What really ticked me off about Chris getting upset about her talking with his parents is: they were VERY open with her about expectations regarding sex with Chris. So naturally she felt comfortable to talk with the very people who opened that door in the first place. He's trying to reverse his guilt onto her. I'm trying to refrain from calling him names because he triggers me so much.
Yes, the pastor on this show even said in an interview that they have a problem with matching black men and black women together because the black men say they want a white woman/eurocentric presenting woman and the black women say they want a black man. However the white women don't say they want a black man on the show, which of course creates an issue. There is a blatant problem with colorism and self hatred in the black community and these eurocetric beauty standards are mainly pushed on black women by black men. I call it self hatred because ultimately the feautures that these dudes like Chris find unattractive are the exact same features they themselves have like dark skin, thick lips, kinky hair, etc. If these guys don't think such features are attractive on a black woman then by their own logic they're not attractive on them either.
@@jazzy6911 Yes, but don't forget that gender plays a role in colorism. Some characteristics are acceptable for a man but not for a woman. Have you noticed that black men generally prefer to have a dark-skinned son and a light-skinned daughter, reflecting their preference?
@@Miranda-gi9fx Yup I know, that's why I said that these colorist eurocentric beauty standards are mainly pushed on black women by black men. When it comes to the black men and boys, they don't hold themselves to the same eurocentric standards that they force on black women and girls.
I don't see how he "passed" to be on the show based on what I saw other than being a black man for a black woman. Evey time he showed his immaturity and lack of confidence that mumble voice comes out. His "brand" was more about imagine than anything else.
I was just watching the current season of MAFS and wishing you would react to it in real time. There is already a lot to dive into with this entire group! 😵💫
Ah Dr Honda, god bless you for repeating yourself so often. I’ve heard you explain narcissism so many times (grateful for the clarity when you do), but to think you also teach this. You must feel on autopilot sometimes! Haha. Thank you for the efforts you put forward for all us RUclips folk!
Finally back for more of Chris & Paige! Thank you so much for continuing Dr. Honda love your professional insight into this crazy rollercoaster. 🥴🥴🥴🙃😬😂 Can’t wait to see you react to the rest of it, please react to them on the whole season!
He isn't comfortable because he's hiding stuff and he doesn't know how to deal with it. He can't handle his emotions, on a daily, nor can be handle being wrong so he would rather place blame on whoever is nearby so that he can get some of the heat, guilt, and confusion attached to it, off of him and onto someone else.
These two are the reason I stopped watching the show. The producers are matching people for drama. Paige put her trust in them and was subjected to narcissistic abuse. The producers knew about his narcissism and about her dependency.
Not just the producers but I started to wonder if the pastor had some bias because Chris is a "God fearing man" and his father is a pastor too. Especially after that first conversation they had on camera where the pastor reassured Chris he wasn't moving on too quickly 🙄
I call this predicament “trapped in a reality show” syndrome. Zach was this way, Chris absolutely suffers from this. Brandon (&taylor MAFS) was definitely suffering from this syndrome- cast members just abiding by the MAFS contract… blehhh
Crazy how even the best of us get that imposter syndrome. Dr Honda is exceptionally intelligent and well spoken and still felt like a fraud when he was doing his masters. Meanwhile I get that same feeling of imposter syndrome when someone says "wow you're really smart" just because I know some random fact and I feel like I'm actually a total dumbass who just happens to know useless stuff. It's such a crippling issue that nobody talks about
It sounds like you may have an issue with self esteem , which is nothing to be ashamed about , we are all trying to sustain an idea of ourselves we can be proud of and that can be difficult . Typically , if I'm in a similar situation than the one you displayed , it usually makes me uncomfortable because the way they are using the word , given the context of when it is used , doesn't seem to fit my understanding of "smart" or "intelligent" and I assume if I asked them how they are using the word , it wouldn't mean anything worth feeling good about , similar to how you put it . Also I don't like when a narrative starts to be created that I am " smart" because they start to have these weird expectations , and I feel pressured to perform at times . But the difference between you and me is that I think I'm smart , atleast compared to the people around me .
