I love my sister more than a billion. I think what he did wrong is not involving his wife. Marriage means you should be able to talk about anything. Anyways just spoiling isn't love too, if you love someone you also need to do things they dislike it it's good for them.
I love my sister, i would give my kidney if she needed one BUT i would never gift her anything above 100 dollars heck i don't even trust her with my phone
Post-updates, while it definitely hurts OP emotionally, I say she did the right thing, and honestly, from my perspective, the husband is just as awful as his bratty sister, cause even throughout the divorce and the contents of the letter, it's clear he made it all about himself. Whatever remorse he claims to have, I am not buying it. While the ex is not openly bratty and entitled, narcissism does run in this family. Normally I would be open for second chances, but with the way the ex demeaned OP and still tried to emotionally manipulate OP with his wording, he would be doing a lot of proverbial hoop jumping if he wants to earn my trust. OP, as you said, take this a day at a time, and you can recover. Although I would suggest permanently blocking him and go no contact, washing your hands off this phase of your life for good. A clear break is needed if you want a fresh start.
Narcissist is so overused nowadays. Honestly, both OP and ex are in the wrong and were clearly not ready for marriage if a slight disagreement caused their marriage to fall apart to this extent. Ex was selfish and only thinking of himself, but OP was also only thinking of herself
@@thestranger1475 hmm it seems they were more than well off, with at least 50k+ in joint savings and maybe even more in individual. This issue didn’t seem like it should’ve resulted in their marriage falling apart, they’re relationship had weak foundations
He too 25k $ gift behind OP back . His sister showed him how stupid he is and refused to give back necklace . Instead of taking money from his account he is taking it from Joint account. . How stupid OP husband can be ?
"- How did we come to this in a matter of weeks? - You've done something extremely stupid and selfish behind my back, then insulted me as a person once i called you out on it then left me to rot up until your whole family pushed you away then, even as you were asking me to be your doormat, still managed to insult me a second time. Do I need to continue?"
She should have blocked the joint savings account after he stole $25k from the account without her knowledge. She should have withdrawn the rest of the amount from the account, instead of waiting out on it. He had the gall to say that he was the only one to be depositing the amount for the last couple of months. Never ever rush in to make joint savings account in a marriage. You can have a joint account for the expenses purposes, but don't rush for savings though. Have your own individual savings account for safety reasons. Most marriages fall apart because of the financial reasons. He didn't give a fcuk about OP or her intentions. Good riddance, divorce was the right choice in this event. There was no coming back from this blatant disrespect, insults, and belittling. $25k gift for his sister for what joy, I don't understand.
NEVER leave a decent job intel you have another one lined up. She thought she could rely on her husband, but all it took was four months for him to see her as a "stupid housewife". Plus, any employer you apply to will look at your work history and see that unemployed stretch for no particular reason and not look too favorably.
Pos hubs shouldve used his own money not money from their joint account as, if you pay attention clearly, they have separate finances and accounts as well as a joint account. Never touch joint savings for selfish purchases. A $25k gift for a bratty sibling is selfish asf.
If you're SO spends money behind your back, it's time to divorce because money is more important to them. And, despite what you might feel about the Bible, 1 Timothy 6:10 is completely true: "For the love of money is the root of all evil..."
25k is like. 2-5yrs of work. Hell not that many people have it in their savings accounts lol. I would be betrayed asf too, then be belittled? Y3ah nah gtfo
Even the husband knows that the shit that he's trying to pull is wrong at some capacity. If he didn't feel that way, he didn't bother to disabling the notification. But, yeah. When he finally see the full picture, it's just too late.
You can tell there was much more going on for this to be the end for Op. Glad Op stood up for herself and no longer the doormat she was. I can tell he spent lots of money on his sister before for him to pull out 25k that easy to spend on her. They were planning on having a baby when he already had one, his sister. Rasing a baby takes lots of money, so you need to save a small fortune to start.
Okay, you shouldn’t ask for a gift back that is messed up. The girl should be sympathetic of course but like, bro. Thats why you don’t… do that. It wasn’t even a properly confirmed job obviously. Who does that?
Okay, riddle me this, why is the husband working for a company that would give a bonus, and then demand it back when they lost the contract? Like unless the husband is grossly negligent, that sounds like a lawsuit waiting to happen. I would have led them on until I got another job lined up and dip. You don’t play those games with employees or employers, it’s completely unreasonable for the company to do that.
