture (promiscuous, dating, living together, one night stands etc). Looks like you have no clue about the issues pertaining to men and women relationship in general in western countries and lack of common sense.
I don't know why this video is so hard to watch. And I can't imagine how a rape victim would cope with it all. Women are really strong. It pains me to watch the video, how a girl would feel. However, there is always a great hope that such a big issue can get solved when people like you talk about it on a mass media platform. Please keep doing more videos so that you can blast everyone's(assaulting men) mind in some way and can reduce the probability as much as possible. What you doing now is a great mission. 👍
read this also tamil konngass Since the Nirbhaya Rape case happened in the year 2012 an alarming increase in the false rape cases being filed is recorded. Many innocents have been convicted guilty for their life. In 2014, Commission for Women submitted a report stating that 53.2% of rape cases registered between April 2013-July 2014 were false
False cases and such a filthy evil manipulative narracist anandhi like girl who herslf is rpst innocent mens life are screwed... she blaming men is problem as if women are innocent@@filmotive3519
True words "Insecured men & Intimidated men become rapists". My friend had a similar threat from a guy in her company that she should abide his wishes & sleep with him because he is a GREAT MAN. Kudos to you Ananthi for taking such bold video & never showing your true emotion ( I guess its anger & disgust). Please share about other reasons for raping apart from patriarchy especially in marital rape.
@@pot8735 see this video completely before commenting... Insecurity, intimidation & patriarchy are main key source to choose rape over morality. Because one can attain pleasure in masturbation itself, raping involves all the above mentioned contents
@@jayalakshmijayachandran8370 explain why rapes happens in animal, birds, insects.why dolphins rape , from google: Gangs of two or three male bottlenose dolphins isolate a single female from the pod and forcibly mate with her, sometimes for weeks at a time. And explain why people steal, murder even though it's immoral coz people do those things for their selfishness. Masturbating gives pleasure but not as same as having sex. In primates rapes do happen but on a small scale due to other circumstances like dominant males activities As the great primatologist, Frans de Waal put it, "Chimps use violence to get sex, while bonobos use sex to avoid violence." People who rapes raised in bad environment,a bad influence and on the other hand rapists mostly use alcohol that make them avoid the thoughts from the consequence of rapes. Alcohol ban will seriously make a difference, reduces sexual abuse and rapes even domestic violence but nobody talks about that. A society with no alcohol make big difference but still the crime, rapes, domestic violence happen but comparatively low. How patriarchy is the reason for rapes. Then why the traditional role of men says to lower their gaze. Why religion has punishments for rapes and sexual abuse.
@@jayalakshmijayachandran8370 let's talk about the situation in ur comment where ur friend faces the threat from the guy . And u mentioned the "great man" Mentality let's break it down, he just wants sex not because he is great man or he wants to make him feel as a great man, just for the pleasure , He's trying to convince her to get sex from her by telling her that he is great blah blah blah, that's some shitty behaviour. Do you think he is proud of himself ? He knows himself that's he is shitty person coz the patriarchal society didn't said that's a manly behaviour,he doesn't even talk about it other than his shitty friends but his main goal is to get pleasure and why do u think that guy choose to not involve in rape coz he knows that's wrong that's what the society preached him. So rapists rape coz their primary reason is pleasure with no morals!
@@jayalakshmijayachandran8370 "One can attain pleasure in masturbation itself", this shows how shallow ur understanding on males sexuality. Nobody talks about male sexuality coz it's dirty and disgusting for females to hear it because female sexuality is completely different from males. If one can attain the pleasure from masturbation as same as sex, why do you think male animals brutally fight each other for females, why do you think men initiates the most proposals (it's a long story that includes female nature role, and male nature role, formation of male species, evolution, Behavioural evolution, psychological evolution, cultural evolution etc...) . Why male chimps use violence to get sex, why male baboons bully females. Chimps, baboons are closer relative to humans. Primates knows to mastrubate why those behaviours in primates? If masturbation is enough,why prostitution ? And feminists talk about the Western culture to point out the women empowerment that's where the women were sexualized more like prostitution, hookers,onlyfans, strip clubs, parties to get sex, casual sex, hookup culture ,women in provocative outfits, why spend loads of money on those things like prostitution, strip clubs, spending money on first date in the expectation of sex (in Western culture) Do u still wonder how male sexuality works? why those things happening? Male has sexual arousal by touch and visual . Masturbation is from the touch that stimulate arousal but not visual. Porn is visual that stimulate more than touch and men touch themselves to get more pleasure . So sex is both visual and touch and the females touch them that creates even more pleasure. That's y there's a big market in sex mostly it consumed by males around the world. This leads to another answer that why men opposes the modern provocative outfits. I hope u get the answer. And also u can get the answer that why women are not allowed in sabarimalai. And this leads u to another question, why males have the visual stimulation? Simple ans is : women's bodies indicates the fertility. So when seeing women bodies male brain switches to sexual side. It's been wired in male brain for millions of years. For more information u can use google just search : evolution behind male sexual attraction to women bodies (breasts, waist to hip, thighs etc...) I'm sure u will get the answers. So rapes are driven primarily by pleasure with no morals coz he grown in a bad environment not because of insecurity, intimidation or patriarchy.
Omg ... Such a clarity....!! Thank you for making such a bold and clear video....hooe many ppl have got enlightened.... 🙏. many would have got removed the blocks in their mindset....Even this video can stop potential rapes ..!!! Great attempt 💯
@RJ Ananthi, please talk about mental health which is the root cause of all these. Mental health is so important which is not spoken about much in India as much as it should be. Everyone has trauma in their lives. Since the age of 6 if children can be taken once in a while to psychologist or education in school about mental health is important. or parents should be guided to speak to children, learn about their feelings. Parents who don't know these how to bring up a child of good mental health, thats when teenagers develop to become narcissists. All parents should be educated on how to handle the emotions and thoughts of their kids the right way. Just providing food and things for children is not bringing up children.
read this also tamil konngass Since the Nirbhaya Rape case happened in the year 2012 an alarming increase in the false rape cases being filed is recorded. Many innocents have been convicted guilty for their life. In 2014, Commission for Women submitted a report stating that 53.2% of rape cases registered between April 2013-July 2014 were false
Hats off to you Sister! As a College Boy 😢 I am Worrying for Psycho Men. To solve this Problem Government should increase the Punishment for Rape Case like Death Sentence immediately after Pure investigation. And society should be taught with good positive psychology rather than Only language math science and social.
Nee solra mari punishment ah increase panna death sentence kudutha prechana theerumna kandippa illa Ippo oru ponnuku unna pudikala ava unna ethirka nenacha easy ah rape case kuduthutu poiruva society unna nambathu avala thaa nambum pathika padurathu namma thaa
read this also tamil konngass Since the Nirbhaya Rape case happened in the year 2012 an alarming increase in the false rape cases being filed is recorded. Many innocents have been convicted guilty for their life. In 2014, Commission for Women submitted a report stating that 53.2% of rape cases registered between April 2013-July 2014 were false
@@i8memes precisely, false rape cases within marriage is monkey justice system because there is no punishment for adultery within marriage. If wife commit adutery, man divorce her her and lose half his wealth. So why get married? So sleep with other men's wives. You call this civilization? this you call law?
🫡Akka...... so happy that u talked about the most sensitive topic's another side. It's really necessary to understand the psychological things from the side of a rapist. I do have a question akka...... WHAT DOES THE RAPIST THINK ABOUT THE CONSEQUENCES OR SENTENCES OF COMMITTING A RAPE? DESPITE FEARING PUNISHMENTS DOES HE FEEL GUILTY ABOUT THE ACT LATER❓️ Anything regarding this in the book......
It's a very simple thing, tickling makes one giggle, but it does not mean they are comfortable and receiving. When you make a move on a girl and don't stop when she says no, it's rape, even if she isn't able to do anything about it in the circumstance. Most victims go into a state of shock that immobilizes them. Absence of resistance is not consent.
