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I think my best "traumatize them back" moment was when my mom told me that what she put me through didn't matter because it was a few months ago, so I responded with "Then why are you still pissed at [ex step dad's name]? That was over a few months ago."
I can only imagine the reaction
I can only imagine how you must've felt watching her type
"That doesn't count because it's affecting me not you."
@@lawrencelopez9839 That's honestly her thought process. Whatever she says and does is fine but if anything goes wrong and she's affected at all, all hell is let loose
@@lawrencelopez9839 every political debate in a nutshell
Hey, Click. It's called "conversion therapy," and regrettably, it still happens....a LOT.
My college discontinued it's practice of making queer students go to conversion therapy in the 20teens. People wonder why I don't have much school pride...
It is so disgusting
Not all states have legal banned convertion therapy for minor.
But hey transition and conversion are very close in meaning getting thim mixed up is easy to see.
@@Sarah-fr7wi COLLEGE??? Good grief. Although I would be half a gold star worth of proud of them for discontinuing, you gotta start somewhere
It's technically still legal in England which is MAD. Luckily our country doesn't give that much of a shit about religion. It should be classed as a form of psychology torture.
I had a boomer relative ask me when I was going to have kids bc the rest of my siblings have them already and I said “well after I almost died last time, doc said it wouldn’t be safe to try again” really cheerfully and she’s never asked anyone else about kids
My younger sister (both of us genx) actually treats me like ive no bloody clue on taking care of kids, because i was sterile. I have to remind her i was an emt and trauma medic. I raised my older brothers son after he and my sil died in a crash. And my step daughter came into our life when she was 5. Nephew is in college now on a physics scholarship. Step daughter is a computer animation specialist with Cartoon Network. I tell her, nephew is my blood. I raised him. He has no memory of his parents and calls me dad. His choice. My step daughter, she calls me dad too her choice. I taught them to drive, took them to school, helped with homework, and dealt the dirty diapers. I took them to concerts, themeparks, the beach, and helped when i could with school functions. Who did your kids go to theirs with? Mine or the nanny? My sister has never held a job or been part of herbkids life. I raised mine the way my dad raised me. Lots of education even when it seems like fun. Shared my passions and now i share theirs. So how will i never know what being a dad is like? Because i am one.
@@GredelsRage 🫡😊
@@GredelsRageyou sir, are a badass and a great dad. Have a good day ❤
Oh I've done the "You first" thing as a trans person many times. But typically what I ask is either "Are you circumsized?" or "D you shave it bald or have a bush?" and when they go slack jawed I just say "So you don't like me asking about your genitals? Weird you were perfectly happy to ask about mine."
My father is one of those always asking when I talk about someone being trans as if that where an acceptable way to geatger whatever someone is afab or amab.... Last time I asked back whatever he was circumsised, if he still get it up without aid of how his sperm count looks.......... Like wtf its not his fucking buisness whatsin someone elses pants and there are like 3 way more accurate and useful ways to ask if it really where just about he cant recall which way is which and not ment to be invasiv, gross and demeaning...ets nudt say, he does not know I am enby and thats ok since I am mostly gender apathetic anyways
Nice.
Give bold eye contact and mischievous smile "wait, are you hitting on me?"
[Hell, sometimes thats really why].
The circumcision one I've found isn't traumatizing enough to cis men, they'll disclose that pretty casually, at least young and casual type men, so I'd ask how many inches.
@@rickwrites2612 Unfortunately sometimes in my case sometimes they are hitting on me when I don't want them to. So in that case I'd instead say "Well I'm not gonna sleep with you so you don't need to know"
@@autisticnation7140 Eww who asks about genitalia as a pickup line
I have some facial disfigurement due to cancer and I wear a face mask and wear my hair in a way that it covers more scars and such (I've had people ask "what happened" in a rude and demanding way). Recently at work, I had an older woman tell me, "Those are bad for us! You shouldn't be wearing that mask!" I smiled and said in a very chipper, customer service voice, "I have cancer! My oncologist reccomended that I wear one. But thank you for your concern!" The woman looked like a deer in headlights. She stuttered, left to wander the store, and walked out without buying anything. I have many stories like this. People are rude, but traumatizing them back is a sweet, simple pleasure
Cancer patient here too (but my only outward sign is my bald head and the scarred bump on my upper-right chest where the chemo port is) - I’m sorry you have to deal with rude idiots (especially anti-mask Covidiots), and wish successful treatment and a return to good health for you! {{Hugs if you want them}}
@@imweakfordeaky (hugs returned) thank you 🖤 I hope for a return to good health for you too. Much love is sent your way 💜
The only thing that's been really positive is that I've gotten to talk to other women about what I went/still go through about the surgeries and radiation treatments. It's never easy, but talking to others really helps
I don't even understand why they wouldn't be more empathetic afterward. Like we all make mistakes and assumptions sometimes, the appropriate response to finding out she had cancer would be "oh crap, I'm sorry I assumed, I wish you the best with your recovery".
@@rickwrites2612 I had one woman a while back ask about my missing eye, I said "sorry, but I don't like discussing my personal medical history with strangers", she paid, left, and then a bit after called the store to apologize to me. "I'm sorry for asking, that was inappropriate and I'm really sorry". Sadly, that's the only time someone has ever apologized for asking and being rude
@@bxnvrr763 well I'm glad someone did, but man, what is wrong with so many ppl.
I think sone ppl get confused initially because many individuals with very striking visible differences or disabilities when interviewed will say "don't stare, come up and ask me if your curious". Or especially let kids ask. Like it's really common to hear this. So I can see why ppl may initially have confusion about boundaries in public. But even then they could be more sensitive in the approach and if its clear they did not welcome it then an apology us warranted.
I came out when I was 19 or 20 - I'm now 73 and wondering when this "phase" is going to end!
I hear you! This phase seems to be going on for 30+ years for me
Yall I got two years compared to your 30+ and 73 😭 but then again i got a girlfriend so I'm counting it lol. It's not a phase mom 💅
You seem cool
i hope to grow up and be this cheerful too. I recently realized I've been a lesbian after years of dealing with internalized homophobia. I'm 18 now, and I find it genuinely beautiful to be loved by another woman. it's amazing for me, no matter the occasional mishaps that life brings. 😊
Yippie! Gay!!!
I don't have parents, I have a spawn point.
Spawnpoint 😂 Epic
I just fell out off the sky and existed
I'm sorry. I hope you will find your true family
That's rad ngl. Popped out of the abyss of the universe and went on to live a good life despite going through fire and toils to get to the point you're in. Good on you, dude, live well 👍
My mother's name in my contacts is Demonic Origins
My absolute *almost spotless* "traumatize them back" event was when my Mother said, "you don't need my love. You need to do better." (I was 10 and had failed 3 boring classes) but low and behold, after I started to get some money, she wanted rent. I couldn't hold my full tooth smile as I was allowed to retort, "You don't need my money. You need to do better." I was evicted shortly after. Worth it, and thank you to my friends who helped out at the time
My traumatize them back moment wasn't from me, but a friend towards me. One of my workout partners is a trans man (i didn't know this at the time) and we were good friends. One day they were acting unusually, like more snappy and angry. I wasn't paying attention to it much at first but something happened and I don't remember what. I just ask him "Is something wrong? Are you on your period or something?". Yes dear reader, he was on his period. As soon as I connect the dots and was told that he was trans I begin profusely apologizing to him trying to make it better and he just starts laughing his ass of. Never asked someone that again though.
So... You kinda traumatized yourself, I'd say! But you learned, so you're cool. 😊
Nice. That reminds me of traumatizing about two thirds of one of my high school tech classes. For context I'm a trans demiguy (though didn't even know trans people existed at this point) and the rest of my class was AMAB. I was really tired and in a bad mood because of the "lecture" I'd gotten the previous night. Aka an hour plus of screaming that I am a disappointment who will amount to nothing in life...because I didn't have perfect grades in every class on every assignment. One of my classmates who thought "a girl" had no business being in that room (I literally had the highest grade on the final the previous year and in class for both that year and the previous, he barely passed the previous year) decided to singsong "I know what's wrong with Waffles", and fairly loud too, so the whole room went silent. I just looked up at time and said "No, that was last week" and the only sound in the room was the teacher laughing his ass off. He never mentioned it ever again, nor did anyone else in the room to anyone else either. A few people I was actually friends with would check in on me when I clearly wasn't doing good, but it was always out of concern.
Never mess with someone who has no period shame (I thought I didn't at the time, but I'm even less shameful now) if you don't want an answer. Because I will answer and you will regret it.
On the plus side my uterus has since been evicted for failure to pay rent. Recovery was easier than my periods (like significantly, I took fewer narcotics) and by day three I was more annoyed by my lack of energy to make grilled cheese than the pain.
Tbh that's really freaking rude to say to a woman, no matter how off she may seem. It's usually said as a joke between men, although in a toxic way via implying that femininity is bad. That said- It might've actually been validating for him that you were ribbing him like he was cis cuz you didn't have any idea he wasn't. But yeah def don't ask anybody that lol
@@animeartist888 yep, like asking a close friend out of genuine concern when that's something you know they are ok with is one thing, but not anyone else.
This made me cackle. OMGosh that is amazing.
He gotchu back.
i had the "show ur parts" happen to me online. i reported the person bc im a minor. they got banned for pedophilia ^_^
Hell yeah, 2 for 1
Just banned isn’t enough, should have been reported to the police.
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@@NaeniaNightingale savage
@@NaeniaNightingale Oh absolutely.
I like how even when he reads the world "dyslexic", The Click still says "dislaxative".
Because its funnier
don’t be dyslaxaphobic
What’s the difference again?
