The demonic mental blockage is what I'm dealing with. I can hear the FREQUENCY of hatred. And no,I'm not schizophrenic ..I've never heard these things before. I hear the voice of the ex narc dummy and the narcissist JEZEBEL who he "does THINGS WITH " I block it through Prayer and I send the voices back to them! And they don't like that not one bit!
My ex narc pulled round the corner and we slow drove past each other as I was waiting at a junction. I recognised the registration plate and chose to gently look the other before we go close enough for eye contact. Was this the right move? She’d definitely noticed me and her 15 year old daughter was sat in the passenger seat liking straight at me. The only thing I regret was ignoring any eye contact with any of her five kids. Made me feel bad. But I’d have felt worse if I’d gone to engage eyes abd got blanked or if she’d gave a filthy look.
@@barnetthejosh You needed to make a quick judgment call. You could never know for sure how she or any of them would interpret any way that you chose to handle it. Be happy with your choice and keep going forward like none of them exist. You can always be friendly to any of her kids if you ever run into them one on one
@narcologyunscripted is it normal for a narcissist to dress there new supply like you and drive by you with different guys flaunting there new supply in your face... Honestly it's weird and creepy...
Its important for everyone to remember. We are not victims. If you walked away it was in strength. If they discarded, it was because you did not conform to their directives and perspective. Either way, it is your strength that ended the situation. Love to everyone still feeling the pain. It will get better, there is life after. ❤
I’m having a hard time with something and I’m just looking for advice - I know the narc blocked me on the cell phone but once/week I call to see if I’m still blocked. Why am I doing this??? It’s been 8 weeks since he discarded me - I’m doing well with everything else / less tears, keeping busy, etc.
Factsssss... while I was with mine God showed me she had three evil spirit on her... these were spirit I had prior encounter with ...this girl is truly evil.....
When having 2 be with my narc, I felt my energy drain, like my soul was leaving my body. I felt panicked, scared, and many times wanting him out of my perihpel view bc his form was fucking up my body.
Totally Agree there's one particular demon assigned to narcissist how I know this because watching RUclips videos on narcissist and listen to other people's story they all act in the same manner every sin has a demon attached to that particular sin.
They steal access to your inner child and trick you into operating from that same position the entire relationship so that they can freely take advantage of you. They became your new narcissistic parent.
ImRichBych it’s so awful. Sick, evil demonic shit that really messes you up. I don’t even know if messes you up is even the right wording for this soul rape.
They want someone to put up with their mess and stick it out. They don’t want to change or take responsibility/accountability for anything...they’re not worth all that...
@ Melissa B You are right!! Mine slammed the phone on me and said they felt I was mocking them just because I was asking them questions they did not want to answer. No apology afterwards just expected me to respect him. How on earth an one respect someone with no self control, no values and just causes chaos and havoc🙅🏽♀️
@@themarro6695 that's the crazy sis. In their mind they are entitled to act out and behave as they will with the EXPECTATION that it will tolerated because of who they are. Smdh. My response to the narc I was dealing with was even, for shits and giggles, you WERE special and above reproach, why would you want to act that way in the first place? He was stunned and just turned and walked away. In hindsight I can laugh it now, but at the time my mind almost blew a gasket trying to wrap my head around what I was dealing with.
My ex enjoyed it when I spoke to him like a child, he then felt so comfortable to speak to me like a 4 yr old😳🙈 I went from love bombing ( he was the adult man and I'm the adult lady) to him being a teenager, me still the lady and wondering why the drop in adulting? To him becoming 10 yrs old, and me responding like I'm 15😳 to him being 4 yrs old and I'm now 5 yrs old, we became two kids, to talk to him and reason with him meant me coming down to his level / emotional age group😒 Out relationship finally became Tom and Jerry relationship, brother and sister, besties😒, mother and son, mother and baby😔 There was zero romance, love, intimacy, adult conversation, nothing, felt like I was in the twilight zone, I mourned the loss of the man I fell in love and abhorred the child that suddenly he became which I despised more and more every day.
These people were irrelevant before you met them. Now its time to make them irrelevant again after they discarded you. You were their favorit dog, but they took you to a dark forrest and tied you up to a tree with no food or water. You still hope they will come back to save you. They wont, on their way back home they already picked up a new dog.
Yes! I've said before It's like being a beaten puppy who crawls back to their abuser for more. We want them to love us and make it better but they don't.
It is true when they left you from nowhere and you are looking for answers and you see a bright light coming towards you which make you better version of yourself . It is god who is protecting you .
Narcissists receive a huge narc injury once you block them they can’t stand you being not interested in their false image anymore but as a empath healing must be a priority for you to move foward in life and to live in abundance being genuinely happy😁❤️, The 23rd of this month is going to be 4 months No contact with my ex best friend(the narcissist in my life) and best believe I’m living my life so happily and All the Glory To God for setting me free from this Jezebel Spirit Demon.🙌🏼💯‼️
I hate that they all of a sudden "hate us", for simply seeing there masks fall. What? We're we suppose 2 be stupid slaves forever? How can they hate somebody for respecting themselves, and seeing the truth as they would. These fucks are wierd.
I had and fell for a supposed toxic best friend like this as well, during Lockdown Biggest mistake of my life... Its been an emotional rollercoaster and I have been No Contact for three days now
Blocking the love of my life/mother of my child/seeming best friend was the hardest thing to do, followed by purging all pictures, gifts, memorabilia, etc.
When she left, she left our wedding pictures and scrapbooks in a pile like it was all trash. That's when I realized she hadn't cared. 5 years later, I finally got rid of the pictures and memorabilia. It's difficult but necessary.
I was saying this about mine his never apologised in 3years never once said, I'm sorry if I hurt you or I'm sorry I said that or I'm sorry for making you feel that way, just cold careless.
I blocked him everywhere possible. He still managed to find me and messaged me saying he was desperate and said “please don’t block me”. He even tried using the death of a family member to guilt me into breaking no contact. I blocked him immediately again
“Most narcissists have mommy issues or daddy issues.” So true, Dave! My ex-narc girlfriend came from a very broken home. I felt more like a caregiver and father figure than a boyfriend.
Their lack of empathy makes them feel betrayed when you say no more abuse. They don't have empathy for the abuse they inflicted on you. So when you leave or make them leave, they feel betrayed, not one but of remorse for abusing you. You betrayed them for setting boundaries.
If you’re recently no contact with a narc-ex, blocked them, and may be somewhat distressed about it, just remember the lyrics from the song Sail On by The Commodores, especially this part: I gave you my heart and I tried to make you happy, And you gave me nothing in return. You know, it ain't so hard to say, "Would you please just go away,” I've thrown away the blues, I'm tired of being used. I want everyone to know I'm lookin' for a good time. Sail on, honey! 😃💪🏼🖕
😳 omg. I'm STUNNED. You just finished putting The Puzzle together for me!!! The Piece I was missing!! 10 years off and on with my Narc ex, 1 child😔 this last Visit was his LAST. I got a Lawyer. But, I started looking at all the people stalking me on Facebook, and this is what his ex, (I suspected) put on her timeline...the RUclips link to this song. I just listened to it 😳 omg. That poor woman. It's NOT me! I'm not 'crazy' like he keeps trying to convince me of while I work and he sits on welfare playing video games. Good riddance! Thank you!! Be blessed!
Blocking him was the hardest thing I ever had to do , God intervene with divine intervention , pulled me and my children out ,no matter how much I loved him I could not go back , God closed that door , don’t go knocking back .... I honestly feel he was possessed, how can some one beat you up , and just sit there with a evil laugh or the words that were said . I thank god every day for what he did for me and the kids 🙏🏻 thank you Dave for all the videos you do . You are an angel
My narc too beat me up badly one day. 5 punches 2 my stomach, and breasts. The next day, both breasts were black. I showed him, he turned him head saying "I don't want 2 look." And downplaying the beating. I didn't recognize myself. I left 2 a womans shelter and they called dss for me, and also helped charges be brought. He 2 smirked after beatingg me for no reason. After swinging, he saix "bet ull have 50 bucks for me soon right?" I was on the floor in pain, possible internal injuries, shaking terrorized, and never a sorry. U would think he was proud he beat a woman up.
Xoxo yours laughed while hitting you too?!? This last one was a pedophile and I caught him by being with a 17 year old cat fishing. He was disgusting. Cops didn’t seem to care either. Which is worse. He would say he loved me but beat me. I’m just done with all of them. We didn’t call anybody out of their name in our home. These people are sick but won’t ever see it
One of the ways he mirrored me was studying my social media. He presented himself as a galant gentleman and bible scholar. Nothing could be further from the truth. This man was a dangerous career criminal. Up until the discard, he would kiss the back of my hand and tell me how special I was and how we were going to change the world together. I had a lot of posts about black love and wanting to be a with a man of God. He would use the Bible against me and twist scripture to get me to accept the abuse. I didn’t even realize he was doing this until I looked up the narcissistic behaviors. He twas very convincing.