Seeing this makes me want to desire culture training for therapists. Chris flew under the radar for so many people but there are people who know black culture knew the type of dude Chris is/was. It's a little sad because, I think minorities have archetypes are are more prevalent in their culture than the mainstream, imo. From things like double consciousness the Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome, to the distinct generational trauma that's found in Black communities. Iv3 only seen a little of their relationship and it was a trainwreck. Feel like he wanted a white female l, our culture has a problem with fetishism and inferiority and self-hatred that's prevalent throughout our culture that we fight to correct. I get it, "preferences" but we gotta humanize before we preference. Attraction matters but, preference shouldn't be...neccesarily race-based. That's illogical. Being traumatized by a race makes sense for you to be subconsciously avoidant but no preferences arrives out of nowhere. You dont just "prefer" whites over your own people without compartmentalizing somehow and showing some kind of dissonance. It definitely doesn't help when the environment is just chaotic and lacks a safe space to process trauma. Thus, people have triggers that may be connected visually. I love myself as a black person and believe our communities have been disproportionately affected and must be fought against but, I can also acknowledge that we need to admit and correct issues we have.
Thanks for sharing. I was with a man just like Chris except white. I am white I am also a genocide survivor with generational trauma. I completely agree with everything you said. I saw Chris for what he was from day one. I will say I don’t think he wanted a white Woman I think he wanted a lighter woman because his ex was also black. The problem with these people is that no one is good enough for them white or black he would a bone to pick. I am rooting for all people who have generational trauma healing it is extremely hard but worth it!
@@raspberrykissable Amen to that. I want to mention an aspect to the thought that you mentioned. I am theorizing that the reason why he wants a female maybe white is because in the Black community, as we deal with our facets of self hatred or inferiority living as minorities and contlstantly see status from white to lighter skin, that status might be what they/we are lowkey searching for. Its insecurity that they are trying to correct using societal standards such as colorism. There's nothing wrong with Paige and she literally hasn't shown any abusive behavior towards Chris. He is just not mature to be with someone and has not dealt with his trauma nor has developed a health sense of self or esteem to be with someone without harming them via his insecurities. Sorry, had to reply to that aspect. Got another comment for you.
@@raspberrykissable I am curious about your comment about being a 'genocide survivor'? I am not so familiar with the term. Also, could you elaborate on the generational trauma to the point where it led you to subconsciously feel drawn to someone like your ex?
@@Theohybrid thank you for elaborating! And I agree that he could have been after some sort of status and that’s why he a wanted white woman. He clearly had not dealt with his trauma. I also had self hatred so I can relate to that aspect and my heart breaks for the black community as they cannot see their beauty and worth just as I hadn’t seen it. It took a while to love and accept myself. I hope through healing I see the same in your community. Paige is saint and an amazing woman. I felt really bad that she kept entertaining him because she is worth so much more. Thanks for replying, going to your next comment 😊
Im gonna say it. There's no way that she could communicate with him that would have made him reasonable with her. Ive experienced it. When a certain type of man doesnt find you attractive the only style of communication they will give you is constant gas lighting and attacks. They will be nice when you give them something, but they dont value you or see you as human so you wont get basic decency. Its a harsh reality. It happens in many settings even when there is no romantic involvement either. The same way some women wont even bat an eyelash at men with low or no money. Some men just wont see you as a person if you're not what they find attractive.
Considering he said he wasn't attracted to her to her friends already, the ship of hurting her feelings has sailed. If he didn't say it now, I'm sure that when she found out that he said it out loud to others would have hurt her more.
I find it unsettling that you didn't address the outrageous hypocrisy of Chris saying he should be able to tell his wife anything confidentially, meanwhile she doesn't throw in his face that she should be able to trust her husband to not go completely MIA on her. He treats her like a one night stand with no obligations, but expects her to treat him like a husband.
Chris wasn’t physically attracted to Paige from the moment he saw her and that was that. He wasn’t mature enough to overcome his initial feeling that she wasn’t pretty enough for him. Paige deserved better.
I personally don't think its fair and honestly I feel its uncouth to ask him such a thing. We need a black therapist to properly discuss and dissect such a thing. Theres no way for him to be well versed enough in black culture to properly speak on the intricacies and history of that. There are black youtubers who speak on issues such as that and other problematic cultural issues that Chris exhibits.
@@jazzy6911 sorry you feel that way. I watch other content creators that speak on it as well. I personally don’t feel that it is uncouth. It is a request and that’s it.
@@Ms.Cierra Fair enough, I only say that because there's genuinely no way for him to properly discuss something so particular and nuanced about black culture because unless I'm mistaken he is not deeply immersed in black culture. And if he were to misspeak and then receive backlash, I feel it wouldn't be fair to him because he was asked to do it even though we know he can't fully answer our questions you know? I feel there's just certain things that a black person has speak on because no one knows our culture like we do. Just like I'd never speak on the intricacies of his culture because there's simply no way for me to know without being deeply immersed which I'm not, therefore I'd undoubtedly misspeak on some things. I could speak on general things I could maybe relate to being a poc, but not intricate specifics if that makes any sense. Sorry for rambling lol.
