Arguments When There Is Too Little Sex

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  • Опубликовано: 20 дек 2024

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  • @theschooloflifetv
    @theschooloflifetv  5 лет назад +117

    What are your experiences with today's topic? How did you cope with a sexless relationship? Let us know in the comments below and if you want to chat more to your fellow School of Life audience members, be sure to download our new free app: bit.ly/2SIhh45

    • @وسيمالاحمدي-ف5غ
      @وسيمالاحمدي-ف5غ 5 лет назад +5

      Please, if you can, writer translation on Arabie langue

    • @Taniulea
      @Taniulea 5 лет назад +19

      After a while, sex has changed and was once every two weeks. However, after realizing that I was pissed for that reason, but projected it on everything else around me, I talked to my partner and resolved the issue through an honest discussion.
      If you love or at least respect each other, you should be able to come to the consensus on this very important topic, as long as you’re calm and not attaching your partner.

    • @marybaldwin5944
      @marybaldwin5944 5 лет назад +21

      This is how my marriage ended after 19 years. I just could not bear being touched by my spouse. At all. And he certainly felt unloved. The constant daily avoidance of each other finally succeeded in both of us casting each other out of our individual lives to go on alone.

    • @Greatendeav0rs
      @Greatendeav0rs 5 лет назад +20

      Bruh, I left. I need that intimacy and I'm way down the rabbit hole of sex to not have it at some point with my partner.
      If I'm not having sex, I'm doing yoga or working out to make sure I'm ready for the next time.

    • @noahway13
      @noahway13 5 лет назад +28

      I think that you cannot reason someone into having sex that does not want to. It is like trying to have a reasonable discussion about getting someone eat liver that hates it The speaker has never been in this situation. I have been on both sides, so I know.

  • @designatedvillain738
    @designatedvillain738 5 лет назад +832

    Once again, The School of Life points out the real problem with humans and relationships: that communication is the key to fulfilling relationships, communication equals vulnerability, and vulnerability is inevitably seen as weakness.

    • @sford2044
      @sford2044 5 лет назад +27

      And we know weakness will be taken advantage of.

    • @designatedvillain738
      @designatedvillain738 5 лет назад +7

      @@sford2044 and no one wants to be another online meme, laughed at for bearing their hearts to someone else.

    • @SabrinaXe
      @SabrinaXe 5 лет назад +19

      That's why empathy is one of the other keys

    • @MrUndersolo
      @MrUndersolo 5 лет назад +1

      Bingo! You’ve pointed out the catch-22 of it!

    • @sebastianswan7975
      @sebastianswan7975 4 года назад +4

      @@sford2044 There is always a risk for that, and so are many things in life, yet we take risks. But there always a chance that it'll lead to a much better relationship in general.

  • @angelexi
    @angelexi 5 лет назад +1937

    To my ladies who've been turned down by their partner. Its not you its them (well most of the time). They can be going through stressful times that lower their sex drive. This happened in my relationship a couple years ago. I was constantly trying to seduce him but got turned down. I started thinking that it was me and then blew up at him. I said really bad things. I really hurt his feelings and he even told me that I had no right to make him feel less of a man. He was right and I felt so ashamed. The next day, I had a completely different attitude. I started focusing on ways to make him feel more special. I would suprise him at work with dinner, take him out, give him massages, do extra chores, surprise him with treats, etc. On a random night, I saw him sitting on the couch, I threw one of his couch cushions on the floor between his legs and the drought was over. Men need to be romanced too. Its nice to make your partner feel appreciated, and to this day, I still do. He does the same for me, but luckily I realized that I should do my part more often instead of just waiting for special occasions.

    • @gdizzledd
      @gdizzledd 5 лет назад +151

      I'm the guy in your situation right now. My girlfriend and I have had a loving healthy relationship but it all changed when she mentioned that she was not satisfied with our sex. This came to me as a shock because she always seemed to enjoy it. From then on I felt very insecure and uncomfortable with myself and it has led to us having sex far less frequently. I've been using this time to bring back my confidence and self esteem by working out and trying new things. I also try to love her and show her appreciation as much as I can. Sometimes she feels so distant and as if she doesn't want to get together for dates anymore. I really miss the feeling of being wanted and loved.

    • @ameliel8792
      @ameliel8792 5 лет назад +44

      @@gdizzledd I'm really sorry this is happening. Did she say the quality or the quantity wasn't right for her? You need to get comfortable and safe communicating with each other again so that there's no awkwardness anymore and you can relax and enjoy trying new things and get back to regular sex. Have you asked her what she likes in the bedroom or tried new things? Maybe she didn't feel able to tell you what she likes cos it's just assumed that women will like any sex but that's not true. Spontaneity, novelty and communication are all important. Oh and if you didnt know it is all about the foreplay.

    • @tumamaencosplay
      @tumamaencosplay 5 лет назад +71

      KTT I hope I'm wrong, but oftentimes when a woman becomes distant and unintersted, it's because they became much more interested in someone else :/

    • @ProgrammedForDamage
      @ProgrammedForDamage 5 лет назад +89

      It's tricky waters to navigate in a long term relationship. My wife was stressed out by other things and that led her to reject my advances for months on end. As a result I (wrongly) gave up trying and we went sexless for years. It wasn't until we both swallowed both our egos and pride and explained our feelings without tit for tat point scoring or knee-jerk responses that we were able to work through it. Heartbreak is brutal, but feeling like you're not wanted sexually also cuts real deep.

    • @angelexi
      @angelexi 5 лет назад +35

      KTT Its good that you are taking the initiative to boost your confidence. I wish your girlfriend would put more effort. Sex is a two way street, if she’s not feeling satisfied, instead of pulling away, you both should be more intimate and try new things and explore. Maybe she just needs time. Its not you, its her. Keep working on yourself but if she doesn’t come around...

  • @LegacyFarmandHomestead
    @LegacyFarmandHomestead 5 лет назад +1185

    Stop posting things that are so relevant to me.

    • @extinctparadise363
      @extinctparadise363 5 лет назад +12

      LIFE STARTS NOW . Your life starts now, you’ve been given the key.

    • @mrtzak
      @mrtzak 5 лет назад +18

      It's scary, isn't it? They're always there with a new video completely relavent to what's going on in life at that time. I stopped questioning it over a year and a half, maybe two years ago.

    • @climber3580
      @climber3580 5 лет назад +3

      LIFE STARTS NOW I’m a life coach if you’re interested 😀

    • @TreasureForeverOfficial
      @TreasureForeverOfficial 4 года назад +2

      This is one of the best videos I have ever watched of yours and maybe periodt

    • @mathiuseden9605
      @mathiuseden9605 3 года назад

      @@climber3580 why would we take it from you when we have this channel , Alan Watts , Carl Jung and Jordan Peterson. They actually care you just care about money 9/10

  • @sodamnvishious
    @sodamnvishious 5 лет назад +664

    18yo me: How hard can it be... to keep having sex.
    30yo me: Very.