@11:55 🤣🤣🤣 25 large on *a* gift? Jewelry too, like not even Stocks, Precious Metals or Bitcoin, something that might appreciate and could involve possibly being paid back. All the OP has to ask is - has d ip s hit ever spent 25k on a gift for me? I’m 99% sure the answer’s no, because logically she’d have said so. That sums it all up right there. What i will say though is that for women, love is transactional. She blabbed that she loved him, but what was the underlying concern? Screwing off with finances.
I think i heard an almost similar stories before, instead it is a 10k birthday celebration for a bratty sister, and he use the company's money secretly which he has to return in time or else face termination or worse punishment, and he also uses the other money he siphon for his gambling habits, expensive hobbies etc. While the other story is more believable, i love this story the most since it ended up with they getting divorce, and not the other one where they reconcile, the husband cut ties with his family and both work towards paying the money.
25k, all of that for a piece of jewelery? You can do so much more for so much less, and yeah, bro practically gutted OP because he got his nerves pushed. Yeah, f that guy
It's not your fault it's your husband's fault because he spends 25,000 thousand dollars on his sister's birthday gift and he called his wife selfish and that's not right and he should pay for his actions and go to hell for what he has done to her and if you guys can't see that then you guys are delusional and he doesn't deserve anything for spending 25,000 thousand dollars on his sister's birthday gift and he called his wife selfish and you don't have to apologize for anything it's his fault not yours.
Wow 25k on a gift for his sister 😲 does he want another sister as I could do so so so much with 25k, think of the people he could of helped with that money most charities would be happy getting 1k let alone 25k
This “gentleman “is anything but. For Goodness sake, that amount of money could actually be used to put down as a deposit, or at least help towards one, on a house. How old does your husband think his sister is? If she wants something as ridiculously expensive as this, surely she could have asked all the family members to contribute. I mean it would work out at about $5000 each member(even that’s FAR too expensive! ) and see how they responded! SHEESH!!!!
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its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Look, if my brother or one of my cousins needed 25k and I had it, yes, I would let them borrow or give it (depends of who I'm talking about, some family of mine are very, very poor), but a gift? Just a gift? No, absolutely not.
Girl if you think you might work things out why did you immediately file for a divorce. I understand that he was rude, and selfish, and literally put his sister way more than imaginable, and how angry and sad you felt but if you think u may have a chance in the future, just put a distance in between and go no contact for a while and give it time.
To me it's all the "it's been X time since my last post" that give it away. It gives the vibe that the person just typed "write an update after 4 days about how everything changed and he lost the account". Also, he was screaming at her, in her parents' house and nobody came to check what was going on?
Tbh, ik this is an unpopular opinion. But if he wants to use the money he works for on a gift for his sister, then that’s his perogatove. He still provides you and his household with all the necessities and pays all the expenses still, right?
@@shells500tutubo okok, you might be right, I’ve never been married. I just assumed that if I earned 25k and wanted to splurge on my family, I should be able to without the fear of my wife leaving me
I'm sorry I don't have no sympathy for the original poster I don't understand why she would marry somebody that defends such a terrible sibling with terrible childlike behavior maybe that's just me but that would have been the first reason for me to get the fuck out of that relationship and never look back
Idk man I feel like we need more context also I think he did need to be shut down but I feel like she could’ve tried to fix things but I’m not really solid on that opinion
Sometimes ppl make mistake some small some big. Forgiving and moving on is imp. Not saying wht the husband said is ryt but arguments happen and how do u go about it is wht matters. If there is genuine repent and remorse then forgiving someone doesnt seem wrong to me. (Personal opinion)
If my sister asked for 25k worth of jewelry, I would have responded. "Sounds like you need a sugar daddy, or an OF account. Because there is no way in h*ll I am spending 25k on your jewelry, I haven't even spent 2.5k on my wifes jewelry. No way I am spending that on her, even if it was pocket change compared to my savings.
@@OO9O9 how so? I wasn't volunteering to be the sugar daddy or subscribe to her OF, just telling her what to do if she wants to have that kinda jewelry without a job.
There was already a substantial amount of money in the joint savings account, contributed by both. He got a new check of $25k and wanted to use all of that $25k, that is where the issue is. He could have deposited in his own account, which he didn't, which is also legally wrong, and which he used up immediately. This could put OP under the taxable bracket.
