My daughter has misophonia and she wears noise blocking AirPods. She does not have any mental illness but has a lifelong physical illness and will always have to live at home. We’ve made accommodations and we have a basement apartment she can eventually move into if she’s ever able to take care of herself. Noise is everywhere. Good luck.
Hey Stephen. A word of advise: Living independently comes with a set of different challenges. I would recommend you to a) Stay in the vicinity of your parents b)Try to stay in a safe neighbour. Also consider that altough your parents may look annoying or overbearing now, they will certainly be 1000% more accomodating than any other neighbour.
Stephen, you sound so empowered! Cheering you on all the way! Of course you will one day have your own place. There is no template for hitting "adult" milestones...there is only growth and learning across a lifetime. But also, sovereignty over our lives does not mean "ability to do it all alone." Btw, my son is home and on week 6 of clozapine. Your channel, your story, your willingness to open up about tough topics and the commitment/energy you give have been small lights on our path to finding clozapine, esp. on helping me find my role in how to best help my son. Eternally grateful the Surviving Schizoprenia channel. We had to relocate from Sacramento to Arizona to find a provider so I am sending you greetings from Scottsdale!
Hi Stephen. You seem very intelligent. Have you ever thought about being a psychiatrist. Congratulations on being independent. I found out my diagnosis today. For many years I mistakenly thought that I was suffering from schizoaffective disorder. My nurse practitioner told me that I have depressive bipolar disorder. Smiling depression. It’s hard to tell. I’m not ashamed of my disability. Both of us deserve respect. I will tell you that I believe that I needed to be hospitalized when I was eight. You are a good role model. My friend has schizophrenia. She loves to travel. She has been to Australia and Japan. Yes Stephen. You can be successful. And again, congratulations to you.
Fear is a huge obstacle for anyone to overcome. Fear of being alone, making the wrong choice, fear of being able to pay bills. Everyone is always scared and overwhelmed to make big changes in life. It might seem more challenging because of your schizophrenia but everyone gets bogged down by "what ifs" or self doubt. It is normal. Stephen, you have come so far and it is amazing to see how confident you have become. I think the fact that you brought your struggle into the light, stared it down and tackled it head on, has made all the difference. All the schooling in the world couldn't give a person the insight or coping skill advice, that you can Experiencing this condition and educating others about it is helping so many families. You really are a blessing to so many people and I am so happy for you. I suffer from misophonia myself. It can be overwhelming. Vitamin A helps me regulate it a little better and talking walks in nature. Another great video!
Congratulations, Stephen, I think that’s great! I just have a word of caution though: don’t try to go to quickly. Having supportive parents who not only care about you but also want to make sure that you were doing well is so very important. Many blessings. 🎉🎉🎉
I have known a couple of schizophrenics who lived on their own. I highly recommend staying close to family. The support will be very important especially as you are making a transition. Also relatives are not the same as parents in terms of how much time, support, patience and understanding they can give, keep that in mind.
As someone with ptsd and anxiety issues, I can't be in a house thats super noisy. Especially when I'm trying to sleep. So I feel for you. I may not have misophonia and schizophrenia but environments like that are horrible if you're not of a very specific mindset and such. I'm rooting for you, and I hope this goes amazing for both you and your parents. Start a patreon also if you can, you'll get even more financial support from some of your fans and can even give them early access to videos. Also this opens up a whole new slew of topics you can cover in videos as you grow into your new life
Stephan , You certainly come a long way since I started watching these videos. Moving out on your own is a great step forward. I hope everything works out! :)
Hey Stephen, I'm so happy for you! Was a little worried for the past two weeks when you hadn't posted, and I'm glad you're ok. I think you've made a great decision, and it will really give you the motivation to continue with the channel. Congratulations!!!
You amaze me with your confidence and have great supporting parents. My son is on the waiting list for an apartment where he can live alone but with support,making sure he takes his meds. It is quiet but sometimes sirens go by. Magnesium helps with noise sensitivity. My son doesn’t drive. He is so dependent so I hope he can handle being in apt.I don’t want him to be lonely. Change is very hard on him.His brother gave him headphones. People have taken advantage of him. I need to pray for him ,for you ,everyone!
"Making sure he takes his meds". Antipsychotic medication does much more harm than good. It is necessary during psychotic episodes only and a strong sedative is more effective.
I'm excited for you Stephen! Ideally an ADU would be amazing, but whatever you start with- just remember that NOTHING is permanent. If something doesn't go well you can always re-evaluate. The MOST important thing is to always make sure you have lines of communication open to your loved ones in case you need them. I hope you stay in CA but will support wherever you go!
Hey Stephen, nice to see you again and wow, what a big news. I honestly don't have any advice to give you since I don't work, I live with my parents in a 2 rooms lower part of my parent's house, and my brother lives in the upper part with his wife and child. I'm in one room and my parents are in the other and thankfully for me I don't mind the noise ever since I got on Zyprexa, that medicine makes me completely unaffected by sounds or lights. I'm really sorry you still have such a strong misophonia, and I hope something is developed to alleviate that soon. I think you're making a really wise decision not to rush this and I totally agree with your psychiatrist to do renting first as a trial and see how it goes. I really wish you have a smooth transition and best of luck in whatever you decide to do. Best regards Stephen :)
Stephen, I am so happy for you! It's so exciting to see how well you are doing. I've been away from RUclips for awhile - I remember being one of about 100 subscribers...look at you now! You're doing so much good with your channel. Thank you, and all the best 😊
This comment is misplaced. Never once did he come across as ungratefull or not knowing how much his parents do for him. It is quite normal to wanting to live on your own at that age. I hope he will eventually do it, but maybe closer to his parents for when its necessary
@@KonaneStyle STOP IT....all he said was that Steven doesn't know what it's like to live with Schizophrenia without a supportive family....like many of us know.... (at least I think that's what he meant) .... and I don't think he meant it in a disrespectful way.
Congratulations Stevan. I know you’re going to do great! You’ve come so far. Thanks for sharing your success. I remember how much fun I had getting my first place
it's amazing watching your journey, Stephen!! You know we'll always be watching & cheering for you, no matter what! Living on your own comes with challenges for sure (for everyone), there will be some ups and downs as there is with anything in life, but nothing beats having your independence!!
Have you thought about a half way option? Where you live with your parents, but you get an annexe created so you have your own space and can be independent. Living by yourself might be difficult financially.
I only watched parts of two videos. You are a great person and I am happy for you to branch out. Heads up, if u decide to buy in Texas property taxes are sky high. Also if you buy a condo there are maintance fees. That is in addition to your property taxes. Also you may wind up with a yappy barking dog on either side of you or a acoss the hall. Also tv noises, fighting, loud music from neighbors are a big consideration. That is so aggravating. And even though that that may not be the case when u move in it certainly can change at any time. Best wishes.
If you want something immediate, consider a nice backyard building as a private hangout-many areas you can build a 10x12 without a permit if no utilities, like a tuffshed for a few thousand dollars. Include windows and a locking residential door, decorate and put a table and chair and couch and you have a private hangout with no house noises. You can put a solar powered lamp in there, actually a lot of fun.That would give you a different place to be while you figure out the logistics and finances of moving elsewhere but not require a lot of change or stress.