@Caroline Derosena, exactly just like my ex beast. He portrayed himself as a church guy and used all scriptures to attack me. He said "I'm more Christian than you" everytime I protested him about his bad behaviours
@Pat Coco Yup, indeed. He also said that he was once a good choir boy and priest's assistant, until one day he found out that the priest stole church money and he tried to expose it and got banished from church instead. Therefore, he claimed to be a church-free Christian because he feels that he is more Christian and truer/purer than those people who go to church. Hahah, more like he stole that church money and got banished from church, instead of the priest
I'm trying so hard to be strong! I block then unblock. I'm only narc free for 12 days. I was grade A supply and his last supply. Hes burned every bridge and moved across the ocean and lured me there too. Hes gonna have to start from square one to groom another. I was with him for 10 years! I've tried leaving 10x and he hovers me back everytime! He ups the ante everytime to get me back! This video is speaking to my heart right now!
Best of luck to you! I hope you don't go back. Know that positive things are ahead and once you are totally free and healed your light will be brighter than ever 🙏
Yeah I agree listening to Dave's voice everyday does take the edge off. It's been 7 months no contact. It gets easier everyday. I'm going to be MRS.B lol
The love bomb is truly just a mirror. All they have is but a reflection of those around them. Everything I enjoyed: climbing, skiing, biking, motorcycling, music, reading, camping, shooting...as soon as we were married all of it stopped. The part of her i fell in love with never existed. The part of her i fell in love with was awesome. The part of her i fell in love with was really just me. You are not alone. Good luck and know your/you're love.
Once again brilliant insights into the under developed child that is the adult Narcissist. You are so right Dave! Narcs either have a mother or father wound; sometimes even both! The ex Narcopath I married spent our entire first date complaining about his mother and I felt sorry for him. The second date he told me how he was the scapegoat and his brother was his father’s golden child... and I felt even more sorry for him. When he asked me out for that third date, I could kick myself now for not politely declining and giving him the number to a Psychologist instead!
So similar to my ex narc. Our first date, her "eating disorder" came out. I felt sorry for her and one thing led to the next. They always play the victim card on empaths... because IT WORKS and they KNOW IT. Walk away.
Pretty Puppy I think all narcs follow the same script my ex husband is a narc and gave me tales of his bad childhood and how his parents disliked him etc. Which I got told by his family members were all lies because he was treated exactly the same as his siblings.
Mine said how he was his mother's diamond 💎 the most handsome in the family, most beautiful man, most cutest, most liked, never could do wrong by his mom, ever so spoiled, used our first couple months on and off to complain, hate and miss his ex gf, I was too naive and dumb to not recognize what was happening, I didn't even know the word narcissist and what it meant .... if only I booted him out that first time.... 5 yrs would have been saved 😭😔
They will shove the new supply to all ppl and specially you , but after u got discarded you will eventually see they didn't love you, so u didn't lose something gold , u got trapped in these a nicely coloured prison that they built strongly , so don't worry if they worship the new supply they will fail into the same circle , don't stress out ... keep it no contact 💙 And you will see your ex narcissist in pain
I just blocked PERMANENTLY an hour ago and here is your video. Painful day. I relate to all of this, especially with the point you made at the end of what we all have in common. Thank you.
prayers Amy. But please keep them blocked. I blocked and then unblocked for a short period of time because I missed her and then the abuse got 10x worse. Very important to keep your foot on the gas ❤️
Korey Jackson yes when you unblock they know you want their attention again. They have you right where they want you. I went around that crazy making circle for far too long but finally saw the light.
Always acted like they can either take you or leave you, so sad when I realized that was true....and so, I left. I am more than they'll ever know and stronger than they could ever be.
Its hard at first but you gotta do it... i did it and threw him to the curb.....secretly wishing he wasn’t what i thought he was. but he proved my suspicion so correct!!! They are truly devious. its disgusting
When I first walked away I could barely breathe I watched Dave’s videos morning moon & nite. Now I cannot say I’m 💯 yet but I’m getting there . & I can dream again Thanks Dave . God bless
After 4 years of no contact, the narc showed up. First sent a text via WhatsApp, I didn't respond, next day with multiple calls, I didn't answer. I didn't want to use a second of my time to even block him. I'm indifferent and I could care less. To me he's not even deserving of using the time and energy it takes to block, however minimal. After wasting almost 5 years of my life, not even a sec is worth wasting on him.
Question for you... you seem so strong and okay with not giving him the time of day, but you are commenting on this video. I’m new to no contact so just wondering - Does it still bother you enough you need to watch these videos still?
Unicorn 33 wow, judgy! I’m the exact opposite of a Narcissist and certainly don’t have NPD. I asked the question (NOT TO YOU) because I am on day 7 NC and was looking for advice from someone that seems so strong. I had a valid non-judgmental question on what healing looks like down the road. Will I still be needing to watch videos 24/7 or will my mind be at ease without it? You need to back off and not assume the worst in everyone. Self reflection may benefit you.
"She remembered who she was and the game changed" He changed his number and caught me off guard, tried to hoover me, gray rocked him, since I changed my number which was gutted as had for 20yrs! But needs must, now I know if my phone rings or beeps it will NEVER be him!! 👌😁
I blocked him from everywhere with no second thoughts the last time he tried to play on me to get money for his other women and I discovered and expose his game. He reacted in rage and said I should pay him for the sex since I was an old woman that no one could ever love and I guess he kept cursing my name since I blocked him while typing. He couldn't finish his insulting flow. I guess that he believed I was his mother providing him with everything even money for him to entertain the others. Come on now. Seriously? 😒😒😒 Even put my brain off to block any trigger or memory.
The discard is the narc showing you how he/she has really felt about you from day one. The discard is the first real gift the narc ever gave you. They have set you free from a living hell. Now give yourself a gift...show yourself some love and block the narc from now on. "If you're going through Hell, keep going.", Winston Churchill ❤❤
Quick to ignore you, dismiss you and belittle you.... but faster when it comes to love-bombing once you have actually walked away and they lose control. Suddenly you are of value again. Big value. Stay away people, stay strong. Block. Delete. Change your number. It really gets bad sometimes if they don’t let up. Scary too. Stay safe and seek support in your friends and family x
They really do laugh when you cry. It’s kind of like they’re not human. Once I saw something in their eyes but I’m not religious. I just think eyes tell a lot. And in the end they’ll show you what they really think of you even so called friends.
Well no one will date me because I won’t have sex before marriage. Not that I haven’t before. But 2 years. I haven’t dated anyone. Narc free but even Christian ✝️ professing won’t wait. Hopefully God has someone for me.
I’m the same way. Unfortunately most narcissistic people I’ve met are completely loose and don’t care with who they sleep with. Most of them have bad addictions and don’t know right from wrong...
Tewdy Quew Thank You. If they cannot wait they aren’t worth having!! Just want a godly loving partner in life. Which isn’t a sin. It’s actually God’s design
I have physical proof of it. I cut contact, but it took me a while to block. Then, not so much after the blocking, I got the hoover, that said: “I KNOW YOU BLOCKED ME AND YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO...” He came with a fake epiphany that he reflected on what he did... I do believe that he felt it because he got with another narc, so... I never replied. 4 months NC!
@@kaylawilsonphoto It's deplorable, but funny, the day I got it i laughed, smiled because i knew i was free. They know what they lost deep down. Going away is the best way to live inspite the pain
@@Melbester9 they want to press your buttons, they want you to let them in... Good you got that figured out so you know she is not good for you! You are going to do better after the pain leaves
I agree Dave. The devil is on the loose to destroy relationships. Empaths go to heaven....Narcs to hell .... unless they repent..but most Narcs think they are God or do not believe in God at all. If they do go to church it is to keep on the mask of hypocrisy for trickery of the unsuspecting.
This man is an expert. The most devastating experience of my life. Still traumatised after a year post discard but have blocked the devil on every possible medium.
My ex narcissist had serious daddy issues that were so profound that I was shocked to the core of the fights between them. I once had to stop her father from strangling her to death.