This is so validating and interesting.. you are RIGHT ON and it's a strong hypothesis with the NPD!! Keep watching for more evidence 👀! Chris will give you plenty to work with! Just wait until they meet up with the other couples...
He is negging her. She is obviously considered universally attractive and he thinks she needs to be taken down a few notches. If she is questioning her worth, he can have the upper hand.
Thank you Doctor Honda because this guy is horrible to this lady and I would love to know what your feedback is on this couple I have been waiting for you to finish this because this guy was such a jerk thank you thank you thank you I'm waiting waiting waiting to hear what you got to say. There is going to be something serious stuff coming out of your face on this couple
Both of his exes are black. Somehow these sorts of narratives just get spread like wildfire. The whole “black women aren’t attractive partners” just seems to spread whether it’s true or not, and sadly, by fellow black women.
@@thebookofgenises his exes being Black does not cancel out colorism though. Colorism is about preference for lighter skin tones over darker skin tones. So he could have Black exes all day and still be colorist as hell.
So he slept with her and then told her that he doesn't find her attractive? If this is a case of so called "post-nut clarity", that's still kinda hurtful thing to say 🤷
Paige deserves someone better than Chris. I saw a video about that pairing from a black female RUclipsr and that video showed a clip of one of the black matchmakers stating that he was against that pairing but got overruled by the white matchmakers who thought they were a good match. (Why am I not surprised?) If they are going to be making a show about matchmaking, they need to make sure they have a diverse group of matchmakers as well, not just a diverse group of contestants.
Dr. Honda, you're not gonna understand alot of things with them 🤣🤣 but either way, I'll elaborate a bit without giving much info. He's upset because of two reasons: 1) He wants to put up a front that everything is "perfect" and they couldn't possibly be having problems already or if they did, it couldn't possibly be his fault. He wants everyone to think he has everything together. The fact that she went and talked to his family, and they came and talked to him, made him feel like he was being chastised and he was a disappointment to them. He can't handle that kind of pressure or the feelings attached to it, so he would put the issue on her instead of seeing the whole picture and acknowledging his fault in it. 2) Chris does NOT want anyone to know he's having sex with Paige because he does not want it to get back to his ex. His family is still in contact with her and that could lead to issue down the line.
Chris is a textbook time waster. To me, he only wanted to string Paige along until he could either get his ex back or he could find someone else that he found more attractive. People that like to play games like this know exactly what to say and do to keep the other person invested just enough to keep them on the hook, but they will never fully invest in the relationship or try to actually improve the relationship.
At this point I was thinking that he was confused about his emotion. He was having anxiety and tried to blame his lack of attraction while the true problem is the anxiety and he did not know what was causing it
Apparently, there is alot of behind the scenes stuff that doesn't put Paige in a good light. Supposedly, Paige had an out early on in the show, but because if you end it early your check is smaller she continued on because of that and asked Chris for come back and participate in the show. So, alot of it was just acting posturing for the camera. That's why you kept seeing Paige and Chris come back.
First he's demanding her not to talk about their sex life to anyone, I'm guessing next it'll be not to talk about their fights to anyone, etc, etc, until she can't talk about anything regarding their relationship to anyone...I haven't seen this show but I know this type of partner. I hope she ran far far away from him...
Can you PLEASE react to Michaela and Zack, MAFS season 13!! Michaela goes 0 to 100 a lot like someone I know and I think it would help me understand more!! Thank you
It's funny because i watched your reactions to thus years ago, but had never watched the season. I'm now watching the season but forgot about this, so started having some de ja vu. But anyway your commentary on how Chris told her bridesmaids he wasn't attracted to her comes across differently to me. You said he said she's not his type, when in fact he never said that once, but i kept WISHING he would. It would be a lot kinder than what he did repeat over and over, which was "she's beautiful... In her own way." 😐
The way Chris communicates, speaks, phrases his sentences is really uncomfortable? I got the impression that he loads his sentences with complicated words so that his meaning gets lost. Like if we broke down what he was really trying to say in simplest terms he was either saying something offensive/mean (but is buried under words), or is saying nothing at all. It's hard to describe, the way he speaks makes me uncomfortable.
I think he's afraid she won't like him, so he wants to make sure that it's not "her not liking him" but the other way around. He doesn't want to get rejected, that's why he rejects her.