Idk, I get that the husband screwed up a few times... then got screwed several more times by his family... but i dont see this as a situation where you just divorce. I think they could have solved this and figured this all out and the husband was willing to go to those lengths. It's just too bad that some people run at the first sight of things looking bad. Guess i just can't rationalize it in my mind unless its something like cheating or continued abuse.
yeah, because spending 25k on a whim and lying about it is not extreme or crazy. after something like that you can't expect stability from your SO, the trust was broken, feeling loved and secured was shattered after the name-calling and also the fact that he was sorry after his job was in danger says a lot about him. you just can't continue a healthy relationship with a person like this.
@@agus_mimiI mean if your husband called you a stupid house wife how would you react..... He wasn't even well off I don't understand why give something so expensive I understand her but we need to know the other side too
@@SierraHamila hi, wdym "know the other side"? imo there is nothing that could redeem him. his behaviour was irresposible, he was inconsiderate and manipulative. his side would probably be just full of self pity, victim balming and more excuses, unfortunetly. edit: as a wife in a loving realtionship, if my partner did the same as op's husband, i would probably divorce him as well.
@@agus_mimi she probably would be exaggerating (if this story is even true) If she is not then she is right on divorce There is no trust there is nothing especially for a shm
Jesus, people's relationships are fragile AF these days. 1 Insult and a relationship that lasted and got strong enough to lead to marriage, just shatters to pieces... damn people have some paper thin skin these days... no wonder the US's Divorce rate is so damn high... don't get me wrong the whole $25K gift is definitely a dumb (word used in lieu of the R word) move to make, but he could also just have re-added that back to the joint savings after about a month or so... I think these two should never even have gotten married in the first place with how different they were... Red flags on both sides of these two...
The way he hid it, he knew how wrong he was.
After the "stupid housewife" name-calling, there's no going back. Divorce and never look back.
Damn am about to get my first GF and she is a kind hearted person that usually handles stress I love her and she loves me
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There is no way i will give 25k to my sister, unless i am a multi millionaire and that's pocket money, that guy is super selfish. "me, me, me, me"
Damn can I have 100$ if you become a multi millionaire
He tanked his marriage for a 25k gift to his ungrateful sister. That is Olympic levels of stupidity and selfishness.
25,000 dollars on a sister's gift is wild.
Not as crazy as “splurging” on her 💀
Bro 25k for a sister💀💀 bro i love my sisters but i dont love them more than 25k💀💀💀💀💀
Edit: I don't even have 500 bucks let alone 25k!!!
I love my sister more than a billion. I think what he did wrong is not involving his wife. Marriage means you should be able to talk about anything. Anyways just spoiling isn't love too, if you love someone you also need to do things they dislike it it's good for them.
This 🙌 @@AyanKhan-ge4fp
I love my sister, i would give my kidney if she needed one BUT i would never gift her anything above 100 dollars heck i don't even trust her with my phone
same
Bro id sell her for 500 bucks so i think that already says enough
Post-updates, while it definitely hurts OP emotionally, I say she did the right thing, and honestly, from my perspective, the husband is just as awful as his bratty sister, cause even throughout the divorce and the contents of the letter, it's clear he made it all about himself. Whatever remorse he claims to have, I am not buying it. While the ex is not openly bratty and entitled, narcissism does run in this family. Normally I would be open for second chances, but with the way the ex demeaned OP and still tried to emotionally manipulate OP with his wording, he would be doing a lot of proverbial hoop jumping if he wants to earn my trust.
OP, as you said, take this a day at a time, and you can recover. Although I would suggest permanently blocking him and go no contact, washing your hands off this phase of your life for good. A clear break is needed if you want a fresh start.
Narcissist is so overused nowadays. Honestly, both OP and ex are in the wrong and were clearly not ready for marriage if a slight disagreement caused their marriage to fall apart to this extent. Ex was selfish and only thinking of himself, but OP was also only thinking of herself
@@BulkCutRepeat invalid
@@BulkCutRepeatThere’s a “slight disagreement” and then there’s spending 25k on a gift…
@@BulkCutRepeat Op was thinking of THEIR MARRIAGE, hubby was thinking of his ego.
