Bruh, I came here cause my mom seems to be taking out all her anger out on me, I don't know what happened or why she is so stressed and I just don't know what to do anymore
Same. I just accidentally got caught at work cussing to myself because someone got upset with me and it triggered me because my parents walk all over me and now I’m nervous I’ll lose my job over the one time I got upset. Not even to anyone’s face, just to myself. Am I not allowed to be upset either? Like humans just be getting angry with each other without trying to understand why
I watched this video today to see if I handled my friend's anger right. And mostly i did well🤩. I didn't even touch her, but was with her most of the time and listened to most of her problems and shared my view about it as I had faced something like it before too.
The problem with this is, I might not have the time to talk when they are ready to talk. I ask when I have the time to earnestly listen. I am a psych nurse and often work in the childrens ward. Time is a hard thing to come by. Hard t\o be authentic if you are denying them the time when they are ready.
If they're mentally disturbed none of these tactics work. I deal with a mentally disturbed family member every day that has major anger issues, and the only thing that does work is trying to get away from them, either by leaving, or going into another room where you can lock yourself in and lock them out !
That might be good but it depends a lot about the person. Some people might feel uncomfortable doing that. Or idk if it's just my culture thing, finns are very introverted people🇫🇮
thank you very much for this simple tip, I currently have a very close friend that is going through a tough time because of her job. I saddly did the mistake to ask her the basic questions you mentioned, but I hope I can still offer her my help without irritating her even more.
When they do talk, a compassionate response is to listen quietly or use concise, reflective statements that validate their feelings and experiences. Or simply say thank you for sharing that with me. No advice or arguing. If they lash out at you, use de-escalating responses like - I can understand why you would feel that way, or agree and tell them they are right, thank you for pointing that out.
my problem is my friend gets angry at something at least once a week (usually multiple times) and they expect me to get angry with them, when i couldn't care less about the thing they're angry at. they're entitled to their anger, and i'm entitled to my non-anger right? and then they guilt me and are annoyed at me for not having the reaction they wanted???
Sounds a bit toxic, you should talk to your friend about it and tell them how you feel. If they invalidate your feelings then break up, I'm sorry a bit toxic
Actually when Somme feel so comfortable getting mad at I for no reason It’s not the time to calm them It’s time to set boundaries Say no don’t do that I’m Not ur rag
Great but what to say if someone is angry and potentially violent. I work and take care of such people. If yelling .. I just repeat the last thing they said. They usually calm down because of the affirmation they get.
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Your friend needs a good punch in the eye so when he sees his blue black plum eye he will learn how to respect others otherwise he doesnt love himself and will only destroy instead of create giving him the silent treatment is cool too...why doesnt he do like kickboxing 👍
If I purposely want to piss off and frustrate the narcissist I’ll walk way and later come back and say: How are you doing today because I know you were having a rough day yesterday. Though they were being a total a-hole to me for no reason. Are you doing better today? Yesterday was a rough day for you. 😅
I can be here for you if you'd like. I hope things get better for you. I hope you're day gets better. Do you want me yo join you, or would you like some space and tine to yourself. The kingdom of heaven has come near to you.
Bruh, I came here cause my mom seems to be taking out all her anger out on me, I don't know what happened or why she is so stressed and I just don't know what to do anymore
Same. I just accidentally got caught at work cussing to myself because someone got upset with me and it triggered me because my parents walk all over me and now I’m nervous I’ll lose my job over the one time I got upset. Not even to anyone’s face, just to myself. Am I not allowed to be upset either? Like humans just be getting angry with each other without trying to understand why
@@colinbrunette54That's the truth!!! Everyone is very angry and easily triggered.
God bless all of us please.
A book that helped me is called When People are Big and God is Small. My mom read it too and she liked it. I hope things are getting better.
Same reason I'm here
Me: tryna level up my speech to 100
I watched this video today to see if I handled my friend's anger right. And mostly i did well🤩. I didn't even touch her, but was with her most of the time and listened to most of her problems and shared my view about it as I had faced something like it before too.