    • @tumamaencosplay
      @tumamaencosplay 5 лет назад +10

      Could I suggest you meditation? Not the inner peace type, but the the oftentimes brushed as supersticion that's about chakras and what not.
      While you don't have much reason to believe me as an internet stranger, I can tell you that meditation, specially on the second focus point (chakra) does revitilize your libido to the point, that your only bottleneck is your own regular stamina.

    • @sodamnvishious
      @sodamnvishious 5 лет назад +39

      @@tumamaencosplay that's not what I meant but thanks

    • @kokoko4045
      @kokoko4045 5 лет назад +6

      I got what you mean lol

    • @isidoreaerys8745
      @isidoreaerys8745 5 лет назад +4

      !!vish!! You are gorgeous. Have you tried downloading Grindr?

    • @sodamnvishious
      @sodamnvishious 5 лет назад +39

      @@isidoreaerys8745 oh I wish I was gay enough

  • @BreenyLee
    @BreenyLee 5 лет назад +1011

    It's INTIMACY we want, not necessarily SEX

    • @monoludico6166
      @monoludico6166 5 лет назад +26

      @Breeny Lee I'd say it's both, intimacy and sex. By the way, you're so hot! Afro women are the most beautiful... I wish I could have intimacy, sex and everything else with a dark-skinned, sexy, and sensitive lady like you.

    • @patriciaoffer9585
      @patriciaoffer9585 5 лет назад +3

      It sounds like you've seen "Creating Extraordinary Intimacy in a Shutdown World":-D

    • @xres1329
      @xres1329 5 лет назад +6

      It is yearning for a very unique feeling: simultenously feeling boundlessness and enthusiastic, voluntary captivity. Nothing else matters...It can be done even by sexually inactive or otherwise blocked couples if they are truly couples. /Example: Lovers permanently maimed in combat, accidents, crimes, etc. and yet-their bond strengthened.Not typical but dramatic and real./

    • @stargazingloner4449
      @stargazingloner4449 5 лет назад +120

      @@monoludico6166 creepy

    • @Daemon1995_
      @Daemon1995_ 5 лет назад +25

      there is intimacy in sex

  • @lkjonez13
    @lkjonez13 5 лет назад +194

    Im going thru this now. I feel very ashamed, embarrassed, lonely & unwanted. Almost desperate for someone to even brush their hand against my shoulder for human adult contact from another person besides my 9 year old.

    • @Kroitk
      @Kroitk 5 лет назад +7

      It happens, and if you are in my city then we can definitely fix that

    • @hogballs32
      @hogballs32 3 года назад +6

      Going through it now it sucks I'm about to walk away. Hope things got better for you.

    • @tinykillx2432
      @tinykillx2432 2 года назад +12

      Going through it now, and I have a 9 year old too. My boyfriend is always trying to make up excuses and reasons not to do it, and it feels like he is repulsed by sex, or like it's low priority for him. i feel constant rejection and like im the only one who wants it. it's not just the sex but also the emotional and physical intimacy and i feel completely alone. even lonelier than when i was single.

    • @Iburn247
      @Iburn247 2 года назад +2

      Same

    • @Oliver-wv4bd
      @Oliver-wv4bd Год назад +1

      @@tinykillx2432 How are things going 2 months on?

  • @chevalierjd
    @chevalierjd 5 лет назад +108

    Going through this for 4 years now. So true that watching this one hurts. My wife thinks it's about the sex. It's not. It's about if she reached back for me or reacted to my presence, I'd know that we are going to be alright. I'm not a freak because I want my wife to touch me.

    • @samantha8178
      @samantha8178 5 лет назад +2

      chevalierjld There is a reason deeper than sex. You have to find it and resolve it. But no, you're not a freak.

    • @AaronCMounts
      @AaronCMounts 2 года назад +7

      If she isn't sleeping with you, then just leave her. You've suffered for long enough. Divorce her now and move on.

    • @shinequashie393
      @shinequashie393 Год назад +6

      Did it get resolved?

    • @adenise__122
      @adenise__122 Год назад

      not everyone wants sex, most people use sex as an escape- the fact none of you men think that as a woman ANY sexual encounter can lead to pregnancy no matter the protection and that we just dont want to be open to it all the time shows how disgusting you are

  • @CP-fz4sr
    @CP-fz4sr 5 лет назад +503

    In my experience.
    Little sex is due to no communications.
    No respect for one or the other.
    No care for one or the other.
    Selfishness.
    I just went thru this for last 3 years. Got tired of it and said get out.
    If there is no sex intimacy or respect then leave the relationship and find someone else.
    Life is too short to wait around for years.
    No thanks.

    • @DCLsMusic
      @DCLsMusic 5 лет назад +51

      Its not that easy to "get out" if you truly care/love the other person... even if it tortures you.

    • @robertleamon1419
      @robertleamon1419 5 лет назад +13

      CP I agree 100% I did the same thing. I was in one like that and was done with it I’m not putting up with that. It’s clear they don’t care about your needs either

    • @retiredsnowbunnyhunterx5106
      @retiredsnowbunnyhunterx5106 5 лет назад +4

      I feel you on that. I left my wife for that too.

    • @realliferevue
      @realliferevue 4 года назад

      Aaaaaamen

    • @Jon_Snow_88
      @Jon_Snow_88 4 года назад +1

      ColdCats Agreed!

  • @originalretroburp3569
    @originalretroburp3569 5 лет назад +54

    its got to the point where i feel i am asking permission to do something horrific. wow something as simple as sex can make you feel so worthless

  • @feedusafetus2903
    @feedusafetus2903 4 года назад +107

    My ex husband would refuse me constantly. We had thousands of conversations about it, made plans and compromises, but he would never hold up his end of the bargain. It hurts to love someone you live with, want a life and children with, and get rejected in the bedroom. It is definitely worse than being alone.

    • @taliahbutler6387
      @taliahbutler6387 4 года назад +3

      Then leave you got this❤️😌💪

    • @m2pozad
      @m2pozad 3 года назад +5

      @@taliahbutler6387 Jesus, that is not the answer to everything! "Get some counseling", is infinitely more beneficial.

    • @rp6582
      @rp6582 2 года назад +1

      @@m2pozad and yet, leaving IS often the answer. I left after going through three different couples therapies.

    • @m2pozad
      @m2pozad 2 года назад

      @@rp6582 That's the proper approach.
      Ignorantly going from marriage to marriage should not even be legal when kids are involved.

