Men refuse to take responsibility for where they "release". The one and ONLY way a woman can "trap" a man is by poking holes in his rubber. Unless she drugs and 🍇 him, but how often do either of these happen ?? The fact is men are too dependent on women using protection, when they themselves don't want children. They depend on us to protect them from STDs and from pregnancy. Make THAT make sense! Most won't even get STD testing, but wait to see the results when women get it done. They don't care cause they know the baby is not going home with them, and most WILL NOT fight for custody lol Damn near EVERY baby mama was made that way purposely by her "man"
the baby trap is waaaaay bigger for women. Who gets pregnant? Who gives birth? Who pays most of the costs? Who cares for the baby? Who is giving up their careers? Men can just run away (and we know that a LOT do that). Women can't.
Who is taking the life or death risk? Because even today, pregnancy/childbirth is dangerous for women even in the best circumstances, let alone the worst.
I believe the notion “baby trap men” is women who specifically go for a wealthy successful man to have his child. This happens a lot especially in the celeb world. I don’t think it applies to the average day type women although the average type women may willfully get pregnant cause they know the man is successful in some way- OR she competing for that man with another woman. It happens and we as women need to be honest and acknowledge that. No need to get defensive it is just facts that some women do trap men. 🤷🏽♀️
A man is never trapped by a baby, not if 80% of custodial parents are mothers. Paying for a child for 18 years is not a trap. Saying that marriage is a bigger commitment than responsibility for a little helpless human being is crazy but shows how little men care about their own children.
Agreed. Not only how little they care about their children but also how little they plan on doing for their children. It's wild to think about especially considering how little they do in marriages.
Disagree. Women know if a man wants to be a father or not. Some women assume because he financially set he will make a good father and she will be financially taken care of as well. Some men even tell the woman they don’t want kids- and she lies about being on protection or finds other ways to get pregnant by him. We hear “the condom broke” or “my B.C. did not work” if she wanted to protect herself she would. I know a few women that will have a baby thinking it will keep the man close. Yes, the man is attached to you some way or another unless he gives away his parental rights, but don’t doubt for one minute that some women are not out here try to tor have a child with the “wealthy” man they with. 🤷🏽♀️
@@sg5720a woman has no idea if a man is going to be a good and active father, regardless of how much money he has. There are women who try to “trap” wealthy men by getting pregnant but as PO said, that’s rare since most men don’t have money and she is still the one left to raise the child. Also, wealthy men usually have the sense to protect their seed.
In a man’s brain- ladies I know it is hard- but try to think what HE is thinking. In his mind- she was not a good gf and that is why he cheated on her. He is NOT looking at his actions he is only looking at hers. A lot of men can not see past their own noses, so when statements like this said, he is not looking at what he did, but what she was NOT doing for him that made him cheat. I know, it is shallow and cold and mean, but that is how most men are, it is all about what makes THEM feel good not YOU. I knew a long time ago. I had the privilege of having both my parents and an older brother and a lot of male cousins to watch and see how they move. So I married a “SIMP” some men would say. My husband finds joy in making me happy. Men that love to provide and protect and love on their woman and family. Men like that worth being fathers and husbands. I’m at this point I’m feeling lazy with how much my hubby does for me. My folks married 48 years and myself 21 amazing years. If your man ain’t serving you- he ain’t the man for you. I keep saying it all over social media, only marry to make your life easier not harder. If the man you with causing you more grief than fulfillment- stay single. 😌
How can she trap any man when he can walk away at any time? A woman doesn't have the option of walking away from a child unless she terminates or gives it up for adoption. Its not the flex for women that men think it is.
My daughter father told me that i trapped him with a baby. I have taken care of her for 13 years now. This man hasnt change a diaper, went to a doctor appointment, seen her milestones, never paid for school uniforms shoes class fees field trip teacher parent conference. Dont know her birthday. Im the one who endures everything.
I’m not lieing to make you feel better. You acting a fool in front of me I am telling you, you are being a fool. Plus I don’t want to have to have amazing memory based on what I said so the truth is what you going to get. I swear this is why I don’t have many friends. I’m too damn honest…I love it. My peace is protected. 😌🤷🏽♀️💯
They are ignoring that in a relationship there is a space for trust already built in and you have to account for the other person’s trauma and norms….. I dated a man who cheated on me. Things that would be a red flag for others were not a red flag for me because of what i witnessed in my upbringing. My dad was a quiet man, not one for a lot of details, and liked his alone time. My dad wasn’t a cheater it’s just how he was. So when I met my ex and he was this way. So TO ME it was familiar and normal. We agreed on monogamy, so I always led with the assumption that he was adhering to what we created like I was….. now once sh!t hit the fan, I realized he used the things that were normalized in my childhood against me and I went to therapy to get clarity for how I missed things . Because I didn’t know how toxic my father’s behavior was. It was just how he was. My ex knew this about my upbringing and used it against me. Someone with impure intentions knows exactly what to say and do to throw you off.
