I converted this year and lost my boyfriend that nearly proposed to be because he thought I was being “too catholic” he introduced me to Catholicism and was my sponsor. My step mom kicked me out for becoming a catholic and all of my Protestant family tells me I’m going to hell. My friends are mainly atheist or agnostic and think I’m being too extreme in my faith. It was by far the most difficult year of my life but I wouldn’t trade it for the world.
This is happening to me, im the only catholic who practices the faith in my family and my group of friends, sometimes can be very painful! Praying for all of us to find our people and to be good for others!
I've found, since starting to attend the TLM, former Catholic friends have become so insulting. Even my godparents. So, I've decided to move to another country & start over in a totally new environment.
Your faith is a non-negotiable. A true friend doesn’t have to share the same faith to understand that. Some of my best friends aren’t Catholic, and we can still discuss our faith differences in a kind & loving way. Don’t be afraid to set boundaries, and if your “friends” don’t respect those boundaries, they don’t deserve to be your friend.
Faith is negotiable as everything should be. Imagine a person of different religion/non religios who strongly believes that something is true and it clashes with your belief system. That perosn says their faith is not-negotiable but at the same time what you believe and what they believe cannot be true at the same time. Do you just say its okay? That person could be you. Remember to always question everything especially what you thought was true for maybe your entire life. Just look how many people live their entire life being sure they are right when they clearly aren't. This could be you at any point and probably even now.
@@jimjimjim6669I don’t think you understand the point… Your faith should not change just because a friend doesn’t like it. I am more than happy to have friendly discourse about faith differences. It’s a good thing to challenge your beliefs; for me, it helps me to grow deeper in my own faith. But if someone else’s faith is too vastly different from your own, to a point where it causes issues in the friendship, you have a right to end that friendship. But you do not have a right to tell them to convert or risk losing you as a friend, or change your faith to maintain a friendship.
I lost my best friend because he did not accept my conservative opinions in abortion, homosexuality, covid vaccines etc. His opinions were in this things the opposite of mine
Hi everyone if your reading this please pray for me, I’m a catechumen and fell away from the church for a month. I still watched mass online cause something didn’t feel right for me not watching mass. But now my sacraments may be pushed back because I missed about 4 classes. Keep in mind I’m 14 and have a college theology level according to my sacraments/RCIC teacher who is a theologian. Please pray that he allows me to receive them this Easter 😊
This totally happened to me. When my family become Catholic we got kicked out of the Protestant homeschool group that we had been serving in for years, that had been our community. It was a challenge making new friends. One family is still friends with us, and another family also converted-praise God!-but we lost the rest. E
Great video. One of my friends who is a priest said that you don’t even need to talk to toxic people about setting boundaries with them. By doing so, they are already breaking your boundaries. He calls it Vitamin B and D. Boundaries and Distance.
I haven't had anyone do this to me much for being Catholic. Most people know I'm going to go at them if they come at me though haha. But in other contexts when I've had a friend expose themselves as being wicked toward me, I don't get sad. I'm mostly grateful that they exposed who they really are and freed up more time for myself to focus on people and things that are genuinely fulfilling. God bless, everyone. ✝️
Praying for you. May the Holy Spirit continue to bless you with strength and peace in your witness and defense of your faith. Praying for friends who may not fully understand why you are on this journey and may have an intellectual, emotional or spiritual block, that they open their hearts so that the relationship will not be severed and that sharing in Christ's love will always win out.
OH IVE LOST SO MANY FRIENDS AND EVEN FAMILY SINCE I PUBLICLY DEFFEND LIFE FAMILY AND THE CATHOLIC FAITH....BUT WE ARE HERE TO LOVE GOD NOT THE WORLD.....AND HE WILL SLOWLY BUT SURELY GUIDE US TO NEW PEOPLE WHO WILL TAKE US CLOSER TO HIM....AND FOR THE REST WE MUST PRAY FOR THEM AND BE AN EXAMPLE ❤
One of the warning signs of a dangerous religious group is justification of leaving friends and family behind. Either being directly responsible or making you feel justified in leaving behind family and friends etc
@@wobblebobblebabythe thing is their faith isn’t asking them that. It’s their friend’s faith that is attacking them just for being something they are not. It’s about respecting one’s faith and honestly this shouldn’t be an issue. You can still eat the same foods, games, and watch a movie together.