I just have to say this…it was awkward to me that she spoke to his parents about this. I felt like it was inappropriate too so I’m on his side with this. How uncomfortable to be confronted by your father about your sex life.
I wonder if he felt pressured to have sex with her because of gender role expectations. I can imagine feeling very distressed after having a sexual encounter with someone I don’t have chemistry with. If we tell men that they have to want sex because you’re not a man if you don’t is soooo detrimental to boys and men. I have no idea obviously, but if there are grounds to include narcissistic disorder in a differential diagnosis way then I can see that playing a role in the situation they experienced
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OMG I don’t know if I want to relive this again…but I do want to hear Dr. Kirks thoughts on Paige!!!
This is EXACTLY how I feel!
I’m looking forward to this now. What’s wrong with Paige?
@@Denchanter as it keeps going you will see what’s wrong…you will see how stressful it is to watch her decisions.
I felt this way too. I am really enjoying seeing the perspective
Right
What really ticked me off about Chris getting upset about her talking with his parents is: they were VERY open with her about expectations regarding sex with Chris. So naturally she felt comfortable to talk with the very people who opened that door in the first place. He's trying to reverse his guilt onto her. I'm trying to refrain from calling him names because he triggers me so much.
His dad, unprovoked, was pushing poor Paige ino sex with Chris 🤦
Edit: sorry. I know this is an old comment. 🤭
His issue with his attraction to Paige is because he is into Eurocentric features. I hope you do not skip over the actual core problem with Chris.
Yes, the pastor on this show even said in an interview that they have a problem with matching black men and black women together because the black men say they want a white woman/eurocentric presenting woman and the black women say they want a black man. However the white women don't say they want a black man on the show, which of course creates an issue. There is a blatant problem with colorism and self hatred in the black community and these eurocetric beauty standards are mainly pushed on black women by black men. I call it self hatred because ultimately the feautures that these dudes like Chris find unattractive are the exact same features they themselves have like dark skin, thick lips, kinky hair, etc. If these guys don't think such features are attractive on a black woman then by their own logic they're not attractive on them either.
@@jazzy6911 Yes, but don't forget that gender plays a role in colorism. Some characteristics are acceptable for a man but not for a woman. Have you noticed that black men generally prefer to have a dark-skinned son and a light-skinned daughter, reflecting their preference?
@@Miranda-gi9fx Yup I know, that's why I said that these colorist eurocentric beauty standards are mainly pushed on black women by black men. When it comes to the black men and boys, they don't hold themselves to the same eurocentric standards that they force on black women and girls.
@@jazzy6911 thank for you elaborating on my comment, yes to everything !
@@jazzy6911 period
"And yes he was driving a Honda"....LOL
Oh wow, that pun went right over my head 🤣🤣🤣
Chris : My ego USED to be really bad.
Me: 👀👀👀👀🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
This one makes me a bit sad just because of how this woman was hurt by this man. I pray for her healing and restoration
Him saying he’s not attracted to her has everything to do with power play. After watching him. I learned that’s how he behaves.
Dr. Honda still doing Chris & Paige? May the Force be with him.
1 Chris & Paige episode every couple of months ! Total speculation but I say the Force is taking a nap!
Oohhhhhh i can't wait till he fully witnesses the toxic mess that is Chris. I'm waiting for many "yikes and jerk faces" ahead lol
Yes lol
Dr. Kirk came through with amazing definitions today. Thank you so much for explaining
You’re going to have a rough time with Chris and Paige.
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Yes and that’s exactly why I’ve been asking him to review it. I really wanted to have an expert’s view
I don't see how he "passed" to be on the show based on what I saw other than being a black man for a black woman. Evey time he showed his immaturity and lack of confidence that mumble voice comes out. His "brand" was more about imagine than anything else.
he sounds like he's about 5 years old when he talks like that ...
Waitttt!! Been hoping you’d do this for months now since your first episode!!!! Thank you 💕
Wheewwww get ready because Chris is a mess and is a major gaslighter and Paige is a dormat and has no self-esteem. This season was so triggering
Gaslighter?
@@bluetextbooks acting like Paige was wrong even though she wasn’t
I was just watching the current season of MAFS and wishing you would react to it in real time. There is already a lot to dive into with this entire group! 😵💫
Ah Dr Honda, god bless you for repeating yourself so often. I’ve heard you explain narcissism so many times (grateful for the clarity when you do), but to think you also teach this. You must feel on autopilot sometimes! Haha. Thank you for the efforts you put forward for all us RUclips folk!