Hi Stephen, I tried to kill myself when I was 25, and 5 years later I am now a completely different person. I know you've had a rough life, which is no fault of your own, but you seem significantly happier in this video already. I believe that within 5 years, you'll experience so many wonderful things in your life - and it will be crazy for you to look back. Bless you.
Stephen, It won’t hurt at all I don’t believe, to try it out. It might surprise all of you how well you do on your own. You’ve made great progress since changing your meds and I believe too you are a very intelligent young man and that this can be successful. You have great parents and are blessed beyond measure. I say go for it when you are ready. And see how it goes. It’s very important to keep your Dr appts regularly and stay on your medication regiment. You will have a lot of responsibility and will have to see if you’re able to accomplish your goals. I believe you can. Enjoy your video’s very much. God bless
Wow that's amazing Stephen. Just make sure you go out a lot and don't isolate yourself. Any place will be noisy. Start exposure therapy. Go out for lunch yourself and see how you go. I know I don't understand your sensitivity to noises but anywhere you go, it's noisy! Why don't you join some schizophrenia support groups. Go on outings w ppl that understand your condition. Challenge yourself to still go out even when you are feeling depressed and anxious
Hello, my grandson is 22 years old and he moved in my house a month ago. This is all new to me and watching your videos helps me understand his level with his issues. He is autistic, schizophrenia and other issues that I’m not sure of. His mother is 47 and just decided that she couldn’t handle him or her other 8 year old son, her other son is autistic and dyslexia. We’re thinking that he too will have other mental health issues as he get older. My son works at a hospital and can’t sped the time observing him. It is overwhelming at times. I’m 59 and I don’t plan on having my grandson live with me forever. Maybe only 1 year He was working at a pizza shop for only 2 weeks and they had to let him go because he couldn’t catch on with the job. I’m thinking that this will be the case for other jobs that he will be at and I’m keeping a journal of this so that perhaps he can get a check from the government to help him out.
If you can do it in a way like In-law's apartment. Meaning in the same bounders of your parents house but with a different entrance. Like a little apt.
So happy you are finding inner peace. Keep it real. listen to your gut. Remember ,you will need your support system near. If space is available in the back yard, maybe try out a tiny house. You will be able to sell the house down the road. Also have fun decorating to your taste. Also, good insulation and noise blocker willl manage sound barrier. The cost may be more affordable. Just suggestions. Go for your dreams. Prayers will be going up for your new journey 🙏 ❤
What an amazing thing to look forward to! I’m so glad for you & your family as you gain more independence and GROW your RUclips channel! 💜 Not sure how big your parents property is, but have you considered a garage apartment or a tiny house on their land, if that’s possible?
I am SO excited for you Stephen! San Antonio (where I live) always has room for you, and we have the best breakfast tacos, lol. No matter where you decide to live, life is awaiting your next big step. You have lots of people who love and support you! 🤠♥️
You should put a tiny home in your parents back yard. Your own space but close to your folks. Then if you do good there in a few years you would be ready to move further way.
Stephen, I am so thrilled for you !!!! 🎉 You have been through so much in your young life and you have worked so hard. You deserve to go live your own life. Your Dad has been such a wonderful support system he had the foresight to expose you to the things that were important for your success. Your parents will miss you for sure! As I’m sure you will miss them. I have been following your channel (which I love btw) for quite some time and and I find myself being proud of you for all the hard work you have done to get where you are today. You are a brave, strong, handsome young man and you have your whole life ahead of you. Keep it up Stephen, we are all out here routing for you. Stay blessed 😊
Congrats Stephen my friend, from 70 to 7K! Well Done. I'd say you're doing more than Surviving Schizophrenia - Don't forget the journey is one day at a time, moment by moment: Mindfulness helps me stay present. All the Best and Well Done!
How very very exciting! It's really great to have your own place and decorate it in your own style and really feel that pride of doing things on your own. When I first moved out on my own, I moved only about an hour a way. That made it easy to be on my own but still close enough that my parents could come to m place quick enough to help if anything went wrong. Once I got the hang of it, I moved to a different city and felt more prepared. It was awesome but glad I didn't move too far in the beginning. I do wish you luck in whatever you do and where you end up!
It is so good to see how happy and excited you are! Wonderful news. 😊 🎉Moving on/forward now or in the future can be very healing. The hard work can pay off. Have an awesome day.
Best situation I've seen is seperate accomation within the same property. Either as a seprate unit or apartment. Moving away is certainly within the range of possability, but having the ability check in very important so don't underestimate it. Whilst your mental health remains fairly good then living independantly is a really good oppertunity for growth. As long as you have the resources and supports you need. Can't hurt to give it a good go.
🎉congratulations on making the decision to move forward. Absolutely sounds like a great plan. My son always says, "Slow and steady wins the race." I am looking forward to the content and growing your channel. 🎉❤
I’m glad you have made the decision to move away from home. Its a big step. But unless you move to a cabin in the middle of the Forrest noise is just a part of modern city living. I live in a big house but I have found that if my neighbor across the street has a pool party with loud music I definitely will hear it. Also even if a nice neighbor is hard of hearing and puts the volume on the TV loud I will also hear it. I remember living in an apartment when i was your age. If my downstairs or upstairs neighbor or even the next door neighbor played thru music I could hear it. Sorry to say it’s just part of modern life. Maybe noise cancelling headphones will help. Good luck.
Steven I have Schizophrenia and I don't recommend you move from your parents house they are companion to you and living alone makes more stress. Thanks!
Super excited for you to make such a progressive move! I really believe in you, and a supportive community will help you succeed 💕 and yeah, chewing noise is a THING!!!
I have schizophrenia and being by yourself is not recommended because you'll wind up talking to your voices and suicidal comeback that's why I live with my mum now
I love to see your smile! Although I like hearing all your thoughts no matter how you are feeling. I have Misphonia too and had the same issues when I lived at home, with people eating and “clanking.” So definitely watch out for the noisy neighbors and I think the idea of renting works so you don’t get locked into anything that doesn’t work. Moving can be mentally daunting for anyone Schizphrenia or no, so just be prepared for that but I think it’s a normal part of the process. Isn’t it so great that starting this channel to help others might turn out to be your key to financial independence? Good on you! Just don’t move too far away from your Dad, I think he will miss you too much! But seriously, do what’s right for you. I don’t have Schizophrenia but I’m super interested in the way you present things and have learned a lot. I just love you and your Dad! Keep up the good work and thanks for the education! ❤
How exciting for you. One way to prepare for living on your own. I am not sure how you are living right now … but start by washing your own clothes, make your own meals, buying groceries, cleaning bathroom etc. one step at a time. I think it might be better to rent an apt, you may love it or not. Renting gives you an out if you aren’t happy. My father had an expression, hope for the best, plan for the worst. Being self sufficient prior to moving will give you a great start. Best of luck Stephen, look forward to your next video.