Dyslexia is trouble with words. Dislaxative is being poopy with them
Waterfall of words?
S tier teacher, seeing and hearing a kid, getting absolutely bullied, comes over and sets everything right. Teachers need to be more like that one mhm
Well, his kid was activly insulted to
Exactly.
And with the absolute Fury of any reasonable historian hearing Eugenics being spouted
@@brennanmarsh1572 all fear the historian
Absolutely. Got the day she deserved.
Cliccy, if you're reading this, you were phonetically messing up eugenics.
Here's my phonetic breakdown for you: You- you there. Gen- either Gen X, (short for generation) car EnGine, Djin, Jen. Ics- the Icks of Tickets, or the Ick sound of the Flight of Icarus.
I hope that helps. I just kept hearing you say you-genetics and I just thought maybe I could help that way....I'm sorry. I just wanna help.
The first story really hit me as a young adult who is no contact with their family
People always push it and insist you talk to them so I always say either they are dead or list some of the trauma to get them to shut up about it buts it’s such bullshit to have to explain your trauma to some stranger who doesn’t stay in their own lane 💀
If it helps knowing at all, they’re (probably) somewhere between being nosy, and wanting to get to know you better than they do. Not that it’s warranted, but that’s (probably) why they’re not minding their own business.
That, or they want to put their attention on anyone besides themselves for a bit, which is neither here nor there.
Stay strong, my friend. You're in good company. I hope you heal & find success despite what happened to you. ❤
I am so sorry you know how this is too. I hope you have peace now
Friends you meet along the way can be your chosen family. I have a couple friends I consider my siblings
Fr it's more common than people realize. I've had people welcome me into their homes after fleeing from my abusive parents only to secretly contact them behind my back and attempt to rekindle the relationship, resulting in me being stalked.
I used to work with this old man who KNEW my parents were abusive, but still asked me every Mother's & Father's day if I called my parents, then acted all disappointed in me when I said obviously not (for context, my parents also attempted to unalive me, though through less violent means than the OOP). He also loved to mock me around Thanksgiving and Christmas for having to spend the holidays sitting alone by myself in my room and would tell me to "just call your parents, I'm sure they'd love to have you!" Like, yeah buddy, I'm sure they would! They'd be so delighted to have me home that theyd probably beat me up, throw me into the basement, and lock the door from the outside.
When I worked in retail pharmacy, some people were so rude I had to threaten to ban them. Most of them were nice after I dropped my higher pitched customer service voice and said "if you ever treat me or my staff like that again, you will not be filling prescriptions here."
Legendary
Ou just finished my pharmacy internship! This might be me soon 😂
@@damntae6540Congrats! I graduated from the Pharmacy Technician program and that was pretty heavy so I can’t imagine what your education was like! There are a lot of nice people but you can get some really bad ones. I hope one day you can have your own pharmacy as you can follow your own rules as some chains don’t support staff as they should. But that’s in a lot of cases working with the public. But it’s nice having control over how the staff are treated. But I’m getting ahead of things! Again, I wish you all the best!
As someone with multiple chronic illnesses and an elderly mother to care for, I go to pharmacies A LOT and I am amazed at how impatient some people can be. Yes, I understand that your child's antibiotics are important but so is my insulin and that old guy's diuretic. Stop bothering the staff with your pissy attitude and let them help the people whose prescriptions are ready, yours will be ready soon and we can all get back to our lives Karen. Lol
Nice!! That's awesome. Good for you for standing up for yourself.
My mom once asked why I was so anxious about "disappointing her" when I dropped out of Uni because of health issues. so I reminded her about the time when I was 16 and she spent 30minutes screaming at me that I'd never graduate and might as well rip up my college apps and get a job at McDonald's. I had gotten a C on a midterm in my advanced AP Lit class, and she did this right before I was supposed to go set up a Holliday party I had planned for the school organization I ran.
I heard an analogy once that I think applies. I don't remember the exact wording, but I think it was something like "The lumberjack cuts down a tree without thinking, but the tree remembers"
There's a couple more I know about mental health
"Why are you depressed? There's so much good everywhere!"
"Why do people have asthma? There's so much oxygen everywhere!"
Also when people talk about how "we didn't have all this autism and ADHD when I was growing up", you can tell them "Mt Everest wasn't discovered until 1852, but I'm pretty sure the mountain was still there even if we didn't know about it yet"
@@marieporter9488the version of three analogy I heard is "The axe forgets, but the tree remembers."
Everytime when I scored a 5 (B) my mum would tell me she's disappointed even if it was the best score in the whole class
Sending hearts to you and people reading
I had to look at the name to see if I actually wrote this holy shit
I mean down to a T. The class, the mcdonalds, the conversation.. wow
I think my favorite “traumatize them back” incident was when I was with my family at a dinner one night, and I mentioned my birthmother by name. My uncle/her youngest brother asked why I was doing that, and I said that I would not refer to her as “mother” because she wasn’t my mother, my grandma/their mom was my mother since she raised me.
My uncle rolled his eyes and said how I can’t judge a parent for how they act because I am not a parent myself.
So then I smiled and said “I would love to do better to my children one day, but I was diagnosed with infertility, and the doctors said That, even if I managed to get pregnant, it would actually be at a huge risk to my life due to being diagnosed with EDS (in short, twice as likely to have preterm birth, bleed out during/after pregnancy, 10x more likely death after giving birth, etc), and combining it with a nifty little, genetic defect that the females, including my birthmother, had in the family where labor last about three hours max, thus your body not adapting well to the pain/intense physicality that labor puts you through. So I’ll stick with watching your children 4 days a week while you’ve gone to work, and that’ll be my parenting experience.”
He worked in the medical field and knew what I was talking about, so he dropped that subject very quickly.
Omg a fellow person with EDS! I absolutely love this story.
When I first met my OBGYN, she had never heard of EDS and was skeptical when I told her my chronic pain affected me everywhere, so I listed off all the ways my EDS affects my body lol. Watching her type was satisfying.
I have EDS too (a lot of us do in my family.) I didn't realise that it increased the chances of maternal mortality. I did decide not to have more kids after #2 (even though I'd originally wanted 3) because the births of #1&2 were so traumatic. Pregnancy was okay, but not great. I did have to use a wheelchair a few times because walking was extra painful with extra loose ligaments.
Jeez watching his kids that many days a week gives you a very good idea of what parenting is like! So he was comfortable with someone watching his children who he thought was clueless about them because you didn’t give birth? So many people can be booksmart but not life smart. He’s entrusting you with his kids life but thinks you know nothing. Or it’s the people who raise you that are your actual parents. Wild!
Oh... the sweet irony of a doctor or nurse who probably knew their niece's medical history doubling down on making babies. Also, the audacity of the uncle for risking pissing off his probably very cheap or free babysitter.
It absolutely baffles me that calling one's parents by their name is considered "not normal" and that people even take offense at other people doing it! 🤯
I pretty much always call my parents by their names and did so from the moment I realized "Mama" and "Papa" weren't their actual names, because I much prefer their names to the silly sounding generic terms. Feels much more personal, doesn't it?
I’m gonna traumatize my friends by making them play just dance 4 with me
Hell yeah! Let's go!
Ayy make them play a round of Mario Party too! The game that causes chaos!
YOU MONSTER! Good job 👍
That just sounds like a good time!
but just dance is just a vibe, even more with friends
Former call center worker here, and I can confirm that there is a decidedly non-zero amount of entitled people who will give you their banking info, SSN, phone number, and home address, and less than a minute later absolutely fly off the handle at you for the smallest, stupidest things.
For legal reasons I must say that I never actually acted upon any revenge impulses, but boy howdy they were there!
Right? It only takes pissing off the wrong person.
Not a call center worker, but we collect basic info on customers at my work. Nothing major, but just enough to be damaging if one wanted to really dig for more.
Hypothetically, If an absolutely horrible customer ended up on Scientology’s mailing lists, I certainly wouldn’t have a clue how that happened. 😏
@@keisakura9014broo people have gone missing from scientologist b4, allegedly. Do mormans instead, just as annoying but less dangerous
Its horrible how rude people are to adults who don't drive. Im 19 and have no wish to drive, ive been called "a lazy freeloader" since i was 16. I just live in an area where everything is within a mile walk
How on earth is that lazy???🙄
I also don't drive, but luckily I live in a country where it is quite normal to just hop on a train so I haven't had the questionable honor of receiving comments like that.
I'm a bicycle commuter and I always tell them that my legs are better than theirs.
Same, I'm 24 and the comments I get about it from some of my family members and literally the most random people are... especially now after my younger brother turned 18 and got his driver license while I haven't. People act like it's a whole crime if you don't want to drive??
Yeah, it gets worse with age. I’m 39 and due to a bunch of factors it just never happened. Usually people are cool about it but I swear there are people who pretend to “forget” just so they can loudly say, “OH THAT’S RIGHT, you don’t DRIVE DO YOU.” Someone did that to me on Tuesday, talking about how easy it is to get to such and such place as long as you take such and such route, and I’m like “I don’t really have any control over which route the BUS is going to take, do I?”
I’m about to turn 18 soon and I don’t even have my learners permit yet and driving genuinely scares me but my dad is making me go through learning process even though I’m not ready yet
I wish everyone had had a mom like I had. This woman was born in 1932 and here are the following reactions to my various comings out.
"Mom, I'm a lesbian. I like women." Her response?
"Well, yes, I had a relationship with a woman once." My sister and I THOUGHT they were more than roommates (we were way young).
"Mom, I'm actually trans. I'm a guy."
"Are you and (my wife) going to break up?"
"Um, no mom. We have no intention of breaking up."
"Well, I love you and you're my kid." She ADORED my wife who is also trans but she transitioned before we met. In a way, she helped me become the man I am today.