Well said, yes people tend to forget that we are here on Earth only by the Grace of God and thats why we must put God first daily even before family and friends. God created your soul not your family or friend. So utter Respect should be given to God first then everything else falls into place. Remember your NOT meant to love anyone more than God. Cause without God you wouldn't exist. Neither would your family and friends. Godbless 🙏🙏🙏
2:12 I'm in the same situation right now. Was baptized Catholic, but didn't grow up in the faith. Found Jesus around January 2023, but only seriously committed to Catholicism the past few months. I hardly know anyone here in CA that even believes in Jesus, and even if they call themselves Christians they're lukewarm at best or Protestant. Finding a practicing Catholic in their 20s here in LA is an ultra-rare breed.
If you did not do this yet, entrust all your need to the daily prayer of the Rosary, trust me. Also you may want to consider to get in touch with your local parish, so that you may create new faith based boundaries.
Could you do a video with how to deal with an lgbt-related identity crisis and how to deal with this as a Catholic revert who also has a faith related crisis?
The saints in heaven are your friends. They are the greatest friends you will ever have; their lives teach us how to carry our crosses and their prayers are the most powerful which makes them the greatest interessors before the throne of God.
I think it is sad if you cannot be friends with people outside of a community. I think you can have healthy debate if you are having it out of joy and genuine interest as opposed to dreary necessity because you think your friend may be on the road to Gehena or any such nonsense. I am an atheist but have good relations with many Christians. The ones I like to talk to are legitimately curious what I think and treat me with respect rather than ones that always try to convert me with arguments and intellectual one-upmanship. There are also atheists that can respect Christian belief without finding it convincing. They are just not the loudest voices you'll encounter. Dogmatic atheists and atheists that care more about relationships than ideological conformity are not the same. I see the value in diversity of thought and wouldn't want everyone to think the same way. That would be boring.
Thank you for posting this. Last year, I was in a friend group that was very toxic and very anti-Catholic. They would make fun of me and another guy who was also Catholic and we were always their punching bags. I’m glad the good Lord opened my eyes that I was hurting Him and myself by hanging out with them. It was a difficult decision to leave but it was so worth it. Long story short, don’t compromise your faith with your “friends” because in the end, you have to make an account for what you have done in your life to the Lord. “So every one who acknowledges me before men, I also will acknowledge before my Father who is in heaven; but whoever denies me before men, I also will deny before my Father who is in heaven” - Matthew 10:32-33
You might be loosing human friends but you really need the divine friends wich is the Holy Trinity and our Blessed Virgin Mary.. most of us humans look any advantage or interest of someone before a sincere friendship
I've converted to Catholicism. I've lost family and friendships partly because I refused to come to my senses and come back to Protestantism. I used to be a Sunday school teacher so a lot of my defense of Catholicism was based on the Bible. I converted ten years ago. A lot of my friends couldn't out argue me so they either left and we parted on those terms. Trust Jesus, he'll help mend these things or if they are not helpful just like cutting a branch off of the vine he'll remove people from our lives. Some friends or family will return, some will not but always pray for them and let them go.❤
A friend of mine has become incredibly religious(Catholic) over the past year and I'm not. I love the guy and we have shared almost everything up to this point, but conversion simply isn't going to be one of those things. I am holding on to that relationship for dear life but I feel like it's out of my control. I'm willing to keep the peace but he has begun to believe that anything but constant belligerence is a dereliction of his duty to his God. I can't compete with a God or the family he has converted for.
