A situation I was in came to mind when I watched this video. I was at a fast food place (not a chain) once waiting in line to order and I was weirdly, the only woman there. It was a bit crowded. When it got to my turn, the man at the register motioned to the man behind me to come to the register to order. He did this 2 more times and finally I spoke up and asked the man at the register when he was going to let me order instead of calling people ahead of me. In response, he literally asked me if I was a man. I said "Yes, sure, I'm a man, now please take my order." When I got my order, it included a bottle of water and as I was turning to leave, he asked me if I needed a straw for my water or if I just drink straight from the bottle like a man too. I don't even know what that's supposed to mean, but boy do some people get annoyed when you won't let them take advantage of you.
Omg! Yea girl! Yes yes yes! I’m right there with you. My kids dad (ex) is forever telling me I’m difficult, I won’t comply, I won’t do this and that. Meanwhile he doesn’t speak to them for 6 months! Hasn’t seen them in 9 months. But I’m ALWAYS the a****** once I started standing up for myself and saying no. That I wasn’t anymore going to make it as easy as possible for him to see his kids. Bending over backwards to facilitate that. Because if he wants to see his kids he can. I have never stopped him. Last time I even said you’re free to collect them when you should if you want. He didn’t show, didn’t respond, and we heard nothing from him for 6 weeks. Now, he sends messages to me via my kids…no sir. You will no longer guilt trip me, silence me, call me difficult. I am not being, you are. It’s taken me 4 years to get to this point. But for anyone reading this. Stay strong, be brave, be kind and respectful. Also treat others (even the ex) how you wish to be treated and when they don’t give you the respect back. We’ll stand by what I’ve just mentioned and move forward the best you can. Respect isn’t a given it’s earned. ❤ Brooke her Vlogs and crime videos are fab. And it’s wonderful to hear this story you shared with us!
My entire life I've been labeled as mean and cold. My first real love actually left, completely vanished, for 10 years and when he reemerged he told me it was because I am difficult and men don't want to deal with that. It left me speechless but I realize now that it is someone else's problem if they do not like that I stand up for myself.
There's a fine line between being assertive and rude or obstinate and it's finding that balance. We have all been into a store, a bank whatever and there's this one worker who has clearly left her/his bed out of the wrong side and makes the mistake of playing you for a fool. For me, it's learning tact, diplomacy and patience. Because I work with children, at times you have to take on the caregiver and I can do it fine, it's the other part of my life I need to work on. And my family plead with me daily to work on.
I've been a "difficult" woman my whole adult life, I voice my boundaries, I stand up for myself, I don't allow anyone to take advantage or cause me harm, I cut off negative people, I have no tolerance for nonsense, and most of all I enjoy my own company, love myself and don't need anyone else. The people I allow into my personal life are people I actually want around, I don't accept anything less from them than what I'm willing to give them. Does that make me "difficult"? Maybe, but it also keeps the riffraff away. As a teen I was an absolute sweetheart and people pleaser... it did nothing for me. It did a whole lot for a bunch of others around me and ensured that I stayed down, was taken advantage of, used, even abused, and I lost so much because of that. So I changed, and my life has been so much better ever since.
this is actually a very cool concept for a video it's nice to see you live in the everyday life of the world aside from every body You are not like anyone and this is what makes you a special and exceptional person. I wish you a happy life and to everyone who reads my comment ❤️🥰💖😍😘🍓♥️🥰♥️
im doing a paper on the differences between men’s and woman’s discourse and how women tend to more apologetic like you said with many other speech features but omg im definitely gonna add the “difficult women” argument you’re absolutely right!!