Facts. That's why I don't fully agree with trauma bonding being only described as bonding to a person that causes you to suffer. Trauma bonding is sharing things with someone and then they uses what you share with them for manipulation
Yes you can. He will be forever deemed as a deadbeat. A cruel father, a man who abandons his family. Especially when the man becomes old - those negative titles sit on his shoulder like a heavy weight. Especially when he himself never wanted to be a father. He thought running away will solve his problems but clearly makes things worse. As a woman and mother and wife- I can’t understand why any decent woman would have kids with a low level thinking, classless type of male. It starts with us First Ladies. No man should just have access to us cause we around. Women need to choose better and that may mean just choosing yourself . Not every woman will have a child or be married and that is okay. We need more quality people in the world NOT about quantity. Some of these men and some women will just have to be alone. 🤷🏽♀️😌
Literally she did not say you tell them that You're in love with them, she said all you have to do is have sex with them because they don't like to wear condoms so if you want a baby you got it.
this guy need to stop lying when a lot of rich successful black men are married to former playboy girl or stripper. For example, Ice T's wife is former playboy, Offset is married to Cardi B (a former stripper), Kanye married to Kim Kardashian, Wiz Khalifa married Amber Rose in the past, and the richest black man, Robert Smith, married a former playboy model.
You can just hear the lack of integrity in his responses, like he wouldn't want to "smash" that lady. To me, he is in that same lane and shouldn't be a boyfriend to any woman. He has no sense of integrity... This is a lot of men who talk and think like this. You can't expect them to do the right thing because you'll need to have a baby monitor on them at all times to correct them.
Exactly makes a baby and pushes for an abortion and now the woman is afraid he will unalive the child or mistreat it… but women are turned into monsters for keeping the Child away from a man that willingly wanted to unalive it
The father of my twins has been crying about child support for years. Full blown tangents about how women ruin men asking for child support. This fool is not on child support.
What Kind of mindset makes a woman think that a man that doesn't like her will stay in the relationship when she gets pregnant??? That's extremely toxic.
I work at a social program. Sadly we have a few ffmale clients that get pregnant from every guy that thries to break up. Extremely hard to work with Drama lowlifers. So .uch artificial Drama, so narcicisstic. Yes, bad women exist too. And nope, no efford of therapists can change them. They keep poppig out babies and making Drama with lowlife toxic men.
The best and most effective lies always have a bit of truth within them. People tell the truth and folk will swear they are lying. If you dont wanna believe someone there isnt much they can do to make you believe them pending the situation.
I’m trying to leave my husband who contributes almost nothing while I do almost everything. He is using our son as leverage against me and is making me feel trapped. He doesn’t want his caretaker to leave and is guilting me into staying, even though it is killing me physically, mentally, and emotionally. I don’t know what to do and I feel so trapped. I want out so badly.
Sons need their fathers. These men say that they make better parents. PAY HIM THE CHILD SUPPORT, GET YOUR SON EVERY OTHER WEEKEND and give him full custody.
So accountability according to this guy sounds like don’t trust your partner. Get a ring doorbell, put tracking software in their phone and go through their phones on a regular basis and don’t allow anytime away from you alone with family or friends. You should also do random pop up visits at their job
Brittany wanted a solid relationship with PJ and played house"wife" for him and PJ continuously cheated on her. Most women want to plant a seed and stay with a man even if she into him for hypergamy and/or financial stability. Brittany wanted to stay in the relationship she left b/c he was playing in her face. Now her accountability was thinking she could mold a young rich industry/sports dude and he was gonna be trained to act right but at the end of the day men with means and/or access often move that way. You can't mold them with age and wisdom the lure of the lifestyle and the instant gratification often gets most of them. PJ knew what he was doing, he is young but he's not that naive
So how about this, I'm quite sure that he saw those videos before he got her pregnant. If he didn't see those videos I'm sure some of his sports homies showed him those videos. She said if you want to get a bag, get a baby by athlete. That's something that we all already know. She said it's easy because they don't like to wear protection. Now she put it out to the world who she was. She didn't lie she didn't cheat she didn't steal. He got her pregnant on purpose, it's what he wanted, is what she wanted.
