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"Let them reveal who they are rather than imagining who they are not" - OMG this is so powerful. This one line, unlocks things at so many level, to bring mental peace.
Growing up with a volatile, violent parent…we didnt ever “manage their mood”. But we sure hell managed our own as hard as we could, simply to get through. Sad story.
Jay is the best example of listening and learning well. In so many interviews, no matter how often his brilliant response is interrupted, he continues to listen with such grace and intent. Great interview. Well done.
Sooo true! I now have two buckets…your adding to my life or your taking from it. I’ve communicated that which removes the guilt of walking away! Have a blessed year!
I have a co worker who showen his true colours and didn't touch me a bit. I was not upset, i didn't think it was about me but more about his mindset. The big boss called him upon his behaviour and now he apologised... it was me watching the situationeel as a third person ... very weird. Didn't touch me emotionally one bit.
Sounds sort of like, Give me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The courage to change to change the things that I can and The wisdom to know the difference. Thank you Mel and Jay.❤❤
For real! It can totally be life-changing. Just think about how freeing it is to let go of those heavy feelings. It opens up so many opportunities for positivity and growth.
I can resonate with your daughter Mel. My partner with whom I wanted to marry just broke up with me a week back. I am having sudden fits of rage and just zoning out thinking about what could have been. While listening to this conversation, I deleted whatever pictures I had of her and us as I realised I was getting sucked into that vortex of what could have been. Every point you spoke about heartbreaks is true in my case and I thank you for helping me. I am not angry with her, I wish the best for her and I am just letting her leave and move on. Thank you :)
I found it really poetic that the video begins with Mel saying that we all have a hard wired need to control everything, yet at the end her ABC technique is all about letting go of that - apologising for pushing, backing off, and celebrating every success. Beautiful 😊
She's like a fucking AI! Seriously! Every single sentence sounds like out of a book or at least like it was prepared in advance. Her eloquence is off the charts.
I love this!!! We recently got engaged and some of our family members were upset that they weren't told ahead of time that it was going to happen or weren't present on the day it happened, we don't even live in the same state. Why did they turn it around on them instead of being happy for us? We just let them be and moved on to the wedding planning stages.
Yes 🙌 because who are you marrying? Your fiancé, not your upset family members 😊 it seems obvious but I think a lot of us having fallen into people pleasing over the years x
Let me!!! Remove myself from the people/ family that drain me ECT. Love it !! We feel so attached to that person. I value my time and energy now!! Paying attention to all people now.
I was a mom (directively guiding) and a teacher for 35 years. It was/is so hard to grow out of the well meaning wisdom I offer 😂❤ Yet definitely not welcome approach for my dad (set on his way), our adult married children (sovereign from me), addicts on our family tree, and husband….😅 This Will help me!
If you're able to successfully employ this as a teacher in an urban, public school, I want to know what happened. I'm a retired teacher. Teachers are bombarded with stress. I wish you well; I just wonder if anything can save the teaching profession when kids are out of control and parents are not doing their job.
I love the way Mel puts all her ideas and thoughts in a simple and easy way to understand. Her new book is a modern version of Stoicism. Great message to start a new year. Keep up all your great work Mel.
Yes yes yes Mel. Right on! After 33 years w a narc, and 22 more years healing, this sentence has had the most impact on me. The high I get being able to put that in place is without comparison. Has freed me to be me and the rest can go pound sand. ❤
The end of my 5 year relationship with the mother of my child, my family I've moved mountains for, that I provided for day in and day out. As she decided to throw in the towel and show me she's not interested in a real true loving growth filled relationship... I will let her. I'm writing it down everywhere I can so I can see it constantly. Let them. 💔😓🙏🏼 Thank you Mel...