My narc totally took on my likes, interests and hobbies for nearly five years and almost acted like he wanted to be me because he has no identity of his own. You’re absolutely correct that all they care about is being the center of attention and what others can do for them. It’s exhausting. I have felt this malevolent spirit of which you speak, several times, but especially saw it in his sadistic smirk and mocking sessions. Pure evil, at its best. I hope we can all educate ourselves as much as possible and realize no one deserves to be abused. Not ourselves and not ever. And rarely have I ever seen or heard of a narc changing. It’s best to cut the losses ASAP and go no contact. It’s the only way to have peace in our lives. ❤️
I agree with this video 100 percent! I came from a good background and was always the positive, go lucky person. As soon as i met him and he moved in with me. I can feel me getting drained and always feeling unworthy. From the day i left i feel better and more like myself again! Thanks Dave! Your always an inspiration. Your coffee mug is awesome btw! 🙂
Love bomb Ex Narc Mirroring: “OH MY GOD”!!!! “You love the color Orange?!!!” “I cannot believe it- I love orange too”!! “I never meet anyone else who loves Orange” !!! Me Then: Remembering how this was SOOO AMAZING in the love bomb. Me now: Insert eye roll 🙄
Wow thank you again Dave! I am so thankful to God for finding you. Your videos are helping me though my daily pain. Just very recently broke it off after finding more lies. Spent 6 years giving my ALL to him and his kids and was told by him it meant nothing to him... this is after helping him the first three years out of his alcoholism while dealing with my own family traumas with my little girl, etc. Life goes on and the functioning can be difficult with the existing pain but again, these daily encouragements of yours are reminding me I CAN do this and I’m not alone. 💕
100% correct Dave.. what you explain sounds like the script of my life.. proves that all narcs share the same traits.. im mind boggled everytime I watch your videos.. some moments leave me in laughter at the truth you preach and other moments leave me saying "amen brother" thanks for the vids, its definitely helping me understand how to handle the narc as an empath.. im still allowing my soon to be ex-wife to manipulate me and use me.. shes so good at it.. but your vids are helping me more and more.
Dave is spot on! I started crying listening today. For the most part, I am strong, but it’s such a punch in the gut, hearing these horrific truths that Dave brings to light, and admitting to yourself ...yes, they were all lies. We are sensitive caring people, that’s how we got roped into this mess. My narc said we were like puzzle pieces that fit together perfectly, he knew he had me. They know just what to say! In the beginning, he always told me how beautiful I was, and of course I wanted to be perfect for him. So when he knew I took extra care getting ready, hoping for a compliment, he would find one tiny thing that was off and tell me to fix that. My kids said he watched everything I did and found it very unsettling. He told Me I wasn’t washing the dishes right, and I said, “do it yourself then” he slunk away not knowing how to respond to that. I thought of my Dad because he use to get after us if we didn’t do something just right. *Childhood Wounds* It was a big red flag, but I would always just move on and forget about things he would say or do. They file all that information away in their head, hating you more for having an opinion and not being the slave robot they thought they had. Be kind to yourself, keep a journal, down the road when you look back through it, you can see how far you’ve come. God bless this community and all those being tormented around the world, that they find the truth, and seek God’s perfect love. 🙏🏻❤️
I'm in this stage, getting away from narcissistic husband after a lifetime. He's not ready to take any responsibility of the pain nd hurt he gave me, even after pleading and requesting. His ego is rejecting my need of divorce, as for him society nd people matters more than anyone. Thank you for this video
All the strength you need already lives inside you. Tap into your strength and live the life you deserve free from the narc. I packed up my three kids, divorced and never looked back.
Blocked! 😃 Said everything, Dave! 👏👏👏👏👏👏 I was not married to him , but I went through everything you said. He is very childish, had a problems with his parents and I think he looks for his mother in women... He only assume the woman who can support him financially like his mother did ! (53 years old 😨😨😨). I think the crazy AM I 😂😂😂 Thanks, Dave, for being here ❤
Mirna Liz true. Mine paid for a house for the whore he was seeing on the side. A legitimate town whore as in everyone had been with her and she is a gold digger. The sad part is: the house looked exactly like mine that he helped me move into. So he had sex with her and he paid for her and her husband to get a house as long as he can have sex with her whenever he wants. But she has genital herpes. So I stopped it as soon as I found out they were talking behind my back. He told her all of my information. Everything.
It's difficult to block someone that you love so much..who said you were his soulmate..love of his life..team mate..forever..but you "have" to. Mrs A 6 weeks no contact. No more abuse and love bombing😊💗thank you Dave! Keep praying..God hears you!🙏🙂
They will paint you to the world when you do. Good. Be glad. If you have changed your life and are now doing what you truly feel is right, rejoice. Be glad. Greater is the reward in Heaven. Been thankful for this message since there was 10,000 subscribers and still recommend you to anyone. God bless you Dave (2Sam.)
Great video Dave, The narc I was with just happened to like everything I liked,that was in the beginning,towards the end she resented everything about me,if I told her the sky was purple in the the beginning she would've said yes it is😂for awhile I thought she had a split personality,I never met such an empty bottomless pit in all my life,heart of stone,ice running threw her veins,towards the end I thought I was with a robot,everyday I woke up I didn't know who I was getting,I never felt so alone sleeping next to somebody in all my life,it's mind blowing how they get us to fall for them in the beginning,they know we're the good ones,they know where awesome people,they want what we have,they can't understand how we can be good people,show love an actually care for another person,they start hating us because of all are good qualities,I don't want to sound full of myself but one of the last conversation I had with my ex I told her that I shine to bright for her,by this time I knew she was with the new supply,I told her that I was the star in the relationship,I told her no matter who your with that other person is the star,she's always in the backround,I told her she will always be a side note in ever transaction , I said that at the time out of angry an pain,but its the truth,they know it too,an they hate when you expose them an they know you know now,they want us to stay confused an hurt forever,never able to move on,when we get the knowledge we pop a link out of that vicious cycle,when they know we know that kills them,they know that they can never come back,they can try but we will know better to never open that door, you gotta blow that damn Bridge up obliterated vaporize it,stay n.c,thanks Dave, You have helped me in ways I never thought would be possible,you saved my life,you helped me stay strong an not break n.c no matter what,🤘❤
The robot in the bed very apt .. sometimes I would look just to see if a human was there on the sofa .. maybe that’s it humans without souls are narcs .. whose fault is it what makes them this way . They are born babies a baby doesn’t choose to be a narc …so why don’t all children with narc parents become narcs . What saves them ? What’s the difference .. or is it just physiological and some pples brains accept it some don’t and fight against it .. ???
You just described my situation in a precision that I have never seen before, I did the right thing to listen to you the day I closed that last door myself, what you said at the end for the devil is a fact, I dont care what religion people follow, but this is a very true statement, I would even go further by saying that god wanted to protect you. You are saving lives and healing people by what you are teaching on a daily basis, keep it up buddy, we will all be strong and we will all reach unquestionable success and happiness. Peace to you all.
I was the trophy 🏆 supply. I see this looking back. He used me to look better. I met the family at Thanksgiving...had them and me convinced that he was genuine and deeply in love with me 😂. To be discarded two months later was so left field. But God. All things happen for a reason...the good and bad. Take what happened as a learning lesson and move on. Trust God to get you through...prayer, support system, and a positive outlook. Dave knows how narcs roll 💯.
Thank you for this. It’s like your reading a book of my life. Especially the part where besties turn on you. It’s happened to me. Your speaking the truth don’t stop. You are appreciated.
NC after abrupt discard , and during the corona virus isolation is not for the faint at heart! So far Ive ignored over 35 hoovers, and this channel was on during the first hoover!!! Thank you soooo much Dave!!! "Misses A" ALL THE WAY!!!! During my first hoover, Dave was talking about the hoover, and how the cycles get shorter, and worse. Its not worth 30 seconds of fake validation from a sociopath. You only end up discarded again days or even minutes later! NOT what I want.
to everyone that is freshly out or still in it, i feel your pain! and you will feel better, i promise!! this was the worst pain of my life, and i feel like i've been through a few doozies. but nothing compared to the pain of this. now it's been a little over 100 DAYS of NO CONTACT and my heart still has moments of "i can't believe this happened" I let myself cry if tears come, but i bounce back faster. give yourself permission to feel everything. SELF-CARE and SELF-LOVE are your best weapons and the best revenge. soon you'll be thinking "i can't believe i put up with that shit for as long as i did" rather than "i can't believe he did that to me when we were each other's everything." and it feels soooo good! :) you got this!!!!!!
Before the discard, I described myself as agnostic. But then I saw a kind of evil in my ex that frightened me. In that moment I prayed to God to be by my side.
Needed this today. Thank You. On our first "real date" he took me out of state to a concert, nice room, hot tub.. (never saw anything like that again). After the date he said "now i am going to make you happy forever". Yeah right. it was a 3.5 year nightmare. They can only maintain the mask for a short period of time. The red flags were there from the GET. We shopped for rings.. never got a ring or proposal. After a year and a nightmare vacation in Myrtle Beach (paid for by me) i cried and said we needed to break up.. his response was "dont let anyone know about this".not "how can i fix this??".. i stuck in for another couple years.. It was like a tornado ripped into my life and left in a snap.. I am doing so much better than him though. I know this. Thanks Dave for all you do.