"Mom, (wife) and I are poly and (other wife) lives with us now."
(*blink* as I can see the cogs in her precious little brain whirling to process this info). "Is there anything else you need to come out to me about?" I mean, I could have told her about how I'm a kinky little bastard these days but some things are better left unsaid. She had many MANY flaws and had been thru a LOT (poopy taste in men) but I still miss her every day.
NEVER let anyone throw out "well, they're just a product of their time" argument without a challenge because lots of people from the same area do not hold poopy beliefs. My uncle fought in WWII a big ol feminist and did more to shape my cousin's confidence to take on the world more than her own mother who constantly tried to undermine her. Anyway, y'all should have the same type of family members and it saddens me greatly every time I hear of an LGBTQ+++ person being spurned by their birth family.
That's so cool!! Both my grandmas, who were born in 1955, were also very supportive when I came out as bi, just like the majority of my family. It isn't, indeed, a "product of their generation" matter.
Very nice story to read! Your mom seems amazing, and so do you and your wives. Relable to me (nonbinary person, bi, grey ace) so i also had to come out a few times for my mom, which had a similar reaction to me explaining stuff. Sadly, no gfs for me now, but eventually i want to date them again
My grandma was like that. Every time I visited or we talked on the phone she used to ask me if anything was new, if I had a boyfriend. And one day she asked if I had a girlfriend after boyfriend and the way I just grinned. She had so much love for everyone and no time for people being judgy. She was from West Virginia and knew down to her bones how important it was to include everyone.
I'm trans. My mom is kind of transphobic, not like horrendously, but like, enough. Said we shouldn't tell my grandma cause she'd freak out and be shitty. Meanwhile my aunties already told her, and out of all of the family, she was the fastest to get on board. My aunties took a lil time to adjust, but grandma? Just straight in with my chosen name, using it as much as possible, emphatically calling me her grandson. I miss her very much.
Conversion Therapy is the term you're looking for Click.
And it's a crime, a severe one.
Timestamp.
@@youtubeuniversity363840:33 :)
One that its legal in the us
@@SingingSealRiana Yes, it's also a massive civil rights violation that isn't called out nearly enough.
@@marybdrake1472Because people hide conversion therapy behind religion, which makes it skirt the lines of legality.
Which is a load of BS if I ever heard, as if conversion therapy is literally going against every understanding of psychological science.
I hope the creator of conversion therapy (who came out as gay) never forgets the damage he did to millions of people
my mom has always been skinny and so am I, but some years ago she did a surgery that removed her ovaries, causing her to enter menopause and gain weight. I was a very skinny teen when this happened, but as I grew older, about 19/20 years old, I started to gain some mass in my thighs, I honestly liked and I am still pretty skinny, but my mom hated, she ranted about it, saying I would have cellulites before my 30s and stuff like that. She talked about my body in front of family and friends of hers, how I didn't have a model body anymore, I snapped. First I threatened her, I said "everytime you talk about my body I will talk about yours, and if we go down this path you know I'm winning" because she knows how LOW I can go. At first she didn't believe me and continued, and I started to talk about her body too, leaving her to the verge of tears once, now it's been about 10 months since the last time she talked about my body so I guess I succeeded lol
lots of love from brasil 🇧🇷✨✨
Oh honey.. your mother should have been relieved that you've gained some weight. It's not healthy to be stick thin, being underweight can affect your fertility, and women are generally more fertile with some meat on.
(Not that you have to have kids if you don't want to!)
Not to mention being more thin means it's much harder to gain muscle. It's actually easier to gain muscle if you have a little fat to work with!
Depending on your weight and height I would be concerned over your strength and how healthy your bones are, too, whether you're malnourished or eating enough of the right things. It's much easier to have a weak body when you're skinny.
These are all the things your mum should have thought about. She should have thought "my daughter is finally gaining some healthy weight and growing into a woman."
Your mother sounds selfish and borderline narcissistic. I'm so sorry you had to put up with that, but you handled this so well! 😂
Also cellulite is not something that you get over time. Some women are more likely to get cellulite than others. You can be really skinny and still have cellulite! You don't have to be chubby to get it. I'm on the chubby end and I don't have it!
It's the same with double chins. Double chins are genetic and have nothing to do with your weight, skinny girls have them too!
Your mum sounds clueless honestly! 😂
I am as impressed as I am flabbergasted, that’s nasty ( compliment)
É horrível que você teve que passar por isso, mas olha, sua solução foi muito boa.
But thick thighs are pretty... And even muscles have some volume. But maybe it's only my opinion - I'm rare specimen of nutritionist that is more worried about underweighted people and malnutrition. I even helped my mom and husband pun on weight to achieve their normal weight. And they look better than ever before
I hate when people tell me “you’re young” when I talk about my knee and hip issues because apparently being 17 means you can’t have actual medical issues 🤷♀️
Edit: oh goodness, I didn’t expect so many people to relate to this and share their experiences but hopefully one day people will understand that pain is pain no matter what age
Can you tell by context that's how they mean it? I've had ppl mean it like "its terrible you shouldn't have be dealing with this already"
@@rickwrites2612in my chronic pain experience, it’s not usually that. It’s “young people can’t have health problems!” Or it was when I was actually young.
My favorite response is "You're too old to be THIS foolish."
@@rickwrites2612 I have chronic knee and hip pain and a bit of background, I’m a pageant girl so I stand a lot and I’ll have just random people come up to me and say “well it can’t be that bad if you where just standing” if that helps 😁
Yeah... a typically post menopausal condition presented upon puberty, of course I'm too young(and other conditions). Universe knows the rules.
"Conversion therapy" -- it still exists -- quite unfortunate because they do more harm than good. Smh
It's much easier to love & respect everyone. Hate takes too much unnecessary energy.
Much love to all ❤
In addition, it doesn’t make sense to hate someone for something that doesn’t harm-or even impact-other people.
"Ignorant festering trash bags of cottage cheese" is great lmao
That's one hell of a phase to describe Nurgle's followers lmfao
As a cyclist, I can very much relate to the second story. I lost count of how many drivers got angry at me for simply existing on the road, honking and overtaking me in dangerous ways - just so I could catch up with them at the next traffic light. Even better, sometimes there is a bike lane starting after a couple of meters which I then switch on to, casually rolling past the angry moron smiling and waving while they are stuck in traffic.
I live near a city when they synchronized the lights on the main roads, so they're always green for a cyclist riding at an average speed. Works like a charm, drivers starting to understand that following the cyclists works better than trying to pass them. :)
This story reminded me of quite a wholesome story that happened to me when I was 14-15 ish and doing a paper route.
A lady was backing out of a driveway. She didn't see me because of a big hedge and backed right into my back so I fell over the bike and papers went flying everywhere.
As soon as she saw this she jumped out of the car apologizing several times. She helped me up, asking if I was okay? Should she call an ambulance? Drive me home? While picking up my papers. I felt okay. A little bit sore, but nothing alarming, so I told her I was fine and went on my way.
When I got home that afternoon, she'd been by with a big box of candy and soda.
The next time I was out on that route someone had cut the hedge in such a way, that it was pretty much impossible, not to see people coming. I felt pretty bad for her. I think she got a much bigger shock that day than I did.
Soo yeah, your story of bikes made me think of her. I often do, when I need to remind myself that there are decent people out there😊
I nearly got run over while in the bike lane once
@@cecilie1991what a sweet lady
2:58 oh cliccy, you sweet summer child. They’d tell OP to just use the inheritance to pay for insurance
Oh no... There's no escape...
"Please, would I be working at a effing security job in a tiny guard shack with someone who thinks Axe body spray gets rid of the putid decomp smell, if I had an inheritance?"
@@tripolarmdisorder7696Holy sh**, my laughter might have traumatized my cat! 😂😂😂
Lie that the parents were also broke, living paycheck to paycheck when alive, very little to inherit
@robinkholmes7127 let's lie further and say their parents inherited debts.
I have a traumatise them back story too. For context, I've had anorexia for almost 12 years.
I was extremely sick at one point and my GP sent me to hospital because my weight, blood pressure and blood sugar were very bad. When I got to the hospital I was sitting in my bed, scared and alone (my family at the time had given up on me) and while my nurse was checking my blood pressure. The conversation went like this-
Her- "I'm so jealous, you're so skinny!"
Me- "It's not as fun as it looks"
Her- "Why?"
Me- "Because I have anorexia"
She looked mortified. She really should've read my file before seeing me.
I'm still quite proud of that moment
That's a very cool reaction!! I'm glad you're proud of it because you absolutely deserve it. ^^ and I do hope you're doing better/okay and I wish you all the best. Have an amazing (rest of your) day because you do deserve it! (hehe)
I hate it when psychiatrists don't read the files. I had very severe anorexia for 6 years, lots of hospitals, feeding tubes and misery, but I'm normal weight and partially recovered now. I met a new doctor at the psychiatry and about 20 minutes into the conversation I mentioned my past anorexia, to which she responded: "Oh, you've had anorexia?" I was flabbergasted she didn't know! How can you make treatment decisions for me when you don't even know my past life-changing diagnoses? When I asked her why she didn't read my file she said: "I prefer to hear it from the patient to not have preconceived notions." Like, she admitted to having prejudiced about patients if she knew their diagnoses. The answer to that isn't to not read the file, it is to BE OPENMINDED and not judge someone before you've met them. Horrible doctor, I only met her once. She didn't even have authority to help me with the med changes I had solely come for, so she had to go ask another doctor. Why I didn't meet with that doctor directly was a mystery... Complete waste of my time.
