Jaw surgery week 3: having a hard time & going home
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- Опубликовано: 25 авг 2024
- Today (the day I'm uploading this) it has officially been 3 weeks since I had jaw surgery. This vlog is from day 15-20 (week 3). I definitely am feeling a little frustrated with the progress of healing. I started comparing my progress to other people on RUclips and felt a little discouraged with how frozen my face was. I decided to fly home because I still don't have my energy back to make videos, or go and hang out with anyone really, so figured I'd rest in washington. I don't usually like to share such "down" moments, it's not really that fun, but I think it's good to document for anyone getting this surgery to realize what you are in for.
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You should keep in mind the self-selection bias of people who post RUclips videos of themselves after surgery. Someone who is still swollen and not able to move their mouth is unlikely to post a video of themselves 2-3 weeks post surgery because they can’t talk and/or aren’t confident enough about the way they look to put a video of themselves on the internet (the same way you didn’t feel comfortable showing your face in an Instagram pic). For every video you saw of people recovering quickly post-op, there are probably 5 times as many people recovering at the same rate or slower than you but they’re not going to post a video showing off how swollen they still are and how insecure they feel.
That’s why it’s a true testament to your strength, character, and self confidence that you are willing to put your whole recovery process (both physical and mental) on the internet for people to see.
Such a good point!!
Best comment! She has been so smart and brave about the entire process. I know she has incredible dedication and drive, but this was a MAJOR surgery so I hope she can be a little less hard on herself.
Shelby take your time and step back and look around you. You need to force on yourself ans this will make you strong and make more wise.
yes, so true!
500 IQ comment
There is a big difference between the beginning of the video and the end of the video! You’ll be back to normal eventually!
I was going to say that! And even in the middle of the video, there's a visible difference. It’s so amazing that you are sharing your experience! I’m sure you'll help a lot of people ☺️
I totally agree. The puffiness has gone down substantially. Looking good!
I agree. She looks so much more like herself in the last segment. It must be very weird and scary to still feel numb after all that time, though.
@@aksez2u I have broken many bones, and swelling can take a long time to go down. Nerve damage is a bitch, It takes a long time to feel normal.
100% agree!!! Turmeric is an amazing anti-inflammatory and try more cbd in other forms you can get it (make sure there’s no thc!). Between the turmeric and the latte I could tell a HUGE difference. Keep resting and you’ll be back in no time.
Seeing Monica blow dry your hair 😭 and explain things for you when it hurts to talk 😭 I love your relationship together. You’re so freaking strong, so proud of you. It will all be worth it in the end ❤️
Came here to say this. Couldn’t of said it any better 🥺❤️
Yes we can understand you! I’m sure adding in the subtitles is very time consuming and so I defintely wouldn’t worry about it :)
Shelby please take care of yourself. You use your time to rest rather doing things like putting subtitles in your videos. You can put them later. When you recover.
I'm a dentist, been following since I was a dental student. The nose actually get upturned after these kind of surgeries. Once the swelling all goes down you'll look like your old self but a teeny bit better. Dont worry, you're doing great! sending love
How much more upturned? This may be a deal breaker for me cause my nose already more upturned than the average 🙁
Is it only temporary?
I understand you perfectly without the subtitles.
At the end of the vlog you looked a lot less swollen!
I know it’s not the same. But when I had my four wisdom teeth removed, I was swollen more and longer than the standard for other people. At the end everything was fine. It’s okay that you’re taking a little bit longer. Have faith in your body! You’re doing amazing Shelby ♥️
Just like anything in life, try not to compare your recovery with other people's. People heal differently, just like they lose weight differently, or react to medications differently. Keep that gorgeous chin up. You got this, and by this time next year you won't even remember this healing process being as bad as it currently feels. 💙
Also, I'm hearing impaired, so I generally use subtitles on all media I watch. But yes, I could understand you without the open captions. ☺️
Yes we can understand you! 💕💕💕💕
I had a knee surgery earlier this year ( completely different from yours I know lol) but I was also frustrated with my healing process because of what I was reading about on the internet. Something I tried to remind myself was that every body heals differently!
