As an older woman I love seeing younger women figure it all out and become high value early. Yes! You’re the main character of your life! Play the role well and succeed. 💕
Yes ! I admire that about the younger generation too, being smart early on, and feel little envy too , that it took us , older generation many yrs and lots of energy , sacrifices to learn the hard way Kudos !
Also, men who truly love and cherish you LOVE to see you being selfish! They love to see you put yourself first and have standards. We deserve people who want that for us
That's true seriously . I have a crush on my senior and due to health issues and my mental health not being nice I wasn't paying attention to my clothes my health ,or face.still I talked to him normally and he was amazed with my personality.he was gone away for sometime but he came back idk why and the crush feeling crept up again.i started taking good care of myself and he noticed.actually everyone noticed.he started giving me advice to be selfish like hell and to put myself first.i liked him very much now,but idk whether this will move on or not.cuz he is an introvert too and I am too.we are basically twin flames .so in order to make it work it still needs time and effort.and idk we both are ready or not for that.
Yes this is true. I’m in my selfish era and I have the most amazing man now. When I was stuck in the “I must be a martyr for others” mentality from growing up in religion I attracted an abuser. I have a chronic illness so even tho I do often look unkempt from dealing with pain, he loves me through it all. He encourages me to be selfish, and tells me I deserve it. He’s amazing
Yeah do exactly that too be everything they hate, act like an entitled princess and they will bend and start making exceptions for you because they know if they don't your not even going to work with them because you have standards too but they don't match his standards and if certain requirements can be looked past they might even weirdly change there view point for you but keep your eyes open for guys like that too because they still may be looking for a way to sabstoge you and mold you into the exact kind of woman that they want you to be they never really changed there point of view they just lied about it a little bit so you wouldn't see that evil side of them that everyone hates.
Of course, you should take care of your woman too even if she can take care of herself. Some men loves it when a woman can take care of herself, less job for themselves.
@@Kashmir-lt4cximho selfish was the wrong word - She's talking about being selective. Not just giving your time, effort and energy to anybody regardless of how they treat you etc
@@Dhuxul9she used the word selfish as exaggeration because people who feel threatened or insecure by how well the woman knows herself and how selective she is, they usually don’t like it and resort to calling those type of women selfish.
It’s true! I’ve been living by stoicism since my early 20s. Anyone I’ve ever gone on a date with, ended up being long term boyfriends that I lived with for years. I’ve only slept with them too. I’m now engaged! High standards and a stoic attitude is a killer combo.
More people talking about stoicism? Why don’t you just find legit info about it? This girl is giving her own interpretations to things she has no clue about. Much love
I love how her videos are all about self development, self improvement and self reflection instead of some cheap tricks or distraction concepts. Really love the way you are uplifting ladies.
I am a mother of 3 grown beautiful children and I am in my 50s. A high value woman is a Proverbs 31 woman. So do a little homework and go look at Proverbs 31 in any Bible. It's classic and eternal wisdom, because human nature doesn't change, and its principals guide you into the understanding of how life works. Invest in yourself and your education, develop your mind and your spirit, be modest, always kind, wise as a snake and gentle as a dove. Don't put any man on a pedestal, don't chase any man, ever, and keep your legs closed and your standards high. Consider these words. Good video.
I love this! I used to put others first so much that I would go broke helping others that wouldn’t lift a finger for me if I’d fallen down the steps…. You gotta put you first to be your best ❤❤❤❤
This made me feel so positive and nice about being a woman ✨ and I recently found my look at almost 40 and I really agree it really adds to feeling in tune with yourself and accepting yourself. It made me feel more proud to be me and the real me.
I had to pause at 11;08 because I almost started crying, I’ve had so many wins lately and never took time to acknowledge them or appreciate my soul for guidance so I continue to wallow in self pity. Thank you Vickita
I've poured from an empty bucket for TOO LONG. and men have shown me time and again that they are SELFISH. They put themselves first ALWAYS. I've stopped people pleasing now
People, not just men, are selfish. That's natural, it's about surviving and thriving. If you keep giving energy to someone that doesn't reciprocate, that's your issue. And it's coming from wounds that you need to heal.