Also, please don't give up fighting for recovery, Holly! I've been really bad in my anorexia, but now I've been normal weight for 15 years and life is SO much better now. It's not perfect since I have other diagnoses, but if I was still actively anorexic it would be SO MUCH WORSE. SO please, give yourself the opportunity to get better. Find really good treatment and decide to give it an honest try. For me it was a game changer to reach BMI 20, something really clicked in my brain then. BMI 18 as "normal" was never enough for me. To decide I wanted to TRY gaining weight to BMI 20 was one of the best decisions I ever made. Lots of love and strength!!
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@@SamirCCat ya, schools never really recorded my issue's it wasn't until years later they were like oh ya your kids has this but we never told you, another teach at a special needs school told me the acronym thinking I would somehow remember it, I still have no idea on how to get my blood pressure up as most of the time I could be classified as dead
@@SamirCCat To preface my comment, I'm not saying for sure what that person meant. I'm only giving insight into how things like that are usually intended, based on both my lived patient experiences and my academic education in psychology. So please don't think I'm attacking your story! That's 100% not my intention in any way. ♥️
Many times when providers, especially in the field of psychology, say they prefer to get to know a patient first/ not have any preconceived notions from a patient's medical history, it's because it is widely known and recognized professionally that diagnoses are not a strict science. The same patient with the same symptoms can get diagnosed with different conditions depending on the provider. This becomes especially difficult when giving the wrong diagnosis can lead to ineffective or even harmful treatments (for example, some depression medications are dangerous for people with bipolar because they can trigger mania episodes).
So it's not that they are judging people for having certain diagnoses, but instead that they want to have a blank slate when forming their professional opinions about a person's situation and treatment needs. (Some providers absolutely are sanist and discriminatory in how they treat people, and I would never say otherwise, but those kinds of people generally don't think there's anything wrong with their perspectives. Almost every single provider who admits out loud how they're trying to preemptively avoid bias is one who is aware of how brains work and is trying to correct for those unconscious and automatic processes.)
(I've experienced this myself with getting misdiagnosed with multiple personality disorders and people then assuming those diagnoses must be right instead of ever getting recognized as an undiagnosed autistic with ADHD and complex PTSD. I had to figure those out on my own as an adult and then advocate for myself to providers who still sometimes assumed I couldn't be more correct than the original providers. People assumed that if something like autism or ADHD were part of the picture, someone would have figured it out by then. Except that's not what reality is most of the time. I've experienced this in physical medicine as well with the really smart and good doctors. They ask about my symptom history and then ask what, if anything, helps relieve those symptoms. If I had a good working diagnosis, I wouldn't be asking them for the kinds of help I am, so they know they need to keep their eyes fresh as they look at my situation.)
I definitely understand how you got the interpretation you did of those words though. It's something providers absolutely need to communicate better about in general. And also unfortunately it's fairly common for providers to talk that way because they talk so much with their peers about things like this that they forget they had to learn how to approach that information differently in the first place. They forget that clients don't have the same framework for understanding what they're saying. (I learned about the science of unconscious bias in a course most psychology providers would take in their first or second year of university. They've had a long time for that information to be part of their general awareness by the time they're helping clients. And it's also very human to forget not everyone knows the same stuff you do. So all of it takes a lot of intention to stay mindful about. Most providers could do with a lot more care in how they talk with patients.)
Wow, what a thing to say. Regardless who you say it too, it's a dumb thing to say. But like... read the file first? XD Glad you said it to her like that and hope you're doing better.
I only came to the comments to remind Click that in Denmark we have a zoo where you can PET A SHARK! Try it
Omg really? I need to go there someday!
Beware the asexuals 🤷
@@yabe-kfptentacultist it is “fiskeri og søfartsmuseet” in Esbjerg. And the shark is “småplettet rødhaj” they are small and cute 🥰
WAIT, OMG WHERE??
The place is called ‘fiskeri og søfarts museet’ it is in the city Esbjerg. The shark is a cute ‘småplettet rødhaj’ 🥰
I think my favorite traumatize them back story is from my fiancée. She was in kindergarten, doing like, 5 year old things while her dad was talking to the teacher. My fiancée LOVES puzzles. Absolutely adores them. We have a shelf dedicated to as many types of puzzles you can think of. So this little five year old girl is doing her puzzle, having a good time. She decides to crawl the shortest distance alive to grab a dog puzzle nearby. Her teacher notices and goes, "You aren't a baby you can walk, or you don't get to do puzzles for the week." My lovely, sweet, fiancée, who was never belligerent in any way as a child, does it again. Her puzzle privileges were revoked. I would like to add that my fiancée was born with lordosis. We joke that she was put in a taffy puller at a young age to fix her spine, but we are so lucky she isn't wheelchair bound. It would make her back hurt a lot as a kid regarding walking, so crawling was a viable option. She knew very well how to walk and could. Plus, it was such a short distance it was insane to get mad. So what does my fiancée do? She sits on her knees, stares the teacher RIGHT in the eyes, and shoves both pointer fingers down her throat. I don't know if you know what happens when you do that, but needless to say, she threw up all over the polkadot rug in spite. It's literally the most baffling but amazing stories from her and her dad said it was legit and even retold it from his perspective. I legit cannot unsee her five year old self doing it. Her teacher was pissed but didn't revoke her puzzle privileges after all. 10/10
Sadly, conversion therapy isn't dead. While torturing queer youth is illegal, some countries still allow conversion therapy and have communities that offer "all-boys/girls abroad Christian summer camps" as a front. Additionally, conversion therapy through one-on-one counseling isn't banned in many places.
I think all-boys/girls conversion therapy caml would quickly backfire on them
Another way to shut that coworker down about the car insurance... "Can't be on my parents insurance. They're dead. Car accident." Would have also been effective.
Agreed. People trust strangers to not retaliate. I watched on cctv one time a lady step into the road then start yelling at the car she stepped in front of. They decided to just start driving again. She didn't move and the car took her on a little ride as she clung onto the hood of the car still yelling at them all the way out of camera view.
She wasn't hurt and it was replayed many times.
Pedestrians always have the right of way, but that doesn’t make said pedestrians entitled to be a jerk about it.
@@melissawickersham9912 they technically don't have right of way outside a zebra crossing, getting the pedestrian green light, or trying to cross a driveway on the footpath. Most drivers are understanding if you're careful and signal that you need to cross (like waving as acknowledgement if they slow down and stop), but it's entirely on the pedestrian in terms of liability if they do get run over outside of those exceptions (if I do get run over then who's paying for the hospital fees/funeral costs, basically). You don't argue with something twice your size
@@lazyperfectionist3978 depends where you live. Where I am pedestrians have right of way at all times. So people just walk into the road in the middle of traffic without even looking. I almost hit someone who literally jumped in front of my car and I would've been liable.
@@waffles3629 I don’t think it should be legal, but I can see why it is. Someone did that to me, once, as well. Pisses me off, greatly.
@@ShintogaDeathAngel yep, like I'm 99% sure this person was attempting to use me to unalive them, because they looked over their shoulder until I was just behind them. If the oncoming lane hadn't been empty there would have been zero way to avoid them because even slamming on my brakes as I swerved into the other lane I missed them by maybe 2 feet. Between that and other incidents (I had a cyclist bike straight at my stationary car screaming at me "WHAT THE F*CK ARE YOU DOING??????" the other day, missing me by literal inches) I'm really tempted to get a camera.
Especially because I know someone who was almost charged with reckless driving and a bunch of other stuff- because someone ran into their parked car, and fell to the ground screaming in pain because "I've been run over". The only thing that saved them was the arrival of the tow truck they'd called over an hour before because their car wouldn't start. Like he couldn't have run you over 10 minutes ago when his car has been dead for 90 minutes.
That reminds me of the best "Schadenfreude"-experience I ever had.
I was driving on a highway a little below speed limit (my license was fresh, so I was very cautious).
Then suddenly there was this guy that could easily fit in a meme: expensive sports car, cabrio, suntanned bodybuilder figure with a blonde "trophy girl" next to him, driving up behind me, giving light signals, honking and basically harassing me to drive faster. But I did not, and when the next lane got free, he overtook me with motor screaming.
I shook my head at first, and kept my pace and drove on.
A few kilometres later though, I saw the same car again - on the side lane, open hood with smoke coming from it, the bodybuilder guy looking exaspered and his show-off girlfriend leaning against the car looking annoyed at her phone.
I drove by extra slowly and waved, smiling.
Everyone that don't believe in karma: This one made me a believer.
My father was teaching me to drive. As a nervous beginner driver, I was driving 10km/h (+/- 7mph) below the speed limit. There was a file behind me. My dad, who felt the tensness in the atmosphere, made me stop along the sidewalk, so the other drivers could pass me. I stopped a little before a curve. Something line 7 or 8 drivers went away, speeding above the speedlimit.
Little they (and my father and I knew): there was a flash in the curve. I didn't see the machine, but could see every flash... It was beautiful, because the deicers couldn't see those before them being flashed. So, they all ran into it.
My favorite karma story was when I was playing soccer. This smaller dude was pushing people around in my team. I was much bigger than this dude. Anyways he comes running up to me to get the ball, both of our feet colided, he fucking collapsed, and the best part was the ball went flying down the field. He didn't play the rest of the game
got to hate it when you're accidentally BI, like you just hanging with your bro and gal pal and realized that y'all been married for 8 years.
Married to who? Both?
@@BigNate90 yep both, poly, always there to give you a answer to a show's love triangle or give you a punchline to dumb joke.