Oliver is such a good boi 🐶
hes so good!!!
What breed is he?
Eva Vestergaard a Sheltie
The change in your face between the beginning of this vlog and the end of the vlog is dramatic. You are looking more and more like yourself every day. Looking beautiful. Probably hard for you to see since you are seeing your face every day, but wow. Go back and look at your previous post surgery vlogs and you'll see it more clearly. You're doing great! 👍
Hang in there, kiddo. Each patient's situation is different. Some heal faster, others heal more slowly. YOU WILL GET THERE. You have the spirit and the character to get through this and make it to the other side. You went back to work making video logs for your people almost immediately. That shows how much inner strength you have. Nothing's gonna keep this girl down!
For what it's worth, I've been following all your post surgery videos. To me, watching this video on my TV, this is the first time that your swelling has diminished to the point where I say to myself "she's beginning to look like her old self". You may notice improvement--or not--on a daily basis, but today is the first time you look much closer to the pre-surgery Shelby. Hope that makes you feel a little better. You are WAY braver than me. Believe me, I can relate to the unrelenting 24/7 discomfort.
Don’t be so hard on yourself, shelby! At 12:00 i thaught that youre looking so good already fr 😍💕
Yeah, me too!
Though, it would be better if she didn't allow her pets in her own room especially on her bed
Happy to hear you're with your family. You have had a major surgery, your body needs time to heal properly
Such a bummer, but I think it’s nice that she’s setting what is probably a more realistic standard for recovery. Some other person can watch this and realize that everyone heals at different rates, probably easing their anxiety by a boatload.
The swelling is going down, babe. You're still beautiful
Shelby, your swelling and talking are so much better!! You may not be able to see it but the progress is happening!!! The mouth takes so long to heal and everyone is different!! When I had my wisdoms out I was in pain for much longer than others but my extractions process was a tad bit different due to the placement of my teeth. Sending hugs!!!
I'm sure people have already mentioned this, but there is a huge difference between the beginning and end of the video. Keep your head up, it will all be worth it in like 2 weeks!
glad you can see it, it’s hard to day by day- thanks!!
Babe youre judging yourself too hard you look amazing and your progress is splendid. Dont overstress its going to heal extremely well
With every post-surgery video, you are improving so fast. However, it’s sort of funny how your impatience, with the healing process, really stands out. Appreciate you not hiding it.
I think you’re being too rough with yourself, because your face looks amazing for a 2 week recovery! 😻 I’m impressed
You go girl ☺️☺️
Huge improvement between day 15 and 16 and it just kept getting better. I think you will be back to normal quicker than you think.
Tbh I really started watching your channel more after your surgery. I have really been enjoying getting to see your journey with your jaw surgery and getting to know your personality more. Hang in there! You’re doing great!
Hi Shelby, first off, kudos for being so real and vulnerable on your recovery - appreciate that. I just had double jaw surgery on 30 Oct too, so can relate to your videos. Different people have different timelines for recovery based on their bodies etc, and its been a rollercoaster for me too, looking at my face daily, hoping for the swelling to drop and for more feeling into my upper lips etc. It can be quite daunting to compare to those who have supposedly better results at 2 weeks, but there are many others who complain of worse at 4 - 6 weeks. Sending you best wishes and space to heal, enjoy the down time
After the Halloween clip I'm glad you are with family. Gives you more time to rest and probably better for your mental state. Wishing you the best Shelby.
Also I can under you without subtitles 🙂
As a nurse I can say with assurance that everyone heals from surgery in their own way. Wishing you a very speedy recovery! 💕
Shelby, I had the same surgery. It's very hard for 3 months but progressively gets better. My bite and speech has been so much better. 10 yrs later I wouldn't have it any other way. It's worth it. Hang in there. Sending more power to you to heal quickly.
Just saw a video of another guy who said it takes months for the swelling to fully go down. I know its hard but be patient with yourself and you're beautiful either way.