Finally back for more of Chris & Paige! Thank you so much for continuing Dr. Honda love your professional insight into this crazy rollercoaster. 🥴🥴🥴🙃😬😂 Can’t wait to see you react to the rest of it, please react to them on the whole season!
He isn't comfortable because he's hiding stuff and he doesn't know how to deal with it. He can't handle his emotions, on a daily, nor can be handle being wrong so he would rather place blame on whoever is nearby so that he can get some of the heat, guilt, and confusion attached to it, off of him and onto someone else.
These two are the reason I stopped watching the show. The producers are matching people for drama. Paige put her trust in them and was subjected to narcissistic abuse. The producers knew about his narcissism and about her dependency.
Not just the producers but I started to wonder if the pastor had some bias because Chris is a "God fearing man" and his father is a pastor too. Especially after that first conversation they had on camera where the pastor reassured Chris he wasn't moving on too quickly 🙄
Every black woman knows what his problem is. 🙄 Stay away ladies!
I'm not a black woman so please enlighten me..what is it?
Tehe 🤭 😅. I think I know what you are referring to.
Does he want a white girl?
Right, we know what it is.🤣
I call this predicament “trapped in a reality show” syndrome. Zach was this way, Chris absolutely suffers from this. Brandon (&taylor MAFS) was definitely suffering from this syndrome- cast members just abiding by the MAFS contract… blehhh
Crazy how even the best of us get that imposter syndrome. Dr Honda is exceptionally intelligent and well spoken and still felt like a fraud when he was doing his masters.
Meanwhile I get that same feeling of imposter syndrome when someone says "wow you're really smart" just because I know some random fact and I feel like I'm actually a total dumbass who just happens to know useless stuff.
It's such a crippling issue that nobody talks about
It sounds like you may have an issue with self esteem , which is nothing to be ashamed about , we are all trying to sustain an idea of ourselves we can be proud of and that can be difficult .
Typically , if I'm in a similar situation than the one you displayed , it usually makes me uncomfortable because the way they are using the word , given the context of when it is used , doesn't seem to fit my understanding of "smart" or "intelligent" and I assume if I asked them how they are using the word , it wouldn't mean anything worth feeling good about , similar to how you put it .
Also I don't like when a narrative starts to be created that I am " smart" because they start to have these weird expectations , and I feel pressured to perform at times .
But the difference between you and me is that I think I'm smart , atleast compared to the people around me .
Seeing this makes me want to desire culture training for therapists. Chris flew under the radar for so many people but there are people who know black culture knew the type of dude Chris is/was.
It's a little sad because, I think minorities have archetypes are are more prevalent in their culture than the mainstream, imo.
From things like double consciousness the Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome, to the distinct generational trauma that's found in Black communities.
Iv3 only seen a little of their relationship and it was a trainwreck.
Feel like he wanted a white female l, our culture has a problem with fetishism and inferiority and self-hatred that's prevalent throughout our culture that we fight to correct.
I get it, "preferences" but we gotta humanize before we preference. Attraction matters but, preference shouldn't be...neccesarily race-based.
That's illogical. Being traumatized by a race makes sense for you to be subconsciously avoidant but no preferences arrives out of nowhere. You dont just "prefer" whites over your own people without compartmentalizing somehow and showing some kind of dissonance.
It definitely doesn't help when the environment is just chaotic and lacks a safe space to process trauma. Thus, people have triggers that may be connected visually.
I love myself as a black person and believe our communities have been disproportionately affected and must be fought against but, I can also acknowledge that we need to admit and correct issues we have.
Thanks for sharing. I was with a man just like Chris except white. I am white I am also a genocide survivor with generational trauma. I completely agree with everything you said. I saw Chris for what he was from day one. I will say I don’t think he wanted a white Woman I think he wanted a lighter woman because his ex was also black. The problem with these people is that no one is good enough for them white or black he would a bone to pick. I am rooting for all people who have generational trauma healing it is extremely hard but worth it!
@@raspberrykissable Amen to that.
I want to mention an aspect to the thought that you mentioned.
I am theorizing that the reason why he wants a female maybe white is because in the Black community, as we deal with our facets of self hatred or inferiority living as minorities and contlstantly see status from white to lighter skin, that status might be what they/we are lowkey searching for.
Its insecurity that they are trying to correct using societal standards such as colorism.
There's nothing wrong with Paige and she literally hasn't shown any abusive behavior towards Chris. He is just not mature to be with someone and has not dealt with his trauma nor has developed a health sense of self or esteem to be with someone without harming them via his insecurities.