This was back in the early 70s when office 'girls' had to wear nice dresses, if they wanted to wear pants it had to be a pant suit, had to have nice hair and modest jewelry so you can imagine what my friend's sister who was an 'office girl' looked like. She came over to my friend's on her way home from work and she looked like she'd seen a ghost. Just gasping, astonished and saying "Moni (friend), I have to tell you ... I can't believe I did this." A woman like the pharmacy lady at the beginning of this episode came to the office she worked at, shouting and demanding and Moni's SIL said "I just...couldn't think of what to say. All I could think of is what my Yorkie does when I shout at him so I started barking and yipping and yapping at this lady." LOL.
AHAHAHAHAHA
The chronic illness bit reminded me of when I was 18 and have chronic pain in my back. A family friend ran a Pilates centre and had a special class for people with back pain. She recommended I join as it would really help build up muscles i needed and help alleviate some of the pain. So I did. I was easily the youngest there by over 30 years. The next youngest was a mother who had had kids late in life (I know this because of what happens) and the pregnancies had caused pain in her back. So I was hanging around after the 3 or 4th session I had gone to waiting on my ride and some of the older ladies started chatting to me and said out right. "I dont know why your in this class it for people with back issues, the youngster go to the general class." I didn't want to get into it with them but explained I did have pain and that it was recommended thinking that would be end of it. NOPE . Her "Oh at your age it cant be that bad." I just went all quite and looked at ground. I had started this class because 3 weeks earlier I had had to miss school due to the pain being so bad i hadn't been able to get out of bed and was screaming. I later got major surgery to aid with the pain but at the time I was still on waiting list. I was too shy though at the time. Then the 40 something mum pipes up and say "HELEN! MIND YOUR OWN FUCKING SHIT! If [Teachers name] says she should be here you shouldn't fucking care." I love that women so fucking much. But sadly I was so distressed by this and a few other minor comments from other later I stop going even though it was helping cause I felt bad "Taking a place from someone who needed it more."
So sorry to hear that. No one should ever give up what they like or what is good for them because of external pressure...how is your health now? Hugs from Italy
Why do people refuse to believe young people can have health issues? You can be born with problems or have accidents as a kid, aging isn't the only cause of disability.
@@annalisalundberg4561 My health is alot better after having surgery. It still sometimes not great but I not since the surgery 2 years ago had the debilitating pain i was getting. Also I would now 100% be that epic mum telling someone to mind their own fucking business.
@@Vio818 for some reason we human beings are sometimes really stupid, and we need to live an experience to know that it can be true...I'm so so glad that now you're better, and that you can advocate for yourself (and for someone else, if the need arises). I hope you'll be always better!! 💪
DAMMIT HELEN!
40:30 "Conversion Therapy" and it's still legal and actively going on over here; it's even govt. funded in the USA in some states (in the South, of/c) to this day.
it also DOUBLES self-sacrifice rates, esp. among trans folk...
Those people need some serious converting themselves. I hope you and your loved ones are safe ❤
Its absolutely disgusting and the thing is, they know it does not work the way they claim, but it does the job they wanted it to do either way,... They really do not care which way they get rid of us
I've heard of victims being drugged, beaten, humiliated, and much worse.
@@Emm3342 And it is not weird at all, that so many have started to talk about America being a third world country :/ because, it sure as hell is going that way. Quickly
I used to think that its amazing how many parents don't love their children. It makes more sense now, and I'm not sure that I could be capable of the true love of a parent. Which means that a lot less people should be inflicting themselves on children.
Yes, we Germans love our Schadenfreude.
And one of the best things about German is that you can just mash two existing words together if you see something completely new and need a descriptive term.
Best thing about german beside the very very rare word Geborgenheit, which is like the most beautiful thing.....
That those word mashes mostly make sense makes german vocabulary kinda easyer to learn, unless they do not 😂
@@SingingSealRianabut it takes a *really* large board and many more letter tiles to play German Scrabble.
Makes it tricky to learn sometimes tho
Most germanic languages work the same.
Swedish does the same which is why "schadenfreude" in Swedish would be: "skadeglädje", a mash up of harm (skada) and happiness/pleasure (glädje)
Something that I feel often when watching these videos is "Fremdschämen" ;)
About the disability not being seen part, it reminds me of a story my middle school science teacher told me. His friend had a fake leg and parked in disabled parking. When they both got out of the car a cop pulled over and told them they couldn't park there and they had to move. My teachers friend just leaned against his car, took off his leg and placed it next to him on the hood. After that he looked at the officer and asked "Am I disabled enough now?" I wish I was there to see the look on the officer's face, but my teacher couldn't stop laughing after he told the class that!
My classic traumatize them back moment is any time people get nosy about my family and where I am from I get to hit 'em with the 'ol "Oh I'm a homeless orphan because my parents abused me."
I don't care about it anymore. It was an active choice on my part to become a homeless orphan. But the awkward silence when they have to figure out how to respond to that (usually "oh I'm sorry") is so satisfying.
It's just now hitting me that I've been watching click long enough that I remember the origin of his "NEEAAHHH" intro
Wait what is it
@@dewmilk7266 about four years ago now it started appearing in his intro with his little cat sprite in a box avatar. I can't exactly remember what video it spawned from but it was either an r/TiHi or an r/NoahGetTheBoat if I recall correctly
i see
@@tacticalrefrigeratorOhh nice
I miss the cat in a box
I work a retail job, I get asked all the time “Why don’t you have kids?” Every time I’m caught making funny faces at a baby, or cheerfully greeting parents and their children. I see why they wonder, because I clearly adore babies and children… but at the same time it is just a constant reminder to me that I cannot have kids.
I’ve had seven miscarriages, they always leave me after the first week of conception. This has caused me a great deal of pain and stress, so I don’t know if I’ll ever try again. The look of absolute shock when someone keeps pushing me about the subject until I snap, they never seem to expect my response of: “I have a hormonal imbalance, because I’ve been on medications my whole life. It’s not a matter of not wanting kids, I just can’t carry past the first week without nearly bleeding to death.” Followed by dead silence, or an awkward apology and then quickly rushing to leave.
Normalize minding your own business, please.
I agree - I never had children because I didn’t want them, and the way some people go on about it when they find out is ridiculous. It’s not like my not having children actually impacts them on a personal level, so why do they care so much?
I am sorry for your health issues, that sounds really awful.
I was on a CSD today and sadly I didn’t not have the perfect comeback for the Christian dude who was like: “Jesus loves you even if you are gay”
On the way home I wished I had answered him “we know, but please tell that to the Christians!”
It will happen again. We know this with sad certainty. But at least next time you'll be prepared!
Jesus literally didn’t say anything about gay people, anyway. The bit people *think* is about gay people, in the Bible, is a mistranslation.
Back when the Bible was being collated (it’s not a cohesive document, after all. Some parts of it were written in very different times!) it might have made sense to try and discourage same sex relationships (not saying I agree, just that it makes sense in the historical context) but these days I don’t see why it matters at all.
@@ShintogaDeathAngel This. Firstly, we are not a small embattled bronze age tribe surrounded by enemies and needing our people to breed up as fast as possible to create future warriors and the future mothers of the next generation of future warriors.
Banning relationships that wouldn't produce children made sense in that context - although even so, King David went from being a nobody to being King by dating the son of the previous King and being the top in that relationship. That was accepted because as King, he married a lot of women as well.
Secondly, who cares what the bible says anyway? Separation of church and state says that we don't have to worry about that stuff.
@@tealkerberus748 its not as if gay people can't make babies either?
A line I came across recently that can be safely applied to many people mentioned in these stories; "god wasted a good asshole when he put teeth in your upper one".
Oh wow, that's awesome! 😁
14:17 Exactly. 1 time a lady was yelling at me for sitting in the bus seat for disabled people because I was a young person. Little did she know that I have epilepsy and standing in moving vehicles is dangerous for me. Especially since it was in the middle of summer (and overheating triggers my seizures).
40:48... it is called conversion therapy. I have had it for my autism to try and fix me, then for my religious beliefs being "wrong", and to top it off for my "horrible choices" to be pansexual. Yes, I have had it done numerous times with religion and my partner choices. Only once with for the autism, I would love to find the doctors that were willing to run test on a 10 year just to make them "normal".
I am very grateful to be living with my female fiance, over 3 USA states away from my "loving" parents
That's beyond horrifying... I had no idea it was done for autism too, though that does make sense.
I'm glad you and your wife are free and happy ❤ I have a partner with autism and thinking about him going through that, or any individual going through that is heartbreaking...
For autism conversion therapy is called ABA
Its quite common for them to take their favourite toy and only give it back if the kid does the dog trick of the day, over and over and over for full-time hours, for years. They don't ask if they can touch or move the body, and the kids are removed from any comfort if they object. A successful result is basically an obedient zombie
Basically, imagine dog training without the ethics requirements.
Oh, that’s chilling. Glad you got away.
The whole "it's a phase" thing is irritating. I got told the same thing for years when I came out as lesbian. Turns out they were partially right in a way... I'm a pansexual trans man. Totally shorted their mind when I came out.😂
I have a wholesome story about one of my trans friends.
So, he is trans, ftm, and this was in the beginning of high school. Our math teacher was a pretty intimidating person, she was tall, strict, and had a raspy voice, not like she smoked but like she was a old lady (Which she was) so we didn’t really ask her questions that often. At one point, my friend really had to go to the bathroom. He usually tried to avoid going to the bathroom at school cause the bathrooms were gendered and he didn’t pass well. So, he walked up and asked her, she let him go. I wanted to talk to him about something I can’t remember, so I asked to go too. Teacher said I “have to wait for her to get back” (referring to my friend) so I asked the teacher to “let me know when he gets back” by accident. (Also to note, I sit at the desk right next to hers) I immediately was terrified cause I didn’t know her views on that and didn’t want to out him. After a few minutes, he walks back in. Teacher taps on my desk and says “He’s back, you go ahead now.” And let me tell you I was so relieved. I told him about this after class and he was happy too. :)
I have been told that I am no longer a “full woman” now that I’ve had my hysterectomy. I had my uterus, my one good fallopian tube, & my partial ovary removed. I asked why losing the other fallopian tube & the partial ovary to a tubal pregnancy hadn’t already made me less of a woman then? To which they can never figure out how to answer because, I mean what “one was lost to the cause & one was by choice?” Does that really make a difference? This isn’t Sparta where women only get a tombstone when they die in child birth as it’s seen that they died in service to the state.