I feel like I am having a full circle of my life experience with the Let Them Theory. People always say you are so strong and you are so strong headed but the reality is that I always, always applied this feeling of "Well you have and you will and you do [so I let you] and then you need to leave me the hell alone so that I can. There is so much POWER. So much in how break this down to us Mel. I can not wait to get my copy of your book, you are all over my vision board! What I would love to see next is the actually story of your life in how this has brought you here and I feel there is where the POWER truly sits in your story. This book is just the beginning xoxo
This morning, I couldn’t find my daily prayer. So instead, God led me to two amazing people in the same podcast and I really needed to hear this podcast because of the struggles that I’ve gone through lately and how I view people and how I view how people view me so thank you to both of you for this Amazing podcast
Here in Ireland we use the saying "ah sure let them" all the time. It really takes the power out of whatever is causing you bother. Thanks for another great podcast Jay and Mel 💖
I finished reading Ann Napolitano’s Hello Beautiful shortly before listening to this…I kept thinking throughout the whole book; why can’t Julia just love William the way he is!
No- learn to remove yourself from toxic people. "Let them" doesn't mean allow others to treat you badly. It means accept that you can't change others which is not a new concept.
Dont get me wrong when i say this because my mother was amazing and is my rock but i really needed this woman as my mother due to my beliefs and how i am personally. My son needs this woman too. My mothers parents lacked the means to educate her enough to be like this woman because i know if she had present parents she would of been just like this. Trauma is hard especially when it passes on to the next generation and so on. Thank you for the video. i will be doing some stretches and yoga while i watch this honestly. have a wonderful 2025 Jay!!
I recently left a relationship with someone that thought it was ok to be in a committed relationship and continue to follow only fans or woman in lingerie after I told him I felt like it was disrespectful to me… he continued to do it and I thought to myself let them, it’s who he is and I’m not going to change someone… I was disappointed but if someone can’t respect me they can keep doing them without me in it…
I would feel the same way if my girl was looking at pictures and liking dudes pics it's disrespectful as hell basically showing them they're interested through back and forth likes we all know how us humans are.
Hello Kimberly, such behavior should not be tolerated. I would like to invite you share your story on a podcast: Life Sucks, Let's Talk About It! An advice based podcast focused on Relationships. Whether it's romantic, familial, friendships, or work dynamics-we are looking for guests to come on and discuss the real issues we all face in our relationships. From communication struggles to navigating life changes, we're here to dive into the challenges of all types of connections. Let’s break down the complexities of every kind of relationship-because every connection deserves to be real, raw, and better.
Thank both of you! ❤❤ "Let them" is a mindful sttategy! When you "let them", it totally removes the urge from the other part to fight against you. You know, if you insist or try to get something, the other part (if is in the mood) creates the opposition or resistance towards your hopes, but if you vibration tells: "Let you..." there is nothing that the other part can resist or oppose. Hopefully I made my point.
She's done a great job at detailing the inner workings of radical acceptance! This gradually became how I approached life after my brother died from suicide and several unhealthy relationships. Thank you for putting it all into easy to understand words, Mel!!!
I started this let them before I seen this podcast. I let my family do what they needed to do for Christmas. I let my older children do what they wanted. It was the best thing I did. You are right Mel saying let them take the power away. It actually gave me the power. I can’t wait to read the book. Thank you Jay and Mel 🙏🏼
My friends and family relationships has improved by the let them theory and people actually respect me and it’s two way friendship now. No more draining energy it’s so freeing. I am so grateful for for mel.❤❤
I use the just let them all the time. Now. It is your legacy because it has a huge impact in people's lives if they just adopt what you're saying. Thanks for being alive. You're a gem!❤
Such a powerful message. Thank you Mel for your wisdom. I can’t wait to apply “let them” into my journey and see how it can positively change my awareness, self love and ability to be a better person.
Nailed it! You look like you have a crystal ball into human psychology! Everything you said resonates with me! Thank you so much for this. I needed to hear all of it.❤
PLEASE STOP I watch both of you every morning, what a wonderful video and way to continue 2025. LOVE LOVE LOVE to see you guys together. Thank you both.
Its like Jay just decided to get something for me I've been living my whole life trying to stress out on how people treat me and its been hard to just concentrate on my business and just this year i had this decision of wanting to LIVE for me finally and this is my guidance Grateful to have come here this morning
I admire people like Mel and Jay who are so passionate about helping others by sharing their stories and ideas that I’ve decided to strive to become more like them myself. I used to be someone filled with fear and anxiety, but people like Mel, Jay, and others (Tony Robbins, Jamie Kern Lima, Ed Mylett, to name a few) have helped me to become a person who is filled with love for others, free from the fears and anxieties I once had. Thank you so much! I love you, and I will continue to share my own stories and your ideas to help others grow.
