Hey @@BradBrowning.. I followed no contact for 2 weeks almost and in between he first disabled his ig for 2 days.. And then he put story and when i didn't see he unfollowed me and removed himself from follower too.. Why? Is he moving on?
Sadly I have accepted it now. She will never come back to me. Don’t loose the right woman like me folks, never break her trust. Trust is the only thing any woman would want. I will try my best to move on now. I know no-one will be able to fill her void but it is what it is I guess.
I understand what you're going through. You know moving on is a tricky process and the emotions come in waves. This video is for you: ruclips.net/video/01wvLSaS9_I/видео.html And if you're still having a hard time, this should help you understand why in order to understand what you're going through: ruclips.net/video/2CakOOSwIiY/видео.html or get my latest e-book Beat the Breakup guide as that will help you and your mindset to evolve from the breakup and therefore become the best version of yourself. Check it out at www.beatmybreakup.com
It’s been 3 weeks since this comment and I know exactly how you feel. I hope you’re healing ❤️🩹 Good things are about to come to you don’t worry! I’m sure one day she will reach out but keep working on yourself so the day she comes back you could probably mend things with her ❤️
Hi Brad! My girlfriend broke with me yesterday because we didn’t meet each other a lot. Maybe 1-2x per 2 weeks or less. But if we’re together, our bond is literally insane deep. She shows me always how much she loves me if we were together and very happy or with me. Now, I’m 19; she’s 17 and is still in school which means she has exams and not much time… Also, she has family problems and is very emotional. She started crying yesterday when letting me know it’s too much for her and she can’t do it anymore and it doesn’t work. I’ve let her know that we can make it work with communication and energy. Because I know how great our bond is. She said no. I said “okay, if you think you’ll be better without me, I do respect your choice and I’ll leave you alone.” Now I started 30days no contact :)
She's saying a relationship is in the least of her priorities for now due to her life circumstances. In this case, you really can't force her and doing that will only alienate her further so I suggest to respect her decision so she can at least have time to rethink things and perhaps miss you, yeah?
Sir same gender had long distance online relationship for 8 years she broke up because of family and religion was also different now she doesn't even want to see me what should I do it's been 1 year since breakup had 1 message few days ago see hi block I have been blocked from everywhere for 1 year, what should I do?
Take it easy and try to rebuild the friendship. Also try to be realistic about the situation. If it's family and religion that tore you two apart, has that really changed? If it hasn't then you may have to consider moving on from this rather than get your heart broken twice.
@@BradBrowning sir I'm looser sir mai har gayi bahut pyr kiya tha usey sucha pyar abhi tak karte hai but wo mujhe har social media se phone se block ki hai mere paas koi rasta nahi ab sab khatam kar diya usne wo itna door rahta hai ke mai nahi ja sakti us tak
My ex and I broke up 3 months ago but carried on talking a lot, often started by her telling me she missed me , then a week ago she shut all contact down blocked me everywhere, I thought we were getting back on track. I am doing no contact but it’s so difficult, I don’t think she will come back but I’m hoping
It's never a good idea to not be giving each other space first for at least 3 weeks and go straight into talking. This vid should hopefully help you see things clearly about the importance of the "no contact" rule as well as the common challenges and how to overcome them: ruclips.net/video/WVB0_l60SpM/видео.html Feel free to check out my other vids as well, especially this which should give you an idea on how to go about this: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html But for a comprehensive, step-by-step procedure though, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
I really hurt a girl and regret it. She broke up with me and I couldn’t control my emotions and didn’t do no contact period and she blocked me on everything, even phone. I basically did the opposite of your “don’t look desperate” video. Any advice? Thanks Brad
What did you do? I suggest you heed my advice from this vid, first and foremost: ruclips.net/video/jikW4YYC9yo/видео.html and from my other vid here: ruclips.net/video/PN-07kAtIjw/видео.html but also make sure you aren't being defensive or deflecting the blame because that's as annoying as ever. It may help to apply the tips here first: ruclips.net/video/qnE192fUKxI/видео.html
Hello guys and Brad my Ex Gf unblocked me from IG after she breadcrumbed me a month ago then now she’s trying to make me jealous with a new guy, but the funny is he looks like a discount version of me literally, anyway should i keep silent and what does it mean ? She moved on or what
Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: y2u.be/ZyJRphwDca4 and this should help guide you on what to do for the time being: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM AND ruclips.net/video/WVFZVqFDFV4/видео.html now when the time comes where your ex is free or is constantly contacting you, check out my other videos here in RUclips to help you with a lot of texting tips as well as when to give up trying. Good luck!
Hello Brad! Me and my girlfriend have been together for 6 months together. I'll try my best to picture it to you as how it turned out. Me and her were very close like thumb and nail. She out of nowhere started weird questions like "we're committing too much adultery and I hope you aren't in love with me that deep". Then I moved on not contacting her at all. After a week she came to my work to see me and we recovered everything. After sometime. We're gonna see each other that evening. I called her that I'd be there in an hour but she pretended to be "I'm not gonna go out for few days". I with some anger said to her to have good rest and I pressed the button. She messaged me saying " why did you decline, why aren't you responding, I knew it was all fake and your love wasn't real" and I replied " the way you acted made it all clear that you don't want me" That was all and no contact so far for a week. I used to ask her if she's ready to tie the knots with me, she was quite hesitant and it kinda made me confused. Her parents forcing her to get married in Autumn, coupled with the fact she's gonna enter university, are maybe the reasons for her uncertainty. But I told her repeatedly that I'll get your all of these problems handled and we'll go abroad together "me to do masters and her to do bachelors". See, it's all complicated and I miss her. I want her to be my side forever. What would your advice be on this complication of my love?
Adultery? Why? Are you both not single? Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I am an Anxious and my partner is Avoidant but what confuses me is that she got really triggered about some things and i started working on my self a month ago and she even acknowledged how immerse the change and how fast. She never broke up with me but she was distant and currently we live in different counties. The last conversation we had she went on full panic mode as soon she mention breaking up and i had to calm her down by making her do some breathing work. I suggested since she never really took some time for her self and clearly she don't wont to lose me by the way she acting to do some no contact since i was every other day trying to reach out. I though it would be good for her to relax and get some space and for her to finally be able to feel her feelings without fear. When i mentioned that she start panicking again what if but i want to know how you doing and how's your new job going etc. I took that again as a positive since all i read and heard is that if avoidant wants to break up they just do. I never saw any video mentioning something similar to my situation. Do you think no contact will be good in my case?
@@BradBrowning Is her birthday in 2 day i have to call her and wish her happy birthday. Also seems to me that she is a Fearfull avoidant. Do i need to do anything different in that case since she is Fearfull and not Dismissive?
@@BradBrowning She never broke up with me, she's pressured she withdraw but never broke up with me. She's to scare of losing me but what she shows which that gives me so much joy! She's not an ex why should we do 30 days no contact since we are still together?
Thanks so much for your help.I currently made myself look desperate to the point where she blocked me because of the amount of times i was texting her. Her blocking me actually helped me find myself and find ways to be happy without her. When she unblocks me she will see the me that she got when we first started dating
Hi coach i am in no contact for 13days and yes it's hard but im used to it, when im in 2days of no contact he chat me and asking how are you but i ignored him.. Then today i post a story he saw that and he chat me saying pretty but still ignored.. Its that okay? Thank you
That's what I call the "check-in" text and believe it or not, your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message and when and/or how to reply, including what not to text, (so watch to the end of the vid) here: ruclips.net/video/tev2-lrJq7o/видео.html Good luck!
I dont agree with the social media approach. It always looked inauthentic. Also, there’s no such thing as a time period for no contact. No contact should be done for as long as it requires. They will find a way to contact you. You don’t answer breadcrumbs, only substantial messages. You definitely do not answer right away
13 year relationship she went on holiday come back told me she was going out with her sister i was looking after her elderly mother and she become sick i had to phone her couldn't get through phoned the sister she was at home!!! she told me she made new friend's and thinks its expectable to meet strange men and become friends and i should except it, i moved all my things in storage the next day, I've been doing no contact and I'm finding i am happier by myself, when i was in the relationship i guess i excepted some things, she is ringing my phone down and texing saying we need to talk, I feel so much happier with out her and i feel now she had zero respect for me, i don't wish to be friends after the way she treated me, i am moving in to a new flat next week I'm getting on and doing me again!! i don't know who she is anymore but its certainly not the kind of person i would be with so i will hold my head high stick to my principles understand my worth and move on!!! Thank you for you vids they are fantastic
Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. It's your life and it's your decision.
Me and my boyfriend broke up 6 week ago ! I miss him so bad but I tried to not reach out him ! So how long I should go for no contact ? I still see him when I go get my hair done ? Should I change my place ? Or just keep going so what I have to do ?
The no contact rule, on average, lasts up to 4-6 weeks. So you can reach out to your ex after the 30-day "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: ruclips.net/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/видео.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: ruclips.net/video/t6I5k55pnCE/видео.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
Hello brad. My ex blocked and unblocked a few times during 60+ days of no contact. I did simply nothing. Only observed their actions. He didn't reach out in last 60+ days. Before the no contact started he greeted me on a festival. I greeted back after 17 hours. That's it. He didn't say anything after that. What do you think !? Should I reach out or wait for him to reach out again ?
You ought to watch/review the tips here first, especially the first part, although I recommend you to watch the entire video to get the full gist: ruclips.net/video/BLTA4yjTc2I/видео.html and a quick overview here: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html Once you've completed the "no contact" rule for at least 30 days straight, then it's time to RE-ESTABLISH CONTACT with your ex. Start out with the tips from here: ruclips.net/video/XonMtLFo000/видео.html Also check out my other videos on my channel for more tips on what to do next and/or get my Ex Factor Guide for a comprehensive step-by-step process on how to go about this. Good luck!