WOW! You hit the nail on the head today. Mommy and Daddy issues is right on. Sometimes history does repeat itself. My ex and I went against his parents wishes to marry as young as we did. But, it was on the up&up. We finished school, worked in our fields, he started his own firm, I then stayed home when we had two children, my family was supportive (many have passed on now), etc. Still, I was too transparent, opinionated and soft on my children. They never missed a chance to criticize me and my ex obediently took it all in and then got angry with me because I could not stop them from treating me poorly. I now realize how uncomfortable they all are in their own skin. Once my ex had his parents permission to betray his marriage,( yes! He is still that dependent) it was brutal! During the discard, my ex became completely Paranoid. I found cameras hidden and conversations taped. I realized then why he talked in circles and picked SO many fusses. Always answered a question with a question. Once I asked him if he would rather be right or happy. He grinned at my pale, distressed, swollen face and said He Was ALWAYS right. They never forgave me for interrupting their plan for their first born son. Now, they have he and his live in girlfriend that’s the age of his child. But, at least it’s not ME!
@@prettypuppy6752 it is snowing? here it doesn't snow, but indeed cold. keeps people inside at least. I'm doing well, the past few weeks had a heavy weight on them, but it's going away. do you have an email that we can comunicate?
I have found great satisfaction in blocking my narc and all of the flying monkeys and minions. None of them saw it coming. The best feeling ever. Though disheartening sometimes when I realize that some of the relationships I had were FAKE and funded by the narcs sneaky puppeteering, I"ve been blessed with so much peace! No turning back.
Tanzy Alexis you’ll glow so much more without all that toxicity. Believe it. It sucks to see all those that were only around you to get information or sorts from you for the narcissist but you’re better for it. Stay strong. 💗
I missed you! It's really been a while since I last watched one of your videos and now I'm noticing again how good they are for me. A reminder of the horrors I've overcome and the sanity I've committed myself to. Thanks from the bottom of my heart. :)
What a Godless jungle we are trying to survive in, i may become a recluse to avoid any fake relationships dont want the stress and pain these people bring to others
Mine during the devaluation even stated living with me was like living with his parents. Haha 😂 But that’s what he wanted. A mommy and a daddy to take care of him and his every need! He YES Dave he started telling me how hot his ex wife was... never had heard that before in the love bombing... only how she was lazy and couldn’t handle anything like me! I could do no wrong in the love bomb... but when that deval came I was boring, worthless, had a pathetic job, and just suffocating him. I made him cheat, I made him angry, and I made him hit me. As far as mirroring me... you bet he LOVED my job, he LOVED how caring and nurturing I was, and he LOVED my music! He took away my identity and left me for dead. With two beautiful little girls. Just like he left his beautiful ex wife and little boy. Now he’s with the new supply he left us for and will be having a son in October with this person he has absolutely nothing in common with. She soon will find out who the Narc is if not already. When responsibility walks in the door... he walks right out it! That’s the Narc!
Thankyou for this video,I appreciate. Hey dave,I married the narcissist, not knowing he was a narcissist. BUT HE TOTALLY UNDERESTIMATED ME,THOUGHT I WAS GOING TO STAY IN THAT, DISFUNCTIONAL/TOXIC RELATIONSHIP, HOUSEHOLD. 💣💣💣BOOM,THE BOMB WENT OFF,WHEN I LEFT, WITH OUT LOOKING BACK!! I WILL NEVER RETURN, EVER! I'M HAPPY, CONTENT, LOVED,WANTED💃💃. I APPRECIATE YOU DAVE,THANKS
This is one of the best insights you’ve given in your videos. They have a void and they will destroy people, things and even their pets who don’t help them fill it
The reason we drink coffee in America is because our tea tastes like grass clippings. It is really horrible, even if it is some gourmet thing that is supposed to be good. But we have PG Tea in supermarkets now, so I drink that. Ordinary English supermarket tea tastes like gourmet heaven...
I love tea too, just I like mine sweet and iced, lol! I usually use Tetley or Red Diamond for my Southern sweet tea, and if I do drink hot tea it has to be English Breakfast, Earl Grey, or lapsang.
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The demonic mental blockage is what I'm dealing with. I can hear the FREQUENCY of hatred. And no,I'm not schizophrenic ..I've never heard these things before. I hear the voice of the ex narc dummy and the narcissist JEZEBEL who he "does THINGS WITH " I block it through Prayer and I send the voices back to them! And they don't like that not one bit!
My ex narc pulled round the corner and we slow drove past each other as I was waiting at a junction. I recognised the registration plate and chose to gently look the other before we go close enough for eye contact. Was this the right move? She’d definitely noticed me and her 15 year old daughter was sat in the passenger seat liking straight at me. The only thing I regret was ignoring any eye contact with any of her five kids. Made me feel bad. But I’d have felt worse if I’d gone to engage eyes abd got blanked or if she’d gave a filthy look.
@@barnetthejosh You needed to make a quick judgment call. You could never know for sure how she or any of them would interpret any way that you chose to handle it. Be happy with your choice and keep going forward like none of them exist. You can always be friendly to any of her kids if you ever run into them one on one
Tammy Thomas I can relate
@narcologyunscripted is it normal for a narcissist to dress there new supply like you and drive by you with different guys flaunting there new supply in your face... Honestly it's weird and creepy...
Its important for everyone to remember. We are not victims. If you walked away it was in strength. If they discarded, it was because you did not conform to their directives and perspective. Either way, it is your strength that ended the situation. Love to everyone still feeling the pain. It will get better, there is life after. ❤
Thank you! I needed to hear this 💙
amen sista!
I’m having a hard time with something and I’m just looking for advice - I know the narc blocked me on the cell phone but once/week I call to see if I’m still blocked. Why am I doing this??? It’s been 8 weeks since he discarded me - I’m doing well with everything else / less tears, keeping busy, etc.
Hello from San Diego with my pomegranate juice 😁
Thank you for the reminder!!!
When you’ve blocked the narcissist you’ve won!!!
HERE HERE!!!!!!!🤣😂🤣😂👍👍💪
Dont want to block. How will she be able to see my new car and hotter girlfriend if I do so?
Greenehendrikx 😆
Total violation to their being😂
@@gansgevtekked1917 i did something similar... and then i blocked 😅
I promise when you finally go no contact for good the soul ties break. The freedom of not being disrespected, disregarded, and abused is priceless.
Amen
A billion demonic narcs could attack me but I will NEVER walk away from my Lord, Savior and my Everything Jesus Christ....
Amen🙏🏽
Amen.
Hallelujah! Praise the Lord Jesus Christ forevermore!! 🙏🙌
Jesus Christ my Lord and Saviour.
My best friend.
Amen
The thing narcs hate most, above all else is to be ignored
The devil within them is here to kill steal and destroy..
Fact
Factsssss... while I was with mine God showed me she had three evil spirit on her... these were spirit I had prior encounter with ...this girl is truly evil.....
When having 2 be with my narc, I felt my energy drain, like my soul was leaving my body. I felt panicked, scared, and many times wanting him out of my perihpel view bc his form was fucking up my body.
Exactly
Totally Agree there's one particular demon assigned to narcissist how I know this because watching RUclips videos on narcissist and listen to other people's story they all act in the same manner every sin has a demon attached to that particular sin.
Blocking is healing and saying I no longer accept this crap. !!
To get your inner child to accept the fact that the person you fell n in love with is a trickster That’s the hard part.
That’s so true.
They steal access to your inner child and trick you into operating from that same position the entire relationship so that they can freely take advantage of you. They became your new narcissistic parent.
Yes you’re right, but don’t let that get too you. Billions of people have been there done that and wore the tea shirt 👚
ImRichBych it’s so awful. Sick, evil demonic shit that really messes you up. I don’t even know if messes you up is even the right wording for this soul rape.
Yes ! That's something no one gets
They want someone to put up with their mess and stick it out. They don’t want to change or take responsibility/accountability for anything...they’re not worth all that...
Toni you got that right..
They want the respect of an adult but the grace of a child. Pure lunacy.
@ Melissa B You are right!! Mine slammed the phone on me and said they felt I was mocking them just because I was asking them questions they did not want to answer. No apology afterwards just expected me to respect him. How on earth an one respect someone with no self control, no values and just causes chaos and havoc🙅🏽♀️
@ Melissa B
PURE LUNACY💯👍🏾👊🏾🙌🏾
@@themarro6695 that's the crazy sis. In their mind they are entitled to act out and behave as they will with the EXPECTATION that it will tolerated because of who they are. Smdh. My response to the narc I was dealing with was even, for shits and giggles, you WERE special and above reproach, why would you want to act that way in the first place? He was stunned and just turned and walked away. In hindsight I can laugh it now, but at the time my mind almost blew a gasket trying to wrap my head around what I was dealing with.