From the first time you mentioned getting out on your own a few months ago I was all for it 👍 Now it looks like we're all in agreement. Your mom, dad, you and your entire family, and medical team. I like the idea of renting a small house in Southern California better than apartment or condo. You won't have clanking neighbor's as much. Plus when you rent if something breaks you just call the landlord and they come fix it, their cost. If everything goes smoothly and successfully which I think it will you can look for rent to own property. Find yourself a good realtor to help you look and what you're looking for. I see a cozy little bungalow type in Southern California in your future 🌳🏡🌳🌳 on a quiet street. Take your time be patient and you'll know when you found the perfect place just for you you'll feel it in your heart. Home is where the heart is. Exciting new change of environment is extremely healing to mind body and soul. Don't worry about any trips and falls on your searches don't stress too much about it, it's okay we all do. I'm excited for you Stephen!
I see a little light of hope in your eyes. Life is stressful. I think it’s the mediation of that, and negotiation of a path that is for you where that stress becomes a trial worthy of enduring.
Hi Steven, I'm very happy for you 😊 You are blessed to have parents who support you (with your best interests at heart) and I wish you all the best in your endeavours!
You are absolutt right to see the light in the end of the long dark tunnel to enter your own new home to help you to get à distans from bad memory of the struggeling past. You have done amazing progress to come so fare. I see you are very happy now, to see forward to this. It brings light in your eyes, to solve problems That make stress. To much sound, and to Manny disturbing details to analyse, makes stress. I hope you find a perfect home in near future.
Your very welcome Stephen! Ive thought always that your channe is great and that you and your family are the nicest people! You should be recognized for your success with the channel and i hope this donation does this to some small degree.May God bless your channel and you and the family in 2024.And were looking forward to hearing how your doing now in next video!!!!❤🎉😊
Hey Stephen!! You don’t know me, and I don’t pretend to know you, but I respect you and really admire your mission with this channel. Idk what part of Texas you might consider, but if you’re ever in the Dallas area, you’ve got a friend in me! And yes it IS HOT, and I don’t do well in the heat either haha. But at least we have great a/c units here, and we all just hobble along until it’s over 😅 But on the flipside, housing/rent prices are pretty great, public transportation isn’t the best but still decent, and imo there’s a lot of options for meeting people, doing different hobbies, as well as medical/mental health support and options. I also love that Dallas has both “big city” areas, AND various smaller neighborhoods- everything from quiet, fun, quirky, laid back, artsy, suburban, and more
Glad to hear you want to wait and save before doing this move out. Also even now be careful and be aware their could be people that will try and take advantage of you and be manipulative of your heart as well. Just know that you are an adult and already independent. But to want to live on your own is understandable. And in the meantime your making new memories and maybe you can ask ur parents to allow u to redecorate ur room and maybe other rooms. Best to you.
Moving out to be independent is good, but doing it to get away from noise seems like a bad reason. There will always be noises wherever you go. You could find a quiet neighborhood, and then noisy neighbors could move in. Learn to manage your misophonia first. There is the potential to be over-isolated if you live alone. Also, try for more than one income source. Relying on RUclips to pay the bills is tenuous.
So glad you're feeling a bit better since your decision! It's something really great to look forward to! I find having plans to look forward to and work to do regarding it helps my mental health a lot too. Good luck as you move forward with your exciting goal! 8) I'm also with you on the clinking sounds! The worst is restaurants that have no music playing and not a lot of people talking, so the clinking all you can hear. As someone who lives on my own - loading and unloading the dishwasher is something I tend to put off too long because of it. Curious - do you, or have you, ever had trouble with tinnitus as well?
Hi Stephen, I've been watching your videos for the last couple of weeks now. Thank you for sharing your journey! You and your dad seem like very kind people, and you have taught me so much already. Good luck with everything! - A fellow 23 year old from Belgium :)
Stephen, bless you. All I wish to say is that m son ( schizophrenic) also felt that he needed more space 2 yrs ago. Because he was doing so well ( and he does not have proneness to depression) we gave it a go although my gut was saying that it is not right for him. 6 months went well. Then the first psychotic break happened. And hospitalization Then the next And hospitalization again. He’s now back with us for the past 3 months in his own 2bed space on our premises and he’s doing very well. I pray this works for you and your family. You deserve to try this. You will be in my prayers. 🙏🙏
This month has been so challenging for me as well; and one thing I love is my own space. Parents can be too much, but saying that, I look back and I wish I didn’t leave the safety of my family home when I did. My mum is very difficult and stressed out constantly, it put me so much on the edge for years; and leaving away from her it was good for my mental health. Take it easy; don’t put pressure on yourself. When you become independent, living on your own, it’s truly challenging because of the people around you. Neighbours 😂😂!!! All the best to you ❤️
My son pays rent and lives at his brother's house. He is saving his money and will possibly buy his own home someday. He doesn't have full self-awareness of his illness so I like to check up on him but I have to bring him lots of gifts and stuff and make him good meals and be very loving because otherwise he tends to think I will send him to the hospital or call the police on him if he shows any behavior or thoughts that I might find questionable. (Like not sleeping.) It's a difficult situation because he can't judge his own wellness. It would scare the crap out of me if he moved far away but I could check on him by phone probably. Having gone through the nightmare of him without his medication, I am petrified that it could happen again. (He has anosognosia.) Maybe these videos will help me. I have recently been looking into therapy because it can't be good for my son and I or our relationship to be hovering so closely.
I understand what you are thinking about the old house. Bad memories. Twenty four is a common age for "kids" to move out. I have a niece who moved to Texas. After two short leases she's moving to a major city closer to home. She's decorating in Barbie (egads). Pink shell couch and special acrylic table. I told my sister it is perching furniture. But at this age it's all about experimentation.
Congratulations, Stephen! It's great to hear from you. Whenever you and your support system, including your parents and medical support, think it's the right time, is the right time. It's great that you are planning this out years ahead of time, but don't be discouraged if it doesn't fall directly in your timeline. I would try practicing to clean and cook, as well as budget, if you are going to move out. Being within walking distance of a bus line, since you do not drive, would also probably be a consideration. I'm glad you are doing this while having parental support, as it makes it so much easier. I moved out to the dorms in College when I was 19 to 21, and don't regret it. I didn't officially "move out" of my parent's house, though, until I was 26. Make sure to always have a plan in place, and don't be afraid to deviate from that plan if you need to accommodate some other consideration. Best of luck to you!
Good luck on the move. Parents can visit you anytime. Sir I’m wondering have you tried sound canceling earphones? As even if you follow through on moving the new place can have outside noise. I had to listen to kids screaming as they had fun in their above ground pool for almost 20 years. I would always jump after hearing them. Therefore, read the “review’s” for places like apartments. I was residing in a house. Best Wishes!🙏🏼
Hey Stephen, It sounds like you have a plan. Don't forget to ensure you live near services. You will need to practice cooking, doing laundry, cleaning, shopping, paying bills, etc.. in the meantime ( not to put you off, or anything 😮). Renting or buying a small apartment in a small, low height complex near services sounds good. Hopefully, they are not too expensive, and the property tax not too high. Never be envious of others or try to be like other people, though. You are you, and you are nice just the way you are. Life isn't as perfect for normo typical people as you may think. Don't believe what you see on TV , Facebook, etc. either. People tend to only talk about the good parts of their lives. Life is a struggle with moments of wonderfulness. It takes courage to plod on. Dorm life can be hell. It's hard for everyone to meet friends and partners. The world is full of broken hearts and people masking at being happy. Enjoy the moment, I say. Don't waste life thinking you are missing out. Through enjoying the moment, you will find all the hidden wonderfulness. You will attract people to you too. Did you think about getting a dog / pet when you get your own place?