Rape and sexual abuse crimes should immediately stop. These rapists put the entire male community to shame. Every men is looked upon with suspicion and fear because of these rapists. *If a girl keeps hearing these kind of news of men sexually abusing women very often, then fear and hatred for men keeps growing in her mind, even to the point where she refuses to be around men and even marry any man.* Punishments for Rape should be as brutal as possible for the criminals to understand the gravity of the crime.
@@anempath24 I am in UAE - Dubai, there is no rape here!!! We can bring rape to zero. Rape is not an accident or road fight that happens accidentally, its bad behavior, by Good governance to the society, good value education, social justice and good police protection it is 100% possible.
Dhruv Parmar....Because Indians became self centred individuals neglecting sentiments due to the secularzation,depend on civil laws and Police.Police,lawyers and Judges disrespect human values &dignity and sentiments and create game of rule besides corruption and immoral politicians also cinema world mafias,liquor & drug cartels
This can't be seen as a gender issue like West does rather a humanistic one,gender issues create political feminism where all male were seen as rapist.A woman or a girl could be any blood relation or life partner of any male!
Criminal lawyers though not all but mostly accomplice of bad eggs,no feminist will comment on them since they are of the egalitarian portion! Rather they attack on culture and religion like Marxist!
read this also tamil konngass Since the Nirbhaya Rape case happened in the year 2012 an alarming increase in the false rape cases being filed is recorded. Many innocents have been convicted guilty for their life. In 2014, Commission for Women submitted a report stating that 53.2% of rape cases registered between April 2013-July 2014 were false
read this also tamil konngass Since the Nirbhaya Rape case happened in the year 2012 an alarming increase in the false rape cases being filed is recorded. Many innocents have been convicted guilty for their life. In 2014, Commission for Women submitted a report stating that 53.2% of rape cases registered between April 2013-July 2014 were false
Mam, These concepts are not only strange and bizarre for you, Even for me as 34 aged Man. Only You would be the one can reveal such concepts does exist. I will give special attention for your video, I will take to this my heart.
The core is - Man donno its rape and they cannot accept if a woman denies them (esp husbands). Thats the biggest problem. As a single woman, i repeated hear this problem from married women about their Hubands and the endure it continuously for years and years.
சுவாசம், பசி, தாகம், தூக்கம், கழிவு நீக்கம், பாலியல் உணர்வு இவை எல்லாம் அனைவருக்கும் அதாவது ஆண் பெண் இருவருக்கும் ஒன்றுதான் அப்படி இருக்க ஒரு ஆண் தனது மனைவியிடம் பாலியல் உறவு வேண்டும் என்று கேட்ட்கும் போது மனைவி பாலியல் உறவுக்கு விருப்பம் இல்லாமல் இருக்கும் போது அந்த மனைவிக்கு என்ன பிரச்சனை உள்ளது உடம்பில் பிரச்சனையா அல்லது மனதில் பிரச்சனையா அல்லது கணவருடன் பிரச்சனையா அல்லது கால இடை வேளையில் பிரச்சனையா என்பதை அந்த மனைவி கூற வேண்டும் இந்த 4 விஷயத்தில் பிரச்சனை இருக்கும் போது அதனை ஓர் பாலியல் மருத்துவரை மற்றும் ஒரு மன நல மருத்துவரை பார்த்து ஆலோசனை பெற்று பிரச்சனையினைக்கு தீர்வு காண்பது தான் ஒரு அறிவு உள்ள ஒரு மனைவியின் செயலக இருக்கு வேண்டும் அதற்கு மாறக பாலியல் உறவு வேண்டும் என்று சொல்லுவதினால் பிரச்சனை முடிந்து விடாது மாறாகபிரச்சனை அதிகம் தான் ஆகும், நீங்க இந்த பிரச்னைக்கு என்ன தீர்வு கொடுப்பிர்கள், ஆண் மற்றும் பெண் இருவரும் மருத்துவ அறிவியல் மூலம் பிரச்சனைக்கு தீர்வு காணவில்லை என்றால் RAPE, குடும்ப வாழ்க்கை, குழந்தை வாழ்க்கை, சமுதாயம் போன்ற பல பாதிக்க படும், constitution of india article 51a கிளாஸ் H என்ன சொல்லுது என்றால் to develop the scientific temper, humanism and the spirit of inquiry and reform னு சொல்லுது அதனால இந்த புக் 1கோடி பேரிடம் பேசி எழுதியது என்பத்தினால் மட்டும் எல்லா பிரச்னைக்கும் தீர்வு சொல்ல முடியாது மேலும் ஆனந்தி மனநல மருத்துவரும் இல்லை பாலியல் மருத்துவரும் இல்லை just அந்த book க படித்து தனது point of view சொல்லும் ஒரு நபர் மட்டும் தான் ஆகையால் ஆனந்தியிடம் இதற்கு எல்லாம் அறிவுரை கேட்பது சரி அல்ல, ஆனந்திக்கும் தெரியும் நான் சொல்லுவது உண்மை என்று
@@rajkumar-cd4gv I agreed with your point. Just like happiness, sadness, hungry and angry... Sex is one kind of emotion. I know there is no gender barrier in this emotions. But... If your partner is not willing to share her body to satisfy your needs you should respect her. Because as like you, she has the rights over her own body. And one more thing... The fact she denies sexual intercourse means she has some problem with her body or mind so she need to visit doctor and go through some sort of counseling and stuff means... If men couldn't control his sexual needs, means may be they are sexual adict and may had some mental disorder regarding that adiction... so why can't they visit the same psychologist and get a theropy first?
@@Queen-oq9yg u are gaslighting him. its not a addiction or disorder. its a physical need. thats the major act in marriage. if it fails. the relationship ends. its considered as cruelty to deny. ground for divorce. if a man refuses to pay money and provide should wman respect ? its all about give and take.
@@anempath24 given and take??? Are you saying If man pays for woman's financial need. She has to satisfy him every day for his psychical need? Doesn't it sounds something different term than wife or life partner?
Love a single partner is blessing . Accept as they are is blessing. Accepted their family as yours is blesising. Ups and down have a same face is blessing Respecting your parther as yourself is blessing
read this also tamil konngass Since the Nirbhaya Rape case happened in the year 2012 an alarming increase in the false rape cases being filed is recorded. Many innocents have been convicted guilty for their life. In 2014, Commission for Women submitted a report stating that 53.2% of rape cases registered between April 2013-July 2014 were false
As a guy whose brought up in an elite environment and who's life revolves around well read and well aware people, issues like these often ignored and are thought of as something that happens only in rural places or in places with people with backward mindsets... Until things happen to someone you know. Keeping the negativity aside, it's really important to open up our minds to such realities and the core mindset of people indulging in such crimes. Also, I'm looking forward to further parts of this review, where u might discuss about well read and educated men... What would their mindset be? They would certainly have felt some shame...right..? And finally, what do u think is a solution? Is it just getting as many people educated as possible, while instilling such topics into early education?
A good friend of mine who is an activist told me that in india its only recent year all this good and bad touch is taught and taken seriously and there is very little help or knowledge most sexual abuse are from known people. And most woman don't react even if they know a child or woman being abused cos they are financially dependent on that man and worried about their society as most of India is not city. So i guess the recent year this has been changing.
read this also tamil konngass Since the Nirbhaya Rape case happened in the year 2012 an alarming increase in the false rape cases being filed is recorded. Many innocents have been convicted guilty for their life. In 2014, Commission for Women submitted a report stating that 53.2% of rape cases registered between April 2013-July 2014 were false
Many good things are pointed out in this video. This is a very important issue, which become a very big disaster around the world. From my own research, I found out three reasons and all are from research papers. 1) Most crimes happen in the influence of alcohol, and we can see that many grape have been happening because of intake alcohol, which make your mind to be not on conscious. 2) Addiction in pornograpghy, statistics tells that more 45% of people who graped others are pornographic addicts. 3) psychologically affected people from childhood thinks that, it's not wrong because some extreme cases happened in some countries like mother graping her own son or like father graping his own daughter. I am not a modern feminist because that ideology went too extreme that some women started to grape men and boys. As well as fake abuse and grape cases on some innocent men. i used the term " some" because as a logical human being we should never generalize bad behavior to any gender, race, religion or colour. As per biological study, men have little more drive in sexual behavior than women but it never supports grape in any way or form.