    • @kadijataylo5333
      @kadijataylo5333 Год назад

      Why do I feel like I’m currently going through this

  • @liv2srf
    @liv2srf 5 лет назад +197

    "If we could simply name our desperation without becoming desperate."
    My boyfriend and I have named it already!
    We call it *NO LAID SHADE.*
    Anytime we fight over something stupid (or nothing), one of us will say HEY, NO LAID SHADE. And fix the problem! Works _almost_ everytime :D

    • @themaggattack
      @themaggattack 5 лет назад +5

      That's adorable! Wish something that simple would work for me!

    • @dudette2c
      @dudette2c 5 лет назад +3

      I'm guessing the term means that either one of you want's sex?

    • @Oliver-wv4bd
      @Oliver-wv4bd Год назад

      @@themaggattack Why can't it?

    • @Y0sHiikus
      @Y0sHiikus Год назад

      I love this!

  • @darkfenrir13
    @darkfenrir13 5 лет назад +34

    for someone like me who is overtaken by my emotions to the point of just not being able to express myself verbally -- what i truly feel, your videos always help me understand myself more ..and helps me with my relationships ..and it is also extremely fun watching your vids ... interestingly educational ...

  • @Honest-joe
    @Honest-joe 5 лет назад +18

    Communication is key. It might be embarrassing to talk about at first but talking about sex is absolutely important. It could be stress, health, not feeling appreciated enough, anything.

  • @AyanaSioux
    @AyanaSioux 5 лет назад +123

    This is interesting because my boyfriend and I argue more when we haven't had sex in a while. He even jokes and says when I get annoyed easily, he knows he needs to put it down, hahaha.

  • @flafaloon
    @flafaloon 5 лет назад +183

    Turn the sadness in reverse and sent what u want outward, if you are no longer wanted, give love to those who want, if you no longer noticed, give attention to those around you. Be a “ producer” of that which you want and watch the universe send it back to you.

  • @cldcollector
    @cldcollector 5 лет назад +278

    Please consider making a video about how to be a good partner to someone with a chronic illness, i.e., someone who isn't physically or even psychologically able have sex as often as the other partner would prefer.

    • @xres1329
      @xres1329 5 лет назад +16

      Very valid, smart comment. The real problem is not found among healthy people needing and creating all kind of artificial "difficulties"!

    • @nicolemwilcox
      @nicolemwilcox 5 лет назад +5

      Yes, please.

    • @xres1329
      @xres1329 5 лет назад +4

      Good suggestion...If interpreted properly and acted throughout carefully-This may be the best cure too. (Past examples aplenty from war-veterans and their partnerships)

    • @vickivelvet4959
      @vickivelvet4959 5 лет назад +5

      Yes, there could be an entire side-school of life dedicated to the matter.

    • @xres1329
      @xres1329 5 лет назад +8

      No. The French never found a solution to ANY real problem. They evaded it, negated it, avoided it, denied it. Your suggestion could came from satan himself /If I were not atheist-that is/. It is frivolous but it is rubberstamping lies. Accepting wrong, rejecting good and right. I rarely take pleasure from witnessing suffering but I take exception when I see liars trying to untangle themselves from their own spiderwebs.@Ligeia D.Aurevilly

  • @kirky9347
    @kirky9347 5 лет назад +318

    Make love not war

    • @BonaFide惊人的
      @BonaFide惊人的 5 лет назад +4

      I dont know who are you and where are you in the world. Here a ⚘ from me

    • @fellowcitizen
      @fellowcitizen 5 лет назад +1

      Vote Tulsi Gabbard or Rand Paul. Clintonites and establishmentarians of Rep. and Dem. are war profiteers and mercenaries.

    • @hashemsy3951
      @hashemsy3951 5 лет назад

      "I prefer to do both"
      Boris from men in black 3

    • @MrUndersolo
      @MrUndersolo 5 лет назад

      Make warts and love them?

  • @abumekal
    @abumekal 5 лет назад +295

    I love this channel, it has changed my mind and my life in a better way, i really cant thank you guys enough i wish i can afford to buy all your product, also thank you for not using backgeound music.

    • @fellowcitizen
      @fellowcitizen 5 лет назад +9

      "...also thank you for not using background music." Compliments and apologies should always be specific

    • @Xyz19781i
      @Xyz19781i 5 лет назад +1

      Same here ....it is best thing in the internet....supreme intellect and intelligence

    • @abumekal
      @abumekal 5 лет назад

      @@fellowcitizen yes guess you right, i will keep that in mind, thank you 👍.

    • @mrskhan597
      @mrskhan597 5 лет назад

      Same here. Check out their App. It's amazing too :)

    • @pushthetempo2
      @pushthetempo2 5 лет назад

      That's cos Alains voice is all you need

  • @callmeafter10
    @callmeafter10 3 года назад +15

    So feeling this right now. Intimacy not just sex, while laying next to someone you care about but feeling so lonely.

  • @KnightSlasher
    @KnightSlasher 5 лет назад +450

    Roses are red
    Violets are blue
    I am alone
    So are you

    • @z3lop59
      @z3lop59 5 лет назад +4

      @Kvothe Windrunner good for you. I am

    • @extinctparadise363
      @extinctparadise363 5 лет назад +4

      Spongebob SquarePants . You goofy goober you.

    • @adrianmitru3895
      @adrianmitru3895 5 лет назад +6

      Im single for 14y but i don't feel alone

    • @IRosamelia
      @IRosamelia 5 лет назад

      But aren't you in a gay trio with Patrick and Squidward? 🦑

    • @mariogonzalez5107
      @mariogonzalez5107 5 лет назад +1

      Not alone, just not having as much sex..

  • @Nikosthrilos
    @Nikosthrilos 5 лет назад +209

    Sigmund Freud intensifies

    • @spinnetti
      @spinnetti 5 лет назад +1

      I thought it was "Euro beat" intensifies? :)

  • @HumansOfVR
    @HumansOfVR 5 лет назад +32

    This life is for loving, sharing, learning, smiling, caring, forgiving, laughing, hugging, helping, dancing, wondering, healing, and even more loving. I choose to live life this way

  • @bellajenkins5669
    @bellajenkins5669 5 лет назад +70

    If people could just be honest about how they feel then this sort of thing wouldn’t happen as much

    • @hellstromcarbunkle8857
      @hellstromcarbunkle8857 3 года назад +1

      Wrong. In complete honesty, we cannot, ever, tell a partner we do not desire them any longer, nor explain why not.

    • @hogballs32
      @hogballs32 3 года назад

      @@hellstromcarbunkle8857 Why not

    • @hellstromcarbunkle8857
      @hellstromcarbunkle8857 3 года назад

      @@hogballs32 Do you care so little for the person who shared your life that you would undercut their very sense of worth?
      No one I know would do that.

    • @hogballs32
      @hogballs32 3 года назад +1

      @@hellstromcarbunkle8857 LOL are you for real if you don't want to be with them tell them not use them.