Sorry, had to reply to that aspect. Got another comment for you.
@@raspberrykissable I am curious about your comment about being a 'genocide survivor'? I am not so familiar with the term.
Also, could you elaborate on the generational trauma to the point where it led you to subconsciously feel drawn to someone like your ex?
Exactly 100 percent. I'm so sick of the "preference" narrative being used to justify blatant colorism and self hatred.
@@Theohybrid thank you for elaborating!
And I agree that he could have been after some sort of status and that’s why he a wanted white woman. He clearly had not dealt with his trauma. I also had self hatred so I can relate to that aspect and my heart breaks for the black community as they cannot see their beauty and worth just as I hadn’t seen it. It took a while to love and accept myself. I hope through healing I see the same in your community.
Paige is saint and an amazing woman. I felt really bad that she kept entertaining him because she is worth so much more.
Thanks for replying, going to your next comment 😊
I feel so much vicarious humiliation for Paige here. Ugh
Yessssss! I've been waiting for this. Thank you so much Doc! I love your videos!!
I'm very interested in your pov with this couple.
Im gonna say it. There's no way that she could communicate with him that would have made him reasonable with her. Ive experienced it. When a certain type of man doesnt find you attractive the only style of communication they will give you is constant gas lighting and attacks. They will be nice when you give them something, but they dont value you or see you as human so you wont get basic decency. Its a harsh reality. It happens in many settings even when there is no romantic involvement either. The same way some women wont even bat an eyelash at men with low or no money. Some men just wont see you as a person if you're not what they find attractive.
Thank you for doing this one!!!
Finally! Thank you for this Dr. Honda!!!
I want to be excited but I’m really hoping it doesn’t take two months for the next review lol. Love you dr Honda!! Thanks for the review!!
Considering he said he wasn't attracted to her to her friends already, the ship of hurting her feelings has sailed. If he didn't say it now, I'm sure that when she found out that he said it out loud to others would have hurt her more.
I find it unsettling that you didn't address the outrageous hypocrisy of Chris saying he should be able to tell his wife anything confidentially, meanwhile she doesn't throw in his face that she should be able to trust her husband to not go completely MIA on her. He treats her like a one night stand with no obligations, but expects her to treat him like a husband.
Omg how did I miss #1. I’m so excited to hear dr take on them
Chris wasn’t physically attracted to Paige from the moment he saw her and that was that. He wasn’t mature enough to overcome his initial feeling that she wasn’t pretty enough for him. Paige deserved better.
But does that really explain the weirdness that ensues: the lying about the ex and the stringing Paige along time and time again?
I was waiting for this!.
Oh God! I can't relive this nightmare again!
Yea! This is going to be tough to watch but I NEED Dr Honda’s take on both of them.
Thank you for this, really appreciate it 🙏
Doc, are you familiar with “Ride or Die” culture? Could you give your analysis?
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Lol. Oh god. That’s a whole three hour podcast. He would have to be very versed in black culture though, which he’s not.
@@MichelleseaChelle It would be a looonnnggg conversation lol
I personally don't think its fair and honestly I feel its uncouth to ask him such a thing. We need a black therapist to properly discuss and dissect such a thing. Theres no way for him to be well versed enough in black culture to properly speak on the intricacies and history of that. There are black youtubers who speak on issues such as that and other problematic cultural issues that Chris exhibits.
@@jazzy6911 sorry you feel that way. I watch other content creators that speak on it as well. I personally don’t feel that it is uncouth. It is a request and that’s it.
@@Ms.Cierra Fair enough, I only say that because there's genuinely no way for him to properly discuss something so particular and nuanced about black culture because unless I'm mistaken he is not deeply immersed in black culture. And if he were to misspeak and then receive backlash, I feel it wouldn't be fair to him because he was asked to do it even though we know he can't fully answer our questions you know? I feel there's just certain things that a black person has speak on because no one knows our culture like we do. Just like I'd never speak on the intricacies of his culture because there's simply no way for me to know without being deeply immersed which I'm not, therefore I'd undoubtedly misspeak on some things. I could speak on general things I could maybe relate to being a poc, but not intricate specifics if that makes any sense. Sorry for rambling lol.
This is so validating and interesting.. you are RIGHT ON and it's a strong hypothesis with the NPD!! Keep watching for more evidence 👀! Chris will give you plenty to work with! Just wait until they meet up with the other couples...