Great!
The problem with this is, I might not have the time to talk when they are ready to talk. I ask when I have the time to earnestly listen. I am a psych nurse and often work in the childrens ward. Time is a hard thing to come by. Hard t\o be authentic if you are denying them the time when they are ready.
Being authentic! U go it! Not platitudes ..😊
If they're mentally disturbed none of these tactics work. I deal with a mentally disturbed family member every day that has major anger issues, and the only thing that does work is trying to get away from them, either by leaving, or going into another room where you can lock yourself in and lock them out !
I just hug that person and let that person anger go oon and let them cry on my shoulder or in my hug 🙂
Great approach :)
That might be good but it depends a lot about the person. Some people might feel uncomfortable doing that. Or idk if it's just my culture thing, finns are very introverted people🇫🇮
thank you very much for this simple tip, I currently have a very close friend that is going through a tough time because of her job. I saddly did the mistake to ask her the basic questions you mentioned, but I hope I can still offer her my help without irritating her even more.
When they do talk, a compassionate response is to listen quietly or use concise, reflective statements that validate their feelings and experiences. Or simply say thank you for sharing that with me. No advice or arguing. If they lash out at you, use de-escalating responses like - I can understand why you would feel that way, or agree and tell them they are right, thank you for pointing that out.
my problem is my friend gets angry at something at least once a week (usually multiple times) and they expect me to get angry with them, when i couldn't care less about the thing they're angry at. they're entitled to their anger, and i'm entitled to my non-anger right? and then they guilt me and are annoyed at me for not having the reaction they wanted???
Sounds a bit toxic, you should talk to your friend about it and tell them how you feel. If they invalidate your feelings then break up, I'm sorry a bit toxic
Imagine being a bad friend💀 but yes that person is toxic
Actually when Somme feel so comfortable getting mad at I for no reason
It’s not the time to calm them
It’s time to set boundaries
Say no don’t do that
I’m
Not ur rag
Good to know new techniques to avoid confrontation for bad behavior.
It didnot work part 2 needed😅
How can I help you? If not right now come and get me. 😊
That's right! That's the technique in a nutshell :) Glad you found this lesson helpful!
Great but what to say if someone is angry and potentially violent. I work and take care of such people.
If yelling .. I just repeat the last thing they said. They usually calm down because of the affirmation they get.
AWSOME ! Thank you that helps me A LOT ! A BIG THANK YOU
This is very useful , Awsome . Thank You Buddy .... I am just beginner of studying psychology ....
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@@ExplearningCo sure . Thank You 🤍
Just used this and it worked! Thanks!
Awesome! Glad you found it helpful 😊
I’m here because I broke something and I want to get her In a happy mood💀😭
This was great thank you
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No I'm not okay
You're the best 👍
Thanks 🙏🙏🙏
Well my father didn't show up until now he is going to fight or we are in a big dangerous problem
My friend likes to be angry and beats up some of my friends at school for talking to him.
Your friend needs a good punch in the eye so when he sees his blue black plum eye he will learn how to respect others otherwise he doesnt love himself and will only destroy instead of create giving him the silent treatment is cool too...why doesnt he do like kickboxing 👍
It will help him get rid of his bad feelings or music or painting so he wont beat anyone
Anyone that is physically brutal towards others needs to be reported for this. They need help from professionals if they are dangerous.
Awesome advice
here for a friend😅
Welcome aboard :)
If I purposely want to piss off and frustrate the narcissist I’ll walk way and later come back and say: How are you doing today because I know you were having a rough day yesterday. Though they were being a total a-hole to me for no reason.
Are you doing better today? Yesterday was a rough day for you. 😅
Underrated video.
I appreciate that! Thanks for being here!
@@ExplearningCo of course! love the content! sharing your content with everyone i know!
I came here because I made my cuzin mad😢
I can be here for you if you'd like. I hope things get better for you. I hope you're day gets better. Do you want me yo join you, or would you like some space and tine to yourself. The kingdom of heaven has come near to you.
I looked u angry not upset