@@dagonantony I don't think you realise how women easily get away from accusations of sexual assault. My brother was touched inappropriately by my aunt for many months. God I won't forget the day he finally decided to tell me all those stuff to me with tears in eyes. And i told my parents and when my parents asked her, you want to know what my aunt responded? She just said that he is just a boy, it's not wrong for a woman to touch a boy like that. This is how messed up things are. Women just have a easy way to get away from accusations
@Just_mind_______ That's sad, but most of the time, it's men in the sude of fault, and women are always looked up as a property by most of the men . Ask any woman at least once in her life she would have faced harassment or a bad touch. That doesn't happen to men. But what happened to your brother sick. So go and find the best way to clear the issuee.
After reading these comments i feel like our future generations guys won't repeat it, they've got an understanding abt women, even some were these cruelty happens but there are many more men to support women and raise them
Hi ananthi..are girls only abused physically.. most of the time we are abused mentally by our family.. not able to tolerate it .. I really want to come out of my family 😞
yes. it is important to learn emotional and mental abuse. When you know your family is toxic, first step is don't let them affect you mentally. Get mental help and support from therapists, friends etc... I do not know your age. Find out who are really good people around you, who won't take advantage of you, form a good trust worthy friends & relative circles for your own self. Start building yourself up in studies and professional work wise, become super strong mentally, emotionally and physically. Give yourself love, take care of your own physical health, mental health etc... do things that make you happy to counteract the negativities in the life, fill it up with other positive interests, like learning new things or travel what makes you happy that doesn't hurt yoruself or others (stay away from bad vices like smoking, drinking or drugs). watch self love and self improvement videos. you can do this. and once you are strong in all these ways, move out, detach yourself from toxic family members. good luck
I did happen to chat to the authour through social media. She is a genuine person, does responds to readers. Most of the crimes are done without knowing its the crime. Still there are many people who are not aware what is right and wrong. One sees how a person been treated at home. Some of the books and programs guides it wrongly. The fundamental change needs to come from education system and awareness. In country like sweden both men and women are equal in chores and earning, raising the kids. At least the same template can be tried. Moreover the law and investigations needs to be integrated with technology. Like body language anslysis and not just with words, when there is no fear and one could get out of the crime i dont get how law and order be acheived. Its been said punishment will be severe if victim dies. Ideally a punishment was to change a person by taking the psychology aspect a person needs to be released, but that doesnt happen. The permanent solution is to have an emphatetic people, respecting others boundaries, irrespective of caste and gender. Unless this happens the crime continues to happen. The reported issues are few, the missing cases and unreported cases will be more. This is something needs to be addresed by considering psychology aspect, if it needs to be controlled in coming days. Good choice of book well presented ma.
From my perspective : its just sexual frusturation of weak men lashes out on opportunity its not oppression its just contained lust rages out in an opportunities thays why weak ppl are targeted like children or old women Secondarily: its when a wicked male can have authority over a women in a social circumstance or a work place explains when teachers and proffersor and superiors abuses
I am writing a book called " why girl to women cheat on greed " Another book " Dowry is crime alimony is not " Another book " Law & order are not equal on gender "
இந்த மாதிரியான விசயங்களை வெளிப்படையாக பேச வேண்டிய கட்டாயத்திற்கு தள்ளப்பட்டிருக்கிறோம். இந்த பிரச்சனை காலகாலமாக இருந்து வந்துள்ளது ஆணோ பெண்ணோ ஒரு உயிரை, உயிராக பார்க்காமல் ஆணாகவோ பெண்ணாகவோ மட்டுமே பார்க்க முடிந்தால் இநத பிரச்சினை எல்லா காலமும் இருந்து கொண்டே தான் இருக்கும். விலங்குகள் உலகத்தில் பெண் விலங்குடன் இணை சேர ஆண் விலங்குகள் கடுமையான சண்டையிட்டு கொள்ளும், அந்த மாதிரியான மனநிலையில் தான் இந்த Rapist ஆட்கள் இருக்கிறார்கள். விலங்கிலிருந்த இன்னும் பரிணாம வளர்ச்சி அடையவில்லை. Internet ல் 70% Content Pornography! என்னதான் செய்வது☹️😐
Negaa soldra content elameee nalaruku aana oru kind request...nega soli mudichi video end laa oru review maari like over view maari solugaa kaa inum konjaa nalaaa clarity ahh irukum... Moral of the story maarii.... ✨
Every one in this world has a choice to say no and their freedom is not with any one but them, If it is not acceptable by brutal beings hatred and unlawful thoughts arises it is shown by them their action
Akka , as u said at 19:53 , Only very very few men rape … Apdina antha Book ooda title “ Why do some men rape “ nu tana avanga eluthirkanum🧐. Why she wrote a book titled “Why men rape ?” Which portrays all Men are bad😕
It’s because this book is not about why women rape ! That’s why it is named why men rape and it also doesn’t say why all men rape! ( arivaaaa kelvi kekura perla cringe pannaaathenga bro)
Hi even men’s gets abused by men yes I had abused in SETC bus when I was 20 I was going to my hometown after pongal leave in company I think it was morning 5’o clock Some thing was going in pants I can feel it I was in deep sleep Because I am to tired of double shifts then I suddenly I wake and I see a hand of decent Old man and I pushed his hand Out of pant because he opened my zeep in my pant I was terribly angry I don’t know what to do after that also he is trying to touch my pant and hitted in the bus side wall he changed his seat You know I am a body builder I can hit him He can’t do anything But I was silent after few minutes he asked me is it trichy bus stand arrived But I was silent I didn’t say anything Even now I didn’t say to anyone because it’s a shame for me to say to others then what will happen nothing will happen no one trust me to…. Because I am a Boy
Mam oru small request... Women rape aaguratha pathi oru book with explanation oda kuduthinga.. okay It was superlative..But athey maari... Boy's nadakura Sexual harrasment, illegal handling in childhood, Boy's oda touching vachu atha Women or others Negative project pandrathu ...and Etc about Men suffering like this...athantha mari ethavathu Irutha Book and Video la Explain pandringala video pottu bcz Veyliya neeraiya Negative ah poodhu even normal ahh kuda open up panna mudila ...Ungaluku okay vah mam video upload panna..
all these problems are because of not taking care of their mental health, parents not knowing how to bring up a child with a healthy mind, and also pornography industry, also how a human being is so obsessed with sex way too much. When they look at a person, they should know to look at a person beyond their looks, looking and understanding their feelings, thoughts, basic respect to another human being should be taught at a very young age. Even a child should never be forced to do things. Respect others choices is so important. we need to transform as a society in general. Women's breast is not even a sexual object, it was marketed to be that way. Only the genetalia are for procreation. Breasts are just to feed a child. but it was so overhyped up and an entire industry thrives on it and all men think way too much about it. If you look in ancient India women's breast were never covered, thanks to britishers that changed. in fact if everything is open, no one cares about it. Since you start hiding, then show little is teasing unnecessarily. unfortunately we as. asociety has moved far way from it and can't go back. think about it. no animal is clothed, there is no rape there. but what we can realize is its just the body. no big deal. talking unnecessarily about sex is carrying it in the mind unnecessarily. but the entire marketing of movies, advertisements, shows, talks with friends keeps highlighting those which is sad. if a group of guy friends get together this shouldn't be the topic of sex but sadly it is in wrong ways.