Hi Brad, I'm a new sub and appreciate your work 🙏 My ex broke up with me after a 10 year relationship. The breakup was bad after I got triggered and responded poorly to it, hurling insults at her. She's blocked me everywhere. It's been nearly 60 days NC, and I still haven't heard anything. Do you think I should think about reaching out?
Yes, once you've completed the "no contact" rule for at least 30 days straight, then it's time to RE-ESTABLISH CONTACT with your ex. Start out with the tips from here: ruclips.net/video/XonMtLFo000/видео.html Also check out my other videos on my channel for more tips on what to do next and/or get my Ex Factor Guide for a comprehensive step-by-step process on how to go about this. Good luck!
@BradBrowning Thank you for the reply Coach 🙏 Unfortunately I'm still blocked and it's coming up to 2 months NC. I scored 69 out of 100 so chances aren't great...I don't know what to do; thinking about calling from another number or getting a family member to reach out to her
Do limited contact instead and keep any conversation you have strictly work-related, especially the first 30 days after the breakup. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: ruclips.net/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/видео.html
My gf of 10 years broke up with me 5 weeks ago and has been dating someone for the past month. I have consistently gone 2-3 days w/o contact until she reaches out under the guise of work-related issues. She eventually turns the discussion to her own work problems and then shoehorns in mentions of her bf and holding hands, cuddling, etc. What does this mean? What should I do?
Could be an attempt to make you jealous. Did you cheat on her or something? However, it's time to take a look at the bigger picture here. It doesn't really matter what your ex is doing. Chances are your ex is rebounding anyway but the point is you shouldn't be focused on that right now. That's all out of your control. Focus on yourself instead and show (NOT tell) your ex you accept her decision to break up. If you do, you'll accept that you're both single and therefore you'd stop overanalyzing every little stuff. All right? Here are the basics to getting an ex back: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and you can see that the 30-day "no contact" rule is an absolute must. I also suggest that you read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total and the "no contact" rule is only the first), including what to say, do or not do, etc. Good timing is essential! Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy
Depending on what really cut the relationship short, it may be time to consider moving on from this. But don't rush. Always take the time to give each other space first, all right? Do a minimum of 3 weeks of "no contact" and see if you still want your ex and if your ex is receptive to contact AFTER that period. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html
Sorry man, but you may very well be right. lol Consider the facts I mentioned here, too: y2u.be/4f9l6wou0tw however, please don't hesitate to reach out to me if you get progress with your ex in the future. Best of luck!
@BradBrowning I reached out and one of your team responded. I bought your program and got to the last video which you've shared above. I can only take solace in the fact I was called and told to stop messaging her. I wasn't arrested and charged with stalking and harrasment. That's what the UK police do now when you chase after an ex. They'll take your device off you, stick you on bail and keep you waiting for months while the CPS see if they've a case against you. Your program as been insightful mind. I've not shut off hope that me and her might talk in time. End of the day I know she loves me and she cried down the phone the other week to me. As she said love just doesn't fade away.
Hi Brad, my ex boyfriend and I broke up 4 days ago and I just started no contact yesterday, we were together for 1.5 years. I went to his house on day 3 to talk because he did not really have a reason why he wanted to break up. He admitted it was because he lost feelings. We had been having problems finding time to spend time together because of work schedules and when we did see each other it was never the two of us. I feel that this had a huge part in him losing his feelings. What should I do?
You two can try to compromise on when to spend some quality time together. For example, balance out your day so you two spend the day together with friends and just spend the night with just you two or vice versa. For now though it's best to give yourselves that much needed space.
Hey Brad, what if a guy you aren’t in a relationship with just talking to says he wants space? I told him yea maybe you’re right we should give each other space, then he says “nothing crazy, just some breathing room” should I and could I do the no contact for 30 days too and does that response sound like he still want to speak to me just give him room? I could only think he want space because I text him a lot and want to hang out a lot and I guess it could make him feel like he is being smothered
Hey Brad, i really need your honest opinion about my current situation. I met this girl at my work place, we hooked up after just few days and really fell in love with each other. We both met each other parents, we were going to work together, and everything was going really good. Unfortunately, after a few months she didn't get a permanent job, so she was fired. Since then she wanted to go to another city so she can start a new career. I didn't want that, but she did anyways. She applied and got a new monthly contract so we decided to try a long distance relationship, and we did. But it was so hard to go through all of that, she didn't want to come back, in fact she said she would never want to come back, and i didn't want to go there either, even tho we both cry when we met and said we both missed each other. Now she got a new extended contract and in general i said to her to make a choice, her new job or me, a she got really mad and said that i was selfish etc. Now we dont speak for two days, and i really need your honest opinion what to do, i am not really sure if we broke up or not. I still have feelings for her, and i am sure she has to.
Life circumstances are keeping you two apart and it takes a decent amount of compromise to overcome that. In this case though, it's a mismatch of where you want this relationship to go and with distance being involved it can be really hard. It may be time to let go of this completely, at least for the time being.
Hey just a quick question...will no contact work after 1+ year after the breakup? We broke up a year ago but recently stopped talking. I was just curious if it's worth trying it so late. Thanks
Hi brad Its been 10 days since we broke up. Its been 3 days i didn't text him. He didn't block me in WhatsApp. We've been dating for 8 months. The reason we broke up is he get bored or lose feelings for me. Maybe i am giving negative energy. He said he doesn't feel any about me. I need him. I can't stop crying. I literally begged him for like 7 days and still he doesn't want to be in a relationship. I want to text him so bad😢. What should I do?? Please 🥺🙏 reply.
I texted him. He don't wanna be in relationship. I begged him so hard. Now he is ready to be my just friend. Now please 😢 tell me how can i make him fall in love with me? 🙏
The LAST thing you'd want to to is pursue him. This vid should hopefully help you see things clearly about the importance of the "no contact" rule as well as the common challenges and how to overcome them: ruclips.net/video/WVB0_l60SpM/видео.html Feel free to check out my other vids as well, especially this which should give you an idea on how to go about this: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html But for a comprehensive, step-by-step procedure though, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
What if it's been 6 months now of no contact in he looks happy in social media and maybe he has a rebound.. Should i ocntinue no contact.. It was a 5yrs relationship, its not easy for me
Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Do you think you're ready to give it a try? Watch this first to help set your expectations: y2u.be/82uUJ7kPXhE and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/видео.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working ONCE things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and the golden rules here: y2u.be/1kJ1ybuFIHE
Hello Brad! I have a bit of a situation i could use some help with. A week ago on a Sunday I matched with this girl and went out on a date. It was great. She said a lot of nice things about me that night when I got back home. We texted all day every day during that next week. We met up for lunch on Wednesday. We went on a date on Friday it was super fun too and she said more super nice things about me. About how she felt lucky we matched, how nice she thinks I am, how funny I am, etc. That night she breaks her wrist (falls down ice skating) and I do all the right things. I take her to the hospital, wait for her to be fixed up and then take her to her home. the day after, on Saturday, I check up on her at about 2pm but nothing. I get a text from her at 11pm saying sorry she didn't answer before, she didn't mean to hurt me, it's just that she has a lot to think about and she is worried about University (she is doing a master degree on odontology and needs to see patients as part of her classes, but cant do that now with a cast on) and still getting used to the fact that things are going to be different. She says multiple times thank you for understanding me and thank you for giving me time and space. And she says "I just need you to be patient and give me time and everything will be okay". That's the last time we talked. It is now Tuesday morning and I am dying to check up on her but afraid to ruin it if I do. On the other hand in also worried im ruining it by not showing enough care. Any suggestions?
Don't check up on her. Focus on yourself instead and stop forcing things. Try to have self discipline and remember, love should never be forced. Otherwise it becomes an obsession, so be very careful of going that route. If your ex dumped you and showed you he/she doesn't want to be in your life at the moment, you ought to respect that, okay? For most dumpees that is the case. It doesn't mean that will be the case forever but at the moment, it surely is, so respect your ex's need for space and have some self discipline. Focus on yourself instead. Okay? This vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/WVB0_l60SpM/видео.html
It's never too late to turn things around and change that view, now that you have that awareness. After all, if you don't love and value yourself, how can you expect others to do that for you?
I miss my ex very much even tho we had a very terrible break up and were in no contact for months on the 5th month we reconnected and he said that he missed me and that he thinks about me a lot but did not ask to get back together. He lives in Minnesota I live in Texas after reconnecting we spoke every day for a month and now we are in no contact again. The month we were in contact he reached out to me, but the way it started and the way it ended was completely different. In my situation my ex is someone who does not know how he feels about me, and he was bread crumbing me enough to stay hooked until I deiced to go no contact. I very much miss my ex and I have no idea what to do because even tho I love him , I can not let my self get string along like that.
There's tons and often legitimate reasons why someone isn't ready for a commitment yet. Sometimes it's something that you can overcome with time, other times it isn't. But yes, it's mainly up to you and if you feel like there's no progress especially after months, it's usually best to cut off contact and move on from this.
I have a question brad 10 days ago i misbehaved, hurted and mistreated too badly with my girl and she broke up with me after that day. After that day i realized my mkstake and told sorry bt nth worked oit at all but whatever i postshe see every single post of mine and she post about sth which really trigger me a lot and one last thing she doesnt reply my text anymore so will it be wise if i do no contact rule?
What did you do? I suggest you heed my advice from this vid, first and foremost: ruclips.net/video/jikW4YYC9yo/видео.html and from my other vid here: ruclips.net/video/PN-07kAtIjw/видео.html but also make sure you aren't being defensive or deflecting the blame because that's as annoying as ever. It may help to apply the tips here first: ruclips.net/video/qnE192fUKxI/видео.html
We are in the same university and have the same job, and we broke up in "kind of good terms" (he broke up with me because we got so toxic for over a year [we stayed together 2.5 uears]), what should I do when we run into each other ? Does a hi (like this 👋 from far) then pursuing my road breaks the no contact or is it fine it it's nothing more than that ??