My son is in full psychosis in the hospital explain to me today that his insurance denied him for any longer so he is going to be home tomorrow and I am very scared. I don't know if I'm going to be capable of keeping him safe
I'm also very sure that you are now stepping up and stepping out to a new life of independence. I also think you are very near to getting to the point of finding a forever soul mate that's the right fit for you to share your life with. You have a lot to offer someone just right for you
Sounds like such a good start! Wishing you the best ❤ I'm so incredibly sad that you are on these toxic drugs. Hopefully you will be able to move forward, and progress, when you leave the suffocating circumstances your living under right now.
I don't know how wise it is to be on your own. If you do go out on your own make certain that you have someone who is checking in on you regularly and by that I mean daily. Schizophrenia and autonomy are a terrible mix. I hate to say that but it is true. The more autonomy you have the less likely you are to continue taking the medications that are making you feel better. Feeling better does not mean you have been cured. You wouldn't stop taking heart medications because you felt better on them as it would give you a heart attack if you stopped. Your brain will begin to attack you very rapidly if you stop taking any of your other medications for psychosis and your schizophrenia. I don't know I think this is a bad idea. I know they want to respect your wishes and I know that you have feelings which are entirely valid and they are your own. I think it would be better if you mitigated the misophonia rather than isolate yourself away from your caregivers.
Not for all schizophrenics. There is a spectrum. I live alone perfectly fine and work. But according to my psychiatrist, I am an exception but there are differently more like me out in the world. But your concern is valid regarding not taking the medication. It is very common for many to stop. But not all all do that and if they do it once sometimes they have the insight to learn from it. My illness onset was much later in life after having started working at age 16 and graduating college.
@@articfox5693 I wouldn't be someone to put schizophrenia on a spectrum. It's very specific mental illness based entirely upon deficits in processing visual data. I'm glad that you're managing it extremely well. The issue with it is that the better you feel the less likely you are to continue trying to manage something you no longer believe is real. That's the problem with all forms of psychosis. It's a very nature of psychosis is an inability to distinguish between reality and fantasy. I'm glad you have a psychiatrist. That is your constant caregiver or at least one of them. You can live alone but most certainly not without the vigilance of people who love you enough to dedicate daily time to your struggle just by checking in with you. I wish you the best of outcomes.
@@Sn0wShepherd You made a great point about having a caregiver or people that love you enough. In fact, every night after taking my medication I let my mother know. He might need to do that too. Also, I found finally a medication with very minor side effects that really do not bother me. It took me six years to find the right medication. But I can imagine someone with moderate to serious side effects really tempted to stop their medication which is why there should be some vigilance like you said. I should mention that I live with roommates which I would recommend to him if he was not sensitive to noises. I have never relapsed on my medication but my roommates can help see if I am a little off. No one notices that I have an illness unless I tell them. But again I take my medication. Thanks for your wishes!
I think I understand your concerns and I think they are very valid. However, Stephen has great insight into his condition and he is self aware. I would like him to at least try living on his own as that may even benefit his mental health but he has supportive family and he can go back to living with them if living on his own becomes problematic.
@@rosieposie9564 That's the problem, tho, is that insight vanishes the instant stress or trauma triggers a psychotic break. And anything could potentially compromise that clarity. Just be VERY careful and have others be loving and vigilant, okay?
Here are some suggestions to monitor mental health without loved ones nearby dayly. Writing diary notei down modes during each day. Get a smart watch that monitors sleap patterns. Dayly short telephone calls with lovedones alternative zoom cals. There are smart phones apps to use to monitor changes in moods. With these tools you can easier detect changes in moods to better be able to modify medication when needed.
If you have a psychotic episode, don't expect sympathy or understanding from your new neighbours and not even from near-by relatives. I don't know how you behave when you're psychotic but if you do/say crazy things you'll end up with police at the door, maybe put under treatment order or institutionalized, where you'll be far worse off than with your parents, unless they're absolutely unbearable. Also, do you work? If not, how could pay rent or buy a house? Don't want to dampen your spirits but your plans do not sound realistic to me, unless of course you or your parents are very wealthy.
Great for getting motivated! You could definitely practice! A hotel room stay for a couple nights. Get used to having neighbors and different noises. Can even bring your cooking skills along if the room has a kitchenette. Or, your parents can get away for a night for practice so you’re in your own environment.
It is so encouraging to have a goal to work towards. Exciting adventure in your future. I am looking for more land to buy for my son and build a tiny home on for him. We are setting those goals now. You are doing great, hang in there❤
Wow, you are amazing. Thank you for sharing all your experiences, bad and good. Here is wishing you all the best in all your future endeavors and we'll keep watching. Thanks again!!!
Thank you Greg so very much! Your support of me and my channel is just incredible. It means the world to me! I am feeling a lot better now, though it has been a tough couple weeks. I plan on getting a video out early in the new year which will explain what has been going on with me. I wish you a very happy and healthy New Year! Thank you for your support.
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My daughter has misophonia and she wears noise blocking AirPods. She does not have any mental illness but has a lifelong physical illness and will always have to live at home. We’ve made accommodations and we have a basement apartment she can eventually move into if she’s ever able to take care of herself. Noise is everywhere. Good luck.
Hey Stephen. A word of advise: Living independently comes with a set of different challenges. I would recommend you to a) Stay in the vicinity of your parents b)Try to stay in a safe neighbour. Also consider that altough your parents may look annoying or overbearing now, they will certainly be 1000% more accomodating than any other neighbour.
Stephen, you sound so empowered! Cheering you on all the way! Of course you will one day have your own place. There is no template for hitting "adult" milestones...there is only growth and learning across a lifetime. But also, sovereignty over our lives does not mean "ability to do it all alone." Btw, my son is home and on week 6 of clozapine. Your channel, your story, your willingness to open up about tough topics and the commitment/energy you give have been small lights on our path to finding clozapine, esp. on helping me find my role in how to best help my son. Eternally grateful the Surviving Schizoprenia channel. We had to relocate from Sacramento to Arizona to find a provider so I am sending you greetings from Scottsdale!
Hi Stephen. You seem very intelligent. Have you ever thought about being a psychiatrist. Congratulations on being independent. I found out my diagnosis today. For many years I mistakenly thought that I was suffering from schizoaffective disorder. My nurse practitioner told me that I have depressive bipolar disorder. Smiling depression. It’s hard to tell. I’m not ashamed of my disability. Both of us deserve respect. I will tell you that I believe that I needed to be hospitalized when I was eight. You are a good role model. My friend has schizophrenia. She loves to travel. She has been to Australia and Japan. Yes Stephen. You can be successful. And again, congratulations to you.