Everyone of us has the godly and evil nature within us.. At times when the evilness takes over ..these things happens especially when men is ignorant of his actions
People tend to blame and talk about only problems not solutions. Is this book talking about any solution other reporting and highlighting problems. I’ve few solutions in my mind. Legalizing prostitution is one way to reduce the incidents. At least for situational cases will reduce. We should reduce obsession on marriage institutions forced by society. Physical intimacy before marriage shouldn’t be considered as sin and should be generalized. It’s not ok for men not have have physical intimacy until age of 30 because of society or family economy. It’s against the nature. No one talking about this. In western countries most of them experiences it before 18. Since they experienced at young age, they don’t give much importance or obsessed at adult age. So most of the time they don’t go wrong just to experience something. I am not saying it is 100% solution but it’s works for most cases.
Nailed it 🔥☺️. According to those people everything lies in women's virginity. Surely need of the hour. Iam sure the writer would have a great research about the incidents. Victim blaming is a common factor we observe in our day to day life.The point is they're not worried about women's consent. If they're allowed to they would have chosen their partner wisely and the population wouldn't have increased like this 😮😢. When I was small i didn't know the difference between sex and rape. When i came to know that I was really shocked. The patriarchy has made us talk about women as a property and scold someone using the words mentioning female parts. As u said in cities they atleast know that's a crime so many cases are reported then what about the villages..even in animals the females are taking their own decisions. The males have written everything in the name of religious text which should be followed by women and they're are made to without realising that they don't have freedom to take their decisions on their own and should listen to males.The absence of women in history is man-made. Let's see part 2
read this also tamil konngass Since the Nirbhaya Rape case happened in the year 2012 an alarming increase in the false rape cases being filed is recorded. Many innocents have been convicted guilty for their life. In 2014, Commission for Women submitted a report stating that 53.2% of rape cases registered between April 2013-July 2014 were false
🤔I think a few blank lines have been answered that an assumption about pre-male society is the nature of how it is taught to this day. Thank you for this video madam at the right time 🙏
Saw a news today that a girl was raped in ujjain in broad daylight and instead of helping her people were recording. It was so disturbing. We see women as god in our country, I am really upset that such things are happening. What kind of society are we living in. Some major steps has to be taken soon.
One query I have.. During Manipur violences May, June 2023.. One victim said that the other mob group of women came to their home and shouted at their group men "beat her, rape her and kill her".. Why some women want their enemy woman to be punished with raped?
Akka, I really appreciate this video explaining this book. What would be the solution for this.... Like the mindset shift should come from the childhood of the next generation men, but that depends on men and women who raise the next generation. So what would be the solution for this problem?
It is happy to see how men are also accepting and listening to this topic and supporting it. When I am opening comments section I expected and criticisms from men. But the reality is upside down . Very happy to see 🎈
நிறைய யோசிக்க வைத்தது மேலும் இது மாதிரியான content - யை தைரியமாக பேசியது சிறப்பு
There is no bravery needed except to speak of rights men being emasculated legally daily.
Just think, it is not a crime to commit adultery, but sex within marriege, husband is at the mercy of his wife.
This is kali Yuga. women are empowered like Kali, legally.
I appreciate your courageous effort to talk about this topic which is often categorized as taboo. I feel, today's men should talk about such topics more because when a woman speaks for herself, they are labeled as Feminist which itself is not acceptable for many men. They feel intimidating by seeing an independent woman.
Breaking the barriers and speaking against the social evils such as rape, needs a real gut. 👏 👏
You have brought this book to our knowledge, hopefully this would give different perspective to understand different dark sides of people.
Few men have no idea, they are narcissists, and most of the victims are their lover, girlfriend, sister, or close circle who are their loved ones.
Could you please talk about that as well in the upcoming days with some book reference.
It saddened my heart much about the attitude of such man who does rape, just to prove their physical strength and power. I wish educating people on their humanities and behaviour with their opposite gender would decrease the rate of rape. Respect to the author and you Anandhi.❤
true... but oru visayam enna na independent ana women ah pathu real men bayapadavo padharavo matanga...women epd irundhalum rape nadakudhu bcoz adhu pshcho thanam....kadumayana thandanai m awareness m valakura vidhamum maranum varanum adhu vandhale podhum...pengal pblms pathi pesa thana feminism iruku...pengal pblms pathi pesuranala aangalku pblm illa pengal inga avanga pblms pesurenu sollitu aangaluku entha pblm m illa aanai irupadhu easy nu soldra toxic feminist ah patha tha kadupagudhu...
Agreed
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Since the Nirbhaya Rape case happened in the year 2012 an alarming increase in the false rape cases being filed is recorded. Many innocents have been convicted guilty for their life. In 2014, Commission for Women submitted a report stating that 53.2% of rape cases registered between April 2013-July 2014 were false
@@muthusiva4824 bro men created toxic feminism see most of tamil songs and movies show disrespect to women . any one girl doing wrong they labelled every girl as bad .if one man done wrong not every men. Any women told every men wrong just like men told every women wrong . women labelled as toxic feminist men labelled as hero . single women is catlady but single men is successfull men
@@SweatDevil-nf6fp bro
Ella men m bad nu soldra women toxix feminist.. Ella women m bad nu soldravana yaru inga hero nu soldra... See men ah pathi bad ah songs varudhu women pathi proud songs m varudhu... Nenga one side matum pakra mari iruku... 5 women onna ukandhu debate ndra per la aangala pathi kevalama pesa mudium... Men apd pesuna bayangara edhirppu kilambidum... Na sola varadhu.. Pengal problems pathi pesum podhu aanoda life easy ah iruku nu sola venam nu tha kekren..
I am an undergraduate, now after listening to this show I got some clarity on how I should be in future as a men , because every thing's around me were so dam confusing I can't process anything, but thank you for making the show which is or which made impact on me on my future .
After kolkata doctor issue😢
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Men who talk about false rape for anything and everything need to understand the fact that there are more rape cases went unreported than the false ones
Just because they count less in number, doesn't mean they have to be ignored. Both should be given justice. Before 50 years people who spoke about our (women's) sufferings were less in number, what if they were ignored? Think.
@@athirar2356we just ask you not to be so judgemental. Don't accuse anyone until proved( based on your assumption)
@@Sri-vx9st Exactly! that's what I wanna say to law systems, police and finally social media "Don't accuse anybody until proved". But, when it comes to women who is accusing against men, it is pre-judged.
They only talk about false accusation when rape is talked about, just to demean or neutralize rape, false accusation it is not a real issue for them. It is just a tool
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Since the Nirbhaya Rape case happened in the year 2012 an alarming increase in the false rape cases being filed is recorded. Many innocents have been convicted guilty for their life. In 2014, Commission for Women submitted a report stating that 53.2% of rape cases registered between April 2013-July 2014 were false
It's not only in the rape issue Ananthi... I'm going to marry a girl now recently i was getting advice from everyone about how to treat her and how to act as a man on controlling her..ect. I'm so much confused with them.., I want to be a normal person with her and I want to have conversation and relationship as a human nothing else.. but why in our society there is lots of conversation with this in a wrong way ... I don't know., Please make a video on this
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@@-NandhiniC 👍
Thirupi asingama Kelunga. Apo than puriyum.
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I am glad that you don't want to control her... Rather than getting advice from other people, just let that girl know what kind of man you are and ask her what she expects...
@@mahathi141 unmai...but expectations 2 gender km irukum correct thana
New point of view , eye opening, waiting for part 2.