I work at a social program. Sadly we have a few ffmale clients that get pregnant from every guy that thries to break up. Extremely hard to work with Drama lowlifers. So .uch artificial Drama, so narcicisstic. Yes, bad women exist too. And nope, no efford of therapists can change them. They keep poppig out babies and making Drama with lowlife toxic men.
Ok so even if you saw some red flags ? Would you automatically this, there is a women in the basement!? Like make it make sense. Red flags don't tell you the magnitude of the lie either!!
Nah. If a man tells you to keep out of something, go in it. Dont be no fool. Also if someone is lying and there is other evidence presented, but you want to believe because family or anything else, you are making yourself a victim Usually a liar and their actions are different
A man is never trapped by a baby, not if 80% of custodial parents are mothers. Paying for a child for 18 years is not a trap. Saying that marriage is a bigger commitment than responsibility for a little helpless human being is crazy but shows how little men care about their own children.
If women are so calculating and cold and will do anything for money, why do men keep skeeting inside of women then complaining?
They’re weirdos they create the situation and play victim to it
They like to create drama. They don't want peace.
@@Kontroversial84this
Men refuse to take responsibility for where they "release". The one and ONLY way a woman can "trap" a man is by poking holes in his rubber. Unless she drugs and 🍇 him, but how often do either of these happen ?? The fact is men are too dependent on women using protection, when they themselves don't want children. They depend on us to protect them from STDs and from pregnancy. Make THAT make sense! Most won't even get STD testing, but wait to see the results when women get it done. They don't care cause they know the baby is not going home with them, and most WILL NOT fight for custody lol Damn near EVERY baby mama was made that way purposely by her "man"
the baby trap is waaaaay bigger for women. Who gets pregnant? Who gives birth? Who pays most of the costs? Who cares for the baby? Who is giving up their careers? Men can just run away (and we know that a LOT do that). Women can't.
Women are the default parent. No matter what males say.
Who is taking the life or death risk? Because even today, pregnancy/childbirth is dangerous for women even in the best circumstances, let alone the worst.
I believe the notion “baby trap men” is women who specifically go for a wealthy successful man to have his child. This happens a lot especially in the celeb world. I don’t think it applies to the average day type women although the average type women may willfully get pregnant cause they know the man is successful in some way- OR she competing for that man with another woman. It happens and we as women need to be honest and acknowledge that. No need to get defensive it is just facts that some women do trap men. 🤷🏽♀️
This caller is jumping through hoops to make excuses for liars.
No he’s not.
@@malikhunt9367😂 yea okay.
A man is never trapped by a baby, not if 80% of custodial parents are mothers. Paying for a child for 18 years is not a trap.
Saying that marriage is a bigger commitment than responsibility for a little helpless human being is crazy but shows how little men care about their own children.
Agreed. Not only how little they care about their children but also how little they plan on doing for their children. It's wild to think about especially considering how little they do in marriages.
Disagree. Women know if a man wants to be a father or not. Some women assume because he financially set he will make a good father and she will be financially taken care of as well. Some men even tell the woman they don’t want kids- and she lies about being on protection or finds other ways to get pregnant by him. We hear “the condom broke” or “my B.C. did not work” if she wanted to protect herself she would. I know a few women that will have a baby thinking it will keep the man close. Yes, the man is attached to you some way or another unless he gives away his parental rights, but don’t doubt for one minute that some women are not out here try to tor have a child with the “wealthy” man they with. 🤷🏽♀️
@@sg5720a woman has no idea if a man is going to be a good and active father, regardless of how much money he has. There are women who try to “trap” wealthy men by getting pregnant but as PO said, that’s rare since most men don’t have money and she is still the one left to raise the child.
Also, wealthy men usually have the sense to protect their seed.
How is she not marriage material when her bf cheated on HER! Hes not even bf material
That part.