My ex has blocked me on fb and said she doesn't want a relationship with me anymore after i begged for her back, but she still follows me on Instagram and views my stories. She's already told me a old school friend has invited her for a drink and she's going to it. What should I do?
I don't see this as a cause for concern really, unless you've done something really epic to mess things up or really hurt your ex, there's no reason to worry as much, really, because it could be due to the top 3 reasons I've stated on this vid: y2u.be/fjtv90o9bkI Blocking you could just be your ex’s way of coping so I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you, at least not initially. So give it time. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication or have no mutual friends. More about that on here: ruclips.net/video/5UT92IB5ugs/видео.html Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : ruclips.net/video/D1GpR5MApQk/видео.html Good luck!
I'm on my 2nd week of no contact and have just found out my son of 11 has been messaging my ex because he misses playing with her son of 2 asking if he can see him. What do I do?
Me and my boyfriend just broke up and he was so certain that he doesn’t want to persue our relationship. I tried to convince him and then he told me to give him 2 days to feel what its like without having me around.. because the reason of our break up is that i was too understanding dan too kind, and because he has so much internal issue, he feel bad dan feel pressured because he cant do anything for me, and whenever he pushed me away when he dealt with problem, im still so understanding and it drives him crazy😢 and im sure he’s gonna be fine in these 2 days, because he was so sure of our break up. Now 2 days is coming to an end and i dont know if he’s gonna contact me or no.. if yes, and he decided to continue our relationship should I immediately say yes or no? Or if he doesn’t contact me, should i just continue my life and use this no contact strategy? Like im so confuse when to start this no contact strategy:’
What are/were the issues in the first place? It's important for your conflict styles to somehow match so a problem won't get blown out of proportion. Discuss the relationship when you're both ready to talk and you've both calmed down. Otherwise yes, continue living your life but take time to heal first.
Brad please reply me, i started the no contact and in day 4 of the no contact,she reached out to me on Facebook asking she hope am doing well but i didn't respond. A day ago my mom hard about our break and ask her, she told my mom that it's over between us. Brad do i still have a chance of getting back with her? I love her so much. And for her telling my mom is over between us will she by any chance come back faithfully from her heart?? Please i need your answer please.
Her telling her mom may just be for formality. Try not to overanalyze stuff. As to her reaching out to you, that's what I call the "check-in" text and believe it or not, your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message and when and/or how to reply, including what not to text, (so watch to the end of the vid) here: ruclips.net/video/tev2-lrJq7o/видео.html
First of all I am sorry for this long comment. My ex and I broke up 2months ago. I've already tried "No Contact" method. After trying this method, he reached out to me and said he wants to be friends and chats regularly. So I asked him whether he has an idea of reconciling in future. I also said if he has that idea, we can talk regularly. If not, chatting daily as friends can't help us to forget each other. Then, he chose not to talk which means he has no idea about reconciling but he texts me sometimes to check if I am ok or not. He also said "Let's talk again when we have things to say. I WILL TALK TO YOU ABOUT EVERYTHING WHEN WE CAN MEET IRL YEARS LATER(Idk what it really means)". Our rs lasted 3 years and 6 months but the thing is we were LDRS and never had a chance to date. He is moving to another country in September so there will be no chance to meet with him until I can move abroad. We both willing to meet each other and also promised to meet 2 or 3 years later. The problem is he said he doesn't love me anymore and he wants to find someone who he truly loves but I feel like he still loves me(maybe I am just giving myself false hope). Now I really miss him but I don't want to chat with him. I am afraid if he says things like "I don't love u", "I don't need u", "I will not come back to u", "Don't wait for me, I won't come back", and "Don't reject someone who truly love u just because of me". I am worried if he finds someone new and forgets about me and what if we don't get back together. These thoughts are always on my mind and I can't even focus on things I need to do. What should I do? Is it possible to reconcile with somebody who says he doesn't love me and wants to find another partner?
It means he prefers real world interactions versus virtual stuff... which a lot of people prefer to do. Sorry to hear that. The distance will always be a major culprit. Is this long distance scenario temporary? Because if it isn't, then may be as good as over. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: ruclips.net/video/GQY4N04uvtA/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/видео.html However, if you believe your situation is unique and there may still be a chance between you two, then let's take a look at your situation in-depth via my one-on-one coaching session at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I unfriend my ex on Instagram 1 month after she dumped me. .. now 6 months passed with 3 months no contact. I noticed that she is changing her profile picture every week.. sometimes two times a day. Crazy
It's best not to overanalyze. Once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ruclips.net/video/XonMtLFo000/видео.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: ruclips.net/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/видео.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html Good luck!
Should i use the NC when she have someone else..... I never knew about the other guy because when we broke up we kept contact and i even try getting back toegther by building a new fresh connection and even meet up sometimes for coffee and then suddenly i learn about her boyfriend and i begged and pleaded but she just wont listen or reason out. We still kept contact and she even kissed me the other week but then felt guilty and want to distanct herself from me and this sunday we even went to church together and had a casual good time with her but on the evening i told her that the reality is she have moved on and that i respect her so i decided to try the no Contact and im scared and afraid i lost her... We really had a good times all those 9 years 11 months together.....please help
Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: y2u.be/ZyJRphwDca4 and this should help guide you on what to do for the time being: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM AND ruclips.net/video/WVFZVqFDFV4/видео.html now when the time comes where your ex is free or is constantly contacting you, check out my other videos here in RUclips to help you with a lot of texting tips as well as when to give up trying. Good luck!
I donno why im still here we've been breakup for about 3 months now, im suffered for about 2 months and now im dating another girl for about 3 weaks now and i think im moved on but tonight she slide in my dm and said i saw you in my dream and i do too on that night what should i do now🤣🤣🤣
Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Do you think you're ready to give it a try? Watch this first to help set your expectations: y2u.be/82uUJ7kPXhE and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/видео.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working ONCE things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and the golden rules here: y2u.be/1kJ1ybuFIHE
My ex broke up with me last week, after being together for only 5 months. He says he loves me but as a friend and isn’t ready to commit to anyone atm. That the emotional connection we have means more to him than anything, so he wants to stay best friends, and has still called up and shown up for me daily. Will this work for me? I want him to commit to me in the way I want, but if he says he loves me as a friend, is there even any point? Whenever I pull away, he comes in full force, but then when I show affection back, he pulls away! I have been looking at your no contact… can this work for me?
When a breakup happens, most of the time this means he has lost attraction for you, hence, it's a bad move to be friends with him. You need to cut off contact for at least 30 days first. Silence is key and here's why: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html If you continue being friends right away, the boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates a rebound in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch this video so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, at ruclips.net/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/yd6pvNVeHjI/видео.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with free bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
@@BradBrowning thanks so much for taking the time to reply! I know you have a million people who message! Its a hard situation because we lost a baby, it was unplanned and he stood by me through it, then in the space of three days, decided to friend zone. I guess that is why it has been hard because so many emotions, and I have not wanted to cut him completely as I felt he is going through a hard time as well. When its this complicated I just need to find out the one text to say, Im setting a boundary, I cant just be your friend, before I move into no contact?
@@BradBrowning and I bought the ex factor guide! Thankyou! Im consuming it! I really wanted the one on one coaching but unfortunately I just don’t have the money atm. What would the best text to send be after staying friends for a week after an event like this be so I don’t look cold but also setting my boundaries. I can’t find anything in the ex factor for this type of situation
Hej Brad. Thanks for the advice... i kind of feel like my ex have been using me, maybe she wanted to come back but y showed to much affection. She broke up and i tried to make contact, she blocked me.. i didnt reach out to her for a week then suddelny she text me about how do i fell and so.. we meet and she said thats "is over".. again... some day passes and then again she reaches out and we meet, this time we hug eachtoher and spend time toghether at the beach. But then she comes again with " this si over"... then one day i reach out to her because i nedded to talk and i explain the pain and so on... she was very nice and suddenly we kissed and had sex... after the sex she was sad and telling me that we should forget this... but she still continue kissing me.. and it was she didnt want to leave. Before she leaved she said " can this be our breakup for real". Also she said she need time to her self, she dont want to give me hope but she need like 4 weeks alone and then she contact me... WHAT does this all have of meaning? Im so confused..its feels more like she make the no contact rule, even tho she was the one who breaked up.
It means she needs space so let her come to you and try no to force things. Try to have self discipline and remember, love should never be forced. Otherwise it becomes an obsession, so be very careful of going that route. If your ex dumped you and showed you she doesn't want to be in your life at the moment, you ought to respect that, okay? For most dumpees that is the case. It doesn't mean that will be the case forever but at the moment, it surely is, so respect your ex's need for space and have some self discipline. Focus on yourself instead. Okay? This vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/WVB0_l60SpM/видео.html
Hey Brad!! Hope you're doing good...... I had a relationship of 2.5 years with my girlfriend...... We are childhoof friends......but exactly one month ago she decided that she doesn't esnt wanna be with me....though its not something new she has done it before as well but again I have always convinced her to stay but this time she is serious..... I kept on hanging for one month but today I just wanna go no contact..... Is my decision correct?
Yes, your best bet is still to cut off contact completely for at least 30 days. Here's a little reminder, too: ruclips.net/video/gSKVGwmD73U/видео.html
my ex broke up with me because i distanced myself after he disrespected me i didn't reach out to him and we didn't talk for two weeks for the first week he was out with his friends on trip anyways we ended breaking up because he said he realized so many things like how i can live without him and hes facing everything alone and im not there for him anyways , i tried convincing him it was nothing like that but at the end i ended up agreeing with the breakup he left the country to start his uni and it's aching my heart hes probably moving on and so am i, atleast trying to im doing the no contact but idk if its worth it anymore cause i feel like itll just prove him i really didn't care about him and its easy to leave him and he'll have this reason in mind to move on. will the no contact be worth it?