I'm a person with high anxiety and fear but always help others to thrive, but when it comes to me, I fail. As a result I'v lost many opp. How did u do this?
I love this methode because i've been practiceing it without even realiseing it..... I think life and expirience teaches you this sooner or later,but only if you're willing to go inward.
Agreed. This is the first time Ive heard those specific phrases used but Ive been practicing this forever (my family has rage issues, time issues, travel issues and control issues) and theyre always puzzled why I dont 😂
First off I love both of you. You both are some of my favorite teachers. Secondly I love how you point out to let your wife make decisions about what she wants… I had an ex that would always ask me what I wanted… and it made me feel that he lacked his own self confidence but now maybe it was that his parents always took care of him. But I really love when people know what they want… it is inspiring and it makes you live more authentically
Such an eye opening podcast, I didn’t know how unconscious we are about our behaviour and wasting energy every single day. Thank you Jay for doing such great work to help people.🙏🌸✨❤️
Wow this hit me to the point, them being dishonest about something is them being honest and it is the reality , thinking of all the time and energy we spend on that person as as spending a dollar and seeing that is how much we spent all the time and energy was just a " OH MY GOD" moment for me.❤
Mel, I'm so glad you brought up "the money for everything" line Jay said. What a clever way to look at your personal worth and then where to invest, solely on what is best for you. Your gem Mel, let them be disappointed. Its a compliment you can hold onto when youre sad about the situation. You flipped, what could be a stressful situation, into a positive one! Wow, that total scenario got turned on its ass! Brilliant. I think this is the most insightful and coherent podcast I've ever watched. You two work off eachother well. Thx for stimulating my brain for a change, refreshing. Hey, gonna follow both of ya now. Cheers. You're both worth my energy and time!
Enjoying every minute of this podcast nodding my head… Oh! Let them be, let it be, choose your peace at all cost and you have the power to remain sane and not let stupid people or things ruin your present. 💯
Wooow im speechless, i think this is one of my favorite episodes ever! I love Jay and I love Mel, and absolutely love the Let them theory. This is gold ✨
My Dad taught me this same principle when I was a kid and I am now 57. It’s not a new way of thinking. Each person can realize this at their own time in Life. Thankfully, what my Dad taught me has worked well for me all these decades…and still does. ❤
This is soooo true!!!!!! all of it! Proximity, TIming and Energy!!!! I just released some friends, b/c I decided to do things differently.... the Energy had changed..... I love this might be my favorite! but I say that almost every time lol I see your pod casts! Showing all the kiddies b/c this is important to know moving out into the world, before they move out into the world!
I came here because my teacher shared this video to our group for speaking,nowadays I was struggling within relationships with my relatives,friends and others,I really needed this video❤️I’m just 15 but now I think I’m strong enough to let them due to this interview,rn I’m feeling so healed and relaxed,thanks to my teacher who shared this video,thank to Mel and Jay and also thanks to my friends and relatives for revealing themselves🫶🫶
i love this! i need to read the book.. but while listening I had to take notes! i loved what she was saying that much that I wanted to remember what she said and take that advice into my life.
I am doing this book as my Book Club because it is very thought-provoking. Having said that, the idea that we need to understand that people are busy (at around 50:00) and have their own things going on and that may be the reason messages go unanswered, does not sit well with me and my value system. In saying that they are busy, we are giving people a free pass to be abusive, impolite and not follow simple etiquette. Clearly this behaviour is something I take umbrage to as I firmly believe that no one is too busy - it just depends on where you are on their priority list. Just my two cents ... but once again, I like videos that are food for thought and give me a launch pad from which to question, assess and dive deep into ideas that I may have not otherwise had.
Let them be busy and let them prioritise other things or other people. There's your truth. And then you decide where you focus your time, which probably won't be them.