    • @hinglemccringleberry7265
      @hinglemccringleberry7265 3 года назад

      Well. People need to be honest to themselves first before they can be honest with others.

  • @Belle_Diosa
    @Belle_Diosa 5 лет назад +10

    I really enjoy his voice, even when he's saying sad things. His voice softens the blow.

  • @Catryx39
    @Catryx39 5 лет назад +148

    Yep.... my last relationship started out strong sexually but I noticed it started being less and less about 8 months in and by 12 months I stopped initiating and we never did it again. Still stayed together and I would try to talk to him about it and all I ever got was /shrug “I don’t knows and it’s just me”. We stayed together officially for 4 years total but finally decided that we just see each other as friends after so long of not having sex. I never got an answer why and probably never will. We’re still friends and roommates which is fine. And now I’m dating someone else! So yeah, no sex definitely kills it.

    • @meekainc
      @meekainc 5 лет назад +11

      He probably has an avoidant attachment style.

    • @BadMannerKorea
      @BadMannerKorea 4 года назад +7

      It’s about compatibility. Some couples have sex every day, some every week; some every month. Some people don’t give a shit at all and are asexual. What matters is whether both individuals are happy, and there doesn’t have to be something wrong with someone. That’s just how they are.

    • @fitbeaut
      @fitbeaut 4 года назад +8

      Did you gain any weight in the relationship? Sometimes that changes things.

    • @sfkeepay
      @sfkeepay 4 года назад +2

      Mea ,
      Do you really think that hadn't occurred to him? I’ll assume for the moment you're trying to be helpful, which is a good thing. But maybe try a little more subtlety. Besides, there are a thousand reasons why things can change. But if his former parter doesn’t want to tell him, we should probably trust that.
      On the other hand, way to be bold and direct. Just maybe not the right context for boldness. Just my opinion.

    • @fitbeaut
      @fitbeaut 4 года назад +14

      @@sfkeepay let’s not treat weight gain as such a taboo topic. It needs to be discussed. Especially if it can destroy a relationship. People often times get too comfortable in 1 area or another while the partner is excepted to just deal with it.

  • @ProTroll69
    @ProTroll69 4 месяца назад +2

    No sex means that I walk. Rejection once in a while is normal but when you know your love interest is ACTIVELY sexual with others and tells you no for an entire month, there is no longer any reason to pursue. She obviously doesn’t like me so I give up.

  • @lottiew3160
    @lottiew3160 5 лет назад +107

    I swear this video isn't really saying anything apart from "lots of couples don't have sex".
    If it's suggesting that having a conversation rather than an argument will solve a dead bedroom then I'm not buying it. That's a small step in the right direction, but there is so much more to the process.

    • @anayarey
      @anayarey Год назад

      I think y'all should separate already before going years like this. Making sex an issue is so unnecessary.

  • @Jesterhead971
    @Jesterhead971 3 года назад +3

    Your videos - especially the voice/tone - always feel like a deep hug for a broken heart. Thank you!

  • @chyowens
    @chyowens 3 года назад +51

    The lack of sex is due to the lack of ability to meet basic expectations and meet basic needs(these things vary in every relationship) for me, kindness, consideration, participation in our lives, listening to when I am upset and taking the necessary steps to make things right.
    If those things aren’t happening then frankly I don’t want or need sex.
    Lack of sex isn’t the argument on my end. Lack of basic relationship decency is.

    • @strawberryme08
      @strawberryme08 2 года назад +2

      Right, relationship intimacy preceeds good sex for sure and feeling safe

  • @scubasteve9715
    @scubasteve9715 5 лет назад +140

    Well I've gone six years without it as of now, probably explains why I'm so bitter

  • @mosana19
    @mosana19 5 лет назад +72

    No one would understand this video quite good unless he had been in a sexless relationship
    pardon me for my poor English

  • @mommakat7361
    @mommakat7361 5 лет назад +112

    Ok school of life ... Why were you listening to me and my hubby last night and then decided to post this video today?.....

    • @lynettec9807
      @lynettec9807 5 лет назад +10

      Same here. This is creepy.

    • @ManelRuivo
      @ManelRuivo 4 года назад +5

      maybe because we all have this problem in some degree at some point?

  • @NickPeitsch
    @NickPeitsch 3 года назад +115

    I feel like sending this video to my ex.
    I would always try to initiate sex, but unfortunately, she would always turn me down. Especially after having an argument/disagreement, she said she needed to “build up feelings again” before we could have sex, which would last for several days, if not, longer than a week. I felt so hurt, and yet, I was the one blamed for “always wanting sex”. I would even be denied hugs, kisses, making out, cuddling, etc. This is a true struggle - and I feel for anyone going through this. You deserve better. It’s selfishness and disrespect if your partner is always denying you intimacy.

    • @hogballs32
      @hogballs32 3 года назад +6

      I'm going through it now did you leave because of it ? I'm about to leave it's hard because I love her and she's beautiful. She gets mad because I sleep on the couch. It's better than wanting her and getting pushed away and mad at. She's pushing me away and tells me it's all about me lol. It's never about me but her. I'm shut out so I'm shutting down. I already told her I'm not happy and want to move on but she wants to stay. I'm not going to live in a sexless relationship yes I told her that.

    • @NickPeitsch
      @NickPeitsch 3 года назад +25

      @@hogballs32 you need to tell her “I’m not in this for a friendship, I’m here because I want you romantically. If you aren’t interested in that, then I’m afraid I’m going to have to leave.” You deserve better and you need to tell her your needs.

    • @hogballs32
      @hogballs32 3 года назад +1

      @@NickPeitsch Perfect

    • @jessiecorn17
      @jessiecorn17 3 года назад +4

      Maybe she was afraid if you tried to cuddle her or kiss her it would always lead to sex. My boyfriend and I have a wonderful relationship and I trust him but we don’t have sex too often that’s why I’m on this video. I’m the one turned down. When I was rejected I would cry and freak out for feeling unattractive but once I worked on our communication and learning about what he liked to do in bed it ramped up. I am the one with the high sex drive and he just explained that his medication and stress sometimes puts him out of it. Once I started paying more attention to him, diving deeper into his mind, and trying different things one day it suddenly flipped and he asked if I could try something and since then we’ve been doing better. I don’t judge him because in past relationships I struggled like many women do with ptsd from previous sexual assaults and it was hard to do something with my partner without wanting to cry or puke even if I cared about them.
      My boyfriend is very kind and caring and respectful and doesn’t try to push sex or anything so I felt comfortable with him and became the one with the high sex drive. The one thing that turns a woman off more than anything is a guy not having any emotional intimacy or trying to learn about their partner emotionally

    • @Expose_bankers_and_auctioneers
      @Expose_bankers_and_auctioneers 3 года назад +3

      then one must leave.