Was it a disrespect or just a miscommunication? How did you communicate about being disrespected? Since your situation may be unique, I think you can benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Only your ex would know that. Do you think you're ready to give it a try though? Watch this first to help set your expectations: y2u.be/82uUJ7kPXhE and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/видео.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working ONCE things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and the golden rules here: y2u.be/1kJ1ybuFIHE
I’ve tried everything and from a break it went to a break up. I will try no contact, its the last thing I haven’t tried and I will be more confident next time I see her if I do see her at all. Do you think its too late and it doesn’t matter?
I'd still suggest to give the "no contact" rule a shot because that's still really your best bet, which will work in a sense where you BOTH will get to clear your mind to be in a better position to deal with each other when the time comes - instead of letting emotions overrule everything, risking things to get blown out of proportion even further. Makes sense? But will no contact ALONE work to get your ex back? Sometimes it does, but other times (especially if your situation is unique) it won't, because the no contact phase is only part one of the three-step process I teach in my Ex Factor Guide. Learn the basics here: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html There's also a risk of you being strung along if you don't cut off contact and give each other that much needed space and while it's beneficial for your ex, it's really detrimental to the dumpee in the end, so be careful. I also made a quick vid to those who are seemingly lost and could use a reminder on what to do: ruclips.net/video/obBIttQSak4/видео.html
Hey Brad, my gf broke up with me and after that I reacted with too much emotion which made her avoid me strongly, eve though this was 3 weeks ago she seems to be completely moved on and in a serious dating with someone.
Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: y2u.be/ZyJRphwDca4 and this should help guide you on what to do for the time being: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM AND ruclips.net/video/WVFZVqFDFV4/видео.html now when the time comes where your ex is free or is constantly contacting you, check out my other videos here in RUclips to help you with a lot of texting tips as well as when to give up trying. Good luck!
Hey Brad! My contact has been going on for 2 months and my ex is not even giving me a single message so she must be missing me? or I message her or not ?and what I can message her? She is not interested in me right now she don't want to talk to me so what can I do?
Discussed about an ex's tendency to do that here: ruclips.net/video/CP8FQlvDuVU/видео.html But what sort of messages have you been sending your ex? It's a different story if you've been trying for so long with all the right moves and still stuck in the friendzone. However, if the breakup is recent, it means you need to do the 30-day "no contact" rule first. Focus on the second and third phases instead. It helps to learn the basics here: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and/or better yet, read my guide to guide you every step of the way, at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
That's good! Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. It's your life and it's your decision.
Hi brad my ex is playing mind games with me one minute she saying good things.then next they talking different..her current person she's dating mad we still keep in touch..
Her dating someone else is a huge red flag you best not ignore. Cut off communication and stay off unless she changes her mind. Or if your situation requires for it. Here are the exceptions in general: ruclips.net/video/zKhNHhEmYMg/видео.html
Hello Brad my partner and I broke up after 7 years yesterday, and I found myself on your page. He texted and ask how I’m doing , and that he’s worried about me but I’m trying the no contact it’s only day 1 I haven’t responded as yet what should I do ?
That's what I call the "check-in" text and believe it or not, your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message and when and/or how to reply, including what not to text, (so watch to the end of the vid) here: ruclips.net/video/tev2-lrJq7o/видео.html
Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: y2u.be/ZyJRphwDca4 and this should help guide you on what to do for the time being: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM AND ruclips.net/video/WVFZVqFDFV4/видео.html now when the time comes where your ex is free or is constantly contacting you, check out my other videos here in RUclips to help you with a lot of texting tips as well as when to give up trying. Good luck!
Take it easy and play it cool. How do you feel about all this? Do you think you're ready to give it a try? Watch this first to help set your expectations: y2u.be/82uUJ7kPXhE and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/видео.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working ONCE things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and the golden rules here: y2u.be/1kJ1ybuFIHE And lastly, depending on how you handled things all throughout the process, you may have to wait longer, which I’ve discussed here: y2u.be/OzVymYnQFTk
Hey brad, do you need to just drop off the face of the earth for no contact to work? My ex and I are having breakfast together this weekend and I’d like to talk to her about taking a month of no contact before jumping in, especially because our lives have become very intertwined over the past 2 years so we need to work some things out before I can go no contact.
Yes, no contact means cutting off unnecessary communication with your ex in any way, shape or form for at least 30 days. It also means ignoring unimportant or random messages from your ex for at least 30 days straight. This also involves NOT looking at any of your ex's online profiles so you won't overthink things. In other words, the "no contact" period is a time where you fully focus on yourself and take time to heal.
No pain, no gain, man. Try to get over that fear. What have you got to lose anyway? :-) If she rejects you, you can easily move on to someone else but at least you've tried!
Sorry to hear that. Not all relationships are meant to be salvaged or should even be salvaged in the first place. It may be best to move on, which I know, is a tricky process and the emotions come in waves. This video is for you: ruclips.net/video/01wvLSaS9_I/видео.html And if you're still having a hard time, this should help you understand why in order to understand what you're going through: ruclips.net/video/2CakOOSwIiY/видео.html or get my latest e-book Beat the Breakup guide as that will help you and your mindset to evolve from the breakup and therefore become the best version of yourself. Check it out at www.beatmybreakup.com
Unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: ruclips.net/video/ek_4wpkV66c/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/видео.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you during the no contact stage, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: ruclips.net/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/видео.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses their power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: ruclips.net/video/bgOG9s1fac8/видео.html
You know what they say: nothing ventured, nothing gained. Do you think you're ready to give it a try? Watch this first to help set your expectations: y2u.be/82uUJ7kPXhE and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/видео.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working ONCE things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and the golden rules here: y2u.be/1kJ1ybuFIHE
The last point is very rightly said. My cousin committed suicide when he was 17-18 yrs, by consuming poison after a girl, who was a flirt. No justice for that case in his parents favour due to lack of evidence. In some cases, after the loss of loved ones, people leave worldly life and start staying in some religious homes. Some get into the shocking state, mental balance destroyed. They even ruin their own career and start damaging their life by getting involved in drugs, heavy alcohol, even going to brothels and catching diseases from there. High level of frustrations and depression or mentally disturbed behaviour can be seen, that is they become violent, throw and break things in the house. In worst cases, they even try to hit their own family members with tools or weapons, if we try to explain or calm them down. Best is save the lives, move on or just simply send them to some care/ rehabilitation centre in extreme cases. No other choice. Nice video. Come soon next time. 👍👍👍👍
Unfortunately that kind of incident never gets justice since your cousin's freewill is very much taken into consideration as well. Thanks for sharing your story!
Hey brad please read I’m in urgent need, I had a relationship with this girl for 6 years and she was my first love and first gf dated 6 years in long distance in which I met her 2-3 times a month or sometimes 6-7 times a month but 11months go she shifted to usa and I’m in india and everything was fine and were ready to marry in 3years of time but 2months ago something happened and she said she don’t love me and all and broke up with me (we had a fight too as she was confused after 6 years and I was being suspicious and she did something because of which I got furious) I broke up with her initially she begged but after 3days she went no contact I reached out to her and begged after just 4 days we talked to each other couldn’t sort things out and she left , again I reached out after 7 days and we talked but again nothing was sorted , then last time I waited 14 days and contacted again as it was our anniversary date we talked for a week and did calls she said she loved me she missed me but after a week she again said she’s confused so I gave her the time and after 3 days I reached out again (ik I was being impatient :( ) we again started texting for a week and she ignored me and ghosted me … it’s been 17 days I’m in no contact … what should I do ? I’m losing hope .. please help me brad please reply .(and I agreed and corrected everything which she said were the things bothering her )
You two may have dragged out this long distance scenario. Also getting engaged and planning to marry after 3 years may be a bit far fetched, granted how too many things can happen in these 3 years. By contrast, couples who get engaged usually marry in less than 2 years. I suggest to give yourselves a break as chances are she's losing interest. With mixed signals, that kind of behaviour coming from your ex is somewhat expected after a fresh/recent breakup. That's why you ought to give it enough time where there's totally no contact between you and your ex for at least 30 days. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed or weird signals. Watch this: y2u.be/siApAVtx8zE This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
@@BradBrowning mr brad I got blocked on day 20th (couldn’t see her display picture on WhatsApp I didn’t text her) still maintaining no contact , why did she block me ? :( I’m scared now
I Got My Ex Back!! Thank U Brad Browning ❤❤❤
You're welcome! Congrats! :-)
Hey @@BradBrowning.. I followed no contact for 2 weeks almost and in between he first disabled his ig for 2 days.. And then he put story and when i didn't see he unfollowed me and removed himself from follower too.. Why? Is he moving on?
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Sadly I have accepted it now. She will never come back to me. Don’t loose the right woman like me folks, never break her trust. Trust is the only thing any woman would want. I will try my best to move on now. I know no-one will be able to fill her void but it is what it is I guess.
Iam there too but my ex still loves me and still wants to talk but not get back together yet as she says she is not ready
I understand what you're going through. You know moving on is a tricky process and the emotions come in waves. This video is for you: ruclips.net/video/01wvLSaS9_I/видео.html And if you're still having a hard time, this should help you understand why in order to understand what you're going through: ruclips.net/video/2CakOOSwIiY/видео.html or get my latest e-book Beat the Breakup guide as that will help you and your mindset to evolve from the breakup and therefore become the best version of yourself. Check it out at www.beatmybreakup.com
Stop simping bruv, onward and upward.