I had a powerful business woman trying to take advantage of me and my small business. I stood up to her (politely, of course) and she decided not to work with me anymore. Fine by me! She was causing me SO much stress! Then, I spoke up about an issue I see in our church and one of the men texted me this awful text saying I was dividing the church and other stuff. Honestly, I think he doesn’t know what to do with me because I’m more outspoken than his sweet, quiet wife. Granted, I’m not rude, I believe my thoughts are just as important as a man’s opinions, though. I replied to him, but left it at that. I didn’t think I needed to explain myself to him. You are a beautiful person, Brooke, and your videos are so empowering! Keep being you! ❤
You just spoke to my heart. I'm 26 and in the same situation with SSRIs and my career. I feel like I don't have the same drive and communication skills since starting my prescriptions a year ago, but a year ago I could barely do the job I'd worked so hard for, because I was having anxiety attacks at my alarm clock. I feel so much more level now but at the same time I haven't been performing as well at work. Next step is making time for a therapist so I can learn to taper off my medication too. I want to find my fire again. 🔥 All the best to you and know that you inspired me here. 😊
I completely agree with you! I hate the term ‘such a Karen’ as well. Can you please do a ‘makeup look’ or just go through all the products you’re using 🧡
Oh I've been called a difficult woman plenty of times. I standup for myself, there isn't going to be anybody else to do it so standup for yourselves ladies. 😊
Your just being more assertive lovely lady. Not being difficult. Not being a little mouse. Your voice is being heard and that's definitely not a bad thing. And your looking beautiful as ever 🥰
Brooke you are not alone I AM A DIFFICULT WOMAN! But I don't regret speaking my mind Ever! So let them think what they want being happy with me is better than being unhappy with someone any day.🕯🧡💜🧡
Great vlog speak up your voice is powerful enough great staying. Happy birthday 🎉🎂🎈🎶 to your father. I want to try the eyelashe surum my eyelashes are tiny head I a lot about dossi perfumes still need to try. Thank you for sharing 💄💋🍂🍁🎂🎈🧡💖
I truly hope your journey on your mental health is exactly what you need,maybe getting older helps without medication , Trying/doing is a way to find out,👍🏻👍🏻you are ever so beautiful you genuine gem,💕😇💕 I wouldn’t label you anything but kind, caring & beautiful, a very very happy happy birthday to your dad, 🎉🎂🎉good health and happiness to you and yours✌🏻💕😻😻
At my first job years ago it was like that.I got accused of being mean and pushy. I even heard once that there must be something going on with me and my boss because I got special treatment and got promoted fast.I just knew what was owed to me, and worked my butt off to get it. I had a job to do and you have to do yours for me to do mine.I was a nice person but I would also call you out if you weren't doing your job.Good for you taking up for yourself and knowing what you deserve.Happy Birthday to your dad.💓🤗
i love this video, i feel like this alot too but sometimes you have to be blunt to get what you want in this world.. i don’t have a lot of friends but if i’m too harsh, i don’t need friends. i’m fine by myself😅❤
A situation I was in came to mind when I watched this video. I was at a fast food place (not a chain) once waiting in line to order and I was weirdly, the only woman there. It was a bit crowded. When it got to my turn, the man at the register motioned to the man behind me to come to the register to order. He did this 2 more times and finally I spoke up and asked the man at the register when he was going to let me order instead of calling people ahead of me. In response, he literally asked me if I was a man. I said "Yes, sure, I'm a man, now please take my order." When I got my order, it included a bottle of water and as I was turning to leave, he asked me if I needed a straw for my water or if I just drink straight from the bottle like a man too. I don't even know what that's supposed to mean, but boy do some people get annoyed when you won't let them take advantage of you.
that is so odd! What is wrong with people!
Omg! Yea girl! Yes yes yes! I’m right there with you. My kids dad (ex) is forever telling me I’m difficult, I won’t comply, I won’t do this and that. Meanwhile he doesn’t speak to them for 6 months! Hasn’t seen them in 9 months. But I’m ALWAYS the a****** once I started standing up for myself and saying no. That I wasn’t anymore going to make it as easy as possible for him to see his kids. Bending over backwards to facilitate that. Because if he wants to see his kids he can. I have never stopped him. Last time I even said you’re free to collect them when you should if you want. He didn’t show, didn’t respond, and we heard nothing from him for 6 weeks.
Now, he sends messages to me via my kids…no sir. You will no longer guilt trip me, silence me, call me difficult. I am not being, you are. It’s taken me 4 years to get to this point.