I feel like you are the only person that actually gives multiple value per video instead of one value in a bunch of filler chatter! and I love the outline form! Thanks so much!
All of this is new to me. As you're talking though, I am recalling women like this that I saw growing up. They were there. I just didn't relate and didn't know that I had the power within me to have all of the things I wanted. I didn't put together until now that all of those women crafted their lives. It wasn't magic. They did the work and I can do it as well.
Almost 37 here been doing Brazilian jiujitsiu for 6 months now, it's very physically demanding and I can feel it on my not so young body, sometimes I think why did I do this to myself, I have injury after injury, I suck at it, but it allows me to let my steam out, create new circle of friends , build physical strength, and so much more! So this phrase I such today , I will suck a little less tomorrow, will stick to me now everytime I have that inner critic coming and telling me to quit things I have something to tell him back! Thank you!
The more I do see ur videos the more I am having the confirmations all those efforts that I have put into my inner work worth it !! : because of allll these silent work I have done for myself ..I really have now become a high value woman from a girl next door tye 🎉🎉🎉🎉❤
Dear Vickita! l want you to know- I love to start my morning by hearing your voice . Love the confidence and cheerfulness - it makes my day 🙂 thank you.🙏💖 great job 🎉😊
I really didn’t know what to expect when I clicked on this video but damn...I loved each and every second of it. Very informative and uplifting. Kudos to you for who you have become and thank you for sharing this ❤
True that a healthy selfishness is essential... and that we don't play it too safe. Take the risk in being fearless, unapologetically bold and the most important for me is emotional intelligence. Glad you bring that up. As far as ego, in the common sentiment, it appears like arrogance or bravado, in essence we can not have self esteem without it. Read 'The Six Pillars of Self Esteem by Nathaniel Branden, it helps shape everything you're saying with the support of the psychology of self-esteem.
Thank you for this ❤ I grew up a nerdy, withdrawn girl but learned that I was getting taken advantage of because of my passivity. I wasn't setting boundaries or seeing my own worth
Yes! We do not all have to be the same feminine bs clone. I am a bodybuilder and I have drill Sargent vibes and men/woman are constantly serving me, offering me attention, gifts and food…AND I have a man. They don’t get to have me the way he does, and he loves that I am desired by men and is happy with him. Being in your fullest means having that something, that discipline, that stone by which you grind your sword. I happen to be a mountain woman, and I love hard work. That’s what sets me apart. My strength, intelligence, style, confidence, my scent, my hair, my muscles…you have to dig into yourself. I did a video on this. Discipline is the shovel that digs the gifts if your mind from deep within the grave of suffering. Now be you and turn the volume up until your joyful ness on being you is heard by all around you.
“Discipline is the shovel that digs the gifts of your mind from deep within the grace of suffering.” Wow, that’s a beautiful sentence. You are very talented with words! Thanks for sharing your experience, I’ll definitely check out your video!
Thankyou babygirl definitely needed the last part a lot of clarity ive been in feared lorddd you came to save me to not think that way ive been needing this message thankyou so much hun im so thankful for people like you in this earth your amazing hun keep up the good work 👏 🙌 👍 👌🏿 💖 ❤❤❤❤ and helping others with your wisdom
My higher power is Mother Nature. Instead of prayer I just soak in mother nature and appreciate her. I show respect and love to her with my behaviors and standards by keeping her clean and sharing good behaviors with others. Keep the earth clean! Do it for your grandkids.
Okay I haven’t even started this video but I have to agree with the title. Y‘all can hate me idc but I tested a men. I had two instagram accounts and talked with him as two different people. He preferred the selfish women. I was arrogant and ignorant and didn’t care about him and the other women was cute and caring. I acted nice and gave him attention. This sh*t was crazy. Btw sorry for my engish. It is my thrid language
Holy shit, you are the person I have been looking for. I cannot express Enough how I am in the middle of this journey of level up and you were the booster that I needed. Thank You.