It’s been 3 weeks since this comment and I know exactly how you feel. I hope you’re healing ❤️🩹
Good things are about to come to you don’t worry! I’m sure one day she will reach out but keep working on yourself so the day she comes back you could probably mend things with her ❤️
@@ChuckyWhisky I hope so as she has blocked me as I’ve been an asshole and regret everything and more I wish I can’t change everything for the better
Hi Brad! My girlfriend broke with me yesterday because we didn’t meet each other a lot. Maybe 1-2x per 2 weeks or less. But if we’re together, our bond is literally insane deep. She shows me always how much she loves me if we were together and very happy or with me. Now, I’m 19; she’s 17 and is still in school which means she has exams and not much time…
Also, she has family problems and is very emotional. She started crying yesterday when letting me know it’s too much for her and she can’t do it anymore and it doesn’t work.
I’ve let her know that we can make it work with communication and energy. Because I know how great our bond is.
She said no. I said “okay, if you think you’ll be better without me, I do respect your choice and I’ll leave you alone.”
Now I started 30days no contact :)
She's saying a relationship is in the least of her priorities for now due to her life circumstances. In this case, you really can't force her and doing that will only alienate her further so I suggest to respect her decision so she can at least have time to rethink things and perhaps miss you, yeah?
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Thank you for the support!
Sir same gender had long distance online relationship for 8 years she broke up because of family and religion was also different now she doesn't even want to see me what should I do it's been 1 year since breakup had 1 message few days ago see hi block I have been blocked from everywhere for 1 year, what should I do?
Take it easy and try to rebuild the friendship. Also try to be realistic about the situation. If it's family and religion that tore you two apart, has that really changed? If it hasn't then you may have to consider moving on from this rather than get your heart broken twice.
@@BradBrowning sir I'm looser sir mai har gayi bahut pyr kiya tha usey sucha pyar abhi tak karte hai but wo mujhe har social media se phone se block ki hai mere paas koi rasta nahi ab sab khatam kar diya usne wo itna door rahta hai ke mai nahi ja sakti us tak
My ex and I broke up 3 months ago but carried on talking a lot, often started by her telling me she missed me , then a week ago she shut all contact down blocked me everywhere, I thought we were getting back on track.
I am doing no contact but it’s so difficult, I don’t think she will come back but I’m hoping
It's never a good idea to not be giving each other space first for at least 3 weeks and go straight into talking. This vid should hopefully help you see things clearly about the importance of the "no contact" rule as well as the common challenges and how to overcome them: ruclips.net/video/WVB0_l60SpM/видео.html Feel free to check out my other vids as well, especially this which should give you an idea on how to go about this: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html But for a comprehensive, step-by-step procedure though, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
I really hurt a girl and regret it. She broke up with me and I couldn’t control my emotions and didn’t do no contact period and she blocked me on everything, even phone. I basically did the opposite of your “don’t look desperate” video. Any advice?
Thanks Brad
What did you do? I suggest you heed my advice from this vid, first and foremost: ruclips.net/video/jikW4YYC9yo/видео.html and from my other vid here: ruclips.net/video/PN-07kAtIjw/видео.html but also make sure you aren't being defensive or deflecting the blame because that's as annoying as ever. It may help to apply the tips here first: ruclips.net/video/qnE192fUKxI/видео.html
she doesn't want to see my story soon even though she's online
Hello guys and Brad my Ex Gf unblocked me from IG after she breadcrumbed me a month ago then now she’s trying to make me jealous with a new guy, but the funny is he looks like a discount version of me literally, anyway should i keep silent and what does it mean ? She moved on or what
Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: y2u.be/ZyJRphwDca4 and this should help guide you on what to do for the time being: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM AND ruclips.net/video/WVFZVqFDFV4/видео.html now when the time comes where your ex is free or is constantly contacting you, check out my other videos here in RUclips to help you with a lot of texting tips as well as when to give up trying. Good luck!
Hello Brad!
Me and my girlfriend have been together for 6 months together. I'll try my best to picture it to you as how it turned out. Me and her were very close like thumb and nail. She out of nowhere started weird questions like "we're committing too much adultery and I hope you aren't in love with me that deep". Then I moved on not contacting her at all. After a week she came to my work to see me and we recovered everything. After sometime. We're gonna see each other that evening. I called her that I'd be there in an hour but she pretended to be "I'm not gonna go out for few days". I with some anger said to her to have good rest and I pressed the button. She messaged me saying " why did you decline, why aren't you responding, I knew it was all fake and your love wasn't real" and I replied " the way you acted made it all clear that you don't want me"
That was all and no contact so far for a week.
I used to ask her if she's ready to tie the knots with me, she was quite hesitant and it kinda made me confused. Her parents forcing her to get married in Autumn, coupled with the fact she's gonna enter university, are maybe the reasons for her uncertainty. But I told her repeatedly that I'll get your all of these problems handled and we'll go abroad together "me to do masters and her to do bachelors".
See, it's all complicated and I miss her. I want her to be my side forever.
What would your advice be on this complication of my love?
Adultery? Why? Are you both not single? Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I am an Anxious and my partner is Avoidant but what confuses me is that she got really triggered about some things and i started working on my self a month ago and she even acknowledged how immerse the change and how fast. She never broke up with me but she was distant and currently we live in different counties. The last conversation we had she went on full panic mode as soon she mention breaking up and i had to calm her down by making her do some breathing work. I suggested since she never really took some time for her self and clearly she don't wont to lose me by the way she acting to do some no contact since i was every other day trying to reach out. I though it would be good for her to relax and get some space and for her to finally be able to feel her feelings without fear. When i mentioned that she start panicking again what if but i want to know how you doing and how's your new job going etc. I took that again as a positive since all i read and heard is that if avoidant wants to break up they just do. I never saw any video mentioning something similar to my situation. Do you think no contact will be good in my case?
Cutting off contact for at least 30 days is often the best solution, your case included. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/Xos3Z4h4HNE/видео.html
@@BradBrowning Is her birthday in 2 day i have to call her and wish her happy birthday. Also seems to me that she is a Fearfull avoidant. Do i need to do anything different in that case since she is Fearfull and not Dismissive?
@@BradBrowning She never broke up with me, she's pressured she withdraw but never broke up with me. She's to scare of losing me but what she shows which that gives me so much joy! She's not an ex why should we do 30 days no contact since we are still together?
Thanks so much for your help.I currently made myself look desperate to the point where she blocked me because of the amount of times i was texting her. Her blocking me actually helped me find myself and find ways to be happy without her. When she unblocks me she will see the me that she got when we first started dating
Good. Just make sure you're doing the changes for yourself and not for your ex or anyone else, okay? Good luck!
Hi coach i am in no contact for 13days and yes it's hard but im used to it, when im in 2days of no contact he chat me and asking how are you but i ignored him.. Then today i post a story he saw that and he chat me saying pretty but still ignored.. Its that okay? Thank you
That's what I call the "check-in" text and believe it or not, your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message and when and/or how to reply, including what not to text, (so watch to the end of the vid) here: ruclips.net/video/tev2-lrJq7o/видео.html Good luck!
I guess if my ex blocks me on all social media during no contact, everything is over? isn't it?
I dont agree with the social media approach. It always looked inauthentic. Also, there’s no such thing as a time period for no contact. No contact should be done for as long as it requires. They will find a way to contact you. You don’t answer breadcrumbs, only substantial messages. You definitely do not answer right away
No they can unblock you eventually it’s not over
I got her back, finally, even if all the situation seemed hopeless at beginning. Miraclea are real!!!
@@baesutiberiu8056how?
@@baesutiberiu8056 did you go no contact untill she unblocked you ? Were you true to no contact ?
13 year relationship she went on holiday come back told me she was going out with her sister i was looking after her elderly mother and she become sick i had to phone her couldn't get through phoned the sister she was at home!!! she told me she made new friend's and thinks its expectable to meet strange men and become friends and i should except it, i moved all my things in storage the next day,
I've been doing no contact and I'm finding i am happier by myself, when i was in the relationship i guess i excepted some things, she is ringing my phone down and texing saying we need to talk, I feel so much happier with out her and i feel now she had zero respect for me, i don't wish to be friends after the way she treated me, i am moving in to a new flat next week I'm getting on and doing me again!!
i don't know who she is anymore but its certainly not the kind of person i would be with so i will hold my head high stick to my principles understand my worth and move on!!!
Thank you for you vids they are fantastic
Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. It's your life and it's your decision.
Me and my boyfriend broke up 6 week ago ! I miss him so bad but I tried to not reach out him ! So how long I should go for no contact ? I still see him when I go get my hair done ? Should I change my place ? Or just keep going so what I have to do ?
The no contact rule, on average, lasts up to 4-6 weeks. So you can reach out to your ex after the 30-day "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: ruclips.net/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/видео.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: ruclips.net/video/t6I5k55pnCE/видео.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
Hello brad. My ex blocked and unblocked a few times during 60+ days of no contact. I did simply nothing. Only observed their actions. He didn't reach out in last 60+ days. Before the no contact started he greeted me on a festival. I greeted back after 17 hours. That's it. He didn't say anything after that. What do you think !? Should I reach out or wait for him to reach out again ?
You ought to watch/review the tips here first, especially the first part, although I recommend you to watch the entire video to get the full gist: ruclips.net/video/BLTA4yjTc2I/видео.html and a quick overview here: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html Once you've completed the "no contact" rule for at least 30 days straight, then it's time to RE-ESTABLISH CONTACT with your ex. Start out with the tips from here: ruclips.net/video/XonMtLFo000/видео.html Also check out my other videos on my channel for more tips on what to do next and/or get my Ex Factor Guide for a comprehensive step-by-step process on how to go about this. Good luck!
Decided to do no contact on a few friends.
Sometimes that's necessary.
Hi Brad, I'm a new sub and appreciate your work 🙏
My ex broke up with me after a 10 year relationship.
The breakup was bad after I got triggered and responded poorly to it, hurling insults at her. She's blocked me everywhere.
It's been nearly 60 days NC, and I still haven't heard anything. Do you think I should think about reaching out?