But for anyone reading this. Stay strong, be brave, be kind and respectful. Also treat others (even the ex) how you wish to be treated and when they don’t give you the respect back. We’ll stand by what I’ve just mentioned and move forward the best you can. Respect isn’t a given it’s earned.
❤ Brooke her Vlogs and crime videos are fab. And it’s wonderful to hear this story you shared with us!
My entire life I've been labeled as mean and cold. My first real love actually left, completely vanished, for 10 years and when he reemerged he told me it was because I am difficult and men don't want to deal with that. It left me speechless but I realize now that it is someone else's problem if they do not like that I stand up for myself.
absolutely Rebecca! Love that last part
There's a fine line between being assertive and rude or obstinate and it's finding that balance. We have all been into a store, a bank whatever and there's this one worker who has clearly left her/his bed out of the wrong side and makes the mistake of playing you for a fool. For me, it's learning tact, diplomacy and patience. Because I work with children, at times you have to take on the caregiver and I can do it fine, it's the other part of my life I need to work on. And my family plead with me daily to work on.
I've been a "difficult" woman my whole adult life, I voice my boundaries, I stand up for myself, I don't allow anyone to take advantage or cause me harm, I cut off negative people, I have no tolerance for nonsense, and most of all I enjoy my own company, love myself and don't need anyone else.
The people I allow into my personal life are people I actually want around, I don't accept anything less from them than what I'm willing to give them.
Does that make me "difficult"?
Maybe, but it also keeps the riffraff away.
As a teen I was an absolute sweetheart and people pleaser... it did nothing for me.
It did a whole lot for a bunch of others around me and ensured that I stayed down, was taken advantage of, used, even abused, and I lost so much because of that.
So I changed, and my life has been so much better ever since.
this is actually a very cool concept for a video it's nice to see you live in the everyday life of the world aside from every body You are not like anyone and this is what makes you a special and exceptional person. I wish you a happy life and to everyone who reads my comment ❤️🥰💖😍😘🍓♥️🥰♥️
im doing a paper on the differences between men’s and woman’s discourse and how women tend to more apologetic like you said with many other speech features but omg im definitely gonna add the “difficult women” argument you’re absolutely right!!
ahh I love that so much!! Good luck on your paper
I had a powerful business woman trying to take advantage of me and my small business. I stood up to her (politely, of course) and she decided not to work with me anymore. Fine by me! She was causing me SO much stress!
Then, I spoke up about an issue I see in our church and one of the men texted me this awful text saying I was dividing the church and other stuff. Honestly, I think he doesn’t know what to do with me because I’m more outspoken than his sweet, quiet wife. Granted, I’m not rude, I believe my thoughts are just as important as a man’s opinions, though. I replied to him, but left it at that. I didn’t think I needed to explain myself to him.
You are a beautiful person, Brooke, and your videos are so empowering! Keep being you! ❤
You just spoke to my heart. I'm 26 and in the same situation with SSRIs and my career. I feel like I don't have the same drive and communication skills since starting my prescriptions a year ago, but a year ago I could barely do the job I'd worked so hard for, because I was having anxiety attacks at my alarm clock. I feel so much more level now but at the same time I haven't been performing as well at work. Next step is making time for a therapist so I can learn to taper off my medication too. I want to find my fire again. 🔥 All the best to you and know that you inspired me here. 😊
So if I follow , being a “difficult woman” just means you won’t let people walk all over you, right, Brooke? 😀🥰
exactly!!
I really love your grwm and vlog style videos, where you just talk and show a bit from your everyday life ❤️❤️🤗🤗
Oh thank you! Will def post more
I completely agree with you! I hate the term ‘such a Karen’ as well. Can you please do a ‘makeup look’ or just go through all the products you’re using 🧡
Brooke, I just heard you on the crimes of the century podcast! I love when two creators I enjoy collide!
wait what! how was I on there? lol
She did an episode on Roman Navarro and put in clips from your episode in there. I heard your name and voice and thought "I know her!"