I would say that this is not necessarily good advice. I am speaking from experience, having grown up in a very traditional Catholic setting, where it was very insular. And felt like even average Novus Ordo Catholics were not really Catholic. While I did have secular friends outside this parish setting (and that was a good thing), the insular nature of the parish still shaped how I viewed the world. And I realized later on that this view was misguided. I came to realize over time, that what Jesus taught more than anything was about love of other people as His core doctrine. In the parable of the Good Samaritan, he demonstrates that love of others is more important that religious piety. When the non-Jewish Samaritan is held in esteem above the indifferent Jewish priests who do not help others. Bringing Christ to others can be done in other ways besides overt religious evangelization. If people aren't open to hearing about specific religious beliefs, you can still have a relationship with them. Be a good person to them as much as possible, and demonstrate Christ's love and joy simply through who you are as a person. If they are open to it at some point you can explain specifics of your religious convictions. But really, following Christ, more than anything else is about bringing the light of his love and joy to the world. The specifics of religious doctrines are secondary to that, and really, should be reserved for people who are open to it. And respect toward Protestants by Catholics is also necessary in our relationships with them. It is a two way street, as they are also genuinely convinced of the truth of their beliefs.
The girl needs to tell them,"you need to respect my faith journey! I am willing to go Catholic even when all my friends don't agree. What if I am being led by God to become Catholic. I see that you would rather be stubborn in your your beliefs like Pharaoh in Exodus, or the pharisees in mark 31 or acts 7:51. If God is truly the answer he will lead me to him no matter the path." Some of these kids do not realize how hard it is to walk the path alone.
I converted this year and lost my boyfriend that nearly proposed to be because he thought I was being “too catholic” he introduced me to Catholicism and was my sponsor. My step mom kicked me out for becoming a catholic and all of my Protestant family tells me I’m going to hell. My friends are mainly atheist or agnostic and think I’m being too extreme in my faith. It was by far the most difficult year of my life but I wouldn’t trade it for the world.
God Bless you!
Our foundation in life is with Jesus and Mary. Everything else will fall in place according to their will.
I haven’t lost any friends because I don’t have any
Same. My confirmation will be quite lonely lol
This is happening to me, im the only catholic who practices the faith in my family and my group of friends, sometimes can be very painful! Praying for all of us to find our people and to be good for others!
You are not alone, this is me too!
I've found, since starting to attend the TLM, former Catholic friends have become so insulting. Even my godparents. So, I've decided to move to another country & start over in a totally new environment.
Wow that's a bit extreme lol god bless
Moving to get away from a problem never solves anything. Believe me I did it. Your problems and anything you try to flee from follows.
You can deal with losing a few friends. We are here for you.
Your faith is a non-negotiable. A true friend doesn’t have to share the same faith to understand that. Some of my best friends aren’t Catholic, and we can still discuss our faith differences in a kind & loving way. Don’t be afraid to set boundaries, and if your “friends” don’t respect those boundaries, they don’t deserve to be your friend.
Faith is negotiable as everything should be.
Imagine a person of different religion/non religios who strongly believes that something is true and it clashes with your belief system. That perosn says their faith is not-negotiable but at the same time what you believe and what they believe cannot be true at the same time. Do you just say its okay? That person could be you. Remember to always question everything especially what you thought was true for maybe your entire life. Just look how many people live their entire life being sure they are right when they clearly aren't. This could be you at any point and probably even now.
@@jimjimjim6669I don’t think you understand the point…
Your faith should not change just because a friend doesn’t like it. I am more than happy to have friendly discourse about faith differences. It’s a good thing to challenge your beliefs; for me, it helps me to grow deeper in my own faith. But if someone else’s faith is too vastly different from your own, to a point where it causes issues in the friendship, you have a right to end that friendship. But you do not have a right to tell them to convert or risk losing you as a friend, or change your faith to maintain a friendship.
I lost my best friend because he did not accept my conservative opinions in abortion, homosexuality, covid vaccines etc.
His opinions were in this things the opposite of mine
Aww. I'll be your friend lol. I've lost so many friends since becoming Catholic and announcing that I am conservative.
Lots of people would like to be friends with both of you.