I am living outside India for some years now. Women here wear WHATEVER they want without being judged or disturbed. On the contrary, back home, I had well educated friends who debate that women who wear improper dress are inviting trouble. I always had a notion that the country with change with my generation as many are educated than a generation before. I think it is high time, we change what we teach at schools.. Rather than by-heart and vomit stuff and be competitive in exams. Schools should aim at building more responsible citizens. Which actually is happening where I live. Probably we need to start from the basics to grow responsible citizens.
Yes in western countries women wear whatever they want and never being judged or disturbed, because of their culture (promiscuous, dating, living together, one night stands etc). Looks like you have no clue about the issues pertaining to men and women relationship in general in western countries and lack of common sense.
i am also men, but i am not a guy who think about a women in wrong way,its haram. its prohibited. and my mindset is not like that
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I don't know why this video is so hard to watch. And I can't imagine how a rape victim would cope with it all.
Women are really strong. It pains me to watch the video, how a girl would feel. However, there is always a great hope that such a big issue can get solved when people like you talk about it on a mass media platform.
Please keep doing more videos so that you can blast everyone's(assaulting men) mind in some way and can reduce the probability as much as possible.
What you doing now is a great mission. 👍
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Since the Nirbhaya Rape case happened in the year 2012 an alarming increase in the false rape cases being filed is recorded. Many innocents have been convicted guilty for their life. In 2014, Commission for Women submitted a report stating that 53.2% of rape cases registered between April 2013-July 2014 were false
@@i8memes what is your problem dude?
False cases and such a filthy evil manipulative narracist anandhi like girl who herslf is rpst innocent mens life are screwed... she blaming men is problem as if women are innocent@@filmotive3519
ITS TRUE AND GOOD EXPLANATION THANK YOU THOZAR
True words "Insecured men & Intimidated men become rapists". My friend had a similar threat from a guy in her company that she should abide his wishes & sleep with him because he is a GREAT MAN. Kudos to you Ananthi for taking such bold video & never showing your true emotion ( I guess its anger & disgust). Please share about other reasons for raping apart from patriarchy especially in marital rape.
Those who become rapists value pleasure without moral values. Not by insecurity, intimidation or patriarchy.
@@pot8735 see this video completely before commenting... Insecurity, intimidation & patriarchy are main key source to choose rape over morality. Because one can attain pleasure in masturbation itself, raping involves all the above mentioned contents
@@jayalakshmijayachandran8370 explain why rapes happens in animal, birds, insects.why dolphins rape , from google: Gangs of two or three male bottlenose dolphins isolate a single female from the pod and forcibly mate with her, sometimes for weeks at a time.
And explain why people steal, murder even though it's immoral coz people do those things for their selfishness. Masturbating gives pleasure but not as same as having sex. In primates rapes do happen but on a small scale due to other circumstances like dominant males activities
As the great primatologist, Frans de Waal put it, "Chimps use violence to get sex, while bonobos use sex to avoid violence."
People who rapes raised in bad environment,a bad influence and on the other hand rapists mostly use alcohol that make them avoid the thoughts from the consequence of rapes. Alcohol ban will seriously make a difference, reduces sexual abuse and rapes even domestic violence but nobody talks about that. A society with no alcohol make big difference but still the crime, rapes, domestic violence happen but comparatively low.
How patriarchy is the reason for rapes. Then why the traditional role of men says to lower their gaze. Why religion has punishments for rapes and sexual abuse.
@@jayalakshmijayachandran8370 let's talk about the situation in ur comment where ur friend faces the threat from the guy . And u mentioned the "great man" Mentality let's break it down, he just wants sex not because he is great man or he wants to make him feel as a great man, just for the pleasure , He's trying to convince her to get sex from her by telling her that he is great blah blah blah, that's some shitty behaviour. Do you think he is proud of himself ? He knows himself that's he is shitty person coz the patriarchal society didn't said that's a manly behaviour,he doesn't even talk about it other than his shitty friends but his main goal is to get pleasure and why do u think that guy choose to not involve in rape coz he knows that's wrong that's what the society preached him. So rapists rape coz their primary reason is pleasure with no morals!
@@jayalakshmijayachandran8370 "One can attain pleasure in masturbation itself", this shows how shallow ur understanding on males sexuality. Nobody talks about male sexuality coz it's dirty and disgusting for females to hear it because female sexuality is completely different from males.
If one can attain the pleasure from masturbation as same as sex, why do you think male animals brutally fight each other for females, why do you think men initiates the most proposals (it's a long story that includes female nature role, and male nature role, formation of male species, evolution, Behavioural evolution, psychological evolution, cultural evolution etc...) . Why male chimps use violence to get sex, why male baboons bully females. Chimps, baboons are closer relative to humans. Primates knows to mastrubate why those behaviours in primates? If masturbation is enough,why prostitution ? And feminists talk about the Western culture to point out the women empowerment that's where the women were sexualized more like prostitution, hookers,onlyfans, strip clubs, parties to get sex, casual sex, hookup culture ,women in provocative outfits, why spend loads of money on those things like prostitution, strip clubs, spending money on first date in the expectation of sex (in Western culture)
Do u still wonder how male sexuality works? why those things happening?
Male has sexual arousal by touch and visual . Masturbation is from the touch that stimulate arousal but not visual. Porn is visual that stimulate more than touch and men touch themselves to get more pleasure . So sex is both visual and touch and the females touch them that creates even more pleasure. That's y there's a big market in sex mostly it consumed by males around the world.
This leads to another answer that why men opposes the modern provocative outfits. I hope u get the answer. And also u can get the answer that why women are not allowed in sabarimalai.
And this leads u to another question, why males have the visual stimulation? Simple ans is : women's bodies indicates the fertility. So when seeing women bodies male brain switches to sexual side. It's been wired in male brain for millions of years. For more information u can use google just search : evolution behind male sexual attraction to women bodies (breasts, waist to hip, thighs etc...) I'm sure u will get the answers.
So rapes are driven primarily by pleasure with no morals coz he grown in a bad environment not because of insecurity, intimidation or patriarchy.
I appreciate and hats off for RJ and tara kaushal
I never write reviews often, but i felt i need to appreciate your efforts and courage .Right book at the right time!!
Omg ... Such a clarity....!! Thank you for making such a bold and clear video....hooe many ppl have got enlightened.... 🙏. many would have got removed the blocks in their mindset....Even this video can stop potential rapes ..!!! Great attempt 💯
Book explains well,The editing is so,good,we need this editing style 4 upcoming videos❤
Part 2 video podunga inum intha book pathi awareness irukm
@RJ Ananthi, please talk about mental health which is the root cause of all these. Mental health is so important which is not spoken about much in India as much as it should be. Everyone has trauma in their lives. Since the age of 6 if children can be taken once in a while to psychologist or education in school about mental health is important. or parents should be guided to speak to children, learn about their feelings. Parents who don't know these how to bring up a child of good mental health, thats when teenagers develop to become narcissists. All parents should be educated on how to handle the emotions and thoughts of their kids the right way. Just providing food and things for children is not bringing up children.
read this also tamil konngass
Since the Nirbhaya Rape case happened in the year 2012 an alarming increase in the false rape cases being filed is recorded. Many innocents have been convicted guilty for their life. In 2014, Commission for Women submitted a report stating that 53.2% of rape cases registered between April 2013-July 2014 were false
Waiting for part two see you soon 🔜
Hats off to you Sister! As a College Boy 😢 I am Worrying for Psycho Men. To solve this Problem Government should increase the Punishment for Rape Case like Death Sentence immediately after Pure investigation. And society should be taught with good positive psychology rather than Only language math science and social.