  • @shaun_rambaran
    @shaun_rambaran 5 лет назад +276

    Does he say the word 'restaurant' in every video?

    • @smokeylebear1062
      @smokeylebear1062 5 лет назад +37

      Shaun Rambaran yep and always with a french accent
      Restaurawnnn oui oui

    • @oris.corrupt
      @oris.corrupt 5 лет назад +8

      I try to work the words Cellar Door into conversations.

    • @shaun_rambaran
      @shaun_rambaran 5 лет назад

      @@oris.corrupt Is that a big challenge?

    • @Lukas-kh5gu
      @Lukas-kh5gu 5 лет назад +5

      @@smokeylebear1062 well, Restaurant per definition is a french word. Unlike in the US or the English language, most cultures honor that and leave the word as is. The standard word in German (School of Life is german) for "Restaurant" is in fact Restaurant and since that is obviously from the french, we of course pronounce it the only real way - french.

    • @oris.corrupt
      @oris.corrupt 5 лет назад +1

      @@shaun_rambaran It has a low success rate.

  • @thein-famouselguapo15
    @thein-famouselguapo15 Год назад +6

    Short story: me @19 and my coworker in his late 20s.
    We were chatting it up while working and me being single comes up. He advises me to stay single. I ask him, "why? Don't you have a GF? You must be getting some daily". He says yeah I got a GF but you get way more sex when your single compared to when you're in a relationship. I couldn't understand or belive it at the time. Now, im much older and wiser. I completely get what he was saying 😅

  • @ollynolly4592
    @ollynolly4592 5 лет назад +205

    Um.... yeah I'm just going to remain single for my entire life.

    • @richardkranium2944
      @richardkranium2944 5 лет назад +3

      Great plan.

    • @oris.corrupt
      @oris.corrupt 5 лет назад +10

      Like you even had a choice.

    • @fellowcitizen
      @fellowcitizen 5 лет назад +18

      @m Unsure if that's a proposition, a consolation, or a death threat.

    • @johnny_roots
      @johnny_roots 5 лет назад +15

      Same here. Life is difficult enough without relatioships to make it more complicated. I just wish I won't feel too lonely when I'm old. Oh well...

    • @ollynolly4592
      @ollynolly4592 5 лет назад +1

      @@fellowcitizen that is the reason I didn't respond to that comment

  • @jessicadalcindasilva7113
    @jessicadalcindasilva7113 5 лет назад +105

    Thank you for remember Belo Horizonte 😆👏🏻👏🏻

    • @10000jcs
      @10000jcs 5 лет назад +7

      I was shocked to hear the name of my city

    • @pcpmendonca
      @pcpmendonca 5 лет назад +1

      Me too hahahaha

    • @feelings-
      @feelings- 5 лет назад +3

      When he mentioned Belo Horizonte I had to go google it!!! First time hearing about it :/

    • @10000jcs
      @10000jcs 5 лет назад +2

      @@feelings- no problem, It is not in any way a famous city outside of brasil. Thats why we were so shocked i think

    • @TheRedfull
      @TheRedfull 5 лет назад +3

      Eu gritei igual o desenho quando ouvi BH

  • @irisfus7972
    @irisfus7972 5 лет назад +112

    Just a reminder *sex isn't just about penetration*

  • @welder4life690
    @welder4life690 3 года назад +5

    This is a discussion that is a double edged sword,because if you mention something the other isn’t doing,especially sex,when it does happen,like anything else,you feel as though they are now only doing it because you said something and not because they want to,and that is another feeling you don’t want...if the other don’t know what you want ,that is a better discussion...luckily I never get turned down or rejected

  • @RachitDesai
    @RachitDesai 8 месяцев назад

    It’s absolutely mind blowing on how perfectly accurate content you bring out to address real emotional, psychological and relationship issues.
    Feels like you know it all!
    Amazed.

  • @PinkBubblesGoApe
    @PinkBubblesGoApe 5 лет назад +11

    I was so surprised that someone from outside of Brazil mentioned Belo Horizonte in a video

  • @e.my.s
    @e.my.s Месяц назад +1

    it hurts so bad when you feel like you have it all and still it seems not enough for them. It makes you feel like maybe you are just a monster w a weird disease.

  • @rp338
    @rp338 5 лет назад +8

    At 2:32. “FINISH HIM”. Takes on new meaning

  • @nicolelozano836
    @nicolelozano836 3 года назад +2

    i don’t understand why the school of life pops up every time i’m going through something … and this is actually what I’m going through at this moment

  • @vitorbernardes8190
    @vitorbernardes8190 5 лет назад +5

    After so many years following TSoL, finally this very important mention: Belo Horizonte! Cheers

  • @billpetersen298
    @billpetersen298 4 года назад +4

    Some people suffer, physical and emotional trauma, that they never get over. For the spouse, wanting to share intimacy, and more, it ain’t easy. When you know, what you are both missing, and the other has no idea. Marriage, is a very long time.

  • @n.kelati
    @n.kelati 5 лет назад +5

    I sometimes forget that your mission statement is to provide insights to the public that are not commonly spoken about or taught. a lot of us grow up not considering the things we need to acknowledge to possibly lead healthy lives. I think what you're doing is incredible. maybe you guys will inspire a new wave of societal behaviors where people find more opportunities for intimacy and openness.
    & I am as down with that as can be.

  • @_6-6_
    @_6-6_ Год назад +3

    If someone continually refuses to try and make things better, I think the best move is to split up.
    As much as people like to pretend, sex is really really important.
    For both partners.

  • @Locomaid
    @Locomaid 4 года назад +8

    Okay. Let it be said: The scrabble thing was impressive.

  • @RyanYudelmo1
    @RyanYudelmo1 4 года назад +2

    This channel changed my life. I hope to buy some of your products someday. Take care

  • @kairu5607
    @kairu5607 5 лет назад +1

    Been there done that, great when school of life brings it to our awareness.

  • @candyxoxo506
    @candyxoxo506 4 года назад +12

    My boyfriend that I love soo much has a very low sex drive. We spoke about it and he refuse to do anything about it. I find myself thinking about myself in a new relationship with a new partner because I’m so unhappy, moody sexually frustrated and stressed. I feel guilty even thinking like that . I don’t know what to do

    • @contvin
      @contvin 2 года назад

      You are not guilty. Being refused - I know it too well - makes us feel so. Run and look for a new life. Love yourself first. Somebody will come around.

  • @579Glenn
    @579Glenn 5 лет назад +28

    Intimacy and sex are easily, and I suspect often, confused. Sex is, too often, a way to avoid true intimacy. As the sex drive fades, a couple can learn true intimacy. Men generally have a more difficult time with this phase.

  • @princessmimithepug6719
    @princessmimithepug6719 5 лет назад +171

    I've been through this and it's an awful situation and very painful, without sex you are basically just friends.