Hi everyone if your reading this please pray for me, I’m a catechumen and fell away from the church for a month. I still watched mass online cause something didn’t feel right for me not watching mass. But now my sacraments may be pushed back because I missed about 4 classes. Keep in mind I’m 14 and have a college theology level according to my sacraments/RCIC teacher who is a theologian. Please pray that he allows me to receive them this Easter 😊
This totally happened to me. When my family become Catholic we got kicked out of the Protestant homeschool group that we had been serving in for years, that had been our community. It was a challenge making new friends. One family is still friends with us, and another family also converted-praise God!-but we lost the rest.
E
Great video.
One of my friends who is a priest said that you don’t even need to talk to toxic people about setting boundaries with them.
By doing so, they are already breaking your boundaries.
He calls it Vitamin B and D.
Boundaries and Distance.
Love that!
this world is our ship,not our home.nicely said amber
I haven't had anyone do this to me much for being Catholic. Most people know I'm going to go at them if they come at me though haha.
But in other contexts when I've had a friend expose themselves as being wicked toward me, I don't get sad. I'm mostly grateful that they exposed who they really are and freed up more time for myself to focus on people and things that are genuinely fulfilling.
God bless, everyone. ✝️
Praying for you.
May the Holy Spirit continue to bless you with strength and peace in your witness and defense of your faith.
Praying for friends who may not fully understand why you are on this journey and may have an intellectual, emotional or spiritual block, that they open their hearts so that the relationship will not be severed and that sharing in Christ's love will always win out.
I converted to Catholicism this year. This was very helpful thank you 🙏
You're so welcome! Welcome home!
2 days till the premiere yet I liked it anyway because I know it'll be great 😋☺
OH IVE LOST SO MANY FRIENDS AND EVEN FAMILY SINCE I PUBLICLY DEFFEND LIFE FAMILY AND THE CATHOLIC FAITH....BUT WE ARE HERE TO LOVE GOD NOT THE WORLD.....AND HE WILL SLOWLY BUT SURELY GUIDE US TO NEW PEOPLE WHO WILL TAKE US CLOSER TO HIM....AND FOR THE REST WE MUST PRAY FOR THEM AND BE AN EXAMPLE ❤
One of the warning signs of a dangerous religious group is justification of leaving friends and family behind. Either being directly responsible or making you feel justified in leaving behind family and friends etc
@@wobblebobblebabythe thing is their faith isn’t asking them that. It’s their friend’s faith that is attacking them just for being something they are not. It’s about respecting one’s faith and honestly this shouldn’t be an issue. You can still eat the same foods, games, and watch a movie together.
Well said, yes people tend to forget that we are here on Earth only by the Grace of God and thats why we must put God first daily even before family and friends. God created your soul not your family or friend. So utter Respect should be given to God first then everything else falls into place. Remember your NOT meant to love anyone more than God. Cause without God you wouldn't exist. Neither would your family and friends. Godbless 🙏🙏🙏
Lost all my friends and had to make new ones
Faith comes first.
I'm old but friendly. LOL. You keep up the good work.
This world is our shop not our home! I like it 👍🙏
2:12 I'm in the same situation right now. Was baptized Catholic, but didn't grow up in the faith. Found Jesus around January 2023, but only seriously committed to Catholicism the past few months. I hardly know anyone here in CA that even believes in Jesus, and even if they call themselves Christians they're lukewarm at best or Protestant. Finding a practicing Catholic in their 20s here in LA is an ultra-rare breed.
Would recommend you check out St. Vitus Parish, FSSP
I’m on my headband era too.
I’m losing my family. I know the feeling
If you did not do this yet, entrust all your need to the daily prayer of the Rosary, trust me. Also you may want to consider to get in touch with your local parish, so that you may create new faith based boundaries.
Could you do a video with how to deal with an lgbt-related identity crisis and how to deal with this as a Catholic revert who also has a faith related crisis?
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The saints in heaven are your friends. They are the greatest friends you will ever have; their lives teach us how to carry our crosses and their prayers are the most powerful which makes them the greatest interessors before the throne of God.