Despite of goverment parents also shpuls take a seriois responsibility on these kind of topics to their kids
Nee solra mari punishment ah increase panna death sentence kudutha prechana theerumna kandippa illa
Ippo oru ponnuku unna pudikala ava unna ethirka nenacha easy ah rape case kuduthutu poiruva society unna nambathu avala thaa nambum pathika padurathu namma thaa
Bro I am 1st year BE EEE in KCT coimbatore
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Since the Nirbhaya Rape case happened in the year 2012 an alarming increase in the false rape cases being filed is recorded. Many innocents have been convicted guilty for their life. In 2014, Commission for Women submitted a report stating that 53.2% of rape cases registered between April 2013-July 2014 were false
@@i8memes precisely, false rape cases within marriage is monkey justice system because there is no punishment for adultery within marriage. If wife commit adutery, man divorce her her and lose half his wealth.
So why get married? So sleep with other men's wives. You call this civilization? this you call law?
🫡Akka...... so happy that u talked about the most sensitive topic's another side. It's really necessary to understand the psychological things from the side of a rapist. I do have a question akka...... WHAT DOES THE RAPIST THINK ABOUT THE CONSEQUENCES OR SENTENCES OF COMMITTING A RAPE? DESPITE FEARING PUNISHMENTS DOES HE FEEL GUILTY ABOUT THE ACT LATER❓️ Anything regarding this in the book......
Wow! Very much needed information about patriarchy!!
It's a very simple thing, tickling makes one giggle, but it does not mean they are comfortable and receiving. When you make a move on a girl and don't stop when she says no, it's rape, even if she isn't able to do anything about it in the circumstance. Most victims go into a state of shock that immobilizes them. Absence of resistance is not consent.
Rape and sexual abuse crimes should immediately stop. These rapists put the entire male community to shame. Every men is looked upon with suspicion and fear because of these rapists.
*If a girl keeps hearing these kind of news of men sexually abusing women very often, then fear and hatred for men keeps growing in her mind, even to the point where she refuses to be around men and even marry any man.*
Punishments for Rape should be as brutal as possible for the criminals to understand the gravity of the crime.
dude humans are not robots controlled by some chips. crimes happens every single second.. u cannot bring crime to zero as long as humans exists.
@@anempath24 I am in UAE - Dubai, there is no rape here!!! We can bring rape to zero. Rape is not an accident or road fight that happens accidentally, its bad behavior, by Good governance to the society, good value education, social justice and good police protection it is 100% possible.
Dhruv Parmar....Because Indians became self centred individuals neglecting sentiments due to the secularzation,depend on civil laws and Police.Police,lawyers and Judges disrespect human values &dignity and sentiments and create game of rule besides corruption and immoral politicians also cinema world mafias,liquor & drug cartels
This can't be seen as a gender issue like West does rather a humanistic one,gender issues create political feminism where all male were seen as rapist.A woman or a girl could be any blood relation or life partner of any male!
Criminal lawyers though not all but mostly accomplice of bad eggs,no feminist will comment on them since they are of the egalitarian portion! Rather they attack on culture and religion like Marxist!
What a great book 😳 , every minute in this video I’m hearing weird new perspectives
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Since the Nirbhaya Rape case happened in the year 2012 an alarming increase in the false rape cases being filed is recorded. Many innocents have been convicted guilty for their life. In 2014, Commission for Women submitted a report stating that 53.2% of rape cases registered between April 2013-July 2014 were false
I guess every woman one or the other way, should really feel relatable, Thanks for bringing this book out.
read this also tamil konngass
Since the Nirbhaya Rape case happened in the year 2012 an alarming increase in the false rape cases being filed is recorded. Many innocents have been convicted guilty for their life. In 2014, Commission for Women submitted a report stating that 53.2% of rape cases registered between April 2013-July 2014 were false
@@i8memes yaru paa nee
Elaa cmntlayum irka
@@i8memes oh my God... Ipdium iruka
Mam, These concepts are not only strange and bizarre for you, Even for me as 34 aged Man.
Only You would be the one can reveal such concepts does exist.
I will give special attention for your video, I will take to this my heart.
19:51 Yes.. This is what i want to hear.. I can sense the true discussion that you want to bring out through this topic..
Nice points mentioned, I like the books and the topics you are coming up with... worth content
The core is - Man donno its rape and they cannot accept if a woman denies them (esp husbands). Thats the biggest problem. As a single woman, i repeated hear this problem from married women about their Hubands and the endure it continuously for years and years.
சுவாசம், பசி, தாகம், தூக்கம், கழிவு நீக்கம், பாலியல் உணர்வு இவை எல்லாம் அனைவருக்கும் அதாவது ஆண் பெண் இருவருக்கும் ஒன்றுதான் அப்படி இருக்க ஒரு ஆண் தனது மனைவியிடம் பாலியல் உறவு வேண்டும் என்று கேட்ட்கும் போது மனைவி பாலியல் உறவுக்கு விருப்பம் இல்லாமல் இருக்கும் போது அந்த மனைவிக்கு என்ன பிரச்சனை உள்ளது உடம்பில் பிரச்சனையா அல்லது மனதில் பிரச்சனையா அல்லது கணவருடன் பிரச்சனையா அல்லது கால இடை வேளையில் பிரச்சனையா என்பதை அந்த மனைவி கூற வேண்டும் இந்த 4 விஷயத்தில் பிரச்சனை இருக்கும் போது அதனை ஓர் பாலியல் மருத்துவரை மற்றும் ஒரு மன நல மருத்துவரை பார்த்து ஆலோசனை பெற்று பிரச்சனையினைக்கு தீர்வு காண்பது தான் ஒரு அறிவு உள்ள ஒரு மனைவியின் செயலக இருக்கு வேண்டும் அதற்கு மாறக பாலியல் உறவு வேண்டும் என்று சொல்லுவதினால் பிரச்சனை முடிந்து விடாது மாறாகபிரச்சனை அதிகம் தான் ஆகும், நீங்க இந்த பிரச்னைக்கு என்ன தீர்வு கொடுப்பிர்கள், ஆண் மற்றும் பெண் இருவரும் மருத்துவ அறிவியல் மூலம் பிரச்சனைக்கு தீர்வு காணவில்லை என்றால் RAPE, குடும்ப வாழ்க்கை, குழந்தை வாழ்க்கை, சமுதாயம் போன்ற பல பாதிக்க படும், constitution of india article 51a கிளாஸ் H என்ன சொல்லுது என்றால் to develop the scientific temper, humanism and the spirit of inquiry and reform னு சொல்லுது அதனால இந்த புக் 1கோடி பேரிடம் பேசி எழுதியது என்பத்தினால் மட்டும் எல்லா பிரச்னைக்கும் தீர்வு சொல்ல முடியாது மேலும் ஆனந்தி மனநல மருத்துவரும் இல்லை பாலியல் மருத்துவரும் இல்லை just அந்த book க படித்து தனது point of view சொல்லும் ஒரு நபர் மட்டும் தான் ஆகையால் ஆனந்தியிடம் இதற்கு எல்லாம் அறிவுரை கேட்பது சரி அல்ல, ஆனந்திக்கும் தெரியும் நான் சொல்லுவது உண்மை என்று
@@rajkumar-cd4gv lol i can't read tamil. But i hope what you write benefits others.
@@rajkumar-cd4gv I agreed with your point. Just like happiness, sadness, hungry and angry... Sex is one kind of emotion. I know there is no gender barrier in this emotions. But... If your partner is not willing to share her body to satisfy your needs you should respect her. Because as like you, she has the rights over her own body. And one more thing... The fact she denies sexual intercourse means she has some problem with her body or mind so she need to visit doctor and go through some sort of counseling and stuff means... If men couldn't control his sexual needs, means may be they are sexual adict and may had some mental disorder regarding that adiction... so why can't they visit the same psychologist and get a theropy first?
@@Queen-oq9yg u are gaslighting him. its not a addiction or disorder. its a physical need. thats the major act in marriage. if it fails. the relationship ends. its considered as cruelty to deny. ground for divorce. if a man refuses to pay money and provide should wman respect ? its all about give and take.
@@anempath24 given and take??? Are you saying If man pays for woman's financial need. She has to satisfy him every day for his psychical need? Doesn't it sounds something different term than wife or life partner?