Thank you so very much. I appreciate you sharing and for your kind words.
Fear is a huge obstacle for anyone to overcome. Fear of being alone, making the wrong choice, fear of being able to pay bills. Everyone is always scared and overwhelmed to make big changes in life. It might seem more challenging because of your schizophrenia but everyone gets bogged down by "what ifs" or self doubt. It is normal. Stephen, you have come so far and it is amazing to see how confident you have become. I think the fact that you brought your struggle into the light, stared it down and tackled it head on, has made all the difference. All the schooling in the world couldn't give a person the insight or coping skill advice, that you can Experiencing this condition and educating others about it is helping so many families. You really are a blessing to so many people and I am so happy for you. I suffer from misophonia myself. It can be overwhelming. Vitamin A helps me regulate it a little better and talking walks in nature. Another great video!
Stephen, this is really great news and I continue to be so proud of you. You have come such a long way.
Congratulations, Stephen, I think that’s great! I just have a word of caution though: don’t try to go to quickly. Having supportive parents who not only care about you but also want to make sure that you were doing well is so very important. Many blessings.
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I have known a couple of schizophrenics who lived on their own. I highly recommend staying close to family. The support will be very important especially as you are making a transition. Also relatives are not the same as parents in terms of how much time, support, patience and understanding they can give, keep that in mind.
As someone with ptsd and anxiety issues, I can't be in a house thats super noisy. Especially when I'm trying to sleep. So I feel for you. I may not have misophonia and schizophrenia but environments like that are horrible if you're not of a very specific mindset and such. I'm rooting for you, and I hope this goes amazing for both you and your parents. Start a patreon also if you can, you'll get even more financial support from some of your fans and can even give them early access to videos. Also this opens up a whole new slew of topics you can cover in videos as you grow into your new life
Well done Stephen, and well done to your fantastic supportive folks!
Stephan , You certainly come a long way since I started watching these videos. Moving out on your own is a great step forward. I hope everything works out! :)
Hey Stephen, I'm so happy for you! Was a little worried for the past two weeks when you hadn't posted, and I'm glad you're ok. I think you've made a great decision, and it will really give you the motivation to continue with the channel. Congratulations!!!
You amaze me with your confidence and have great supporting parents. My son is on the waiting list for an apartment where he can live alone but with support,making sure he takes his meds. It is quiet but sometimes sirens go by. Magnesium helps with noise sensitivity. My son doesn’t drive. He is so dependent so I hope he can handle being in apt.I don’t want him to be lonely. Change is very hard on him.His brother gave him headphones. People have taken advantage of him. I need to pray for him ,for you ,everyone!
"Making sure he takes his meds". Antipsychotic medication does much more harm than good. It is necessary during psychotic episodes only and a strong sedative is more effective.
I'm excited for you Stephen! Ideally an ADU would be amazing, but whatever you start with- just remember that NOTHING is permanent. If something doesn't go well you can always re-evaluate. The MOST important thing is to always make sure you have lines of communication open to your loved ones in case you need them. I hope you stay in CA but will support wherever you go!
Hey Stephen, nice to see you again and wow, what a big news. I honestly don't have any advice to give you since I don't work, I live with my parents in a 2 rooms lower part of my parent's house, and my brother lives in the upper part with his wife and child. I'm in one room and my parents are in the other and thankfully for me I don't mind the noise ever since I got on Zyprexa, that medicine makes me completely unaffected by sounds or lights. I'm really sorry you still have such a strong misophonia, and I hope something is developed to alleviate that soon. I think you're making a really wise decision not to rush this and I totally agree with your psychiatrist to do renting first as a trial and see how it goes. I really wish you have a smooth transition and best of luck in whatever you decide to do. Best regards Stephen :)
Stephen, I am so happy for you! It's so exciting to see how well you are doing. I've been away from RUclips for awhile - I remember being one of about 100 subscribers...look at you now! You're doing so much good with your channel. Thank you, and all the best
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You don't know how lucky you are to have parents that supported you.
Stephen always appears grateful and is aware of how fortunate he is to have a loving family
This comment is misplaced. Never once did he come across as ungratefull or not knowing how much his parents do for him. It is quite normal to wanting to live on your own at that age. I hope he will eventually do it, but maybe closer to his parents for when its necessary
I think he does :-)
@@KonaneStyle STOP IT....all he said was that Steven doesn't know what it's like to live with Schizophrenia without a supportive family....like many of us know.... (at least I think that's what he meant) .... and I don't think he meant it in a disrespectful way.
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Congratulations Stevan. I know you’re going to do great! You’ve come so far. Thanks for sharing your success.
I remember how much fun I had getting my first place
Great news, Stephen. You can do this. My son has this illness and lives in his own place. Totally doable!
So glad to see you! Great news on future plans! You have a lot of support.
it's amazing watching your journey, Stephen!! You know we'll always be watching & cheering for you, no matter what! Living on your own comes with challenges for sure (for everyone), there will be some ups and downs as there is with anything in life, but nothing beats having your independence!!
Hi Stephen I can see you feel relieved after you’ve finally made the tough decision! Congratulations 🍾🎉
Have you thought about a half way option? Where you live with your parents, but you get an annexe created so you have your own space and can be independent. Living by yourself might be difficult financially.
I only watched parts of two videos. You are a great person and I am happy for you to branch out.
Heads up, if u decide to buy in Texas property taxes are sky high. Also if you buy a condo there are maintance fees. That is in addition to your property taxes. Also you may wind up with a yappy barking dog on either side of you or a acoss the hall. Also tv noises, fighting, loud music from neighbors are a big consideration. That is so aggravating. And even though that that may not be the case when u move in it certainly can change at any time. Best wishes.
If you want something immediate, consider a nice backyard building as a private hangout-many areas you can build a 10x12 without a permit if no utilities, like a tuffshed for a few thousand dollars. Include windows and a locking residential door, decorate and put a table and chair and couch and you have a private hangout with no house noises. You can put a solar powered lamp in there, actually a lot of fun.That would give you a different place to be while you figure out the logistics and finances of moving elsewhere but not require a lot of change or stress.
We're all here for you Stephen ! Keep up the good work ❤
Hi Stephen, I tried to kill myself when I was 25, and 5 years later I am now a completely different person. I know you've had a rough life, which is no fault of your own, but you seem significantly happier in this video already. I believe that within 5 years, you'll experience so many wonderful things in your life - and it will be crazy for you to look back. Bless you.
Stephen, It won’t hurt at all I don’t believe, to try it out. It might surprise all of you how well you do on your own. You’ve made great progress since changing your meds and I believe too you are a very intelligent young man and that this can be successful. You have great parents and are blessed beyond measure. I say go for it when you are ready. And see how it goes. It’s very important to keep your Dr appts regularly and stay on your medication regiment. You will have a lot of responsibility and will have to see if you’re able to accomplish your goals. I believe you can.
Enjoy your video’s very much. God bless
Wow that's amazing Stephen. Just make sure you go out a lot and don't isolate yourself.