My ex enjoyed it when I spoke to him like a child, he then felt so comfortable to speak to me like a 4 yr old😳🙈
I went from love bombing ( he was the adult man and I'm the adult lady) to him being a teenager, me still the lady and wondering why the drop in adulting? To him becoming 10 yrs old, and me responding like I'm 15😳 to him being 4 yrs old and I'm now 5 yrs old, we became two kids, to talk to him and reason with him meant me coming down to his level / emotional age group😒
Out relationship finally became Tom and Jerry relationship, brother and sister, besties😒, mother and son, mother and baby😔
There was zero romance, love, intimacy, adult conversation, nothing, felt like I was in the twilight zone, I mourned the loss of the man I fell in love and abhorred the child that suddenly he became which I despised more and more every day.
oh, you worded it perfectly! And when you give them that, the target moves.
Easy come, easy go people. Block that like it's your job!
I have no problem cutting people off. Once abused I go no contact never looking back. Its like they do not exist I fell off the face of the earth.
YES!!✌️✌️✌️
@@sylettemonroe8878 It took me a lot to build up that strength. Its was great once I reached that point to where I could.
These people were irrelevant before you met them. Now its time to make them irrelevant again after they discarded you.
You were their favorit dog, but they took you to a dark forrest and tied you up to a tree with no food or water. You still hope they will come back to save you. They wont, on their way back home they already picked up a new dog.
Wow savage. But these people don’t have soulsz
Yes! I've said before It's like being a beaten puppy who crawls back to their abuser for more. We want them to love us and make it better but they don't.
dramatic
Yeah that pretty much sums up with mine did to me and our son actually my son she never did shit for him anyways
Brilliant analogy
The narcs job is to bring you closer to God😊
I dont believe in god more after expierience with narcissist MEN
It is true when they left you from nowhere and you are looking for answers and you see a bright light coming towards you which make you better version of yourself . It is god who is protecting you .
@marjonmjones3415 I believe u, because that's where it led me to, to God..
Narcissists receive a huge narc injury once you block them they can’t stand you being not interested in their false image anymore but as a empath healing must be a priority for you to move foward in life and to live in abundance being genuinely happy😁❤️, The 23rd of this month is going to be 4 months No contact with my ex best friend(the narcissist in my life) and best believe I’m living my life so happily and All the Glory To God for setting me free from this Jezebel Spirit Demon.🙌🏼💯‼️
I hate that they all of a sudden "hate us", for simply seeing there masks fall. What? We're we suppose 2 be stupid slaves forever? How can they hate somebody for respecting themselves, and seeing the truth as they would. These fucks are wierd.
Braulio Carballo amen. Good job. Ex best friends. Love that. Because it’s true. They get in close to us through bonds. 💗
yayyyyyyy! Happy healing!
Praise God!!!
I had and fell for a supposed toxic best friend like this as well, during Lockdown
Biggest mistake of my life...
Its been an emotional rollercoaster and I have been No Contact for three days now
The Narc goes crazy when you block them😂
But they have no problem blocking you first
@@msa8761 Exactly
I don’t care if it makes him crazy! Freedom!
Panic sets in for some (not all) panic for lack of supply and panic for lack of control
The Marro I’m sure he will be fine. (The female one wanted to prove I can’t just block her) so you just ignore. 🤷🏽♀️
Blocking the love of my life/mother of my child/seeming best friend was the hardest thing to do, followed by purging all pictures, gifts, memorabilia, etc.
I hear you, gut wrenching...you'll be free and when you are, praise God for it.
Purging healed me. You have to completely rid your life of the narc to heal. There can be no shortcuts here.
When she left, she left our wedding pictures and scrapbooks in a pile like it was all trash. That's when I realized she hadn't cared. 5 years later, I finally got rid of the pictures and memorabilia. It's difficult but necessary.
@@tedhelmick2565 i can relate. So hurtful. Be string and blessed
Every picture, every gift, every text message...trash. Unfriend and block on social media. No contact. It's for your own sanity
He never apologised once in forty years!
we have to accept we will never get one. But we can forgive ourselfs.
I was saying this about mine his never apologised in 3years never once said, I'm sorry if I hurt you or I'm sorry I said that or I'm sorry for making you feel that way, just cold careless.
I blocked him everywhere possible. He still managed to find me and messaged me saying he was desperate and said “please don’t block me”. He even tried using the death of a family member to guilt me into breaking no contact. I blocked him immediately again
Yep, that's a narc alright.
Keep doing that...dont respond at all..
So true. The ex narc is doing exactly the same thing to me right now.
P N Yes! Him using the death of a family member was so disturbing to me. It proved to me even more that he is a narc
R Torres Thank you!
“Most narcissists have mommy issues or daddy issues.” So true, Dave! My ex-narc girlfriend came from a very broken home. I felt more like a caregiver and father figure than a boyfriend.
My ex narc expected me to be his mother/lover, it doesn't work pathetic crap
Their lack of empathy makes them feel betrayed when you say no more abuse. They don't have empathy for the abuse they inflicted on you. So when you leave or make them leave, they feel betrayed, not one but of remorse for abusing you. You betrayed them for setting boundaries.
And deep down they finally have respect for u when u do
If you’re recently no contact with a narc-ex, blocked them, and may be somewhat distressed about it, just remember the lyrics from the song Sail On by The Commodores, especially this part: I gave you my heart and I tried to make you happy,
And you gave me nothing in return.
You know, it ain't so hard to say, "Would you please just go away,”
I've thrown away the blues, I'm tired of being used. I want everyone to know I'm lookin' for a good time. Sail on, honey! 😃💪🏼🖕
Gabby.... thanks I couldn’t have said it better!!
One of my favorite songs ever!!
😳 omg. I'm STUNNED. You just finished putting The Puzzle together for me!!! The Piece I was missing!! 10 years off and on with my Narc ex, 1 child😔 this last Visit was his LAST. I got a Lawyer. But, I started looking at all the people stalking me on Facebook, and this is what his ex, (I suspected) put on her timeline...the RUclips link to this song. I just listened to it 😳 omg. That poor woman. It's NOT me! I'm not 'crazy' like he keeps trying to convince me of while I work and he sits on welfare playing video games. Good riddance! Thank you!! Be blessed!
Blocking him was the hardest thing I ever had to do , God intervene with divine intervention , pulled me and my children out ,no matter how much I loved him I could not go back , God closed that door , don’t go knocking back .... I honestly feel he was possessed, how can some one beat you up , and just sit there with a evil laugh or the words that were said . I thank god every day for what he did for me and the kids 🙏🏻 thank you Dave for all the videos you do . You are an angel
Same blocking him was the hardest thing to do because I loved him so much
god bless you
My narc too beat me up badly one day. 5 punches 2 my stomach, and breasts. The next day, both breasts were black. I showed him, he turned him head saying "I don't want 2 look." And downplaying the beating. I didn't recognize myself. I left 2 a womans shelter and they called dss for me, and also helped charges be brought. He 2 smirked after beatingg me for no reason. After swinging, he saix "bet ull have 50 bucks for me soon right?" I was on the floor in pain, possible internal injuries, shaking terrorized, and never a sorry. U would think he was proud he beat a woman up.
It’s hard...
Xoxo yours laughed while hitting you too?!? This last one was a pedophile and I caught him by being with a 17 year old cat fishing. He was disgusting. Cops didn’t seem to care either. Which is worse. He would say he loved me but beat me. I’m just done with all of them. We didn’t call anybody out of their name in our home. These people are sick but won’t ever see it
One of the ways he mirrored me was studying my social media. He presented himself as a galant gentleman and bible scholar. Nothing could be further from the truth. This man was a dangerous career criminal. Up until the discard, he would kiss the back of my hand and tell me how special I was and how we were going to change the world together. I had a lot of posts about black love and wanting to be a with a man of God. He would use the Bible against me and twist scripture to get me to accept the abuse. I didn’t even realize he was doing this until I looked up the narcissistic behaviors. He twas very convincing.
@Caroline Derosena, exactly just like my ex beast. He portrayed himself as a church guy and used all scriptures to attack me. He said "I'm more Christian than you" everytime I protested him about his bad behaviours
@Pat Coco Yup, indeed. He also said that he was once a good choir boy and priest's assistant, until one day he found out that the priest stole church money and he tried to expose it and got banished from church instead. Therefore, he claimed to be a church-free Christian because he feels that he is more Christian and truer/purer than those people who go to church. Hahah, more like he stole that church money and got banished from church, instead of the priest
@@gabrielasantikalin3020 for sure, that is what happened. Sick ppl.
Been there omg!
Master manipulators. They live on social media stalking prey.
