what happened to chip & the honest truth of why I left my last relationship
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- Опубликовано: 15 окт 2024
- this is the full story of why I left my last relationship. despite owning a home together, sharing a dog (chip), being domestic partners and "having it all". your 20s are a time to live, learn and make mistakes, I hope that by sharing my story you'll be inspired to a live a life that's right for you, and to not settle just for the sake of settling down.
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so happy that you are able to talk about it and feel that what you did was the best for you and oatmeal
I think this should be pined this is so awesome ❤❤
Thank you ❤
@@AdriaAndOatmeal no problem
Is oatmeal a golden retriever 0:38
Girlllllll me to I have adahd
the oatmeal and chip "lake" story literally happened to me and my best friend when we were 7 and she was learning how to swim 😭, i also did not swim around her for a while
Omg r u ok
Same kinda for me
@@markhahn5169no she died
I cried by this video. I also struggle with depression. I had to split my cats, because the cat that i now have traumatized her brother and they foght a lot. I gave the brother to a really good friend of me and they’re happy.
❤️❤️❤️❤️
I don’t get what u said sorry about ur cat tho😢
I’m 60 years old, had my son at 22, was unhappily married, got divorced a year later. It’s not fair to expect anyone to know ANYTHING at 22. I’ve been remarried now for 16 years. In between marriages I lived my life with some regrets but I’m happy with who I am now and married to the greatest person that I’ve ever met in my life. Everything takes time. God bless you and that beautiful Oatmeal❤. You’re doing great.
I wish I had been that self aware in my 20's.
You should be so proud for doing what's not only best for you but Oatmeal too, i moved out my family home to protect my first dog Cleo and keep her safe, drove 2 hours to be with my boyfriend whose now my husband only because she approved of him ♥
There's nothing quite as satisfying as making your most important life choices based entirely on an animal that has no logical reasoning. At least you'll have something else to blame for your idiotic decisions when you realize you F'ed up your whole life for nothing 😂
@@jeremyalbert7761 for me it worked out, not only was i able to protect Cleo from abuse, i actually married my husband 8 years later, we now have two dogs together and have been married for 3 years, doing pretty well
Heya. It‘s so nice ,after seeing all the shorts in which you talked a little about the breakup, to hear that you’re doing better. I‘m still pretty young and I‘ll take your story as advice. (Btw the Adria fits you so well because your entire personality and face makes me think of the Adriatic See in Italy.) I hope all continues to go well for you two. 🩷🩷🩷
I am not sure why, but I enjoy listening to people's life stories on youtube. Thanks for sharing.
Never, ever force yourself into a role that isn’t you. Why be anyone else other than yourself? Be genuine. Some people won’t like you and some will. That’s okay. You don’t need the ones that don’t like you anyhow. Remember, the secret to happiness is…
Know thyself.
Love thyself.
Be true to thyself.
Honestly what u said about his family really hit home for me I feel like I have absorbed certain aspects of my partners and my partners family personalities. It can feel so exhausting being someone ur not. Ur video really validated a lot of my feelings and has given me a lot to think about. Thank you :)
Wow, everything you said about being 30 years down the road is me. It’s taken me that long to realize what you did in your 20’s. Except, I raised two children and have three grandchildren. However, I’m leaving the fake me behind and starting to live for me.
I really appreciate your honesty and optimism, Thank you for sharing ❤️
You are so right. I'm in my 20s and I feel like the decisions I make and my circumstances are permanent, but in reality it's not. I could always change it. You reminded me this. Thank you❤
I’m proud of you for being strong for yourself and Oat, your 20’s are your foundation and I know you’ll lay a good one brick by brick.
RIP Mr.chip he was a gentleman 😢😢
Your relationship with Oatmeal is so adorable!!❤
Same. Went through every stage, every process you described. Except… I took many more years to figure all this out. So happy you did whatever you needed to do to be your authentic self.
You’re so real for this, love it 🔥
Im 15 at the moment, and i adopted a one year old golden retriever two days ago, and im planning on training him to be my psychiatric service dog, i obviously live with my parents but my dad tends to belittle my problems im having and saying im just out of shape. Its been really hard, and honestly i don't know what to do.