He said I ain't got no baggage.... whew chile! I'm only here for Dr. Honda's take on this dumpster fire
He is negging her. She is obviously considered universally attractive and he thinks she needs to be taken down a few notches. If she is questioning her worth, he can have the upper hand.
In his eyes she's not attractive. Clearly this man has a preference and it's not women that look like her, that's why he's dismissing her.
@@Miranda-gi9fx He would have acknowledged her attractiveness if he had sex with her 3 times in one night. In my view, this is more likely a powerplay
@@Chromebiscuit Yeah, that's what I'm thinking.
@@Chromebiscuit interesting thought 🧐 I never thought about it that way. Could be could be
Thank you Doctor Honda because this guy is horrible to this lady and I would love to know what your feedback is on this couple I have been waiting for you to finish this because this guy was such a jerk thank you thank you thank you I'm waiting waiting waiting to hear what you got to say. There is going to be something serious stuff coming out of your face on this couple
I was very interested in hearing your opinion of the New Orleans cast. I didn’t understand Karen, Henry, Christina, or Brett’s behavior lol
Dr Honda is doing such a major public service by making his videos free.
I think I remember that this man has never dated a black woman before. It’s colorism doc. Please don’t avoid that conversation.
His ex-fiance is a black woman. She shows up later in the show
@@thebookofgenises ok thanks! Maybe I got the wrong guy!
Both of his exes are black. Somehow these sorts of narratives just get spread like wildfire. The whole “black women aren’t attractive partners” just seems to spread whether it’s true or not, and sadly, by fellow black women.
@@thebookofgenises his exes being Black does not cancel out colorism though. Colorism is about preference for lighter skin tones over darker skin tones. So he could have Black exes all day and still be colorist as hell.
@@starzzzy22 i completely agree. I believe his is colorist and featurist. I was just correcting them about him not dating black women.
I've been waiting for another Chris and Paige episode!
When he said narcissist I knew he meant Chris right away I knew this is Chris
Ouu I was waiting for this toxicity, thanks Dr Honda!
Please watch Bao and Jonny on this new season of Married at First Sight, that way you can watch with us. I’d love your insight!
And/or Mikayla & Zach
Johnny is so gross
So excited for this video.
"Yes he was driving a Honda."
Finally!!! I thought you quit
Oh Dr Honda I can't believe they subjected you to this 🤦🏾♀️
Lord i hope Chris don't NEVER find this video...we will never hear the end of it. sigh.
Everyone should study narcissistic abuse. So we can spot the narcissist a mile away
Oooh I’m excited for this one!
So he slept with her and then told her that he doesn't find her attractive? If this is a case of so called "post-nut clarity", that's still kinda hurtful thing to say 🤷
But then he did it again in the morning. He finds her attractive he just doesn't think that she's cute enough to tell his friends about 😒
@@anarchist_parable nah men will have sex with anything. The person does not have to be attractive.
I just snorted extremely hard. I never heard a name for this type of thing. Love it.
Paige deserves someone better than Chris. I saw a video about that pairing from a black female RUclipsr and that video showed a clip of one of the black matchmakers stating that he was against that pairing but got overruled by the white matchmakers who thought they were a good match. (Why am I not surprised?) If they are going to be making a show about matchmaking, they need to make sure they have a diverse group of matchmakers as well, not just a diverse group of contestants.
Culture training was needed heat for aure
this is the second video? Where is the 1st one for them.... did I miss it? lol
He did it 1 to 2 months ago
Dr. Honda, you're not gonna understand alot of things with them 🤣🤣 but either way, I'll elaborate a bit without giving much info. He's upset because of two reasons:
1) He wants to put up a front that everything is "perfect" and they couldn't possibly be having problems already or if they did, it couldn't possibly be his fault. He wants everyone to think he has everything together. The fact that she went and talked to his family, and they came and talked to him, made him feel like he was being chastised and he was a disappointment to them. He can't handle that kind of pressure or the feelings attached to it, so he would put the issue on her instead of seeing the whole picture and acknowledging his fault in it.
2) Chris does NOT want anyone to know he's having sex with Paige because he does not want it to get back to his ex. His family is still in contact with her and that could lead to issue down the line.
Oh, Dr. Honda, just wait. There's so much more to his panic attack. This guy needs major help!
Where is the #1? I cannot find it on your channel!
I can see it in previous videos! It is named in the same way as this one is, but it was posted 2 months ago, so you do have to scroll pretty far back.
@@ninajerala2440 ah, okay, I will scroll for it -- thanks!