I seriously detest all this shaming bullshit around what is sometimes essential and/or lifesaving surgery. I haven’t even had my tubes tied (I’m single and peri menopausal, so while it’s tempting in a way, doesn’t seem that worth it).
We’re all just human beings, none of us really escape this life without getting at least a little dinged up.
ALL HE WANTED WAS TO GET TO THE BUS ONTIME!!! I hate when people push so damn hard into other people's lives. The rage I felt on their behalf is intense. Whenever I'm in situations like that, and I try to traumatize them back, it always backfires and the people pushing me get mad at me for being mad at them, and they never understand.
Yeah, and I presume other ppl had their shifts end at the same time and could have simply asked "where's the bus stop, I'll drive you there". But no, that would have been decent and polite...
My favorite comeback to questions like “what’s in your pants” or “have you got the surgery” is to immediately ask people if they shave their ass hair regularly. If they answer, I can either slut-shame them (shave regularly- “expecting visitors?”) or I can call them nasty (doesn’t shave- “how do you wipe it clean?”). If they don’t answer, it’s easy to say “that wasn’t an appropriate question for how well we know each other, was it?”
I don’t actually care what people do with their ass hair, and I’m morally opposed to slut-shaming under normal circumstances, but the people who ask questions like that usually don’t get that it’s an inappropriate question unless they get shamed.
It's not slut-shaming, it's bitch-shaming, and totally valid
I've never understood why some people think "what's in your pants?" is an appropriate question. Why do they think it's okay to ask people about their genitals?
I once read someone's usual reply is:
If you are trying to get into my pants, this is not the way and if you don't try to get into my pants, it's non of your business what's in them.
@@ClaraMicroraptor because they operate on a clearly defined gender normative worldview and they can't adjust their behaviour unless they can place you on a box.
So if they can't tell they lose all framework for polite conversation until they have an answer that fitd their worldview. Everything else is too much to handle. They get upset and proceed to shame what does not fit into any of their boxes.
@@ClaraMicroraptor some people even think it's ok to ask someone about someone else's genitals. I worked with my best friend for a few years, and we're both trans. I had several co-workers come up to me and ask me what his genitals looked like. Co-workers!! At work! It's gross. Obviously this is inappropriate, but also like, why would I know? He's my best friend, not my boyfriend, and even if I did know for some reason I still wouldn't tell. And their reasons for asking me? Some variation on "Well I thought it would be weird to ask him so I figured you could tell me". Like how is it less weird to ask someone about someone else's genitals? Needless to say they were written up every time and they got annoyed at me for "being too sensitive".
The first story.. My psy too said once that lying is a good option sometimes. It's no one's business what is your reality if it has no impact on them. Good advice from our Clicky!
The whole "is not worth risking your life to save a few seconds" makes me think of speedrunners. I came to the shocking realization that they were the risk-takers who survived and found a less deathly sport/tool. I've seen them go crazy over saving 0.1 seconds by jumping in certain places. 😓
I mean, not to say it’s a one to one comparison, but athletes train extensively to shave off just as much time.
@@silverthehero1295 and not to mention using the term 'speedrunners' can include those who speedrun games (that's actually what I thought they were saying, I was js like 'wtf') 🤷♀️
After reading your replies, I did notice the double meaning. HOWEVER, they are applicable to both. Some athletes bulk up to a good muscle mass than fast to lose all the extra weight. They survived on protein and vitamins. That why they can run faster without the extra weight. This sometimes kills or destroy their kidney if not watched by a doctor. Gamers do almost the same thing, skipping meals and sleep as their bodies wilts. They also do the same thing but eat way too much. Basically, anything can kill you if you push it too far. I guess that's the point I wanted to make.
0.1 seconds? Thats a huge time save, normally i see 0.03 second records.
I’ll never forget the random boomer at Walmart 7 years ago who tried to convince me that I was pregnant. I was not and had even had my tubes tied. I was beginning recovery from drug addiction and was eating a lot of sugar to curb cravings. I should have traumatized her back cuz it really got to me.
Now that I'm gaining weight I expect at some point this might happen. I'm prepared to say, "Well thank you for noticing, my baby identifies as five burritos!"
"Schadenfreude" in Finnish is "vahingonilo", aka "accident/blunder happiness" 😂❤
To quote Fawful's Minion: "The sexual attraction to people bitching!"
I'm sorry, but I read this as vahin-goni-yo and that just sounds like an STI 🙈😅
Cool :)
In Russian it's "злорадство" verbatim it's something like "evil rejoice"
Direct translation from german is damage gleefulness
@@umlautabuser2769 zloradstvo for those who don't know cyrillics)
Inapprpriate questions....very appropriate answers. My ex-partner and i were out somewhere and a rather drunk person approached us, asked if we were lesbians (bad enough), then came up with the classic "so what do you do in bed the?", my oartner looked at him smiled sweetly and replied "sleep mostly".
That or there's always "Each other, mostly."
I don't think I have anything like this... but 2 similar things come to my mind.
1) I am oversensitive to noises, and I was at a waiting room for the doctor to see my mom over her knee ache. We were really worried. I was nearly scratching my self because of the stress. There was a brat playing with a cell phone at it's highest volume. I grabbed my earphones, I offered them to the kid and said "you shouldn't be playing at that volume at a hospital, why don't you take my earphones?". The kid froze and the mom nastiness came out saying to me "that thing is bad for kid's ears". I said "you should be teaching them manners". She said "You clearly don't know what is like to have a child". I answered "you clearly don't know what is like to have manners". Thankfully they changed their seats. It was a really bad day, but their attitude was somewhat relieving.
2) My dad's mom (mind u, my abuser) was visiting my parents for my mom's bday. I was 0 contact with her then. One of her daughters said to me "aren't you gonna say hi to your grandma? She brought you this present" (my bday was the day before). I took the present, I said "hi, thank you" and I left it in this bitch's lap 😂 I know for a fact that she was traumatized 😂 someone actually told me
I just remembered something xD My dad used to practice karate in a really good school, but the kind that doesn't encourage fights, because they can trigger bad reactions. Well... anyway, my dad was going back from his practice to home and there was another car harrasing him. In the end, that car rear ended him, and the driver got out of his car... my dad did the same and only yelled 1 thing: "What the fuck is wrong with you?" (as he tells it, he didn't do physically anything special). The other driver went silent, got back to his car, and it was over.
My dad got back into his car wondering what had happened... and then he noticed that he didn't change his clothes when he finished the practice xD (was only purple belt, but my dad is scary when he gets angry, so it's a really believable story)
Friendly advice from your neighborhood doctor: if *I* can keep my professional curiosity about medical concerns in my office and to my patients, then *you* are perfectly capable of not asking invasive questions to random strangers in whatever social context you happen to meet them in. FFS.
I had both a face palm and Ttb all in one interaction this morning. Guy messaged me, 4 minutes later, he talks about how my profile is a lie because I say to hit me up, but then I never respond. I tell him, dude, it's been 4 minutes. He gloats that that was his plan because it got me to respond. Cue my comeback. I ask him how old he is to which he responds sarcastically that he's so old. I say that he's got to be like 12 because only stupid 12 year olds think playing these kind of games are clever and cool. He gets offended that I need to f-ing lighten up and that it was an f-ing joke. I insist that he's gotta be like 12 because no grown ass man should be this immature and that he should get off this site because he's 12. He cusses me out that he's incredibly offended and I block him. I'm not going to chat with 12 year olds lol
I've taken to this tact, even irl. "If you're gonna act like a child, I'm going to treat you like a child, which means I am _not_ interested in dating you."
Be it physically or mentally. Great choice! No time for immature boys!
The mention of Eugenics made me realize just how many people (especially murrican boomers) fit that description and are echoing literal... Evil Villain Arc Germany stuff
Cliccy, I had similar issues to Infertile Lady - people were suggesting I “needed to have a baby before it’s too late”…all the way up to when I turned FIFTY ! 😱 Even then, some would try to tell me about some millionaire actress who pulled it off - like massive amounts of money wasn’t the big difference. 🙄
People FINALLY stopped when I quit dyeing my hair.
Yep. I'm a trans demiguy who purposely evicted his uterus. I've had people tell me "it's not too late" AFTER I've told them I've had a hysterectomy. Yeah, uh, WHAT?? After confirming that they think they know what it is, and then proving they don't, I get "I'm so sorry". Like you're sorry I got something I wanted since I was 10? But unfortunately I've gotten many variations of "Well your life isn't totally over", "Don't give up on life", and "Your life is basically over so you might as well not have one anymore".
@@waffles3629 I *finally* get to “yeet my ute” here in a few days… but it took a cancer diagnosis to get me there. [Endometrial cancer, Stage IV-b (metastatic), Grade 3 (fast growing) ] .
It amazes me (but doesn’t surprise me, unfortunately) that far too many people don’t understand that Hysterectomy = No Uterus = No Baby-Making. That’s a dazzling amount of Stupid.