I struggle with a lot of mental health problems as well and I'm on multiple medications for different things, and eventually I want to also train medical alerts, but that's going to have to wait a little until I figure out what's wrong with me and why I am constantly feeling sick, it makes it really hard to live life and I'm hoping after he's trained to be my service dog it will help me a lot, also I love your videos, and oatmeal is who inspired me to get a golden retriever.❤
This is what growth looks like . All the best to you and Mr. Meal🎉❤
Came back to this video because I’m so proud of anyone brave enough to know when to walk away. I’m 32 now and I feel I’ve lost 10 years of my life to something that should feel… like more.
I’m Glad that you realize what you and Oatmeal needed and did it now we all get to enjoy this cute goofball and you are much happier everybody wins here I would say
As someone with ADHD, being ND means you're used to "masking". You've spent all your life learning to mirror the behavior of people around you to fit in, so it's hard to realize when you're mirroring the wrong people before it's too late. Good on you for getting out early. I know I would have stayed even longer and been hurt more.
I was just gonna say that it’s easier to mirror people when you have adhd😭
I'm not particularly a pro-marriage person, but I'm not sure I’d co-own a house with someone I wasn't married to. Depending on where you live you could be taking on legal responsibilities you might not be aware of without the benefit of the legal protections commonly granted married couples who co-own. At any event, no one should ever sign a mortgage if their name isn't on the title or deed.
Obviously there are exceptions to this: joint inheritances, an adult child co-owning the family home with an elderly parent, etc.
You should see if chip and oatmeal miss each other and if they do you can meet up to see chip
At least you were mature enough to tell you had become someone you didn’t care to be. You didn’t wait until you had 3 kids and a 12yr marriage in the loop! Good for you! I hate that you had to leave chip though! That must have been extremely hard!
You did what’s best for you and for Oatmeal ❤ I hope Chip is doing well
I enlisted at 17, found myself pretty darn quick.
That's great that ur doing. What makes u and oatmeal happy 😊 🤩🐕🦺🤩🥰. U go girl !! Great video. Great job.
I love your relationship with Mr. Meal. And im proud of you dor doing the hard things!!
The fact that his name is oatmeal makes all of this way better you just gained one extra sub for me liking the dog's name oatmeal 😂 ❤
If she's a girl sorry about that
Good for you, Adria. Sounds like you are in a much better place.
You are doing the hard stuff now heading toward the really good stuff.
I totally get it. Life is hard but to have a partner that makes it even harder is toxic. Glad you and Mr Meal are happy. I also say a prayer for Chip.
Thank you for sharing this, you have great courage to share your vulnerabilities. Love you always Oatmeal and Adria! ❤
Do you really think this is the proper way to behave, and that it’s brave? She made all these commitments, then one day such abandoned them all. These are all huge red flags for any partner of hers in the future. No business saying anything mean about him and his family to 800k subs. It sounds to me like she was nothing but dishonest for a very long time and left a line of hurt people on her wake. Brave is honoring you promises. Before you bail on someone like that you try counseling and everything else you can before you just take off. I would love to hear his side of the story, I bet it’s a doozy. I do hope she finds happiness, almost everyone deserves it, but this is a very classless way to act. Blaming the dogs and his family for her shortcomings and trying to turn herself into a victim. She pushed for everything she wanted, then didn’t care what it took to get out of it.
I miss chip 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
We’re proud of you Adria 🩵🩵
Your voice is so calming, would you ever consider doing a podcast?❤
Ik and she is so amazing she could make it about dogs or something❤
Your hair when you graduated was so pretty 🤩
I’m so excited ❤
hey, just wondering, why did your ex keep the house and you move out if you both contributed to the payment?
I think she wanted to Travel alone with oatmeal so it was okay with her that he gets the house but really idk
She probably asked him to buy out her part of the house. Maybe she didn’t go too into detail about it.