Any place will be noisy. Start exposure therapy. Go out for lunch yourself and see how you go.
I know I don't understand your sensitivity to noises but anywhere you go, it's noisy! Why don't you join some schizophrenia support groups. Go on outings w ppl that understand your condition. Challenge yourself to still go out even when you are feeling depressed and anxious
Hello, my grandson is 22 years old and he moved in my house a month ago. This is all new to me and watching your videos helps me understand his level with his issues. He is autistic, schizophrenia and other issues that I’m not sure of. His mother is 47 and just decided that she couldn’t handle him or her other 8 year old son, her other son is autistic and dyslexia. We’re thinking that he too will have other mental health issues as he get older. My son works at a hospital and can’t sped the time observing him. It is overwhelming at times. I’m 59 and I don’t plan on having my grandson live with me forever. Maybe only 1 year
He was working at a pizza shop for only 2 weeks and they had to let him go because he couldn’t catch on with the job. I’m thinking that this will be the case for other jobs that he will be at and I’m keeping a journal of this so that perhaps he can get a check from the government to help him out.
If you can do it in a way like In-law's apartment. Meaning in the same bounders of your parents house but with a different entrance. Like a little apt.
So happy you are finding inner peace. Keep it real. listen to your gut. Remember ,you will need your support system near. If space is available in the back yard, maybe try out a tiny house. You will be able to sell the house down the road. Also have fun decorating to your taste. Also, good insulation and noise blocker willl manage sound barrier. The cost may be more affordable.
Just suggestions. Go for your dreams. Prayers will be going up for your new journey
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What an amazing thing to look forward to! I’m so glad for you & your family as you gain more independence and GROW your RUclips channel! 💜 Not sure how big your parents property is, but have you considered a garage apartment or a tiny house on their land, if that’s possible?
Congrats. I know this is such a big step. I'm glad that you have support from your family and psychiatrist.
I am SO excited for you Stephen! San Antonio (where I live) always has room for you, and we have the best breakfast tacos, lol. No matter where you decide to live, life is awaiting your next big step. You have lots of people who love and support you! 🤠♥️
You should put a tiny home in your parents back yard. Your own space but close to your folks. Then if you do good there in a few years you would be ready to move further way.
Stephen, I am so thrilled for you !!!! 🎉 You have been through so much in your young life and you have worked so hard. You deserve to go live your own life. Your Dad has been such a wonderful support system he had the foresight to expose you to the things that were important for your success. Your parents will miss you for sure! As I’m sure you will miss them. I have been following your channel (which I love btw) for quite some time and and I find myself being proud of you for all the hard work you have done to get where you are today. You are a brave, strong, handsome young man and you have your whole life ahead of you. Keep it up Stephen, we are all out here routing for you. Stay blessed 😊
Well said, such kind words.
@@rosieposie9564 Thank you Rosie, I was only speaking from my heart.
Congrats Stephen my friend, from 70 to 7K! Well Done.
I'd say you're doing more than Surviving Schizophrenia - Don't forget the journey is one day at a time, moment by moment: Mindfulness helps me stay present. All the Best and Well Done!
How very very exciting! It's really great to have your own place and decorate it in your own style and really feel that pride of doing things on your own. When I first moved out on my own, I moved only about an hour a way. That made it easy to be on my own but still close enough that my parents could come to m place quick enough to help if anything went wrong. Once I got the hang of it, I moved to a different city and felt more prepared. It was awesome but glad I didn't move too far in the beginning.
I do wish you luck in whatever you do and where you end up!
It is so good to see how happy and excited you are! Wonderful news. 😊 🎉Moving on/forward now or in the future can be very healing. The hard work can pay off. Have an awesome day.
Best situation I've seen is seperate accomation within the same property. Either as a seprate unit or apartment. Moving away is certainly within the range of possability, but having the ability check in very important so don't underestimate it. Whilst your mental health remains fairly good then living independantly is a really good oppertunity for growth. As long as you have the resources and supports you need. Can't hurt to give it a good go.
🎉congratulations on making the decision to move forward. Absolutely sounds like a great plan. My son always says, "Slow and steady wins the race." I am looking forward to the content and growing your channel. 🎉❤
I’m glad you have made the decision to move away from home. Its a big step. But unless you move to a cabin in the middle of the Forrest noise is just a part of modern city living. I live in a big house but I have found that if my neighbor across the street has a pool party with loud music I definitely will hear it. Also even if a nice neighbor is hard of hearing and puts the volume on the TV loud I will also hear it. I remember living in an apartment when i was your age. If my downstairs or upstairs neighbor or even the next door neighbor played thru music I could hear it. Sorry to say it’s just part of modern life. Maybe noise cancelling headphones will help. Good luck.
Wanting to move out of your parents house is profoundly................................................normal.
Steven I have Schizophrenia and I don't recommend you move from your parents house they are companion to you and living alone makes more stress. Thanks!
Did you try living on your own? Also, Stephen can always move back home if living on his own does not work out for him.
@@rosieposie9564 I live alone, my mother passed away many years ago and my father does not live same country I live in.
@@abdirizaksaid7957 Okay, I hope you are doing well overall despite any difficulties.
@@rosieposie9564 am doing good, thanks alot
Maybe Stephen can live with a roommate/assistant
Super excited for you to make such a progressive move! I really believe in you, and a supportive community will help you succeed 💕 and yeah, chewing noise is a THING!!!
Have you and your parents talked about maybe expanding their home....or a loft above the garage...like a studio apt?
I have schizophrenia and being by yourself is not recommended because you'll wind up talking to your voices and suicidal comeback that's why I live with my mum now
If u don't mind what type of suicide attempts have u had dont u feel scared of thinking about ending ur life 😢😢😢
I love to see your smile! Although I like hearing all your thoughts no matter how you are feeling. I have Misphonia too and had the same issues when I lived at home, with people eating and “clanking.” So definitely watch out for the noisy neighbors and I think the idea of renting works so you don’t get locked into anything that doesn’t work. Moving can be mentally daunting for anyone Schizphrenia or no, so just be prepared for that but I think it’s a normal part of the process. Isn’t it so great that starting this channel to help others might turn out to be your key to financial independence? Good on you! Just don’t move too far away from your Dad, I think he will miss you too much! But seriously, do what’s right for you. I don’t have Schizophrenia but I’m super interested in the way you present things and have learned a lot. I just love you and your Dad! Keep up the good work and thanks for the education! ❤
How exciting for you. One way to prepare for living on your own. I am not sure how you are living right now … but start by washing your own clothes, make your own meals, buying groceries, cleaning bathroom etc. one step at a time. I think it might be better to rent an apt, you may love it or not. Renting gives you an out if you aren’t happy.
My father had an expression, hope for the best, plan for the worst. Being self sufficient prior to moving will give you a great start. Best of luck Stephen, look forward to your next video.
You’ve got this and I am so happy for you. A small house or condo would be perfect for you and it is understandable why you desire this.
Great news. I'm very happy for you and congratulations. There's nothing like having your own place. Congratulations and best of wishes.