@@thestranger1475 hmm it seems they were more than well off, with at least 50k+ in joint savings and maybe even more in individual. This issue didn’t seem like it should’ve resulted in their marriage falling apart, they’re relationship had weak foundations
So he’s in love with his sister
That’s what I’m thinking. This is unusual
@@FeMalePajama Maybe dude is from Sweet Home Alabama ?
Hell naw @@renadu30
He too 25k $ gift behind OP back
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His sister showed him how stupid he is and refused to give back necklace
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Instead of taking money from his account he is taking it from Joint account.
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How stupid OP husband can be ?
Using the joint account? He's out of everything, marriage, life, respect and love.
He doesn't deserce second chance.
"- How did we come to this in a matter of weeks?
- You've done something extremely stupid and selfish behind my back, then insulted me as a person once i called you out on it then left me to rot up until your whole family pushed you away then, even as you were asking me to be your doormat, still managed to insult me a second time. Do I need to continue?"
She should have blocked the joint savings account after he stole $25k from the account without her knowledge. She should have withdrawn the rest of the amount from the account, instead of waiting out on it. He had the gall to say that he was the only one to be depositing the amount for the last couple of months.
Never ever rush in to make joint savings account in a marriage. You can have a joint account for the expenses purposes, but don't rush for savings though. Have your own individual savings account for safety reasons. Most marriages fall apart because of the financial reasons. He didn't give a fcuk about OP or her intentions.
Good riddance, divorce was the right choice in this event. There was no coming back from this blatant disrespect, insults, and belittling.
$25k gift for his sister for what joy, I don't understand.
NEVER leave a decent job intel you have another one lined up. She thought she could rely on her husband, but all it took was four months for him to see her as a "stupid housewife".
Plus, any employer you apply to will look at your work history and see that unemployed stretch for no particular reason and not look too favorably.
Pos hubs shouldve used his own money not money from their joint account as, if you pay attention clearly, they have separate finances and accounts as well as a joint account. Never touch joint savings for selfish purchases. A $25k gift for a bratty sibling is selfish asf.
My family would be at my ass if I spent that on a gift. My wife would get the money back after the ticket sales to get the first in line to beat me.
If you're SO spends money behind your back, it's time to divorce because money is more important to them. And, despite what you might feel about the Bible, 1 Timothy 6:10 is completely true: "For the love of money is the root of all evil..."
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Thank you for quoting that verse correctly. Money is necessary, but loving it is the issue. A clear issue in society today.
Financial infidelity on this scale is reason enough for divorce. Peter gifted himself out of an apparently good marriage.
If OP and hubby had a baby, the sister would have gone crazy with jealousy every time the baby was given anything.
25k is like. 2-5yrs of work. Hell not that many people have it in their savings accounts lol. I would be betrayed asf too, then be belittled? Y3ah nah gtfo
Wdym minimum wage is 46k in a year the math ain’t mathing
Oh maybe you mean savings
@@KevinChen-km4idminimum wage is less than that, it's still 7.25
@@jaylonallen8423 where do you live cause I live in canada
I love the sad music you use it's perfect for these stories *chef's kiss*
Even the husband knows that the shit that he's trying to pull is wrong at some capacity.
If he didn't feel that way, he didn't bother to disabling the notification. But, yeah. When he finally see the full picture, it's just too late.
Yep, he deff is in love with sister.
You can tell there was much more going on for this to be the end for Op. Glad Op stood up for herself and no longer the doormat she was. I can tell he spent lots of money on his sister before for him to pull out 25k that easy to spend on her. They were planning on having a baby when he already had one, his sister. Rasing a baby takes lots of money, so you need to save a small fortune to start.
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I wouldn't spend 5 bucks on my sibling let alone 25k that's wild 😂💀💀
Okay, you shouldn’t ask for a gift back that is messed up. The girl should be sympathetic of course but like, bro. Thats why you don’t… do that. It wasn’t even a properly confirmed job obviously. Who does that?
I love my lil bro, don’t get me wrong but I’m not essentially pulling out a loan just to give him an accessory.
I would have taken the rest of the money out and filed foe divorce. I wouldn't let no one disrespect me like that
Okay, riddle me this, why is the husband working for a company that would give a bonus, and then demand it back when they lost the contract? Like unless the husband is grossly negligent, that sounds like a lawsuit waiting to happen. I would have led them on until I got another job lined up and dip. You don’t play those games with employees or employers, it’s completely unreasonable for the company to do that.