I'm generally good on all fronts except controlling my emotions. I hv a short fuse and often get angry at things I can't control. When you frame it as handing a playbook of your triggers I've recently started CBT-ing myself with that framing 😂 and I managed to not get triggered by certain things today even though I'm on my free pass. This is great!
6:49 Vickita, I am diagnosed witth depression and I never thought of recognizing my own triggers. Sounds super stoic. Actually, I use to watch and read videos and blog posts on stoicism I've been alwahs into Stoicism. This will be super helpful becoming my own dream girl and high value woman with the entire package. Also, im a panthiest and animist i am very into spiritual energy and soul is important to me.
everything was going well until my brain injury. but i try to remind myself this suffering is temporary and i have to believe it is temporary in order to get through it
As an older woman I love seeing younger women figure it all out and become high value early. Yes! You’re the main character of your life! Play the role well and succeed. 💕
Yes !
I admire that about the younger generation too, being smart early on, and feel little envy too , that it took us , older generation many yrs and lots of energy , sacrifices to learn the hard way
Kudos !
Also, men who truly love and cherish you LOVE to see you being selfish! They love to see you put yourself first and have standards. We deserve people who want that for us
That's true seriously . I have a crush on my senior and due to health issues and my mental health not being nice I wasn't paying attention to my clothes my health ,or face.still I talked to him normally and he was amazed with my personality.he was gone away for sometime but he came back idk why and the crush feeling crept up again.i started taking good care of myself and he noticed.actually everyone noticed.he started giving me advice to be selfish like hell and to put myself first.i liked him very much now,but idk whether this will move on or not.cuz he is an introvert too and I am too.we are basically twin flames .so in order to make it work it still needs time and effort.and idk we both are ready or not for that.
Yes this is true. I’m in my selfish era and I have the most amazing man now. When I was stuck in the “I must be a martyr for others” mentality from growing up in religion I attracted an abuser. I have a chronic illness so even tho I do often look unkempt from dealing with pain, he loves me through it all. He encourages me to be selfish, and tells me I deserve it. He’s amazing
Yeah do exactly that too be everything they hate, act like an entitled princess and they will bend and start making exceptions for you because they know if they don't your not even going to work with them because you have standards too but they don't match his standards and if certain requirements can be looked past they might even weirdly change there view point for you but keep your eyes open for guys like that too because they still may be looking for a way to sabstoge you and mold you into the exact kind of woman that they want you to be they never really changed there point of view they just lied about it a little bit so you wouldn't see that evil side of them that everyone hates.
as a man you are wrong men dont like selfish women the only ones that like selfish women probably have a kink for it
No we don't.
As a man I agree with you're saying. We love women who are respectful as well as take care of themselves and others :)
Of course, you should take care of your woman too even if she can take care of herself. Some men loves it when a woman can take care of herself, less job for themselves.
😊
@@Kashmir-lt4cximho selfish was the wrong word - She's talking about being selective. Not just giving your time, effort and energy to anybody regardless of how they treat you etc
Complete nonsense! She said selfish which is a low value women!
@@Dhuxul9she used the word selfish as exaggeration because people who feel threatened or insecure by how well the woman knows herself and how selective she is, they usually don’t like it and resort to calling those type of women selfish.
She's like a big sister telling me how to do the right things, get my shit together and im just here nodding agreeing and taking notes 🫡
hahaha love that
It’s true! I’ve been living by stoicism since my early 20s. Anyone I’ve ever gone on a date with, ended up being long term boyfriends that I lived with for years. I’ve only slept with them too. I’m now engaged! High standards and a stoic attitude is a killer combo.
😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
I wish there were more women talking about stoicism as you do. Thank you for your wisdom!
More people talking about stoicism? Why don’t you just find legit info about it? This girl is giving her own interpretations to things she has no clue about. Much love
"...my ego is tied up in some random basement..." such an iconic statement. I literally laughed out loud! My new affirmation
People will treat you as they see you and they see you as you see yourself.
I love how her videos are all about self development, self improvement and self reflection instead of some cheap tricks or distraction concepts. Really love the way you are uplifting ladies.