Yeah I was like "this is #2???... where's 1? I just typed it in and it popped up
@@legzfalloffgirl5148 I just found it and it looks like I watched it??? well, rewatch time it is
@@jadwiga8759 I thought I forgot about ep1... turns out I blocked it out to protect from the cringe 😬 😩😩
I know what you mean about his awkwardness. He reminds me of one of my exes who was super awkward and disconnected
I’ve too girl
Oh, just wait, your data is coming...
I’ve been waiting!!
I thought you gave up on this series Dr. H.
Chris is a textbook time waster. To me, he only wanted to string Paige along until he could either get his ex back or he could find someone else that he found more attractive. People that like to play games like this know exactly what to say and do to keep the other person invested just enough to keep them on the hook, but they will never fully invest in the relationship or try to actually improve the relationship.
She’s so beautiful he’s blind obviously
At this point I was thinking that he was confused about his emotion. He was having anxiety and tried to blame his lack of attraction while the true problem is the anxiety and he did not know what was causing it
Apparently, there is alot of behind the scenes stuff that doesn't put Paige in a good light.
Supposedly, Paige had an out early on in the show, but because if you end it early your check is smaller she continued on because of that and asked Chris for come back and participate in the show.
So, alot of it was just acting posturing for the camera. That's why you kept seeing Paige and Chris come back.
THANK YOU.... now let me actually watch, lol.
Man… hearing your thoughts on narcissism is so interesting. Makes me want to hold my babies even closer!
As someone who’s seen this whole season, Chris’ problem was simple, he thought Paige was ugly.
First he's demanding her not to talk about their sex life to anyone, I'm guessing next it'll be not to talk about their fights to anyone, etc, etc, until she can't talk about anything regarding their relationship to anyone...I haven't seen this show but I know this type of partner. I hope she ran far far away from him...
@Silver Sun Chiiiiiiiiiiild 😩😣 you are in for it with this one. She didn’t get away at all.
@@allthatsheiz 😞Poor her.
Welcome to dating in Atlanta !!
Where do I find #1?
you're being too nice to Chris ! he is a terrible narcistic, liar who uses colorism to denigrate Paige
This guy is a walking red flag 🚩. How did he get on the show
More Chris and Paige videos please!!!
When is the next reaction to Chris and Paige coming?
Can you PLEASE react to Michaela and Zack, MAFS season 13!! Michaela goes 0 to 100 a lot like someone I know and I think it would help me understand more!! Thank you
It's funny because i watched your reactions to thus years ago, but had never watched the season. I'm now watching the season but forgot about this, so started having some de ja vu. But anyway your commentary on how Chris told her bridesmaids he wasn't attracted to her comes across differently to me. You said he said she's not his type, when in fact he never said that once, but i kept WISHING he would. It would be a lot kinder than what he did repeat over and over, which was "she's beautiful... In her own way." 😐
Whew! I was waiting for u to sink ur teeth into this mess of a "marriage"
YES!!!!
Dude clearly has an ego lol, how massive must it have been to think he doesn't have one now jesus
Oh boy...
The way Chris communicates, speaks, phrases his sentences is really uncomfortable? I got the impression that he loads his sentences with complicated words so that his meaning gets lost. Like if we broke down what he was really trying to say in simplest terms he was either saying something offensive/mean (but is buried under words), or is saying nothing at all.
It's hard to describe, the way he speaks makes me uncomfortable.
Here we go...lol
I think he's afraid she won't like him, so he wants to make sure that it's not "her not liking him" but the other way around. He doesn't want to get rejected, that's why he rejects her.
Those 2 are interresting to watch...yes ...hm sad at same.
Oh gawd. This terrible couple. lol
I just have to say this…it was awkward to me that she spoke to his parents about this. I felt like it was inappropriate too so I’m on his side with this. How uncomfortable to be confronted by your father about your sex life.
So dr. Honda's brother drove a Honda, huh? Interesting.
I have never known Doc to be at a lose for words and analyst..this is a tough one doc get ready
Very interesting…
Dr Honda, We want you to watch because it gets much worse than this lol.
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I wonder if he felt pressured to have sex with her because of gender role expectations. I can imagine feeling very distressed after having a sexual encounter with someone I don’t have chemistry with. If we tell men that they have to want sex because you’re not a man if you don’t is soooo detrimental to boys and men. I have no idea obviously, but if there are grounds to include narcissistic disorder in a differential diagnosis way then I can see that playing a role in the situation they experienced
Repeatedly????🤔
This couple. Oh man... this was one of the worst. Not a fan. Would not recommend. 0/5 stars.