Even if she paid equal doesn’t mean she wanted to keep the house. She literally says that she wanted a change, I don’t think staying in the house you bought with your ex is change
@@KatalinaAudios444it sounded like he was shouldering most if not all of the financial burden, and if not, for someone to bounce on a commitment just makes it worse. She broke commitment after commitment, had him buy a house he didn’t want, convinced him they could have a life together, then seemingly out of nowhere wanted out. I really hope she finds happiness, but this video just seems like she’s crying out for attention and affirmation. I implore anyone reading this to never behave in that manner. Who knows, maybe he was unhappy to and it was more mutual, but she still trashes the guy and his family to over 800k subscribers. Some things are meant to be personal.
@@jarredcombs7603 I agree with what you said entirely. This guy clearly wasn’t abusive and doesn’t seem like he’d freak out if she just admitted what she actually wanted, so what she did was honestly a shitty move. I’m just pointing out that just because she paid for some of the house doesn’t mean she needed to have the house in the end. OP just makes it seem like he should’ve given her the house and found a different place to live just because she’s a woman
As a fellow Sonoma countian (Santa Rosa) oatmeal is the sweetest pup on the internet
Santa Rosa!!!
Im glad you're living your best life. Your videos are always so much fun. ❤❤❤
This made me so happy have a good life❤
that mug- i love it :D
Why is your smile contagious?
I'm glad you did what made you happy 😊
excited!
I love how oatmeal just staring at you in the beginning....why is mommy talking to herself 😂
I’m so exited!!!
Not to be that guy, but it's excited, not exited. Exited is a verb.
@@landsquid9509Not to be that guy, but exited is a verb, not a noun
@@me.0436 I will fix it now
@landsquid9509excited is also a verb
@@jbfarley no? It's an adjective, it's a describing word, verbs are words for actions. You could say "I exited a building." But you couldn't say "I excited a building"
I have a question do you still ever see chip anymore??
You need a man like oatmeal...🐕😆💃❤️
Amen
How did you get/find the courage to actually separate from your ex
Sounds like it was less courage and more leaving someone she convinced to buy a house for her high and dry. Could you imagine buying a house for someone else’s preference only for them to leave you like that? Then tries to blame the dog? Some things are meant to be personal and if I were this guy or his family I would air out all the dirty laundry. She could’ve said she split from her relationship without insulting his family, who it sounds like fully embraced and accepted her. Sounds like she got a taste of adult life, then changed her mind. At some point you have to grow up, and that doesn’t necessarily mean settling down, but it does mean taking responsibility for your actions which she didn’t seem to do. Maybe I’m wrong, but I would bet hearing his side of the story is pretty bad and blindsiding. Did they try therapy? How mutual was this? How much did she help with the house that she had committed to helping with?
@@jarredcombs7603they dated for a year before moving in with eachother, he wanted to buy a house, she just wanted one closer to town.
She already stated she had a job, plus there is revenue from the content she was creating online so yes she has money to bring to the combined household.
In another video where she talks about mental health she says she dated a paramedic, and from how she said it sounds like it was this ex.
They were simply two people who weren't right for echother. She tried to force herself to be someone she wasn't. It happens
Are you going to ever see Chip again?
sounds reasonable but i do have one question why did you have two big dogs in the first place if you knew you couldn’t take care of them together?. was this just a foster situation or???
It’s manageable to take care of two large dogs with two people, but I couldn’t do it on my own when we broke up
@@AdriaAndOatmeal 🙏
@@AdriaAndOatmeal I meant to say respect 🙏
It's good that you had good breakup😊
I have really bad ADHD and it has nothing to do with conversation it's just hard to pay attention
It varies for everyone
Love will come, don’t go looking for it.
lol we all dread that coldness from the pool to the shower love you guys❤!
I didn’t know you guys broke up, but did you leave on good terms cause I haven’t seen any of your videos
Are you able to see chip😢
Can’t wait to see it
But how is Chip now?
I have a question do you ever think about if you took chip with you
I got adhd too don’t feel bad girl
Unrelated to the majority of the video, but it feels very weird to hear someone talking about going to University of Nevada, Reno, as I'm gearing up to go to UNLV for hospitality come fall
Do you still see Chip
So excited 😂😅❤
Couldn’t stop starting at mr meals cat toes❤
You should start a "dog"cast
Will you ever put chip in a vid???
this is an amazing video and i love that you have the courage to open up but i need to know where did you get the B***h please mug
What about chip????