I'm glad that you are feeling better. I hope all your dreams come true.🎉❤️🧡💛💚💙
From the first time you mentioned getting out on your own a few months ago I was all for it 👍 Now it looks like we're all in agreement. Your mom, dad, you and your entire family, and medical team.
I like the idea of renting a small house in Southern California better than apartment or condo. You won't have clanking neighbor's as much. Plus when you rent if something breaks you just call the landlord and they come fix it, their cost. If everything goes smoothly and successfully which I think it will you can look for rent to own property. Find yourself a good realtor to help you look and what you're looking for. I see a cozy little bungalow type in Southern California in your future 🌳🏡🌳🌳 on a quiet street. Take your time be patient and you'll know when you found the perfect place just for you you'll feel it in your heart. Home is where the heart is. Exciting new change of environment is extremely healing to mind body and soul.
Don't worry about any trips and falls on your searches don't stress too much about it, it's okay we all do. I'm excited for you Stephen!
I see a little light of hope in your eyes. Life is stressful. I think it’s the mediation of that, and negotiation of a path that is for you where that stress becomes a trial worthy of enduring.
Hi Steven, I'm very happy for you 😊 You are blessed to have parents who support you (with your best interests at heart) and I wish you all the best in your endeavours!
You are absolutt right to see the light in the end of the long dark tunnel to enter your own new home to help you to get à distans from bad memory of the struggeling past. You have done amazing progress to come so fare. I see you are very happy now, to see forward to this. It brings light in your eyes, to solve problems
That make stress. To much sound, and to Manny disturbing details to analyse, makes stress. I hope you find a perfect home in near future.
Your very welcome Stephen! Ive thought always that your channe is great and that you and your family are the nicest people! You should be recognized for your success with the channel and i hope this donation does this to some small degree.May God bless your channel and you and the family in 2024.And were looking forward to hearing how your doing now in next video!!!!❤🎉😊
Thanks again!
Stephen All the very best to you, Im so glad you took this step to spread your wings.
That’s a great goal! I have a son with schizophrenia and autism and you are a great example for him!
Hey Stephen!! You don’t know me, and I don’t pretend to know you, but I respect you and really admire your mission with this channel. Idk what part of Texas you might consider, but if you’re ever in the Dallas area, you’ve got a friend in me!
And yes it IS HOT, and I don’t do well in the heat either haha. But at least we have great a/c units here, and we all just hobble along until it’s over 😅 But on the flipside, housing/rent prices are pretty great, public transportation isn’t the best but still decent, and imo there’s a lot of options for meeting people, doing different hobbies, as well as medical/mental health support and options. I also love that Dallas has both “big city” areas, AND various smaller neighborhoods- everything from quiet, fun, quirky, laid back, artsy, suburban, and more
Glad to hear you want to wait and save before doing this move out. Also even now be careful and be aware their could be people that will try and take advantage of you and be manipulative of your heart as well. Just know that you are an adult and already independent. But to want to live on your own is understandable. And in the meantime your making new memories and maybe you can ask ur parents to allow u to redecorate ur room and maybe other rooms. Best to you.
Moving out to be independent is good, but doing it to get away from noise seems like a bad reason. There will always be noises wherever you go. You could find a quiet neighborhood, and then noisy neighbors could move in. Learn to manage your misophonia first. There is the potential to be over-isolated if you live alone. Also, try for more than one income source. Relying on RUclips to pay the bills is tenuous.
Just you having theses feelings and thoughts is confirmation that finding your own place is a good direction to take. I wish you the best!
So glad you're feeling a bit better since your decision! It's something really great to look forward to! I find having plans to look forward to and work to do regarding it helps my mental health a lot too. Good luck as you move forward with your exciting goal! 8)
I'm also with you on the clinking sounds! The worst is restaurants that have no music playing and not a lot of people talking, so the clinking all you can hear. As someone who lives on my own - loading and unloading the dishwasher is something I tend to put off too long because of it. Curious - do you, or have you, ever had trouble with tinnitus as well?
why dont u build a condo or small aparatment along with ur parents house so u got ur own space but they are close to u
Congratulations! The decision is the most difficult part in the process!
Hi Stephen, I've been watching your videos for the last couple of weeks now. Thank you for sharing your journey! You and your dad seem like very kind people, and you have taught me so much already. Good luck with everything!
- A fellow 23 year old from Belgium :)
Stephen, bless you.
All I wish to say is that m son ( schizophrenic) also felt that he needed more space 2 yrs ago. Because he was doing so well ( and he does not have proneness to depression) we gave it a go although my gut was saying that it is not right for him.
6 months went well.
Then the first psychotic break happened.
And hospitalization
Then the next
And hospitalization again.
He’s now back with us for the past 3 months in his own 2bed space on our premises and he’s doing very well.
I pray this works for you and your family.
You deserve to try this.
You will be in my prayers. 🙏🙏
This month has been so challenging for me as well; and one thing I love is my own space. Parents can be too much, but saying that, I look back and I wish I didn’t leave the safety of my family home when I did. My mum is very difficult and stressed out constantly, it put me so much on the edge for years; and leaving away from her it was good for my mental health. Take it easy; don’t put pressure on yourself. When you become independent, living on your own, it’s truly challenging because of the people around you. Neighbours 😂😂!!! All the best to you ❤️
My son pays rent and lives at his brother's house. He is saving his money and will possibly buy his own home someday. He doesn't have full self-awareness of his illness so I like to check up on him but I have to bring him lots of gifts and stuff and make him good meals and be very loving because otherwise he tends to think I will send him to the hospital or call the police on him if he shows any behavior or thoughts that I might find questionable. (Like not sleeping.) It's a difficult situation because he can't judge his own wellness. It would scare the crap out of me if he moved far away but I could check on him by phone probably. Having gone through the nightmare of him without his medication, I am petrified that it could happen again. (He has anosognosia.) Maybe these videos will help me. I have recently been looking into therapy because it can't be good for my son and I or our relationship to be hovering so closely.
Thank you for sharing and for your support. Have a happy and healthy rest of your day.
I understand what you are thinking about the old house. Bad memories. Twenty four is a common age for "kids" to move out. I have a niece who moved to Texas. After two short leases she's moving to a major city closer to home. She's decorating in Barbie (egads). Pink shell couch and special acrylic table. I told my sister it is perching furniture. But at this age it's all about experimentation.
Congratulations, Stephen! It's great to hear from you. Whenever you and your support system, including your parents and medical support, think it's the right time, is the right time. It's great that you are planning this out years ahead of time, but don't be discouraged if it doesn't fall directly in your timeline. I would try practicing to clean and cook, as well as budget, if you are going to move out. Being within walking distance of a bus line, since you do not drive, would also probably be a consideration. I'm glad you are doing this while having parental support, as it makes it so much easier. I moved out to the dorms in College when I was 19 to 21, and don't regret it. I didn't officially "move out" of my parent's house, though, until I was 26. Make sure to always have a plan in place, and don't be afraid to deviate from that plan if you need to accommodate some other consideration. Best of luck to you!
He drives ...
You have a great support system.
May all your hopes and dreams come true Stephen.