Hi!! I’m one week behind you on this surgery and I’m not sure if your still using ice but ice and heat really help with swelling! Your so beautiful like always and we will get through this Halloween was really hard I feel you on that one for sure. Love your vlogs it’s comforting to have someone else who is experiencing the same things as me so it makes it not so scary to know that❤️ you’ve got this!
"Painfully slowly", just like the ballot counting.
LOL
praying for you Shelby! thanks for being so real and vulnerable with us. try not to compare your journey with others even though i know it’s better said than done! you got this!
Omg Oliver at 10:27 🥺❤️ You’re already showing a TON of improvement, girl! We’re all rooting for you!
I really remember the tongue chewing after my surgery. You're so lucky you didn't have to use a stint. That was an ordeal. I took some time to heal. I'm sure the procedures have improved since I had it done in 1992. Yes, before you were you. I've never regretted getting it done.
Thank you so much for posting these videos. I’ve watched so many jaw surgery videos and nobody looks as swollen or looks like they’re in as much pain as I am but when I saw your videos it really calmed my nerves because i can relate more to you than anybody. I’ve cried daily looking at myself because I’m so swollen so thanks for helping me to look forward! You look great! Thanks bunches 💕
I had a nose job on October 2 and all I had kept reading about was how “painless” recovery was and how everyone had a big tearful moment when their cast came off. I didn’t have ANY of that 😂 My recovery was tough for the first month and I had some surgery blues. It’s just a patience and waiting game. You’re doing amazing ❤️❤️
hey! I’m looking to get a surgery & your videos helps so much (because they are real). I mean I saw other girl on IG with almost no swelling right after op & on day 6 looking perfect. I was like howwwwwww.
so it just proves the point we all are so different & every story is extremelly useful. get well soon. sending lots of love! and million thanks once again.🥳
Hey girl, I had Double Jaw Surgery about 1,5 years ago now. I was definitely more swollen then most people, even 2 months postop. It's a long recovery and the key is PATIENCE. Remember that at 3 weeks your jaws are still broken! So be kind to yourself. It's so normal to get frustrated and even depressed - as it said on your note pre-op! I definitely had an identity crisis because of the swelling, I thought I hated my new face. It was around day 15 for me too, and I promise it's just swelling deceiving you. But now I'm so happy with the results, especially health and function wise. So try not to judge yourself, try to focus on resting and healing and having fun, and time will pass faster! Before you know it you will be recovered.
One of the key things that got me through recovery was support -- I had a lot from family, just like you do, but I also followed a lot of people and was in like a Jaw surgery community on Instagram. It helped a lot! Talking to people who had been through it and getting encouragements. I definitely recommend doing that, if you need any help my Jaw surgery account is @double.jws :) Don't be afraid to reach out! This is major surgery and a long recovery
I am 30 years old and two years ago, I broke my hand wrist, normally takes 3 months to completely heal, for me it took 9 month. I was going crazy. People heal differently. Everything will be fine. Sending you a big hug
Shelby you look a lot better, keep up the good healing! love and light
🥺 I understand why you feel so sad. But believe me you are being so brave and inspiring for so many other people especially me since my jaw is actually pushed back and I’ve been thinking of getting surgery and you are being so unbelievably brave. And thank you for documenting this. This shows me that not all people react the same and swelling can actually last more than 2 weeks. Sending a big hug. 💛 things will get better!
Hi Shelby, I probably did my double jaw surgery approximately the same time as you and currently in my 3rd week post-op, my face is still swollen at the mid section on both sides, and my nose is also elevated by a bit because the surgeon moved my upper jaw forward. So no worries, you just have to be positive and "wait it out" :) All the best for recovery!
Some people just take longer to heal! One tip that my many orthopedic surgeons tell their patients to aid with bone healing is to take a daily carnation supplement. Everyone swears by it! My brother took it after he shattered his knee and he healed quicker than expected. Or a daily calcium/vitamin D supplement of any kind would definitely help. Either way, I feel like your swelling is going way down! Definitely headed in then right direction and I can already tell your new jaw is looking amazing 💕
I love watching your recovery videos! And I know you're comparing yourself to others' journeys but I think especially in the second part of the video the swelling has gone down sooo much! You can compare yourself to your earlier videos, not to anyone else, I think you've made great progress! Best of luck!!!xx
Oliver would make a great therapy dog!