I love the symbolism of your being in the passenger seat of a beautiful car. You’ve done this a few times and it’s strong and subtle
Being Selfish isn't necessarily a bad thing, and everything u said is FACTS
Being selfish ABOUT YOU is not a bad thing overall.
What about the kids tho
@@smokingONsumDROshe doesn't have kids
I am a mother of 3 grown beautiful children and I am in my 50s. A high value woman is a Proverbs 31 woman. So do a little homework and go look at Proverbs 31 in any Bible. It's classic and eternal wisdom, because human nature doesn't change, and its principals guide you into the understanding of how life works. Invest in yourself and your education, develop your mind and your spirit, be modest, always kind, wise as a snake and gentle as a dove. Don't put any man on a pedestal, don't chase any man, ever, and keep your legs closed and your standards high. Consider these words. Good video.
Oh boy…😂
I never had a good female role model growing up. And everything on your channel is things every young woman should know
This 💯💯💯
I love this! I used to put others first so much that I would go broke helping others that wouldn’t lift a finger for me if I’d fallen down the steps…. You gotta put you first to be your best ❤❤❤❤
And because you deserve to be treated the best x you’re worth it
This made me feel so positive and nice about being a woman ✨ and I recently found my look at almost 40 and I really agree it really adds to feeling in tune with yourself and accepting yourself. It made me feel more proud to be me and the real me.
I had to pause at 11;08 because I almost started crying, I’ve had so many wins lately and never took time to acknowledge them or appreciate my soul for guidance so I continue to wallow in self pity. Thank you Vickita
I've poured from an empty bucket for TOO LONG. and men have shown me time and again that they are SELFISH. They put themselves first ALWAYS. I've stopped people pleasing now
People, not just men, are selfish. That's natural, it's about surviving and thriving.
If you keep giving energy to someone that doesn't reciprocate, that's your issue. And it's coming from wounds that you need to heal.
I feel like you are the only person that actually gives multiple value per video instead of one value in a bunch of filler chatter! and I love the outline form!
Thanks so much!
wow thanks so much!
This is a great point. If her videos were books I'd highlight eveey word 😂
I’ve only been a subscriber for a few hours and you have already changed my life.
YESSS , KNOWING YOU'RE ALL THAT AND BEING HUMBLE>>
All of this is new to me. As you're talking though, I am recalling women like this that I saw growing up. They were there. I just didn't relate and didn't know that I had the power within me to have all of the things I wanted. I didn't put together until now that all of those women crafted their lives. It wasn't magic. They did the work and I can do it as well.
Almost 37 here been doing Brazilian jiujitsiu for 6 months now, it's very physically demanding and I can feel it on my not so young body, sometimes I think why did I do this to myself, I have injury after injury, I suck at it, but it allows me to let my steam out, create new circle of friends , build physical strength, and so much more! So this phrase I such today , I will suck a little less tomorrow, will stick to me now everytime I have that inner critic coming and telling me to quit things I have something to tell him back! Thank you!
Jiu jitsu is the best, I started at 37 as well
My girl has a video out... YAAAS
❤️ you!
"The world is not setup for YOU and YOUR triggers." 👏👏👏👏👏
Cant really pass a dayy with out watching your same videos repeatedly dailyy im so in love w your words ❤️❤️ and finally a new video 😭❤️
The more I do see ur videos the more I am having the confirmations all those efforts that I have put into my inner work worth it !! : because of allll these silent work I have done for myself ..I really have now become a high value woman from a girl next door tye 🎉🎉🎉🎉❤
This was so amazing and enlightening . Really changed my perspective on personal development and femininity. Thank you for this ! 💕
Dear Vickita!
l want you to know- I love to start my morning by hearing your voice . Love the confidence and cheerfulness - it makes my day 🙂 thank you.🙏💖 great job 🎉😊
Wow, thank you! ❤️
Same here ❤
I really didn’t know what to expect when I clicked on this video but damn...I loved each and every second of it. Very informative and uplifting. Kudos to you for who you have become and thank you for sharing this ❤
Vickita you look like a classic movie star!! 🤩 You are Brilliant and Beautiful, thank you for sharing all of your hard earned wisdom 🙏🙏
I am so happy I found your channel! You have opened my mind so much.