Thank you, soo many lesson learned, the “Let Them” is truly a gateway to a good life for us all and will definitely be applying it in a positive way in my life 😊thank you once again.
Thank you so much for writing this book! By the end of the book, I realized that I had learned more from your writing than I have in the past 10 years of my individual therapy! I am going to continue learning more about this on your RUclips talks…
Mel, Jay, thank you. I, too, have a different perspective on Let Them after listening to this podcast. We get to choose to find the amazing qualities of a loved one and stop complaining about the one or two annoying personality traits, or to let them move on.
What a BEAUTIFUL interview!!! From 2 very genuine, caring, intelligent people who openly share their life lessons so that we can all feel helped along our journey too ❤ Thank you so much Jay and Mel! This is life changing advice! ✨️
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"Let them reveal who they are rather than imagining who they are not" - OMG this is so powerful. This one line, unlocks things at so many level, to bring mental peace.
Agreed 😊
“Why am I making it my job to manage their mood?” That just shook me
Yes and look up external locus of control, if you’re healthy, you have an internal locus of control and don’t blame others for how you feel
Amazing video quick q but the Let them theory doesn't MEAN U ALLOW BS FRM PEOPLE OR" LET THEM TAKE ADVANTAGE OF U!!!RIGHT?
Growing up with a volatile, violent parent…we didnt ever “manage their mood”. But we sure hell managed our own as hard as we could, simply to get through. Sad story.
SO GOOD
Really great
Jay is the best example of listening and learning well. In so many interviews, no matter how often his brilliant response is interrupted, he continues to listen with such grace and intent. Great interview. Well done.
Thank you so much for watching!
I have this written on my bathroom mirror, so that I see it frequently....
"Peace begins where expectations end"
Romans 8:18 is on my mirror 😮 reminded me of this quote
Sooo true! I now have two buckets…your adding to my life or your taking from it. I’ve communicated that which removes the guilt of walking away! Have a blessed year!
Very powerful
I like this! I understand it as "Let them show you who they are, don't stop them".
I have a co worker who showen his true colours and didn't touch me a bit. I was not upset, i didn't think it was about me but more about his mindset. The big boss called him upon his behaviour and now he apologised... it was me watching the situationeel as a third person ... very weird. Didn't touch me emotionally one bit.
Such a good message
"When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time."
Maya Angelou was brilliant!
Sounds sort of like,
Give me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change to change the things that I can and
The wisdom to know the difference.
Thank you Mel and Jay.❤❤
Exactly, so why is this concept groundbreaking?
I thought the same
Too many words 😂 Let Them, Let Me is pretty snappy
And thats coming from someone who says the long version every wk
Jay how would I get one of your shirts thank you very much Peter Bergen
Indeed! Say that prayer.
For real! It can totally be life-changing. Just think about how freeing it is to let go of those heavy feelings. It opens up so many opportunities for positivity and growth.
Exactly!!! ❤
I NEED THIS 500% RIGHT THT NOW❤
I can resonate with your daughter Mel. My partner with whom I wanted to marry just broke up with me a week back. I am having sudden fits of rage and just zoning out thinking about what could have been. While listening to this conversation, I deleted whatever pictures I had of her and us as I realised I was getting sucked into that vortex of what could have been. Every point you spoke about heartbreaks is true in my case and I thank you for helping me. I am not angry with her, I wish the best for her and I am just letting her leave and move on. Thank you :)
I found it really poetic that the video begins with Mel saying that we all have a hard wired need to control everything, yet at the end her ABC technique is all about letting go of that - apologising for pushing, backing off, and celebrating every success. Beautiful 😊
Something about Mel is that everything she says it`s so pleasant to listen to. Articulated so accurately
She's like a fucking AI! Seriously!
Every single sentence sounds like out of a book or at least like it was prepared in advance. Her eloquence is off the charts.
The adult friendship section really got me in tears. That’s so powerful, thank you Mel and Jay
Let Them has made a big difference in the way that I deal with people and has given me the chance to take my power back. Thank You Mel Robbins!!!!!