Good luck on the move. Parents can visit you anytime. Sir I’m wondering have you tried sound canceling earphones? As even if you follow through on moving the new place can have outside noise. I had to listen to kids screaming as they had fun in their above ground pool for almost 20 years. I would always jump after hearing them. Therefore, read the “review’s” for places like apartments. I was residing in a house. Best Wishes!🙏🏼
Praying for you to make your decision work and be happy.
Hey Stephen, It sounds like you have a plan. Don't forget to ensure you live near services. You will need to practice cooking, doing laundry, cleaning, shopping, paying bills, etc.. in the meantime ( not to put you off, or anything 😮).
Renting or buying a small apartment in a small, low height complex near services sounds good. Hopefully, they are not too expensive, and the property tax not too high.
Never be envious of others or try to be like other people, though. You are you, and you are nice just the way you are.
Life isn't as perfect for normo typical people as you may think. Don't believe what you see on TV , Facebook, etc. either. People tend to only talk about the good parts of their lives. Life is a struggle with moments of wonderfulness. It takes courage to plod on.
Dorm life can be hell. It's hard for everyone to meet friends and partners. The world is full of broken hearts and people masking at being happy. Enjoy the moment, I say. Don't waste life thinking you are missing out.
Through enjoying the moment, you will find all the hidden wonderfulness. You will attract people to you too. Did you think about getting a dog / pet when you get your own place?
A small house sounds good - there is too much noise from neighbors in apartments. It’s great that you have the goal of living on your own.
My son is in full psychosis in the hospital explain to me today that his insurance denied him for any longer so he is going to be home tomorrow and I am very scared.
I don't know if I'm going to be capable of keeping him safe
I'm also very sure that you are now stepping up and stepping out to a new life of independence. I also think you are very near to getting to the point of finding a forever soul mate that's the right fit for you to share your life with. You have a lot to offer someone just right for you
Sounds like such a good start! Wishing you the best ❤ I'm so incredibly sad that you are on these toxic drugs. Hopefully you will be able to move forward, and progress, when you leave the suffocating circumstances your living under right now.
I don't know how wise it is to be on your own. If you do go out on your own make certain that you have someone who is checking in on you regularly and by that I mean daily. Schizophrenia and autonomy are a terrible mix. I hate to say that but it is true. The more autonomy you have the less likely you are to continue taking the medications that are making you feel better. Feeling better does not mean you have been cured. You wouldn't stop taking heart medications because you felt better on them as it would give you a heart attack if you stopped. Your brain will begin to attack you very rapidly if you stop taking any of your other medications for psychosis and your schizophrenia. I don't know I think this is a bad idea. I know they want to respect your wishes and I know that you have feelings which are entirely valid and they are your own. I think it would be better if you mitigated the misophonia rather than isolate yourself away from your caregivers.
Not for all schizophrenics. There is a spectrum. I live alone perfectly fine and work. But according to my psychiatrist, I am an exception but there are differently more like me out in the world. But your concern is valid regarding not taking the medication. It is very common for many to stop. But not all all do that and if they do it once sometimes they have the insight to learn from it. My illness onset was much later in life after having started working at age 16 and graduating college.
@@articfox5693 I wouldn't be someone to put schizophrenia on a spectrum. It's very specific mental illness based entirely upon deficits in processing visual data. I'm glad that you're managing it extremely well. The issue with it is that the better you feel the less likely you are to continue trying to manage something you no longer believe is real. That's the problem with all forms of psychosis. It's a very nature of psychosis is an inability to distinguish between reality and fantasy. I'm glad you have a psychiatrist. That is your constant caregiver or at least one of them. You can live alone but most certainly not without the vigilance of people who love you enough to dedicate daily time to your struggle just by checking in with you. I wish you the best of outcomes.
@@Sn0wShepherd You made a great point about having a caregiver or people that love you enough. In fact, every night after taking my medication I let my mother know. He might need to do that too. Also, I found finally a medication with very minor side effects that really do not bother me. It took me six years to find the right medication. But I can imagine someone with moderate to serious side effects really tempted to stop their medication which is why there should be some vigilance like you said. I should mention that I live with roommates which I would recommend to him if he was not sensitive to noises. I have never relapsed on my medication but my roommates can help see if I am a little off. No one notices that I have an illness unless I tell them. But again I take my medication. Thanks for your wishes!
I think I understand your concerns and I think they are very valid. However, Stephen has great insight into his condition and he is self aware. I would like him to at least try living on his own as that may even benefit his mental health but he has supportive family and he can go back to living with them if living on his own becomes problematic.
@@rosieposie9564 That's the problem, tho, is that insight vanishes the instant stress or trauma triggers a psychotic break. And anything could potentially compromise that clarity. Just be VERY careful and have others be loving and vigilant, okay?
Exciting news man. It's different living alone though, think about it carefully and consider your options. All the best with things : )
Congratulations and best of luck to you! ❤
Good for you, Stephen.
Here are some suggestions to monitor mental health without loved ones nearby dayly. Writing diary notei down modes during each day. Get a smart watch that monitors sleap patterns. Dayly short telephone calls with lovedones alternative zoom cals. There are smart phones apps to use to monitor changes in moods. With these tools you can easier detect changes in moods to better be able to modify medication when needed.
If you have a psychotic episode, don't expect sympathy or understanding from your new neighbours and not even from near-by relatives. I don't know how you behave when you're psychotic but if you do/say crazy things you'll end up with police at the door, maybe put under treatment order or institutionalized, where you'll be far worse off than with your parents, unless they're absolutely unbearable. Also, do you work? If not, how could pay rent or buy a house? Don't want to dampen your spirits but your plans do not sound realistic to me, unless of course you or your parents are very wealthy.
good luck with that , I hope you find a very nice place close to your parents
Great for getting motivated! You could definitely practice! A hotel room stay for a couple nights. Get used to having neighbors and different noises. Can even bring your cooking skills along if the room has a kitchenette. Or, your parents can get away for a night for practice so you’re in your own environment.
It is so encouraging to have a goal to work towards. Exciting adventure in your future. I am looking for more land to buy for my son and build a tiny home on for him. We are setting those goals now. You are doing great, hang in there❤
Wow, you are amazing. Thank you for sharing all your experiences, bad and good. Here is wishing you all the best in all your future endeavors and we'll keep watching. Thanks again!!!
This is so good I’m moving out of my parents house as well I also have schizophrenia 😊
That’s awesome , I have schizophrenia too and hoping to sometime get my own place as well
I wish you all the best. Very good plans indeed. Great for you.
thank you Steven, you are very amazing. I hope all goes well with you. Good luck!
Thanks!
Thank you Greg so very much! Your support of me and my channel is just incredible. It means the world to me! I am feeling a lot better now, though it has been a tough couple weeks. I plan on getting a video out early in the new year which will explain what has been going on with me. I wish you a very happy and healthy New Year! Thank you for your support.
Sometimes having future plans makes all the difference! Is so helpful to work toward a concrete goal. Well done making this decision for yourself.❤❤
Thanks for the update. I like your haircut.
I am looking forward to seeing you move forward on this journey.