wow that means so much
Recently I've been extremely emotionally motivated and channeling that to unsavory things, thanks for bringing bmme back to reality ❤
True that a healthy selfishness is essential... and that we don't play it too safe. Take the risk in being fearless, unapologetically bold and the most important for me is emotional intelligence. Glad you bring that up. As far as ego, in the common sentiment, it appears like arrogance or bravado, in essence we can not have self esteem without it. Read 'The Six Pillars of Self Esteem by Nathaniel Branden, it helps shape everything you're saying with the support of the psychology of self-esteem.
Omg I so needed to hear this message today, thank you soooooo much!!! ❤
The cycle shortness is the activation of the pain body. Great way to analyze what we still hold. Good video ✌🏽
This was one of the best videos ive seen this year❤
Thank you for this ❤ I grew up a nerdy, withdrawn girl but learned that I was getting taken advantage of because of my passivity. I wasn't setting boundaries or seeing my own worth
Mother is mothering 🤭♥️ thank you for this video queen
Everything about this👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Thank you for existing ✨
Perfect timing, thank you so much ! Amazing video. You are very empowering.
Yes! We do not all have to be the same feminine bs clone. I am a bodybuilder and I have drill Sargent vibes and men/woman are constantly serving me, offering me attention, gifts and food…AND I have a man. They don’t get to have me the way he does, and he loves that I am desired by men and is happy with him.
Being in your fullest means having that something, that discipline, that stone by which you grind your sword. I happen to be a mountain woman, and I love hard work. That’s what sets me apart. My strength, intelligence, style, confidence, my scent, my hair, my muscles…you have to dig into yourself. I did a video on this. Discipline is the shovel that digs the gifts if your mind from deep within the grave of suffering.
Now be you and turn the volume up until your joyful ness on being you is heard by all around you.
You don't have to put others down you know...
No one cares
“Discipline is the shovel that digs the gifts of your mind from deep within the grace of suffering.” Wow, that’s a beautiful sentence. You are very talented with words! Thanks for sharing your experience, I’ll definitely check out your video!
Thank you for this genuinely great advice 🙏🏽❤️
High value content by a high value woman! Watched it twice back to back!!
"High value women are selfish." ❤💯❤💯❤💯❤💯❤💯
Thankyou babygirl definitely needed the last part a lot of clarity ive been in feared lorddd you came to save me to not think that way ive been needing this message thankyou so much hun im so thankful for people like you in this earth your amazing hun keep up the good work 👏 🙌 👍 👌🏿 💖 ❤❤❤❤ and helping others with your wisdom
Damn , this is true! "Average" women also accept anyone just to have a relationship. High value have boundaries and standards.
Definitely gonna watch this once a week. I love your energy and I really appreciate the uplifting advice 💗 thank you!
This is POWERFUL thank you. I’m meditating on this throughout this new year ❤
My higher power is Mother Nature. Instead of prayer I just soak in mother nature and appreciate her. I show respect and love to her with my behaviors and standards by keeping her clean and sharing good behaviors with others. Keep the earth clean! Do it for your grandkids.
I’m curious…who created Mother Nature? (:
@@Ishereyeshua1 mothers create babies. So mother nature created herself. If that triggers you, maybe rewatch the video !! 🌺💗🧁
Feminine divine ❤️ god came from a vagina. Women are very powerful.
@@spacebar9733mothers don't create themselves 🤦 they are created by their parents, sooooo......😅
@@fluffedsquirrel why are you trying to tell others what they should believe? do you have these issues when someone likes a different color than you?
Absolutely loved this, thank you for your insight!
I need your advice all day everyday 👏👏👏
Thank you queen I really needed to hear this! You help women so much
🥺thank you
Uff this video was a vibe. I love how eloquently you described every part instead of delivering all this gold knowledge in a scattered way.
thank you 🥺
I love your channel, it has been so helpful already. I have struggled with reactivity for so long and I look forward to reclaiming my power.