I love this!!! We recently got engaged and some of our family members were upset that they weren't told ahead of time that it was going to happen or weren't present on the day it happened, we don't even live in the same state. Why did they turn it around on them instead of being happy for us? We just let them be and moved on to the wedding planning stages.
Yes 🙌 because who are you marrying? Your fiancé, not your upset family members 😊 it seems obvious but I think a lot of us having fallen into people pleasing over the years x
Let me!!! Remove myself from the people/ family that drain me ECT. Love it !! We feel so attached to that person. I value my time and energy now!! Paying attention to all people now.
I was watching this and youtube ad popped up. I said: “Let them” 😅
😂😂😂
I was reading the comments section and then I read yours and I said: Let them 😂
I am a teacher and this is the most challenging thing to do. I will be practicing this every single day.
I am too, I was thinking to practice this as well!
I was a mom (directively guiding) and a teacher for 35 years. It was/is so hard to grow out of the well meaning wisdom I offer 😂❤
Yet definitely not welcome approach for my dad (set on his way), our adult married children (sovereign from me), addicts on our family tree, and husband….😅
This Will help me!
If you're able to successfully employ this as a teacher in an urban, public school, I want to know what happened. I'm a retired teacher. Teachers are bombarded with stress. I wish you well; I just wonder if anything can save the teaching profession when kids are out of control and parents are not doing their job.
I want to know if Let Them works in being a classroom teacher.
I love the way Mel puts all her ideas and thoughts in a simple and easy way to understand. Her new book is a modern version of Stoicism. Great message to start a new year. Keep up all your great work Mel.
Let them is now my favorite book. First thing that I listen to when I wake up to get me going. The audio version is worth every penny.
“Them lying is showing you their truth. Thats how much they value you”
Keep a of incident involving a narcissist.
I'm now free from my narc partner with the help of*_Top_notech*
They are on instagram and telegram
Yes yes yes Mel. Right on! After 33 years w a narc, and 22 more years healing, this sentence has had the most impact on me. The high I get being able to put that in place is without comparison. Has freed me to be me and the rest can go pound sand. ❤
The end of my 5 year relationship with the mother of my child, my family I've moved mountains for, that I provided for day in and day out. As she decided to throw in the towel and show me she's not interested in a real true loving growth filled relationship... I will let her. I'm writing it down everywhere I can so I can see it constantly.
Let them. 💔😓🙏🏼
Thank you Mel...
Every single word that Mel says is GENIUS! It’s incredible
And you should develop critical thinking. "Every single word is GENIUS"...Really?
Don’t agree it warrants that term but it is quite interesting.
@@lindalastovickova3335
Sorry- it's not genius. It's not a new concept. When people show you who they are, believe them.
Thanks!
I feel like I am having a full circle of my life experience with the Let Them Theory. People always say you are so strong and you are so strong headed but the reality is that I always, always applied this feeling of "Well you have and you will and you do [so I let you] and then you need to leave me the hell alone so that I can. There is so much POWER. So much in how break this down to us Mel. I can not wait to get my copy of your book, you are all over my vision board! What I would love to see next is the actually story of your life in how this has brought you here and I feel there is where the POWER truly sits in your story. This book is just the beginning xoxo
This morning, I couldn’t find my daily prayer. So instead, God led me to two amazing people in the same podcast and I really needed to hear this podcast because of the struggles that I’ve gone through lately and how I view people and how I view how people view me so thank you to both of you for this Amazing podcast
Here in Ireland we use the saying "ah sure let them" all the time. It really takes the power out of whatever is causing you bother. Thanks for another great podcast Jay and Mel 💖
I have developed empathy for people full of hate and negative energy. Thankful to not be in that sort of mindset.
"learn to love people as they are" that's they key ! working on this
I finished reading Ann Napolitano’s Hello Beautiful shortly before listening to this…I kept thinking throughout the whole book; why can’t Julia just love William the way he is!
Or accept and move on
No- learn to remove yourself from toxic people. "Let them" doesn't mean allow others to treat you badly. It means accept that you can't change others which is not a new concept.
“I am not what I think I am,
I am not what you think I am,
I am what I think that you think I am” 💯
Narcissists understand this.