Love a single partner is blessing . Accept as they are is blessing.
Accepted their family as yours is blesising.
Ups and down have a same face is blessing
Respecting your parther as yourself is blessing
read this also tamil konngass
Since the Nirbhaya Rape case happened in the year 2012 an alarming increase in the false rape cases being filed is recorded. Many innocents have been convicted guilty for their life. In 2014, Commission for Women submitted a report stating that 53.2% of rape cases registered between April 2013-July 2014 were false
As a guy whose brought up in an elite environment and who's life revolves around well read and well aware people, issues like these often ignored and are thought of as something that happens only in rural places or in places with people with backward mindsets... Until things happen to someone you know.
Keeping the negativity aside, it's really important to open up our minds to such realities and the core mindset of people indulging in such crimes.
Also, I'm looking forward to further parts of this review, where u might discuss about well read and educated men... What would their mindset be? They would certainly have felt some shame...right..?
And finally, what do u think is a solution? Is it just getting as many people educated as possible, while instilling such topics into early education?
A good friend of mine who is an activist told me that in india its only recent year all this good and bad touch is taught and taken seriously and there is very little help or knowledge most sexual abuse are from known people. And most woman don't react even if they know a child or woman being abused cos they are financially dependent on that man and worried about their society as most of India is not city. So i guess the recent year this has been changing.
read this also tamil konngass
Since the Nirbhaya Rape case happened in the year 2012 an alarming increase in the false rape cases being filed is recorded. Many innocents have been convicted guilty for their life. In 2014, Commission for Women submitted a report stating that 53.2% of rape cases registered between April 2013-July 2014 were false
Many good things are pointed out in this video. This is a very important issue, which become a very big disaster around the world. From my own research, I found out three reasons and all are from research papers.
1) Most crimes happen in the influence of alcohol, and we can see that many grape have been happening because of intake alcohol, which make your mind to be not on conscious.
2) Addiction in pornograpghy, statistics tells that more 45% of people who graped others are pornographic addicts.
3) psychologically affected people from childhood thinks that, it's not wrong because some extreme cases happened in some countries like mother graping her own son or like father graping his own daughter.
I am not a modern feminist because that ideology went too extreme that some women started to grape men and boys. As well as fake abuse and grape cases on some innocent men. i used the term " some" because as a logical human being we should never generalize bad behavior to any gender, race, religion or colour. As per biological study, men have little more drive in sexual behavior than women but it never supports grape in any way or form.
Outfit doesn't matter. there is a rape victims outfit exhibition.
Most importantly. Not all the Men are rapist.
That's not true. MAJORITY of men are not rapists
@@r0dpr13s7 But it's always men
@@dagonantony I don't think you realise how women easily get away from accusations of sexual assault. My brother was touched inappropriately by my aunt for many months. God I won't forget the day he finally decided to tell me all those stuff to me with tears in eyes. And i told my parents and when my parents asked her, you want to know what my aunt responded? She just said that he is just a boy, it's not wrong for a woman to touch a boy like that. This is how messed up things are. Women just have a easy way to get away from accusations
@Just_mind_______ That's sad, but most of the time, it's men in the sude of fault, and women are always looked up as a property by most of the men . Ask any woman at least once in her life she would have faced harassment or a bad touch. That doesn't happen to men. But what happened to your brother sick. So go and find the best way to clear the issuee.
@@Just_mind_______ men or women that's a crime.
Need of the hour 👏👌
Manusmriti book review paneengla.. antha video link knjm share panunga please..??
An interesting video and discussion ❤ Loved it ❤
Hats off❤️✨️
After reading these comments i feel like our future generations guys won't repeat it, they've got an understanding abt women, even some were these cruelty happens but there are many more men to support women and raise them
Kolkata doctor case😢
@@RoseAngeleen Rules and punishment are different for rich people in India.
@@RoseAngeleenThat was a closet Mafia racket which was exposed by the whistle blower whom became a victim
India didn't have a history of genociding underdogs,rather British made them on peak for backstabbing their noble Alphas
Hi ananthi..are girls only abused physically.. most of the time we are abused mentally by our family.. not able to tolerate it .. I really want to come out of my family 😞
yes. it is important to learn emotional and mental abuse. When you know your family is toxic, first step is don't let them affect you mentally. Get mental help and support from therapists, friends etc... I do not know your age. Find out who are really good people around you, who won't take advantage of you, form a good trust worthy friends & relative circles for your own self. Start building yourself up in studies and professional work wise, become super strong mentally, emotionally and physically. Give yourself love, take care of your own physical health, mental health etc... do things that make you happy to counteract the negativities in the life, fill it up with other positive interests, like learning new things or travel what makes you happy that doesn't hurt yoruself or others (stay away from bad vices like smoking, drinking or drugs). watch self love and self improvement videos. you can do this. and once you are strong in all these ways, move out, detach yourself from toxic family members. good luck
it was nice questioning the ideology of women being an asset for men
I did happen to chat to the authour through social media. She is a genuine person, does responds to readers. Most of the crimes are done without knowing its the crime. Still there are many people who are not aware what is right and wrong. One sees how a person been treated at home. Some of the books and programs guides it wrongly. The fundamental change needs to come from education system and awareness. In country like sweden both men and women are equal in chores and earning, raising the kids. At least the same template can be tried. Moreover the law and investigations needs to be integrated with technology. Like body language anslysis and not just with words, when there is no fear and one could get out of the crime i dont get how law and order be acheived. Its been said punishment will be severe if victim dies. Ideally a punishment was to change a person by taking the psychology aspect a person needs to be released, but that doesnt happen. The permanent solution is to have an emphatetic people, respecting others boundaries, irrespective of caste and gender. Unless this happens the crime continues to happen. The reported issues are few, the missing cases and unreported cases will be more. This is something needs to be addresed by considering psychology aspect, if it needs to be controlled in coming days. Good choice of book well presented ma.
Perfect!!!!
From my perspective : its just sexual frusturation of weak men lashes out on opportunity its not oppression its just contained lust rages out in an opportunities thays why weak ppl are targeted like children or old women
Secondarily: its when a wicked male can have authority over a women in a social circumstance or a work place explains when teachers and proffersor and superiors abuses
Thankyou for the great video Mam🙏
I am writing a book called
" why girl to women cheat on greed "
Another book
" Dowry is crime alimony is not "
Another book
" Law & order are not equal on gender "
இந்த மாதிரியான விசயங்களை வெளிப்படையாக பேச வேண்டிய கட்டாயத்திற்கு தள்ளப்பட்டிருக்கிறோம்.
இந்த பிரச்சனை காலகாலமாக இருந்து வந்துள்ளது
ஆணோ பெண்ணோ ஒரு உயிரை, உயிராக பார்க்காமல் ஆணாகவோ பெண்ணாகவோ மட்டுமே பார்க்க முடிந்தால் இநத பிரச்சினை எல்லா காலமும் இருந்து கொண்டே தான் இருக்கும்.
விலங்குகள் உலகத்தில் பெண் விலங்குடன் இணை சேர ஆண் விலங்குகள் கடுமையான சண்டையிட்டு கொள்ளும், அந்த மாதிரியான மனநிலையில் தான் இந்த Rapist ஆட்கள் இருக்கிறார்கள். விலங்கிலிருந்த இன்னும் பரிணாம வளர்ச்சி அடையவில்லை.
Internet ல் 70% Content Pornography! என்னதான் செய்வது☹️😐
Hi Ananthi,
how did rapists families react once they got to know this incident? Or didn't they aware of it?
I've heard somewhere a rapist's mother pleaded in the court to free her son😑
@@shakthi9524worst case
@@shakthi9524 Bruh that's disgusting.. I wonder what kind of mother she is..supporting her rapist son.
Beautifully expressed by You!