Girl you slayed the Blair Waldorf look and slayed Yr content... Love it, tq
awww thank you!
loved it!
I love that I found your channel. You give big sis vibes and I love it! 😻
"if u engage in 99 percenters behaviors u will end up living a mediocre life" preachhh
I loved the way you approche things, true high quality women are selfish and self centred , they dont settle for what is not gonna serve them ❤
Chef’s kiss! Outstanding content.
This is exactly what I needed to hear after a rough end of 2023.
Thanks so much!
Okay I haven’t even started this video but I have to agree with the title. Y‘all can hate me idc but I tested a men. I had two instagram accounts and talked with him as two different people. He preferred the selfish women. I was arrogant and ignorant and didn’t care about him and the other women was cute and caring. I acted nice and gave him attention. This sh*t was crazy.
Btw sorry for my engish. It is my thrid language
This is so insightful, thank you, Vickita
One of the best videos I've ever watched! ♥️
How have I only just found your channel! ❤
Its so true . i am happy that i realized that very early of my age.
vikita is brilliant she should be a course to follow for girls before they hit womanhood
❤
I love your energy!!!!❤❤❤
Yes Neville
Holy shit, you are the person I have been looking for. I cannot express Enough how I am in the middle of this journey of level up and you were the booster that I needed. Thank You.
I'm generally good on all fronts except controlling my emotions. I hv a short fuse and often get angry at things I can't control. When you frame it as handing a playbook of your triggers I've recently started CBT-ing myself with that framing 😂 and I managed to not get triggered by certain things today even though I'm on my free pass. This is great!
Finally some real valuable content out there instead of just some nonsense and repetitive content.
6:49 Vickita, I am diagnosed witth depression and I never thought of recognizing my own triggers. Sounds super stoic. Actually, I use to watch and read videos and blog posts on stoicism I've been alwahs into Stoicism. This will be super helpful becoming my own dream girl and high value woman with the entire package. Also, im a panthiest and animist i am very into spiritual energy and soul is important to me.
Love the melody in the background!!
i decided to leave the place that gave me too many triggers. i see it as a self-care
4:50 ❤️ this. Bookmarking it for myself
I agree. I love myself more in my late 30s even after I have 4 kids than when I was in my 20s.
She was is on point with everything
thank you
Hold on. Hold on. Why is this so… direct 😅 Wheeew. Me taking notes on this fine Sunday.
I swear you got a new car every week. But I luv your videos girlll💕
My Mentor ❤.... Thank you Vikita❤😊
My pleasure 😊
Ugh I appreciate you so much. Thank you , you’re amazing and the big sis I never had ❤
Please make a video on how to heal 101 from scratch like a whole mind map on where to start how to start what to avoid and all of that plzz sissy
Selfish no having boundaries yes
love your content!
You’re the big sis I never had ❤
I just hate how high vlaue women are hated by other girls and always get looks and bad energy or call them pick me
Don't let it bother you and contract, you will find your circle of friends with time
I hope it helps
Thank you so much! This really helped a lot ❤️
Yay I'm glad
Your videos are so helpful. Thank you ❣️
Thank you so much for this valuable content, bless you 🤍🤍🤍
My pleasure 😊
Amazing video, thank you ❤
everything was going well until my brain injury. but i try to remind myself this suffering is temporary and i have to believe it is temporary in order to get through it
every video you post is a hit!
Thank you for sharing and teaching us. Greatly appreciated. ❤
You are so welcome
thank you so much I love your Chanel help me a lot to love myself
I like a balanced woman. Both selfish and selfless.
Your videos are the absolute best I have come across on this category of topics
Thank you, Vickita! ❤😊
Powerful.women is what I want to be.
Wow. I really needed that precise advice ❤
14:45 Fear of something is more scary than that thing itself so it's always a good idea to do it anyway without thinking much if it has to be done...
Your words are just awesome ❤