He needs to tell sis to give back, not ask. Im sure there is some kind of theft or fraud in there.
Imagine what a nightmare this guy would be when she got pregnant and couldn't work or if she ever got sick
@11:55 🤣🤣🤣 25 large on *a* gift? Jewelry too, like not even Stocks, Precious Metals or Bitcoin, something that might appreciate and could involve possibly being paid back. All the OP has to ask is - has d ip s hit ever spent 25k on a gift for me? I’m 99% sure the answer’s no, because logically she’d have said so. That sums it all up right there. What i will say though is that for women, love is transactional. She blabbed that she loved him, but what was the underlying concern? Screwing off with finances.
Smh i don’t even love my sisters for $25.
All i have to say to op's husband is hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha.
I think i heard an almost similar stories before, instead it is a 10k birthday celebration for a bratty sister, and he use the company's money secretly which he has to return in time or else face termination or worse punishment, and he also uses the other money he siphon for his gambling habits, expensive hobbies etc. While the other story is more believable, i love this story the most since it ended up with they getting divorce, and not the other one where they reconcile, the husband cut ties with his family and both work towards paying the money.
At least he never has to give anything else to the sister. And if he has any sense, he won't.
This is clearly a divorce situation, the way he talked to you is defiantly a divorce he’s super toxic and will continued to do the same crap
Am i onky kne fascinated at what the new business she had
25k, all of that for a piece of jewelery? You can do so much more for so much less, and yeah, bro practically gutted OP because he got his nerves pushed. Yeah, f that guy
Weird sister-complex. Get out now!!
That sister better give her brother and sister-in-law a child or something because that is way too much money as a gift
It's not your fault it's your husband's fault because he spends 25,000 thousand dollars on his sister's birthday gift and he called his wife selfish and that's not right and he should pay for his actions and go to hell for what he has done to her and if you guys can't see that then you guys are delusional and he doesn't deserve anything for spending 25,000 thousand dollars on his sister's birthday gift and he called his wife selfish and you don't have to apologize for anything it's his fault not yours.
Wow 25k on a gift for his sister 😲 does he want another sister as I could do so so so much with 25k, think of the people he could of helped with that money most charities would be happy getting 1k let alone 25k
If he has the receipt all he has to do is call the police. 🤷🏾♀️
I will give 25k to my sister in case of emergency (health or something severe) not as a gift, especially when i don’t have it. Husband is just stupid.
This “gentleman “is anything but. For Goodness sake, that amount of money could actually be used to put down as a deposit, or at least help towards one, on a house. How old does your husband think his sister is? If she wants something as ridiculously expensive as this, surely she could have asked all the family members to contribute. I mean it would work out at about $5000 each member(even that’s FAR too expensive! ) and see how they responded! SHEESH!!!!
I have 7 siblings, I would never spend even 1000 on my sister for a birthday gift
I hope her husband cut contact with his sister and parents. Hopefully the breakup convinced him that he was a total idiot.
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Look, if my brother or one of my cousins needed 25k and I had it, yes, I would let them borrow or give it (depends of who I'm talking about, some family of mine are very, very poor), but a gift? Just a gift? No, absolutely not.
Nature of the Beast. They created a monster
Girl if you think you might work things out why did you immediately file for a divorce. I understand that he was rude, and selfish, and literally put his sister way more than imaginable, and how angry and sad you felt but if you think u may have a chance in the future, just put a distance in between and go no contact for a while and give it time.
Eh, sounds fake. Backing out of signed contract deal that easily is very sus.
To me it's all the "it's been X time since my last post" that give it away. It gives the vibe that the person just typed "write an update after 4 days about how everything changed and he lost the account".
Also, he was screaming at her, in her parents' house and nobody came to check what was going on?
Wonder how the relationship with the sister is now
Tbh, ik this is an unpopular opinion. But if he wants to use the money he works for on a gift for his sister, then that’s his perogatove. He still provides you and his household with all the necessities and pays all the expenses still, right?
Wrong. It is a marriage.