Dont get me wrong when i say this because my mother was amazing and is my rock but i really needed this woman as my mother due to my beliefs and how i am personally. My son needs this woman too. My mothers parents lacked the means to educate her enough to be like this woman because i know if she had present parents she would of been just like this. Trauma is hard especially when it passes on to the next generation and so on. Thank you for the video. i will be doing some stretches and yoga while i watch this honestly. have a wonderful 2025 Jay!!
I recently left a relationship with someone that thought it was ok to be in a committed relationship and continue to follow only fans or woman in lingerie after I told him I felt like it was disrespectful to me… he continued to do it and I thought to myself let them, it’s who he is and I’m not going to change someone… I was disappointed but if someone can’t respect me they can keep doing them without me in it…
I would feel the same way if my girl was looking at pictures and liking dudes pics it's disrespectful as hell basically showing them they're interested through back and forth likes we all know how us humans are.
@@jandro2xmotivator892its sad to think there are people who are deliberately choosing social media over their real relationships
Hello Kimberly, such behavior should not be tolerated. I would like to invite you share your story on a podcast: Life Sucks, Let's Talk About It!
An advice based podcast focused on Relationships. Whether it's romantic, familial, friendships, or work dynamics-we are looking for guests to come on and discuss the real issues we all face in our relationships. From communication struggles to navigating life changes, we're here to dive into the challenges of all types of connections. Let’s break down the complexities of every kind of relationship-because every connection deserves to be real, raw, and better.
Hope you find the perfect man lol
@@MrRalphJackhe does not have to be perfect just respectful
Thank both of you! ❤❤ "Let them" is a mindful sttategy! When you "let them", it totally removes the urge from the other part to fight against you. You know, if you insist or try to get something, the other part (if is in the mood) creates the opposition or resistance towards your hopes, but if you vibration tells: "Let you..." there is nothing that the other part can resist or oppose. Hopefully I made my point.
She's done a great job at detailing the inner workings of radical acceptance! This gradually became how I approached life after my brother died from suicide and several unhealthy relationships. Thank you for putting it all into easy to understand words, Mel!!!
I started this let them before I seen this podcast. I let my family do what they needed to do for Christmas. I let my older children do what they wanted. It was the best thing I did. You are right Mel saying let them take the power away. It actually gave me the power. I can’t wait to read the book. Thank you Jay and Mel 🙏🏼
A wise Woman I once knew said, “instead of “letting it go”, maybe you can try to just “let it be”.”
😊🙏
My friends and family relationships has improved by the let them theory and people actually respect me and it’s two way friendship now. No more draining energy it’s so freeing. I am so grateful for for mel.❤❤
this is probably one of the most powerful podcasts i have ever listened. Thank you!!!!!!!
This is exactly what the 2nd point of art of living course taught me. To accept situations as they are, and (let me) act on it
I use the just let them all the time. Now. It is your legacy because it has a huge impact in people's lives if they just adopt what you're saying. Thanks for being alive. You're a gem!❤
I'm soooo stressed these past few days because of my co-workers. And I'm lucky that I saw this. Thank you so much
This entire podcast changed my perception about EVERYTHING in life. I really want this in Hindi so that my mom can watch it and understand it too
This is one of The most helpful episodes I have ever watched 😮
Such a powerful message. Thank you Mel for your wisdom. I can’t wait to apply “let them” into my journey and see how it can positively change my awareness, self love and ability to be a better person.
Nailed it! You look like you have a crystal ball into human psychology! Everything you said resonates with me! Thank you so much for this. I needed to hear all of it.❤
PLEASE STOP I watch both of you every morning, what a wonderful video and way to continue 2025. LOVE LOVE LOVE to see you guys together. Thank you both.
Me too!!!!
❤❤❤
Its like Jay just decided to get something for me
I've been living my whole life trying to stress out on how people treat me and its been hard to just concentrate on my business and just this year i had this decision of wanting to LIVE for me finally and this is my guidance
Grateful to have come here this morning
I admire people like Mel and Jay who are so passionate about helping others by sharing their stories and ideas that I’ve decided to strive to become more like them myself. I used to be someone filled with fear and anxiety, but people like Mel, Jay, and others (Tony Robbins, Jamie Kern Lima, Ed Mylett, to name a few) have helped me to become a person who is filled with love for others, free from the fears and anxieties I once had. Thank you so much! I love you, and I will continue to share my own stories and your ideas to help others grow.