All are restored in different ways after the operation. Don't worry too much. Everything will be fine!
Hi I can understand you but I would maybe recommend finding a closed caption service just because there may be some deaf viewers that would really appreciate being able to enjoy your content. I know that can be expensive and this is your second channel but just something to think about ❤️💕 thanks for all you do!!
This is a great idea!
I believe RUclips can auto-generate CC. You can select language and enable CC.
Helychrisum Italicum essential oil is a miraculous oil. It reduces swelling and bruises in a flash. I've put a tiny amount after my last HA injections and was able to go out 3 hours after aplication, when my swelling usually lasts for 36hours. I'm also considering jaw surgery for my overbite and would definitely use it afterward. Hope that helps !
Your vlogs are so helpful. I am post op week 3 too now and I keep watching your videos every week to feel the support. You don’t know how much this helps. Thanks for sharing your journey, really. ❤
From the beginning to the end of the video, there's a huge difference in how clearly you can talk AND the swelling looks WAY less prominent! Don't get too down on yourself. You're making progress! Just keep taking care of yourself, drink lots of turmeric and ginger to help swelling go down, and avoid alcohol and caffeine as much as you can. You're strong and beautiful, and everything will get better!
2 years post op. Trust me when I say 2 weeks post op isn't long enough to judge your own progress.
Other tips:
1. Tumeric + Black pepper + Fat (Basically what an indian curry would have) for optimum absorpotion. You can google this for more informaiton.
2. Sugar only creates more inflammation and slows healing. I hate this because I have a sweet tooth, but trust me when I say that it's true. I've learned to prefer savoury food.
Bliss your heart Shelby, hoping things get better faster.
We can definitely understand when you speak! Take a break with writing the "subtitles" when you edit and save yourself some of that mental energy while you continue to heal!
Shelby, you are actually SOOOOO brave to share with the internet your breakdowns. I admire you for that!
When you tried to smile 😭😭😭
Shelby you’re cute even swollen! I know you don’t feel yourself. Thanks for being so vulnerable on film. It’s entertaining! Just look at your twin and act like she’s your mirror. That’s what I did with my twin brother when I was in the hospital. It actually helped me. I was motivated to stick with my physical therapy
Time does go by so slow. I was in a nursing home for 3 months, and it felt like a year. Looking back now, it was such a fast recovery. So don’t worry. You’ll be back to your gorgeous self in no time!
you are a person with incredible strength, despite having gone through a major operation, between swelling and pain, you have had the will to upload videos and show people how you are dealing with it. For me you are a source of great inspiration. I love you ♡♡
Can you get Oliver one of those tiny dog mics so he can speak to us??
I was still that swollen at the same point as you! I had to go back to work and people would come into my office for questions and people would treat me “weird” because I couldn’t talk that well. It would really upset me. I promise it’ll get better 💜
I have been checking everyday if you have posted. Really relieved to see you post a video. Take it easy. It's getting there. You're looking more your self.
Omg I couldn’t even tell the difference between you and your twin! So gorgeous 💞
I’m day 16 and you and I are the same. Swelling wise, numbness and speech. I’m so relieved because I felt like I was too far behind in progress. Thanks for posting this!
Hey shelby don't worry your looking good and yes I can understand you without subtitles.
Oliver is so brave!
And teddy too!
Monica is such a sweet sister, im so happy you guys have each other
I just started binging your videos and I’m so sorry that you’re feeling the way that you do. I know you probably won’t see this but you’re so strong. I’ve had cosmetic surgeries and my recovery was always different from what I saw on RUclips. Have faith and everything will work out. You’re still so beautiful swollen or not 💖
Yes, I can understand you! So sorry you’re dealing with this, after my simple gallbladder surgery I was supposed to be back to work in two weeks and due to complications it was over two months. It sucks when expectations don’t match reality, but time will literally heal you - just give your body what it needs and it’ll do the work.