Wild right 😂
In a man’s brain- ladies I know it is hard- but try to think what HE is thinking. In his mind- she was not a good gf and that is why he cheated on her. He is NOT looking at his actions he is only looking at hers. A lot of men can not see past their own noses, so when statements like this said, he is not looking at what he did, but what she was NOT doing for him that made him cheat. I know, it is shallow and cold and mean, but that is how most men are, it is all about what makes THEM feel good not YOU. I knew a long time ago. I had the privilege of having both my parents and an older brother and a lot of male cousins to watch and see how they move. So I married a “SIMP” some men would say. My husband finds joy in making me happy. Men that love to provide and protect and love on their woman and family. Men like that worth being fathers and husbands. I’m at this point I’m feeling lazy with how much my hubby does for me. My folks married 48 years and myself 21 amazing years. If your man ain’t serving you- he ain’t the man for you. I keep saying it all over social media, only marry to make your life easier not harder. If the man you with causing you more grief than fulfillment- stay single. 😌
How can she trap any man when he can walk away at any time? A woman doesn't have the option of walking away from a child unless she terminates or gives it up for adoption. Its not the flex for women that men think it is.
My daughter father told me that i trapped him with a baby. I have taken care of her for 13 years now. This man hasnt change a diaper, went to a doctor appointment, seen her milestones, never paid for school uniforms shoes class fees field trip teacher parent conference. Dont know her birthday. Im the one who endures everything.
Hats off to moms because if moms didn't exist...
Why would you have a child with a man like that?! 😒
Lie to men without remorse. Lie to them about the smallest things you can think of 😂😂😂
5B.
Don't talk to tvem if not on a professional level like a Service worker or a doctor.
I’m not lieing to make you feel better. You acting a fool in front of me I am telling you, you are being a fool. Plus I don’t want to have to have amazing memory based on what I said so the truth is what you going to get. I swear this is why I don’t have many friends. I’m too damn honest…I love it. My peace is protected. 😌🤷🏽♀️💯
Do these guys ever think out what they're going to say before they start talking?
No...the short answer is no
Cmon...of course not.
No they don’t. Sounds good to them and that is all that matters. Come on ladies- it is 2024 and you all still dont understand men?! 🤦🏽
Listening to these dudes try to logic things that are illogical is almost comical at this point. And then the perpetual capping. Sheesh.
They are ignoring that in a relationship there is a space for trust already built in and you have to account for the other person’s trauma and norms….. I dated a man who cheated on me. Things that would be a red flag for others were not a red flag for me because of what i witnessed in my upbringing. My dad was a quiet man, not one for a lot of details, and liked his alone time. My dad wasn’t a cheater it’s just how he was. So when I met my ex and he was this way. So TO ME it was familiar and normal. We agreed on monogamy, so I always led with the assumption that he was adhering to what we created like I was….. now once sh!t hit the fan, I realized he used the things that were normalized in my childhood against me and I went to therapy to get clarity for how I missed things . Because I didn’t know how toxic my father’s behavior was. It was just how he was. My ex knew this about my upbringing and used it against me. Someone with impure intentions knows exactly what to say and do to throw you off.
Exactly. He's not considering gaslighting and wonder if you're thinking someone is lying because you're insecure? It's so nuanced.
Facts. That's why I don't fully agree with trauma bonding being only described as bonding to a person that causes you to suffer. Trauma bonding is sharing things with someone and then they uses what you share with them for manipulation
What if there’s no reason not to believe them?
You cannot trap a person with a baby that they’re just gonna completely ignore and not raise at all, lol
Yes you can. He will be forever deemed as a deadbeat. A cruel father, a man who abandons his family. Especially when the man becomes old - those negative titles sit on his shoulder like a heavy weight. Especially when he himself never wanted to be a father. He thought running away will solve his problems but clearly makes things worse. As a woman and mother and wife- I can’t understand why any decent woman would have kids with a low level thinking, classless type of male. It starts with us First Ladies. No man should just have access to us cause we around. Women need to choose better and that may mean just choosing yourself . Not every woman will have a child or be married and that is okay. We need more quality people in the world NOT about quantity. Some of these men and some women will just have to be alone. 🤷🏽♀️😌
The titles keep getting better and better 😂❤
Literally she did not say you tell them that You're in love with them, she said all you have to do is have sex with them because they don't like to wear condoms so if you want a baby you got it.
this guy need to stop lying when a lot of rich successful black men are married to former playboy girl or stripper. For example, Ice T's wife is former playboy, Offset is married to Cardi B (a former stripper), Kanye married to Kim Kardashian, Wiz Khalifa married Amber Rose in the past, and the richest black man, Robert Smith, married a former playboy model.
I don't know ANY of these people.
I think I do something right.
They cannot afford Brittany Renner. So no they wouldn't marry her.
You can just hear the lack of integrity in his responses, like he wouldn't want to "smash" that lady. To me, he is in that same lane and shouldn't be a boyfriend to any woman. He has no sense of integrity... This is a lot of men who talk and think like this. You can't expect them to do the right thing because you'll need to have a baby monitor on them at all times to correct them.