Amazing speech... well done
Pls do part 2 video. Because the book cost is High... Thanks
We all should know about this . Your courage is amazing
Awesome really a different topic ths time
Amazing explanation 👏
This part was super.ananthi you nailed it❤
Hats off akka🫡👏
Good to discuss such things really needed for life
Negaa soldra content elameee nalaruku aana oru kind request...nega soli mudichi video end laa oru review maari like over view maari solugaa kaa inum konjaa nalaaa clarity ahh irukum... Moral of the story maarii.... ✨
Every one in this world has a choice to say no and their freedom is not with any one but them, If it is not acceptable by brutal beings hatred and unlawful thoughts arises it is shown by them their action
Akka , as u said at 19:53 , Only very very few men rape … Apdina antha Book ooda title “ Why do some men rape “ nu tana avanga eluthirkanum🧐. Why she wrote a book titled “Why men rape ?” Which portrays all Men are bad😕
Correct question than , ena panrathu
ithuku peruthann pseudo feminism xD
Ivlo neelama vacha page pathaathu!! Basically men yen rape pandranga'ndrathu thaan!!
Finally some one asked....
It’s because this book is not about why women rape ! That’s why it is named why men rape and it also doesn’t say why all men rape! ( arivaaaa kelvi kekura perla cringe pannaaathenga bro)
Waiting for 2nd part
Well explained, thank you ananthi
Hi even men’s gets abused by men yes I had abused in SETC bus when I was 20 I was going to my hometown after pongal leave in company I think it was morning 5’o clock Some thing was going in pants I can feel it I was in deep sleep Because I am to tired of double shifts then I suddenly I wake and I see a hand of decent Old man and I pushed his hand Out of pant because he opened my zeep in my pant I was terribly angry I don’t know what to do after that also he is trying to touch my pant and hitted in the bus side wall he changed his seat You know I am a body builder I can hit him He can’t do anything But I was silent after few minutes he asked me is it trichy bus stand arrived But I was silent I didn’t say anything Even now I didn’t say to anyone because it’s a shame for me to say to others then what will happen nothing will happen no one trust me to…. Because I am a Boy
Well said mam❤
nice explanation sissy💌
So simple...punishment avlo seriousa ila nama naatla
Mam oru small request... Women rape aaguratha pathi oru book with explanation oda kuduthinga.. okay It was superlative..But athey maari... Boy's nadakura Sexual harrasment, illegal handling in childhood, Boy's oda touching vachu atha Women or others Negative project pandrathu ...and Etc about Men suffering like this...athantha mari ethavathu Irutha Book and Video la Explain pandringala video pottu bcz Veyliya neeraiya Negative ah poodhu even normal ahh kuda open up panna mudila ...Ungaluku okay vah mam video upload panna..
all these problems are because of not taking care of their mental health, parents not knowing how to bring up a child with a healthy mind, and also pornography industry, also how a human being is so obsessed with sex way too much. When they look at a person, they should know to look at a person beyond their looks, looking and understanding their feelings, thoughts, basic respect to another human being should be taught at a very young age. Even a child should never be forced to do things. Respect others choices is so important. we need to transform as a society in general. Women's breast is not even a sexual object, it was marketed to be that way. Only the genetalia are for procreation. Breasts are just to feed a child. but it was so overhyped up and an entire industry thrives on it and all men think way too much about it. If you look in ancient India women's breast were never covered, thanks to britishers that changed. in fact if everything is open, no one cares about it. Since you start hiding, then show little is teasing unnecessarily. unfortunately we as. asociety has moved far way from it and can't go back. think about it. no animal is clothed, there is no rape there. but what we can realize is its just the body. no big deal. talking unnecessarily about sex is carrying it in the mind unnecessarily. but the entire marketing of movies, advertisements, shows, talks with friends keeps highlighting those which is sad. if a group of guy friends get together this shouldn't be the topic of sex but sadly it is in wrong ways.
@@Mel-by7re thanks 🙏 bro for your Explanation and replying for me
Need part -ll🚶🏼♀️
Waiting for next part.
do more videos like this please ❤ you're best kah🎉
தமிழில் இது போன்ற விடையங்களைப் பற்றி பதிவு செய்வது போற்றுதற்குரியது. வாழ்த்துக்கள் 🤝🏾
Everyone of us has the godly and evil nature within us.. At times when the evilness takes over ..these things happens especially when men is ignorant of his actions
Great excerpts from the book!! I wish you had provided the statistics with the data
Explained well super pa
Your narration was so nice.... literally uou made me curious to purchase that book.. thank you yaar
Great keep going
People tend to blame and talk about only problems not solutions. Is this book talking about any solution other reporting and highlighting problems. I’ve few solutions in my mind. Legalizing prostitution is one way to reduce the incidents. At least for situational cases will reduce. We should reduce obsession on marriage institutions forced by society. Physical intimacy before marriage shouldn’t be considered as sin and should be generalized. It’s not ok for men not have have physical intimacy until age of 30 because of society or family economy. It’s against the nature. No one talking about this. In western countries most of them experiences it before 18. Since they experienced at young age, they don’t give much importance or obsessed at adult age. So most of the time they don’t go wrong just to experience something. I am not saying it is 100% solution but it’s works for most cases.
A fairr point bro👏
Part 2 seekirama venum ka!!!
Waiting for part 2
Super awesome awareness about
Thanq❤️ kka
Very much needed ! Mindset of Rape ! After having seen and hearing so much about it always!
really get more insightfull aawarness thoughts, part 2 want for this
Sister, I've been in lot of temples, but I never seen any girl doing priest job, please talk about that. Thanks for giving the information.
Nailed it 🔥☺️. According to those people everything lies in women's virginity. Surely need of the hour. Iam sure the writer would have a great research about the incidents. Victim blaming is a common factor we observe in our day to day life.The point is they're not worried about women's consent. If they're allowed to they would have chosen their partner wisely and the population wouldn't have increased like this 😮😢. When I was small i didn't know the difference between sex and rape. When i came to know that I was really shocked. The patriarchy has made us talk about women as a property and scold someone using the words mentioning female parts. As u said in cities they atleast know that's a crime so many cases are reported then what about the villages..even in animals the females are taking their own decisions. The males have written everything in the name of religious text which should be followed by women and they're are made to without realising that they don't have freedom to take their decisions on their own and should listen to males.The absence of women in history is man-made. Let's see part 2
read this also tamil konngass
Since the Nirbhaya Rape case happened in the year 2012 an alarming increase in the false rape cases being filed is recorded. Many innocents have been convicted guilty for their life. In 2014, Commission for Women submitted a report stating that 53.2% of rape cases registered between April 2013-July 2014 were false
🤔I think a few blank lines have been answered that an assumption about pre-male society is the nature of how it is taught to this day.
Thank you for this video madam at the right time 🙏
Toxic part but information.but handle it well
So nice video
I Appreciate you ka nice book review
Nice one
Rape is already not respecting the other person's, rights
Why men of that family accept him even after convicted?
epdiyum neenga intha comment pakka matinga , ana yethukkutha poduraney theriya , suyathripthukku nu nenaikuren
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Rightraaa
Nice...
Saw a news today that a girl was raped in ujjain in broad daylight and instead of helping her people were recording. It was so disturbing. We see women as god in our country, I am really upset that such things are happening. What kind of society are we living in. Some major steps has to be taken soon.
Sister..இந்த book எப்படி வாங்குறது
Adangappa... Very intimidating
One query I have.. During Manipur violences May, June 2023.. One victim said that the other mob group of women came to their home and shouted at their group men "beat her, rape her and kill her"..
Why some women want their enemy woman to be punished with raped?
From this we shall understand the perception in manipur issues
Akka, I really appreciate this video explaining this book. What would be the solution for this.... Like the mindset shift should come from the childhood of the next generation men, but that depends on men and women who raise the next generation. So what would be the solution for this problem?