    • @cg986
      @cg986 5 лет назад +20

      Haha oke, well then I am pretty sure you'll always end up being friends in the end.

    • @ambr0
      @ambr0 5 лет назад +8

      I couldn't agree more.

    • @TdotJohn
      @TdotJohn 5 лет назад +2

      amen

    • @Aedwards1698
      @Aedwards1698 5 лет назад +7

      Morbid Moments he was talking about his personal experience. Doesn’t have to apply to you, don’t why you gotta try and guilt him.

    • @asrieldartagnan9782
      @asrieldartagnan9782 5 лет назад +14

      Morbid Moments Yes, you cannot have a meaningful relationship with an individual that has had meaningful/enjoyable experiences of sex prior to encountering you.
      Main reason for this is that those individuals will never want to give up a lifetime of that positive experience, of what is quite literally the best human sensation possible(and rightly so, since if it wasn't, we might not be so compelled to promulgate the human race).
      The reason they will 'never' want to give it up up because they are not receiving anything unique in exchange. What you, and you alone without the bond created via sexual interaction (a very real chemical bond) offer, is in no way irreplaceable, and at the point at which your asexuality is causing them suffering rest assured the other benefits you provide are indeed gradually nullified. The body yearns for sexual release and to be denied that with the person you love? Why would someone even put themselves through that kind of torture in their one life?
      Your misunderstanding stems from your inability to understand how strong sexual desire, in all its forms, are and how closely tied to the successful actualisation of the emotions you listed above.
      Your only solution is to find an asexual partner.

  • @Martoto94
    @Martoto94 4 года назад +5

    My dilemma now is whether sending this to my gf will increase my chances of sex or reduce them zero.

  • @mdsoulsounds
    @mdsoulsounds 5 лет назад +29

    Wow, nailed it all. The rejected suffers more. The rejector tries to not feel guilty, but is trapped with vague explanations, unable or too proud to seek help. Denies anything is wrong and becomes scared of intimacy, sharing feelings. The rejected either continues to suffer, or seeks satisfaction from other external sources: erotica, "cheating". As the world turns!

  • @adrianmitru3895
    @adrianmitru3895 5 лет назад +43

    Sex and relationships are way overrated...the goal of life is to better yourself not to find you 'half'

    • @xres1329
      @xres1329 5 лет назад +6

      If you wanna live like Diogenes or Robinson Crusoé-You are right. But life at its fullest is for those who are a bit braver than monks.

    • @MsMarie0072
      @MsMarie0072 4 года назад +1

      Maybe that’s your goals..

  • @ashleyhurley6313
    @ashleyhurley6313 4 года назад +9

    My husband and I have a unique relationship due to my years of healing after an extremely negative sexual encounter. Our relationship is built on love and friendship. There is a tenderness there and an understanding that wouldn’t have cultivated if we built a relationship on animal instinct that is bound to die down. instead we are only growing better together and as I heal we are becoming closer in that department as well. We are able to show a wanting for one another without having that weight of sex hanging over those intimate moments

    • @vazanere
      @vazanere 4 года назад +6

      Instead of dragging people down with you, try going to therapy before a relationship. Taking "years" to heal from a "negative" encounter? Clearly an excuse.

  • @benjaminlehman3221
    @benjaminlehman3221 Месяц назад

    3:39 “it is the ultimate proof that despite all challenges it is still okay” that hit hard

  • @ethanhelliwell
    @ethanhelliwell 5 лет назад +27

    So people are fighting because they are not having sex or people are not having sex because they are fighting? hmmm, let's solve all the worlds problems but just having sex?

    • @ethanhelliwell
      @ethanhelliwell 5 лет назад +3

      to build on my questions, higher stress levels (causing lack of sleep, dietary problems etc.) result in a lower libido and therefore shouldn't we attribute the lack of sex as a product of other conflicts which cause stress. Reduced or no sex can cause stress but having sex doesn't relieve the stress caused by financial crises, medical problems unless you are saying that having sex does!?. Otherwise, the argument I see you making is that having sex reduces the sadness/anger of having no sex, and we should just fuck already?

    • @stephanieweeks3489
      @stephanieweeks3489 5 лет назад +10

      I didn't get that message at all, more that if someone feels sexually rejected continuously, it can create vicious cycles for both partners. Sex is important for those of us in sexual relationships, but it's by no means a cure-all or a fixer of other emotional problems.

    • @stephanieweeks3489
      @stephanieweeks3489 5 лет назад +3

      @@ethanhelliwell also yes very true libido is affected be tons of factors, i think communicating that healthily is very hard but very beneficial to both partners.

    • @a7i20ci7y
      @a7i20ci7y 5 лет назад +1

      Feedback loops are a vicious bitch.

    • @spinnetti
      @spinnetti 5 лет назад +1

      @@stephanieweeks3489 Well said. I can be the class case study lol.

  • @rickallmightyjones6189
    @rickallmightyjones6189 5 лет назад +2

    It matters simply because it proves we matter.
    For that brief moment you feel centered with your love again

  • @Wubsparce
    @Wubsparce 2 года назад +3

    My ex, whom I dated for a year and a half, cheated on me at the end of our relationship. I noticed a pattern of them growing distant, spending more time at work, and not initiating sex anymore. They always yelled, screamed, and cursed. I'm autistic, and I was so ashamed because I was embarrassed and didn't know how to engage. I understand they felt rejected when they would come onto me, but it was always in situations that made me uncomfortable, such as in the living room or when other people were home. I always communicated to them that I was never rejecting them, but they weren't emotionally mature enough to communicate their needs with me, and eventually our relationship fell apart. I'm so incredibly hurt because no one has ever shown me the care they did. I still feel so much regret and shame for my own lack of experience and shyness. I don't know if I'll ever be loved again.

  • @katieelow8892
    @katieelow8892 5 месяцев назад +1

    I cheated on my loving boyfriend of 6 years and i loved it. I cheated for many months without him detecting it at first but then he found out. I only feel bad because i was caught. i cheated for months with someone not as good as him. I became very distant and cold. His name is Dayne and he loved and adored me through thick and thin. Does this make me a bad person ?

  • @spinnetti
    @spinnetti 5 лет назад +7

    This is totally the case, and very common in middle age... Knowing it is still hard to do anything about it and your partner not even willing to talk about it, yet much of it is just biology not intent. There's no selective pressure to mate once fertility has passed. Doesn't matter if you understand all this and its nobody's fault. The human animal feels rejected, so rejects in turn. Intimacy falters. You grow distant without all the little reinforcing things that strengthen your bond. Talking about it results in defensiveness and aggression, causing a greater rift. You watch it happening like a 3rd party and know the root cause but helpless to do anything about it. It is after all why prostitution exists (the asymmetry of desire). Too bad we can't socially decouple romantic union from the marital one. To get your needs met means a betrayal and probably divorce, or you have to stay miserable. Lousy choices all around. Talking about it isn't enough. You just can't have a strong union without mutual reinforcement and acceptance, and sex is a big part of this. Unless all the other vectors in your joint life are super strong, most relationships just can't happily survive the loss of feeling wanted.