@@imweakfordeaky the worst for me was a nurse. Yes an actual qualified registered nurse. I was less than a couple weeks out from surgery and at my neurologists infusion center for migraine meds. I was displaying symptoms that don't go with migraine, so the nurse questioned it and I said I was recovering from a hysterectomy. Then she goes through the safety questions to confirm name, birthday, allergies and risk factors. So she asked the date of my last period, I just stared at her in utter shock (it'd been less than 60 seconds since the "I just had a hysterectomy" bit) and finally said "Hysterectomy".
At this point I could see one of the nursing supervisors heads start to emerge from behind the desk right in time for her to say "I don't care if you've had a hysterectomy, I need to know the date of your last period to know if you are pregnant". Not "might be", "are", that's not how pregnancy works. At this point the supervisor has one of the most gobsmacked looks on his face I've ever seen in my life. He knew me well enough to know I could handle it and let it continue. Eventually she gets through it all and says "and now I'm gonna go get your IV supplies". I pointed over her shoulder (he was standing behind her at this point) and said "No, you're gonna go talk to [supervisor] and someone else is gonna do it". That was her last shift there, someone else did my IV (after redoing the checks because, well, duh).
Oh, and I suggest baby wipes if you don't already have some. They were a lifesaver.
It's schadenfreude in English too, because English has never met a useful word it didn't "borrow".
Oh poor Cliccy, thinking conversion therapy isn't still around. The poor sweet summer boi. It's around and there's camps for it even, especially in the US. Like wilderness survival camps I think are one, Bible camps, and I think there's a few more.
I managed to land myself bedridden sick with what is probably covid last night, traumatize them back is one of my favorite videos that you do so this was really nice timing and really brightened a crappy day. Thank you Click for being you
I hope you feel better soon!
@@ankebosing1968so do I, this sucks 😭
get well soon friend :-)
I don't know if this story counts but one time my mom was trying to talk to me telling me that I should be more positive, have more self-love and self-esteem and I mentioned how all my childhood she and my dad told me that kind of things so now I'm used to talking about myself like that. I remember she stayed silent, she didn't try to talk to me more about it and when I looked in her direction I saw her crying while driving.
I hope you're better now.
at least she recognizes she did bad in some capacity and even though she didn't apologize she felt guilty about it. My parents blamed my older brother for not teaching me about life and not disciplining me all the time, even though he is only 2 years older than me and they didn't teach him at all either. Nowadays my parents blame my brother and my brother blames us all (including me) for all that.
Hope you’re okay, also love your deltarune ralsei pfp❤❤
I got my tubes removed willingly, no deadly health issues, I just don’t want kids. I do sometimes talk about it, but it does annoy me that people of any age tell me I should have kids. I think I’m going to take one of two routes to shame them/shut them up.
1. One of my tubes exploded from a tubal pregnancy and I almost died.
2. This is one is semi true and is mainly why I don’t want to have kids.
I was assaulted as a teenager and he wanted to have kids with me. I’m too traumatized, it’s been 15 years. He’s also 11 years older than me.
@@Octoberdoomster1 im so sorry that happened (the SA, not the removing tubes) i hope people stop bothering you about having kids
I just realised how big of a part the LGBTQ+ Stories are on your channel... And I wanted to genuinely thank you.
So, thank you very much Click. That means a lot.
40:36 it’s called conversion therapy, and it still exists in discreet forms. My grandma suggested sending my oh so sweet cousin to a “summer (conversion) camp because she likes other women. Shame on you Carol-Joy…
For that woman with the 1% chance of getting pregnant: My wife and I have been told that it will be basically impossible. We are getting close to 20 years of marriage and - because of the diagnosis very early in our marriage - never used contraceptives. Our son turned 5 this year. And while we aren't planning for or against a sibling, we'll take whatever will happen.
37:50
If your kid cant even do basic chores you FAILED as a parent
Like if you like the caps are an understatement:)
I would say the only correction you need to say is if they have a normal healthy child. There are plenty of circumstances where people have a child that will never be able to do a normal chore but they are amazing parents (My experience is unique though because I did 10 years of home health on the pediatric side helping take care of these children while the parent went to work or the grocery store etc.) But yes your able body children should be able to do most basic chores and make basic meals by the time they hit middle school. And the process is naturally started when they are able to walk.
If you put * on either side of a word/ group of words it makes it bold font *like this*
I had the first story happen to me in my 50's, a couple of years ago. Inlaws would not stop being pushy about inquiring after my family, when my brother had convinced my mom to cut me out of her will right before she died. After like 10 minutes of repeated grilling I decided to get explicit about everything. Yeah, they don't ask any more. They just accept that I think of THEM as my real family and always will. So many people are shocked to learn that not all families are made up of nice people.
Years ago now - 1970s - we were out as a family for a Sunday afternoon drive on a local scenic route through the hills. Twisty, turney, blind corners and a solid white line down the centre of the road. A car could be seen coming up behind us (there were quite a few families out as it was a lovely day and there were lots of walks in those hills) pulling out madly and speeding past other cars. He passed us and we forgot about him - other than dad saying he was asking for trouble that is - and then about 5min later we caught a line of traffic. When we reached the top of the waiting queue there was a large truck, a bloke - presumably the driver - sitting on the side of the road white as a sheet, shaking and looking as though he was about to pass out, and what WAS a car with 2 adults and at least 2 kids in it.
WAS because they had overtaken on a blind corner at speed and gone straight under the oncoming truck. The car* was flattened and I'm guessing EVERYONE inside was dead - probably decapitated, the top sheered off at bonnet height.
I've never ever forgotten that, it was a life lesson in why road rules exist along with speed limits.
*this was before NZ had the equivalent of the UK MOT/Irish NCT and many of the vehicles on the road were literally not fit to be driven and definitely not safe, I'm guessing this was probably one of them as I don't think any normal car would have had the roof taken off at that height.
Still gives me nightmares when we're driving on narrow roads and idiots speed while overtaking on blind bends.
Oh man... I feel so awful for that truck driver... Poor guy never asked to be involved in that. And the poor passengers of that reckless driver too. 😔
I'm glad people were able to learn from such tragedy, but I'm still so sorry for all of you who were harmed by the selfish decisions behind that horrible situation in the first place. :(
We have some friends who are train engineers and at least 2 have been involved in accidents where a car crossed with the train coming or a pedestrian was obliviously walking down the tracks and it's so horrible for them. Trains take significantly longer to stop than other vehicles and they spend that time fully aware that they are probably not going to stop in time and there is nothing they can do to save those people.
There are roads around my family's home town I just can't drive on after growing up with my father telling us about the cousin who died on this curve and the classmate who died on that narrow bridge. My father will be turning 80 this year but those stories still resonate.
OMG that naughty video one. I have a bi friend who's father thinks he is just gay do the same thing to him years ago and not just once. However he turned the table on him the second time by making the most raunchy things he could think of. Focusing on the males in them and making comments like how to improve their techniques, saying how he is making mental notes to do some things with his then partner and so on. The father stopped right in the middle of one film and never tried that again.
Never forget people: forcing someone to look naughty films is s- assault...
The part of the boy putting his dishes in the sink really got to me on a personal level. My MIL taught my husband that men did not do anything but go to work and come home to relax. The woman was supposed to take care of everything else. We, my MIL and I, do not get along at all and it is this specific reason.... she failed him and the advancement of women´s equality by slacking on her job!!! Which for me, in case people do not see eye to eye with me, is to raise their children to be responsible adults that do not expect others to be their subservient. There IS a difference between doing the laundry and picking all the clothes up off the floor every time the "breadwinner" decides to change!!!! BTW, the MIL also works outside the house and still runs after her husband like a slave =(
One, the first thing is no human being that exists should be able to survive alone. As doing basic things is unisex.
Two, everyone works in modern society. So if ypu have a job and your partener have a job you both might try to actualy do the things so it is easier for everyone. Like isn't like a 49% or more of the reasons you get a partener making life easier.
Anyone who say they don't know how to cock or are rich enough to buy food already cocked or they eat non-cocked food, if they don't want to die.
If I know how to cock and you don't help ypu don't eat, is simple
So wait, are you having to fight your husband over this, or is he just working through it?
I hope he can explain it to her. It'd be better coming from him. Best of luck.
(Also she could prob use the eye opening for her own sanity and health.)
@@roxyndra I am living with her right now and he is too terrified of her to say anything... her & I rarely speak. It is not a healthy environment so thank you for the luck ;P
@@jadedjhypsiI dare your husband to amp up his contribution to chores around the house, a positive rebellion, if you will. Who can really complain about more help?
Otherwise, it sounds complicated and I guess sadly, simply not engaging is probably the right way to go. I empathize.
I think the only "comeback" in the moment I've ever had is I was in highschool and we were running in track and I was talking to a friend about how bad my period cramps were and a fellow (male) student walks up mid conversation and tells me cramps aren't that bad. I fully turned around from my conversation said "Do you have a uterus dude? No? Shut up" or something similar and turned my back on him to keep talking to my friend lol
First click vid I've watched in a while. Can't wait to see people get traumatized back.
19:30 That's kind of surprising and really funny how many times I have seen women using farts to get rid of creeps, seriously they're was even a youtuber that I was watching a few years ago that was recommanding it to others women.
It's all unicorn and rainbows till the creepy actually enjoys the fart
I‘m trans n sometimes my favorite colleague asks stuff about it ( bullying as affection)..he asks me the best, stupidest question ever : „Hey, do you now earn more money now that you’re a man?“ love that guy😂😂
"Dyslexitive" -- I can't help but laugh at that word 😂😂
So the story about the coworker asking the insensitive question is mine and clicks on point with the idea that they dont think about what the answer would be.
BTW: conversion therapy was the word you were thinking of, it was banned about 9 months ago where i live and often includes a lot of the stuff i went through too.