@@shells500tutubo okok, you might be right, I’ve never been married. I just assumed that if I earned 25k and wanted to splurge on my family, I should be able to without the fear of my wife leaving me
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I'm sorry I don't have no sympathy for the original poster I don't understand why she would marry somebody that defends such a terrible sibling with terrible childlike behavior maybe that's just me but that would have been the first reason for me to get the fuck out of that relationship and never look back
Idk man I feel like we need more context also I think he did need to be shut down but I feel like she could’ve tried to fix things but I’m not really solid on that opinion
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25000 is wild ill buy my sister a used handkerchief even if i was a millionaire
Bro wat yt says 13 views with 17 likes and 28 comments
24 min ago is crazyyy
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Isn't this a reupload?
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Sometimes ppl make mistake some small some big. Forgiving and moving on is imp. Not saying wht the husband said is ryt but arguments happen and how do u go about it is wht matters. If there is genuine repent and remorse then forgiving someone doesnt seem wrong to me. (Personal opinion)
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be fr u don t love him
This woman is evil and clearly never loved him
Literally divorcing the guy for no reason
Rage bait
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If my sister asked for 25k worth of jewelry, I would have responded.
"Sounds like you need a sugar daddy, or an OF account. Because there is no way in h*ll I am spending 25k on your jewelry, I haven't even spent 2.5k on my wifes jewelry. No way I am spending that on her, even if it was pocket change compared to my savings.
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@@OO9O9 how so? I wasn't volunteering to be the sugar daddy or subscribe to her OF, just telling her what to do if she wants to have that kinda jewelry without a job.
@@SionDracul you seriously need to seek therapy. Why are you sexualizing your own sister, you creeep
@@SionDracul deranged pimp
I can understand divorcing over a 25k present but there is just something about this OP I don’t like.
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Why is everyone in the comments so far, so against the husband? He was the one who earned that $25K, so it is his to spend fair and square.
He didn't earn all of it. She's only been out of work for a couple of months.
@@KeyfurHazzeI thought she said herself he could do whatever he wanted becuz h was the one that earned the money
There was already a substantial amount of money in the joint savings account, contributed by both. He got a new check of $25k and wanted to use all of that $25k, that is where the issue is. He could have deposited in his own account, which he didn't, which is also legally wrong, and which he used up immediately. This could put OP under the taxable bracket.
@chrisdunken6738 She did, but I think it was because it was a joint account, so she couldn't stop him. I could be wrong, though.
Idk, I get that the husband screwed up a few times... then got screwed several more times by his family... but i dont see this as a situation where you just divorce. I think they could have solved this and figured this all out and the husband was willing to go to those lengths. It's just too bad that some people run at the first sight of things looking bad. Guess i just can't rationalize it in my mind unless its something like cheating or continued abuse.
He’s more in the wrong, but jumping to divorce from planning for a baby is extreme. Either OP is crazy or there’s something else.
yeah, because spending 25k on a whim and lying about it is not extreme or crazy.
after something like that you can't expect stability from your SO, the trust was broken, feeling loved and secured was shattered after the name-calling and also the fact that he was sorry after his job was in danger says a lot about him. you just can't continue a healthy relationship with a person like this.
@@agus_mimiI mean if your husband called you a stupid house wife how would you react.....
He wasn't even well off I don't understand why give something so expensive
I understand her but we need to know the other side too
@@SierraHamila hi, wdym "know the other side"? imo there is nothing that could redeem him. his behaviour was irresposible, he was inconsiderate and manipulative. his side would probably be just full of self pity, victim balming and more excuses, unfortunetly.
edit: as a wife in a loving realtionship, if my partner did the same as op's husband, i would probably divorce him as well.
@@agus_mimi she probably would be exaggerating (if this story is even true)
If she is not then she is right on divorce
There is no trust there is nothing especially for a shm
@@SierraHamila She had only quit her job for 4 months... and was still searching for a new job when this sh*t went down...
Jesus, people's relationships are fragile AF these days. 1 Insult and a relationship that lasted and got strong enough to lead to marriage, just shatters to pieces... damn people have some paper thin skin these days... no wonder the US's Divorce rate is so damn high... don't get me wrong the whole $25K gift is definitely a dumb (word used in lieu of the R word) move to make, but he could also just have re-added that back to the joint savings after about a month or so... I think these two should never even have gotten married in the first place with how different they were... Red flags on both sides of these two...
Taking the $25k was major financial abuse and broken trust. HE ruined the marriage, she responded appropriately
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Imagine what a nightmare this guy would be when she got pregnant and couldn't work or if she ever got sick