Yes, once you've completed the "no contact" rule for at least 30 days straight, then it's time to RE-ESTABLISH CONTACT with your ex. Start out with the tips from here: ruclips.net/video/XonMtLFo000/видео.html Also check out my other videos on my channel for more tips on what to do next and/or get my Ex Factor Guide for a comprehensive step-by-step process on how to go about this. Good luck!
@BradBrowning Thank you for the reply Coach 🙏 Unfortunately I'm still blocked and it's coming up to 2 months NC. I scored 69 out of 100 so chances aren't great...I don't know what to do; thinking about calling from another number or getting a family member to reach out to her
What if you work together? How does no contact work then? What if they started someone else?
Do limited contact instead and keep any conversation you have strictly work-related, especially the first 30 days after the breakup. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: ruclips.net/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/видео.html
My gf of 10 years broke up with me 5 weeks ago and has been dating someone for the past month. I have consistently gone 2-3 days w/o contact until she reaches out under the guise of work-related issues. She eventually turns the discussion to her own work problems and then shoehorns in mentions of her bf and holding hands, cuddling, etc.
What does this mean? What should I do?
Could be an attempt to make you jealous. Did you cheat on her or something? However, it's time to take a look at the bigger picture here. It doesn't really matter what your ex is doing. Chances are your ex is rebounding anyway but the point is you shouldn't be focused on that right now. That's all out of your control. Focus on yourself instead and show (NOT tell) your ex you accept her decision to break up. If you do, you'll accept that you're both single and therefore you'd stop overanalyzing every little stuff. All right? Here are the basics to getting an ex back: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and you can see that the 30-day "no contact" rule is an absolute must. I also suggest that you read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total and the "no contact" rule is only the first), including what to say, do or not do, etc. Good timing is essential! Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy
Does no contact work on relationships that were short term but emotionally charged.
Depending on what really cut the relationship short, it may be time to consider moving on from this. But don't rush. Always take the time to give each other space first, all right? Do a minimum of 3 weeks of "no contact" and see if you still want your ex and if your ex is receptive to contact AFTER that period. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html
Police called me after a week to stop contact. So I've fucked it all up lol
Sorry man, but you may very well be right. lol Consider the facts I mentioned here, too: y2u.be/4f9l6wou0tw however, please don't hesitate to reach out to me if you get progress with your ex in the future. Best of luck!
@BradBrowning I reached out and one of your team responded. I bought your program and got to the last video which you've shared above. I can only take solace in the fact I was called and told to stop messaging her. I wasn't arrested and charged with stalking and harrasment. That's what the UK police do now when you chase after an ex. They'll take your device off you, stick you on bail and keep you waiting for months while the CPS see if they've a case against you. Your program as been insightful mind. I've not shut off hope that me and her might talk in time. End of the day I know she loves me and she cried down the phone the other week to me. As she said love just doesn't fade away.
Hi Brad, my ex boyfriend and I broke up 4 days ago and I just started no contact yesterday, we were together for 1.5 years. I went to his house on day 3 to talk because he did not really have a reason why he wanted to break up. He admitted it was because he lost feelings. We had been having problems finding time to spend time together because of work schedules and when we did see each other it was never the two of us. I feel that this had a huge part in him losing his feelings. What should I do?
You two can try to compromise on when to spend some quality time together. For example, balance out your day so you two spend the day together with friends and just spend the night with just you two or vice versa. For now though it's best to give yourselves that much needed space.
Hey Brad, what if a guy you aren’t in a relationship with just talking to says he wants space? I told him yea maybe you’re right we should give each other space, then he says “nothing crazy, just some breathing room” should I and could I do the no contact for 30 days too and does that response sound like he still want to speak to me just give him room? I could only think he want space because I text him a lot and want to hang out a lot and I guess it could make him feel like he is being smothered
You actually answered your own question here! Yes, stop trying to initiate things all the time. Let him make an effort to you as well.
Hey Brad, i really need your honest opinion about my current situation. I met this girl at my work place, we hooked up after just few days and really fell in love with each other. We both met each other parents, we were going to work together, and everything was going really good. Unfortunately, after a few months she didn't get a permanent job, so she was fired. Since then she wanted to go to another city so she can start a new career. I didn't want that, but she did anyways. She applied and got a new monthly contract so we decided to try a long distance relationship, and we did. But it was so hard to go through all of that, she didn't want to come back, in fact she said she would never want to come back, and i didn't want to go there either, even tho we both cry when we met and said we both missed each other. Now she got a new extended contract and in general i said to her to make a choice, her new job or me, a she got really mad and said that i was selfish etc. Now we dont speak for two days, and i really need your honest opinion what to do, i am not really sure if we broke up or not. I still have feelings for her, and i am sure she has to.
Life circumstances are keeping you two apart and it takes a decent amount of compromise to overcome that. In this case though, it's a mismatch of where you want this relationship to go and with distance being involved it can be really hard. It may be time to let go of this completely, at least for the time being.
Hey just a quick question...will no contact work after 1+ year after the breakup? We broke up a year ago but recently stopped talking. I was just curious if it's worth trying it so late. Thanks
It's your best choice however the potency may be much lesser.
Hi brad
Its been 10 days since we broke up. Its been 3 days i didn't text him. He didn't block me in WhatsApp. We've been dating for 8 months. The reason we broke up is he get bored or lose feelings for me. Maybe i am giving negative energy. He said he doesn't feel any about me. I need him. I can't stop crying. I literally begged him for like 7 days and still he doesn't want to be in a relationship. I want to text him so bad😢. What should I do?? Please 🥺🙏 reply.
I texted him. He don't wanna be in relationship. I begged him so hard. Now he is ready to be my just friend. Now please 😢 tell me how can i make him fall in love with me? 🙏
The LAST thing you'd want to to is pursue him. This vid should hopefully help you see things clearly about the importance of the "no contact" rule as well as the common challenges and how to overcome them: ruclips.net/video/WVB0_l60SpM/видео.html Feel free to check out my other vids as well, especially this which should give you an idea on how to go about this: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html But for a comprehensive, step-by-step procedure though, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
What if it's been 6 months now of no contact in he looks happy in social media and maybe he has a rebound.. Should i ocntinue no contact.. It was a 5yrs relationship, its not easy for me
Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Do you think you're ready to give it a try? Watch this first to help set your expectations: y2u.be/82uUJ7kPXhE and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/видео.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working ONCE things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and the golden rules here: y2u.be/1kJ1ybuFIHE
Hello Brad! I have a bit of a situation i could use some help with.
A week ago on a Sunday I matched with this girl and went out on a date. It was great. She said a lot of nice things about me that night when I got back home. We texted all day every day during that next week. We met up for lunch on Wednesday. We went on a date on Friday it was super fun too and she said more super nice things about me. About how she felt lucky we matched, how nice she thinks I am, how funny I am, etc. That night she breaks her wrist (falls down ice skating) and I do all the right things. I take her to the hospital, wait for her to be fixed up and then take her to her home. the day after, on Saturday, I check up on her at about 2pm but nothing. I get a text from her at 11pm saying sorry she didn't answer before, she didn't mean to hurt me, it's just that she has a lot to think about and she is worried about University (she is doing a master degree on odontology and needs to see patients as part of her classes, but cant do that now with a cast on) and still getting used to the fact that things are going to be different. She says multiple times thank you for understanding me and thank you for giving me time and space. And she says "I just need you to be patient and give me time and everything will be okay". That's the last time we talked. It is now Tuesday morning and I am dying to check up on her but afraid to ruin it if I do. On the other hand in also worried im ruining it by not showing enough care. Any suggestions?
Don't check up on her. Focus on yourself instead and stop forcing things. Try to have self discipline and remember, love should never be forced. Otherwise it becomes an obsession, so be very careful of going that route. If your ex dumped you and showed you he/she doesn't want to be in your life at the moment, you ought to respect that, okay? For most dumpees that is the case. It doesn't mean that will be the case forever but at the moment, it surely is, so respect your ex's need for space and have some self discipline. Focus on yourself instead. Okay? This vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/WVB0_l60SpM/видео.html
Hunh, yeah. That is only if you have worth. I have no worth.
It's never too late to turn things around and change that view, now that you have that awareness. After all, if you don't love and value yourself, how can you expect others to do that for you?
I miss my ex very much even tho we had a very terrible break up and were in no contact for months on the 5th month we reconnected and he said that he missed me and that he thinks about me a lot but did not ask to get back together. He lives in Minnesota I live in Texas after reconnecting we spoke every day for a month and now we are in no contact again. The month we were in contact he reached out to me, but the way it started and the way it ended was completely different. In my situation my ex is someone who does not know how he feels about me, and he was bread crumbing me enough to stay hooked until I deiced to go no contact. I very much miss my ex and I have no idea what to do because even tho I love him , I can not let my self get string along like that.
There's tons and often legitimate reasons why someone isn't ready for a commitment yet. Sometimes it's something that you can overcome with time, other times it isn't. But yes, it's mainly up to you and if you feel like there's no progress especially after months, it's usually best to cut off contact and move on from this.
I have a question brad 10 days ago i misbehaved, hurted and mistreated too badly with my girl and she broke up with me after that day. After that day i realized my mkstake and told sorry bt nth worked oit at all but whatever i postshe see every single post of mine and she post about sth which really trigger me a lot and one last thing she doesnt reply my text anymore so will it be wise if i do no contact rule?
What did you do? I suggest you heed my advice from this vid, first and foremost: ruclips.net/video/jikW4YYC9yo/видео.html and from my other vid here: ruclips.net/video/PN-07kAtIjw/видео.html but also make sure you aren't being defensive or deflecting the blame because that's as annoying as ever. It may help to apply the tips here first: ruclips.net/video/qnE192fUKxI/видео.html
We are in the same university and have the same job, and we broke up in "kind of good terms" (he broke up with me because we got so toxic for over a year [we stayed together 2.5 uears]), what should I do when we run into each other ? Does a hi (like this 👋 from far) then pursuing my road breaks the no contact or is it fine it it's nothing more than that ??