Have you considered doing a video on women being unable to trust fathers who asked them to get abortions?
Exactly makes a baby and pushes for an abortion and now the woman is afraid he will unalive the child or mistreat it… but women are turned into monsters for keeping the Child away from a man that willingly wanted to unalive it
The father of my twins has been crying about child support for years. Full blown tangents about how women ruin men asking for child support. This fool is not on child support.
No way! I can't 🤣
What Kind of mindset makes a woman think that a man that doesn't like her will stay in the relationship when she gets pregnant???
That's extremely toxic.
I work at a social program. Sadly we have a few ffmale clients that get pregnant from every guy that thries to break up.
Extremely hard to work with Drama lowlifers. So .uch artificial Drama, so narcicisstic.
Yes, bad women exist too.
And nope, no efford of therapists can change them.
They keep poppig out babies and making Drama with lowlife toxic men.
@@CordeliaWagner1999how traumatizing 😩
What kind of mindset is to impregnate someone you don't like ?
@@CordeliaWagner1999 they don't get pregnant on their own. Why are these men knocking them up?
13:13 But how about the countless men who are coming up on women who aren't even wealthy on the average level?
I think he should start there...
The best and most effective lies always have a bit of truth within them. People tell the truth and folk will swear they are lying. If you dont wanna believe someone there isnt much they can do to make you believe them pending the situation.
I’m trying to leave my husband who contributes almost nothing while I do almost everything. He is using our son as leverage against me and is making me feel trapped. He doesn’t want his caretaker to leave and is guilting me into staying, even though it is killing me physically, mentally, and emotionally. I don’t know what to do and I feel so trapped. I want out so badly.
You know exactly what you need to do.
Sons should be with their fathers anyway. Leave.
You're leaving the marriage, not your son!!
Sons need their fathers. These men say that they make better parents. PAY HIM THE CHILD SUPPORT, GET YOUR SON EVERY OTHER WEEKEND and give him full custody.
Move in silence, don’t announce your exit. Make a plan and stay safe.
WHATS CRAZY IF HE DONT EVEN SEE HOW HARD HE IS DEFENDING THE MAN!!!!!!
So accountability according to this guy sounds like don’t trust your partner. Get a ring doorbell, put tracking software in their phone and go through their phones on a regular basis and don’t allow anytime away from you alone with family or friends. You should also do random pop up visits at their job
Right. I know they wouldn't be down for that. They don't even want to do the bare minimum.
Why aren't we well off?
Brittany wanted a solid relationship with PJ and played house"wife" for him and PJ continuously cheated on her. Most women want to plant a seed and stay with a man even if she into him for hypergamy and/or financial stability. Brittany wanted to stay in the relationship she left b/c he was playing in her face. Now her accountability was thinking she could mold a young rich industry/sports dude and he was gonna be trained to act right but at the end of the day men with means and/or access often move that way. You can't mold them with age and wisdom the lure of the lifestyle and the instant gratification often gets most of them. PJ knew what he was doing, he is young but he's not that naive
So how about this, I'm quite sure that he saw those videos before he got her pregnant. If he didn't see those videos I'm sure some of his sports homies showed him those videos. She said if you want to get a bag, get a baby by athlete. That's something that we all already know. She said it's easy because they don't like to wear protection. Now she put it out to the world who she was. She didn't lie she didn't cheat she didn't steal. He got her pregnant on purpose, it's what he wanted, is what she wanted.
I work at a social program. Sadly we have a few ffmale clients that get pregnant from every guy that thries to break up.
Extremely hard to work with Drama lowlifers. So .uch artificial Drama, so narcicisstic.
Yes, bad women exist too.
And nope, no efford of therapists can change them.
They keep poppig out babies and making Drama with lowlife toxic men.
Ok so even if you saw some red flags ? Would you automatically this, there is a women in the basement!? Like make it make sense. Red flags don't tell you the magnitude of the lie either!!
Nah. If a man tells you to keep out of something, go in it. Dont be no fool. Also if someone is lying and there is other evidence presented, but you want to believe because family or anything else, you are making yourself a victim
Usually a liar and their actions are different
A man is never trapped by a baby, not if 80% of custodial parents are mothers. Paying for a child for 18 years is not a trap.
Saying that marriage is a bigger commitment than responsibility for a little helpless human being is crazy but shows how little men care about their own children.