Whether you decide for or against having kids, I hope you get your wish and make a wonderful dad if that’s what you wish for. I grew up with A LOT of childhood trauma and spent my teens and 20s caring for my single dad after many strokes and eventually dementia. As much as I LOVE kids and get baby fever sometimes, I have fully and completely come to terms with being too “broken”(bad wording sorry) to ever be able to fully and completely support and provide for my kids. It hurts, but it’s ok. As a disabled 34yr old female with lifelong weight issues medical issues and a whole lotta generational stuff going on, having kids would be like baking a cake with half rotten ingredients.
I went to a teachers college near Cville and the students there had a funny saying: a man graduated from teachers college and had three theories of child development and no kids. 10 years later he had three kids and no theories of child development.
@@Sonicfan138 No, I’m not. When you have kids, that’s a wildcard. You don’t know how that will turn out. After 2 decades of sacrifice, you could get nothing from it. You owe nothing to kids you don’t have and all your life’s work is yours to benefit from.
@@mfumich Of course it's a wildcard. That's not what you said initially though - you could have so much more happiness with kids. I sure do. They could also make things incredibly more difficult. It's your choice though. Don't have kids if you don't want to. Most millennials and Gen Z aren't, and I don't blame them at all seeing as we've made it more difficult to have them today.
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An introspective person like you makes a good parent 💚
I wish you well. I all of your endeavors my friend.
Whether you decide for or against having kids, I hope you get your wish and make a wonderful dad if that’s what you wish for. I grew up with A LOT of childhood trauma and spent my teens and 20s caring for my single dad after many strokes and eventually dementia. As much as I LOVE kids and get baby fever sometimes, I have fully and completely come to terms with being too “broken”(bad wording sorry) to ever be able to fully and completely support and provide for my kids. It hurts, but it’s ok. As a disabled 34yr old female with lifelong weight issues medical issues and a whole lotta generational stuff going on, having kids would be like baking a cake with half rotten ingredients.
You've realized what soooo many people never get. That alone sets you up wonderfully ❤❤❤
I went to a teachers college near Cville and the students there had a funny saying: a man graduated from teachers college and had three theories of child development and no kids. 10 years later he had three kids and no theories of child development.
Very important work
Find out what's good for you, cos no matter what your future decisions will be you need to be your best self
If you want a happy life, don’t have kids. That’s the only guaranteed outcome you can control.
You're mixing up "stress-free" and happiness. You can easily have happiness and have kids. But you will be stressed almost all the time.
@@Sonicfan138 No, I’m not. When you have kids, that’s a wildcard. You don’t know how that will turn out. After 2 decades of sacrifice, you could get nothing from it. You owe nothing to kids you don’t have and all your life’s work is yours to benefit from.
Very bitter and not true
@@mfumich Of course it's a wildcard. That's not what you said initially though - you could have so much more happiness with kids. I sure do. They could also make things incredibly more difficult. It's your choice though. Don't have kids if you don't want to. Most millennials and Gen Z aren't, and I don't blame them at all seeing as we've made it more difficult to have them today.
@@Sonicfan138 What I said is that you have more control when you choose not to have children.
So wise.😊
Yup
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