This should help: ruclips.net/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/видео.html
My ex has blocked me on fb and said she doesn't want a relationship with me anymore after i begged for her back, but she still follows me on Instagram and views my stories. She's already told me a old school friend has invited her for a drink and she's going to it. What should I do?
I don't see this as a cause for concern really, unless you've done something really epic to mess things up or really hurt your ex, there's no reason to worry as much, really, because it could be due to the top 3 reasons I've stated on this vid: y2u.be/fjtv90o9bkI Blocking you could just be your ex’s way of coping so I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you, at least not initially. So give it time. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication or have no mutual friends. More about that on here: ruclips.net/video/5UT92IB5ugs/видео.html Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : ruclips.net/video/D1GpR5MApQk/видео.html Good luck!
I'm on my 2nd week of no contact and have just found out my son of 11 has been messaging my ex because he misses playing with her son of 2 asking if he can see him. What do I do?
Me and my boyfriend just broke up and he was so certain that he doesn’t want to persue our relationship. I tried to convince him and then he told me to give him 2 days to feel what its like without having me around.. because the reason of our break up is that i was too understanding dan too kind, and because he has so much internal issue, he feel bad dan feel pressured because he cant do anything for me, and whenever he pushed me away when he dealt with problem, im still so understanding and it drives him crazy😢 and im sure he’s gonna be fine in these 2 days, because he was so sure of our break up. Now 2 days is coming to an end and i dont know if he’s gonna contact me or no.. if yes, and he decided to continue our relationship should I immediately say yes or no? Or if he doesn’t contact me, should i just continue my life and use this no contact strategy? Like im so confuse when to start this no contact strategy:’
What are/were the issues in the first place? It's important for your conflict styles to somehow match so a problem won't get blown out of proportion. Discuss the relationship when you're both ready to talk and you've both calmed down. Otherwise yes, continue living your life but take time to heal first.
Brad please reply me, i started the no contact and in day 4 of the no contact,she reached out to me on Facebook asking she hope am doing well but i didn't respond. A day ago my mom hard about our break and ask her, she told my mom that it's over between us. Brad do i still have a chance of getting back with her? I love her so much. And for her telling my mom is over between us will she by any chance come back faithfully from her heart?? Please i need your answer please.
Her telling her mom may just be for formality. Try not to overanalyze stuff. As to her reaching out to you, that's what I call the "check-in" text and believe it or not, your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message and when and/or how to reply, including what not to text, (so watch to the end of the vid) here: ruclips.net/video/tev2-lrJq7o/видео.html
First of all I am sorry for this long comment.
My ex and I broke up 2months ago. I've already tried "No Contact" method. After trying this method, he reached out to me and said he wants to be friends and chats regularly. So I asked him whether he has an idea of reconciling in future. I also said if he has that idea, we can talk regularly. If not, chatting daily as friends can't help us to forget each other. Then, he chose not to talk which means he has no idea about reconciling but he texts me sometimes to check if I am ok or not. He also said "Let's talk again when we have things to say. I WILL TALK TO YOU ABOUT EVERYTHING WHEN WE CAN MEET IRL YEARS LATER(Idk what it really means)". Our rs lasted 3 years and 6 months but the thing is we were LDRS and never had a chance to date. He is moving to another country in September so there will be no chance to meet with him until I can move abroad. We both willing to meet each other and also promised to meet 2 or 3 years later. The problem is he said he doesn't love me anymore and he wants to find someone who he truly loves but I feel like he still loves me(maybe I am just giving myself false hope). Now I really miss him but I don't want to chat with him. I am afraid if he says things like "I don't love u", "I don't need u", "I will not come back to u", "Don't wait for me, I won't come back", and "Don't reject someone who truly love u just because of me". I am worried if he finds someone new and forgets about me and what if we don't get back together. These thoughts are always on my mind and I can't even focus on things I need to do. What should I do? Is it possible to reconcile with somebody who says he doesn't love me and wants to find another partner?
It means he prefers real world interactions versus virtual stuff... which a lot of people prefer to do. Sorry to hear that. The distance will always be a major culprit. Is this long distance scenario temporary? Because if it isn't, then may be as good as over. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: ruclips.net/video/GQY4N04uvtA/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/видео.html However, if you believe your situation is unique and there may still be a chance between you two, then let's take a look at your situation in-depth via my one-on-one coaching session at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hey Coach, what if my ex owes me money should i ask him? Or is it a bad move if i still want him back? It's already been 4 months
It's been months and yes, you should ask for what's rightfully yours. Just try to keep it casual though.
I unfriend my ex on Instagram 1 month after she dumped me. .. now 6 months passed with 3 months no contact. I noticed that she is changing her profile picture every week.. sometimes two times a day. Crazy
Trying to seek validation
@@dubiousvector4499 certainly
It's best not to overanalyze. Once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ruclips.net/video/XonMtLFo000/видео.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: ruclips.net/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/видео.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html Good luck!
Should i use the NC when she have someone else.....
I never knew about the other guy because when we broke up we kept contact and i even try getting back toegther by building a new fresh connection and even meet up sometimes for coffee and then suddenly i learn about her boyfriend and i begged and pleaded but she just wont listen or reason out.
We still kept contact and she even kissed me the other week but then felt guilty and want to distanct herself from me and this sunday we even went to church together and had a casual good time with her but on the evening i told her that the reality is she have moved on and that i respect her so i decided to try the no Contact and im scared and afraid i lost her...
We really had a good times all those 9 years 11 months together.....please help
Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: y2u.be/ZyJRphwDca4 and this should help guide you on what to do for the time being: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM AND ruclips.net/video/WVFZVqFDFV4/видео.html now when the time comes where your ex is free or is constantly contacting you, check out my other videos here in RUclips to help you with a lot of texting tips as well as when to give up trying. Good luck!
I donno why im still here we've been breakup for about 3 months now, im suffered for about 2 months and now im dating another girl for about 3 weaks now and i think im moved on but tonight she slide in my dm and said i saw you in my dream and i do too on that night what should i do now🤣🤣🤣
Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Do you think you're ready to give it a try? Watch this first to help set your expectations: y2u.be/82uUJ7kPXhE and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/видео.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working ONCE things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and the golden rules here: y2u.be/1kJ1ybuFIHE
My ex broke up with me last week, after being together for only 5 months. He says he loves me but as a friend and isn’t ready to commit to anyone atm. That the emotional connection we have means more to him than anything, so he wants to stay best friends, and has still called up and shown up for me daily. Will this work for me? I want him to commit to me in the way I want, but if he says he loves me as a friend, is there even any point? Whenever I pull away, he comes in full force, but then when I show affection back, he pulls away! I have been looking at your no contact… can this work for me?
When a breakup happens, most of the time this means he has lost attraction for you, hence, it's a bad move to be friends with him. You need to cut off contact for at least 30 days first. Silence is key and here's why: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html If you continue being friends right away, the boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates a rebound in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch this video so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, at ruclips.net/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/yd6pvNVeHjI/видео.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with free bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
@@BradBrowning thanks so much for taking the time to reply! I know you have a million people who message! Its a hard situation because we lost a baby, it was unplanned and he stood by me through it, then in the space of three days, decided to friend zone. I guess that is why it has been hard because so many emotions, and I have not wanted to cut him completely as I felt he is going through a hard time as well. When its this complicated I just need to find out the one text to say, Im setting a boundary, I cant just be your friend, before I move into no contact?
@@BradBrowning and I bought the ex factor guide! Thankyou! Im consuming it! I really wanted the one on one coaching but unfortunately I just don’t have the money atm. What would the best text to send be after staying friends for a week after an event like this be so I don’t look cold but also setting my boundaries. I can’t find anything in the ex factor for this type of situation
Hej Brad.
Thanks for the advice... i kind of feel like my ex have been using me, maybe she wanted to come back but y showed to much affection. She broke up and i tried to make contact, she blocked me.. i didnt reach out to her for a week then suddelny she text me about how do i fell and so.. we meet and she said thats "is over".. again... some day passes and then again she reaches out and we meet, this time we hug eachtoher and spend time toghether at the beach. But then she comes again with " this si over"... then one day i reach out to her because i nedded to talk and i explain the pain and so on... she was very nice and suddenly we kissed and had sex... after the sex she was sad and telling me that we should forget this... but she still continue kissing me.. and it was she didnt want to leave. Before she leaved she said " can this be our breakup for real". Also she said she need time to her self, she dont want to give me hope but she need like 4 weeks alone and then she contact me... WHAT does this all have of meaning? Im so confused..its feels more like she make the no contact rule, even tho she was the one who breaked up.
It means she needs space so let her come to you and try no to force things. Try to have self discipline and remember, love should never be forced. Otherwise it becomes an obsession, so be very careful of going that route. If your ex dumped you and showed you she doesn't want to be in your life at the moment, you ought to respect that, okay? For most dumpees that is the case. It doesn't mean that will be the case forever but at the moment, it surely is, so respect your ex's need for space and have some self discipline. Focus on yourself instead. Okay? This vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/WVB0_l60SpM/видео.html
Hey Brad!! Hope you're doing good...... I had a relationship of 2.5 years with my girlfriend...... We are childhoof friends......but exactly one month ago she decided that she doesn't esnt wanna be with me....though its not something new she has done it before as well but again I have always convinced her to stay but this time she is serious..... I kept on hanging for one month but today I just wanna go no contact..... Is my decision correct?