Oh Shelby, I wish I could hug you. It sucks seeing you upset!
On the bright side, you can later make a video sharing your full healing experience so future patients won't feel like they are the only one if they are healing at a slower pace too 🧡
Been patiently waiting for an update.. looking better already! 🙏🏾
Monica is such a good sister. So nice to see her there supporting you everyday ❤️
Thank you Shelby for sharing your experience. You help many people with your videos. I hope you get well very soon.
I’ve been watching since day 1 post op and I’ve definitely noticed the swelling go down! I think since you see yourself everyday you don’t see the difference as much but from day 1 till now there’s a drastic difference! Stay in there! You got it!
Hang in there Shelby. You're a champ. Wishing you continued progress and peace of mind and looking forward to you getting this all behind you.
Awww you're such a little sweet pea. I'm so sorry you're so swollen and can't talk normal! I'm sending you a big hug 🥰
So proud of you! From one twin to another you really are making huge progress! So hard to see day-to-day, but keep moving forward! 😊
I am so sorry you feel sad! Seeing you sad and crying breaks my heart. I love watching you and I want to send you a care package! I also want you to know you are loved and I am praying for you to have a speedy and comfortable time recovering ❤️❤️
Thanks for sharing your updates and being honest and open about this whole process. I am sure when the numbness and the swelling reduces a lot more you will feel happier with how your face feels and looks. A lot more healing will happen in the next few weeks. You are doing well, I admire you a lot.
Please remember you are not alone. You have a lot of people who care about you xoxo
Hey Shelby, don't be so down on your healing. Different people heal at different rates, It's normal. Your sister may heal quicker or slower than you with the same surgery, even tho you are twins. Keep your chin up, you are a beautiful young lady and an inspiration to a lot of people. I enjoy seeing you smile and have fun and can't wait to see you smile again. Plenty of rest and doggo and you'll be better before you know it :)
Hi Shelby, I had jaw surgery similar to yours when I was 19. I am now 61... yes...61. My jaw was wired shut for six weeks. I ate strained spaghetti sauce through a straw and eggnogs. We didn’t know about smoothies back then. I lost 32lbs and I still have wires that show up on xrays. I had digestive issues before surgery but after recovery they disappeared. You look great and seem to be doing great. I know it seemed like forever for the swelling to go down but it did. Once it started it went down fairly quickly. I was impatient as I had a horse and wasn’t allowed to ride her til I was recovered. I also had to carry emergency pliers with me Incase I choked or needed to vomit ad would have to clip my wires. I have them somewhere as a weird momento. Anyway I just wanted to commiserate with you as you heal. You are doing super. I wish you all the best. Try to be patient. I know it’s hard. I never regretted my surgery. I doubt you will either. It changed my looks slightly but nothing that upset me. Wishing you a quick recovery. ❤️
What your voice the morning after the turmeric is so much clearer!
Shelby hang in there. You're brave to go thru the jaw surgery. Swelling has gone down a lot! Your voice is getting closer to normal. I can understand you quite easily now. You look a little different, through u looked a lot different, in the 10 days, after the surgery. Can't wait to hear you laugh again. I feel it coming in another 10-14/days. Keep leaving the apartment, it'll cheer up!
Shelby and Monica are looking more similar now, it’s crazy! Both beautiful ladies
I've discovered your channel only recently, so i've only ever seen you post-op. For someone that doesn't know what you normally look like (which i'm sure you will look like again very soon! :)), you really look quite normal. It really isn't that bad! I've seen all of your post-op videos and i think you've made great progress, you just might not fully realize it bc you see your face every day but you look sooo much better! Get well soon (:
I don't know if this helps at all, I never got Jaw Surgery but I have gotten a nose job and I was swollen for so long too!! I couldn't smile for pretty much a month and a half, and honestly with the swelling I would wake up in the morning a bit swollen for about a year. There was nothing wrong with me, everyone just reacts a little differently to surgery! I even had to take these family pictures and my face was all puffy and they will live in eternity in everyone in my family's homes haha. BUT I have no regrets about it now and I get to look back at that period and those pictures and laugh because I just looked so squishy. I know it's hard but you have totally got this, and its okay to feel bummed about it. Just try and remember you will get through this, I promise there is a light at the end of the tunnel :)
okay good to know it made it difficult to smile! that's what has had me so confused, I know my upper jaw is swollen but it's weird not being able to move the area above my lip at all really!