I think it is sad if you cannot be friends with people outside of a community. I think you can have healthy debate if you are having it out of joy and genuine interest as opposed to dreary necessity because you think your friend may be on the road to Gehena or any such nonsense. I am an atheist but have good relations with many Christians. The ones I like to talk to are legitimately curious what I think and treat me with respect rather than ones that always try to convert me with arguments and intellectual one-upmanship. There are also atheists that can respect Christian belief without finding it convincing. They are just not the loudest voices you'll encounter. Dogmatic atheists and atheists that care more about relationships than ideological conformity are not the same. I see the value in diversity of thought and wouldn't want everyone to think the same way. That would be boring.
Heartbreaking
Great content!!
Thank you for posting this. Last year, I was in a friend group that was very toxic and very anti-Catholic. They would make fun of me and another guy who was also Catholic and we were always their punching bags. I’m glad the good Lord opened my eyes that I was hurting Him and myself by hanging out with them. It was a difficult decision to leave but it was so worth it. Long story short, don’t compromise your faith with your “friends” because in the end, you have to make an account for what you have done in your life to the Lord. “So every one who acknowledges me before men, I also will acknowledge before my Father who is in heaven; but whoever denies me before men, I also will deny before my Father who is in heaven” - Matthew 10:32-33
You might be loosing human friends but you really need the divine friends wich is the Holy Trinity and our Blessed Virgin Mary.. most of us humans look any advantage or interest of someone before a sincere friendship
Hey Amber
I've converted to Catholicism. I've lost family and friendships partly because I refused to come to my senses and come back to Protestantism. I used to be a Sunday school teacher so a lot of my defense of Catholicism was based on the Bible. I converted ten years ago. A lot of my friends couldn't out argue me so they either left and we parted on those terms. Trust Jesus, he'll help mend these things or if they are not helpful just like cutting a branch off of the vine he'll remove people from our lives. Some friends or family will return, some will not but always pray for them and let them go.❤
🙏💜☮️🕊
Well, I would love to be your friend!
A friend of mine has become incredibly religious(Catholic) over the past year and I'm not. I love the guy and we have shared almost everything up to this point, but conversion simply isn't going to be one of those things. I am holding on to that relationship for dear life but I feel like it's out of my control. I'm willing to keep the peace but he has begun to believe that anything but constant belligerence is a dereliction of his duty to his God. I can't compete with a God or the family he has converted for.
No one should be able to compete with God. Maybe let him go. He is finding himself. He will come back if a true friendship.
I’m in a relationship now trying to figure it out
Have you done the liking and the commenting, the booping and the bopping?
🎉
I would say that this is not necessarily good advice. I am speaking from experience, having grown up in a very traditional Catholic setting, where it was very insular. And felt like even average Novus Ordo Catholics were not really Catholic.
While I did have secular friends outside this parish setting (and that was a good thing), the insular nature of the parish still shaped how I viewed the world. And I realized later on that this view was misguided.
I came to realize over time, that what Jesus taught more than anything was about love of other people as His core doctrine. In the parable of the Good Samaritan, he demonstrates that love of others is more important that religious piety. When the non-Jewish Samaritan is held in esteem above the indifferent Jewish priests who do not help others.
Bringing Christ to others can be done in other ways besides overt religious evangelization.
If people aren't open to hearing about specific religious beliefs, you can still have a relationship with them. Be a good person to them as much as possible, and demonstrate Christ's love and joy simply through who you are as a person. If they are open to it at some point you can explain specifics of your religious convictions.
But really, following Christ, more than anything else is about bringing the light of his love and joy to the world. The specifics of religious doctrines are secondary to that, and really, should be reserved for people who are open to it.
And respect toward Protestants by Catholics is also necessary in our relationships with them. It is a two way street, as they are also genuinely convinced of the truth of their beliefs.
Well said. Thank you.
There is no algorithm
The girl needs to tell them,"you need to respect my faith journey! I am willing to go Catholic even when all my friends don't agree. What if I am being led by God to become Catholic. I see that you would rather be stubborn in your your beliefs like Pharaoh in Exodus, or the pharisees in mark 31 or acts 7:51. If God is truly the answer he will lead me to him no matter the path." Some of these kids do not realize how hard it is to walk the path alone.
Who'd want to be friends with stincky prots anyway?
Solución: No tener amigos 👌
No...
Screw friends. That are godless