I moved to another state with my narc and that is when the mask came all the way off. It’s scary
😯 wow
A year after blocking my narc, he told my friend, he cant date because I hurt him so much! New supply must have dumped him! Lol
hahaha yesssssssssssssssss
Oh, poor thing. 😂😂😂
When you know better, you will do better. You owe it to yourself to be happy and free
Say that Lisa 👏💯🙌👌
I'm trying so hard to be strong! I block then unblock. I'm only narc free for 12 days. I was grade A supply and his last supply. Hes burned every bridge and moved across the ocean and lured me there too. Hes gonna have to start from square one to groom another. I was with him for 10 years! I've tried leaving 10x and he hovers me back everytime! He ups the ante everytime to get me back! This video is speaking to my heart right now!
Best of luck to you! I hope you don't go back. Know that positive things are ahead and once you are totally free and healed your light will be brighter than ever 🙏
You're a joke to him. Something to Hurt and humiliate openly to all except you...Cut him off for good.
@@garethtapa8558 Yes, joke. Me too.
I’m praying for you. It’s been a short time for me too but be strong. Blocking him has been the most empowering thing for me. I feel so free.
It's only you that can help yourself. And you will I know 😉
Ahh this new video per day really takes the edge off the pain.
Getting used to hearing Dave's voice everyday.
Oh Yes!
Missing the music , someone complained.
Yeah I agree listening to Dave's voice everyday does take the edge off. It's been 7 months no contact. It gets easier everyday. I'm going to be MRS.B lol
The love bomb is truly just a mirror. All they have is but a reflection of those around them. Everything I enjoyed: climbing, skiing, biking, motorcycling, music, reading, camping, shooting...as soon as we were married all of it stopped.
The part of her i fell in love with never existed. The part of her i fell in love with was awesome. The part of her i fell in love with was really just me.
You are not alone. Good luck and know your/you're love.
Their colors are our colors. I am reclaiming my colors now
Once again brilliant insights into the under developed child that is the adult Narcissist. You are so right Dave! Narcs either have a mother or father wound; sometimes even both! The ex Narcopath I married spent our entire first date complaining about his mother and I felt sorry for him. The second date he told me how he was the scapegoat and his brother was his father’s golden child... and I felt even more sorry for him. When he asked me out for that third date, I could kick myself now for not politely declining and giving him the number to a Psychologist instead!
major mom issues with my narc he is 36 and lives with her
still, I was so blind for 3 years he is very cruel I have gone no contact
Thank You Master Chief! You are such a blessing to the Seal Team!!!
So similar to my ex narc. Our first date, her "eating disorder" came out. I felt sorry for her and one thing led to the next. They always play the victim card on empaths... because IT WORKS and they KNOW IT. Walk away.
Pretty Puppy I think all narcs follow the same script my ex husband is a narc and gave me tales of his bad childhood and how his parents disliked him etc. Which I got told by his family members were all lies because he was treated exactly the same as his siblings.
Mine said how he was his mother's diamond 💎 the most handsome in the family, most beautiful man, most cutest, most liked, never could do wrong by his mom, ever so spoiled, used our first couple months on and off to complain, hate and miss his ex gf, I was too naive and dumb to not recognize what was happening, I didn't even know the word narcissist and what it meant .... if only I booted him out that first time.... 5 yrs would have been saved 😭😔
They will shove the new supply to all ppl and specially you , but after u got discarded you will eventually see they didn't love you, so u didn't lose something gold , u got trapped in these a nicely coloured prison that they built strongly , so don't worry if they worship the new supply they will fail into the same circle , don't stress out ... keep it no contact 💙
And you will see your ex narcissist in pain
I just blocked PERMANENTLY an hour ago and here is your video. Painful day. I relate to all of this, especially with the point you made at the end of what we all have in common. Thank you.
You got this stay strong 💪🏼🙏
prayers Amy. But please keep them blocked. I blocked and then unblocked for a short period of time because I missed her and then the abuse got 10x worse. Very important to keep your foot on the gas ❤️
Korey Jackson yes when you unblock they know you want their attention again. They have you right where they want you. I went around that crazy making circle for far too long but finally saw the light.
Yes I have just done this again today. I unblocked and fell for the Hoover. And the fact it was soo much worse every time. Never again. Be strong 💪
10 months later and the fog has lifted yes? Congratualtions...you are free now I hope.
Always acted like they can either take you or leave you, so sad when I realized that was true....and so, I left. I am more than they'll ever know and stronger than they could ever be.
I feel now that blocking is a gift to oneself...and the narc taking off is a gift from them to us to spare us of any more of their evil...
Its hard at first but you gotta do it... i did it and threw him to the curb.....secretly wishing he wasn’t what i thought he was. but he proved my suspicion so correct!!! They are truly devious. its disgusting
When I first walked away I could barely breathe
I watched Dave’s videos morning moon & nite.
Now I cannot say I’m 💯 yet but I’m getting there . & I can dream again
Thanks Dave . God bless
After 4 years of no contact, the narc showed up. First sent a text via WhatsApp, I didn't respond, next day with multiple calls, I didn't answer. I didn't want to use a second of my time to even block him. I'm indifferent and I could care less. To me he's not even deserving of using the time and energy it takes to block, however minimal. After wasting almost 5 years of my life, not even a sec is worth wasting on him.
Question for you... you seem so strong and okay with not giving him the time of day, but you are commenting on this video. I’m new to no contact so just wondering - Does it still bother you enough you need to watch these videos still?
Unicorn 33 wow, judgy! I’m the exact opposite of a Narcissist and certainly don’t have NPD. I asked the question (NOT TO YOU) because I am on day 7 NC and was looking for advice from someone that seems so strong. I had a valid non-judgmental question on what healing looks like down the road. Will I still be needing to watch videos 24/7 or will my mind be at ease without it? You need to back off and not assume the worst in everyone. Self reflection may benefit you.
"She remembered who she was and the game changed"
He changed his number and caught me off guard, tried to hoover me, gray rocked him, since I changed my number which was gutted as had for 20yrs! But needs must, now I know if my phone rings or beeps it will NEVER be him!! 👌😁
I blocked him from everywhere with no second thoughts the last time he tried to play on me to get money for his other women and I discovered and expose his game. He reacted in rage and said I should pay him for the sex since I was an old woman that no one could ever love and I guess he kept cursing my name since I blocked him while typing. He couldn't finish his insulting flow. I guess that he believed I was his mother providing him with everything even money for him to entertain the others. Come on now. Seriously? 😒😒😒 Even put my brain off to block any trigger or memory.
Dorian Morgenstern They really hate when u see through them!! That’s when they go into their worst rages, you know you’re dead on
The discard is the narc showing you how he/she has really felt about you from day one. The discard is the first real gift the narc ever gave you. They have set you free from a living hell. Now give yourself a gift...show yourself some love and block the narc from now on. "If you're going through Hell, keep going.", Winston Churchill ❤❤
The discard is how they have always felt... ughh so hard to accept. Specially when its a fam member
Quick to ignore you, dismiss you and belittle you.... but faster when it comes to love-bombing once you have actually walked away and they lose control.
Suddenly you are of value again. Big value.
Stay away people, stay strong. Block. Delete. Change your number. It really gets bad sometimes if they don’t let up.
Scary too. Stay safe and seek support in your friends and family x
They really do laugh when you cry. It’s kind of like they’re not human. Once I saw something in their eyes but I’m not religious. I just think eyes tell a lot. And in the end they’ll show you what they really think of you even so called friends.
This is so true. They want you give up your identity , beliefs, morals, and just live you’re life on their terms.
Well no one will date me because I won’t have sex before marriage. Not that I haven’t before. But 2 years. I haven’t dated anyone. Narc free but even Christian ✝️ professing won’t wait. Hopefully God has someone for me.
I’m the same way. Unfortunately most narcissistic people I’ve met are completely loose and don’t care with who they sleep with. Most of them have bad addictions and don’t know right from wrong...
Tewdy Quew Thank You. If they cannot wait they aren’t worth having!! Just want a godly loving partner in life. Which isn’t a sin. It’s actually God’s design
Tammy Gardner Amen. ✌🏻
Sit tight, The right person will come into your life at the right time, God doesnt always give us what we want, But he always gives us what we need !
Same here 5 years no sex. I feel good to. Somebody is out there for us.
I have physical proof of it. I cut contact, but it took me a while to block. Then, not so much after the blocking, I got the hoover, that said: “I KNOW YOU BLOCKED ME AND YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO...” He came with a fake epiphany that he reflected on what he did... I do believe that he felt it because he got with another narc, so... I never replied. 4 months NC!
No I didn't
Lmao that’s so crazy. It’s funny they really think they can come back after all of that.
@@queenanna1077 Hello, dear! Good to see you here!