Yes, your best bet is still to cut off contact completely for at least 30 days. Here's a little reminder, too: ruclips.net/video/gSKVGwmD73U/видео.html
my ex broke up with me because i distanced myself after he disrespected me i didn't reach out to him and we didn't talk for two weeks for the first week he was out with his friends on trip anyways we ended breaking up because he said he realized so many things like how i can live without him and hes facing everything alone and im not there for him anyways , i tried convincing him it was nothing like that but at the end i ended up agreeing with the breakup he left the country to start his uni and it's aching my heart hes probably moving on and so am i, atleast trying to im doing the no contact but idk if its worth it anymore cause i feel like itll just prove him i really didn't care about him and its easy to leave him and he'll have this reason in mind to move on. will the no contact be worth it?
Was it a disrespect or just a miscommunication? How did you communicate about being disrespected? Since your situation may be unique, I think you can benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
hey brad...My ex boyfriend messaged me after 4 months of no contact but deleted it within seconds.What this could mean?
Only your ex would know that. Do you think you're ready to give it a try though? Watch this first to help set your expectations: y2u.be/82uUJ7kPXhE and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/видео.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working ONCE things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and the golden rules here: y2u.be/1kJ1ybuFIHE
I’ve tried everything and from a break it went to a break up. I will try no contact, its the last thing I haven’t tried and I will be more confident next time I see her if I do see her at all. Do you think its too late and it doesn’t matter?
I'd still suggest to give the "no contact" rule a shot because that's still really your best bet, which will work in a sense where you BOTH will get to clear your mind to be in a better position to deal with each other when the time comes - instead of letting emotions overrule everything, risking things to get blown out of proportion even further. Makes sense? But will no contact ALONE work to get your ex back? Sometimes it does, but other times (especially if your situation is unique) it won't, because the no contact phase is only part one of the three-step process I teach in my Ex Factor Guide. Learn the basics here: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html There's also a risk of you being strung along if you don't cut off contact and give each other that much needed space and while it's beneficial for your ex, it's really detrimental to the dumpee in the end, so be careful. I also made a quick vid to those who are seemingly lost and could use a reminder on what to do: ruclips.net/video/obBIttQSak4/видео.html
Hey Brad, my gf broke up with me and after that I reacted with too much emotion which made her avoid me strongly, eve though this was 3 weeks ago she seems to be completely moved on and in a serious dating with someone.
Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: y2u.be/ZyJRphwDca4 and this should help guide you on what to do for the time being: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM AND ruclips.net/video/WVFZVqFDFV4/видео.html now when the time comes where your ex is free or is constantly contacting you, check out my other videos here in RUclips to help you with a lot of texting tips as well as when to give up trying. Good luck!
Hey Brad! My contact has been going on for 2 months and my ex is not even giving me a single message so she must be missing me? or I message her or not ?and what I can message her? She is not interested in me right now she don't want to talk to me so what can I do?
Discussed about an ex's tendency to do that here: ruclips.net/video/CP8FQlvDuVU/видео.html But what sort of messages have you been sending your ex? It's a different story if you've been trying for so long with all the right moves and still stuck in the friendzone. However, if the breakup is recent, it means you need to do the 30-day "no contact" rule first. Focus on the second and third phases instead. It helps to learn the basics here: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and/or better yet, read my guide to guide you every step of the way, at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
Does your ex program apply to an ex that has lost feelings?
It's what the entire program is about. Check it out here: www.breakupbrad.com
I unfriend her on facebook and try to fo no contact, is it right to do to unfriend her to dont stalk my facebook?
That's totally unnecessary.
lol don’t want her back so no contact is great for me
That's good! Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. It's your life and it's your decision.
Hi brad my ex is playing mind games with me one minute she saying good things.then next they talking different..her current person she's dating mad we still keep in touch..
Her dating someone else is a huge red flag you best not ignore. Cut off communication and stay off unless she changes her mind. Or if your situation requires for it. Here are the exceptions in general: ruclips.net/video/zKhNHhEmYMg/видео.html
Hello Brad my partner and I broke up after 7 years yesterday, and I found myself on your page. He texted and ask how I’m doing , and that he’s worried about me but I’m trying the no contact it’s only day 1 I haven’t responded as yet what should I do ?
That's what I call the "check-in" text and believe it or not, your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message and when and/or how to reply, including what not to text, (so watch to the end of the vid) here: ruclips.net/video/tev2-lrJq7o/видео.html
Brad please how can you get back some body who is angry and dating someone else
Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: y2u.be/ZyJRphwDca4 and this should help guide you on what to do for the time being: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM AND ruclips.net/video/WVFZVqFDFV4/видео.html now when the time comes where your ex is free or is constantly contacting you, check out my other videos here in RUclips to help you with a lot of texting tips as well as when to give up trying. Good luck!
It is much better than you ex fe fill something for you even if it's anger than for felling nothing at all
What if she reaches out to me after 2 years of no contact?
Take it easy and play it cool. How do you feel about all this? Do you think you're ready to give it a try? Watch this first to help set your expectations: y2u.be/82uUJ7kPXhE and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/видео.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working ONCE things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and the golden rules here: y2u.be/1kJ1ybuFIHE
And lastly, depending on how you handled things all throughout the process, you may have to wait longer, which I’ve discussed here: y2u.be/OzVymYnQFTk
Hey brad, do you need to just drop off the face of the earth for no contact to work? My ex and I are having breakfast together this weekend and I’d like to talk to her about taking a month of no contact before jumping in, especially because our lives have become very intertwined over the past 2 years so we need to work some things out before I can go no contact.
Yes, no contact means cutting off unnecessary communication with your ex in any way, shape or form for at least 30 days. It also means ignoring unimportant or random messages from your ex for at least 30 days straight. This also involves NOT looking at any of your ex's online profiles so you won't overthink things. In other words, the "no contact" period is a time where you fully focus on yourself and take time to heal.
Hey brad what should I do because I have a crush on someone but I am scared to ask her out
No pain, no gain, man. Try to get over that fear. What have you got to lose anyway? :-) If she rejects you, you can easily move on to someone else but at least you've tried!
@@BradBrowning but my crush likes me and she said I am really really cute so do you think she will say yes when I ask her out
I didn't get a 2nd chance
Sorry to hear that. Not all relationships are meant to be salvaged or should even be salvaged in the first place. It may be best to move on, which I know, is a tricky process and the emotions come in waves. This video is for you: ruclips.net/video/01wvLSaS9_I/видео.html And if you're still having a hard time, this should help you understand why in order to understand what you're going through: ruclips.net/video/2CakOOSwIiY/видео.html or get my latest e-book Beat the Breakup guide as that will help you and your mindset to evolve from the breakup and therefore become the best version of yourself. Check it out at www.beatmybreakup.com
She contacted me once after the no contact it
Unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: ruclips.net/video/ek_4wpkV66c/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/видео.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you during the no contact stage, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: ruclips.net/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/видео.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses their power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: ruclips.net/video/bgOG9s1fac8/видео.html
Well its 5 months still nowt so now what
You know what they say: nothing ventured, nothing gained. Do you think you're ready to give it a try? Watch this first to help set your expectations: y2u.be/82uUJ7kPXhE and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/видео.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working ONCE things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and the golden rules here: y2u.be/1kJ1ybuFIHE
Stay in NC
The last point is very rightly said. My cousin committed suicide when he was 17-18 yrs, by consuming poison after a girl, who was a flirt.
No justice for that case in his parents favour due to lack of evidence.
In some cases, after the loss of loved ones, people leave worldly life and start staying in some religious homes.
Some get into the shocking state, mental balance destroyed.
They even ruin their own career and start damaging their life by getting involved in drugs, heavy alcohol, even going to brothels and catching diseases from there.
High level of frustrations and depression or mentally disturbed behaviour can be seen, that is they become violent, throw and break things in the house.
In worst cases, they even try to hit their own family members with tools or weapons, if we try to explain or calm them down.
Best is save the lives, move on or just simply send them to some care/ rehabilitation centre in extreme cases. No other choice.
Nice video. Come soon next time. 👍👍👍👍
Unfortunately that kind of incident never gets justice since your cousin's freewill is very much taken into consideration as well. Thanks for sharing your story!
I miss my ex
This vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/sFi45h907hw/видео.html
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Hey thanks for dropping by!
Hey brad please read I’m in urgent need, I had a relationship with this girl for 6 years and she was my first love and first gf dated 6 years in long distance in which I met her 2-3 times a month or sometimes 6-7 times a month but 11months go she shifted to usa and I’m in india and everything was fine and were ready to marry in 3years of time but 2months ago something happened and she said she don’t love me and all and broke up with me (we had a fight too as she was confused after 6 years and I was being suspicious and she did something because of which I got furious) I broke up with her initially she begged but after 3days she went no contact I reached out to her and begged after just 4 days we talked to each other couldn’t sort things out and she left , again I reached out after 7 days and we talked but again nothing was sorted , then last time I waited 14 days and contacted again as it was our anniversary date we talked for a week and did calls she said she loved me she missed me but after a week she again said she’s confused so I gave her the time and after 3 days I reached out again (ik I was being impatient :( ) we again started texting for a week and she ignored me and ghosted me … it’s been 17 days I’m in no contact … what should I do ? I’m losing hope .. please help me brad please reply .(and I agreed and corrected everything which she said were the things bothering her )
You two may have dragged out this long distance scenario. Also getting engaged and planning to marry after 3 years may be a bit far fetched, granted how too many things can happen in these 3 years. By contrast, couples who get engaged usually marry in less than 2 years. I suggest to give yourselves a break as chances are she's losing interest. With mixed signals, that kind of behaviour coming from your ex is somewhat expected after a fresh/recent breakup. That's why you ought to give it enough time where there's totally no contact between you and your ex for at least 30 days. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed or weird signals. Watch this: y2u.be/siApAVtx8zE This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
@@BradBrowning mr brad I got blocked on day 20th (couldn’t see her display picture on WhatsApp I didn’t text her) still maintaining no contact , why did she block me ? :( I’m scared now