I'm very open about my fertility journey too and yes sometimes a smear it on a bit thick to shame people who thoughtlessly comment on our lack of children. The well intended I just correct, letting them know they aren't being helpful but those 'clock is ticking' gets full shame
I don't know if I'm fertile or not but honest. That's not really what I care about. I am trans, I physically am incapable of giving birth no matter how much I want to.
I have talked to many people who don't know Im trans and assume Im a cis woman. I haven't yet had someone pry further, if they ask in curiosity why I can't get pregnant I just say 'I can't get pregnant if I don't have a uterus' not a lie, and it makes them be more apologetic about things. Nobody has said Im not a woman or said anything to imply they think they may be talking to a trans woman.
I think the feelings I have about being incapable is probably very similar to other women who are incapable for other reasons.
But being trans I hear this all the time 'I wouldn't want to date a trans women cause then we couldn't have kids' it's like. You realize that the argument there is really bad, many cis women can't and you're shutting the door on them too. My sis in law was told she was incapable of having kids. I have a neice now. If my brother had the line of thought they did he wouldn't be happily married. It's sad there are people out there willing to abandon true love because of something the partner is self conscious about.
"Clock is tickingggg"
"My Clock is broken, no batteries, no hands."
"..."
@ThingInTheHall "if my clock ain't ticking, something is seriously wrong."
I actually find your dyslexia a quite enjoyable part of these videos. My older sister and mom are both dislexic, and would read stories to me when I was young. Reading the text and noticing the differences in what they were saying and what I was reading was something I enjoyed.
Thanks for letting me have that experience again as an adult
That bit about Jay and periods: if you pay attention, the passage pretty much says that the first few days of a period are staycation time. You and the other menstruators go to your own nice, comfy hut, people bring you food, water, pretty much anything you need. You rest. You chat. You sleep in rather than look after the house or tend the fields. The whole "unclean" thing is just there to make everyone leave you alone. 👍
Damn, I love my people. 💙✡️💙
That actually sounds pretty amazing... Where can I sign up😂
It says that women stay off-limits until two weeks after the drippies stop.
It’s dumb af, but that’s what it says.
I’m very familiar with the text.
There are myths going around that try to make the bible sound better, for some reason (it actually is, in fact, sadly, homophobic, for one. I don’t know why people keep saying it’s not. The Hebrew is very clear. One could do some wild reinterpretation and some have, but it says “don’t do a male like a woman”)
I’m a semi-religious Jew, but big into biblical criticism, and fully accept that the book was written by people, but I do study it, because tradition.
I have a shelf full of translations and commentaries.
I have a set of books that have the Torah in the original Hebrew, two translations of that into English, an old translation of the Hebrew into Aramaic, and that Aramaic translation into English, all of this below the Hebrew and Aramaic, interlinear. It’s awesome.
There’s nothing about a comfy hut. There are no details. Anything beyond that is Mishnah, Talmud, Rashi, Rambam, or other commentary.
Text is weird, there are many interpretations (duh, we’re Jews. I always say “show up to the shiur with two opinions, leave with five), but let’s not spread misinformation.
@elektrajames8087
Well, sadly OP is wrong, but you can try to convince a local rabbi to let you try to get your Jew certificate.
If you’re AMAB, prepare to bleed at minimum, if not get extremely painful surgery, after 1 year minimum of study.
Giur is… a lot.
Wait… is that 7 days?
Whatever Orthodox and some Conservative people do!
Yeah.
The booble be weird and written by men thousands of years ago.
Click: "Not me getting random words completely wrong." after saying U-net-ics (as opposed to U-gen-ix) multiple times in a story. XD
He does that on purpose because youtube often demonetizes videos that use that word frequently.
The worst drivers are people who tries to catch ferries, they'll overtake you at highway speeds on narrow Norwegian fjord roads, so narrow that they don't even have a centre line, and end up on the same f-ing ferry as you and the other cars they dangerously passed.
And depending on the ferry, the first on it might be the last that can leave it...
17:48 funniest line in the whole video cause he just spent the last few minutes skipping the g in eugenics
That 8yo nephew better be a judge when he grows up bc we *need* people like that working in law-
17:42 Post: "Dyslexic typos"
The Click: "Dis-Laxative typos"
Me: It's the same picture 💁
I love click saying "couldn't be me reading stories for a living and being dyslaxative" after pronouncing eugenics all possible ways except the correct one. That was top tier comedic timing that I assume was an accident but was really really funny. (This is not a criticism of him being dyslexic in any way, th emispronunciations had 0 impact on my appreciation o the story or video I just couldnt not point out the timing)
Yeah, that timing couldn't have been better 😂
Found this comment moments before he said this lol
27:40 To be honest, children can be awful and he is definitely responsible for his misogynistic, racist and xenophobic remarks. However, there also seems to be a big parenting issue here: This child has been fed extremist propaganda probably for several years which made him paranoid about daily insignificant things. As a teacher, I would pass that information onto child services because this is not a healthy household for a child to be raised in.
Best way to start the day, especially the story about the nephew. I actually had a similar experience when I was a kid, but at my mom's workplace.
Don't know if it's the norm everywhere, but in Canada we have "Take your kids to work day", or we did when I was in junior high. You spend a work day with a parental figure, then write a report on what you/they did for the day. Most kids didn't really participate, they just treated the day as a spare. But me? I wanted to do something, get a taste of what it was like to work in an environmental lab. It was great! I got to prepare mud samples, create binders for archival purposes, and pretty sure they had me sort sample bottles at one point.
One of my moms co-workers when she found out I was assembling the binders expressed horror that "child labour" was occurring on company grounds. My response? "It's bring your kids to work day, what else am I supposed to do? Besides, this is way more interesting than playing video games." Coworker had no reply.
My mom still laughs about the incident. Pretty sure I got an A on that report as well.
My Mom is a fragile Narcissist and I grew up in a day and age when slapping, pushing over, switch spanking, etc was just normal. I was weird among my classmates - my Dad only hit me a couple of times. Why I dont have any kids. The violence is just a reaction in me I cant quiet. Especially with the entitled brats I keep running into. But since they go back to their parents I dont feel the need to try and use my crippled parenting skills.
Most kids seem to think Im friendly. I smiled at one little guy and he turned away from his Mom and came over to me in the store. I called his Mom and gently herded him back to her. He was sweet, naieve, and so trusting it was so special and yet felt too risky.
Ive been told plenty of time Im not really depressed (Esp by my Mom who knew what I was really thinking and told me). I was being avaluated and the doctor asked me "But are you /really/ going to kill yourself?" I answered "Do you want me to try and find a gun? I can come back and do it here." In my most eager to help voice. He changed the subject.
I have a cousin who is trans, and he does absolutely not come from a homophobic family. If you asked me if any of my family members were homophobic, you would get silence, then, “None.” So that woman is kinda stupid for assuming trans people are trans because of homophobia and trauma..
35:30 I had this happen too! I was in first grade, we had this really crappy substitue. I felt really sick, and was pretty sure I was going to throw up. I went to the substitute and asked to go to the bathroom, because I felt like I was going to throw up. She said "no you're not, go back to work" I went back to my desk. A few minutes later I was feeling even worse, so I asked again. "I said youre fine, stop inturrupting silent work time" I go back to my desk again. A while later, I go ask a third time, because I'm literally retching and trying not to puke in my mouth. "For the last time, stop inturrupting silent work time, youre disrupting the whole class!" I then promptly vomited everywhere. I was 6 years old when this happened.
My cat died yesterday and this honestly really cheered me up, thanks Click
Sending meows of deepest condolences ❤
May they rest, hope you got support ❤
36:05 like 2 or so years ago I started to feel 'weird' when I was at school, not full blown sick but I could tell something was wrong so I just sat in the hallway for half the school-day before I went home. Turns out it was covid!
23:50 I had a friend in HS who once said, "I'm not b*tching at you, I'm b*tching in your direction," and TBH I think that is a good rule of thumb (and understandable) in customer service. It is 100% okay to be frustrated with a situation and even to voice that frustration to service staff...but don't make it personal and be mean. I have definitely been *angry* at the pharmacy before. Typically because I will get an alert that my prescription is filled and ready, then show up two hours later to find it ISN'T ready. Or to be told it is ready, only to arrive and have them claim it is out of stock. That is enraging.
Love the content, Click! Chapters on the video would be super helpful! 👋🏽😊
0:00 Intro
0:53 "No Contact with Parents"
5:23 "Pediatric Burn Unit"
10:53 "Infertility Grenade"
14:37 "Calling HS Bully Hitler"
17:57 "Traumatizing Butts"
20:14 "Be Nice to Pharmacist"
24:46 "Religion x Periods"
28:50 "Wedding Transphobe"
32:09 "Too Young for Chronic Illness"
32:53 "Co-worker Asks About Privates"
35:27 "Nurse's Office or Vomit "
36:30 "Man Shouldn't Do Dishes"
39:03 "Lesbian Mirrors Mother's Treatment"
Well, she didnt ask about my privates, she asked about my trauma. The questions about my privates where from other coworkers.
I've found that if I want more sympathy from people about my egg donor, I should call her by her first name or omit that she's my birth mom and let them assume she's a step parent. I like to call my bio mom "my dad's first wife" or just "my dad's wife" since that makes is seem like we have a degree of separation, since what kid would say that about their birth parent? I've slipped up a couple times, but if people ask why my "dad's wife" and "my mom" have the same name, I just give them a look and say "well, my dad had a type, you could say." I'm lucky that I don't live in an area where people know my actual family connections so people are unlikely to discover the whole truth and, even if they are, I can't say I care because I've never actively lied, just used some creative wording and relied on other people's misunderstandings. It's not really traumatize them back so much as protecting myself from having to use my trauma to shut up idiots.
That. is. genius.