@@kaylawilsonphoto It's deplorable, but funny, the day I got it i laughed, smiled because i knew i was free. They know what they lost deep down. Going away is the best way to live inspite the pain
@@Melbester9 they want to press your buttons, they want you to let them in... Good you got that figured out so you know she is not good for you! You are going to do better after the pain leaves
I agree Dave. The devil is on the loose to destroy relationships. Empaths go to heaven....Narcs to hell .... unless they repent..but most Narcs think they are God or do not believe in God at all. If they do go to church it is to keep on the mask of hypocrisy for trickery of the unsuspecting.
This man is an expert. The most devastating experience of my life. Still traumatised after a year post discard but have blocked the devil on every possible medium.
My ex narcissist had serious daddy issues that were so profound that I was shocked to the core of the fights between them. I once had to stop her father from strangling her to death.
@Eternity With Christ
Thanks. The narcissist has married. I pray she has changed.
My narc totally took on my likes, interests and hobbies for nearly five years and almost acted like he wanted to be me because he has no identity of his own.
You’re absolutely correct that all they care about is being the center of attention and what others can do for them. It’s exhausting. I have felt this malevolent spirit of which you speak, several times, but especially saw it in his sadistic smirk and mocking sessions. Pure evil, at its best.
I hope we can all educate ourselves as much as possible and realize no one deserves to be abused. Not ourselves and not ever. And rarely have I ever seen or heard of a narc changing. It’s best to cut the losses ASAP and go no contact. It’s the only way to have peace in our lives. ❤️
I agree with this video 100 percent! I came from a good background and was always the positive, go lucky person. As soon as i met him and he moved in with me. I can feel me getting drained and always feeling unworthy. From the day i left i feel better and more like myself again! Thanks Dave! Your always an inspiration. Your coffee mug is awesome btw! 🙂
Love bomb Ex Narc Mirroring: “OH MY GOD”!!!! “You love the color Orange?!!!” “I cannot believe it- I love orange too”!! “I never meet anyone else who loves Orange” !!!
Me Then: Remembering how this was SOOO AMAZING in the love bomb.
Me now: Insert eye roll 🙄
Hahaha! My mouth dropped when you said “Get your tea” and then laughed my @$$ off ...”out of the way b/c its coffee time.” ☕️❤️🤣
Wow thank you again Dave! I am so thankful to God for finding you. Your videos are helping me though my daily pain. Just very recently broke it off after finding more lies. Spent 6 years giving my ALL to him and his kids and was told by him it meant nothing to him... this is after helping him the first three years out of his alcoholism while dealing with my own family traumas with my little girl, etc.
Life goes on and the functioning can be difficult with the existing pain but again, these daily encouragements of yours are reminding me I CAN do this and I’m not alone. 💕
Your words that are coming across the channel is truly from the Holy Spirit! Every word that you speak is a godsend!
100% correct Dave.. what you explain sounds like the script of my life.. proves that all narcs share the same traits.. im mind boggled everytime I watch your videos.. some moments leave me in laughter at the truth you preach and other moments leave me saying "amen brother" thanks for the vids, its definitely helping me understand how to handle the narc as an empath.. im still allowing my soon to be ex-wife to manipulate me and use me.. shes so good at it.. but your vids are helping me more and more.
Dave is spot on! I started crying listening today. For the most part, I am strong, but it’s such a punch in the gut, hearing these horrific truths that Dave brings to light, and admitting to yourself ...yes, they were all lies.
We are sensitive caring people, that’s how we got roped into this mess. My narc said we were like puzzle pieces that fit together perfectly, he knew he had me. They know just what to say!
In the beginning, he always told me how beautiful I was, and of course I wanted to be perfect for him. So when he knew I took extra care getting ready, hoping for a compliment, he would find one tiny thing that was off and tell me to fix that.
My kids said he watched everything I did and found it very unsettling. He told Me I wasn’t washing the dishes right, and I said, “do it yourself then” he slunk away not knowing how to respond to that. I thought of my Dad because he use to get after us if we didn’t do something just right. *Childhood Wounds* It was a big red flag, but I would always just move on and forget about things he would say or do. They file all that information away in their head, hating you more for having an opinion and not being the slave robot they thought they had.
Be kind to yourself, keep a journal, down the road when you look back through it, you can see how far you’ve come. God bless this community and all those being tormented around the world, that they find the truth, and seek God’s perfect love. 🙏🏻❤️
I'm in this stage, getting away from narcissistic husband after a lifetime. He's not ready to take any responsibility of the pain nd hurt he gave me, even after pleading and requesting. His ego is rejecting my need of divorce, as for him society nd people matters more than anyone. Thank you for this video
Glad you will leave ... trust me it only gets better... these narcissistic people only care about themselves and getting attention from
Other people
You can do it, you have our support and God is on your side.
All the strength you need already lives inside you. Tap into your strength and live the life you deserve free from the narc. I packed up my three kids, divorced and never looked back.
Thank you so much Dave.🦋
Blocked! 😃
Said everything, Dave! 👏👏👏👏👏👏 I was not married to him , but I went through everything you said. He is very childish, had a problems with his parents and I think he looks for his mother in women... He only assume the woman who can support him financially like his mother did ! (53 years old 😨😨😨).
I think the crazy AM I 😂😂😂
Thanks, Dave, for being here ❤
Mirna Liz true. Mine paid for a house for the whore he was seeing on the side. A legitimate town whore as in everyone had been with her and she is a gold digger. The sad part is: the house looked exactly like mine that he helped me move into. So he had sex with her and he paid for her and her husband to get a house as long as he can have sex with her whenever he wants. But she has genital herpes. So I stopped it as soon as I found out they were talking behind my back. He told her all of my information. Everything.
@@ninanickel3103 😨😨😨😨 Horrible. Disgusting. Let's heal from these monsters ! 🙆💪👣
He’s speaking the TRUTH and kudos to him for having the guts to do so !!!!
It's difficult to block someone that you love so much..who said you were his soulmate..love of his life..team mate..forever..but you "have" to. Mrs A 6 weeks no contact. No more abuse and love bombing😊💗thank you Dave! Keep praying..God hears you!🙏🙂
They will paint you to the world when you do. Good. Be glad. If you have changed your life and are now doing what you truly feel is right, rejoice. Be glad. Greater is the reward in Heaven.
Been thankful for this message since there was 10,000 subscribers and still recommend you to anyone. God bless you Dave (2Sam.)
Great video Dave,
The narc I was with just happened to like everything I liked,that was in the beginning,towards the end she resented everything about me,if I told her the sky was purple in the the beginning she would've said yes it is😂for awhile I thought she had a split personality,I never met such an empty bottomless pit in all my life,heart of stone,ice running threw her veins,towards the end I thought I was with a robot,everyday I woke up I didn't know who I was getting,I never felt so alone sleeping next to somebody in all my life,it's mind blowing how they get us to fall for them in the beginning,they know we're the good ones,they know where awesome people,they want what we have,they can't understand how we can be good people,show love an actually care for another person,they start hating us because of all are good qualities,I don't want to sound full of myself but one of the last conversation I had with my ex I told her that I shine to bright for her,by this time I knew she was with the new supply,I told her that I was the star in the relationship,I told her no matter who your with that other person is the star,she's always in the backround,I told her she will always be a side note in ever transaction ,
I said that at the time out of angry an pain,but its the truth,they know it too,an they hate when you expose them an they know you know now,they want us to stay confused an hurt forever,never able to move on,when we get the knowledge we pop a link out of that vicious cycle,when they know we know that kills them,they know that they can never come back,they can try but we will know better to never open that door, you gotta blow that damn Bridge up obliterated vaporize it,stay n.c,thanks Dave,
You have helped me in ways I never thought would be possible,you saved my life,you helped me stay strong an not break n.c no matter what,🤘❤
The robot in the bed very apt .. sometimes I would look just to see if a human was there on the sofa .. maybe that’s it humans without souls are narcs .. whose fault is it what makes them this way . They are born babies a baby doesn’t choose to be a narc …so why don’t all children with narc parents become narcs . What saves them ? What’s the difference .. or is it just physiological and some pples brains accept it some don’t and fight against it .. ???
When I said after 32 yrs no contract no contact..he said I have no right to cut him off..
You just described my situation in a precision that I have never seen before, I did the right thing to listen to you the day I closed that last door myself, what you said at the end for the devil is a fact, I dont care what religion people follow, but this is a very true statement, I would even go further by saying that god wanted to protect you. You are saving lives and healing people by what you are teaching on a daily basis, keep it up buddy, we will all be strong and we will all reach unquestionable success and happiness. Peace to you all.