Oh I've been called a difficult woman plenty of times. I standup for myself, there isn't going to be anybody else to do it so standup for yourselves ladies. 😊
Your just being more assertive lovely lady. Not being difficult. Not being a little mouse. Your voice is being heard and that's definitely not a bad thing. And your looking beautiful as ever 🥰
Sad I missed this one when it came out. Wonderful plot.
Gotta say as well that lippy compliments your hair so well.
Thanks for the video.
Nicely said. Nothing wrong with a strong woman we deserve respect and should speak up for ourselves
This is really a good message and conversation. I really appreciate you sharing your thoughts with us. ❤
I'm really proud of you 💗
You’ve got to take care of yourself because no one self will ❤
I LOVE THIS VIDEO
It speaks volumes!!!!
Thank you for your content-TYFYC
Brooke you are not alone I AM A DIFFICULT WOMAN! But I don't regret speaking my mind Ever! So let them think what they want being happy with me is better than being unhappy with someone any day.🕯🧡💜🧡
Ugh this....yes. I can't say the things my male coworkers say without getting reprimanded 🙄
that makes me so upset! Id just literally start repeating what they say right after them! haha
@@BrookeMakennaVlogs I wish 😭😭 but it's so sad the reality is that I would probably be fired if I did😂🙃
Omg I have always been outspoken, I could have given you lessons girl 😂😂😂😂, sometimes I'm to outspoken but I get things done lol
You go girl!!
thank you!
Happy Birthday to your Dad! 🎉🎁🎂
awe i'll let him know you said so
@@BrookeMakennaVlogs ty!!! Hope his day is going good for him.
You are a powerful woman.
I love this! I wish someone had told me this at least 25 years ago!! Xoxo 💜🥸
Love ya miss Brooke!
Wow. What a great topic. Well YOU ❤️lol :). And being labeled a difficult woman. And what that really means Thank you
so happy this resonated with you
Thank you for this❤❤It’s VERY important for women to speak out for themselves, and the earlier they start, the better ❤❤❤MUCH LOVE TO YOU BROOKE♥️♥️♥️
Your gorgeous and quirky and funny and kind ❤
Here for it 🙌
🐈⬛💗
YES!
You are so beautiful brooke. Inside and out
Great vlog speak up your voice is powerful enough great staying. Happy birthday 🎉🎂🎈🎶 to your father. I want to try the eyelashe surum my eyelashes are tiny head I a lot about dossi perfumes still need to try. Thank you for sharing 💄💋🍂🍁🎂🎈🧡💖
I truly hope your journey on your mental health is exactly what you need,maybe getting older helps without medication , Trying/doing is a way to find out,👍🏻👍🏻you are ever so beautiful you genuine gem,💕😇💕 I wouldn’t label you anything but kind, caring & beautiful, a very very happy happy birthday to your dad, 🎉🎂🎉good health and happiness to you and yours✌🏻💕😻😻
At my first job years ago it was like that.I got accused of being mean and pushy. I even heard once that there must be something going on with me and my boss because I got special treatment and got promoted fast.I just knew what was owed to me, and worked my butt off to get it. I had a job to do and you have to do yours for me to do mine.I was a nice person but I would also call you out if you weren't doing your job.Good for you taking up for yourself and knowing what you deserve.Happy Birthday to your dad.💓🤗
Hey 👋 Brooke 🥰
Happy birthday to your papa bear... xxx
I'll let him know
i love this video, i feel like this alot too but sometimes you have to be blunt to get what you want in this world.. i don’t have a lot of friends but if i’m too harsh, i don’t need friends. i’m fine by myself😅❤
hahah it doesn't even have to be blunt, just not whispering and apologizing like everyone thinks a woman needs to do!
I love you, Brookey Bear. You're looking fabulous, honey. I can't imagine you being called a "difficult woman".
awe thank you Andy
@@BrookeMakennaVlogs I'm a bit of a "difficult old woman". Xxxx
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To be honest though you don’t know her personally, nor have you worked with her. I agree on the whole subject though.
Brooke u is beautiful 🥰
🌹❤️🦋❤️🌹
Good afternoon beautiful ❤️
hi Jessica
@@BrookeMakennaVlogs love ya hun