@@shelbychurchvlogs Yeah thats exactly where I had the problem, it was just so swollen under my nose and around my upper lip that nothing I could do could make it move anywhere. It's a super weird and frustrating feeling for sure, but you totally got this and it will go down eventually!
Shelby, thanks for being honest about recovery. Not everyone recovers at same rate, and seeing you is very helpful!!!
Yes, we can understand! When Monica was talking, I legit thought it was you. 😂 Glad you went home! Being around family just makes you feel better.
Healing is not a linear process and with time you will definitely heal. Sending hugs!
You're less swollen at the end of the video, you're almost there Beautiful!! You got your surgery done right in time when there's not much going on and basically everybody is cooped up most of the time lol 😂 Believe me you would've been much more depressed if everything was normal and everybody was doing their thing. You made the right decision Shelby!!
Aw Shelby I feel for you!! I didn’t have jaw surgery but I have had 2 knee reconstructions and I feel like it isn’t easy no matter what. I couldn’t walk for 2 months and I definitely recovered slower than most, it is tough comparing yourself to others and feeling like you will be stuck that way forever and it wont get better but keep pushing through, the swelling is definitely better than it was, even if it is hard for you to see that because you see yourself everyday! Everything will be okay girlie ♥️
Ice up! 45 minutes on 1 hour off when you're just chillin. Will definitely help a lot with the pain and the swelling. Also, just like every one else said, don't compare from other people. One, because everyone heals differently, and two, you don't know the difference in the extensiveness of their surgery to yours. They might be similar, but not the same. Well wishes from Canada! 🍁
I think it’s because it’s your face and you watch it constantly but I see how it gets less swollen day by day! Come on girl, you will get through this, smile on the inside while physically you can’t on the outside 💕❤️💪😘
Poor baby girl!!!! I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I just prayed for you to have a speedier recovery. And girl. I don’t even pray usually ! ❤️
A ww, Shelby. I feel for you. Remember, everyone’s jaw surgery is different, and comparison is unfair and the thief of joy. You are doing so great, and we are all proud of you! This pain is going to be worth it in the long run.
I’m having this surgery on December and I’m anxious af because at the end of January I start my last semester of Uni. Tips for the swelling that worked for me when I had my wisdom teeth out: sleep with the head elevated not flat, a jade roller (put it on the fridge and softly run it on the swelling areas), cold and hot compresses, the more you use your mouth to eat or talk is normal that gets swollen at the end of the day, think positive even tho is hard but positive thoughts are positive vibes and that helps you heal ✨ you will get through this ! (sorry for my misspelling my first language is not english)
Hey! You look FANTASTIC and are well on the way to recovery!! It's so nice to see "our girl" coming back to normal once again.
Your doctor told you it’s completely okay for swelling to take a while to go down. Everyone has go heal in their own time. I know my skin takes a little longer to recover from a cut or scab longer than my boyfriend. You’re doing amazing and just keep it up. I love all the Oliver in the videos I love dogs!
I had DJS in June with over a year of prep work (braces) so I know how you feel. I also wasn't to eat normally for over 4 months. Patience is key. Hope you feel better soon!
The difference in the swelling between the beginning and end of this video is WILD! You’re on your way Shelby!
I’m on day 8 - and it reallyyyy doesn’t feel like it, it’s so subjective ♥️
You're so brave Shelby! Captions are nice, but not really needed as I didn't find it difficult to understand you, especially day 16 and beyond.
Also, I hope you keep/kept in mind when comparing your healing to others is that there are so many factors that affect each person's healing. I love watching your videos and hope you feel better soon!