I have a question is oatmeal fluffy?
So what happened with the house did he buy you out?
Ok this is not on topic but I LOVE YOUR LAMP🧡🧡🧡🧡
It is quite lovely, isn't it?
Thank you!! I thrifted it
Hugs x been there
i also have adhd so easy to follow along with
My question is that does oatmeal still see chip.
The oatmeal on you. I hope oatmeal is doing good after chip put his head in the water 😭
My brother almost drowned me like chip almost drowned oatmeal
Does oatmeal ever get to see chip though? Sometimes.😢
I have ADHD
2:00 mark, and stop. Good luck to you chica. Hope you get it figured out.
I hope you’ll see chip sgain
chip ship😢
DID ANYONE READ THE CUP LOL
Well I'm just lost about how do you go about the journey of self exploration..like is there a right way to do it? or you just go about throwing yourself into different things until you find something that works for you..?
Perhaps you are an only human and oatmeal is an only dog because of that. I know my dog would like to be with more dogs if they could. I try to get out more, for her. I also end up getting something out of it. However, I want a significant other, but my health limits me.
Can you make a Trip where you have chip and oatmeal meet and swim again
Oameal feel asleep. He either heard it all before or......
Here come all the relationship incels who can’t think for themselves and blame everything on women for no reason
chip looks a bit similar to the chip and oatmeal thing
I like Adria mug
To be honest you should meet up with your ex and let oatmeal and chip hang out
Ooooo I’m early 😊
wow. esperational. to the soul. n heart dogs. are such good for the soul my lol yorkie. just. truly. lift me up. when I'm. when. ever. I'm not having u a good day. well I start. to not it have one. but. my. Chiquita n Chiona. stop that from continuing 😆💜💙😀they put a stop to that. yeaup . n let me add your. being so comfortable. with the. media. speaking sharing. like we're reiterate with you conversation like girl chats. keep up. the. good work. keep ur head up up up. n know. never forget. our heavenly father. loves us UNCONDITIONALLY. n Jesus our Shepard is always right there to. carries us threw the storm. . til we reach the. try land. you are truly blessed. n. your. doggie. is so. livable. n maybe by my spontaneous writing. I can maybe. notice. I'm a little aedd welp ya know what I mean well u have yourself. with. ur. buddy. a blessed. one. sincerely. muah. Lil Gee pow~Wow
I didn’t expect to feel so called out by this. I love my partner so much but I also feel the exact same with a fear that I’m settling down too soon and wanting to explore my identity and live alone or travel alone…. I don’t really know what the solution is yet but the 30 years down the line part shook me up a little bit. I am so young and if my partner really is my soulmate doesn’t that mean I should be able to separate myself for a little while and still be able to connect with them again when the time is right for a long term relationship?
No, and don’t expect others to wait because you’re scared of committing. The grass is always greener on the other side, and nine times out of 10 people regret breaking up once they see their significant other with someone else. A lot of that stuff that she is mentioning isn’t very fulfilling, then you end up 10 years down the line and you have a mistake that can’t be made up. So much in popular culture now preaches against relationships and it shows a complete misunderstanding about what they even mean. No matter what there’s always going to be times where a different situation appeals to you, but don’t take everything you have for granted. Don’t just assume that you’ll always find someone who loves you for you. I would take a guess that at least 80% of single people 30 or over most want is a partner and someone who loves and supports them. When you have that don’t throw that away. How much of what see is saying could only be coping? I think it’s very classless to come out and bash someone and their family in front of millions of people, nobody deserves that. Just be careful what kind of decision you make because a content creator says something on RUclips seeking views or affirmation. Don’t stay only to stay, but don’t leave out of fear of missing out, that’s how you make mistakes.
If you feel that way maybe you can explore yourself and your identity with your partner.
What was talked about in this video was a lot more deeper in terms of "should I settle?". Depression, lashing out, dread and hating yourself/feelings of guilt is what she was going through.
Why didn’t you try to get chip
She isn’t able to take care of both of them. Also the ex and she got chip together. Oatmeal was her dog. So maybe it makes sense that the ex takes chip. It’s sad but that’s how the world works.
🥲🙂