I'm a person with high anxiety and fear but always help others to thrive, but when it comes to me, I fail. As a result I'v lost many opp. How did u do this?
Ooohhh yes, Jay AND Mel, I’m loving this combo
❤❤❤
Thank you for listening! Make sure you subscribe so you don’t miss an episode I 2025. We’re going to create an amazing year together!
Ok
Love the ,”don’t expect too much from others” portion Mel is sooo fire !!🔥
I love this methode because i've been practiceing it without even realiseing it..... I think life and expirience teaches you this sooner or later,but only if you're willing to go inward.
Agreed. This is the first time Ive heard those specific phrases used but Ive been practicing this forever
(my family has rage issues, time issues, travel issues and control issues) and theyre always puzzled why I dont 😂
First off I love both of you. You both are some of my favorite teachers. Secondly I love how you point out to let your wife make decisions about what she wants… I had an ex that would always ask me what I wanted… and it made me feel that he lacked his own self confidence but now maybe it was that his parents always took care of him. But I really love when people know what they want… it is inspiring and it makes you live more authentically
This episode was very much needed today!! ❤❤ Ready to attack the day now
She is so right about the difference between 'let it go' and 'let them' . LOVE MEL ❤ thanks Jey for this ❤
Could you please explain the difference between “let it go” and “let them”?
WOW!!! What a treat to start the year!
My 2 favorite Podcasters that got me through 2024 🙏🏿
Life changing theory 🙏🏼 let people show you who they are and then you choose what to do🎉
Such an eye opening podcast, I didn’t know how unconscious we are about our behaviour and wasting energy every single day. Thank you Jay for doing such great work to help people.🙏🌸✨❤️
Omg Mel this is GOLD! And it can be applied to every aspect of life! Thank you! Best life changing interview ever Jay! ❤
Wow this hit me to the point, them being dishonest about something is them being honest and it is the reality , thinking of all the time and energy we spend on that person as as spending a dollar and seeing that is how much we spent all the time and energy was just a " OH MY GOD" moment for me.❤
I love Mell and her wisdom!
22:37 That is SO powerful when you let people show you who they are.
Wonderful guest!! 2 of the most genuine people that help others!! This was so helpful and buying that book!!
Two of my favorite people on the planet. Thank you for what you do.
As I finished this video, something happened and I was ABOUT TO GET ANNOYED AND ANGRY AND FRUSTRATED… I tried this & oh my… life changing😄😭🙏💕
Mel, I'm so glad you brought up "the money for everything" line Jay said. What a clever way to look at your personal worth and then where to invest, solely on what is best for you.
Your gem Mel, let them be disappointed. Its a compliment you can hold onto when youre sad about the situation. You flipped, what could be a stressful situation, into a positive one! Wow, that total scenario got turned on its ass! Brilliant. I think this is the most insightful and coherent podcast I've ever watched. You two work off eachother well. Thx for stimulating my brain for a change, refreshing.
Hey, gonna follow both of ya now. Cheers.
You're both worth my energy and time!
Enjoying every minute of this podcast nodding my head…
Oh! Let them be, let it be, choose your peace at all cost and you have the power to remain sane and not let stupid people or things ruin your present. 💯
Had to watch this twice! Guess what guys! I'm about the watch it again and again! Whaaaaaatttttt this is sooo powerful Thank you Mel Thank you Jay.
Wooow im speechless, i think this is one of my favorite episodes ever!
I love Jay and I love Mel, and absolutely love the Let them theory. This is gold ✨
My Dad taught me this same principle when I was a kid and I am now 57. It’s not a new way of thinking.
Each person can realize this at their own time in Life.
Thankfully, what my Dad taught me has worked well for me all these decades…and still does. ❤
This isn’t new at all.
@@nadsclaire4696might not be knew but I assure you there are many that are hearing it for the first time.
