I’m skeptical. He said maternal separation causes trauma leading mental health and relationship issues high rate of thoughts to unalive. Separation happens for different reasons. Mom unalived by health, accidents. self, by someone else, by substance abuse. Foster care. Custody dispute. Separation happens at different ages of children. Birth, toddler, school age. Sometimes family takes child in. Sometimes it’s a group home. Sometimes a foster care parent who’s a stranger. He doesn’t say if any of these factors make a difference. Does open adoption make a difference?
Yes, there are many reasons that maternal separation can happens but we are talking about adoptees specifically. Studies are showing that the adopted population are 38x more likely to attempt suicide that non adoptees. I have interviewed people that had kinship adoptions and they carry the same scars of maternal abandonment. Open adoption isn't seeming to be the answer either. For the biological mother or the child.
@@MindYourOwnKarma Just looking at adoption I have the same questions. Kids are available for adoption for a lot of reasons. A child may be adopted by family at infancy as a result parents don’t survive an accident. Or a child may be adopted by family after living 10 years with parents in horrible conditions. For example if the ratio of incidents of children by family is 10/1 of kids in 2nd case compared to 1st you can’t tell if kids in the first case do ok. I’d like to know how do very young children in a stable home who lose parents and are adopted by family fare.
Hey there, apologies for the delay in response. Maternal Separation is trauma, and you are correct, there are many reasons for maternal separation that aren't necessarily initiated by the adoption industry. The trauma, comes from the maternal separation, once that happens, there are absolutely things that any future caregiver of that human should due to mitigate that trauma. Commodifying that human being further by making them a product in a transaction is the opposite of the sort of thing a child who has gone through MST needs. Is open adoption better? The idea of open adoption is better, but adoptees in open adoptions share a number of negative consequences. The best thing is to first reduce the number of times babies are separated from their mothers.
I had an emergency c section. I had to be knocked out because I didn't have my epidural before my son's heart rate plummeted. I've always worried about possible trauma he may have experienced. He was able to do skin to skin contact and nurse after I came to but there was a good half hour that he was away from me. Maybe being reunited soon after prevented serious trauma.
I didn't have a C-section but did have my children removed from to go to the nursery to get checked out and such. It's just what we did back then. I'm sure my kids were wondering where Mom was, but the good thing is that any trauma they suffered, even for a short time, is all healable. Everyone has traumatic events to different degrees. We do the best we can with what have. Be kind to yourself. I'm sure the C-section was traumatic for you too.
I’m skeptical. He said maternal separation causes trauma leading mental health and relationship issues high rate of thoughts to unalive.
Separation happens for different reasons. Mom unalived by health, accidents. self, by someone else, by substance abuse. Foster care. Custody dispute.
Separation happens at different ages of children. Birth, toddler, school age.
Sometimes family takes child in. Sometimes it’s a group home. Sometimes a foster care parent who’s a stranger.
He doesn’t say if any of these factors make a difference. Does open adoption make a difference?
Yes, there are many reasons that maternal separation can happens but we are talking about adoptees specifically. Studies are showing that the adopted population are 38x more likely to attempt suicide that non adoptees.
I have interviewed people that had kinship adoptions and they carry the same scars of maternal abandonment.
Open adoption isn't seeming to be the answer either. For the biological mother or the child.
@@MindYourOwnKarma Just looking at adoption I have the same questions. Kids are available for adoption for a lot of reasons. A child may be adopted by family at infancy as a result parents don’t survive an accident. Or a child may be adopted by family after living 10 years with parents in horrible conditions. For example if the ratio of incidents of children by family is 10/1 of kids in 2nd case compared to 1st you can’t tell if kids in the first case do ok.
I’d like to know how do very young children in a stable home who lose parents and are adopted by family fare.
Hey there, apologies for the delay in response. Maternal Separation is trauma, and you are correct, there are many reasons for maternal separation that aren't necessarily initiated by the adoption industry. The trauma, comes from the maternal separation, once that happens, there are absolutely things that any future caregiver of that human should due to mitigate that trauma. Commodifying that human being further by making them a product in a transaction is the opposite of the sort of thing a child who has gone through MST needs.
Is open adoption better? The idea of open adoption is better, but adoptees in open adoptions share a number of negative consequences.
The best thing is to first reduce the number of times babies are separated from their mothers.
I had an emergency c section. I had to be knocked out because I didn't have my epidural before my son's heart rate plummeted. I've always worried about possible trauma he may have experienced. He was able to do skin to skin contact and nurse after I came to but there was a good half hour that he was away from me. Maybe being reunited soon after prevented serious trauma.
I didn't have a C-section but did have my children removed from to go to the nursery to get checked out and such. It's just what we did back then. I'm sure my kids were wondering where Mom was, but the good thing is that any trauma they suffered, even for a short time, is all healable. Everyone has traumatic events to different degrees. We do the best we can with what have. Be kind to yourself. I'm sure the C-section was traumatic for you too.
Brad is my ATT hero. Thank you so much for having him on.
I really enjoyed this conversation and learned a lot from Brads views.