    • @bgan4826
      @bgan4826 5 лет назад +1

      No need to be sanctimonious. Either get a partner outside to satisfy your biological need or get a divorce.

    • @anayarey
      @anayarey Год назад

      It's not about age, it's about you and what you tolerate

    • @judd0112
      @judd0112 Год назад

      That is the worst part is why doesn’t she want me all of a sudden. Been married for 20 years and seemed like overnight she didn’t want to be touched. And I don’t think that there was ever any rejection in that department ever so it really hit me And didn’t know what/how to handle it. Keep quiet and nothing happens speak how you feel and I’m a ass who only wants sex. Then your imagination starts to wander. Is there someone else? She’s not attracted to me anymore? She’s rather be with her RABBIT than me? She denied all those. Said it was her. (Of , course). This went on for a few years. And came to a head a few months ago. After all the denials of there’s no one else. And she wasn’t masturbating? Supposedly. Years of denials. Well I found the Rabbit. And had a melt down. Of course it’s no big deal. Lieing for years about it , torturing me emotionally/mentally. Rejecting constantly meanwhile at the 1st bit of alone time IT’s rabbit time. She doesn’t realize how deep she cut with it. And I’m having trouble thinking I can recover. Frustrating situation

  • @beantownzfinest1247
    @beantownzfinest1247 3 года назад +5

    Ok. So what if, hypothetically speaking, one has been neglected & made to feel unwanted by their partner FOR YEARS. And now said partner is finally attempting to be affectionate & give the physical contact one has been missing. But now the neglected party is behaving as the characters in this video. They are angry & bitter & hurt. They find very hard to now reciprocate & find that they are now the one pulling away from their partner’s advances. How does one get over that hurt that they endured for years? When communicating about this issue being arguments & conflicts? Asking for a friend…

  • @casmeraki
    @casmeraki 5 лет назад +11

    Makes so much sense. I dont get angry at my partner or annoyed at the silly little thinks he does after we have had sex that day. If its been a long time im.always annoyed at him. Goes into an awful spiral because even on the small occasion that he wants me...i would feel too angry or annoyed at him to be in the moment

    • @Cclearly9
      @Cclearly9 5 лет назад +3

      Peaceful Painting Wow this explains why I’ve been so critical of my husband. Im at the point where I’n nonverbally questioning his intelligence.

    • @casmeraki
      @casmeraki 5 лет назад +5

      @@Cclearly9 yeah if you "force" yourself to do the deed it actually makes you feel....less irritable. I hadn't done it for a good 2 and a half months only recently. And I thought "let's just do it, no foreplay or anything let's just try and make this happen" it happened and I really enjoyed it and now I'm not irritable at him or annoyed at little things. Honestly, try organise a day/night to do the dirty and even though you don't feel it on that day when your doing it it's like "oh, it's....fun" 😂😂😂 does that make sense?

  • @accountabilityisadmirable
    @accountabilityisadmirable 3 года назад +1

    I never want to have this argument

  • @patriciaoffer9585
    @patriciaoffer9585 5 лет назад +4

    This deserves more than 4.8K likes!

  • @Xyz19781i
    @Xyz19781i 5 лет назад +5

    What I love about this channel ..besides being intellectual of the highest order ..... But also importantly it covers all topics in a very matured way...only by listening to say this clips such as this ...one realise how much growing up still at front us even if you are middle aged ...

  • @marcusd25
    @marcusd25 5 лет назад +10

    This channel keep it 100% very informative

  • @jennyliu4237
    @jennyliu4237 5 лет назад +1

    I love the illustrations/graphics on this!!

  • @dragoncult666
    @dragoncult666 5 лет назад +11

    Just in time for Valentine's day.

  • @AmandaIbraimovic
    @AmandaIbraimovic 5 лет назад +1

    ".. and another is screaming in an appartment in a upper floor in the suburbs of Belo Horizonte." That's me every day HHAHAHAHA

  • @nylakiriyuin1946
    @nylakiriyuin1946 5 лет назад +3

    The drawing of the blue moon was really cute

  • @patriciab8854
    @patriciab8854 5 лет назад +5

    Love the videos that School of Life produce. Not so much the comments. Very disappointing.

    • @xres1329
      @xres1329 5 лет назад

      Incl. your comment dear. Risk a bit more to share with us please-I think you can! Show example!

  • @RodrigoDR
    @RodrigoDR 5 лет назад +3

    Belo Horizonte citizen here !

  • @monoludico6166
    @monoludico6166 5 лет назад +2

    Wow! Simply Wow! Thanks very much for this video, it's the most useful video I've ever seen in my life! (Not exaggerating, truly it is.)

  • @icaropereira3218
    @icaropereira3218 3 года назад +12

    The problem is when you don't feel like having sex with someone who keeps going over budget, never listens, doesn't seem to care. You start thinking the sex is just their easy way out.

  • @feedusafetus2903
    @feedusafetus2903 4 года назад +2

    I used to get annoyed at hearing my neighbors fighting or fucking. Now I just get annoyed at the fighting.

  • @mims2610
    @mims2610 5 лет назад +38

    Sometimes my partner just does not feel well to have sex. But, I always ask him and say that there’s no problem if we can’t tonight! He really appreciate when I’m comprehensive

    • @merdantekayev812
      @merdantekayev812 5 лет назад

      What gender are you? (Not meant to be offensive)

    • @mims2610
      @mims2610 5 лет назад +1

      Merdan Tekayev male

    • @merdantekayev812
      @merdantekayev812 5 лет назад +2

      @@mims2610 👍👍✌

    • @Tzara86
      @Tzara86 5 лет назад +6

      I left someone because our sex drives didn't match, there was a lack of passion, and even when I was so horny and he knew it, I would find him masturbating. Lol

    • @lights473
      @lights473 5 лет назад

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  • @PragmaticOptimist
    @PragmaticOptimist 5 лет назад +1

    I think this is my fav animated video of yours ^_^ love the animation!