Common sense isn't so common anymore, it got lost, took a wrong turn or something, over the years.
Btw, ill be 57 in 12 days!😁
The concept of Let Them & Let Me are exactly the kind of succinct tips that my brain loves & work for me, ty❣️
This is soooo true!!!!!! all of it! Proximity, TIming and Energy!!!! I just released some friends, b/c I decided to do things differently.... the Energy had changed..... I love this might be my favorite! but I say that almost every time lol I see your pod casts! Showing all the kiddies b/c this is important to know moving out into the world, before they move out into the world!
Practising non violent communication by Marshall Rosenberg is key. Observation / feeling / express your need/ request
Thanks!
I came here because my teacher shared this video to our group for speaking,nowadays I was struggling within relationships with my relatives,friends and others,I really needed this video❤️I’m just 15 but now I think I’m strong enough to let them due to this interview,rn I’m feeling so healed and relaxed,thanks to my teacher who shared this video,thank to Mel and Jay and also thanks to my friends and relatives for revealing themselves🫶🫶
I haven't listened to a podcast from Mel Robbins in a long time but this podcast is very interesting!
Am so happy to start my new year from here. I have to listen to this conversation again; so rich...
i love this! i need to read the book.. but while listening I had to take notes! i loved what she was saying that much that I wanted to remember what she said and take that advice into my life.
Great conversation.
I purchased "Think Like a monk" book and its an enlightenment. Thanks for writing this book , Jay Shetty!
I am doing this book as my Book Club because it is very thought-provoking. Having said that, the idea that we need to understand that people are busy (at around 50:00) and have their own things going on and that may be the reason messages go unanswered, does not sit well with me and my value system. In saying that they are busy, we are giving people a free pass to be abusive, impolite and not follow simple etiquette. Clearly this behaviour is something I take umbrage to as I firmly believe that no one is too busy - it just depends on where you are on their priority list. Just my two cents ... but once again, I like videos that are food for thought and give me a launch pad from which to question, assess and dive deep into ideas that I may have not otherwise had.
Let them be busy and let them prioritise other things or other people. There's your truth. And then you decide where you focus your time, which probably won't be them.
Thank you, soo many lesson learned, the “Let Them” is truly a gateway to a good life for us all and will definitely be applying it in a positive way in my life 😊thank you once again.
The power in the word "LET THEM" thank you for these beautiful insights ❤
LOVE IT! she put words to what I’ve been practicing. Being a stoic person has helped me a lot to distress!
This whole podcast is complete set of perfection. Thank You Jay and Mel 😊
Powerful awakening!! Total mind and life shift!❤
this podcast helped me so so much. "let them"..."let me" .....life changing words
Loved the collab! Best speaker yet 🙌🏼.
Thank you so much for writing this book! By the end of the book, I realized that I had learned more from your writing than I have in the past 10 years of my individual therapy! I am going to continue learning more about this on your RUclips talks…
Wow, i cried right with you! This was life-changing Mel Robbins. Thank you for sharing your gift.
This video is so helpful in my life right now that I`m amazed. Every minute in this video is priceless. Thank you Jay and Mel
So many gems and jewels dropped in this podcast wow. Can't wait to get into this book!
Mel, Jay, thank you. I, too, have a different perspective on Let Them after listening to this podcast. We get to choose to find the amazing qualities of a loved one and stop complaining about the one or two annoying personality traits, or to let them move on.
What a BEAUTIFUL interview!!! From 2 very genuine, caring, intelligent people who openly share their life lessons so that we can all feel helped along our journey too ❤ Thank you so much Jay and Mel! This is life changing advice! ✨️
Brilliant woman, I love how her mind works ❤️🙏
I'm so glad I saw this episode! Turns out, it gave me some notes I REALLY need for my life right now.
Absolutely loved this interview!
I wish this was in spanish to share it with my mom! This is a gem
Thank you so much for this podcast. Mel Robbins is amazing, one of the women who inspires me the most, and this has helped me so much.
Mr. Shetty!! Your talk show is absolutely mind-blowing, man! Again, and again, thank you very very much indeed!! 🤠💙