I was the trophy 🏆 supply. I see this looking back. He used me to look better. I met the family at Thanksgiving...had them and me convinced that he was genuine and deeply in love with me 😂. To be discarded two months later was so left field. But God. All things happen for a reason...the good and bad. Take what happened as a learning lesson and move on. Trust God to get you through...prayer, support system, and a positive outlook. Dave knows how narcs roll 💯.
Your videos are really my favorite! Love being reminded and learning to know it's a spiritual war.
Mad love ,much respect, you really helped me to get out of this narcistic hell ,hell yeah 🙏♥✌
Tea on saturdays🤓 Great video! No human with love would treat someone as the narcissist does!
So true!
Thank you for this. It’s like your reading a book of my life. Especially the part where besties turn on you. It’s happened to me. Your speaking the truth don’t stop. You are appreciated.
NC after abrupt discard , and during the corona virus isolation is not for the faint at heart! So far Ive ignored over 35 hoovers, and this channel was on during the first hoover!!! Thank you soooo much Dave!!! "Misses A" ALL THE WAY!!!! During my first hoover, Dave was talking about the hoover, and how the cycles get shorter, and worse. Its not worth 30 seconds of fake validation from a sociopath. You only end up discarded again days or even minutes later! NOT what I want.
to everyone that is freshly out or still in it, i feel your pain! and you will feel better, i promise!! this was the worst pain of my life, and i feel like i've been through a few doozies. but nothing compared to the pain of this. now it's been a little over 100 DAYS of NO CONTACT and my heart still has moments of "i can't believe this happened" I let myself cry if tears come, but i bounce back faster. give yourself permission to feel everything. SELF-CARE and SELF-LOVE are your best weapons and the best revenge. soon you'll be thinking "i can't believe i put up with that shit for as long as i did" rather than "i can't believe he did that to me when we were each other's everything." and it feels soooo good! :) you got this!!!!!!
Life of negativity and eggshells.
Dave, you're on fire! The Holy Spirit is speaking thru you. Taking the narrow path.
Before the discard, I described myself as agnostic. But then I saw a kind of evil in my ex that frightened me. In that moment I prayed to God to be by my side.
Needed this today. Thank You. On our first "real date" he took me out of state to a concert, nice room, hot tub.. (never saw anything like that again). After the date he said "now i am going to make you happy forever". Yeah right. it was a 3.5 year nightmare. They can only maintain the mask for a short period of time. The red flags were there from the GET. We shopped for rings.. never got a ring or proposal. After a year and a nightmare vacation in Myrtle Beach (paid for by me) i cried and said we needed to break up.. his response was "dont let anyone know about this".not "how can i fix this??".. i stuck in for another couple years.. It was like a tornado ripped into my life and left in a snap.. I am doing so much better than him though. I know this. Thanks Dave for all you do.
No...thank you...you bet!
WOW! You hit the nail on the head today. Mommy and Daddy issues is right on. Sometimes history does repeat itself. My ex and I went against his parents wishes to marry as young as we did. But, it was on the up&up. We finished school, worked in our fields, he started his own firm, I then stayed home when we had two children, my family was supportive (many have passed on now), etc. Still, I was too transparent, opinionated and soft on my children. They never missed a chance to criticize me and my ex obediently took it all in and then got angry with me because I could not stop them from treating me poorly. I now realize how uncomfortable they all are in their own skin. Once my ex had his parents permission to betray his marriage,( yes! He is still that dependent) it was brutal! During the discard, my ex became completely Paranoid. I found cameras hidden and conversations taped. I realized then why he talked in circles and picked SO many fusses. Always answered a question with a question.
Once I asked him if he would rather be right or happy. He grinned at my pale, distressed, swollen face and said He
Was ALWAYS right.
They never forgave me for interrupting their plan for their first born son. Now, they have he and his live in girlfriend that’s the age of his child. But, at least it’s not ME!
My mind is more clear and I feel empowered thanks to your channel!
Cheers Dave! I’m being naughty today and drinking tea ☺️
Me too! Winter here in Brazil where I live is sooo much today. Good for staying in. 💕✨
GIOVANNA PANDOLFO Hi there my precious friend 🥰it’s winter time here too and tea is very cozy isn’t it? Hope you’re doing well? 💖💕💖
NUBIAN QUEEN DEE oh you’re so kind beautiful lady!! Hope you’re having an awesome day🥰❤️❤️❤️
@@prettypuppy6752 it is snowing? here it doesn't snow, but indeed cold. keeps people inside at least. I'm doing well, the past few weeks had a heavy weight on them, but it's going away. do you have an email that we can comunicate?
The narsiss has a big smear campaign rite now on me. But when you point the finger there are usually 3 pointing back at you
Dave, this could be one of your best. Truth
Bro Wow you are dead on about my wife and the relationship we have! Thank you for opening my eyes! 🙏🏽
Thank you so much. You have been an inspiration for me. I am still in the noncontact period and it's very tough.The bond is very strong. God bless you
Yes...THEY have issues! 🤷♀️👀🤬
I learned what I did not want . That knowledge helped tremendously to find what I did want .
Laugh when you're crying
Delighted in you're dying
Smirk when UR in pain, or sick. Don't get sick, or itll be UR fault. Or u'll be told UR faking it for attention.
Yup evil
This is so real, i couldn't understand it at the time but now i do. Thank you Dave.
I have found great satisfaction in blocking my narc and all of the flying monkeys and minions. None of them saw it coming. The best feeling ever. Though disheartening sometimes when I realize that some of the relationships I had were FAKE and funded by the narcs sneaky puppeteering, I"ve been blessed with so much peace! No turning back.
Tanzy Alexis you’ll glow so much more without all that toxicity. Believe it. It sucks to see all those that were only around you to get information or sorts from you for the narcissist but you’re better for it. Stay strong. 💗
This is your best video. It puts so many conversations I had with the Narc in perspective. Thank you so much, Dave.
Mine said he was scared of God and fast forward a year later was saying “F*** God”! If that wasn’t the devil in disguise I don’t know what it was!
Haneya Lovell yes. They love to say screw God. Because they believe they are God......
I missed you! It's really been a while since I last watched one of your videos and now I'm noticing again how good they are for me. A reminder of the horrors I've overcome and the sanity I've committed myself to. Thanks from the bottom of my heart. :)
What a Godless jungle we are trying to survive in, i may become a recluse to avoid any fake relationships dont want the stress and pain these people bring to others
Fabulous video. So true. Their needs always come first and yours are not considered. You live for them. Literally. Thank you!
Mine during the devaluation even stated living with me was like living with his parents. Haha 😂 But that’s what he wanted. A mommy and a daddy to take care of him and his every need! He YES Dave he started telling me how hot his ex wife was... never had heard that before in the love bombing... only how she was lazy and couldn’t handle anything like me! I could do no wrong in the love bomb... but when that deval came I was boring, worthless, had a pathetic job, and just suffocating him. I made him cheat, I made him angry, and I made him hit me.
As far as mirroring me... you bet he LOVED my job, he LOVED how caring and nurturing I was, and he LOVED my music! He took away my identity and left me for dead. With two beautiful little girls. Just like he left his beautiful ex wife and little boy. Now he’s with the new supply he left us for and will be having a son in October with this person he has absolutely nothing in common with. She soon will find out who the Narc is if not already. When responsibility walks in the door... he walks right out it! That’s the Narc!
Hi Dave!!! I enjoy your videos. Thank youuu
"And he uses relationships to do this" - speaking to someone here - yup we hear you Dave
When he said that I felt it in my soul 🙏🏾
Thankyou for this video,I appreciate. Hey dave,I married the narcissist, not knowing he was a narcissist. BUT HE TOTALLY UNDERESTIMATED ME,THOUGHT I WAS GOING TO STAY IN THAT, DISFUNCTIONAL/TOXIC RELATIONSHIP, HOUSEHOLD. 💣💣💣BOOM,THE BOMB WENT OFF,WHEN I LEFT, WITH OUT LOOKING BACK!! I WILL NEVER RETURN, EVER! I'M HAPPY, CONTENT, LOVED,WANTED💃💃. I APPRECIATE YOU DAVE,THANKS
Thank you, Dave!! Just got hoovered yesterday after blocking him. Narcs are so predictable.
This is one of the best insights you’ve given in your videos. They have a void and they will destroy people, things and even their pets who don’t help them fill it
Not sure we can be friends Dave....I'm English.....we love tea. 😂
The reason we drink coffee in America is because our tea tastes like grass clippings. It is really horrible, even if it is some gourmet thing that is supposed to be good. But we have PG Tea in supermarkets now, so I drink that. Ordinary English supermarket tea tastes like gourmet heaven...
I love tea too, just I like mine sweet and iced, lol! I usually use Tetley or Red Diamond for my Southern sweet tea, and if I do drink hot tea it has to be English Breakfast, Earl Grey, or lapsang.