  • @melissaCgreenwood
    @melissaCgreenwood 5 лет назад +87

    I tried to work it out with my ex because we really loved each other and he insisted sex wasn't that important and for almost 5 years, it wasn't. We were having some sex but eventually, he felt neglected and I felt broken for never wanting it, not just with him but anyone. I had told him my little interest in sex from the beginning (he should have run screaming that day, I dumped all my baggage on him, lol, but he's crazier than I am). I realized that if I didn't want sex from the love of my life then it really wasn't part of who I am. Turns out I'm asexual.
    10 years down the line, he has a new girlfriend now 😊 and for me sex/romance became out of sight, out of mind. I've never looked back👌🤗

    • @cornerbytheocean3541
      @cornerbytheocean3541 5 лет назад +16

      Everyone deserves love. I hope you find an asexual partner yourself ❤

    • @morbidmoments9345
      @morbidmoments9345 5 лет назад +9

      If you were a man, I'd be with you. I'm an asexual woman. My boyfriend who probably won't be for much longer says I'm broken, even though I told him about this. :(

    • @asrieldartagnan9782
      @asrieldartagnan9782 5 лет назад +17

      Morbid Moments How can men who on average masturbate twice a day, who's primary biological urge is to reproduce, who get horny nearly everyday, ever be maximally content and happy and satisfied with an individual that cannot meet these needs when there are girls that will do all you can aswell as fantasise about catering to those needs?
      It will never be fair on him to accept a shitter life and if you loved someone you wouldn't want to do that to them.
      You must find an asexual partner.

    • @byronichaos
      @byronichaos 5 лет назад +14

      I'm glad there's another ace in the comments. The other comments here (and the video, a little bit!) make me feel like garbage. I've had very similar experiences, and it's always a struggle. I crave intimacy a lot, just not physical intimacy. It does nothing for me. I'm with someone now who has a very low drive, which is a relief, but when it does kick in, it's really tough to live with.

    • @morbidmoments9345
      @morbidmoments9345 5 лет назад +4

      @@asrieldartagnan9782 I responded to you already. I am sorry that I seem wrong. Thank you for educating me. I wish you happiness in your life and further relationships.
      Please stop educating me. I have learned my lesson.

  • @everlastiez
    @everlastiez 5 лет назад +1

    made me feel better, well done. an associate of mine lured my way into subscription to this, now I can tell he's done a good thing! thanks~

  • @dana4957
    @dana4957 5 лет назад +172

    i feel like these videos never get to the point. it's just filled with random words and metaphors. i subscribed because i wanted to learn, but i have such a hard time understanding where you are coming from. please get to the point instead of making a million references.

    • @crowstakingoff
      @crowstakingoff 5 лет назад +16

      Try watching it a second time, or a third until it makes more sense

    • @FrankCasali
      @FrankCasali 5 лет назад +44

      Sounds more like you want easy answers and how to‘s to get your needs fulfilled. Life is complex, and at a highly complex situation like a relationship there is definitely no easy way to get what you want.

    • @pcpmendonca
      @pcpmendonca 5 лет назад +10

      Agree with the comment above, there's no easy way out friend. You have to talk to your partner about it. Have you tried that? Did it go well?

    • @jlina
      @jlina 5 лет назад +2

      Pretty much they all say the same thing.

    • @logicalava150
      @logicalava150 5 лет назад

      Right

  • @margarethakloots5287
    @margarethakloots5287 2 года назад +1

    It is very true , sad, and universal! And, people do not talk about it.

  • @CesarLuisAfonsoDias
    @CesarLuisAfonsoDias 5 лет назад +28

    As long as sex is a source of power, things will remain like this.

    • @georgea.4125
      @georgea.4125 5 лет назад +4

      Why is everything about sex in this world?

    • @xres1329
      @xres1329 5 лет назад

      Or worse.

    • @MadMax-cl8ib
      @MadMax-cl8ib 4 года назад

      Finally a good comment..

    • @dyfrigshandy
      @dyfrigshandy 4 года назад

      @@georgea.4125 says who?

  • @GhostXVll
    @GhostXVll 5 лет назад +2

    Why does this channel always know what's going on in my life?

    • @akaSheilaalien
      @akaSheilaalien 5 лет назад +1

      Synchronicity. Global Consciousness. Collective Consciousness. Collective unconscious. The universe. Quasars.

  • @cameronlavelle4855
    @cameronlavelle4855 5 лет назад +5

    I’m a simple man. I see Donkey Kong in the thumbnail, I click.

  • @stephanieweeks3489
    @stephanieweeks3489 5 лет назад +1

    Amazing video, wonderful perspective, will be sharing to my female friends who have experienced this! Thanks so much

  • @mausershooter100
    @mausershooter100 5 лет назад +37

    Sorry, many people who get it all the time still have tons of troubles. Dysfunctional thinking is the root of all relationship evil ... if nobody's getting any it's just a symptom.

    • @ligiamasetto8326
      @ligiamasetto8326 5 лет назад +9

      Totally agree with you. I've never seen sex solving any problem in a relationship.

    • @paintballthieupwns
      @paintballthieupwns 5 лет назад +7

      It's more along the lines that the lack can be a problem as well.

    • @xres1329
      @xres1329 5 лет назад +3

      I am over 70 years old and I have been watching for 50 years how the official hiearchie (governments, unfree media, medical and drug industries, etc.) do everything to control us in our most intim and/or private actions fitting their demonic, irresponsible and incompetent idee fixes. They love us being dysfunctional, enslaved, un-reproductive, ...i.e. ALIVE!

    • @dyfrigshandy
      @dyfrigshandy 4 года назад

      @@xres1329 ahhh another delusional boomer

  • @lcoopcooperl
    @lcoopcooperl 5 лет назад +3

    *Arguments when there's too little sex:* Who'll get the family jewellery?

  • @s80key
    @s80key 5 лет назад +16

    We all wanna be loved

  • @0oohnegative
    @0oohnegative 5 лет назад +2

    Which is the cart, and which the horse? Fighting and bickering, incidents of broken trust...all of these things can stack up and make sex seem very unappealing. I don't think you just become friends or roommates. You barely tolerate each other and that is not a friend. Not in my book. I also wouldn't want a roommate who directed such hostility towards me. Especially when it comes down to not getting your way.

  • @mariaignacialeonor
    @mariaignacialeonor 5 лет назад +6

    I loved the video but the animation not so much. Thanks for this.

  • @hnrbdrh
    @hnrbdrh Год назад

    I didn't expect to hear Belo Horizonte in an accent! That was fun! Haha

  • @aliray1165
    @aliray1165 2 года назад +5

    My woman hasn’t had sex with me in three years. I’m dying inside.

    • @MrMiniPancakes
      @MrMiniPancakes Год назад +3

      YOU NEED TO LEAVE

    • @mithrasabyss2765
      @mithrasabyss2765 5 месяцев назад

      You’re weak. If you need sex you’re easy to manipulate. Women use sex as a weapon, they have no empathy whatsoever.

  • @paulpilkington1797
    @paulpilkington1797 2 года назад +1

    So true
    I could weep most days

  • @alecesne
    @alecesne 3 года назад +3

    I’d like to show this video to my wife, but am certain it would cause a fight. Oh the irony.

  • @whistler8
    @whistler8 5 лет назад +2

    Love the Belo Horizonte apartment reference ❤️